What helps me is to remind myself that the narcissist - in my case a covert narcissist - is a shell, a shadow, a void; rather like an actor who hasn't been given a role yet. They owe their whole persona to you (and other suppliers like you). When you leave, script and all, they're left without any lines.... in front of a live audience.
loved the way that was explained ........they want to love us but they also dont want us to win ..... so they never find love an they also dont win .... it's so dumb......
I get so lost in my head, wondering how they learn the same games of deceit, tricks, games,gaslighting... but I think I get it now. It's how their brain processes information cause it is a mental disorder it does show up on a brain scan. Is that right, Joe?❤
I have heard this too. That their brain scan shows dark matter. Those same areas on healthy, non-disordered people are colorful. Go figure 🤷 I believe this to be true
I didn't know what a narcissist was until I dated one for about a month. He was nice but I noticed some things that made me uncomfortable, so I broke it off and walked away. Nothing prepared me for the onslaught of what this man did to me. There is no need to give details because you are aware of the behaviors. I eventually blocked him from any contact and remain in no contact. Then I had to educate myself on this particular type of monster. I guess I am writing this because I fail to see the purpose of this evil person taking up space on Earth. This person exists only to hurt people, that is his nourishment. I guess all of his victims had lessons to learn, myself included. I seek no revenge, however, when I read your posts and came to realize that my discarding him caused a narcissistic injury and that he did 1 hoover from an unknown number, that I did not reply to and blocked, caused him more discomfort, I cannot help feeling some type of vindication. But I truly feel I have a stalker for life.
I understand how difficult and scary it is to find this info out, but these “monsters” are people too. The internet will dismiss them purely as the devil (some are, very very few), all are incredibly difficult to interact with, and all are very manipulative. Remember the narcissist most likely is not out to hurt you for the sake of evil, they have a deep rooted mental disorder from childhood, the methods they use although horrific are from a childish scared place, a place of insecurity, a place of extreme fear. It’s a complete mind f, but try your best not to take it personally. The universe saw a good person (you) that needed to learn a lesson, and a “bad” person (him) who was given an opportunity to change…it appears you are learning your lesson, and most likely he will not understand or take advantage of the opportunity to change, so most likely will not learn his lesson. Unfortunately. Stay strong, I understand how completely mind bending the process of trying to understand a person with narcissistic tendencies and tactics is. Their thinking processes are not like ours, they just aren’t. Things that make no sense whatsoever to you, somehow make sense to them. They lack the ability to empathize, and simply do not think or have the capacity to understand that the consequences of their actions affect you the way they do. Good luck, and I hope you have learned something, I can tell you I sure have the last 4 years of my relationship with a narcissistic individual. I love him to death, but will no longer enable the abusive, horrible behavior.
I did reveal his behavior to his bar friends. He ran. He wouldn't go to the bar if i was there, or would leave if i came in. Then he went off on one of the guys he was friends with. The guy saw his true colors & isnt friends with him anymore. At least he believes me now.
Yes I got away from that toxic hell, and I didn't look back. The narc tried to hoover me, and all his efforts failed. It's been 40 years since I've ended that toxic hell. Thank you for sharing your video it's educational and informative. ❤
Maybe the algorithm won't let go! I have 60 years experience under my belt but tinternet only a couple,it has certainly boomed lately @@whiteliner2253
I’m nine months radio silence I don’t know one thing about her that’s how u move on all I know she lied cheated hosted me disappeared & always came back until Jan 22 😂😂😂it got old
We’re trying our best to help them yet they are thinking ways to destroy us and make us look foolish, so dumb and childish but after we heal we become stronger and better than ever before we met them! Find peace and our best version thanks to the weirdo’s
They try to weasel into your life thru their family and friends. Even using their children as a way to work on your emotions. My ex friend even after 15 years still tries every year using her mother's Xmas card as a way to communicate. I decided to leave that friendship too.
He broke up with me and I said okay then you are my ex and I do not have contact with exes. So I told him I love him and wished him well and blocked him. And now this week he is leaving for Thailand thank God, let the Thai girls have him. I caused him alot of injuries. I dont wanna hurt people but he hurted me alot but how can they go on with theese injuries? I mean how will his life be?
@@monarene44 yeah I guess. I feel he has hurt ALOT of people. He even said to me one day ‘group sex’ I guess he just admitted he had group sex with people😳 omg so dirty theese narcs are……😲
@@caligirl9403 yeah I love him with all my heart and I also told him. I saw him when he was in his soul and his soul was so pure cause I meditate so I see people as souls not people. I talk only to peoples soul but Im definitly still has alooot of ego myself & I also see my ego very clearly often. I do miss him but I know I will never unblock mine either. He never blocked me, but he started taking the phone a little later when I called him, I also think he was afraid to loose me cause he llve bombed me alot I tried to leave him several times after I hit him in his face and told him he was a narsisist. I hope he seeks terapi. I will keep him in my heart for ever and I also told him this before I said I needed to block him.
I wonder if they'll ever get karma back and then I think of her son. I liked that lil boy, but there was somtn wrong with himthat she never mentioned. Always cryin and he barely spoke 3 words and he is my sons age (3yrs old). She seemed very tired taking care of him. She sometimes swor in him and I still know she lied. Karma. I wish the boy the best, but her. She can go fk herself.
Narky doesn't want to be Narky. She wants to be like you with all your good traits. Not Narky's fault. She's only doing what her mental illness is telling her to do. How can someone care if they don't have empathy???
That's totally untrue. They want the person that they can't have. The person who has self love, self respect, confident, calm, unreactive, and especially strong. They monkey branch alright to the same low value doormats. It's supply but coal level vs diamond supply..
They are extremely dependent, and shallow, not to mention evil, they can't ever win against the independent, deep, and good.
They are troubled souls 😂
What helps me is to remind myself that the narcissist - in my case a covert narcissist - is a shell, a shadow, a void; rather like an actor who hasn't been given a role yet. They owe their whole persona to you (and other suppliers like you). When you leave, script and all, they're left without any lines.... in front of a live audience.
Thank you so much, your comparison is quite accurate.
Your pen game is prolific.
@@KittyCalhoun917 Thank you 🙏
loved the way that was explained ........they want to love us but they also dont want us to win ..... so they never find love an they also dont win .... it's so dumb......
Proud to be the one who got away.
I guess that explains all the fake friend requests on Facebook. I must be living rent free in his head.
They are mean spirited
They are delusional thinkers that end up being scum, exposing them does cause them a narcissistic injury becuz it is harder to keep their mask on👈🏻
they only get a feeling of self worth from destroying the self worth of others
They are insidious energy vampires!
I get so lost in my head, wondering how they learn the same games of deceit, tricks, games,gaslighting... but I think I get it now. It's how their brain processes information cause it is a mental disorder it does show up on a brain scan. Is that right, Joe?❤
I have heard this too. That their brain scan shows dark matter. Those same areas on healthy, non-disordered people are colorful. Go figure 🤷 I believe this to be true
I think they are toddlers in adult form,the Brain stopped developing at an early age due to trauma
People with NPD and ASPD show dark places in the brain on an MRI scan. Read "Dark Side of the Brain" by James Fallon.
Your so on point with these evil wicked people! Evil jezebel
I didn't know what a narcissist was until I dated one for about a month. He was nice but I noticed some things that made me uncomfortable, so I broke it off and walked away. Nothing prepared me for the onslaught of what this man did to me. There is no need to give details because you are aware of the behaviors. I eventually blocked him from any contact and remain in no contact. Then I had to educate myself on this particular type of monster. I guess I am writing this because I fail to see the purpose of this evil person taking up space on Earth. This person exists only to hurt people, that is his nourishment. I guess all of his victims had lessons to learn, myself included. I seek no revenge, however, when I read your posts and came to realize that my discarding him caused a narcissistic injury and that he did 1 hoover from an unknown number, that I did not reply to and blocked, caused him more discomfort, I cannot help feeling some type of vindication. But I truly feel I have a stalker for life.
I understand how difficult and scary it is to find this info out, but these “monsters” are people too. The internet will dismiss them purely as the devil (some are, very very few), all are incredibly difficult to interact with, and all are very manipulative.
Remember the narcissist most likely is not out to hurt you for the sake of evil, they have a deep rooted mental disorder from childhood, the methods they use although horrific are from a childish scared place, a place of insecurity, a place of extreme fear. It’s a complete mind f, but try your best not to take it personally. The universe saw a good person (you) that needed to learn a lesson, and a “bad” person (him) who was given an opportunity to change…it appears you are learning your lesson, and most likely he will not understand or take advantage of the opportunity to change, so most likely will not learn his lesson. Unfortunately.
Stay strong, I understand how completely mind bending the process of trying to understand a person with narcissistic tendencies and tactics is. Their thinking processes are not like ours, they just aren’t. Things that make no sense whatsoever to you, somehow make sense to them. They lack the ability to empathize, and simply do not think or have the capacity to understand that the consequences of their actions affect you the way they do.
Good luck, and I hope you have learned something, I can tell you I sure have the last 4 years of my relationship with a narcissistic individual.
I love him to death, but will no longer enable the abusive, horrible behavior.
They are tortured sould with a wound that instead of healin and helping others instead they try to inflict that same wound onto someone else.
They'll give up eventually as long as you ignore them
7:08 - 7:25 I’ve been pondering on this concept. They spend so much time irritating you, but when you walk, they’re terrified.
I did reveal his behavior to his bar friends. He ran. He wouldn't go to the bar if i was there, or would leave if i came in. Then he went off on one of the guys he was friends with. The guy saw his true colors & isnt friends with him anymore. At least he believes me now.
Yes I got away from that toxic hell, and I didn't look back. The narc tried to hoover me, and all his efforts failed. It's been 40 years since I've ended that toxic hell. Thank you for sharing your video it's educational and informative. ❤
40! Yrs & you’re still watching this stuff! How depressing… how long does it last? A lifetime⁉️😳
@@whiteliner2253😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@whiteliner2253maybe we are the narcs hoping that they are thinking of us and plotting on us 😂
@@SlimSigtrig Yea, because that is WILD! That He’s still occupying her mind living up in her head rent free for 40! Yrs… That’s bizarre! 😮💨
Maybe the algorithm won't let go! I have 60 years experience under my belt but tinternet only a couple,it has certainly boomed lately @@whiteliner2253
Just come across your videos last couple days. They have helped me a great deal. Thanks dude!!!
I’m nine months radio silence I don’t know one thing about her that’s how u move on all I know she lied cheated hosted me disappeared & always came back until Jan 22 😂😂😂it got old
Nailed it!
We’re trying our best to help them yet they are thinking ways to destroy us and make us look foolish, so dumb and childish but after we heal we become stronger and better than ever before we met them! Find peace and our best version thanks to the weirdo’s
It’s a war. It’s spiritual warfare.
They try to weasel into your life thru their family and friends. Even using their children as a way to work on your emotions. My ex friend even after 15 years still tries every year using her mother's Xmas card as a way to communicate. I decided to leave that friendship too.
Excellent listening. Been through this. So i can relate. Your videos are helpful. Thankyou.❤
So true
Always love your content! Random question- what microphone do you use? You have by far the best audio quality of any content creator on RUclips.
He caused his own narcissistic injury with delusions n paranoia that his friends were out to take me from him
I can’t believe he’d miss or think of me or remember my name after six yrs of abuse n devaluing me
Very true ! Great video ! Thank you ! 🤗❤
I wonder if I'm the only one that got away from her.
Nothing and i mean nothing is good enough .
I love your videos! Learning so much…you are so clear and to the point! Easy listening voice also
❤❤
He broke up with me and I said okay then you are my ex and I do not have contact with exes. So I told him I love him and wished him well and blocked him. And now this week he is leaving for Thailand thank God, let the Thai girls have him. I caused him alot of injuries. I dont wanna hurt people but he hurted me alot but how can they go on with theese injuries? I mean how will his life be?
Karma.
🙏4 ur Self..
@@monarene44 yeah I guess. I feel he has hurt ALOT of people. He even said to me one day ‘group sex’ I guess he just admitted he had group sex with people😳 omg so dirty theese narcs are……😲
@@caligirl9403 yeah I love him with all my heart and I also told him. I saw him when he was in his soul and his soul was so pure cause I meditate so I see people as souls not people. I talk only to peoples soul but Im definitly still has alooot of ego myself & I also see my ego very clearly often. I do miss him but I know I will never unblock mine either. He never blocked me, but he started taking the phone a little later when I called him, I also think he was afraid to loose me cause he llve bombed me alot I tried to leave him several times after I hit him in his face and told him he was a narsisist. I hope he seeks terapi. I will keep him in my heart for ever and I also told him this before I said I needed to block him.
It s hilarious 😂
I enjoy when people hate me lol mdrrrr 😂
Sucks to be you👈🏻🤡👈🏻
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does a narc consider someone they discard that went NC “the person who got away”?
If this person moves on, and was actually good for something, yes.
I wonder if they'll ever get karma back and then I think of her son. I liked that lil boy, but there was somtn wrong with himthat she never mentioned. Always cryin and he barely spoke 3 words and he is my sons age (3yrs old). She seemed very tired taking care of him.
She sometimes swor in him and I still know she lied.
Karma. I wish the boy the best, but her. She can go fk herself.
Narky doesn't want to be Narky. She wants to be like you with all your good traits. Not Narky's fault. She's only doing what her mental illness is telling her to do. How can someone care if they don't have empathy???
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All and all it s entertainment purposes 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Unless they monkey branched to new supply.
You are forgotten instantly.
That's totally untrue. They want the person that they can't have. The person who has self love, self respect, confident, calm, unreactive, and especially strong. They monkey branch alright to the same low value doormats. It's supply but coal level vs diamond supply..
@@RandallGlattbeautifully said. 💯
I actually feel you are wrong with my ex he’s to shallow n cold n lazy to even remember my name