Your thoughts on this make so much sense. Great way to rethink all of this, gain perspective, and choose the best way to move forward. Super helpful! Your accent sounds familiar. I lived in Chicagoland for 5 years.
So glad you found it interesting and something to think about That’s so funny. Last week I was trying to figure out what words or sounds of mine sound Chicago. It’s my As right? I know it can’t be too bad. They have allowed me to do voiceover on national commercials.
That’s very little information shared and completely understandable. I would suggest communication. There are two people in the relationship and both of their sets of needs are important. Perhaps share what yours are?
My GF of 18 years passed away 2 years ago. I kinda have a friends with benefits thing with someone. I sometimes drive 4 hours and meet her in the middle. It is not optimal. I think I am going to end it and seek a real relationship with goals. Someday I would like to be married again. That person is out there.
Of course she is… because there are plenty of women out there who could be the one. The more people you meet the more likely you are to connect with someone.
Ladies need to understand it's ok to say no. Don't let guys pressure you. Make it clear you are willing to sit home or move on. They also need to be ok with being ready. We are attracted to one person more than the others.
Indeed be careful, you might catch something you didn't expect to, lulz. Seriously though, I am one of those older guys that has no interest in the casual stuff. Hopefully I will find a unicorn just like me.
Good subject manner. Met an older gentleman about a year and a half ago after grieving my late husband of 52 years death. Widow of over 5 years. Never had sex with no one other than my husband. Am in a Friend With benefit relationship but feeling guilty. My lover is 88 and I am 80. How do you feel all right in this situation? HELP!
May I offer a message of support. We can cherish and be cherished by more than one person in our lifetime. Please enjoy the moment and the pleasure that comes from it.
I agree with Keith. I hope we all find joy in life wherever we can. Hopefully you can choose to let go of any guilt, and instead live with gusto! Remember that human connection is what’s life is truly all about. 💖👍
I’ve been a widow for almost thirteen years. I was 52 when my husband passed away. I’ve been in two relationships since he passed. One lasted two years, and the other just one year. The last relationship ended over five years ago. I didn’t feel uncomfortable getting intimate with these men. But now that I’m older (almost 65) I’m a bit uncomfortable because of my body. Things have changed a lot in the past five years! I’ve only been intimate with one man just one time in the past five years. I hope I can feel confident enough with my body to be intimate with someone if the opportunity comes along.
Yay for FWB at this stage of the game! You don’t need to be tied down if you don’t want to be. It’s possible to still love and cherish your former partner in your heart while at the same moving forward to enjoy the time you have left. You sound like someone with a lot of love and companionship left to give! Give yourself permission. Carpe diem!
All good advise! Thank you. One of the things I would never do is jump in bed with someone in the beginning. Not my style.
If it has not been your style, and it is currently still not your style, then you know your intentions and boundaries.💖
Your thoughts on this make so much sense. Great way to rethink all of this, gain perspective, and choose the best way to move forward. Super helpful!
Your accent sounds familiar. I lived in Chicagoland for 5 years.
So glad you found it interesting and something to think about
That’s so funny. Last week I was trying to figure out what words or sounds of mine sound Chicago. It’s my As right? I know it can’t be too bad. They have allowed me to do voiceover on national commercials.
I'm in that relationship like that. Met someone who is great but pulled back bc he is not ready. Now I'm not sure what to do
That’s very little information shared and completely understandable. I would suggest communication. There are two people in the relationship and both of their sets of needs are important. Perhaps share what yours are?
Olivia Newton John.❤
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Definitely all your suggestions are helpful, thanks 😊
You are welcome. 😊
My GF of 18 years passed away 2 years ago. I kinda have a friends with benefits thing with someone. I sometimes drive 4 hours and meet her in the middle. It is not optimal. I think I am going to end it and seek a real relationship with goals. Someday I would like to be married again. That person is out there.
Of course she is… because there are plenty of women out there who could be the one. The more people you meet the more likely you are to connect with someone.
"we are not ideal" - who IS ideal in this life?! No one. And we all are under pressure.
Hopefully not more pressure than we can handle. 💖👍
Ladies need to understand it's ok to say no. Don't let guys pressure you. Make it clear you are willing to sit home or move on.
They also need to be ok with being ready. We are attracted to one person more than the others.
Always OK to say no. For all gender! And perfectly OK to change your mind even once you’ve started.
Indeed be careful, you might catch something you didn't expect to, lulz. Seriously though, I am one of those older guys that has no interest in the casual stuff. Hopefully I will find a unicorn just like me.
I do not believe you are a unicorn. Keep that positive attitude!
Wasn't that a song years ago...."Let's get physical"? 👍👍☕☕
She just passed away. Olivia Newton John.
How many dates should you decide that you want to get intimate?
Just curious as to whether you thought I was going to respond with a particular number of dates?
Good subject manner. Met an older gentleman about a year and a half ago after grieving my late husband of 52 years death. Widow of over 5 years. Never had sex with no one other than my husband. Am in a Friend With benefit relationship but feeling guilty. My lover is 88 and I am 80. How do you feel all right in this situation? HELP!
May I offer a message of support. We can cherish and be cherished by more than one person in our lifetime. Please enjoy the moment and the pleasure that comes from it.
I agree with Keith. I hope we all find joy in life wherever we can. Hopefully you can choose to let go of any guilt, and instead live with gusto!
Remember that human connection is what’s life is truly all about. 💖👍
I’ve been a widow for almost thirteen years. I was 52 when my husband passed away. I’ve been in two relationships since he passed. One lasted two years, and the other just one year. The last relationship ended over five years ago. I didn’t feel uncomfortable getting intimate with these men. But now that I’m older (almost 65) I’m a bit uncomfortable because of my body. Things have changed a lot in the past five years! I’ve only been intimate with one man just one time in the past five years. I hope I can feel confident enough with my body to be intimate with someone if the opportunity comes along.
Yay for FWB at this stage of the game! You don’t need to be tied down if you don’t want to be. It’s possible to still love and cherish your former partner in your heart while at the same moving forward to enjoy the time you have left. You sound like someone with a lot of love and companionship left to give!
Give yourself permission.
Carpe diem!
No wonder STDs are rampant
😳You don’t have one? All the cool kids have at least one! 🤪
@@CoffeewithCarey really? Wow! Now I'm really scared!