I really enjoyed this episode. I think the problem we have as society is that we are constantly functioning from healing from the past, in this case patriarchy. As you guys mentioned in this episode, you don’t like women who “centre” men. Unfortunately some women are decentering men to a point where they don’t want to parent with them, even though they date them🤷♀️.We live in a world where women are constantly fighting against a lot of injustices of patriarchy but the end result is not going to be cute again for women and children. This topic needs social scientists to unpack it for us, because wow!!
It’s not that they don’t want marriage qha bazincamile! Bayandi dika because why bewa cenge kangaka amadoda ude umithe ungatshatanga? Girls don’t care about their childrens wellbeing because you know there’s high chances zoba lomfana angavuka engaka funi! Now you’re taking decisions about your baby with a man ohleli nenye intombazana kuba wena ungamisanga ingqondo? Khanifune into ezi nice marn about yourselves and your children.
I also feel lanto yoba the girlies are only thinking for themselves when it comes to having kids. There is no regard whatsoever for ifuture yomntwana. It’s so sad to see that we’re going to be raising kids that will experience the same traumatic experiences our generation is experiencing today. 🤷🏽♀️ Siyibonile that it doesn’t work or it’s has terrible consequences, the question is why are we doing it all over again? 💔
I find it a bit difficult to have conversations that hold men accountable for infidelity cause they don't comprehend very well/ are dismissive & andikwazi uba ne talk without being personal abt it. Bt when a teachable moment presents itself I try my best to have a serious conversation abt the matter.
Ha.a marn kumnandi apha ! 😭😂❤️ like ewe the conversations and topics are productive, kodwa the way you guys never fail to make me laugh , hayi shame inani nantsi iTrophy 😭❤️
Last week when I first heard a certain heartbreaking story about a mother losing her child under very suspicious circumstances and the father of the child allegedly not affording the mother the opportunity to see their child for the last time and to be there for the burial, I immediately thought about the previous weeks’ episode. Where you guys were talking about holding the girlies accountable for the people they choose to date and have children with. It feels insensitive to say this, especially because this story is still so fresh, but I find it hard to believe that the mother never saw any signs during the relationship that showed that her partner (the father) has an evil side to him. Whether it was how he may have treated other people or side comments he would make in conversations. There is no person who wakes up one morning and is evil to the extent of burying a child in less than 48 hours when the circumstances around its death are still being investigated. Ukhohlakele lowomuntu, ain’t no two ways about it. And that’s a level of ukukhohlakala that should never be overlooked for a particular lifestyle.
No pressure ne, but a live would snap! The interactivity, audience asking questions and getting replies almost immediately would be fire! Otherwise, niza kakuhle maqobokazana❤❤❤
I could watch a compilation of you guys laughing qha and it would still be the best thing on this earth. Now I agree with uBuhle, no guy friend should ever feel comfortable with introducing multiple girlfriends to me. I think with girl friends it tends to be different because with girls we tend to be more vulnerable with each other that by the time they introduce someone in the midst of an already existing relationship we probably feel or think they deserve the best of everything and its probably justified. Now to touch on the Sihle issue, usezokhula nyani. Akakabazi abafana in the sense of trying to create a real connection with them. For me she seems to speak from a point of lack of connection. All the issues she speak about seem to be from superficial relationships point of view. She's not wrong but there's a point of view that she's missing.
One thing I told myself was I am not gonna have a baby without a medical aid our public hospitals are hell,I am not gonna give someone a child for them to leave me with stretch marks and wake up in the middle of the night alone with a child,while he's sleeps peaceful without a baby?Soze🙅♀️ That's why I gave my husband who was my boyfriend then terms and conditions for my standards, take them or leave me alone period! 9 years later we blessed with 2boys and we married young I was 23 and he was 25 luckily we were both working🙏
With the guy friends introducing different girls also for me is a hectic boundary , My one friend kept bringing different girls each time we'd link and would introduce her as "Umama" I had to pull him aside one occasion and tell him that I am not comfortable because we end up making friends with these girls shame, I've given two of them lipgloss even, ndabapha iLip Gloss zam bruh and all he said was "Mangithi nguMama lona, accept her as Umama, Don't ask me questions"😂😂😂😂 😂😂😂😂 I was so defeated. And ke mna I'm so welcoming to girls wherever I go, cz I hate seeing girls singled out so ndiba soooo nice to them forgetting that I might not see her again and it hurts sometimes cz I have a genuine connection with some of them. Yoh Amadoda💔💔
There's no excuse nyhani we are careless with ourselves and our wombs as the girlies ngoba we know for a fact in our society umntana ngokamamakhe , unfortunately. Asizikhathalelanga.
That girl friend to a guy friend who brings different girls around you is complex nyani. Because nam, like Buhle, a guy friend knows to not tell me certain things because mna I'll stand up fr the girly that is being wronged by my guy friend. Like andifuni into edibana neCheating phambi kwam. Yes, if he's dating different ppl, fair. But asoze kaloku sihleka neGirlfriend yakhe, a person he's in a committed relationship with. Then next thing, iSide chick yakhe sihleka nayi again next weekend. Yhu ha.a 🙂😭
But ke, I am a hypocrite nyana because mna my girl friends can do that and I will laugh with all the different nigg*s that they bring around ingathi nguye yedwa 😭😞 but for me, principal still stands, if yall aren't committed, go off. But if it's a committed relationship, whether girl friends or guy friends, I will call you out. Or even ask, my girl friend, ukuba ithini into? Like are we cheating on Sipho? Is he a horrible person? Like ithini into 😭😭😭
ndikhumbula ndibona your first video you guys posted nikwa Buhle in bed. Y'all made me laugh I then subscribed and never looked back, I can't believe we're here 🥰
mna I find those women abathi they prefer to hang out with men because they are not gossipy to be male centred and pickmeishas. like in your entire existence there are no girlies that you resonate with angahlebiyo ? kum ufuna amadoda athi ungcono kunabanye ngoba ufuna ufunwa and you want proximity kuwo
Lol Hayi nam Khanya I don’t know why the girls leave a nice time for a man. Dikwa finish mna. Yhu sana 😂😭 Tshini there’s a time for everything bethuna.
mna I have loyalty on the person I am friends with, and I don't want to know my male girlfriends like that because abananyani abaya Sarn I would never recommend any girlie to date my male friends Sarna 🤣🤣🤣I think Nam ndifana nawe Khanya Sarna andizifaki andisayihleki kancancane Hlehle uyavela uKay 🤞🤣🤣🤣🤣wena sowunxola Hlehle ungenaphi mntase mna andizingeni shame mna in high school we once told a girlie Uba umntu wakhe is cheating phi ahambe we were in trouble the guy came to us and confronted us 🤣🤣sashiyeka apho Sarna bahappy . someone I know uligquza ngoku ndibhale le comment girl uphole entloko Sarna sithi abawrong ziyadika Marn indaba zabantu
oh bethuna sarna I loved this pregnancy topic Sarna mna marry me sarna ndizothatha ooTwo pot babantwana bam xa iphele sarna 🤣🤣🤣 I think uba ngumntana we single parent yeyona nto sarna idikayo ungumtshana at her home and at your dad's home awungomntana womtshato and your mom gets married yiwishiwishi and now you feel as if you do not belong masiyiyekeni bethuna hayi ayakhi
🤣🤣🤣🤣I am that cousin when I am with them, I ask sarna uba I will leave if anuzudibana namadoda ningabuyi sibuya sonke like why nizoshiyeka . if that is the case you guys can leave me bethuna
I don’t know why it makes me laugh every time you guys mention the criminals😂😂😂…I think a lot of people forget that babies grow. Uyayeka umntana ubalisana. Do you have money for a comfortable tertiary experience for your child na for example?
Being a girl with guy friends in relationships, I always respect the lady noba ngowesine endimboniswayo andikwazi nozenza ezanto zobonisa ba uGuy ndi close kuye kunaye cause kudala sazana but with that being said andimbhanxi umtana bantu ndibe ndithetha izinto ezingabuzwanga ba uyathandwa yena etc.... I respect both individuals
LOL.. ezam inxaki zindinga imali eningi shweem , andithanga nqa ngawo kewona... in fact there is more to life sana. Nice Podcast ladies, FActs zodwa enizithethileyo.
Sana nithini ngale yoba utshate then kubekho umntana, then akushiye uguy...!! There's really no formula sana whether umntana ufike before or after umtshato, people do change, KUBI!!
If you are going to enter big brother for real, please take out the clip of you sating you're going to enter because you are not allowed to let people know you are entering...
May this podcast grow bigger and bigger in Christ ❤❤❤
It is done in Jesus Name,amen and thank you for the declaration 🙏🏽🥰🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@Ms_Mbali heke!!!!
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Amen
A collaboration with Siblings thrivalry?!!
I can’t wait ❤❤❤❤
i don't even care about the topics, sometimes I just get excited to hear you guys laugh😂😂💕
That conversation about kids before marriage? Sobering! 🙌🏾
I get the soccer frustration so much 😂😂😭 like “you just wanna be everywhere men are, be honest omg” 😭
Totally LOVE these yappers!😂❤️
Sana! You guys are officially have Ad’s🎉🎉🎉I’m so excited for you guys❤
omg, not the only two podcasts I love collabing 🥺🥺❤!!
Yey I can't wait for uTa Mzubhela. UThalitha uzomjikela ngalomini
The talk about having kids!!!!🙌🏾
I always enjoy watching you guys😂🤍
Akhonto indithi finish njengale yoba the podcast is literally two girlies, “yapping away”! As a yapper, I feel seen. ❤😂😂 Kumnandi apha!
I really enjoyed this episode. I think the problem we have as society is that we are constantly functioning from healing from the past, in this case patriarchy. As you guys mentioned in this episode, you don’t like women who “centre” men. Unfortunately some women are decentering men to a point where they don’t want to parent with them, even though they date them🤷♀️.We live in a world where women are constantly fighting against a lot of injustices of patriarchy but the end result is not going to be cute again for women and children. This topic needs social scientists to unpack it for us, because wow!!
I love Khanya's takes!
It’s not that they don’t want marriage qha bazincamile! Bayandi dika because why bewa cenge kangaka amadoda ude umithe ungatshatanga? Girls don’t care about their childrens wellbeing because you know there’s high chances zoba lomfana angavuka engaka funi! Now you’re taking decisions about your baby with a man ohleli nenye intombazana kuba wena ungamisanga ingqondo? Khanifune into ezi nice marn about yourselves and your children.
Nantsoke 🫵🏽!
I also feel lanto yoba the girlies are only thinking for themselves when it comes to having kids. There is no regard whatsoever for ifuture yomntwana. It’s so sad to see that we’re going to be raising kids that will experience the same traumatic experiences our generation is experiencing today. 🤷🏽♀️
Siyibonile that it doesn’t work or it’s has terrible consequences, the question is why are we doing it all over again? 💔
oweemmggeee so excited for a sibling thrivalry collab!🤭
Love it when Buhle says “Good shot”❤😂
You guys are my best friends now🤺🤺. Love this podcast so much 🤺
Not u Trevor Gumbi please 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😭
I want this channel to grow❤❤ but I’m also jealous it’s growing…it’s like now I’m sharing my friends 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You guys are effortlessly funny!😅😅😅
Zimnandi iindaba zabafazi😮💨😮💨
Brooooo! I'm picking up so much slang. Ndinazo neemdawo eziSassy these days
🤣
Besithe nqabani kule conversation 😂
@@iviweM-o8v soze
YHO kumnandi apha every time you guys post, ndyayazi I am going to have a good laugh🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm here for the laughs. Always a feel good moment this podcast. The chat is also chatting ❤
That hypothesis is very necessary 😂😂😂 coz yhooo! Escapades 😂😂😂
I’m with khanya on this one, I’m also so passive with my friend’s relationships 🤣
"The sheep that never dies, madlamini khulul' ezoSpecs".. Buhle, I'll always say this mna. 😘
Human error is crazy 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Love the podcast ladies, I relate so much to the topics. I'm binge watching whilst in hospital and it's definitely helping me forget
Hope you get better soon. We will be thinking about you ❤️
ohhhhhh Yes cant wait for the siblings colab......I love them
Same !!!
You guys are a bunch of hilarious people ! ❤😂
I LOVE THIS PODCAST!❤
I can't wait for the collab it will be dope 🤭❤️
A sibling thivalry will be so good !
100%😊😊
I find it a bit difficult to have conversations that hold men accountable for infidelity cause they don't comprehend very well/ are dismissive & andikwazi uba ne talk without being personal abt it. Bt when a teachable moment presents itself I try my best to have a serious conversation abt the matter.
Looove Sibling Trivalry.. yhoo my faves collaborating, cant wait
Ha.a marn kumnandi apha ! 😭😂❤️ like ewe the conversations and topics are productive, kodwa the way you guys never fail to make me laugh , hayi shame inani nantsi iTrophy 😭❤️
I would love to see Khanya on BB!!
Ndizokhangela uChwayita🤣
Nam! 😂
😂😂😂
LOL i feel seen sana, because ndizofuna yena nam
Nam😂
😂😂nam ngaske ndithi makaziveze
Not Gemini catching strays haibo why are we in it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Fav place emhlabeni on a Sunday 😂😂
The conversation yepregnancy needs to be had! I'm so tired of people asking me when I'll have kids because I'm nearing 30.Like?!
Last week when I first heard a certain heartbreaking story about a mother losing her child under very suspicious circumstances and the father of the child allegedly not affording the mother the opportunity to see their child for the last time and to be there for the burial, I immediately thought about the previous weeks’ episode. Where you guys were talking about holding the girlies accountable for the people they choose to date and have children with. It feels insensitive to say this, especially because this story is still so fresh, but I find it hard to believe that the mother never saw any signs during the relationship that showed that her partner (the father) has an evil side to him. Whether it was how he may have treated other people or side comments he would make in conversations. There is no person who wakes up one morning and is evil to the extent of burying a child in less than 48 hours when the circumstances around its death are still being investigated.
Ukhohlakele lowomuntu, ain’t no two ways about it. And that’s a level of ukukhohlakala that should never be overlooked for a particular lifestyle.
No pressure ne, but a live would snap! The interactivity, audience asking questions and getting replies almost immediately would be fire!
Otherwise, niza kakuhle maqobokazana❤❤❤
And yi human error shame xa izi girlies zam 😭😭😭
Here for the rights (and the wrongs) zabafazi 😅❤
I'm always thoroughly entertained. Niyayi cinga into😂😂
haibo, not Geminis catching strays . what did we dooo ?!!?
I could watch a compilation of you guys laughing qha and it would still be the best thing on this earth. Now I agree with uBuhle, no guy friend should ever feel comfortable with introducing multiple girlfriends to me. I think with girl friends it tends to be different because with girls we tend to be more vulnerable with each other that by the time they introduce someone in the midst of an already existing relationship we probably feel or think they deserve the best of everything and its probably justified. Now to touch on the Sihle issue, usezokhula nyani. Akakabazi abafana in the sense of trying to create a real connection with them. For me she seems to speak from a point of lack of connection. All the issues she speak about seem to be from superficial relationships point of view. She's not wrong but there's a point of view that she's missing.
not Trevor Gumbi chile 😭
Cwaitha face reveal sana 🙏😭 she's been doing the Lord's work
Real 😭🤣
One thing I told myself was I am not gonna have a baby without a medical aid our public hospitals are hell,I am not gonna give someone a child for them to leave me with stretch marks and wake up in the middle of the night alone with a child,while he's sleeps peaceful without a baby?Soze🙅♀️
That's why I gave my husband who was my boyfriend then terms and conditions for my standards, take them or leave me alone period! 9 years later we blessed with 2boys and we married young I was 23 and he was 25 luckily we were both working🙏
With the guy friends introducing different girls also for me is a hectic boundary , My one friend kept bringing different girls each time we'd link and would introduce her as "Umama" I had to pull him aside one occasion and tell him that I am not comfortable because we end up making friends with these girls shame, I've given two of them lipgloss even, ndabapha iLip Gloss zam bruh and all he said was "Mangithi nguMama lona, accept her as Umama, Don't ask me questions"😂😂😂😂 😂😂😂😂 I was so defeated. And ke mna I'm so welcoming to girls wherever I go, cz I hate seeing girls singled out so ndiba soooo nice to them forgetting that I might not see her again and it hurts sometimes cz I have a genuine connection with some of them. Yoh Amadoda💔💔
There's no excuse nyhani we are careless with ourselves and our wombs as the girlies ngoba we know for a fact in our society umntana ngokamamakhe , unfortunately. Asizikhathalelanga.
That girl friend to a guy friend who brings different girls around you is complex nyani. Because nam, like Buhle, a guy friend knows to not tell me certain things because mna I'll stand up fr the girly that is being wronged by my guy friend. Like andifuni into edibana neCheating phambi kwam. Yes, if he's dating different ppl, fair. But asoze kaloku sihleka neGirlfriend yakhe, a person he's in a committed relationship with. Then next thing, iSide chick yakhe sihleka nayi again next weekend. Yhu ha.a 🙂😭
But ke, I am a hypocrite nyana because mna my girl friends can do that and I will laugh with all the different nigg*s that they bring around ingathi nguye yedwa 😭😞 but for me, principal still stands, if yall aren't committed, go off. But if it's a committed relationship, whether girl friends or guy friends, I will call you out. Or even ask, my girl friend, ukuba ithini into? Like are we cheating on Sipho? Is he a horrible person? Like ithini into 😭😭😭
Sifika kwi video, sesihleka ikhwapha.. aniva aniva😂😂
ndikhumbula ndibona your first video you guys posted nikwa Buhle in bed. Y'all made me laugh I then subscribed and never looked back, I can't believe we're here 🥰
Kancane, kancane uKhanya uyaziveza🤣🤣…I can’t with you guys😂
Loyiso Gola uzobe eseMonti soon you can connect with him if niyagoduka🤣🤣
mna I find those women abathi they prefer to hang out with men because they are not gossipy to be male centred and pickmeishas. like in your entire existence there are no girlies that you resonate with angahlebiyo ? kum ufuna amadoda athi ungcono kunabanye ngoba ufuna ufunwa and you want proximity kuwo
okay but why cant we download the vids offline anymore 😩😔
Not human error 🤣🤣🤣
Not amadolo awasavumi 😂😭😭
9:43 my favesssss collaborating would be cool-cool!❤❤
Lol Hayi nam Khanya I don’t know why the girls leave a nice time for a man. Dikwa finish mna. Yhu sana 😂😭 Tshini there’s a time for everything bethuna.
Bro!!
Last weekend ndidikwe yiChom yam sana . Soloko sithi sonwabile yena afune ukuya endodeni. Ingxaki yakhe yena ufuna simkhaphe so kengoku sonke masiyeke umjaivo sikhaphe yena esiya endodeni. Yhuu ha.a shame.
Yho ndiyanithanda andizenzisi
Uphi na uChwayita😂😂😂😂😂😂
Molweni Love you dzown sana I relate kuyo yonke into eniythetha I just hope siSingle sonke sana❤😂😂😂
Mhimhi, ndiyazile nguwe lo Chlwayita 😂😂
@siphelelenyamza4372 lies lies lies and everywhere lies😭😭🤣🤣🤣
ohh ngaze nda triggered yi ndaba ye girlfriend engathandi the girl friend 🙂↔️🙂↔️
🤣🤣🤣 yiyani ku Amstel: the challenge niyo bona uLawrence kak’hle
Sisi Chway ke sana😭😭
mna I have loyalty on the person I am friends with, and I don't want to know my male girlfriends like that because abananyani abaya Sarn I would never recommend any girlie to date my male friends Sarna 🤣🤣🤣I think Nam ndifana nawe Khanya Sarna andizifaki andisayihleki kancancane Hlehle uyavela uKay 🤞🤣🤣🤣🤣wena sowunxola Hlehle ungenaphi mntase mna andizingeni shame mna in high school we once told a girlie Uba umntu wakhe is cheating phi ahambe we were in trouble the guy came to us and confronted us 🤣🤣sashiyeka apho Sarna bahappy . someone I know uligquza ngoku ndibhale le comment girl uphole entloko Sarna sithi abawrong ziyadika Marn indaba zabantu
Oh you guys dragged us mtakaBawo as oMama bo Enzo
Love this Podcast, uphi uChwayita? 😂
Wenamntu u gym.ayo 😂😂😂😂Yhoo haa. Khanya😂😂😂😂
oh bethuna sarna I loved this pregnancy topic Sarna mna marry me sarna ndizothatha ooTwo pot babantwana bam xa iphele sarna 🤣🤣🤣 I think uba ngumntana we single parent yeyona nto sarna idikayo ungumtshana at her home and at your dad's home awungomntana womtshato and your mom gets married yiwishiwishi and now you feel as if you do not belong masiyiyekeni bethuna hayi ayakhi
🤣🤣🤣🤣I am that cousin when I am with them, I ask sarna uba I will leave if anuzudibana namadoda ningabuyi sibuya sonke like why nizoshiyeka . if that is the case you guys can leave me bethuna
I don’t know why it makes me laugh every time you guys mention the criminals😂😂😂…I think a lot of people forget that babies grow. Uyayeka umntana ubalisana.
Do you have money for a comfortable tertiary experience for your child na for example?
Being a girl with guy friends in relationships, I always respect the lady noba ngowesine endimboniswayo andikwazi nozenza ezanto zobonisa ba uGuy ndi close kuye kunaye cause kudala sazana but with that being said andimbhanxi umtana bantu ndibe ndithetha izinto ezingabuzwanga ba uyathandwa yena etc.... I respect both individuals
Khaniyeke iGeminis 😂😂
LOL.. ezam inxaki zindinga imali eningi shweem , andithanga nqa ngawo kewona... in fact there is more to life sana. Nice Podcast ladies, FActs zodwa enizithethileyo.
“Umntu makabeyilento arhalela ubayiyo” nam shame ndikwelo Kay
Do you sana
I think another one is dating a married person.
Chwayita ziveze ntombi.🤣🤣🤣Nathi sifunukbona
My lovies ❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤
I love u guys u are raw as Mac G and Sol keep it up. U are representing us as Xhosa women in the eastern cape
uKhanya uyatyhilwa 😂😂😂 38:26
Oh ke sana, vele ndingonwabi🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭
Into endinithanda yona 😂😂😂❤
sizaba ngooK- fam name 🤪
Sana nithini ngale yoba utshate then kubekho umntana, then akushiye uguy...!! There's really no formula sana whether umntana ufike before or after umtshato, people do change, KUBI!!
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
ayo fair game bethuna umntu maka face(e) iou yakhe yena mntu that owes them that kind of loyalty 😭👍🏾
True Asive the bone of contention must be with the one omoshileyo nguye owophule izivumelwano zabo.
Kuyahlekwa kulomzi😭😭😭
What did Chwayita say?😂😂
Machwayi kwezo plek
😅😅Not Mafikeng please😅😅
Yazi guys! Umntu maka bethe kuye wethu ibra’s neGirls bethani kuni please&the male centered pick me girls bayayityisa iteam shame stru😢
If you are going to enter big brother for real, please take out the clip of you sating you're going to enter because you are not allowed to let people know you are entering...
Mna shame I’m terrible at having my friends cheat…guy friends and girl friends. I didn’t see anything and nothing ever happened😭
Bongi my girl 😂😂😭😭
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