It’s gotten to the point where every face I see online is too perfect and it has become so boring to my brain. I get excited when I see any semblance of normal human skin that isn’t blurred and smoothed to high heavens Also if I saw a real life version of those Slenderman filtered people I think I would scream and run away in terror
it's gotten so bad that they all blur together in my head and i have trouble differentiating who's who because they all try so hard to look the same. so many celebrities have gotten plastic surgery and ridden themselves of their interesting or identifying features that i can no longer recognize them
Fr when people look too perfect it just does nothing for me, but when you can tell that they're real human, with imperfections, it immediately makes them look way better
@@K.Arashi No bc it’s literally to the point where all these people are starting to look the same to me. Like you have no defining characteristics that I can use to identify you bc you and everyone else got the same rhinoplasty done and you all looked pretty similar to begin with tbh. On top of that, I had fairly mild face blindness before this. They’re making it so hard to tell them apart 😭😂
What gets me, is that it seems like in western society, what we call "skinny" is still considered "fat" in asian society. You have to be literally bones to be considered skinny for their beauty standard.
When I was a teenager in the mid 2000s I wore large in Asia. Then I went to America on holiday and discovered I was an extra small there. US sizes are extra big. EU and AU sizes are not as big (but so tall). Even bmi calculations are different for East Asians.
Different races/region just have different body make up or body types. As an Asian, I do think our bodies are already small or slim in most places but some Asians just take it too far when it comes to being skinny. Western bodies are built quite bigger so I think it’s the reason why you’d end up in large size if you come to Asia.
yeah, I am a medium by European size standards, but when I ordered a costume through a friend from 'Taobao', based on the size chart I was given I was apparently a XXL-XXXL lol
The more I learn about beauty standards around the world, the more I can’t even take seriously beauty standards as a concept. I’m just going to do the best I can with my own body and not try to fit any kind of mold.
When I was younger, I saw a photo in a magazine. It was a normal sized makeup artist working on a runway model. It was striking! The model’s waist was at the normal woman’s chest and her arms hung down almost the makeup artists knees! I thought then that our “beauty standards” are based on FREAKS OF NATURE! 😲😬🤢🥴☹️😢 But THIS is truly bizarre! 😔😖
i think everyone should instead focus on the environment and the little of nature that is left. Trying to look like this will be useless in a dystopian future.
I had to delete a lot of my social media during a mental health crisis a couple years back. I didn't know how much it affected me until I redownloaded Instagram, it immediately had a really damaging effect on me and all I was following were some of my favourite influencers. I became so critical about my body and I started comparing myself to literally every woman I saw. Don't even get me started on the damage to my self esteem anime and manga had as well. Now the only social media I use is youtube, discord, and whatsapp and my mental health has improved a lot.
Getting rid of tiktok is my best decision ever it ruined my self image (random, but I am loving the replies because it’s good to know it is not just me (of course I know tons of people is not on social media but I feel the pressure to be on one to see how my friends are doing and to update what I am doing everyday (instagram) but it is making me miserable constantly comparing but comments seems like it is okay to get rid of social media (I’m planning on getting rid of Instagram next!
Surprisingly, lots of boomers fall for these. I think a lot of them lack media literacy and online critical thinking skills, because of their generation not growing up with the internet. Therefore, a lot of these older people don’t realize that they’re looking at someone with a filter. And if these are older people who live more rurally and rarely see non-white people in person, many will unironically think that Asian women just look like that. Boomers are wild.
I was personally one of those that fell for it before. I had a meltdown a couple years ago because my face didnt look perfect silky smooth like everyone else on instagram. I felt so ugly and disgusted with myself. I took a break from social media for a while and with time realized everything is filter and ps and that everyone in real life has skin texture. It preys on people with insecurities.
also the fact that many phones come with built in beauty filters that you cant turn off- pisses me off to no end. (especially as a person who sometimes needs to take photos of my skin/hair damage)
When I was in Korea I met some idol trainees and they regarded it the bare minimum to start starving themselves at 14. When I asked why, they said the western mentality is to be lazy, whereas in Asia you need to sacrifice to succeed. Personally, this ingrained mentality is really frightening, self care looks lazy, but it’s for your own good.
Failure on the parent's fault. I grew up with korean standards with my mom always telling me i was fat and that i needed to lose weight as early as 10.. but my mother never let me starve (i'd try). and she never wanted me to get to the level of skinny that is the standard today- she wanted me to eat healthy and exercise and even though she was harsh in critisizing me, it's because pretty privilege is real. these new gen parents dont see (or choose not to see) the absolute damage being done to their children..
_"the western mentality is to be lazy"_ 🙄 Umm.... my "mentality" is that teens need something called "proper nutrition" so that their bones and muscles become strong, and then remain strong into old age. Teens who starve themselves are prone to early osteoporosis. _Brittle bones._ That's a very poor tradeoff for whatever they think it means to "succeed". 😬
We're sorry for you but I think beauty standards make everyone looks similar u loose your uniqueness...so don't fret I may not know what you look like but your are beautiful and u matter❤
Girl I laughed cos I finally lost my Ed gained a Lil booty and got my boobs done and now I'm a size 12 which is a LARGE in most clothing like girl wtf is this
As a graphic artist and student of old animation, i can tell you where 8 head drawing comes from. It's from the beginning of comics to make the heroes look heroic. it's called heroic proportions. Most normal humans tend to be seven heads tall. The extra head is usually in the feet to make sure they are tall. Stellar Blade seems to have used a normal Korean girl for the heroine. I haven't seen the game up close. Working with photoshop and After Effects for so many years, I can generally spot it immediately in most pictures.
What does it mean "hero's figure"? It is so illusional. Tall people simply can't have proportionally bigger heads? Like at least 7 to 7.5 heads? Seriously? Is the image really that much more important than the reality? I know I'm not a fan to this and will always make my video game characters similar to my IRL vertical proportions. Btw, I'm short (about 5'3.5"), am 7.5 heads, and some headphones would just slide off my head if I don't stay up. I have to give up buying a pair and barely touched another pair I own because of this (I'm a semi audiophile btw). It just sucks. But, nobody had mentioned about my "headedness", ever, probably because of my unremarkable height (even my upper body vs legs proportions got mentioned a few times). So honestly, "hero figure" only looks good on its own, once you stand beside some genuine tall people, you'd only look like a joke 🤷
@@fuyuukifukada7491 9 heads had been meant since the ancient Greek times to be the body proportions of heroic demigods, spacemarines, and gigachads. It's bulit to be intentionally perceived as bigger than life. It's mostly seen in giant heroic statues (look up some soviet ones like Alyosha, Motherland calls, Liberator in Berlin, etc). The same proportion was also widely and intentionally used by Soviet architectors while buliding public spaces, many of those are intentionally bigger than should be, and for roughly the same ideas. It's called monumentalism both in statues and buildings. In people you probably can see it in basketball players. And, also, there was one Soviet fashion designer Slava Zaytsev, who extensively used folk inspiration and called his shows "fashion theatre". It was everything over the top and never expected to be worn IRL, he was an outsider even to the global couture scene at that. He intentionally cast his female models at least 6 ft tall and they wore very high heels and big hats, and his male models at about 7 ft tall. His people deliberately scouted all around the Soviet Union for extra tall people to model.
@@fuyuukifukada7491 8 or 8.5 is reasonable for an athletic European man above average height. Look up male pair figure skaters, they're all 8+ heads tall. That's what the ancient Greek considered beautiful and divine, because that's what was successful fighting in a phalanx. And they also religiously believed that perfect bodies reflect perfect personalities, so they chose their best men and depicted them in Idealistic, not realistic ways. Think you have a bunch of already good-looking olympic athletes and depict them with a beauty filter, because you're religiously obsessed with their bodies. So, that's whom they depicted and perfected the academical canons onto. And that's what late medieval Italians studied and copied. It would be immodest for actual women to pose, and women wasn't their point of obsession. Designers start as art students, and they learn to draw human proportions academically and are told that's beautiful... 9 is straight out initially and intentionally superhuman by design, never supposed to be a beauty standard. Neither 8 nor 9 was ever supposed to be women before couture.
Every time I see videos like this on Instagram, all their comments are like 50-year-old men going “gorgeous!” and “why can’t I find a girl that looks like this in real life?!” The media literacy is nonexistent and the desire to catfish and scam them is a difficult demon to fight.
K but the thing with men tho is they will always be more than happy to shove their pp into whatever hole so i wouldnt even rly pay attention to them oohing and ahhing. Does it distort their perception of real women? Yes. Does it stop them from pursuing real women? Nope 😂 although we do live in a day and age where lots of men like sitting at home paying for only fans instead of getting a real girlfriend
@@bethanychatman9531That’s pretty normal. Women naturally like men older than them because of the leadership role, and men naturally like women younger than them because of the submissive role. Now we’re not talking about underaged girls and old men, we’re talking about two grown adults that haven’t just left high school.
This video shows me that beauty ideals are really completely arbitrary. As a European, people with extremely small heads look f*ing creepy. Like something to haunt your nightmares.
As someone who has a niece obsessed with kpop idols and is chronically glued to her phone literally 24/7 (falls asleep listening to her discord groups, checks her phone frequently during movies), I’m seriously worried about her own self image.
I’m concerned too. I was just in the comments of a skincare video and there were comments asking the creator to post skin care tips for 10-13 year olds 🤯 like what?! Go ride your bike around and lay in the grass like we did and don’t worry about it. It’s just so scary. There’s so much pressure now on literal children and their brains are still developing. Anyway, sorry for the rant. My daughter is 3 and I’m already worried.
@@jacquelynroe9036skincare is important though.. as a kid my acne was really bad and my face would hurt every day. ofc for people with healthy skin they shouldn’t worry about it alot
Theres a reason there is an age minimum for an account. And if she is of age to have an account, maybe parents need to limit social media. Allowing kids to have their nose in their phone constantly is what causes these issues. It should never be normalized to anyone. How many people do you actually see like this when you leave your house? Lol. These videos pick and choose who to video and then make it like its normal when its not. Most of those girls just have a small body type, not actually doing anything to stay that skinny. Some people simply just dont eat like every meal is a buffet
@@jacquelynroe9036I think kids should still at least use sunscreen, face wash, lip balm and moisturiser but there’s no need for all these serums and other skincare stuff (they don’t rly do anything anyways). Those also don’t have to be expensive af either. I really suggest Japanese skincare as the prices are a lot more reasonable and the quality/quantity are both better. For a kid or teenager, just get some staples that work and replace them as they run out, they can branch out once they get older.
A few weeks ago I watched a Chinese cosplay video, everyone was filtered and facetuned into oblivion - the eyed were huge, chins narrow, limbs so unnaturally thin they basically looked like grey aliens. All the comments were oblivious kids repeating how gorgeous they looked and that they'd would never look that good in the same cosplay and how "everyone is better in Asia, how are Chinese cosplayers so professional looking?". It's really terrifying. They're really going to end up unable to tell what is realistic and what isn't.
Recently watched a video where a 5th grade class were shown an AI generated video on how the pyramids generate energy in the past to see if the kids would be fooled & unfortunately they were. Showcasing the dangers of AI generated "scientific" content landing in the hands of kids & how in the future we may have more situations similar to flat earthers with kids believing science and history "facts" that were fabricated by AI youtube channels farming (kid) views.
You know, maybe thats where beauty standard is leading up to look as an alien . People already shaving their jaws to make it pointy and Starving to have slim body. Maybe in the future everyone will lose their nose due to the many Rhinoplasty surgeries ( like Michael Jackson) it will a trend🥲
A lot of people fail to understand that those crazy standards are toxic and it puts a lot of pressure on their society. No wonder why the suicide rate is so huge in Korea. People can't live under such terrible standards it's ruining their mental health
I'm going to be honest, the extremely thin tall skinny asian girl trope scare me it's so similar to slender man, that I don't know how it's posted as beauty
Growing up my dad always say "Why can't you look like other girls?" and indicate women on Chinese TV and Ads. It never occured to him that women on TV and Ads were photoshopped or wore heavy make up. If anything he took it as the norm and tried to make me fit the mould. If I grew up with this TikTok filter I would have lost my mind because wtf 👽
Why is your dad saying that to you, sounds like something an asshole would say to their partner. Kind of creepy and I’m sorry you ever had to deal with that :(
I absolutely feel your pain. I remember in hs my Dad was pushing me to go to a dance that I had no interest in and I was not feeling confident. I eventually told him I just don’t want to go and he goes “Why because you’re fat and you’re clothes don’t fit right”? It really be your own parents sometimes.
Tell your dad to go look at a goddamn mirror if he ever tries to pull that again good good. Any parent who says shit like this should get that shit stamped, posted, and returned to sender and forwarded to mom bc that child came outta them. I feel you tho :/
@@evelynnnyt My dad is like super insecure and desperate to fit in 😒. He's all about appearances and want me to look ""normal"" so I don't embarrass him in front of his friends. Like if I'm ugly (in his opinion) that reflects bad parenting for not helping your kid fit into normal society. He would get mad at my mom for not teaching me make up. At the same time if I wear make up and a dress I'm a sloot trying to pull a man so like there is no winning I'm so glad I'm an adult now fck that.
Feel ya. My dad shamed me infront of random ppl. He told me: you're ugly and you should wear make up and so on Even my mom thinks I'm ugly. I'm not girly enough.... I grew up thinking I should be dead bc of my face Nowadays I don't care about my face anymore
the face filters on so many japanese people (and most of asian honestly) is SCARY. Everyone looks like a bug and nothing like themselves yet it is so normalized. I just don't get it.
I´m Chinese-Austrian, my height is 170 cm and I weigh now 52 kg. So the last time I visited my Family in China, I only weighed around 48 - 50 kg. Which is considered too thin for my height, but my clothing size in China was the same as in Europe, which was a European Size S. This was in 2019. This year in September was the first time since 2019 that I was able to visit my family in China. Of course, I went shopping for new clothes, but my mind was blown, found out that I am now a size L in China. My mum and I looked at each other with the same look in our eyes: Wtf?! How in Hell did the sizes change so much in the last three years? This is concerning as hell! Like being healthy is ugly now? Also, I am still a S in Europe. So the difference is just mind-blowing. I really hate the fact that the fashion and beauty industry in Asia is promoting ED. And let me tell you normally people are not having it. One time, I was looking for a traditional Chinese-style dress for my best friend's upcoming wedding, and another customer literally told the salesperson that the sizes were f**** ridiculous. And the other customer's body type was actually normal and healthy.
The European Size S is never a Chinese Size S since long time ago. It’s not a new thing. It has nothing to do with what you are saying here. It’s totally body size difference between Chinese and European.
As a Korean woman, digging into the world of douyin makeup and filters, helped me to realize it doesn't take extreme work and fortune to be "beautiful." In fact, I can look for my own kind of "beautiful" and no longer worry about comparing to such silly illusions.
I mean, I grew up in Europe and the beauty standards in my youth (when social media was only just starting to exist) already broke me. Looking at social media today, or at the beauty standards in kpop for example, makes me so worried for the mental health of kids and teenagers nowadays. Being too focused on appearance is detrimental to mental health, numerous studies have shown this. It can cause disordered eating, body dysmorphia, depression, anxiety and more. I think the best we can do is to not endorse and perpetuate these beauty standards ourselves, as you say. I completely agree with you. Also I only just found this content creator and so far I've liked their videos a lot for critically analysing beauty standards in social media.
I think the saddest (and most mind-blowing) thing for me is that there are so many people who think this is real. That people look like that, despite how absolute bizarre the filter looks like.
I’m half Filipina and half Italian and grew up feeling insecure of how I looked based off Asian and European and American ideals, once social media came along and then TikTok, it affected me so much. I had a warped view of myself as I grew into my late 20s and developed anxiety whenever it came to posting. Been on a break from posting for 2 years and limit which apps I’m on and for how long, I’ve honestly never felt better, it sounds cliche but I feel so free
I totally understand how you feel! instagram and tiktok have never been my cup of tea so i literally never use tt, and insta only when it's for family member photos. however, for the longest time i had an addiction to twitter and it was being bad for my mental health :c since i stopped using it a lot, i've been feeling so much free
Di mo kailangan pansinin mga sikat na tao sa social media. Basta nasa within 20 to 24 ang body mass index mo ok na. Kung lumampas sa 24 BMI mo mag bike ka or stationary bike
You are beautiful just the way you are and I’m so glad you’re feeling better now! It’s horrible how beauty standards make wonderful people feel bad about themselves when there shouldn’t be anything to feel bad about
The lore of Jiafei even transcended languages, here in Latin America they say she is the potaxie queen and it evolved into this whole really deep lore. My 19 year old sister who is very deep into tik tok explained it to me for a solid couple hours with examples… it was…interesting
As a Cambodian/Laotian girl, the lighter skin look was such a struggle!! I had no business trying to use all types of skin lightening soaps and creams as early as middle school just to feel pretty but I’m 25 now and I love my tan 💕
Its so fucking sad and funny (in a sad way) how Asian countries are heavily obsessed with getting super white skin, yet im mexican and hate my pale complexion because i dont look like the rest of my family with beautiful dark and tan skin tones. To see people with beautiful dark/tan skin are going crazy lenghts to be pale is sad. And the same can be said about me, sad that i hate my skin color so much.
@@yeeyeemfs7055 If you tan your skin, the tanning effect itself is damaging/aging your skin and you'll end up with worse problems of disliking your skin being spotty and wrinkled in the future. Find beauty in your skin color no matter what it is, I wouldn't trade my pale skin for anything.
@@yeeyeemfs7055unfortunately in Latin America the beauty standards the same tho 😔. Especially in South America, I’ve gotten so many compliments from my family for being light skinned
One of the best ways that I grew from the toxicity of online filtered beauty standards was by deleting apps that really heavily exposed me to them (Snapchat, TIKTOK, Twitter) and only focused on apps like RUclips or Discord. This really allowed me to get used to in depth conversations and beauty standards, and helped my attention span a lot. I discovered so much about myself. Another thing that REALLY helped was watching plain old cable television. A lot of the people on there are normal looking enough, and the cameras show normal skin texture. Any make up they wear is only so they appear normal on camera, it's really helped me become calmer and more exposed to normal life/living.
Asian beauty standards have such a strong effect on an insecure woman, that I worry about trying to fit the standards. I’m not Asian, I’m not in Asia, I’m an old woman, I have my doctor’s specific advice about how much weight to lose. Yet, I start thinking about fitting in. (sorry about the last sentence. i was falling asleep)
Karolina Zebrowska has a good video on these things. I'll see if I can find the title. Let's Talk About TikTok's Obsession With Beauty And "Why are body parts Fashion?" Both of those are something to watch :)
Because most people sharing and liking those influencers are kpop stans that are so used to seeing plastic and heavily filtered idols that they have dissociated what a real human looks like
🌸 when I was a little girl my mom loved old westerns, she would watch all old movies The characters, were tanned, wrinkled but I loved their faces. The good, bad & ugly Clint was only good looking person lol but I loved all characters in it She also loved action, so Dirty Harry Clint again, Death Wish with Charles Branson, Old horrors with Christopher Lee, Vincent price, Boris Karloff, Bela Lugosi etc They all had wonderful features & character presence. The women had a commanding presence, they had a certain je ne sais quoi When I see a modern movie with only young people that don’t have wrinkles or anything to show me their emotions I get bored so quickly not only can I not see any flaws but I can’t identify with any of the characters or feel anything for them Like an old friend. Instead it leaves me empty. To put simply it’s like biting into jam donut without the jam centre It’s missing something, the essence of life itself. In my mind, beauty comes from within and especially from our flaws, I saw beauty in those people, their flaws made them unique They all didn’t look the same, that’s what I love the most 🎉 I didn’t see that in flawless faces which reminded me of a plain mask. So many people are starting to look same, like an old twilight show. Sometimes I feel like I’m trapped with mannequins that have no defined features, characteristics or imperfections Whenever I see people trying so hard with plastic surgery or something else like an app It just makes me chuckle because they are empty vessels with nothing between their eyes I couldn’t talk to them , they wouldn’t interest me in conversing What would they know except how to act and look fake ? I prefer sophisticated looks, age and people who are not afraid to show their defects, blemishes or anything they incorrectly perceived as a weakness, was actually their greatest strength. It’s all perception but we are innately drawn to asymmetrical and imperfections deep within That’s gorgeous in my mind, people like that educate themselves and grow from within They don’t hide their flaws but embrace it. To me their confidence shine more than a heavily made up person, that looks like a badly made mask. Sad part is most people are just sheep they follow the masses & copy what the majority are doing They lose their identity trying to copy someone else or a new trend. Not everything suits people It’s best to have ones own style and be yourself rather than fake being something that you are not Life is more interesting with variety & our differences made us unique & special 🎉
You mentioned a bunch of men who look tanned and wrinkled. No tanned, wrinkled, and ugly women who looked great. Women had a commanding presence and an ineffable something. This is the problem.
to be fair, even back in the day, most actresses had to be young and beautiful to get leading roles. as actresses aged, they were shoved into roles of mothers/matrons to support the younger actresses in the leading roles. hollywood has always been very sexist. men could age and stil get desirable top billing roles. things have improved for women in hollywood in this aspect; older women can still get good roles in movies. but there's still a lot of pressure on them to finetune and conceal or slow the signs of aging. i agree with the original comment, but i prefer to look at people in real life and not just in movies. there's many striking older women outside of the hollywood/entertainment bubble.
I’ve shared this story a few times on SNS but i want to put it here too. I was studying in Korea for university (and where I currently live). I made two friends; one from Germany and one from Japan (I grew up moving between a few countries for context too). When we needed to get student ID photos/FRCs we went together. After taking our photos, they began to photoshop it in front of us- no asking, just started making changes. Again these are for legal documents. My friend from Germany they made a few touch ups even though she said not to, and same for mine. For example for me they “fixed” my smile and removed my beauty marks/freckles. It overall still kinda looked like us, but enough that it very much could mess with your self perception. However, my friend from Japan began to ask for changes. “Can you make my face smaller? Slimmer? Widen my eyes? Make my nose smaller?” And the man editing the photos agreed. I personally think my friend was already very pretty, and while some things were not in the ‘idol level standard’ she looked nice. The photos looked nothing like her, maybe in some ways I could still feel it was her, but overall for a legal document I was so surprised they would allow it. I think this shows a lot of the social pressure many people in Asian countries have when it comes to beauty. I grew in Japan on and off for awhile as a kid, and I can feel the pressure in Korea now. Even in the other places I lived there was beauty expectation, and I’ve had issues with it to some level growing up but never to the extreme I think as my friends who have only ever lived in Japan and Korea. When people say the expectations and limits here are bad/harsh, it really isn’t a joke… Edit; I want to add is trends and content do vary somewhat between country. Japan, Korea, and China (as well as other other EA countries) are not interchangeable and to some level the beauty ideals do have variations. But while this is true many of the overall themes of beauty do still tend to align in certain ways, and the pressure on beauty everyone is deeply, overloomingly, present everywhere. So while my story focuses on Korea and Japan, which is different from Douyin/China my message is about the overwhelming self of self and looks that translates so heavily to every from of digital media. Even to IDs, yearsbooks, and at time documents because the standard of the ideal is always present in the minds of those who grew up in these socialized beauty pressure cookers.
I've seen this done on US school pictures recently. When I was younger and the technology was new, they would offer optional touch ups, usually for an extra fee. The changes were small, like shadows, blemishes, stray hairs, basically things that could be different on a different day. Now they retouch all the students including skin smoothing which removes freckles and other permanent features. A dark-skin student somehow got his eye color changed! (I hope it was a lighting mistake and not intentional)
Wow that’s wild. I remember getting photographed for some kind of legal thing once and they specifically stated not to even smile for the photo because the pic might need to be used one day to ID my corpse, and corpses usually aren’t smiling. So photoshopping any actual resemblance out seems like a huge no no
This is so dystopian. Here in the UK I'm pretty sure you _can_ get touched-up passport pictures and the like, but most of them won't even let you smile.
Not even commenting on the content, because all of it is Yikes. I really love your dry, mostly monotoned delivery but also those moments where you lose it and laugh for a brief second. It's gold. This is what keeps me coming back for more.
It's alright, like your typical cartoon, it's not meant to be a 1:1 of real life. Some artists may have an artstyle with realistic proportions, and others may have an arstyle that almost looks like one of those political parodies, and it's all valid.
This video is hilariously apt for a few reasons for me. I live in Beijing and it's insane to see the beauty influencers in the wild as they say, including where the 2D woman in the nude-coloured dress is because that's where all the cool skinny kids and celebs go to party! But I think worse than filters, is the people who get surgery to actually look like a filter. Its a mindfuck to bump into people with super high nose bridges and hollowed-out cheeks and uber super skinny bodies.
Today's "supermodels" in the Western world are surgically altered beyond recognition (think of the Hadid women). Looking like plastic has become something people are used to. And my mind was blown when I heard someone remark 'imagine being the daughter of a Kardahian or Hadid...and growing up looking like nobody in your family does'. That is a terrible thought. That your kin doesn't look like your kin anymore. Many adopted people are missing this sense of identity, and now whole families morph into some unrecognisable plastic blob.
The Asian beauty culture is so extreme to the point where Asian men are subjected to the extremes of beauty as well. We are so used to seeing the industries promoting unattainable beauty standards for women but nowadays... It's BOTH. and it's completely heart-shattering for men and women esp within the Asian beauty industry to see how it's gotten worse and worse overtime.
I've been a kpop fan for many years, it's been so weird watching this happen in real time. The male idols didn't used to wear obvious lipstick. They used to show off their muscles. Nowadays the guys are very often looking just like the girls, very pale and skinny with a full face of makeup. Men are also expected to fit a lot of the same facial features as women like having big round doe eyes.
@@rosethorn0232 It makes me wonder how Asian beauty standards work? I mean aren't boy groups meant to appeal to females? Do females beauty standards for men changed to worshipping girly looking boys instead of muscles and manly men? If that is the case then male beauty doesn't exist and only female beauty exist for both men and women and Asian females are basically lesbians.
South Korean children get rewarded by their parents if they pass their extremely hard exams... with plastic surgery. That's not an uncommon thing. It's crazy.
The hardest thing for men is fitting the feminine clean cut look, since men tend to have masculine faces (yes, even Asian men, testosterone does this). I saw this poor man once go under the knife to cut his beautiful, natural, square jaw to achieve the feminine idol boy band look. Shit is crazy.
I used to live in Japan when I was at my perfect weight, and I was told I was severely overweight by the doctors. I was also praised for my white skin, round face, and blue eyes, but people commented on my weight and my chest size (quite big) all the time. It's exhausting, and I can only imagine how it is to live there your whole life with those standards.
Is what this video talked about a common thing in Japan because I've heard Japanese people are more confortable n their natural looks compared to others.
Somehow I've avoided body dysmorphia... but facial dysmorphia is strong in me. I hate seeing photos others take of me because I see myself in their eyes and am always like "I don't know her"
O wow. Same here for so much of my life, and honestly just becoming more spiritual, connecting to my roots and heritage, and most importantly healing those child hood traumas that led there, have helped me more than anything. Therapy as well. BDD, is a sickness. My sympathy for trans people, heightened, with the realization, that the facial dysmorphia I had, in seeing a hideous image that wasn’t me, is the same thing trans people get when they seek gender reassignment etc… dysmorphia of Any kind is the devil! It’s a team mental illness. It’s debilitating, and all consuming. Greatest of luck, And continue to stay off social media, as I have always done. Get out in nature and connect with life to keep you grounded.
I never understood the "small face" obsession. A bigger head would make someone look more slender. Hence, why so many Hollywood stars have bigger heads than average.
@@arson7420they don’t want a big head. Saying « you have a small head » is a compliment for them. The size of your hand being bigger than your face is a flex as well. Idk where you saw or heard that they want big heads but thats not the case even if asians most of the time do have big heads.
Social media really messed up my relationship with my skin. Pores, texture, spots and lines are all normal and lovely. But now I feel like something is wrong with me because I've seen too many people with filters and believed it was achievable :/
Now you know. I’m actually glad I’m old and didn’t have social media during my formative years. Social media can be fun but it’s missing the soul. Like many things nowadays.
Me too! sometimes I talk to people and I get anxiety about my pores or a pimple I might have that they’re starting at. But realistically, I have never noticed this about someone else when speaking to them so why would they notice that about me?
The Jiafei memes have distorted my mind into being actually excited to see her responding to us. Like I legit love Jiafei even though we know nothing about her.
In all of the bleak of everything I remember two large scale studies. One was about face symmetry and the study found that symmetrical faces were less preferred and actually creeped people out. Obviously they didn’t phrase the results that way. There was another study done and unfortunately it was done only on men and their preferences of a woman’s physical appearance. These were active users of a dating site. That study found that men were far more likely to rate a woman extremely high in appearance if that woman was “different” or “unique” versus a woman who was traditionally attractive. It doesn’t take away from very damaging pressure to appear a certain way but it does give some hope in a sea of eternal despair.
This part is anecdotal but my experience nonetheless. I get more attention about my appearance at 43 than I did when I was in my 20’s. It seems, again anecdotally, that there has been a societal shift that more people find beauty in all types of people.
That's pretty interesting because I remember there was a study about how the most attractive face for each ethnicity was the "average" face (like literally morphing together hundreds or thousands of faces together to form an average). Maybe it translates differently to real life ratings because people who look different can be more memorable for sure
of course. thats what all theese lookists and looksmaxxers won't tell you. People do NOT prefer perfectly symmetrical faces, because humans are IMPERFECT and of course as our own species, we prefer what looks like us. Perfection is uncanny. Most attractive humans do not have a perfect face, and they also have a mix of feminine and masculine features. Even in EA beauty standards which are heavily feminized, a tall "roman" nose (masculine feature) is still preferred on women.
I've never seen this guy before but I'm loving his commentary. I think I've finally found someone with my sense of humor and I'm not sure that's ever happened before.
I have always refused to join social media apps because I knew my mental health was fragile enough on its own 😂 but seeing stuff like this…I feel like most of us are just out here trying not to hate ourselves and our bodies, let alone come anywhere close to actually loving them! It feels like a constant uphill struggle and no matter what, someone is always telling you that your body, whatever shape and size it is, isn’t right. I’m so glad I have enough perspective to know those things are insane and unrealistic, but I hope videos like this help provide perspective for anyone feeling negatively effected by these things.
i don't use social media at all. It helps that I never had to grow up with that shit like kids these days do. My teen years were in the 90s before any of this shit and before the internet. I look fondly on the time before all this craziness
This is so harmful for everyone! I deleted all my social media because it was feeding my negative body image. I haven’t had social media in 7 years? Mental health has improved as far as how I feel about my appearance, but I’m in mid 30s. Don’t ask me about my mental health when it comes to being working class 😂😂😂
Yes! I did too. A friend took a selfie with me recently at our Christmas party and it was such a nice photo I asked her if it was her phone camera or something? Turns out to be an app called Meitu. Downloaded it and went to try the features and no wonder we looked so good after a full night of sweaty dancing, drinking and melting off make-up. Even the standard photo mode before all the filters is extremely filtered. Made my sleepy, creased make-up free morning face look like a flawless supermodel. And then you're meant to apply filters on top of that? Madness. Nope. I want pictures of me that actually look like me, not some creepy, AI smoothed facsimile of me. I'll keep my lines, freckles thank you. It's not perfect, but it's better than uncanny valley.
I am a naturally big woman due to my bone structure. I went down to 150 due to chronic illness and malnutrition and was super bony. It was awful. It also made me realize that no matter what I will look big and I am okay with that. I can’t achieve any crazy thin beauty standards because my body isn’t made for that. I’m made to look big and curvy and that’s all I can do.
Same here. I have very strong bone structure and was rarely very skinny even if I had low body fat. As I get on in years I realize what a gift that is because my bone structure is keeping my body stronger.
all comments in this thread and including yours are real. I have bigger bones, and all my weight goes to my legs, I also have a wide ribcage/shoulders. Weight won't change it!
I have friends who used dating apps in Korea and the guys they met up with were shocked they looked like their picture. It's such a must to use filters that people really expect you to look completely different. It's so weird 😅
RUclips is the only social media I used and I rarely take photos of myself. I ejected myself from the beauty game before I had the opportunity to lose. lol That said, I still can't get away from the pressure because I have eyes to see other people and a mirror to see myself. Great content by the way. Your chill humor is a lot of fun. lol
Great video thanks for sharing. Having watched a number of those TikTok videos here on RUclips I thought a lot of those girls looked out of proportion and fake but filters is something I never thought about . Being an older fella I tend to prefer the more shapely lady so I really don’t know why both watching.
I got off social media for 3 years and it was the best decision. At the time my self esteem was really low and social media just kept making it worse. Now I’m very comfortable with my looks and I never use filters.
I dated an Indonesian guy 3 years ago. I dumped him because I felt hurt because all the pictures we to together and my pictures on his phone had me photo shopped or filtered so much that I didn't recognize myself. HE had modified me to look 90 pounds thinner taller and blonde.
1:23 I genuinely almost cried seeing this. When I was at the height of my eating disorders, I realize now that this is exactly what I looked like it’s uncanny and it’s skeletal and I feel so bad for anybody out there male or female that thinks they need to look like this to get ahead meanwhile your mind is constantly just telling you you’re still too big even when you wasted away to almost completely nothing. 😢😢😢😢 I was blessed to recover, yet not everybody is 😔
as much as i condemn their editing, i kinda feel bad for them because the only reason why they do extensive edits are because they, too, are victims of body dysmorphia and toxic beauty standards.
I have a friend that a Asian male and his mother would just call him fat even tho he underweight he just stop eating at school and nowhe looks even more underweight then before I thought it was only asian women but I think it men too
The eight head drawing method only applies to figures who are exactly 6 feet tall. It isn't a method that should be used if you are planning to draw someone who is under or over that height. The fact that this drawing technique that should only be done for a specific height is used as a beauty standard in the real world is beyond baffling.
@@Nottyastro It's heightism at its best. Ok but why are they even teaching you to draw 6 ft ppl as a starting point in the first place? That's not even avg height for most countries, even for males.
@angleofsweetrevenge I learned 8 is standard for men when we were learning to do costume designs!! We still had to do 8 for women as well but it would have made since to lower the number imo
I was thinking today, as I often do, that I actually really wish my feeds were full of actual normal looking people. They can even be pretty, just like normal human pretty. It makes me sad and a little ill at ease that those kinds of faces and bodies are getting rarer and rarer in our media
Lmao, so as an animator, one of the classes I had to take was in regards to character design. And one of the things we use to make the proportions of the character is doing the eight head thing you mention, but this is only for characters with more human like proportions with a semi realistic to realistic art style. Who the fuck told the common people that these are beauty standards bruh, its just a way we use to judge a humanoid characters height on a character design sheet.
Yeah, like, it's just a thing they use to teach proportions in art class! They say to make the head 1/7-8 body, otherwise the kids will draw Bratz proportions! When did that become a beauty standard?
@@ichigopockychan that is correct, but that depends on art style as well, if realism is mandatory, then clothing shape will have to do. character silhouette is important for a characters memorability and makes them easy to identify.
Oh man I ended up on the part of RUclips that makes me sad again lol. I just want everyone to be happy with their bodies, wherever they are in their journey. Hearing about these unrealistic ideologies makes my heart break for the people who buy into them.
As a naturally skinny girl, the phrase "skinny but curvy at the same time" makes me laugh cause it's very very rare when someone underweight gonna be curvy. You're either gonna be skinny but flat n dry as fuck, or have beautiful curves but be considered "plus size" by society. Or.... You could be average, which I think is the perfect balance between the two so the prettiest(in my opinion) body type, but this time society will call your appearance boring 🙄 Also being skinny (which is usually considered underweight or very close to) isn't that fun actually. We usually have very little energy and we're awfully weak, if you're like this, just imagine how you're gonna function from day to day with this little amount of strength, how are you gonna defend yourself from people with malicious intentions, how are you gonna support yourself or your loved ones? We usually also have a lack of good nutrition, if I eat too much my stomach gets upset, but If I eat the amount I can stuff myself with without surpluses, then it isn't enough cause my body needs more food than I can digest at the moment, so there's no any wins. You're either gonna eat more than you can process and end up feeling sick, or eat the amount you can at the moment but end up feeling malnourished(even though you don't intentionally starve yourself, you just can't digest everything so quickly). Because of this I was thinking perhaps I can take some double nutrition in the form of multivitamin pills after meals, but this time I can't afford it. 😭 Everyday I wake up and feel very weak in the morning, I even went to a doctor for this but he said that's just how I'm build, nothing to worry about. I tried heavy exercises to try and gain weight but my muscles didn't grew, I mean they did, but very slowly and they only hardened. Also because of this I started loosing fat(I can't afford myself losing my only effective energy reserves) and on top of that my body hurt so much I couldn't leave my bed. I just want to feel more energetic/strong, dang it 😞
I hate "skinny but curvy". I wouldn't call myself skinny because I'm too big to, and by big I mean I'm 5'9" and have a more broad structure in the shoulders and hips. I have an hourglass figure but you bet I don't have massive boobs because...well...I'm comfortably thin. Yet I can't stop myself from feeling insecure by these sticklike women with huge tits lol. I know it's fake, I've literally never seen someone like that IRL, yet that is the most frustrating aspect of these beauty standards to me because it's so prevalent in media yet so unattainable. I'm a B cup and if I wanted to get any bigger I'd have to put on a sizeable amount of weight lol.
research nutrient dense foods and make sure you get enough protein to gain muscle. you only build muscle if you have enough proteins and nutrients. I know how this feels bc I too cant eat large amounts so i have to eat nutrient dense stuff and take supplements to stay healthy.
I’d get your iron levels checked as well. I found out I had really low iron levels and you can simply get an iron injection (do not take the vitamins they are horrible for you), I only had to have one, and it literally changed my life with how much more energy I had.
The average female is fat and under muscled aka skinny fat because they don't do strength training, so they are boring because the figure is obtained through inactivity and/or a less optimal lifestyle. The best figure is a naturally lean muscular girl who has enough body fat to maintain a real chest.
THANK YOU! I am a 59 year old Grandmother of nine and thought I was starting to think I was losing my mind -especially when people would say “Isn’t she pretty?” My thoughts (which sometimes fell out of my mouth, tbh) were always “Wow. Are Barbie dolls real to you as well?”
I'm jealous that you did not have to deal with all this social media bs when you were a teen. There's literally a FAKE PEOPLE pandemic going on and it's scary asf. I'm 19 and the world to me does not seem like a good place.
As a teen growing up in the 2000's, I had a distorted view of beauty and very self-conscious of my own looks due to everything being photoshopped. Now, as a Mexican woman, I still feel bad that my body doesn't have an hourglass shape. Thank you for showing us the truth ❤
It is interesting out there, I often wonder who is deciding " beauty standards." Beauty is subjective, and everyone has their own idea of what is attractive or repulsive.
THANK YOU! The sheer levels that Asian influencers go with the "beauty filters" is so insane and BLATANT. Who do they think they're convincing, and why do they think it makes them look appealing rather than totally artificial and most of all WEIRD. Stop ffs ladies, please. There IS a limit where suspension of disbelief no longer applies.
Yes she had a 22inch waist and had the perfect hourglass figure but atleast everything about her body was real and natural. That could exist NATURALLY in a woman. Not like today where you can't even tell what's fake and real anymore
I'm so happy sites like Snapchat didn't exist when I was in my teens. I had so many (weird) insecurities about my looks back then that took me years to unpack on my own. I can just imagine how teen me would've processed a bunch of polished yassified images of myself via beauty filters. I just wonder if it would've impacted how much more comfortable I am with my looks today.
Whenever I'm on any Chinese socials, everyone and I do mean everyone, looks uncanny as fuck it's not even funny. And I feel like I'm in black mirror because if you look in the comments you would see people complimenting them on how great they look, like no one is acknowledging the fact that they be looking like an alien cosplaying as a Chinese girl. I'm also on other countries socials, and these pictures of Xiao HongShu and Douyin girls get reposted a lot and people legit be complimenting and wondering how to get their face, hair and body, it's baffling. Like you really for real don't know how they get their legs to be longer than their life and their waist smaller than their head? Seriously cannot wrap my head around it.
It's not even just social media though I wish it was. All the people I follow are men and I'm a girl so I don't compare myself with them, but when I go to school I can't stop myself from glancing at all the slender pretty girls passing by me. I have SCD and I've tried to lose my skinny fat but it fr almost hospitalized me once. Sigh.
Honestly I think she looks better in the unretouched version 1:47 she is so stunning. There's something so attractive about having a small amount of "flaws". Too much and then it's not attractive anymore, but a few imperfections on an otherwise gorgeous person I think enhance how gorgeous they are because it makes them seem more "real". Too perfect with no flaws just seems.. idk.. almost bland and uninteresting
Wow. All of the pictures you showed starting at 3:00, the "before" retouching looks so much better than the "after". And don't get me started on the horrifying body proportions of all those TikToks earlier. And that girl at 6:40...😦 This entire video was....frightening.
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It’s gotten to the point where every face I see online is too perfect and it has become so boring to my brain. I get excited when I see any semblance of normal human skin that isn’t blurred and smoothed to high heavens
Also if I saw a real life version of those Slenderman filtered people I think I would scream and run away in terror
it's gotten so bad that they all blur together in my head and i have trouble differentiating who's who because they all try so hard to look the same. so many celebrities have gotten plastic surgery and ridden themselves of their interesting or identifying features that i can no longer recognize them
Fr when people look too perfect it just does nothing for me, but when you can tell that they're real human, with imperfections, it immediately makes them look way better
Exactly! A lot of people look the same now, face and body wise and it’s so boring.
@@K.Arashi No bc it’s literally to the point where all these people are starting to look the same to me. Like you have no defining characteristics that I can use to identify you bc you and everyone else got the same rhinoplasty done and you all looked pretty similar to begin with tbh. On top of that, I had fairly mild face blindness before this. They’re making it so hard to tell them apart 😭😂
Fr the dopamine rush I get when I see someone with an interesting face!
What gets me, is that it seems like in western society, what we call "skinny" is still considered "fat" in asian society.
You have to be literally bones to be considered skinny for their beauty standard.
When I was a teenager in the mid 2000s I wore large in Asia. Then I went to America on holiday and discovered I was an extra small there. US sizes are extra big. EU and AU sizes are not as big (but so tall). Even bmi calculations are different for East Asians.
It is ! I'm a XS-S in Europe but I'm a freaking *LARGE* size in Asia. 💀💀💀
It's so unattractive
Different races/region just have different body make up or body types. As an Asian, I do think our bodies are already small or slim in most places but some Asians just take it too far when it comes to being skinny. Western bodies are built quite bigger so I think it’s the reason why you’d end up in large size if you come to Asia.
yeah, I am a medium by European size standards, but when I ordered a costume through a friend from 'Taobao', based on the size chart I was given I was apparently a XXL-XXXL lol
The more I learn about beauty standards around the world, the more I can’t even take seriously beauty standards as a concept. I’m just going to do the best I can with my own body and not try to fit any kind of mold.
Exactly, Like the more i learn about culture all around the world, the more i wanna reject it all😂
When I was younger, I saw a photo in a magazine. It was a normal sized makeup artist working on a runway model. It was striking! The model’s waist was at the normal woman’s chest and her arms hung down almost the makeup artists knees! I thought then that our “beauty standards” are based on FREAKS OF NATURE! 😲😬🤢🥴☹️😢 But THIS is truly bizarre! 😔😖
The best beauty standard is a healthy body: healthy skin, healthy body weight, healthy teeth, and good menthal health.
i think everyone should instead focus on the environment and the little of nature that is left. Trying to look like this will be useless in a dystopian future.
@@viktoriamarkovicova1019 Typical female.
It's why there's no functioning matriarchal societies. Only collapsing ones.
I had to delete a lot of my social media during a mental health crisis a couple years back. I didn't know how much it affected me until I redownloaded Instagram, it immediately had a really damaging effect on me and all I was following were some of my favourite influencers. I became so critical about my body and I started comparing myself to literally every woman I saw. Don't even get me started on the damage to my self esteem anime and manga had as well. Now the only social media I use is youtube, discord, and whatsapp and my mental health has improved a lot.
I also deleted Instagram about 3 years ago for the same reason...
I only use youtube
Same I had deactivated my instagram and I’m so much happier
this. i also only use youtube. i got rid of tiktok and instagram, and it’s done wonders for my self esteem.
Getting rid of tiktok is my best decision ever it ruined my self image (random, but I am loving the replies because it’s good to know it is not just me (of course I know tons of people is not on social media but I feel the pressure to be on one to see how my friends are doing and to update what I am doing everyday (instagram) but it is making me miserable constantly comparing but comments seems like it is okay to get rid of social media (I’m planning on getting rid of Instagram next!
Please tell me no one actually takes those Douyin filters seriously... there's no way.... 😭
You'd be surprised how much people fall for scams using these filters
Surprisingly, lots of boomers fall for these. I think a lot of them lack media literacy and online critical thinking skills, because of their generation not growing up with the internet. Therefore, a lot of these older people don’t realize that they’re looking at someone with a filter. And if these are older people who live more rurally and rarely see non-white people in person, many will unironically think that Asian women just look like that. Boomers are wild.
I was personally one of those that fell for it before. I had a meltdown a couple years ago because my face didnt look perfect silky smooth like everyone else on instagram. I felt so ugly and disgusted with myself. I took a break from social media for a while and with time realized everything is filter and ps and that everyone in real life has skin texture. It preys on people with insecurities.
omg you’d be surprised. i’ve seen people commenting that that’s how women’s bodies should look like… it’s wild
only delulu people do 😅
also the fact that many phones come with built in beauty filters that you cant turn off- pisses me off to no end. (especially as a person who sometimes needs to take photos of my skin/hair damage)
Dude, my camera filters out my freckles :( it basically just airbrushes over my face :(( I like my freckles, dude 😭😭
@@coriumfigs i like freckles too. Travesty.
What phone do you have???
Same!!! I have freckles too and my phone obliterates them :( @@coriumfigs
Wtf that’s crazy. What phones do that automatically?
When I was in Korea I met some idol trainees and they regarded it the bare minimum to start starving themselves at 14. When I asked why, they said the western mentality is to be lazy, whereas in Asia you need to sacrifice to succeed. Personally, this ingrained mentality is really frightening, self care looks lazy, but it’s for your own good.
Failure on the parent's fault. I grew up with korean standards with my mom always telling me i was fat and that i needed to lose weight as early as 10.. but my mother never let me starve (i'd try). and she never wanted me to get to the level of skinny that is the standard today- she wanted me to eat healthy and exercise and even though she was harsh in critisizing me, it's because pretty privilege is real. these new gen parents dont see (or choose not to see) the absolute damage being done to their children..
_"the western mentality is to be lazy"_ 🙄
Umm.... my "mentality" is that teens need something called "proper nutrition" so that their bones and muscles become strong, and then remain strong into old age. Teens who starve themselves are prone to early osteoporosis. _Brittle bones._ That's a very poor tradeoff for whatever they think it means to "succeed". 😬
@@pauligrossinoz😂 I'm agreed dude
Yikes
I feel like there's so many other things you would "need to sacrifice" before your well-being
As an Asian, I'm so depressed by these ridiculous beauty standards, aren't we women pressured enough? 😭😭😭
i am astonished how my selfconfidence is out there, even they love to claim to be confident ^^;;
We're sorry for you but I think beauty standards make everyone looks similar u loose your uniqueness...so don't fret I may not know what you look like but your are beautiful and u matter❤
Tbh every Asian, not just women, are pressured entirely too much.
Girl I laughed cos I finally lost my Ed gained a Lil booty and got my boobs done and now I'm a size 12 which is a LARGE in most clothing like girl wtf is this
you the women who are the once who created and upholding this standards in the first place.
As a graphic artist and student of old animation, i can tell you where 8 head drawing comes from. It's from the beginning of comics to make the heroes look heroic. it's called heroic proportions. Most normal humans tend to be seven heads tall. The extra head is usually in the feet to make sure they are tall. Stellar Blade seems to have used a normal Korean girl for the heroine. I haven't seen the game up close. Working with photoshop and After Effects for so many years, I can generally spot it immediately in most pictures.
What does it mean "hero's figure"? It is so illusional.
Tall people simply can't have proportionally bigger heads? Like at least 7 to 7.5 heads? Seriously? Is the image really that much more important than the reality? I know I'm not a fan to this and will always make my video game characters similar to my IRL vertical proportions.
Btw, I'm short (about 5'3.5"), am 7.5 heads, and some headphones would just slide off my head if I don't stay up. I have to give up buying a pair and barely touched another pair I own because of this (I'm a semi audiophile btw). It just sucks.
But, nobody had mentioned about my "headedness", ever, probably because of my unremarkable height (even my upper body vs legs proportions got mentioned a few times). So honestly, "hero figure" only looks good on its own, once you stand beside some genuine tall people, you'd only look like a joke 🤷
Heroic proportion is 9 heads, not 8. 8 and 8.5 is classic and academic respectedly.
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Honestly, how can that proportion even possible?🤦
@@fuyuukifukada7491 9 heads had been meant since the ancient Greek times to be the body proportions of heroic demigods, spacemarines, and gigachads. It's bulit to be intentionally perceived as bigger than life. It's mostly seen in giant heroic statues (look up some soviet ones like Alyosha, Motherland calls, Liberator in Berlin, etc). The same proportion was also widely and intentionally used by Soviet architectors while buliding public spaces, many of those are intentionally bigger than should be, and for roughly the same ideas. It's called monumentalism both in statues and buildings.
In people you probably can see it in basketball players. And, also, there was one Soviet fashion designer Slava Zaytsev, who extensively used folk inspiration and called his shows "fashion theatre". It was everything over the top and never expected to be worn IRL, he was an outsider even to the global couture scene at that. He intentionally cast his female models at least 6 ft tall and they wore very high heels and big hats, and his male models at about 7 ft tall. His people deliberately scouted all around the Soviet Union for extra tall people to model.
@@fuyuukifukada7491 8 or 8.5 is reasonable for an athletic European man above average height. Look up male pair figure skaters, they're all 8+ heads tall.
That's what the ancient Greek considered beautiful and divine, because that's what was successful fighting in a phalanx. And they also religiously believed that perfect bodies reflect perfect personalities, so they chose their best men and depicted them in Idealistic, not realistic ways. Think you have a bunch of already good-looking olympic athletes and depict them with a beauty filter, because you're religiously obsessed with their bodies.
So, that's whom they depicted and perfected the academical canons onto. And that's what late medieval Italians studied and copied. It would be immodest for actual women to pose, and women wasn't their point of obsession. Designers start as art students, and they learn to draw human proportions academically and are told that's beautiful...
9 is straight out initially and intentionally superhuman by design, never supposed to be a beauty standard. Neither 8 nor 9 was ever supposed to be women before couture.
Every time I see videos like this on Instagram, all their comments are like 50-year-old men going “gorgeous!” and “why can’t I find a girl that looks like this in real life?!”
The media literacy is nonexistent and the desire to catfish and scam them is a difficult demon to fight.
K but the thing with men tho is they will always be more than happy to shove their pp into whatever hole so i wouldnt even rly pay attention to them oohing and ahhing. Does it distort their perception of real women? Yes. Does it stop them from pursuing real women? Nope 😂 although we do live in a day and age where lots of men like sitting at home paying for only fans instead of getting a real girlfriend
Lol right?! It's also telling that these old men want girls and women sooo many years younger than them.
Yes!! Like get your bag tf lmao
@@bethanychatman9531That’s pretty normal. Women naturally like men older than them because of the leadership role, and men naturally like women younger than them because of the submissive role. Now we’re not talking about underaged girls and old men, we’re talking about two grown adults that haven’t just left high school.
@@SOCyak You should delete
This video shows me that beauty ideals are really completely arbitrary. As a European, people with extremely small heads look f*ing creepy. Like something to haunt your nightmares.
Yep.
Pretty creepy to everyone not just Europeans lol
im from NA and these people look scary af especially combined with the huge eyes
thank gosh i have a bobble head
Amen to that.
7:46 she is literally an analog horror character
Yeah lol, she's straight up an SCP entity from the backrooms.
fr im scared
As someone who has a niece obsessed with kpop idols and is chronically glued to her phone literally 24/7 (falls asleep listening to her discord groups, checks her phone frequently during movies), I’m seriously worried about her own self image.
I’m concerned too. I was just in the comments of a skincare video and there were comments asking the creator to post skin care tips for 10-13 year olds 🤯 like what?! Go ride your bike around and lay in the grass like we did and don’t worry about it. It’s just so scary. There’s so much pressure now on literal children and their brains are still developing. Anyway, sorry for the rant. My daughter is 3 and I’m already worried.
@@jacquelynroe9036skincare is important though.. as a kid my acne was really bad and my face would hurt every day. ofc for people with healthy skin they shouldn’t worry about it alot
@@jacquelynroe9036 body dysmorphia is affecting people at younger and younger ages bc of social media, it's incredibly sad.
Theres a reason there is an age minimum for an account. And if she is of age to have an account, maybe parents need to limit social media. Allowing kids to have their nose in their phone constantly is what causes these issues. It should never be normalized to anyone. How many people do you actually see like this when you leave your house? Lol. These videos pick and choose who to video and then make it like its normal when its not. Most of those girls just have a small body type, not actually doing anything to stay that skinny. Some people simply just dont eat like every meal is a buffet
@@jacquelynroe9036I think kids should still at least use sunscreen, face wash, lip balm and moisturiser but there’s no need for all these serums and other skincare stuff (they don’t rly do anything anyways). Those also don’t have to be expensive af either.
I really suggest Japanese skincare as the prices are a lot more reasonable and the quality/quantity are both better. For a kid or teenager, just get some staples that work and replace them as they run out, they can branch out once they get older.
A few weeks ago I watched a Chinese cosplay video, everyone was filtered and facetuned into oblivion - the eyed were huge, chins narrow, limbs so unnaturally thin they basically looked like grey aliens. All the comments were oblivious kids repeating how gorgeous they looked and that they'd would never look that good in the same cosplay and how "everyone is better in Asia, how are Chinese cosplayers so professional looking?". It's really terrifying. They're really going to end up unable to tell what is realistic and what isn't.
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I think I know what video you're talking about...
Recently watched a video where a 5th grade class were shown an AI generated video on how the pyramids generate energy in the past to see if the kids would be fooled & unfortunately they were. Showcasing the dangers of AI generated "scientific" content landing in the hands of kids & how in the future we may have more situations similar to flat earthers with kids believing science and history "facts" that were fabricated by AI youtube channels farming (kid) views.
For me that ok cause its for cosplay
You know, maybe thats where beauty standard is leading up to look as an alien . People already shaving their jaws to make it pointy and Starving to have slim body. Maybe in the future everyone will lose their nose due to the many Rhinoplasty surgeries ( like Michael Jackson) it will a trend🥲
A lot of people fail to understand that those crazy standards are toxic and it puts a lot of pressure on their society. No wonder why the suicide rate is so huge in Korea. People can't live under such terrible standards it's ruining their mental health
I'm going to be honest, the extremely thin tall skinny asian girl trope scare me
it's so similar to slender man, that I don't know how it's posted as beauty
Stick figures come to life
slender man would be offended if he see your comment
Its because they fall into the uncanny valley territory. Also never was fan of that annorexic look for women.
Honestly her head is too small it looks goofy
Growing up my dad always say "Why can't you look like other girls?" and indicate women on Chinese TV and Ads. It never occured to him that women on TV and Ads were photoshopped or wore heavy make up. If anything he took it as the norm and tried to make me fit the mould. If I grew up with this TikTok filter I would have lost my mind because wtf 👽
Why is your dad saying that to you, sounds like something an asshole would say to their partner. Kind of creepy and I’m sorry you ever had to deal with that :(
I absolutely feel your pain. I remember in hs my Dad was pushing me to go to a dance that I had no interest in and I was not feeling confident. I eventually told him I just don’t want to go and he goes “Why because you’re fat and you’re clothes don’t fit right”? It really be your own parents sometimes.
Tell your dad to go look at a goddamn mirror if he ever tries to pull that again good good. Any parent who says shit like this should get that shit stamped, posted, and returned to sender and forwarded to mom bc that child came outta them. I feel you tho :/
@@evelynnnyt My dad is like super insecure and desperate to fit in 😒. He's all about appearances and want me to look ""normal"" so I don't embarrass him in front of his friends. Like if I'm ugly (in his opinion) that reflects bad parenting for not helping your kid fit into normal society. He would get mad at my mom for not teaching me make up. At the same time if I wear make up and a dress I'm a sloot trying to pull a man so like there is no winning I'm so glad I'm an adult now fck that.
Feel ya. My dad shamed me infront of random ppl. He told me: you're ugly and you should wear make up and so on
Even my mom thinks I'm ugly. I'm not girly enough....
I grew up thinking I should be dead bc of my face
Nowadays I don't care about my face anymore
beauty standards are soo silly everywhere. accepting and loving natural and healthy features really is the only way to be truly content
the face filters on so many japanese people (and most of asian honestly) is SCARY. Everyone looks like a bug and nothing like themselves yet it is so normalized.
I just don't get it.
A bug 😭 it's true
Or an alien 👽
The Chinese ones are more extreme imho. They don’t only look like aliens and walking sticks but nothing at all as who they really are
East Asian more specifically
Western beauty: ant
Asian beauty: alien
I´m Chinese-Austrian, my height is 170 cm and I weigh now 52 kg. So the last time I visited my Family in China, I only weighed around 48 - 50 kg. Which is considered too thin for my height, but my clothing size in China was the same as in Europe, which was a European Size S. This was in 2019. This year in September was the first time since 2019 that I was able to visit my family in China. Of course, I went shopping for new clothes, but my mind was blown, found out that I am now a size L in China. My mum and I looked at each other with the same look in our eyes: Wtf?! How in Hell did the sizes change so much in the last three years? This is concerning as hell! Like being healthy is ugly now? Also, I am still a S in Europe. So the difference is just mind-blowing. I really hate the fact that the fashion and beauty industry in Asia is promoting ED. And let me tell you normally people are not having it. One time, I was looking for a traditional Chinese-style dress for my best friend's upcoming wedding, and another customer literally told the salesperson that the sizes were f**** ridiculous. And the other customer's body type was actually normal and healthy.
I know! Me in England: XS, S. Me in China: XXL😢
The European Size S is never a Chinese Size S since long time ago. It’s not a new thing. It has nothing to do with what you are saying here. It’s totally body size difference between Chinese and European.
it's more like china adopting korean and japanese sizing from the old eu sizing
Weighing 48-52 kg for the hight of 170 cm. is underweight and not healthy.
good reason to not be asian.
As a Korean woman, digging into the world of douyin makeup and filters, helped me to realize it doesn't take extreme work and fortune to be "beautiful." In fact, I can look for my own kind of "beautiful" and no longer worry about comparing to such silly illusions.
I mean, I grew up in Europe and the beauty standards in my youth (when social media was only just starting to exist) already broke me. Looking at social media today, or at the beauty standards in kpop for example, makes me so worried for the mental health of kids and teenagers nowadays. Being too focused on appearance is detrimental to mental health, numerous studies have shown this. It can cause disordered eating, body dysmorphia, depression, anxiety and more. I think the best we can do is to not endorse and perpetuate these beauty standards ourselves, as you say. I completely agree with you.
Also I only just found this content creator and so far I've liked their videos a lot for critically analysing beauty standards in social media.
You are wise, and I wish you the best! ❤
I think the saddest (and most mind-blowing) thing for me is that there are so many people who think this is real. That people look like that, despite how absolute bizarre the filter looks like.
Chronically online mfers will be like "it's not bad for me 🙄" and then forget what other humans look like.
These are adults who probably still think Santa is real.
I’m half Filipina and half Italian and grew up feeling insecure of how I looked based off Asian and European and American ideals, once social media came along and then TikTok, it affected me so much. I had a warped view of myself as I grew into my late 20s and developed anxiety whenever it came to posting. Been on a break from posting for 2 years and limit which apps I’m on and for how long, I’ve honestly never felt better, it sounds cliche but I feel so free
I totally understand how you feel! instagram and tiktok have never been my cup of tea so i literally never use tt, and insta only when it's for family member photos. however, for the longest time i had an addiction to twitter and it was being bad for my mental health :c since i stopped using it a lot, i've been feeling so much free
I'm so happy for you! You can be so proud of yourself ❤
Di mo kailangan pansinin mga sikat na tao sa social media. Basta nasa within 20 to 24 ang body mass index mo ok na. Kung lumampas sa 24 BMI mo mag bike ka or stationary bike
You are beautiful just the way you are and I’m so glad you’re feeling better now! It’s horrible how beauty standards make wonderful people feel bad about themselves when there shouldn’t be anything to feel bad about
So happy for you!
« We’re all developing body dismorphia without realizing it » is the best way one can put this. Well said !
The lore of Jiafei even transcended languages, here in Latin America they say she is the potaxie queen and it evolved into this whole really deep lore. My 19 year old sister who is very deep into tik tok explained it to me for a solid couple hours with examples… it was…interesting
Yessss, theres an entire internet culture around tris influencers, even if it is a joke its still has an impact
What tf is potaxie queen???
@@barbaraflores7699what in the world is a tris influencer?? Y’all know much about the internet I do not
jiafei is a combo of two idols right? idk much about floptok though or wtv
What is potaxie?
As a Cambodian/Laotian girl, the lighter skin look was such a struggle!! I had no business trying to use all types of skin lightening soaps and creams as early as middle school just to feel pretty
but I’m 25 now and I love my tan 💕
Its so fucking sad and funny (in a sad way) how Asian countries are heavily obsessed with getting super white skin, yet im mexican and hate my pale complexion because i dont look like the rest of my family with beautiful dark and tan skin tones. To see people with beautiful dark/tan skin are going crazy lenghts to be pale is sad. And the same can be said about me, sad that i hate my skin color so much.
@@yeeyeemfs7055 If you tan your skin, the tanning effect itself is damaging/aging your skin and you'll end up with worse problems of disliking your skin being spotty and wrinkled in the future. Find beauty in your skin color no matter what it is, I wouldn't trade my pale skin for anything.
@@user-ly3li3ex8cyeah, I'm working on it! Thanks for your words my friend ❤
Yeah it's so stupid. Like where I live it's all about that tan and I'm literally WHITE af cause of my red hair. You can never get it right.
@@yeeyeemfs7055unfortunately in Latin America the beauty standards the same tho 😔. Especially in South America, I’ve gotten so many compliments from my family for being light skinned
One of the best ways that I grew from the toxicity of online filtered beauty standards was by deleting apps that really heavily exposed me to them (Snapchat, TIKTOK, Twitter) and only focused on apps like RUclips or Discord. This really allowed me to get used to in depth conversations and beauty standards, and helped my attention span a lot. I discovered so much about myself. Another thing that REALLY helped was watching plain old cable television. A lot of the people on there are normal looking enough, and the cameras show normal skin texture. Any make up they wear is only so they appear normal on camera, it's really helped me become calmer and more exposed to normal life/living.
Asian beauty standards have such a strong effect on an insecure woman, that I worry about trying to fit the standards. I’m not Asian, I’m not in Asia, I’m an old woman, I have my doctor’s specific advice about how much weight to lose. Yet, I start thinking about fitting in. (sorry about the last sentence. i was falling asleep)
Karolina Zebrowska has a good video on these things. I'll see if I can find the title.
Let's Talk About TikTok's Obsession With Beauty
And "Why are body parts Fashion?"
Both of those are something to watch :)
They are not as hard, just be white (Slavic/Nordic /Germanic)
@@maybel9849 SO TRUE! I'm an asian and people here won't give a shit about you as long as you're white😭💀
east asian*
@@eo0-g9j !!!!
It always baffles me how people are seeing all these heavily filtered bodies online and it never strikes them as alien or uncanny in the slightest
Fr they look creepy af to me 😟
ikr?? they look like cryptids
Because most people sharing and liking those influencers are kpop stans that are so used to seeing plastic and heavily filtered idols that they have dissociated what a real human looks like
🌸 when I was a little girl my mom loved old westerns, she would watch all old movies
The characters, were tanned, wrinkled but I loved their faces. The good, bad & ugly Clint was only good looking person lol but I loved all characters in it
She also loved action, so Dirty Harry Clint again, Death Wish with Charles Branson,
Old horrors with Christopher Lee, Vincent price, Boris Karloff, Bela Lugosi etc
They all had wonderful features & character presence. The women had a commanding presence, they had a certain je ne sais quoi
When I see a modern movie with only young people that don’t have wrinkles or anything to show me their emotions
I get bored so quickly not only can I not see any flaws but I can’t identify with any of the characters or feel anything for them
Like an old friend. Instead it leaves me empty. To put simply it’s like biting into jam donut without the jam centre
It’s missing something, the essence of life itself.
In my mind, beauty comes from within and especially from our flaws, I saw beauty in those people, their flaws made them unique
They all didn’t look the same, that’s what I love the most 🎉
I didn’t see that in flawless faces which reminded me of a plain mask. So many people are starting to look same, like an old twilight show. Sometimes I feel like I’m trapped with mannequins that have no defined features, characteristics or imperfections
Whenever I see people trying so hard with plastic surgery or something else like an app
It just makes me chuckle because they are empty vessels with nothing between their eyes
I couldn’t talk to them , they wouldn’t interest me in conversing
What would they know except how to act and look fake ?
I prefer sophisticated looks, age and people who are not afraid to show their defects, blemishes or anything they incorrectly perceived as a weakness, was actually their greatest strength.
It’s all perception but we are innately drawn to asymmetrical and imperfections deep within
That’s gorgeous in my mind, people like that educate themselves and grow from within
They don’t hide their flaws but embrace it. To me their confidence shine more than a heavily made up person, that looks like a badly made mask.
Sad part is most people are just sheep they follow the masses & copy what the majority are doing
They lose their identity trying to copy someone else or a new trend. Not everything suits people
It’s best to have ones own style and be yourself rather than fake being something that you are not
Life is more interesting with variety & our differences made us unique & special 🎉
You mentioned a bunch of men who look tanned and wrinkled. No tanned, wrinkled, and ugly women who looked great. Women had a commanding presence and an ineffable something. This is the problem.
to be fair, even back in the day, most actresses had to be young and beautiful to get leading roles. as actresses aged, they were shoved into roles of mothers/matrons to support the younger actresses in the leading roles. hollywood has always been very sexist. men could age and stil get desirable top billing roles. things have improved for women in hollywood in this aspect; older women can still get good roles in movies. but there's still a lot of pressure on them to finetune and conceal or slow the signs of aging.
i agree with the original comment, but i prefer to look at people in real life and not just in movies. there's many striking older women outside of the hollywood/entertainment bubble.
Sunita - Amen! 👏
I’ve shared this story a few times on SNS but i want to put it here too.
I was studying in Korea for university (and where I currently live). I made two friends; one from Germany and one from Japan (I grew up moving between a few countries for context too). When we needed to get student ID photos/FRCs we went together. After taking our photos, they began to photoshop it in front of us- no asking, just started making changes. Again these are for legal documents.
My friend from Germany they made a few touch ups even though she said not to, and same for mine. For example for me they “fixed” my smile and removed my beauty marks/freckles. It overall still kinda looked like us, but enough that it very much could mess with your self perception.
However, my friend from Japan began to ask for changes. “Can you make my face smaller? Slimmer? Widen my eyes? Make my nose smaller?” And the man editing the photos agreed. I personally think my friend was already very pretty, and while some things were not in the ‘idol level standard’ she looked nice. The photos looked nothing like her, maybe in some ways I could still feel it was her, but overall for a legal document I was so surprised they would allow it.
I think this shows a lot of the social pressure many people in Asian countries have when it comes to beauty. I grew in Japan on and off for awhile as a kid, and I can feel the pressure in Korea now. Even in the other places I lived there was beauty expectation, and I’ve had issues with it to some level growing up but never to the extreme I think as my friends who have only ever lived in Japan and Korea. When people say the expectations and limits here are bad/harsh, it really isn’t a joke…
Edit; I want to add is trends and content do vary somewhat between country. Japan, Korea, and China (as well as other other EA countries) are not interchangeable and to some level the beauty ideals do have variations. But while this is true many of the overall themes of beauty do still tend to align in certain ways, and the pressure on beauty everyone is deeply, overloomingly, present everywhere. So while my story focuses on Korea and Japan, which is different from Douyin/China my message is about the overwhelming self of self and looks that translates so heavily to every from of digital media. Even to IDs, yearsbooks, and at time documents because the standard of the ideal is always present in the minds of those who grew up in these socialized beauty pressure cookers.
I've seen this done on US school pictures recently. When I was younger and the technology was new, they would offer optional touch ups, usually for an extra fee. The changes were small, like shadows, blemishes, stray hairs, basically things that could be different on a different day. Now they retouch all the students including skin smoothing which removes freckles and other permanent features. A dark-skin student somehow got his eye color changed! (I hope it was a lighting mistake and not intentional)
Wow that’s wild. I remember getting photographed for some kind of legal thing once and they specifically stated not to even smile for the photo because the pic might need to be used one day to ID my corpse, and corpses usually aren’t smiling. So photoshopping any actual resemblance out seems like a huge no no
This is so dystopian. Here in the UK I'm pretty sure you _can_ get touched-up passport pictures and the like, but most of them won't even let you smile.
Not even commenting on the content, because all of it is Yikes. I really love your dry, mostly monotoned delivery but also those moments where you lose it and laugh for a brief second. It's gold. This is what keeps me coming back for more.
I read a lot of manga growing up and remember being so annoyed with characters being super tall with a small head 😅 it was a major pet peeve of mine
Clamp mangas, the godmothers of waif and giant eyes.
It's alright, like your typical cartoon, it's not meant to be a 1:1 of real life. Some artists may have an artstyle with realistic proportions, and others may have an arstyle that almost looks like one of those political parodies, and it's all valid.
Much worse in manhwa
Pin heads are over rated
This video is hilariously apt for a few reasons for me. I live in Beijing and it's insane to see the beauty influencers in the wild as they say, including where the 2D woman in the nude-coloured dress is because that's where all the cool skinny kids and celebs go to party! But I think worse than filters, is the people who get surgery to actually look like a filter. Its a mindfuck to bump into people with super high nose bridges and hollowed-out cheeks and uber super skinny bodies.
Even worse is when they do fillers, surgeries, and then still apply filters
Today's "supermodels" in the Western world are surgically altered beyond recognition (think of the Hadid women). Looking like plastic has become something people are used to. And my mind was blown when I heard someone remark 'imagine being the daughter of a Kardahian or Hadid...and growing up looking like nobody in your family does'. That is a terrible thought. That your kin doesn't look like your kin anymore. Many adopted people are missing this sense of identity, and now whole families morph into some unrecognisable plastic blob.
What Asia actually is : 🇲🇲🇸🇬🇵🇰🇱🇰🇵🇭🇰🇿🇧🇹
What is Asia to foreigners: 🇨🇳🇰🇷🇯🇵
Damn true
The Asian beauty culture is so extreme to the point where Asian men are subjected to the extremes of beauty as well. We are so used to seeing the industries promoting unattainable beauty standards for women but nowadays... It's BOTH. and it's completely heart-shattering for men and women esp within the Asian beauty industry to see how it's gotten worse and worse overtime.
I've been a kpop fan for many years, it's been so weird watching this happen in real time. The male idols didn't used to wear obvious lipstick. They used to show off their muscles. Nowadays the guys are very often looking just like the girls, very pale and skinny with a full face of makeup. Men are also expected to fit a lot of the same facial features as women like having big round doe eyes.
@@rosethorn0232 It makes me wonder how Asian beauty standards work? I mean aren't boy groups meant to appeal to females?
Do females beauty standards for men changed to worshipping girly looking boys instead of muscles and manly men?
If that is the case then male beauty doesn't exist and only female beauty exist for both men and women and Asian females are basically lesbians.
South Korean children get rewarded by their parents if they pass their extremely hard exams... with plastic surgery. That's not an uncommon thing. It's crazy.
The hardest thing for men is fitting the feminine clean cut look, since men tend to have masculine faces (yes, even Asian men, testosterone does this). I saw this poor man once go under the knife to cut his beautiful, natural, square jaw to achieve the feminine idol boy band look. Shit is crazy.
I used to live in Japan when I was at my perfect weight, and I was told I was severely overweight by the doctors. I was also praised for my white skin, round face, and blue eyes, but people commented on my weight and my chest size (quite big) all the time. It's exhausting, and I can only imagine how it is to live there your whole life with those standards.
Is what this video talked about a common thing in Japan because I've heard Japanese people are more confortable n their natural looks compared to others.
what a dumb idea to live in japan at first place
@@tegamingother If you compare to korea sure, but if you compare to america not really
@@tamago5765 yes I was talking about East Asia specifically.
she is typical white woman who thinks that non white people are better @@giannilyanicks1718
Somehow I've avoided body dysmorphia... but facial dysmorphia is strong in me. I hate seeing photos others take of me because I see myself in their eyes and am always like "I don't know her"
O wow. Same here for so much of my life, and honestly just becoming more spiritual, connecting to my roots and heritage, and most importantly healing those child hood traumas that led there, have helped me more than anything. Therapy as well. BDD, is a sickness. My sympathy for trans people, heightened, with the realization, that the facial dysmorphia I had, in seeing a hideous image that wasn’t me, is the same thing trans people get when they seek gender reassignment etc… dysmorphia of
Any kind is the devil! It’s a team mental illness. It’s debilitating, and all consuming. Greatest of luck,
And continue to stay off social media, as I have always done. Get out in nature and connect with life to keep you grounded.
I never understood the "small face" obsession. A bigger head would make someone look more slender. Hence, why so many Hollywood stars have bigger heads than average.
Bigger heads also make a person look youthful. So, big heads rule.
Talvez seja porque asiáticos tem um crânio maior, e bem, o padrão de beleza é eurocêntrico.
they do want big heads tho ? thats like the point of having a small face, it make the rest of your skull look bigger
@yikko134 have you ever seen a short man with a big head?🫣😬
@@arson7420they don’t want a big head.
Saying « you have a small head » is a compliment for them.
The size of your hand being bigger than your face is a flex as well.
Idk where you saw or heard that they want big heads but thats not the case even if asians most of the time do have big heads.
Man, I'm happy I found your videos because I've been curious about what this trend is, now I have more understanding of it.
Social media really messed up my relationship with my skin. Pores, texture, spots and lines are all normal and lovely. But now I feel like something is wrong with me because I've seen too many people with filters and believed it was achievable :/
Now you know. I’m actually glad I’m old and didn’t have social media during my formative years. Social media can be fun but it’s missing the soul. Like many things nowadays.
Me too! sometimes I talk to people and I get anxiety about my pores or a pimple I might have that they’re starting at. But realistically, I have never noticed this about someone else when speaking to them so why would they notice that about me?
How to be beautiful (in my opinion):
1) Bathe
2) Exist.
Everyone is beautiful to someone, just make sure you are clean.
I don’t bathe, I shower.
That’s why I love your vlog and commentary. Finally, funny and a dose of truth.
Fun fact: The heads thing is how you learn human proportions for drawing. The average is around 7 heads.
I love your sense of humor! Thanks for pointing out the absurdity of some things without being unkind.
Omg you are to funny but truthful. I feel sorry for anyone who has to constantly stressed about how they look to meet someone else’s standards.
The Jiafei memes have distorted my mind into being actually excited to see her responding to us. Like I legit love Jiafei even though we know nothing about her.
Because you are young and jobless
I bought some Jiafei products a while ago
@@forgawon I think I need a Jiafei poster. I love her. I don't know why I love her but I do.
and we ended up finding out that Jiafei’s a real person 😭
Y'all need therapy and friends
In all of the bleak of everything I remember two large scale studies.
One was about face symmetry and the study found that symmetrical faces were less preferred and actually creeped people out. Obviously they didn’t phrase the results that way.
There was another study done and unfortunately it was done only on men and their preferences of a woman’s physical appearance. These were active users of a dating site. That study found that men were far more likely to rate a woman extremely high in appearance if that woman was “different” or “unique” versus a woman who was traditionally attractive.
It doesn’t take away from very damaging pressure to appear a certain way but it does give some hope in a sea of eternal despair.
This part is anecdotal but my experience nonetheless.
I get more attention about my appearance at 43 than I did when I was in my 20’s. It seems, again anecdotally, that there has been a societal shift that more people find beauty in all types of people.
@@foolishlyfoolhardy6004most likely. It will be interesting to see more studies done as gen z and green alpha continue to age into their adulthoods.
That's pretty interesting because I remember there was a study about how the most attractive face for each ethnicity was the "average" face (like literally morphing together hundreds or thousands of faces together to form an average). Maybe it translates differently to real life ratings because people who look different can be more memorable for sure
of course. thats what all theese lookists and looksmaxxers won't tell you. People do NOT prefer perfectly symmetrical faces, because humans are IMPERFECT and of course as our own species, we prefer what looks like us. Perfection is uncanny. Most attractive humans do not have a perfect face, and they also have a mix of feminine and masculine features. Even in EA beauty standards which are heavily feminized, a tall "roman" nose (masculine feature) is still preferred on women.
the dating apps.. your telling me 🤣
I've never seen this guy before but I'm loving his commentary. I think I've finally found someone with my sense of humor and I'm not sure that's ever happened before.
It was so refreshing to find someone who doesn't go with the Loud = Funny formula. Cheers binging!
I have always refused to join social media apps because I knew my mental health was fragile enough on its own 😂 but seeing stuff like this…I feel like most of us are just out here trying not to hate ourselves and our bodies, let alone come anywhere close to actually loving them! It feels like a constant uphill struggle and no matter what, someone is always telling you that your body, whatever shape and size it is, isn’t right. I’m so glad I have enough perspective to know those things are insane and unrealistic, but I hope videos like this help provide perspective for anyone feeling negatively effected by these things.
i don't use social media at all. It helps that I never had to grow up with that shit like kids these days do. My teen years were in the 90s before any of this shit and before the internet. I look fondly on the time before all this craziness
This is so harmful for everyone! I deleted all my social media because it was feeding my negative body image. I haven’t had social media in 7 years? Mental health has improved as far as how I feel about my appearance, but I’m in mid 30s. Don’t ask me about my mental health when it comes to being working class 😂😂😂
" taking out your organs and carrying them on your purse 👛 " omg 😂😭🤣
“Their full time job is walking” had me
That influencer definitely checks the weather, for windspeed.
One wrong move and they gon' be roleplaying a tumbleweed
I downloaded one of those Asian beauty apps and the default front camera is already so distorted that I couldn’t recognise myself.
Yes! I did too. A friend took a selfie with me recently at our Christmas party and it was such a nice photo I asked her if it was her phone camera or something? Turns out to be an app called Meitu. Downloaded it and went to try the features and no wonder we looked so good after a full night of sweaty dancing, drinking and melting off make-up. Even the standard photo mode before all the filters is extremely filtered. Made my sleepy, creased make-up free morning face look like a flawless supermodel. And then you're meant to apply filters on top of that? Madness. Nope. I want pictures of me that actually look like me, not some creepy, AI smoothed facsimile of me. I'll keep my lines, freckles thank you. It's not perfect, but it's better than uncanny valley.
I really don't like asian beauty standards appearantly
I am a naturally big woman due to my bone structure. I went down to 150 due to chronic illness and malnutrition and was super bony. It was awful. It also made me realize that no matter what I will look big and I am okay with that. I can’t achieve any crazy thin beauty standards because my body isn’t made for that. I’m made to look big and curvy and that’s all I can do.
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felt this. i could lose all the weight i want and my ribcage would never get thinner than it is.
Same here. I have very strong bone structure and was rarely very skinny even if I had low body fat.
As I get on in years I realize what a gift that is because my bone structure is keeping my body stronger.
all comments in this thread and including yours are real. I have bigger bones, and all my weight goes to my legs, I also have a wide ribcage/shoulders. Weight won't change it!
same af
I have friends who used dating apps in Korea and the guys they met up with were shocked they looked like their picture. It's such a must to use filters that people really expect you to look completely different. It's so weird 😅
love your humor, i've already cracked up 30 times and its like 5 min into the video. "you can carry your organs in your purse" lmao
RUclips is the only social media I used and I rarely take photos of myself. I ejected myself from the beauty game before I had the opportunity to lose. lol That said, I still can't get away from the pressure because I have eyes to see other people and a mirror to see myself.
Great content by the way. Your chill humor is a lot of fun. lol
I just want to say that we are all worthy and valued simply for existing. Don't let beauty standards made by negative people tell you otherwise
Great video thanks for sharing. Having watched a number of those TikTok videos here on RUclips I thought a lot of those girls looked out of proportion and fake but filters is something I never thought about . Being an older fella I tend to prefer the more shapely lady so I really don’t know why both watching.
I got off social media for 3 years and it was the best decision. At the time my self esteem was really low and social media just kept making it worse. Now I’m very comfortable with my looks and I never use filters.
I dated an Indonesian guy 3 years ago. I dumped him because I felt hurt because all the pictures we to together and my pictures on his phone had me photo shopped or filtered so much that I didn't recognize myself. HE had modified me to look 90 pounds thinner taller and blonde.
Omg that’s crazy. I’m glad you got rid of him.
You dodged a huge bullet there!
1:23 I genuinely almost cried seeing this. When I was at the height of my eating disorders, I realize now that this is exactly what I looked like it’s uncanny and it’s skeletal and I feel so bad for anybody out there male or female that thinks they need to look like this to get ahead meanwhile your mind is constantly just telling you you’re still too big even when you wasted away to almost completely nothing. 😢😢😢😢 I was blessed to recover, yet not everybody is 😔
as much as i condemn their editing, i kinda feel bad for them because the only reason why they do extensive edits are because they, too, are victims of body dysmorphia and toxic beauty standards.
they use it to make others feel inferior and make money off that tho...
its selfish, vain, and destructive.
I have a friend that a Asian male and his mother would just call him fat even tho he underweight he just stop eating at school and nowhe looks even more underweight then before I thought it was only asian women but I think it men too
Everyone's a victim and a perpetrator at the same time when it comes to beauty standards.
The "eight head" is how they teach us to draw people in art school. It's like the very first type of body figure for characters that they teach
Go to a better art school that teaches you to draw actual human beings
The eight head drawing method only applies to figures who are exactly 6 feet tall. It isn't a method that should be used if you are planning to draw someone who is under or over that height. The fact that this drawing technique that should only be done for a specific height is used as a beauty standard in the real world is beyond baffling.
@@Nottyastro It's heightism at its best. Ok but why are they even teaching you to draw 6 ft ppl as a starting point in the first place? That's not even avg height for most countries, even for males.
@@Leyichen-pe2wg I was taught never to use it, haha. I agree
@angleofsweetrevenge I learned 8 is standard for men when we were learning to do costume designs!! We still had to do 8 for women as well but it would have made since to lower the number imo
Your oneliners are the best ❤😂
I was thinking today, as I often do, that I actually really wish my feeds were full of actual normal looking people. They can even be pretty, just like normal human pretty. It makes me sad and a little ill at ease that those kinds of faces and bodies are getting rarer and rarer in our media
Lmao, so as an animator, one of the classes I had to take was in regards to character design. And one of the things we use to make the proportions of the character is doing the eight head thing you mention, but this is only for characters with more human like proportions with a semi realistic to realistic art style. Who the fuck told the common people that these are beauty standards bruh, its just a way we use to judge a humanoid characters height on a character design sheet.
I think that’s just. Unrealistic beauty standards that is humanely impossible to achieve
Yeah, like, it's just a thing they use to teach proportions in art class! They say to make the head 1/7-8 body, otherwise the kids will draw Bratz proportions! When did that become a beauty standard?
It's also only for adult characters, teenagers and kids in particular shouldn't be worried about this standard 💀
And in animation, aren’t you also encouraged to exaggerate proportions so that when you black them out, they’d have a distinct silhouette?
@@ichigopockychan that is correct, but that depends on art style as well, if realism is mandatory, then clothing shape will have to do. character silhouette is important for a characters memorability and makes them easy to identify.
They look like aliens now.
Girls are in trouble when slenderman is considered body goals
6:47 Oh yeah, such a ✨NATURAL✨ queen !
Meanwhile the furniture: 〰️🔄🆘️
BAHAHA 🤣🤣🤣
Ohh that furniture needs some fine ahhh surgery to bring out its ✨ NATURAL BEAUTY ✨
Oh man I ended up on the part of RUclips that makes me sad again lol. I just want everyone to be happy with their bodies, wherever they are in their journey. Hearing about these unrealistic ideologies makes my heart break for the people who buy into them.
Never knew the Jiafei looking figures trend still continued 😭😭
As a naturally skinny girl, the phrase "skinny but curvy at the same time" makes me laugh cause it's very very rare when someone underweight gonna be curvy. You're either gonna be skinny but flat n dry as fuck, or have beautiful curves but be considered "plus size" by society. Or.... You could be average, which I think is the perfect balance between the two so the prettiest(in my opinion) body type, but this time society will call your appearance boring 🙄
Also being skinny (which is usually considered underweight or very close to) isn't that fun actually.
We usually have very little energy and we're awfully weak, if you're like this, just imagine how you're gonna function from day to day with this little amount of strength, how are you gonna defend yourself from people with malicious intentions, how are you gonna support yourself or your loved ones?
We usually also have a lack of good nutrition, if I eat too much my stomach gets upset, but If I eat the amount I can stuff myself with without surpluses, then it isn't enough cause my body needs more food than I can digest at the moment, so there's no any wins. You're either gonna eat more than you can process and end up feeling sick, or eat the amount you can at the moment but end up feeling malnourished(even though you don't intentionally starve yourself, you just can't digest everything so quickly).
Because of this I was thinking perhaps I can take some double nutrition in the form of multivitamin pills after meals, but this time I can't afford it. 😭
Everyday I wake up and feel very weak in the morning, I even went to a doctor for this but he said that's just how I'm build, nothing to worry about.
I tried heavy exercises to try and gain weight but my muscles didn't grew, I mean they did, but very slowly and they only hardened. Also because of this I started loosing fat(I can't afford myself losing my only effective energy reserves) and on top of that my body hurt so much I couldn't leave my bed.
I just want to feel more energetic/strong, dang it 😞
I hate "skinny but curvy". I wouldn't call myself skinny because I'm too big to, and by big I mean I'm 5'9" and have a more broad structure in the shoulders and hips. I have an hourglass figure but you bet I don't have massive boobs because...well...I'm comfortably thin.
Yet I can't stop myself from feeling insecure by these sticklike women with huge tits lol. I know it's fake, I've literally never seen someone like that IRL, yet that is the most frustrating aspect of these beauty standards to me because it's so prevalent in media yet so unattainable. I'm a B cup and if I wanted to get any bigger I'd have to put on a sizeable amount of weight lol.
research nutrient dense foods and make sure you get enough protein to gain muscle. you only build muscle if you have enough proteins and nutrients. I know how this feels bc I too cant eat large amounts so i have to eat nutrient dense stuff and take supplements to stay healthy.
Lots of chicken and fish is my favorite protein meals when trying to gain muscle🩷
I’d get your iron levels checked as well. I found out I had really low iron levels and you can simply get an iron injection (do not take the vitamins they are horrible for you), I only had to have one, and it literally changed my life with how much more energy I had.
The average female is fat and under muscled aka skinny fat because they don't do strength training, so they are boring because the figure is obtained through inactivity and/or a less optimal lifestyle. The best figure is a naturally lean muscular girl who has enough body fat to maintain a real chest.
Those girls look like random generated by a online mmorpg
THANK YOU! I am a 59 year old Grandmother of nine and thought I was starting to think I was losing my mind -especially when people would say “Isn’t she pretty?” My thoughts (which sometimes fell out of my mouth, tbh) were always “Wow. Are Barbie dolls real to you as well?”
I'm jealous that you did not have to deal with all this social media bs when you were a teen. There's literally a FAKE PEOPLE pandemic going on and it's scary asf. I'm 19 and the world to me does not seem like a good place.
As a teen growing up in the 2000's, I had a distorted view of beauty and very self-conscious of my own looks due to everything being photoshopped. Now, as a Mexican woman, I still feel bad that my body doesn't have an hourglass shape. Thank you for showing us the truth ❤
1:18 their full time job is walking 🤣 great delivery man
7:20 Ngl she just looks inhuman like that. As in uncanny valley scary
It is interesting out there, I often wonder who is deciding " beauty standards." Beauty is subjective, and everyone has their own idea of what is attractive or repulsive.
men in power
THANK YOU!
The sheer levels that Asian influencers go with the "beauty filters" is so insane and BLATANT. Who do they think they're convincing, and why do they think it makes them look appealing rather than totally artificial and most of all WEIRD. Stop ffs ladies, please. There IS a limit where suspension of disbelief no longer applies.
"skinny and curvy at the same time.... like those walls" .... lmao I cracked up so hard
I literally had to go back to seeing Marilyn Monroe in her swimsuit to feel what's natural, what's beautiful and what's the proper ideal of beauty
Wasn't she also starved?
Bullshit ,skinny girls ARE natural too
she had a 22in waist
Yes she had a 22inch waist and had the perfect hourglass figure but atleast everything about her body was real and natural. That could exist NATURALLY in a woman. Not like today where you can't even tell what's fake and real anymore
She did have plastic surgery too@@smollilbean
help i got shocked seeing hsr in a video i just clicked out of curiosity
literally took me out of focus on the main topic 🤣
Tired of all these beauty standards. I always need to keep reminding myself that there's nothing wrong with me.
1:24 she's so skinny the walls are losing weight too 😍
My brain just went "lol, get stickbugged" XD
7:35 are people just supporting her as a joke? Because that's wayy too obvious lol
I'm so happy sites like Snapchat didn't exist when I was in my teens. I had so many (weird) insecurities about my looks back then that took me years to unpack on my own. I can just imagine how teen me would've processed a bunch of polished yassified images of myself via beauty filters. I just wonder if it would've impacted how much more comfortable I am with my looks today.
well there were still magazines full of airbrushed people... which i stupidly believed to be natural until I was like 19
Up to this day I still wish I looked like that flower crown filter IRL 🥹
Although I'm Asian, I'm too scared to download any filter app/camera app since they are the number 1 app used by hackers
Do you mean *ran/made by hackers?
If not, I wonder what they'd use it for
8:54 I can physically feel my fight or flight responce kicking in...
Whenever I'm on any Chinese socials, everyone and I do mean everyone, looks uncanny as fuck it's not even funny. And I feel like I'm in black mirror because if you look in the comments you would see people complimenting them on how great they look, like no one is acknowledging the fact that they be looking like an alien cosplaying as a Chinese girl. I'm also on other countries socials, and these pictures of Xiao HongShu and Douyin girls get reposted a lot and people legit be complimenting and wondering how to get their face, hair and body, it's baffling. Like you really for real don't know how they get their legs to be longer than their life and their waist smaller than their head? Seriously cannot wrap my head around it.
It's not even just social media though I wish it was. All the people I follow are men and I'm a girl so I don't compare myself with them, but when I go to school I can't stop myself from glancing at all the slender pretty girls passing by me. I have SCD and I've tried to lose my skinny fat but it fr almost hospitalized me once. Sigh.
Fact: 90% of your good looks only depends on your face and clothing(except if you are obese).
Is there any particular reason you only follow men
@@SuperMiIk No, I just don't have any women I'm interested in 🤷♀️
Honestly I think she looks better in the unretouched version 1:47 she is so stunning. There's something so attractive about having a small amount of "flaws". Too much and then it's not attractive anymore, but a few imperfections on an otherwise gorgeous person I think enhance how gorgeous they are because it makes them seem more "real". Too perfect with no flaws just seems.. idk.. almost bland and uninteresting
This is the perfect video to watch at half past 3 when I should work in the morning!
Wow. All of the pictures you showed starting at 3:00, the "before" retouching looks so much better than the "after". And don't get me started on the horrifying body proportions of all those TikToks earlier. And that girl at 6:40...😦 This entire video was....frightening.
Never watched your content before but i like your dry sense of humor, editing, and babyfaced charm. I will check out more!
- ‘Thin & curvy at the same time, just like these walls’ 💀
As someone who'd never heard of Jaifei or floptropica prior to Joe regrets video, I felt like my third eye awakened after finishing it.