An older gentleman once told me ( they were married for fifty years…and I ask what’s the secret) this was his response. He said “it’s never 50/50”. And he added the one doing less must recognized the one doing more.
My mom always told me that. She said don’t get married unless and until you are ready for all the hard work. She said that she sacrificed a lot but so did my dad. It was never at the same time but it worked out for them. When she was working and going to school he left school to work two jobs so they could buy their first home. There is always give and take. The love just makes you learn how to appreciate one another.❤
I love the last sentence -- the one doing less must recognize the one doing more. 🤍 So this is the secret of long lasting relationships (not only in marriage but in any.. I guess)
I was married for 26yrs i was a full-time nurse for 26yrs, and yes it was not 50, 50 but in marriage you give more sometimes my husband got sick, he ask me to take care of him I did because I love him, I am happy ❤ I quit that job and took care of him for 10yrs until he pass in 2008 I have no regrets, just missing him.
@TRUE AMERICAN PATRIOT That’s rude. I’m pretty sure she took care of him as he had a terminal illness, but how it sounds. Some people can be their partner’s caregiver, some can’t. I guess because she was a nurse (and a strong person) she was able to.
@TRUE AMERICAN PATRIOT you are not a true American patriot. You are a uneducated fake Christian inbred trumptard that thinks he is all big and bad talking like that to a female but I bet in person you won’t talk like that to a man. Your a wimp
This is what I ended to hear today. I am 50 and my husband is 70. We both waited a lifetime to find each other and he is amazing. But it’s important for me to recognize that he does not have as much vitality as I do, nor should he feel pressured to work a full time job to support our family. He’s worked hard his whole life, it’s time for him to enjoy being partially retired, to be able to do the art he wants to and slow down a bit. I am responsible for the majority of our finances, but he does many of the chores around the house, calls to make appointments, researches things we need to know and most importantly supports all my dreams 💯. Contribution looks like a lot of different things, the scales will tip back and forth, but respect and appreciation must always be there.
I once saw a plaque titled *"Choose your Hard"* Marriage is hard Divorce is hard Choose your hard Another principle that always comes to mind when encouraging married-folks experiencing serious conflict is the *80/20 Rule*
@@fedoramcclaren4294 its easy to dismantle a friend relationship regardless of how long it lasted but much more difficult to do so in a romantic or family relationship
@@highlyfavored2434 How so? I treat them all the same, so perhaps my perception differs. The goal for me is to be friends with family as well as a partner, so if there is a breakup or quarrel, we can still be on good terms. I don't use different types of emotional content on anyone, just because the relationship differs.
Facts. Married at age 22. Been married for 31yrs now. It's only getting better. Wasn't easy, but well worth it. My advice is to never disrespect each other through the tuff times. Harsh words can't be taken back. She is right, people give up way to soon. Have 3 young adults kids and 2 grands. God is great. It's all good now. Wouldn't have had had it any other way. Love of my life
@@Play-jv3oi correct. Wasn't perfect. Imagine, we really are still a kids at 22. I faced a lot of temptation being in the Army, but God got us through the hard times. I give all the Glory to God.
@@JackieC831 correct Jackie C. U can change. Just don't wait to late cause a person can only take so much. And once that person get to the point of "fed up", it's hard to come back from that. God bless
My husband is my hero. I was a broken with two small children because my ex was a brutal abusing person. I started going to church then met the sweetest person I have ever seen. I watched him from afar as he showed his kindness to others. Needless to say I fell in love from afar. One day we met started seeing each other I was 24 he was 30. My husband passed after we reached 40 years of togetherness. We had ups and downs but always respectful to one another. We were strong together as blessed
Some people are always picking up where another lacks. Gets tiring and frustrating after a while. The slacker should have learned something or pulled their weight at some point.
That doesn’t mean having a one-sides relationship. My parents were an excellent example of this. They both worked full-time but when I developed an autoimmune illness somebody had to spend more time taking care of me when I was sick and taking me to appointments. Also, it was three of us and they had to spend time with my other two siblings. Mama went part time and Daddy stayed full-time to take on more due to Mama bringing in less. Long example but compromise and sacrifice mean a lot more than accepting a partner who won’t put in work…it’s deeper and you have to look beyond the surface
I agree 100%! My mom told be this before I was married ...it was just that way & it's real life! We've been married 59yrs w/ 4 children!! Bravo Ms Obama ❤
She said a mouth full!! I’m 20 years in my marriage and there were good days and then there were storms!! But I’m thankful to The Most High for guiding my husband and I through each good day and each bad day!! 💜
In a successful marriage you give your 100%, but it’s not every day, but throughout the lifetime of that marriage. It’s like a relay race. When you run a relay race, there are times when you can’t give it 100%, but your partner does give it 100%. And then the roles reverse and that’s how it is. In the end, you both put 100% throughout the entire length of the relay race. You must compromise and play as a team.
Well, depends of how your partner “perceives” the giving.. no everybody shows love the same way and we should be ok with that.. I’ m little affectionate but my husband is very affectionate.. he knows and accepts me the way I am.. I show my love cooking for the family and taking care of everything😊
@@Jblah I agree. She was very unhappy in her marriage and only stayed married because she had to. If he wasn’t the president and this was how she felt, she would’ve been divorced Barack.
I’ve been married for 22 years since 19, it’s a swinging pendulum. I appreciate my wife picking up my slack in all areas but I notice right away when she is struggling with anything and I always run to catch her and hold her up then it repeats over and over. It’s a wonderful feeling to have someone there for you as much as knowing you are there for them also.
The question is, why do you allow her to get to the point where she's "struggling"? Does she do the same? Uh, when YOU are doing all the housework, and you're starting to lose it, does she drop the remote to come to your aid? Um 'kay.
Love changes? You mean the relationship changes with ups and downs, but the love always remains right? Married for 60 years, that's amazing! It's an accomplishment you should be proud of. And it says something about your character.
I'm not married so I wouldn't know for sure. But altough the romantic feeling decreases, don't you become family with your spouse and a mate? That's why I hope to meet somebody that I can really trust on..
@@jeeshin4048 romantic feeling doesn't have to decrease, maybe this is what the others are talking about? The newness and novelty of being a freshly married couple can dissipate, but it's replaced by a strong confident tried-and-true love (hopefully). As you work together as a team supporting each other thru life's battles, having special moments together, creating memories, well in my humble opinion, that's quite meaningful. I can only see a love growing stronger. I would love to experience that kind of romance. Of going through s**t together and you still got each others back. Also getting to know someone so well that you're so in sync and in tune and know how to take care of each others needs. I hope I can find a husband like that one day. I hope I can find all of these things whenever I look into his eyes.
Michelle said that there were 10 years that she just did not like Barack when the kids were small… I assume that was when she was giving that 70% and he was giving 30%… she created an amazing perspective for me… she sacrificed her career and accepted the load bc of what she wanted her family to look like regardless of how she felt. Some ppl call it “pick me behavior” but when you sacrifice like this for the right one, it’s worth it. So we must choose wisely.
She's so right, just so long as you're not the one who's always giving 70%, and no mutual acknowledgment of each other's sacrifices, then it's not a partnership, it's a toxic co-dependency.
That’s what MO and the women in this comment section won’t admit - men NEVER SAY this. Notice how she doesn’t mention barrack ever doing 70 while she does 30? I mean they’re an exception obviously but my point stands - this rhetoric just supports the status quo, that women should be doing the vast majority of the work in marriage
@@ilysaportax33 respectfully, I sense that you need a healing for your soul, because men DO say and do this. Perhaps you should change YOUR heart and your thinking if you want to attract the kind of man that DOES reciprocate.
You can pay for school but you can’t buy class and she is just that classy and graceful. It’s never just 50/50 that always got me peeved a bit when ppl say that and how she explained it is clear
This is so true. The problem comes in when it's ALWAYS the same person giving more. Partnership means BOTH want success and happiness for the other, and are willing to give more when the time comes.
MICHELLE 👏👏👏 GREAT MESSAGE, YOUNG PEOPLE ARE GIVEN UP TOO SOON. THE OBAMAS SUPPORT EACH OTHER I THINK THAT IS THE CLUE TO KEEP THE MARRIAGE STRONGER AND SOLID. ❤❤❤❤
No relationship is always 50/50. Sometimes one person needs more & sometimes that same person needs less. Open & honest communication is what saves any relationship. Never expect the other person to know how you feel & what you need; tell them, in short, & to-the-point terms. They will be more than happy to be there for you if you tell them what 'there' looks like for you.
@@lockdownbanter2445 I'm not the baby sitter of anybody, my children aré with me just the middle of the week. Then whit their dad. Sorry my english is not good. And I said this es my reality, of course everybody has one.
JESUS CHRIST IS RETURNING SOON THE RAPTURE IS NEAR. OUTER SPACE IS A HOAX. THE EARTH IS FLAT AND STATIONARY WITH A DOME CALLED THE FIRMAMENT. THERE ARE FALLEN ANGELS IMPRISONED UNDERGROUND BY GOD. AZAZEL AKA LUCIFER IS AT AREA 51 GIVING THE VATICAN JESUIT FREEMASONS SECRET KNOWLEDGE AND TECHNOLOGY HE IS WHERE ALL THE SYSTEMS AND LIES COME FROM. INFO IS ON MY PAGE
@@RadAngelDMV America as a whole is a war criminal. Particularly the colonizers. Remember the natives? Of course you don't. You killed most of them. If you're speaking of war criminals speak of your own.
I would say Michelle is 50% of the reason Obama is successful. Whenever you have two people working together in the same direction phenomenal achievement are possible.
That’s what people don’t understand: There are PERIODS of hard. If y’all always having constant hard and then the other person keep asking for more without them giving something so that you at 99 or 100% and the other person is only giving 1% or nothing, then it’s time to reassess the situation as it has become abusive. Happened to me and so glad I’m out!
My grandparents were married for 70 almost 71 years (just short by 3 weeks of 71 years). This is exactly it. My grandparents relationship wasn’t always perfect, but they always got through their differences and worked together so our family could prosper. It’s been over 4 years since my Papaw passed, but my Mamaw every night goes up to ash box and says “Good night babe I love you”. She’s 93 now and he passed at 89. She’s still fully in love with him. That’s the kind of marriage I want to one day have and I’d hope everyone can have the chance to do the same.
How lucky we were to have such a wise, classy and compassionate First Lady! Thank you Michelle Obama! There is a saying that I truly believe. "Marriage, if it is good, there is nothing better❤....if it is bad, there is nothing worse😢!"
Whatever you been smoking you need to leave it alone....its a fake and arranged marriage....the so-called husband is gay as the day is long...both of them are a complete fraud!!!
I’m 28 and my boyfriend and I love each other but where in a season where it’s getting difficult and we don’t even have kids yet it’s no cheating or none of that but to me he wants in the future a more traditional wife, I don’t mind that but sometimes help out with cleaning help out with other things don’t leave me to do all household things by myself most of the time smh I’m gonna feel burnt out and unappreciated and he seems like he doesn’t see it, I don’t know how much more I can take I have a career I like working out and having my own life aside from him as well I don’t know man smh
@@erikabullock6642 talk with your boyfriend. I mean have an honest conversation with him about how you’re feeling. Communicating truly is essential to understanding. It may be how he was raised & societal norms, but you all must seek and figure out what works best for y’all according to God’s Will. Ask him to pitch in more before you grow to resent him. You definitely need & deserve some down time. If marriage and children are in y’all’s future communicating openly, respectfully and honestly are essential. Many blessings to y’all!🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾
@@erikabullock6642 this isn’t sustainable and you two aren’t compatible. You know as well as I do that this man will eventually convince to leave your job and then you’ll be stuck in this role that you clearly don’t want. You’re still young. End it and find someone else
He Doesn’t Have a wife it’s a demon with those teeth!! And those ears are so long and Big, People Can’t see , The Ones that are truly Blind sees with their senses of a extra one . It doesn’t look even look like a man!
Wow! Yes! I agree. Took my foot off my career gas pedal. 27 years into my marraige so glad i did. We look back and just say thank you God that we understood humility in a marraige.
Once you’re The First Lady you’re always the First Lady. The title doesn’t go away. Just like Her husband will always be the 44th President of the United Stated of America.
So comforting to hear this, had to take a career break for 6 years, now returning to work next year, I knew I made the best decision for my family but still nice to hear this
I love that family happy for u all . U all do just fine. Keep it up and keep foing what u all doing. Keep being happy. No matter what and keep praying ❤❤❤❤ u all will always be a winner...❤❤ Great heart .
That's why it is so important before you marry, to get marital counseling. Being honest and up front will let you know either to stay in the relationship or to part ways. Real talk
So you getting marital counseling to figure if you want to leave, going against everything she is trying to teach! Why are you not listening? You never going to find a perfect mate! Heck you’re not perfect
Some times *Micheal* was 70% the man of the house & some times *Barry* was. Just as long as Barrack gets to hold his *husbands* *hand* like he spoke about on live TV it doesn’t matter to reality…
I think it’s important that women know up front that you will most likely be the one doing 70% or more to keep the marriage going. Most men will not be the sole breadwinner and many will balk at doing everyday household chores. You will 100% be the only one who gets pregnant and you will be the main caregiver to any children you have. You’ll probably be working a job and splitting the bills. And as the First Lady says, your career path may be slowed. So you must decide up front if you’re okay with this because your intended will expect you to be. To ease your burden some, insist he at least help you with the chores and the children because marriage isn’t a fairytale like they show in the movies.
Yes most times it is true but there Are times when some husbands also do the same. And there case after thorough soul seatch you should waĺk giving each the opportunity to findntrue peace and hapoiness. I was fortunate to have a 35 plus happy marriage between career union meeting long distance travel at one the serious personal health.issues it wasbhubby who gave 70% sometimes without me realizing then so its not all about us !
That’s why no girls want to get married . No way I’m giving any more than 50% if it’s not reciprocated. Why would you teach that to women? Why would you require more from women. That’s some bs right there
That’s the part they won’t admit out loud…it’s never fair FOR THE WOMAN. For most marriages only she will be expected to do the lionshare of labor for years at a time
An older gentleman once told me ( they were married for fifty years…and I ask what’s the secret) this was his response. He said “it’s never 50/50”. And he added the one doing less must recognized the one doing more.
My mom always told me that. She said don’t get married unless and until you are ready for all the hard work. She said that she sacrificed a lot but so did my dad. It was never at the same time but it worked out for them. When she was working and going to school he left school to work two jobs so they could buy their first home. There is always give and take. The love just makes you learn how to appreciate one another.❤
Volte a presidente
I love the last sentence -- the one doing less must recognize the one doing more. 🤍 So this is the secret of long lasting relationships (not only in marriage but in any.. I guess)
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I clearly understand this, but it takes time to learn this.
Most people want a wedding ,holidays and dinners not realising in between those nice things ,it's really hard work,forgiveness, open mindedness. Etc.
Tik tok and only fans relationships
Say men. Even she says men. Weddings are for women, marriage is for men.
@@crystaloats8177 oh dear..I see you caught up in the pathetic gender wars
@nyakwarObat Exactly!!! Advising each other badly and thinking they are smart 🤣😂
Perfect
"Fight the problem not each other"
Judge Lynn Toler
“I’m a man” - big Mike
@@WakandaleezaRazz
I can't believe it! 😯
@@WakandaleezaRazz
Her hands and neck is too small
I like that philosophy 😲😊😄😆👏
@@GeorgeWashingtonJr-li9ip
Indeed me too!
Fighting the problem together is definitely more productive 😉
What a smart man.
Bro 😂
😂😂
Your comment only proves you're a juvenile who has yet to mature. Not holding my breath though you'll always be ignorant
Comment shows your not even half as smart.
Mr. Obama was smart to marry such a beautiful and intelligent woman!
I was married for 26yrs i was a full-time nurse for 26yrs, and yes it was not 50, 50 but in marriage you give more sometimes my husband got sick, he ask me to take care of him I did because I love him, I am happy ❤ I quit that job and took care of him for 10yrs until he pass in 2008 I have no regrets, just missing him.
I feel for you . indeed true love stil exist. God in heaven wil always bless you and whatever you put uarself in..Amen
God bless you Ida
God bless you what ever you have done my dear ❤and I’m sorry for loss your husband
@TRUE AMERICAN PATRIOT That’s rude. I’m pretty sure she took care of him as he had a terminal illness, but how it sounds. Some people can be their partner’s caregiver, some can’t. I guess because she was a nurse (and a strong person) she was able to.
@TRUE AMERICAN PATRIOT you are not a true American patriot. You are a uneducated fake Christian inbred trumptard that thinks he is all big and bad talking like that to a female but I bet in person you won’t talk like that to a man. Your a wimp
This is what I ended to hear today. I am 50 and my husband is 70. We both waited a lifetime to find each other and he is amazing. But it’s important for me to recognize that he does not have as much vitality as I do, nor should he feel pressured to work a full time job to support our family. He’s worked hard his whole life, it’s time for him to enjoy being partially retired, to be able to do the art he wants to and slow down a bit. I am responsible for the majority of our finances, but he does many of the chores around the house, calls to make appointments, researches things we need to know and most importantly supports all my dreams 💯. Contribution looks like a lot of different things, the scales will tip back and forth, but respect and appreciation must always be there.
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Oh please your both dictators destroying America
Love this❤
Amazing!!
AWESOME!!!
Big Mike looking good 😂😂😂😂
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Respect this man's here😢
“There are periods of hard.” Michelle Obama. Great quote.
It's called life. The sad that something so basic and normal seems to be revolutionary.
@@RDCFemmes 😢
Love it
Ya both have something hard…hmmmmm
I once saw a plaque titled *"Choose your Hard"*
Marriage is hard
Divorce is hard
Choose your hard
Another principle that always comes to mind when encouraging married-folks experiencing serious conflict is the *80/20 Rule*
Sometimes friendships aren't 50/50, either....
True💯💯
Facts! Friendships are relationships.
@@designerlene1931
I always wonder why many don't consider friendships as relationships.
@@fedoramcclaren4294 its easy to dismantle a friend relationship regardless of how long it lasted but much more difficult to do so in a romantic or family relationship
@@highlyfavored2434
How so?
I treat them all the same, so perhaps my perception differs.
The goal for me is to be friends with family as well as a partner, so if there is a breakup or quarrel, we can still be on good terms.
I don't use different types of emotional content on anyone, just because the relationship differs.
My grandmother said this to me on the eve of my wedding. She was married for 50+ years, and I’m headed for 35 years. Best advice ever!
Golden words for this generation and the generations to come.
Mr. Obama is lucky to have a lady like that in his life.
The generations yo come want instante gratificación, and the want babies executed before they are born and that thanks in part to the Obamas.
Man*
They are a match made in HEAVEN
Mr Obama is lucky to have Michael
Barack and Michael 😂
Facts. Married at age 22. Been married for 31yrs now. It's only getting better. Wasn't easy, but well worth it. My advice is to never disrespect each other through the tuff times. Harsh words can't be taken back. She is right, people give up way to soon. Have 3 young adults kids and 2 grands. God is great. It's all good now. Wouldn't have had had it any other way. Love of my life
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I bet it has not been perfect mike right but a learning experience right.
@@Play-jv3oi correct. Wasn't perfect. Imagine, we really are still a kids at 22. I faced a lot of temptation being in the Army, but God got us through the hard times. I give all the Glory to God.
@@JackieC831 correct Jackie C. U can change. Just don't wait to late cause a person can only take so much. And once that person get to the point of "fed up", it's hard to come back from that. God bless
Excellent Mike Austin.. Harsh is never effective. You can be kind when disagree.
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My husband is my hero. I was a broken with two small children because my ex was a brutal abusing person. I started going to church then met the sweetest person I have ever seen. I watched him from afar as he showed his kindness to others. Needless to say I fell in love from afar. One day we met started seeing each other I was 24 he was 30. My husband passed after we reached 40 years of togetherness. We had ups and downs but always respectful to one another. We were strong together as blessed
Sorry for your loss. Glad you had a happy marriage.
what killed him at 40yrs of age?🤔
Blessed couple
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@@nairobinet2678 after 40 yrs of being together
It’s such a relief to hear that people feel similarly about this and to know that the hardship comes with any relationship, any long-term relationship
I always see Michelle Obama as such a wise and down to earth person 👌
Ooooooooh 😮my Lord!! You have NO IDEA what is coming do you??? WAKE UP! WAKE UP!! 🙊🙉🙈 She is horrifically 😈 EVIL AS WELL AS BARRY!👺
Michael
@@gabrieldovido7019 😅
Big mike😂
Saying "person" is very ambiguous
Yes! It’s called compromise and sacrifice. You pick up where the other lacks. That’s Marriage.
Like paying all the bills??
Some people are always picking up where another lacks. Gets tiring and frustrating after a while. The slacker should have learned something or pulled their weight at some point.
I'm sure. But you stuck out
@@DakotaLenn0x don't be in a relationship at all be single forever with ur mentality ur better off
That doesn’t mean having a one-sides relationship. My parents were an excellent example of this. They both worked full-time but when I developed an autoimmune illness somebody had to spend more time taking care of me when I was sick and taking me to appointments. Also, it was three of us and they had to spend time with my other two siblings. Mama went part time and Daddy stayed full-time to take on more due to Mama bringing in less. Long example but compromise and sacrifice mean a lot more than accepting a partner who won’t put in work…it’s deeper and you have to look beyond the surface
Thank you Michelle for your honesty and being transparent about marriage.
Lol
This is what the young needs to hear ‼️
thats Big Mike..comon now
TRANSparent you mean.
Emphasis on TRANS
I agree. It takes maturity to evolve in a marriage. ❤❤❤❤
You hit the nail on the head, you have to compromise on both sides!!🙏🙏
For sure!!
I agree 100%! My mom told be this before I was married ...it was just that way & it's real life! We've been married 59yrs w/ 4 children!! Bravo Ms Obama ❤
Mr Michael, Obama, No Just Michael
@@gabrieldovido7019 Grow up. child.
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Big Mike*
Mister*
She said a mouth full!! I’m 20 years in my marriage and there were good days and then there were storms!! But I’m thankful to The Most High for guiding my husband and I through each good day and each bad day!! 💜
Michael has a mouthful alright
@@lynnle54 whose Michael!
@@lynnle54 huh 🤔 are you calling Michelle Michael?
@@lynnle54 oh so you are Linton?
@@dalia5378 *who's
In a successful marriage you give your 100%, but it’s not every day, but throughout the lifetime of that marriage. It’s like a relay race. When you run a relay race, there are times when you can’t give it 100%, but your partner does give it 100%. And then the roles reverse and that’s how it is. In the end, you both put 100% throughout the entire length of the relay race. You must compromise and play as a team.
she was a man
@@fredbiden868 🤣🤣🤣 well ya just never know any true gender these days. For some reason all the guys are wanting to be gals. Ha
Well, depends of how your partner “perceives” the giving.. no everybody shows love the same way and we should be ok with that.. I’ m little affectionate but my husband is very affectionate.. he knows and accepts me the way I am.. I show my love cooking for the family and taking care of everything😊
Keeping in mind all ppl are imperfect flawed individuals.
@@fredbiden868 no he wasn’t. You need to stop creating fall stories. The Obamas have children of their own
She is explaining so clearly what is a relationship like .
His name is Michael
Heard from a female elder that any man who says: "Marriage is 50-50" does not understand women or fractions.
The sad thing is that individuals in unhealthy toxic relationships will use what she's saying as a reason to stay.
Agreed. This type of advice should be prefaced with that
Life is not easy. Is it?
problem is people treat relationships like marriage. The two are different. And don't marry toxicity, marry value and have value.
@Tee : we have a brain. How about to use it ?
They are obviously staying without this as well.
There really is no thing as a fairytale marriage. It's always give and take. She really summed up married life.
Their so called of a Marriage is a Abomination To God!! Two men or Two Women is not a Marriage.
Being married to the potus is hardly relatable for normal people smh
@@Jblah I agree. She was very unhappy in her marriage and only stayed married because she had to. If he wasn’t the president and this was how she felt, she would’ve been divorced Barack.
@@bigbettybloom9107 you missed the point ....but I can respect ur opinion......#uropinion....
@@bigbettybloom9107 you mean he, that's big mike
She is so wonderful and has so much wisdom.
12 years in, this is so true
J'adore la famille Obama en français
BIG MIKE
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I’ve been married for 22 years since 19, it’s a swinging pendulum. I appreciate my wife picking up my slack in all areas but I notice right away when she is struggling with anything and I always run to catch her and hold her up then it repeats over and over. It’s a wonderful feeling to have someone there for you as much as knowing you are there for them also.
Well said.
❤ very beautiful
Amen! Beautifully said!
That's a priceless blessing
The question is, why do you allow her to get to the point where she's "struggling"? Does she do the same? Uh, when YOU are doing all the housework, and you're starting to lose it, does she drop the remote to come to your aid? Um 'kay.
I'm married 60 years and all I know for sure is that love changes..
Love changes? You mean the relationship changes with ups and downs, but the love always remains right? Married for 60 years, that's amazing! It's an accomplishment you should be proud of. And it says something about your character.
Love has seasons.
I'm not married so I wouldn't know for sure. But altough the romantic feeling decreases, don't you become family with your spouse and a mate? That's why I hope to meet somebody that I can really trust on..
@@cassietherainbowsend722 what does that mean?
@@jeeshin4048 romantic feeling doesn't have to decrease, maybe this is what the others are talking about? The newness and novelty of being a freshly married couple can dissipate, but it's replaced by a strong confident tried-and-true love (hopefully). As you work together as a team supporting each other thru life's battles, having special moments together, creating memories, well in my humble opinion, that's quite meaningful. I can only see a love growing stronger. I would love to experience that kind of romance. Of going through s**t together and you still got each others back. Also getting to know someone so well that you're so in sync and in tune and know how to take care of each others needs. I hope I can find a husband like that one day. I hope I can find all of these things whenever I look into his eyes.
"Quitting too soon" That's all for me.
They don’t know anything about love, compromise or give & take. You can only do that if there is love, respect & trust between both partners.
As someone who has been married for 35 years, I feel that Michelle Obama is 100 per cent spot on. And...I love this lady!
Big mike
@@stj971 She’s a woman. What are you?? Let me guess👀👀
@@stj971 troll
Yup..him's a boy...do your research..🙄😳
@@sonnyroy497 wrong.. it's a bloke...🤦🙄..look into it... Barry's gay.
Michelle said that there were 10 years that she just did not like Barack when the kids were small… I assume that was when she was giving that 70% and he was giving 30%… she created an amazing perspective for me… she sacrificed her career and accepted the load bc of what she wanted her family to look like regardless of how she felt. Some ppl call it “pick me behavior” but when you sacrifice like this for the right one, it’s worth it. So we must choose wisely.
Agreed !!
She was already chosen, so whoever thinks shes a pick me, is wrong. It's also the same with the simp title, you can't be a simp to your wife.
When did she say that?
@@QueenChastity Revolt interview with Mama Knowles, Kelly, H.E.R. and Winnie Harlow.
She didn't sacrifice her career (& she always had a good career) but she did slow it down
Michael LeVaughn Robinson right there. Yes. A dude. No. Not conspiracy.
Trust is essential while also delicate. Michelle and Obama are strong individuals that’s what it takes
She's so right, just so long as you're not the one who's always giving 70%, and no mutual acknowledgment of each other's sacrifices, then it's not a partnership, it's a toxic co-dependency.
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Right!
That’s what MO and the women in this comment section won’t admit - men NEVER SAY this. Notice how she doesn’t mention barrack ever doing 70 while she does 30? I mean they’re an exception obviously but my point stands - this rhetoric just supports the status quo, that women should be doing the vast majority of the work in marriage
@@ilysaportax33 respectfully, I sense that you need a healing for your soul, because men DO say and do this. Perhaps you should change YOUR heart and your thinking if you want to attract the kind of man that DOES reciprocate.
@@ilysaportax33you are SO right! She’s sounds crazy for saying this.
You can pay for school but you can’t buy class and she is just that classy and graceful. It’s never just 50/50 that always got me peeved a bit when ppl say that and how she explained it is clear
She was born a he
He.
@@marleysankor stop calling this woman a man.
Big mike
@@marleysankor reverting to grade school insults when you can’t think of something to criticize
Love the mindset of this lady.
She is realistic and wise in her speech in issues she tackled ...
Who is with me in 2024 😊?
She’s 100% correct.
70% you mean ;)
@@madsbrandt598,
I said exactly what I meant….and meant what I said.
@@debbieflaherty1975 i meant what i said also, since michelle said so.
He's*
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This is so true. The problem comes in when it's ALWAYS the same person giving more. Partnership means BOTH want success and happiness for the other, and are willing to give more when the time comes.
Big Mike!
namaste kyh
😂😮😅🎉t?
what I heard her say was sometimes she gave 70%but not all the time 😉
I just love how real she is it’s like talking with your aunty
Yes! She reminds me sm of my Aunty in the way she speaks
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@@janetf8171 liking your own comment 1st. Typical
@@janetf8171 Ya moms.
@@mkb5984
What you five years old? He's a tranny...you'll find out soon. Y'all late to the game. ⏰🎬🎥🤣
MICHELLE 👏👏👏 GREAT MESSAGE, YOUNG PEOPLE ARE GIVEN UP TOO SOON. THE OBAMAS SUPPORT EACH OTHER I THINK THAT IS THE CLUE TO KEEP THE MARRIAGE STRONGER AND SOLID. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you Thank you Thank you.
God Bless
A real FIRST LADY! Still giving back to us in impactful ways. Thanks Michelle🙏🏼❤️🥰
She sucks
Thank you Michael
WORST LEADER EVER !
DID -0- BLACK PPL. NO FOOD STORES, BANKS, SCHOOLS, NO JOBS 👎🙄
@@janc8199 your mother too fool
She's a great Lady.
No relationship is always 50/50.
Sometimes one person needs more & sometimes that same person needs less.
Open & honest communication is what saves any relationship. Never expect the other person to know how you feel & what you need; tell them, in short, & to-the-point terms. They will be more than happy to be there for you if you tell them what 'there' looks like for you.
@Dr. Christopher Johnson Thank you, but no thank you.
This man has the right words.
My relationship is 50/50, we can, we want it and is our real life. I wouldn't be happy any other way
@@lockdownbanter2445 I'm not the baby sitter of anybody, my children aré with me just the middle of the week. Then whit their dad. Sorry my english is not good. And I said this es my reality, of course everybody has one.
All people in a relationship should listen to this.
Yepppp
Marriages…
Exactly. A lot of young people think it’s so easy …just share responsibilities 50/50… what a joke.
I miss her and Barack. Smart, calm, honest. They aren’t criminals. Zero accusations. Well spoken. 😢
JESUS CHRIST IS RETURNING SOON THE RAPTURE IS NEAR. OUTER SPACE IS A HOAX. THE EARTH IS FLAT AND STATIONARY WITH A DOME CALLED THE FIRMAMENT. THERE ARE FALLEN ANGELS IMPRISONED UNDERGROUND BY GOD. AZAZEL AKA LUCIFER IS AT AREA 51 GIVING THE VATICAN JESUIT FREEMASONS SECRET KNOWLEDGE AND TECHNOLOGY HE IS WHERE ALL THE SYSTEMS AND LIES COME FROM. INFO IS ON MY PAGE
Nope, just war criminals.
@@RadAngelDMV America as a whole is a war criminal. Particularly the colonizers. Remember the natives? Of course you don't. You killed most of them. If you're speaking of war criminals speak of your own.
@@RadAngelDMV troll
Excellent couple.
Mrs. Obama, I love your honesty. Stay blessed
mr. Obama *
@@spirit5.4.20Big Mike*
REAL HONEST
Wearing a dress to cover his johnson.
Obama and Michael..what a great couple😂
Mr
Excellent yes natural compromise I LOVE YOU 💙 too
When you compromise with UNDERSTANDING
to remain focused on the marriage to succeed
I would say Michelle is 50% of the reason Obama is successful. Whenever you have two people working together in the same direction phenomenal achievement are possible.
Obama is successful? Christ, nobody tells me anything
This sounds like a good honest stand up guy.
Big Mikey is definitely an expert on giving and taking.
That’s what people don’t understand: There are PERIODS of hard.
If y’all always having constant hard and then the other person keep asking for more without them giving something so that you at 99 or 100% and the other person is only giving 1% or nothing, then it’s time to reassess the situation as it has become abusive.
Happened to me and so glad I’m out!
Ja, there's trying and there's abusive. Two different things. I quit an abusive marriage that had no trace of respect. I'll try everything for love!
My grandparents were married for 70 almost 71 years (just short by 3 weeks of 71 years). This is exactly it. My grandparents relationship wasn’t always perfect, but they always got through their differences and worked together so our family could prosper. It’s been over 4 years since my Papaw passed, but my Mamaw every night goes up to ash box and says “Good night babe I love you”. She’s 93 now and he passed at 89. She’s still fully in love with him. That’s the kind of marriage I want to one day have and I’d hope everyone can have the chance to do the same.
And you will❤ I wish you the best!!!
I love “papaw and Mamaw”
Sorry for your loss. An amazing story, though. Definitely something to aspire to!
This is who we should be getting relationship advice from. Not newly wed people who are convinced there's a sole path to a happy marriage. 🙄
Big Mike is so wise
A very honest and transparent response about marriage. The hard knock trusty with no sugar coating 🎉❤
Yeah well big Mike IS pretty tough...🙄
Oh it’s a trans parent alright 🙄
What a guy.
How lucky we were to have such a wise, classy and compassionate First Lady! Thank you Michelle Obama! There is a saying that I truly believe. "Marriage, if it is good, there is nothing better❤....if it is bad, there is nothing worse😢!"
You mean First Man plus theres nothing classy about him
His name is Michael 😂
That's no lady that's big mikey
Whatever you been smoking you need to leave it alone....its a fake and arranged marriage....the so-called husband is gay as the day is long...both of them are a complete fraud!!!
Mike’s looking strong. Must have a great personal trainer.
Yesss I just said this to my husband this morning. There are seasons in marriage. Young people hang in there and trust God!!🙏🏾❤️💪🏾
I’m 28 and my boyfriend and I love each other but where in a season where it’s getting difficult and we don’t even have kids yet it’s no cheating or none of that but to me he wants in the future a more traditional wife, I don’t mind that but sometimes help out with cleaning help out with other things don’t leave me to do all household things by myself most of the time smh I’m gonna feel burnt out and unappreciated and he seems like he doesn’t see it, I don’t know how much more I can take I have a career I like working out and having my own life aside from him as well I don’t know man smh
@@erikabullock6642 talk with your boyfriend. I mean have an honest conversation with him about how you’re feeling. Communicating truly is essential to understanding. It may be how he was raised & societal norms, but you all must seek and figure out what works best for y’all according to God’s Will. Ask him to pitch in more before you grow to resent him. You definitely need & deserve some down time. If marriage and children are in y’all’s future communicating openly, respectfully and honestly are essential. Many blessings to y’all!🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾
@@erikabullock6642 this isn’t sustainable and you two aren’t compatible. You know as well as I do that this man will eventually convince to leave your job and then you’ll be stuck in this role that you clearly don’t want. You’re still young. End it and find someone else
How lucky Mr. President Obama to have a wife like her what a great lady ❤
LoL 🤣 that's not even a lady.
He Doesn’t Have a wife it’s a demon with those teeth!! And those ears are so long and Big, People Can’t see , The Ones that are truly Blind sees with their senses of a extra one . It doesn’t look even look like a man!
@@christendomforu.s. Troll 🧌
@@christendomforu.s. She’s definitely a lady? What are you?? Let me guess👀
@@christendomforu.s. 🤡🤡🤡
Michelle was always a hard working woman😊
This generation not ready for this kind of advice.
This is a freaking man! Do not let him lecture you on how a women should be!!!
Um proof? Tou weren’t there for her birth and there’s no proof she’s a he.
😂women on tiktok are no better
Those eyes speak wisdom…commentary is so true! Married 35 years …it’s definitely hard work but so worth the effort.
❤❤❤💯💯💯💯
I can agree because I've been married for 17 years and yes it was hard getting there at first but we got stronger n we just pulled it together
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You got it Big Mike
Wow! Yes! I agree. Took my foot off my career gas pedal. 27 years into my marraige so glad i did. We look back and just say thank you God that we understood humility in a marraige.
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Yes!
Congratulations on 27 happy, successful years of marriage!🎉🏆
What a woman! "When they go low we go high" ... A Queen for Sure! Thank you, Michelle for your service and keeping it 💯%.
Great advice First Lady Michelle Obama ❤❤
Once you’re The First Lady you’re always the First Lady. The title doesn’t go away. Just like Her husband will always be the 44th President of the United Stated of America.
A warm woman with wisdom!♥️God bless you!🕊️
AMEN 🙏🏻🙌🏿
Sensible talking. These modern days young ones needs to listen to Michelle’s advice. This is sound.
She’s so sweet and that’s the honest truth in a relationship. Regardless what some say about her she is super intelligent and they can’t take it away.
Each day brings different percentages and a relationship.
U give what is needed at that time
2 b n a relationship.👏👏👏💯
I agree with you 100%
So comforting to hear this, had to take a career break for 6 years, now returning to work next year, I knew I made the best decision for my family but still nice to hear this
Such open, lovely honesty
He’s looking more manly as he ages 😂
Hats off to Michelle Obama. That’s why she’s married to a President
+james5:16+Ephe5:25,28
Brandon
I love that family happy for u all . U all do just fine. Keep it up and keep foing what u all doing. Keep being happy. No matter what and keep praying ❤❤❤❤ u all will always be a winner...❤❤ Great heart .
Michelle Obama, what a great EX 1st LADY. WORDS of good Advice. Thanks. VOTE BLUE STAY TRUE TO AMERICA 🇺🇸 AND PRESIDENT BIDEN THANKS. 💙 .
That's why it is so important before you marry, to get marital counseling. Being honest and up front will let you know either to stay in the relationship or to part ways. Real talk
And individual counseling wouldn't hurt either!
So you getting marital counseling to figure if you want to leave, going against everything she is trying to teach! Why are you not listening? You never going to find a perfect mate! Heck you’re not perfect
Not really not before you get married... but during wouldn't hurt. Also counselling doesn't always work for couples, they'll still get divorced
You GENIUS I BET AND WELL TRAVELLED.
No is not. You just have to support each other
Yes. I'm living this now. This is a whole message from God. Hallelujah. I shall stand firm and allow TMH to continue to guide the course
Yes when you share the same dream and you see the person to good and brilliant then you can meet and marry because its takes two.
Thank you gorgeous
*Handsome
That’s a man 😂😂
Amen. Relationships r never fifty fifty. The numbers vary all the time, depending on what's going on at the time. Real truth.
@Dr. Christopher Johnson I am from North Carolina
Not at all. I responded to everything u asked. Lol
I am so grateful for this beautiful woman's honesty and transparency. Keeping it 💯.
Tranny.....
Michelle you da man
Some times *Micheal* was 70% the man of the house & some times *Barry* was. Just as long as Barrack gets to hold his *husbands* *hand* like he spoke about on live TV it doesn’t matter to reality…
I think it’s important that women know up front that you will most likely be the one doing 70% or more to keep the marriage going. Most men will not be the sole breadwinner and many will balk at doing everyday household chores. You will 100% be the only one who gets pregnant and you will be the main caregiver to any children you have. You’ll probably be working a job and splitting the bills. And as the First Lady says, your career path may be slowed. So you must decide up front if you’re okay with this because your intended will expect you to be. To ease your burden some, insist he at least help you with the chores and the children because marriage isn’t a fairytale like they show in the movies.
Yes most times it is true but there
Are times when some husbands also do the same. And there case after thorough soul seatch you should waĺk giving each the opportunity to findntrue peace and hapoiness. I was fortunate to have a 35 plus happy marriage between career union meeting long distance travel at one the serious personal health.issues it wasbhubby who gave 70% sometimes without me realizing then so its not all about us !
That’s why no girls want to get married . No way I’m giving any more than 50% if it’s not reciprocated. Why would you teach that to women? Why would you require more from women. That’s some bs right there
Realness. Make peace with that sooner rather than later to avoid all the jealous feelings.
@@AfroMillennialMomma never compromise. This is The most sexist thing i ever heard. And not real. And how i grew up in scandinavia
Very true. It's usually the woman that gives way more than the man in a marriage.
Love her or not, there is a level of authenticity to her that transcends and resonates. I rock with her ❤️
You are beautiful first lady.
I don’t wanna my husband to hear this . He s gonna quote it to go against me 😂
Well said! Too many people do not fully appreciate their partners! There are so many aspects to a relationship!
So tired that the women have to compromise.
Preach
Smh You learned nothing from her message
@@ohcamnam9383 nothing to learn . This some 1950s disgusting sexist stuff
That’s the part they won’t admit out loud…it’s never fair FOR THE WOMAN. For most marriages only she will be expected to do the lionshare of labor for years at a time
This is a man speaking 😂