Adopted DNA Test Results - NOT What I Expected 🤯 Mind Blown
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- Ancestry and 23andMe DNA test results SURPRSE! Heads up, DNA testing for adoptees can be complicated! I told you I wasn’t looking for my birth parents or biological family and it was 100% true. I’m happily adopted and love my REAL adopted parents and siblings. But when I got the results of my DNA tests from Ancestry DNA and 23andMe it changed my life FOREVER.
To be completely honest, I’m still processing everything that has happened. If my Ancestry adoption story is convoluted, please understand that it’s confusing to me, too! This is all so new and unexpected and…bizarre.
PLEASE, if you have a DNA adoption story to share, I’d love to hear it. Now more than ever!
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🧬 Friends, I just posted a follow up Q&A vlog, answering a few of your questions. Here it is: ruclips.net/video/S8CN9VnfZr4/видео.html
So love reading your comments, stories, and questions! I will get to them ALL ASAP!
Congratulations for your journey! It brings flashback of my childhood! I totally understand your mixed feelings about the discovery of all these new family members! I'm impressed with your grace and compassion! I'm not adopted but come from a very large family of 30 siblings. Growing up in Africa as children, we were always excited about a new sibling who would pop up from no where because daddy was kind of a rolling stone. We are all very close and we all just get excited meeting each other. There was never a moment we felt otherwise other than happy to unite with a lost sibling! The most important is that your new family wants to meet with you! Most of my siblings were from my dad's extramarital affairs. I guess it's African culture which is unfamiliar to this society! These things don't happen often anymore!
Hi, am from Indonesia, and just subscribed. Excited to watch the results/continuation of your journey🌹By the way, first second I watched your video I thought you look like Dutch.
I met a half sister I never knew I had a year ago after an Ancestry DNA test. We talk everyday. One of the biggest blessings of my life. I wish you and your family all the best.
That's amazing. I'm so glad the outcome was so positive for both of you.
I did the 23andMe and AncestryDNA tests and found four half-sisters, a father, and a paternal grandmother. I met three of my half-sisters for the first time at the age of 50, and my biological father and grandmother for the first time at the age of 51. After being an only child for nearly five decades, I am now a sister and an aunt many times over!
Congratulations on finding your family, Everyone needs to know where they came from. I hope you can meet them and learn more about why you are who you are :-)
Hey! I am adopted and was raised in a household that was 100% Italian. We also visited Italy every summer for the summer, so we would learn about the nation of our "heritage"! We=my sister and I, who is also adopted. I also live in Italy in a house left to me my the family of my dad's father, as I was the last one with the original surname (how sad they would be to know I am gay, so no kids in the future, at least not biological). My sister and I were both born and adopted from NYC, where adoption laws favor the biological parents, full force and we adoptees, no rights. My sister is fortunate enough, though, to have hired a PI to find her bio-parents before getting pregnant and it ended badly as they tried to profit by her and her $$. My husband and I are doing the test this week. He is Italian, from Naples but there has always been myths in his family that, like many Neapolitans, have Spanish and Greek and N. African roots, as well. I just want to know from whence I come. Though the nuns in the agency I was adopted from, at 6 months, swore I was Italian and they always matched like with like, I look as Italian as Prince Harry or William or any Windsor. I also, once, saw briefly what my original birth certificate said...and though there were no parental names, they did name me, and my surname was originally from Normandy, France, as per genealogy sites, then brought to the British Isles with William the Conqueror, where is was made "Anglo".....and it makes sense from what I look like. My husband, (same sex couple...sorry if that offends) is very worried about this test, for me, believing that having grown up in such an Italian home, that anything other than Italian will hurt my identity and send me spinning. We shall see. I'm not worried, though, as it would be so ironic Have seen many of these videos but this is the first one of someone adopted. Please keep us, me, up to date...if you meet any of your family, etc! Happy New Year!
Beautiful story! It's good to see you have the option, to do what you feel like best with your bio fam. Do what makes you happy i would say, take your time. I did a DNA test (MyHeritage) as well but for an other reason. Planning to do a second (Ancestry and then free upload 23&me), hoping to find family too. Good luck with your journey and thanks for sharing! Greetings from The Netherlands
I have SUCH a soft spot in my heart for Holland…er, the Netherlands. 💞Thank you for your kind comments. Let me know what your results are if you take more tests!
And if you're wondering about my Holland thing, I vlogged about it today! ruclips.net/video/S8CN9VnfZr4/видео.html
I have no idea how I stumbled upon your page but I’m glad I did. You are such a beautiful person! My family has done a 23 and me and have nothing exciting on our DNA. It was still nice to see where we came from for sure. My grandfather (has passed on) and he was unsure his genetic history. Anyways ..... our story isn’t as great as yours.
I have been following one of my friends (who’s adopted) journey in reaching out to his biological family. His adopted family are supportive. The adoptive family knows that Chris (my friend) loves them and that’s where his heart is. But he feels it’s important for everyone to know that he’s ok and in reaching out he’s gotten a lot of medical information about his family which is important.
I hope some of that made sense.
I really appreciate you sharing your wonderful story. I am so happy for your journey!
Third times the charm! Yes, I had a DNA test. It confirmed what I already knew but had no proof of. I told one of my uncles that I finally had proof, and he said, "You didn't need to have a DNA test. We already knew you were family." That was so sweet! Oh... and yes, it is difficult to be an adoptee and never have anyone look like you. The next sister after me looks so much like me that people have had a hard time figuring out which one is which; and our voices are almost identical - so much that our husbands can't tell us apart on the phone. (My kids don't look at all like me...)
This only recently popped up among videos to watch. I very much appreciate this lady's attitude and how she approached dealing with DNA results. She seems like a cool lady with a good supportive family. Best of wishes to her and to everyone on similar journeys of discovery.
No adoptions in my family, but we discovered my dad's dad was not his biological father!!!!
I'm adopted and I took multiple DNA tests to find out if I had DNA relatives. I DID find my biological mothers family. She passed 1 year before I found them. She umm... slept around a lot. The man she thought was my father... wasn't. So we are still trying to figure out who my father is. I was supposed to be Scottish/Irish/Native American with a bit of german. True? Not even CLOSE. I'm 92% Brittish, 5% Irish, and 1% Spain/Portugal, 1% Scandinavian. Umm... yeah. My birth mothers was 'creative.'
I was adopted and took the test to determine ethic origins. I found out I am Jewish (Cherrokee) on my maternal line. My father tested Polynesian and claims Sioux heritage but the line he claims is Sioux Nation Geographic tested that DNA 3 times (18 weeks) because they couldn't believe the results.
Sam, not sure how you spelled the name but I also have a Thomson relative from Wales. I haven't done the DNA yet. I just know that is the maiden name of my great grandma.
I just sent my DNA test a couple of weeks ago. My grandfather was adopted. He passed on years ago and spent his life not knowing anything about his birth parents. He really wanted to know. I'm going to try to solve this 90 year old mystery.
I traced both my & my husband's family trees back to 1500s &found out that one of my hubby's maternal ancestors married one of mine. Technically we are distantly related. My Mother in Law was NOT amused by that.
you have a strange MIL. From stories of my Great Grandparent (Fatherside) and Grandparent (motherside), i already know that im my uncle 2nd grade to myself xd
But at some point, there must be an overlap. There is just a limited amount of humans on earth.
It's actually more common than people realise, if we where to count all the people 18 plus generations ago, technically there isn't enough people to be alive so it is normal to see the same individual twice or even 4 times as based on the area, environment ect the gene pool maybe limited in certain areas such as islands
So tell her she shouldn't be werid by it as you share less than 5% DNA
I must say, I chuckled at that...I can imagine my mother in law's reaction as well ! Fortunately my husband and I have no ancestors in common!
I am 70 years old and just found half siblings.
Wow, would you like to share more! I hope it's been positive for you.
@@MidlifeCredo We are going to meet for the first time next month. We actually did an independent DNA swab test and it came back 99.9% half siblings. Been an interesting couple years. He has a full sister who hasn't accepted it yet. Probably because we are the same age. I'm five months older.
I was adopted...my stepdad was captured in the phillippines during WWII.
He was in the Bataan-Corregador death march.
Received a bronze star for his heroism in Hanawa Prisoner of war camp in Japan.
He met my mother in Florida...
And adopted me when I was three.
They were not going to tell me I was adopted...
My mother told my step-sister that I was adopted when I was 63 years old. It took me several years to find out my dad's name.
I looked up his name on find a grave and found my first cousin...
Via the comment section.
They bought my dna test. I am
73% British
16% Irish, Scottish
7% Native American and
1% Black.
I show approximately 1000 cousins.
I did not discover my actual birth certificate until I was 70.
Dad always told me that I did not have a birth certificate, so I used my baptismal certificate instead.
Your cousins are your family...and your adopted parents are too.
I finally met my blood relatives about 4 years ago...and I must say they are a great family to have.
The best part is, they knew I was born, but did not know what had happened to me...
So when I contacted my first cousin, she said..."we have been looking for you all of our lives!"
John
What a great family story, johnlp4!
My only regret is that my wife, Maryann, did not live long enough to see this day come to pass.
You girls are awesome, you are under thanked and underappreciated for all you do.
There is nothing under heaven than a good woman by your side.
You are the joy in your household.
And when you are gone, it is just an empty house.
The years we planned together, the times we shared, the happiness we felt, no longer fulfill our life.
You women make a man a faithful companion, and your love is forever...and you still stare at him when he is not looking don't you?
So thank you from the bottom of my heart for all you put up with, and for your contribution of the best years of a man's life.
John
Nothing better under heaven...
Sorry, forgot the word better...
😊
johnlp4 oh wow my dear friend was one of the soldiers that helped liberate the survivors from that camp. Many blessings to you.
My father was also in Bataan Corregidor! He also received a bronze star with valor for his heroism following the bombing of the Oryoko Maru hell-ship. He was in a POW camp in China, Cabanatuan iirc.
I certainly understand the "still processing" part! I was adopted, and not interested in finding my birth-mother except to tell her that I was alive and well, and to thank her for giving birth to me. But friends of my adoptive parents seemed to think searching was important, and encouraged me to look for my biological parents before it was too late. (Later I learned that they were afraid I'd married my brother, which was NOT true!) I didn't search until after my adoptive mom had died and my dad gave me some adoption papers that he had, but wasn't supposed to have been given. I was so young and still not ready, and my searching was half-hearted. When I was in my early 30's, I finally got serious and did my search. I found I had 10 siblings between "his," "hers" and "theirs." My birth-mother wouldn't tell any of her kids (except one that was sworn to secrecy) so when she passed away the one sister told all of the rest of the kids. They were initially excited but then most of them decided I should have stayed a secret. My older brother said "even if we had known about you, we wouldn't have looked for you. There were already too many kids, too many mouths to feed, and not enough love in the family." Sadly, I think that was very true. My birth-father's family, however, eagerly accepted me and has loved on me ever since. My one regret was that my adopted dad felt betrayed, even though he was the one who gave me the info that started my search. He never told me that he was upset, but he shared his true feelings with my cousin. I'm thankful to have found my birth-family. All of my adoptive family (except one adopted brother) is gone... grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins... and I'd have almost no one if it wasn't for my birth-father's side of the family. But as much as I love my birth-family, I am ever so blessed to have been given up for adoption and to have had the family that I did growing up.
I think they just want you to have the full story for yourself.
It sounds like your biological dad would have been a good one. 💕
Thank you. I assume he was, too, as well as my bio mom. 💞
WOW! I was wondering why a light and fluffy DNA test results video was going to end up a 29 minute video. And what a journey! I’m kind of honoured that I was included in such a personal discovery with you, as I’m sure a lot of other people were too. Thank you for sharing it with us! I hope it all works out well for you all.
Blue Bella, I absolutely appreciate that! Thank you! I'm surprised it became endlessly long, too. (And editing was a bear because…so much footage!) But it was just a drawn out experience! Thanks for your kind words. ☺️
Our stories are similar but totally unique. I was adopted as an infant, and I used Ancestry to find my ethnic background, and I knew there was a chance I’d find my biological relatives. I always felt complete. My family is my family. Upon receiving my results, I found my first cousin and sent him a message. He immediately wrote back saying he’d been hoping to hear from me one day, and he asked permission to tell my biological mother. She was just 17 when I was born, and that’s something I always knew. I always wanted to thank her for giving me a beautiful life and a wonderful family. Of course we began communicating. She’d had 3 sons and a daughter after me, different father than me. My half siblings have been kind and never rude about this. My biological father sadly passed before I could meet him, but he also had a son. That means I have, in total, 4 half brothers and 1 half sister. I’ve found 1st cousins locally. My maternal grandmother is living nearby. It’s been a whirlwind, and I can really relate to the feelings of not knowing what to do with ALL this information.
To be so easily accepted by a family I never knew is a blessing, but it’s also difficult to navigate. I’m lucky to feel no different about the family that raised me. That’s set in stone. That’s my family.
Meeting new relatives, though. That’s been amazing.
Wow, what a wonderful outcome from a genetic test! Lucky you!
i just found my sister threw ancestry as she started a family tree and it popped up on mine that relatives were on her tree too :) me and my sister are both adopted
I have two stories. I am not adopted and neither are my parents. They were teen parents born to teen parents. We've all been tested and didn't have any significant ethnicity surprises. However, one day a match came up as a 1st cousin match on my list. It was a bit shocking. I communicated with my match and while we found a common family surname it didn't really fit. We both just left it alone for about a year and I just assumed one of my relatives might have knocked up someone and we just didn't know about it. I picked up working on my tree and reconnected with the match. I also figured out how to determine if a match was on my mother's or father's side. My mom works on my tree with me and we figured it out it was on her side. We began to wonder if maybe our match didn't know she was adopted, etc... and out of the blue I had a moment of clarity and thought "what if it IS us?". I dug in and figured out that I had matches on each branch of our family tree but ONE. This one branch didn't seem to exist and in its place were names we didn't know. It was us. We nailed it down and determined that my mother's mother was where the tree veered. My grandmother's biological father was this woman's father making her my mom's "half aunt". We pretty much determined that this had to be true but really needed to test my grandmother to be certain. Last year I purchased a DNA kit for my grandparents. They essentially did it for me an my mom and our interest in history but didn't really care. My grandmother is ill, her parents are deceased and so is the biological father so we've opted not to share this information with her. She has 2 half-sisters. Our match was interested in knowing more but accepting of the fact that we won't tell her. Our match has a full sister that wants nothing to do with it which we accept. The 3 interested parties have met and had a great visit. It hasn't changed our lives in any measurable way but it makes parts of my mom and I make more sense knowing this information.
My 2nd case was a match who reached out to me on Ancestry.com wanting to know if I was related to a specific person. She'd been told all her life that she and her sister had the same father. They had done a DNA kit and determined that this was not true. So she was trying to determine if he was her father or her sister's father. As I explained how she should search she just made me her manager and asked me to look. Within about 2 hours I'd built a tree with her matches and isolated the man I believe is her father. She's meeting her new family (they are for sure family) this week and her possible new half-sibling has agreed to take a DNA test to confirm the match. The father is deceased and wasn't someone known for his stellar character but she is delighted with the family she's connected with so far.
Now I'm obsessed with helping others figure our their own mysteries. I may just become a genetic detective.
What a story!! Thank you for sharing, and what a funny and true recollection of thinking that it is of course not you who are the odd one out. So human, we always blame the others but of course someone has to be the one.
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Thank you for your story. I am 48 years old and just discovered 4 days ago I am adopted. My adopted parents are both deceased. I have applied for a pre-adoption birth certificate and I am seriously considering DNA testing. It's been a whirlwind of emotions and I'm still processing. Your raw emotional testimony is encouraging to me. Thank you so much for sharing. :)
I’ve known my birth family for 40 yrs now. It was a very good thing. My mom and dad (adopted) whom I loved dearly, got to know them too.
I think the step mother getting in touch and being so nice was really sweet, it goes to show that even though your 'biological' father was not in your life, he still loved and thought about you.
Omg I'm so jealous. I've thought about doing this, but was nervous. I too am adopted & every time I hear people talking about their family tree or biology I feel a little twinge. Yes, my family has a very long & well researched history, but even though they are 100% my family my brain still says to me "the tree is borrowed ". My daughter was a revelation to me. The first person in my life who shares a resemblance. I look at her & say, oh that's my nose & it's a surreal feeling. I'm not looking for another family; I adore the one I have. I hold no animus towards my birth parents who were only 14 & 17. In fact I'm extremely grateful to them for giving me a great life. It's just this missing puzzle piece of where do I come from. What's the story of their lives & those before them. Thank you so much for sharing this experience with us. It's certainly helped make a decision I have been battling for a long time.
I just wanna know why NOW everyone seems to think it's obvious I have German ancestry, when I have literally NEVER had ANYONE say that in my entire 54 years? 😂
I knew that's why you reminded me of my Mom! Also, you are only 2 months younger than her! We are very German lol!
they dreamt that you are.
The funny thing is before I got to the DNA part of the video showed I said you were gonna be high in German. You have a lot of the features
You live in the US don't you? Everyone's super mixed thereand ppl loosely categorize themselves by what continent they're from, I bet half the people commenting that its obvious are writing from actual Europe where they'd pick up on subtle regional differences.
- It's mostly the forehead shape, also possibly the lower face and hair texture, though these are less obvious.
You gave a very germanic jawbone - wide and strong. A feature to be proud of let me add.
I had a DNA test and my mind was blown by the results. My late dad had always said he was an orphan and I have always been curious what happened to his parents. He said his father was Spanish and his mother was Irish and Native American. It turns out my dad was NOT an orphan. He was a teen runaway and his mother was actually Filipino and he was raised in the Philippines not the US as he had said. The story of the missing brother has been passed on through the family and when I messaged a cousin I learned the truth about my dad. I will be meeting some of my dad's family for the first time in a couple of weeks. I am thrilled to know the truth and his family is thrilled to know that he lived a long life and had a family. I am nervous but excited to see where this goes from here.
My grandfather denied my mother since she was born and they also denied me. I took the DNA test and came up a match and i was contacted on ancestry wanting to know who i was because i don't use my real name on there. I then realized it was my grandfather's sister and also her daughter i had connected to. They are no longer denying me lol. I still don't know my grandfather for he still not wanting to be a part of our lives but it is his loss.
Wow, that's tough, Little Smokey. I know that's a real possibility for many of us. I'm glad you were able to connect to some and hope it's a positive experience for you!
You’re right, you are better off not having someone so toxic in your life. So sorry you have to deal with this sort of negativity. I hope you know that this is an indication of the type person he is and in no way reflects on you or your mother
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Your 1st sentence got the word "they". Who's "they"? Your grandfather AND your mother? Or your grandfather's side of family?
@@Mister_Ri_MFBMT my mother's father's side of the family
My wife has this on her Christmas list..should be interesting to see her lineage
Yes, do it! Let me know what you learn!
Thats why i did it, ended finding a half sibling I didn’t know about, Planing on meeting her.
No DNA test but found my birth family. I think the strangest part was seeing people who looked like me, shared similar habit and traits, and to find out medical information. Particularly satisfying was being able to tell my mom there was a reason I didn't eat lima beans (birth mother can't stand them either). It's good you are working through your thoughts. We have to make those decisions to be okay with whatever comes our way in the strange journey of finding birth family. You might consider writing a letter to your birth mom explaining a little about yourself and that you are okay if she can't meet with you, etc. Take your time with your thoughts and decisions. Best of luck.
S Wysocki my cousin was given up for adoption. I never believe he looks like his mom, but he looks exactly like our uncle. It’s like time traveling.
He’s a cool person.
I’m always bummed we didn’t know him as kids. It’s super cool to see him now.
@@heatherg1706 I look like my birth mother. I look most like my great grandmother. Birth mom went me a photo and people ask me when I had it taken. It creeped me out for a long time. LOL It's been a great deal of fun meeting and talking with everyone in my birth family.
Any advice or step to take to try and find mines
@@SeanSmith-nl4gs It depends on the state where you live and the state where you were adopted. First, and all the way through, have several talks with yourself about why you want to find them. What do you expect? What is they don't want to speak with you.? How do you feel towards them, etc. Tons of questions.
Next, find out your state's laws on adoptions and getting a copy of your original birth certificate. Some states, this is not so difficult. Others, it's very difficult. Were you an agency or a private (lawyer) adoption? If you were an agency baby then go and try to obtain your de-identified information from the agency. It usually tells a bit about your birth parents, and their families. No names anywhere. No addresses or other information that would identify them. Check to see if your birth mom has left a letter for you indicating whether she might want to meet. Leave a letter for either of your birth parents or other relatives indicating that you are open to meeting. The agency can help with those. If you are a private adoption, try to find out which law firm handled your adoption and whether they are still practicing.
Those are the beginning steps. You can google what to do in your particular state or what to do in the state where you were born and adopted. Let us know what you end up doing.
Also, most importantly, really figure out what you want from this search and any meeting that may happen. You have to be ready for any reaction from birth family. Don't go looking if you are trying to fill a "hole". or if you expect just to slip on into the family like you were always there. Be ready that even though your birth mom carried you, it won't feel like having a mother. She's not. I'm not telling you NOT to look, I just want you to be prepared. Best of luck.
@@swysocki3920 I wanna thank you so much and I will so follow your suggestions, and not looking for another family nor fill a hole I feel I am ready ... there are medical and nagging questions that I want answered but I already prepared myself for the worst
Your father was probably really upset your biological mother gave you up for adoption, and he never forgot about you. I think it is awesome that you are finding biological family, and if I were you, I would get to know them. Your Mother may have felt she did not have the means to take care of you, and was bitter about the divorce. I would have fun with meeting your biological family, and let your guard down. I hope you do an update of meeting your biological family.
Thank you for watching. I don't know their feelings in particular. Mostly I'm just enjoying a slow introduction. :)
We were all given up for a reason. Reasons we can't begin to understand as children, or even young adults. My bio-parents were actually married. I don't hate or blame either one for my adoption, as I was placed with the most wonderful family that gave me a life.
@@traciscott6700 so many yesses! The reason(s) never really mattered to me. It was a valid choice and I was loved and well taken care of. That's all that matters.
I have an adopted cousin who is from a Greek mother and an Italian father. I just deleted the rest of my post because my cousin might not know it all and people could trace who she is.
I can tell you that my heart ACHED for my son when he was taken from me. Now he wants nothing to do with me. THATS HURTSFUL!
Debbie E I’m so sorry about what you went through. Praying for your peace and healing ❤️
Your Mother & Father did such a great job raising you *that you already feel whole.* I think that's why you're OK with not needing further contact. *Bravo to you all!*
What a lovely comment. My parents were amazing. I have appreciated them more and more as I got older. I so miss them!
miss, you can never have too much family and people have the ability to love more than 2 parents
I'm adopted. I did Ancestry DNA. I found out I'm mainly British, Irish, Scottish, and German. I also found a full blooded brother!! We are three years apart in age. We finally met on Thanksgiving day this year.
That's lovely. Xxx
Im adopted. But i was adopted by a cruel and controlling man . His wife divorce him . I knew i was adopted and i knew my mothers name. I didn't look for her until i was 38 and married and had 1 son. I found her by accident. I made 1 comment threw out her name and found out a coworker was my mothers childhood friend. We have been talking since. Im 56 now. I finally found a family. The adopted parents used us as free labor. I feel blessed. God knew i needed a real family and gave it to me when i was old enough. Hope you enjoy your new family. I believe the more the merrier. We are all human. We grow all our lives. You may need to learn something from this family and God wants you to see this . Love you :)
Thank you for sharing your story. I am so happy you found what you needed! That is truly a blessing. 🤗
"Close family" is likely a half sibling
Are you referring to the Ancestry listing? I'll have to go back and look at those now that I have more info.
As a Dutch person I can tell you i thought you were German from the first frame. You have a very stereotypical German bone structure and tone to your hair and skin. And it is actually the Netherlands, calling it Holland is like calling the US Dakota...
Someone else said that about Germany, but, to be clear, this isn't my "real" hair color, it's my middle-aged hair color. 😂 THIS is my 👩🏻🦰 real hair color: instagram.com/p/Bl8l1ZeBxop/
As for the Holland bit, I KNOW, but I explained it more in yesterday's vlog. It's Holland to me. 🤷🏻♀️🇳🇱 Here is the spot: ruclips.net/video/S8CN9VnfZr4/видео.html
@T Ko oh, I never thought it was uniquely Irish. (Heck, I was cast as Fiona in Brigadoon and my hair gave me the casting edge (FOR ONCE IN MY LIFE!) and she's Scottish.) But I WANTED it to be Irish. 🍀 I even took Irish step dance classes to solidify my Irishness about 15 years ago. Didn't take, obviously! 😭
I’m of German descent as well and as soon as I saw her face I thought the same!
@@mariahrfordays1988 why did no one tell me this before, in all these years??? 😂
Midlife Credo haha! No clue but I’m sure you’re hearing it a lot now! My grandmother and I both have similar bone structure.
Still watching your video and I just want to say thank you for sharing your story! Looking forward to more updates and sending positivity and healing to you on this journey!
I had to speed things up. Watching you two spit was not fun.😁
💞 There are so many wonderful comments and questions here on the post AND sent privately, that I've gotten way behind in responding. I'm sorry. Next weeks' vlog is (instead of the one planned) going to be a response to as many comments/questions as I can! Thanks so so much for your kind words and support!
Can I say I love your heart. Your a beautiful person and I love how your handling everything. Do what feels right to you. Dont force anything...your amazing blessings over you always.
Thank you so much for the kind words. I appreciate it so much.
There are many redhaired people in Germany. The German according to German wikipedia it is about 4% and more in Northern-Germany. Ireland has between 6% and 10%.
I'm adopted and just bought my first kit. I'm excited and nervous at the same time. Curiosity killed the cat......
good luck with it
Let us know what you find out.
I just went through this and found my biological father and half sister and half brother. The brother and sister are still a little standoffish, but I have been talking with my father for the past 2 weeks, so it's been a positive experience for me. Good luck.
Curiosity killed the cat -- but satisfaction brought it back. ;-)
😂 I know! It was a very different experience from my husband's (who knew pretty much everything…). PLEASE let me know if you do it and what you find out!
I just happened upon your vlog and you are "spot on" in how you are handling your situation. I wish you the best!!! I'm 61 & have recently connected with an aunt on the maternal side. I let her take the lead--no pressure to meet. When we DID meet it was quite wonderful & I love her unconditionally!
Most Irish have dark hair,not red. Red hair is as likely to come from England,Germany, The Netherlands,and Scandinavia. It is not a specifically Celtic trait.
It's suspected red hair actually came from the Vikings, who invaded Ireland.
I'll take that! I've always wanted a Viking funeral (no kidding!), so I'll take Viking identity. 🙋🏼♀️(And I would have used a ginger emoji, if the stupid ginger emoji had OPTIONS…)
Highest percentage of red hair is in Scotland
That's a load of rubbish. The red hair comes from the Picts, the Cruithne, who were the first major people group to settle Ireland (1300 BC), then also colonised Highland Scotland.
Vikings are blond a lot too
17:07 Germans ARE cool…just sayin‘ 😁😊 All the best from Germany ❤️
I'm not surprised at all, you have a very german nose (retracted columella) and your features are very close to German American actress Marg Helgenberger.
Oh, my gosh. FUNNY story. When I was a newlywed (1985) I worked in a jewelry store. The owners used my wedding announcement in a display and people would walk by EVERY DAY, look at the photo and (not realizing it was of me and I was standing within earshot) say, "She looks just like Siobhan!"
After hearing that about 500 times, I finally asked one of them, "Who is this Siobhan?" (Thinking it was someone local.) I found out she was a character on Ryan's Hope-a soap opera. Sam and I actually watched an entire freaking episode of the stupid show (pre-internet, you know) just to see who this Siobhan was. But she wasn't on that episode.
A few years later, people starting stopping me to say, "You look like the hooker on China Beach." 😂Alrighty!
Well, so, yes. Marg Helgenberger in both cases. So if anyone can still see the resemblance I will HAPPILY accept that compliment! Thank you! 💞
Now people stop one of my daughters all the time because they think she's Taylor Swift. So…I guess we are just genetically doppelgängers. (And, appropriately, that's German.)
Here's the channel for my "Taylor Swift" if you're interested: ruclips.net/user/monicamooresmith
lol I was thinking the exact same thing when I first saw her.
Midlife Credo I definitely see the resemblance you are both very beautiful
Sweetie no one is going to replace your family, but adding more family is fantastic! Holy cow we found out that my husbands first cousin on his dad’s side and I are 8’th cousins! We found a half brother, and a maternal Aunt ! We are all very happy and even met our half brother. 😊👍🏻. I’d contact them.
I am adopted too. I did the acetary dna test close to two years ago. im English, Irish, Scottish, and German. I also found the best thing I could ever ask for. I found my younger full biological brother!!!! I knew about him. he never knew me. we met on thanksgiving last year. we love each other already.
Aww, she was looking for you. You were missed. Your dad shared that you exist with her. Beautiful.
I am happy for you. My sister discovered a first cousin we didn't know about. I had my sister tell our youngest cousin. his eldest sibling told their parent. He went crazy mad. My sister and I kind of keep in contact. I had asked our youngest cousin if anything new was happening with the connection. My Father and Mother leave me this horrendous scream fest phone message. We are to have NO contact with the found cousin. And.....NO contact with the cousins we grew up with ever. It is heartbreaking and upsetting. We, My sister and I want to get to know this "new" cousin. I'll be watching your follow ups on your exciting new family adventures!!!! Much love to you!
Aww, what a great husband to do this with you especially on camera.
So cute.
TRUTH! He loves me that much! 🥰
@@zeenasworld Thank you, too!
Thank you for your insightful handling of meeting/not meeting your birth mother. Many women who give children up for adoption, freely GIVE them to another family. They can't be in a relationship with that or any child or they wouldn't give them up for adoption. Most do that because they truly believe the child will have a better life with adoptive parents...a life they must believe they can't give a child at point in time. I have known several such women and honestly their fear was a knock on the door from a total stranger who calls them "mom." You are very insightful to allow your birth mother to make the choice to get in touch. And if she doesn't, it won't be her rejecting you. It will be because she is ONLY the woman who gave birth to you.....not your mother in any sense of that word.
Red hair in Great Britain comes from the Vikings. I'm adopted too and my parents had no problem with me finding my biological parents. You're not replacing your family just finding out where you come from.
When you were born, there was still a lot of stigmatism against babies being born out of wedlock.
I found out that I was adopted 4 years ago after having a suspicion my whole life. Soon after I found my birth mom, and right after found out I was pregnant. NOOOW is when I am mentally ready to do this and learn about my family, and hopefully who my bio dad is and his side of the family. So glad to watch your journey!
I am not adopted. I have known adopted people. My cousin adopted a child. I worked for about 15 years with the Voluntary Adoption Registry in Texas. I have seen all kinds of ways that a child might end up in the adoption system, most are good reasons, some are bad and some are very sad. I've seen people find family through the Registry, some find them other ways and, honestly, some should never find the bio family. I do think that adoptees should be given as much medical information as they can get. I remember talking to a biological mother who had developed a serious, and sometimes inherited, medical issue that wanted to have the information at least put in her file so that even if the child didn't want to contact her, the info would be there. I've seen open adoptions go horribly wrong, with the bio family interfering with the adoptive family and cases where the adoptive parents knew where the bio mother was so if their adult child wanted to meet her, it could be arranged. Adoption is such a complex thing.
Enjoyed this blog! I did ancestry and found out I had a cousin who was put up for adoption from my Mom's side. My Aunt, my Mom's brother's ex-wife (who we love way more than my uncle lol) does not know. My uncle passed away 23 years ago so we have no idea if he even knew he had a son. Both he and the woman he had an affair with were married and both stayed married and I guess, parted ways. Could have been a one night stand? We have no idea. My cousin's do now know but my Aunt is elderly and not in good health so we'll let her find this info out when she meets my uncle on the other side. He's got a lot of splaining to do Lucy. LOL
This makes me wanna do an dna test in hopes of finding an older brother of mine that was given up for adoption.
Tamora, please keep me updated if you learn anything. It's a crazy experience!
Wow! 11 siblings! Thats intense!
Riiight??? 😂 Definitely not what I was expecting!
I have an identical twin sister...she took the Ancestry test...she called me and told none of our relatives showed up as family. Because they weren’t our real family. My mother had an affair with her boss and conceived my sister and I! At first they didn’t believe us, until they took the Ancestry test too. My sister has met many of them. Definitely a life changer! It explains so much about our childhood...
I am SO far behind in responding-kind of overwhelmed!-but this is such a crazy story! Holy cow! But why wouldn't your MOTHER's relatives show up?
Midlife Credo She came from a very small family and most of them are deceased. She died when we were 10. We loved her for sure but they (her parents and siblings) were distant after she died. My biological father had a really fascinating family though!
Your story is really awesome too! I’m happy for you and your new family!
But nobody needed to know that! It was private business between your parents and you, there is no need to broadcast your mother's dishonour to the rest of the family.
tweetie pie everyone knew but us...they were terrible parents and they caused us a lot of pain.
A year ago a 23andMe DNA test confirmed a first cousin of mine who was adopted at birth. She discovered she has two brothers. It has been pleasant for all concerned.
What an interesting and surprising story. (There's so much click-bait silliness out there) I wanted to take a minute to commend you on the kind, thoughtful, and generous attitude you have about your birth mother. It was really inspirational to me.....you are as kind as gentle and lovely as your Father's second wife! (Did I get that right? LOL) You may not have discovered you're Irish but you've certainly discovered something much more important and meaningful. Blessings to you and your whole family..
This was such a kind comment. Thank you so much. I'll read this again when I get the next nasty comment telling me I'm full of hate! 😂 (I'm fine…this is RUclips, I get it.) But it's really nice to hear that someone understands my approach on the birth mother issue. I'll let her decide how to proceed.
If it were me I'd do it. It could be a massive blessing and even if it turns out to be "meh" you don't have to keep in touch with them.
Sorry, you'd do what? Not sure what you are referring to.
@@MidlifeCredo Contact the close family member(s) you discovered with your test.
@@jeffmorse645 oh, I have had that! I know the vid is soooo long, but I do get into that eventually. Super crazy experience. :)
I'm adopted but altho my adoptive parents never hid that fact from me they never told me the full story. I could tell they were being evasive and that some things didn't match up so from my early teens I knew I was going to try and find my biological family. I thought I'd do it at 18 straight away but from some odd reason I only found myself on the registry office at 21. I was there at 10am at 11.30 am I was knocking on my biological uncles door. I guess being from a small island had it's advantages. Now I now the full story and I understand the reasons from both my adoptive and my biological parents, I gained a sister and a nephew in the process and I felt relieved by finding all that information. What I can also say is that I was ready for anything, I was ready for the door to open wide or to have it slammed in my face. All that I needed and deserved was an explanation and that was all I was expecting, luckily I gained so much more. Your story has moved me I'll look up for updates. Wishing all the best x
I found out for 100% i have an older sister on my dads side idk how to take it now I'm a middle child and a little sister I've always been the big sister only daughter.
My sister-in-law was old enough to remember having older siblings when she was given up for adoption at 4 years old. What she didn't know is that they were looking for her and had been for many years. She specifically remembered an older brother dressed in a military uniform holding her. They were finally reunited and it turned out that she had 3 full brothers and 1 full sister. The sad part of the reunion was finding out why she was given up for adoption. Her biological parents (now both deceased) were deemed unfit by the state and unable to parent a child of four years old. Her siblings were also unable to gain custody of her for various reasons... age, financial situation, etc. It was a wonderful reunion and bittersweet at the same time. She was not as fortunate as some to receive good adoptive parents. They were cold and indifferent to her so she wonders what her life might have been like if they had allowed her to stay with her biological family.
@Kat-nt6fr - All my best to your sister-in-law.
I was adopted and found my half sisters, 1 through 23 and me. We recently met our biological mother. It's exactly as you described, sending that first message and not knowing what the response will be. Luckily, my sisters and I have bonded quickly and have so much in common. Love your story, thanks for sharing!!!!
I did the Ancestry DNA test and it came back twice saying I had to redo. Did a bit of research online, and found a suggestion: _IF_ you wear dentures, do the test in the morning _before_ applying any fixative. I followed that advice and voilà, success!
😂😁 I guess that's a bit like the French kissing problem. DO NOT introduce foreign substances to the DNA! 😅
I took the ancestry test almost two years ago. My results explained a lot about how I look at life. The results had some unanticipated side effects however. I was confronted with a first cousin, and worst of all a picture of the woman who had me. The presenters are right... you need to prepare yourself for whatever the test reveals.
I like watching these kinds of videos and i find it even more interesting when you find family that you didn't know about. I wasn't adopted i look so much like my father's family they couldn't deny me though they did try really hard to do so, and i act like them too, much to my mother and her family's dismay lool but i also have a lot of my mother's characteristics hard to deny me there too. my father died when i was three and his mother father and brother never talked about him around me never showed me pictures of him or them or their families i didn't know my grandmother went by her middle name until she died and i still can't remember first name. when my father's father died the family chose not to tell me he had died but a drunk ex husband of my father's brother's wife's sister
more people to love, and be loved by... congratulations and best wishes to all!
My experience has been great. I found out so much about my ancestry that I didn't know and ended up meeting cousins that I didn't know I had and were able to help me with information for my "tree". There were alot of surprises for me that left me just amazed. I got one for my wife as well and, not only is she the most Irish person I've ever met (99%) but again we met cousins that have helped her learn about her ancestors. I recommend it for everyone.
Don't get too excited! My Ancestry DNA results changed drastically after 2 months. I went from almost 50% something to only 2% of that. And other things were cut out completely. So you never know!
I’m adopted and didn’t find out until I was almost 30. I’m an only child who did not have a happy childhood. DNA testing wasn’t a thing back then and I was born in a sealed-records state. It took me 8 years of sleuthing to find my birthparents. Long story short, I met my father once and he died 2 years later. I don’t believe he ever really thought I was his (I didn’t look like him). I met my mother and 4 half-sisters and we tried for a while to have a relationship but it didn’t work out. I haven’t heard from them in about 20 years now. By the way, my adoptive parents died in the 80s.
Even though I knew who my birth parents were I went ahead and did both 23&Me and Ancestry when they came out. Lots of relatives! And the most important thing to me was that many of them were related to my birthfather. So, he really WAS my father and I just wish that DNA testing was a thing in 1990 so I could’ve proved it to him. At least I’m able to make a family tree now.
Thought I was Irish and German. Turns out, I’m Irish, Polish, Italian, Scandinavian and .07% Egyptian (!!!).
I'm adopted and I also love my family. I did the DNA tests and I found my bio-parents and siblings. I found my bio-dad (who didn't know about me) I only got to know him for a short time (10 months) before he passed away at the beginning of November to cancer. Anyway, I had the pleasure to meet him and there was an instant connection that I don't have with my parents. When I did my DNA tests I wasn't looking for them, I just wanted to know what I was because I heard all my life "what are you?" and it quite frankly drove me crazy. My results are I'm half UK/Welsh and half Basque (bio-dad came to the US to herd sheep in the 50's). Anyway, it was good. I was the third child of my bio-mom. You are absolutely right, for adoptees really need to understand how much their lives will change, especially finding bio-family. I've had a tough time. I wish you all the best.
JoLynn Wright so, it broke my heart to hear you say that there was a connection with the man who contributed to your birth, but that connection isn't there with your parents. I'm trying to understand, but I have a set of twins who know their mom. She is only in their lives enough to mess with them. But they compare us to her all the time. I chose them. They chose you. The most painful thing to hear is exactly what you said. I'm not hating on you or trying to cause trouble, but I just wanted to put that out there.
@@princesslisamarie7860 I'm sorry that my comment caused distress. I can see where you are coming from, however, I think our situations are a tad bit different. I had no birth parents in my life until just about a year ago (I'm 47), so I got to know them as an adult. I can assure you that children are smart and your children will figure out that their birth mom causes them more distress than comfort which they get from you, I'm sure, so you probably have nothing to fear.
The connection I had with bio-dad is different than the connection I have with my parents that's true. but different doesn't mean better, it just means different. He had the same eye disease I have, that's something we bonded over. My son at 17 looked identical to him at 17 - so much so they could be mistaken for twins. We don't look like ANYONE in our family, so that was also a welcomed thing to know.
There are three sides to adoption (bio parents, adoptive parents, and adoptees), and many on all three sides are hurting and experience trauma from the whole adoption process. It's important to remember that no two adoption stories are alike and respecting people's stories and their feelings about their stories are important. My parents actually took me to see my bio-dad and met him. They also adored him and were glad they got to meet him. They have no desire to meet my bio-mom and neither do I.
Keep being honest with your kiddos, they will know that their mom is the one that sits up with them when they are sick, comforts them when they are sad or in pain. The one that loves them unconditionally, and helps guide and teaches them to be amazing adults. Not the one that comes in and causes distress and chaos. I wish you and your family the brightest future and happy holidays.
JoLynn Wright wow thank you for that. I'm glad your story worked out for you. Thanks for sharing. It's just really tough to raise damaged kids. I love them so much and I hope one day they finally understand. They are 16 now and it's a tough age for anyone let alone with a messed up bio-mom. All I do is continue to love them, that is all i can do. Thanks for your encouragement.
I found out that I am 100% from my country of birth! I was very surprised as people told me I looked very ‘racially ambiguous’ (I don’t think so but that was the feedback lol)
Edit: for extra info I am Scottish!
This is really a challenge. Proud of you lovely for going through the journey!
Thank you. Is sure wasn't what I expected. :)
Hey from the Outer Banks of NC. I was also adopted and completely understand how you feel with the test. My family that adopted me IS my family. Finding people you are genetically related to is scary and exciting all at once.
Thank you, Traci! I guess it's hard for some people to understand. (But that's probably why so many people though being adopted was sooooo exotic.) I've always been adopted, so it's not weird to ME. 😂
You family will grow with the addition of your birth family. I was adopted and found in 1993. I am 99% Euopean. I was pleasantly surprised I have .1% Subsaharan Africa.
Long story short, you're a Celt love! That's where the red hair comes from. I'm the same. Lol
It isn't weird. I just met my half sister after 42 years. I had always wondered about my biological father but didn't pursue it. You are totally in the right and have rationalized this to death. What anyone else thinks is irrelevant. All the matters in the end is how it affects you. Whatever you decide, is the right choice for you.
What a journey of the heart ! I too am adopted. I did Ancestry DNA and 23 and me as well, at 60 years old !! I have been looking off and on since I turned 18, with the blessing of my family (adoptive). Nothing, until I did DNA testing ! I found my biological Father first. He knew nothing about me ! But since that time I've been blessed to meet him face to face and meet my 4 jalf-siblings, nieces and nephews. I'm the oldest and the sister next to me in age and I could be twins !! It's crazy! I now have an amazing relationship with my Poppa, now age 87, and his side of the family. Next I found my Mother's side. Long story short, my Grandmother was one of 15! Through contacting cousins and 2nd cousins, we together figured out and confirmed who my biological Mother was. She has passed. Last May I went to a family reunion from her side. Many accepted me right away, as they had been connected to my through DNA. My Aunt was not as accepting, until my great Aunt came to the table and finally revealed, I was indeed Donna's daughter, the deep family secret ! I have 2 half-siblings from her side.
Tears, love, shock etc flooded our gathering. Now, we are so close, building memories and strong relationships !! There is nothing like looking into the faces of people you look like. Nothing like hearing stories of the people that share your DNA. Nothing like talking to my Poppa every other day and hearing him say" I love you my daughter" and hearing my siblings say the same!
I know my Momma and Daddy are happy in heaven knowing this blessing has come to me.
I will also offer this, as far as the differences between the DNA tests go, Ancestry proved to be spot on to my breakdown of where my ancestors came from. My Poppa is 100% Norwegian. I came up 51% ! My Mother's side, England, Scotland and Wales. 49% match for me !! 23andMe's calculations are totally different, they do not have as large of a Data Base as Ancestry. Just a little FYI !
Good luck and many blessings as you travel this new journey. It is overwhelming at first, but embrace what you want, leave behind what you don't ! Hugs from Kansas!
Kris, what an amazing story. DNA testing has made such a difference! My full bio sister and I look so much alike that I fooled lifelong friends with a photo of her. 😂 And WOW you are the deep dark family secret!!! I take that as a badge of honor!! I'm also so happy that this has been a blessing to you overall. I do feel blessed for the way this is working so far. Everyone has been kind and respectful.
@@MidlifeCredo It is a badge of honor now to be the deep dark family secret. It took about 4 months for the truth to come out, but in the end I received nothing but open arms and love! I could not ask for more. Many hugs as you continue your journey ... Kristy
@@KrissiCreates and to you! Thank you for sharing your story with us!
Before DNA tests maybe the mother thought someone else was the father. A lot of people do not understand conception and dates.
@@melvawages7143 In my case my Mother was a deceiver, trying to trap my Father's best friend into getting with his friend and claiming I was his friends child !! Once his best friend refused her... I was no longer wanted ! She married her 3rd husband within 3 months of my birth !! All pieced together trough my Poppa, his best friend, 2 Aunts and my half-brother !! True story, not a book !! Lol!
Your story is so similar to mine in many ways. My adoption was technically illegal. (Long story I'll skip for now.) I am the oldest in my adopted family but the baby in my bio-family. My birth mother kept me a secret (5 babies in 6 years so I guess they were too young to remember). I always knew about my adoption and my birth mom's name, as well as the fact that I had older sibs. I chose not to look because I was respecting her decision. I didn't know that no one knew about me! My older sibs found me 23 years ago.
When my sibs found out about me by accident, we connected. My birth mother didn't want to acknowledge me and I was cool with it because, like you, I consider my adopted parents to be my REAL family. My birth mother refused to say the name of my birth father literally on her death bed. Two of my bio-sibs asked her while she was still alert enough to answer. She just turned away. Now, I'm especially close to my dad so it really didn't matter to me if I had the answer.
Fast forward 16 years from that time and I chose to do an Ancestry test to see my ethnic heritage more completely. Lo and behold, a first cousin showed up. I tried to fit him into the family tree I had (all bio-mom's side) but he wasn't there. I looked at his family tree and figured out his mother was my aunt and one of his 2 uncles had to be my bio-dad. I remember carrying my laptop in my hands and walking over to my husband with a stunned look on my face saying, "I think I just figured out who my bio-dad is".
Again, no one knew about my birth so I was expecting push back from this cousin. He contacted his mother (my bio-dad died in 1992) and asked if she knew anything. She confirmed which of the 2 brothers was my father and asked to call me. The next day, the phone rang. She said, "I have been thinking of you all these years!" I was weak in the knees and replied, "You mean you knew about me?" To my absolute SHOCK she replied, "Knew about you?! I was in the room when you were born!"
She's a lovely woman. Apparently I was my bio-dad's only child. Both my bio-parents were going through a divorce at the time so he could not keep me, though he desperately wanted to. He and my aunt talked about me often through the years.
Now- I have the best parents I could ever hope for. I love them dearly and I cannot imagine how different my life would have been had I stayed in that very dysfunctional setting. I have a Masters degree, I travel the world, I love my life as it is. Having my bio-sibs has been wonderful, if not a bit tricky at times. I mean, how do you buy a birthday card for a sib you didn't grow up with, right!? They had rough lives. I was blessed. But I love them so much it hurts to think of never having met them.
Give yourself time. You will find a middle road in the new relationships. You are who you are because of who raised you and scared away the monsters under your childhood bed! They are truly your parents. But having health information is precious.
OH-one more thing- having family that I look like was mind-blowing. My children and grandchildren do resemble me but to see family from my own generation and farther back whom I look like---AWESOME! Feel free to keep in touch with me as you continue your adventure. I've been through it. You can't get it wrong. Just be true to yourself first.
When I took my dna test with ancestry I definitely was surprised by the results! My dad always said “we were Vikings” he also told me we were German so I had assumed I was mostly German, and obviously I didn’t believe him about the Vikings, but when my results came back it turned out I’m only 14% German and I’m 35% Norwegian and 11% Swedish so technically he was right! 😂 my Norwegian DNA was the only one they could connect any of my actual family to tho like the rest yes it’s in my DNA, but my Norwegian they were actually able to get down to 2 specific places I had actual traceable family members from! I read more about it and literally it talks so much about the Vikings and how they expanded to many of the places that I also had in my results! It was such an exciting process to be able to connect each of the places that showed up back to my Norwegian DNA and everything lined up with the migration of the Vikings ⛵️
Just plain Jane, non-exotic, boring white!! hahaha lol I was the same & so wanted something exotic, but to no avail. I'm 99% European, primarily Scandinavian/Russian/Finnish/Eastern European/Irish/French (my fav surprise ;-) ). I am, however, 1% Caucasus though, so that's cool.
You are so lovely, and clearly very loved! Thank you for sharing your journey!!
What a kind comment. Thank you so much. I have a wonderful family!
Why do people show the spitting part ? nobody wants to see that gross🤷🏽♀️
Because it's gloriously horrid. And…wait…are you really suggesting that no one watches disgusting YT vids? 😂
Your not the only one. I just did the spit thing that for the test too , and I agree it was awful .
@@user-dl9lq4ez9x It took me FOREVER. Augh!
@@user-dl9lq4ez9x and let me know what you find out! So cool!
Uh, yes. Always fast forward those parts. I can't. But, I mean. If you want to show it do it. Just know some of us are skipping ahead :).
I had my test done and found a few surprises. I also did a video. I really want to have my parents tested but they don't want to. Once I can afford it I'd like to have my children tested too.
Sam: a man of few words but lotsa 'spit'😻. Doesn't seem too thrilled to be doing this but maybe that's just Sam.
I was not adopted, however I did do An ancestry DNA test a few years ago and I have gotten them for other family members. As a result of this I have been contacted many times by people who are adopted and they would like information about people in my family or to know how we are related. I have no problem in giving information out about people who are deceased in my family. I love learning about new people new cousins that I have. But not everyone is like that. There is a certain person who is my biological cousin but she was adopted. She was quite hesitant to get in contact with me because she has experienced closer relatives than I not wanting to know about her. I told her flat out that if somebody is my relative they are more than welcome to ask me questions I will answer them to the best of my ability. I understand the hesitancy that you have in wanting to learn about your biological family. And I understand how overwhelming that must be. I always tell people that tell me that they are considering doing one of these at home DNA test that they REALLY need to be prepared for what they are going to find out.
Thank you for the thoughtful response. I love your attitude AND how you realistically address the complexity of this. It's an interesting situation, for sure.
@@MidlifeCredo I have to say that the first few times when I got emails from adopted family members I wasn't sure how the rest of my family would react. But I've had this happened a few times now and my parents have both been very good at grasping the situation and letting me know that I can give out whatever information that I know. And many many times I have spoken about when I did my ancestry DNA test and when my dad and my mom did theirs. By the way I have been contacted by adoptees on both sides of my family. When I speak about this at work or with friends and they mention that they really want to get a DNA test done I do make sure to point out that their results may not be what they would like or what they were told. And this includes the fact that the person they thought was their parent may not be. in fact I was talking about this a few months back with my sister-in-law. And my sister-in-law had her DNA test done a few years ago also. But she didn't regularly check ancestry to see if she had any messages. As soon as I told her that I had a few people get in contact with me who were adopted she went on and checked her messages and she had messages from relatives who were adopted as well. Not only may you have something like that happen but I had something happen where I found out that half of my grandmother's family moved from Indiana right after the civil War and went to Georgia and then both branches of the family promptly forgot about each other. And we didn't reconnect until I took a DNA test and I asked my grandmother to take one. There will be surprises. Some of them are good, some perhaps not so much. I do appreciate your video. It was very interesting to kind of look at this on the other side, from another viewpoint.
Great video and wonderful story!! My DNA surprise was that the great grandmother that I assumed was Jewish (her name was Rosenbaum!) was apparently not Jewish. My mom has no Jewish on her DNA, nor do I, or any of my siblings. But, we are a little Norwegian and Swedish which were both surprises. I have (after 7 years of doing our framily tree) found the Swede in our family line! And, he is somewhat famous. His house in New York City was the first historical house in NYC--the Wycoff House. Super cool. Good luck with your family search. How very sad that your Bio-dad searched and searched for you to no avail. I am sure that he is looking down on you from Heaven.
It was disappointing. No surprises ... I'm 100% European. 99.5% Northern and .5% western European. My people have been here for over an century.
Yes it does come at you fast! I found my mother's side of biological family earlier this year from a DNA test. I am glad I found them but I was not ready for how much information and people it would involve. But I love my 2 sisters 😊.
The red hair could be from the Vikings who became more Irish than the Irish themselves! My dad was a redhead until his hair starting white not grey!
Through my DNA test it was found that my great grandfather had two other children that no one knew of. He had six with my great grandmother, one of which was my paternal grandfather. It was always rumored that he "liked the ladies
Holy cow. Now that's a skeleton in your closet! And sad for the kids who likely did't have a dad. 😢
One was adopted at birth and sounds like he was a good man and had a wonderful life, he spent decades looking for his bio family with no luck. His granddaughter put her DNA in after his passing and found his family. I would say overall it has been a good experience for everyone involved. It was through further research that we also found another DNA connection through my great grandfather (same one as before), this one was a little more complicated, it involved infidelity and family secrets. This other family found out through the DNA that the man they assumed was their grandfather....was not. But my great grandfather was their biological grandfather. I actually met one of the family members and we were able to figure out that both worked at the same company at the same time period.....and nine months later! Though initially shocking for everyone involved, I would say from my perspective it was also a good experience. My great grandmother divorced my great grandfather due to infidelity and it was somewhat of a joke that he "liked the ladies"...DNA has proven that to be true. But it was many decades ago in a culture that was completely different and oftentimes catered to the sins of men (not women).....sad, but true.
How can it be " not what you thought" if you were adopted??? Germania aren't necessarily German. I was told I am 3 % middle eastern...BIGGEST SURPRISE. But it changes based on all the information it receives. My mom gave up all my brothers except one who passed for adoption. We all have contact except the only closed adoption. We found him! Ancestry linked my two brothers and we are all close!!
You are so lucky! I am adopted as well. I have reunited with my biological mom and half sister. I have aunts and uncles that are my age group and first cousins that are my sons age group, ha I am still looking for my biological fathers family. I was told he had another family with kids. So, I am related by blood with several other people. I hope you cherish this oportunity
So glad you had such an amazing experience, Tommy! Good luck finding your bio dad's family, too! Thank you for sharing your story.