People who are saying this don’t understand that’s even worse, because they are luckily enough to have a healthy relationship with their mom. Experience abuse always bad. But when the abuse comes through the hands of your own mother it’s worse. People need to let it sink in, that her own mother abused her.
B-b-bu-but it-it-it's her mother! Her mother's supposed to be respected no matter what! /s Honestly, people really choose to morally highroad over the dumbest thing. Let's talk shit about the dead if they were shit in life! Dying is not a moral reset button that undos the bad in your life like some people think church does. If a person did shitty things but was a veteran, we shit on the shity things they did despite being a veteran. We should not give reprehensible people a break
@@crissoa I think that people say that comes from the simple fact that the dead can't defend themselves. Plus often enough people talk ill of actually good people that are dead
“Every child needs a parent, but not every parent deserves a child” Edit: ok so sorry if i this quote is overrated or sum but I mean it's a quote and thx for the likes
@@Floymin I can’t believe someone tried cramming pro-life/choice in this lol. You sound like a miserable person. Are you saying Jennette McCurdy should have been aborted?
Coming from someone who's mom was murdered when I was 11, the "no matter how they treat you they are still your mom" argument and the "once your mom is gone you'll regret saying those things" argument annoy me so much. I loved my mom, but no one should ever be forced into loving someone who makes you hate themself and deliberately harms them just because they're biologically related. One of my closest friends was assaulted and impregnated by her biological father at 11, and I'm not sure how or why anyone would expect her to still love him. You are not owed or entitled to a person's love just because they came out of you.
100% agree, my father sexually abused me, then years later he reached out to me, I talked to him, but he made me mad when he said, “I’m your father, you must love me.” I’m not the yelling, getting mad type person, but I exploded on him, i have never yelled like that in my entire life.
People sugarcoating abusers and getting angry when the victim actually expresses their true feelings about it is one of the reasons victims are scared to say anything.
This. This so much. It’s so exhausting and infuriating being expected to put your experiences and feelings into pretty, flowery language to make OTHER PEOPLE who were not the ones who experienced them more comfortable. No; the person who lived through it can feel however they want to feel about it and should be allowed to express themselves about it as truthfully and honestly as possible. Lying about it and playing it down only gives power to all abusers.
Yes, very true. Was called a "professional victim" by this dude harassing me over stuff I wrote about being abused. It's as if people don't want you to talk. They want to keep you quiet and it's generally those who are abusive trying to shut you up
@@samikobayashi3468 And to feel as if you have to defend yourself and prove what happened, being shamed for not getting out quickly enough or not dealing with it perfectly. It is exhausting, got that right- incredibly exhausting Sick of having to hurt myself for others comfort. They can't feel uncomfortable for a few minutes, when we have to feel that daily.
god, finally someone says it. i don't know why people (especially adults/elders) think they just automatically deserve respect for reaching a certain age or having a certain title. respect is like trust, you have to work to build it and you can lose it in an instant
People are mad bcz dead can't defend themselves, so it's a one sided story with no second person to verify it , we shouldn't believe someone just bcz they are celebrities, haven't you guy learned from amber Heard's case? There must evidences
I think because they assume children overreact because they have known the mom for longer so she has control of their first impressions because she could complain because mothers always have to do the first hard things which is give birth and then take care of a baby so then the children have to be in their moms debt but it will always be seen as just “oh you aren’t a spoiled brat- oh wait you asked for a toy once that was slightly expensive” so they have to earn it also at school children still have to work to get good grades and study while help taking care of a house there is a reason college student usually don’t live on their own also they are children so they are still learning about the world Edit: I didn’t mean to write that much
They don’t understand that one is not obligated to have bad people in their life. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend or a family member, when the person is malicious you have every right to cut ties with them and move on.
atp I'm gonna assume people who are offended have done the same things as Jennette's mom 🙄 because why tf would they be so offended otherwise? Most people won't care as both of them are strangers, some would be rightfully sad for Jennette as an abuse victim, and those who somehow side with the mom... well... perhaps they feel personally offended because they can relate to her
Not gonna lie. Was looking too. I think it’s probably not people in this comment section. Probably a-holes who didn’t do any research before attacking her for the book title. This video explains it so we have no reason to defend the mom.
My dad's family always tells me my abuser (my dad's mom) doesn't remember and I need to forgive her and leave it in the past. Fuck that. My siblings and I are throwing a party when that old hag dies and when her daughter who also abused me dies.
I mean, if someone is really glad their mom died, it says more about the mother than anything else. If your child is GLAD you died, you failed as a parent.
And when people disrespect their parents. Society is so quick to get on the kids but never ask WHY one might act that way towards their parents. If she is glad that her mother is dead that speaks volumes!
"Mothers give unconditional love" is the notion followed by the people who backlashed her, what a dreamworld they live in where parents can never be abusive no matter what the hell they do
It's bold and right up to the point, what's the problem about speaking out about an abuser? Doesn't matter whether she was her mother or not, she was an abusive person so what's the point in beating around the bush on the title. Plus, she literally had to shower without *privacy* ...
My mother left me and my brother at 17 she made our lives hell afterwards she we tried to move on, I’m very blunt about my distaste to her and it’s like she died. People get so worked up about me talking bad about, they said I should still give her respect but I’m sorry if you are as bad as my mum is you do not deserve my respect. I hope Jennette is healing through this.
This should give people empathy for her not judgement on the book SHE wrote. Sometimes others just don't get it. Love and hugs to every one. Stay safe❤
It’s a gross thing to say so as a human it’s offensive to hear and at least attention grabbing (also it’s why she took this title and the cover). We don’t know them - we don’t know any of these people. It’s just generally a gross thing to celebrate a parent’s death. This is why it piques interest and why we’re talking about it. If this helps.
@@MBXGill it’s not gross when that ‘parent’ physically and emotionally abused, violated, controlled, and took advantage of the person who wrote the book. context and circumstances matter. not all parents deserve to be loved.
@@ariannadshae One, for me it’s still gross. What her mother-also gross. The title isn’t I’m glad my emotionally and physically abusive mother is dead, right? It’s just mother. I’m not commenting on her her story (I don’t know the girl or her work). I’m just commenting on the title. It’s may be how she feels, but let’s be just as real- it was meant to cause a stir and grab attention for sales too. 🤷🏾♀️ no indictment on the girl, just sharing why the title might offend. It’s because it’s a generally a disturbing thing to think and say. Even if it’s true.
@@MBXGill Those people don't get a say in what she name her book. She's glad her mother died, and honestly if someone did what her mother did to me, I'll be glad to. It's her story, her life, her mother. If people cared that much then they should just build a time machineand stop what happened to her, therefore stopping her from even making a book.
@@raebear2074 it’s funny no one has a say, but everyone in this comment section has an opinion. Lol. This is my opinion. Super promise - I literally don’t even know this actress. I don’t really care, I only responded as a member of the public. Babe. We all have a say. Even if we disagree. You’re happy her mother died. I think saying that about anyone is gross because death in my faith is an enemy. I wish her mother was good to her. I’m hoping this thread ends soon. Lol. It’s sad to me so many people think celebrating death is cool no matter how wicked the person is. And her mother does sound like she was wicked. Just doesn’t sit well in my spirit.
“Sometimes, if you intensely dislike someone due to something, you just have to take comfort in the fact that one day, they will be dead." Sometimes the only way to heal from pain and suffering caused by someone close to you is their absence.
So let's get this straight: - HER mom - HER autobiography - HER feelings - HER story And people are offended because ? Death is inevitable, its not insult, we're ALL gonna die, her being glad her mom died means she's glad she's separated from her for good, pretty straight forward and fitting for a summary of her journey with her.
Everyone I’ve ever spoken to with abusive mom has said that others that find out that aren’t professionals get irrationally angry at the child for being abused. It’s wild.
@@namedrop721 I've noticed that as well! It seems like only professional and those who have dealt with it understand. But people who didn't grow up being abused can't wrap their head around it and just blame the victim and get mad at the victim. It's so backwards
@@namedrop721 They get angry like church members at altar boys who snitch on dirty priests. It’s seen as disrupting the status quo. We all have mothers, a lot of us were also raised religious. It’s an internal bias that these things are “holy/untouchable”.
People are making such good points. As a therapist I walk with people through the grief process. And many people are able to identify feelings of anger, sadness, guilt or hurt. But we don't often talk about feelings of relief when someone passes away. Considering some of the abuses mentioned the title is appropriate. People need to stop judging a book by its cover and read.
🤣🤣i love this one. 😂Each time someone ask s mother related questions and i give honest answer I'm not close to my mother they are like omg😠SHE IS YOUR MOTHER. 🤣
More like: "I have a great relationship with my kids! They never visit but that's just because of how busy they are I'm sure, this girl just doesn't understand parenting or respect!"
Her mom SAed her for years. She wouldn’t let her shower herself until she was 17 and only because her mom had gotten too sick to shower her at that point
@@lilyrose1581 Difficult to say tbh, but she definitely needs to be sent to a hospital because people who murder are definitely not okay. (Well to some extent, because some people murder to save their own lives but u get the idea)
If she changed the title "I'm Glad My Dad Died" people would surely assume her Dad Abused her with no fact-checking whatsoever. But because it's her Mom, people are angry and disappointed with Jennette.
Thats literally what my own mother says after I stand up to her when she's tries to gaslight me or hit me. "I spent 9 months carrying you. I think I know my own daughter." Obviously not if you don't acknowledge crap about me
It’s funny because none of us asked to be brought into this world, it was the decision of two other people that brought us all here and we had no choice in the matter. So them trying to make you feel bad for something they did on their own volition is fucking bullshit and they should be called out for it.
@@yungluke don’t get me wrong, what her mother did to her is awful and no daughter should have to go through that. But your statement is uncalled for. By your logic, most, if not the whole population of earth never asked to be brought into this world, yet they are. Life has its ups and downs. But being a negative Nancy, as well as questioning your purpose in life shouldn’t be encouraged, as you should know that this life is a test. In’shaa’allah you strive to be better, and may Allah subhanawatallah grant you happiness
I feel like this title is so on brand for her. Blunt, dry, dark humor. I haven’t read the book but I hope this sweet girl gets the help and healing she deserves.
"I was abused and hurt so much by my mother and I'm so glad she's gone" "HOW DARE YOU- THATS YOUR OWN MOTHER- DONT YOU KNOW HOW HARD SHE HAD TO blah blah blah"
Her mother is probably a professional Narcissist. They are wired different, I tell you. They will abuse you at home (physically & mentally), and then appear like angels to others. I've been isolated for so long I lost my desire to connect, turning into shut-in, because of the triangulation my parent did to me. But thankfully, my relatives discovered something was wrong and finally saw the mental scars that I've been reliving for 30 years, *finally* Narcissist, the most psychotic Narrator in the world.
best and most you can appreciate your mom about is the 9 months she carried you and beared you, you had no idea what is like! this new gen is fvcket up deep and no hope for them that u hold for SUCCESS
@@Dsuchong you owe nobody any appreciation. They chose to have you. You didn't choose to be born. That is the bare *minimum*. Hell it's not even caring about your child. It's just carrying them.
@@Dsuchong true, but her mother abused her in so many ways, and forced her to do things she didn’t want to do or felt really uncomfortable doing, and the bare minimum you can do for your child after birth is respect their privacy and to be kind and love them, and to not neglect them.
Sophie She wasn’t getting backlash though. People overwhelmingly have no problem condemning and holding accountable abusive women. Which is good. It’s only the lack of balance of having this same angry energy level for abusive men that is bad really. If Jennette had made that title about her abusive father, for example, _then_ she likely would have gotten a lot of backlash if the way that Meghan Markle has been publicly shamed for merely cutting off her abusive father is any indication of people’s gendered biases in these situations.
People always say that to me! My father was both emotionally and physically abusive,manipulative and narcissistic. He's one of the biggest source of my bad emotional health and for 15 years straight of abuse my mother finally got him a restraining order. Many people ask that question "but he is still your father" he is my biological father but that doesn't excuse his toxic and abusive behavior. I won't even care if something happens to him.
@@cherilynsarts8845 exactly same but swapped. my dad is angelic but my mom is so bad im lost for words..theres so much wrong with her.not just mentaly and physicaly,she also sexually assaulted me when im younger . but ppl always says "but shes your mother! have some respect to her" Umm fuck no . my mom also almost killed me.
@@cherilynsarts8845 same, my father was and still is abusive(mentally and physically) he doesn't always hit me, but threatens me a lot, yells at me, assumes I'm skipping school just because I was sick, everytime I'm sick, he always assumes it's "playing hookey" I literally had to get surgery on my knee because it wasn't in good condition, it was very badly knockkneeded and my dad didn't believe me. He is emotionally manipulative, and very much narcissist, and he loves spending money all the time, like he'll complain about money then he'll go and spend it like it's nothing, I mean like if he's home for one day, he HAS to go to several stores everywhere. And buy something, I'm tired of it, and he's severely hypocritical, he's a total hypocrite, I'm currently suffering from anxiety, depression and PTSD, I'm going to see a pyschatrist, it's not all because of him, but some are because of him, and he would rub my back, make me sit on his lap, sometimes touch me in certain areas, so I don't know if that's sexual assault or what, but I was also a sexual assault victim at 7. I absolutely hate my father, I hate him. Yet if I tell people that, they'll get so angry like "but he's your father" or "have some respect for him"
So in iCarly she has a toxic relationship with her mom.. Lowkey cant help but think that's intentional by producers cuz she would play the role well. Literally her home life
@@soyeonshin6486 it means “dead to them “ . Where They do not have contact in anyway, they do not see each other, they do not speak to each other, they are completely cut off where they are basically dead to them.
I know exactly how she feels my mother was so nasty to me calling me names like fat and trash wasn’t even the half of it. She tried to literally kill me on 3 separate occasions. I wish I could say the same but my mom is still alive and there’s no relationship there. So I understand completely how Jeanette feels.
"Well MY parent was nice, so her saying HERS wasn't is offensive to me!" Get over yourself, her mom was an abusive piece of trash, she's allowed to be happy that she's free.
My parents were almost as bad as hers and let me tell you that kind of hate leads to a very dark place I can promise you that in the end it is not worth I'm not seeing that she is wrong for feeling that way towards her but that pain, that anger is not something you want to hold onto
@@reyis_here945 I agree however it’s not our place to tell her how to heal or react to her abuser being dead. I’m sure she’s not gonna hold onto the anger forever but expressing all your feelings and coming to terms with what happened to you is a big part of the healing process.
I just don’t understand these bad mothers, I guess because my mama was amazing, and I miss her so much Rip mama So grateful I had a beautiful mama So sorry y’all had awful mommies, dang that’s terrible, wishing y’all well, just forgive and don’t be like them! God bless One love ❤️
@@reyis_here945 I disagree tbh. My bio parents were abusive and narcissistic as hell, and I was definitely glad and relieved when my father passed away. It meant I no longer had to worry about him showing up my door drunk as hell at 3 a.m., or beating the hell out of my mother and younger sister, or calling me 16 times in 1 hour trying to get money off of me. Being glad that someone is permanently out of your life and unable to hurt those that you love is not always a bad thing. And it is not always about holding on to hate- for many of us, it's about celebrating the freedom that comes along with that. Sure, feeling such a way CAN lead down a dark path. But it doesn't inherently.
@@reyis_here945 being glad someone is dead is not the same as hate. You know who fed me the very line you used about hate leading to a dark place? One of my abusers. Don't minimize someone's feelings because you assume it's hate. That's really just a tool an abuser uses in an attempt to regain some semblance of control over the victim.
The people in the comments saying Jeanette is disgusting for her book title but not saying anything about all the gross things her mother/Dan Schneider did… it’s pretty telling they don’t gaf about kids
Becauses shes exposing her abuse from her mother and older generations don’t like being called out so they brainwashed younger generations into thinking they have to respect all older people as authority. Respect is supposed to be a mutual deal but parents don’t teach that.
I can't with people. Some people are glad their parents are dead and some are super heartbroken just cause someone is not heartbroken doesn't mean they are heartless or that they need to feel what everyone else is supposed to feel when their parents die. My mom died too and I would never tell someone to feel sad theirs is dead either. Everyone is different and family does not define us as people.
If the book was titled "I'm glad my Dad Died" about him sexually assaulted his child and dying. There would be a lot less controversy. We've sanctified mothers too much.
Right everyone would be like yesss he’s trash go queen! Yet since it’s a female being the abuser everyone’s saying she still deserves some respect. Like nah if u can completely trash a male abuser u can do the same to a female
@@notorious.a.r.i. like look at the Johnny depp case i still see people basically trying to make amber more of the victim than Johnny by saying “they’re both abusive he does drugs blah blah” when no he wasn’t abusive and if it was flipped people would whine “misogynistic and victim blaming”
@@notorious.a.r.i. right like I don’t give af if he does drugs and drinks and him acting angry over text cuz of her actions I’d do it too and if amber was the one doing it everyone would defend it
You have to come from such a background of privilege to find an issue with Jeanette being happy that her abuser (who happened to be her mother) died. Like who are you to say what anyone is supposed to feel about that? (I'm autistic and idk how to talk, this is in agreement with BRV, not at them.)
@Edy exactly!! Im lucky that my relationship with my mum isn't horrible, yes it has flaws but i still would see it as healthy. I dont love and respect her just because she's my mum and she gave birth to me, I love and respect her because she acknowledged her responsibility and gave me a good life for a good few years
naw .let her make money of that abuse. she deserves it .let her redeem that time of pain in anyway she knows how. it's totally fair . sorry to say but her mom won't turn over in her grave nor will she have a change of heart because she's not here. but we still have the chance to change and make a better life. I don't consider this revenge but redemption
My dad died 1 and 1/2 years ago. Although I wouldn’t say “I’m glad my dad died”, I will say I’m relieved that my dad died. I can completely understand how she feels.
My dad is still alive but covid gave my family a few years experiencing more or less what it would be like without him. I don’t want to get into details but the mental health of everyone had improved drastically during that time. But it’s amazing how in just a week back with him at least half of it got torn down if not even more so. So I’m ngl I also understand the feeling. I’m not sure if I would be glad my dad died but I would be glad if he disappeared permanently from our lives… preferably living as miserably as he made us. :)
@@hohocho8961 Wow, isn’t that something?! My dad was pretty much a monster to me and my 8 siblings. I honestly don’t know how we survived him, especially my mom. I’m relieved he can no longer hurt us emotionally, financially, spiritually, and mentally. We can finally begin our healing process. I’m still messed up which is why I continue to see my therapist.
I would name my book the same if I went through what she went through. It’s crazy that someone who played a funny and brave character had to suffer behind the scenes. As a fan of her I pray she heals and is happy in her life from here on out ❤️
“B-but that’s your mom! You can’t hate her!!😡” Yea you can. Just like friends, relationships, strangers, AND even parents (or any family) can be abusive. You shouldn’t have to “excuse” family members If they treat you poorly; just like how you can drop toxic relationships with people, you can drop toxic family members. Good for her tbh! ❤️
@@Akirostar6288 it’s a controversial statement, but if that’s how she feels (along with other abuse victims) then who are we to judge how she feels? Imo
When the dad is abusive: "omg throw him in jail and throw the key away, omg such a terrible person omg" When the mom is abusive: "b-but you can't hate her, she's your mom!!!11 canceled!!! 😡😡🤬🤬"
I support her and those innocent children who suffered from any kind of abuse...good luck on your new journey YOU can stop this sick cycle... children SPEAK UP..#ProtectOurChildren💙♥️
I was always taught to respect your elders. HOWEVER, religiously (I’m a Muslim) elders and parents should ALWAYS be kind to their children and just those younger than them in general. If both are respectful/kind to each other, then the line kinda blurs and they become the same thing.
I mean, good for her. I’m so fucking tired of people telling people to “take the high ground” or “be the better person” or whatever like we’re not allowed to be mad and it be valid/justified. Edit: I never said that you, if you are a victim/survivor, do not have the right to do what you feel is best for you...what I am saying is, this toxic positivity has got to stop. People need to stop protecting abusers and rapists. I am allowed to do with my emotions as I please (toward my abusers) regardless of what these people believe I should or shouldn't do as a victim/survivor myself. If you are not someone who's endured these types of situations, I fail to see how you think you're valid in telling victims/survivors how to process their emotions. As for the Christians that come across this, including the rude ass one replying...I don't believe in god and you telling me to will not convince me to suddenly do it. The audacity you have to force your religion onto me and tell me that something is severely wrong with me because I refuse to protect/spare abusers...is seriously fucked up of you. Take your god and shove it up your ass...this thread had nothing to do with religion so idk why you're talking about it. I don't care about eternal damnation, it's a fear-mongering manipulative tactic, and I believed it as a kid, but alas I grew up...that might be something you need to do. Of course, if you're a respectful Christian, you can disregard my response because you're not the issue here...I'm sure you can tell who it is.
Forreal! People who constantly insist on the high road without understanding any context are lucky. Absolutely no concept of trauma so they force a bullshit Disney way of thinking on victims as if it’s helpful.
@@mx.viscera2247 Honestly, I feel like a lot of them are abusers themselves and don't want to have to see our pain. It always ends up being the worst people that expect us to defang ourselves for their comfort ):
fr, if someone non accidentally and irreparably dammaged your body and ruined your life, you wouldnt expect them to forgive that person. why is it so different with our parents and our mental and emotional health. they still hurt us. we were children. we were helpless. they knew better.
She is taking the high ground cause her abusive parent is below it. There is no room for mercy on that “mother.” SA’ing someone let alone her own child, inexcusable.
Whats even more messed up is how on iCarly, they made Sam’s mother crazy & abusive. They also forced Sam’s character to obsess over food, despite Jenette struggling with an ED. Nickelodeon was deliberately mocking Jenette’s problems while making a profit of of them. So sick.
She gets backlash for it because its her mother, not father, cannot say anything bad about a woman, only a man, 100% guarantee you guys that if it was her father instead of her mother, she would get 0 backlash for it.
i stand with her 100% as an emotional abuse victim of my parents myself. “that’s her mother” well you are the CHILD they’re supposed to take care of. not inflict wishes of s*icide upon.
It's usually the people who have good relationships with their parents who complain about these things. Just shut up. There's so many people who are traumatized by their parents or caretakers and it's so freeing when they're either gone or out of your life. I love this for her.
@@tanya292 exactly. Like, theyre mad at her for the title but they're not mad about her own mother SA ing her? Encouraging an ED? Treating her own child as an object?
I agree so much!! I had room mate before who can't grasp my story of my father being a jerk.. And Alas!! She has a great relationship with her father... Like girl?? How F dumb are you to compare your father to mine??? And she says she has a bad relationship with her mother.. The hypocrisy!!
It's sad to hear that she was pressured that badly, and treated that way as a child. As Miranda said, "You don't expect things like that from the person in the room who's making everyone laugh". Jennette deserves to do what doesn't restrict her or make her unhappy. She still is gifted in making others laugh, worldwide including. That's shown through her writing a book, to still reach others, inform them, but still be hysterical about it. I would say to her Be yourself, and enjoy yourself. You're a gift to anyone and everyone you show that to. And I'm not trying to say that publicly, but in your personal life. Be happy to be you
In a interview she mentioned how child stars are suppose to get 10% of the money in a separate account but she stated that she has never seen the money from that account
did you know, Jennette mentioned that her mother would tell her that she’s “too aware” of Jennette being raped or sexually abused, and even though she felt so uncomfortable, she just lets it by because her mother would get abusive.
The name does 𝒔𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 bad but after you hear what it's about it's honestly an appropriate way to get her message across. Sad, she always seemed so happy and always the first to crack a joke on Disney
"Y'know my mom who psychologically, physically and sexually abused me? Who pressured me into keep the family afloat as a child, putting me into the position of sole provider instead of being one herself as my parent? Yeah, I'm happy she's not around to abuse me anymore because she's dead" "Well, that's just rude!" - Idiot
As someone who’s actually waiting for my abusive mom to die, I loved her honesty. There’s nothing wrong with absolutely hating and resenting your abuser no matter what your relationship is to them. Most people who are mad about this book have probably never experienced abuse (or maybe they have and they’re in denial about it.)
@@ILAKHALIDENM it's fucked up that so many people feel this way but I relate. I know the world will have less suffering once that family member is no longer with us. All Thier children have cut contact already, I'm thankful of that.
Or because they didn't read and jumped to conclusions based on the cover. Also, for many people, their moms are their only source of comfort in abusive households or bad situations. The bad reaction to the thought doesn't necesarily means they didn't experience abuse or are in denial. But it doesn't justify being mean to people who didn't had abusive Mother.
@@kiriki4558 a lot of people who have never been abused will attack people for talking bad about their abusive parents. Calling a person out for doing this isn’t “being mean to someone because they didn’t have an abusive mother”
There's nobody more than a parent, especially a mom, that a child wants to love. If they hate you enough to be happy you died... you messed up...the kid didn't come out of you thinking you suck.
My grandfather was a chronic alcoholic, abusive to my grandmother, his grandkids including me, and a burden to his own kids. When he died, I went to the funeral but did not shed one tear. All I felt was relief that he was finally no more.
@@edalbyek6060 they’re jumping to conclusions, these people just love to be negative about things they can’t even take one moment to educate themselves on.
@@royalprince5696, People should be more mad when children can’t defend themselves from physical abuse instead of when the facilitators of child abuse can’t speak up to diminish the words of the victim.
@@Xavier_the_Boxing_Nerd i never said children shouldn't defend themselves, I'm talking about accusing a deceased parent, I'm talking about giving a chance to the accused to defend herself, how can you hate somebody without hearing their side? Has she provided evidence? Are we doing the same mistake we did with amber Heard? Believing her without seeing the evidence?
She is helping so many out there with abusive mothers. I'm glad she was able to find peace and that she is telling her story so others in the same situation don't feel so alone.
As someone who recently got out of an abusive mother child relationship, I agree. I first heard about alot of this year's ago from some interview she did, and it helped me realize she went through what I was going through, I wasn't alone and I COULD get out. It took 4 years but here I am, not ok but safe.
Riiiight I'm like okay and? You didn't buy it to read it but took to time to read the pic of the memoir and all of a sudden got an opinion on something you'll never understand I don't give a shit that much about my grandmother passing a week before Christmas last year because she was an innocent kind God worshipping soul but was racist to my mother and I for being a lighter skin tone than her (we're all black). She was a terrible grandmother/person to me and a horrible person/mother to my dad and would've aborted him if she had the money to
It angers me so much how moms get a pass for abuse for “being a mom”. Abuse is abuse, and not addressing it will only damage the child and in some cases it’s permanent. I went through something similar during childhood, and only when I acknowledged that my mom really was the problem could I take steps towards healing
@@craigime right people still try to make amber more of a victim than Johnny by saying they’re both bad and abusive yet if it was flipped it’s “misogynistic and victim blaming” just say u let women get away with abuse lmao
my mom had a number of issues that she took out on me, one of our last encounters was her choking me & yanking my hair from my scalp.....i got out of that situation & now i live in a safe place with my roomate
@@kinda_cold_in_the_closet Just trying to survive at this point. What I experienced never really leaves. I just have to try and have it not take over my life. 🙂
I don’t understand how people could get upset at that. Like “no you’re not allowed to have a bad relationship with your mother. We’ve decided that you have to like your mother just because”
Some people pretend that bad mothers don't exist past, present or future I guess the names of Dee Dee Blanchard,Theresa Knorr, Katherine Knight, Casey Anthony, Louise Turpin,Belle Gunness, Kate "Ma" Barker,Mary Anne Cotton and Diane Downs means nothing to them
Judging by Jeanette's latest pictures. I can see she's still in the practice of calorie counting. Enjoying the money it helped her achieve. Thanks Mom for showing me the way, is what her memoir should be called.
That poor woman went through hell because of her mother. And, unfortunately Dan Schneider just made it worse. I mean, I like a cute pair of feet as much as the next guy but there's no reason to be creepy about it. Dan seem to have an obsession about the whole thing I bet there's going to be a big ass party when he dies, all those kids he made feel uncomfortable, I'm sure he'll get what he's got coming to him.
"But that's her own mother!" Yeah, and that's her own daughter. No child should have to go through that.
Facts 👍
People who are saying this don’t understand that’s even worse, because they are luckily enough to have a healthy relationship with their mom. Experience abuse always bad. But when the abuse comes through the hands of your own mother it’s worse. People need to let it sink in, that her own mother abused her.
if that aint the fucking truth
@@liquo2 truee!!!
Saying that her mother can do all that just because it’s her mother is like saying a pedophile can Harass kids just because he’s human.
It’s always “wow how could someone talk so badly about their abuser?!” And never “why were they abused” I swear
Right?! So frustrating
B-b-bu-but it-it-it's her mother! Her mother's supposed to be respected no matter what! /s
Honestly, people really choose to morally highroad over the dumbest thing. Let's talk shit about the dead if they were shit in life! Dying is not a moral reset button that undos the bad in your life like some people think church does. If a person did shitty things but was a veteran, we shit on the shity things they did despite being a veteran.
We should not give reprehensible people a break
@@anothercub6958 true. I hate the whole “don’t speak ill of the dead” bullshit. Are you just a saint automatically when you die?
@@crissoa Exactly!!
@@crissoa I think that people say that comes from the simple fact that the dead can't defend themselves.
Plus often enough people talk ill of actually good people that are dead
“Every child needs a parent, but not every parent deserves a child”
Edit: ok so sorry if i this quote is overrated or sum but I mean it's a quote and thx for the likes
This is one of the many consequences that pro-life Karens completely ignore.
@@Floymin I can’t believe someone tried cramming pro-life/choice in this lol. You sound like a miserable person. Are you saying Jennette McCurdy should have been aborted?
Great post
@@Floymin nothing to do with abortion.
@@dustinnukem5458 The source of the quote may not, but the quote itself could apply to forcing full-term birth on unfit parents who abuse children.
Coming from someone who's mom was murdered when I was 11, the "no matter how they treat you they are still your mom" argument and the "once your mom is gone you'll regret saying those things" argument annoy me so much. I loved my mom, but no one should ever be forced into loving someone who makes you hate themself and deliberately harms them just because they're biologically related. One of my closest friends was assaulted and impregnated by her biological father at 11, and I'm not sure how or why anyone would expect her to still love him. You are not owed or entitled to a person's love just because they came out of you.
100% agree, my father sexually abused me, then years later he reached out to me, I talked to him, but he made me mad when he said, “I’m your father, you must love me.” I’m not the yelling, getting mad type person, but I exploded on him, i have never yelled like that in my entire life.
I’m really sorry for what happened to your mother and your friend, that’s awful. I hope you all get the safety and closure you need.
Thank you this is what I was was talking about earlier at least u understand
thats so terrible i hope your ok :(
@@princesssmileyface91 he deserved that and more.
People sugarcoating abusers and getting angry when the victim actually expresses their true feelings about it is one of the reasons victims are scared to say anything.
This. This so much. It’s so exhausting and infuriating being expected to put your experiences and feelings into pretty, flowery language to make OTHER PEOPLE who were not the ones who experienced them more comfortable. No; the person who lived through it can feel however they want to feel about it and should be allowed to express themselves about it as truthfully and honestly as possible. Lying about it and playing it down only gives power to all abusers.
Yes, very true. Was called a "professional victim" by this dude harassing me over stuff I wrote about being abused. It's as if people don't want you to talk. They want to keep you quiet and it's generally those who are abusive trying to shut you up
@@samikobayashi3468 And to feel as if you have to defend yourself and prove what happened, being shamed for not getting out quickly enough or not dealing with it perfectly. It is exhausting, got that right- incredibly exhausting
Sick of having to hurt myself for others comfort. They can't feel uncomfortable for a few minutes, when we have to feel that daily.
“W-well… BEING GLAD ABOUT THE DEATH OF YOUR MOTHER IS CRUEL!!” -Some entitled dumbass
☝️
This screams “You should appreciate your parents!” No you honor your parents if they’re worth honoring.
god, finally someone says it. i don't know why people (especially adults/elders) think they just automatically deserve respect for reaching a certain age or having a certain title. respect is like trust, you have to work to build it and you can lose it in an instant
@@bulgeun-wihyeob fr
It’s always the ones that grew up being treated like royalty by their parents they’ll never understand
@@bulgeun-wihyeob EXACTLY!! FINALLY
People are mad bcz dead can't defend themselves, so it's a one sided story with no second person to verify it , we shouldn't believe someone just bcz they are celebrities, haven't you guy learned from amber Heard's case? There must evidences
She has every right to say what she wants about her mother. Its HER experience with an abusive parent who exploited her.
Fr
For real. I think anyone who grew up with an abusive parent would want them today
“That’s her mother!”
Yeah, and usually, if a child has that negative of a view on their parent, you know that parent utterly failed at their job.
Word 💯
Why do people always say: “but she’s still your mom” but never: “but she’s still your child”
Agreed!!!
I think because they assume children overreact because they have known the mom for longer so she has control of their first impressions because she could complain because mothers always have to do the first hard things which is give birth and then take care of a baby so then the children have to be in their moms debt but it will always be seen as just “oh you aren’t a spoiled brat- oh wait you asked for a toy once that was slightly expensive” so they have to earn it also at school children still have to work to get good grades and study while help taking care of a house there is a reason college student usually don’t live on their own also they are children so they are still learning about the world
Edit: I didn’t mean to write that much
@@Portahooty hooty spitting facts
They don’t understand that one is not obligated to have bad people in their life. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend or a family member, when the person is malicious you have every right to cut ties with them and move on.
atp I'm gonna assume people who are offended have done the same things as Jennette's mom 🙄 because why tf would they be so offended otherwise? Most people won't care as both of them are strangers, some would be rightfully sad for Jennette as an abuse victim, and those who somehow side with the mom... well... perhaps they feel personally offended because they can relate to her
“Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.”
Ed Gein, Jeffrey Dahmer, Ted Bundy, Adolf Hitler in just naming a few off the top of my head
@@robbiekop7 is this nonsense in support or dispute with OP?
@@ggmann13 the quote is not every parent deserves a child. He replies with examples of awful people that were parents. How are you confused?
@@TreySarver oh cuz I didn't know if they were parents or children they were talking about. All of those people were also children afterall.
So true
Everyone: stop defending her mom
Me: looking for people defending her
Not gonna lie. Was looking too. I think it’s probably not people in this comment section. Probably a-holes who didn’t do any research before attacking her for the book title. This video explains it so we have no reason to defend the mom.
The people defending the mother aren’t smart enough to use RUclips. They’re on different social media apps.
Go on twitter and you are going to find them
They're probably all over Twitter dear.
But why tho?
I always thought The hate she had for her mom playing as Sam on iCarly felt a little too real
Same. I always thought her acting was on point, but, like, TOO on point, because I felt the exact same way about my then stepmother.
lmao i love that, and if anyone says "she was still her mom", well she was her abuser as well
My dad's family always tells me my abuser (my dad's mom) doesn't remember and I need to forgive her and leave it in the past. Fuck that. My siblings and I are throwing a party when that old hag dies and when her daughter who also abused me dies.
KSJSKSJKSJS EVERYTHING BARBIE PINK AND THE NAME
She's amazing and i hope that she gets better now that the bitch is 5ft under
I hate it when people say "she's still your mom!" It disregards the abuse the same way my mom did every day.
Omg yes. People are so naive and moronic.
Ong my mum abused me and I heard ppl say that to me every time I mention the stuff she did to me 🤦🏽♀️
I mean, if someone is really glad their mom died, it says more about the mother than anything else. If your child is GLAD you died, you failed as a parent.
Exactly!!!!
And when people disrespect their parents. Society is so quick to get on the kids but never ask WHY one might act that way towards their parents. If she is glad that her mother is dead that speaks volumes!
Yeah cuz there aren't trashy kids
her mother didn't failed as a parent. she failed as a human being.
@@craigime you missed the point
"Mothers give unconditional love" is the notion followed by the people who backlashed her, what a dreamworld they live in where parents can never be abusive no matter what the hell they do
If anyone genuinely believes that (what you quoted) just point them to the case of Caylee Anthony
Some people can't imagine having a toxic mother. It's worse than having an absent father.
It's bold and right up to the point, what's the problem about speaking out about an abuser? Doesn't matter whether she was her mother or not, she was an abusive person so what's the point in beating around the bush on the title. Plus, she literally had to shower without *privacy* ...
Agree.
yeah, I don’t get why people are so upset about this. . it’s disgusting.
My mother left me and my brother at 17 she made our lives hell afterwards she we tried to move on, I’m very blunt about my distaste to her and it’s like she died. People get so worked up about me talking bad about, they said I should still give her respect but I’m sorry if you are as bad as my mum is you do not deserve my respect. I hope Jennette is healing through this.
This should give people empathy for her not judgement on the book SHE wrote. Sometimes others just don't get it. Love and hugs to every one. Stay safe❤
Exactly
I just don't get why THEY are offended.. like.. it's HER mom, not theirs?... Odd but aight
It’s a gross thing to say so as a human it’s offensive to hear and at least attention grabbing (also it’s why she took this title and the cover). We don’t know them - we don’t know any of these people. It’s just generally a gross thing to celebrate a parent’s death. This is why it piques interest and why we’re talking about it. If this helps.
@@MBXGill it’s not gross when that ‘parent’ physically and emotionally abused, violated, controlled, and took advantage of the person who wrote the book. context and circumstances matter. not all parents deserve to be loved.
@@ariannadshae One, for me it’s still gross. What her mother-also gross. The title isn’t I’m glad my emotionally and physically abusive mother is dead, right? It’s just mother. I’m not commenting on her her story (I don’t know the girl or her work). I’m just commenting on the title. It’s may be how she feels, but let’s be just as real- it was meant to cause a stir and grab attention for sales too. 🤷🏾♀️ no indictment on the girl, just sharing why the title might offend. It’s because it’s a generally a disturbing thing to think and say. Even if it’s true.
@@MBXGill Those people don't get a say in what she name her book. She's glad her mother died, and honestly if someone did what her mother did to me, I'll be glad to. It's her story, her life, her mother. If people cared that much then they should just build a time machineand stop what happened to her, therefore stopping her from even making a book.
@@raebear2074 it’s funny no one has a say, but everyone in this comment section has an opinion. Lol. This is my opinion. Super promise - I literally don’t even know this actress. I don’t really care, I only responded as a member of the public. Babe. We all have a say. Even if we disagree. You’re happy her mother died. I think saying that about anyone is gross because death in my faith is an enemy. I wish her mother was good to her. I’m hoping this thread ends soon. Lol. It’s sad to me so many people think celebrating death is cool no matter how wicked the person is. And her mother does sound like she was wicked. Just doesn’t sit well in my spirit.
“Sometimes, if you intensely dislike someone due to something, you just have to take comfort in the fact that one day, they will be dead."
Sometimes the only way to heal from pain and suffering caused by someone close to you is their absence.
Exactly thank you
Not to mention: her mother embarrassed Jennette by telling Jerry that her daughter had a crush on him!
So let's get this straight: - HER mom
- HER autobiography
- HER feelings
- HER story
And people are offended because ? Death is inevitable, its not insult, we're ALL gonna die, her being glad her mom died means she's glad she's separated from her for good, pretty straight forward and fitting for a summary of her journey with her.
Everyone I’ve ever spoken to with abusive mom has said that others that find out that aren’t professionals get irrationally angry at the child for being abused.
It’s wild.
@@namedrop721 I've noticed that as well! It seems like only professional and those who have dealt with it understand. But people who didn't grow up being abused can't wrap their head around it and just blame the victim and get mad at the victim. It's so backwards
@@namedrop721 They get angry like church members at altar boys who snitch on dirty priests. It’s seen as disrupting the status quo. We all have mothers, a lot of us were also raised religious. It’s an internal bias that these things are “holy/untouchable”.
She’s a spoiled brat
People are making such good points. As a therapist I walk with people through the grief process. And many people are able to identify feelings of anger, sadness, guilt or hurt. But we don't often talk about feelings of relief when someone passes away. Considering some of the abuses mentioned the title is appropriate. People need to stop judging a book by its cover and read.
"b-but my mommy is nice to me so everyone else must have a great relationship with their mother!!!"
🤣🤣i love this one. 😂Each time someone ask s mother related questions and i give honest answer I'm not close to my mother they are like omg😠SHE IS YOUR MOTHER. 🤣
@@Jecykshaji Yup! Or they assume right away there’s something wrong with YOU🙄
@@alicja4139 excatly most do 🤣and i don't correct them 😂
You nailed it with this comment 👏
More like: "I have a great relationship with my kids! They never visit but that's just because of how busy they are I'm sure, this girl just doesn't understand parenting or respect!"
OMG I had no clue her own mom SA’d her. How disgusting.
Her mom SAed her for years. She wouldn’t let her shower herself until she was 17 and only because her mom had gotten too sick to shower her at that point
The fact she formed my childhood but had to go thru this is sad :(
Anytime a child is glad that a parent died that shows how bad the parent actually was.
Mine was the same thing to me 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Or the child
@Lisa Snow Yes but I’m this case it’s how bad the parent was
Not all the time but you gotta break the cycle. Happy your mom died can have dire consequences with your children.
Facts, she could still love her cause uk, dats her mom, but at the same time she can be happy dat she dead
I mean, it’s not like the title is “I murdered my
Mother”
Even if she did would you blame her for what she has been through
@@lilyrose1581 well no… but it still would mean prison and No book deal
@@lilyrose1581 Difficult to say tbh, but she definitely needs to be sent to a hospital because people who murder are definitely not okay. (Well to some extent, because some people murder to save their own lives but u get the idea)
@@pineapple3555 depend on the context. It's pretty tricky, but I'm sure you are not 100% going to jail if your argument is self defense
Right.
If she changed the title "I'm Glad My Dad Died" people would surely assume her Dad Abused her with no fact-checking whatsoever.
But because it's her Mom, people are angry and disappointed with Jennette.
They are, quite literally, judging a book by its cover.
Lol yeah. And that’s just sad.
"ThAtS sTiLl HeR mOtHeTeR"
K. Point? Hope Jennette buys herself a yummy celebration cake with frosting on it saying "the witch is dead"
Nah, gotta say 'The Wicked Witch is Dead' on it lol
I smiled when I read this because for years prior to my mothers death, I knew that song would pop into my head when I got the news and it did!
Ding dong. The witch is dead. The wicked witch is dead!
based on how she treated Jenette I don't think you can even call her a 'mother'.
Me, planning to actually practice witchcraft in the future: What?
“your mom spent 9 months carrying you and hours of pain to birth you!” yea and her mom also spent years abusing her
Thats literally what my own mother says after I stand up to her when she's tries to gaslight me or hit me. "I spent 9 months carrying you. I think I know my own daughter." Obviously not if you don't acknowledge crap about me
@@thegamingwitch i’m so sorry that’s happening to you❤️
It’s funny because none of us asked to be brought into this world, it was the decision of two other people that brought us all here and we had no choice in the matter. So them trying to make you feel bad for something they did on their own volition is fucking bullshit and they should be called out for it.
@@yungluke exactly!!
@@yungluke don’t get me wrong, what her mother did to her is awful and no daughter should have to go through that. But your statement is uncalled for. By your logic, most, if not the whole population of earth never asked to be brought into this world, yet they are. Life has its ups and downs. But being a negative Nancy, as well as questioning your purpose in life shouldn’t be encouraged, as you should know that this life is a test. In’shaa’allah you strive to be better, and may Allah subhanawatallah grant you happiness
I had no idea that she had to endure pain in order to live.
As someone who grow up with a neglectful mother, I understand her pain.
I feel like this title is so on brand for her. Blunt, dry, dark humor. I haven’t read the book but I hope this sweet girl gets the help and healing she deserves.
EXACTLY... I laughed so hard when I found out about the title, especially that it came from her writing
Her struggle is real and I'm oddly happy for her for owning it like the boss lady that she is 🥺
I love her podcast. It’s worth listening to
@@brittanyd3527 thanks. Didn’t know she had one.
"I was abused and hurt so much by my mother and I'm so glad she's gone"
"HOW DARE YOU- THATS YOUR OWN MOTHER- DONT YOU KNOW HOW HARD SHE HAD TO blah blah blah"
Her mother is probably a professional Narcissist. They are wired different, I tell you.
They will abuse you at home (physically & mentally), and then appear like angels to others. I've been isolated for so long I lost my desire to connect, turning into shut-in, because of the triangulation my parent did to me.
But thankfully, my relatives discovered something was wrong and finally saw the mental scars that I've been reliving for 30 years, *finally*
Narcissist, the most psychotic Narrator in the world.
best and most you can appreciate your mom about is the 9 months she carried you and beared you, you had no idea what is like!
this new gen is fvcket up deep and no hope for them that u hold for SUCCESS
@@Dsuchong you owe nobody any appreciation.
They chose to have you. You didn't choose to be born.
That is the bare *minimum*.
Hell it's not even caring about your child.
It's just carrying them.
@@Dsuchong true, but her mother abused her in so many ways, and forced her to do things she didn’t want to do or felt really uncomfortable doing, and the bare minimum you can do for your child after birth is respect their privacy and to be kind and love them, and to not neglect them.
@@Dsuchong hold on, this generation is fucked cause someone of us hate our abusive parents?
I applaud her for this. Hope now she lives the life she always wanted.
It always sucks when you hear about child actors they always have something terrible going on…
that’s so sad i’m glad she’s opening up about it
@@buggy-boy Bro... read the room
@@buggy-boy maybe there was no replies for a reason
sorry guys i didn't realize that would be rude or anything
Me too! I’m glad she’s healing
Sophie
She wasn’t getting backlash though. People overwhelmingly have no problem condemning and holding accountable abusive women. Which is good. It’s only the lack of balance of having this same angry energy level for abusive men that is bad really. If Jennette had made that title about her abusive father, for example, _then_ she likely would have gotten a lot of backlash if the way that Meghan Markle has been publicly shamed for merely cutting off her abusive father is any indication of people’s gendered biases in these situations.
“its still your mother” what about “its still your DAUGHTER” its her mother’s fault not Jennette’s. i’m happy that she’s having time to heal.
this comment is perfect
People always say that to me! My father was both emotionally and physically abusive,manipulative and narcissistic.
He's one of the biggest source of my bad emotional health and for 15 years straight of abuse my mother finally got him a restraining order. Many people ask that question "but he is still your father" he is my biological father but that doesn't excuse his toxic and abusive behavior. I won't even care if something happens to him.
@@cherilynsarts8845 exactly same but swapped. my dad is angelic but my mom is so bad im lost for words..theres so much wrong with her.not just mentaly and physicaly,she also sexually assaulted me when im younger . but ppl always says "but shes your mother! have some respect to her" Umm fuck no . my mom also almost killed me.
@@cherilynsarts8845 same, my father was and still is abusive(mentally and physically) he doesn't always hit me, but threatens me a lot, yells at me, assumes I'm skipping school just because I was sick, everytime I'm sick, he always assumes it's "playing hookey" I literally had to get surgery on my knee because it wasn't in good condition, it was very badly knockkneeded and my dad didn't believe me. He is emotionally manipulative, and very much narcissist, and he loves spending money all the time, like he'll complain about money then he'll go and spend it like it's nothing, I mean like if he's home for one day, he HAS to go to several stores everywhere. And buy something, I'm tired of it, and he's severely hypocritical, he's a total hypocrite, I'm currently suffering from anxiety, depression and PTSD, I'm going to see a pyschatrist, it's not all because of him, but some are because of him, and he would rub my back, make me sit on his lap, sometimes touch me in certain areas, so I don't know if that's sexual assault or what, but I was also a sexual assault victim at 7. I absolutely hate my father, I hate him. Yet if I tell people that, they'll get so angry like "but he's your father" or "have some respect for him"
your parents have every right to do so lol
I love her. She is strong of will and smart. I'm glad she didn't let her trauma break her.
So in iCarly she has a toxic relationship with her mom.. Lowkey cant help but think that's intentional by producers cuz she would play the role well. Literally her home life
This is the literal definition of “don’t judge a book by its cover.”
Haha! 😆
lol yes
Yes
😂😂
😂🤣
Yeah, this doesn't bother me at all. My mom emotionally died for me 10 years ago when I cut her off. I've never been happier. Blood ≠ love
Same with my grandma. I haven’t spoken to that bitch in 11 years, toxic is toxic. Family or not.
Wait
@@Yapanese what?
What do you mean "Emotionally died for me"?
@@soyeonshin6486 it means “dead to them “ . Where They do not have contact in anyway, they do not see each other, they do not speak to each other, they are completely cut off where they are basically dead to them.
I know exactly how she feels my mother was so nasty to me calling me names like fat and trash wasn’t even the half of it. She tried to literally kill me on 3 separate occasions. I wish I could say the same but my mom is still alive and there’s no relationship there. So I understand completely how Jeanette feels.
She deserves to tell her story and if you don't like it don't listen
"Well MY parent was nice, so her saying HERS wasn't is offensive to me!" Get over yourself, her mom was an abusive piece of trash, she's allowed to be happy that she's free.
My parents were almost as bad as hers and let me tell you that kind of hate leads to a very dark place I can promise you that in the end it is not worth I'm not seeing that she is wrong for feeling that way towards her but that pain, that anger is not something you want to hold onto
@@reyis_here945 I agree however it’s not our place to tell her how to heal or react to her abuser being dead. I’m sure she’s not gonna hold onto the anger forever but expressing all your feelings and coming to terms with what happened to you is a big part of the healing process.
I just don’t understand these bad mothers, I guess because my mama was amazing, and I miss her so much Rip mama
So grateful I had a beautiful mama
So sorry y’all had awful mommies, dang that’s terrible, wishing y’all well, just forgive and don’t be like them! God bless
One love ❤️
@@reyis_here945 I disagree tbh. My bio parents were abusive and narcissistic as hell, and I was definitely glad and relieved when my father passed away. It meant I no longer had to worry about him showing up my door drunk as hell at 3 a.m., or beating the hell out of my mother and younger sister, or calling me 16 times in 1 hour trying to get money off of me.
Being glad that someone is permanently out of your life and unable to hurt those that you love is not always a bad thing. And it is not always about holding on to hate- for many of us, it's about celebrating the freedom that comes along with that.
Sure, feeling such a way CAN lead down a dark path. But it doesn't inherently.
@@reyis_here945 being glad someone is dead is not the same as hate. You know who fed me the very line you used about hate leading to a dark place? One of my abusers. Don't minimize someone's feelings because you assume it's hate. That's really just a tool an abuser uses in an attempt to regain some semblance of control over the victim.
Why are people focused on her and not Dan Schneider’s actions
That’s the real question!!!
because the title is “i’m glad my mother died”
The people in the comments saying Jeanette is disgusting for her book title but not saying anything about all the gross things her mother/Dan Schneider did… it’s pretty telling they don’t gaf about kids
Becauses shes exposing her abuse from her mother and older generations don’t like being called out so they brainwashed younger generations into thinking they have to respect all older people as authority. Respect is supposed to be a mutual deal but parents don’t teach that.
BunnBunn UwU 💯
I can't with people. Some people are glad their parents are dead and some are super heartbroken just cause someone is not heartbroken doesn't mean they are heartless or that they need to feel what everyone else is supposed to feel when their parents die. My mom died too and I would never tell someone to feel sad theirs is dead either. Everyone is different and family does not define us as people.
Yeah with a mother like that who needs enemies
If the book was titled "I'm glad my Dad Died" about him sexually assaulted his child and dying. There would be a lot less controversy. We've sanctified mothers too much.
Right everyone would be like yesss he’s trash go queen! Yet since it’s a female being the abuser everyone’s saying she still deserves some respect. Like nah if u can completely trash a male abuser u can do the same to a female
@@notorious.a.r.i. like look at the Johnny depp case i still see people basically trying to make amber more of the victim than Johnny by saying “they’re both abusive he does drugs blah blah” when no he wasn’t abusive and if it was flipped people would whine “misogynistic and victim blaming”
@@notorious.a.r.i. right like I don’t give af if he does drugs and drinks and him acting angry over text cuz of her actions I’d do it too and if amber was the one doing it everyone would defend it
Women in general are too privileged if a women molests a kid in school she gets praised for it
@@brennathecatlover4360 i totally agree with ur point but johnny did abuse amber heard, ofc she abused him too but it was mutual
“But it’s still your mom”
SHES STILL HER CHILD! And that never stopped her!!
why doesn’t this have more likes?? smh
Exactly omg that’s a good thing to point out
I havent spoken to mine for 10yrs. I don't plan on ever talking to her. She lost that right after many years of abuse.
This. Nobody thinks of this!
@@azzy5446 I'm also thinking about that....
As a person who was abused as a kid I honestly get it.
She may have carried her for 9 months and pushed her out for hours but she abused her for years
Im glad my mom is so caring so thankfull
I will also be glad when my abusive parent dies! 🤷🏻♂️ people who haven’t experienced that will never understand
This !!!!!
You have to come from such a background of privilege to find an issue with Jeanette being happy that her abuser (who happened to be her mother) died.
Like who are you to say what anyone is supposed to feel about that?
(I'm autistic and idk how to talk, this is in agreement with BRV, not at them.)
I understand you 100% both of my abusive parents died and don't miss a thing about those 2.
@@A5H_01 you misunderstood the comment 💀
@@desckfulpieceofsht i think she understood?
"She went through hours of pain just to give birth to you!!"
Ok lmao I didn't ask her to
@Edy exactly!! Im lucky that my relationship with my mum isn't horrible, yes it has flaws but i still would see it as healthy. I dont love and respect her just because she's my mum and she gave birth to me, I love and respect her because she acknowledged her responsibility and gave me a good life for a good few years
Yeah and they shouldn't be using that as emotional leverage to excuse their bad behavior. 💁
To* what the fuck is wrong with everyone nowadays, it's like everyone forgot how to use "too" and "to"
@@Jae-jae1392 autocorrect sorry lol
@@birdsbirdsandmorebirds6251 auto correct was the real villain this whole time...
STOP DEFENDING ABUSIVE MOTHERS !
People who have issues with this should rethink about some things in life.
When people say "Respect your elders" I always think "All of them?"
That bothers me as well
I hate that! I hope Jesus is not Racist!
That’s deep but true
Respect is earned not given
naw .let her make money of that abuse. she deserves it .let her redeem that time of pain in anyway she knows how. it's totally fair . sorry to say but her mom won't turn over in her grave nor will she have a change of heart because she's not here. but we still have the chance to change and make a better life. I don't consider this revenge but redemption
My dad died 1 and 1/2 years ago. Although I wouldn’t say “I’m glad my dad died”, I will say I’m relieved that my dad died. I can completely understand how she feels.
My dad is still alive but covid gave my family a few years experiencing more or less what it would be like without him. I don’t want to get into details but the mental health of everyone had improved drastically during that time. But it’s amazing how in just a week back with him at least half of it got torn down if not even more so. So I’m ngl I also understand the feeling. I’m not sure if I would be glad my dad died but I would be glad if he disappeared permanently from our lives… preferably living as miserably as he made us. :)
@@hohocho8961 Hope that stuff gets better for you my dude...
My dad died in February, I'm glad my dad died.
@@hohocho8961 Wow, isn’t that something?! My dad was pretty much a monster to me and my 8 siblings. I honestly don’t know how we survived him, especially my mom. I’m relieved he can no longer hurt us emotionally, financially, spiritually, and mentally. We can finally begin our healing process. I’m still messed up which is why I continue to see my therapist.
@@maysamooltrey I hear you!
The title is just her being honest
I would name my book the same if I went through what she went through. It’s crazy that someone who played a funny and brave character had to suffer behind the scenes. As a fan of her I pray she heals and is happy in her life from here on out ❤️
“B-but that’s your mom! You can’t hate her!!😡”
Yea you can. Just like friends, relationships, strangers, AND even parents (or any family) can be abusive. You shouldn’t have to “excuse” family members If they treat you poorly; just like how you can drop toxic relationships with people, you can drop toxic family members. Good for her tbh! ❤️
furthermore, nobody says anything about how the parents shouldn’t be abusive
just like i'm allowed to hate my abuser son
Yes! You shouldn’t tolerate abuse!
@@Akirostar6288 it’s a controversial statement, but if that’s how she feels (along with other abuse victims) then who are we to judge how she feels? Imo
When the dad is abusive:
"omg throw him in jail and throw the key away, omg such a terrible person omg"
When the mom is abusive:
"b-but you can't hate her, she's your mom!!!11 canceled!!! 😡😡🤬🤬"
She was honest and Authentic, i don’t see the problem.
Oh my god at first I read this as “her mom was honest and Authentic” like 😳😳😳😳😳
@@SteveoMcCartney oh 😬
Especially since it's her memoir. It's the right place to be authentic about her feelings.
More like she’s just an unhinged angry person
@@MetalMadness_00 And suppressed anger is better?
I support her and those innocent children who suffered from any kind of abuse...good luck on your new journey YOU can stop this sick cycle... children SPEAK UP..#ProtectOurChildren💙♥️
swear society treats McCurdy like she's not allowed to defend herself against her abusive mother because shes "disrespecting" her
“Respect your parents” but also “respect is earned, not given” if your parents don’t respect you, then why should you?
LOUDER PLSSSSSS!!!! ❤️✨❤️✨
PREACH!!!!!!
Also let's add on the "respect your elders" bullshit. If simply being old earned respect then we would all trust politicians now wouldn't we. 🙄
@No This is Patrick Agree :)
I was always taught to respect your elders. HOWEVER, religiously (I’m a Muslim) elders and parents should ALWAYS be kind to their children and just those younger than them in general. If both are respectful/kind to each other, then the line kinda blurs and they become the same thing.
I mean, good for her. I’m so fucking tired of people telling people to “take the high ground” or “be the better person” or whatever like we’re not allowed to be mad and it be valid/justified.
Edit: I never said that you, if you are a victim/survivor, do not have the right to do what you feel is best for you...what I am saying is, this toxic positivity has got to stop. People need to stop protecting abusers and rapists. I am allowed to do with my emotions as I please (toward my abusers) regardless of what these people believe I should or shouldn't do as a victim/survivor myself.
If you are not someone who's endured these types of situations, I fail to see how you think you're valid in telling victims/survivors how to process their emotions.
As for the Christians that come across this, including the rude ass one replying...I don't believe in god and you telling me to will not convince me to suddenly do it. The audacity you have to force your religion onto me and tell me that something is severely wrong with me because I refuse to protect/spare abusers...is seriously fucked up of you. Take your god and shove it up your ass...this thread had nothing to do with religion so idk why you're talking about it. I don't care about eternal damnation, it's a fear-mongering manipulative tactic, and I believed it as a kid, but alas I grew up...that might be something you need to do. Of course, if you're a respectful Christian, you can disregard my response because you're not the issue here...I'm sure you can tell who it is.
Forreal! People who constantly insist on the high road without understanding any context are lucky. Absolutely no concept of trauma so they force a bullshit Disney way of thinking on victims as if it’s helpful.
@@mx.viscera2247 Honestly, I feel like a lot of them are abusers themselves and don't want to have to see our pain. It always ends up being the worst people that expect us to defang ourselves for their comfort ):
fr, if someone non accidentally and irreparably dammaged your body and ruined your life, you wouldnt expect them to forgive that person. why is it so different with our parents and our mental and emotional health. they still hurt us. we were children. we were helpless. they knew better.
She is taking the high ground cause her abusive parent is below it. There is no room for mercy on that “mother.” SA’ing someone let alone her own child, inexcusable.
THIS
i love her sm she makes me feel like i’m not alone especially with the calorie counting at 11 the exact age i realized i was “obese”
Good for Jeanette. That girl deserves some peace.
Honestly love that for her. In death is new life.
Whats even more messed up is how on iCarly, they made Sam’s mother crazy & abusive. They also forced Sam’s character to obsess over food, despite Jenette struggling with an ED. Nickelodeon was deliberately mocking Jenette’s problems while making a profit of of them. So sick.
She gets backlash for it because its her mother, not father, cannot say anything bad about a woman, only a man, 100% guarantee you guys that if it was her father instead of her mother, she would get 0 backlash for it.
i stand with her 100% as an emotional abuse victim of my parents myself. “that’s her mother” well you are the CHILD they’re supposed to take care of. not inflict wishes of s*icide upon.
👏🏼 parents shouldn’t be wishing their kids to not have been born
It's usually the people who have good relationships with their parents who complain about these things. Just shut up. There's so many people who are traumatized by their parents or caretakers and it's so freeing when they're either gone or out of your life. I love this for her.
Yeah like they say how can you talk about your mom like that??? They never ask how could your mom do that to you.
@@tanya292 exactly. Like, theyre mad at her for the title but they're not mad about her own mother SA ing her? Encouraging an ED? Treating her own child as an object?
I agree so much!! I had room mate before who can't grasp my story of my father being a jerk.. And Alas!! She has a great relationship with her father... Like girl?? How F dumb are you to compare your father to mine???
And she says she has a bad relationship with her mother.. The hypocrisy!!
I have bad relationships with both my parents.
The book title just seems like repressed wannabe edginess.
You can have a good relationship and still be traumatized by them as well
Source:I saw one of mine die in front of me.
It's sad to hear that she was pressured that badly, and treated that way as a child. As Miranda said, "You don't expect things like that from the person in the room who's making everyone laugh". Jennette deserves to do what doesn't restrict her or make her unhappy. She still is gifted in making others laugh, worldwide including. That's shown through her writing a book, to still reach others, inform them, but still be hysterical about it.
I would say to her
Be yourself, and enjoy yourself. You're a gift to anyone and everyone you show that to. And I'm not trying to say that publicly, but in your personal life. Be happy to be you
Some parents don't deserve the love of their children. It happens.
also.. when she started acting she never got the pay from 6 years old to 18.
In a interview she mentioned how child stars are suppose to get 10% of the money in a separate account but she stated that she has never seen the money from that account
@@indigodreams4816 15% goes into a chandler fund but her mother never filed the paper work
👏
Her mom stole All her money! Don’t throw shade when you don’t know the whole story!
@@s.k8530 ?? i do know the whole story lol im not throwing shade
*......Not let her shower alone.*
You jump past that part too fast, need more information on that creepy shit.
What did her mother do when she was 17? The closed caption says “essayed”? I assume it is an acronym but I am not familiar with it.
@@kellyaquinn she was saying she was SA'd which stands for sexually assaulted
@@samanthabrandon5510 thanks for clarification, I didnt understand that part
What a terrible "mother"
did you know, Jennette mentioned that her mother would tell her that she’s “too aware” of Jennette being raped or sexually abused, and even though she felt so uncomfortable, she just lets it by because her mother would get abusive.
Thanks for the clarification.
No parent should ever put their kid through that
The name does 𝒔𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 bad but after you hear what it's about it's honestly an appropriate way to get her message across. Sad, she always seemed so happy and always the first to crack a joke on Disney
I’ve heard plenty about her mom already, and with that knowledge I can say that the title is absolutely justified.
"Y'know my mom who psychologically, physically and sexually abused me? Who pressured me into keep the family afloat as a child, putting me into the position of sole provider instead of being one herself as my parent? Yeah, I'm happy she's not around to abuse me anymore because she's dead"
"Well, that's just rude!" - Idiot
LORD keep her safe & physically and mentally healthy, 💔 👠🍿🎥🎬🎞️📼🎭
Respect 👌
I really hope Jennette can heal in peace and happiness now
As someone who’s actually waiting for my abusive mom to die, I loved her honesty. There’s nothing wrong with absolutely hating and resenting your abuser no matter what your relationship is to them. Most people who are mad about this book have probably never experienced abuse (or maybe they have and they’re in denial about it.)
I relate to you 💜
@@ILAKHALIDENM it's fucked up that so many people feel this way but I relate.
I know the world will have less suffering once that family member is no longer with us.
All Thier children have cut contact already, I'm thankful of that.
Or because they didn't read and jumped to conclusions based on the cover.
Also, for many people, their moms are their only source of comfort in abusive households or bad situations. The bad reaction to the thought doesn't necesarily means they didn't experience abuse or are in denial.
But it doesn't justify being mean to people who didn't had abusive Mother.
@@ILAKHALIDENM same
@@kiriki4558 a lot of people who have never been abused will attack people for talking bad about their abusive parents. Calling a person out for doing this isn’t “being mean to someone because they didn’t have an abusive mother”
She’s finally telling the world about her hard life. That takes guts. And I’m so proud of her for saying this.
There's nobody more than a parent, especially a mom, that a child wants to love. If they hate you enough to be happy you died... you messed up...the kid didn't come out of you thinking you suck.
My grandfather was a chronic alcoholic, abusive to my grandmother, his grandkids including me, and a burden to his own kids. When he died, I went to the funeral but did not shed one tear. All I felt was relief that he was finally no more.
The mother freaking sexually assaulted her. I don’t even know this woman and now hate her. Why r people mad about it. It’s the perfect title
ppl are mad cuz they don’t know the details and just assumed she was being edgy yknow? at least probably most of them don’t know the details idk
@@edalbyek6060 they’re jumping to conclusions, these people just love to be negative about things they can’t even take one moment to educate themselves on.
People are mad bcz dead can't defend themselves, so it's a one sided story with no second person to verify it
@@royalprince5696, People should be more mad when children can’t defend themselves from physical abuse instead of when the facilitators of child abuse can’t speak up to diminish the words of the victim.
@@Xavier_the_Boxing_Nerd i never said children shouldn't defend themselves, I'm talking about accusing a deceased parent, I'm talking about giving a chance to the accused to defend herself, how can you hate somebody without hearing their side? Has she provided evidence? Are we doing the same mistake we did with amber Heard? Believing her without seeing the evidence?
She is helping so many out there with abusive mothers. I'm glad she was able to find peace and that she is telling her story so others in the same situation don't feel so alone.
👏
As someone who recently got out of an abusive mother child relationship, I agree. I first heard about alot of this year's ago from some interview she did, and it helped me realize she went through what I was going through, I wasn't alone and I COULD get out. It took 4 years but here I am, not ok but safe.
EXACTLY
“My mom had a disgusting neck wrinkles”
By jenna mccurdy
the exams happened her entire life and didn't stop until she was 17. She was showered with her 16 year old brother at some points.
She's entitled to feel exactly the way she does!!!
Riiiight I'm like okay and? You didn't buy it to read it but took to time to read the pic of the memoir and all of a sudden got an opinion on something you'll never understand
I don't give a shit that much about my grandmother passing a week before Christmas last year because she was an innocent kind God worshipping soul but was racist to my mother and I for being a lighter skin tone than her (we're all black). She was a terrible grandmother/person to me and a horrible person/mother to my dad and would've aborted him if she had the money to
It angers me so much how moms get a pass for abuse for “being a mom”. Abuse is abuse, and not addressing it will only damage the child and in some cases it’s permanent. I went through something similar during childhood, and only when I acknowledged that my mom really was the problem could I take steps towards healing
According to Twitter, women can do no wrong
@@craigime i hate Twitter
@@craigime right people still try to make amber more of a victim than Johnny by saying they’re both bad and abusive yet if it was flipped it’s “misogynistic and victim blaming” just say u let women get away with abuse lmao
@@brennathecatlover4360 just say that you are a pick me lmao
@@sosososososo123 nothing she is saying is pick me yall took a term and ran with it
my mom had a number of issues that she took out on me, one of our last encounters was her choking me & yanking my hair from my scalp.....i got out of that situation & now i live in a safe place with my roomate
"She wouldn't let her shower alone."
Keep in mind she was 17 at this time. 😳 Are you guys really going to act like you didn't hear this?!
As a person who grew up with abusive parents, I won't care when they pass along either.
hey i hope u r k
@@no.soy.chimihimilimi Thank you. 🙂
@@kinda_cold_in_the_closet Just trying to survive at this point. What I experienced never really leaves.
I just have to try and have it not take over my life. 🙂
Sending u true hugs--I know it can’t be easy carrying those truths, but sometimes death really can be a blessing
@@kirk1701 we got you, don't worry :)
I don’t understand how people could get upset at that. Like “no you’re not allowed to have a bad relationship with your mother. We’ve decided that you have to like your mother just because”
Some people pretend that bad mothers don't exist past, present or future
I guess the names of Dee Dee Blanchard,Theresa Knorr, Katherine Knight, Casey Anthony, Louise Turpin,Belle Gunness, Kate "Ma" Barker,Mary Anne Cotton and Diane Downs means nothing to them
Some people think women and mothers can do no wrong.
I don't blame her. She treated her like a money making project and not a daughter who deserves love and acceptance
Judging by Jeanette's latest pictures. I can see she's still in the practice of calorie counting. Enjoying the money it helped her achieve. Thanks Mom for showing me the way, is what her memoir should be called.
"When her mother died she could finally begin the process of healing"
There's a mood I hadn't expected to relate to this morning.
I feel you 100%. I posted on the comment here - about being gay and abused physically by my mother.
I agree
That poor woman went through hell because of her mother. And, unfortunately Dan Schneider just made it worse. I mean, I like a cute pair of feet as much as the next guy but there's no reason to be creepy about it. Dan seem to have an obsession about the whole thing I bet there's going to be a big ass party when he dies, all those kids he made feel uncomfortable, I'm sure he'll get what he's got coming to him.
@@AndroidSpirit I guess she didn't smack you around hard enough. There's no reason for that, can't make a whole without two halves.
@@wtconroe879 That's hate speech. No sympathy cause he's gay? What is wrong with you? You need help.