i don’t think he loves her at all… he’s just comfortable with their situation, and wants her to stop nagging him/trust him so he can cheat in peace while stringing her along.
True… interesting how nobody moves when the woman says she wants to marry her guy and is ready…. But when he says no… in my time, it’s all good and woman are expected to wait… and wait… and wait.. how about if she’s ready and you don’t have any reason to not get married except “I’m not ready”, then go ahead and either get ready and get married or break up? It’s rushing, if she’s ready, but it’s not dragging your feet if y’all been together for 8 years and you’re still “not ready”… folks want all the benefits that come with marriage, without being married.
People continue to move in together. Too often women have the belief that this will lead to marriage. Living together is the commitment that was made. She needs to give herself an ultimatum...stay or go.
Don’t agree with judge star on this one. He doesn’t want her and she is settling because they have been together for eight years and he’s a good provider.🤷🏽♀️
Exactly he is cheating I don’t care what they think . When ppl are liars they always say bout 100% telling the truth etc. Why turn off your location he is a snake in the grass strupes
Judge Star got this one wrong. The extreme disrespect of him not coming home over night with those piss poor excuses and turning off his location gives her reason to not trust him. In order for her to trust him his actions need to change. Unfortunately I don't think he likes her that much to make the effort.
This case was manipulative and the judge didn't catch it! Just because he say in reponse 100% in agreement with what the judge asked doesn't mean he's being truthful.. this man didn't have to fight to convince the judge bc for some reason she seemed to believe him... this man was not coming home at night bc he's committed to another relationship and its not with his friends 🤔
He really doesn't want to MARRY HER.... he's waiting for something better to come along! I think he really wants someone to share financial responsibility with him!
No that is not the case. She needs to stop hounding him all the time. Men don't do ultimatums. She better be patient and do those two things he wants, once she does she will get a ring.
Rule of advice just because you’ve been with someone more than five or ten years doesn’t justify marriage. This is the type of situation that land you in divorce court. People just have to face reality marriage is not for everybody. That’s why it’s important to be honest in the beginning. If you’re not interested in marriage let that person know if you want to get married let that person know but don’t hang around with the person expecting to change their perspective on getting married it won’t work it becomes just a bunch of BS, heartache & Financial pain.
I blame women for that because as Judge Lynn used to say, the man gets ALL if not most of the benefits from live-in situations. So what's the incentive for him to marry her?
He is definitely cheating, and I think she knows that even if she refuses to believe her intuition. There's no logical excuse for him to form a habit of coming in at 7am. The text message was him getting caught up that's why it took him till the next day to give that sorry excuse. The reason he's so close to his cheating friend is because they have something in common. It does not take anyone 8 years to know if you're the one or not. He is using her as a placeholder till he finds the one and eventually he may give up and settle for her.
Why do people stay in a relationship with someone they really don't want to be with or just buying time until the next best thing comes .......I refuse to stay in a dead relationship lets not waste each other's time period 💯
He sent that text message to her on purpose. He texted the same number twice. He knew exactly who he was texting and how he wanted to make her feel when he sent that last message.
That is the main reason men go get weak women like this, because they know no matter how bad they may treat her she won't ever, go anywhere (That text message said everything, he was busted) Then when he gets caught, he gets angry and doesn't want to talk about it, and she backs down every time. 😠😠😠😠
Eight (8) years together. He never plans to marry her. He lies to her to move in with her and her kids or he lies to her to move in with him with her kids. He wants to be single. He just kept her off the market.
You don't come home where the hell are you sleeping? These women needs to get a grip on themselves and leave these lying cheating men alone. Are you that DESPERATE? I am not trusting any man who is sleeping out.
This is the first time I don't agree with judge star. This man does not want a serious relationship or marriage with this woman. It is so loud, it's screaming, "you are just a woman of convenience". When a man wants you, no one has to force him to be there for you. As a matter of fact, you would be trying to get him TO go out with his friends.
Nope.... not coming home overnight consistently..... something isn't right! Also just because someone tells you why they did something that doesn't make it right! I'm not sure how infeel about this one.....
@Living With Ericka I guess... just because people get married , that doesn't change their habits and ways! Even if they marry , when he is frustrated with her , he will still more than likely do the same thing unless he truly decides to change his ways for himself!
So your outlook on relationships is to be a liar..gotcha! Hope the men see this comment. All she has to do is just say hey I'm leaving and leave with her kids. Not take advantage of a man that's providing every single thing for her and a whole lot of kids that are not even his...wow.
I would not get a job behind his back; but I would get a job. It is not because he is a liar that I would become one. I would not throw in his face that I was getting a job so that I could leave. I would just leave once I could afford to do so without letting him know that that was my goal. Eight years ! I do not understand why women allow men to take their most sacred possession without getting what is most important to them; first.
@@Shellygrrl2573 I don’t think she should lie about it but definitely get a job because he definitely doing something not coming home at night turning off his location after 8 years you if you not sure you want to marry me what are we doing
I don't understand why she wants to marry this man. He is condescending, arrogant, and he's a bad liar. Lady, you can do better. The streets can have him. She deserves better.
Honorable Star. You're what Divorce Court needed to continue its Saga. You have Style. You have Beauty. You have brains and Common Sense. Your attitude and demeanor is just. By the way, love the outfit.
Bull crap a woman can do 100 things that he asked for and he still will string her long as long as she lets me him I’m so done with this it’s ridiculous💯
I mean after 8 years I can kinda get her being like what are we doing and then him turning off his location him not coming home id suspect something going on to do you not want to marry me because there’s someone else in the picture and I figure that’s where she was at
If only she would have listen to herself, to what she was telling the judge, she would have see RIGHT THERE where her problems with him were and realize BY HERSELF she’s going nowhere with that man. He loves her but not enough to implicate himself more in marriage.
I can't believe Judge Star was falling for his lies. Dude is obviously cheating and has the audacity to have demands for her. Dude is almost 60 years old and can't bring his behind home at night. It ain't that much hanging out with friends at 55 years old.
Oh yes there is....I'm 57 years old and any chance I get to hang with my buddies, I will come home when I'm good and ready to, and don't have to explain a damn thing to anyone
Her: 15 yrs his junior, gave 8 yrs (clock ticking). Him: Unreliable; begrudges on providing; doesn't step up to keep her (+her kids) safe. Morale: *She got that same - - ".*
Yeah and ultimatums never work. Especially if she doesn't even trust him. Why marry a woman who doesn't trust you to begin with? Marrying someone isn't going to make that trust pop out of nowhere..smh..
I rarely depend on anyone to do what they say they will. I always have a back up plan especially when it comes to my child and my life. She seems dependent on him and he’s disappointing her each time. Why would you want to marry someone like that ??
He is lying. You are not coming home because you are doing things with other people that you do not want her to know about. Also why would he not spend time with you and the kids if you are going to be a family?
When it comes to relationships, people need to take time and vett their interests better. We rush into relationships not knowing diddly about the other person, then wonder why the person isn't who they said they were. I also wouldn't be waiting 8 years to get married, either. These are questions I'd ask about because that is my ultimate goal. If they aren't there yet, it's on to the next. Judge Mablean used to say this: Look deep before you leap!
She is convenient. He will pay for and provide for everything if she does what he want her to do and allow him to do what he wants to do in peace. She’s attractive, which in part is a reason why he’s with her; however, she came with 3 kids that are not his, so he’s not fully committed. They’re just using each other…..
It does not take 8 years to know this the person you want to marry. I think she wants it MORE than him but I think he is just there. I doubt they will get married.
She agreed to his term because she knowsthat there is no out there to take care of her and her kids....without her working...I would say get a job get I dependant to build up self and leave if he messes things up
🙂 There is no time limit on when you should marry someone... It could all go good or bad... Women can propose to men just as easily as men can propose to women... If you ask that person to marry you and they aren't moving as fast as you like simply move on... Sometimes it's easier said than done when you have alot invested... You must be willing to make the sacrifice in order to stand by your principles... I wish both happiness on their journeys...💯
Lol he had a whole day to come up with an excuse for that message. I’m mad the judge didn’t see that , he was lying and when the judge was on his side he just rolled along with it. He’s probably thinking “whew, that was close”
That’s what I’m saying! This poor lady got all the lectures about what she does and he’s slimy a$$ got away with everything! How can we see that and they can’t when in the same room!
She’s getting nervous and scared because her man is not coming home at night. No, she’s getting nervous and scared because her cash cow is in jeopardy. She does not have a job, and she is depending on the brother to take care of her and her children. I too would be concerned if I felt that my money would be leaving.
I too would get upset if the person I spent 8 years with, has no decency to communicate with me about not coming home. He disrespects her with his behavior and is cheating. Why is he stringing her along and being dishonest? She takes care of children and home. That’s a job that is not recognized but is really hard. He is a provider (not a cash cow). She must look into something that she could fall back on because this dude will throw her out like a used shoe.
This reason why I don’t want to do the “let’s live together and get married later” The man gains more. Side note, time stamp 3:33 “Now let me finish..” remark seem to be insight to his selfish personality.
I find judge Star is alway linient to the blaq men in the case of a blaq man and a wyt woman. This man is very manipulative, hes stringing this woman along and his manipulation will definitely make her feel shes crazy.
I don’t know why Judge Star advised this lady to stay. This man has had 8 years and he’s still talking that well maybe … possibly … we can get married… if bs. He doesn’t want to get married, she’s gonna keep enjoying that financial dependence nothings going to change.
No I do mean no 50 year old 70 year old 90 year old 40 nor 30 man in a committed relationship Not come home . Rather kids have school or in the only car . Man quit playing with this Woman .
I don't know about this one. He doesn't seem connected to her at all. There's some hesitation. She's upset about the money, giving him full authority over finances because he's the only bread winner. She need to have her own. She's not married to him, but he's taking care of her and three kids that aren't his. She need a job. Him coming home the next day? This man feels as if he can do what he wants because again, he makes the money, he's older, and he can leave her at any time. She better wake up, because he's there just for the moment.
He doesn't want to get married. Why should he,he has been getting benefits from a younger woman for 8 years. She is foolish. move on!!! 8 years,PLEASE!!. NO ,NO!!.. He isn't thinking marriage. He has an arrogant attitude. He isn't even all that. She wanted someone to treat her like a daughter, but didn't have the self-esteem to be independent. SORRY, SHE IS FOOLISH. WHY HAS SHE STAYED 8 YEARS. THIS MAN IS CONTROLLING!! SHE SHOULD HAVE BEEN GETTING CHILD SUPPORT FOR HER CHILDREN. SHE NEEDED TO CUT HIM LOOSE YEARS AGO!! DONT GIVE HIM AN ULTIMATUM JUST GO!!! She needs to go on her way!!!!!!!!!!! forget marrying him!!!!!! He is so much older than her and takes advantage of her. PLEASE, LADY ....LEAVE!!! She is so childish,she is so insecure . 8 years, become independent!!!!! She is so delusional. someone needs to talk to her! Judge Jones is really trying to tell her,you need to let him go. He is too old for his behavior. This is a divorce before marriage. I don't like him . Judge Jones was condensending to her. She completely ignored his attitude. No,he was playing a game.
Why does, "Why by the cow, when you can get the milk for free?" comes to mind; like 8yrs of "playing house" with multiple children...I could not. frfr *life is too real *💩 or get of the pot 🚽 *invest in your future with or without a person *fear of going it alone is a sad reason to be together
No way. Drop kick his ass out the door. She needs to move on! She is desperately hanging on to this old guy. Just let him be. Find a new, younger man who wants to be with you. She is only 39 years old. If she stays with him - he is going to waste the best of her 40s.
I just LIVE for the fact that Judge Star starts out each case SERVING US A FULL VIEW OF HER FLY OUTFITS EVERY TIME👏🏼👏🏼
She Is Beautiful❤💯
I enjoy that part as well. Such a woman of class ❤
She looks GOOOOD. I always look forward to seeing her outfits.
😆🤣 I was just thinking the same saying “such a beautiful color on her” lol
Let’s talk about it. It’s sophisticated. Age appropriate and tailored to fit. Love to see it.
There is no excuse for this man not being home for the kids to go to school.
i don’t think he loves her at all… he’s just comfortable with their situation, and wants her to stop nagging him/trust him so he can cheat in peace while stringing her along.
Wow. You might be right! He was kind of nonchalant about her.
That’s correct
Facts 💯
Stevie Wonder can see that he doesn't care about her
EXACTLY! Judge clearly not picking up that part!
It's been eight years, he doesn't want to marry you. And definitely putting an ultimatum on him won't get your proposal now.
8 years is a long time
Sheesh - I haven’t even finished the intro and I agree with you😂
eights years and he's helping raise her three kids? I don't know, there's something more to this.
True… interesting how nobody moves when the woman says she wants to marry her guy and is ready…. But when he says no… in my time, it’s all good and woman are expected to wait… and wait… and wait.. how about if she’s ready and you don’t have any reason to not get married except “I’m not ready”, then go ahead and either get ready and get married or break up? It’s rushing, if she’s ready, but it’s not dragging your feet if y’all been together for 8 years and you’re still “not ready”… folks want all the benefits that come with marriage, without being married.
People continue to move in together. Too often women have the belief that this will lead to marriage.
Living together is the commitment that was made.
She needs to give herself an ultimatum...stay or go.
How many ways can a man tell you he doesn't want you..
A quote from Judge Lynn Toler! 😊😊
I'm learning. I promise😞
@@Nelley_Nell_507 Love me some Judge Lyn Toler, watching her now..
One million times and counting. 😂😂😂😂
@@nnekairoegbu2360 she trying to secure the bag and get half..
Don’t agree with judge star on this one. He doesn’t want her and she is settling because they have been together for eight years and he’s a good provider.🤷🏽♀️
Correct!
Ditto!!! I don't believe him. I believe he turned off his location for a meetup!
He’s giving her reason to not trust him. There is no good reason not to come home at night.
Exactly 💯 especially if there are kids at home. Set a better example sir!
Exactly he is cheating I don’t care what they think . When ppl are liars they always say bout 100% telling the truth etc. Why turn off your location he is a snake in the grass strupes
Coming home to a shrew can make you not come home
He's given her reason to walk away yesterday. But she didn't. There are obvious reasons why.
HE IS CERTAINLY LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE, THAT IS THE ONLY THING WHICH EXPLAINS ALL OF HIS DISAPPEARING ACTS, SMH😉💯
Yep, that's why he doesn't want to marry her
I'm a guy and don't normally pay attention but Judge Star absolutely KILLS her outfits.
Yes she does!
8 years??? Sorry my girl, that's all on you. He's never giving you a ring because he knows you're not leaving.
Judge Star got this one wrong. The extreme disrespect of him not coming home over night with those piss poor excuses and turning off his location gives her reason to not trust him. In order for her to trust him his actions need to change. Unfortunately I don't think he likes her that much to make the effort.
That is what I was thinking about the trust issue. Not coming home without explaining why, gives a person a reason to doubt or at least be suspicious.
I agree 👍
I agree and he probably cheating with that behavior . He using her as a placeholder
I think Judge Stars response is because she thinks they have or had an agreement to be open
I agree. Not coming home is not an option. He basically choosed his friend Ober getting the kids to school. To hell with you getting a Uber.
This case was manipulative and the judge didn't catch it! Just because he say in reponse 100% in agreement with what the judge asked doesn't mean he's being truthful.. this man didn't have to fight to convince the judge bc for some reason she seemed to believe him... this man was not coming home at night bc he's committed to another relationship and its not with his friends 🤔
He is hiding something and and he just agreed with whatever the judge said.
I was looking for this comment. He's stringing her along.
@@lakeshadavis8332 facts 55 years old. He ain't trying to commit and he's a liar. She needs to cut her loses.
@@lingarcia1063 Exactly!
A to the men!!!! Judge was lost on this one.
He really doesn't want to MARRY HER.... he's waiting for something better to come along! I think he really wants someone to share financial responsibility with him!
I agree
@@schuanzerlover3350 yes.... 8 years is long time not to know what you want to do. 😊
No that is not the case. She needs to stop hounding him all the time. Men don't do ultimatums. She better be patient and do those two things he wants, once she does she will get a ring.
@@JAYBOXPOWER1987 Hope so.... we shall see ... if they do an update lol!
Where is the father of her children? Deceased? Or what? 😮
That was horrible to watch. He doesn’t want her and his demeanor, actions, and statements say it loud and clear. Run from this man.
I feel they didn’t really address the fact he’s been stringing her along with false promises for 8 years!
Rule of advice just because you’ve been with someone more than five or ten years doesn’t justify marriage. This is the type of situation that land you in divorce court. People just have to face reality marriage is not for everybody. That’s why it’s important to be honest in the beginning. If you’re not interested in marriage let that person know if you want to get married let that person know but don’t hang around with the person expecting to change their perspective on getting married it won’t work it becomes just a bunch of BS, heartache & Financial pain.
I blame women for that because as Judge Lynn used to say, the man gets ALL if not most of the benefits from live-in situations. So what's the incentive for him to marry her?
@@kmyles8599
Exactly, I agree💯💯
He is definitely cheating, and I think she knows that even if she refuses to believe her intuition. There's no logical excuse for him to form a habit of coming in at 7am. The text message was him getting caught up that's why it took him till the next day to give that sorry excuse. The reason he's so close to his cheating friend is because they have something in common. It does not take anyone 8 years to know if you're the one or not. He is using her as a placeholder till he finds the one and eventually he may give up and settle for her.
He doesn't want to marry you. Time to move on.
Him: I called her every hour. Also Him: She was blowing up my phone. Why and how would she blow up his phone if he's calling every hour? Liar.
Why do people stay in a relationship with someone they really don't want to be with or just buying time until the next best thing comes .......I refuse to stay in a dead relationship lets not waste each other's time period 💯
Real Talk 💯
For some people it’s convenient and a familiar face. This could never be me , I don’t jeopardize my peace and happiness for no one
Thank you
Many reasons dude: finance, kids....life is bigger than our selfish desires. There are time when you have to stick around against your own will sadly.
She's a pretty woman with low self esteem, and I believe her dependency on him financially is what is keeping her there.
Pretty🤣👎🏽
Definitely A woman with three kids needs to get her own.
He is cheating...he wants her to trust him blindly while he continues to cheat.
They let that text slide too easy.. that’s evidence for a cheater right there
He sent that text message to her on purpose. He texted the same number twice. He knew exactly who he was texting and how he wanted to make her feel when he sent that last message.
That is the main reason men go get weak women like this, because they know no matter how bad they may treat her she won't ever, go anywhere (That text message said everything, he was busted) Then when he gets caught, he gets angry and doesn't want to talk about it, and she backs down every time.
😠😠😠😠
Everyone has a breaking point
The MAIN reason!
Ain’t no way I’m not going to make my own MONEY!!!😑
Thank you
Never try to force someone to marry you. It'll never end well!!!
Right. It might not end in a marriage that was not meant to be.
Eight (8) years together. He never plans to marry her. He lies to her to move in with her and her kids or he lies to her to move in with him with her kids. He wants to be single. He just kept her off the market.
How’s Judge come down harder on her than him? 😭 this was a waste
She be stupid and letting him kill what ever life she has left.
Exactly!! People only do to you what you allow
You don't come home where the hell are you sleeping? These women needs to get a grip on themselves and leave these lying cheating men alone. Are you that DESPERATE? I am not trusting any man who is sleeping out.
This is the first time I don't agree with judge star. This man does not want a serious relationship or marriage with this woman. It is so loud, it's screaming, "you are just a woman of convenience". When a man wants you, no one has to force him to be there for you. As a matter of fact, you would be trying to get him TO go out with his friends.
Judge can dress she looks so pretty in this color
Yes! Literally all her outfits have been 🔥
Nope.... not coming home overnight consistently..... something isn't right! Also just because someone tells you why they did something that doesn't make it right! I'm not sure how infeel about this one.....
@Living With Ericka I guess... just because people get married , that doesn't change their habits and ways! Even if they marry , when he is frustrated with her , he will still more than likely do the same thing unless he truly decides to change his ways for himself!
HEYYQUEEN SIS..I LIKE YOUR TUBE NAME👑👸😊
When you have to give an ultimatum, that is your flag to leave. You are not walking in agreement.
Dump him. He's not worth another minute! Your feelings, hopes, dreams do not matter to this narcissist.
Get a job behind his back and save money and leave. Struggle with your kids and your dignity.
So your outlook on relationships is to be a liar..gotcha! Hope the men see this comment. All she has to do is just say hey I'm leaving and leave with her kids. Not take advantage of a man that's providing every single thing for her and a whole lot of kids that are not even his...wow.
I would not get a job behind his back; but I would get a job. It is not because he is a liar that I would become one. I would not throw in his face that I was getting a job so that I could leave. I would just leave once I could afford to do so without letting him know that that was my goal. Eight years ! I do not understand why women allow men to take their most sacred possession without getting what is most important to them; first.
@@Shellygrrl2573 I don’t think she should lie about it but definitely get a job because he definitely doing something not coming home at night turning off his location after 8 years you if you not sure you want to marry me what are we doing
I don't understand why she wants to marry this man. He is condescending, arrogant, and he's a bad liar. Lady, you can do better. The streets can have him. She deserves better.
It's always great at the beginning.
You can't force a man to marry you and get you pregnant
She wanna secure that bag lol. She wanna be kept but wanna spend all this money.
Honorable Star. You're what Divorce Court needed to continue its Saga. You have Style. You have Beauty. You have brains and Common Sense. Your attitude and demeanor is just. By the way, love the outfit.
Bull crap a woman can do 100 things that he asked for and he still will string her long as long as she lets me him I’m so done with this it’s ridiculous💯
He's an older man not to be controlled as he makes the money and supports her kids
The manipulation and gas lighting was real
Giiirl, he don't want you! he's dangling a carrot in front of her face, I bet they won't get married!!!
I think that she is is pushing her self on him a little to much
I mean after 8 years I can kinda get her being like what are we doing and then him turning off his location him not coming home id suspect something going on to do you not want to marry me because there’s someone else in the picture and I figure that’s where she was at
His mother ain’t say that- J. Cole did 😂
But why is he saying that when he set up the financial arrangement. Women should always have their own. Especially when those are not his kids.
If only she would have listen to herself, to what she was telling the judge, she would have see RIGHT THERE where her problems with him were and realize BY HERSELF she’s going nowhere with that man. He loves her but not enough to implicate himself more in marriage.
I can't believe Judge Star was falling for his lies. Dude is obviously cheating and has the audacity to have demands for her. Dude is almost 60 years old and can't bring his behind home at night. It ain't that much hanging out with friends at 55 years old.
Oh yes there is....I'm 57 years old and any chance I get to hang with my buddies, I will come home when I'm good and ready to, and don't have to explain a damn thing to anyone
@@d820m That sounds like a great relationship...
@@San-ui9cr hey, whatever works, I always say 🤣
never beg a man to marry you !!!
Could you guys please do formal interviews vs people walking down a hallway? It would just an cleaner edit to everything.
He is for the S.T.R.E.E.T.S.
He’s a cheater. She has no reason to trust him. I feel bad she wasn’t validated
Her: 15 yrs his junior, gave 8 yrs (clock ticking). Him: Unreliable; begrudges on providing; doesn't step up to keep her (+her kids) safe. Morale: *She got that same - - ".*
Facts!!!
A marriage doesn't stop another women from talking to a married man
Anybody notice the flowers on the desk always match Judge’s outfit? Nice touch 👌🏾
30 ways of telling her I don’t want to be with you.
Too often women like her think they can force their agenda on particular men after the man has told them what they’re not gonna do.
Yeah and ultimatums never work. Especially if she doesn't even trust him. Why marry a woman who doesn't trust you to begin with? Marrying someone isn't going to make that trust pop out of nowhere..smh..
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I don’t think I’ve seen a color that does NOT look good on judge star ⭐️. Love for these outfits 😊
Or a silhouette. She looks great in everything. Pants, skirts, dresses. 👍🏽
Ohhh i like that outfit, star! The color is fantastic
Oh my! These type of relationships are case studies. Let me get my popcorn and observe. 🍿
Why call an Uber for your family instead of calling Uber for your friend
Great point 🤔
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Why must women settle? She not worth a few items for herself? How embarrassing for the kids and herself for him to return the purchase.
Girl - he’s using you. Move on and stop the shenanigans
8 years no marriage.... TF
I rarely depend on anyone to do what they say they will. I always have a back up plan especially when it comes to my child and my life. She seems dependent on him and he’s disappointing her each time. Why would you want to marry someone like that ??
This is me. If I ask you for help best believe I have a plan in my back pocket.
8 years? Gurl bye! He don't want to marry you! Move on
He is lying. You are not coming home because you are doing things with other people that you do not want her to know about. Also why would he not spend time with you and the kids if you are going to be a family?
Yep, he is cheating. Judge Star dropped the ball on this one.
Eight years 😢😮girl he is wasting your time.
When it comes to relationships, people need to take time and vett their interests better. We rush into relationships not knowing diddly about the other person, then wonder why the person isn't who they said they were.
I also wouldn't be waiting 8 years to get married, either. These are questions I'd ask about because that is my ultimate goal. If they aren't there yet, it's on to the next.
Judge Mablean used to say this: Look deep before you leap!
She is convenient. He will pay for and provide for everything if she does what he want her to do and allow him to do what he wants to do in peace. She’s attractive, which in part is a reason why he’s with her; however, she came with 3 kids that are not his, so he’s not fully committed. They’re just using each other…..
Naw he probably cheated. No man stays out all night with no contact especially talking about turning off his location...no respect.
But why did you want to marry a man that stayed out till next day to come to his family, he rather be with his friends. Good luck lady
I love your outfits judge,you look so pretty
As a man ladies do not let a man control the finances. Have your own career/job. These types of men tend to be controlling.
I couldn't agree more.💯
Judge Starr looks great every episode. But she gets to the tea in a calm manner
It does not take 8 years to know this the person you want to marry. I think she wants it MORE than him but I think he is just there. I doubt they will get married.
She agreed to his term because she knowsthat there is no out there to take care of her and her kids....without her working...I would say get a job get I dependant to build up self and leave if he messes things up
🙂 There is no time limit on when you should marry someone... It could all go good or bad... Women can propose to men just as easily as men can propose to women... If you ask that person to marry you and they aren't moving as fast as you like simply move on... Sometimes it's easier said than done when you have alot invested... You must be willing to make the sacrifice in order to stand by your principles...
I wish both happiness on their journeys...💯
Lol he had a whole day to come up with an excuse for that message. I’m mad the judge didn’t see that , he was lying and when the judge was on his side he just rolled along with it. He’s probably thinking “whew, that was close”
That’s what I’m saying! This poor lady got all the lectures about what she does and he’s slimy a$$ got away with everything! How can we see that and they can’t when in the same room!
Judge Star tells it like it is!
She’s getting nervous and scared because her man is not coming home at night. No, she’s getting nervous and scared because her cash cow is in jeopardy. She does not have a job, and she is depending on the brother to take care of her and her children. I too would be concerned if I felt that my money would be leaving.
I too would get upset if the person I spent 8 years with, has no decency to communicate with me about not coming home. He disrespects her with his behavior and is cheating. Why is he stringing her along and being dishonest? She takes care of children and home. That’s a job that is not recognized but is really hard. He is a provider (not a cash cow). She must look into something that she could fall back on because this dude will throw her out like a used shoe.
Oh No he is guilty as charge. Sleeping out poor excuse
This reason why I don’t want to do the “let’s live together and get married later” The man gains more.
Side note, time stamp 3:33 “Now let me finish..” remark seem to be insight to his selfish personality.
Miss' YOU NEED to leave that FOOL Alone 🤔
Choose wisely who you lay with
I find judge Star is alway linient to the blaq men in the case of a blaq man and a wyt woman. This man is very manipulative, hes stringing this woman along and his manipulation will definitely make her feel shes crazy.
It’s really sad to be giving someone an ultimatum to marry you tho fyi it doesn’t take eight years for him to know you are the one believe that 💯
Sorry dude ain’t right- and she’s hard pressed to keep him.
I loved how she said thank you while they both were walking off together. I do hope they make it and stay grounded.
She didn’t say she would get her own money.
I like watching judge Star just found this channel and already repeats .
I don’t know why Judge Star advised this lady to stay. This man has had 8 years and he’s still talking that well maybe … possibly … we can get married… if bs. He doesn’t want to get married, she’s gonna keep enjoying that financial dependence nothings going to change.
Girl he's old...he will never marry you...he's just keeping you around bcuz no one wants him ....like that...
He is cheating
No I do mean no 50 year old 70 year old 90 year old 40 nor 30 man in a committed relationship Not come home . Rather kids have school or in the only car . Man quit playing with this Woman .
I don't know about this one. He doesn't seem connected to her at all. There's some hesitation. She's upset about the money, giving him full authority over finances because he's the only bread winner. She need to have her own. She's not married to him, but he's taking care of her and three kids that aren't his. She need a job. Him coming home the next day? This man feels as if he can do what he wants because again, he makes the money, he's older, and he can leave her at any time. She better wake up, because he's there just for the moment.
He doesn't want to get married. Why should he,he has been getting benefits from a younger woman for 8 years.
She is foolish. move on!!!
8 years,PLEASE!!. NO ,NO!!..
He isn't thinking marriage.
He has an arrogant attitude. He isn't even all that.
She wanted someone to treat her like a daughter, but didn't have the self-esteem to be independent.
SORRY, SHE IS FOOLISH. WHY HAS SHE STAYED 8 YEARS.
THIS MAN IS CONTROLLING!!
SHE SHOULD HAVE BEEN GETTING CHILD SUPPORT FOR HER CHILDREN.
SHE NEEDED TO CUT HIM LOOSE YEARS AGO!!
DONT GIVE HIM AN ULTIMATUM
JUST GO!!!
She needs to go on her way!!!!!!!!!!! forget marrying him!!!!!!
He is so much older than her and takes advantage of her.
PLEASE, LADY ....LEAVE!!!
She is so childish,she is so insecure .
8 years, become independent!!!!!
She is so delusional. someone needs to talk to her! Judge Jones is really trying to tell her,you need to let him go.
He is too old for his behavior.
This is a divorce before marriage. I don't like him . Judge Jones was condensending to her.
She completely ignored his attitude. No,he was playing a game.
Why does, "Why by the cow, when you can get the milk for free?" comes to mind; like 8yrs of "playing house" with multiple children...I could not. frfr
*life is too real
*💩 or get of the pot 🚽
*invest in your future with or without a person
*fear of going it alone is a sad reason to be together
No way. Drop kick his ass out the door. She needs to move on! She is desperately hanging on to this old guy. Just let him be. Find a new, younger man who wants to be with you. She is only 39 years old. If she stays with him - he is going to waste the best of her 40s.