Not only in the Philippines but Asians in general are very concern when it comes to weight. I guess that's one of the main reason why obesity is not as prevalent in asian countries compared to Western countries.
Sam E japorikisikiswa is right, although to add to that Asians tend to be more prone to issues relating to weight than Caucasian people. So imagine this, a great grandma hears that and brings up her children to be healthy and "slimmer" the kids naturally grow up that way without 100% knowing why they want their kids to be slimmer, then those kids do the same with their kids. That's the majority of Asia you have there haha. Like "Eat this rice!" and then the next day "Ah no you gained weight!" hahaha. And then the skin tone thing. Yeah if you're lighter that means you could be an aristocrat and don't have to go outside a lot. It used to be like that in Europe but that completely went upside down now. You might think Filipinos really focus on skin colour (which most do) but if you look at people there it's not as bad as say China and south Korea. In South Korea it is culture like "dont look like a rice farmer pls" and the fact that they know too much sun isn't good for your skin. In the Philippines it's primarily "don't look like a rice farmer pls!"
YESSSS!! I’m half Filipina as well and happened to stumble across this video and absolutely agree. Especially with the “I’m not 16 anymore” comment! You love them so much but good lawd, this subject can really get feelings hurt!
I've been a victim of this and hate it. But since being a recent cancer survivor, I've become less tolerant with this stuff. So next time someone even tries to body shame me i will tell them to shut up before i rip their chest open shove a mediport in it and shove poison through it. I've got nothing to be ashamed about. I'm proud of my body.
Sam - the message in this video was spot on. Was interesting to hear about your culture! You look gorgeous btw - so ignoring would be our advice to you! 🙌
Hi Sam. I married into the Pinoy culture and have seen the "fat" comment many times. One can have thick skin but it's still hurtful to hear, especially from family. We aren't all blessed with small bone structures either. Just respond with "salamat PO" and try not to let it get you down. Like another response said, you're gorgeous 👍🏼
we were just talking about this in our family!! 😃 but i think it is harder to change a whole culture.... sssoooo... i think, we just have to ride along with it.. it is also our culture's way of having conversation.. food.. we go to someone's house and we are offered food! then IF theu are family, they will comment about your weight.. i have grown to actually love those encounters because they are true.. unlike where I am right now, everyone seems so fake.. showing one thing in your face then whisper to each other when you're gone! Bbuuutttt that being said, i have just learned to be happy having a family who cares.. they will be there for you through thick or thin (pun intended) and when it really matters, i'm sure they will let you know how beautiful you really are 😋😉 hope this helps
greenelephant omala Great points!! Always have to count our blessings right? Pointing out your weight isn't the biggest problem in the world at the end of the day. Gotta love family!
start the change with the young children. Have them start calling out all the thin people. Kids can be cruel lol maybe after enough skinny people have been made fun of and called rotting skeletons maybe they will learn to shut their mouths
Ever since I gained weight, my relatives have been calling me "fat", which is also one of the reasons why I got low self-esteem and because I took it seriously. My granduncle just called me fat earlier, I've been on a diet for almost half of a month rn and trying to restore my confidence again. It still hurts my feeling, Idk If I'm being sensitive but I just really care what others think of me too much. But watching this and reading the comments section makes me feel that I'm not alone.
This is sooo True~ You know, my brother was really fat since he was small, so every one (family & friends) would call him names. My grandmother would often scold him when he eats too much. What's funny and confusing was when he turned 17 and started to diet and lose weight, my grandmother still scolds him... for eating too little. What a confusing family.. But this is why we Filipino's has close knitted families.
REAL FILIPINOS WHO HAVEN'T YET EXPERIENCE USA LIFE...WHEN THEY SAY YOU ARE "FAT" THEY'RE LITERALLY SAYING YOU ARE WEALTHY OR IN GOOD HEALTH. BUT IF YOU ARE BORN FILIPINO-AMERICAN...THAT'S A WHOLE LOT DIFFERENT MEANING. I REMEMBER WHEN I WAS STILL IN PHILIPPINES NO FOREIGN BACKGROUND OR TRAVEL OUTSIDE THE COUNTRY. I SAW THIS AMERICAN LADY-FRIEND, SIT NEXT TO HEAR. I TOLD HER THAT SHE'S FAT (TRYING TO IMPRESSED HER). FIRST SHE IGNORED ME, AGAIN I SAID THE SECOND TIME THOUGHT SHE DIDN'T HEAR ME, BY THAT TIME SHE LEFT ME...AND I WAS WANDERING IF I SAID SOMETHING WRONG. ONE AMERICAN LADY SIT NEXT TO ME AND TOLD I WAS BEING RUDE, THAT I DON'T HAVE TO SAY THAT AGAIN. THAT WAS MY LESSON TO LEARNED...NOW I AM LIVING HERE IN THE US OF A...I UNDERSTOOD WHAT I MEANT. HOWEVER, FOR FILIPINOS (A REAL ONE), WHEN THEY SAY YOU ARE FAT (EITHER TO A FILIPINO OR FOREIGNER)...THEY MEANT IT FOR GOOD.
My Filipino grandma comments on my weight all the time like she says stuff like when you were younger you were so skinny what happened or you’re brother is skinnier then you, you need to lose weight
Cadence Huizar ohhhhh yes. Same here, always comparing me to when I was like 15. They just don’t realize metabolism slows down and we need to embrace it!!! My Lola would say the same thing to me!
I have two daughters, ages 26 and 28. They are half Filipino and French. I’m the Filipino mom who grew up in SF so I’m not old fashioned but I understand our older generations behavior. I shared your video to them and one daughter wrote “ Because you are just sharing it as a way for you to validate your actions.”. Yes, she has struggled with her weight and I have told her nicely to take care of her health and to be sure to see the doctor because diabetic runs in my family. We love her and care for her health. She always thinks that I’m referring to her as a big person. She has accepted her body but obviously not cause she didn’t even want to see your video. I thought you Video was funny and I concur with all your examples. My girls were not raised in a Filipino setting unfortunately.
The thing is you can't change the relative so don't change your routine. What they say in front of you (or from behind within earshot) rethink that you're the adult and sitting pretty because at the end of the day they're the ones who are insecure. I know because i'm fil/am and I've been in that situation at fambam's, wake and bake's, the whole gamut of family get togethers and it never fails.
I am a Vietnamese woman. I am 5'4' and 120lbs, I am still be called fat/overweight by almost all male and female Vietnamese. Also, my Taiwanese bf wants me to be 110lbs. He kept saying that he is waiting for me to become 110lbs. It is kind stressful for Asian women regarding appearance. Many Asian people care more appearance than brain.
I'm not gonna lie I work at walmart, and a good majority of my fellow coworkers are filipino, one of which started to physically poke and grab my waistline and remind me of how fat I am every day. I'm a guy 5ft 9, I use to weigh 175 now I'm at 202 #Almost30PoundsHeaver. And Yeah! I was really close to beating up my coworker. XP he still does it so eventually where gonna talk to HR. XP
The Body Positive Movement really should be all over Asia. Asians are so obsessed with appearance, especially weight and we seriously need to do something about this! As a Filipino who grew up and lives in Europe, in my European country we view it as super rude calling someone "fat." I've always been chubby since I was a kid and been (and still am) a victim of being fat shamed by my Filipino family. Dont get me wrong, I love my family and everything but that's one of the few things I hate about when I visit them in the Philippines. Growing up being fat shamed I've learned to become thick-skinned, however I'm human, I cant always stay strong like that and I do get hurt by their words. So hurt, I actually got depression and anxiety because of the constant fat shaming and judging about my appearance, and still am suffering from it. No one deserves to be talked like that I find it so awfully disgusting, becoming thick-skinned is not always enough. Being treated like that can cause a person having a lot of insecurities and even mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety.
There was a time in the Philippines way back when it was actually a compliment if you tell somebody they've gained weight. Means somebody's doing well both in health and in finances. Well, things change.
Reason why i hate going to the philippines to visit fam... its the first words that comes out of their mouth at the airport instead of saying welcome home we miss you...
Veron Untalan yep! It gives me anxiety whenever I plan a trip to the Philippines. I'm thinking 'what will they think of how I look?!' When really, they should just be happy that we flew across the world to see them! Sheesh!
Hahahahaha! My fam always says that. All you need to do is accept it or just laugh. I wonder why dont you have "knights"? Like when someones says your fat there is always someone who will think that u lose weight 😂😂😂
I’ve been married into such a family for a long time. When they started calling me fat, I wasn’t any where near fat. My body changed and I no longer looked like a skinny teenager, but far from “fat.” Now that I’m actually fat, no one says anything. Everyone says that the culture is more frank and “concerned” about gaining weight, but I also wonder if it came from a place of jealousy when I was young, pretty, and slender. I know how annoying it is when people think others are mean to them because of envy, but seeing it happen to others makes me think they come across as jealous even if it’s not the real reason. It looks like mean and jealous behavior. I’m old and fat now, and there’s no commentary, maybe they realize that I own a mirror. And they don’t care to make an actually aging overweight woman feel bad because I’m actually invisible in society, but knocking a young woman down a peg wasn’t as mean because I could cry into my skinny clothes and turn heads else where, know what I mean? Sorry for the ramble. You seem so lovely and sweet. I wish they’d stop.
Hey! I agree with you, i am Filipino and i don't really appreciate how Filipinos commenting to your personal appearance, i get offended and feel so bad, and i don't like it. I'm proud to be Filipino but that's the thing that make me so uncomfortable around my fellow man. My daugther is half Spanish half Filipino, and when we go to the Philippines, she hates when people are staring at her and whispering around her. Oh man but what can i do!
Cutegamerkitty 40 it is really tough, eh? I think for your daughter it's important to have empowering conversations with her so she's aware of how Filipinos can be, but also so she isn't fazed by them. It's difficult! We love our families but they don't realize the impact their words have sometimes!
I'll be going to the Philippines to marry my filipina next year and I already warned her that I have no filter. If they make one stupid comment about me or her it will be a day they will never forget because I will give them a lesson in manors American style!
I dont know how it is today but when I was growing up in the Philippines, to be called fat was a compliment. Everyone wanted to be fat. Being overweight signified you were in a higher socioeconomic status.
XCELCIER I’ve heard this before! That may be true in some cases. For me, the comments have never been a compliment. They say it comes from a place of concern... but I think it has to do with vanity 😝
When my family do this it brings me down to the point I’d just cry in my room and contemplate life and how I’m not worth anything. I’m Filipino and have dealt with this throughout my life. I can’t even look in the mirror sometimes cause I’d just start to cry. I make sure no one sees me crying cause I don’t wanna show them how I really feel. :(
Totally relate. One time one of my “aunties” mom said my calves were kinda “thick.” My mom backed me up and said “at least she doesn’t have chicken legs! “😂 So missed my mom. Yah, I consider myself a good size but if you compare me to my size 2 and 4 sisters, I’m considered fat. First thing my older sister says when she sees me, “oh, you looked like you lost weight.” No, it’s actually cause you haven’t seen me in over a year cause of stupid comments you make so I stay away from you! Forget thick skin. I just think some are downright tacky with their comments. Can make someone have a darn eating disorder. There’s no excuse for rudeness, family or not!😆 By the way, I’m a size 6 so go figure!
They are concern when your getting fat. Then if you’re getting into diet and getting thin they say that your starving yourself into death. Like whut ?? 😏😏😂 nakakaloka 😂😂👏🏻
OMG one of my best friends is filipino and he went from being 5'7 250 to 5'7 175 in 8 months because he was so pissed and hurt his family and our filipino coworkers kept making comments about his weight (We work together at the local hospital). I don't give a shit who you are, family or no, it's fucking rude to make comments. And most of them have the nerve to get mad when he gets mad or shows his hurt and they try to justify it with "I'm just looking out for you" or some stupid justification like that. They don't know what he's going through. Maybe he's super depressed or maybe he's got a glandular problem. They tend to take such liberties like that because a lot of them are rude as hell. I mean yeah, my friend is now happier than ever but it shouldn't have taken THAT to make him do it. Poor dude would emotionally eat for a good chunk of that time. I would even ask him to come to the gym with me when he'd complain about them to me after awhile and I thought he'd kill himself at one point. Because of that too, he also alienates himself from his family and ended up dating 3 different daughters of 3 different coworkers who told him he was fat, ALL at the same time. Now I know that's not good cuz it's infidelity but hell, those bitches deserved it! haha And yeah another stupid thing is his family would make comments but they'd always get mad if he didn't eat the fried or super salty shit they cook at their homes too. Hypocrites.
I was the only chubby kid in the family. My "kuyas" would joke about my weight (I slowed down the car because of my weight, etc etc). I learned something from then....to be thick skinned and techniques how to shift the convo. Even if I had a normal weight in college and early 20s, they still saw me as the chubby kid and joked about my weight a lot. I know it's their way of "lambing" and telling me they still love me :-) But now in my late 20s, I have PCOS and I really am fat, I just laugh when people comment about my being huge...because I can't deny nor hide it hahahaha
Yawina Rada I have a similar experience with that EXACT comment! Good that you’re able to laugh it off - not an easy thing to do at first. I need to learn from you!!
Sam, you are not fat. I feel sorry that your family despite their 'love and care' express their comments so insensitively. Since you have tried everything as you say, ignoring them is a good advice! Sadly, they may not change, but at least you can change how you would respond.
I'm big too, but every time someone told that I'm fat and I need to trim down a bit. Well, all I could say is that..." What? I worked so hard to have these fats and I just give up just like that...no way....
In the olden days in the Philippines, "tumataba" equates to "umaasenso" (fat=prosperous). They comment on you gaining weight then feed you more. So Filipino. 😁🤦 But the love is real.
In Filipino culture,commenting on a friend or family member,about being fat is normal to us.We are not offended; we do not take offense but instead,we take it in stride,or in jest.It is part of daily conversation when someone comments on being chubby,and just take it lightly , as being normal.It is our culture,and we do not show displeasure or resent it at all.But it's a different ballgame in America or in Canada and other cultures.But of course now,in this time and age ,it's different.It depends on who you say it too,or how you say it,and when you say it.This is just my two-cents worth.
To Filipino moms, being skinny means "malnourished," and kids are fed like crazy. Being "plump" is healthy and a advantageous when one get sick (they bring this notion anywhere they go). Getting sick in a tropical country, there will be drastic weight loss from lack of appetite and metabolism in overdrive causing one to look emaciated or looking in the brink of death. However, if you're in the western world gaining weight means you're just eating too much, or for heavens' sake, you're pregnant without a husband (oh Lord, moms will die in an untimely manner!).
I am in the Philippines to attend the funeral of my mom’s sister. As expected body shaming starts and non stopped. Cousins whom I am not close with nor seen them for ages never stopped making comments on how fat I am. I just bite my tongue not to talk back since it’s not nice to say something bad to other people. I am hurt but it’s classic Filipino culture.
Oh that's just one of the many... wait till you hear "kailan mag-aasawa?" (when will you marry? " ugh, it's a staple on all family gatherings when you are above 23 and still single.
Haha, how has this not been viral? I can remember going to my cousins lola’s when we’re little & her squishing my arms saying “ohh, you’re so healthy.” Or my g-pa’s brother who said “oh you drink diet coke, I can’t tell.” It’s funny and frustrating! But we’ll be the first to say...Eat, Eat!
Soo true Yeah, when we go to a family party. My family would call my sister 'Jabba Tabba'! As soon as she walk inside the house. That's Jabba the Hut from star wars btw. My sister was 14 at the time too. So horrible.
I'm not Filipino but Latina. I think everyday of my childhood and teenage to early 20s I was called fat. I was never fat as a matter of fact while my family was calling me fat the kids at school were calling me skeleton. Smh
I'll never forget being asked where we'd found "that beautiful ringer that plays Grace" after family members saw you perform in ANNIE... if anything, you've gotten even more gorgeous in the intervening years! I know it's easy to say, but try not to let the comments get you down. HEALTHY = beautiful!
Jeez, thank you so much for that. I was totally about to write "Ms. Scott", but I guess Jen is more appropriate now! Really, truly appreciate the kind words :) Hope you're well!!
I get fat shamed by everyone when i go to the philippines. They are so thin they dont realize that they are the unhealthy ones, maybe they sweat so much they stay thin i domt know. The point is do not judge someone for being big.
Jane b Hey Jane. I totally relate. It's so hard, and they don't realize how they make you feel! Thank you for watching. I hope you learn to ignore them!! I'm doing the same :)
Hahaha! I used to feel insulted. But I learned to throw it back in a hilarious way. When they call me fat or round.. my reply is always, ‘ I can’t lose this weight, it’s an investment of good food, no stress and just plain happiness’. One of my uncles calls me fat all the time.. I never took it seriously... but one day I was in a bad mood about something... and finally replied and said, if I’m fat, auntie must be bigger than a house.
I was looking for a video like this. I was consistently reminded of my weight since forever by my family. I was called fat as a skinny child, then gained weight, then compared to "back when i was skinny." No logic. I'm European, and I live in Canada. Last time I went back to visit my grandparents, I bought myself a traditional pastry to try, i saw my grandma on the street and she grabbed the pastry out of my hand and said my grandpa would have better use for it. I then restricted for a few months and almost killed myself. It was a mixed feeling of revenge, wanting her to feel like she ruined me, and I never wanted to stop because I actually believed i was never good enough by the time I hit my 20's, when the pastry incident tipped me over the edge completely. And its not easy being anorexic in Canadian weather. lol
XxToxicCandyxX1 I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It's sometimes hard to see that our families, in their own way, are trying to show us they 'care' by pointing out our weight and appearance. It's the wrong way to show it, but it's all they know. It sounds like you have a lot of self awareness and I hope you were able to conquer any insecurity that these comments may have brought about 💪🏻
Sooo you’re like me. Although one of my aunts definitely is shown through your Tita Baby. Even if she might actually be worse. There was a time she came off as “Diet Shaming” me. Back story? My dad asked me to drive him to a relative’s house about 40 mins away from where we live. I ate breakfast before we went. We got there and my dad took advantage of Filipino breakfast. I declined cause I was full. My aunt asked me five times if I wanted to eat. I said no, because I ate before we left and was still full. Later when her son woke up and asked me if I was gonna eat, she answered for me “oh no she’s not cause she is on a diet.” ..... I almost told her to Eff Off, just because I wasn’t eating at the time it didn’t mean I was on a diet. Even now I feel like the entire moment was WTF.
You know what's awkward and very weird? Your titas and your mommy roast you for being fat and YET they keep feeding you with high fat high sugar foods. HAha. LOL.
That is so accurate, lol. I don’t know if you notice, when they see their neighbor carrying , they hey Mare are you going to the market, it’s their way of saying good morning, or maybe she want to know what happen last night , TSISMIS TSISMIS
It is okay to say, Auntie, thanks for the unsolicited advice I know you care about me but I have someone who loves me just being this way so I will keep this weight for now. Now stop feeding me this best tasting lumpia!
You know, my Lola is opposite. When I lost weight she is like... you are too skinny. My cousin says because skinniness is a sign of poverty in the Philippines. So, I was too skinny when I was young and then too fat when I was older. Then to skinny and then too fat. Never was I the right weight. Ever. 'Cause I was mixed, I think they are just not use to my body type.
Omg this is sooooooooooo true! I FaceTimed my cousin in the Philippines and the first thing that came out of his mouth was... “OMG! You look soooooooo fat! Look at your cheek?” I was like WTF! He didn’t even asked how I was doing during a very bad blizzard here in New York! I was sooooooooo annoyed ! But family is family! LOL 😂
Yeah maybe because they worried of HB if you gained a lot... That's in the blood actually so it's normal. They don't believe in work out but believe in eating moderation...
Oh so so so true! Asawa ko gets this all the time from Filipinos. They're trying to be HELPFUL though, I think, when they ask, "Are you pregnant"? lol You are a beaming light of positivity, Sam! God bless your pamilya. - Blaise Bullwits Turnbull, Toronto
CMON im a full blooded pinoy, the truth is your family is not saying it in a negative meaning...you should know that its pinoys way of making LAMBING TO YOU..... YOU JUST HAVE TO KNOW HOW TO READ BETWEEN THE LINES AS THEY SAY....they adore you like the baby you ones were and they miss that....
I can relate! I’m half Filipino. My mom is ALWAYS telling me to eat, eat, eat! Not enough to save! Pinish it, nako! Then she will be the first one to complain that I’m “getting big’. My mom is offended if I don’t eat, then she criticizes me when I do eat. I can’t win. All of her friends have no problem putting in their 2cents, but heaven forbid if someone says something to them. My favorite is when they tell me that I have such a beautiful face, that I’m prettier than my younger sisters. Then they slap me with “but you’re so big. Here, eat something.” WTH??? Lmao! I love my Filipino family. They make life....interesting. 😂😂😂
As I said earlier the cure is this....every time one of the woman in your family start being catty and talking about weight just start talking about how if their tits sag any more they are going to hit the floor so maybe they need a breast reduction procedure lolAnd if any of the men in your family dare to enter that conversation you shut them down real fast with talking about their aging shriveling up dick that has failed to rise for any occasion in years lol
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and if someone in your fam says that you are fat again.. just tell em, that his/her eyes are in zoom mode thats why you look bigger to him or her.. 😂😂😂😂😂
I never had this. They actual say the opposite. "Eat more. You are not eating enough." I actually have a normal BMI and quite lean to average. This maybe due to you being a female.
my mum does it to me alot .. she always sayin go on diet .. diet diet diet gettin fat.. hehehe the comments sometimes on fb can be very embarrasing. she lost weights i never called her fat when she was fat eheheh.. its hard loosing weights ..
Aside from filipino family calling you fat they also call you "maitim" or like dark, not white, like why you look "maitim" on pictures. Like "you look dark in there". Gosh. I cant stand it anymore. Its as if something is wrong with it.
FUNNY.......... isn't it Sam? That's who we Filipinos are. Frankly speaking, you are sexy and brainy too but most of all VERY PRETTY!!!!!! Anyways you never turned your back to the culture rooted in your blood. Thanks for having a pure Filipino heart. GOD bless you and your Filipino family.
MrandMrsBergner Thanks for your comment. It's tough, eh? We just have to keep reminding ourselves (and your wife!) that in their own weird way, they're doing it because they're concerned. A hurtful way to show it, but they definitely mean well most of the time.
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Do what I do:
Tita: tumataba ka!
Me: kayo din po Tita :)
They'll never call you fat again 😂😂😂
shaninagans Ang galing mo! I'll have to try that soon!
shaninagans say inget ka lang
Im trying this lol
best clap back ive ever heard! lol
Hahahahahah i was thinking about doing that too but baka sampal lng maabot ko 😂😂
They are concern when you keep eating but then they would always give you food. 😁
Ariane Villaseran I know right! Such hypocrites lol.
Ariane Villaseran Then there's no need inviting them to go to jollibee's..:)
Ariane Villaseran hahahahaha its true but u know we love them
Yes and they really need to look in the mirrors at themselves
Not only in the Philippines but Asians in general are very concern when it comes to weight. I guess that's one of the main reason why obesity is not as prevalent in asian countries compared to Western countries.
Japorikiskiswa Cruz weight and skin colour I find! If I get a tan, they don't like that either! Thanks for watching and commenting! 😊
Sam E japorikisikiswa is right, although to add to that Asians tend to be more prone to issues relating to weight than Caucasian people. So imagine this, a great grandma hears that and brings up her children to be healthy and "slimmer" the kids naturally grow up that way without 100% knowing why they want their kids to be slimmer, then those kids do the same with their kids. That's the majority of Asia you have there haha. Like "Eat this rice!" and then the next day "Ah no you gained weight!" hahaha.
And then the skin tone thing. Yeah if you're lighter that means you could be an aristocrat and don't have to go outside a lot. It used to be like that in Europe but that completely went upside down now. You might think Filipinos really focus on skin colour (which most do) but if you look at people there it's not as bad as say China and south Korea. In South Korea it is culture like "dont look like a rice farmer pls" and the fact that they know too much sun isn't good for your skin. In the Philippines it's primarily "don't look like a rice farmer pls!"
Exactly, this is why she should love them even more. And maybe stop devouring lumpias like cereal, shit...
Rin T You sound like you have some experience with this! Thank you for your insight 😊
Letty CV Maddox oh I'll love them no matter what! I might love Lumpia just as much as I love my pamilya 😜
YESSSS!! I’m half Filipina as well and happened to stumble across this video and absolutely agree. Especially with the “I’m not 16 anymore” comment! You love them so much but good lawd, this subject can really get feelings hurt!
Preach girl, preach!!!! And I swear they hold you to some different standard cause you’re ‘mistiza’. Doesn’t make sense!
I've been a victim of this and hate it. But since being a recent cancer survivor, I've become less tolerant with this stuff. So next time someone even tries to body shame me i will tell them to shut up before i rip their chest open shove a mediport in it and shove poison through it. I've got nothing to be ashamed about. I'm proud of my body.
Sam - the message in this video was spot on. Was interesting to hear about your culture! You look gorgeous btw - so ignoring would be our advice to you! 🙌
Wow, thank you so much! What a kind thing to say. I love seeing how real you guys get on the Momjo Monday episodes. Keep it up!!!
Hi Sam. I married into the Pinoy culture and have seen the "fat" comment many times. One can have thick skin but it's still hurtful to hear, especially from family. We aren't all blessed with small bone structures either. Just respond with "salamat PO" and try not to let it get you down. Like another response said, you're gorgeous 👍🏼
JC Hi JC! Thanks for your kind words! That's some good advice that I'll certainly put into practice 😊
And if you say to them your old , fat , broke and ignorant you will be shamed !!! Go figure .
we were just talking about this in our family!! 😃 but i think it is harder to change a whole culture.... sssoooo... i think, we just have to ride along with it.. it is also our culture's way of having conversation.. food.. we go to someone's house and we are offered food! then IF theu are family, they will comment about your weight.. i have grown to actually love those encounters because they are true.. unlike where I am right now, everyone seems so fake.. showing one thing in your face then whisper to each other when you're gone! Bbuuutttt that being said, i have just learned to be happy having a family who cares.. they will be there for you through thick or thin (pun intended) and when it really matters, i'm sure they will let you know how beautiful you really are 😋😉 hope this helps
greenelephant omala Great points!! Always have to count our blessings right? Pointing out your weight isn't the biggest problem in the world at the end of the day. Gotta love family!
start the change with the young children. Have them start calling out all the thin people. Kids can be cruel lol maybe after enough skinny people have been made fun of and called rotting skeletons maybe they will learn to shut their mouths
Amazing! You are not fat. In fact, you are HOT.
She is not fat but she is a little thick which is good. I like thick woman not skinny. More cushion for the pushing hahaha
Having a filipino family makes me feel so insecure about myself
Duck I know how you feel! Just try and build that thick skin and ignore the comments!!
Ever since I gained weight, my relatives have been calling me "fat", which is also one of the reasons why I got low self-esteem and because I took it seriously. My granduncle just called me fat earlier, I've been on a diet for almost half of a month rn and trying to restore my confidence again. It still hurts my feeling, Idk If I'm being sensitive but I just really care what others think of me too much. But watching this and reading the comments section makes me feel that I'm not alone.
This is sooo True~ You know, my brother was really fat since he was small, so every one (family & friends) would call him names. My grandmother would often scold him when he eats too much. What's funny and confusing was when he turned 17 and started to diet and lose weight, my grandmother still scolds him... for eating too little. What a confusing family.. But this is why we Filipino's has close knitted families.
Shynne L. Yeah that sounds like an experience a lot of us Filipinos have! We can never make them happy haha, but we love them anyway, right?
REAL FILIPINOS WHO HAVEN'T YET EXPERIENCE USA LIFE...WHEN THEY SAY YOU ARE "FAT" THEY'RE LITERALLY SAYING YOU ARE WEALTHY OR IN GOOD HEALTH. BUT IF YOU ARE BORN FILIPINO-AMERICAN...THAT'S A WHOLE LOT DIFFERENT MEANING. I REMEMBER WHEN I WAS STILL IN PHILIPPINES NO FOREIGN BACKGROUND OR TRAVEL OUTSIDE THE COUNTRY. I SAW THIS AMERICAN LADY-FRIEND, SIT NEXT TO HEAR. I TOLD HER THAT SHE'S FAT (TRYING TO IMPRESSED HER). FIRST SHE IGNORED ME, AGAIN I SAID THE SECOND TIME THOUGHT SHE DIDN'T HEAR ME, BY THAT TIME SHE LEFT ME...AND I WAS WANDERING IF I SAID SOMETHING WRONG. ONE AMERICAN LADY SIT NEXT TO ME AND TOLD I WAS BEING RUDE, THAT I DON'T HAVE TO SAY THAT AGAIN. THAT WAS MY LESSON TO LEARNED...NOW I AM LIVING HERE IN THE US OF A...I UNDERSTOOD WHAT I MEANT. HOWEVER, FOR FILIPINOS (A REAL ONE), WHEN THEY SAY YOU ARE FAT (EITHER TO A FILIPINO OR FOREIGNER)...THEY MEANT IT FOR GOOD.
My Filipino grandma comments on my weight all the time like she says stuff like when you were younger you were so skinny what happened or you’re brother is skinnier then you, you need to lose weight
Cadence Huizar ohhhhh yes. Same here, always comparing me to when I was like 15. They just don’t realize metabolism slows down and we need to embrace it!!! My Lola would say the same thing to me!
I have two daughters, ages 26 and 28. They are half Filipino and French. I’m the Filipino mom who grew up in SF so I’m not old fashioned but I understand our older generations behavior. I shared your video to them and one daughter wrote “ Because you are just sharing it as a way for you to validate your actions.”. Yes, she has struggled with her weight and I have told her nicely to take care of her health and to be sure to see the doctor because diabetic runs in my family. We love her and care for her health. She always thinks that I’m referring to her as a big person. She has accepted her body but obviously not cause she didn’t even want to see your video.
I thought you Video was funny and I concur with all your examples. My girls were not raised in a Filipino setting unfortunately.
as long as no filipino calls you ugly then you are fine. lol
incubusLive Haha! Not yet 😜
The thing is you can't change the relative so don't change your routine. What they say in front of you (or from behind within earshot) rethink that you're the adult and sitting pretty because at the end of the day they're the ones who are insecure.
I know because i'm fil/am and I've been in that situation at fambam's, wake and bake's, the whole gamut of family get togethers and it never fails.
That is so normal to filipinos
You are a beautiful person and your brows have never looked better!
Bless your soul, Lisychka. Love you!
I am a Vietnamese woman. I am 5'4' and 120lbs, I am still be called fat/overweight by almost all male and female Vietnamese. Also, my Taiwanese bf wants me to be 110lbs. He kept saying that he is waiting for me to become 110lbs. It is kind stressful for Asian women regarding appearance. Many Asian people care more appearance than brain.
I'm not gonna lie I work at walmart, and a good majority of my fellow coworkers are filipino,
one of which started to physically poke and grab my waistline and remind me of how fat I am every day.
I'm a guy 5ft 9, I use to weigh 175 now I'm at 202 #Almost30PoundsHeaver. And Yeah! I was really close to beating up my coworker. XP
he still does it so eventually where gonna talk to HR. XP
The Body Positive Movement really should be all over Asia. Asians are so obsessed with appearance, especially weight and we seriously need to do something about this! As a Filipino who grew up and lives in Europe, in my European country we view it as super rude calling someone "fat." I've always been chubby since I was a kid and been (and still am) a victim of being fat shamed by my Filipino family. Dont get me wrong, I love my family and everything but that's one of the few things I hate about when I visit them in the Philippines. Growing up being fat shamed I've learned to become thick-skinned, however I'm human, I cant always stay strong like that and I do get hurt by their words. So hurt, I actually got depression and anxiety because of the constant fat shaming and judging about my appearance, and still am suffering from it. No one deserves to be talked like that I find it so awfully disgusting, becoming thick-skinned is not always enough. Being treated like that can cause a person having a lot of insecurities and even mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety.
There was a time in the Philippines way back when it was actually a compliment if you tell somebody they've gained weight. Means somebody's doing well both in health and in finances. Well, things change.
Reason why i hate going to the philippines to visit fam... its the first words that comes out of their mouth at the airport instead of saying welcome home we miss you...
Veron Untalan yep! It gives me anxiety whenever I plan a trip to the Philippines. I'm thinking 'what will they think of how I look?!' When really, they should just be happy that we flew across the world to see them! Sheesh!
Sam East That's why we all have FB... it's just like being there. .:)
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Hahahahaha! My fam always says that. All you need to do is accept it or just laugh. I wonder why dont you have "knights"? Like when someones says your fat there is always someone who will think that u lose weight 😂😂😂
If they said you look chubby it's just you're malusog.
Spot on. Filipinos are like that. They noticed your appearance first.
@ramnavs yup! Sounds like you can relate!
I’ve been married into such a family for a long time. When they started calling me fat, I wasn’t any where near fat. My body changed and I no longer looked like a skinny teenager, but far from “fat.” Now that I’m actually fat, no one says anything. Everyone says that the culture is more frank and “concerned” about gaining weight, but I also wonder if it came from a place of jealousy when I was young, pretty, and slender. I know how annoying it is when people think others are mean to them because of envy, but seeing it happen to others makes me think they come across as jealous even if it’s not the real reason. It looks like mean and jealous behavior. I’m old and fat now, and there’s no commentary, maybe they realize that I own a mirror. And they don’t care to make an actually aging overweight woman feel bad because I’m actually invisible in society, but knocking a young woman down a peg wasn’t as mean because I could cry into my skinny clothes and turn heads else where, know what I mean? Sorry for the ramble. You seem so lovely and sweet. I wish they’d stop.
Hey! I agree with you, i am Filipino and i don't really appreciate how Filipinos commenting to your personal appearance, i get offended and feel so bad, and i don't like it. I'm proud to be Filipino but that's the thing that make me so uncomfortable around my fellow man. My daugther is half Spanish half Filipino, and when we go to the Philippines, she hates when people are staring at her and whispering around her. Oh man but what can i do!
Cutegamerkitty 40 it is really tough, eh? I think for your daughter it's important to have empowering conversations with her so she's aware of how Filipinos can be, but also so she isn't fazed by them. It's difficult! We love our families but they don't realize the impact their words have sometimes!
I'll be going to the Philippines to marry my filipina next year and I already warned her that I have no filter. If they make one stupid comment about me or her it will be a day they will never forget because I will give them a lesson in manors American style!
I dont know how it is today but when I was growing up in the Philippines, to be called fat was a compliment. Everyone wanted to be fat. Being overweight signified you were in a higher socioeconomic status.
XCELCIER I’ve heard this before! That may be true in some cases. For me, the comments have never been a compliment. They say it comes from a place of concern... but I think it has to do with vanity 😝
this is mostly an issue in the provinces. In the big cities like manila and Cebu there are fat Philipinos every where lol
When my family do this it brings me down to the point I’d just cry in my room and contemplate life and how I’m not worth anything. I’m Filipino and have dealt with this throughout my life.
I can’t even look in the mirror sometimes cause I’d just start to cry. I make sure no one sees me crying cause I don’t wanna show them how I really feel. :(
Totally relate. One time one of my “aunties” mom said my calves were kinda “thick.” My mom backed me up and said “at least she doesn’t have chicken legs! “😂 So missed my mom. Yah, I consider myself a good size but if you compare me to my size 2 and 4 sisters, I’m considered fat. First thing my older sister says when she sees me, “oh, you looked like you lost weight.” No, it’s actually cause you haven’t seen me in over a year cause of stupid comments you make so I stay away from you! Forget thick skin. I just think some are downright tacky with their comments. Can make someone have a darn eating disorder. There’s no excuse for rudeness, family or not!😆 By the way, I’m a size 6 so go figure!
They are concern when your getting fat. Then if you’re getting into diet and getting thin they say that your starving yourself into death. Like whut ?? 😏😏😂 nakakaloka 😂😂👏🏻
Mariah Jimenez nakalaloka talaga!!! There's no pleasing them! 😂
OMG one of my best friends is filipino and he went from being 5'7 250 to 5'7 175 in 8 months because he was so pissed and hurt his family and our filipino coworkers kept making comments about his weight (We work together at the local hospital). I don't give a shit who you are, family or no, it's fucking rude to make comments. And most of them have the nerve to get mad when he gets mad or shows his hurt and they try to justify it with "I'm just looking out for you" or some stupid justification like that. They don't know what he's going through. Maybe he's super depressed or maybe he's got a glandular problem. They tend to take such liberties like that because a lot of them are rude as hell. I mean yeah, my friend is now happier than ever but it shouldn't have taken THAT to make him do it. Poor dude would emotionally eat for a good chunk of that time. I would even ask him to come to the gym with me when he'd complain about them to me after awhile and I thought he'd kill himself at one point. Because of that too, he also alienates himself from his family and ended up dating 3 different daughters of 3 different coworkers who told him he was fat, ALL at the same time. Now I know that's not good cuz it's infidelity but hell, those bitches deserved it! haha
And yeah another stupid thing is his family would make comments but they'd always get mad if he didn't eat the fried or super salty shit they cook at their homes too. Hypocrites.
I was the only chubby kid in the family. My "kuyas" would joke about my weight (I slowed down the car because of my weight, etc etc). I learned something from then....to be thick skinned and techniques how to shift the convo. Even if I had a normal weight in college and early 20s, they still saw me as the chubby kid and joked about my weight a lot. I know it's their way of "lambing" and telling me they still love me :-) But now in my late 20s, I have PCOS and I really am fat, I just laugh when people comment about my being huge...because I can't deny nor hide it hahahaha
Yawina Rada I have a similar experience with that EXACT comment! Good that you’re able to laugh it off - not an easy thing to do at first. I need to learn from you!!
Sam, you are not fat. I feel sorry that your family despite their 'love and care' express their comments so insensitively. Since you have tried everything as you say, ignoring them is a good advice! Sadly, they may not change, but at least you can change how you would respond.
Lani D thank you Lani! That is a great piece of advice that I’ll try and follow! 🙂
Sam East you're welcome. I get asked why im still single over and over haha grrrrr
I'm big too, but every time someone told that I'm fat and I need to trim down a bit. Well, all I could say is that..." What? I worked so hard to have these fats and I just give up just like that...no way....
In the olden days in the Philippines, "tumataba" equates to "umaasenso" (fat=prosperous).
They comment on you gaining weight then feed you more. So Filipino. 😁🤦
But the love is real.
In Filipino culture,commenting on a friend or family member,about being fat is normal to us.We are not offended; we do not take offense but instead,we take it in stride,or in jest.It is part of daily conversation when someone comments on being chubby,and just take it lightly , as being normal.It is our culture,and we do not show displeasure or resent it at all.But it's a different ballgame in America or in Canada and other cultures.But of course now,in this time and age ,it's different.It depends on who you say it too,or how you say it,and when you say it.This is just my two-cents worth.
To Filipino moms, being skinny means "malnourished," and kids are fed like crazy. Being "plump" is healthy and a advantageous when one get sick (they bring this notion anywhere they go). Getting sick in a tropical country, there will be drastic weight loss from lack of appetite and metabolism in overdrive causing one to look emaciated or looking in the brink of death. However, if you're in the western world gaining weight means you're just eating too much, or for heavens' sake, you're pregnant without a husband (oh Lord, moms will die in an untimely manner!).
I am in the Philippines to attend the funeral of my mom’s sister. As expected body shaming starts and non stopped. Cousins whom I am not close with nor seen them for ages never stopped making comments on how fat I am. I just bite my tongue not to talk back since it’s not nice to say something bad to other people. I am hurt but it’s classic Filipino culture.
Oh that's just one of the many... wait till you hear "kailan mag-aasawa?" (when will you marry? " ugh, it's a staple on all family gatherings when you are above 23 and still single.
Totally relatable!! I’m half Filipino ... and growing up being called fat a lot lead me very insecure :(
Haha, how has this not been viral? I can remember going to my cousins lola’s when we’re little & her squishing my arms saying “ohh, you’re so healthy.” Or my g-pa’s brother who said “oh you drink diet coke, I can’t tell.”
It’s funny and frustrating!
But we’ll be the first to say...Eat, Eat!
Soo true Yeah, when we go to a family party. My family would call my sister 'Jabba Tabba'! As soon as she walk inside the house. That's Jabba the Hut from star wars btw. My sister was 14 at the time too. So horrible.
My brother thought I was my sister and my sister said to my brother “ I’m not short and fat”
I'm not Filipino but Latina. I think everyday of my childhood and teenage to early 20s I was called fat. I was never fat as a matter of fact while my family was calling me fat the kids at school were calling me skeleton. Smh
I'll never forget being asked where we'd found "that beautiful ringer that plays Grace" after family members saw you perform in ANNIE... if anything, you've gotten even more gorgeous in the intervening years! I know it's easy to say, but try not to let the comments get you down. HEALTHY = beautiful!
Jeez, thank you so much for that. I was totally about to write "Ms. Scott", but I guess Jen is more appropriate now! Really, truly appreciate the kind words :) Hope you're well!!
This is so relatable!
I'm also half Filipino and every time my mom sees me she tells me "lose weight!". And I'm 54 kg
Emily Wild ah! I hope you’re able to ignore that nonsense ☺️
I get fat shamed by everyone when i go to the philippines. They are so thin they dont realize that they are the unhealthy ones, maybe they sweat so much they stay thin i domt know. The point is do not judge someone for being big.
Jane b Hey Jane. I totally relate. It's so hard, and they don't realize how they make you feel! Thank you for watching. I hope you learn to ignore them!! I'm doing the same :)
Just call them out for being poor homeless skeletons lol
Hahaha! I used to feel insulted. But I learned to throw it back in a hilarious way. When they call me fat or round.. my reply is always, ‘ I can’t lose this weight, it’s an investment of good food, no stress and just plain happiness’. One of my uncles calls me fat all the time.. I never took it seriously... but one day I was in a bad mood about something... and finally replied and said, if I’m fat, auntie must be bigger than a house.
When my aunt and uncle called me "fat" I said, "no."I know I'm not fat and I don't have time for that negativity in my life.
Chrissy BooksandBerries Good for you, girl! I gotta get the same attitude you have lol
Hopefully, you can phrase it better than I did. I came out sounding kind of rude but then again, I felt like they were rude first. lol
My family tells me that i should be careful with what i eat but they keep giving me tasty foods.
Gio Gonzales ah! Same! Like lumpia?
Looked this video up because I just left a situation where my mom called me fat. Again. This time I got really mad.
Roneykaith Palmaria I’m sorry to hear that. You just gotta have thick skin and not let it get to you!! 💪🏻
Maybe its just the way how they start the conversation.. Uy.. Kamusta ka? Parang tumaba ka ha... Let's eat.. Haha lol..
I was looking for a video like this. I was consistently reminded of my weight since forever by my family. I was called fat as a skinny child, then gained weight, then compared to "back when i was skinny." No logic. I'm European, and I live in Canada. Last time I went back to visit my grandparents, I bought myself a traditional pastry to try, i saw my grandma on the street and she grabbed the pastry out of my hand and said my grandpa would have better use for it. I then restricted for a few months and almost killed myself. It was a mixed feeling of revenge, wanting her to feel like she ruined me, and I never wanted to stop because I actually believed i was never good enough by the time I hit my 20's, when the pastry incident tipped me over the edge completely. And its not easy being anorexic in Canadian weather. lol
XxToxicCandyxX1 I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It's sometimes hard to see that our families, in their own way, are trying to show us they 'care' by pointing out our weight and appearance. It's the wrong way to show it, but it's all they know. It sounds like you have a lot of self awareness and I hope you were able to conquer any insecurity that these comments may have brought about 💪🏻
calling someone fat in the philippines is a compliment just basically means you are strong
i love the way you accepted being a filipino...
Mechelle Basalo oh I love being Filipino!!!! I’m very proud. 🇵🇭
that toughen you up for the real world culture, from the p.o.v. of scarcity, caring about your tomorrow. i got/get it it too.
Sooo you’re like me. Although one of my aunts definitely is shown through your Tita Baby. Even if she might actually be worse. There was a time she came off as “Diet Shaming” me.
Back story? My dad asked me to drive him to a relative’s house about 40 mins away from where we live. I ate breakfast before we went. We got there and my dad took advantage of Filipino breakfast. I declined cause I was full.
My aunt asked me five times if I wanted to eat. I said no, because I ate before we left and was still full.
Later when her son woke up and asked me if I was gonna eat, she answered for me “oh no she’s not cause she is on a diet.”
..... I almost told her to Eff Off, just because I wasn’t eating at the time it didn’t mean I was on a diet. Even now I feel like the entire moment was WTF.
Just ignore, family is family means they care for u. Just smile and enjoy their company...thats it lol! Not a big problem at all.
You know what's awkward and very weird? Your titas and your mommy roast you for being fat and YET they keep feeding you with high fat high sugar foods. HAha. LOL.
Kenneth Mahilum preach!
Hi Sam E ..I'm a new subscriber...(this reminds me somehow of reverse Italian at dinner time) lol Looks like your all having fun.. :D
trainrecked hi!! Thanks for watching 😊 the Italians love to eat and encourage it - and I love them for that!!
Story of my life. I’m glad I am not alone. 😢
My Lola won't shut up about me eating and "getting bigger" when she's the one that literally won't stop feeding me
That is so accurate, lol. I don’t know if you notice, when they see their neighbor carrying , they hey Mare are you going to the market, it’s their way of saying good morning, or maybe she want to know what happen last night , TSISMIS TSISMIS
Yupp everytime I go to see my family that's exactly what they say I always just say back at ya or thank you for the nice compliment
It is okay to say, Auntie, thanks for the unsolicited advice I know you care about me but I have someone who loves me just being this way so I will keep this weight for now. Now stop feeding me this best tasting lumpia!
Sally Vi Serquina lol. I love that!!
You know, my Lola is opposite. When I lost weight she is like... you are too skinny. My cousin says because skinniness is a sign of poverty in the Philippines.
So, I was too skinny when I was young and then too fat when I was older. Then to skinny and then too fat. Never was I the right weight. Ever. 'Cause I was mixed, I think they are just not use to my body type.
Bitter Tea preach!!! They don't understand that mixed girls and guys are built differently!
Amen. Hallelujah.
I feel you! I was called payatot when I was younger!! I still do to this age even though I am not anymore!
Omg this is sooooooooooo true! I FaceTimed my cousin in the Philippines and the first thing that came out of his mouth was... “OMG! You look soooooooo fat! Look at your cheek?” I was like WTF! He didn’t even asked how I was doing during a very bad blizzard here in New York! I was sooooooooo annoyed ! But family is family! LOL 😂
this was so well produced
"Tumatataba ka"
"Matagal na kong mataba"
Yeah maybe because they worried of HB if you gained a lot... That's in the blood actually so it's normal. They don't believe in work out but believe in eating moderation...
Oh so so so true! Asawa ko gets this all the time from Filipinos. They're trying to be HELPFUL though, I think, when they ask, "Are you pregnant"? lol You are a beaming light of positivity, Sam! God bless your pamilya. - Blaise Bullwits Turnbull, Toronto
We need more videos please...TY! still getting views and comments. :)
People who are so sensitive from being called fat because they're in denial for the fact of being fat
Roberta Rodriguez Thank you so much, Roberta, for your insight.
CMON im a full blooded pinoy, the truth is your family is not saying it in a negative meaning...you should know that its pinoys way of making LAMBING TO YOU..... YOU JUST HAVE TO KNOW HOW TO READ BETWEEN THE LINES AS THEY SAY....they adore you like the baby you ones were and they miss that....
I can relate! I’m half Filipino. My mom is ALWAYS telling me to eat, eat, eat! Not enough to save! Pinish it, nako! Then she will be the first one to complain that I’m “getting big’. My mom is offended if I don’t eat, then she criticizes me when I do eat. I can’t win. All of her friends have no problem putting in their 2cents, but heaven forbid if someone says something to them. My favorite is when they tell me that I have such a beautiful face, that I’m prettier than my younger sisters. Then they slap me with “but you’re so big. Here, eat something.” WTH??? Lmao! I love my Filipino family. They make life....interesting. 😂😂😂
Nina Jx bahahaha! Everything is a contradiction, right? It’s like ‘make up your mind!!!’ Glad you can relate!
As I said earlier the cure is this....every time one of the woman in your family start being catty and talking about weight just start talking about how if their tits sag any more they are going to hit the floor so maybe they need a breast reduction procedure lolAnd if any of the men in your family dare to enter that conversation you shut them down real fast with talking about their aging shriveling up dick that has failed to rise for any occasion in years lol
Its a Filipino way of starting a convo...a greeting perhaps...
Hi Sam. Trying to contact you for an ambassador project. I cannot see any information on where to contact you. Kindly let me know where I can reach you.
Hi Lourdes! You can email me at seast.tv@gmail.com
+Sam E (EastSideSam) ok sent you the email. 😊
I love youre channel I'm proud to be pilipino... I love you the way how you love to be a Filipino...
No your not Fat, your so pretty and dont mind about them; wherever you are get away from those people arround you. OK?
and if someone in your fam says that you are fat again.. just tell em, that his/her eyes are in zoom mode thats why you look bigger to him or her.. 😂😂😂😂😂
kalel0383 now THAT is original. I will definitely use that at the next family function!
Sam E please do use it. it will be funny 😂😂😂😂
kalel0383 I will! And I'll let you know the results 😅
Sam E btw, you look wonderful. have a great day that you deserve.. keep smiling, your so pretty when you smile 😍😍😍
this is so true girl they probably notice your appearance first then will say "oh hala tumaba ka na naman(oh you gained weight again)"
I never had this. They actual say the opposite. "Eat more. You are not eating enough." I actually have a normal BMI and quite lean to average. This maybe due to you being a female.
Lmao the whispering. She might as well broadcast it to the world.
Hi! Sam! 😁 That's our family 😂😂😂 mabuhay tayong mga #Noypi
New subs here😘
Yeah we're like that. Learn to ignore that as it doesn't really mean anything. Old people love to comment just because.
The first thing I would tell her is SHUT THE DOOR ITS COLD.
my mum does it to me alot .. she always sayin go on diet .. diet diet diet gettin fat.. hehehe the comments sometimes on fb can be very embarrasing.
she lost weights i never called her fat when she was fat eheheh..
its hard loosing weights ..
acr4wayne right? It’s like whyyyy did you have to type that for everyone to see on the Internet?! 🙄
Ako ang response ko kapag sinabing mataba ako, "hindi ako mataba! Madali lang ako makita"
and you're so pretty!
Mechelle Basalo thank you so much ❤️ so nice of you
Aside from filipino family calling you fat they also call you "maitim" or like dark, not white, like why you look "maitim" on pictures. Like "you look dark in there". Gosh. I cant stand it anymore. Its as if something is wrong with it.
FUNNY.......... isn't it Sam? That's who we Filipinos are. Frankly speaking, you are sexy and brainy too but most of all VERY PRETTY!!!!!! Anyways you never turned your back to the culture rooted in your blood. Thanks for having a pure Filipino heart. GOD bless you and your Filipino family.
They will call you tabachoy but will feed you so much 😂😂
Hi Sam!! I enjoyed your video hahaha just say "Same to you, tita" next time 🤣
3:37 yep still looks like it,
They just miss you hahahaha yeah it happens a lot with the oldies
aaron fontelar Haha, if that's what it means... They must miss me a whole lot!!!
hahahahahaha.they just love u...that's why they give u a hurtful comments.It's a normal for us filipinos.😂😂Just love ur body and urself.
Jynx Operiano haha, thank you for this. Sounds like you can relate! They're just saying it out of concern, right?
if being hurtful is normal filipino behavior then I might need to reexamine my plans to marry one!
wow congratulations... i hope you can make filipino snacks food reviews so that you can get more subscribers and views...
Shinobi Wolf Thanks so much! Well, I love Filipino food (clearly) so that's not a bad idea. 😊
my wife has pcos and it's challenging for her just like you she works out and eats right and then her mom or aunties make comments.
MrandMrsBergner Thanks for your comment. It's tough, eh? We just have to keep reminding ourselves (and your wife!) that in their own weird way, they're doing it because they're concerned. A hurtful way to show it, but they definitely mean well most of the time.