I watched this in 2019 at 18. Immediately after I watched this I remember taking a long walk, came back and wrote down who I wanted to be. 3 years later I feel like the character, I’m wiser, I have the skills I need but I have not yet achieved what I set out to do. But I feel it in my fxcken bones, im so close. This information is no joke, I literally feel like a super hero in my mind walking in public, 3 years ago I had severe anxiety and thought people had bad thoughts about me. Choose your identity, change your life! Thanks Sam
Beautifully explained, Sam! I can relate to this strongly. I used to label myself as an Introvert. And growing up, I gradually re-invented my social skills. Now everyone assumes I have been an Extrovert all along. To their surprise, I tell them I am BOTH. Depends on the situation which side comes up. Just like you have arms, legs, eyes, etc. And you simply use the parts you need at this moment. The rest are simply standing by, to be called. Thank you for the patient explanation, and your personal examples.
Being introverted/extroverted has to do with your brain chemistry. It doesn't change overtime you know how to handle the other side better when you practice.
Wow the presenter paused at 42.55 as he was thinking. No presenters ever do that. But it was perfect because Sam came back with the answer on his own and wasn't directed by a question. More presenters need to have silence now and again on programmes.
I was looking in the comment if someone else saw it...That is actually the "killer silence" that is teach in the sales script once you have said your offer....You just shut up.
Ask myself daily, "Who am I becoming" and "What do I really want?" "Who would I have to become in order to experience the life I want?" Then DO something everyday to become that person..... Transform yourself into a better designed character who has higher standards.....
This is so magical; I had the same (as I wanted to be an entrepreneur and I was posting all the content out) and people started unfollowing me and telling me that I shouldn't become somebody who I am not.
Brilliant, spot on! I really enjoy listening to you. It is hard for me to find people that have a similar perspective as I do, so I am very grateful to have found you. Thanks for your honesty.
This was honestly what ive been looking for my whole life, such a good way to put it "There is no such thing as who you think you are, you are not anything really, you are just whatever you think you are."
I can TOTALLY relate to the inside self screaming at yourself when you try to make a call while being an introvert. I am totally an introvert and struggle with this everyday. So what I did to help get out of being an introvert was I applied for a part time position as a Mobile DJ to do weddings and other parties LIVE. In front of people! It took me over 10 years of doing this part time, every weekend, to become comfortable and I STILL feel the anxiety brewing when I first start talking to groups but it doesn't stop me and I push through it and get the job done. Nowadays I find it fairly easy to talk with strangers and contribute it to putting myself out of my comfort zone and just doing it. I recommend others to put themselves out there as well. Thanks for the video Sam.
Abraham Maslow Toward a psychology of being talks exactly what Sam is explaining about changing identity versus just surface level stuff like habits and basic self help techniques adding to the external but nothing to internal structure. Sam is on to something, he will change the landscape of entrepreneurship on the online space forever.
I didn't want this video to be over, it was just golden nugget after golden nugget and so on. Massive help and thank you Sam for life changing perspectives!
Excellent point on change! Even stagnant water stinks. Ha! We too need to flow, move, evolve & improve. I loved your emphasis on CHOICE. Find out what you want and work on your mind. Daily. Really good stuff. Thanks.
that just by assuming that people are saying good stuff behind your back will change your inner beliefs, even i used to label myself an introvert, and lots of other self imposed conditions..thanks for the value sam!
Sam I'm so happy I found you! I grew up poor too and was also shy and an average student. I had a ton of false beliefs! I am on my own healing Journey, I've been seeing a Spiritual advisor for EFT tapping and angelic Guidance sessions and Reiki. I've come a long way in the last 2 years! How did you overcome your false beliefs? How did you overcome childhood crap? I'm so done living week to week and not living out my life's purpose! Thank you so much for your videos!! Perfect timing for me :)
He probably realized his past didn't define his present and LET GO. We are constantly unfolding as people, allow yourself to move on, accept the lessons within your past and start to consciously create the person you want to be.
I have been watching your videos over the last few weeks and thanks to your wisdom I have finally got myself in gear and I've started working towards a business that I've been wanting to start for years....thank you....
Thanks Sam, This is fantastic for building up character. 1+ hour non-editing video, you really know what you are talking about. Real way and impressive.
Thank you! I think you are really really sincere in sharing your personal journey! The psychological struggle is something not many people want to touch when selling their success stories!
For real. Continuous application of the topics discussed here seem like a prequisite for be able to tackle obstacles that lay on the path towards your goals
This content is so good! Straight 🔥. So that’s why when people try and change and for example post something regarding who they want to become others jump on them and question them as if they are doing something wrong. The reason that is is because my comment makes that person judging me subconsciously ask themselves if they are the person they should or should not be. It takes them out of their comfort zone just based off of my comment and who I want to become. This is gold here thank you so much guys! Sam is very wise 😎
This was excellent Sam and Nick. Of the many takeaways from this dialogue I particularly found the concept of other peoples characters can sometimes feel affected if you choose to one day redesign yours. It actually shows the connected one-ness we all have together, which is a beautiful thing. It also disarms the need to worry about others reactions or opinions, and just let it be. It's ok to redesign your character. Great talks you guys. Thanks these are good value.
This is a deep and important philosophical conversation. As Sam says the flesh isn't the same thing as you. The sense of self is really simply a cluster of habits and beliefs which is associated with a body and a name. This isn't the self - it's what Alan Watts called 'The skin encapsulated ego'. Yet, when you fly an plane, drive a car or ride a bicycle clearly the perception isn't that of ending at your fingertips or toes. In fact, there is no you, there is solely a totality of what is (and is not, even what's not potentia). This is why when people ask 'What's my life purpose?' is such a stupid question. You can have many purposes in life and from the place of potentia can choose to change and explore. Thanks for this video - great to find a business consultant talking sense for once :)
Live most of life NOW because if you live in the future, you'll never get there because you'll do nothing now and if you live in the past you'll only recreate what you had there , now and in the future....fuck im glad i watched this.
A lot of this is addressed jungian Psychoanalysis. People fear being themselves because being yourself involves confronting your self and that’s a very involved and negative process.
I think one point in this video I feel would had been important to state is the belief that it IS possible to change. If one can't believe they can change or become the new character, then it's all for nothing. I've had many weak attempts to change and I come back to being the same person. I feel like you need to have a strong conviction and dedicate everything you have to do whatever it takes to make this person happen .. OR be put in an environment or situation long-term where you MUST change to survive. Like for example, if you're lazy in your parent's basement and you get kicked out on the streets you gotta make it somehow to survive. Just my 2 cents.
Sam Thank you very much for sharing this kind of knowledge. I really think it ads a lot of value to our lives. I have been making the huge mistake of thinking that I am right and the others are wrong. Now that I notice this I really understand that this is a major cause of failure in my life. Keep it up!
He's right on in most everything, but he's deceiving himself, lives in self-contradiction, and will be in for a grand revelation when he finds out what Truth is.
I'm an INFJ as well my friend, I get it. If you're a male INFJ literally less than 1% of the population will understand the struggles! Which is kinda awesome in it's own way cause we interpret things in such a unique way.
Talking to people. It's insanely hard to do if you are an introvert. Hard to break the programming. Took me 6 months of talking to 60-90 people every day for 6 months when I was 21 to even get past the point of not feeling awkward.
Sam Ovens was right about every single thing except about the idea of objectivity. It is so obvious that the Earth is round anyone who believes otherwise is just trying to play games and have an identity
Hey Sam, I understand what you're talking about here about the "being yourself is a myth", but I must say there are just different persepctives for approaching this topic, check it out: I can see you here talking about business and all that stuff I can see YOU BEING YOURSELF, because if you wouldn't be yourself, no clients would TRUST you, and I can see you're having big success and that means that there are a lot of people that trust you. You see, being yourself or your true self is just LETTING GO OF ALL THE NEGATIVE STUFF ABOUT YOURSELF. Those negative programs you're talking about in your video were not your true self, that was just a lie about yourself. You true self is a successful entrepreneur, and right now you're being your true self and EXPRESSING YOURSELF FREELY. Why do I care about this topic so much? You see, any business is like art and art is the expression of oneself. So you have to be your true self, your CORE SELF to express yourself truthfuly to the people. I can see your apartment with all that stuff inside like a motorcycle and "tuned" ancient sculptures and THAT is the expression of yourself. The life you were living before was not the true expression of yourself. You went to school, university and got a good corporate job... That was not totally your will to do so: you were just doing the "best thing" in the societal understanding of what "the best thing" is. You were not being yourself. Now you're being yourself when you're bulding your life independently and expanding your possibilities. This is the true expression of yourself. If you want to check it out, I published a little article on my website that is called "Don’t Be Scared Of Being Yourself: Develop Your OWN STYLE" here is the URL: www.everysax.com/being-yourself-develop-your-own-style
What's the name of the interviewer, does anyone know? He really understood Sam's answers and responded with questions that pierced his answers even deeper. His questions were good too.
Key takeaways:::--- 10:30 What if .... ... 38:20 The real question is not who am I , it is who I am becoming? You need to be both confident and hungry 47:00 49:40 Role models 54:20 1:12:00- What you want? Who do you want to be? What kind of a life you want to live? Exercise- 1 Stephen Mastermind cheatsheet 2 research role models 3 Stephen like book on goals , and himself..... In crystal clairity and specific.
6 years later and this still speaks volumes.
I watched this in 2019 at 18. Immediately after I watched this I remember taking a long walk, came back and wrote down who I wanted to be. 3 years later I feel like the character, I’m wiser, I have the skills I need but I have not yet achieved what I set out to do. But I feel it in my fxcken bones, im so close. This information is no joke, I literally feel like a super hero in my mind walking in public, 3 years ago I had severe anxiety and thought people had bad thoughts about me.
Choose your identity, change your life!
Thanks Sam
Damn... Let's go!
Would really love it if you could give a life update since 2019!
Did you achieve your goals?
@@Kislaykashyapbiz I’m
Not even close because their so big but I am closer than ever right now
@@leboblack thankyou for replying.
All the best for your future
Six years later… how on earth is this only at 80k views?! I needed this… this conversation is so underrated.
It is obvious that you read Psycho Cybernetics. And it is even more obvious that you don't talk the talk, you walk the walk. Amazing.
Thanks for the tip, just ordered it. ;)
Ordering too
Or Transurfing reality.
Psycho Cybernetics.- book came out in 1960 - wow
Beautifully explained, Sam! I can relate to this strongly.
I used to label myself as an Introvert. And growing up, I gradually re-invented my social skills. Now everyone assumes I have been an Extrovert all along. To their surprise, I tell them I am BOTH. Depends on the situation which side comes up.
Just like you have arms, legs, eyes, etc. And you simply use the parts you need at this moment. The rest are simply standing by, to be called.
Thank you for the patient explanation, and your personal examples.
That is a nice analogy Ladan.
You are not both. You just learned to be extroverted but you are an introvert. Or the other way around.
Being introverted/extroverted has to do with your brain chemistry. It doesn't change overtime you know how to handle the other side better when you practice.
Wow the presenter paused at 42.55 as he was thinking. No presenters ever do that. But it was perfect because Sam came back with the answer on his own and wasn't directed by a question. More presenters need to have silence now and again on programmes.
42:55
I was looking in the comment if someone else saw it...That is actually the "killer silence" that is teach in the sales script once you have said your offer....You just shut up.
The 'Sam Ovens Scilence'
Powerful moment
He’s probably a sales closer that’s a great way to create tension in a conversation
Ask myself daily, "Who am I becoming" and "What do I really want?" "Who would I have to become in order to experience the life I want?" Then DO something everyday to become that person..... Transform yourself into a better designed character who has higher standards.....
This is timeless wisdom. Thank you for this.
This is a phenomenal interview! SO many golden nuggets! Thanks a bunch Sam.
How did it help you in the past 5 years? Give us a summary
This is so magical; I had the same (as I wanted to be an entrepreneur and I was posting all the content out) and people started unfollowing me and telling me that I shouldn't become somebody who I am not.
Brilliant, spot on! I really enjoy listening to you. It is hard for me to find people that have a similar perspective as I do, so I am very grateful to have found you. Thanks for your honesty.
This interview was absolutely fascinating! I really love how he paints the idea that we are all actors on a stage. Very powerful idea.
31:43 - 32: 45 IS THE MOST IMPORTANT BUSINESS ADVICE - Pure Gold 💛
This was honestly what ive been looking for my whole life, such a good way to put it "There is no such thing as who you think you are, you are not anything really, you are just whatever you think you are."
I can TOTALLY relate to the inside self screaming at yourself when you try to make a call while being an introvert. I am totally an introvert and struggle
with this everyday. So what I did to help get out of being an introvert was I applied for a part time position as a Mobile DJ to do weddings and other parties
LIVE. In front of people!
It took me over 10 years of doing this part time, every weekend, to become comfortable and I STILL feel the anxiety brewing when I first start talking to
groups but it doesn't stop me and I push through it and get the job done.
Nowadays I find it fairly easy to talk with strangers and contribute it to putting myself out of my comfort zone and just doing it. I recommend others to put
themselves out there as well.
Thanks for the video Sam.
Abraham Maslow Toward a psychology of being talks exactly what Sam is explaining about changing identity versus just surface level stuff like habits and basic self help techniques adding to the external but nothing to internal structure. Sam is on to something, he will change the landscape of entrepreneurship on the online space forever.
I didn't want this video to be over, it was just golden nugget after golden nugget and so on. Massive help and thank you Sam for life changing perspectives!
This is extremely powerful, thank you so much for sharing your story Sam
I'm getting more and more invested in your content, loving every video! Don't stop! Great stuff Sam, thanks for the value!
Excellent point on change! Even stagnant water stinks. Ha! We too need to flow, move, evolve & improve. I loved your emphasis on CHOICE. Find out what you want and work on your mind. Daily. Really good stuff. Thanks.
And being in the Now, & focus.
that just by assuming that people are saying good stuff behind your back will change your inner beliefs, even i used to label myself an introvert, and lots of other self imposed conditions..thanks for the value sam!
Sam I'm so happy I found you! I grew up poor too and was also shy and an average student. I had a ton of false beliefs! I am on my own healing Journey, I've been seeing a Spiritual advisor for EFT tapping and angelic Guidance sessions and Reiki. I've come a long way in the last 2 years! How did you overcome your false beliefs? How did you overcome childhood crap? I'm so done living week to week and not living out my life's purpose! Thank you so much for your videos!! Perfect timing for me :)
He probably realized his past didn't define his present and LET GO. We are constantly unfolding as people, allow yourself to move on, accept the lessons within your past and start to consciously create the person you want to be.
I have been watching your videos over the last few weeks and thanks to your wisdom I have finally got myself in gear and I've started working towards a business that I've been wanting to start for years....thank you....
Life OnMaarz how's it going?
Just got inspired by you on something big to grow my fashion brand in the long-term. Thanks for this massive value Sam!
Hi sander hope your brand is doing phenomenal how is your fashion brand going ? Do you have a Instagram ?
You are the only Mentor I need. I put in all the work to become just like you!
if anyone is deciding whether to click off or not cause the interview format is awkward: keep watching. itll get better and its worth it
Thanks Sam, This is fantastic for building up character. 1+ hour non-editing video, you really know what you are talking about. Real way and impressive.
Thank you! I think you are really really sincere in sharing your personal journey! The psychological struggle is something not many people want to touch when selling their success stories!
Great interviewer who ACTUALLY KEEPS QUIET AND LISTENS. Very good
this video confirmed my beliefs but it left me with even more questions ....
I think this is Sam's most important video, most important lesson to learn.
For real. Continuous application of the topics discussed here seem like a prequisite for be able to tackle obstacles that lay on the path towards your goals
I don't know why this video has so little views. It's genius really. I love it. I can't wait to start the fun!
This content is so good! Straight 🔥. So that’s why when people try and change and for example post something regarding who they want to become others jump on them and question them as if they are doing something wrong. The reason that is is because my comment makes that person judging me subconsciously ask themselves if they are the person they should or should not be. It takes them out of their comfort zone just based off of my comment and who I want to become. This is gold here thank you so much guys! Sam is very wise 😎
Thank you Sam. Your content is just the best in the world.
this is absolutely brilliant Sam! You're changing people's lives with this advice! Keep it up!
This is phenomenal. Thank you!
This was excellent Sam and Nick. Of the many takeaways from this dialogue I particularly found the concept of other peoples characters can sometimes feel affected if you choose to one day redesign yours. It actually shows the connected one-ness we all have together, which is a beautiful thing. It also disarms the need to worry about others reactions or opinions, and just let it be. It's ok to redesign your character.
Great talks you guys. Thanks these are good value.
Such insightful conversation. This ought to be primary school curriculum. Thanks so much for sharing.
This is a deep and important philosophical conversation. As Sam says the flesh isn't the same thing as you. The sense of self is really simply a cluster of habits and beliefs which is associated with a body and a name.
This isn't the self - it's what Alan Watts called 'The skin encapsulated ego'.
Yet, when you fly an plane, drive a car or ride a bicycle clearly the perception isn't that of ending at your fingertips or toes.
In fact, there is no you, there is solely a totality of what is (and is not, even what's not potentia).
This is why when people ask 'What's my life purpose?' is such a stupid question. You can have many purposes in life and from the place of potentia can choose to change and explore.
Thanks for this video - great to find a business consultant talking sense for once :)
This is sick stuff. Just reading the book breaking the habit of being yourself, which connects very well with this.
I’ll have to check it ouuut 💪
Live most of life NOW because if you live in the future, you'll never get there because you'll do nothing now and if you live in the past you'll only recreate what you had there , now and in the future....fuck im glad i watched this.
one of the best videos ive watch so far worth every minute
This is gold. I'm super curious to see what happens when I keep reading the alchemy of the self.
Speechless
"You shouldn't answer the question 'Who am I?", you should be answering the question "Who am I becoming?". BOOM! Sam Ovens is a genius
This was amazing! Paradigm shifted! Thanks Sam and Nick for sharing this.
Not what I was expecting to hear but impressed. Sam is intelligent.
Love you Sam bro, world is definitely a better place with you in it.
A lot of this is addressed jungian Psychoanalysis. People fear being themselves because being yourself involves confronting your self and that’s a very involved and negative process.
Thanks Sam!
I think one point in this video I feel would had been important to state is the belief that it IS possible to change. If one can't believe they can change or become the new character, then it's all for nothing. I've had many weak attempts to change and I come back to being the same person. I feel like you need to have a strong conviction and dedicate everything you have to do whatever it takes to make this person happen .. OR be put in an environment or situation long-term where you MUST change to survive. Like for example, if you're lazy in your parent's basement and you get kicked out on the streets you gotta make it somehow to survive. Just my 2 cents.
This is GOLD!
47:00-48:00 was the realest.
Rush - Limelight, its seems they figured this out long ago, great job Sam
Sam Thank you very much for sharing this kind of knowledge. I really think it ads a lot of value to our lives. I have been making the huge mistake of thinking that I am right and the others are wrong. Now that I notice this I really understand that this is a major cause of failure in my life.
Keep it up!
1 hour and 14 mins, finished it, immediately hit restart
Very profound, well explained and truly honest. I loved it. Most likely going to watch it again sometime soon.
this is worth gold...better than many of the paid courses that suck
You're a genius. Thank you for sharing the journey!
Amazing content .. thanks for sharing!
never got this concept through me before but now I understand it. Thank you
Nice discussion on releasing judgment and building the character you design... Internal conflict and resolution... great content!! ty!
This is the best video I have watched today
Thanks Sam. What an interview
Sam I was nothing i was zero and i can tell you I am the one who turned from zero to Hero!!!! I am the one!!
Incredible content
People who want to learn will listen to this, and take his course.
You are not anything, you are just whatever you think you are. Wow just wow 😍
Sam can I just say you are brilliant :)
1:08:05 - interesting mindset
2024 this still 🔥
Many people says it’s wrong and you can’t do that but many people are wrong too
Write down on Journal what I want. Create my character. I can become anyone I want.
That definitely changed my perspective on in my personal developement. Great stuff!
He's right on in most everything, but he's deceiving himself, lives in self-contradiction, and will be in for a grand revelation when he finds out what Truth is.
So what is your Truth? Are you saying that your truth is Sam's truth? Seems like Sam's video is all about rejecting that concept.
Im an infj.. i have those introvert blockades.. i can be very outgoing too but its draining for me..
Infp here
I'm an INFJ as well my friend, I get it. If you're a male INFJ literally less than 1% of the population will understand the struggles! Which is kinda awesome in it's own way cause we interpret things in such a unique way.
Wtf are you guys talking about? INFwot m8?
@@C_CREATURE_ you need to go to 16personalities.com, take the test and read the results,
INFJ 👍🏾
Bro this is like how Spider-Man was losing his powers! He new who he was and got his powers back “mind blowing”
brilliant piece. Well done.
rick corbin agree!
Sam ,I'll make sure those great videos you make are not too long
Talking to people. It's insanely hard to do if you are an introvert. Hard to break the programming. Took me 6 months of talking to 60-90 people every day for 6 months when I was 21 to even get past the point of not feeling awkward.
Such a great speach. Thanks so much
So good
Sam Ovens was right about every single thing except about the idea of objectivity. It is so obvious that the Earth is round anyone who believes otherwise is just trying to play games and have an identity
Deep principles..
Excellent topic and info..
Real life paradigm shifter the interviewer used the sam ovens silence at 42:45 and it brought out the gold
Hey Sam, I understand what you're talking about here about the "being yourself is a myth", but I must say there are just different persepctives for approaching this topic, check it out:
I can see you here talking about business and all that stuff I can see YOU BEING YOURSELF, because if you wouldn't be yourself, no clients would TRUST you, and I can see you're having big success and that means that there are a lot of people that trust you.
You see, being yourself or your true self is just LETTING GO OF ALL THE NEGATIVE STUFF ABOUT YOURSELF. Those negative programs you're talking about in your video were not your true self, that was just a lie about yourself. You true self is a successful entrepreneur, and right now you're being your true self and EXPRESSING YOURSELF FREELY.
Why do I care about this topic so much?
You see, any business is like art and art is the expression of oneself. So you have to be your true self, your CORE SELF to express yourself truthfuly to the people.
I can see your apartment with all that stuff inside like a motorcycle and "tuned" ancient sculptures and THAT is the expression of yourself.
The life you were living before was not the true expression of yourself. You went to school, university and got a good corporate job... That was not totally your will to do so: you were just doing the "best thing" in the societal understanding of what "the best thing" is. You were not being yourself. Now you're being yourself when you're bulding your life independently and expanding your possibilities. This is the true expression of yourself.
If you want to check it out, I published a little article on my website that is called "Don’t Be Scared Of Being Yourself: Develop Your OWN STYLE" here is the URL: www.everysax.com/being-yourself-develop-your-own-style
this is another level wisdom
Quality content, a great interview! Keep it up!
This is REALLY valuable.
wow this video changing my way off thinking things
Timeless
Based on the background, old motorcycles are cool, too.
Sam, longtime no hear from, hope you and yours are doing great.
P.S. this is a great video!
What's the name of the interviewer, does anyone know? He really understood Sam's answers and responded with questions that pierced his answers even deeper. His questions were good too.
Thanks for this Sam
Omg this is so powerful!
It's not what you want to achieve it is who you have to become to achieve the goal.
Hehe a bit of JBPeterson in here w/ d character ideals towards d end :D
Very valuable lesson here
22:45 that's just magic.
Key takeaways:::---
10:30
What if ....
...
38:20
The real question is not who am I , it is who I am becoming?
You need to be both confident and hungry
47:00
49:40 Role models
54:20
1:12:00- What you want? Who do you want to be?
What kind of a life you want to live?
Exercise- 1 Stephen Mastermind cheatsheet
2 research role models
3 Stephen like book on goals , and himself..... In crystal clairity and specific.