Heres a solution to all your problems, dont be in a polyamorous relationship. Theyre far more trouble than theyre worth and on the 5% chance you have a perfect cohabitation going on, you get stories like these were partners inevitably compare one another. Either out of spite or "jokes" if you can't commit yourself to someone, dont date. FWB exist if that's what you're looking for because all i see is two people playing house while they screws others.
@@dale9042 If it escaped Reddit and came to RUclips there's no sense in why they wouldn't try to see others perspective. Or I could just be speaking into the void. Do you care?
This is more of an open relationship then a poly relationship. The difference is in an open the couple has their own partners outside there relationship and their partners are not in a relationship with the other partner. Poly is is every is in a relationship with everyone, example- a married couple has someone they both have a romatic/sexual relationship with. There is nothing g wrong with poly relationships. Open relationships are a hit or miss.
@@justsaiyan3642 Good thing no one's asking much for your type of opinion. I'd ditch giving advice that boils down to "Change your way of life to something that I like more, because I think it's better." Since you wouldn't walk up to a devout Muslim and tell him to his face that he's wrong about his religion on a single story you heard about his life. Different things work for different people hence why they go to an ENM friendly counselor and not a monogamy focused one.
Damn. How can you cheat on your bf while he's in the hospital? Why are you looking for comfort in other men? OP2 gets cancer, thinks only about his gf and she has the gall to expect him to forgive her for cheating just because he has an expiration date now. What a scumbag.
No excuse for it but for some reason it happens way too often. Stress, vulnerability, fatigue, emotions, add a pinch of selfishness and boom they're bumping uglies with someone else. Oh they are still guilty of it, just a reason on why some do but absolutely zero excuse for them to do it.
@@LadyBern So if there are no excuses for it don't make it for them, even as a person who doesn't believe in free will i can tell you that cheaters do have self control they just don't exercise it, animals have it for fuck sake.
The second story is amazing. he's going through what he's going through and she still made it all about her. she could have left that information out and he could have gone on not ever knowinh, she just had to make sure she got that out before he was gone...
This wasn't even a poly relationship, this guy sounds like a weak man who was just emotionally manipulated into an open relationship. She was getting what she wanted from him and those other guys but he was never getting the same. Her discussion with FWB were likely her real feelings for this guy because no woman is actually attracted to a weak man Those rules that she was breaking were meant for him and not her. Besides this weakling was allowing other men to bang his wife so why would any woman respect such a man enough to follow those so called rules. Its like someone allowing me to punch him because I just feel like it sometimes but he later trying to set up rules about me hitting him where he doesnt want to be hit (you are already enough of a b**ch to let me hit you so I might as well hit you however I want because you won't do anything even if I do) The only thing about the qualities that he said about her that benefits him is that she was sleeping with him (its nothing to even brag about). Not only was she giving the same thing to other men who put in less effort than OP to receive it he can get the same thing from other women but he is too love struck to see it. Other men are bragging about how their women wake up in the middle of the night to cook for them, how they buy them PS5's, support them even financially in their businesses and the only thing he gets from her is xxx which other women can give him but he still thinks that she is a good woman (she wouldnt even give him kids probably because she doesnt want kids with him because he is a weak man. He would have been better off dating a h00ker, yes she would still screw otheren and yes he would have to still spend money on her. But a h00ker would atleast have the dignity to make other men to get it but his wife was giving it away for free and the h00ker would cook, clean and even have his kids if he paid her enough. OP needs to begin his journey of self improvement which starts with going to the gym
@@edheldude Tho I agree with what you say, I just wanna put out there that cheating is not a 'Gendered' thing, it's a shtty person thing :v but yeh I don't think open relationships work unless it was a thing from the very beginning, and if marriage is gonna be a thing than either close or it won't work (I'm 1001% sure it wouldn't work through a marriage)
Why would she respect your rules when she doesn’t respect you? It’s literally impossible for a woman to have any amount of reverence for a husband who has so little self-respect that he doesn’t see her exclusivity as his right in marriage.
Wow she could've kept that to herself and let OP die thinking she was an amazing partner now his last memories of her will be that she cheated on him while he was in the hospital after an accident
I also think that was one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. I mean, if you think about it, that guy's life is going to end really soon and he knows this, if this guy had any amount of anger or hate left in him he could have harmed her or even killed her without any real fear of the consequences. Although the OP didn't seem like the guy to do that.
Because of the sheer awesomeness of his person ofc, poly people are narcs who cannot be comfortable with monogamy because they think very highly of the masks they wear.
Well, the second guy is on a pretty thought spot, and that's sad because he looks like a pretty cool person. The first guy is just dumb, they didn't have a marriage, they were just roomates all along and he didn't see that because she was too gorgeous.
Folks Please do not practice this "enm" thing they talk about. Nonmonogamy is just a recipe for a disaster. At best you can have multiple fwb's, but make it clear to them there dhall be no feelings, ever. A relationship should be between 2 people. Nor nore, no less.
Not if you want anything like the commitment you should get in a normal marriage. Poly can only really work if the relationship is closer to fwb than spouses.
@@elseggs6504 If people know they know, if they don't they don't. The guy involved has had his name ran through the dirt enough. I don't plan to add any more to that.
Story 1: I seriously hope OP doesn’t knock anyone up. Imagine that poor kid growing up in a home where his mom and dad have multiple partners on the go at any one time. I don’t care what adults do in the privacy of their own homes, but ENM relationships where the adults have children isn’t always a good idea, particularly when the children are little. It can often cause the kids a myriad of emotional problems, even when ENM is done correctly. As a side note, a good friend of my parents grew up in hippy commune where his parents had a very open relationship. He hated growing up that way because it effed him up emotionally. He’s the most anal retentive person I’ve ever met and has always had a lot of relationship problems. All his siblings have also had serious intimate relationship problems throughout their lives.
Why the *F* do people open their marriage if they make a freaking vow to not do these fucking stuff. *If you want to do stuff like this, then you should also vow if you would do this kind of stuff in their marriage*
It's very likely that they are using marriage as proof of stability like a bait, it could be dark triad baiting narcs (subclinical narc and psychopathy combo) which doesn't have to mean they don't have emotions but id rather keep a company of a full fledged psychopath or it could be psychos baiting narcs in either case they are vermin and i don't feel anything towards them since they are not human.
Open relationsships are a fucking joke. If your partner ever seriously wants to open up your relationship, tell them to grow up and save youself from future drama by leaving them right there. If you want to sleep with multiple people just dont get in a relationshiop, it's simple.
The only time open relationship could work is if a single party with a dead libido offers it to the other party with a high libido and gets someone who won't bad mouth you and won't create kids outside. Problem is that the lines for cheating is blurred at that point and the lines are thin.
CHEATERS DESERVE A 1 WAY TICKET TO HELL. How the fuck are you going to demand your BF promise to stay with you after cheating on him? I clearly have never truly been emotionally vulnerable as having sex has never crossed my mind in the time of sadness.
Oh, no! They're not getting off that easy. They need to stay right here and deal with the destruction they create. Full disclosure: I'm not perfect. I cheated in my youth. You get older, you mature, you realize your actions have consequences, even if you don't get caught. If you're not happy, try to fix it. If you can't fix it, leave and try again somewhere else. You may not be fully invested, but the other person may be, unless they are going out of their way to be cruel to you.
WHAT THE FUCK!!! I listen to these stories while eating and its pretty entertaining but I rarely get emotionally invested. Story 2 was pretty rough and I was amazed how he was dealing with all this shit having to tell his family and friends how hes gonna die soon. I was imagining myself how I would handle this etc thinking about my girl and how much I love her. Then he hits me with the "she cheated on me while I was in the hospital".... DAYYYUUM!!!!! wasnt prepared for that one
Another open relationship success story. At least there are no kids involved. Now you have this weirdo who openly hates you hovering around outside your marriage. In my opinion she absolutely means those things she said about you, so much so that it turns her on. You are a man who listens to your wife have sex with other men, how can she respect that?
OP seems like the CA type to me. Lets their partner get railed by other guys and then gets mad when someone calls them names? Like bro your priorities are messed up.
The first story this guy is disgusting same with his wife when they divorce hope no woman wants to date or marry him because he will want a open relationship
I will never understand poly folks. Inevitably every single time it goes up in smoke for a few cheap thrills. How can you even say you were married when you both spent more time with other people than each other, kept your finances separate, and never really built anything together but some occasional memories.
Open marriage, she screwed up, he found out. They go to therapy to fix their marriage. Specialized therapist close marriage indefinitely, and HE is upset that he has to let outside relationships go? Damn, just damn.
"At no point in our ENM journey did I consent to become the object of my wife's derision and disrespect when she is on a date." Actually, you did. It's the moment you started an ENM journey.
The first story I was like okay well they're open whatever but as he continues to justify her behavior which is what he's doing it's apparent that they laid out ground rules she didn't abide by any of the ground rules at all and he's literally left looking like a deer caught in the headlights because of it
Never in my life have I seen an "ENM" aka poly relationship workout. Someone always gets jealous, a rule is always broken, bla bla bla. Once I hear "my partner and I are poly" that's really all I need to know. XD
Story one is crazy what is the point of getting married if you’re just going to sleep with everyone that you’re not married to just stay single once you’re committed to someone that’s the only person you want or need
Morally, I have nothing against open or poly relationships. If everyone is consenting and you can make it work, more power to you. But it needs to be said that marriage and polyamory just. Don’t. Mix. Like, by definition, the very concepts are completely in opposition. Edit: OP’s girlfriend in Story 2; my god, are there any good women left these days? Like, _any?_ *_At all??_*
Thank you I just made a comment myself saying non-monogamy is not meant for marriage, you could be incredibly “committed” dating partners, but never while being married it’s just never going to work
Morals don't exist so i don't see how morals are point of view anyway, humans are cruel, vicious, lying, lustful, selfish, ignorant creatures and we live under liberalism (praised be holy liberalism) which promotes and spreads these vices far and wide currently our civilization is Liberal organized as collaboration between warring tribes consisting of atomized malignant individuals which encourage human primal behavior to resurface showing you exactly who and what humans are, in such a civilization morals are relative since liberalism promotes individual choice and consent above everything else in other words individual itself which is by nature independent and rejects notion of interconnectedness (which is required for any relationship to work and denying nature of individual is factually inaccurate) and so every individual is left to choose on their own but illusion is that there is no such thing as free choice and consent doesn't exist it's just a word we use to justify consequences be them positive or negative. Polarization that people talk about isn't a bug in this system, it's its core liberalism IS polarization it's a feature it serves a purpose.
Husband agrees to be a cuck with 'rules'; wife treats him like a cuck and doesn't respect him enough to follow the rules they agreed upon. I'm utterly shocked. Ethical non-monogomy, SMH. She got off on degrading him, then lied and said it was the other guy who wanted it. Then admits she sought out his friends and coworker because, obviously, it was actually her who got off on degrading him.
Story 1: I don't know what happened to me but the moment OP said they were in an open relationship, I immediately stopped listening and hated both the wife and OP. I do not like the concept of open marriages as it isn't a real marriage and because these kinds of situations are extremely common with open relationships.
If you're going to have those simple ground rules one of them is you do not talk bad about the husband or wife . If they do the FWB is ended immediately and you never talk with them again.
Was story 2 a rewrite with a worse ending? I heard this exact story a few months back and the gf never cheated in that one? (Also, I recognize most these stories are likely fake/heavily embellished anyway) lol
What’s an Ap? First story: when I heard open relationship I knew it would go downhill. My bff was in an open relationship and I can tell you her ex and his other lover were asshole’s
Story 1: Can't bring myself to care much about OP here since they're in an open relationship so as far as I am concerned any L taken was asked for. Most people can't probably handle these relationships so this is not surprising in the least. Story 2: I hope OP enjoys his last days and cuts that woman out of his life. She cheated while he was in the hospital and expects sympathy from a dying man. She had an out and should have taken it so she could move on. Why even bother telling him she cheated at that point is the question. The man is dying so she could have just dropped the relationship to friends and enjoyed his last days with him while sleeping with all the guys she wants.
ENM is not poly it’s open but within limits also it should have been a hard line to both the wife and husband about eithers partners talking crap on their spouse in any manner I’m sure if the tables were flipped she’d have been just as upset about it as he was or even more to me that’s just selfish now these kinds of relationships can work if the partners have a strict set of rules and protocols to follow and do so with each person they are with and if it works for them then no one else’s opinions matter it was terrible that she did that but outside of that there was nothing wrong with what she was doing as it fit their stipulations for acceptance
Ethnically non monogamous. It’s polyamory for people that don’t want to call themselves poly because it makes them sound like whores. So it’s just polyamory lmao
"I wanna have kids but I also wanna have sex with other girls that are not my wife" what world is this guy living in? Wtf makes him think he can have children and be in an open marriage? What even is the point of an open marriage just stay single at that point if you're gonna marry someone you are literally telling them you are devoting yourself to them and then you just basically say "nah I actually wanna fuck other girls" these relationships never even work out anyway and when they do one person or the other just doesn't have their heart in it.
Never be with someone if they want to be in an open relationship or any other type of poly relationship, calling it a relationship is honestly crap its just being a hoe.
If I was dying and my SO cheats on me I'd give her an expiration date too and make it even more severe. What are the law enforcers are gonna do? I am already dying lol
Story 1: ENM relationship. Nothing more needs to be said. You brought it on yourself. Story 2: It's like they say, "good people die young." What a saint of a man. I can see why he has such a solid support system and everyone around him absolutely loves him. She had to do it. She had to ruin his last few years on Earth with her selfishness and disregard for her boyfriend, even after having an out. Wow.
Heres a solution to all your problems, dont be in a polyamorous relationship. Theyre far more trouble than theyre worth and on the 5% chance you have a perfect cohabitation going on, you get stories like these were partners inevitably compare one another. Either out of spite or "jokes" if you can't commit yourself to someone, dont date. FWB exist if that's what you're looking for because all i see is two people playing house while they screws others.
@@dale9042 If it escaped Reddit and came to RUclips there's no sense in why they wouldn't try to see others perspective. Or I could just be speaking into the void. Do you care?
@@justsaiyan3642 goofy ahh redditors
This is more of an open relationship then a poly relationship. The difference is in an open the couple has their own partners outside there relationship and their partners are not in a relationship with the other partner. Poly is is every is in a relationship with everyone, example- a married couple has someone they both have a romatic/sexual relationship with. There is nothing g wrong with poly relationships. Open relationships are a hit or miss.
Exactly 👍
@@justsaiyan3642 Good thing no one's asking much for your type of opinion. I'd ditch giving advice that boils down to "Change your way of life to something that I like more, because I think it's better." Since you wouldn't walk up to a devout Muslim and tell him to his face that he's wrong about his religion on a single story you heard about his life. Different things work for different people hence why they go to an ENM friendly counselor and not a monogamy focused one.
Damn. How can you cheat on your bf while he's in the hospital? Why are you looking for comfort in other men? OP2 gets cancer, thinks only about his gf and she has the gall to expect him to forgive her for cheating just because he has an expiration date now.
What a scumbag.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
Yeah like wth, what a jerk i thought it was sum else like preggo or sum nah she just for the streets.
In my opinion she should have kept it to herself, if she couldn't make OP happier in his last days, she atleast shouldn't have made him sadder
No excuse for it but for some reason it happens way too often. Stress, vulnerability, fatigue, emotions, add a pinch of selfishness and boom they're bumping uglies with someone else.
Oh they are still guilty of it, just a reason on why some do but absolutely zero excuse for them to do it.
@@LadyBern So if there are no excuses for it don't make it for them, even as a person who doesn't believe in free will i can tell you that cheaters do have self control they just don't exercise it, animals have it for fuck sake.
The second story is amazing. he's going through what he's going through and she still made it all about her. she could have left that information out and he could have gone on not ever knowinh, she just had to make sure she got that out before he was gone...
Yeah, it was sad when the last thing you want to hear before you die is your partner being unfaithful
She was really butthurt that he nervous laughed about the affair too was icing on the cake.
Op was about to die when he found out about his gf's cheating and these people really tried getting mad at him for not wanting all that bs?
Mfs aint sh/t.
the cheating came out of left field, I gotta say
just heard it was an open relationship,and already
knew it was set up for failure.
That couple is a mess, husband let another guys bang his wife even with his colleagues but get mad just because they talk shit in bed ?!
Fax
This wasn't even a poly relationship, this guy sounds like a weak man who was just emotionally manipulated into an open relationship.
She was getting what she wanted from him and those other guys but he was never getting the same.
Her discussion with FWB were likely her real feelings for this guy because no woman is actually attracted to a weak man
Those rules that she was breaking were meant for him and not her. Besides this weakling was allowing other men to bang his wife so why would any woman respect such a man enough to follow those so called rules. Its like someone allowing me to punch him because I just feel like it sometimes but he later trying to set up rules about me hitting him where he doesnt want to be hit (you are already enough of a b**ch to let me hit you so I might as well hit you however I want because you won't do anything even if I do)
The only thing about the qualities that he said about her that benefits him is that she was sleeping with him (its nothing to even brag about). Not only was she giving the same thing to other men who put in less effort than OP to receive it he can get the same thing from other women but he is too love struck to see it. Other men are bragging about how their women wake up in the middle of the night to cook for them, how they buy them PS5's, support them even financially in their businesses and the only thing he gets from her is xxx which other women can give him but he still thinks that she is a good woman (she wouldnt even give him kids probably because she doesnt want kids with him because he is a weak man.
He would have been better off dating a h00ker, yes she would still screw otheren and yes he would have to still spend money on her. But a h00ker would atleast have the dignity to make other men to get it but his wife was giving it away for free and the h00ker would cook, clean and even have his kids if he paid her enough.
OP needs to begin his journey of self improvement which starts with going to the gym
I mean she had a partner of 6 years. They lasted 13. They lasted longer than many monogamous couples
@@palamedes4740 there wasen't any high expectations of trust in the first place lol
She didn't think he could hear her but the whole point of bringing the dates back to the house is so the other spouse CAN hear them...
She didn't know he was home.
Being an "ENM"-friendly therapist sounds like a good career. All of these people need tons of therapy.
hell yeah the good part is the drama you witness,
we love seeing people comment self righteously on something they know nothing about lmao
All you have to do is say "Just stop it" that'll be 3000 dollars.
Big CAP
Sounds redundant
Rip to the second dude
I don't know why, but I found it hilarious how you had a poly relationship with RULES and she just up and made it her goal to break all of them xD
Of course. How could she respect him. Poly is just the name women came up with for weak men to give them a pass.
@@edheldude Tho I agree with what you say, I just wanna put out there that cheating is not a 'Gendered' thing, it's a shtty person thing :v but yeh I don't think open relationships work unless it was a thing from the very beginning, and if marriage is gonna be a thing than either close or it won't work (I'm 1001% sure it wouldn't work through a marriage)
Why would she respect your rules when she doesn’t respect you? It’s literally impossible for a woman to have any amount of reverence for a husband who has so little self-respect that he doesn’t see her exclusivity as his right in marriage.
@@edheldude L incel take
@@edheldudeboth man and women not just women.
Yeah it was over when they opened the marriage
Yeah only him saw this as a way to better their marriage
Yep
in story 2 I thought she was going to say I'm batman
😂
All jokes aside, its quite upsetting.
that would have been less shocking
Wow she could've kept that to herself and let OP die thinking she was an amazing partner now his last memories of her will be that she cheated on him while he was in the hospital after an accident
I also think that was one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. I mean, if you think about it, that guy's life is going to end really soon and he knows this, if this guy had any amount of anger or hate left in him he could have harmed her or even killed her without any real fear of the consequences. Although the OP didn't seem like the guy to do that.
Story 1: Wow, the wife was unbelievable! Why sleep with OP's close friends and subordinate? And, she had already had partners too? What a 403!
"I told her she doesn't respect me!" She has literally been f-ing other people for years with your consent. Why would she ever respect you?
L nerd.
Exactly, dude is a cuck and wonders why his wife doesn’t respect him cause she’s been riding the C.C. All the time
@@smurfaccount9269found the cuck doormat
@@smurfaccount92698 likes so far. Seems you're the nerd
Because of the sheer awesomeness of his person ofc, poly people are narcs who cannot be comfortable with monogamy because they think very highly of the masks they wear.
Ahh another open relationship. Cringe. Don't care. You get what you deserve
Well, the second guy is on a pretty thought spot, and that's sad because he looks like a pretty cool person. The first guy is just dumb, they didn't have a marriage, they were just roomates all along and he didn't see that because she was too gorgeous.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
Folks
Please do not practice this "enm" thing they talk about. Nonmonogamy is just a recipe for a disaster. At best you can have multiple fwb's, but make it clear to them there dhall be no feelings, ever. A relationship should be between 2 people. Nor nore, no less.
100% agreed
Theres not enough time or energy to maintain multiple actual relationships.
I can barely take care of myself
No❤
Honestly. Is either polyamorous or open relationship even a good idea?
Its a bad idea
Not if you want anything like the commitment you should get in a normal marriage. Poly can only really work if the relationship is closer to fwb than spouses.
There is never a situation where the answer to this question is Yes.
No. That's why i cant respect them they always suck.
Never
who knew adding people to a relationship would fuck things up?
And this Ladies and Gentlemen makes a certain celebrity's marriage looks better than this.
Youre not as specific with this as you think you are lmfao
@@elseggs6504 If people know they know, if they don't they don't. The guy involved has had his name ran through the dirt enough. I don't plan to add any more to that.
@@elseggs6504 My thoughts exactly lol
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@@elseggs6504
I think I know 🤭
Story 1: I seriously hope OP doesn’t knock anyone up. Imagine that poor kid growing up in a home where his mom and dad have multiple partners on the go at any one time. I don’t care what adults do in the privacy of their own homes, but ENM relationships where the adults have children isn’t always a good idea, particularly when the children are little. It can often cause the kids a myriad of emotional problems, even when ENM is done correctly.
As a side note, a good friend of my parents grew up in hippy commune where his parents had a very open relationship. He hated growing up that way because it effed him up emotionally. He’s the most anal retentive person I’ve ever met and has always had a lot of relationship problems. All his siblings have also had serious intimate relationship problems throughout their lives.
Why the *F* do people open their marriage if they make a freaking vow to not do these fucking stuff.
*If you want to do stuff like this, then you should also vow if you would do this kind of stuff in their marriage*
It's very likely that they are using marriage as proof of stability like a bait, it could be dark triad baiting narcs (subclinical narc and psychopathy combo) which doesn't have to mean they don't have emotions but id rather keep a company of a full fledged psychopath or it could be psychos baiting narcs in either case they are vermin and i don't feel anything towards them since they are not human.
Non-monogamy is not a marriage, just stay dating and do the non monogamy thing together with your partner
Damn, the 2nd one is fucked up
man you Americans are different
Open relationsships are a fucking joke. If your partner ever seriously wants to open up your relationship, tell them to grow up and save youself from future drama by leaving them right there. If you want to sleep with multiple people just dont get in a relationshiop, it's simple.
The only time open relationship could work is if a single party with a dead libido offers it to the other party with a high libido and gets someone who won't bad mouth you and won't create kids outside. Problem is that the lines for cheating is blurred at that point and the lines are thin.
Absolutely.
If your so asks for an open relationship, step out and call your lawyer since they most likely already cheated with a 98% certainty.
Not only can I guess the origin of these two ppl, I can also smell them thru the video. 😂
What? A poly relationship not working out?! Who could’ve ever seen that coming?
Correct title: I became a CUCK, and I don't like it. AITA?
CHEATERS DESERVE A 1 WAY TICKET TO HELL. How the fuck are you going to demand your BF promise to stay with you after cheating on him? I clearly have never truly been emotionally vulnerable as having sex has never crossed my mind in the time of sadness.
Oh, no! They're not getting off that easy. They need to stay right here and deal with the destruction they create.
Full disclosure: I'm not perfect. I cheated in my youth. You get older, you mature, you realize your actions have consequences, even if you don't get caught. If you're not happy, try to fix it. If you can't fix it, leave and try again somewhere else. You may not be fully invested, but the other person may be, unless they are going out of their way to be cruel to you.
@@NeilTruick Go to hell? Deal with? Nah if I am getting cheated on I am giving the cheater hell. Worse than the one god created.
I mean... You did agree to open the marriage, if anything your ex and her ap were kinda right...
WHAT THE FUCK!!! I listen to these stories while eating and its pretty entertaining but I rarely get emotionally invested. Story 2 was pretty rough and I was amazed how he was dealing with all this shit having to tell his family and friends how hes gonna die soon. I was imagining myself how I would handle this etc thinking about my girl and how much I love her. Then he hits me with the "she cheated on me while I was in the hospital".... DAYYYUUM!!!!! wasnt prepared for that one
Another open relationship success story. At least there are no kids involved. Now you have this weirdo who openly hates you hovering around outside your marriage. In my opinion she absolutely means those things she said about you, so much so that it turns her on. You are a man who listens to your wife have sex with other men, how can she respect that?
OP seems like the CA type to me. Lets their partner get railed by other guys and then gets mad when someone calls them names? Like bro your priorities are messed up.
How would a woman respect you if you don’t respect yourself
I hope to GOD he does not become a father.
Bro open relationships are a red flag and saying "safe spaces" is an even bigger red flag.
The first story this guy is disgusting same with his wife when they divorce hope no woman wants to date or marry him because he will want a open relationship
"Cucks, cucks everywhere" Insert ToyStory meme here
I can't even feel sorry for the first situation.
Damn, the second story is so sad
OP1 is legit brainwashed. Poly is a fucking stupid concept and I’ve never seen a good Poly relationship last a full year.
Poor bloke in the last story
I will never understand poly folks. Inevitably every single time it goes up in smoke for a few cheap thrills. How can you even say you were married when you both spent more time with other people than each other, kept your finances separate, and never really built anything together but some occasional memories.
First story: OP's wife hooking up with a single man for 6 years is a huge red flag even if it's an ENM relationship
open relationship, everyone who does that deserves to be sad in life
Not choosing your spouse is wild😅
Story 2: WTF!? She asked for forgiveness to a cancer guy in order to stay by confessing on cheating WHEN HE WAS IN AN HOSPITAL.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes
Okay, well, that's enough internet for today.
Everyone in the first story is disgusting and sad
Open marriage, she screwed up, he found out. They go to therapy to fix their marriage. Specialized therapist close marriage indefinitely, and HE is upset that he has to let outside relationships go? Damn, just damn.
"At no point in our ENM journey did I consent to become the object of my wife's derision and disrespect when she is on a date."
Actually, you did. It's the moment you started an ENM journey.
There is only one type of working reletaionship and it is monogamy. Every bullshit like poly/open is always just one doormat who suffers for partner
Average Will Smith fan:
Oh shit the last one hurt a lot
Guy in story two is HUGE! We'd have heard of a 25 meter guy.
That’s our wife buddy.
They bring this crap on themselves.
Why get married if you are against monogamy? Seems extremely counter productive.
Ma’am I need you to take that secret to the grave he’s already dying. How could this help, him knowing this.
The first story I was like okay well they're open whatever but as he continues to justify her behavior which is what he's doing it's apparent that they laid out ground rules she didn't abide by any of the ground rules at all and he's literally left looking like a deer caught in the headlights because of it
Why marry? You have literally broken all the vows. Why take them? Lmao
Never in my life have I seen an "ENM" aka poly relationship workout. Someone always gets jealous, a rule is always broken, bla bla bla. Once I hear "my partner and I are poly" that's really all I need to know. XD
Story one is crazy what is the point of getting married if you’re just going to sleep with everyone that you’re not married to just stay single once you’re committed to someone that’s the only person you want or need
Too much cringe in the 1st story. Husband is so cucked it's embarrassing to call him a man.
S1: It seems like an open relationship would be a bad idea...
I can not understand the concept of open relationship, why marry then?
Hey guys I'm back from my lunch break
Wow an ENM relationship didn’t work? Woooooowwww that’s not surprising at all.
Morally, I have nothing against open or poly relationships. If everyone is consenting and you can make it work, more power to you.
But it needs to be said that marriage and polyamory just. Don’t. Mix. Like, by definition, the very concepts are completely in opposition.
Edit: OP’s girlfriend in Story 2; my god, are there any good women left these days? Like, _any?_ *_At all??_*
Thank you I just made a comment myself saying non-monogamy is not meant for marriage, you could be incredibly “committed” dating partners, but never while being married it’s just never going to work
Morals don't exist so i don't see how morals are point of view anyway, humans are cruel, vicious, lying, lustful, selfish, ignorant creatures and we live under liberalism (praised be holy liberalism) which promotes and spreads these vices far and wide currently our civilization is Liberal organized as collaboration between warring tribes consisting of atomized malignant individuals which encourage human primal behavior to resurface showing you exactly who and what humans are, in such a civilization morals are relative since liberalism promotes individual choice and consent above everything else in other words individual itself which is by nature independent and rejects notion of interconnectedness (which is required for any relationship to work and denying nature of individual is factually inaccurate) and so every individual is left to choose on their own but illusion is that there is no such thing as free choice and consent doesn't exist it's just a word we use to justify consequences be them positive or negative. Polarization that people talk about isn't a bug in this system, it's its core liberalism IS polarization it's a feature it serves a purpose.
You deserve it, if u have a relationship that invites others into it you deserve anything you have coming
Agreed. Disgusting people, disgusting situation.
He got off lightly.
Husband agrees to be a cuck with 'rules'; wife treats him like a cuck and doesn't respect him enough to follow the rules they agreed upon. I'm utterly shocked. Ethical non-monogomy, SMH.
She got off on degrading him, then lied and said it was the other guy who wanted it. Then admits she sought out his friends and coworker because, obviously, it was actually her who got off on degrading him.
Story 1: I don't know what happened to me but the moment OP said they were in an open relationship, I immediately stopped listening and hated both the wife and OP. I do not like the concept of open marriages as it isn't a real marriage and because these kinds of situations are extremely common with open relationships.
You and me brother.
2nd story: that's so fucked up! 😡😡😡😡😡
Is it just me, or does the OP from story one sound like a neckbeard or something? 🤣
Textbook redditor. I like how he likes to posture as some sort of self-respecting guy with a backbone and boundaries too lmao.
1rst story
Open mirage is like tin glass kinky sticky sometimes nasty stuff the BEGENING and the END
2ND
NASTY 😅
If you're going to have those simple ground rules one of them is you do not talk bad about the husband or wife . If they do the FWB is ended immediately and you never talk with them again.
I have this feeling she will keep going after friends and co-workers of his just to twist the stick.
Brody is weak that’s crazy
Was story 2 a rewrite with a worse ending? I heard this exact story a few months back and the gf never cheated in that one? (Also, I recognize most these stories are likely fake/heavily embellished anyway) lol
If having your partner in a vulnerable position is disturbing to you, maybe that's a sign for both of you to not participate.
What’s an Ap?
First story: when I heard open relationship I knew it would go downhill. My bff was in an open relationship and I can tell you her ex and his other lover were asshole’s
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couldnt agree more..
Someone needs to remind me why th I came into the comments even if I knew there would've been a lot of anti-poly bs💀
Second one is sad f the gf wtf
Story 1: Can't bring myself to care much about OP here since they're in an open relationship so as far as I am concerned any L taken was asked for. Most people can't probably handle these relationships so this is not surprising in the least.
Story 2: I hope OP enjoys his last days and cuts that woman out of his life. She cheated while he was in the hospital and expects sympathy from a dying man. She had an out and should have taken it so she could move on. Why even bother telling him she cheated at that point is the question. The man is dying so she could have just dropped the relationship to friends and enjoyed his last days with him while sleeping with all the guys she wants.
the marriage ended when OP and his wife both decided to open the relationship up. Definitely ended when she talked shit about OP lol
Opening a marriage means ending it.
@@dorn0531Yes.
ENM is not poly it’s open but within limits also it should have been a hard line to both the wife and husband about eithers partners talking crap on their spouse in any manner I’m sure if the tables were flipped she’d have been just as upset about it as he was or even more to me that’s just selfish now these kinds of relationships can work if the partners have a strict set of rules and protocols to follow and do so with each person they are with and if it works for them then no one else’s opinions matter it was terrible that she did that but outside of that there was nothing wrong with what she was doing as it fit their stipulations for acceptance
wtf does ENM stand for, trying to see how that translates to an open relationship
Ethnically non monogamous. It’s polyamory for people that don’t want to call themselves poly because it makes them sound like whores. So it’s just polyamory lmao
"I wanna have kids but I also wanna have sex with other girls that are not my wife" what world is this guy living in? Wtf makes him think he can have children and be in an open marriage? What even is the point of an open marriage just stay single at that point if you're gonna marry someone you are literally telling them you are devoting yourself to them and then you just basically say "nah I actually wanna fuck other girls" these relationships never even work out anyway and when they do one person or the other just doesn't have their heart in it.
Any updates on OP2?
He might be dead because he hasn't updated
Never be with someone if they want to be in an open relationship or any other type of poly relationship, calling it a relationship is honestly crap its just being a hoe.
So getting (rightfully) made fun of is where he drew the line.
If I was dying and my SO cheats on me I'd give her an expiration date too and make it even more severe. What are the law enforcers are gonna do? I am already dying lol
You know what here's your solution, Polyamorous relationships are fucked up they are cheating no matter what
3 years of dating is not long enough to propose? 🚩
No, most people date for way longer
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People could date for 14 years and yet no proposal not a red flag it could be money problems or etc check your privilege
I wouldn't need much i know what i'm looking for 6 months is enough time a year tops to know if you can or can't be with a person
It's very hard feeling bad for the first guy, at all. In fact he deserves all the disrespect he received.
Yep and worse.
Story 1: ENM relationship. Nothing more needs to be said. You brought it on yourself.
Story 2: It's like they say, "good people die young." What a saint of a man. I can see why he has such a solid support system and everyone around him absolutely loves him. She had to do it. She had to ruin his last few years on Earth with her selfishness and disregard for her boyfriend, even after having an out. Wow.