Its not you, I had my "mid life crisis" early in life, in highschool, I knew school was a model of the workplace. I have an absolute need for freedom and autonomy. Either way the rich are scared we might rise up against the rich because wages have stagnated and are putting serious stress on everyone. "Accumulation of wealth at one pole is at the same time accumulation of misery, agony of toil, slavery, ignorance, brutality, mental degradation, at the opposite pole," -Karl marx Search youtube for second thought and first thought, then legion of men, then "Crisis of democracy chomsky"
I completely get it-I’ve been through a similar struggle and found my own way past it. For me, it wasn’t a “mid-life crisis” so much as a lingering dissatisfaction that I only managed to resolve in my late forties, making it “mid-life” in that sense. For most of us facing this, true change calls for deep self-discovery. What truly matters to you? What feels wrong about your current life? In my case, I craved control over my own time and wanted my efforts to benefit me directly, rather than enriching someone else. These feelings only grew stronger when I became a parent in my mid-forties. Once you have answers, it’s about building strategies around them and crafting a solid plan. But self-honesty is key-especially when moving from ideas to action. Without a practical plan, you risk trading one dissatisfaction for another. At the same time, don’t get stuck in endless planning. If this seems like a lot of work, it is. That’s why most people don’t follow through. Good luck on your journey!!
Brilliant comment mate. My feeling are very similar to yours. It is a feeling of dissatisfaction for me. A feeling of not having everything in my own control. And that's why I am and for the last 6 months taking action to change that for myself. I'm now seeing it as a midlife awakening more than a crisis. We go on!! Thanks for the comment and watching the video mate I appreciate it 🙏 and congratulations on becoming a father ❤️
I’ve found that the most important thing to get out of this mindset, is fixing nutrition. We’ve spent most of our lives eating junk food. We’ve gained weight, our minds are suffering from brain fog. Our bodies are full of toxins. Think about if you get lead poisoning, one of the side effects is going insane. The same thing happens from all the garbage we’ve consumed over our lives. Get rid of the plants and processed foods. I went carnivore and it not only took me out of my existential crisis, but it made me stronger and better than ever. Good luck on your journey brother.
Great point. I try to eat relatively healthy and unprocessed. But I'm far from perfect with it. Thanks for reaching out about that I appreciate. Keep going strong mate. 💪
@@anthonyparkinv2 I hate to sound like a shill, but I made a video the other about this and our mental health and nutrition. Fight the good fight! You got this! 👊🏻
Then I feel your struggle mate. It sucks. You get that push and pull thing going on between doing "what's right" and just jacking it all in and doing your own thing. Keep strong mate. Find something you can do for yourself. Find the time to do it. I'm sure bit by bit we can all get past the struggle and find some balance in our life.
Dont be the cliche man. Use the frustration to push you towards your goals. Its never too late to change your life without being that cliche who leaves his family behind to do it. Keep strong brother.
Il never walk away from my family mate. No matter far into a crisis I slip. They're my bedrock for all i do. But yeah that's what I'm going to do. Starting with this channel. Thanks for watching 😊
That was very heart felt and honest. I’m a woman and I’ve not been through this but I can now appreciate your perspective and you make it more understandable
It's exactly what you said. A realization of aging and mortality and thereby a realization that sooner rather than later some things will simply not be possible anymore. The crisis is the sudden need to catch up or to accumulate new experiences. I think this happens to most of us, but in different degrees. To have it rather soft, the solution is to have tasted life in all its forms during our younger years. For example, if you always wanted to have a motorbike, but never did, chances are it will be part of your crisis later and you will be that 55 year old dude riding for the first time - not the best idea. Same applies to dating and so on - you may go on a rampage later. That's why they can be sometimes dangerous and ruin an otherwise stable life.
Personally I think it’s mostly about balance in life - if the scale has been tipping too far to one side for too long it’s natural to want to try and counter-balance it, but many go too far and end up taking it to the extreme the other way. Which often might end up feeling empty and stressful and all that, and then in comes family life v2 and here we go again. Just turned 50 myself, but having never let go of parts of my «younger» life, like dj’ing since 20-something while in a steady job, skateboarding on and off since I was 12, still playing computer games from time to time, not being afraid to try new things like woodworking and learning electronics to build that arcade I always wanted, never trying to be «the best» but enjoy what I’m doing at the moment - I can honestly say I haven’t felt that mid-life crisis yet, and it doesn’t feel like it’ll hit any time soon/at all right now - not saying my life is perfect in any way, always something going on gnawing away here and there - but in general aiming for that balance and not letting go completely of what I enjoy and aiming for that balance, setting aside time to do things I enjoy, might have contributed to not yet at least having had the «mid life crisis»-thing going on. Starting a youtube channel myself 6 months ago proper wasn’t really a «crisis»-moment either, more a «I think I have *something* of value to share so why not try it» cause I really don’t care how it goes, but I really enjoy the complete freedom I have in creating what I want and try whatever I feel like. So yeah, you might have a crisis, or you might just be doing the right thing allowing yourself to do something you *really* want to do right now, and that’s ok :) The real key is to not let it take over, and strike a balance between enjoying the paid work you do for a living, maybe focusing on what that job can give *ypu* rather than the «working for the man»-angle. Try to look at what *you* get from doing that work, not only cash for the family, but try finding the positives for you, be it knowledge, experience, social rewards - and if none of that is had look for something else - but *do* try to find something positive about what you are currently doing - ones job might not be creative, it might not be fulfilling, but most jobs do have *some* positives about it - and changing that mindset, even for a little time while looking for a new job, a new employer, might change things into a more positive mindset, which might just make taking that next step easier - and if you can allow yourself some personal victories as well, doing something you enjoy, like youtube videos or some hobby or other creative endeavors you might just «catch» that wave that gives you a balance to avoid the extreme pendulum swing going into full midlife crisis mode :) Believe in your ability to find that balance and make active choices to head in that direction and you, and probably other people in your life, will notice the change and support you :)
Thanks man. Your comments are always deep, detailed and well intentioned. And I really appreciate that. And mostly you are always right in what you say.
Thanks man, I am from 79 and sure I am feeling it to. Did not buy a car but start doing reckless sports.. rugby and downhill mtb😂. Leaving the kids and wife for the weekends...i guess i am just coping.
Haha it's just what happens man to so many of us. We need that escape from our responsibilities sometimes. Thanks for watching and engaging mate I appreciate it. 🙏
It's interesting because I had an early, some might say a quarter life crises.. I was super determined to be free and self sufficient as fast as possible: no more corporate slavery etc. I achieved that in my thirties, semi retired and now very free to do what I want, be it travel the world and enjoy life BUT ended up with too much free time and feel like I should be more immersed into something else despite having a small business: currently takes up only a small part of my week.. It's like we can never be truly satisfied. Finding that balance is tough. As men we need a purpose but also time for ourselves to pursue what we want. Ideally if you can work for a period and take 'mini retirements' like Tim Ferris mentioned in his book to do the things you want to do for maybe a month or two this can work well for some. However, it's only really practical if you're a contractor/self employed. Very challenging for those on full time employment contracts.
Yeah man I couldn't agree more. Finding that balance is so hard. We are always going to need something to keep us busy and occupied I think. It's finding that one thing that ticks the balance of feeling like work and you time at the same time 😂. Thanks for watching mate I appreciate it. 👍
When you are in a midlife-crisis, most importantly, shift your perspective. Don't focus on what you don't have, but on what you have and what you have already achieved. Accept the fact that you won't reach some of the lifetime goals you had set for yourself when you were young. Probably you will never become a CEO with a billion dollar fortune and probably you will never marry that super model movie star trophy wife. Accept it. Be happy with what you have at the moment. That does not mean that you should settle with what you have in case you want more. It means stop wasting energy on whining about missed opportunities or things that will never come. Use the feeling of accomplishment you get from looking at your current achievements to fuel your start into the second half of your life.
Very true. I was just thinking the same thing actually after I posted this video. Is it a midlife crisis? Or more an awakening? I am super grateful for all I have and I think I've not really practiced the gratitude for it all. And when it comes to goals. Whining achieves nothing as yoy say. Action on the other hand does. So I guess it's time to take action. Thanks for your insight mate. 👍
Hey man, know exactly how you feel, I turned 50 last week. Feel like I want to do my own thing with my wife, and travel. Also, I have had enough of pleasing people and want to slow down and do things at my own pace.
Exactly how I'm feeling mate. It's mostly frustration and it's starting to eat away at me. Probably for you too! But I'm going to try and channel the frustration into something proactive. Make it more of an awakening than a crisis so to speak! Keep strong man and I hope you come through this phase in a better place.
I'll be 52, this year. I have no reason to have a "midlife crisis". No wife, no kids, no relationship, no dating, so no stress, and I get to keep my money, instead of wasting it on dating. Work isn't terribly stressful. I mean, it has it's days, but... On the whole, I have it pretty easy, actually. I get to go on vacation, I like Europe. I gave up on the idea of ever owning a home, years ago, so no stress there. I will end up with one anyway, via inheritance. I live with my parents, and pay cheap rent, so no stress there either. I've always joked that, if I ever had a midlife crisis, since I can't afford a Harley, I would just get a scooter, like a Vespa, , but get the full leathers, and a cool biker helmet. By the way, your camera keeps going in and out of focus.
Haha living your life on your terms my friend and loving it too by the sounds of it. Happy to hear it mate. And yeah I know I need to fix that it was annoying the life out of me!! Thanks for watching and your comment mate. And good luck with getting the Harley 🏍
Working full time and having a wife and kids is very testing - you need an escape now and again. As you age your body wont let you do some of the more physical hobbies you enjoyed in your youth which in turn pains you mentally. I think you just have to try to keep some small joy in you day to day life, be it sport, riding a motorcycle, drinking a cold beer, eating a nice steak, sex, videogames - whatever got you excited as a young man needs to be present in your life as you continue to age.
What ??? Get some perspective mate ! I’m 60 this year & would give anything to have time back with my young family - 2 boys - holidays, supporting them, playing. You have a happy family life & health - wake up - you’re blessed. As for thoughts about mortality …wait till you get to my age or my parents at 87 & 89 LOL.
I know I'm blessed mate. In more ways than one. Especially with regards to family. That will never change. There is a frustration in me.from.somewhere though. Haha yeah but you and your parents and doing well to be at those ages. So keep going strong all of you mate!! Thanks for watching and your comment mate I appreciate it. 👍
Are you having a midlife crisis? Let me know whats going on in your life and what acts you have taken in your midlife crisis!!
Its not you, I had my "mid life crisis" early in life, in highschool, I knew school was a model of the workplace. I have an absolute need for freedom and autonomy. Either way the rich are scared we might rise up against the rich because wages have stagnated and are putting serious stress on everyone.
"Accumulation of wealth at one pole is at the same time accumulation of misery, agony of toil, slavery, ignorance, brutality, mental degradation, at the opposite pole," -Karl marx
Search youtube for second thought and first thought, then legion of men, then "Crisis of democracy chomsky"
100% spot on. The dangerous part is resentment.
Yeah you are right. Very dangerous if the resentment kicks in.
I completely get it-I’ve been through a similar struggle and found my own way past it. For me, it wasn’t a “mid-life crisis” so much as a lingering dissatisfaction that I only managed to resolve in my late forties, making it “mid-life” in that sense.
For most of us facing this, true change calls for deep self-discovery. What truly matters to you? What feels wrong about your current life? In my case, I craved control over my own time and wanted my efforts to benefit me directly, rather than enriching someone else. These feelings only grew stronger when I became a parent in my mid-forties.
Once you have answers, it’s about building strategies around them and crafting a solid plan. But self-honesty is key-especially when moving from ideas to action. Without a practical plan, you risk trading one dissatisfaction for another. At the same time, don’t get stuck in endless planning.
If this seems like a lot of work, it is. That’s why most people don’t follow through.
Good luck on your journey!!
Brilliant comment mate. My feeling are very similar to yours. It is a feeling of dissatisfaction for me. A feeling of not having everything in my own control. And that's why I am and for the last 6 months taking action to change that for myself. I'm now seeing it as a midlife awakening more than a crisis. We go on!! Thanks for the comment and watching the video mate I appreciate it 🙏 and congratulations on becoming a father ❤️
I’ve found that the most important thing to get out of this mindset, is fixing nutrition. We’ve spent most of our lives eating junk food. We’ve gained weight, our minds are suffering from brain fog. Our bodies are full of toxins. Think about if you get lead poisoning, one of the side effects is going insane. The same thing happens from all the garbage we’ve consumed over our lives. Get rid of the plants and processed foods. I went carnivore and it not only took me out of my existential crisis, but it made me stronger and better than ever. Good luck on your journey brother.
Great point. I try to eat relatively healthy and unprocessed. But I'm far from perfect with it. Thanks for reaching out about that I appreciate. Keep going strong mate. 💪
@@anthonyparkinv2 I hate to sound like a shill, but I made a video the other about this and our mental health and nutrition. Fight the good fight! You got this! 👊🏻
@Chadlistentome awesome man i will check that out and your channel. Gotta support tye community right? 😂
@@anthonyparkinv2 hell yeah. A rising tide lifts all ships.
@Chadlistentome just watched the video you mentioned. Really good talk man and inspiring. Keep up the great work. You got a new subscriber!
You're not alone in this. I just turned 43 and have been feeling the exact same way for quite some time.
Then I feel your struggle mate. It sucks. You get that push and pull thing going on between doing "what's right" and just jacking it all in and doing your own thing. Keep strong mate. Find something you can do for yourself. Find the time to do it. I'm sure bit by bit we can all get past the struggle and find some balance in our life.
Dont be the cliche man. Use the frustration to push you towards your goals. Its never too late to change your life without being that cliche who leaves his family behind to do it. Keep strong brother.
Il never walk away from my family mate. No matter far into a crisis I slip. They're my bedrock for all i do. But yeah that's what I'm going to do. Starting with this channel. Thanks for watching 😊
@@anthonyparkinv2 that's what I like to hear. Look forward to your next videos. You have a new subscriber in me 💪
ive always done stuff for others now 50 and im now doing stuff to keep me happy , so i know were you come from
I think it's just something we all have to do. Some of us forgot how to be that little bit selfish! Enjoy yourself man. And thanks for watching 😊
That was very heart felt and honest. I’m a woman and I’ve not been through this but I can now appreciate your perspective and you make it more understandable
Thanks alot Rosi. I really appreciate that. Thanks for watching 😊
It's exactly what you said. A realization of aging and mortality and thereby a realization that sooner rather than later some things will simply not be possible anymore. The crisis is the sudden need to catch up or to accumulate new experiences. I think this happens to most of us, but in different degrees. To have it rather soft, the solution is to have tasted life in all its forms during our younger years. For example, if you always wanted to have a motorbike, but never did, chances are it will be part of your crisis later and you will be that 55 year old dude riding for the first time - not the best idea. Same applies to dating and so on - you may go on a rampage later. That's why they can be sometimes dangerous and ruin an otherwise stable life.
Described it to a tee in just a few sentences. Couldn't have said it better myself. 👏. Thanks for watching I really appreciate it mate 👍
Personally I think it’s mostly about balance in life - if the scale has been tipping too far to one side for too long it’s natural to want to try and counter-balance it, but many go too far and end up taking it to the extreme the other way.
Which often might end up feeling empty and stressful and all that, and then in comes family life v2 and here we go again.
Just turned 50 myself, but having never let go of parts of my «younger» life, like dj’ing since 20-something while in a steady job, skateboarding on and off since I was 12, still playing computer games from time to time, not being afraid to try new things like woodworking and learning electronics to build that arcade I always wanted, never trying to be «the best» but enjoy what I’m doing at the moment - I can honestly say I haven’t felt that mid-life crisis yet, and it doesn’t feel like it’ll hit any time soon/at all right now - not saying my life is perfect in any way, always something going on gnawing away here and there - but in general aiming for that balance and not letting go completely of what I enjoy and aiming for that balance, setting aside time to do things I enjoy, might have contributed to not yet at least having had the «mid life crisis»-thing going on.
Starting a youtube channel myself 6 months ago proper wasn’t really a «crisis»-moment either, more a «I think I have *something* of value to share so why not try it» cause I really don’t care how it goes, but I really enjoy the complete freedom I have in creating what I want and try whatever I feel like.
So yeah, you might have a crisis, or you might just be doing the right thing allowing yourself to do something you *really* want to do right now, and that’s ok :) The real key is to not let it take over, and strike a balance between enjoying the paid work you do for a living, maybe focusing on what that job can give *ypu* rather than the «working for the man»-angle. Try to look at what *you* get from doing that work, not only cash for the family, but try finding the positives for you, be it knowledge, experience, social rewards - and if none of that is had look for something else - but *do* try to find something positive about what you are currently doing - ones job might not be creative, it might not be fulfilling, but most jobs do have *some* positives about it - and changing that mindset, even for a little time while looking for a new job, a new employer, might change things into a more positive mindset, which might just make taking that next step easier - and if you can allow yourself some personal victories as well, doing something you enjoy, like youtube videos or some hobby or other creative endeavors you might just «catch» that wave that gives you a balance to avoid the extreme pendulum swing going into full midlife crisis mode :) Believe in your ability to find that balance and make active choices to head in that direction and you, and probably other people in your life, will notice the change and support you :)
Thanks man. Your comments are always deep, detailed and well intentioned. And I really appreciate that. And mostly you are always right in what you say.
@@anthonyparkinv2 Hahaha, yah sometimes right for one person might not be right for another :)
@@AndreSjoberg well they always seem to ring true for me atleast haha.
Thanks man, I am from 79 and sure I am feeling it to. Did not buy a car but start doing reckless sports.. rugby and downhill mtb😂. Leaving the kids and wife for the weekends...i guess i am just coping.
Haha it's just what happens man to so many of us. We need that escape from our responsibilities sometimes. Thanks for watching and engaging mate I appreciate it. 🙏
It's interesting because I had an early, some might say a quarter life crises.. I was super determined to be free and self sufficient as fast as possible: no more corporate slavery etc. I achieved that in my thirties, semi retired and now very free to do what I want, be it travel the world and enjoy life BUT ended up with too much free time and feel like I should be more immersed into something else despite having a small business: currently takes up only a small part of my week.. It's like we can never be truly satisfied. Finding that balance is tough. As men we need a purpose but also time for ourselves to pursue what we want. Ideally if you can work for a period and take 'mini retirements' like Tim Ferris mentioned in his book to do the things you want to do for maybe a month or two this can work well for some. However, it's only really practical if you're a contractor/self employed. Very challenging for those on full time employment contracts.
Yeah man I couldn't agree more. Finding that balance is so hard. We are always going to need something to keep us busy and occupied I think. It's finding that one thing that ticks the balance of feeling like work and you time at the same time 😂. Thanks for watching mate I appreciate it. 👍
When you are in a midlife-crisis, most importantly, shift your perspective. Don't focus on what you don't have, but on what you have and what you have already achieved. Accept the fact that you won't reach some of the lifetime goals you had set for yourself when you were young. Probably you will never become a CEO with a billion dollar fortune and probably you will never marry that super model movie star trophy wife. Accept it. Be happy with what you have at the moment.
That does not mean that you should settle with what you have in case you want more. It means stop wasting energy on whining about missed opportunities or things that will never come. Use the feeling of accomplishment you get from looking at your current achievements to fuel your start into the second half of your life.
Very true. I was just thinking the same thing actually after I posted this video. Is it a midlife crisis? Or more an awakening? I am super grateful for all I have and I think I've not really practiced the gratitude for it all. And when it comes to goals. Whining achieves nothing as yoy say. Action on the other hand does. So I guess it's time to take action. Thanks for your insight mate. 👍
Hey man, know exactly how you feel, I turned 50 last week. Feel like I want to do my own thing with my wife, and travel. Also, I have had enough of pleasing people and want to slow down and do things at my own pace.
Exactly how I'm feeling mate. It's mostly frustration and it's starting to eat away at me. Probably for you too! But I'm going to try and channel the frustration into something proactive. Make it more of an awakening than a crisis so to speak! Keep strong man and I hope you come through this phase in a better place.
I'll be 52, this year. I have no reason to have a "midlife crisis". No wife, no kids, no relationship, no dating, so no stress, and I get to keep my money, instead of wasting it on dating. Work isn't terribly stressful. I mean, it has it's days, but... On the whole, I have it pretty easy, actually. I get to go on vacation, I like Europe. I gave up on the idea of ever owning a home, years ago, so no stress there. I will end up with one anyway, via inheritance. I live with my parents, and pay cheap rent, so no stress there either. I've always joked that, if I ever had a midlife crisis, since I can't afford a Harley, I would just get a scooter, like a Vespa, , but get the full leathers, and a cool biker helmet. By the way, your camera keeps going in and out of focus.
Haha living your life on your terms my friend and loving it too by the sounds of it. Happy to hear it mate. And yeah I know I need to fix that it was annoying the life out of me!! Thanks for watching and your comment mate. And good luck with getting the Harley 🏍
Working full time and having a wife and kids is very testing - you need an escape now and again.
As you age your body wont let you do some of the more physical hobbies you enjoyed in your youth which in turn pains you mentally.
I think you just have to try to keep some small joy in you day to day life, be it sport, riding a motorcycle, drinking a cold beer, eating a nice steak, sex, videogames - whatever got you excited as a young man needs to be present in your life as you continue to age.
I get that middle aged body pain mate. It's a reminder we arnt getting any younger and it definitly does pain me mentally. Thanks for watching mate
Funny. Sometimes women feel the same way.
I've no doubt about it.
What ??? Get some perspective mate ! I’m 60 this year & would give anything to have time back with my young family - 2 boys - holidays, supporting them, playing. You have a happy family life & health - wake up - you’re blessed. As for thoughts about mortality …wait till you get to my age or my parents at 87 & 89 LOL.
I know I'm blessed mate. In more ways than one. Especially with regards to family. That will never change. There is a frustration in me.from.somewhere though.
Haha yeah but you and your parents and doing well to be at those ages. So keep going strong all of you mate!! Thanks for watching and your comment mate I appreciate it. 👍