Real talk about being in my 40s and life lessons I'm learning now

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  • Опубликовано: 30 ноя 2024

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  • @OneBigHappyLife
    @OneBigHappyLife  4 месяца назад +4

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  • @SKYSTHELIMIT1023
    @SKYSTHELIMIT1023 4 месяца назад +59

    I had a baby girl at 41. Got pregnant at 40 and she was born when I was 41. 😅such a blessing I thought I would never be a mom.

    • @SweettoothMarie77
      @SweettoothMarie77 4 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for gently reminding me to keep calm! It will come to pass 🙏

    • @creezhan
      @creezhan 4 месяца назад +1

      this gives me hope

    • @LashusJourney
      @LashusJourney 4 месяца назад +1

      Same here, I have my son on 41 birthday 🙏.

    • @deedee2736
      @deedee2736 4 месяца назад +1

      Gives me hope. Running out of time

    • @pinklimelight
      @pinklimelight 4 месяца назад

      💞 congratulations!

  • @OurRetireEarlyJourney
    @OurRetireEarlyJourney 4 месяца назад +6

    Our 40s are by far our best years! We already in our late 40s but we are so grateful for all the accumulated wisdom we have gained to this point. It will set us up to build our retirement.

  • @luja6256
    @luja6256 4 месяца назад +19

    I had a baby at 39 after 12 years of not being able to get pregnant. It happened when I gave up. I’m 41 now I do feel old but my baby is a blessing.

    • @makishacox6100
      @makishacox6100 4 месяца назад +1

      Way that’s amazing!
      I been having conceiving in the past, I am going to get a fibroid removed 😊

  • @keishafortune7714
    @keishafortune7714 3 месяца назад +1

    Gurlllll...hmmm...you have spoken about so many things in your life that resonate with me. The kids and the lack of closeness with your family. It is also liberating when you accept what is and let go of what not is. It truly lifts that burden off of your shoulders when you do that. Forties is truly an eye opener. Wisdom is real at this age for most. Wishing you all the best for yoru next year around the sun. Health and strength. Blessings to you and your family 😊

  • @technojunkie123
    @technojunkie123 4 месяца назад +19

    Scarlett thank you for sharing your thoughts on being 42! Social media is awash in glamorizing youth so it’s so refreshing to see someone in their 40’s talk about how good life can be in this era!

  • @tracibarnett2058
    @tracibarnett2058 4 месяца назад +19

    The second half of this video resonated with me. I'm 41 without children and realizing that door is shutting. I have a family member that I have been estranged from for over 10 years and am learning to accept it. Just moving forward with life as it is.

    • @SPenninah0425
      @SPenninah0425 4 месяца назад

      You will be fine. As long as you put God first.

    • @nicolem889
      @nicolem889 4 месяца назад

      Be helpful in someone else’s life. There are millions of kids that need help and their parents aren’t enough. You can coach kids and prob get fulfillment or
      foster care. There’s much to do to feel connected to people

  • @hgkjyhnih
    @hgkjyhnih 4 месяца назад +23

    Aging beautifully!💗💗 Glad you’re back after not posting for SO long!

    • @Facebookfriend-h6j
      @Facebookfriend-h6j 4 месяца назад +2

      Agreed!

    • @OneBigHappyLife
      @OneBigHappyLife  4 месяца назад +3

      RUclips is just one place where we share our work. 😉 But the best place place to stay connected with us is via our website and newsletter here: onebighappylife/newsletter

  • @liacalderon8703
    @liacalderon8703 4 месяца назад +2

    This was incredibly vulnerable and encouraging as I am turning 42 this year also . Ty for sharing!

  • @msstacey777
    @msstacey777 4 месяца назад +9

    49 year old mom here of three adult children…ages 20, 26, 31. The empty nest syndrome is very real and after mommying 30 years, navigating this new “life” is scary and different and just trying to figure out what I like, how I like it, etc because I’m not ripping and running and running and ripping! We do a lot as moms so embracing the change and being able to take a step back and focus on self is NICE!!

  • @freshprogressbeauty
    @freshprogressbeauty 4 месяца назад +7

    This is really encouraging. I think many of us need to do this reflection beyond self care - giving ourselves grace for the ways life did not work out.

  • @itsangelahey
    @itsangelahey 3 месяца назад +1

    First time watching your channel! I just turned 37 (not married, no kids) so I was intrigued to hear what I can expect and look forward to. Thank you for sharing your very well rounded wisdom and well appreciated insights.

  • @dablondeambition
    @dablondeambition 3 месяца назад +1

    I love this update! I turned 42 in April and while I'm not exactly where I want to be, I'm pretty close.

  • @mrs.hopson9426
    @mrs.hopson9426 Месяц назад

    I am glad to have found this video. This point of my life is very different in some good ways and some not so good. What you’re saying is so true, I’m told all the time I look good for my age but my body is definitely changing. I don’t like partying these days or staying out late so I’m sometimes left out of friends and family events that include clubs , and a lot of drinking. Now I’m not into botox but to each its own. But I relate to just about everything you said. Thanks for sharing

  • @kokilasharma27
    @kokilasharma27 3 месяца назад +1

    This video n the comment section feels very encouraging, it’s making me feel positive & excited about my 40s!! I just turned 34 and was getting overwhelmed by the entire “your life’s over once you hit 30s” narrative circulating over the internet however I decided to block it all out n just live my life n enjoy it without worrying too much.
    Best decision ever 😇

  • @No1superjuicey
    @No1superjuicey 4 месяца назад +1

    Thanks for your raw honesty with sharing, respectfully I'd love an update on how Alexis is doing I recall she had her own channel, hope she is well x

    • @OneBigHappyLife
      @OneBigHappyLife  4 месяца назад +2

      I appreciate your interest and curiosity about me and my family. While I may choose to share personal stories to in my public work, I don't disclose additional private details on request. To learn more about my approach to balancing public work while preserving my personal privacy please visit: onebighappylife.com/personal-privacy-policy
      My goal with my work here is to help you create the life you want. So, if you're open, I'd love to hear where you're feeling stuck in your own journey - those insights will help me decide what kinds of topics to cover in the future that could benefit you and others in our community.

  •  4 месяца назад +5

    Love this video. Really deep and authentic conversation about the realities of life. I don’t come by real videos like this on realities of aging

  • @CC-zi5fb
    @CC-zi5fb 4 месяца назад +1

    I resonate with the second half of your video so much ❤I remarried in 2019, got pregnant and miscarried in 2020. Here we are 40 years old and I don’t share a child with my husband . I wanted this so badly and it’s just not in the cards for us. It’s been a hard pill to swallow. Yet at the same time it’s freeing to know my daughter is almost done with high school and I can truly focus on helping her transitions into adulthood vs another kid & having all the responsibilities while trying to help my daughter ❤ what a blessing to get older .

  • @katlennat1680
    @katlennat1680 4 месяца назад +7

    I hope to have a lovely friendship with my future adult children (no kids yet) one day. Growing with a toxic mother, I decided to refrain from going that road.

    • @singingjustice
      @singingjustice 4 месяца назад +1

      Aww man. I pray you have a beautiful relationship with your children to come!🥰

  • @lmpreston1
    @lmpreston1 4 месяца назад +2

    Happy Birthday! You are correct with that reflection. I did a paper test, folded it in 10 sections and tore off the time I've lived - the time I would still be in great shape and was scared that the time was ticking a lot faster. Great perspective.

  • @smilesallround
    @smilesallround 4 месяца назад +4

    Happy belated birthday and thank you for sharing! ❤🙌🏿

  • @ChantaviaBurton
    @ChantaviaBurton 4 месяца назад +1

    Appreciate the transparency! I'm turning 40 this year and all of this resonates. What hair removal did you pick? I'm nervous for the technology on black hair and melanated skin

  • @Stesh865
    @Stesh865 4 месяца назад

    Waaaat so lovely my lady! So happy for u. We maybe continents apart but i think your butiful story resonates with me. Thank u for this platform, planning to open mine soon God willing.

  • @KoryneNnoli
    @KoryneNnoli 4 месяца назад

    Being 42 I connect with so much of what you talked about in this video. UPS and downs, highs and lows, joys and sorrows. This is such an interesting time that I’m learning to embrace.

  • @beautifullest21
    @beautifullest21 4 месяца назад +2

    I'm 37 and this year my body is letting me know I'm old. Lol I completely relate to you 🫣

  • @Drlighte24
    @Drlighte24 4 месяца назад +2

    Thanks for sharing, one of my fears is the "fear of the un-lived life" i pray i get to live the life i desire 🙏

  • @beautifullest21
    @beautifullest21 4 месяца назад

    I appreciate your view. ❤the work, the personal journey, the kids. Thank you ❤❤❤

  • @sandrinethepharmacist
    @sandrinethepharmacist 4 месяца назад +1

    Thanks you Scarlett to Share your winsdom. Its just the Beginn 😊

  • @elysec8726
    @elysec8726 4 месяца назад

    So real, thank you for talking about these things.

  • @favored4life
    @favored4life 4 месяца назад +2

    Very good...can you link the hair spray?

  • @danyeandanya
    @danyeandanya 4 месяца назад +1

    ❤ this is your best video ❤️

  • @ms.clarkreadstoyou2782
    @ms.clarkreadstoyou2782 4 месяца назад +3

    Happy birthday 🎂 🎉

  • @itsquitab
    @itsquitab 4 месяца назад

    Thank you for this!

  • @andrearichard1583
    @andrearichard1583 4 месяца назад +9

    For me thinking about aging has been linked to not being able to have kids and living my life month by month. I closing to 40 and I want to feel like myself and not so much like what society wants me to become

  • @kristineg542
    @kristineg542 4 месяца назад +3

    Are you going to do Any more vlogs????? I use to love those

  • @pinklimelight
    @pinklimelight 4 месяца назад

    so glad God brought me this video. I feel like we have similar situations with family

  • @ThePatriciaPatrick
    @ThePatriciaPatrick 4 месяца назад +1

    This was so beautifully said❤❤❤

  • @talkfree13
    @talkfree13 4 месяца назад +7

    42 but looking 24 ❤!

    • @SPenninah0425
      @SPenninah0425 4 месяца назад +1

      @@BenevolenceBandaweif she taking care of herself, yes. 42 is still young.

  • @kathrynmarrero5263
    @kathrynmarrero5263 3 месяца назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @Tinaluvsdc
    @Tinaluvsdc 4 месяца назад +2

    ❤❤❤

  • @fortgrove3166
    @fortgrove3166 4 месяца назад +2

    You look 10 to 12 years younger and beautiful skin.

  • @IAmPhasion
    @IAmPhasion 4 месяца назад

    Your hair so pretty and sleek ? Is it a sew in ?

  • @IAmPhasion
    @IAmPhasion 4 месяца назад

    You are gorgeous

  • @jbarkley4938653
    @jbarkley4938653 4 месяца назад +2

    Damn. You look 27 🎉

  • @LorizaRamzan
    @LorizaRamzan 4 месяца назад +2

    42 no kids although desperately wanting to.

  • @lilmamagc
    @lilmamagc 4 месяца назад +2

    42 WHERE? You look 32 😊

  • @SimoneCamille
    @SimoneCamille 4 месяца назад

    Get out of my head 🫂