The struggle is definitely real for all. I love my girlfriends but I don't want not another damn girls night out, I want to get to know and meet a real, funny down to earth guy. But it's so frustrating going through the whole "so what do you like, where are you from, what do you do" going through all of this and the shit doesn't work out. Ugh this shit is exhausting! San Francisco dating sucks!
I love when you get deep like this... You should do these more often. Makes me reflect on what's happening all the way over here. This was just want I needed.
I know you said you were only talking about gay black men because that's what you have experience with...but I feel the SCRUGGLE, too. I'm so tired of dating,and I've barely started. Lmao. Locate me to the FFWD button, 'cause I'm tired.
Z. Montoya Right?! It really doesn't. I attract guys all day, but they usually only want one thing.They barely wanna go on dates anymore. talking about 'let's watch Netflix at my place'. Get the fuck outta here.
This was the best video...I just had a 22years old friend find out he got HIV from a guy he been dating for 6 months. He always used protection but decided not to because his boyfriend was begging one time.
I'm glad you are talking about this, we all have had this concern or are going through it now. Whichever way one chooses has nothing to do with it. Like you mentioned communication is a major problem among us...
I came across your video as a result of watching another video on the same subject. Your honest, passionate, raw, funny depiction of your experiences and thoughts about black gay dating are quite insightful. Thanks for sharing!!
I want to say so much about everything you said. I cant, wont, and don't have the time to type. Know this. I love your perspective. You speak too much real for the gay community is not ready for. Keep going though. Somebody will come along and sweep you up and out. I need the same. Best of luck.
I can say at-least you participate in dating. I dont take part and Im only 21. I got trust and commitment issues plus i got to much goin on with myself. I live vicariously through those close to me whole are dating.
I completely feel you in this video & thank you for sharing. I'm talking back to this guy that I stopped talking to last year because I felt like there was no connection & he was boring. He recently contacted me again & I figured I give him another chance, because I felt bad how I stopped talking to him & I tend to be picky when it comes to people entering my life. We have been talking again for about 2mths & some change now. At first, things have been going ok & we were just catching up, but lately I've been feeling the same way I felt when we first started talking. The communication is HORRIBLE! it's even harder because I'm in a different state right now for the summer. He wants us to be official when I return to start back school, but I feel like I should just move on. He's always playing the guessing game, instead of telling me whats on his mind & being real. I don't have time for that. Ugh...so frustrating (*Sighs*).
Ahsiam Nilwon Lol. I totally agree & I'm tired of being the nice & understanding person in the relationship. He's a nice guy, but I can't deal w./ the some time-e-ness from him. It's not worth it.
Quit meeting ppl off of Twitter/Social Media & being thirsty cuz they're "fine than a muthafcka" or projecting fake swag/image on social media & try meeting ppl while doing hobbies ur interested in in real life so u can take TIME to read VIBES/ENERGY & stop RUSHING your connection w ppl. I've watched ur vids on subject & u seem to chase & instantly be thirsty for lots of immediate attn from those who aren't seeking the same, then overly pressed when u don't get it. No shade, IJS.
Agreed and I think that's where the problem is. A lot of people want someone that is offering something that even they can't offer. If he don't have a car and you don't have a house that's is a fair relationship to give a try as both can work towards obtaining more together. In contrast, if you have lets just say a decent job 15 an hour and no house but want a partner with it all together house, salary, no kids etc. then you have unrealistic dating views and once you do get to know that person they he will leave you or cut you off because they are looking for someone equally yoked. Meaning the total package just like they are. I'm not saying lower standards but if you have a five year goal and don't have it all together than give someone else a shot that has a five year plan to get it together as well. I'm not saying give someone that is less ambitious shot just saying you can't look for the Denzel's and Lebron james where they are now breaded up ..how about looking for the potential before the fame Denzel's and lebrons with goals and ambitions because even they started from somewhere. Just don't set you sights so high you miss several opportunites because you have a deal breaker
a couple thing that i have learned is about relationships. 1) soulmates died with the 90s. 2) cheating is going to happen no matter what type of relationship. 3) plan on being alone at an old age now.
Baby no theirs hope for some of us, I think the problem is we're young under 35 and some ppl don't settle down until over 35! It'll come later on hun, I know back then it was easier. My grandma met my grandpa at 17 and they stayed together 57 years until my papa died. Yes women he cheated a few times and they separated but they had 9 kids together so they stuck together. I mean don't let anyone run over you but they're soulmates out there. Sadly with this generation ppl wont be getting married until they get oldrr or social media ends. Social medis has made it easier for ppl to cheat...
I heard the black men in the UK are amazing... Maybe you should try and date abroad... Who knows? changing your setting could be good for you career as well as your love like.
Hey King. I enjoyed your chat. There is always something more. Looks. Personality. Charm. Credentials. Material gains. Personal losses. Beauty. Loyalty. Sensitivity. Past regrets. Debts. Suicide attempts. Envy. Greed. Vanity. Insanity. Good deeds. Empathy. Indifference. Legs. Arms. Dicks. There is always something more. Things are never what they seem.
This is sooooooo funny because you sound like a black woman. These are the same black woman struggles with black men lmbo!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I went Indian. Got me some in Mariah from "MARRIED TO MEDICINE" Blackadeshi love.
totally!!! this is the issue with his big ass, he is giving single old black grandma vibe and no man wants him a man with aunty energy. Atractive guy means nothing if your energy sucks. Gay men will suck dick period as long as it's big, even if it is attached to a tree. they care about big dicks that is all.
I totally understand I love your channel I am new to your channel but that situation is messed up but you not in the wrong at all and that’s hella true what you said
This is so real Justin..I've been saying the same thing about black men...I'm in a relationship now and it's confusing and my boyfriend says he loves me but he's always on jackd and grindr like he's addicted and I do everything to please him but it's like it isn't enough
This nigga i was feelin went all damn week without texting me but when he needed somebody to vent to, he text me. And i was a fool to let him back in my life...cause he continously calls/texts me when he needs a shoulder to cry on. And i've heard i should be a therapist, cause i "know" everything. I wonder is that why people only use me when they need advice...im done.
So I'm only in the first half of the video and why was I thinking the same thing but about men in General. I was also just thinking maybe it's me like I can never seal the deal. Even if keep goods to myself do the whole friendship phase some how it never works out... Like should I really change my ways... Ugh !But I'm about to finishing watching the video just had to say that
AMEN IN REGARDS TO YOUR COMMENT ON SUBSTANCE AND LONGEVITY OF RELATIONSHIPS. OUR WORLD IS BECOMING INCREASINGLY FOUNDED UPON NOTHING MORE THAN SMOKE & MIRRORS...IT IS REALITY BASED THINKING LIKE YOUR OWN THAT BRINGS DEPTH & HUMANITY TO OUR SUPERFICIALITY.
Finding the right partner is a journey we take; People come and go like Chapters in life; Do we really say to ourseves how long we want this for? Its work😘
Normally I really like your videos but this one needed some type of disclaimer. Way way way too much information. I did not need to know all of this. I know I’m years late but went back to view some of your old videos.
U so adorable. Cool video. Man. Dating or bein single can be an issue. There are so many social, psychological and personal boundaries to figure out amongst folk who choose this path. The only blueprint of companionship is a heterosexual one. And as that relays to black AMERICAN culture, the only blueprint our parents have are of the relationships of their oppressors. And those relationships were transactions, based patriarchal buckshot designed to keep a man - white man in charge. People want to say relationships are rooted in love, but that's a romantic notion. Relationships are decisions and work. And we can only make decisions and work at our skill set. Some of us. A lot of us have no skill set. We don't have to. The world is so different from find a companion to comfort you and keep you from lonely. The world is now a box of chocolates and a bunch of taste testers. This is what I equate my experience to. Being a part of a taste test I didn't no shit about. I know what's inside my chocolate and these folk are conditioned to taste and move on, but in the meanwhile a piece of me gone. It's hard to admit that but it's the truth. So the more muddafukkas nibble, the more unattractive I feel. Who want anything that's been eaten on. I mean I know I am a wonderfully decadent piece of chocolate, I still understand that someone sees things they can only see when they are looking at me. I have learned not to owned that. I have learned to mend the bites and present myself whole. I am learning to get out of the assortment and become an individually wrapped treat. That way when I am taken off the shelf, the dude know exactly what he got and want it. Everything happens just. It is black. It is gay it is a bunch of things. We have to be about the business of calling th things we want in our life. Like. I think you are fly. I would date you. Just saying. Just calling. ;-)
Im not being thorsty or anything...but id def date you justin,me and u are in the same boat I want someone to just keep it real with me and i would do the same.youre a handsome guy and you deserve better.
I think youtube might be the cause of your issues. Not everyone wants the intimate details of their relationship discussed in a public forum. That and always wanting the new thing. That is antithetical to a long term relationship.
Did he say "Spit, Vaseline, & Tears." hahahahahaha I'm SO DONE!!!
Yep!!!!
Hahahaha
The struggle is definitely real for all. I love my girlfriends but I don't want not another damn girls night out, I want to get to know and meet a real, funny down to earth guy. But it's so frustrating going through the whole "so what do you like, where are you from, what do you do" going through all of this and the shit doesn't work out. Ugh this shit is exhausting! San Francisco dating sucks!
I'm sorry justin I laughed at most this video because it was funny when you said "stretch my booty out no ma'am " 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I hollered
I love when you get deep like this... You should do these more often. Makes me reflect on what's happening all the way over here. This was just want I needed.
I will. I enjoying showing this side.
Hey Romane Check your youtube channel
@@KingofReads Hey
I’m such a fan I go back and watch old videos
You are very attractive man Justin and you're right about communication issue especially in the black community.
I know you said you were only talking about gay black men because that's what you have experience with...but I feel the SCRUGGLE, too. I'm so tired of dating,and I've barely started. Lmao. Locate me to the FFWD button, 'cause I'm tired.
This dating struggle is so real put in these skreets! lol. Dating is so discouraging, I've most given up.
pimpindymepiece same, its like why continue to put myself in discourage situations that are only going to end in disappointment.
Girl me too!! It doesn't matter how pretty you are or what you have dudes are shady man!! #overit
Z. Montoya Right?! It really doesn't. I attract guys all day, but they usually only want one thing.They barely wanna go on dates anymore. talking about 'let's watch Netflix at my place'. Get the fuck outta here.
pimpindymepiece Exactly!! Lol. I feel like I'm not doing something right....but I don't know what that is. Why is it so hard? *bangs head on table*
This was the best video...I just had a 22years old friend find out he got HIV from a guy he been dating for 6 months. He always used protection but decided not to because his boyfriend was begging one time.
I'm glad you are talking about this, we all have had this concern or are going through it now. Whichever way one chooses has nothing to do with it. Like you mentioned communication is a major problem among us...
I'm a straight female and I totally agree with you in this video! I feel like your the male version of me!
I usually don't see this side of you...you're the best!
I came across your video as a result of watching another video on the same subject. Your honest, passionate, raw, funny depiction of your experiences and thoughts about black gay dating are quite insightful. Thanks for sharing!!
Justin your too good of a person to let these people ruin your good nature. Everybody going through hell dating.
I want to say so much about everything you said. I cant, wont, and don't have the time to type. Know this. I love your perspective. You speak too much real for the gay community is not ready for. Keep going though. Somebody will come along and sweep you up and out. I need the same. Best of luck.
Thanks Juelz!
Bottom ain't gotta tell me but once🙅🙅🙅🙅🙅😭😭😭😭
Kia 34 lol in screaming
I can say at-least you participate in dating. I dont take part and Im only 21. I got trust and commitment issues plus i got to much goin on with myself. I live vicariously through those close to me whole are dating.
Hi. Any update on this, now that it’s five years later?
I feel ur pain Justin! Never settle though.
you are so right, some people are still trying to find out who they are and what they want in a relationship.
I completely feel you in this video & thank you for sharing. I'm talking back to this guy that I stopped talking to last year because I felt like there was no connection & he was boring. He recently contacted me again & I figured I give him another chance, because I felt bad how I stopped talking to him & I tend to be picky when it comes to people entering my life. We have been talking again for about 2mths & some change now. At first, things have been going ok & we were just catching up, but lately I've been feeling the same way I felt when we first started talking. The communication is HORRIBLE! it's even harder because I'm in a different state right now for the summer. He wants us to be official when I return to start back school, but I feel like I should just move on. He's always playing the guessing game, instead of telling me whats on his mind & being real. I don't have time for that. Ugh...so frustrating (*Sighs*).
MzStarpower1 RUUUUNNN!!! Life is too short to waste it with boring, cagey people!
Ahsiam Nilwon Lol. I totally agree & I'm tired of being the nice & understanding person in the relationship. He's a nice guy, but I can't deal w./ the some time-e-ness from him. It's not worth it.
From a straight 30-something,
Thanx 4 posting!
Hey Justin j1232 I laughed so hard from this video thanks keep em coming.
Quit meeting ppl off of Twitter/Social Media & being thirsty cuz they're "fine than a muthafcka" or projecting fake swag/image on social media & try meeting ppl while doing hobbies ur interested in in real life so u can take TIME to read VIBES/ENERGY & stop RUSHING your connection w ppl. I've watched ur vids on subject & u seem to chase & instantly be thirsty for lots of immediate attn from those who aren't seeking the same, then overly pressed when u don't get it. No shade, IJS.
I don't do none of that though 😕
Ok since you were there 😂
Trying my best🙊🙊🙊🙊
Justinj1232 I don't think social media and youtube videos go with heathy longterm relationships. JS.
Ms. MeMe 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀
love you justin...but everyone doesnt want a iphone...sometimes we just need to make a call!
Agreed and I think that's where the problem is. A lot of people want someone that is offering something that even they can't offer. If he don't have a car and you don't have a house that's is a fair relationship to give a try as both can work towards obtaining more together. In contrast, if you have lets just say a decent job 15 an hour and no house but want a partner with it all together house, salary, no kids etc. then you have unrealistic dating views and once you do get to know that person they he will leave you or cut you off because they are looking for someone equally yoked. Meaning the total package just like they are. I'm not saying lower standards but if you have a five year goal and don't have it all together than give someone else a shot that has a five year plan to get it together as well. I'm not saying give someone that is less ambitious shot just saying you can't look for the Denzel's and Lebron james where they are now breaded up ..how about looking for the potential before the fame Denzel's and lebrons with goals and ambitions because even they started from somewhere. Just don't set you sights so high you miss several opportunites because you have a deal breaker
Not tears 😭 😂😂 I’m weak
a couple thing that i have learned is about relationships. 1) soulmates died with the 90s. 2) cheating is going to happen no matter what type of relationship. 3) plan on being alone at an old age now.
Unfortunately, I agree😢😢
Baby no theirs hope for some of us, I think the problem is we're young under 35 and some ppl don't settle down until over 35! It'll come later on hun, I know back then it was easier. My grandma met my grandpa at 17 and they stayed together 57 years until my papa died. Yes women he cheated a few times and they separated but they had 9 kids together so they stuck together. I mean don't let anyone run over you but they're soulmates out there. Sadly with this generation ppl wont be getting married until they get oldrr or social media ends. Social medis has made it easier for ppl to cheat...
Novon Baita facts
I heard the black men in the UK are amazing... Maybe you should try and date abroad... Who knows? changing your setting could be good for you career as well as your love like.
Men from other countries are very different than American men, and are also more accepting of all cultures when it comes to dating.
sorry you had to go through that. I can relate as a straight woman.
Thanks for sharing, Justin. I would love to know your thoughts and experience with down low men.
lml spit, tears and Vaseline 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😎🤣🤣🤣
Hey King. I enjoyed your chat. There is always something more. Looks. Personality. Charm. Credentials. Material gains. Personal losses. Beauty. Loyalty. Sensitivity. Past regrets. Debts. Suicide attempts. Envy. Greed. Vanity. Insanity. Good deeds. Empathy. Indifference. Legs. Arms. Dicks. There is always something more. Things are never what they seem.
Nigga gotta be from the M.....east high c/o 06 here....you funny af dude..them damn struggle plates brought me here....
I LOVE WHEN YOURE IN YOUR FEELINGS JUSTIN 😍❤️😍
This is sooooooo funny because you sound like a black woman. These are the same black woman struggles with black men lmbo!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I went Indian. Got me some in Mariah from "MARRIED TO MEDICINE" Blackadeshi love.
totally!!! this is the issue with his big ass, he is giving single old black grandma vibe and no man wants him a man with aunty energy. Atractive guy means nothing if your energy sucks. Gay men will suck dick period as long as it's big, even if it is attached to a tree. they care about big dicks that is all.
Lovin the analogy Justin J 😉
I totally understand I love your channel I am new to your channel but that situation is messed up but you not in the wrong at all and that’s hella true what you said
This is so real Justin..I've been saying the same thing about black men...I'm in a relationship now and it's confusing and my boyfriend says he loves me but he's always on jackd and grindr like he's addicted and I do everything to please him but it's like it isn't enough
I date 80% white men... its the same way pretty much, lol. stay true & don't settle for less than you deserve!
That's why I can't mess with folks, don't know who got what or they'll turn around and put your business all on Social Media
This nigga i was feelin went all damn week without texting me but when he needed somebody to vent to, he text me. And i was a fool to let him back in my life...cause he continously calls/texts me when he needs a shoulder to cry on. And i've heard i should be a therapist, cause i "know" everything. I wonder is that why people only use me when they need advice...im done.
Same goes for straight men
if you met your last 3 guys the same way maybe a change can start there?
Lmfao tears!!haha!
Yay love these videos 😀
You just got real didn't you
So I'm only in the first half of the video and why was I thinking the same thing but about men in General. I was also just thinking maybe it's me like I can never seal the deal. Even if keep goods to myself do the whole friendship phase some how it never works out... Like should I really change my ways... Ugh !But I'm about to finishing watching the video just had to say that
I fucking live i totally agree with you...km just moved to atl....n everything your saying is tru
I totally agree
date interracial am black and my boyfriends arabic we been together for 1 1/2 years he treats me great
I APPRECIATE you!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
So true Justin Do anybody date anymore now days
This video is soooooo true and real
🏳️🌈💋💙❤️💛💜🧡💚👄🌈 Great wisdom. Love,respect, honesty & loyalty only. Love not lust. From Chicago south side Hyde park
AMEN IN REGARDS TO YOUR COMMENT ON SUBSTANCE AND LONGEVITY OF RELATIONSHIPS. OUR WORLD IS BECOMING INCREASINGLY FOUNDED UPON NOTHING MORE THAN SMOKE & MIRRORS...IT IS REALITY BASED THINKING LIKE YOUR OWN THAT BRINGS DEPTH & HUMANITY TO OUR SUPERFICIALITY.
Finding the right partner is a journey we take; People come and go like Chapters in life; Do we really say to ourseves how long we want this for? Its work😘
Maybe your being too picky it's hard to find perfection.
What's wrong with having high standards?
A lot was just put in perspective for me.
justinj 💕💓how real u r
Lmfaoooooo I love you
We all experience this we attract a certain type the kind that's not good for us or good to us.
deep thoughts
That's in relationships period not just gay relationships 😂😂😂😂😂
Lol, everything you said is so true.
I LIVE for you!!!
You need to get you a white man and stop messing with Tyrone and dayquan rashaun and dem. Leave them alone they ain't no f
good.
Me too. These men makes me sick.
Normally I really like your videos but this one needed some type of disclaimer. Way way way too much information. I did not need to know all of this. I know I’m years late but went back to view some of your old videos.
move to another city and another state and go to social gatherings and clubs or events meet people don't feed into apps go out and make shit happen
I think he took your advice
Amen preach
Have a million gay men march...tell them about themselves...
Talons X lmfaooo wtf?!
nene quiting RHOATL? tea?
U so adorable. Cool video. Man. Dating or bein single can be an issue. There are so many social, psychological and personal boundaries to figure out amongst folk who choose this path. The only blueprint of companionship is a heterosexual one. And as that relays to black AMERICAN culture, the only blueprint our parents have are of the relationships of their oppressors. And those relationships were transactions, based patriarchal buckshot designed to keep a man - white man in charge. People want to say relationships are rooted in love, but that's a romantic notion. Relationships are decisions and work. And we can only make decisions and work at our skill set. Some of us. A lot of us have no skill set. We don't have to. The world is so different from find a companion to comfort you and keep you from lonely. The world is now a box of chocolates and a bunch of taste testers. This is what I equate my experience to. Being a part of a taste test I didn't no shit about. I know what's inside my chocolate and these folk are conditioned to taste and move on, but in the meanwhile a piece of me gone. It's hard to admit that but it's the truth. So the more muddafukkas nibble, the more unattractive I feel. Who want anything that's been eaten on. I mean I know I am a wonderfully decadent piece of chocolate, I still understand that someone sees things they can only see when they are looking at me. I have learned not to owned that. I have learned to mend the bites and present myself whole. I am learning to get out of the assortment and become an individually wrapped treat. That way when I am taken off the shelf, the dude know exactly what he got and want it. Everything happens just. It is black. It is gay it is a bunch of things. We have to be about the business of calling th things we want in our life. Like. I think you are fly. I would date you. Just saying. Just calling. ;-)
Im not being thorsty or anything...but id def date you justin,me and u are in the same boat I want someone to just keep it real with me and i would do the same.youre a handsome guy and you deserve better.
Justin do you like white men??
I like MENZ! Don't matter what color lol
Hello There is there any way to talk to you real talk
I think youtube might be the cause of your issues. Not everyone wants the intimate details of their relationship discussed in a public forum. That and always wanting the new thing. That is antithetical to a long term relationship.
U too cute to
You are extremely cute
😭🤣
It's IPhone6S
just you need to get a man on you level.
Hey
:-)
OH my this is TMI for my taste, time to move on...
Why don't u date a white guy?
Prince P He said he's ONLY talking about gay black men. So maybe he could try something new... that's what I mean
justinj 💕💓how real u r
justinj 💕💓how real u r
justinj 💕💓how real u r