I spent a day with NON-BINARY PEOPLE
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"We will never live in a world that DOESN'T try to hurt people like me, UNLESS I live this way." Woooooow
that gave me the chills
That perfect response is exactly what caught my attention too. Beautifully said. I do believe the courage these people demonstrate every day will bring peace to future generations.
I had goosebumps the minute I heard them say that. It is so profound and so true.
How I live my life as a nonbinary person too! Especially as an almost nurse
I doubt that people can act anyway and still get hurt
my favorite thing about the way anthony interviews people is that he is able to crack jokes that aren't offensive and he isn't like treading in eggshells when cracking jokes because you could tell he's just genuinely respectful
treading in eggshells when cracking jokes XD
Mantasha Malik
Very well spot xD
@@kunaihanaki lol ty
He also asks intelligent questions so that he, and through him his audience, can learn and understand.
Very off topic, but I love your pfp (profile picture) :))
Even though I identify as cis, I HATE it when people say, "That's a girl thing" or "That's a boy thing" WHY CAN'T IT JUST BE A PERSON THING
It is just a person thing. You don't have to accept sexist stereotyping. You can challenge it, as women, gays and lesbians have been doing for centuries now. The so-called 'nonbinaries' challenge nothing. They endorse the very system they claim to be against.
@@AM-ne4uo Not true, nonbinary people don’t identify as nonbinary because they don’t fit in with stereotypes, it’s because they don’t feel like either gender
@@Batshitcrazyfreak Yes, and 'gender' is sex stereotypes and roles. What else are they not fitting into?
because different genders are good at different things
guys are better at doing the heavy lifting because in ages pass we were the protectors of the family and know how to fight
girls are better at keeping things neat and tidy because in ages pass they were the housekeepers who needed to keep the place clean and cook for the family
guys are better at hunting, wood cutting, building places
girls are better at cooking, cleaning, and giving a damn.
what i find odd though... since we all evolved from cavemen, didn't the cave women of the past also hunt and what not? wonder what the explanation for that is
i'm a guy and i want to learn how to cook/be good at it (mostly because my food tastes are unique and i'd rather cook for my family than my future wife only cooking for herself + kids if i have any) i'm also ocd as hell and need to keep things organized/everything has to have a home otherwise its a mess
tl;dr stereotypes exist, just deal with it and move on
Yeah I agree
When I had first come out to my best friend I was so scared, but then my best friend just said "Oh yea, I remember in 6th grade you saying how you didn't know if you were a boy or a girl, so I've been using they/them pronouns for you for the last 3 years." and I started crying so hard. They really are the best friend I could ever have
Oml that's so sweet 😭
Aww, that's so cool! ;v; Thanks for sharing, that's awesome! They definitely sound like a great friend! ^^
i love that so much oh my god
Aww…
aww
"Half-hearted ball kicking
That's a person thing"
I'm sorry this cracked me up
lol I prefer half-hearted ball kicking over whole-hearted ball kicking.
tho I think any amab person will agree that no ball kicking is best.
It's a tiny thing, but as a cis man, I found myself in a store trying out a scarf, only to realise it was labeled in capital letters "FOR LADIES". Instantly I felt ashamed and put it back in. I then looked at the men's options but they were few and all very bland. It was another click for me, earlier that week I had seen that chain I really wanted only to be told by a relative it was for girls. I know it's a tiny thing, but for the many times I gave up on myself, from the music I listen to the way I walk, I wanted to make a first step towards breaking free of gender comformity. So I went back and bought that scarf and I now wear it proudly. It's something small and it doesn't make for a great inspirational story haha, but if for something this simple I already struggled so much against peer pressure, I can only imagine what non-binary people had and have to go through. To Them, I give my sincere respect and admiration, you are a symbol of change for the better.
yes king!
This makes me feel better about shopping in the men's section for shoes and bags despite being cis-female. Thank you.
This is pretty cool! Small steps are great! Thank you for that end part!
such a cool story!!
this makes me so happy, please keep being you
Oh my god I hate pointlessly gendered things. I was like 7 years old (give or take a year) and a girl made fun of me because my juice box had a character from Cars on it. A JUICE BOX. WITH A DISNEY CHARACTER.
Kids are weird
I remember I was like “red is my favorite color!” And someone told me “that’s a boys color” or my male friends telling me their “secret” and their secret was just that they liked the color purple or pink, and id always be confused cause yknow- they’re just. Colors.
@Incased_pol I think they're a girl
@@nininyoko13 i think its more their parents
In primary school (like age 11) i had people comment on my shoes because I chose the blue ones and not the pink ones. (They had 2 different kinds. Pink or blue.)
These shoes were mostly white but had a strip of either blue or pink. I'm like umm.. I like blue. I don't get this.
The "that's a person thing" thing was hilarious cause that's so true. Everything should be fair game, interests, clothing, toys, etc. should all be for whoever enjoys them. People should be allowed to be people
Yes, that's why defining people in terms of 'gender' is such a huge backward step.
Stop supporting a channel that gives Jeffery Marsh a platform. A guy who tells his fans to stalk and threaten people who call out his concerning behaviour such as telling kids to abandon their parents and get his pateron so he can talk to them "intimately and privately".
I’m HOH and know several Deaf people who would like watch your videos, but unable to without captions. Please consider adding closed captions to make your content accessible for Deaf community.
Bump
Yas
Absolutely !
and captions help non hoh people consentrate
1000% agree!! Honestly all videos should have captions
"All that gender was for me was a list of things that were forbidden" - my mind blown
fun fact: Indonesians doesn't use she or he, we just use they when talking about other person which is "dia"
Awesome
It also adds to my language ! (Filipino) we don’t use gendered pronouns since there’s a term or word for it, “siya/niya” which means “you” and “sila/nila” which are sort of the translations for “they/them” pronouns ! ^^
I think all austronesian languages have no grammatical gender
Same in Finland, we don't have she or he, we use "hän" which is just genderless version of he/she.
turkish people also don't have gendered pronouns, we just use "o"
"How many "y"s were in the word gay?"
"About 16"
"Yup. Thats the appropirate amount for a purple lunch box"
Gayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
haha theme gay outuber
i'm sorry
can we just appreciate how polite Anthony is and how much he respects and supports people who come on the show?
@Serena Nintendo okay this one confuses me??? what do u even mean
He respect everyone on his channel
@Serena Nintendo really??🤦🏻♀️
Why r u gae?
I mean if it fits his views of course he will respect it
“The LEAST interesting part of is the pronoun…It’s about giving yourself this profound freedom and joy and bliss in your own body”
@Kelly Ali That's what I wanna know? I still don't get anything of this.
angel is so androgynous, i'm jealous.They are stunning
actually she's masc.
@@trollrat2828 wdym i got offended? i simply corrected the person.
@@simba1376 they use she/they pronouns
Yessss
@@llynxfyremusic I think they were referring to her looks, not her identity
As a pansexual cis guy whose three best friends are non-binary, genderfluid, and transgender respectively, and who as of late has been dabbling in some light gender nonconformity, I've grown to legitimately get frustrated or even upset when my customers (I work at a department store) ask me which gender an item is for. Like, b*tch, *it doesn't matter!* Recently I was even asked whether a specific backpack was "for boys" or "for girls", and I kinda internally snapped and just said "It's for backs" and left it at that. I know that most of those people mean no harm, but it just gets *so* draining to perpetually be confronted with that kind of ignorance.
Why do you use the terms 'gender nonconformity' and 'nonbinary' if you don't think 'gender' should define us or matter? Doesn't make logical sense. What even is 'light gender nonconformity'?
@@Mel-wn9gb **sigh** Did you even watch the goddamn video you're commenting under? I've got better things to do than educate you on stuff that is literally right in front of your eyes.
@@TheNotoriousDUDE I watched it and used my critical thinking skills while I did. You should try it. You don't want to educate me. You want to indoctrinate me. It's not going to happen. Lol.
While I agree with you, I must also say that as a trans guy who's getting misgendered all the f*cking time and has tons of dysphorias, gendered items kinda save my life. It's just so important to me to be seen as a guy, by others and also by myself, and wearing "girl" things would make things SO much worse. I'm really looking forward to starting hormones and stuff so I can get my freedom of expression back, but until then, I always make sure I'm only shopping in the men's department
@@fussballer1001 Yes of course, that definitely makes sense! What pisses me off is when people use items' gender designations as a means of restricting their kids' freedom of expression. I will say that these are two separate issues though ^^
"you don't need to look like this to be non-binary" is exactly what i needed to hear. i just discovered that i may be non-binary recently, but i don't change the way i look, so i did doubted that i maybe faking myself. i'm still on my journey to discover my true self.
Imposter syndrome is real, my friend. I am afab nonbinary and still present fairly feminine. At first I felt like I needed to overcompensate for my unconventional feelings but it just wasn't me. You can present however you want and feel totally different. As long as you're comfortable
Good luck! I'm still trying to find out who I am and Anthony has actually helped me with a lot of stuff. I wish you luck with finding out who you are and whether you are a male, female, it, they/them, or you just dont have a gender, we love you and want you to feel safe here.
@@kayladattilo8667 tHe ImpOstEr fRoM aMOngUS??!?!?!!//1
Wow same here, I really love that they put emphasis on that. I think people kinda see non-binary as a third gender or inbetween-gender, when actually it's more like any or every gender outside of the binary.
Ya I'm also feeling this, I really like to wear pretty things which would be considered conventional for my birth assignment, but when I try out labels, be they "woman", "man" or "nonbinary" every single one of those makes me uncomfy ;__; I suppose I might be fine with "agender"..? I just prefer not to think about it and leave it blank :'D But since I dress semi-conventional, there's always the inner nagging of "are you sure you're not just faking", which seriously gets to me sometimes... It's good to hear people confirm you don't have to look a certain way :)
"Non-binary people don't have to use they/them pronouns." THANK YOU👏👏
Say it louder I don't think people in the back heard
I do not have pronouns
Please do not refer to me
then what pronouns do you use if not they/them? any??
@@ir489 some nonbinary people do use all/any pronouns, but they can also just use singularly he/him or she/her! they can also use a combination of pronouns like he/they, or neopronouns!
for example, im nonbinary and i use multiple pronouns! (they/he/ey/glass)
also, neopronouns if you didnt know, are pronouns that arent the typical he/she/they. personally neopronouns just feel more like me when the typical pronouns arent *just* right.
@Kate Seal nonbinary and trans people use neopronouns alot too, they are valid and are only wrong when mocking us. not everyone is comfy with the other pronouns and it fits right for them and makes them who they are. these are my pronouns. i am nonbinary. im not mocking anyone, this is my identity.
@Kate Seal i use nounself pronouns (glass), and they are valid if used genuinely. using them to mock people is wrong but people use these pronouns because they fit them and it defines their gender. these pronouns are valid when used genuinely and not in a mocking way.
it comes down to the users intentions. if they use the pronouns to mock people that is bad, but if it helps them with their presentation ect it is perfectly fine.
im not going to fight you on this. they are valid pronouns when used *genuinely* by someone. let people use the pronouns that fit them and their gender. the invalid people you are talking about are the people who mock neopronoun users, not the people who
actually identify with the nounself neopronouns.
I cannot imagine withholding affection from a child as punishment, that's heartbreaking. They obviously turned out perfect, so their parents are very lucky that they didn't break them.
I think they did a lot of healing at the Buddhist monastery
ikr, wtf… it's so insane! But it makes a lot of sense to think of it from the perspective of the parents being in fear. Fear often makes ppl make very dumb decisions🫂💚
He turned out to be weird so no
While I liked these interviews for the most part, I want to stress something: you DON'T need to know as a child. You can go until 40 or 50 while being relatively comfortable with the label you were assigned at birth, then try on the nonbinary label and realize it fits so much better. If you're questioning now, don't feel like you must be cis because you weren't stealing all the dresses in kindergarten. These people are just three examples.
Also, I want to reiterate that you don't need to use they/them to be nonbinary. The interview didn't really show that; two of the interviewees used they/them exclusively, and the third used she/they. You don't have to use they/them at all. You can use he/she, you can use neopronouns, or you can even just use the pronouns you were assigned at birth. So don't stop questioning your gender just because you don't like they/them. Or because you're fine with your name. All are welcome in this community!
And also, you don't need "dysphoria" (at least not in the traditional sense) to be nonbinary. Dysphoria is typically thought of as crying yourself to sleep every night because you don't have breasts, but it doesn't have to be like that. You don't need to hate your body either. You can just feel weird every time you're called a man/woman. You can feel like there's an emptiness in you, that suddenly goes away when you try on the nonbinary label. You can feel perfectly fine, but then trying the label makes you feel like an itch on your back that you didn't notice is finally being scratched. If you think the nonbinary label fits you, that's all there is to it.
And finally, there are many ways of being nonbinary. You can feel in between man and woman. You can feel like some of both. You can feel like your gender fluctuates or alternates. You can feel like your gender's completely off the man-woman spectrum. Or you can feel like your "gender" slot is empty. All of y'all are valid
@@seronimo__7735 Why do we need to be 'slotted' into a 'gender'. That's just sex stereotyping.
@@AM-ne4uo You don't have to be slotted into any gender if you don't want to be. That's perfectly valid as well.
I know a non-binary parent that has their kids call them “MaPa” and I lowkey LOVE THAT SO MUCH
Haha nice. In my family we call my dad “Pop” and as a nonbinary person, I like the idea of going by Mop
There was a cartoon of two kids searching for their parent they called "Mapa"
@@dr.bandito60 that sounds so nice omg
@@dr.bandito60 to be a mop one day…
I’ve thought about that but I came to the conclusion of Pama instead of mapa because-
*Pamasian cheese*
the fact that anthony uploaded this during non-binary awareness week
Ikr!!!
Its vv pogg
Seriously one of my favorite RUclipsrs. I love him. 🥰🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Wait it's non binary awareness week? Damn, I'm a bad non binary 😂😂😂
OMG NO WAY THATS POG! 😝
A commonality I see between your videos focused on the LGBT community is that all of these folks had an understanding of their identities before they even knew there was a word for it. I went through something similar when I was wondering why I had a crush on a male classmate when I was little and thought it was a totally original concept, since I was fairly sheltered. Even these decades later, it's great hearing these stories and knowing I wasn't alone there.
The thing that people need to realise is that feminine traits and masculine traits are not exclusive. ALL humans have access to these feelings and can express themselves however they wish!! ♡♡
Sure but those traits vary through sexes and masculine traits are usually expressed by men and feminine traits are usually expressed by women. it's not to say that there are no feminine men or masculine women but those are few and far between. Even those atypical behaviors for men and women is influenced by prenatal testosterone exposure in the womb. So this idea that gender roles are EXCLUSIVELY socially constructed is not at all true.
@@sandrorukhadze8707 That's bullshit. It's not biological at all, just pure gender roles. Femininity and masculinity are social constructs. Having a female or male body is not. If we grew up without gender roles, people of any gender would be free to do anything they wanted to.
@@sandrorukhadze8707 gender roles ARE exclusively socially constructed. You are conflating gender and sex. male does not equal masculinity (a term invented in the 1890s), male equals penis--and even that is a bit fluid accd to scholar Judith Butler.
@@monbub Wow, talking about logic. What you just did is that you assumed all of the opposite things without providing any substantial counter-arguments to back up your claims and started throwing blanket statements at me. I have a strong suspicion that you deliberately side-stepped addressing the points that I've made. Can you bring proper scientific evidence which shows sex and gender are completely unrelated ? most likely you won't be able to because all of these left-leaning theories have been based in the idea of social constructivism which has quaint scientific basis. All the political games aside, the idea that biology has nothing to do with our behavior is simply not true . It would be enough to look at the animal kingdom and observe continuity between us and them and track how they behave.
On the other hand, I kind of understand where you are coming from, you are worried that these biological facts will re-incite sexism between men and women, but that reason isn't sufficient enough to disregard pure scientific facts and truths.
@@sandrorukhadze8707 you're the one pulling facts out of your ass. biology does impact how men and women act (bc of evolution), but its not to the extent where men are always/usually masculine and women are always/usually feminine. we only think we're supposed to act that way, but we don't need to. many people are living proof that it is a social construct. and they dont have any genetic mutations or anything like that, they are just average people. btw the idea of certain traits being masculine or feminine is definitely a social construct. for example, people like to think that men aren't emotional, but they have emotions too. they can also cry, but whenever they do, they feel ashamed of themselves bc its seen as a feminine thing according to society.
"when they really want to get under my skin would be like 'gender neutral parental unit number 1, i'm f-ing hungry when's dinner?' and i'm like 'SHUT UP CASSANDRA' "
that one sent me lmaoo
Yeah, I laughed so hard. Such a creative way to think about it XD
I honestly do love it when my children call me "Parental unit number 1" it gives me some much gender euphoria. I'm still ok with they calling me mom though.
18:48
Yeah same lmao
jg;ah
Can you please do *"I spent a day with intersex people"* next?? I feel like not enough people know of their existence and what it means to be intersex.
^^ *VOUCH*
Big agree
VOUCH!
vouch!
YEAH!!!
My sibling was born intersex, so finding out who they were was difficult for them when growing up. My parents are very loving and we’re like “yo child, do what you wanna do, as long as your not committing arson or something you can be whoever you wanna be” and so they just go by all pronouns and there gender? Well, if you look it up intersex is considered a gender so I guess it’s all good. We are all human and we all go through different things trying to figure out who we are and what feels comfortable for us as we grow up. Kids now a days are being exposed to social media and more toxic people on the media hating on people just trying to be who they are and it’s damaging for the child. For the next generation if we ever decide to have kids, raise them well by letting them believe what they want to, let them play with whatever toys they want, don’t force your opinions and emotions onto them to try and “fix” or “change” them because you know what that makes you? A bad parent. Like my dad always said “As long as your not trying to become a mafia member, be whatever you wanna be, do what you wanna do I’ll support you….. what do you want from McDonalds?”
And yes, he said exactly that. I have a quote book filled with random quotes from my family or friends or random people and this was one of them.
This is very sweet :) I’ve always been curious about intersex experiences but I don’t know anyone who is intersex (or at least openly) and even if I did I’m sure it would be rude to ask. It must be cool to have a sibling who can share experiences with you and expose you things that are (unfortunately) not considered to be the norm. Much love to your sibling, you, and the rest of your family :)
😍
Agree
i love that:(
I’m kidnapping your parents. Parentnapping. ~Seeking the love and affection I never had~
I don’t like stupid gender rules like how guys can’t wear makeup or how girls shouldn’t play certain sports or with other more masculine things but I still like going by he/him. Just feels most comfortable :]
Edit: looks like a lot of you agree. Fun fact I’m not allowed to get my ears pierced because “it’s gay”
F pointless rules. You do you. If he/him is your jam, then he/him away! :D
@Incased_pol there's actually a lot of people *trying* to stop others from being themselves, and that's exactly why Pride is a thing. The fight for our rights, our freedom to live authetically.
Have you not heard OF A FUCKING TOM GIRL
lol i can’t paint my hair blue because my dad thinks it’s “gay” as well and that shit HURTS
Lol, people get pissed when girls do things more commonly "masculine" and boys do thing more commonly "feminine". It's weird. I feel like tom girls are more accepted by people than femboys tbh.
I imagine some mafia boss setting the dogs on me saying "get 'em," but I'm so touched the mafia boss used my preferred pronouns I forget about the dogs
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Oh my god
To any parent using "Im afarid of what the world will do to you" then dont be part of the problem! Stand with your kid so even when the world hurts them, they still know theyre safe and loved! Don't make them feel even worse and like the world is right just because you don't have the guts to go against it!
I don't think that these things can't be one in the same. You can affirm your children and their expression and still feel fear for how the world treats them.
"English is so weird"
Well ain't that the understatement of the century.
Old time shakephare English weird
Yeah, and in Spanish there's no actual non-gendered pronouns. Every object has either female or male pronouns.
I live in Slovakia 👁👄👁
Every verb, every object, EVERYTHING has a gender T^T
@@gimmebleachlmao2576 I live in France, I understand you bro 🤝
Try Germannnnnn..... we have he, she and it as pronouns. Guess what's an it? Girls. DAS Mädchen, 'cuz it's a diminutive. Still feel English is weird? XD
growing up, i would always notice the girls and boys sections in target and think about how it's more acceptable for "girls to dress boyish because they're a tomboy," but when a little boy wants to wear a dress or even a pink shirt, adults fear that they "might be gay or trans"
right it’s so weird
let’s just make a new term lol, “tom” “boy” - “jane” “girl” 😂
The only problem is girly girls would make fun of and isolate the tomboys. Which create it own problems.
so true…society stop thinking feminity is bad challenge !
yes oh my gooood i used to be so happy i was born a girl because i could do everything even if it wasn’t a girl thing and it wasn’t “not allowed”
Literally burst out crying when the person said "gender for me as a child was just about what was forbidden"
So why would you then turn around and make such an oppressive, sexist concept the defining feaof your 'identity'?
@@AM-ne4uo Being yourself.... is not the same thing... as the mass cultural oppression of children...
@@AM-ne4uo "Stop hitting yourself, hahaha owned liberals, I am very intelligent" TOUCH GRASS
@@AM-ne4uo being yourself isnt sexist
@@peatot2670 It is when your sense of self is based in sex stereotyping.
I am a cis woman, but I hate the societal standards that we place on gender. My whole life I felt like I should dress a certain way or be a certain way. I hated dresses, but I did like playing with dolls. I enjoyed playing outside and getting dirty, but I also liked pink and purple and "girly colors". People should just be able to like what they like no matter what they identify as. Cis, trans, non-binary, lesbian, gay, etc, you don't have to fit in this box. The only thing you have to fit in is a box that is you shape.
the last sentence. i love it, thank you
You don’t get it. The clothes per se mean NOTHING. Men and women SHOULD NOT cross dress ..that is wear clothes that are typically worn by the opposite sex. You can wear a pink shirt made for men if you are a man or a skirt made for men (Roman soldiers did it ) and pants made for women if you are a woman as long as you are not cross dressing …all this gender b.s. is extremely damaging for the younger generations …
As a kid I was more of the boyish girl type.
Dolls: Stripped them, ripped their heads off, left them behind to play cars with my cousins.
Dresses: Refused to wear them (to this day actually)
Pink: I'm ok with it now, but back as a kid I hated it because it was too girly.
Purple: I was always ok with that. It's now my favorite color because of a certain serial killer character from a videogame franchise.
Playing in the mud: Favorite activity. I always stole dad's stuff and wore it like my own. I remember being called out back in kindergarten for playing with the boys all the time. I was told it wasn't ok because I was a girl. Joke's on you I'm nb.
Jewelry: Still working on that one. I'm ok with it if it's from certain people (not my parents though), but I'm still not ok with wearing extensive amounts of jewelry. Ew. It's fine on others though.
Makeup: it's fine on others, but use it on me and I'm stealing your kneecaps.
Off-topic: Jeffrey has a really smooth voice.
Reminds me of James Charles & Bretman Rock's voices. They all have such calming voices and are all very funny too.
Them narrating an audiobook sounds amazing fr.
I've seen Jeffrey on TikTok. They are very calming, from what I've watched.
Yes! I think it might also have to do with them having been in the monastery. It was also interesting to see how Anthony's voice switched to similar, more soothing and calm/quiet tone while talking to them as well :D
Jeffrey literally sounds like a therapist and I don’t exactly know why but they just do
This video helped me a lot, I’m finally accepting myself.
I am happy for you!
That’s awesome!
same with me!
That you are mentally ill
You are being brainwashed mate
non-binary is a weird experience. for me, she/her is like a blanket you had when you were a kid, comforting, something i’ve always known. sometimes it doesn’t work because it’s old. he/him is like trying new food and loving it, because that never happens. they/them is like water, sometimes it slaps, sometimes it’s a nice neutral.
but everyone has a different experience, and knowing that is healing. honestly, people should be able to just exist and use what they need (pronouns-wise)
also, jacob, you’re thriving hun, and we love you.
that was honestly the most beautiful thing I've ever read, I almost teared up
I love this comment so much. It perfectly describes how pro nouns can feel to a person. Thank you for helping me understand myself better.
I have the exact same feeling as someone who goes by she/they, she/her pronouns are comforting and normal to me, it’s something I’ve known my whole life, but they/them pronouns are a mix of exciting and comforting, I like being called by them, and I love it when people switch up my pronouns when talking about/to me because I get tired of being called by one pronoun consistently in a conversation. That’s my experience :)
As a cis woman, this comment helped me understand. Thank you
me when I'm thirsty : I NEED THAT THEY/THEM
things that have no say over how an NB identifies:
they/them pronouns
the clothes they wear
their hair
their birth/dead name
their name
their voice
the gender they were assigned at birth
the things they like
the way they walk
the way they talk
the way the look
the way they act
who they are friends with
what bathroom they choose to use
“what’s in their pants” (
pls i read "how they walk, how they talk" and my brain went "how their face disintegrates into chalk" ✋
@@thousandeyedvoid same 😭
@@thousandeyedvoid where’s that from?
We prefer NBi because NB means Non-Black, I just thought I would let you know so you can update this going forwards. Thank you
@@TigTig-Kitty i neversaw nb used like that used outside of random miku fanpages on tiktok
Jeffrey is so calming. I really enjoyed hearing them talk about finding a way out of hating themselves.
*him
@@colonelsanders5278 them*
@@jessica232 *him
@@colonelsanders5278 I know you're trolling but on the off chance you aren't, their pronouns are shown in the video as they/them. Please use them accordingly.
@@jessica232 No I refuse to use them because he is clearly a man
okay but I love the concept of "that's a person thing" like we need to normalize this ASAP
Facts.
Agreed
The Liberal Rubrics Cube of Identity gender + pronouns
Like we don't because that's vague, there are lots of things other animals can do that humans can and giving birth is a woman only thing.
Omg the expressed sentiment of “do I have to look androgynous to be nonbinary” (also read: “am I valid if I’m not androgynous enough for others?”) is soooooo deeper issues stuff. I’m so glad they mentioned it. I have spent years trying to come to peace with doing what I do and presenting as I want to for ME, and NOT to try to substantiate or legitimize my identity for others who, honestly, do not know me and I don’t expect to grasp it. I only expect people who care, who ask, to follow through with the intentions they expressed.
What is there to grasp? You're no different to anyone else. Nobody is 'binary' to begin with.
jeffrey’s time at a buddhist monastery must have rly paid off because they sound so soothing and soft-spoken
really? he sounds like his voice is about to give out
must've been shouting or raving the previous day
@@CallieBlader im pretty sure they have a tiktok account and they talk like that at all times
@@CallieBlader they
do people not realize that “you” is also plural AND singular?
genius
that's a great point
@@hannalowercase5928 hehe i guess it’s obvious to most non native english speakers who have to learn that you is always plural even when referring to a single individual
@Illegal crayon dealer i hope your parents are accepting of you if you're non binary. 💜
Damn
Im nonbinary and this whole thing is overwhelming it just makes me not want to think about gender, I'm glad Anthony did an interview with these lovely folks
I'm conflicted on whether to buy Maid Padildochan or not...
Pros:
Maid Padildochan
Cons:
...
wait, i'm not conflicted
My con is......
im fking broke :(
my con: my eyes are under 18
Anthony is an incredible person for these videos because a lot of them get demonetized and they are greatly educational and can help people figure out who they are.
I thank you Anthony Padilla
‘Why am I not being treated like I’m hot? *BECAUSE I AM!’*
Honey, me too.
I think I'd like to try out she/they pronouns :)
The idea of it makes me happy
THEN DO IT!!!
SLAY
Eyyyy! That's awesome, you do you! I'm proud of you :)
That’s great! The cool thing about life is we can try things out and see how we feel about them. :) wishing you well.
I’m super late, but this was me too!! Proudly using she/they pronouns now as a cis woman :D
Anthony teaches us to be better, and accept everyone
Except flat earthers.
(You have to see that video of his, it's hilarious.)
a lot of parents seem to have this mindset that the perfect life your kid can have is to be cishet and when you're not they are so heartbroken and then act like its all about them. sure you would live a safer life being cishet, but you wouldn't be living your own life.
God, this one means a lot Anthony. Cried multiple times lmao. As someone who has been struggling with their identity for a long time, this has been one of the most helpful videos. It’s just genuine and real. I don’t know what to say. Thank you so much
I felt that! When his video about asexuality came out, I felt so seen and validated.
@@marjos1989 Right! He seems to hit every good nail on the head with these videos and they’ve all been super useful without feeling disingenuous :,)
As a nonbinary person, wishing you the best. Things do get better.
@@azooreus thank you, I really appreciate it
Nonbinary/genderfluid has been apart of MANY cultures.
For example, Hawaiian culture. There's kinda like a third gender.
The reason why a lot of these cultures don't have a third gender anymore is because of colonizers. Which is pretty obvious why.
... the Hawaian term is "Māhū" (literally meaning "in the middle"). As far as I know it encompasses trans, nonbinary and intersex folks and is linked to certain societal roles.
There's a wonderful documentary ... called "Kumu Hina".
Some European Languages have that too
In Judaism, their are multiple different kinds of genders outside the binary as well
"MANY cultures" **only says hawaiian**
@@anaalina5964 ... what's the issue with using just one example? I suppose folks are mature enough to research lots of others, aren't they?
When Jeffrey said they were grieving for their six-year-old self it was so relatable. Looking back at your childhood trauma does be like that.
ARE WE JUST GONNA IGNORE HOW PRETTY ANGEL IS????? THEYRE SO FUCKING PRETTY HOLY SHIT
They are fabulous 😍
IKRRR! Also, I love ur pfp
ALL OF THEM ARE CUTE AS HELL
Yeah, they are HOT
I LOVE THEM SO MUCH
Edit: also, great pfp
WOO thanks for having me on, Anthony! I had a great time and thank you so much for being so open to learn and for being so respectful with your questions. I hope everyone likes the episode!
Really enjoyed this episode thank you for teaching me and a lot of other people about this very misunderstood term, you did a great job! 😁
:D
I made my animal crossings character non-binary (not cus i wanted to expirement, just cus i wanted to let them wear whatever so they look comfortable, which makes me feel comfortable when im playing late at night) and my cousin asked "is it a boy or a girl" and i said "neither" and he just went "ok" and then started playing with his paw patrol action figures
Saying "there is no way to 'look non binary' " is exactly the thing younger non binary people, who are for the first time exploring their gender need to hear.
I'm non binary at 15, but due to being very active in the queer community before realizing I had also gotten the wrong idea about what non binary was. Because even in the community itself, misinformation spreads. How you're supposed to look, how you're supposed to feel. These factors, although now I know are far from the truth have still stayed in me and I hate to admit it, but I doubt myself sometimes because of this. I feel like if I don't have enough dysphoria, I'm not "non binary enough" or "I'm faking it".
It's so important to spread this, because it can stay with someone for who knows how long.
Honestly same as a fellow 15 year old 😗
I’ll feel this so hard.
How about just pick one gender you really gonna busy yourself with that
@@ilaahmad9890 i'd rather busy myself with it than feel uncomfortable as one of the binary genders. i don't really have any choice, I can't pick.
@@ilaahmad9890 That's like telling someone who wants a swirl cone to pick only vanilla or chocolate. Why should they?
As somebody who hasn't been identifying as nonbinary for very long, this video was honestly very affirming and validating. Made me feel better about identifying as I do. I appreciate all the people that helped with making this video.
Me looking at the cast of she-ra: Wait this person who voiced double-trouble seems, familiar?
Jacob in this video is the voice of double trouble!!!! I'm so glad the voice was an actual non-binary!
OMG I KNEW THEY SOUNDED FAMILIAR
@Anthony Whatre you talking about
Netflix's adaptation of Neil Gaman's The Sandman comics also has a non-binary actor playing the character of Desire, who is also non-binary. Woot!
Oh mah gods…
OMG! I JUST WATCHED AN EPISODE WHERE DOUBLE TROUBLE APPEARS!!! I LOVEEEE THEM!! THAT CHARACTER IS JUST SUPERIOR!!! 💚💚
My friends and I were once arguing over what the hottest gender was, and it was a very aggressive debate:
"Men are hot"
"Women are the hottest"
"Most people are hot"
"Everyone is hot"
"ok... but... consider this: WOMEN"
"Aha, but consider this: men!"
"W o m e n"
"M e n"
"W o m e n"
And eventually the conclusion was if men and women weren't the hottest, NB people must be godly dating material.
English language is great language for nonbinary people. It is much harder to express yourself in Croatian and other Slavic language because everything is gendered. Using singular they in Slavic is weird and terribly hard.
Same with german, even chairs are female lol
I agree it's really tough for nonbinary people to express themselves in gendered languages. For example in Poland where I live pronouns are used when speaking in first and second person (and there are only he or she pronouns). It's upsetting that there isn't a lot of discussion about it since nonbinary is a really new term here.
Spanish and french too. Even things get gendered like the wall, the fan.
Same with Portuguese.
@Maya my apologies chair is masculine
Recently found out I'm enby, it's been surreal telling people I'm comfortable with. I now go by the name Addison, and I'm still getting used to it. Like, it's been really confusing and a bit scary, I almost feel like I've dissociated a bit
Addison is a great name.
Other names are : Karter, Taylor, Emery, Morgan, and my personal favorite: Alex
How did you find out?
addison is such a cool name!
Gender is a fact
I wanna see Anthony do one with gender-fluid people, I’m questioning if I’m nonbinary or gender fluid and I think that it would help me understand myself better.
Genderfluid is under the Nonbinary umbrella. So Im both Genderfluid and Nonbinary
he did actually!! but the footage was lost and exists only as a podcast :( it’s free to listen to tho
@@35bam i didnt know that! I only identify with Genderfluid.
@@kneptunes8446 where can i find it?
genderfluidity is a non-binary identity so if you're thinking you might be anything other than strictly binary man or woman, then you're non-binary!
I identify as a cisgender male, and I definitely relate to what Jacob said near the beginning about how even if you are cisgender you aren't going to identify and take on the burden of all the expectations of a gender identity. Like I may be a cisgender male, but I hate sports, competitions, and I am an emotional person who finds it easy to empathize with others. Like, emotions should not be gendered. I blame (not it a bad way - but in a joking way) my mother for me feeling like I, a man, can have emotions and feel like a human being because she was involved in the feminist movement and has a master's degree in psychology. My father on the other hand, was born and raised in Ethiopia and is kinda sexist. I've only seen him cry once, and I thought "OMG straight cis men can have emotions like everyone else!!" (also in a joking way).
So, if thanks to your feminist mum you can recognize that 'gender' is just sex stereotyping, then what makes someone 'cis' or 'trans' then?
I have a non-binary friend and I’ve had a bit of a struggle understanding what the term meant and what pronouns mean and how they can be non-binary and still use he/they pronouns. But this video has really helped me a lot and I’ve never felt closer to my friend and their identity and their struggles. Thank you for doing this video Anthony.
That’s amazing to hear.
Your an amazing friend, normally people will assume their weird and just not be supportive, but this is what a true friend does, thanks for accepting them and being there for them i hope theres more ppl like this
This really makes me wonder - again - if I'm non-binary.
You are not, these people are all been acting pretty weird one has been trying to get children to pay to talk to him privately.
@@RandomCommentMakerPersonWhat a horrible thing to say.
@@Mel-wn9gb indeed it is, but when someone is also being a douche and saying "no you can't have that identity and people who do are p£d0s" i think it's valid to tell them to set themselves ablaze or become a better person
@@cosygoose1813 stage 1 is always denial. Maybe you’re non binary 🤔
@@Sentient-potatoSo your trying gas light me. Typical.
The children question is easily resolved for me--I'd just have them call me by my first name, which is what I did with my parents, even though we're all cisgender.
this! we have similar words like mum or dad in my mother tongue with different relatives, and I just made all my younger cousins call me by my name, it's really not that complicated! * shrug *
Hello dear @AnthonyPadilla. I have an interesting topic to ask.
"WHAT IS IT LIKE TO BE A RUNAWAY?".
In this day and age, a great percentage of children and teens suffer from an abusive household and some teens like me consider running away. It would be better for us who wish to escape our cages/cells to learn what life is like as soon as you step out of it. Therefore the experience of successful runaways, as well as their opinion and knowledge, and their hardships and struggles, would be a beacon of light for us abused. I hope this message come through to you and may you give it a though. 👉👈
Good idea!
Sounds like a wonderful idea
Good idea! I wanna hear all of their brave stories and them giving advice on people who are stuck in abusive households.
i'm not really sure how the algorithm works tbf but commenting to boost!!
"It's an addition, and not a subtraction"
AND I'M HERE FOR IT
HAHA sometimes I gaslight myself into thinking I’m hopping on a trend and then I realize I have transphobic parents like 😭
You're hopping on a trend, maybe to piss off your parents. As old as time.
"its not that we are weird, it is that language is weird." .. not sure i agree with that tho
French (who is my first language) is a gendered language. Like everything in French has a gender. I don't really know people around me who is non-binary, but I imagine it must be really hard to discribe yourself to somebody in my language.
Yes, me too and it really bothers me
i speak french and i’m nonbinary, i use masculine pronouns in french because there’s unfortunately no commonly accepted gender neutral pronoun. i think some people are trying to push for «iel» but that’s a lot of effort for me to ask people to make in such a highly gendered language, especially with such conservative people. :/
Oof for you my dude
My lanquage, finnish, luckily doesnt have gender pronouns
same in spanish
I would say it isn’t just the language that make things difficult. People from French community have difficulty to imagine something without a gender. I myself had a hard time understand and I am non-binary.
For most of my life I was « not female like female » and couldn’t understand why people put so much importance in what is in your pants, so was my mother and my little sibling. Non-binary exist in gendered language, the concept of it is just really different for most of us.
"Sometimes existing is exhausting"
Why did I feel that?
literally lets get X i hate having to be a false identity on all my documents.
i'm also nonbinary, but idk. it should be an option for those who want it, i guess, but i wouldn't want everyone who looks at my id to know i'm trans. like if a cop pulled me over or something, outting myself as trans seems sooooo unsafe
@@houndstoothbruises damn im sorry you don't even feel safe to do that :( cos that's fucked up
May i ask in what country you live
I feel like it would be safe in my country tho
I live in California and I recently got the X on my ID. :) I feel safe enough where I live, though, to be able to go through with that change. I know not everyone does.
I just don't want gender on my passport at all. Like why do they need to know that? Medical professionals are the only people who should need to know my sex. But if they insist, X would be preferable to something that simply isn't true.
Just imagine it’s asking for your sex, not your gender.
Allow kids to experiment. They will figure themselves out over time
“Thats a person thing” HAS ME ROLLING LAUGHING I LOVE IT
fun fact: in Azerbaijani or Turkish there is no He/she/it/they etc. It's just "O". I love genderless languages
_O_
how many are there??? most language are gender!! and you just cant change that.
@@ZairaBandy well, I don't know all of them but I know for sure that all Turkic languages are genderless. Japanese is genderless too I guess, not so sure.
Georgian is genderless as well, when talking about someone you have to specify "man" or "woman" because we have no pronouns
They, she, and he all are one word: "is" pronounced "EE-s" (modified in different ways to mean different things)
@@ZairaBandy Estonian/Finnish don't have many gendered words. It's usually words like hero/heroine. We just use ta/tema when talking in the third person
Dude the funniest shit is when people try to "dehumanize" me in particular 😀😀😀 like I'm so sorry to break it to you but I use it/it's you are not harming me in the slightest 😭😭
THAT’S GREAT LMAO
also your pfp basically describes my gender, as Link helped me realize i was nb
@@marthmallow7420 HSBSJEHD botw was my biggest hyperfixation for a while i Literally beat it in full 20+ times 😭😭
I'm a non-binary person, and seeing this video made me feel so happy, and feel so much better because then people can know more about non-binary people and know that we actually exists.
you should do a vid with people with ptsd. everyone thinks only soldiers have ptsd but it’s so much deeper than that
YES EXACTLY you can get ptsd from a range of things, though he has briefly talked about the disorder with the school shooting survivors
Especially C-PTSD, since most people have never even heard of it, and it's the perfect example of "yeah I have PTSD but it's not necessarily from sexual assault or war", being that it develops over an extended period of time rather than a fairly short amount of time. I technically have both. My trauma counsellor is amazing. I would love for Anthony to have them, or someone like them, show up for the "therapist side" of the experience.
@Adriana Eason same here
I live in Finland and I'm happy that we don't have "she" or "he" pronouns. we've got "hän" which is gender neutral (kinda like "they" as singular). it's super nice! although whenever we refer to people...we frickin' use "it" 😂🙌🏼 but when we are being formal, them we use "they".
No siis tämä! Suomen kieli on oikeastaan tosi sukupuolineutraali, mä muistan ku koulus opisttiin ekaa kertaa englantia ni ihmettelin hirveesti miks englannis on eri pronomini miehelle ja naiselle ku ei se vaikuta mihinkään.
@@fanatic6893
no jep, totta! ja ite olin myös tosi hämilläni ja miulla meni jonkin aikaa, että ees opin kumpi on kummalle (ruotsin kaa vielä rimpuilen sen kaa, vaikka jo lukion kakkosella oon :D en vaan ikinä muista kumpi nyt on miehestä ja kumpi naisesta ja kun kun tottunu siihen, ettei oo tolleen eroteltu).
@@iam_sherlocked8421 samaaaa, englannin viel oppi koska se oli kaikkialle mut saakelin han/hon ei vieläkää millään tasolla tunnu luonnolliselta tai järkevältä!
@@badinstructor6806 no jep, tää just D:! täysin samaa mieltä!
It's interesting to think that I relate so much with nonbinary people. I just like the idea of no expectations, even though I identify as a girl. It's all I've ever known so to say, and I dont want to just tell everyone I'm nonbinary, because suddenly people see me differently, and I'm expected to be a tomboy or a girly guy or something else stupid. So I just hide in my shell that I'm comfortably loved in all my life. If I could choose I would be called she/they, but the fear just keeps me from taking any action.
This is how I’ve felt as well :) thus I just tell everyone I’m gender apathetic!
Gender Apathetic or Apagender is the lack of gender identity, not the gender identity of not identifying with a gender but still caring about this lack of identitication
So you finally diagnosed yourself with a mental illness
“That’s a person thing” was my
favorite sentence from the video
subtle teaching an alien how to be human- energy
I love how he says “deserves to be met with respect AT THE VERY LEAST” that’s really great :)
Yea the thing about parents that don't accept you but feel responsible for how u turned out is that you grow up learning to beat them to feeling guilty, you hide your authentic self from literally everyone to the point where u don't know who you are anymore.
It kinda really sucks :/
one thing i REALLY wish people knew about us is that non-binary people dont have to use they/them. im non-binary and i use she/they. stereotypes really really suck
Yes, stereotypes suck. So why are you defining yourself and everyone else in terms of them?
@@Mel-wn9gbstop commenting and go outside, you clearly have an obsession with trans people.
“Eventually the pressure just built and built and built and built and I needed to do something very drastic”
S*icid*l ideation… riiight… been there
“So I moved away to a Buddhist Monastery”
PARDON 😭😭😭 GOD I wish I was that privileged…
My best friend came out as non binary late last year, and I couldn’t BE MORE PROUD OF THEM!! They actually inspired me to become a gender, race, and sexuality sociologist! 😆 Non binary ppl are SO VALID!! 🙌🏻
I’m nonbinary not in the “both” way but in the “neither” way.
If I ever have kids, however I raise them, I just want them to always know any identity is accepted in my house. I don't judge.
I'd try to do that as well, but given that I probably won't find a partner for atleast 10 years, I don't know who I'll be by then.
ok but why is no one talking about how well that lipstick looks on Jacob like I could only dream
Facts they look beautiful
Conservatives: " This is America. We're free to do whatever we want!"
Person: Identifies as Non Binary
Conservatives: " YOU CAN'T DO THAT! 'Merica!
By 'identifying as nonbinary' and encoding the very idea of it into policy and law you're limiting the feeedom of others. I do agree your country is batshit crazy though.
America is the land of the free for white allocishet neurotypical men who are eevery ist and phobic
I like "addition not subtraction".
For me, it was never about denying the binary. It's about accepting that even within a binary we can be so diverse and beautiful in every way imaginable. My problem with the binary construct is that it is way to rigid and not reflective of reality.
My problem with the concept of 'nonbinary' is that it's too rigid and not reflective of reality. It just reinforces the demonstrably false assumption that people are somehow 'binary'.
@@kaylaanderson41100 This is the internet, not your living room. Anyone is free to comment and express whatever opinion they have. The point is that nobody is 'binary' to begin with. That's just you guys sex stereotyping other people so that you can claim to be different. Ironically, you're the ones who can't tolerate diversity and difference. Everyone has to be in their narrow pink, ue and white boxes.
can you do a "spent a day with people with scoliosis"? including past-surgery? that would be awesome :)
i have scoliosis at a small degree and i absolutely agree! i want to see people talk about it who are affected more by it, i’d be very interested in that interview. :)
@@staymari glad to hear you got a small degree! ^^
i'm past-surgery, so sadly i couldn't say the same
@@staymari and yes, i'd also like to know what it's like for others, especially with physical therapy and all that
@@sleepinghoneybee im sorry about that but im assuming because of the surgery it’s better? (or atleast i hope!) 💕
Ohhhh ok I’m non-binary. Like actually, what an eye-opening video. My understanding of this concept was completely far from the truth, and I resonate with it sooooo much. I love the idea of being viewed for the person I am with no prior assumptions made about who I am based on my gender. I love the idea of breaking free from limiting, out-dated gender constructs in order to explore parts of me that aren’t typically socially acceptable for a woman. Living life to the absolute fullest because of an adamant refusal to conform, and an unwavering acceptance of and love for myself. My children will always know that who they are doesn’t have to be defined by limitations set by anyone other than themselves. They will always feel safe and loved and accepted enough to explore all aspects of themselves. So, I guess that makes Anthony Padilla my gender identity guru 😂😂😂
@SalCee they're breaking free of these stereotypes - it's quite literally the exact opposite of what you're trying to impose here.
No, actually. Unless you experience gender dysphoria you’re not non-binary. Just because you’re not a 50’s housewife doesn’t make you less of a woman.
@@possum5032 Wtf lol "unless you experience intense suffering you can't be nb" get out of here with that toxic crap
@@possum5032 you're literally wrong but okay. you do not necessarily have to experience dysphoria to be non-binary. shut up and sit down.
I’m super happy for you! :D
One thing that always irked me as an enby was not just for the sake of us non-binaries, but for the other sorts trans and intersex people as well; binary gendered lavatories and products, for example. It should just be “hygiene products”! Items should just be items, in a neutral state, as opposed to binary pigeonholing of things into categories of “man” and “woman”, like handbags, clothing, even bloody colours!
The mere act of such things completely alienates anyone who doesn’t perfectly fit the mold for cis het binary neurotypical person. But especially on the matter of public loos, the fact that some scum make it so people are forced to choose either one binary or another when it comes to just using the loo of all things is just wrong.
This is confused thinking because you're conflating sex with 'gender'. The facilities and products you're referring to relate to sex. Each of the two sexes are different, hence products and facilities are designed and labelled differently to meet the needs of each sex. Things like clothes, handbags and colours relate to 'gender'. The very fact that clothing, accessories, colours and other culturally constructed stereotypes and expectations are arbitrary is precisely why the concept of 'gender' is bogus, moot and irrelevant. So I'm not sure why you guys continue to define not only yourselves, but everyone else in terms of 'gender'.
When i first realized I was nb about 6 years ago and I looked the subject up on RUclips, the thing I found most of was cringe comps and people thinking we're full of shit or wanting attention. So seeing a big RUclipsr speak to us in a respectful, understanding manner is so uplifting. I wish i could tell my younger self that things aren't as bad as they seem.
Those cringe comps damaged so many people in the videos and out. it was a pretty dark time.
You should do "I spent a day with cancelled people" and see their perspective on losing their publicity and voice..
"Logan Paul comes on" lmao
wait that’s actually a pretty good idea
So like... Anyone who thinks clearly without getting offended by facts
cancelling has never done anything. its just an attack mob from another influencer. it doesnt do anything except for confront how shit the world is where anyone will listen to someone they like to try and destroy someones life
Yes but by coming to the show Anthony would be basically promoting them with their status (it really depends if they are interviewing problematic ppl)but I completely agree.
As a non binary person, I'm glad that people are starting to normalise being non binary. Nice video as always :)