Omg I barely covered the tip of the iceberg with this one but other topics would've needed trigger warnings and I wanted to keep this pretty sanitized. But please do share your experiences in the comments and I hope you are all doing well!! And please do let me know if you liked this upload time as well
I'm a linguistics student and I will die on the hill of defending the use of "like" as a filler word. It's been used as a discourse particle and hedge since at least the early 19th century. A discourse particle is a word/noise that essentially keeps the flow of speech going (such as like, um, uh) while you think of what to say next, indicating that you're not done speaking. A hedge indicates ambiguity and indecision rather than precision and certainty. This includes phrases such as "like," "sort of," and "kind of." All this to say that the word "like" serves a very valid function in speech. It isn't necessarily a bad idea to make an effort to use it less since there is definitely a (in my opinion unfair) stigma attached to it supposedly indicating a lack of intelligence. I'd just discourage anyone from having this stigma themself or beating themself up about how they speak. Anyway ling nerd rant over.
He sounds like someone I was friends with!! His name was cam. He was EXACTLY like the person you’re talking about. He broke many group rules, said things that crossed someone’s boundaries, literally sending unwanted texts saying they were jokes, being SUPER rude. I’ve ranted to too many people about him. But all of this aside, drop them. Trust me, you’ll feel a mood shift.
I get you sm I once had this friend that kept trying to manipulate me and leave all my other friend for her saying I don’t care about her and let’s just call her “🙄”luckily I told my friend that used to be friends with 🙄and the same thing happened to her and she fell for it but then once my friend had left all her other friends 🙄 left her
Istg there's this type of person in my friend group when u said ''they dont know the limit to joke'' i was like wow there's more than 1 person who's like that?
hey girly, i haven’t watched the full thing yet, but i know friend issues are so hard and i want you to know that life sucks sometimes, but we all can get over it. you’re so beautiful and no one deserves to go through painful times but i want you to know that you’re not alone and all your subs will always be here with you 🫶🏻
HEY GIRL GOOD MORNING (I hope it’s morning for you), I know how you feel with friend issues. It’s so stressful and it really drains you, you got this! YOU LOOK SO CUTE ❤
Oh, I feel you!! Friends issues suck and can be extremely draining, but I'm glad that you have a strong support system and that your friendgroup has pretty much the same opinion about that person, for me that makes things always a lot easier!! ^^
thank you for explaining double jeopardy so simply bc i just graduated and i took three law classes all throughout high school and i STILL couldn’t remember what double jeopardy was 😭 also this person sounds like a reddit horror story and i’m praying for you and your friends kat 🤞🏼
i love the switch between whispering and softspoken! i get more triggers with whispering but the softspeaking is so calming and relaxing so they r both great! i love the aesthetic of this video and i hope you are doing ok! dont worry abt the fake ppl, ty for the video!!!
Guys this isn’t really a vent it’s just something I’m curious abt, what’s the purpose of life??? Like deep thoughts why was this world created?? I just wonder these things. I’m okay tho I’m good now so don’t worry it’s just that nobody really has the answer and I just wonder why we are in this world if we all die. Please feel free to take a break and feel better soon kat! 💗💗
TW: Minor mentions of verbal and physical abuse Ugh, I knew someone just like that in high school. They would treat some of my other friends like absolute crap, badmouth them, and would kick them under the table. One of my friends and I just excused their behavior as, "Oh, yeah, they get aggressive with people," but sometime in my sophomore year I was really starting to notice their red flags through the cracks. They did the same to me, talked down on me, kicked me under the table, but they also did a lot worse to me because they considered me their "best friend" so my guard was all the way down for them. They'd pull my dreadlocks, punch me in the arm, and scratch into my skin until it scarred and I had always shrugged it off as "Oh, they're just being affectionate." All my other friends saw that something wasn't quite right with our dynamic when I would walk up them with what looked like claw marks basically almost every week. It only got worse during the ladder half of sophomore year when my "best friend" added another person to the main friend group and he was also a huge walking red flag. He always talked about crimes he wanted to commit and how he'd go about it, and my "best friend" would add on how they'd help him. This would eventually lead into a thing they'd both do where they'd make up a scenario where they're "planning a crime" and the role I was given in the operation was always something they'd use to degrade me. Like, being a meat-shield for them, being a decoy for them, or even just a flat-out sacrifice if they had to give someone up. I would try to turn the tables and make a degrading joke about the new guy in the friend group, but he would always turn it right back on me and my "best friend" always came to his defense as well instead of joking along with me (mind you, this "friend" knew me since 7th grade). I brought it up to them in private when it was just the two of us that I really didn't appreciate how they would degrade me with new guy literally every single conversation we had together and that their physical aggression was also becoming a bit much for me, and they just said, "Well, that's just who I am. I don't change for anyone." So, I kinda just dealt with their flat-out abusive behavior until the end of sophomore year. We shared a class together, so I didn't feel like there was much I could realistically do, especially since I was still just barely holding onto hope that they'd change until the last month of school. I stopped talking to them that summer and they moved schools at the start of junior year. There's more to this story but I'll stop there.
I have insomnia tonight & this is helping me rethink & relax. Thanks Kat & be well because you make us feel better & hopefully we can make you feel better ! Thank You 💤.
As much as we all wish we could change people's bad behavior, I can't think of a single instance in my entire life where someone who constantly exhibits $hitty behavior has ever turned over a new leaf and become a decent human. 😑
fr people usually don’t change if you try to force them. they have to do it themselves. it’s not worth busting ur bum over a person who doesn’t gives a crap about stepping over you
Omg I was in such a friend group drama situation at the end of the school year, it was so stressful and tiring since I am like closer friends with the specific person who was getting the backlash than my other friends are and it was just crazy. Especially since I’m the kind of person that avoids drama at all costs and some of my friends really like to get involved I was just trying to finish the year without things falling completely apart. Also I love your shirt and that’s like exactly what I mean when I say I love cowboys like I’m down for the fictional ones only
girl the same thing happened to my friend group, and it was my boy bsf, it was insane and super toxic, like in my notes app the whole lore is like 7 screenshots long, you got this i know it can be so draining🫶
Oh my god... i had and still have this toxic bestie. Who literally used me as a bait, so she can go to visit someone else. She always ingored me and made me feel unwanted. Talked smack about me behind my back, and talked about how "big" i was, in body shape. She still talks to me to this day and it stresses me out. Yet i try to keep common courtesy to atleast talk to her. I just dont want to hangout or anything with her. She is a very negative add to me and my other friends friendship.😢
ohhhhh my god. i had a friend that did the "double jeopardy apologies" thing i just can't deal with it 😭😭 like they believed wholeheartedly that if they apologized for one thing one time they never had to apologize ever again. its so strange (and pathetic)
@@strawberrykatasmr EXACTLY!!! It really feels like they have no sense of responsibility for their actions and it's just sad. I'm sorry to anyone who ever had to deal with someone like that bc it's so undeserved
Love the FaceTime chatting type videos,, nobody deserves to go through this type of disrespect especially considering the amount of chances they have gotten. I hope you can enjoy the rest of your summer knowing that he isn’t your problem. Also side note: you have one of the best soft spoken voices! Usually I prefer whispered videos but your soft spoken is equally as relaxing as your whisper
Omg I barely covered the tip of the iceberg with this one but other topics would've needed trigger warnings and I wanted to keep this pretty sanitized. But please do share your experiences in the comments and I hope you are all doing well!! And please do let me know if you liked this upload time as well
I'm a linguistics student and I will die on the hill of defending the use of "like" as a filler word. It's been used as a discourse particle and hedge since at least the early 19th century.
A discourse particle is a word/noise that essentially keeps the flow of speech going (such as like, um, uh) while you think of what to say next, indicating that you're not done speaking. A hedge indicates ambiguity and indecision rather than precision and certainty. This includes phrases such as "like," "sort of," and "kind of." All this to say that the word "like" serves a very valid function in speech.
It isn't necessarily a bad idea to make an effort to use it less since there is definitely a (in my opinion unfair) stigma attached to it supposedly indicating a lack of intelligence. I'd just discourage anyone from having this stigma themself or beating themself up about how they speak. Anyway ling nerd rant over.
Wait I loved this, thank you so much. This is very validating for me and I completely share that opinion
Having friends issues is so tough and sometimes draining and venting is a great thing to do because girl I’ll vent whenever someone gives me chance 😭🩵
Literally!
@treeal6558 yes 💕
No, you are the soft-spoken queen, never change.
You're the best 🥹🫶
He sounds like someone I was friends with!! His name was cam. He was EXACTLY like the person you’re talking about. He broke many group rules, said things that crossed someone’s boundaries, literally sending unwanted texts saying they were jokes, being SUPER rude. I’ve ranted to too many people about him. But all of this aside, drop them. Trust me, you’ll feel a mood shift.
Yes! I feel like so many people encounter this kind of person in their life, thank you for telling me
video starts at around 4:35!!
I get you sm I once had this friend that kept trying to manipulate me and leave all my other friend for her saying I don’t care about her and let’s just call her “🙄”luckily I told my friend that used to be friends with 🙄and the same thing happened to her and she fell for it but then once my friend had left all her other friends 🙄 left her
I'm glad that doing ASMR gives you a safe space to vent and let off some steam ❤
Me too!! I knew you all would be amazing and I was sure some would have similar stories
omg off topic but the switching between soft spoken and whispers was HEAVEN pls do more kat😔🙌
Istg there's this type of person in my friend group when u said ''they dont know the limit to joke'' i was like wow there's
more than 1 person who's like that?
hey girly, i haven’t watched the full thing yet, but i know friend issues are so hard and i want you to know that life sucks sometimes, but we all can get over it. you’re so beautiful and no one deserves to go through painful times but i want you to know that you’re not alone and all your subs will always be here with you 🫶🏻
HEY GIRL GOOD MORNING (I hope it’s morning for you), I know how you feel with friend issues. It’s so stressful and it really drains you, you got this! YOU LOOK SO CUTE ❤
THANK YOU!! I hope you're doing amazing angel
@@strawberrykatasmr Thank you
Oh, I feel you!! Friends issues suck and can be extremely draining, but I'm glad that you have a strong support system and that your friendgroup has pretty much the same opinion about that person, for me that makes things always a lot easier!! ^^
@@ray.dusklight yes it really does!! They have been amazing 🫶
thank you for explaining double jeopardy so simply bc i just graduated and i took three law classes all throughout high school and i STILL couldn’t remember what double jeopardy was 😭 also this person sounds like a reddit horror story and i’m praying for you and your friends kat 🤞🏼
Thank you love!!
Friend issues suck omg T-T stay strong and keep being the amazing asmr queen you are we love you and are here for you :)
Thank you love
@@strawberrykatasmr of course
first!! i hope you're doing okay
make sure to take care of yourself and stay safe :)
Thank you angel 🫶 it has definitely been a lot on me but my friends and family have been super supportive
@@strawberrykatasmr yayy that's great!! ❤️
Sitting here backchanneling like "mhm" "yeah" "definitely" as if I'm actually there listening to you
Ur so real 🫶
i love the switch between whispering and softspoken! i get more triggers with whispering but the softspeaking is so calming and relaxing so they r both great! i love the aesthetic of this video and i hope you are doing ok! dont worry abt the fake ppl, ty for the video!!!
Soft spoken is incredible it makes me sleepy
I'M LATE- BUT I'M HERE FOR THE TEA NOW ☕. I'm the friend that everyone vents to and is not really important for anything else so VENT TO ME WHENEVER!
Guys this isn’t really a vent it’s just something I’m curious abt, what’s the purpose of life??? Like deep thoughts why was this world created?? I just wonder these things. I’m okay tho I’m good now so don’t worry it’s just that nobody really has the answer and I just wonder why we are in this world if we all die. Please feel free to take a break and feel better soon kat! 💗💗
I do too! I think it's natural to questions things, maybe I'll do a personal philosophy vid at some point
TW: Minor mentions of verbal and physical abuse
Ugh, I knew someone just like that in high school. They would treat some of my other friends like absolute crap, badmouth them, and would kick them under the table. One of my friends and I just excused their behavior as, "Oh, yeah, they get aggressive with people," but sometime in my sophomore year I was really starting to notice their red flags through the cracks. They did the same to me, talked down on me, kicked me under the table, but they also did a lot worse to me because they considered me their "best friend" so my guard was all the way down for them. They'd pull my dreadlocks, punch me in the arm, and scratch into my skin until it scarred and I had always shrugged it off as "Oh, they're just being affectionate." All my other friends saw that something wasn't quite right with our dynamic when I would walk up them with what looked like claw marks basically almost every week. It only got worse during the ladder half of sophomore year when my "best friend" added another person to the main friend group and he was also a huge walking red flag. He always talked about crimes he wanted to commit and how he'd go about it, and my "best friend" would add on how they'd help him. This would eventually lead into a thing they'd both do where they'd make up a scenario where they're "planning a crime" and the role I was given in the operation was always something they'd use to degrade me. Like, being a meat-shield for them, being a decoy for them, or even just a flat-out sacrifice if they had to give someone up. I would try to turn the tables and make a degrading joke about the new guy in the friend group, but he would always turn it right back on me and my "best friend" always came to his defense as well instead of joking along with me (mind you, this "friend" knew me since 7th grade). I brought it up to them in private when it was just the two of us that I really didn't appreciate how they would degrade me with new guy literally every single conversation we had together and that their physical aggression was also becoming a bit much for me, and they just said, "Well, that's just who I am. I don't change for anyone." So, I kinda just dealt with their flat-out abusive behavior until the end of sophomore year. We shared a class together, so I didn't feel like there was much I could realistically do, especially since I was still just barely holding onto hope that they'd change until the last month of school. I stopped talking to them that summer and they moved schools at the start of junior year. There's more to this story but I'll stop there.
I'm so sorry you went through that, you definitely deserve better and I'm glad you're not around them anymore
@@strawberrykatasmr Omg, thank you. I officially cut them out of my life on Valentine's Day and have been taking the time to heal since 💝
I don't usually like soft speaking but I loveeeeee these videos!!!!! Your voice is so nice!
I have insomnia tonight & this is helping me rethink & relax. Thanks Kat & be well because you make us feel better & hopefully we can make you feel better ! Thank You 💤.
As much as we all wish we could change people's bad behavior, I can't think of a single instance in my entire life where someone who constantly exhibits $hitty behavior has ever turned over a new leaf and become a decent human. 😑
fr people usually don’t change if you try to force them. they have to do it themselves. it’s not worth busting ur bum over a person who doesn’t gives a crap about stepping over you
Yeah it really sucks, I know i can't force someone to work on themselves. But it's so disappointing when they go "guess I'm just a bad person" 🥲
You look so adorable in that thumbnail Kat! You and Haley make the best thumbnails lol. 💙
Omg I was in such a friend group drama situation at the end of the school year, it was so stressful and tiring since I am like closer friends with the specific person who was getting the backlash than my other friends are and it was just crazy. Especially since I’m the kind of person that avoids drama at all costs and some of my friends really like to get involved I was just trying to finish the year without things falling completely apart. Also I love your shirt and that’s like exactly what I mean when I say I love cowboys like I’m down for the fictional ones only
Literally!! You get me
I love this type of video but aside from that, I hope you’re okay girl💗
Hey I hope everything gets better for you, you got this, stay strong. LOVE YOU❤️🫵
Ily!! Thank you
girl the same thing happened to my friend group, and it was my boy bsf, it was insane and super toxic, like in my notes app the whole lore is like 7 screenshots long, you got this i know it can be so draining🫶
Thank you love, I hope everything worked out for your friend group too
Girl you are radiant we need a makeup tutorial
Coming soon 🤭
I’m sorry love :( I hope you’re okay and things get better soon 🩷
Thank you so much angel 💗💕
i love your asmr so much ❤
Oh my god... i had and still have this toxic bestie. Who literally used me as a bait, so she can go to visit someone else. She always ingored me and made me feel unwanted. Talked smack about me behind my back, and talked about how "big" i was, in body shape. She still talks to me to this day and it stresses me out. Yet i try to keep common courtesy to atleast talk to her. I just dont want to hangout or anything with her. She is a very negative add to me and my other friends friendship.😢
Yes I felt that!! I actually have another friend from high school who's very similar
I like this upload time, for me it was 9am when you posted
Personally I prefer whispered 🫶🫶🫶 but I love your ASMR so much you always give me tingles 😭😭🙏🙏
I'm glad to be here again! Thanks for joining us one more night! I loved this video. Have a great week, Kat! 😝😝
Aw- I hope you’re doing alright! ;w;
Thank you love 💕💗
I hope you're doing okay! Make sure to take care of yourself
I love your voice and I hope you’re okay!
ohhhhh my god. i had a friend that did the "double jeopardy apologies" thing i just can't deal with it 😭😭 like they believed wholeheartedly that if they apologized for one thing one time they never had to apologize ever again. its so strange (and pathetic)
FR I don't get it, like they barely cared enough to apologize the first time but want to act like they do ig 😔
@@strawberrykatasmr EXACTLY!!! It really feels like they have no sense of responsibility for their actions and it's just sad. I'm sorry to anyone who ever had to deal with someone like that bc it's so undeserved
so relaxinggg
Love the FaceTime chatting type videos,, nobody deserves to go through this type of disrespect especially considering the amount of chances they have gotten. I hope you can enjoy the rest of your summer knowing that he isn’t your problem. Also side note: you have one of the best soft spoken voices! Usually I prefer whispered videos but your soft spoken is equally as relaxing as your whisper
Thank you and you're so right!!
blank space for myself
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hope ur okay!!🫶🏻
I'm doing better! Thank you for checking in
hiii! it’s 3 am for me but i had to watch this video🫶🫶🫶🥳
I hope things get better!!💙🎀
What lipstick do u use? it’s so gorgeous x
I wear a bloody lip tint and lip gloss!!
I hope ur doing okay, love
Thank you angel 🥺💗
@@strawberrykatasmr ofcccc 🫶
Girly I got ask if we can have a makeup tutorial asmr ! If you haven’t made one yet
Ohh yes! It's been a long time since I have, I'll def do that really soon
this kinda just happened to me and my friend... except i had to deal with it alone
I'm sorry, that's the worst
Definitely love the vibe of this video. But sorry you've had to deal with this - sounds really shitty. 🖤
This is the first time I'm early😁but anyways I hope your ok♡🦢
Hi also I wanted to say I love your videos♡♡
I forgot to add I made fanart in gacha club I made u♡😁
@IyeashGosnall aww thank you 🥺💕
@@strawberrykatasmrofccc
them being wrong on what double jeopardy is was literally a joke on bobs burgers 😭😭
LMAO FR??!
One day school 🏫 will be over, have a cool thing called “ REAL WORLD “, where people don’t care 🤷🏻♂️ 😂
FR, unfortunately I know these people still exist in work places, etc. But hopefully they face consequences quickly 😭
@@strawberrykatasmr True
OMG T___t i guess i have a crush on you >_
😊🤍
OMG IM SO EARLY! 30 VEWS!
Hi kat