Blessings to you woman of God, thank you for this message, what will I do, if I find people like this inside the house of God? Please help me with this question 😔
Amen sisterAgness may God bless u it's hard to love someone who doesn't love u back as for me I quit this relashonship oh God help me to see good partner with good manners
After two kids, 10 year relationship, I left and never felt so relieved, now he's refusing to support his kids financially just to punish me. he doesn't know I serve Jehovah Jirah, my Father in Heaven will provide. HalleluYah🕊💫🙏
Same story here, 12 years of pain and 2 kids later, it has finally dawned on me that he's a bitter narcissist. Separated now and he's using money to try to punish and control me.
I had an ex boyfriend who was narcissist,he could be called by his lovers when am with him calling him "babe"if I dare ask I could be bitten mercilessly,he hits me on the wall,,verbal harsh words😭,am telling you when your in this ,the person makes you have low esteem of your self ,you even think if you leave him you will never get another man to love you,I could sleep crying like a baby,he could not talk to me,he could tell me to cry until I cry blood,he could turn and start chatting with women,I could peep and see it's women,I couldn't pray,I loved him until I had no time to love myself,until I wasn't attending classes in college,lemmie tell you guys one day I decided to give up and move on,I decided to do it in bits,I decided to assume I don't have a man with me,stop being hurted by his actions,never question anything from him and assume he is no longer my boyfriend,we were in the same house,I took a paper and wrote 4pages crying and removing all my pains in that paper,I went and hidden it somewhere,it took me two weeks and I was done with him from my heart,it was a lunch hour one day eating lunch I had prepared,I told him in a joking way that,I wanted Mee and him to part peacefully,he thought it was a joke,I took out the paper I had written I gave it to him and told him to take everything that belonged to him and go,and it raised another form of fight of which I wasn't ready for it,he realized I had already made up with my mind and I had realized who I am,he saw a lady he didn't know about and ahe took everything including his shirt I was wearing I was told to remove and the phone I was using he took it, everything and I was there to hand over everything unto him and he went ,I found peace being alone,I went back to my father God,he bandaged my wounds,healed me,I moved on and I found love again,the best love I can never imagine that it exists,a God fearing man,a man who can never raise his voice to me,we are now on our 4th year and we have achieved alot with him.
I just found out from my daughter-in-law that my son is a narcissist. They are in the middle of a divorce after being married 29 years. They are both 42 years old with 4 kids. She started telling me the things he has done to her and the kids. He confessed that he was a Christian years ago, he knows the Bible inside and out. Then I am reminded so does Satan. He told the pastor that the Lord told him to divorce his wife ( She’s the one who finally told him he has to go.) When they were dating I told her his behavior I would have never tolerated. He was always controlling. He was the only one working, thank God he has a good paying job. She said she loves him. They dated from junior high school and never dated anyone else. Of course he stepped out on her a few times and she continued to keep him in her life until last year. Of course he is giving her a hard time regarding the divorce, he acts like she cheated on him, but he is the one with the girlfriends. he has a girlfriend and they now live together regardless of the divorce not being finalized. Listen , this video is accurate to a T. Ladies and gents if you see the red flags run and don’t look back. if you don’t you will live a unhappy life. This is the fifth video that I watched on RUclips trying to understand this behavior. Gods wants you to be happy. Being with a person who hurts you to your core is not happiness, being by yourself in peace and with the Lord is happiness. Also, note doctors say it almost impossible for a narcissist to be healed. It would take a miracle. Being under the influence of demonic influence would mean this type of person needs deliverance! It breaks my heart to know that my son has this condition. My daughter in law gets professional help now, and she is blossoming into her own. She helps coach families with disability children , because one of her kids has a disability. She’s in school studying online and working during the day, also getting her licenses together to help others and hopefully in the future go into her own business. God has truly blessed her as she depends on Him . She is a new person, praise God. God bless Mumbi and her ministry. God bless all who tune in and listen.
I love today's topic. I was in a marriage with a Narc for 8 years and they were years of sufferings but I thank God he gave me courage to leave with 3 children. I blame myself for the mysteries I underwent while in that marriage because before I got married, I prayed for a husband for some reason I met this man and thought it was an answered prayer.. unfortunately while dating there were several redflags which I never paid attention to..I asked God for a sign if he was the one, but I never got an answer but I went on to marry him anyway.. eventually, I regretted and asked God for forgiveness. I remember the more I prayed while still in the union the worse my situation got.
My 1st marriage i got warning from God ,i entered another one before confirmation from him i have cried eversince i got him its now 9yrs with one son but am done with it
I have now learnt over the years that the Holy Spirit always show us the red flags but we are always "too in love' to pay attention and eventually be in a miserable life.
This is exactly my story 😢 😭 😪 💔 😞 I also didn't get any answer when I prayed It was later GOD told me that I should have changed my prayer request to why am I not getting any answer
I just ended a relationship with a narcissist it was emotionally draining. Enough with the manipulation, gaslighting and emotionally abuse. He would suddenly go silent on me just to punish me. I thank God for this. I would end up apologising everytime. He uses money as a tool of control.
So true , but God is bigger than him I got the strength to walk away from him he doesn't call his daughter and she just turn 6 years , but God is my strength of our life .
Narcissists tug at your heart string and back you up in a corner and keep hurting you and when you react they say you are emotionally unstable and tell people all kinds of hurting untrue things about you.
This is the message God put in my heart yesterday I was remembering how God saved me from a narcissistic boyfriend, when I met this person I thought to my self he was the one for me, little did I know that he was sent by the enemy, I was always doing things he wanted but he never did the same ,he lied that he was single when in fact he had a wife , God saved me from that relationship when I surrendered to God for him to choose the person he knew was the right person for me and am here testifying that God has given me more than I ever thought or ever imagined that I could meet the man God has given me now.
I didn’t know my husband was narcissistic until after I divorced him( after 23 yrs )I haven’t shedded one tear since I left. I got crucified by the church. I didn’t care. I’m free ❤❤😁
Cynthia..abuse is not to be tolerated.forget the church that enables these demonically infested monsters. You didn.t divorce. This was never your god given spouse.
Cynthia I am glad there are these videos. And it’s coming out they are everywhere the narcissists. It’s after years, you realise you are dealing with a narcissist!
I just left a relationship of 23 years with my first and only and it took me four years of suspecting she was a narcissist for me to give up and I didn't shed one tear for her either because I realized I didn't even know who she was and now that I do I only have pity for her inability to love somebody like how I love everyone
Thank you so much for talking about this. God was so good to expose the last one I got caught up with. He was a covert, the most dangerous kind in my opinion. Claimed to be a real Christian but showed zero fruit. He was deceitful, secretly jealous of me and appreciated nothing I did for our relationship. I’m a really happy person, in under a year he turned my smiles to tears. He would laugh at me as I cried. Once God started to expose him, I left. They are the hardest relationships to leave, bc you have to leave the lies you believed as well about living happily ever after. I’m getting older and I believe the devil sent me this person to attempt to delay and destroy my destiny. God saved me! To anyone dating one, get out now and stay out. They are spiritual robbers and destiny killers. Nothing to say or do will make these kinds change unless they want to and honestly they don’t. Give up now, pick someone else.
Not allowing your children to properly detach can cause narcissism and that can most likely be because you have a deep insecurity that your only job is to raise children and that's your only value so you carry out this task with hyper-vigilance
The relationship with the father of my children nearly drove me crazy. I nearly lost everything even my connection to God. It was mentioned that even praying becomes hard.. I can agree with this.."they" really have their ways to break your soul😢I thank God for helping me escape
God our Heavenly Father Be WITH You, I can relate. I had no idea Love an Unconditional Love we are to represent as Children of God walking in Jesus character, I had no idea how horribly bad what I learned Live was go so rejected discarded dismissed and abused unwanted. My spirit truthfully was shattered. I started being angry at God. I fell into a very dark place slowly I’m getting out and running back to My God who would never ever forsake me or throw me away. There is no reasons to chase after a man who will never love me ever as the word of God states in the Bible. Acceptance is hard the result is truthfully freeing. Jesus keep showing me truths and guiding me. And this young woman too. Jesus you YOU ARE THE ONLY ABSOLUTE TRUTH OF LOVE TO CHASE AFTER.
I’ve done extensive research on Narcissism, and this by far is one of the BEST descriptions from a Godly/Spiritual perspective. God bless you for helping many of us who are going through this type of relationship. I’m currently planning my exit for the third time. Not going back this time. It’s been a NIGHTMARE.
Mine will be the second and final time. Thank you Jesus. I chanced upon this at a time when i was asking God if i really made a wise decision to come back to him. Three kids two badly broken by his behaviour yet it's just almost a year of reunion.
@@charityanyango2742 When you come back and it's the same or worse , it's an answer from God to go away. Love, May God help you in your journey out and after. God bless your children, they will thank you later.
Thanks Agnes. I have been married to a narcissist man for the last 30 years and it has been nothing but pain. It is like I have been caged. I would come from work late and he would give me a thorough beating, if I happen to go see my mother upcountry he would not allow me to sleep there, if I did he would call my parents to confirm that am there insisting that I talk to him on their phone. If I buy a property he would say it's my boyfriends who bought for me. If I wake up to pray at night he would say there is nowhere in the Bible written that one prays at night. My friends and relatives are not supposed to visit me. He has torchered me physically and emotionally. I hate where he has placed me. I have decided that I want to quit. I could write a whole book of the persecution s I have endured. On part 2 of this topic dwell more on those in marriages for a long time with narcissists. He has made me hate marriage soooooo much.
I can relate although that seems to be worse...I pray that we will finally overcome sis...they make you feel small yet you are big....it's like you are threat...
Sometimes I think there are more narcissists in church than in the 'world' My husband is a church leader, and he is the textbook definition of a Narcissist. The Christian narc is proud, legalistic and egoistic. They are often high achievers, and therefore knownhow to buy the praise and affection of people around them with money. In the church, they are often the biggest givers, BUT it's all for show, and manipulation. They are the modern day Pharisees. It's so so sad.
I’ve been with a narcissist for 20 years married for 18 years. He has asked me for a divorce and I’m seeking the Lord for my next chapter in life. Single people…Never ever settle because when you settle you will get what you settled for 🙏🏾
10 yrs in marriage and u hv described exactly what I am going through. I have lost myself. I have nothing else left to give because I have done everything I can. I have given everything I have nothing more to give. Oh Father in heaven I still believe in You wholeheartedly but I am empty inside, I am exhausted, I am hurting hear my prayer as you heard Hannah, Sarah, Ruth, Esther. You have done it before, You can still do it again.
I was with one for four years, and almost married him. Laughed at my pain, threw my past trauma and pain in my face, physically, mentally, and verbally abused me. Thank God for answering my prayers and showing me this person was not for me! Now I’m planning my wedding with a TRUE man of God. Thank you Lord!
I am so drained 😩. Worse part of it he is a serial cheater. Sad part of it someone stole my clothes so that I don't get employment. Just finished my 21 days fasting yesterday. Today I get a rejection from my interview last month. 2 interviews I missed because something went to my eye I went blind and I got admitted in hospital. No matter what He is still God 😭. 3 weeks back he took my son and introduced the side chick to him and told him she's her mom I am the aunt. It is well with my soul.
This is the a truth that every sister needs to hear . It is true that the relationship is so draining .It can result in Blood Pressure .Run with you life if you are not married. I am experiencing this and some days it even get hard to pray . Honestly it's been 11 years and if I did not have to think of the children I would flee too. May God give a spirit of discernment to all not married. To all those in marriage I pray God intervention because not only does it destroy you but it affects the children and even extended family relationship friendships. You are left alone but God is faithful he will advise deliver .
What you have taught is right, am married to such a person for 18yrs, but I love him so much, he treated me just the way you say, but he left to marry another woman, so should I still pray for him to change.
Such a profound and crucial topic... So spot on Mam Agnes. I don't even know where to start there's so much to be said about 'narcissists'. Most important is to be aware of how we feel when around certain people. Most times you would tell that something is off about that certain person, especially narcissists. The big favour you can do for yourself is to never ignore that feeling because you will then overlook every other red flag. The signs mentioned are spot on. At the very beginning, they appear so angelic you would be so sure you are soulmates. They bombard you with compliments, buy you a lot of gifts basically worship the ground you walk on, this is called "love bombing". They (appear to) understand you and your struggles, and they 'support you', in fact, they are going through the same challenges you are going through, and oh, even like the same music you do, "wow", soulmates right? No, they are "mirroring you" pretending to understand every bit about you, this is to just make you fall for them... and they make sure they move so fast that you don't have time to process anything, then you get caught like that. Then once they have you, the mask starts to fall off, and by that time you might be married, when you start to see the monster you've never seen before then all hell breaks loose. You'll end up not recognising yourself, not trusting your thoughts and things you actually can see with your eyes because you're being manipulated or "gaslighted"... I can go on all day. Really, the only way is to not be near these people, the same rule may not apply to everyone though. God will lead and guide you into what to do, specific to you.
I wish I had known this before I got married. Anyway, it was my fault because I didn't ask God for wisdom. The red flags were there, but I.was so blinded. Now, 30 years later, my eyes are opened. That's a lifetime, gone. Thank you for sharing and may people be aware of narcissists before they get married. God bless you. This has been helpful and I want to pass on this message to my daughters and loved ones.
This is a topic that can never be discussed enough. This is an evil spirit that exists even in BUSINESS RELATIONSHIPS. Let me tell you it is a NIGHTMARE they except no responsibility for what they do wrong! Everything is always your fault and just like Sister Agnes says all of the focus and attention has got to be on them ALL the time...OMG. You can be about to die and they won't feel any sympathy for you when something is wrong with you. If they do something that looks kind don't be fooled, they have a strategic reason for their purpose to have power over you. The only way to end things with them is to leave them without notice for your own sanity's sake 😱 in JESUS name! Run ! RUN!
God bless you sis! You hit so many points! I dated one. Their level of ‘woe is me’ is out of this point, also it takes a really long time to realize you’re being used if you’re not aware of what’s going on!
Wow, I was accused after I've found that my husband is lying to me. The whole family turned against me, was accused and the relationship nearly destroyed. I thank God for His mercy and wisdom that I now know how to associate and leave with them. With God upon my life, I'm more than a conquerer. Thanks sister for this video
Woow. On time. This gives me lot of courage to walk away. I know it is hard but it's worth it..Thank you Lord for this revelation. I need serious prayers.
God We're here together as one ! We're greatful for saving us from thé evil of this world. Thank you so much sister Agnès for reminding and guiding us... of
The enemy has blessed them with a huge amount of insecurity. Everything revolves around them. I was once told, "I am your god, when I call you respond within a second". And like most comments I've read, I bossed myself into the relationship. Thank God for His grace and faithfulness.
U r r so right sis....I hve ended such a relationship 3 years ago , now I leave a happy life without being accused all the time....Thnx to my Almighty God who gave me the strength to move out 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for this topic. I also had a narcissist boyfriend and I really wouldn't see how toxic he was. I thought I would adapt to his behaviors, I thought it wasn't fair for me to leave him. The only time I was happy with him was the first month when we started dating and after that, it was only pain. We could break up and before I got over it, he came back to me whith a bunch of lies and I thought he loved me. All along, I thought he was single yet he had someone and I found out that when I went to see him and it was just a day after he had done his traditional wedding and a church wedding coming next in two weeks time. I was broken 💔 but I thank God that that relationship actually didn't work out. God was there for me and I finally healed. Later on God gave me a good man and I can't thank Him enough.
Thank you sister Agnes for this topic, it's true most of our marriages are wrong and full of pain for many years may the spirit of God show us the way out in Jesus name before we think of quiting after putting in so many years in these marriages. Dear God please we cry for your help.
I am two months out of such a relationship. Classic narcissist. He drained me completely. No church, no prayer, no talking to friends, etc. I got distanced even from my children, sisters and relatives. He drained me out spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially. God helped me out. All you have said is true. Do not ignore those red flags.
I bless God , I thought I was wrong to come out of that relationship but it was God, he was always emotionally absent but always wants attention unnecessarily, thank you Jesus and you sister for highlighting this🙏
I knew I shouldn’t have married my husband… I ignored all the red flags … I asked for signs and He showed me every reason why not to Mary him …but ofcourse we always find someway in our hearts to stay…. Jesus even came to me in a dream and asked me why did I married him I’ll never forget😮💨😔
I can identify with every word coming out of your mouth Mumbi this exactly explains what happened to me. I left my narcissistic husband after 42 years with only my personal effects, my name blackened, my entire life shattered as I stood alone without support from my children. Praise to the Lord who is carrying me through! This truth you are sharing needs to be heard. Christians are sometimes not aware of this kind of evil that does exist in more ways than one can imagine. Bless you for sharing.
Thank you my sister in Christ. Ten months in and I walked away from a person I strongly believed to be a narcissist. He was egoistic and arrogant. So full of himself. I thought I found the one for me because he was a 'Christian' and very ambitious. Something I have always wanted. After 4 months things shifted. I was accused countless of times and he attempted to control and manipulate me. When we started dating I had a dream that I wanted to walk away and he wouldn't let me. I didn't see how that would be possible because what we had was so amazing (so I thought). He love-bombed me. Said all the nice things. Only to turn around and tried to emotionally abused me. Had I not know who I was he would have damaged my self-esteem. In the end walking away was so hard. He wouldn't let me go. He asked for all his money back that he spent on me. Absolutely ridiculous. It was my worst experience to date. I thank God for healing and deliverance.
omg, my grandmother is like this, she is never wrong. she has really caused so many issues in her own family( shehas really frustrated her children and their families.) This video has opened my eyes that With God all things will be perfect
So much wisdom. There are married people who been hurt emotionally and physically and some even killed since they ignored narcissists. Sometimes people should even leave marriages with a narcissistic partner
This was so good! Thank you. In the process of divorcing my narcissistic husband of 15yrs. I know this is not what God wants for my life. They don’t change. Only God can change them. Until then, I need to work on me.
I'm still with the narc. I'm leaving today. God has made a way for me to leave for good! Praise the Lord! It's made me physically sick! Hormone issues, chronic stress, depression/anxiety, gut issues. I saw the red flags 12 years ago and ignored them. He has tried turning our daughter against me! Please if anyone sees this message, you need to run and run fast before it becomes a crazy addiction! God has been trying to show me for so long but its been so hard for me to leave because I did love him. I've been praying for God to take my love for him away and he has now! Praise the Lord! Please take my advice and run! You will only get sicker and sicker until you want to kill yourself or wither away and die. Thank you for this video! Pray for me and my daughter please. I know as long as I'm trusting God, he will keep us safe. He never admits to anything Even when I had proof! So that starts to make you think your crazy even though you see it with you own eyes. They are so evil! They don't care about you! They really hate you! He also claims to be a Christian and has used the bible against me. He goes to church every Sunday!
Thank you sister for the message. I have been in marriage for 18 years and everything you share happened in my marriagr and even my ex husband tried his best to turn our children agaunst me but God didnt let it happen. I have divorced him and I have the children. Thank God for releasing me frim this marriage.
I ended a relationship with a narcissist and it was difficult to get away. I prayed for four months for God to help me end it and He made a way. After one month of being away from the narcissist, I have more peace, my happiness is returning and I’m starting to get my energy back. I was fooled, but God showed me this person just in time. I will always thank God. Amen
Thank you sister Agnes, for this video. If you could please make another one with advices or solutions for someone who is already married or in a relationship with a narcissist, what does he/she do after so many years if marriage? Blessings to you and thank you for allowing God to use you . Shalom 🙏🙏🙏 And for you young ones who are not in a relationship yet, please watch this video and listen carefully, don’t live to regret, you are too precious for such a life. Blessings to you 🙏
Dear Agnes, please do that video and concentrate more on people in marriage for over a number of years. And what solutions can be there for different scenarios
So true my sister. Thank you for your obedience in sharing. Single women I pray that God opens your eyes and ears. Matthew 11:15 He who has ears let him hear. Please listen to what our sister has shared it’s of utmost importance. I was in a relationship of this kind for 10 years. What my sister has shared is spot on. To God be the glory, thank you. I am always blessed, encouraged, empowered and uplifting by your words. God bless you 🙏🏾
Thanks so much for sharing sis Agnes...i can testify what you are saying is absolutely 💯 true because i was a victim for 19yrs...but we separated last year with kind of a Narcissist man...am in a process of healing from toxins and abusive kind of marriage. Those guys have sold their soul to the devil
May we also not be narcissists in our relationships. We sometimes feel like we're being robbed or controlled yet we're also the one's behaving like that. Thank u for this message. May the grace of God be with us all🙏
Thank you for your encouragement! I am finding peace and healing in God's Word and the love of Jesus. I made an exit this past January, from a malignant narcissist, who threatened my life on Dec 8th. God made a way for me to find a new home and with help from wonderful friends, I left him without his knowledge of my move. He returned the next day to find an empty house. Praise be to God!!
Mine threatens me to leave everyday. Says we're just housemates. Forced me to sllep in the girls' bedroom. Poursvwater on me when am in bed and hurls abuses at me morning before he leaves and at night when he comes back. He's tried beating mevup severally and three days ago only succeeded in kicking my face because the wall of firevthat i commanded around me keeps him at bay. Am done. Second time happeningvis once too many. A man who abuses his own children wkth the very same abuses he uses on you.
You couldn't have told me God didn't send her when we 1st met. Overlooked so many red flags you'd thought i was Stevie wonder 😂 I thank God daily for getting me out of that relationship because i was too weak to leave. Last 4 of the 5 years i was confused, depressed and defeated felt like i didn't wanna be here anymore. In the end i learned i had some narcissistic ways also myself. Glory be to God for delivering me from that too 🙌🏾
Well said ! The truth that sets free indeed. This is such an eye opener. This is exposing how the enemy creeps into lives of innocent children of God to make their lives a living hell and to push them away from God and Christ Jesus. Thanks alot Agnes for exposing this trap of the enemy. God is using you in a mighty was to bring his protection to His children. I give God and Christ Jesus all the Glory for this.
i am currently going through a lot of war fare with my narcissistic mom & ex / my sons dad..… thank you for reminding me that God will give me and my son a powerful testimonies…
Thank you Sis Agnes for this message. I suffered emotionally from a narcissist. He took my peace and he affected me mentally to an extent that i ended up seeking psychological help.
It's 😒draining just to hear someone talk about their behaviors. Feels like waddling around in misery, refusing to OBEY🙏🏾🕊️🌿 INSTRUCTIONS from GOD FOR SAFETY. Agnes you addressed this topic well as you ALWAYS DO!
I met someone who was manipulative,he was not supporting my hustle but can you imagine his intentions were to control my life. I rebuke that spirit. May the holy spirit guide me to another relationship
Glory be to God. Wow! Narcissistic husband, mother, father and siblings. May God touch their lives to love and not to manipulate. God bless you woman of God for this teaching. Thank you for the counsel. Much love❤
Thank you Sis Agnes, this message is so powerful. Surprisingly there are others in this category. A very powerful message. Thanks to all who have commented.
Thank you for this explicit message. I was in such relationship for years but God in His mercy gave me the courage to walk away. Everything you say is TRUE. God bless you.
Amen. That is so true Sis Agnes. I was in such a marriage for 15yrs without me noticing that l am staying with a narcissistic until after divorce that's when l realized the intentions of the person. I was controlled, cheated at manipulated. I was blamed and accused for this and that. The person gave me an impression that he loves and cares for me to a point that l gave up my career and became a full time housewife and today he left me for another woman and l am starting all over again. They are big liars to outsiders they look like they are saints. I was blinded by love and l was made to think that whatever he was saying was fir for the good of my family because l wanted peace in my family. I had no peace in my marriage until that narcissistic behavior went on to abuse.
Dear Sister Agnes, thank you so much for this message.... It wouldn't have come at a better time..... God is faithful, God is alive and God is on my side..... May this ministry grow in lips and bounds....
I can relate very well and before I watched this,I put up a status about how manipulation can cause you to miss God’s promises for you, not knowing Aunty Agness was going to talk about it today, lord am grateful 🙏🏼
I needed this message 16 years ago. I am getting out of this marriage, as I have nothing left to give or lose. Thank you Sis. Agnes, this was a confirming word needed for my life.
I'm in tears as I listen to this message. 18yrs of horror,I couldn't go to church,I couldn't pray,he criticized everything I did. He never offered any love to me,I was always at fault. He thrived in suspicion. His ego was so high I couldn't reason anything with him. God Himself rescued me few months ago and has given me a brand new life. However I got a court case because he want to have the children and completely lock me out of their lives,but I trust God for victory. Thank you ma'am for the enlightenment, narcissism is demonic sent to silence and oppress women that have their hearts sold out to God.
Oh la la la , I CANNOT thank you enough sister Agnes for thus wonderful message. All what you have said is very true. It's an eye opener or a reminder. I will share this video all over the world. People are suffering in silence while the devil is taking advantage to destroy others. May our God inspire you more in Jesus' Holy Name Amen . OUR GOD LIVES
Very helpful and insightful, thank you! I wish I had realized those truths earlier. I'm in divorce now with a psychopatic narcissist, was through physical abuse and emotional abuse. Those people try to destroy your identity, it's an attack against who you are. That's mean and evil. God calls us His children, those people put us down deep, destroying our will, confidence, causing confusion, exhaustion and hopelessness. Run for your life! Protect yourselves from having children with those people. All they do is to use them, to manipulate them, to destroy them. They have no mercy to their own children! In God I trust to save me and my daugther!
I'm very sorry I spent 20 years with a girl who didn't love me and didn't see it cuz I was taught that to be a guy it's just good enough if somebody doesn't reject you but enough about me uses his own learning experience to teach your children the only give value to people in their lives that truly love them back and have their best interest in mind and also to forgive those who can't love others because they are hurting inside as well I'm not religious but I am deeply empathic and love everyone through recognizing the faults in myself and being able to see them in other people even if they hide it
When I found this channel I was Soo down, doubted myself, was slowly sinking into depression....... This far I say it's God. When you stay woke spiritually God Will always Show you The trap they've set for you.
I'm currently also counseling one lady who's husband of 18 years plus 3 kids is a narcissist, she's the sweetest woman ever and her kids keep telling mommy that let's leave dad and start life afresh. It's sad because there thousands of my fellow south Africans 🇿🇦 out there who are faced with these kinds of people in their lives but they'll rather go to their so called ancestors and sangomas for help, but little do they know that they're adding fuel to the fire 🔥. Some people become narcissist when they've recieved powers (ukuthwala) to be rich and feared and that goes as deep as killing people because thier power needs blood to eat every once in a while hence our family members keep dying and dying until there is no one left in the family and those deaths need to be concealed properly you know and a lot wont notice. oh Lord I can say a mouthful... It's not a shame to give your life to Christ Jesus. May God bless you all
Thank you Lord for revealing such hidden things through our sister Agnes,. Sometimes I wonder how my children react over some issues, and have always thought of them being manipulated by some family members from their father's side, but when God is revealing such things, he is also bringing solutions.Thank you sister Agnes for sharing this message.
This message it's really help me out seriously. I was with someone in a relationship the same way Mrs Mumbi explained is exactly 💯 that person is. I am out...and I am free indeed
Love them from a distance, even if it's family and pray for them. Family tends to think that they have the right to abuse and disrespect you & you have no choice but to endure, but that is not the case. God will not punish you because you choose your peace. One must protect one's peace at all cost. Don't harbour hatred or resentment for them in your heart. If you do, because of all the emotional abuse you've tolerated and because you're human, pray that God delivers you from that. Keep your heart and space pure. Praying for them is the only answer.
Amen we need to pray for them,my husband is narcissistic and I come to realise it few weeks ago,I first thought he had a mental disorder and possessed.Benn with him for 3years now,and he left back to his country leaving me with our kids which he does all the time,he is unstable and thinks everybody is against him even me,we are in distance and not sure to be close soon because he is violent and unpredictable,for my children I stay far for our safety.but narcissistic can really destroy all your life and does not want your peace.But my God is a God of justice,truth and love.I will keep praying for him till God changes his stone heart to a golden heart.God bless this woman for this important msg.
May God bless you abundantly my dear sister, I discovered last year about this type of people and found that my mother is a narcissist, a colleague and so many others its like God keeps bringing them to me. I was also about to become one, but I thank God he made me become a born again christian so now I can easily spot narcissistic people. It's so painful what the devil can do to God's people and yet when you introduce Jesus to them they want to chew you alive bcos they hate everything about God and the sad thing is that the very same God is the solution to thier problems.
I love your videos. I have recently left a very bad relationship. He is a malignant narcissist. I trust that God will protect me against his rage. God bless you.
I have been doing quite a bit of research on narcissism but this video has given me a whole new dimension of looking at things.. it's a very painful experience. Information is power. knowing that this is happening not because of your mistakes but because of this person's choice gives you liberty.
Amen Sister! For sure this is my massage and God has absolutely answered my prayers through this massage..I now understand the kind of a man I have been living with..I have been through rough you can't set alarm to wake me up for prayers.. when I cry to God in the seating room he comes and syas I am making for him noise ..I buy him clothes, perfumes etc ..he has never ever cared and appreciated and done to me.. whenever I fast God reveals secrets things he is doing and I Tell. Him I have had dreams....Now after firing so maybe prayers to reveal more about this marriage..on 9th the first 21 days of pray and fasting..he packed he belongs and left to sq telling his family that I am a witch he is saving his Life 😂😂 I found out that he has a stick in his wallet.. This is my massage hallelujah 🤗🤗
Hello my dear sister I have with dealing this behavior for many years over 25 years now .but I have been getting videos how to deal with it .but I believe God will deliver us from these demons . thank you and God bless. Caledon Canada 🍁
Wow 😢😢😢This is for me and am married to one every time is a fight and I can not even touch his phone am praying for God to bless me with a house for me and my children so I come out in this marriage I just need peace 🙏🏽
So true. I couldn't even recognize myself anymore. He definitely wasn't for me . He did not ask my hand in marriage...I asked my father for his blessings...I was so deceived...plus my biological father wasn't for me. Unfortunately I was dumb..."My people perish for lack of knowlede."
Thank you for this message. Wow! Everything you said is true, I experience all of it. I was in a narcissistic relationship for 8 years. I was emotionally abused so badly but I didn’t know about narcissism at that time. But praise the Lord for giving me the strength to leave after 8 years. I waited for him to change but he never did when I finally left I felt emotionally drained, and exhausted. And yes he sucked all my energy. He is an energy vampire. God is great he gave me the strength to run 🏃♀️ from that 👿 and after 4 years I am now healed moving forward in Jesus name 🙏 28:25
Blessings to you family! This video is as a warning from God. Use wisdom as you move forward and God will do the rest 🙏🏽❤️
Blessings to you woman of God, thank you for this message, what will I do, if I find people like this inside the house of God? Please help me with this question 😔
Thank you so MUCH mummy... this massage is for me... what am going through in my marriage life is what you talking about... THANK you
Amen ! Thank you so much sister Agnès. This message is so réal !
Amen sisterAgness may God bless u it's hard to love someone who doesn't love u back as for me I quit this relashonship oh God help me to see good partner with good manners
Greetings you sister Agnes thank so much for this message. 🙏🙏
After two kids, 10 year relationship, I left and never felt so relieved, now he's refusing to support his kids financially just to punish me. he doesn't know I serve Jehovah Jirah, my Father in Heaven will provide. HalleluYah🕊💫🙏
You are not alone mine did the same thing. He got al those qualities. But God is always faithful
Same story here, 12 years of pain and 2 kids later, it has finally dawned on me that he's a bitter narcissist. Separated now and he's using money to try to punish and control me.
And these relationships make you even weak to pray. Dear Jesus save me. Thank you Jesus for this message. Thank you sister Agnes.
True
Yes, if you are there already just run, run my sister, before you lose your mind
Yes! Very true
Very true.
Yes, they suppressed your prayer life. I noticed that too...mhm
I had an ex boyfriend who was narcissist,he could be called by his lovers when am with him calling him "babe"if I dare ask I could be bitten mercilessly,he hits me on the wall,,verbal harsh words😭,am telling you when your in this ,the person makes you have low esteem of your self ,you even think if you leave him you will never get another man to love you,I could sleep crying like a baby,he could not talk to me,he could tell me to cry until I cry blood,he could turn and start chatting with women,I could peep and see it's women,I couldn't pray,I loved him until I had no time to love myself,until I wasn't attending classes in college,lemmie tell you guys one day I decided to give up and move on,I decided to do it in bits,I decided to assume I don't have a man with me,stop being hurted by his actions,never question anything from him and assume he is no longer my boyfriend,we were in the same house,I took a paper and wrote 4pages crying and removing all my pains in that paper,I went and hidden it somewhere,it took me two weeks and I was done with him from my heart,it was a lunch hour one day eating lunch I had prepared,I told him in a joking way that,I wanted Mee and him to part peacefully,he thought it was a joke,I took out the paper I had written I gave it to him and told him to take everything that belonged to him and go,and it raised another form of fight of which I wasn't ready for it,he realized I had already made up with my mind and I had realized who I am,he saw a lady he didn't know about and ahe took everything including his shirt I was wearing I was told to remove and the phone I was using he took it, everything and I was there to hand over everything unto him and he went ,I found peace being alone,I went back to my father God,he bandaged my wounds,healed me,I moved on and I found love again,the best love I can never imagine that it exists,a God fearing man,a man who can never raise his voice to me,we are now on our 4th year and we have achieved alot with him.
God win .
Wow Amen
I love this statement " you love them till you have stop loving yourself" and they still want more from you!
I just found out from my daughter-in-law that my son is a narcissist. They are in the middle of a divorce after being married 29 years. They are both 42 years old with 4 kids. She started telling me the things he has done to her and the kids. He confessed that he was a Christian years ago, he knows the Bible inside and out. Then I am reminded so does Satan. He told the pastor that the Lord told him to divorce his wife ( She’s the one who finally told him he has to go.) When they were dating I told her his behavior I would have never tolerated. He was always controlling. He was the only one working, thank God he has a good paying job. She said she loves him. They dated from junior high school and never dated anyone else. Of course he stepped out on her a few times and she continued to keep him in her life until last year. Of course he is giving her a hard time regarding the divorce, he acts like she cheated on him, but he is the one with the girlfriends. he has a girlfriend and they now live together regardless of the divorce not being finalized. Listen , this video is accurate to a T. Ladies and gents if you see the red flags run and don’t look back. if you don’t you will live a unhappy life. This is the fifth video that I watched on RUclips trying to understand this behavior. Gods wants you to be happy. Being with a person who hurts you to your core is not happiness, being by yourself in peace and with the Lord is happiness. Also, note doctors say it almost impossible for a narcissist to be healed. It would take a miracle. Being under the influence of demonic influence would mean this type of person needs deliverance! It breaks my heart to know that my son has this condition. My daughter in law gets professional help now, and she is blossoming into her own. She helps coach families with disability children , because one of her kids has a disability. She’s in school studying online and working during the day, also getting her licenses together to help others and hopefully in the future go into her own business. God has truly blessed her as she depends on Him . She is a new person, praise God. God bless Mumbi and her ministry. God bless all who tune in and listen.
Powerful testimony
I love today's topic. I was in a marriage with a Narc for 8 years and they were years of sufferings but I thank God he gave me courage to leave with 3 children. I blame myself for the mysteries I underwent while in that marriage because before I got married, I prayed for a husband for some reason I met this man and thought it was an answered prayer.. unfortunately while dating there were several redflags which I never paid attention to..I asked God for a sign if he was the one, but I never got an answer but I went on to marry him anyway.. eventually, I regretted and asked God for forgiveness.
I remember the more I prayed while still in the union the worse my situation got.
You telling my story, peace and blessings to us both
My 1st marriage i got warning from God ,i entered another one before confirmation from him i have cried eversince i got him its now 9yrs with one son but am done with it
The red flags were answers from GOD. We have to ask HIM for the Spirit of discernment to understand what GOD is showing us. 🙏🏽
I have now learnt over the years that the Holy Spirit always show us the red flags but we are always "too in love' to pay attention and eventually be in a miserable life.
This is exactly my story 😢 😭 😪 💔 😞
I also didn't get any answer when I prayed
It was later GOD told me that I should have changed my prayer request to why am I not getting any answer
I just ended a relationship with a narcissist it was emotionally draining. Enough with the manipulation, gaslighting and emotionally abuse. He would suddenly go silent on me just to punish me. I thank God for this. I would end up apologising everytime. He uses money as a tool of control.
I can relate
So true , but God is bigger than him I got the strength to walk away from him he doesn't call his daughter and she just turn 6 years , but God is my strength of our life .
Very True. I walked out of it.. And never regret it. Thankfull God opened my eyes. God really make a way
May God help us
Yes in the same situation leaving soon as well. It's been 19 yrs.
Narcissists tug at your heart string and back you up in a corner and keep hurting you and when you react they say you are emotionally unstable and tell people all kinds of hurting untrue things about you.
This is the message God put in my heart yesterday I was remembering how God saved me from a narcissistic boyfriend, when I met this person I thought to my self he was the one for me, little did I know that he was sent by the enemy, I was always doing things he wanted but he never did the same ,he lied that he was single when in fact he had a wife , God saved me from that relationship when I surrendered to God for him to choose the person he knew was the right person for me and am here testifying that God has given me more than I ever thought or ever imagined that I could meet the man God has given me now.
This topic is eye opening thank you very much🙏🏿..I can relate .
Exactly what i have been experiencing but God helped me to get out of that ugly relationship.
I pray God brings me the right man
I have passed through it twice, thanks God for his mercy
Congratulations mukazi, we give glory to God🙏
God is faithful and he never leaves us in the hands of the 😈 👿 devil, I went through the same thing 🙏 bur God revealed his true character
I didn’t know my husband was narcissistic until after I divorced him( after 23 yrs )I haven’t shedded one tear since I left. I got crucified by the church. I didn’t care. I’m free ❤❤😁
Cynthia Tramil you don't need the church, you need God
@@frankiemorgan8056 , I’m full of Holy Spirit. 😁
Cynthia..abuse is not to be tolerated.forget the church that enables these demonically infested monsters. You didn.t divorce. This was never your god given spouse.
Cynthia I am glad there are these videos. And it’s coming out they are everywhere the narcissists. It’s after years, you realise you are dealing with a narcissist!
I just left a relationship of 23 years with my first and only and it took me four years of suspecting she was a narcissist for me to give up and I didn't shed one tear for her either because I realized I didn't even know who she was and now that I do I only have pity for her inability to love somebody like how I love everyone
Thank you so much for talking about this. God was so good to expose the last one I got caught up with. He was a covert, the most dangerous kind in my opinion. Claimed to be a real Christian but showed zero fruit. He was deceitful, secretly jealous of me and appreciated nothing I did for our relationship. I’m a really happy person, in under a year he turned my smiles to tears. He would laugh at me as I cried. Once God started to expose him, I left. They are the hardest relationships to leave, bc you have to leave the lies you believed as well about living happily ever after. I’m getting older and I believe the devil sent me this person to attempt to delay and destroy my destiny. God saved me! To anyone dating one, get out now and stay out. They are spiritual robbers and destiny killers. Nothing to say or do will make these kinds change unless they want to and honestly they don’t. Give up now, pick someone else.
I was hurt when he used my lip as his ash tray and when I started crying he looked at me and said look you’re ruining your makeup 😫
@@nessahjay2270 that’s awful. Run and don’t ever look back
That's good that u left such a toxic relationship 🙏
@@nessahjay2270
please leave him ASAP !
And don't ever look back.
He is an offspring of the devil, a PSYCHOPATH at best.
Thank you, sister. My own household has been controlled by this spirit , both of my adult children; the more you do for them, the more they abuse you.
Not allowing your children to properly detach can cause narcissism and that can most likely be because you have a deep insecurity that your only job is to raise children and that's your only value so you carry out this task with hyper-vigilance
The relationship with the father of my children nearly drove me crazy. I nearly lost everything even my connection to God. It was mentioned that even praying becomes hard.. I can agree with this.."they" really have their ways to break your soul😢I thank God for helping me escape
God our Heavenly Father Be WITH You, I can relate.
I had no idea Love an Unconditional Love we are to represent as Children of God walking in Jesus character, I had no idea how horribly bad what I learned Live was go so rejected discarded dismissed and abused unwanted. My spirit truthfully was shattered. I started being angry at God. I fell into a very dark place slowly I’m getting out and running back to My God who would never ever forsake me or throw me away. There is no reasons to chase after a man who will never love me ever as the word of God states in the Bible. Acceptance is hard the result is truthfully freeing. Jesus keep showing me truths and guiding me.
And this young woman too. Jesus you YOU ARE THE ONLY ABSOLUTE TRUTH OF LOVE TO CHASE AFTER.
I’ve done extensive research on Narcissism, and this by far is one of the BEST descriptions from a Godly/Spiritual perspective. God bless you for helping many of us who are going through this type of relationship. I’m currently planning my exit for the third time. Not going back this time. It’s been a NIGHTMARE.
I got out finally on third time. Are you ok
Mine will be the second and final time. Thank you Jesus. I chanced upon this at a time when i was asking God if i really made a wise decision to come back to him. Three kids two badly broken by his behaviour yet it's just almost a year of reunion.
@@franceshaggitt3104 yes I am fine, thank you for asking. Just need OUT
@@charityanyango2742
When you come back and it's the same or worse , it's an answer from God to go away.
Love, May God help you in your journey out and after. God bless your children, they will thank you later.
Thanks Agnes. I have been married to a narcissist man for the last 30 years and it has been nothing but pain. It is like I have been caged. I would come from work late and he would give me a thorough beating, if I happen to go see my mother upcountry he would not allow me to sleep there, if I did he would call my parents to confirm that am there insisting that I talk to him on their phone. If I buy a property he would say it's my boyfriends who bought for me. If I wake up to pray at night he would say there is nowhere in the Bible written that one prays at night. My friends and relatives are not supposed to visit me. He has torchered me physically and emotionally. I hate where he has placed me. I have decided that I want to quit. I could write a whole book of the persecution s I have endured. On part 2 of this topic dwell more on those in marriages for a long time with narcissists. He has made me hate marriage soooooo much.
I can relate although that seems to be worse...I pray that we will finally overcome sis...they make you feel small yet you are big....it's like you are threat...
You feel like you are in competition...aaah thank you Holy Spirit. They will never be wrong and will never be sorry
You are even lucky that you have your own money God heal you iv gone through the same bt God of mercy have shown me mercy
My dear your problems same like me but GOD is watching us all the time it's too painful for me l don't know what to do now so GOD help us
Ooh sorry my dear fill lived by whatever has a beginning has an end you will never suffer for ever
Amen!! I wish that the church understood narcissism more, and we are definitely wrestling with something evil when it comes to narcissists.
Sadly it won't be recognize because the main narcissism in the church is from the pulpit.
The church is loaded with evil spirits and narcissists and spiritual abuse by narcissistic church leaders and pastors. 😢
Sometimes I think there are more narcissists in church than in the 'world'
My husband is a church leader, and he is the textbook definition of a Narcissist. The Christian narc is proud, legalistic and egoistic.
They are often high achievers, and therefore knownhow to buy the praise and affection of people around them with money.
In the church, they are often the biggest givers, BUT it's all for show, and manipulation.
They are the modern day Pharisees.
It's so so sad.
@@oluwatoyin6348 you said it well 👏
@@oluwatoyin6348very true I thought I was the only one who could see this
I’ve been with a narcissist for 20 years married for 18 years.
He has asked me for a divorce and I’m seeking the Lord for my next chapter in life.
Single people…Never ever settle because when you settle you will get what you settled for 🙏🏾
10 yrs in marriage and u hv described exactly what I am going through. I have lost myself. I have nothing else left to give because I have done everything I can. I have given everything I have nothing more to give. Oh Father in heaven I still believe in You wholeheartedly but I am empty inside, I am exhausted, I am hurting hear my prayer as you heard Hannah, Sarah, Ruth, Esther. You have done it before, You can still do it again.
I was with one for four years, and almost married him. Laughed at my pain, threw my past trauma and pain in my face, physically, mentally, and verbally abused me. Thank God for answering my prayers and showing me this person was not for me! Now I’m planning my wedding with a TRUE man of God. Thank you Lord!
I am so drained 😩. Worse part of it he is a serial cheater. Sad part of it someone stole my clothes so that I don't get employment. Just finished my 21 days fasting yesterday. Today I get a rejection from my interview last month. 2 interviews I missed because something went to my eye I went blind and I got admitted in hospital. No matter what He is still God 😭. 3 weeks back he took my son and introduced the side chick to him and told him she's her mom I am the aunt. It is well with my soul.
May God be with you all the time my dear ...Psalms 118:17 upon your life may you tell of the goodness of the Lord in testimony one day.
This is the a truth that every sister needs to hear . It is true that the relationship is so draining .It can result in Blood Pressure .Run with you life if you are not married. I am experiencing this and some days it even get hard to pray . Honestly it's been 11 years and if I did not have to think of the children I would flee too. May God give a spirit of discernment to all not married. To all those in marriage I pray God intervention because not only does it destroy you but it affects the children and even extended family relationship friendships. You are left alone but God is faithful he will advise deliver .
What you have taught is right, am married to such a person for 18yrs, but I love him so much, he treated me just the way you say, but he left to marry another woman, so should I still pray for him to change.
Such a profound and crucial topic... So spot on Mam Agnes. I don't even know where to start there's so much to be said about 'narcissists'. Most important is to be aware of how we feel when around certain people. Most times you would tell that something is off about that certain person, especially narcissists. The big favour you can do for yourself is to never ignore that feeling because you will then overlook every other red flag. The signs mentioned are spot on. At the very beginning, they appear so angelic you would be so sure you are soulmates. They bombard you with compliments, buy you a lot of gifts basically worship the ground you walk on, this is called "love bombing". They (appear to) understand you and your struggles, and they 'support you', in fact, they are going through the same challenges you are going through, and oh, even like the same music you do, "wow", soulmates right? No, they are "mirroring you" pretending to understand every bit about you, this is to just make you fall for them... and they make sure they move so fast that you don't have time to process anything, then you get caught like that. Then once they have you, the mask starts to fall off, and by that time you might be married, when you start to see the monster you've never seen before then all hell breaks loose. You'll end up not recognising yourself, not trusting your thoughts and things you actually can see with your eyes because you're being manipulated or "gaslighted"... I can go on all day. Really, the only way is to not be near these people, the same rule may not apply to everyone though. God will lead and guide you into what to do, specific to you.
You've made me blush😍 at the sametime gaining wisdom,thanks!
I agree with this
@@jacklinekabazarwe1438 you're welcome
True
Thank you, this is all about me
Thank you sister Agnes. Most of us going through hell with a thought that someday this person will change. Holy spirit speaking to me.
I wish I had known this before I got married. Anyway, it was my fault because I didn't ask God for wisdom. The red flags were there, but I.was so blinded. Now, 30 years later, my eyes are opened. That's a lifetime, gone. Thank you for sharing and may people be aware of narcissists before they get married. God bless you. This has been helpful and I want to pass on this message to my daughters and loved ones.
Thanks so much dia,am blessed with this message. God bless you mighty
The Lord promises to restore what the cankerworm has eaten-Joel 2
Dont worry God is in control. I have exactly same situation and married 30yrs too. He will do it far more than we think he can do.😊
Thank you for highlighting this - this applies to family members too - not just partners.
P new, you are right.
And workplaces
This is a topic that can never be discussed enough. This is an evil spirit that exists even in BUSINESS RELATIONSHIPS. Let me tell you it is a NIGHTMARE they except no responsibility for what they do wrong! Everything is always your fault and just like Sister Agnes says all of the focus and attention has got to be on them ALL the time...OMG. You can be about to die and they won't feel any sympathy for you when something is wrong with you. If they do something that looks kind don't be fooled, they have a strategic reason for their purpose to have power over you. The only way to end things with them is to leave them without notice for your own sanity's sake 😱 in JESUS name! Run ! RUN!
Amen!!!!
God bless you sis! You hit so many points! I dated one. Their level of ‘woe is me’ is out of this point, also it takes a really long time to realize you’re being used if you’re not aware of what’s going on!
Wow, I was accused after I've found that my husband is lying to me. The whole family turned against me, was accused and the relationship nearly destroyed.
I thank God for His mercy and wisdom that I now know how to associate and leave with them. With God upon my life, I'm more than a conquerer.
Thanks sister for this video
Woow. On time. This gives me lot of courage to walk away. I know it is hard but it's worth it..Thank you Lord for this revelation. I need serious prayers.
God We're here together as one ! We're greatful for saving us from thé evil of this world. Thank you so much sister Agnès for reminding and guiding us... of
Amen ,thank you be blessed
The enemy has blessed them with a huge amount of insecurity. Everything revolves around them. I was once told, "I am your god, when I call you respond within a second". And like most comments I've read, I bossed myself into the relationship. Thank God for His grace and faithfulness.
U r r so right sis....I hve ended such a relationship 3 years ago , now I leave a happy life without being accused all the time....Thnx to my Almighty God who gave me the strength to move out 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for this topic. I also had a narcissist boyfriend and I really wouldn't see how toxic he was. I thought I would adapt to his behaviors, I thought it wasn't fair for me to leave him. The only time I was happy with him was the first month when we started dating and after that, it was only pain. We could break up and before I got over it, he came back to me whith a bunch of lies and I thought he loved me.
All along, I thought he was single yet he had someone and I found out that when I went to see him and it was just a day after he had done his traditional wedding and a church wedding coming next in two weeks time. I was broken 💔 but I thank God that that relationship actually didn't work out. God was there for me and I finally healed.
Later on God gave me a good man and I can't thank Him enough.
Thank you sister Agnes for this topic, it's true most of our marriages are wrong and full of pain for many years may the spirit of God show us the way out in Jesus name before we think of quiting after putting in so many years in these marriages. Dear God please we cry for your help.
I am two months out of such a relationship. Classic narcissist. He drained me completely. No church, no prayer, no talking to friends, etc. I got distanced even from my children, sisters and relatives. He drained me out spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially. God helped me out. All you have said is true. Do not ignore those red flags.
God is with you and always faithful
Same! You cannot even worship! I sleep with earphoes on every single night yet we dont even share bedroom..
I bless God , I thought I was wrong to come out of that relationship but it was God, he was always emotionally absent but always wants attention unnecessarily, thank you Jesus and you sister for highlighting this🙏
This generation is blessed to know these things now. Hallelujah
I knew I shouldn’t have married my husband… I ignored all the red flags … I asked for signs and He showed me every reason why not to Mary him …but ofcourse we always find someway in our hearts to stay…. Jesus even came to me in a dream and asked me why did I married him I’ll never forget😮💨😔
So true, I saw the signs all along and was and ignoring them. Thank God for his grace and love; he finally rescued me from a narcissistic!
I can identify with every word coming out of your mouth Mumbi this exactly explains what happened to me. I left my narcissistic husband after 42 years with only my personal effects, my name blackened, my entire life shattered as I stood alone without support from my children. Praise to the Lord who is carrying me through! This truth you are sharing needs to be heard. Christians are sometimes not aware of this kind of evil that does exist in more ways than one can imagine. Bless you for sharing.
Thank you my sister in Christ. Ten months in and I walked away from a person I strongly believed to be a narcissist. He was egoistic and arrogant. So full of himself. I thought I found the one for me because he was a 'Christian' and very ambitious. Something I have always wanted. After 4 months things shifted. I was accused countless of times and he attempted to control and manipulate me. When we started dating I had a dream that I wanted to walk away and he wouldn't let me. I didn't see how that would be possible because what we had was so amazing (so I thought). He love-bombed me. Said all the nice things. Only to turn around and tried to emotionally abused me. Had I not know who I was he would have damaged my self-esteem. In the end walking away was so hard. He wouldn't let me go. He asked for all his money back that he spent on me. Absolutely ridiculous. It was my worst experience to date. I thank God for healing and deliverance.
omg, my grandmother is like this, she is never wrong. she has really caused so many issues in her own family( shehas really frustrated her children and their families.) This video has opened my eyes that With God all things will be perfect
Same
This is so true. Especially the fact that they are in pain themselves. The enemy is using them.
Thank you sis Agnes for this powerful message let God exposed any hidden situation in our family and spouses in jesus name God bless you🙏
They are in our churches too as some pastors. When you disagree with them they start fighting you with demonic powers.
I have personally experienced this...and it can break you to a point of feeling condemned
So much wisdom. There are married people who been hurt emotionally and physically and some even killed since they ignored narcissists.
Sometimes people should even leave marriages with a narcissistic partner
This was so good! Thank you. In the process of divorcing my narcissistic husband of 15yrs. I know this is not what God wants for my life. They don’t change. Only God can change them. Until then, I need to work on me.
I'm still with the narc. I'm leaving today. God has made a way for me to leave for good! Praise the Lord! It's made me physically sick! Hormone issues, chronic stress, depression/anxiety, gut issues. I saw the red flags 12 years ago and ignored them. He has tried turning our daughter against me! Please if anyone sees this message, you need to run and run fast before it becomes a crazy addiction! God has been trying to show me for so long but its been so hard for me to leave because I did love him. I've been praying for God to take my love for him away and he has now! Praise the Lord! Please take my advice and run! You will only get sicker and sicker until you want to kill yourself or wither away and die. Thank you for this video! Pray for me and my daughter please. I know as long as I'm trusting God, he will keep us safe. He never admits to anything Even when I had proof! So that starts to make you think your crazy even though you see it with you own eyes. They are so evil! They don't care about you! They really hate you! He also claims to be a Christian and has used the bible against me. He goes to church every Sunday!
Thank you sister for the message. I have been in marriage for 18 years and everything you share happened in my marriagr and even my ex husband tried his best to turn our children agaunst me but God didnt let it happen. I have divorced him and I have the children. Thank God for releasing me frim this marriage.
This is real. They manipulate people to hate you yet they are the cause of your pain
Praise the LORD!!!
Praise God🙏🙏🙏🙏👍👍👍
We will never be enough for a person with an empty soul.
I ended a relationship with a narcissist and it was difficult to get away. I prayed for four months for God to help me end it and He made a way. After one month of being away from the narcissist, I have more peace, my happiness is returning and I’m starting to get my energy back. I was fooled, but God showed me this person just in time. I will always thank God. Amen
Thank you sister Agnes, for this video. If you could please make another one with advices or solutions for someone who is already married or in a relationship with a narcissist, what does he/she do after so many years if marriage? Blessings to you and thank you for allowing God to use you . Shalom 🙏🙏🙏
And for you young ones who are not in a relationship yet, please watch this video and listen carefully, don’t live to regret, you are too precious for such a life. Blessings to you 🙏
Thnx dia 💓
Yes please...how does one deal with a draining partner who does not appreciate you?
@@jannynansubuga6478 Please leave, God will always provide and comfort you along the way.
Dear Agnes, please do that video and concentrate more on people in marriage for over a number of years. And what solutions can be there for different scenarios
@@akullumartine5961 Absolutely 💯. Please do a video of solutions especially if one is already in the mess of a marriage.
Oh my God what a message for me... God has spoken.. thank you so very much sister Aggie... Iam blessed🙏😔
God actually delivered me from such a relationship. It was 8years of pain
So true my sister. Thank you for your obedience in sharing. Single women I pray that God opens your eyes and ears. Matthew 11:15 He who has ears let him hear.
Please listen to what our sister has shared it’s of utmost importance. I was in a relationship of this kind for 10 years. What my sister has shared is spot on. To God be
the glory, thank you. I am always blessed, encouraged, empowered and uplifting by your words. God bless you 🙏🏾
Thanks so much for sharing sis Agnes...i can testify what you are saying is absolutely 💯 true because i was a victim for 19yrs...but we separated last year with kind of a Narcissist man...am in a process of healing from toxins and abusive kind of marriage. Those guys have sold their soul to the devil
May we also not be narcissists in our relationships. We sometimes feel like we're being robbed or controlled yet we're also the one's behaving like that. Thank u for this message. May the grace of God be with us all🙏
That’s what the narcissistic will
Have you feeling😂 like you need to question your own integrity
Narcissist will make you believe what you just said my darling
That’s what a narcissist would say dear
Thank you Lord for taking me away from a narcissist relationship 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for your encouragement! I am finding peace and healing in God's Word and the love of Jesus. I made an exit this past January, from a malignant narcissist, who threatened my life on Dec 8th. God made a way for me to find a new home and with help from wonderful friends, I left him without his knowledge of my move. He returned the next day to find an empty house. Praise be to God!!
Thank God you made it....a ministry is born out of this...looking forward to seeing great things#goforwardijn
Mine threatens me to leave everyday. Says we're just housemates. Forced me to sllep in the girls' bedroom. Poursvwater on me when am in bed and hurls abuses at me morning before he leaves and at night when he comes back. He's tried beating mevup severally and three days ago only succeeded in kicking my face because the wall of firevthat i commanded around me keeps him at bay. Am done. Second time happeningvis once too many. A man who abuses his own children wkth the very same abuses he uses on you.
You couldn't have told me God didn't send her when we 1st met. Overlooked so many red flags you'd thought i was Stevie wonder 😂 I thank God daily for getting me out of that relationship because i was too weak to leave. Last 4 of the 5 years i was confused, depressed and defeated felt like i didn't wanna be here anymore. In the end i learned i had some narcissistic ways also myself. Glory be to God for delivering me from that too 🙌🏾
Amen and Amen 🙏
Well said ! The truth that sets free indeed. This is such an eye opener. This is exposing how the enemy creeps into lives of innocent children of God to make their lives a living hell and to push them away from God and Christ Jesus. Thanks alot Agnes for exposing this trap of the enemy. God is using you in a mighty was to bring his protection to His children. I give God and Christ Jesus all the Glory for this.
Well said.
i am currently going through a lot of war fare with my narcissistic mom & ex / my sons dad..… thank you for reminding me that God will give me and my son a powerful testimonies…
Thank you Sis Agnes for this message. I suffered emotionally from a narcissist. He took my peace and he affected me mentally to an extent that i ended up seeking psychological help.
Aggie , this video is one of the best of your videos I've ever watched . God is really using you nightly. Keep it up.
Thank you sister Agnes for the eye opener. I thank God for rescuing me from this kind of relationship.
I am now free.
I am also in a narcissistic marriage.I have tried to move out of the marriage but my efforts is in vain.I pray to God to give me the right person
You have to leave this relationship in order for the right person to come along…. GO NOW BE IN Control
You don't let them know u are leaving, that way it's easier. If they know, they most likely won't let u leave
Serious Message for Christians. We are blessed to have this message. The topic of narcissism is not taught in churches.
It's 😒draining just to hear someone talk about their behaviors. Feels like waddling around in misery, refusing to OBEY🙏🏾🕊️🌿 INSTRUCTIONS from GOD FOR SAFETY. Agnes you addressed this topic well as you ALWAYS DO!
I met someone who was manipulative,he was not supporting my hustle but can you imagine his intentions were to control my life.
I rebuke that spirit.
May the holy spirit guide me to another relationship
Glory be to God. Wow! Narcissistic husband, mother, father and siblings. May God touch their lives to love and not to manipulate. God bless you woman of God for this teaching. Thank you for the counsel. Much love❤
Amen sis Agnes our relationships affects our spiritual life and prayer life.
Thanks for this message Agnes it's really helpful to me
Yes,I have been in such a relationship. With very deep wounds.What the woman of God is saying is true👍 .Run away from people who have no empathy
I am trying to get out of this relationship and thinking about them. Please pray for me. I need God's help in the name of Jesus
Though it’s not funny, I am laughing so much listen to this truth, you are so right may God help us, God bless you for sharing 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you Sis Agnes, this message is so powerful. Surprisingly there are others in this category.
A very powerful message.
Thanks to all who have commented.
Thank you for this explicit message. I was in such relationship for years but God in His mercy gave me the courage to walk away. Everything you say is TRUE. God bless you.
Amen. That is so true Sis Agnes. I was in such a marriage for 15yrs without me noticing that l am staying with a narcissistic until after divorce that's when l realized the intentions of the person. I was controlled, cheated at manipulated. I was blamed and accused for this and that. The person gave me an impression that he loves and cares for me to a point that l gave up my career and became a full time housewife and today he left me for another woman and l am starting all over again. They are big liars to outsiders they look like they are saints. I was blinded by love and l was made to think that whatever he was saying was fir for the good of my family because l wanted peace in my family. I had no peace in my marriage until that narcissistic behavior went on to abuse.
Story of my life
Dear Sister Agnes, thank you so much for this message.... It wouldn't have come at a better time..... God is faithful, God is alive and God is on my side.....
May this ministry grow in lips and bounds....
I can relate very well and before I watched this,I put up a status about how manipulation can cause you to miss God’s promises for you, not knowing Aunty Agness was going to talk about it today, lord am grateful 🙏🏼
The whole message is total truth.
Though with great pain, persistence in prayer and counsel from the Holy Spirit, God is able to intervene
I needed this message 16 years ago.
I am getting out of this marriage, as I have nothing left to give or lose.
Thank you Sis. Agnes, this was a confirming word needed for my life.
Hmmm, you are right dear. Words can't express all I went through. Above all I appreciate God for his faithfulness.
Am 17 years in same,I am still waiting on God to show me how.May be through seeing your courage I shall gain some
18yrs going through the same
I'm in tears as I listen to this message. 18yrs of horror,I couldn't go to church,I couldn't pray,he criticized everything I did. He never offered any love to me,I was always at fault. He thrived in suspicion. His ego was so high I couldn't reason anything with him. God Himself rescued me few months ago and has given me a brand new life. However I got a court case because he want to have the children and completely lock me out of their lives,but I trust God for victory. Thank you ma'am for the enlightenment, narcissism is demonic sent to silence and oppress women that have their hearts sold out to God.
@@sarahwangare9247 shalom sister. Can you share tout testimony how God délibéré you, please...
Oh la la la , I CANNOT thank you enough sister Agnes for thus wonderful message. All what you have said is very true. It's an eye opener or a reminder.
I will share this video all over the world. People are suffering in silence while the devil is taking advantage to destroy others. May our God inspire you more in Jesus' Holy Name Amen . OUR GOD LIVES
Amen and Amen. It's so true my dear ! Lots of relationships are in this situation
Amen 🙏
Very helpful and insightful, thank you! I wish I had realized those truths earlier. I'm in divorce now with a psychopatic narcissist, was through physical abuse and emotional abuse. Those people try to destroy your identity, it's an attack against who you are. That's mean and evil. God calls us His children, those people put us down deep, destroying our will, confidence, causing confusion, exhaustion and hopelessness. Run for your life! Protect yourselves from having children with those people. All they do is to use them, to manipulate them, to destroy them. They have no mercy to their own children! In God I trust to save me and my daugther!
This is what he's done and stii doing to ours. They have rejected him because of this.
I'm very sorry I spent 20 years with a girl who didn't love me and didn't see it cuz I was taught that to be a guy it's just good enough if somebody doesn't reject you but enough about me uses his own learning experience to teach your children the only give value to people in their lives that truly love them back and have their best interest in mind and also to forgive those who can't love others because they are hurting inside as well I'm not religious but I am deeply empathic and love everyone through recognizing the faults in myself and being able to see them in other people even if they hide it
When I found this channel I was Soo down, doubted myself, was slowly sinking into depression....... This far I say it's God. When you stay woke spiritually God Will always Show you The trap they've set for you.
I'm currently also counseling one lady who's husband of 18 years plus 3 kids is a narcissist, she's the sweetest woman ever and her kids keep telling mommy that let's leave dad and start life afresh. It's sad because there thousands of my fellow south Africans 🇿🇦 out there who are faced with these kinds of people in their lives but they'll rather go to their so called ancestors and sangomas for help, but little do they know that they're adding fuel to the fire 🔥. Some people become narcissist when they've recieved powers (ukuthwala) to be rich and feared and that goes as deep as killing people because thier power needs blood to eat every once in a while hence our family members keep dying and dying until there is no one left in the family and those deaths need to be concealed properly you know and a lot wont notice. oh Lord I can say a mouthful...
It's not a shame to give your life to Christ Jesus.
May God bless you all
Thank you Lord for revealing such hidden things through our sister Agnes,. Sometimes I wonder how my children react over some issues, and have always thought of them being manipulated by some family members from their father's side, but when God is revealing such things, he is also bringing solutions.Thank you sister Agnes for sharing this message.
This message it's really help me out seriously. I was with someone in a relationship the same way Mrs Mumbi explained is exactly 💯 that person is. I am out...and I am free indeed
All glory to God. 🙌🏻
I thank God for directing me to your channel. 🙏🏻
Love them from a distance, even if it's family and pray for them. Family tends to think that they have the right to abuse and disrespect you & you have no choice but to endure, but that is not the case. God will not punish you because you choose your peace. One must protect one's peace at all cost. Don't harbour hatred or resentment for them in your heart. If you do, because of all the emotional abuse you've tolerated and because you're human, pray that God delivers you from that. Keep your heart and space pure. Praying for them is the only answer.
Amen we need to pray for them,my husband is narcissistic and I come to realise it few weeks ago,I first thought he had a mental disorder and possessed.Benn with him for 3years now,and he left back to his country leaving me with our kids which he does all the time,he is unstable and thinks everybody is against him even me,we are in distance and not sure to be close soon because he is violent and unpredictable,for my children I stay far for our safety.but narcissistic can really destroy all your life and does not want your peace.But my God is a God of justice,truth and love.I will keep praying for him till God changes his stone heart to a golden heart.God bless this woman for this important msg.
May God continue to enlighten you it is now two years watching your teachings which have changed my life physically and emotionaly thank you
May God bless you abundantly my dear sister, I discovered last year about this type of people and found that my mother is a narcissist, a colleague and so many others its like God keeps bringing them to me. I was also about to become one, but I thank God he made me become a born again christian so now I can easily spot narcissistic people. It's so painful what the devil can do to God's people and yet when you introduce Jesus to them they want to chew you alive bcos they hate everything about God and the sad thing is that the very same God is the solution to thier problems.
I love your videos. I have recently left a very bad relationship. He is a malignant narcissist. I trust that God will protect me against his rage. God bless you.
When I met him , I was lost, lost. Everything you described happened to me and more…. But Jesus!!!! ❤
I have been doing quite a bit of research on narcissism but this video has given me a whole new dimension of looking at things.. it's a very painful experience. Information is power. knowing that this is happening not because of your mistakes but because of this person's choice gives you liberty.
Amen Sister! For sure this is my massage and God has absolutely answered my prayers through this massage..I now understand the kind of a man I have been living with..I have been through rough you can't set alarm to wake me up for prayers.. when I cry to God in the seating room he comes and syas I am making for him noise ..I buy him clothes, perfumes etc ..he has never ever cared and appreciated and done to me.. whenever I fast God reveals secrets things he is doing and I Tell. Him I have had dreams....Now after firing so maybe prayers to reveal more about this marriage..on 9th the first 21 days of pray and fasting..he packed he belongs and left to sq telling his family that I am a witch he is saving his Life 😂😂 I found out that he has a stick in his wallet..
This is my massage hallelujah 🤗🤗
Hello my dear sister I have with dealing this behavior for many years over 25 years now .but I have been getting videos how to deal with it .but I believe God will deliver us from these demons . thank you and God bless. Caledon Canada 🍁
Wow 😢😢😢This is for me and am married to one every time is a fight and I can not even touch his phone am praying for God to bless me with a house for me and my children so I come out in this marriage I just need peace 🙏🏽
The peace will prevail in your house in jesus name
Me too I'm married to one for 22 yrs now all these years I've never been happy.
@@luckyemi I've been with my husband 15 years and married 12 years and I haven't been happy either.
Very true Sister Agnes this thing is happening to so many relationships,thank you for opening our eyes.
So true. I couldn't even recognize myself anymore. He definitely wasn't for me . He did not ask my hand in marriage...I asked my father for his blessings...I was so deceived...plus my biological father wasn't for me. Unfortunately I was dumb..."My people perish for lack of knowlede."
God want to see each and every one of us,
Thank for this enlightening message
Thank you for this message. Wow! Everything you said is true, I experience all of it. I was in a narcissistic relationship for 8 years. I was emotionally abused so badly but I didn’t know about narcissism at that time. But praise the Lord for giving me the strength to leave after 8 years. I waited for him to change but he never did when I finally left I felt emotionally drained, and exhausted. And yes he sucked all my energy. He is an energy vampire. God is great he gave me the strength to run 🏃♀️ from that 👿 and after 4 years I am now healed moving forward in Jesus name 🙏 28:25
We have the same story . Just i have a child
This message is just for me ,this is what happening in my marriage life , woman of God please pray for me 🙏
God be with you in your marriage just put all your trust in God🙏
Amen, the message my ear wanted to hear, thank you Lord 🙏🙏
This vlog was way beyond my expectations. May God grant you the grace and love to spread this gift. God bless you!