Normal: Because people stay the same. In the beginning with a narcissist everything seems like a fairy-tale - but the awaking will come (sooner or later) - it will come. I learned my lesson - believe me I learned.
No, they never change their scripts. In the past, I have found things written to other women that are exactly what he said to me 43 years ago. It's so wonderful to know I'm not crazy! Too bad it took 43 years of my life to learn.😢
Yes the same happen to me now she’s going through hell smh she thought she won but sometimes the one who got away is the one who won. I’m doing better without him and prospering even more now that he’s not in my life. And even though he’s with the new supply he still try’s to contact me and he still cheats on her. Everything he put me through he is putting her through. I have him blocked on everything and have went no contact with him it has been a year I moved on he can not contact me so he sends his flying monkeys to contact me.
@@Kimberley41658 🛑🚫Don’t do it. Let someone else do it. Narcissists are very convincing & prey on our empathetic nature. He only wants to make sure that he’s totally destroyed you.
Their personality is a hybrid of an accumulation of all their supplies. They don’t have their own. They only mimic because that is all they know how to do!
After 13 years together and at 46 years of age left my narc. I lost my house but gained my life back. I praise God for a second chance at life and am not gonna waste it ruminating over the narc that God saved me from.
Cut all connections and find peace with your life Materials don’t make value without good people in it Just live your life with no regrets and live with most happiest way that’s the best revenge for your narc ex
@@bagoodhuman143 I agree 1000%. I can't go 100% no contact on account of minor children but I am making sure that he won't use the children to get to me and harm me.
They love to try and trap us with material things so they can pretend they are making our lives better. Good for you! Sorry to hear about the house though.
They will only change... For the worst. Run, people, run. Celebrate your freedom & don't look ever back again. Stay safe, y'all & just listen to the great Dr. Danish Bashir. 🙏 ❤️ ♥️ 🙌 💙 💓 🙏
He married the new supply. I refused to marry him. He flaunted it on social media. He thought it would upset me. I laughed about it because I didn’t love the monster. Yes same game, same tricks like you said. She was a monster too, I’m happy their not hurting someone innocent.
Almighty protected you for sure. Glad you didn't marry him .mine I got caught up in the middle as he Teamed up with the new supply who was also a monster and the narc.theyir dark powered and destructive behaviour were out to outright kill me and pave way for themselves
I agree because he used to take me to all the places he went with his ex it was so boring especially when he would show me where they lived and where she worked; I didn't say how boring it was because he would then think I was jealous! What a joke.
OMG !! My ex would do the same. I thought I was crazy to think that was odd and unoriginal. She wanted to take me to a bed and Breakfast ( when we first met ) where she had her honeymoon. She also took me ( first date ) to a winery she spent with her ex boyfriend. When I found out, I wasn't happy. I thought that was "OUR" place. It hurt she was reliving the same type of memories with with me.
I witnessed this myself. The woman he got with after me, became his fiancee. Towards the wedding, he broke up with her over something petty and trivial. As usual, she was distressed and baffled , she came looking for me for answers. I gave her the blueprint behind his " strange " and ambiguous behaviours and gestures. A lightbulb went on in her head and I freed her from the mental prison he put her in. He did her worse than me by slapping her etc.
Oh, if only the new lady could see! He did it to me after his first marriage. 24 years I was entangled, and already onto the new supply. My heart breaks for her, and now I know why his first wife was so angry!
I needed to hear this today. I've been going through some stuff. Some days are better than others. I struggle with finances and trying to fake happiness in front of my son, while him and his supply take vacations. I'm just so tired.
Please don't give up. You are not alone. My ex narc partner got me to move from Ireland to live with him in Australia with a whole lot of love- bombing, but I soon got tired, of listening to him saying very cruel things about overweight women, and suspicious of how he was always saying that his ex wife, who was an extremely successful businesswoman, was crazy. I noticed as we were longer in our relationship that he used very hurtful very misogynistic ways to describe women in general. Eventually, he discarded me and made sure even though he said he hated social media, put up photos of himself and his new victim, wearing a hat that was given to me as a gift by his mother. I remember crying for days. He's probably telling the woman he's with now that I'm crazy and how all the women he's ever been involved with were crazy. I pity any woman he will bring into his life, as no one will ever meet his ridiculous, and often strange standards. You're just another temporary person who they will eventually get bored with after a while. It may be months or it may be years but you're always on borrowed time when you're involved with a narcissist. Please try to look after yourself.
I feel you, to the t. It's the most crushing pain. 15yrs and 2 sons later I found out almost exactly a year ago now still stuck in "functional freezing" it's literally like I'm paralyzed from the intensity of the betrayal and heartbreak. How is this real life? How is this my life... 😞
She will, until she doesn't. Don't forget, they all run the same game. The same way he love bombed you, guaranteed he's doing it to her. Probably,maybe even harder for her. It's how they win us over. Signed~ A healing ( not yet healed) but survivor. ❤
It is very serious. Like serial rapists, they do not change. My husband destroyed all his partners lives. Next one will get the worst of all of us, even if he goes back to an ex.
They change as long as they are supplied. They even pass all your tests until they eventually can no longer pretend. I have never ever seen anyone changes sincerely. Only the comfort supplied cause them to act supportive. When they have to see to you.....the whole game changes and moods becomes unbearable. So change...I've never seen ,, only acting. I came to conclusion that your character is your training from a pure loving home.
Not yet divorced, I moved out of our home of 32y. He has new supply staying in my house, sleeping in our bedroom……. Nothing phases them. Have tried to warn the new GF but she is under his control. Repeat behavior, he has tricked 4 women from his small rural hometown 4 hours away. His own dating pool.
I don't move on quickly... It lingers and found her ass on a date with her new supply 2 weeks after the breakup. I confronted her in public and she lost her mind. I wasnt gonna let that shit go easy...I exposed her in front of everyone.
@clintonnagy1662 the difference is that we have to heal, but they just jump from one relationship to the next. Because they never really cared about us anyway. They are quickly off in search of new supply..
@anneofgreengables1619 It's sad their new supply is unaware, and thinks the world of them. I was new supply when I met her, but I was unaware. Her ex kept calling when we were alone. She would say " He's just crazy and obsessed with me because he knows I don't want him". Little did I know she left him to pursue me. I often wondered why it took 3 weeks for her to contact me. She was figuring out a way to end it with him, and see me. Typical narc tactic. I feel so stupid.
Back in The Day ,this used to 💔 break me . With the Last one, he eally did me Dirsty and their disgusting destructive behaviour lasted 5years as they teamed up to fully demean Destoy and try to kill me. At one time they even chased me on a highway ready to drive me off a cliff . Later he would take away everything i ownedd including my businesses and give it to the newest sup0y (there wre others but this was the most horrible thing he ever did to me and showed so much hate towrds me. I am glad i have healed and no longer care about anything they dod to me .took away my home,my children my everything
I'm sorry to hear you lost so much. That's terrible. I was headed down that road but bailed out before it destroyed me. She was controlling, manipulative, and deceitful. My gut kept warning me something was wrong in the beginning but I didn't listen until she made promises and didn't fulfill them and she NEVER took accountability with anything. It's so frustrating
I'm in a similar boat to you. I lost my home, and my only son chose to remain in the house with his narc dad. Material things can be replaced, it's the parental alienation I find heart breaking 💔 sending healing your way
@@michelledale3334 I need healing. I'm so hurt how things ended. Now I'm the crazy narc to her and her family. No matter what say, they see me as a threat. Instead of taking time to talk to me and resolve how I'm feeling I became the problem. It's really quite shocking to me.
@@clintonnagy1662 Yeah but you aren´t crazy. It is true you get crazy because of that toxity every day. Maybe you have to take pills (I have to) but we aren´t crazy. Get out of that environment!
My husband was a narcissist and borderline and had bipolar. the day I told him to leave. He immediately went to his ex-girlfriend. He had a child with and now they are together talking about having other kids, and she supports him financially and takes care of him and of course he thinks he’s got the gold pot, he has already tried to move back home three times and she has no idea the other day. I blew up her email and her phone with text messages from everything that he’s been saying and doing then I cut him off completely in every way, and he still tried to contact me a week later through email. I will never ever be involved with this man again
Realizing that I in fact was the "new supply" and should've left 6 weeks in when I found the messages by his ex- but be she was initiating the conversation but warned me that he was a narc. I'd never dated one and took what she said with a grain of salt bc she was doing double talk saying one thing to me but I'd seen her practically begging to him. But then I saw the truth in her words and exited the relationship... I wouldn't know bc he's blocked on everything but I'm sure he's back to hooveing the same toxic relationship and I actually think they were both narcs and they can have everything
Thanks for publishing this video which I needed to see. From now on I will not be accepting any invitation to an extended family gathering in a restaraunt when I know an ex husband is going to be there too.
Wow I was lucky enough that I bought both diamond rings and he has very conveniently kept his with him when he wanted to part ways …..already u say is true - create situations where I had to work and he was enjoying life at my cost in every way . I wish I had the sensibility of talking to his ex
Spot on Danish I met his new supply she was on her own and she told me my ex is treating her like a princess I thought to myself I wonder how long that's going to last I think she was trying to make me jealous I couldn't care less all I said to her well that's good so it should be than she started burping in my face very loud it wasn't very lady like I didn't understand why she was doing that she's probably a narcissist too trying to put me down with her disgusting burping so I left
Both of the 'crazy' ex wifes of my ex narc thrieve. So do I. The new supply of my ex husband was exploited in a cruel way and then discarded. I dont want to be a new supply for any narcissist ko matter what fake show he pretends in the beginning. The golden period isnt worth it.
We should be able to take our siblings to court when our parents are old or have died and they take their side after abuse. Enablers are accomplices and all those head games should become illegal
In the beginning I was thinking maybe I was the problem and that he would be so much better for his new supplier, until I see some texting between them and he was lying about daily things that had no need to lie about it. He is the same, pretending being who he is not, the same demon incapable to say the truth.
Sir salute to u...how deeply u explain these type of toxic people ...my husband is like that ....i feeling like to cry...i compromise with him because of my 5 years little daughter... because she is also attache with him...he is too much maupulaing...i fed up ...😢
My God, I don't know what to say or where to say it on this site I just found. I am truly numb and sick to my stomach. I had no idea what a Narcissistic Bipolar Psychiatristist was! I thought I was a crazy person. I was married to this person for 43 years. I don't even know who I am. I will be back when I figure out where my life went.
Sometimes they don't take you anywhere💀 They tell you about the places they went too💀. When I suggest a date nights he will ask you..."why must I buy you"? We have been married for quite a few years at the time...his idea of relaxing is a barbecue and drinking alcohol. All the time😮😮 No communication only when it's about work and performance and always re-directing a convo to himself...so annoying.
My ex-husband and i divorced. The next month he married the new supply, who gave birth to his kid while we were still married. She got stuck with his mother, my ex monster-in-law. 😅
True he went from one supply to another in all relationships Uncle,my parents,me, anyone in power ,Sister and then no of women.Now it's my son. I am just protective of my kids. Shameless is the word.
Bumped into my female partner last week after 20 years of NO contact. She called out my name whilst I was cycling. She was with her husband of 20 years but he was in a shop. She would not cycle when I was with her - hate it - but became a cyclist because he loved it. I have to admit that their 18 year marriage makes me think she is very happy. She almost killed me and destroyed my health and life for many years. She also did this to other men before me, yet she is 20 years into a marriage.
He wanted me to use her tiara, and have the cake topper, his first wife died, he wanted me to go blonde, cut my hair short and get a fringe, to look like her. He tried fattening me up to be her large size. He had their wedding photo displayed in our home (she never lived there), yet complained about having my children's portraits up, he hated the children and hit them, threatened them, used me and hurt me too, he was such an ugly person, I'm not talking about the outside but his inner grossness
💯💯💥 the narc wanted to be me so bad he started wearing my company coats....yeah that my seem harmless but I got disabled having our child. He started stealing money out my account and driving my car etc . Took my identity.
Jazakallah bro Agreed they steel your treats,skills,way of talking ,way of cooking ...my x husband he just did it like that he is very bed in english he learn to me diffrent sentances word accent shopping places where quality fabrics and in aconimical he started shop for his frist wife and new supply
It's hard to swallow when just finding out the truth of what our lives have been. We will make it. Danish is amazing! He has sent me many things to watch. Good luck
On my way out of this kind of relationship. Known him for over 40yrs, we have a son. Why did he come bk into my life. The word narc was not around in my days. So he has been one all this time. I'm 63, he's 60. He's now ill and worse than evet
After previous marriages, girlfriends, me (wife 2), and many cheatings I finally divorced my ex but only after 16 years of daily traumatic events. During the divorce he had an open chest heart surgery and almost died. I still divorced him, he went on to have a few more ladies, but for the past 7 years he’s been faithful to only one. He is now a transformed man who values peace and love, he is patient and understanding and has respect for his partner. He seems pretty happy and well adjusted, but given the chance he’ll still tell you how I, wife 2, ruined the best years of his life, he was used and abused by me and abandoned while hospitalized. Seems that lady he’s with, shes been treated fairly and is happy with him. Maybe ex is the exception to the rule, a narc can change and be more human when they see themselves getting old and run the risk of being alone, so they are forced to make the effort to change for the last chance to secure a partner.
He used to say all the time how he needs mental stimulation otherwise he will be bored. He can only deal with people who stimulates his mind. Therefore you would think that he would be prolific and conversations would be plentiful and interesting...nope. He didn't have much to say, only able to play off of what I said. Everyone is for his entertainment and if you can't keep his attention enough, he is done with you.
Holy crap! This reminded me of an ex bf from years ago who seriously gave me things that his former gf's left behind. I kept the stuff he gave me after the breakup and donated most of it to charity except for a few things that I threw out because they were trash. Later he contacted me, probably trying to hoover me, I and told him what I had done with the stuff. He didn't like that. I wonder what he gave to future gf's?😂
My 33 year old Narcex is such a petulant child. She legitimately threw a fit cause she thought my toddler Goddaughter "gave her a bad look".. like she wanted to fight a child, i had to rip into her..Like why are they like this? Even if she did give her a badlook, shes a famn baby, youre a grown arse woman acting more childish than a toddler...Not to mention how she had absolutely no respect for boundaries..
No she didn't. Had to go to couple's therapy, and then my ex was diagnosed with real live NPD... But they by themselves telling all the story forward if we have patience and stomach to keep all in and not show our real emotions and full disgust...
they end up with the only type of person who can deal with them, another narc. An sadly they have children and hense the empath. hence the poor bastard that has to listen to them and be looked at as a weirdo
That's the thing I've just come to realize, now that I've spent some time away. SO, SO boring. Not fun, not funny, not ever. Just churning out chaos all the time does not make someone interesting in the least. 😮
@cc1k435 The problem I have with the relationship ending isn't their problems or drama. It's how I handled my reactions to the drama they create. I didnt manage my emotions well in the mist of chaos. Partly due to the cloud of confusion I experienced which caused my emotional stability to crumble. I keep blaming myself for her problems when I should of walked away sooner. I'm struggling to forgive myself for the part I played in this mess. I left the relationship because it didn't flow nicely. There were constant setbacks and hang-ups. I took that as God telling me it wasn't a good situation to be in.
@clintonnagy1662 There's a more NORMAL reaction to chaos, especially when not used to it, which keeps it going, and then there's the one it deserves, which is very little response. Give yourself a break for having gained experience the hard way, and keep your eyes open for red flags going forward. You have learned you are human, and seen that there are just people in the world who have no intention of letting you be. ❤️
All the best to who ever that supply is because theyll need all the luck in this world with someone like him. Good riddance. They will never change and become more Evil and devilish as they age
Yes. I needed this reminder. I Am So happy to be free of him, but am still single while he's galvanting around with a "new" woman. My kids have met her and everything. I don't care, but it's annoying that I can't find a quality relationship. It irritates Me because it makes him look like he's the normal person and something is wrong with Me because I'm still single. Yet I deserve somthing good so even if it takes longer it will be worth the wait. Thank You Danish.
You’ll get the amazing relationship you deserve. All that showing off is smoke and mirrors to keep ppl believing the mask. He’s not happy and soon enough she’ll figure it out when his true nature comes out ( unless she’s also a narc then landing him is her karma) you learned your lesson you can live a happy fulfilling life ❤️
@@anneofgreengables1619thank you. That's what I want to do. Just needed support for the idea I can just walk. (Was raised that this would be very rude, narc hoovers back and uses this against me, try to ignore but I feel guilt).
Just go. A clean cut. Explaining is just you trying to be a good person. They see it as weakness and an opportunity to exploit you further. Don't give him the opportunity. I would also go no contact. If you really, really feel you need to say something just leave a very short note, basically "it's over. I'm gone. Do not contact me." With just your first name. Ideally printed, not by your hand. You need to be as cold and impersonal as you possibly can. More than you have ever been. When he contacts you, and he will, don't respond. Block him. Then, have a beautiful life. 😊
So true he is extremely boring with his new supply same script same way of impressing her same restaurant and also copied my traits he liked in me he liked because of my grooming and looks so he has changed a lot lol😂his dressing nd style got better after being with me now he shows off that many girls are after him but truly after the love bombing stage i just realised he has nothing in himself nobody can take them serious for more than 3 months
Take the same places isn’t true. His new supply got an entirely new version of him. Doing things I never got to do. Getting her stuff I never got. He made me get an abortion and her pregnancy he followed thru with 🤷🏼♀️. I guess she’s just better supply
Hear me out, you're making it about you. He has caused you anxiety. The trait of comparison is to kill your self-esteem. ( truth be told, designed by men. Cheat code to control women handbook) Economic changes, what it took to love bomb you, prices have increased, has nothing to do with him liking or giving her more. It's just inflation. It's ALWAYS about them, to them. It's ALL the same game...from different names. There is no way, I'm willing to bet how ways comments resonates with you soul as they do mind. Some of them I bet you thought to yourself " this can't be the same life I am or have lived. Or' " It's like we're living the same life. Come on you've said it to one or several comments. Lol, you don't have to admit it. We as women have a magnetic energy to relate to experiences of a different woman without saying a word, it's in our eyes. So I feel that you related to stories here.. which led youvto my comment. You won't be able to fully heal until you stop making it about you. Put it to you this way, everything you've ever imagined with him, are you ready for my final statement? Brace yourself.... NONE, of it was EVER REAL to HIM. Now sit with that for a minute, let it flow all the way to your soul. When you feel that twinge in your heart after your brain floods you with all your freaking favorite memories with this fool, and you repeat in your head, this was fake to him to???? My heart just twinged for your response. Because I'm speaking from. A woman that has graduated from this step of healing that your currently stuck on. Love you girl, mean it boo.
@@EndrikaWhiteyou are absolutely right! It’s actually been 3 years almost I should of been healed but some news about his new supply was thrown in my face and it brought back old memories
I was struggling this mentality so much.. will he treat her better and I think he would. She seems to be able to influence him and make him happy. I just made him unhappy. But for some reason want him back in my life.
I know what you mean. 33 years and all the same unhappiness, cheating, mental and physical abuse and now as I’m older, no where to go and no money. But I can’t imagine him being with someone and being happy. That’s what narcissists do to us. They mess us up mentally and some of us never recover from all the trauma, at least that’s what my counselor says my problem is. 😢
Reading both of your comments I realize afew years ago I was just like you. Now been out and worked on me so much. Healing has taken place , trauma Bond and Rumination cleared.dreams and all the toxicity cleared because the more you be with them you turn as toxic as they are. I no longer need them in my life now. I have experience peace , happiness and no more misery and sadness in my life. Not financially stable as I am still struggling but very Contentment in my life. I lost quite a lot back in the day. I lost two homes lost my kids lost my business which he took and gave to the new supply .but I now no longer in pain ndr or anger . I let it all go
@@TataShiku that’s a great inspiration for me!! I’m trying to trust that if God loves and takes care of the little animals, then how much more does He love me and would take care and guide me if I just trust Him? That’s where I’m at right now. A plan. Thank you for sharing your story!! 🤗
We empaths always blame us for being not sufficient to hold the bs of the narcs , Loyalty and honesty is much attractive . Thank god you r out of the narc think what you can do good for yourself treat double what he would treat that new supply Man don’t define your esteem Achieve your dreams , travel if u like , begin your old hobbies , help the needy in the community more you give yourself the happiest life u wanted the better you feel inside you.
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Thank you Doctor Bashir. You're a tough but I appreciate you
They don’t change their scripts..they do the same boring behaviour with new supply to fill up their dirty & evil moto of life!
Normal: Because people stay the same. In the beginning with a narcissist everything seems like a fairy-tale - but the awaking will come (sooner or later) - it will come. I learned my lesson - believe me I learned.
No, they never change their scripts. In the past, I have found things written to other women that are exactly what he said to me 43 years ago. It's so wonderful to know I'm not crazy! Too bad it took 43 years of my life to learn.😢
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💯She laughs & says that she took him from me. She has no idea yet that I’ll have the last laugh.
The correct response when someone boasts about stealing one's ex is, "Thank you."😂
Yes the same happen to me now she’s going through hell smh she thought she won but sometimes the one who got away is the one who won. I’m doing better without him and prospering even more now that he’s not in my life. And even though he’s with the new supply he still try’s to contact me and he still cheats on her. Everything he put me through he is putting her through. I have him blocked on everything and have went no contact with him it has been a year I moved on he can not contact me so he sends his flying monkeys to contact me.
@@ladyv5655 🤣Exactly because they stole a headache
Now that he's destroyed me he wants me to help him not to be a narcissist!!!!!! God help me!
@@Kimberley41658 🛑🚫Don’t do it. Let someone else do it. Narcissists are very convincing & prey on our empathetic nature. He only wants to make sure that he’s totally destroyed you.
Their personality is a hybrid of an accumulation of all their supplies. They don’t have their own. They only mimic because that is all they know how to do!
So true. I noticed she was mimicking my comments and thought process.
After 13 years together and at 46 years of age left my narc. I lost my house but gained my life back. I praise God for a second chance at life and am not gonna waste it ruminating over the narc that God saved me
from.
Cut all connections and find peace with your life
Materials don’t make value without good people in it
Just live your life with no regrets and live with most happiest way that’s the best revenge for your narc ex
@@bagoodhuman143 I agree 1000%. I can't go 100% no contact on account of minor children but I am making sure that he won't use the children to get to me and harm me.
They love to try and trap us with material things so they can pretend they are making our lives better. Good for you! Sorry to hear about the house though.
Good for you 🙏👌🏾
All the best for you. Congrats for your success!
They will only change... For the worst. Run, people, run. Celebrate your freedom & don't look ever back again. Stay safe, y'all & just listen to the great Dr. Danish Bashir. 🙏 ❤️ ♥️ 🙌 💙 💓 🙏
He married the new supply. I refused to marry him. He flaunted it on social media. He thought it would upset me. I laughed about it because I didn’t love the monster. Yes same game, same tricks like you said. She was a monster too, I’m happy their not hurting someone innocent.
Almighty protected you for sure. Glad you didn't marry him .mine I got caught up in the middle as he Teamed up with the new supply who was also a monster and the narc.theyir dark powered and destructive behaviour were out to outright kill me and pave way for themselves
Oh my dear if a child comes into the picture that poor child will feel the burn
You sound like a super empath. Cool!!
I agree because he used to take me to all the places he went with his ex it was so boring especially when he would show me where they lived and where she worked; I didn't say how boring it was because he would then think I was jealous! What a joke.
So gauche and uncouth! Grandstanding his ex like his trophy!
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OMG !! My ex would do the same. I thought I was crazy to think that was odd and unoriginal. She wanted to take me to a bed and Breakfast ( when we first met ) where she had her honeymoon. She also took me ( first date ) to a winery she spent with her ex boyfriend. When I found out, I wasn't happy. I thought that was "OUR" place. It hurt she was reliving the same type of memories with with me.
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Did that comment hurt you in some way!?
I witnessed this myself.
The woman he got with after me, became his fiancee. Towards the wedding, he broke up with her over something petty and trivial.
As usual, she was distressed and baffled , she came looking for me for answers.
I gave her the blueprint behind his " strange " and ambiguous behaviours and gestures.
A lightbulb went on in her head and I freed her from the mental prison he put her in.
He did her worse than me by slapping her etc.
Just move on
Yes! Stealing traits, repeating things they know works in manipulating others!
So true! I call it the Parrot Effect! Mimicking behavior to manipulate
Oh, if only the new lady could see! He did it to me after his first marriage. 24 years I was entangled, and already onto the new supply. My heart breaks for her, and now I know why his first wife was so angry!
I'd give anything to apologize to his first wife for believing what he said about her
I needed to hear this today. I've been going through some stuff. Some days are better than others. I struggle with finances and trying to fake happiness in front of my son, while him and his supply take vacations. I'm just so tired.
Been there too. And found that being capable to make my children happy and feel safe is so much more a worth than any vacations could ever be.
Please don't give up. You are not alone. My ex narc partner got me to move from Ireland to live with him in Australia with a whole lot of love- bombing, but I soon got tired, of listening to him saying very cruel things about overweight women, and suspicious of how he was always saying that his ex wife, who was an extremely successful businesswoman, was crazy. I noticed as we were longer in our relationship that he used very hurtful very misogynistic ways to describe women in general. Eventually, he discarded me and made sure even though he said he hated social media, put up photos of himself and his new victim, wearing a hat that was given to me as a gift by his mother.
I remember crying for days. He's probably telling the woman he's with now that I'm crazy and how all the women he's ever been involved with were crazy. I pity any woman he will bring into his life, as no one will ever meet his ridiculous, and often strange standards. You're just another temporary person who they will eventually get bored with after a while. It may be months or it may be years but you're always on borrowed time when you're involved with a narcissist. Please try to look after yourself.
I feel you, to the t. It's the most crushing pain. 15yrs and 2 sons later I found out almost exactly a year ago now still stuck in "functional freezing" it's literally like I'm paralyzed from the intensity of the betrayal and heartbreak. How is this real life? How is this my life... 😞
Same here! Thank you for being so honest.
I am very sorry to read that. But you have the best: Your son! (Never doubt about that!). Good luck for you!
Word for word...all of it! Still recovering. His new supply is enjoying his performance.
It's been a year, I'm still trying to recover!
She will, until she doesn't. Don't forget, they all run the same game. The same way he love bombed you, guaranteed he's doing it to her. Probably,maybe even harder for her. It's how they win us over. Signed~ A healing ( not yet healed) but survivor. ❤
Two years here @@Presh_Ngcobo
It is very serious. Like serial rapists, they do not change. My husband destroyed all his partners lives. Next one will get the worst of all of us, even if he goes back to an ex.
They change as long as they are supplied. They even pass all your tests until they eventually can no longer pretend. I have never ever seen anyone changes sincerely. Only the comfort supplied cause them to act supportive. When they have to see to you.....the whole game changes and moods becomes unbearable. So change...I've never seen ,, only acting. I came to conclusion that your character is your training from a pure loving home.
They move on very quickly also ...
It's crazyyyy!!! 😩🤞
Not yet divorced, I moved out of our home of 32y. He has new supply staying in my house, sleeping in our bedroom……. Nothing phases them. Have tried to warn the new GF but she is under his control.
Repeat behavior, he has tricked 4 women from his small rural hometown 4 hours away. His own dating pool.
I don't move on quickly... It lingers and found her ass on a date with her new supply 2 weeks after the breakup. I confronted her in public and she lost her mind. I wasnt gonna let that shit go easy...I exposed her in front of everyone.
@clintonnagy1662 the difference is that we have to heal, but they just jump from one relationship to the next. Because they never really cared about us anyway. They are quickly off in search of new supply..
@anneofgreengables1619 It's sad their new supply is unaware, and thinks the world of them. I was new supply when I met her, but I was unaware. Her ex kept calling when we were alone. She would say " He's just crazy and obsessed with me because he knows I don't want him". Little did I know she left him to pursue me. I often wondered why it took 3 weeks for her to contact me. She was figuring out a way to end it with him, and see me. Typical narc tactic. I feel so stupid.
Narcissists grind to be seen, survivors grind to disappear
Gosh so true.
So good! “Like you change clothes”! Thank you Ganesh!
Danish
Danish
Madness...it's Danish
They are who they are, just be happy when they find the “New” supply, it’s your freedom. Delete those people out of your life 😉
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So true
Thank you so much for this! As my Narcissist EX husband has a new wife. I feel sorry for her. But, glad he's no longer my problem.
His new supply actually looks like me 😂.
😂😂 i thought i’m the only one
Back in The Day ,this used to 💔 break me . With the Last one, he eally did me Dirsty and their disgusting destructive behaviour lasted 5years as they teamed up to fully demean Destoy and try to kill me. At one time they even chased me on a highway ready to drive me off a cliff . Later he would take away everything i ownedd including my businesses and give it to the newest sup0y (there wre others but this was the most horrible thing he ever did to me and showed so much hate towrds me. I am glad i have healed and no longer care about anything they dod to me .took away my home,my children my everything
I'm sorry to hear you lost so much. That's terrible. I was headed down that road but bailed out before it destroyed me. She was controlling, manipulative, and deceitful. My gut kept warning me something was wrong in the beginning but I didn't listen until she made promises and didn't fulfill them and she NEVER took accountability with anything. It's so frustrating
I'm in a similar boat to you. I lost my home, and my only son chose to remain in the house with his narc dad. Material things can be replaced, it's the parental alienation I find heart breaking 💔 sending healing your way
@@michelledale3334 I need healing. I'm so hurt how things ended. Now I'm the crazy narc to her and her family. No matter what say, they see me as a threat. Instead of taking time to talk to me and resolve how I'm feeling I became the problem. It's really quite shocking to me.
Boring? They accuse us of being crazy 😂
They make us crazy. Species of their own.
But we know we aren´t crazy. Don´t we?
@@IsabellaPiesch I am after being in that relationship for 18 months.
@@clintonnagy1662 Yeah but you aren´t crazy. It is true you get crazy because of that toxity every day. Maybe you have to take pills (I have to) but we aren´t crazy. Get out of that environment!
Thank you always Danish
From Cynthia in JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
The narc I got away from in 2012 has been trying to call me this week. No thank you, take that crazy down the road and around the corner.
👋👋👋 hello Danish thank you for your content it has given me strength more then once .... I am grateful
Very important person, he is reason why am healing
My husband was a narcissist and borderline and had bipolar. the day I told him to leave. He immediately went to his ex-girlfriend. He had a child with and now they are together talking about having other kids, and she supports him financially and takes care of him and of course he thinks he’s got the gold pot, he has already tried to move back home three times and she has no idea the other day. I blew up her email and her phone with text messages from everything that he’s been saying and doing then I cut him off completely in every way, and he still tried to contact me a week later through email.
I will never ever be involved with this man again
Realizing that I in fact was the "new supply" and should've left 6 weeks in when I found the messages by his ex- but be she was initiating the conversation but warned me that he was a narc. I'd never dated one and took what she said with a grain of salt bc she was doing double talk saying one thing to me but I'd seen her practically begging to him. But then I saw the truth in her words and exited the relationship... I wouldn't know bc he's blocked on everything but I'm sure he's back to hooveing the same toxic relationship and I actually think they were both narcs and they can have everything
It's incredible how it seems like they all use the same script.
The fact is: A narcissist never changes. So you don´t have to believe a new supply has it better than you. I pity those supplies - really I do.
I feel for my ex's current wife.
They chase novelty. Such a true statement
Yup…don’t change and unable to feign as well as they spend more time on Earth. 😢
Thanks for publishing this video which I needed to see. From now on I will not be accepting any invitation to an extended family gathering in a restaraunt when I know an ex husband is going to be there too.
Wow I was lucky enough that I bought both diamond rings and he has very conveniently kept his with him when he wanted to part ways …..already u say is true - create situations where I had to work and he was enjoying life at my cost in every way . I wish I had the sensibility of talking to his ex
Spot on Danish I met his new supply she was on her own and she told me my ex is treating her like a princess I thought to myself I wonder how long that's going to last I think she was trying to make me jealous I couldn't care less all I said to her well that's good so it should be than she started burping in my face very loud it wasn't very lady like I didn't understand why she was doing that she's probably a narcissist too trying to put me down with her disgusting burping so I left
Both of the 'crazy' ex wifes of my ex narc thrieve. So do I.
The new supply of my ex husband was exploited in a cruel way and then discarded. I dont want to be a new supply for any narcissist ko matter what fake show he pretends in the beginning. The golden period isnt worth it.
We should be able to take our siblings to court when our parents are old or have died and they take their side after abuse. Enablers are accomplices and all those head games should become illegal
Spot on... as always
In the beginning I was thinking maybe I was the problem and that he would be so much better for his new supplier, until I see some texting between them and he was lying about daily things that had no need to lie about it. He is the same, pretending being who he is not, the same demon incapable to say the truth.
Sir salute to u...how deeply u explain these type of toxic people ...my husband is like that ....i feeling like to cry...i compromise with him because of my 5 years little daughter... because she is also attache with him...he is too much maupulaing...i fed up ...😢
Stay strong. Keep your life, your health. This is a hard time for sure. Stay true to yourself.
My God, I don't know what to say or where to say it on this site I just found. I am truly numb and sick to my stomach. I had no idea what a Narcissistic Bipolar Psychiatristist was! I thought I was a crazy person. I was married to this person for 43 years. I don't even know who I am. I will be back when I figure out where my life went.
Sometimes they don't take you anywhere💀 They tell you about the places they went too💀. When I suggest a date nights he will ask you..."why must I buy you"? We have been married for quite a few years at the time...his idea of relaxing is a barbecue and drinking alcohol. All the time😮😮 No communication only when it's about work and performance and always re-directing a convo to himself...so annoying.
My ex-husband and i divorced. The next month he married the new supply, who gave birth to his kid while we were still married.
She got stuck with his mother, my ex monster-in-law. 😅
True he went from one supply to another in all relationships Uncle,my parents,me, anyone in power ,Sister and then no of women.Now it's my son.
I am just protective of my kids. Shameless is the word.
Bumped into my female partner last week after 20 years of NO contact. She called out my name whilst I was cycling. She was with her husband of 20 years but he was in a shop. She would not cycle when I was with her - hate it - but became a cyclist because he loved it. I have to admit that their 18 year marriage makes me think she is very happy. She almost killed me and destroyed my health and life for many years. She also did this to other men before me, yet she is 20 years into a marriage.
The script is same only audience changes just like a comedy 🎬 act
Very informative respected speaker!
Man this helps so much! Thank you for your videos, broke it off with a covert narc woman a couple days ago. Wish me luck.
So true
Consider their leaving a blessing
He wanted me to use her tiara, and have the cake topper, his first wife died, he wanted me to go blonde, cut my hair short and get a fringe, to look like her. He tried fattening me up to be her large size. He had their wedding photo displayed in our home (she never lived there), yet complained about having my children's portraits up, he hated the children and hit them, threatened them, used me and hurt me too, he was such an ugly person, I'm not talking about the outside but his inner grossness
Man was I dooped hard🤦♂️
💯💯💥 the narc wanted to be me so bad he started wearing my company coats....yeah that my seem harmless but I got disabled having our child. He started stealing money out my account and driving my car etc . Took my identity.
The only way a narcissist man will truly fall in love with a woman is if she is worse than him sadly
So, so true. Thank you Danish.
Jazakallah bro
Agreed they steel your treats,skills,way of talking ,way of cooking ...my x husband he just did it like that he is very bed in english he learn to me diffrent sentances word accent shopping places where quality fabrics and in aconimical he started shop for his frist wife and new supply
TRUTHS sir
I am just the one he kept coming back to and destroying.
I'm sorry! I'm just realizing and accepting this for myself.
@@EndrikaWhite It is horrible and devastating. I hope you can get away.
It's hard to swallow when just finding out the truth of what our lives have been. We will make it. Danish is amazing! He has sent me many things to watch. Good luck
On my way out of this kind of relationship. Known him for over 40yrs, we have a son. Why did he come bk into my life. The word narc was not around in my days. So he has been one all this time. I'm 63, he's 60. He's now ill and worse than evet
After previous marriages, girlfriends, me (wife 2), and many cheatings I finally divorced my ex but only after 16 years of daily traumatic events. During the divorce he had an open chest heart surgery and almost died. I still divorced him, he went on to have a few more ladies, but for the past 7 years he’s been faithful to only one. He is now a transformed man who values peace and love, he is patient and understanding and has respect for his partner. He seems pretty happy and well adjusted, but given the chance he’ll still tell you how I, wife 2, ruined the best years of his life, he was used and abused by me and abandoned while hospitalized.
Seems that lady he’s with, shes been treated fairly and is happy with him.
Maybe ex is the exception to the rule, a narc can change and be more human when they see themselves getting old and run the risk of being alone, so they are forced to make the effort to change for the last chance to secure a partner.
He used to say all the time how he needs mental stimulation otherwise he will be bored. He can only deal with people who stimulates his mind. Therefore you would think that he would be prolific and conversations would be plentiful and interesting...nope. He didn't have much to say, only able to play off of what I said. Everyone is for his entertainment and if you can't keep his attention enough, he is done with you.
Thanks for all the help brother
I think that is a truth for all relationships, good and bad. We rise to our own watermark.
Thank you so much for amazing message Thank you for speaking the truths God bless.
😢 you're correct..my spouse is a narcissist nd he treats me very.. 😢 im afraid...
Yep, I am nothing.
Thank you! DB
Is there a statistic of how much is the percentage of narcissists in society or a particular population?
Holy crap! This reminded me of an ex bf from years ago who seriously gave me things that his former gf's left behind. I kept the stuff he gave me after the breakup and donated most of it to charity except for a few things that I threw out because they were trash. Later he contacted me, probably trying to hoover me, I and told him what I had done with the stuff. He didn't like that. I wonder what he gave to future gf's?😂
My 33 year old Narcex is such a petulant child. She legitimately threw a fit cause she thought my toddler Goddaughter "gave her a bad look".. like she wanted to fight a child, i had to rip into her..Like why are they like this? Even if she did give her a badlook, shes a famn baby, youre a grown arse woman acting more childish than a toddler...Not to mention how she had absolutely no respect for boundaries..
Smarter they are quicker their dissaperance especially if they've luxury of not being related!😊
So I have more attachment to things than narcissists to people... wow...
No she didn't. Had to go to couple's therapy, and then my ex was diagnosed with real live NPD...
But they by themselves telling all the story forward if we have patience and stomach to keep all in and not show our real emotions and full disgust...
Kindly put video on how to spot narcissists while talking easily
Boy byeeee!!!
they end up with the only type of person who can deal with them, another narc. An sadly they have children and hense the empath. hence the poor bastard that has to listen to them and be looked at as a weirdo
100%
Divorcing this snake currently
Actually Danish, I don't think I care!
OMG!!!
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OMG thank you so much for today episode really help me from hell 🥹🥰
They are extremely boring no laughs no excitement just a negative negative life
Drama, and chaos. Poor me...I'm the victim.
That's the thing I've just come to realize, now that I've spent some time away. SO, SO boring. Not fun, not funny, not ever. Just churning out chaos all the time does not make someone interesting in the least. 😮
@cc1k435 The problem I have with the relationship ending isn't their problems or drama. It's how I handled my reactions to the drama they create. I didnt manage my emotions well in the mist of chaos. Partly due to the cloud of confusion I experienced which caused my emotional stability to crumble. I keep blaming myself for her problems when I should of walked away sooner. I'm struggling to forgive myself for the part I played in this mess.
I left the relationship because it didn't flow nicely. There were constant setbacks and hang-ups. I took that as God telling me it wasn't a good situation to be in.
@clintonnagy1662 There's a more NORMAL reaction to chaos, especially when not used to it, which keeps it going, and then there's the one it deserves, which is very little response.
Give yourself a break for having gained experience the hard way, and keep your eyes open for red flags going forward. You have learned you are human, and seen that there are just people in the world who have no intention of letting you be. ❤️
They’re usually pretty witless
This is comforting. I am not alone. She is the next supply.
All the best to who ever that supply is because theyll need all the luck in this world with someone like him. Good riddance. They will never change and become more Evil and devilish as they age
Yes. I needed this reminder. I Am So happy to be free of him, but am still single while he's galvanting around with a "new" woman. My kids have met her and everything.
I don't care, but it's annoying that I can't find a quality relationship. It irritates Me because it makes him look like he's the normal person and something is wrong with Me because I'm still single.
Yet I deserve somthing good so even if it takes longer it will be worth the wait.
Thank You Danish.
You’ll get the amazing relationship you deserve. All that showing off is smoke and mirrors to keep ppl believing the mask. He’s not happy and soon enough she’ll figure it out when his true nature comes out ( unless she’s also a narc then landing him is her karma) you learned your lesson you can live a happy fulfilling life ❤️
Mai use bhul nai pa rhi
Nai janti thi ki wo narcissistic hai
Ab pta chala usne 10 sale ka relation Tod kr kisi or se shadi kr li
Pl z help mai kya kru
Thank God for it and move on.Stuck here for 26 +years.
So, I'm ready to be gone. We are physically seperate. Do I even bother to say goodbye and explain?
No. Just go.
@@anneofgreengables1619thank you. That's what I want to do. Just needed support for the idea I can just walk. (Was raised that this would be very rude, narc hoovers back and uses this against me, try to ignore but I feel guilt).
I agree . Just go ! He Will never give you closure …
Yes, thank you. @@hettykoster9447
Just go. A clean cut. Explaining is just you trying to be a good person. They see it as weakness and an opportunity to exploit you further. Don't give him the opportunity. I would also go no contact. If you really, really feel you need to say something just leave a very short note, basically "it's over. I'm gone. Do not contact me." With just your first name. Ideally printed, not by your hand. You need to be as cold and impersonal as you possibly can. More than you have ever been. When he contacts you, and he will, don't respond. Block him. Then, have a beautiful life. 😊
hi danish, but how come they look like they are very happy together?...
So true he is extremely boring with his new supply same script same way of impressing her same restaurant and also copied my traits he liked in me he liked because of my grooming and looks so he has changed a lot lol😂his dressing nd style got better after being with me now he shows off that many girls are after him but truly after the love bombing stage i just realised he has nothing in himself nobody can take them serious for more than 3 months
Take the same places isn’t true. His new supply got an entirely new version of him. Doing things I never got to do. Getting her stuff I never got. He made me get an abortion and her pregnancy he followed thru with 🤷🏼♀️. I guess she’s just better supply
Hear me out, you're making it about you. He has caused you anxiety. The trait of comparison is to kill your self-esteem. ( truth be told, designed by men. Cheat code to control women handbook) Economic changes, what it took to love bomb you, prices have increased, has nothing to do with him liking or giving her more. It's just inflation. It's ALWAYS about them, to them. It's ALL the same game...from different names. There is no way, I'm willing to bet how ways comments resonates with you soul as they do mind. Some of them I bet you thought to yourself " this can't be the same life I am or have lived. Or' " It's like we're living the same life. Come on you've said it to one or several comments. Lol, you don't have to admit it. We as women have a magnetic energy to relate to experiences of a different woman without saying a word, it's in our eyes. So I feel that you related to stories here.. which led youvto my comment. You won't be able to fully heal until you stop making it about you. Put it to you this way, everything you've ever imagined with him, are you ready for my final statement? Brace yourself.... NONE, of it was EVER REAL to HIM. Now sit with that for a minute, let it flow all the way to your soul. When you feel that twinge in your heart after your brain floods you with all your freaking favorite memories with this fool, and you repeat in your head, this was fake to him to???? My heart just twinged for your response. Because I'm speaking from. A woman that has graduated from this step of healing that your currently stuck on. Love you girl, mean it boo.
@@EndrikaWhiteyou are absolutely right! It’s actually been 3 years almost I should of been healed but some news about his new supply was thrown in my face and it brought back old memories
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Thank you angel Danish❤❤
I was struggling this mentality so much.. will he treat her better and I think he would. She seems to be able to influence him and make him happy. I just made him unhappy. But for some reason want him back in my life.
I know what you mean. 33 years and all the same unhappiness, cheating, mental and physical abuse and now as I’m older, no where to go and no money. But I can’t imagine him being with someone and being happy. That’s what narcissists do to us. They mess us up mentally and some of us never recover from all the trauma, at least that’s what my counselor says my problem is. 😢
Reading both of your comments I realize afew years ago I was just like you. Now been out and worked on me so much. Healing has taken place , trauma Bond and Rumination cleared.dreams and all the toxicity cleared because the more you be with them you turn as toxic as they are. I no longer need them in my life now. I have experience peace , happiness and no more misery and sadness in my life. Not financially stable as I am still struggling but very Contentment in my life. I lost quite a lot back in the day. I lost two homes lost my kids lost my business which he took and gave to the new supply .but I now no longer in pain ndr or anger . I let it all go
@@TataShiku that’s a great inspiration for me!! I’m trying to trust that if God loves and takes care of the little animals, then how much more does He love me and would take care and guide me if I just trust Him? That’s where I’m at right now. A plan. Thank you for sharing your story!! 🤗
Think back. Didn't you make him happy in the beginning? And you liked him. They are master manipulators.
We empaths always blame us for being not sufficient to hold the bs of the narcs , Loyalty and honesty is much attractive . Thank god you r out of the narc think what you can do good for yourself treat double what he would treat that new supply
Man don’t define your esteem
Achieve your dreams , travel if u like , begin your old hobbies , help the needy in the community more you give yourself the happiest life u wanted the better you feel inside you.