You are so young and so smart, gorgeous, and successful-you are way ahead of the curve. Take it from a 63 year old-life is going to unfold beautifully. And the hair is fabulous!
Estee the problem with man in general they are intimidated and afraid of beautiful, caring and loving women that are successful, go getters, they are supposed to be that. So for the record you have not found the right man. Remember you are fabulously gorgeous, funny, intelligent and driven to success. 💐💐💐💐💐
Exactly! And that’s is just honest! I honestly also don’t want to spend lifetime with a person who is not interested in growth. I value partnership exactly for this, that you grow together, build and shape a better everything for yourselves.
I'm the complete opposite, I don't care about someone having a career at all. For me, a job is just there to pay the bills and what matters the most is what happens after the work hours. I know it's gonna sound cliché but after my dad passed away very suddenly, it got me thinking about life and what I wanted out of it and I realised what I want is not a perfect job, or a career, or money...what I want is time. Time to spend with the people I love. Tha's why I'll probably never move from the small town I lived my whole life, I can't imagine not being able to see my mom or my sister whenever I want. I know a lot of people don't think like that and look down on me, but we all want different things and that's perfectly fine. What's important is finding someone who wants the same things as you :) I hope you'll feel better Estée and find someone that's right for you. I've been following you for so long, it makes me sad to see you sad. Have a good weekend, get some rest. Me, I'm gonna dogsit for my friends this week end, a great way to increase my levels of serotonin :)
You're not bitter - the dating pool is shallow. I just turned 55 - with every day that passes, I see that women are more vibrant and hardworking than anyone. There is a surplus of guys who do the bare minimum and think that is enough. Keep going - you are amazing!
Estee, I married someone and we were not "equally yoked." In time, it became a real problem, so I know where you are coming from. You want to be in a relationship, marry, date, etc., someone who has some of the same drive and ambition as you. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that at all. Take it from a 63 year old lady, who has sort of given up on that part of her life, but am still living and enjoying life nontheless. You have a lot to be thankful for and a lot of life left to live. Glad you're going home for the Christmas holidays. Love to you and Effie.
Estée, the dating situation is so relatable. From my perspective, when I met someone ambitious, driven and their life seemed so well put together, the biggest problem was the emotional connection. From my experience, I've been attracted to driven men and it all seems great on a date or a walk or whatever, but after you spend some alone time with them, I started to notice that the success on the outside has come at a prize of their emotional growth. Not willing to commit, definitely not thinking about family and seeing a woman as someone who is going to hold them back. Thank you for sharing your side of the experience, it's really difficult but nice to know I am not the only one. Take care :)
you're not alone ❤ I'm having the same struggles as you and Estée! someone career-driven has no capacity for an emotional relationship and the rest are....gamers looking for a mommy, to put it simply 😅
I don’t know if u have same experience but men who are focused on their careers and are crazy intelligent, have often problems with their emotional growth and making decisions in their personal life. Their career comes first always and finally you are stuck in somekind of situationship with faboulous man, who you know will probably never truly commit to anyone. This is a disaster of our times…
What does „settle“ even mean?! If we seek a long term relationship everybody needs to make compromises of some sorts at some point. Disrespecting one‘s own boundaries is sth else but that means having a lot of self awareness and self worth
So relatable. I would 100% recommend enforcing a real dating break. I met my husband at 36 & it all happened so fast once I met my equal but I had to allow space first.
Estée you are adored. These are the best kinds of vlogs. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing what you’re actually experiencing rather than a fake pretty picture. We are here for you. Never ever settle with a man that you know doesn’t match your energy. Love yourself sweet girlie. 💖✨👸🏼
Girl I love you opening up so much. I’m the bitter one bc I’m sitting over here thinking “I don’t think this man even exists” lmao YOU sound hopeful and positive and that’s amazing NOT BITTER, I’m bitter 🥲
Would looooove a home vlog over Christmas Estee! Also - your vulnerability is beautiful. Don't let miserable people online ever stop you from sharing your heart - your impact is so much greater than you may know. 💖
We love you Estee ❤ and I love it when you share personal thoughts / feelings. I’m sorry that people are mean. Just know there are a lot more of us that love and support you! X
The best relationship advice I ever heard was from my dad who told me that one of the most important -- yet overlooked -- part of a healthy, long-lasting relationship is to find someone who is comfortable with growth (self-improvement) AND growing TOGETHER. So many times people grow apart because they don't include their partner in the "growing pain" stages, or people are afraid of change because they think it's the antithesis of safety and stability, or people think that they're close to someone when they "know" everything about the other person (ex: "I know what you'd say so I didn't ask x/y/z"), or someone is a people pleaser so they conform to what they think the other person wants until they eventually erupt from resentment. ALL THIS TO SAY: You don't sound bitter, you sound like someone who learns from their mistakes and keeps seeking self-improvement. You can't get more evolved than that! And you deserve to be with someone evolved as well; someone who is ambitious, has a zest for life, who is respectful of themselves (enough to want to seek self-improvement) and their partner (to want growth and development in a romantic relationship). Us Leo gals weren't made to settle! ❤ So I'll keep cheering you on from the sidelines (:
GIRL, the situationship thing is so real. I don’t think you sound bitter at all, but even if you feel that, why not? Bitterness gets a bad rap, but it’s a very natural reaction to certain experiences. There’s a time and place for every emotion. Also, the long hair really suits you!
It’s so impactful when you are candid about your feelings. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want and what you don’t and also not knowing! We’re all human and can relate with that even if our specific situations aren’t the same.
We need more Estée in our lives. Thank you from being honest and open about how you are feeling. Life is not easy girl but you got us in your life. Need your vlogs! It’s so hard for me in my 50’s to find someone that makes me laugh and takes care of me. We will find someone! Lots of love from Argentina! Please vlog while you are in Canadá! ❤
I’m very and truly proud of you, Estée! You keep on going, growing and enjoying your life, girl! Big hug is coming your way. And yes, btw, to see a Christmas Vlog from Canada would be such a treat! Your mom is such an icon so 1000 times yes for the video ❤️
You don’t sound bitter at all. You’re putting to words how a lot of us ambitious, successful, yet nurturing single women feel. We just want someone to match our energy… I’m moving across the country for change as well and will see if I’m met with someone who matches my energy lol or at least much needed change and fun experiences along the way. You’re not alone!
Youre not bitter, You have standards!! And there is nothing wrong with that! Take time for you. Heal and when it’s right it’ll come. Being a woman can be hard and the pressure is REAL. I totally relate. You’re amazing.
I cannot tell you how many times I look at my female friends and am AMAZED at how many interesting things they are doing, what they are learning, and how they are pushing themselves. The men in our generation are just not on that level and they need to get 👏 it 👏 together 👏
I’ve watched you for years and love it when a new video appears. I know it sounds cheesy but I genuinely think the right guy will come along when you’re not expecting it and aren’t putting pressure on it. I met my partner online when I really wasn’t looking for a commitment or even anything at all, but we clicked instantly and have left together for 4 years now. You’re person will come when you are focusing on you x
When I was dating, I was looking for the same things you were to match my drive but all the guys focused on still hustling in their career, seeking growth… they’re still on their own journey that might not include you in their future until they themselves feel secure. My husband was the first ever guy I dated that was so secure in himself already, had a good stable career he loved, and was just so supportive of anything I did/wanted to do for my own growth. He was the first one to ever make me feel safe, seen and heard. I hope you find a guy who gives you a good mix of passion, supportiveness, and security ❤
My partner and I have been together for many, many years and when we first met he was incredibly ambitious - his work was far busier than mine and he had more drive than I did. So much so that commitment was a bit of a question mark. But we deeply cared for each other and eventually the tables flipped - his work dried up and mine became incredibly busy. During that time I found it hard to see him being "lazy" all day while I worked, cleaned, cooked, etc... but if I'd let that bitterness be more consuming than my love for him then we wouldn't have the relationship that we do now - absolute best friends, ride or die, each other's safe space. Relationships are work and it's not always 50/50 but if you stick by each other and support each other rather than focus on what they are doing that doesn't meet your standards, the type of connection you have becomes something so incredible that you can't even describe. I guess what I'm trying to say is that we're all on our own path. A life-long partnership isn't about finding yourself in another person, it's about loving the other person for who they are no matter what. That's why it's called unconditional. If you want someone who is the same as you, date yourself and only yourself.
@@tatl6244 judging someone whose life you don't know is also unfair and inconsiderate so I don't think I'd be taking advice from you. But I will say that at the time, it did FEEL unfair and inconsiderate. I'm sure he felt the same way early on in our relationship. But if you end every relationship the second someone does something that you feel is unfair or inconsiderate, you'll never have a life-long partner. Absolutely nobody is perfect 100% of the time. Those are moments of work, understanding, communication, etc... not bitterness and nagging. Those are horrible qualities to develop mostly for yourself but also for your partner.
Estee, I’ve been watching you for ever. Thank you for being so open and genuine about your dating life. As a fellow Leo I can say I am on the same boat as you. Feeling intense emotions with someone and having it abruptly gone… I can’t tell you how much I relate to this and made me feel less lonely. It’s the void and unresolved emotions that eat you up all day and become constant pain points throughout the day… you deserve a gentleman that supports and cherishes what a beautiful strong loving accomplished woman you are. Keep going!
I just love you so much. I relate so hard to your struggles even though they’re not the same. It’s very comforting to get lil updates about your life. Sorry that you’re struggling but you definitely make everyone feel less alone. Even the haterz
Hi Estee 👋 Just wanted to say thank you for sharing about where you're at with your personal life. I can't imagine the courage it takes to be so vulnerable online. I've just had a marriage end at 31 and I'm also starting to think about egg freezing, etc. Most of my friends are in a totally different phase of life, and I thought I would never be single again. I'm only just now starting to feel excited about being on my own for a while, and seeing other women walking a similar path helps me to feel less alone
Having standards for yourself is NOT being bitter!!! Also please YES vlog in Canada! Love seeing all the amazing things you get up to ❤ That hair is giving Estée FIERCE 🔥
As far as dating, if you’re on the apps, my best advice is to be 100% authentic and honest ESPECIALLY if you think it makes you sound too intense or “crazy.”😂 Lame dudes are going to be butthurt because most of them are only used to women catering to their wants/feelings. I got blocked within the first 10 minutes SO many times but then I found my forever person who was able to match my exact energy and expectations. Ask for exactly what YOU want right away and weed out the wrong ones immediately.🔥🔥🔥
I've found it extremely hard to find the type of man you describe. I, too, am very ambitious, proud of my career, have plans for the future, and put in the work to better myself pretty much daily. I have decided for myself that I can't force a connection with someone who just isn't any of that and trust that eventually I will meet someone who will be my equal. I know for a fact that there is someone out there for you as well who will help you grow instead of sit on the couch and just be. Nothing wrong with that at all but I think we gotta find men who show up in a similar way we do. You're such a wonderful person, I've watched since your Cambridge days, and am grateful I get to watch you experience your thirties. You got this, Estée! ❤
It is so good that you are honest with yourself and not settling for less than you want and deserve! I hope the new year will bring tons of beautiful things for you and as a fellow Canadian, I do love when you vlog here 😂
Estee I feel you on the layered feelings on travelling home for Christmas, glad you are going though and I hope it leaves you feeling loved! Safe travels xx
Estée, please cherish your lovely self. You always, even after the grotty times, have your own back - thats super important and a skill not everyone has. ❤😊
I hope that time at home over Christmas will help to give you a reset and that you will be feeling better coming into the new year. Why not move, if you feel that it might be a positive change? You're young, beautiful and successful and you deserve happiness. I wish you and darling Effie so much happiness in the coming year. Sending you much love from Australia x
Also, as a fellow Canadian from Hamilton, now living in Asia - I am so homesick, but I totally get the ‘layers’ part of returning home for a short visit. I would love if you did a Canadian vlog - please, if you have the capacity. Also, this vlog feels super relatable and authentic and I’m so so thankful to you for sharing all this with us, 21min was not enough!! 🤎💖🩵
Yesssss please vlog when you are back in Canada! So many of us love you Estee, dont forget there is so many of us who support you. Sorry there are mean people out there. ❤
Thank you, Estee for keeping it real! I think it’s so important to share more of yourself and appreciate your vulnerability. It helps us girlies feel less alone. ❤
Preach, girl!!! It‘s exhausting to work on yourself… I don’t need a relationship where the other person isn’t self-aware enough to want to work on themselves or can’t get excited for working on our lives together, building something!
Yesss please vlog from our home and native laaaand! Lol I love seeing your hometown vlogs ft. Timmies runs. Also the hair is divine. You look like a whole new woman!
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As a woman entrepreneur I relate so much to what you shared regarding meeting people that don't have this kind of energy. For me I guess it comes down to the fact that I was to feel inspired by who my partner is being not just at home or with me but also out in the world and for me to admire / look up to someone in that sense then they must have a career/purpose of their own, no matter the field. I love driven and passionate people that go all in and have this thirst and curiosity for life. So I see what you mean, you've worked and continue to work hard to create this awesome life and career of your own and naturally feel drawn with people who are living life with the same kind of energy. Your man already exists, keep saying no to anything that doesn't spark something in you in order to create space for this person to appear. I met my partner on Tinder after exiting the worst toxic situation and coming out of a massive burnout and mental breakdown. He has brought the perfect balance of safety and adventure to my life.
Estee this one of your best vlogs. Appreciate your realness. We’re on the journey with you. You deserve good things. So happy you’re going home, you need Mum time. Please vlog and have a fab time 👍🏻💜🙋♀️
Lol Estée people are not "mean" to you when you are vulnerable and opening yourself up! This is actually what brought us to enjoy your videos from day one. I don't sense bitterness from what you been talking about, I've sensed some resolution within yourself and that was beautiful to watch
Good for you, Estée! It's so important to take the 'below rock-bottom' time to see how you want to move differently going forward. You're absolutely right about the lack of direction/no-growth mindset of a lot of people. It's like people leave school, get a job and then tap out which is so unfulfilling as a partner and person. I left my first partner for essentially the same reason and I think it was one of the best decisions I've ever made--even though I maintain he has an abundance of wonderful qualities. I wish you all of the best in this time of transition 💛
Wow wow wow can I just say I never comment on anything but this video and your vulnerability was so refreshing. I’ve been watching you for over 10 years now and seeing this side of you is just the best. ❤
🥚 I just want to pop a comment here about egg freezing….. Eggs that are frozen are not as likely to survive the defrost as embryos that are frozen, which have a higher success rate…. Just encase others were thinking of it too. I’ve heard of so many women coming to use their frozen eggs, to then find out they didn’t survive or only a small % survived. But if you can afford it comfortably I guess it couldn’t hurt as insurance ❤️ I feel these egg freezing places need to be more transparent about the defrosting / time it comes to use them. Thanks for talking about this Estée 🙏
I love when you vlog but Canada vlogs are extra special in my opinion! 🥰✨ And your hair, it suits you so well! 💁🏼♀️ And don’t be afraid to express how you feel! A lot of us understand where you are coming from and completely and 💯 % have your back! ☺️❤️💖
Love the longer hair! Maybe the next step should be long AND brunette😄👀 I think it'd really suit you! also what's on your lips at the start of the vlog it looks GORGEOUS? fyi it's so nice to hear you talk about your personal life cause you never know who it might be helping and how- anyone leaving mean comments needs to grow up tbh❤
Sending you so much positive energy, it seems like you’re in a change and growth era and it makes sense that you need someone to match that energy! I hope a Christmas at home is restorative for you ❤️ when so much on the internet is fake it’s beyond beautiful to see someone be truthful and vulnerable so thank you for trusting us with your truth ❤️
Haven’t even watched the video, just I just have to say - the hair is the BEST decision you ever made. I’m not kidding. You have never looked better!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Growing up is tough. One minute your a teenager and all you care about is the party on the weekend and who’s getting invited. You blink and shit gets serious pretty fast. Now you have responsibilities and you lose family and dating is no fun anymore because yes kids. Finding a partner who’s going to be a good dad for them. Its tough! (Sorry for the rumble but it is!)
You're so right about getting a guy who wants more out of life, ambition etc. When I met my husband I kept saying to people, this guy has his shit together, he's clever, and he loves his career. That's so attractive! Keep going you'll meet your man ❤
Girl! You look like a film star!!! You also have a good heart and are smart and friendly and inspiring. I am sure that lots of men would absolutely love a person like you. All the best in your new adventures...
You’re so beautiful lady!! Luv the extensions on you! ❤️🔥 you should def vlog when you go home for Christmas. Wishing you all the best in life Estée! 🫶🏻
Also wanted to drop this little tidbit. The fun thought is this “romanticize your own life” when we hit rock bottom, sometimes it takes patching together the little moments of joy like a quilt to feel the wholeness of ourselves and of life again. So get extensions. Buy the pastry from the shop and savor every bite. Take yourself on dates. Get your nails done. Do whatever you can to fall in love with your life and you all over again. Sometimes things don’t go our way but it’s what we do with it that allows us to grow from it. (Easier said than done) but when you have the mental capacity it is worth doing. Even if staying at home alone and watching movies on the couch is making you feel better romanticize that. Make a blanket fort and put up string lights. Do whatever you need to do to make everything you do bring you joy and your heart sing.
Wait this vlog has such a good energy to it, im so happy to see you again and this feels like old school estee a little bit (I’ve been watching you for probably 8 years at this point 🥰) anyway so cozy and festive feeling, hoping for some sort of type of vlogmas….. 🥹🤭🫣
Oops! I accidentally deleted my comment. First, the hair 😍😍 so lovely. Secondly, the person you’re looking for as a partner does exist! You will find them. Don’t lose hope and in the meantime, I hope you will continue to invest in yourself. ❤️
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Not totally losing hope but yes I'm just prioritising myself at this point LOL
Appreciate you being open about your private life, I think we’re all experiencing the same thing in the dating pool. Girl, you’re not alone! Would love a vlog in Canada ❤️
Okay 1. Hair looks AMAZING!! 2. I totally agree with you on finding someone who makes you better - it’s a game changer. 3. Yes, if you’re feeling it totally move!! ❤❤ love to you and Effie❤
black cat energy Estee! 🐈⬛✨ you are looking fabulous and in your feminine energy, something feels like it’s starting to shift for you and I’m loving it. I’m an OG subscriber and you’ve come such a long way. get it girl, you deserve it ❤️
I hope you feel better soon xx and you WILL. Brighter days ahead will come with changing your surroundings... It always feels insurmountable to move after a breakup, but it is so rewarding and helpful in regards to soul strengthening and healing. Wishing you all the best, we will be here with you! And have been
I completely respect if don't want to share anything too personal, but anyone who says anything mean to that just sucks. and you don't sound bitter at all, it sounds like you've gained a lot of clarity and there's nothing wrong with knowing what you want!
You are so strong and have come such a long way on your inner growth journey. I really connected with what you said. Perhaps my opinion might sound a bit harsh, but I truly feel the same way: unfortunately, men seem to be quite disconnected from women when it comes to inner growth, mental health awareness, and healing. In recent years, women have made great strides in educating themselves, working on emotional well-being, improving relationships, and supporting each other on this journey. Women have been seekers, actively learning and growing together. But sadly, men have been far less present and have made much less effort to evolve in these areas. This gap is becoming more and more apparent. That’s why, even in the earliest stages of dating or getting to know someone, we women can sense just how much of a divide there is in understanding inner growth and psychological depth. Men have really put in less effort to become more aware, and this gap will only widen. I can even imagine that in the future, there will be very few men who are truly on the same level of understanding and awareness as women.
I think it’s so right to only date people that are the right vibe from the off. I was single (a lot!) but then met my partner after a grim time on Hinge. And from the first minute it was like *yes* this is *it*. You don’t need a man but it’s ok to want one!
This felt so real and refreshing. You are so beautiful Estée! Inside and out. I have been having low moments too recently. I think the way the world is going and the anxiety and stress of our daily lives, on top of things we go through, the hardships, it makes a lot of sense that you felt so good in Ibiza because your nervous system just slows down in an environment like that. I would LOVE a vlog from you in Canada if you’re feeling up to it🇨🇦 I live in Canada too so that would be awesome to see. ❤big hug girlie 🤗
I’ve always knew that I don’t want a man who matches my energy. I don’t want to come home and be with my doppelgänger. I think the most important things in a relationship are the matching core values. I love your content as it’s so authentic, we care about you ❤
Look for partners in places of growth! Take a cooking/dance/etc. class, look in your yoga classes, or whatever matches your definition of growth! I had an awful time with dating apps but always found partners worth my time (who matched my ambition) in "growth" settings like classes/museums/libraries/etc.
girl, come to Richmond!!! I've just moved and I'm loving myself sick here. So much space for Effie and a slower pace of life. I'm in the same stage of life as you, contemplating the future, and being away from the intensity of the city itself, helps clear the mind.
I 've been having the same thoughts and have been pushing them away, cause I can't deal with them right now. It was a much needed video and shared experiences, so thank you ❤
I think a lot of us resonate with what you’re saying Estée because A LOT of us have been in these kind of situation-ship type relations. It’s definitely very hard to navigate because of a multitude of reasons, most of time we either get really hurt or we become despondent/indifferent to that person when our rose tinted glasses finally come off! I read something that said we accept sex as the first form of contact before committing to emotional intimacy and openness. It’s really hard trying to remain optimistic when we have repeatedly been let down by men who do not know themselves, a lot of them seem so lost and you hit the nail on the head, so many lack the want to self develop. I find a lot of men do not have any real idea how to communicate well. I really enjoy you when you’re more candid and honest about your feelings because so many of us can relate. Hugs. X
You are so young and so smart, gorgeous, and successful-you are way ahead of the curve. Take it from a 63 year old-life is going to unfold beautifully. And the hair is fabulous!
that is such a beautiful comment
Estee the problem with man in general they are intimidated and afraid of beautiful, caring and loving women that are successful, go getters, they are supposed to be that. So for the record you have not found the right man. Remember you are fabulously gorgeous, funny, intelligent and driven to success. 💐💐💐💐💐
You dont sound bitter.. you sound INTELLIGENT
Amen.
This. You’re growing and evolving. You’re seeing what you need instead of what you want in the moment.
Facts!!
Exactly! And that’s is just honest! I honestly also don’t want to spend lifetime with a person who is not interested in growth. I value partnership exactly for this, that you grow together, build and shape a better everything for yourselves.
I'm the complete opposite, I don't care about someone having a career at all. For me, a job is just there to pay the bills and what matters the most is what happens after the work hours. I know it's gonna sound cliché but after my dad passed away very suddenly, it got me thinking about life and what I wanted out of it and I realised what I want is not a perfect job, or a career, or money...what I want is time. Time to spend with the people I love. Tha's why I'll probably never move from the small town I lived my whole life, I can't imagine not being able to see my mom or my sister whenever I want. I know a lot of people don't think like that and look down on me, but we all want different things and that's perfectly fine. What's important is finding someone who wants the same things as you :) I hope you'll feel better Estée and find someone that's right for you. I've been following you for so long, it makes me sad to see you sad.
Have a good weekend, get some rest. Me, I'm gonna dogsit for my friends this week end, a great way to increase my levels of serotonin :)
little villages and towns are so lovely. I would do the same, just travel when I can and come back home at the end.
You're not bitter - the dating pool is shallow. I just turned 55 - with every day that passes, I see that women are more vibrant and hardworking than anyone. There is a surplus of guys who do the bare minimum and think that is enough. Keep going - you are amazing!
Estee, I married someone and we were not "equally yoked." In time, it became a real problem, so I know where you are coming from. You want to be in a relationship, marry, date, etc., someone who has some of the same drive and ambition as you. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that at all. Take it from a 63 year old lady, who has sort of given up on that part of her life, but am still living and enjoying life nontheless. You have a lot to be thankful for and a lot of life left to live. Glad you're going home for the Christmas holidays. Love to you and Effie.
Estée, the dating situation is so relatable. From my perspective, when I met someone ambitious, driven and their life seemed so well put together, the biggest problem was the emotional connection. From my experience, I've been attracted to driven men and it all seems great on a date or a walk or whatever, but after you spend some alone time with them, I started to notice that the success on the outside has come at a prize of their emotional growth. Not willing to commit, definitely not thinking about family and seeing a woman as someone who is going to hold them back. Thank you for sharing your side of the experience, it's really difficult but nice to know I am not the only one. Take care :)
you're not alone ❤ I'm having the same struggles as you and Estée! someone career-driven has no capacity for an emotional relationship and the rest are....gamers looking for a mommy, to put it simply 😅
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I don’t know if u have same experience but men who are focused on their careers and are crazy intelligent, have often problems with their emotional growth and making decisions in their personal life. Their career comes first always and finally you are stuck in somekind of situationship with faboulous man, who you know will probably never truly commit to anyone. This is a disaster of our times…
Very very well put!
Estée never settle. You are worth more than settling. 🧿
What does „settle“ even mean?! If we seek a long term relationship everybody needs to make compromises of some sorts at some point. Disrespecting one‘s own boundaries is sth else but that means having a lot of self awareness and self worth
So relatable. I would 100% recommend enforcing a real dating break. I met my husband at 36 & it all happened so fast once I met my equal but I had to allow space first.
I’m proud of you for knowing your worth and what you deserve in a partner.
Estée you are adored. These are the best kinds of vlogs. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing what you’re actually experiencing rather than a fake pretty picture.
We are here for you.
Never ever settle with a man that you know doesn’t match your energy.
Love yourself sweet girlie.
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Aww thank youuuuu *cries*
Your brand's being sold in these amazing stores is actually so impressive!
Girl I love you opening up so much. I’m the bitter one bc I’m sitting over here thinking “I don’t think this man even exists” lmao YOU sound hopeful and positive and that’s amazing NOT BITTER, I’m bitter 🥲
Would looooove a home vlog over Christmas Estee! Also - your vulnerability is beautiful. Don't let miserable people online ever stop you from sharing your heart - your impact is so much greater than you may know. 💖
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We love you Estee ❤ and I love it when you share personal thoughts / feelings. I’m sorry that people are mean. Just know there are a lot more of us that love and support you! X
I’ve been following you for probably 10+ years. I kinda grew up with you and now your vlogs feel like home to me.
Same for me!
The best relationship advice I ever heard was from my dad who told me that one of the most important -- yet overlooked -- part of a healthy, long-lasting relationship is to find someone who is comfortable with growth (self-improvement) AND growing TOGETHER. So many times people grow apart because they don't include their partner in the "growing pain" stages, or people are afraid of change because they think it's the antithesis of safety and stability, or people think that they're close to someone when they "know" everything about the other person (ex: "I know what you'd say so I didn't ask x/y/z"), or someone is a people pleaser so they conform to what they think the other person wants until they eventually erupt from resentment.
ALL THIS TO SAY: You don't sound bitter, you sound like someone who learns from their mistakes and keeps seeking self-improvement. You can't get more evolved than that! And you deserve to be with someone evolved as well; someone who is ambitious, has a zest for life, who is respectful of themselves (enough to want to seek self-improvement) and their partner (to want growth and development in a romantic relationship). Us Leo gals weren't made to settle! ❤ So I'll keep cheering you on from the sidelines (:
GIRL, the situationship thing is so real. I don’t think you sound bitter at all, but even if you feel that, why not? Bitterness gets a bad rap, but it’s a very natural reaction to certain experiences. There’s a time and place for every emotion.
Also, the long hair really suits you!
It’s so impactful when you are candid about your feelings. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want and what you don’t and also not knowing! We’re all human and can relate with that even if our specific situations aren’t the same.
Thank you 💗
Thank you for being so honest and raw, this gave me Essiebutton circa 2010 vibes❤❤❤
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OMG Effie at the end, snuggled up on the couch, I cannooooot handle this cuteness!
Same, she's beyond!!
Yes please vlog when you’re at home if you feel up to it 🤍 Sending love Estée your hair looks soo good on you
We need more Estée in our lives. Thank you from being honest and open about how you are feeling. Life is not easy girl but you got us in your life. Need your vlogs! It’s so hard for me in my 50’s to find someone that makes me laugh and takes care of me. We will find someone! Lots of love from Argentina! Please vlog while you are in Canadá! ❤
I hope you find someone very soon!❤
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I’m very and truly proud of you, Estée! You keep on going, growing and enjoying your life, girl! Big hug is coming your way.
And yes, btw, to see a Christmas Vlog from Canada would be such a treat! Your mom is such an icon so 1000 times yes for the video ❤️
Thank you for your honesty. You’re fabulous. And yes to a Canada vlog. ❤
I appreciate the openness and am rooting for you!!
You don’t sound bitter at all. You’re putting to words how a lot of us ambitious, successful, yet nurturing single women feel. We just want someone to match our energy… I’m moving across the country for change as well and will see if I’m met with someone who matches my energy lol or at least much needed change and fun experiences along the way. You’re not alone!
Youre not bitter, You have standards!! And there is nothing wrong with that! Take time for you. Heal and when it’s right it’ll come. Being a woman can be hard and the pressure is REAL. I totally relate. You’re amazing.
We LOVE ya Estee! Excited to see your Canada vlogs. You’re radiant!
I cannot tell you how many times I look at my female friends and am AMAZED at how many interesting things they are doing, what they are learning, and how they are pushing themselves. The men in our generation are just not on that level and they need to get 👏 it 👏 together 👏
Honestly women are just incredible.
I’ve watched you for years and love it when a new video appears. I know it sounds cheesy but I genuinely think the right guy will come along when you’re not expecting it and aren’t putting pressure on it. I met my partner online when I really wasn’t looking for a commitment or even anything at all, but we clicked instantly and have left together for 4 years now. You’re person will come when you are focusing on you x
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Love your honesty and thirst for change ❤ I’m sending you all the strength and positive energy that you need rn 🙏
Yesss vlog when you’re home! I grew up in London, Ontario and live in Toronto so I always feel so connected to those vlogs!
When I was dating, I was looking for the same things you were to match my drive but all the guys focused on still hustling in their career, seeking growth… they’re still on their own journey that might not include you in their future until they themselves feel secure. My husband was the first ever guy I dated that was so secure in himself already, had a good stable career he loved, and was just so supportive of anything I did/wanted to do for my own growth. He was the first one to ever make me feel safe, seen and heard. I hope you find a guy who gives you a good mix of passion, supportiveness, and security ❤
How I miss your Canadian blogs! I started to watch you because of them. My mom is from Ontario and they bring me so much joy and cozy memories
As someone who is going through IVF and having issues, I wouldn’t delay egg freezing if you’re thinking about it! 💕
loved this vlog! more more more! also thank u for being vulnerable!!!! you’re not alone, right there with ya
Thank you for being open and sharing ❤ you deserve appreciation and love 💗 hoping you get all the love.
My partner and I have been together for many, many years and when we first met he was incredibly ambitious - his work was far busier than mine and he had more drive than I did. So much so that commitment was a bit of a question mark. But we deeply cared for each other and eventually the tables flipped - his work dried up and mine became incredibly busy. During that time I found it hard to see him being "lazy" all day while I worked, cleaned, cooked, etc... but if I'd let that bitterness be more consuming than my love for him then we wouldn't have the relationship that we do now - absolute best friends, ride or die, each other's safe space. Relationships are work and it's not always 50/50 but if you stick by each other and support each other rather than focus on what they are doing that doesn't meet your standards, the type of connection you have becomes something so incredible that you can't even describe. I guess what I'm trying to say is that we're all on our own path. A life-long partnership isn't about finding yourself in another person, it's about loving the other person for who they are no matter what. That's why it's called unconditional. If you want someone who is the same as you, date yourself and only yourself.
I love this!! Couldn’t agree more🥲❤️
He should handle household chores if you were the only worker. That seems unfair and inconsiderate.
@@tatl6244judging someone whose life you don’t know is unfair and inconsiderate.
@@tatl6244 judging someone whose life you don't know is also unfair and inconsiderate so I don't think I'd be taking advice from you. But I will say that at the time, it did FEEL unfair and inconsiderate. I'm sure he felt the same way early on in our relationship. But if you end every relationship the second someone does something that you feel is unfair or inconsiderate, you'll never have a life-long partner. Absolutely nobody is perfect 100% of the time. Those are moments of work, understanding, communication, etc... not bitterness and nagging. Those are horrible qualities to develop mostly for yourself but also for your partner.
Estee, I’ve been watching you for ever. Thank you for being so open and genuine about your dating life. As a fellow Leo I can say I am on the same boat as you. Feeling intense emotions with someone and having it abruptly gone… I can’t tell you how much I relate to this and made me feel less lonely. It’s the void and unresolved emotions that eat you up all day and become constant pain points throughout the day… you deserve a gentleman that supports and cherishes what a beautiful strong loving accomplished woman you are. Keep going!
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Don't ever settle, you will regret it later. You should be able to have whatever you want ❤
The extensions are gorgeous, I know you’re having a hard time but you look stunning and confidence is key! Lots of love
I just love you so much. I relate so hard to your struggles even though they’re not the same. It’s very comforting to get lil updates about your life. Sorry that you’re struggling but you definitely make everyone feel less alone. Even the haterz
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Hi Estee 👋 Just wanted to say thank you for sharing about where you're at with your personal life. I can't imagine the courage it takes to be so vulnerable online. I've just had a marriage end at 31 and I'm also starting to think about egg freezing, etc. Most of my friends are in a totally different phase of life, and I thought I would never be single again. I'm only just now starting to feel excited about being on my own for a while, and seeing other women walking a similar path helps me to feel less alone
It's the personal/vulnerable content that is the most valuable! That's what is the most interesting and ultimately relatable. Thank you for sharing!
Having standards for yourself is NOT being bitter!!! Also please YES vlog in Canada! Love seeing all the amazing things you get up to ❤ That hair is giving Estée FIERCE 🔥
Estee, I am so with you on the dating vibe! I need someone with lots of get up and go… they gotta put the work in… you go girl ❤️
As far as dating, if you’re on the apps, my best advice is to be 100% authentic and honest ESPECIALLY if you think it makes you sound too intense or “crazy.”😂 Lame dudes are going to be butthurt because most of them are only used to women catering to their wants/feelings. I got blocked within the first 10 minutes SO many times but then I found my forever person who was able to match my exact energy and expectations. Ask for exactly what YOU want right away and weed out the wrong ones immediately.🔥🔥🔥
I totally agree! That's how I found my future husband, too ❤
I admire that you refuse to settle and you know what you want 🙌🏽
I've found it extremely hard to find the type of man you describe. I, too, am very ambitious, proud of my career, have plans for the future, and put in the work to better myself pretty much daily. I have decided for myself that I can't force a connection with someone who just isn't any of that and trust that eventually I will meet someone who will be my equal. I know for a fact that there is someone out there for you as well who will help you grow instead of sit on the couch and just be. Nothing wrong with that at all but I think we gotta find men who show up in a similar way we do. You're such a wonderful person, I've watched since your Cambridge days, and am grateful I get to watch you experience your thirties. You got this, Estée! ❤
It is so good that you are honest with yourself and not settling for less than you want and deserve! I hope the new year will bring tons of beautiful things for you and as a fellow Canadian, I do love when you vlog here 😂
Estee I feel you on the layered feelings on travelling home for Christmas, glad you are going though and I hope it leaves you feeling loved! Safe travels xx
Estée, please cherish your lovely self. You always, even after the grotty times, have your own back - thats super important and a skill not everyone has. ❤😊
I hope that time at home over Christmas will help to give you a reset and that you will be feeling better coming into the new year. Why not move, if you feel that it might be a positive change? You're young, beautiful and successful and you deserve happiness. I wish you and darling Effie so much happiness in the coming year. Sending you much love from Australia x
So glad you are going home for Christmas ❤
Also, as a fellow Canadian from Hamilton, now living in Asia - I am so homesick, but I totally get the ‘layers’ part of returning home for a short visit. I would love if you did a Canadian vlog - please, if you have the capacity. Also, this vlog feels super relatable and authentic and I’m so so thankful to you for sharing all this with us, 21min was not enough!! 🤎💖🩵
Sending you all my good energies and the warmest hugs lady
Yesssss please vlog when you are back in Canada! So many of us love you Estee, dont forget there is so many of us who support you. Sorry there are mean people out there. ❤
Thank you, Estee for keeping it real! I think it’s so important to share more of yourself and appreciate your vulnerability. It helps us girlies feel less alone. ❤
Thank you for being here 💕
Love it when you share the good and the bad. Thank you. Anyone who says anything negative about this - we will come for them. 😅
Preach, girl!!! It‘s exhausting to work on yourself… I don’t need a relationship where the other person isn’t self-aware enough to want to work on themselves or can’t get excited for working on our lives together, building something!
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Yesss please vlog from our home and native laaaand! Lol I love seeing your hometown vlogs ft. Timmies runs. Also the hair is divine. You look like a whole new woman!
As a woman entrepreneur I relate so much to what you shared regarding meeting people that don't have this kind of energy. For me I guess it comes down to the fact that I was to feel inspired by who my partner is being not just at home or with me but also out in the world and for me to admire / look up to someone in that sense then they must have a career/purpose of their own, no matter the field. I love driven and passionate people that go all in and have this thirst and curiosity for life. So I see what you mean, you've worked and continue to work hard to create this awesome life and career of your own and naturally feel drawn with people who are living life with the same kind of energy. Your man already exists, keep saying no to anything that doesn't spark something in you in order to create space for this person to appear. I met my partner on Tinder after exiting the worst toxic situation and coming out of a massive burnout and mental breakdown. He has brought the perfect balance of safety and adventure to my life.
Estee this one of your best vlogs. Appreciate your realness. We’re on the journey with you. You deserve good things. So happy you’re going home, you need Mum time. Please vlog and have a fab time 👍🏻💜🙋♀️
Lol Estée people are not "mean" to you when you are vulnerable and opening yourself up! This is actually what brought us to enjoy your videos from day one. I don't sense bitterness from what you been talking about, I've sensed some resolution within yourself and that was beautiful to watch
Good for you, Estée! It's so important to take the 'below rock-bottom' time to see how you want to move differently going forward. You're absolutely right about the lack of direction/no-growth mindset of a lot of people. It's like people leave school, get a job and then tap out which is so unfulfilling as a partner and person. I left my first partner for essentially the same reason and I think it was one of the best decisions I've ever made--even though I maintain he has an abundance of wonderful qualities. I wish you all of the best in this time of transition 💛
Wow wow wow can I just say I never comment on anything but this video and your vulnerability was so refreshing. I’ve been watching you for over 10 years now and seeing this side of you is just the best. ❤
🥚 I just want to pop a comment here about egg freezing….. Eggs that are frozen are not as likely to survive the defrost as embryos that are frozen, which have a higher success rate…. Just encase others were thinking of it too. I’ve heard of so many women coming to use their frozen eggs, to then find out they didn’t survive or only a small % survived. But if you can afford it comfortably I guess it couldn’t hurt as insurance ❤️ I feel these egg freezing places need to be more transparent about the defrosting / time it comes to use them. Thanks for talking about this Estée 🙏
You always say "Let me know if you wanna see this vlog" ..... you could literally lay in bed all day & vlog and im sure we'd all watch haha
Love the hair! I feel like I’m watching Estee from the past doing your empties!
Lovingggg my hair!
I love when you vlog but Canada vlogs are extra special in my opinion! 🥰✨ And your hair, it suits you so well! 💁🏼♀️
And don’t be afraid to express how you feel! A lot of us understand where you are coming from and completely and 💯 % have your back! ☺️❤️💖
Thanks for watching 💗 I will vlog!
Love the longer hair! Maybe the next step should be long AND brunette😄👀 I think it'd really suit you! also what's on your lips at the start of the vlog it looks GORGEOUS? fyi it's so nice to hear you talk about your personal life cause you never know who it might be helping and how- anyone leaving mean comments needs to grow up tbh❤
Sending you so much positive energy, it seems like you’re in a change and growth era and it makes sense that you need someone to match that energy! I hope a Christmas at home is restorative for you ❤️ when so much on the internet is fake it’s beyond beautiful to see someone be truthful and vulnerable so thank you for trusting us with your truth ❤️
Haven’t even watched the video, just I just have to say - the hair is the BEST decision you ever made. I’m not kidding. You have never looked better!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Growing up is tough. One minute your a teenager and all you care about is the party on the weekend and who’s getting invited. You blink and shit gets serious pretty fast. Now you have responsibilities and you lose family and dating is no fun anymore because yes kids. Finding a partner who’s going to be a good dad for them. Its tough! (Sorry for the rumble but it is!)
You're so right about getting a guy who wants more out of life, ambition etc. When I met my husband I kept saying to people, this guy has his shit together, he's clever, and he loves his career. That's so attractive! Keep going you'll meet your man ❤
Girl! You look like a film star!!! You also have a good heart and are smart and friendly and inspiring. I am sure that lots of men would absolutely love a person like you. All the best in your new adventures...
You're doing so great Estée! And even when you don't, you are still worthy of everything you want 😊 I wish you the very best ! ✨⭐
You’re so beautiful lady!! Luv the extensions on you! ❤️🔥
you should def vlog when you go home for Christmas.
Wishing you all the best in life Estée! 🫶🏻
LOVE THE EXTENSIONS. Yes girl!
Also wanted to drop this little tidbit.
The fun thought is this “romanticize your own life” when we hit rock bottom, sometimes it takes patching together the little moments of joy like a quilt to feel the wholeness of ourselves and of life again.
So get extensions. Buy the pastry from the shop and savor every bite. Take yourself on dates. Get your nails done. Do whatever you can to fall in love with your life and you all over again.
Sometimes things don’t go our way but it’s what we do with it that allows us to grow from it.
(Easier said than done) but when you have the mental capacity it is worth doing. Even if staying at home alone and watching movies on the couch is making you feel better romanticize that. Make a blanket fort and put up string lights. Do whatever you need to do to make everything you do bring you joy and your heart sing.
Wait this vlog has such a good energy to it, im so happy to see you again and this feels like old school estee a little bit (I’ve been watching you for probably 8 years at this point 🥰) anyway so cozy and festive feeling, hoping for some sort of type of vlogmas….. 🥹🤭🫣
Oops! I accidentally deleted my comment. First, the hair 😍😍 so lovely. Secondly, the person you’re looking for as a partner does exist! You will find them. Don’t lose hope and in the meantime, I hope you will continue to invest in yourself. ❤️
Not totally losing hope but yes I'm just prioritising myself at this point LOL
Appreciate you being open about your private life, I think we’re all experiencing the same thing in the dating pool. Girl, you’re not alone! Would love a vlog in Canada ❤️
Okay 1. Hair looks AMAZING!! 2. I totally agree with you on finding someone who makes you better - it’s a game changer. 3. Yes, if you’re feeling it totally move!! ❤❤ love to you and Effie❤
black cat energy Estee! 🐈⬛✨ you are looking fabulous and in your feminine energy, something feels like it’s starting to shift for you and I’m loving it. I’m an OG subscriber and you’ve come such a long way. get it girl, you deserve it ❤️
I hope you feel better soon xx and you WILL. Brighter days ahead will come with changing your surroundings... It always feels insurmountable to move after a breakup, but it is so rewarding and helpful in regards to soul strengthening and healing. Wishing you all the best, we will be here with you! And have been
I would love to see Christmas vlogs I love your moms energy !!
I completely respect if don't want to share anything too personal, but anyone who says anything mean to that just sucks. and you don't sound bitter at all, it sounds like you've gained a lot of clarity and there's nothing wrong with knowing what you want!
You are so strong and have come such a long way on your inner growth journey. I really connected with what you said. Perhaps my opinion might sound a bit harsh, but I truly feel the same way: unfortunately, men seem to be quite disconnected from women when it comes to inner growth, mental health awareness, and healing. In recent years, women have made great strides in educating themselves, working on emotional well-being, improving relationships, and supporting each other on this journey. Women have been seekers, actively learning and growing together.
But sadly, men have been far less present and have made much less effort to evolve in these areas. This gap is becoming more and more apparent. That’s why, even in the earliest stages of dating or getting to know someone, we women can sense just how much of a divide there is in understanding inner growth and psychological depth. Men have really put in less effort to become more aware, and this gap will only widen. I can even imagine that in the future, there will be very few men who are truly on the same level of understanding and awareness as women.
I think it’s so right to only date people that are the right vibe from the off. I was single (a lot!) but then met my partner after a grim time on Hinge. And from the first minute it was like *yes* this is *it*. You don’t need a man but it’s ok to want one!
Loved catching-up Estee! You’re very relatable. Thank you for being vulnerable. Sending love & light!
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This felt so real and refreshing. You are so beautiful Estée! Inside and out. I have been having low moments too recently. I think the way the world is going and the anxiety and stress of our daily lives, on top of things we go through, the hardships, it makes a lot of sense that you felt so good in Ibiza because your nervous system just slows down in an environment like that. I would LOVE a vlog from you in Canada if you’re feeling up to it🇨🇦 I live in Canada too so that would be awesome to see. ❤big hug girlie 🤗
Let your mom come to you for Christmas. It will be healing to you both
you look so YOUTHFUL and BEAUTIFUL (as always ofc but you know what i mean!!)
Thank youuu
I’ve always knew that I don’t want a man who matches my energy. I don’t want to come home and be with my doppelgänger. I think the most important things in a relationship are the matching core values. I love your content as it’s so authentic, we care about you ❤
I really love getting the update on your personal life. I actually think not talking about it makes it seem a lot more chaotic.
Yay yes a home Christmastime vlog sounds so fun ❤!
Look for partners in places of growth! Take a cooking/dance/etc. class, look in your yoga classes, or whatever matches your definition of growth! I had an awful time with dating apps but always found partners worth my time (who matched my ambition) in "growth" settings like classes/museums/libraries/etc.
girl, come to Richmond!!! I've just moved and I'm loving myself sick here. So much space for Effie and a slower pace of life. I'm in the same stage of life as you, contemplating the future, and being away from the intensity of the city itself, helps clear the mind.
I 've been having the same thoughts and have been pushing them away, cause I can't deal with them right now. It was a much needed video and shared experiences, so thank you ❤
I think a lot of us resonate with what you’re saying Estée because A LOT of us have been in these kind of situation-ship type relations. It’s definitely very hard to navigate because of a multitude of reasons, most of time we either get really hurt or we become despondent/indifferent to that person when our rose tinted glasses finally come off! I read something that said we accept sex as the first form of contact before committing to emotional intimacy and openness. It’s really hard trying to remain optimistic when we have repeatedly been let down by men who do not know themselves, a lot of them seem so lost and you hit the nail on the head, so many lack the want to self develop. I find a lot of men do not have any real idea how to communicate well. I really enjoy you when you’re more candid and honest about your feelings because so many of us can relate. Hugs. X
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