He's having a mid life crisis and the 18 year old girl is a distraction. He's using her and she's too naive to know that. He doesn't love her. He feels lust. Big difference.
Definitely a mid-life crisis, but that involves more than just lust. It's about trying to do the impossible and be young again. Also, as expressed in this film, looking for a simple relationship with a stranger, as opposed to the complicated feelings that have built up during a long term relationship.
When you're a young woman you think that's what you want, but you don't realize what your life would have been like years later. It would have been awful. He probably would have done the same thing to her.
That's what makes it so tough for child actors is after they leave their biggest send off of a run of a show, and they go on to movies and other acting people keep locking them into in their minds to where they started at and they can't get their original characters out of their own had while they're watching the actors try to expand their acting careers as adults in a different role
Whenever a married man showed interest in me, even when I was that young, it immediately drew a red flag in my mind. No way was I crossing that line. I had too much respect for the wife. My parents had a solid marriage and I'd never want to break up a sacred bond. It's just selfish
I was exactly the same. For me, the reason is my father was a serial cheater and constantly cheated on my mother. It broke her heart. So, seeing this as a child completely disgusted me to cheating and cheaters. There is never a good reason to cheat and it hurts everyone in the cheaters and the victim's circle of family and friends.
Keep in mind you could be their, and theirs next house, laundry maid n future cheated on divorcee. There's plenty decent single partners. Male, female, you deserve better.
It was the other way around she was actually interested in him looking at him with those piercing beautiful eyes i would have been hard for me to resist.
I knew what it felt like.. waiting for my husband to come home..id hear a car..no husband..I finally let him go.. You can't make any one love you.. After a few years..I got together with a nice guy.. later on...I decided to stay alone... much better.. Now I've been able to love.. with out sadness.. peace
Too bad she didn’t pursue a relationship with the kid from the newspaper as her first college love interest. He was nice, serious but funny and not a bad looking kid. Much better suited for her than a married creep who hit on his young babysitter the first day they met.
Wasn't great that the Loretta Swit character used her class to advertize for a baby sitter. That would get you kicked to the curb these days, misusing the power of your position. I disliked both the professor and the architect. Glad the girl physically and emotionally extricated herself from the couple. Heard horrible stories from the 80s of grad students and professors targettng incoming freshmen females at Syracuse University.
I had only been married a little over a year when someone older showed interest. I stopped it at the first sentence…..I wasn’t rude to him but I let him know I had a husband. I made a vow, and that included having lunch with the gentleman. Maybe he was just being friendly but I wasn’t going to even go near that line! Married 59 years to my best friend!
Love it ❤ My mom died 4 yrs ago just shy of my parents 60th anniversary. They were together since high school. Dad is still grieving 😢. Marriage is a "sacred institution".. even if some don't believed it.
Melissa was on "James at 16" a TV show that ran for a couple seasons. He ran away with Melissa's character and they lost their virginity to each other. It was very much a 1970s love story.
The girl went after a married man..her professors husband, knowing they had two children. She was their babysitter to boot. His wife should have thrown him out and never looked back.
@@trawlins396 Nope. Power differential. Older men have done it, throughout human history. Prey upon someone who is naive, vulnerable, and has little to no life experience. Makes it so much easier to control her. Also, made him feel less insecure about having a wife in a position of power.
And 50s, and 60s, even 70s. Men decouple from wanting a partner their own age in their 40s. Means most women end up alone nowadays in their 40s for life. Fewer are able to remarry midlife.. 70 year old clowns still chasing the young ones
@@AS-yz2izYou can only shake your head when you hear (or read) comments made with an authoritative tone spoken by those who lack the experience to make such assertions. I know significantly fewer women who are alone than those who are not alone. That’s not to say that there are few men and women who get involved in extramarital affairs. It’s just my age-ushered experience that they’re not the majority.
I love the two finger typing at the end trying to meet a deadline lol you can tell MSA never had to type anything for real in her life. 1:33 I love these shows that go back to the 80's. Even if they are about a taboo subject they are still done with taste and are not vile or full of nudity or cussing. The endings are unsatisfying in many of the shorter films and this ending was better than most. I have been binging on the after-school specials from the 70's and 80's and they end like there should be a whole other scene. But there will never be another time in life like the late 70's through the 80's. They were just the best!!!
I wonder why some comments says bad ending .. Really ? You think that a man of forthy yrs old with a 18yrs old is okay and that breaking a marriage is okay ? I find it a good ending for everyone. Everyone will return to their life and healing from their pains. That's it. Great lesson of life.
Yes the story definitely ended with the best possible outcome for everyone involved. Luckily she didn't get pregnant: if she had there would have been a lot more suffering , for that child, or for his other children.
My father remarried at 42 to my stepmother who was 18, in 1983. They had my half brother, and stayed married until his death in 2017. Go 🖕 yourself, and your opinion. Love has no age discrimination.
@lyndsaysrebornnurseryoffib4241 When i was 18, I would think 40 year old after 18 year old is perv. Heck, I would think that something wrong with anyone over 25 seeing 18 years old. Eta when I was 18 I knew right from wrong. Seeing married man is wrong.
Reminds me of like giving birth to a stillborn that movie that reminds me of that after school special with Rob Lowe from the 80's can't remember the name it's so horrible 😭 these kind of movies hit the heart and hit home .they don't make them like that anymore .Aye short film 45 minutes.
Wow.. It is really hard to imagine one of TV history's most beloved dads "in an inappropriate relationship" with one of TV histories most beloved daughters... but this lightening in a bottle cast makes things work.
Feel like the first day when she had dinner with family and he wanted to walk her to her dorm was a red flag. Even at a naive 18, why would you think or want your English teacher’s 30-40 year old husband showing you the sights of the city? Why she doesn’t consider the wife at all. They use the friend’s apartment. She talks about how strange that feels. Who knew 40 years later it would become a thing to rent out your home called Airbnb.
That first part didn't bother me, because she was right out of the midwest and didn't even know the city or campus, so it came across as protective that he walked her to her dorm. But everything after that, more red flags than a Chinese army. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
It sure does. 25 years of marriage and thats what he did to me. I have been divorced for fourteen years and you couldn’t pay at me enough to do it again
Ummm......okay. It's corny and overacted as heck with cheesy music. I couldn't get through more than the first ten minutes. This nice parental messaging; the little brats in the back singing about beer. I started watching out of curiosity.
marraige is a man made construct and cheating has been going on since the beginning of time. It's built into us biologically because it ensures the survival of humans.
@LivNoTByles, people know right from wrong today, they just don't care about who gets hurt, they only think of their own selfish wants and needs. I'm not judging, lord knows I've made some selfish mistakes in my life when I was young.
@@aladynamedSusan There is an entire section of emojis that I can choose from. I just click on the smiley face under the line of text I'm typing out and I scroll through them until I see something interesting.
Kim’s scenes were some of my favorites of the film. She showed real compassion for her friend and was so sweet in her enthusiasm for wanting to be an actress.
Yup! It's like the wife wanted problems. I don't care how strong a marriage is, do NOT invite the temptation into your home. I wouldn't want some buff big di** dude in my house cleaning the darn pool every day while I'm at home baking bread😆😆😆
A very good movie. It just makes me so angry to see how a married woman would do anything else than to leave her cheating husband. I allways think women who takes back these husbands are a disgrace to us other women, it's like we are not worth anything, sleep around and we will still take you back. I would have loved it if both women had turned him away, so that he would have ended up with no one, would have served him right.
@molly1847. Once the trust is gone in a marriage I don’t know how how it’s recaptured again. As difficult as it might be to cut the ties for financial security, for kids or out of sheer boredom, in the long run it’s the only option. Especially a situation like this where the creep hits on the young babysitter and the woman’s student. How is she supposed to return to work in a career she loves and is great at without thinking everyone knows. He couldn’t have humiliated her any more if he tried.
That's about your ego. People who believe in marriage don't walk away because they were hurt. They recognise how they contributed to any dysfunction, show forgiveness and grace, then work through problems. Thank goodness she cared more about her children than pretending to be some boss b$tch who would in reality have little chance of meeting someone else and end up with boxed wine and cats.
@@rcg1111 About whose ego? People who believe in marriage do not hit on a teenaged babysitter who happens to be a student of his wife's the first day the girl enters the house and then carries on a torrid affair spending money on lunches, gas, gifts on his girlfriend and time on her that should have been devoted to his family. He basically ensured his wife would have to go to work humiliated every day that everyone knew about the creep's behavior. How much did HE care about his children behaving in this despicable manner?
@@rcg1111 but marriage is about love and trust. When you lose both there is only the empty facade left. Of course you CAN stay but better to move on while you can still enjoy life and find a man who choses you over others.
100% truth. This was nothing more than a midlife crisis. I wouldn’t be surprised to learn it was his only affair the way he hit on her almost immediately.
Definitely robbing the cradle. He absolutely knew better and was just a heel. But it's possible for college kids to have stronger moral fibers by that time if effort is made. I guess everyone is different and matures at different rates, but I'd say something went wrong instilling a strong sense of right and wrong before she was set loose. They definitely need continuing guidance from parents as they set out into the world on their maiden voyage. They don't just jet off with all your knowledge. They need to keep that connection and seek wisdom.
Here’s older , wiser me saying “you silly, silly little girl”. While younger me was so flattered by attention from an older man 🤦🏻♀️. It was so easy to get snowed by the whole “my wife doesn’t understand me! We’re only together on paper for the kids! You make me feel young again!!” 🙄. Thank god I had solid friends and older cousins to make me aware of that!!
Has anyone in the comments seen the movie “The Babysitter’s Seduction”? It stars Steven Collins, a widowed man who has an affair with the Babysitter played by Keri Russell?
@@shondaetsame! Wow, I can't believe my parents let that happen. I remember the dad driving me home many times. Thankfully he was a good man. We were so danged innocent back in the 80s.
Boy, for awhile I didn't know of very many TV movies earlier than 1990. And be it a motion picture or a made for TV movie, you can usually tell if a movie is older from the quality, the sound being more muffled. Obviously because television, film, computer, and technology related things are constantly improving and evolving as time passes. I have some vague memories of 1983 and to think this was considered modern quality at the time. 😂
Been there. I was 21, 22 and going after men 12 to 20 years older than me. You think you know what you want, and it’s great being with an older man…Until you realize that they’re using you.
In those days it was frowned upon to "Live in sin" so when you consider those old fashioned attitudes,you can understand but it still doesn't make it right.
Some of this wasn't very realistic The wife was a little too forgiving toward Toby to be believable. The children weren't much of a part nor did it show how all of this affected them when their father moved out. I really liked the newspaper boy. He was so genuine. Toby missed a great opportunity in not having him for her boyfriend.
Moping around feeling sorry for herself after she’s caught and she’s the victim? friends codling her. Ugh! This movie is so wrong on so many levels, I don’t know where to start.
When I was 17 i worked at a gas station that had full service garage. It was near the naval base . I worked with 3 handsome older military men. Long story short I ended up in a situation i was way too young for. He was 27 married and had a baby . His wife was 500 miles away. Need i say more ? It took its toll on me and i dont believe he gave me a 2nd thought once he got back home. Men do this all the time .
Should be a required course for teenage girls. Men have always lied to trick young women. Their wives know this, so we don’t even get mad at the teen girls. “Oh my wife and I, basically not even married…” “…my horrible wife…” should be immediate red flags 🚩
I know Boston pretty well,I grew up about 45 minutes away.Its pretty neat knowing all the places they mention like Newbury street.Used to be a fantastic record store there,you could find anything.Melissa Andersen was a tv star by the time this movie was made and for this guy to land this part as her older boyfriend must have been amazing for him.I was about 14 at the time but I thought she was just beautiful..
@djsi39t. Melissa always had an ethereal quality while on Little House and beyond. Her light blue eyes were so beautiful and a lot of guys liked her. Melissa Gilbert seemed like such a kid in comparison. It was great seeing her in this film.
I’m so glad Greg did what what he could to try to save his marriage and family. And she was willing to try. It would be crazy to throw away so many years of marriage without honest communication and trying. Many marriages can be saved and keep the family together and be happy. Don’t give up when it’s difficult. Be committed, get help and renew your love. Of course if it’s abusive you should leave. Great movie.
I agree, but the only crazy part was, at the end he was still willing to jeopardize things for an 18 yr, while his wife was out of town, by inviting this girl in for coffee. Wouldn't that only further hurt his wife and his marriage? That should've never crossed his mind to do, and yet he still did it. That's crazy to me.
All of them are very good actors. Guys who are older want to think they are still good looking. I don't think they are so keen for sx. They just want to want know they are still attractive in
This could have been a typical love triangle cliche. Instead, we are treated to some fine acting and a compelling story about the complex relationships between people, as well as their compassion and forgiveness for one another...
I think it's crazy right from from the beginning she knew he's married. The women is one of her teachers she's looking after her children. I know it happens. But under the circumstances of how it happened from day one. Acting like he's available. Perhaps he's made himself available from the beginning.But how can she warm to him. It seems sleazy to me. Yuck. He acting like he's single on the first night meeting each other. And her meeting him as part of the family. And their conversation together. You would think she would put up boundaries. She obviously doesnt know how to protect herself. But her behavior doesn't really seem innocent.. and a nice young man is also interested in her.
I know. It would shock me to learn this was not his only affair the way he immediately hit on her and like you said behaved like he was single. No respect at all for his wife and mother of his kids. He wasn’t even the least bit discrete getting into it with her in the family home and going after one of her students. He couldn’t have humiliated and dehumanized her more if he tried. So gross.
Very well done movie. Loved the fashions back then too. He just booted his wife to the side zeroed in on the student/babysitter like a vampire. He obviously was failing as a husband and thought you’re getting on my nerves wife so I will just get back at you for that in the most humiliating way. The student is on her own desperate for connections and she made a naive decision. He turned out to be a letch and a lout. The wife was beautiful could chuck him to the side now find someone who will honour her. May take some time but take the longer harder route invest in yourself and write a new chapter in your own life. All roads lead away from him and that’s all good. Full steam ahead…
Notice that the Toby character acts kinda like drug addicts act during the affair. She pisses off her friends, can't do her work, and isn't functional. So true. They captured the situation well. And that husband, he doesn't give a thought to what she's trying to accomplish, he's a selfish creep using her for his middle age crisis.
This was 2 years after Melissa Sue Anderson starred in that horror movie "Midnight Offerings" in 1981 in which she got killed when her mother sacrificed herself and took Melissa with her in that fire!
It is of interest that Caroline Rose Isenberg, a Harvard Senior, who played the brief part of Meg in this movie was sadly murdered on December 2, 1984 in NYC. After returning from a Broadway show, she was attacked, dragged to the roof of her apartment building and stabbed to death by Emmanuel Torres, the son of the building custodian. Torres was sentenced to life imprisonment for his crimes. Check out the Wikipedia entry for Caroline Rose Isenberg for more details.
Her sister commented above about this, but she didn't mention her sister's name. I was trying to Google it and couldn't find it. Thank you for the information.
I remember watching a thriller movie back in the day with MSA starring in it. I believe she played as twins, one of which was the evil twin. Can't remember the name of it, but it was a good one of the 1980s.
Melissa Sue Anderson was an insufferable shoot on the set of Little House on the Prairie. She was a great actress because she pretended to be beat friends with her TV sister when she snubbed her off off set, Melissa Gilbert was only one is "Mary's victims. Melissa Gilbert and Allison Ingram were the very best of friends throughout the entire series.
Melissa Sue Anderson was such a great actress ❤❤ Forever Mary Ingalls.
So lovely to see Loretta Swit❤❤
He's having a mid life crisis and the 18 year old girl is a distraction. He's using her and she's too naive to know that. He doesn't love her. He feels lust. Big difference.
Definitely a mid-life crisis, but that involves more than just lust. It's about trying to do the impossible and be young again. Also, as expressed in this film, looking for a simple relationship with a stranger, as opposed to the complicated feelings that have built up during a long term relationship.
bordering on pedophilia
Such a cliché 😆
Naive? As of the 46th minute it seems the girl knows what she wants and is going after it.
When you're a young woman you think that's what you want, but you don't realize what your life would have been like years later. It would have been awful. He probably would have done the same thing to her.
Oh my goodness gracious!😮 What would Ma and Pa say? None of the Ingalls would be able to show their faces in Walnut Grove again!😂
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Love little house, but never saw this before
They are rolling over in their graves!😂
That's what makes it so tough for child actors is after they leave their biggest send off of a run of a show, and they go on to movies and other acting people keep locking them into in their minds to where they started at and they can't get their original characters out of their own had while they're watching the actors try to expand their acting careers as adults in a different role
Lol some of this comments 😂
They used to have the best TV movies with such good actors.
They sure did during this era!
I miss these tv movies...such great quality ❤
@@amyt1238 Same here!
This was quite the paycheck movie. (So many recognizable faces in 1 movie.)
Whenever a married man showed interest in me, even when I was that young, it immediately drew a red flag in my mind. No way was I crossing that line. I had too much respect for the wife. My parents had a solid marriage and I'd never want to break up a sacred bond. It's just selfish
I was exactly the same. For me, the reason is my father was a serial cheater and constantly cheated on my mother. It broke her heart. So, seeing this as a child completely disgusted me to cheating and cheaters. There is never a good reason to cheat and it hurts everyone in the cheaters and the victim's circle of family and friends.
Yes!!!
Keep in mind you could be their, and theirs next house, laundry maid n future cheated on divorcee. There's plenty decent single partners. Male, female, you deserve better.
It was the other way around she was actually interested in him looking at him with those piercing beautiful eyes i would have been hard for me to resist.
I knew what it felt like.. waiting for my husband to come home..id hear a car..no husband..I finally let him go..
You can't make any one love you..
After a few years..I got together with a nice guy.. later on...I decided to stay alone... much better..
Now I've been able to love.. with out sadness.. peace
Too bad she didn’t pursue a relationship with the kid from the newspaper as her first college love interest. He was nice, serious but funny and not a bad looking kid. Much better suited for her than a married creep who hit on his young babysitter the first day they met.
He was too nerdy for her...
To me he was her type! She came from Nebraska for goodness sake! She just wanted something that wasn’t hers!
So this is basically like Mystic Pizza only more happens? I'm just here for the glimpse into the 80s.
@@sandramayes8679he was nerdy but cute
Shame on him he ahould know better. A fling for him,a lifetime for her.
Wow that is so true
Wasn't great that the Loretta Swit character used her class to advertize for a baby sitter. That would get you kicked to the curb these days, misusing the power of your position. I disliked both the professor and the architect. Glad the girl physically and emotionally extricated herself from the couple. Heard horrible stories from the 80s of grad students and professors targettng incoming freshmen females at Syracuse University.
@@bernadette573 Yes that was odd for the 70's, 80's or now. Professors recruiting nannys in the classroom is not right.
Kim Delaney and Amanda Bearce played on All My Children during that era.
And then Amanda went on to Married with Children. Looks different here but has the same voice
@@Lisa59and Kim eventually landed on NYPD Blue.
That's the dad from Silverspoons.. Yall remember that show? Lol
Yes, little Ricky, Richy Rich. I loved that TV show.
YES... 😀 JOHN JOEL HIGGENS I BELIEVE ITS HIS NAME.... 🌟🌟🌟🌟😎😎😎
@@bonniebrown6960 RICKY SCHROEDER PLAYED THE SON ON SILVER SPOONS GREAT COMEDY PROGRAM..
Whoa!! I didn’t realize that until you pointed that out. I used to watch that all the time when I was a kid.
He was also played in the show "Scarecrow And Mrs. King".
Happy to find this rare movie after so many years, love all her movies, but this one is one of her best. Thank You.
I had only been married a little over a year when someone older showed interest. I stopped it at the first sentence…..I wasn’t rude to him but I let him know I had a husband. I made a vow, and that included having lunch with the gentleman. Maybe he was just being friendly but I wasn’t going to even go near that line! Married 59 years to my best friend!
G.O.D bless u
When you have a solid marriage with God in the center it helps tremendously! Blessings to you both .
Love it ❤ My mom died 4 yrs ago just shy of my parents 60th anniversary. They were together since high school. Dad is still grieving 😢.
Marriage is a "sacred institution".. even if some don't believed it.
My husband was in Vietnam and even though he was gone a whole year I remained faithful!
Very dry down there
Back in that days these actors were cast due to their popularity!! Hot lips meets Silver spoons,that kicks it with Little House on the prairie.......
And All My Children,Kim Delaney.
@@retha1875 yess indeed,Kim is one of the greatest!!
haaa!!!
...and Amanda Bearse from Married with Children (Marcie) 😂
All wonderful actors,
I can't complain. 😉👍
Melissa was on "James at 16" a TV show that ran for a couple seasons. He ran away with Melissa's character and they lost their virginity to each other. It was very much a 1970s love story.
James Kerwin was hot. I had a 70s crush on him!
Lance Kerwin
James lost his virginity to a Swedish exchange student. Melissa didnt play her either. Kirsten Baker was the actress.
@@maximusprime3459 Yeah, James' and Melissa's character tried, but it was awkward and they gave up, if I remember correctly.
It was “James At 15” not 16. Great show
The girl went after a married man..her professors husband, knowing they had two children. She was their babysitter to boot. His wife should have thrown him out and never looked back.
No, a 40 year old man went after an 18 year old.
@@elizabethnobody6591no. SHE went after him. Just because she's younger doesn't mean there's no accountability.
@@trawlins396 Nope. Power differential. Older men have done it, throughout human history. Prey upon someone who is naive, vulnerable, and has little to no life experience. Makes it so much easier to control her. Also, made him feel less insecure about having a wife in a position of power.
Came here to say this. She's the instigator.
@elizabethnobody6591 SHE started asking roommates about dating a 40 year old before she even started babysitting!!!
Yep it always hits the man in his 40s and it doesn't matter that his wife is beautiful
And 50s, and 60s, even 70s. Men decouple from wanting a partner their own age in their 40s. Means most women end up alone nowadays in their 40s for life. Fewer are able to remarry midlife.. 70 year old clowns still chasing the young ones
"most"? Glad I don't know those types of men.
@@AS-yz2izYou can only shake your head when you hear (or read) comments made with an authoritative tone spoken by those who lack the experience to make such assertions. I know significantly fewer women who are alone than those who are not alone. That’s not to say that there are few men and women who get involved in extramarital affairs. It’s just my age-ushered experience that they’re not the majority.
That is true, and if the guy had any morals, he’d figure himself and put himself in check. That’s why so many marriages end up the way they are.
Is that hot lips ?? From mash
Wow, it's nice to see Margaret finally left Frank Burns and had a family.
You forget "Donald" her hubby 🤣
@@1songbird7 Nah, she left him remember.
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Don’t get too attached
Thanks for this upload, if Lifetime 2023 ever did a remake, it would be total SHIT.
The girl would get mad and try to kill the guy. Or vice versa.
I would only watch it if Joel HIggins played Greg again. He's a hottie!..
HOLY SHIT HE'S 80 !! LMAO
I love the two finger typing at the end trying to meet a deadline lol you can tell MSA never had to type anything for real in her life. 1:33 I love these shows that go back to the 80's. Even if they are about a taboo subject they are still done with taste and are not vile or full of nudity or cussing. The endings are unsatisfying in many of the shorter films and this ending was better than most. I have been binging on the after-school specials from the 70's and 80's and they end like there should be a whole other scene. But there will never be another time in life like the late 70's through the 80's. They were just the best!!!
I, too, have been watching after school specials from back in the 80's!
I wonder why some comments says bad ending .. Really ? You think that a man of forthy yrs old with a 18yrs old is okay and that breaking a marriage is okay ? I find it a good ending for everyone. Everyone will return to their life and healing from their pains. That's it. Great lesson of life.
Yes the story definitely ended with the best possible outcome for everyone involved. Luckily she didn't get pregnant: if she had there would have been a lot more suffering , for that child, or for his other children.
My father remarried at 42 to my stepmother who was 18, in 1983.
They had my half brother, and stayed married until his death in 2017.
Go 🖕 yourself, and your opinion. Love has no age discrimination.
It’s not right she should be with someone her own age! When I was 18 I wasn’t interested in 40 year old men!
@lyndsaysrebornnurseryoffib4241 When i was 18, I would think 40 year old after 18 year old is perv. Heck, I would think that something wrong with anyone over 25 seeing 18 years old. Eta when I was 18 I knew right from wrong. Seeing married man is wrong.
Reminds me of like giving birth to a stillborn that movie that reminds me of that after school special with Rob Lowe from the 80's can't remember the name it's so horrible 😭 these kind of movies hit the heart and hit home .they don't make them like that anymore .Aye short film 45 minutes.
Love this!
Wow.. It is really hard to imagine one of TV history's most beloved dads "in an inappropriate relationship" with one of TV histories most beloved daughters... but this lightening in a bottle cast makes things work.
In deutsch
He was married to Hot Lips!
Feel like the first day when she had dinner with family and he wanted to walk her to her dorm was a red flag. Even at a naive 18, why would you think or want your English teacher’s 30-40 year old husband showing you the sights of the city? Why she doesn’t consider the wife at all. They use the friend’s apartment. She talks about how strange that feels. Who knew 40 years later it would become a thing to rent out your home called Airbnb.
That first part didn't bother me, because she was right out of the midwest and didn't even know the city or campus, so it came across as protective that he walked her to her dorm. But everything after that, more red flags than a Chinese army. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Sex outside of marriage hurts people.
Cheating hurts people. Not everyone needs to be married to have sex
It sure does. 25 years of marriage and thats what he did to me. I have been divorced for fourteen years and you couldn’t pay at me enough to do it again
That's the truth..... that people don't really want to hear
@@pazza4555You don't HAVE to be, but you SHOULD be.
"We could drink gin and take naps"
RELATABLE AF
😂😂😂
They should've stayed at the beach.
Better Mono than pregnancy
Nobody ended up murdered, and nobody killed them selves, I’d like this ending!
I guess spoiler alerts don't matter.
Good piont....!! At least no one died.
@@CrissyRed true x
As a kid I never realized how pretty Loretta Swit is.
Moral of the story is: no matter how troubled your marriage is don’t have an affair.
The advice the professor gave Toby at the end was great advice and so true
They really should have named it “Her Only Affair” - because she won’t likely do THAT again.
Especially after getting caught and later lectured by Margaret "Hot Lips" Houlihan. Some girls have disappeared for less.
Thanks, Captain Obvious
@@washcaps71 It wasn’t obvious to the folks who named the movie. 🤷🏼♀️
@@fwdthinkerfacts!
My sister played Meg in this movie.
Really??
@@susanpiechowski283 Yes. She passed away Dec 1984. She was the only real Harvard student chosen to be in the movie.She was murdered in NYC.
@@BostonEsq omg. I'm so sorry
@@susanpiechowski283 Thank you so much. She was an amazing person.
Oh my goodness 😢@@BostonEsq
I didn’t feel sorry for her at all. She knew exactly what she was doing.
When television movies had style and personality.
Ummm......okay. It's corny and overacted as heck with cheesy music. I couldn't get through more than the first ten minutes. This nice parental messaging; the little brats in the back singing about beer. I started watching out of curiosity.
Today people no longer know right from wrong sadly. Not committing adultery comes from a biblical foundation in society.
marraige is a man made construct and cheating has been going on since the beginning of time. It's built into us biologically because it ensures the survival of humans.
@LivNoTByles, people know right from wrong today, they just don't care about who gets hurt, they only think of their own selfish wants and needs. I'm not judging, lord knows I've made some selfish mistakes in my life when I was young.
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@@valerieking5265Hey how do you get that ghost emoji to look like that😮
@@aladynamedSusan There is an entire section of emojis that I can choose from. I just click on the smiley face under the line of text I'm typing out and I scroll through them until I see something interesting.
Good movie!! Thankyou 🎉
I would recommend this movie to every female on Earth who's just THINKING about getting involved with a married man. And vice-versa. F that sh*t.
This movie was very unrealistic. The wife forgave her in the end. That rarely happens.
Let’s not forget that the wife had no problem going for drinks with a male colleague and flirting
So well-acted. No fluff. I liked it a lot.
This movie is like a "who's who" Kim Delaney is in here too,as one of the college students!
Kim’s scenes were some of my favorites of the film. She showed real compassion for her friend and was so sweet in her enthusiasm for wanting to be an actress.
She drinks a lot and is very mature for an 18 year old. And don’t tell me the wife doesn’t suspect anything, come on!
Never hire someone young and pretty to work for your family. Recipe for disaster.
Yup! It's like the wife wanted problems. I don't care how strong a marriage is, do NOT invite the temptation into your home. I wouldn't want some buff big di** dude in my house cleaning the darn pool every day while I'm at home baking bread😆😆😆
A very good movie. It just makes me so angry to see how a married woman would do anything else than to leave her cheating husband. I allways think women who takes back these husbands are a disgrace to us other women, it's like we are not worth anything, sleep around and we will still take you back. I would have loved it if both women had turned him away, so that he would have ended up with no one, would have served him right.
@molly1847. Once the trust is gone in a marriage I don’t know how how it’s recaptured again. As difficult as it might be to cut the ties for financial security, for kids or out of sheer boredom, in the long run it’s the only option. Especially a situation like this where the creep hits on the young babysitter and the woman’s student. How is she supposed to return to work in a career she loves and is great at without thinking everyone knows. He couldn’t have humiliated her any more if he tried.
@@kathyditondo1175 Exactly!!!! She should move out, start a new life!
That's about your ego. People who believe in marriage don't walk away because they were hurt. They recognise how they contributed to any dysfunction, show forgiveness and grace, then work through problems. Thank goodness she cared more about her children than pretending to be some boss b$tch who would in reality have little chance of meeting someone else and end up with boxed wine and cats.
@@rcg1111 About whose ego? People who believe in marriage do not hit on a teenaged babysitter who happens to be a student of his wife's the first day the girl enters the house and then carries on a torrid affair spending money on lunches, gas, gifts on his girlfriend and time on her that should have been devoted to his family. He basically ensured his wife would have to go to work humiliated every day that everyone knew about the creep's behavior. How much did HE care about his children behaving in this despicable manner?
@@rcg1111 but marriage is about love and trust. When you lose both there is only the empty facade left. Of course you CAN stay but better to move on while you can still enjoy life and find a man who choses you over others.
A 40 year old man seeing an 18 year old teenager, he used her! Sad ending
100% truth. This was nothing more than a midlife crisis. I wouldn’t be surprised to learn it was his only affair the way he hit on her almost immediately.
Definitely robbing the cradle. He absolutely knew better and was just a heel.
But it's possible for college kids to have stronger moral fibers by that time if effort is made. I guess everyone is different and matures at different rates, but I'd say something went wrong instilling a strong sense of right and wrong before she was set loose.
They definitely need continuing guidance from parents as they set out into the world on their maiden voyage. They don't just jet off with all your knowledge. They need to keep that connection and seek wisdom.
It's not a documentary.
@@c.eb.1216I absolutely agree! What did her parents teach her?
Gosh Melissa is such a beautiful lady. I always liked her. I grew up watching her play Mary too.
Ya we all did
Here’s older , wiser me saying “you silly, silly little girl”. While younger me was so flattered by attention from an older man 🤦🏻♀️. It was so easy to get snowed by the whole “my wife doesn’t understand me! We’re only together on paper for the kids! You make me feel young again!!” 🙄. Thank god I had solid friends and older cousins to make me aware of that!!
Has anyone in the comments seen the movie “The Babysitter’s Seduction”? It stars Steven Collins, a widowed man who has an affair with the Babysitter played by Keri Russell?
Yes, it's a good movie.
Yes,
I saw it.
I can't watch him after his misdoings in Hollywood but Kerri Russell is a great actress.
That is a great movie!
Wow it's Marcy from Married with Children.
Marcy D'Arcy
No it's not.
It's hot lips off the TV show " Mash ".
@bonniebrown6960 it's Loretta Swit and Amanda Bearse both
Little House Mary
Loretta Swit played in Cagney and Lacey pilot.
Hey it's Amanda Bearse playing one of the friends AKA Marci Rhodes from Married with children. 😂
Thanks. Couldn’t figure out where I’ve seen her. Lol
Aaahhhh that's who she is! Knew the face and voice but couldn't place her!
Thanks 😊
Melissa Sue Anderson one of my first of many tv crushes. ☺️
This is a stupid movie because no woman would willingly let her man take an eighteen year old female back to her dorm,alone.
Yes he eagerly did it twice. Weird
or hire her to look after the children not a sensible move
I babysat a lot and the husband usually picked me up and brought me home. I'm glad nothing ever happened. It never occurred to me.
@@shondaetsame! Wow, I can't believe my parents let that happen. I remember the dad driving me home many times. Thankfully he was a good man. We were so danged innocent back in the 80s.
Absolutely not
Boy, for awhile I didn't know of very many TV movies earlier than 1990. And be it a motion picture or a made for TV movie, you can usually tell if a movie is older from the quality, the sound being more muffled. Obviously because television, film, computer, and technology related things are constantly improving and evolving as time passes. I have some vague memories of 1983 and to think this was considered modern quality at the time. 😂
This was a time when there had to be an actual plot. Technology has destroyed the industry.
Been there. I was 21, 22 and going after men 12 to 20 years older than me. You think you know what you want, and it’s great being with an older man…Until you realize that they’re using you.
This was a really great movie ⭐
@1:15:20 -She's thinking "I should've married Radar instead when I had the chance!" 😂
Agreed...That's funny😅
😂😂😂
Dad from Silver Spoons! I always thought he was underrated.
It's Marcy from Married With Children 😮
the roommate? I thought it was Candy from two and a half men😁
I thought the movie was OK. I don’t know what I expected but I wouldn’t watch it again and I wouldn’t recommend it.
I love the 80s😂❤🎉❤w🎉❤
Me too! The best years of my life.
Mary, Mary, quite contrary. Where did your morals go?????😮
Kids are no longer allowed to sing 99 bottles of beer on the wall. This society is way too easily triggered.
He's not married, he's just living with someone ... Like that makes it okay?!!!
It's better than him being married.
In those days it was frowned upon to "Live in sin" so when you consider those old fashioned
attitudes,you can understand but it still doesn't make it right.
@@Froggie757froggiefroggiefroggi Some people still frown upon "living in sin".
@@AS-yz2iz no they don't hahaha
@@Froggie757froggiefroggiefroggi "Didn't"? I said "still", so it's don't. And, yes, some people still have morals, even if you don't.
Some of this wasn't very realistic The wife was a little too forgiving toward Toby to be believable. The children weren't much of a part nor did it show how all of this affected them when their father moved out. I really liked the newspaper boy. He was so genuine. Toby missed a great opportunity in not having him for her boyfriend.
Exactly!!! The wife was like, shit happens, let's move forward!
And he still invited the girl in for coffee while his wife was out of town. Wow!
@@calvthomas6153unbelievable
Moping around feeling sorry for herself after she’s caught and she’s the victim? friends codling her. Ugh! This movie is so wrong on so many levels, I don’t know where to start.
The mistress and her friends are gross
Facts😂😂😂😂 that lil girl gone die a side piece😂
His "poor me" attitude is annoying.
Right, like my ninja you cheated, whet????😩😩😩
This was a great movie, great actors!!! 👍
I TOTALLY forgot about this one!! I love "old movies" like this.❤
When typing class wasn't required to graduate high school to get into college !!
It wasn't back in 2011 is it now.
@@nicoleackerman205That's the opposite of what I'd expect, but good!
It was in school year 1986-1987 where I come from.😮
Men always want the best of both worlds
And they usually get them.
@@SallyMalicoat-m4f You must be young. *They usually end up in a Disastrous situation and lose the Family.*
"He understands how i feel" "I can tell him everything"....OMG. Gag me
When I was 17 i worked at a gas station that had full service garage. It was near the naval base . I worked with 3 handsome older military men. Long story short I ended up in a situation i was way too young for. He was 27 married and had a baby . His wife was 500 miles away. Need i say more ? It took its toll on me and i dont believe he gave me a 2nd thought once he got back home. Men do this all the time .
@@Rollimggiant did you know he was married and had a baby or did you find this out after he left?
Should be a required course for teenage girls. Men have always lied to trick young women. Their wives know this, so we don’t even get mad at the teen girls. “Oh my wife and I, basically not even married…” “…my horrible wife…” should be immediate red flags 🚩
Aren’t you a dude?
I know Boston pretty well,I grew up about 45 minutes away.Its pretty neat knowing all the places they mention like Newbury street.Used to be a fantastic record store there,you could find anything.Melissa Andersen was a tv star by the time this movie was made and for this guy to land this part as her older boyfriend must have been amazing for him.I was about 14 at the time but I thought she was just beautiful..
@djsi39t. Melissa always had an ethereal quality while on Little House and beyond. Her light blue eyes were so beautiful and a lot of guys liked her. Melissa Gilbert seemed like such a kid in comparison. It was great seeing her in this film.
He was a big star himself
@@kathyditondo1175if you read her autobiography you'd also see that she's incredibly conceited. She thinks she's the most beautiful person on earth.
@@trawlins396I read it and it was awful!
Everyone talks about Kim & Melissa Sue, but what about Joni loves Chachi?
I’m so glad Greg did what what he could to try to save his marriage and family. And she was willing to try. It would be crazy to throw away so many years of marriage without honest communication and trying. Many marriages can be saved and keep the family together and be happy. Don’t give up when it’s difficult. Be committed, get help and renew your love. Of course if it’s abusive you should leave. Great movie.
I agree, but the only crazy part was, at the end he was still willing to jeopardize things for an 18 yr, while his wife was out of town, by inviting this girl in for coffee. Wouldn't that only further hurt his wife and his marriage? That should've never crossed his mind to do, and yet he still did it. That's crazy to me.
@@calvthomas6153which is why once they cheat, you beat you feet✋🏾🚶🏾➡️🚶🏾➡️🚶🏾➡️
All of them are very good actors. Guys who are older want to think they are still good looking. I don't think they are so keen for sx. They just want to want know they are still attractive in
You can't escape responsibility.
You can if you're Carlee Russell.
2:38 for what it’s worth, Jimmy Swanson in the Krazy Kripples episode of South Park sang this song and was at “65 bottles of beer”
This could have been a typical love triangle cliche. Instead,
we are treated to some fine acting and a compelling story
about the complex relationships between people, as well as their compassion and forgiveness for one another...
This is a really good film to watch 😊
I think it's crazy right from from the beginning she knew he's married. The women is one of her teachers she's looking after her children. I know it happens. But under the circumstances of how it happened from day one. Acting like he's available. Perhaps he's made himself available from the beginning.But how can she warm to him. It seems sleazy to me. Yuck. He acting like he's single on the first night meeting each other. And her meeting him as part of the family. And their conversation together. You would think she would put up boundaries. She obviously doesnt know how to protect herself. But her behavior doesn't really seem innocent.. and a nice young man is also interested in her.
I know. It would shock me to learn this was not his only affair the way he immediately hit on her and like you said behaved like he was single. No respect at all for his wife and mother of his kids. He wasn’t even the least bit discrete getting into it with her in the family home and going after one of her students. He couldn’t have humiliated and dehumanized her more if he tried. So gross.
He's being a creeper and borderline predatory. He shouldn't be around her students.
I've had a huge crush on Joel Higgins since Silver Spoons. Threesome was another good TV movie that he did.
She absolutely do not care that the guy is married. No bad feelings towards her nice teacher. Unbelievable. 😮
Very well done movie. Loved the fashions back then too. He just booted his wife to the side zeroed in on the student/babysitter like a vampire. He obviously was failing as a husband and thought you’re getting on my nerves wife so I will just get back at you for that in the most humiliating way. The student is on her own desperate for connections and she made a naive decision. He turned out to be a letch and a lout. The wife was beautiful could chuck him to the side now find someone who will honour her. May take some time but take the longer harder route invest in yourself and write a new chapter in your own life. All roads lead away from him and that’s all good. Full steam ahead…
The play is The Glass Menagerie...
The wife, AKA Hotlips Houlihan from M.A.S.H., was amazing at the end, a true teacher.
Notice that the Toby character acts kinda like drug addicts act during the affair. She pisses off her friends, can't do her work, and isn't functional. So true. They captured the situation well. And that husband, he doesn't give a thought to what she's trying to accomplish, he's a selfish creep using her for his middle age crisis.
I knew she could act I saw her in other roles 😊❤
This was 2 years after Melissa Sue Anderson starred in that horror movie "Midnight Offerings" in 1981 in which she got killed when her mother sacrificed herself and took Melissa with her in that fire!
Well they should have made sure Toby took typing lessons for this part. Good ending
Two index fingers hitting the keyboard!
She could've at least faked it.
The mistake this girl made was day dreaming of a married man.. she should of had stayed in her own lane
*should HAVE stayed
She knew and kept analyzing it and he was so non-committal with her AND especially his wife. How could he think the wife would just take him back!😮
Nope...she was single and can do whatever she wants
Oooo...she gonna get an F.
😂😂😂
Loretta Swit from M*A*S*H.
Melissa Sue Anderson from Little House on The Prairie.
❤❤yes 😂❤🎉❤
She was love sick & wanted attention. Wasn’t nothing wrong with her. They would’ve continued the relationship if they wouldn’t have got got.
Facts
It is of interest that Caroline Rose Isenberg, a Harvard Senior, who played the brief part of Meg in this movie was sadly murdered on December 2, 1984 in NYC. After returning from a Broadway show, she was attacked, dragged to the roof of her apartment building and stabbed to death by Emmanuel Torres, the son of the building custodian. Torres was sentenced to life imprisonment for his crimes. Check out the Wikipedia entry for Caroline Rose Isenberg for more details.
I just read about her on Wikipedia.
How awful.
Glad the guy got a life sentence, hopefully he didn’t get parole.
Her sister commented above about this, but she didn't mention her sister's name. I was trying to Google it and couldn't find it. Thank you for the information.
Would have liked to see the sequel about her second affair.
With Doc, on the love boat.
A tale of bittersweet first love.😢
I remember watching a thriller movie back in the day with MSA starring in it. I believe she played as twins, one of which was the evil twin. Can't remember the name of it, but it was a good one of the 1980s.
One I somehow missed at age 20! 😮
Me Too.
Thought I saw Them all.
Damn this is blurry
The movie is like 100 yrs old😂😂😂
Haha! The two-fingered typing as the credits roll.
Melissa Sue Anderson was an insufferable shoot on the set of Little House on the Prairie. She was a great actress because she pretended to be beat friends with her TV sister when she snubbed her off off set, Melissa Gilbert was only one is "Mary's victims.
Melissa Gilbert and Allison Ingram were the very best of friends throughout the entire series.
OMG! Those kids in the backseat. 🤯
Love Melissa Sue Anderson