Problems of living together as a mixed couple
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- Опубликовано: 2 июл 2024
- In my new video I will show you all the problems of living together as a mixed couple!
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I moved from Vietnam to Germany 3 years ago for studying. I make silly videos about how Germany looks like through the eyes of a Vietnamese - on my way to be your favourite Ausländer! :D
00:00 Intro
00:59 German boyfriend love fresh air
05:19 Subtitle
08:06 Family call
11:23 Can't let stuff go
13:24 Clumsiness
14:54 Punctuality
16:18 Cleanliness 
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dying at “knock knock knock, the truth wants to come in” 😩
Definitely will be using that
I will be using this too. 😅
It's interesting that the word for door and window is the same in Vietnamese
@@dragonsembernot quite though. Cửa vs cửa sổ.
Uyen coming onto the internet in her nightgown is the most wholesome thing I've seen❤😂
👍😍😎
she does this in a lot of her videos/shorts and i love her for it. she seems so real and down to earth.
My 3 yo daughter has a blanket that looks a lot like it, so i love seeing her in it 🥰
I think she's just always wearing the bathrobe because she's cold with german boyfriend luften, haha
The nightgown is probably just comfortable "home wear" and not worn at night 😉
The reason why we all love her, she’s genuine and kind which is pretty rare across the internet with superficial influencers. She’s great because she doesn’t put up an act doesn’t pretend everything’s perfect because life isn’t ❤
This is exactly the truth!
Yeah❤
100% ❤
So true. She makes me feel comfortable instantly. Such a sympathic person. Also the two together are so cute and funny.
She looks like me when I was younger ( and I’m part Vietnamese)😅
They are the definition of "we want this relationship to work!" WELL DONE
Uyen's face while German boyfriend is defending luften LOL I'm Asian and my husband is German, so Uyen, I FEEL you!!! I have used your videos to explain cultural differences to my husband. You are doing the world a service. Hahah. Love you two!!
I am _loving_ this comment because I think it's beautiful!! 🥰😘😇
I'm Canadian and I do luften. Fresh air absolutely makes a difference, specially when heating is on. I feel myself feeling lightheaded from lower levels of oxygen, if I don't open the patio door at least once in the day.
@@mothydududu congrats, you are officially Germanized! :D
It makes the heating bill go up!
@@obliviouscandybar It does not. only 10 minutes a day windows and patio doors being open is negligible. less than a dollar . The lack of fresh air will cause medical issues that cost way more than what opening it for 10 min costs. Lack of fresh air also means moisture accumulation and mold. Which again mold and health issues associated with mold cost a lot more.
"When you buy the third toaster, you throw away the first toaster." I feel seen! 🤣 Anyway, this is so wholesome. Having a ongoing dialogue about the mutual living space is so important. 💜
My mother's voice in my head, "what if there's a toaster shortage? Maybe we can reuse the parts..." 😂😂😂
I needed to hear this today 😂 thank you. I will donate the spare one it works well someone else can enjoy it 😅
Yeah, if it still works, I don't throw it away. Oh. Maybe the thrift store?
I happen to have 4 toasters in the cupboard right now. They work. I didn't buy new ones. Someone gave me them.
@@Brendawallingbear I've moved internationally more times than I want to count, and often I've put up stuff "for sale, whatever you want to give me" when I was moving again. I've also bought secondhand things from neighbors or coworkers, mostly beds; I'm small enough to use "teen beds" and if I'm going to use it for just a few months I don't care what color it is.
I'm amazed by how many people were superhappy to pay me for a small appliance as much as I'd paid (a few times, even more although I'd told them it had actually been cheaper, they insisted) simply because mine was already there and I could explain how it worked. Apparently the people in appliance stores and supermarkets are very scary and I'm not, so asking me "how do you use this toaster?" is ok.
Thrift store, garage sale, ad in the local supermarket's corkboard... the details vary by location, but wherever it is, "circular economy" is always a good thing for both parties.
😅 My goddess Never heard of anyone owning more than 2 working toasters.
2:56 NOT HIM ALSO STARTING TO CALL THE WINDOW AS "DOOR" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
My husband of 15 years is German and I'm Indian and have lived through through soooooo many of these things....so nice that you are bringing this topics up as I finally feel validated.
Cute
We love your German boyfriend! He's so adorable how he is defending the "lüften" process 😂😂😂
I mean he's right, if you don't do it, you'll have mold everywhere. His take on subtitles is ridicoulous however and I say that as a german guy.
@@johgu92Haha, you're really German with the lüften! I am not German, and I do it 1/2 a day, but I hated my German flatmates that would do it around once every 2h for at least 20 minutes. I never got mold in my own country (France) 😂
I grew up in Denver, and all through my growing-up years, we ventilated the house at night to keep things cool the next day in summer. But ventilating during the day, or ventilating at all in winter, seems crazy to me.
Of course, now I live in Dallas, and while we can ventilate in spring and fall, the time window is so short that we've forgotten all about it. In summer here, we keep the house tightly buttoned up and run the AC hard, because the days are infernal and the nights are uncomfortably warm.
Idk about your country but we would never get mold in winter in northeast US. The air is so dry inside that we actually run a humidifier in winter. I couldn't imagine opening a window and wasting all that heat.
@@rainfallmusic494the important thing is to open the windows long enough to exchange some air and get rid of the humidity, but short enough so you do not loose all the heat from the inside. 😏
“Knock, knock, who’s there, the truth” 😂 G.B. humour on point. Ps I love that you both made lists, this is my kind of relationship. Humour and directness
Watching Uyen's expressions while German BF explains his logic is the best, best, best.... You guys obviously find each other endearing and adorable and you love your differences as much as your commonalities. I love that you guys are both strong but have a great sense of humor.
So grateful you chose to do your vids in English even though it’s neither of yours first language ❤
As a German I totally relate with keeping stuff. I've got an emergency coffee machine and iron in the basement. You never know when stuff comes in handy. I have discussions with my husband about it because he wants to get rid of everything.
German boyfriend is right, dirty things on the floor or in a basket, wearable things on the chair and clean clothes in the wardrobe.
Don't let him!! My parents at one point had 3 extra washing machines in the basement and all of them went to family members whose randomly broke and they saved them. Well one saved themselves when the one they where using got flooded. Fun fact washing machines only like water on the inside 🙈
Why dont they sell those things yard sale online sale
American here. I agree with the clean/dirty clothes situation, especially in a hotel. Dirty clothes on the floor in the corner unless they are also wet, then it's on the shower curtain to dry before hitting the floor. Worn but still wearable on the chair, and clean still in the suitcase or unpacked in drawers or hanging. I understand Uyen's comment about putting in a bag, but I do that when packing to leave.. seems gross to have dirty clothes in a non-breathable bag for a long time.
I think it might be an european thing lol
@@Lonelyone1111 because you never know when you might need it.
German boyfriend needs to train and get into the subtitle game ASAP - and I say this as a German and at the same time movie lover. I stopped watching the dubbed versions when I was around 18 and I never went back to them. Once you learn to watch the original you appreciate it so much more! And regularly I watch swedish, finnsish, french, spanish, japanese, korean, italian, middle eastern and many more movies and TV Shows and I would never wanna miss out on all that beautiful culture! Also nowadays I find it disrespectful to skip certain movies or shows just because I'm too lazy to read the subtitles :/
Totally, I'm the same.
Can't watch German dubs anymore.
Specifically when you know the voice of a person and then hear it German its weird, but in funny way
Yes!
Agreed. Hungarian here, and the dubbing scene in my country is extreme. Everything is dubbed, everywhere all the time. But I transitioned to watching stuff in the original voice when I was 19-20, and it's amazing. Now the Hungarian dubbings make me feel silly.
And then people call you a snob for it, just because they're too lazy to break the habit. Unless you're dyslexic or a little child, you have no excuse.
@@szeddezs there's various reasons including other disabilities (from eyesight issues to adhd, etc.) that could keep someone from comfortably watching subs and if you call people lazy over it you are indeed a snob. even if its just a preference thing (or someone just doesn't tell you why bc its none of your business) that's still just a preference and no need to call others names for it and act all high and mighty bc you have a different one.
Totally agree with him to open the windows and get fresh air. Folks can put on a sweater if they feel cold.
I don’t know who all heard it but when she asks “what is it called” and they said “maintaining” the sweetness of the tone. It felt so comforting.
Love your "in denial face" when you get called out by the German bf. lollll You guys are adorable. Also a Thai girl here, we Southeast Asian girls need some humid.
American girl here and i AGREE w u guys ....in winter i find a vacation near the ocean or cruise to look forward tooooo 😊 i also go to steam room at my gym ...it helps me survive😊
As a dutchie I have to say: the German need for dubbing media is so insane to us, here it's only kids' stuff that receives voice-over. Dutch people and Germans are culturally very similar but that is one of those big differentiators!
I actually don’t like dubbing at all and I’m German. Before streaming services were a thing we just didn’t even have a choice. But I think nowadays more and more Germans appreciate that they can watch the original versions.
As an American who speaks German and has watched a fair amount of German dubbing, I’ve never been that impressed by German dubbing. Part of that is definitely because for Hollywood movies the original voices are way more iconic and familiar to me, but I’m like Uyen: I almost always try to listen to the original voice acting in general. Animated dubbing I can understand, because the visuals and voice performance were already separate, but live action dubbing has always felt really weird to me
The French do that as well! I watched a lot of French dubs in France 😁
But younger ppl in Germany nowadays watch way more movies/shows with subtitles now. I only ever want to watch the Original version, and I watch a lot of different shows in Korean, Swedish, Danish, English, ...
@@junibacken729 That‘s not completely true, almost all DVDs also include the original language.
I used to watch movies in English all the time like that since the early 2000’s. So it‘s been possible for a while.
Actually I‘ve found that now with streaming it‘s sometimes harder to find it in English since they don‘t always include it (amazon prime is particularly bad with that!)
As a fellow European from a dub-only country married to a South Asian (quite specific match!), I want to tell to the German Boyfriend that honestly they are just right about subtitles. There is a learning curve, but long term it is just better. You can see this empirically: there are plenty of people switching from watching dubbed Anime to subtitles, and stick to it, but there is literally no one from a subbing country that gets convinced to watch anime in English at some point in their life. It is just a small initial effort.
Plus, you can eat crunchy snacks while watching without being worried of losing some parts of the dialogue: nowadays I started putting subs even in shows in English or my own language.
Plus2, although you will not learn the language you can grab few words and parts of the culture by hearing the original speakers. If you will have kids, both reading and being exposed to many languages and sounds is super useful for the brain: you will never be able to reproduce some of the sounds in your wife language because you have never been exposed to it while growing.
Plus3, there are a lot of parts that are impossible or very hard to translate while also keeping the proper timing and mouth coordination: iconic dialogues have been destroyed by dubs. We just do not notice because they are not iconic in our dubbed versions. I think you can realize the same by considering English movies that you watched in English as an adult and you watched dubbed in German before - although German adapters and dubbers are good (like those in my country), they are still operating with the additional artificial constrain of adapting the dialogue to a specific timing due to another language. It is like fighting with one tied hand.
VERY underrated comment. I hope the German boyfriend reads this!
too true
You might be right, but I am on the boyfriends side. I have lived in a subtitle-country and therefore had some experience with „reading movies“, but it is exhausting (now that my eyesight got worse even more).
German movies are dubbed really good. I‘d rather miss an iconic line instead of having to read a movie.
As I wrote, I acknowledge that there is an entry barrier. My mum keeps watching dubbed series, and she never got into subs. I understand it: at her age, it is likely not worth to invest the time and effort to switch, it is not that important. I thought the same for the first few months watching sub series, but it is a fact that _today_ I would never go back - once you get used to subs, dubbing just sounds ridiculous.
While shifting from one system to the other is difficult, there are people switching from dub to sub, but no one switches from sub to dub. The barrier is as high, but the valley is greener on the other side: once you pass the barrier, you would never go back.
@@nebelland8355
I fully agree that nuance is lost when dubbing, as you say in piknt three. But, I actually have to disagree with your first point. I was firmly in the subbed category until I was introduced to shows that had decent dubs. Dubbing when I was growing up was usually very low quality, losing the individuality of the voice and the actual emotion of the acting. But, having been introduced to decent dubs that conserve personality and emotion by having good translators and VAs, I can be convinced to watch a dub now, if it lives up to my standards. I still put subtitles on everything because I'm hearing impaired, so snacks are never an issue 😅
And the award for the cutest but also wholesome couple of the internet goes to…
I actually love that German BF's family schedules the call- it's very respectful of the other person's time. I'm in the US, and I often schedule calls with my family and friends as well because we are all busy. When I lived in very different time zones with my family, I had to create a boundary around the calls because they would call me at terrible times, but if I did that, they would be soooo angry which is ridiculous and hilarious.
Did you point out to them that they were being thoughtless calling you at inconvenient hours when you gave them a taste of it? What did they say in response?
That was my thoughts exactly! Boundaries are needed to maintain a healthy relationship. If you’re in a different country and it’s an emergency…it’s not like you can instantly hop on an airplane and be there. I hope you will stand your ground even if they disagree. In the long run, it’s for the best.
Wow.. On the other hand, I'll pick up if my family calls even when I'm driving..
I LOVE this. We are British background but Canadians now. We schedule calls exactly as his family...invitation in advance! I don't pick up random calls...unless one of my kids calls twice in a row. That's code.
@@lfaz4296what does driving have to do with anything
Every couple has SOME kind of problems. The important part is that you two work hard to find solutions instead of just bickering about it! That shows a lot of respect and love for one another. And by doing this, you two are also deeply exploring one another's culture and trying to understand the reasons WHY you have certain behaviors. It's beautiful and admirable.
Finally a RUclipsr who understood the assignment. Your short has a link to the full video, which is easy to find as well, AND you made chapters. My ADHD ass loves it 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I'm an American living in Germany for 25 years now. You had me in stitches with the "lüften", scheduling calls and the multiple toasters. I still roll my eyes at the "lüften" and sceduling calls, which is just too much orderliness for me. But I now find myself buying a spare of most small house-appliances, which I never did in the US.
Why cause if the flat gets moldy you might be held responsible and pay a shitload of money to get rid of it. It's even in some tenancy agreements
@@siso2182 Yes, it is in the rental agreement. And I do it even though it annoys me. I never said that I did not do it. I just said that it is too orderly for me. I also comply with other things that annoy me, like paying taxes: Income tax, church tax, television tax, solidarity tax, VAT, and others that I prefer not to think about. But Germany treats me so well that I always pay in full and on time, and I don't complain. I could avoid paying church tax if I went before the court and declared that I am no longer a practising Christian, which I definitely am not. But I pay the tax anyway because all the preachers have to get paid.
@@siso2182 opening once a day would suffice. or by night.
"knock, knock, who's there?
lunatic that keeps me frozen"
you know, enduring somebody's lunacy is no way to spend life.....
@@siso2182Wow, this lüften is in the rental/lease agreement? This is so interesting. I wonder what else is in rental/lease agreements that are different to where I am. 🤔🇦🇺
You must fight the urge of getting a spare, at some point the spare stuff will start a revolution and throw you out of the house/ flat. ; D
This is so fun you two have such a cute dynamic, I'm slavic (mix of a few countries ukraine/belarus) and my boyfriend is Vietnamese and we live in Canada! We come across a lot of cultural differences, but they make me love him more as I get to understand more facets of his culture.
He's a huge anime fan so this is too real, we always watch with the original subtitles, but part of me thinks slavic dubs like spice and wolf opening can be better than the original (just listen to that Russian spice and wolf opening! Its got a really unique vibe!), my guy also gets really attatched to all the little objects we've horded and it can be hard to part ways with all the recipes for date spots or little souvenirs like dried pressed leaves or rocks from the beach.
We "finally" go a 20 gallon fish tank and my husband put the rocks, pressed flowers and little memory things in it...(NO WATER of course) now he can enjoy to look at his "memory items" and i have the memories "❤contained" so i do not have to clean around aaallllll of them alll the time... FUNNY things ...he promised he would never get more memory items than would fit in 20 gallon tank ...he said NO WAY could i ever make 20 gallon tank over flow 20 😂😅😂... well ....his rocks n little suveniors r now getting smaller n smaller ❤😅😂😅 and i notice he takes out n lets (go/gives away or returns to nature) some BIG things like BIG rocks or BIG sea shells every now n then ❤😅😂😅
i hope u cheat on him
@cestgum7672 you're one miserable person
Vietnamese girlfriend with Slavic boyfriend checking in from Canada 👋🏼
This is so Canadian. I used to know this couple from the dog park where she is from some Eastern European country, he is from some South American country (I used to know but it’s been a while), they met in Italy, they live in Montreal and their only common language is French
It is amazing you guys can laugh with each other. Seriously, sounds like every healthy relationship.
personally i thought this should’ve been private
You and your German boyfriend have a wonderful, real relationship. You both are so honest and loving. Thanks so much for sharing with us; we are better for it.
@@fairygodbrotherrwhy?
@@fairygodbrotherr people that say this usually don't have the necessary conversations in private either.
The robe and lounge wear is just the best! This human truly is not being run by anyone and I live for it
This is lovely because being able to properly communicate your differences is such a HUGE THING in a relationship. You guys are so adorable ❤
Hey Uyen, I am from India and have had all the same issues as you guys except the punctuality part. My German husband literally drove me crazy about luften and humidity and mold and me with three warm meals per day...We have also learnt to compromise and figured out solutions. So far so good. We always watch your videos and shorts together and can relate so much. Like your boyfreind, my husband would also avoid camera for starters .....
Hahaha, I am German married to a South Indian man. The nationalism and other things are so overwhelming and different sometimes. The 3 hot meals drive me crazy! We cook separately as solution and I do far more household chores on average. I hope you have more luck with 50/50 out of equality and fairness. 😂
@@blandcoffeeamv4107 I'm German but I always thought that other Germans eat at least two warm meals a day,
@@turtellok4964 Normally one, for lunch, es gibt natürlich auch Vespern. But that's more of a European thing, cold meal, like making sandwiches and stuff. we do it to in Italy and the UK and Brazil too.
@@turtellok4964 Depends on the family - and how hot it is in summer I guess. Bavaria can be very warm and we have whole Restaurants dedicated to Brotzeit (no warm food except for sausages and eggs). I still remember my mom making fruit salad and all kinds of salads for dinner. But in winter we would frequently eat grill chicken with fries.
@@turtellok4964😅no my German husband also eats 1 warm meal. I am a Latina and love it because I don’t have to cook a lot. I particularly don’t enjoy cooking. So no problem here ! 1 big warm meal and ❤
“Knock knock” “the truth wants to come in” comedy gold
The family calls bit reminded me of the period when I was in college. My sister and I who were living far from home would both become distressed if we couldn't reach our parents whenever, so that meant we had to be available almost as often. We would pick up as long as we were not in class. Our grandparents, however, would answer from anywhere. I've actually seen them answer calls and calmly find out what is going on with the caller before saying that they are in church and will call back later. 😅🤣
I died at "What's my Facebook password?" at 4 am 😂💀
You two are the cutest! I was agreeing with Uyen with almost everything, especially subtitles! I love watching movies/shows (K-dramas!😍) in their original language, and I cannot watch anything without subtitles, even in my own language. I think watching and reading at the same time is a skill you can learn. ☺
The only thing I am guilty of is leaving my dirty clothes on the floor... and it is a problem lol
*Knock, knock, knock* "The truth wants to come in" 😂😂🤩
You two are adorable💞 and I bet you have so much fun together, discovering and working around all the cultural differences.
Difficulties in every relationship but listening to one another and actively improving is great. Too many people make excuses not to listen to their partners. Thank you for doing such a difficult yet fun video. God bless on your growing together. It's not easy but you guys are figuring it out together. Love that.
They’re not married
Love the learning, growing together and letting things take time to sort out!
'der Stuhl' is 100% a German thing! 😂 On holiday, I'd seperate my clothes though: clean ones either in the suitcase or cupboard (depends on duration of the stay), dirty ones in a bag and the not too dirty 'chair' clothes in another bag or hanging in front of the open window during lüften! 😂
actually being different already teaches you to appreciate your partner as a whole person, his habits, his personality. so beings from different countries is like preparation lesson but in a hard levellll
as a result it sticks in your mind that he/she is whole other personality with his/her experience. It sounds obvious but with culturally diverse relationship you're always aware of that and prepared to discuss any issue ⭐️
it depents on the context. The most important thing when an immigrant is going to a different country is why he does that. Alot of do it simply for the money. I have seen alot of disreptful foreigners who live in their own societal bubble. With that being said, the nationality is one of the most important factors.
@@4zir856well if one nationality person falls in love with another nationality person, doesn't she/he already accept that he/she has no boundaries?
it this case it would rather depend on your prioritys in this case. You cant choose your preferences and for the majority of people its charisma, looks and status. Dont get too hooked up on the romantic concept of love, its a biological mechanism to reproduce and evaluate the most valuabe matepartner for that, without having your own reasoning judgement.
To your question, of course i agree with you that its possible, there are even preferences for other nationalitys. I am just pointing out what to expect for the most likely scenario. The world view of people from 1st world countries and 3 rd world countries is immense and i simply don t recommend that you think they have the same field of view, preferences, cultural values, etc. If a person would come to your country for the money, chances that they are not interested in your culture and are less cooperative when it comes to cultursal differences, which reflects already in simple daily behavior, are very possible. I think its a good thing when international relationships work out, but i also heard that the divorcerate for such as is also very high.@@KisaRUclips
@@4zir856well, talking about the cooperative thing, I also agree with that. But when I talk about relationship I mean responsibility of both grown up experienced educated adults being ready to try to work things out and not just cut the bridges after the first argument. That applies to every relationship, not just the diverse one. So taking that to consideration, that "not interested", "not my goal", "1 and 3 country" reason to fall out don't apply to this situation. Btw, would never marry uneducated person from small traditional village that lives in a tank just because I have certain feelings for him. I'm aware of me exaggerating, but I want to know what you think about it?
Couples goals! You two are awesome. Love the communication and humor!
I love the wholesomeness of this. A nice break from everything going on. ❤
Scheduling a phone call with family is something I never even imagined existed!! So cool to hear about this!! As an American-Brazilian, (my entire family is Brazilian), we call each other all day every day at all hours!! lol
Well I'm just American and my family is like yours. We call anytime, although not when everyone is asleep unless it us important. Otherwise, we call each other whenever we feel like it.
Canadian here, I've never heard of scheduling calls with family... we call anytime except overnight unless it's an emergency 🤷 😂... Dirty clothes go in a bag when traveling in hoteld...You're such an amazing couple keep up the videos!
That sounds like hell to me. I always ignore calls and video calls amd even have turned those possibilities off in messangers. So no one calls me.
Ppl can text me. I read and answer when I have the time and feel like it and am not in the middle of something else like tasks or chores or just wanting to relax.
If it is extremely important, send a old school SMS.
Calls are just for emergencies that don't require an ambulance.
I would go insane! Too much of a good thing
I'm german and I sometimes just call my parents but they rarely pick up because they both work full time and we all have pretty chaotic schedules. Same with my siblings. I have 4 siblings with their own families and jobs and day to day schedules. So I usually text my parents "are you free tonight for a video call?" or I text it in the family group chat so my siblings know that there will be a video call at 6 or 7pm that they can join if they want. It's totally normal for me. But the way Uyen was laughing about it made me realize that that is indeed pretty weird :D
Now this is actual relationship goals! This is how you work against the problem and not against each other ♥️ thanks for setting a good example for all of us 🥰
I've had many guy friends who talked the exact same way like your BF and I can just tell he has not a single mean bone in his body :) It's heart-warming to see the way the two of you interact!
Zero pretending, 100% authentic. Power couple?
Being nice on the Internet should be the standart.
This is so funny that she was complaining and he was giving scientific explanations for every argument. How adorable! 🥰
I am a Filipina married to an American. We have been married for almost 10 years. Just like any other marriages, it's tough at times but communication and respect is the key! Watching from USA! 🇺🇸
I was married to a Pinoy several lol never worked. They wanted to build furniture not buy it. Filapines style lol
I'm sorry to hear that! Hopefully you find the right one. Much love! ♥️🤗
How did you guys meet?
Filipina women make good wifes, but my nice thinks that Filipina men make good husbans
I adore these two, they seem very down to earth and funny 😊their videos always cheer me up
Uyen ur literally so sweet!! I have been anxious for quite a while but seeing u being so wholesome is super fun. I don't usually comment but u deserve all the praise for being genuine among fakeness of the social media. ❤❤
You two are adorable and have such a healthy relationship. I love how you explore the cultural differences you have, but also recognize that many things are just individual traits, not cultural ones.
I love wholesome healthy relationship problems! I feel like I’ve been inundated with problems that are toxic, this is a nice breath of fresh air 😊
Nice pun 😼
Luften for the win! 😂
I love her facial expressions I am so happy to find your videos. You are such a nice couple and you can tell you both love and respect each other. It's a joy to watch you.
My mother loved to move houses and flats so I love throwing things out and think it's freeing. My german bf however never moved before we moved in together and he has such huge problems letting things go! So understand you Uyen, it's exhausting when people simply can't let go. : D
I live in an old building that basically airs itself, always, nonstop because nothing is completely isolated. I do keep the windows open in summer though because it's too hot otherwise. Airing in winter is nearly nonsensical because there are drafts everywhere and the climate in the flat has more than enough "fresh air". : )
It's brave of you two to share this. It is hard being a couple. Each person has to make an effort to understand and to try to change.
I like this video because it shows how real they are. Its not only the cute and perfect couple life. It's realistic and they have arguments but they communicate and love each other. Its such a healthy relationship.
Exactly! I love their relationship, they both communicate their feelings clearly and use their differences as a tool to educate people.
seeing you guys talk about your disagreements makes me feel better about having so many with my own roommates, thank you
Uyen your videos have literally gotten me through some seriously hard times in my life. You should be a comedian! 🥰
I'm Canadian(with a german mom) and my partner is Indian and I love your videos so much. They've helped us realize so many things we need to work on or just agree that we have differences and move on ahaha. I will have a sandwich for dinner and breakfast and he can spend hours cooking his meals ahahah. And I am a hoarder and need to get rid of all my jars ahahah. Love you two!
German Boyfriend doesn't disappoint at being extremely relatable to me as a german myself 😂
always keeping the old stuff in case you could need it someday, the appointment making, even for family calls... :D
This is soooooo cute. You guys are such a cute couple. I didn’t expect German Boyfriend to be as funny as you! ❤
I love that you read the subtitles to him 🥰 it's so cute but also really funny 😂 I laughed alot at that part but it shows the love you both have ❤thank you for sharing
I went to boarding school so a lot of my closest friends are from different countries and cultures and it’s always hilarious when we have culture clashes, because everyone has opinions on who’s correct 😂 seeing you guys talk about this reminds me so much of my friends, which is really heartwarming since I haven’t been able to see them in a while ❤
My daughters went/still go to an international school in Germany. It's fun to have their international classmates here at our home and serve them traditional German meals. But it's as well fun to meet with their parents and have f.e. an authentic ghanaan dinner. Eating together, drinking and talking is the best way to get to know other cultures.
At the german boyfriend (german here as well). Reading subtitles is a skill you can still learn over time. It might be frustrating in the beginning but once you get a) more fluent with reading and b) better at "glancing" the text information it gets easier. Just stick with it and maybe at the beginning pause the movie to make it easier. (Yeah there is suffereing involved, but it's worth it). :)
"I wouldn't call him a hoarder.... yet" 🤣
I adore that you can both communicate healthily with each other around while talking about possible qualms with each other. You guys are wonderful and such an amazing break from the typical media on here. 🥰💕
"Sending love from India! Your German culture videos are delightful, and your unique blend of Vietnamese and German perspectives is truly captivating. Keep shining! 🇮🇳😊"
Omg, I can't help to watch over and over again 12:28 where your eyes went big and you pretended to choke him. So hilarious! 😂 German boyfriend's laugh makes it even more adorable.
You too are so sweeet! I can relate, me being Hungarian, husband is Greek, we are together for 17 years and counting! So many cultural differences but humor can solve it all! Lots of love to you two and carry on doing what you are doing!
And where are you living? Hungary or Greece, or other country? ( i know a similar couple they are together for more than 30 years 😊)
Greetings from Greece, wish you the best🫶
we live in Greece, I love the sea :) @@ama_kov-923
"The truth would like to come in."
I love him.
I actually feel you both. My wife is Chinese and sometimes when I am watching this channel, I just feel..connected. My wife is actually the one who is crazy about Lüften. And we are not talking about just a few minutes like German bf, but keeping the window open for at least one hour.
Punctuality: The eternal story. We are also dependent on public transport and we are both too stingy for a taxi. I try to lie to her about departure times of trains (like telling her the train leaves 10 minutes earlier). When we did not have children, I just left when I said it was departure time and I told her in advance. You could have seen her running. Maybe German bf should do the same, just leave without Uyen.
Timezones: Yes and yes. Actually, my wife is in China right now and she always manages to call me at work. :) I am a teacher with older students, so I sometimes just let a student answer the videocall. It is always funny and my 4 year old son loves it.
A lot of same culture couples have some of the same issues that you both face. It's all about how you solve the issues or compromise around them together. Best of luck, your channel really uplifts a lot of people!
As a German male I think it's a German male thing to open all windows and doors to let fresh air in. All my German girlfriends hate it too because they are freezing all the time
Weak people, not German enough.
It is also a genetic difference. Women are worse at termoregulation than men.
Generally there are exceptions and it isn't the only factor.
Then there is the fact that men (all men) are culturally conditioned to handle adversity better. Both physical and mental.
I dont really think it has anything to do with sex. My parents are the complete opposite. My mom always opens the windows and my dad complains heavily lol. I also always open the windows and I'm a woman 🤷♀️ i think it matters more how you grow up
I think it's more about how you were raised. I (woman) come from a very rural area with nice fresh air, so I'm the one who always opens all the windows, cause I'm used to it. But most of my friends grew up in citys with bad air close to very loud streets which is why they aren't used to it at all. (And why they hate me for open the windows all the time😅)
not just a german thing...I'm from a small European country and all the moms (including me) ALWAYS let the fresh air in. I could NOT imagine living in a stuffy environment where windows aren't opened for a few minutes every day.
More a who had experience with/fear mold
greetings from germany i love to watch with subtitels. Original tone is better. Thats how the artist prepaired it for me is rhe way to enjoy it
Uyen makes the most adorable faces while he’s explaining something about their dynamics hahahah this video is so great!
Love seeing content like this, I'm in a mixed culture marriage. I'm from the us, my wife is from Greece and I moved there and live with her family as of August this year. I love seeing other couples like us talk about the interesting side of the relationship. Wifey and I love y'all to death
Every couple should do this kind of thing. Communication about all aspects is so important for growth
Sending a 6 monthly video to RUclipsthat holding them accountable to solving problems, and compromising.
You two are fantastic together! Keep that good natured banter in your marriage and you'll be able to overcome anything. Wishing you much success in your coming marriage. Have you set a date?
Thank you, Young Lady, for being so down to earth.
I love it!! 💗
I appreciate it tremendously. !!
You are not this pretensious woman pretending to be so with it.
You are an enjoyable breath of fresh air amongst all the other "fashion dolls"
(A senior citizen from South Africa.)
AHHHHH! this is the earliest i have ever been! also, i really love your channel. I show your videos to my little sisters because i think they are so funny. thank you!
Being from Croatia it is really funny to see some of the similarities from both sides. We do luften as well - (luftanje in Croatian - came from a German word) and we also can't let go of things that are still working somehow - because you never know when you will need them 😂 but on the other hand we do have subtitles and I remember going to my friends in Germany and seeing that everything on their TV is in German - I couldn't believe it. And also, my parents call me whenever they feel the urge to do it, we don't schedule calls either 😁
Was about to write exactly the same, I found it interesting how we can more relate to Vietnamese family dynamics than German one, though we are European :D
The banter between you two is hilarious.❤
You are right with leting things go. I could see this is difficult for him, wehen you have shown his room. Respect for both of you.
I’m a organizer so I totally understand how couples have issues with their stuff. So happy to hear you are working together on this. You two are the best!!
You are both teasing each other with good intentions, but I have to say that I am on German boyfriend's side of these arguments about 70% of the time. It really does sound like he tries to accommodate your wishes as much as possible, and when he gives explanations for the things he does NOT want to compromise about, most of his reasons sound very valid to me.
I hope that both of you continue keeping your arguments good-natured like this, which will be important for long-term happiness in a relationship .
You guys are such a cute couple, love the part about the subtitles.
What a beautiful couple! Thank you for sharing💖
This was the cutest couples therapy session I’ve ever seen 😂
You guys are fabulous... Thank you for showing how two people can have differences but can sort it out.
Hilarious; yes it requires lot of understanding and love between you two. Wishing you a very very happy life for the years to come.
Thank you for letting us know the difficulties of having a mixed-culture relationship/household and the ways you were able to tolerate or solve it. My bf and I are both Filipinos but grew up in slightly different socioeconomic class + launguage background. He was primarily Tagalog, and I am Bisaya. We have our personality differences, household-management differences, and language differences. It gave me such a relief to know that this is actually normal. I learn that compromise is easier if you both choose the relationship over your own pride/ego. Of course, it's not always the case, incompatibility can be an understandable driving force for breakup, but thank you for letting me know that we can both work towards an environment where we're able to solve our differences or plainly tolerate our differences. I find that having your own personal space (your own room / mancave and your own or A big bathroom) is a good starting point.
I love how she doesnt dress up or anything to look good to vlog, she just vlogs. It makes me feel like im with her on the couch all relaxed and chill and we are talking as old friends about our lives ❤ Uyen a million people love your personality and your vlogs and thank you for uploading 😊🎉❤
Also, i laughed at the silly error 13:24 CLUMPSINESS
Its a funny error so dont feel bad 😊❤
My dad was Dutch. The most organized man ever. Paperwork was his jam! You two are great! ❤
You two are amazing! I love this so much 😂❤
I totally get the issue with watching subtitles. The thing that got my boyfriend to make the switch is the realization that often dubs change the words and overall plot of the story in some anime’s. He realized he wasn’t getting the story that the creators intended, so he switched to subtitles.
Relationships are hard. Especially when you have cultures that are so different. What matters is that you love and respect each other. The rest you can figure out 😊
You guys are very cute!
I have a few things to say as a Vietnamese woman growing up with immigrant parents who don't really speak English and then being with a white American man. We have been together 15 years but we still have small issues. For example, he eats a lot of bread and potatoes. I can't handle that! My body can't handle a lot of bread, dairy, potatoes, etc. I just didn't grow up eating bread everyday so it makes me bloated and feel horrible if I eat too much. I can eat rice everyday and he can't. I think its weird if I don't have some sort of meat, fish, or protein for dinner but he thinks its fine. I always want fresh veggies with my meals (not steamed or cooked, fresh Asian herbs only) and he can't eat like that. He also doesn't like fish sauce which is in a TON of Vietnamese dishes. Even though I was born in USA, because I grew up with a different environment and food, it still makes things a little tough. I can give some ideas on why she is like that on the phone calls to Vietnam too. A lot of phone service sometimes in Vietnam is bad. They can't hear you sometimes unless you yell especially if they live or work on a busy street where there are lots of motorcycles going by. There are also lots of older relatives in Vietnam who can't hear well so you yell for them. Not to mention, Vietnamese is a tonal language so the tone is very important to put through. They also have a different time zone so it can be tough to catch the calls. I find it REALLY weird that people have to schedule calls with their family. I love these because it reminds me of my own hills and battles with my lovely man.
She’s lovely and genuine but he’s also amazing sounds very reasonable and patient. True love I wish them both a very happy life together.
Omg you're both so sweet loving couple ❤ Your differences are the spice that makes a couple life beautiful and inspiring. All the best big hugs
He is absolutely right with ventilating the flat in the winter. Like he said, the problem in nothern countries is the big temperature difference between inside and outside. When you don't replace the air a few times a day, the humidity in the air condensates at the cooler outer walls and this leads to mold. In warm countries it's different because mold don't like warm temperatures but the temperatures of the outer walls in northern countries in the winter, spring and fall are a paradise for mold.
Mold loves warmer temperatures. Try living in Florida! Mold is a constant issue. It grows everywhere and loves humid warm bathrooms. I looked it up and mold grows best between 77 degrees F and 88 degrees F. Humid and warm is mold favorite environment.
The doctrine of German construction experts is that mold grows best in poorly heated rooms with high humidity.
I don't know to which countries you're referring to, but I'd say that in Europe that's mostly issue in Central and Southern parts, not in Northern Europe i.e. Nordics. We have issues with too dry air during the winter time.
you two are so relatable and funny, love your content. stay safe and healthy ♥i relate so hard to the family calls and clumsiness 😭😭😭
I feel you on the subtitle dilemma. It's kind of defeating when we're both excited for a movie or we know we're both fans of a franchise or a director, but then my boyfriend (German) wants to watch it German dub but I am more of a subtitle person, for the same reasons Uyen mentioned. Like even though we can share the enthusiasm in wanting to watch the movie together, the experience of watching it together may be a different story 🥲
German boyfriend, I am with you! Even during the winter, 🥶 open my back screen window to vent the moisture out when I am cooking- love my mountain air here in the hills of NC, USA! I think it’s strange to schedule family calls as well.