Another one Fi is more optimistic and free flowing from Fi doms. For ENFP the Fi is more pessimistic more parental and used to guide peoples morality. Ne for the infp is more pessimistic and more responsible about considering options about the future. Infps are control and move slower because they are thinking about the outcome of said actions. Enfps are very movement progress oriented and less focused on outcome and just moving. The infp could be social due to the affinitive nature meaning people focused. It's an NF quality.
@@random-accessmemory9201 Both Enfp and Infp can be optimistic or pessimistic. The fact is that for Enfp, it's Fi that is negative, while for Infp, it's Ne. I think the point is that, sometimes, you could be blind to your dominant function and only see the good in it. Instead, other times, the auxiliary one is disregarded (especially with loops and grips) or used in an unhealthy way, "feeding" the concerns of the dominant one.
I'm an INFP married to an ENFP and this entire video is totally us. Every word makes perfect sense. Also the way they're clearly on the same wavelength the entire time, and making intuitive leaps together, is exactly like all the conversations I have with my hubby. Apparently Nirvana was created by an INFP/ENFP team, and it's a pretty special thing.
@@c.j.giordano2129 turns out you're correct and we are not the types I thought we were. After learning more about the functions we realised he's ESFP and I'm ENFP. That tip about introverted sensing is super helpful as Si is my inferior, thanks for helping me understand that a little better.
As an ENFP, I really can relate to this. I love INFP. They are the best , very inspiring and dreamy. I got myself a lot of INFP friend. This me with my BFF INFP. Love to you all INFP reading this.
As an ENFP, I found your dialogue and interaction hilarious. There are too many similiaries, but it is a constant struggle as to "are we crazy" or "is life just this overwhelming?" Thanks for putting this together!
I'm an ENFP. When I am in a mentally healthy place, I find myself doing TONS of social activities, calling up all of my friends or sometimes just going out to make new friends, and wanting to go-go-go feeling really bored or stir crazy if I have to spend time alone. So sometimes I literally will schedule in "Me Time" like an actual appointment so that I don't let anyone "book over" it. And even then it's hard to stick to my guns and not call someone up on the fly. But I feel like when I'm struggling with mental health, I can become really withdrawn, and so I don't want to go out and see anyone else and I hope that no one comes asking to see me either. But a lot of times, that's exactly what I need to get out of those funks. Anyway, would be interesting to examine what real "mental health" looks like with each personality type. That's what I was thinking of when you guys were discussing socializing.
same with me what I am feeling, I am An Enfps, I like meeting people but when I am not in a mood of talking, I am on silent mood I don't like people asking me and dislike answering them lol , I stay away from them to recharge my mind and my feeling to be more comprehend what I want in life
I am an ENFP but I always thought I was more INFP. Although I relate to you both? after watching this, I can confirm I’m definitely ENFP. It’s the impulsive decision then thinking afterwards that confirmed it for me lol. You both seem like fun to hang out with!
I have always been getting either enfp or infp for every once in a year I take the mbti test. The one trait I don’t agree with enfp is that they can be fine with people being around all throughout the year cuz for me personally I get drained by people at times,I need to be alone. But again I miss them crazily and it’s easier and even fun to be with the ppl you love but still you need that alone time no matter what. So I thought I was an infp but again I always always do then think :/
Me too! Sooo glad to have this settled. I took the test FORTY YEARS AGO and I have thought I was INFP all this time. I have to be stimulated but in my mind - I’ve had too many bad experiences with people to seek them out anymore. But in my small but intense circle ….I simply will not shut up with all my ENFPness
Im an INFP... I married an ISTJ... when I get into that organising mode, he gets excited and helps me :-) Sometimes I might get overwhelmed, and he helps get me back on track.
That's super awesome! I'm curious, do you feel like your senses of humor and general thought patterns line up pretty well, or did it take some time and practice?
@@docmars we met in high school. I think that made things easier. We masked ourselves a lot back then. Trying to fit in, so we kind of grew together. Also we grew through trauma... we were each other's escape. So really we were just really good friends. Basically what I lacked, he had and vice versa. We really pair together well as we are both very different. We respect each other's differences and often ask each other for advice or think "what would they do." It did take awhile for us to figure each other out. More so for him, even now he questions why I do things, but I just remind him that I'm not him. I really don't like to be not understood, known, accepted or treated unfairly. So I do call it out and will spend hours making sure he is educated in who I am... he's pretty much got it now, but when he's stressed he gets a bit frustrated with me. Still, we never argue, or fight. He is very loyal and prides himself in achieving greatness in the relationship. I have unrealistic fantasies that he himself likes to work towards. It sounds like I'm being bossy.and unrealistic, but I'm easy going and I understand that of myself. I'm just happy he cares enough about me to consider my expectations. We have similar interests and life goals. We both enjoy each other's company 24/7. My Dad is an Istj and my mum is Enfp. They seem to be good together too.
introverts are allready stimulated by their internal world; the external world only adds to that stress as opposed to extroverts who require stimulation from their external world.
Wow, I've never heard it explained that way. That makes so much sense why just a tiny bit of stimulation for my husband is like OVERLOAD and he's like tired after like an hour. I'm like....but how, we literally just left the house and didn't even get out of the car yet, how?! When I'm so ready for the stimulation and when I get it, I'm ready for more!
This is really great! INFP-T here. At first I, too, tested as INFJ. After reading your ENFP book, Heidi, I really felt I could be an ENFP (no one ever believes I am an introvert). I can be very charming and outgoing socially and I love people, but my people-ing fuse is very short. My biggest challenge is breaking free from that looping trap so I can recharge my Ne and break free from being reclusive. So glad I found this video!
Seeing your third function as that of a big sister or brother explains so much as to why I look up towards ISTJs and ISFJs because they dominantly use what I admire
@@MBTimes I find especially fascinating to hear my (probably) ENFP son utter ideas that are very similar to the nonsense ideas I had as a child but of course never talked about!
@@MBTimesI'm ENFP, my niece is INFP. As I throw out random thoughts... she will light up and say, "I think that all the time! I just didn't tell anyone!" 😂
You look like sisters. :) I was professionally typed as ENFP 4w5 sp/sx, and have done a lot of self-inquiry and research over the years. It's a weird combo. I'm a lot more like INFP, yet definitely have the aspirational Te and Si demon. I love alone time, but I'll have RUclips videos on all day because I like to hear someone talking, and need a lot of stimulation. Just, I hate Se and I can't handle a lot of Se stimulation - ie, big crowds, bright lights, noisy environments make my system crash because I have a highly sensitive nervous system. So, I interact a lot through the internet, phone etc. I love being in my apartment (SP) or one-to-one (SX). I'm very impatient, restless internally, more prone to quickly anger, and I find INFPs to be much more patient and better listeners than I am. I've made most of my big life decisions based on a flash of intuition I received in a moment, and just knew I would do that. Then I investigate how I feel about it and how to make it happen.
Haha, I love the “too stiff part” and the other unedited parts. I feel that this informal lighthearted style gives it a more authentic vibe which I quite enjoy. Hillary is a unique INFP in my opinion since she feels the need to be a part of a community. I used to be a hard core loner. Well I still am a little bit, but as I’ve gotten older I’m starting to want to gel with a group and see the value in that. Maybe it’s maybe maturity or Te development? I don’t know. But there’s a slight change for sure. Anyway, I love this! Please make more videos Heidi! Thanks! -INFP
Interesting! I totally understand the loner thing! So much of my childhood was comprised of me feeling like I was outside looking in. Like I didn't truly belong anywhere. But even-though I relate, I actually disagree a little bit about Hillary being a unique infp. Despite the loner thing, I'm also an infp who always wanted to be a part of a community or some group. I know that might seem contradictory, so I wanted to share my perspective. The way I think about it is this: infps tend to want acceptance from their peers. Not necessarily in a way that means being *entirely* understood, but just acceptance of who they are as people and that who they are is enough. And personally, I found that validation when I finally joined a community that was like minded and didn't fault me for my quirks in Highschool. And also! Infps (like any other introvert) need people for pretty much every reason under the sun *except* energy. I personally sought out emotional connection and philosophical stimulation when I was with my peers. So, I think that when you're surrounded by people who might have similar thoughts/feelings about something, that you are also more likely to find that those needs are met. And I generally found those people in communities I was interested in.
I'm an INFP and learned a lot about it from your INFP book. Please do more videos with Hilary please.. I like to see my personality type from other people more. Yeah, I love your videos, Heidi!
10:13 this is what happen if there’s no ‘J’ person in the conversation. Just Ne wondering around hahahahaa, the randomness at it’s finest! - Infp that miss my enfp friend.
A checklist and a guidance tool would be really beneficial and through. Like: 1. Try out mbti tests, learn about cognitive functions and figure out your MBTI type. Websites, books and physical life experiments and experiences to contrast and zone in on your MBTI type. 2. Go through some enneagram tests, learn about enneagram and find out your enneagram type. Websites, books, resources, physical life experiments and experiences for zoning in your enneagram and related tritype, socionics and so on. 3. Finding out about attachment styles, figuring out your attachment style, learning more about attachment styles. How different attachment styles communicate. Resources for the same. 4. Learning about emotional intelligence. Different parts of emotional intelligence, where you stand in each aspect of EQ, how does applying EQ looks like? In different scenarios? Resources for the same. 5. Communication skills, what do they mean and understanding where you are at each skill, how communication skills play out in real life. Resources for the same. And so on, whatever you consider should be known to every INFP, ENFP and every person on the planet.
This is literally me and my friend 😂😂😂 she’s INFP and I’m ENFP we’ve been together now for almost 10 years ❤️🦋 thank you for Sharing this video with us 🙏🏻
Also a video for the INFP: how to make up your bloody mind and stick with it for INFP type is desperately needed and would be appreciated by all the INFP's in the world.
The eye movements and facial expressions of an enfp are so unique ! As enfp unless there's movements in the direction my eyes dart to in a one on one conversation. It feels like I'm looking in my own mind. I'll catch most/all key points and my mind just starts grabbing anything that can relate. Almost as if your in a giant library of miscellaneous information. My mind usually darts to a still spot in my physical environment, so I can visualize my thoughts and ideas free of distraction.
I'm an INFP and my friend is an ENFP. we've been friends for about 2 years. She thought I was very mysterious, Whereas I think she talks a lot. But we match each other well. SHe always told me and I became a good listener for her. But sometimes I feel She is not interested in listening to me, she often interrupts my conversation. But after all she is a sloppy girl and likes to help people. She is a good girl! I hope our friendship can last forever.
I loved every seconds of the video, I felt at home. :>:> if I may try to summarize: ENFP: OHH I HAVE THESE EMOTIONS AND HERE ARE HOW I FEEL. INFP: Yes, I agree with you. (I never could say it out loud, but I'm glad you said it out loud, good for you). ENFP: YES, AND HERE IS MY NEXT THOUGHT. INFP: Yes, that too. But I'm a little different I think, in this way and in this way. ENFP: YES, AND HERE IS MY NEXT THOUGHT.
My sister is an ENFP, I’m an INFP and we are the perfect duo :)) I’m yet to find someone with the same vibes, humour, and lvl of communication/understanding. We’re literally on the exact same wavelength, It’s like telepathy. Whenever we see something together we say the exact thing at the same time. And she definitely holds the spotlight in social situations; I’m like her shadow… but I like it that way. I actually feel more confident when I’m with her. She’s also taught me not to overthink and be chill lol 😆 although I think our sibling dynamic collides with our friendship dynamic, so our emotional communication isn’t as strong. In saying so I want to find an ENFP or even INFP friend :> I also completely relate as an INFP to being organised and having specific categories. Like the amount of playlists I have with different labels 😂
Its hard for me to distinguish which type I was. I can relate mostly to ENFP stuff but that extroversion thingy you discuss. I can go several months without people or even just a few friends of mine. And I feel drained after going in a large group of people. I can only tolerate for a few hours. now I'm more confused hahahaahah
I just think after this video that I'm an ENFP because I can't stop talking when I'm in a group or with my friend and I talk a lot with hands but if I analyze the content of the video I would say that I'm an infp
@@yousrayusrah9965 well, introverts can be quite vocal in a group of friends they trust. and infps are the most extroverted introverts, minus the infjs i suppose.
I’m an ENFP, very strongly on the NF parts, and I’m also a highly sensitive person who needs a lot of alone time to process stuff. So I don’t know if y’all consider me as an ENFP who prefers/needs less stimulation and more alone time, or not. My husband I believe is an extremely introverted INFP.
I took the official test in college and it came back where they couldn't type me, they didn't know if I was enfp or infp. Now I know 💯% I'm enfp, not infp but it's pretty hard to tell them apart, even the official test couldn't tell.
Yeah I’ve had the same problem, I got 1% preference of extroversion over introversion, but ultimately the craziness of my Ne was so strong that I am most definitely an ENFP lol. I do have some phases where I ignore everyone and just pout about literally nothing for hours... thanks Fi lol
@@shreksgrandma722 This was my ENFP friend's problem too! Her Extroversion was only a few % higher and before she could show me the numbers I just outright told her she's definitely ENFP because I would be her if I was drunk. (I'm an INFP)
i’m an infp and one of my best friends is an enfp and our dynamic is very similar to theirs. my friend is a lot more talkative in big groups and I tend to shut down a bit. we’re very similar yet different and i really like that.
The "we're being too stiff" moment is the perfect representation of the two types it actually does a better job at getting to the heart of the types than any amount of words could
First of all, I've never more wanted to be friends with RUclipsrs. Second, loving all these comments of the classic INFP-ENFP-INTP threesomes. That's me, my sister, and my husband, and the three of us get along so well.
IM DYINGGGG the thing about the 3rd function! My boyfriend and me is just like that!!! He is like “THIS IS WHAT WE ARE GOING TO DO” and I am like organizing EVERYTHING in the background 😂😂 Literally something that I’ve really noticed!
Thanks for this video! I often test as as an ENFP but pretty sure I’m an INFP because my go-to when I am unhealthy is to introvert too much and go into my Fi-Si loop while ruminating on the past. The way you explained the feeling out getting sick from introverting too much and trying to meet all your own needs is something I go through a lot. I am also way more indecisive than impulsive which is an INFP thing. It’s very confusing, though, because there is absolutely nothing quiet or reserved about my natural demeanor and I love being the center of attention:I just tend not to initiate things. So basically I am an introvert who is loud AF. Does anyone else have this issue?
Also the speed of the Ne dom brain vs limitless emotional prioritization of Fi makes it obvious and it’s very evident in this video. Heidi ideas are bouncing around, converging, branching, and synthesizing to birth whatever she is saying AND as an ENFP I know there is the chronic problem of single line communication aka you can only get one sentence out at a time and it’s always just the tip of the iceberg. On the flip side the INFP seems to constantly react and notice their own emotional state and what precisely is affecting it such as seating position, video perception, conversation balance, etc.
Following a routine...I almost threw up 😂 I do have a consistent eating routine, though. I refuse to put any piece of food into my mouth until I have a video set up, my drink next to me and my food there as well. I must also be at maximum comfortability; that is, casual clothes or no clothes.
As an infp I appreciate having a routine, but more in terms of a broad timetable certainly not timetabled to the minute more like quarters of the day, so there is freedom within that quarter
This is hilarious. I consistently test as an ambivert. I have done the jump first process later thing, and I have done the process first jump later thing. I have bobbed between the two all my life, and this video has nailed it for me. I am both LOL.
Such a good video full of insights! And omg YES I always tell people now to not trust the online tests because they're not accurate! Especially when it comes to ENFPs vs. INFPs, introversion/extroversion is so much more than how a person responds in social situations. Now I encourage people to read about the cognitive functions & dive headfirst into the breakdowns of each type until they find the one that resonates with them the most--MBTI as a whole can be such a valuable tool to give you insight into yourself & help you empathize/understand others, plus it gives us language to talk about our personal tendencies, strengths, shortcomings, etc. Which is amazing! It makes me sad when people discredit MBTI theory all together just because a fifteen minute internet quiz keeps giving them various or inaccurate insights.
Thanks for this. I'm always on the cusp of E/INFP. I'm pretty ambiverted, definitely turbulent, and feel most alive when I'm brainstorming. The situations you pinpointed regarding tertiary function and what happens when you skip over secondary function (and wow, has my Fi been neglected recently) makes so much sense that I'm an ENFP, and a turbulent one too, which can be easily mistaken for an INFP.
It’s so crazy watching the Heidi now vs the Heidi 4 years ago. Like, the change is massive 😭 You give me hope to heal, Heidi, thanks for your amazing work ❤
I’m an enfp but I am highly introverted in the way that I really need to be alone and charge and unlike a lot of extraverts I need more alone time than with people. However, I’m extroverted in the way that I express myself and talk to people and put myself in a situation. I math both the INFP and ENFP type but I resonate a little more with enfp: that goes for the functions are more like me. My sister is an infp and we’re very close as we are extremely similar
WOAHHHHHHHHHHHH this is literally exactly how I am :))))) (specially about acting on things and THEN analyzing ) I hope everyone reading this is having an amazing day. Have a great weekend!!!! -Mexican ENFP
Some random thoughts while watching: - My dearest friends are also INFP, and they are also not that “introverted” - Heidi’s eyes move a lot, I can see her Ne inside. And her smile is like “I’m happy i’m having fun” - Hilary has this smile that seams connected with her heart - the gift to the world of sixteen personalities is the avatars: I just hate how ENFP is dressed… although I do dress terribly (mostly because I usually have a lot of great things going on on my head and have no time to think about my look) - My INFP friends also send super long audios - soulbootcamp is hilarious and i’m loving to know and honor my ENFPness My INTJ boyfriend tells me that he would love to have a resource like this bootcamp for him
Aw Heidi, I FEEL THAT! Being "consistently understimulated" but my husband, an INFP is always overstimulated! It's so harrrrrrrrrrd! Because he literally CANNOT, but being at home drives me crazy 😭😭. But he loves me so good so I deal with it and go adventuring on my own if need be 🥰.
Im an enfp and my best friend is infp. Biggest difference is I (enfp) actually have to physically do/ initiate something first and then I'll tend to understand/ figure out how I truly feel about something. He (Infp) has to figure out how he truly feels (most of the time) before initiating in any serious action/ direction
These two beautiful ladies are like exactly what's in my head all the time 😂 They stay true to themselves and maintain a sort of emotional balance for smooth conversation. Wow I'm speechless 😂
Even the tones of your two voices line up with introversion and extroversion, in my opinion! As a person who also has a tough time deciding whether I'm an ENFP or INFP, I think overall INFPs have softer edges. Of course I also don't really know what I'm talking about and won't hold a hard line on that opinion ;-)
As they say INFP is the most extraverted introvert and ENFP is the most introverted extravert. I test 51%/49% I/E. Fi is definitely my leading function though.
Yup,i totally noticed how stiff Hilary was first,and then you yourself. I honestly thought i would have been looping Ne-Te in a non-social,isolated reclusive way through gaming and other such external sources of stimulation. I would wake up each morning,eager to just skip food and just go play,never checking inwards,or taking care of my health. I have been told i was too loud in public,i have also said things best left unsaid too. I would be very interested in knowing about how you said your body felt like it was on fire,because it kind of feels this way for me. ANd i do believe i feel relaxed and energized in a group,if i am fully engaging and not suppressing anything(took some effort).
All the test i take ALL say INFP. Im only extroverted in all forms of art or topics and hobbies i like. Also, when in conversation i usually meditate on words rather than going off the top of my head. Im usually trying to find the middle ground or relate in communication in some way to find where my values fit in to have more to say. As an INFP I usually have to move to the beat of my drum , to my flow cause i can feel like an imposter to myself if i dont. Maybe this is overthinking it slightly but majority of the time it can feel as if im just emotion instead of a body (weird) but the emotion usually hits first than rational or logic so i do my best to respect my emotions or just the way how i process things internally cause it can fuck me up if I dont. Heart on your sleeves are the definition of INFPs.
Interesting! That was really good. INTJ here. My ex-wife of 8 years and girlfriend after her (for another 8 years) are both INFPs. One of them definitely cleans and cooks routinely while the other one definitely did not do either. LOL. The one who did not clean was very orderly though with her clothes. And she was a major breadwinner so most of her energy went into her passion career. Y'all said your tertiary is your aspirational but I thought our inferior was our aspirational? I feel like my aspirational function is definitely my Se inferior because I'm always enamored with how well things COULD be if only I would put more energy into my Se (actions and environment). My tertiary feels more like my driving force (maybe the hidden agenda as they say) because it is the foundation of all my important values that underlie all my plans. I'd like to learn more about those roles.
I'm INTJ and I'm the same. Fi has definitely always been my driving force, all the other functions serve Fi for me (which I've always keep very private-as it makes me too vulnerable, I don't want people to know my Achilles heel-I'd have to kill them, plus I HATE talking about feelings unless it's with my significant other-just makes me want to play violent videogames to restore balance to the universe, lol) and Se is for certain my aspirational: as it gets done what needs to be done.
I always find it weird to see people saying INFP and ENFP are so similar. On the surface level, perhaps, but if it comes to an argument - or even a disagreement? Primary Fi vs an attack from Te? I believe you've even done a sketch of it another of your videos. Edit: Part about Fi-Si loop for the INFP was v. interesting. I have a couple of close INFP friends, we're all in the position to buy homes - they have, I haven't. But I have wasted money on watches, expensive clothes... That's out of control Si weakness there.
INFP sp/so. She needs the group. Connects well w/ so-first people. 8:00 "I've seen you cry from overwhelm b/c you want to maintain all these relationships that are meaningful to you, but you're exhausted from extroverting too much." "I love socializing, but I do need to chill, listen to some music, and think about my feelings." "11:15 [INFP] is social b/c you have this story running in your head, and you are social to pull more material into your brain story. ... Like I'm going to feed my story." ENFP. 8:30. "I'll cry if I've been alone for too long. ... I feel consistently under stimulated. Introverts have a lower stimulation threshold, so too much overwhelms them. "11:30 [ENFP]'s body is on fire if I'm not stimulated constantly. I'm not just getting fodder for my story, I'm engaging b/c I feel alive in the moment when I'm engaging. It's deeply fulfilling/energizing in the moment, and I feel the most myself when I'm in a community and interacting with people/group." 2:40. relying on different tertiary function when stressed. INFP overuses Si (cleaning). ENFP overuses Te (planning). 3:30. We think similarly, but our actions are very different. INFP takes longer to think, reflect on feelings. Brainstorms ideas of what they could do. ENFP acts first, then feels later. Analyzes in retrospect. INFP: "What should I do next??" ENFP: "I already did this - crap!!"
@7:00 cleared it for me because I was wondering about my own type, I also really love interacting with people and need that social interaction. I would go crazy with too much time alone. I love people but I can see how I could be an introvert and INFP.
When I get social interaction, I tend to be selective of what kind of people I interact with. I think it’s because I’m looking for outside information in order to learn more about myself and my identity. I can’t know what I like or don’t like until I can experience it in some way. I think this is my Ne serving my Fi. Some of the past experiences can come flooding in when I am in self-reflection. I do this when I feel like I’ve lost or forgotten something about myself. I’ve been learning so much about myself since I’ve been able to settle on the fact that I am an INFP.
I've called myself an INFP for the last two years, but keep feeling like I'm more of a shy/ambiverted ENFP. I relate more with Ne than Fi, especially when it comes to being impulsive and thinking about it later, rather than being indecisive. I find my self jumping into things as soon as I think of it more often. I'm quiet most of the time out of shyness, but get energized when I'm surrounded by people and being out the house. Basically I personally relate more to the thought processes of ENFPs but my quietness makes feel like I'm more of an INFP, idk anymore!!
ENFPs have these intense, curious and friendly eyes darting around.. while living in their own world.. INFP's gaze is softer, more contemplative and slower blinks but hyper conscious and deeply observant of the actual reality
The first time I took a test was in a career prep course at a university. I got INFJ that time too like your friend. I've taken it since then a few times between several years out of curiosity and have since gotten INFP each time. I think they have shifted in correlation to the tasks I was focusing on at the time. With INFJ I was in college and trying to be organized and make concrete decisions for my life, so I wasn't allowing myself to use intuition or to fly by my pants - lots of trying to be mindful of the start and the end of my endeavors, along with the in-between. Nowadays, and in my natural state, I'm inclined towards making intuitive decisions based on the concrete information and knowledge I have and continue to seek out, and how to apply it or find work, and it's more natural for me to have a more intuitive approach in interpersonal relationships too. My environment is pretty organized though, which might not be characteristic of an INFP - but I think it's really important for me so that I can easily see what's possible for me to work on and the steps to take, without clutter getting in the way or making me tune it out with overwhelmed procrastination or really poor sense of time- the same goes with my mind and thoughts. Having a super organized environment lets the flighty intuitive side function much better with much more ease.
Yeah more videos where you are discussing stuff on related topics would be really great. Possible topics: how to get un-stuck, how to move on from your past, how to stop thinking about past, how to get out of loops, how to be aware of your behaviour, how to understand/aware of the general direction you are going, how to understand how we make decisions/judgement bon a daily basis and how that changes from day to day and what other factors influence it, how to decide to spend your time, management tips for infp (self, physical health, financial security, and work-life ) , how to judge/know whether what you are going to do is going to be helpful, how to be a good judge of how to spend ur time and resources, how to develop momentum on projects and not lose it, general reading list, resources, management styles, tips and tricks for the NFP.
I consider myself an enfp sx/sp, and I'm perfectly fine on my own. I've enjoyed the solitude pandemic has brought. Given, I've had my immediate family and partner and close friends. Funny how that so last makes me so not enfp like in terms of not desiring a social life.
I got ENFP 5 years ago & then INFP recently. I also learned Numerology helped me understand tendencies in the vibration / energy that resonates with me.
Best way to make an INFP worked up and confused is argue with them about free will vs determinism and ask them again a week later. Boy will that do a number on them. - fellow infp
I relate to Te as my third function. BUT I relate to thinking first before acting... I'm quite deliberate (can also be spontaneous). I'm quite cerebral in that way. But I am action-oriented. So I overanalyse but I also act a lot and like to achieve. Am I just a more deliberate ENFP? Haha
This definitely isn't to say that ENFPs don't think things through before doing them! Perhaps a better clarifier would be: INFPs tend to struggle with putting their thoughts and feelings into action more so than ENFPs and ENFPs struggle to soothe themselves with ritual more so than INFPs.
I love this 😂😂😍 especially at 10:30 when y’all are talking about being too stiff and then deciding what RUclipsr’s do on videos. That’s my favorite part (although I am only halfway through!) 😂
i like the nurture/character approach to see the diffference. i want to add this simple differentiator that i think 90% accurate, which is cognitive function explained by Harry CPT: - Ne dom would primarily attracted to something outside of their self (EXTERNALLY) and aim to develop that. - Fi dom would try to develop their feeling in an active state INTERNALLY. infp do not primarily use external stimuli to enjoy their live. it's pretty simple and 90% accurate.
ENFPs: *literally can't stop talking
INFPs: "yea" .
Btw: Hi from a brazilian INFP
This is exactly how it is between me and my gf. I’m ENFP and she’s InFp I can’t shut up 😂
Hi! Indian infp here!
Hi ! from a brazilian ENFP :)
eu também!
well i mean you gotta say what you gotta say ? when your thoughts come, they come thanks - enfp
actual footage of the two sides of my brain having a conversation lol
same im confused
@@joanmarieclarefelas6981 Same, I scored pretty close to the middle. I talk non-stop but am slow to act... confusing!
Ik this shits funny to watch
HAHAHAHAHA
LMAO
" 159 " times they used the word " YEAH " in the whole conversation and that happens between INFP & ENFP best friends for sure
I love it they really get each other
you counted!!!!!????
@@jayadevashok2070 yes
Yeaaaah, Thank God someone commented this
Honestly surprised it's so few
I'm an ENFP and my favorite people in the world are my partner, he's an INTP, and my sister who's an INFP.
aww I'm an INTP and my bf is an ENFP. I love the silly dynamic so much!
enfp w intp partner and infp mom!
Another one Fi is more optimistic and free flowing from Fi doms. For ENFP the Fi is more pessimistic more parental and used to guide peoples morality. Ne for the infp is more pessimistic and more responsible about considering options about the future.
Infps are control and move slower because they are thinking about the outcome of said actions. Enfps are very movement progress oriented and less focused on outcome and just moving.
The infp could be social due to the affinitive nature meaning people focused. It's an NF quality.
Oh my god. So I’m not an INFP? I’m so pessimistic. I have social anxiety so I guess, that’s why I’m confused?😅
Its hard to be optimistic when Ne sees what is going on. ENFP.
@@silentgrove7670 I’m an INFP and I’m pessimistic. I guess I’m an ENFP with social anxiety then? 😅
@Hello There xD
@@random-accessmemory9201 Both Enfp and Infp can be optimistic or pessimistic. The fact is that for Enfp, it's Fi that is negative, while for Infp, it's Ne. I think the point is that, sometimes, you could be blind to your dominant function and only see the good in it. Instead, other times, the auxiliary one is disregarded (especially with loops and grips) or used in an unhealthy way, "feeding" the concerns of the dominant one.
I'm an INFP married to an ENFP and this entire video is totally us. Every word makes perfect sense. Also the way they're clearly on the same wavelength the entire time, and making intuitive leaps together, is exactly like all the conversations I have with my hubby. Apparently Nirvana was created by an INFP/ENFP team, and it's a pretty special thing.
Nirvana!
@@c.j.giordano2129 turns out you're correct and we are not the types I thought we were. After learning more about the functions we realised he's ESFP and I'm ENFP. That tip about introverted sensing is super helpful as Si is my inferior, thanks for helping me understand that a little better.
As an ENFP, I really can relate to this. I love INFP. They are the best , very inspiring and dreamy.
I got myself a lot of INFP friend. This me with my BFF INFP.
Love to you all INFP reading this.
As an ENFP, I found your dialogue and interaction hilarious. There are too many similiaries, but it is a constant struggle as to "are we crazy" or "is life just this overwhelming?"
Thanks for putting this together!
I LOVE how they are trying to plan out their topic of discussion in the video. That xNFP life. The conversation is always just beginning.
I’ve been giggling all throughout watching this video. Finally, people that are as quirky on the spot as I! (German ENFP)
Welchen Test hast du denn benutzt und kannst du deutsche Literatur zum dem Thema empfehlen? Ich finde leider kaum etwas 😊
Bin auch ein deutscher ENFP :D
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I'm an ENFP. When I am in a mentally healthy place, I find myself doing TONS of social activities, calling up all of my friends or sometimes just going out to make new friends, and wanting to go-go-go feeling really bored or stir crazy if I have to spend time alone. So sometimes I literally will schedule in "Me Time" like an actual appointment so that I don't let anyone "book over" it. And even then it's hard to stick to my guns and not call someone up on the fly. But I feel like when I'm struggling with mental health, I can become really withdrawn, and so I don't want to go out and see anyone else and I hope that no one comes asking to see me either. But a lot of times, that's exactly what I need to get out of those funks.
Anyway, would be interesting to examine what real "mental health" looks like with each personality type. That's what I was thinking of when you guys were discussing socializing.
so true
That would be so interesting
Yeah it will be interesting
same with me what I am feeling, I am An Enfps, I like meeting people but when I am not in a mood of talking, I am on silent mood I don't like people asking me and dislike answering them lol , I stay away from them to recharge my mind and my feeling to be more comprehend what I want in life
@@nniesrinz4883 See this is what confuses me whether I'm an enfp or infp lol.
I am an ENFP but I always thought I was more INFP. Although I relate to you both? after watching this, I can confirm I’m definitely ENFP. It’s the impulsive decision then thinking afterwards that confirmed it for me lol. You both seem like fun to hang out with!
Exactly, I'm definitely more extroverted but always relate to the infp stereotypes.
This is what I thought too, but I always test as INFP, so I just thought I have ADHD 😅
Maybe you're in between :)
I have always been getting either enfp or infp for every once in a year I take the mbti test. The one trait I don’t agree with enfp is that they can be fine with people being around all throughout the year cuz for me personally I get drained by people at times,I need to be alone. But again I miss them crazily and it’s easier and even fun to be with the ppl you love but still you need that alone time no matter what. So I thought I was an infp but again I always always do then think :/
Me too! Sooo glad to have this settled. I took the test FORTY YEARS AGO and I have thought I was INFP all this time. I have to be stimulated but in my mind - I’ve had too many bad experiences with people to seek them out anymore. But in my small but intense circle ….I simply will not shut up with all my ENFPness
Im an INFP... I married an ISTJ... when I get into that organising mode, he gets excited and helps me :-) Sometimes I might get overwhelmed, and he helps get me back on track.
That's super awesome! I'm curious, do you feel like your senses of humor and general thought patterns line up pretty well, or did it take some time and practice?
@@docmars we met in high school. I think that made things easier. We masked ourselves a lot back then. Trying to fit in, so we kind of grew together. Also we grew through trauma... we were each other's escape. So really we were just really good friends. Basically what I lacked, he had and vice versa. We really pair together well as we are both very different. We respect each other's differences and often ask each other for advice or think "what would they do." It did take awhile for us to figure each other out. More so for him, even now he questions why I do things, but I just remind him that I'm not him. I really don't like to be not understood, known, accepted or treated unfairly. So I do call it out and will spend hours making sure he is educated in who I am... he's pretty much got it now, but when he's stressed he gets a bit frustrated with me. Still, we never argue, or fight. He is very loyal and prides himself in achieving greatness in the relationship. I have unrealistic fantasies that he himself likes to work towards. It sounds like I'm being bossy.and unrealistic, but I'm easy going and I understand that of myself. I'm just happy he cares enough about me to consider my expectations. We have similar interests and life goals. We both enjoy each other's company 24/7. My Dad is an Istj and my mum is Enfp. They seem to be good together too.
introverts are allready stimulated by their internal world; the external world only adds to that stress as opposed to extroverts who require stimulation from their external world.
Exactly!
Wow, I've never heard it explained that way. That makes so much sense why just a tiny bit of stimulation for my husband is like OVERLOAD and he's like tired after like an hour. I'm like....but how, we literally just left the house and didn't even get out of the car yet, how?! When I'm so ready for the stimulation and when I get it, I'm ready for more!
This is really great! INFP-T here. At first I, too, tested as INFJ. After reading your ENFP book, Heidi, I really felt I could be an ENFP (no one ever believes I am an introvert). I can be very charming and outgoing socially and I love people, but my people-ing fuse is very short. My biggest challenge is breaking free from that looping trap so I can recharge my Ne and break free from being reclusive. So glad I found this video!
Seeing your third function as that of a big sister or brother explains so much as to why I look up towards ISTJs and ISFJs because they dominantly use what I admire
The way I once said it about ENFPs is that ENFPs verbalize the thoughts INFPs have in their brain.
@@MBTimes I find especially fascinating to hear my (probably) ENFP son utter ideas that are very similar to the nonsense ideas I had as a child but of course never talked about!
My roommate in college and still my close friend is ISFJ. my grown up daughter is ISTJ. They have both been so stabilizing in my life !!
@@MBTimesI'm ENFP, my niece is INFP. As I throw out random thoughts... she will light up and say, "I think that all the time! I just didn't tell anyone!" 😂
You look like sisters. :) I was professionally typed as ENFP 4w5 sp/sx, and have done a lot of self-inquiry and research over the years. It's a weird combo. I'm a lot more like INFP, yet definitely have the aspirational Te and Si demon. I love alone time, but I'll have RUclips videos on all day because I like to hear someone talking, and need a lot of stimulation. Just, I hate Se and I can't handle a lot of Se stimulation - ie, big crowds, bright lights, noisy environments make my system crash because I have a highly sensitive nervous system. So, I interact a lot through the internet, phone etc. I love being in my apartment (SP) or one-to-one (SX). I'm very impatient, restless internally, more prone to quickly anger, and I find INFPs to be much more patient and better listeners than I am. I've made most of my big life decisions based on a flash of intuition I received in a moment, and just knew I would do that. Then I investigate how I feel about it and how to make it happen.
As a ENFP Ive basically just been scrolling in the comments and laughing my ass off because I'm so at Home :)
Haha, I love the “too stiff part” and the other unedited parts. I feel that this informal lighthearted style gives it a more authentic vibe which I quite enjoy. Hillary is a unique INFP in my opinion since she feels the need to be a part of a community. I used to be a hard core loner. Well I still am a little bit, but as I’ve gotten older I’m starting to want to gel with a group and see the value in that. Maybe it’s maybe maturity or Te development? I don’t know. But there’s a slight change for sure. Anyway, I love this! Please make more videos Heidi! Thanks! -INFP
i can totally relate with 8:09 comment
Interesting! I totally understand the loner thing! So much of my childhood was comprised of me feeling like I was outside looking in. Like I didn't truly belong anywhere.
But even-though I relate, I actually disagree a little bit about Hillary being a unique infp. Despite the loner thing, I'm also an infp who always wanted to be a part of a community or some group. I know that might seem contradictory, so I wanted to share my perspective.
The way I think about it is this: infps tend to want acceptance from their peers. Not necessarily in a way that means being *entirely* understood, but just acceptance of who they are as people and that who they are is enough. And personally, I found that validation when I finally joined a community that was like minded and didn't fault me for my quirks in Highschool.
And also! Infps (like any other introvert) need people for pretty much every reason under the sun *except* energy.
I personally sought out emotional connection and philosophical stimulation when I was with my peers. So, I think that when you're surrounded by people who might have similar thoughts/feelings about something, that you are also more likely to find that those needs are met. And I generally found those people in communities I was interested in.
this is so cute. i’m an enfp and my best friend is an infp too. this reminded me of our friendship.
I'm an INFP and learned a lot about it from your INFP book. Please do more videos with Hilary please.. I like to see my personality type from other people more. Yeah, I love your videos, Heidi!
Yes!
10:13 this is what happen if there’s no ‘J’ person in the conversation. Just Ne wondering around hahahahaa, the randomness at it’s finest!
- Infp that miss my enfp friend.
A checklist and a guidance tool would be really beneficial and through. Like:
1. Try out mbti tests, learn about cognitive functions and figure out your MBTI type.
Websites, books and physical life experiments and experiences to contrast and zone in on your MBTI type.
2. Go through some enneagram tests, learn about enneagram and find out your enneagram type.
Websites, books, resources, physical life experiments and experiences for zoning in your enneagram and related tritype, socionics and so on.
3. Finding out about attachment styles, figuring out your attachment style, learning more about attachment styles. How different attachment styles communicate.
Resources for the same.
4. Learning about emotional intelligence. Different parts of emotional intelligence, where you stand in each aspect of EQ, how does applying EQ looks like? In different scenarios?
Resources for the same.
5. Communication skills, what do they mean and understanding where you are at each skill, how communication skills play out in real life. Resources for the same.
And so on, whatever you consider should be known to every INFP, ENFP and every person on the planet.
This is literally me and my friend 😂😂😂 she’s INFP and I’m ENFP we’ve been together now for almost 10 years ❤️🦋 thank you for Sharing this video with us 🙏🏻
Also a video for the INFP: how to make up your bloody mind and stick with it for INFP type is desperately needed and would be appreciated by all the INFP's in the world.
The eye movements and facial expressions of an enfp are so unique ! As enfp unless there's movements in the direction my eyes dart to in a one on one conversation. It feels like I'm looking in my own mind. I'll catch most/all key points and my mind just starts grabbing anything that can relate. Almost as if your in a giant library of miscellaneous information. My mind usually darts to a still spot in my physical environment, so I can visualize my thoughts and ideas free of distraction.
I'm an INFP and my friend is an ENFP. we've been friends for about 2 years. She thought I was very mysterious, Whereas I think she talks a lot. But we match each other well. SHe always told me and I became a good listener for her. But sometimes I feel She is not interested in listening to me, she often interrupts my conversation. But after all she is a sloppy girl and likes to help people. She is a good girl! I hope our friendship can last forever.
I loved every seconds of the video, I felt at home. :>:> if I may try to summarize:
ENFP: OHH I HAVE THESE EMOTIONS AND HERE ARE HOW I FEEL.
INFP: Yes, I agree with you. (I never could say it out loud, but I'm glad you said it out loud, good for you).
ENFP: YES, AND HERE IS MY NEXT THOUGHT.
INFP: Yes, that too. But I'm a little different I think, in this way and in this way.
ENFP: YES, AND HERE IS MY NEXT THOUGHT.
I'm an ENFP and my two best friends also happen to be an INFP and INTP! That's so nuts
My sister is an ENFP, I’m an INFP and we are the perfect duo :)) I’m yet to find someone with the same vibes, humour, and lvl of communication/understanding. We’re literally on the exact same wavelength, It’s like telepathy. Whenever we see something together we say the exact thing at the same time. And she definitely holds the spotlight in social situations; I’m like her shadow… but I like it that way. I actually feel more confident when I’m with her. She’s also taught me not to overthink and be chill lol 😆 although I think our sibling dynamic collides with our friendship dynamic, so our emotional communication isn’t as strong. In saying so I want to find an ENFP or even INFP friend :>
I also completely relate as an INFP to being organised and having specific categories. Like the amount of playlists I have with different labels 😂
Its hard for me to distinguish which type I was. I can relate mostly to ENFP stuff but that extroversion thingy you discuss. I can go several months without people or even just a few friends of mine. And I feel drained after going in a large group of people. I can only tolerate for a few hours. now I'm more confused hahahaahah
I swear it's the same thing for me, literally every word you said is about me.
I just think after this video that I'm an ENFP because I can't stop talking when I'm in a group or with my friend and I talk a lot with hands but if I analyze the content of the video I would say that I'm an infp
@@yousrayusrah9965 well, introverts can be quite vocal in a group of friends they trust. and infps are the most extroverted introverts, minus the infjs i suppose.
thats the same for me, like I really do see myself in a ENFP but I´m really not that social and I´m easily drained by people lmao
You have articulated EXACTLY what I was thinking throughout watching this.
I’m an ENFP, very strongly on the NF parts, and I’m also a highly sensitive person who needs a lot of alone time to process stuff. So I don’t know if y’all consider me as an ENFP who prefers/needs less stimulation and more alone time, or not. My husband I believe is an extremely introverted INFP.
i’m infp and my partner of 4 years is enfp and he’s my bestest friend in the entire world and inspires me everyday☺️
I took the official test in college and it came back where they couldn't type me, they didn't know if I was enfp or infp. Now I know 💯% I'm enfp, not infp but it's pretty hard to tell them apart, even the official test couldn't tell.
Yeah I’ve had the same problem, I got 1% preference of extroversion over introversion, but ultimately the craziness of my Ne was so strong that I am most definitely an ENFP lol. I do have some phases where I ignore everyone and just pout about literally nothing for hours... thanks Fi lol
@@shreksgrandma722 This was my ENFP friend's problem too! Her Extroversion was only a few % higher and before she could show me the numbers I just outright told her she's definitely ENFP because I would be her if I was drunk. (I'm an INFP)
@@regrr1774 Lol XD very relatable - INFP
i’m an infp and one of my best friends is an enfp and our dynamic is very similar to theirs. my friend is a lot more talkative in big groups and I tend to shut down a bit. we’re very similar yet different and i really like that.
As an INFP I relate so much, the most relateable video from an INFP honestly
The "we're being too stiff" moment is the perfect representation of the two types it actually does a better job at getting to the heart of the types than any amount of words could
I loved that part 😂❤ total stoner moment
First of all, I've never more wanted to be friends with RUclipsrs. Second, loving all these comments of the classic INFP-ENFP-INTP threesomes. That's me, my sister, and my husband, and the three of us get along so well.
This is so cute, my roommate and I are ENFP and INFP and this is way too real. We are so similar its crazy but the differences are subtle and lovely
I have two daughters, the elder, an ENFP and the younger, an INFP. Watching your conversation is SO familiar.
IM DYINGGGG the thing about the 3rd function! My boyfriend and me is just like that!!! He is like “THIS IS WHAT WE ARE GOING TO DO” and I am like organizing EVERYTHING in the background 😂😂 Literally something that I’ve really noticed!
love hearing the internal worlds of ENFPs and INFPs explored this way
Thanks for this video! I often test as as an ENFP but pretty sure I’m an INFP because my go-to when I am unhealthy is to introvert too much and go into my Fi-Si loop while ruminating on the past. The way you explained the feeling out getting sick from introverting too much and trying to meet all your own needs is something I go through a lot. I am also way more indecisive than impulsive which is an INFP thing. It’s very confusing, though, because there is absolutely nothing quiet or reserved about my natural demeanor and I love being the center of attention:I just tend not to initiate things. So basically I am an introvert who is loud AF. Does anyone else have this issue?
Also the speed of the Ne dom brain vs limitless emotional prioritization of Fi makes it obvious and it’s very evident in this video. Heidi ideas are bouncing around, converging, branching, and synthesizing to birth whatever she is saying AND as an ENFP I know there is the chronic problem of single line communication aka you can only get one sentence out at a time and it’s always just the tip of the iceberg. On the flip side the INFP seems to constantly react and notice their own emotional state and what precisely is affecting it such as seating position, video perception, conversation balance, etc.
Following a routine...I almost threw up 😂
I do have a consistent eating routine, though.
I refuse to put any piece of food into my mouth until I have a video set up, my drink next to me and my food there as well.
I must also be at maximum comfortability; that is, casual clothes or no clothes.
As an infp I appreciate having a routine, but more in terms of a broad timetable certainly not timetabled to the minute more like quarters of the day, so there is freedom within that quarter
neat ! it seems like the infp loop = kinda stuck in what is or what was (past based) and enfp loop = stuck in what could be (future based).
I'm ENFP and my 2 bff's are INFPs. Best match 🥰
This is hilarious. I consistently test as an ambivert. I have done the jump first process later thing, and I have done the process first jump later thing. I have bobbed between the two all my life, and this video has nailed it for me. I am both LOL.
Such a good video full of insights! And omg YES I always tell people now to not trust the online tests because they're not accurate! Especially when it comes to ENFPs vs. INFPs, introversion/extroversion is so much more than how a person responds in social situations. Now I encourage people to read about the cognitive functions & dive headfirst into the breakdowns of each type until they find the one that resonates with them the most--MBTI as a whole can be such a valuable tool to give you insight into yourself & help you empathize/understand others, plus it gives us language to talk about our personal tendencies, strengths, shortcomings, etc. Which is amazing! It makes me sad when people discredit MBTI theory all together just because a fifteen minute internet quiz keeps giving them various or inaccurate insights.
Thanks for this. I'm always on the cusp of E/INFP. I'm pretty ambiverted, definitely turbulent, and feel most alive when I'm brainstorming. The situations you pinpointed regarding tertiary function and what happens when you skip over secondary function (and wow, has my Fi been neglected recently) makes so much sense that I'm an ENFP, and a turbulent one too, which can be easily mistaken for an INFP.
I'm an INFP and I wish I had an ENFP friend or a partner or just talk to one ENFP I would be honored for the experience.
kdbuskd bro I accept if you teach me english jsjjdj
oh, I forget to say that im ENFP JSJJSJJA
@@keziah8737 maybe we can chat on discord. I can try to teach you English.
@@darkdemo6977 yeeei
@@darkdemo6977 let me search my username JSJJA
10:16 steeple pose forward followed by shifting the chair and whole body to face the other person when there's a problem to solve is so relatable
It’s so crazy watching the Heidi now vs the Heidi 4 years ago. Like, the change is massive 😭 You give me hope to heal, Heidi, thanks for your amazing work ❤
I’m an enfp but I am highly introverted in the way that I really need to be alone and charge and unlike a lot of extraverts I need more alone time than with people. However, I’m extroverted in the way that I express myself and talk to people and put myself in a situation. I math both the INFP and ENFP type but I resonate a little more with enfp: that goes for the functions are more like me. My sister is an infp and we’re very close as we are extremely similar
Match not math, haha!
WOAHHHHHHHHHHHH this is literally exactly how I am :)))))
(specially about acting on things and THEN analyzing )
I hope everyone reading this is having an amazing day. Have a great weekend!!!!
-Mexican ENFP
Some random thoughts while watching:
- My dearest friends are also INFP, and they are also not that “introverted”
- Heidi’s eyes move a lot, I can see her Ne inside. And her smile is like “I’m happy i’m having fun”
- Hilary has this smile that seams connected with her heart
- the gift to the world of sixteen personalities is the avatars: I just hate how ENFP is dressed… although I do dress terribly (mostly because I usually have a lot of great things going on on my head and have no time to think about my look)
- My INFP friends also send super long audios
- soulbootcamp is hilarious and i’m loving to know and honor my ENFPness My INTJ boyfriend tells me that he would love to have a resource like this bootcamp for him
Aw Heidi, I FEEL THAT! Being "consistently understimulated" but my husband, an INFP is always overstimulated! It's so harrrrrrrrrrd! Because he literally CANNOT, but being at home drives me crazy 😭😭. But he loves me so good so I deal with it and go adventuring on my own if need be 🥰.
I'm INFP and I'm much more introverted than she just described but based on my friend I think the ENFP one was pretty accurate
Perfect video!!!!! Confirmed i am ENFP. luved these insights super fun and true thank youuu
Im an enfp and my best friend is infp. Biggest difference is I (enfp) actually have to physically do/ initiate something first and then I'll tend to understand/ figure out how I truly feel about something. He (Infp) has to figure out how he truly feels (most of the time) before initiating in any serious action/ direction
I have to say, your years of discussing the functions is how I truly understood that I’m absolutely an ENFP, no question.
Erik Thor interestingly said INFJ is ENFPs closest lookalike but you’re right, closest cognitive twin arguably
These two beautiful ladies are like exactly what's in my head all the time 😂 They stay true to themselves and maintain a sort of emotional balance for smooth conversation. Wow I'm speechless 😂
Even the tones of your two voices line up with introversion and extroversion, in my opinion! As a person who also has a tough time deciding whether I'm an ENFP or INFP, I think overall INFPs have softer edges. Of course I also don't really know what I'm talking about and won't hold a hard line on that opinion ;-)
As they say INFP is the most extraverted introvert and ENFP is the most introverted extravert. I test 51%/49% I/E. Fi is definitely my leading function though.
Yup,i totally noticed how stiff Hilary was first,and then you yourself. I honestly thought i would have been looping Ne-Te in a non-social,isolated reclusive way through gaming and other such external sources of stimulation. I would wake up each morning,eager to just skip food and just go play,never checking inwards,or taking care of my health. I have been told i was too loud in public,i have also said things best left unsaid too.
I would be very interested in knowing about how you said your body felt like it was on fire,because it kind of feels this way for me. ANd i do believe i feel relaxed and energized in a group,if i am fully engaging and not suppressing anything(took some effort).
Makes sense :) !
You make it easy to understand NFPs ✨✨
All the test i take ALL say INFP. Im only extroverted in all forms of art or topics and hobbies i like. Also, when in conversation i usually meditate on words rather than going off the top of my head. Im usually trying to find the middle ground or relate in communication in some way to find where my values fit in to have more to say. As an INFP I usually have to move to the beat of my drum , to my flow cause i can feel like an imposter to myself if i dont. Maybe this is overthinking it slightly but majority of the time it can feel as if im just emotion instead of a body (weird) but the emotion usually hits first than rational or logic so i do my best to respect my emotions or just the way how i process things internally cause it can fuck me up if I dont. Heart on your sleeves are the definition of INFPs.
When Heidi said her two best friends were INFP and INTP I was spooked because my two best friends are INFP and INTP!
Interesting! That was really good. INTJ here. My ex-wife of 8 years and girlfriend after her (for another 8 years) are both INFPs. One of them definitely cleans and cooks routinely while the other one definitely did not do either. LOL. The one who did not clean was very orderly though with her clothes. And she was a major breadwinner so most of her energy went into her passion career.
Y'all said your tertiary is your aspirational but I thought our inferior was our aspirational? I feel like my aspirational function is definitely my Se inferior because I'm always enamored with how well things COULD be if only I would put more energy into my Se (actions and environment). My tertiary feels more like my driving force (maybe the hidden agenda as they say) because it is the foundation of all my important values that underlie all my plans. I'd like to learn more about those roles.
I'm INTJ and I'm the same. Fi has definitely always been my driving force, all the other functions serve Fi for me (which I've always keep very private-as it makes me too vulnerable, I don't want people to know my Achilles heel-I'd have to kill them, plus I HATE talking about feelings unless it's with my significant other-just makes me want to play violent videogames to restore balance to the universe, lol) and Se is for certain my aspirational: as it gets done what needs to be done.
@@rocketassistedgoat1079 Exactly!
I always find it weird to see people saying INFP and ENFP are so similar. On the surface level, perhaps, but if it comes to an argument - or even a disagreement? Primary Fi vs an attack from Te? I believe you've even done a sketch of it another of your videos. Edit: Part about Fi-Si loop for the INFP was v. interesting. I have a couple of close INFP friends, we're all in the position to buy homes - they have, I haven't. But I have wasted money on watches, expensive clothes... That's out of control Si weakness there.
INFP sp/so. She needs the group. Connects well w/ so-first people. 8:00 "I've seen you cry from overwhelm b/c you want to maintain all these relationships that are meaningful to you, but you're exhausted from extroverting too much." "I love socializing, but I do need to chill, listen to some music, and think about my feelings." "11:15 [INFP] is social b/c you have this story running in your head, and you are social to pull more material into your brain story. ... Like I'm going to feed my story."
ENFP. 8:30. "I'll cry if I've been alone for too long. ... I feel consistently under stimulated. Introverts have a lower stimulation threshold, so too much overwhelms them. "11:30 [ENFP]'s body is on fire if I'm not stimulated constantly. I'm not just getting fodder for my story, I'm engaging b/c I feel alive in the moment when I'm engaging. It's deeply fulfilling/energizing in the moment, and I feel the most myself when I'm in a community and interacting with people/group."
2:40. relying on different tertiary function when stressed. INFP overuses Si (cleaning). ENFP overuses Te (planning).
3:30. We think similarly, but our actions are very different. INFP takes longer to think, reflect on feelings. Brainstorms ideas of what they could do. ENFP acts first, then feels later. Analyzes in retrospect. INFP: "What should I do next??" ENFP: "I already did this - crap!!"
I have the nervous system 'current" as well. I attribute it to ADHD - as its a neurological.
@7:00 cleared it for me because I was wondering about my own type, I also really love interacting with people and need that social interaction. I would go crazy with too much time alone. I love people but I can see how I could be an introvert and INFP.
When I get social interaction, I tend to be selective of what kind of people I interact with. I think it’s because I’m looking for outside information in order to learn more about myself and my identity. I can’t know what I like or don’t like until I can experience it in some way. I think this is my Ne serving my Fi. Some of the past experiences can come flooding in when I am in self-reflection. I do this when I feel like I’ve lost or forgotten something about myself. I’ve been learning so much about myself since I’ve been able to settle on the fact that I am an INFP.
Me ENFP and my sister INFP, so lucky to have such a special understanding with my sis.👭
I've called myself an INFP for the last two years, but keep feeling like I'm more of a shy/ambiverted ENFP. I relate more with Ne than Fi, especially when it comes to being impulsive and thinking about it later, rather than being indecisive. I find my self jumping into things as soon as I think of it more often. I'm quiet most of the time out of shyness, but get energized when I'm surrounded by people and being out the house. Basically I personally relate more to the thought processes of ENFPs but my quietness makes feel like I'm more of an INFP, idk anymore!!
ENFPs have these intense, curious and friendly eyes darting around.. while living in their own world.. INFP's gaze is softer, more contemplative and slower blinks but hyper conscious and deeply observant of the actual reality
This helped me a lot! I'm an ENFP, one of my close friends and also the guy i'm dating are INFP. Makes so much sense!
The first time I took a test was in a career prep course at a university. I got INFJ that time too like your friend. I've taken it since then a few times between several years out of curiosity and have since gotten INFP each time. I think they have shifted in correlation to the tasks I was focusing on at the time. With INFJ I was in college and trying to be organized and make concrete decisions for my life, so I wasn't allowing myself to use intuition or to fly by my pants - lots of trying to be mindful of the start and the end of my endeavors, along with the in-between. Nowadays, and in my natural state, I'm inclined towards making intuitive decisions based on the concrete information and knowledge I have and continue to seek out, and how to apply it or find work, and it's more natural for me to have a more intuitive approach in interpersonal relationships too. My environment is pretty organized though, which might not be characteristic of an INFP - but I think it's really important for me so that I can easily see what's possible for me to work on and the steps to take, without clutter getting in the way or making me tune it out with overwhelmed procrastination or really poor sense of time- the same goes with my mind and thoughts. Having a super organized environment lets the flighty intuitive side function much better with much more ease.
Yeah more videos where you are discussing stuff on related topics would be really great.
Possible topics: how to get un-stuck, how to move on from your past, how to stop thinking about past, how to get out of loops, how to be aware of your behaviour, how to understand/aware of the general direction you are going, how to understand how we make decisions/judgement bon a daily basis and how that changes from day to day and what other factors influence it, how to decide to spend your time, management tips for infp (self, physical health, financial security, and work-life ) , how to judge/know whether what you are going to do is going to be helpful, how to be a good judge of how to spend ur time and resources, how to develop momentum on projects and not lose it, general reading list, resources, management styles, tips and tricks for the NFP.
I’m a very strong INFP!
Constantly understimulated - yep that's accurate
I consider myself an enfp sx/sp, and I'm perfectly fine on my own. I've enjoyed the solitude pandemic has brought. Given, I've had my immediate family and partner and close friends. Funny how that so last makes me so not enfp like in terms of not desiring a social life.
You look alike and talk in the same way. It's so fascinating how people affect eachother when they are close.
Noted, still chairs, stiff talk. Hahaha!
Love the dynamic and flow! So inspiring and lovely! - ENFP-A
I'm just so happy to know that Heidi seems to have hacked being a happy and fulfilled ENFP, it gives me hope.
That part when they're trying to figure out what else to talk about is the funniest.
Lol! The part where you're worried about being too stiff 😆 when you 2 seem like the least stiff, sweetest people
I am an enfp, my bestie is an infp. We have the best conversations! 😊
I got ENFP 5 years ago & then INFP recently. I also learned Numerology helped me understand tendencies in the vibration / energy that resonates with me.
as an ENFP, I feel like the person that would understand me the most are INFJs. So basically I'm hoping to find a life pertner like that lmao.
As an infj my advice would be go on dating sites and put ENFP in your profile or as part of your username. They will find u!
Best way to make an INFP worked up and confused is argue with them about free will vs determinism and ask them again a week later. Boy will that do a number on them.
- fellow infp
I relate to Te as my third function.
BUT
I relate to thinking first before acting... I'm quite deliberate (can also be spontaneous). I'm quite cerebral in that way. But I am action-oriented. So I overanalyse but I also act a lot and like to achieve.
Am I just a more deliberate ENFP? Haha
This definitely isn't to say that ENFPs don't think things through before doing them! Perhaps a better clarifier would be: INFPs tend to struggle with putting their thoughts and feelings into action more so than ENFPs and ENFPs struggle to soothe themselves with ritual more so than INFPs.
@@heidipriebe1 In that case I'm definitely ENFP. Thanks Heidi :)
I love this 😂😂😍 especially at 10:30 when y’all are talking about being too stiff and then deciding what RUclipsr’s do on videos. That’s my favorite part (although I am only halfway through!) 😂
i like the nurture/character approach to see the diffference. i want to add this simple differentiator that i think 90% accurate, which is cognitive function explained by Harry CPT:
- Ne dom would primarily attracted to something outside of their self (EXTERNALLY) and aim to develop that.
- Fi dom would try to develop their feeling in an active state INTERNALLY. infp do not primarily use external stimuli to enjoy their live.
it's pretty simple and 90% accurate.
I think the question is: what would be the least tiring for you: spending 90% of the time alone or with people? 🙈
Would love to hear your perspective on INTP's. I think I'm an INTP and there's a sense of familiarity I feel towards some ENFP types.
I’m an INFP that is also social and I like my “community”
awe i’m an enfp and my sister is an infp and you guys remind me so much of us 💗