Best book I've read with this challenge! || Read it or Unhaul it Reading Vlog
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Hey Booktube, here the 7th reading vlog of the "read it or unhaul it" challenge! I read the best book so far this year... I needed it too XD
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I wasn't going to upload this one since I had too many things going on but I know you love this challenge and for once I read one I love so here it is XD
Emily, have you tried cat pheromones? Feliway for example? And maybe some herbal mixtures that calm down or influence the cat's emotions? A long time ago, I had a similar situation with my two cats: one of them ran away and got into fights with free-living cats. We found him the same day, nothing major happened to him, but then he attacked our other cat very aggressively. For some time I kept the cats separate, both had Feliway turned on in their rooms and were given drops (German Dr Bach RESCURA Tropfen). It took a while, in stages, but it didn't last longer than 5 months. Don't give up on Pear yet if you have the conditions to keep them apart and if you have the strength (mentally) to do so, because I know it must be damn hard on your heart. I'm sending you lots and lots of good thoughts, and I keep my fingers crossed for all the Furry Four.
I did and it only worked on the babies lol
I definitely tried everything I could find online that isn't literal medication. She looked like she was improving at one point (feeding both side of a door, etc) but she regressed completely and it hasn't improved since. I genuinely don't see her stopping at this point :(
@@BookswithEmilyFox Damn, that's sad ;( The only thing that comes to my mind is that sterilization has exacerbated some disease in the cat? She doesn't look sick (she looks wonderful) but cats sometimes don't show at all that they are sick or that they are in pain, so maybe there is a problem with some discomfort? A cat behaviorist would be useful, some @JacksonGalaxy from book tube ;)
How long has it been since she started to push away her babies? My cat and his mom loves each other and whenever he is visiting my parents (where she lives) they hang together like BFFs. 😸 It is normal though, for cat mommies to drive away her babies when they have reach that age
She was rejecting them "normally" at 2-3months but then she had her first vet appointment. Ever since then she's been attacking them. I tried to reintroduce them based on videos online over three months and she improved a bit then regressed. She attacks the door they are behind at this point... I've tried everything. Feliways, slow reintro, getting them all fixed, etc. I don't want to rehome her but at this point she isn't improving and it's a lot.
I’m so sorry about Pear. Try not to be hard on yourself, you are doing the best you can and you clearly care so much about all the cats and their well-being. Hugs ❤
I’m sorry honey. That’s actually happened with one of my cats - she suddenly decided she hated them and she viciously attacked my other 3 cats and despite spending 3 months with two different cat behaviourists to try and get her to get along with the cats and essentially “reintroduce” them ( as I have to keep her separated at all times from the others) it was unsuccessful. They told me that some cats prefer to be on their own, they find living with other cats stressful. So I’m in the same situation as you, my heart is broken, I don’t want to rehome her, but she doesn’t want to be around the other cats so I need to find the right home where she can live her best life. Sending you love during this awful situation x
that’s so hard having to rehome pear but you’ve done so much for her and set her up to have a happy cushy life with a new fam! hopefully you can keep in touch with her (lol) but you also have three kittens that were literally grown inside her so she’ll always be there in a way ❤
Don't leave the lid off the cookie jar I could see it being filled with kittens ! 🐾🐾
You saved Pear and she has learned to be a warm, loving cat. Rehoming can suck, but it can also be the right thing for the cat. We've had many cats over the years and have only rehomed one. We kept in contact with the family and she was adored, spoiled, and very happy. It was the right thing for her.
It has been a crappy week, and quite honestly, your videos have been such a bright spot to cheer me up. I hope your week is going better and that the cats and your dad are all doing well, too.
Thank you! Hope yours get better *big hug*
I do the same under stress, switch to nonfiction. Maybe because it usually doesn't engage my emotions the way fiction does. And I won't dwell on this, but sorry to hear that Pear may have to be rehomed. Just know that you rescued her when she was pregnant and neglected, gave her a safe and loving home, and tried absolutely everything to make it work between her and the kittens. She is better off and looking much healthier because of you.
Big hugs to you, Mama (she looks amazing!) and the babies. It's so hard when you've tried everything and nothing seems to make a difference. But YOU have made such a difference in all their lives ❤
Oh no, you have to re-home Pear?! Makes me so sad knowing she is the reason you even have cats now and love them so much. 😭😭
I feel so sad about it but she’s clearly stressed out and I don’t her to be :(
Keeping them all separated but still giving them time/attention/space is a lot too. I’m trying to make the right decision and since she’s not getting better I’m seeing it as her needing to find another house. Sadly its easier to rehome one cat over three… but I don’t want to :(
I'm so sorry you have to make such a tough decision, but it's probably better for her this way like you said, but it doesn't make it less sad though. Stay strong!!💪
@@BookswithEmilyFoxcan your neighbour with the dad cat take her?! It’s unlikely but worth a try?
Rehoming is never a bad thing if its in the best interest of the animal, Pear and the babies are miserable, placing her somewhere where she can be in a situation that makes her happy is for the best. Our cat was the same, miserable in the foster home, didn't get on with her own mother or the other cats, she's blossomed here as an only cat. We were told she was undersocialised and wary of humans, within a couple of weeks she was a lapcat. But the foster home knew what they were looking for and made sure we also knew what we were taking on
Hi Emily! We had a similar situation with a pregnant stray that hated her kittens, its been a year and just now she is mellowing out to them. She has her own sleeping area but they all share the patio to play.
About Master of Djinn, the other stories in this world are really good too, and some of them are super short and help expand the lore a bit. Absolutely loved them all and I hope there is a second book to this series.
That's the biggest cookie jar I have ever seen. 🍪
The cats look amazing. 🐈⬛🐈⬛🐈⬛🐈⬛
If you have to rehome pear I really hope it can be to a close friend or family member so you can still visit her ❤️
My MIL's cat hated their kitten. They got her fixed and she became way less aggressive and now a month later they get along fine. Just an idea. Love your videos!!! Have a great week!
Pear did get fixed recently.
Sorry Pear may not work out. I was going to suggest calling her Purrsephony to go with Clawdia
She has the quietest purring! I wish I could catch it on the microphone!
I’m so sorry about Pear. I went through something similar and I had to give one of my cats to my father, so I feel you. It was very sad and stressful.
Don’t worry. You have done so much for her and her babies, she’s going to be ok and happy wherever she goes if you decide to rehome her. The important thing is her wellbeing.
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I'm so sorry it isn’t working out with Per and the kittens. Do you have a family member who could adopt Per so you could still see her? I hope it still gets better ❤
I 100% agree that A Master of Djinn is underrated! I feel like when it came out the only booktubers I saw reviewing it said it was disappointing and they didn’t like it. So I put off reading it but when I did pick it up I loved it. You are such a good cat mom, I know you’ll make the best decision for all of them even if it’s hard. 😿
So happy to see momma cat again. I've missed her. ❤
Eagerly awaiting the inevitable kitten-in-giant-cookie-jar content 🤣 Sorry it has been a rough time recently but I am glad that the new cookie jar went easy on you this time, hopefully things improve for you soon. Thanks for still uploading this, the cut to the clip with the facemask gave me the unexpected laugh i definitely needed today!
Ohh yes definitely. What you said about being stressed and reading more non-fiction. I NEVER read non-fic and I've read two in September and I've been really stressed. Your statement checks out haha!
I'm sorry to hear, it sounds very stressful. No expert and every cat is different but for what it is worth I adopted a pregnant stray and kept on two of her kittens and at first she was the same - would not let them be anywhere near her, aggressive, as they have to be to stop the kittens from latching on - but she did calm down and now, she is absolutely fine so long as they respect her space and boundaries (fair!), which they have largely learned to do due to those early days when she went for them if they tried to get too close. We've had a very happy six years with decreasing bops on the nose! I hope it works out but whatever happens you've given them all love and care, and kept them safe; whatever decision you make will be the right one. Good luck!
Edit: she is also especially fine with them over the winter because her love of comfort outweighs her love of personal space, haha. But it did take some time to get there.
Omg yes. I also read more nonfiction when I’m struggling. I think that it’s easier to get into a book where I don’t have to figure out the world and I don’t always have to follow a plot. Or at least those are my theories lol.
That makes sense! I just can’t fully immerse myself when i have too much going on but I keep hearing people say they read for escape and… I can’t lol
I can imagine your stress. I’m a little sad for you, but I’m sure things will get better. Wishing you all the love and good luck!
Yes! I also read less fiction when I'm stressed. Non fiction is so much easier because you don't have to learn a new world
Happy Clawdia and momma are healty and beautiful ❤ hope you get news about chunky soon.
The shot where they all stare at charlies papa loos so adorable 😍
And I love the huge TBR jar ❤
I've had A Master of Djinn on my list forever after reading the novella A Dead Djinn in Cairo by the same author. Definitely pushing me to pick it up!
Read it or unhaul is literally my favorite series of your account 🙌🏻 love them so much it inspires me to finish my physical tbr
Aww what a tough decision. I hope that you can find a good home close by enough for visits maybe? We want mama cat to be okay too! And happy you found a book you really liked! My life is currently a bit of a shit storm and struggling to read as well too but I think my suspense thriller will help tonight before I sleep. Thanks for sharing the kitties they are a bright spot for me and probably others too!
I'm sorry that you will have to give up Pear, but you have done such a stellar job with all of them. It has been so stressful. Hang in there.❤
I also loved A Master of Djinn!
I'm so sorry about Pear 😢 I know that must break your heart. Whoever gets her had better be ready to treat her like the sweet baby she is 💗. Also, if it makes you feel better about City of Brass, I also tried to make it through that 3x and couldn't ever get into it.
A Master of Djinn is an amazing novel, I'm glad you enjoyed it! 😊 I think if you read 3 short stories before it, they would make you more invested in the world/characters. The stories are also amazing btw.
Thanks for sharing your kitties with us! You’ve done an amazing thing caring for them and should be proud. You know what’s best for you and them ❤️
You shouldn t worry about the hissing. I ve been through this with all my "new" cats. It will pass in 2 or 3 days after they establish the hierarchy and mamma will let the babies know that she wanta to be left alone. It is normal.
I've been trying this challenge a bit since August and I didn't consider keeping the paper of the books I've read already 😂 so I'm definitely doing that next year since my jar will be probably as big as yours lol
I don't think you really need to rehome pear, they don't have to like each other to live together, the longer you keep them separated the more intense their dislike for each other will get. Ive known multiple people who've had cats that don't like each other they just avoid each other and only occasionally fight but not badly. I had to take in my sisters kitten because she moved overseas and my old cat hated her for months, I kept them separated for a couple months and it just made it worse, the vet said to just let them fight it out as long as they don't seriously hurt each other which is very unlikely its fine. Now a year later they don't mind each other just the occasional hiss if the kitten gets too close
It’s not just disliking them. She loses her shit completely at them. I tried reintroducing them slowly over 3 months, I tried feliway, I tried just letting them together thinking “fuck it” and she just keep yelling louder and louder and hitting them while hissing. The kittens don’t even look at her and she goes insane. It’s not fair to them either but it stresses her so bad. It’s not them provoking her, she just won’t leave them alone. I’ve tried.
Have you tried getting into contact with foster homes for cats ? They often have to deal with having multiple cats in the same household, some even with strays, they could probably give you some advice to make Pear accommodate/tolerate the kittens. It would be so sad to see her go but life doesn't always work the way we want 😔
From what I understand, the problem is that they are her babies so she’s supposed to reject them. They’ve been separated for 4 months. I was hoping it would get better after she was fixed… then now they are fixed… it’s been a lot tbh. I don’t want her to go but during the winter it will too much to manage
@@BookswithEmilyFox Yes it’s completely understandable, on the bright side you might end up finding her human soulmate! It’s sad but as long as she’s in a good place she’ll be okay 😊
Aw heck Emily, now I teared up too
I kept thinking that too so this challenge was the final kick in the butt I needed lol
I had to rehome my first cat. I wanted a cat for so long but when I got her I was not in a good place mentaly and couldnt handle it. I had to give her up and felt so terible about it. I am still ashamed of it and not a lot of people know about her. But it was the best decision for everyone. She got to move from tiny apartment to a house with kids who played with her all the time. She could go in and out as she wanted and they took her out for trips on a leash. They used to send me a lot of puctures years after they got her from me. I felt so bad but it was the best decision I could make for her and for me. Now I have four cats but it took a lot of time to get to that. If she is stressed, it is best to find her a new home. The cat distribution system was generous to you anyway 🙂
I also find it easier to read non-fiction when I'm stressed. So sorry you're having such a stressful time, I hope everything starts looking up for you and the cats ❤️
I'm so sorry about mamma cat. Have you tried reintroducing them? I just adopted a new cat and introduced them in 3 steps (no eye contact, no touching and controlled interections) and it worked. They say you can do that with cats that already live together but don't get along.
But if it doesn't work, know that you did your best and you've been so good to her and I know that you will find another loving home to her.
Thank you for posting it after all!
Holy crap 400 on your Tbr? Lol. I have 75 and I thought that was bad!
My heart goes out to you concidering giving up Clawdia but if shes turning out to be a single cat queen it might be better that way :(
Probably easier to rehome one cat than three it would be very sad if the trio split up since they seem to be getting along so well.
YAY! Mama 🐈⬛❤️❤️❤️
Have you talked to a rescue shelter some times they have good tips about introducing cats again. So sad about Pear! 😩
That's a book I want to try reading as well, but I may read the novellas first. We'll see.
I'm so sorry about what you must be going through with Pear disliking the kittens. I've been following the development of Pear story since you decided to let her in and take care of her kitties, so I imagine the current situation with them not getting along must be overwhelming. But you're doing everything in your power! You're the best cat mamma, so you know. Give Pear a little more time, but if neither she, nor the kittens, nor you are happy keeping that situation and all the family members' quality of living is being at stake, I think it's fair to consider rehoming Pear, for her and your own happiness. Stress is a tricky thing that can taint everything we love. Pear seems a wonderful cat, loving and sweet, and we can see how it affects you the sole idea of letting her go. I'm so sorry. Lots of good thoughts to you. I hope tables turn and things get better, but if they don't, all my strength for the tough decision and the bestest of luck to find Pear a great home 💜
I deffo focus more on nonfiction when I'm stressed too! I feel like I just can't settle and focus on worldbuilding, character relationships, names, etc, and the more factual nature feels more...grounded? Soothing in its occasional sterility? I'm not sure exactly lol.
Fingers crossed that things ease up for you very soon! 🍁
More factual nature of nonfiction* that is!
The cat dad came to pay alimony 😂
If only! All I get is 💩 in my yard baba
A Master of Djinn is soooo good! Excited to see your reaction
I recently adopted a 6 month old kitten and he's a handful. I don't know how you're handling 3. At least they can play together, I have to play with him and wear him out before bedtime to get him to sleep through the night without bothering me at 2 am. He's adorable, though. White and orange male named Rusty.
I am glad you adoptet the mom and kept all the kittens that came later since the owner just gave a damn.
She never reached out to me, never posted online looking for her 🙄
@@BookswithEmilyFox Her loss. She doesn't deserve them anyway. ❤
I can’t believe the vet still hasn’t gotten back to you. I’d be livid. Glad he’s still happy.
Problems with your card after vet visits and the vet not answering calls or emails kind of feels like there is really something wrong going on. I know it's a low chance, and it's a very far featched theory. Just a thought that appeared in my mind when you mentioned that. Maybe it's not their fault, but someone targetting their clients?
Anyway, your cats are so cute!
Also, you made me realise that I bought a wrong book (I bought short story collection by this author thinking it's that book)
Omg yes for finding the jar
It should last for a few years right?? 😂🤞🤞
@@BookswithEmilyFox hopefully yes but I the one who has like 10 books unread books on their physical TBR
hope better weeks come for you emily❤ seems like a interesting book btw
This jar is so epic 🤣 "A Master of Djinn" has been on my list for a while, I keep on postponing it for some reason...
It’s the biggest one I could find haha
I was the same! I’m glad I got to it!
Oh no you are going to rehome pear that makes me so sad she is the reason you have cats you did a good job taking care of pear did the best for her 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
😂 That's a huge jar!!! 😂
Don’t give up, Emily! My cat Emma hated other cats - HATED them - but eventually she got to where she could share communal porch space with my neighbor’s two cats. In my experience, some adult cats have zero patience with kittens and/or younger animals. My neighbor’s cats were kittens when Emma decided she didn’t like them. Once they got older and more chilled out, it was WAY better. Please give it time! I hate for mama cat to lose her home over this, especially since she picked you as her person!!
She has been like that for 4 months now… I’ve definitely given it time sadly. I’m waiting a bit longer since the babies had surgery 3 weeks ago so it might still help
I was going to say wait until the babies are two years old. Then they’re adults. Before then, they’ve still got kitten energy and she’s telling them she wants no part of it. That’s my opinion and/but you have to do what makes sense to you!
It would make sense if they were after her but they completely ignore her and she attacks them. They can be napping and she's the one going for them :/
I know, I hear you - cats can be exasperating. So many times I’m like “Why? Why?” (Like last night when my cat Oz decided to pee all over a fleece blanket that was folded neatly on one corner of my bed.) If only we could reason with them. As for your situation, all I can say is that adult cats are very territorial, especially the girls. Maybe she just wants to make it extra, SUPER clear that the kittens are weaned and there’s no going back.
I love how big that jar is now 😂😂
you should read the author's book Ring Shout! incredible. this one is on my TBR.
Jackson Galaxy does a lot of work with cats. He also has many videos on youtube. Two that might help with mama cat is "How to deal with cat fights" and "How to Introduce Cats". Even with cats that know each other, he says you may have to do the slow introduction process. It might be worth a try anyway. I can only imagine how sad it is thinking you may have to rehome her.
I followed his method and slowly reintroduced them over 3 months. She improved at first and then regressed. She now attacks the door they are behind. Get get past that point :(
That is dissappointing to hear and I wonder why she regressed afterwards. Have they switched rooms too, so they can be around each others smells and/or a screen door. I am probably only giving you redundant ideas unfortunately. I will be hopeful 🤞they can be reintroduced at some point. Positive thoughts your way ☺ @@BookswithEmilyFox
I enjoyed the novellas even more than Master of Djinn
Oh that’s interesting to hear!
@@BookswithEmilyFox maybe because i read them first? the haunting of tram car 015 was my favourite
Now that's the biggest cookie jar I've ever seen 😂 I thought that was a series, no? That's why I've been putting it off waiting for the sequel. Meanwhile I've already read every single novella/short story in the "dead djinn universe" (I believe that's what the series is called)
I think they’re part of the same universe but I don’t see a #2?
If I get to a point I have too many books to fit we have a problem!
@@BookswithEmilyFox Guess you'd start questioning your life if that happens 😂
“Surely I can’t have too many books?? I guess I just write on smaller pieces of paper!!”
Sending all the love and support ❤❤❤
How long has it been since Pear and the gang have been fixed? It might work itself out ….
“This is the territory of the mother. If she doesn't chase the kittens away, she has to search for a new territory. Female cats sometimes live together, but male cats are not social and if she doesn't chase her kittens away, one of her sons would soon take over the territory and chase her away.
Her daughters will soon be sexually mature, if they aren't already. If she allows her daughters to stay, they would probably mate the same tomcat and would have litters at the same time. This reduces genetic variance, which increases the risk of genetic diseases and general weaknesses and forces several new mothers into a food competition. Cats won't move too far from their litter, so several mother cats must hunt in the same small area, where the food might not be enough for all.
Her sons will also be sexually mature and want to mate. If a son mates with her or with her daughters, this is inbreeding and poses an even greater risk for genetic diseases and mutations.
So mother cats first care for their kittens as long as those need her support, and then chase them away when they become mature to avoid inbreeding and food competition.
I would add that mother cats can become affectioante with their kittens again after separation, once they have established their own territories and such. The period where they actively drive them away is their instincts, once that is over they can get friendly again. “
That’s my last hope! The vet had told me to see how she was a month after her surgery but I guess the same logic can be applied to the babies… they’re three weeks post op so it’s not looking good but I want to give her another month :/
Maybe you checked him out already but Jackson Galaxy on RUclips is like the cat whisperer and maybe he might have tips to see if it's possible to get them to all get along?! I don't know, I'd be so heartbroken too if I was in your shoes so I had to think of a solution🤷🏻♀️❤️
Is pear allowed to go outside? Maybe that would make a difference 🤷♀️
Love the jar 🫙
oh no Pear 😔😔😔😔😔
Also some months you let the cat pick
But wouldn’t mama cat be the one to be kept in this forever home if anyone really needs to be, sadly, rehome? Isn’t she the “original love”? she has been neglected at least once already 😢 but, understand any decision is tough in this case. Sorry about that.
Aww I thought the same about her being the "original love" but it is a tough decision either way
It’s sadly easier to rehome one cat than 3. I also wouldn’t want the kittens to be separated. Chunky is also too attached to me and would do very poorly with rehoming. Trust me this whole situation is breaking my heart
@@BookswithEmilyFoxi understand. I just always have more empathy for the elderly. As said, either way, it’s a tough decision. Sorry for the stress you are being put under. But you have your whole viewer base having your back, emotionally. Take care.
Hi!! Do you know how many books you own in total? I'm just curious. Great vid, I always love the 'read it or unhaul it' vlogs.
5:15 also my dad now
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Unrelated… but… how much/many hours a day do you actually read? 🙈 Like what is your reading routine?
My father died this summer and I spent two months not being able to finish any fiction and only being able to reread or do non-fiction My brain just could not do another world
Have you tried those calming diffusers or sprays with Pear? There must be a way to get her past this! 😩
I did… I really tried everything :(
@@BookswithEmilyFox I’m so sorry 😭
Have you tried contacting cat behaviorist? Maybe they could help you with Pear
Dumb question but as someone who's never unhauled a book in her life, I would love to know how exactly you do it? Do you sell them or give them to a library for free etc? I have a stack I would like to remove from my collection too but have bo idea how to approach this
When the vid cut to you wearing the face mask….😧😂
It took me so long to start the clip not laughing 😂
@@BookswithEmilyFox 🤣😂
Still without Chunky news?
Nope! I called this morning and they actually picked up…. Said they’d called back. They haven’t