Ahh, this hit. I've been hearing my church family speak on this a lot since recently. Emphasis was mostly placed on "God cannot save the fake you that you're pretending to be." Such a wake - up call, I hope this video blesses someone else.
Wow!! Sooooo true! Waking up at 5am is not required or even on the Bible, comparing myself with others should not be the motive for praying early in the morning! Thank you for thisvideo
I don’t know how I ran across this video but I’m 20 mins in and let me tell you, this is GREAT. I’m also a Believer & a Therapist! These points are so relevant
When I tell you I really needed this .. I found myself crying because this spoke directly to my heart especially the part with struggling to wake up early in the morning to do bible study because that's what I thought I HAD to do in order to please God . I thank you so much ! ❤
No because this is literally what I’ve been dwelling on for so long. I think God finally knew that I was capable enough to be open-minded and a yearn for change. I’m glad that God sent me this video. 💗💗
One more thing. This conversation confirms that what I’ve been thinking about and wrestling with for years (especially the 2020s) is absolutely valid. I feel like I’ve lived my faith so much for a performative approach for years and it’s exhausting. I’m now in a place where I understand that I don’t have to be performative in terms of expressing my faith. It’s a personal experience. I’m hoping many more of us get set free from feeling the need to perform our faith. This discussion is soooooo rich!
I like the point of how God will meet us in whatever mental state we may be in. I know I have called on God during my low times and even though at the time I felt he did not hear me, I know he was always there
You said something that stuck with me about having a personality outside of your accomplishments. That is so relatable. When I hit "rock bottom" and realized I had no one around me after the "accomplishments" settled, it was an eye opening moment. I realized I didn't feel like I was unique or special enough to have people stick around outside of what I could do for them or in general. It really is a process to work through. And it surely impacts how you think God views you.
This is great. I struggle so much with perfectionism to the point that it’s crippling. Everything you described is what I deal with daily. I pray that God delivers me from this. I desire to know myself to the core. I desire intimacy with my Heavenly Father and my relationships on Earth. Please increase my faith!
I definitely feel like I have to pray that I’m not performing for God because sometimes I can get caught up in trying to be perfect but God is teaching me about his grace and knowing I don’t have to be perfect🦋
Subscribing cos this post is too too good. You're so intelligent and I love your ability to accurately articulate peoples experiences. You're combining spirituality and professionalism so well! Thank you for sharing your gift with us ❤️❤️
Wow this is so relatable. I always rehearse explanations but I have serious developmental and relational trauma from my birth family. When you said God is not pleased with inauthenticity it reminded me of something the Lord gave me a few weeks ago. He did O can’t bless who you’re pretending to be. Not like I’m not blessed regardless but like yea that true person inside God had some real plans for! ❤
Oh my goodness... I've been struggling with myself about not reading my Bible every morning and have been praying about it for two days...never seen your channel before and this video all of the sudden came up! Amazing. This is just what I needed today!
This was definitely helpful for me. I struggle a lot with everything you mentioned; perfectionism, people pleasing and at times I feel like they cause me to judge myself more than God even does. I genuinely feel closer to God when I do my morning bible study and prayer, however on days when I don't do them, I feel like I let God down and don't really know how to go about my day. While typing this I just realised that the whole "I need to spend time with God in the morning or else He will be disappointed" is me limiting Him to a space and time while He is waaaaay above that and while I do enjoy seeking Him first thing in the morning, it is also good to seek Him throughout the day. What matters to God most is not what time we wake up to read the Word or where we do it but that we ACTUALLY do it. Thank you so much for this message it truly blessed me.
My name is Bennett, and I am a recovering people pleaser and a recovering perfectionist. Thank you for providing this safe space for us to be vulnerable. Great video!
God has his hand on this channel. Please Don’t stop. Thank you 🥹 thank you for your obedience and vulnerability in sharing this. It’s making an impact and a blessing
Thank you so much for this video & channel! ❤ I just subscribed. I was raised in a Christian cult and left two years ago. My biggest struggle was/is perfectionism, fear & not giving myself grace. I’m on my healing journey and made progress but still have a long way to go. The Holy Spirit lead me to this video & channel. 🙌🏾
That is why the fear of man is a trap as the Bible says. Thank you for breaking this down. Currently been in a season of dying to this trap and learning who I am and who I want to be.
Wow! I recently discussed and taught about trauma responses including Perfectionism, Anxious Attachment and People Pleasing in my women's empowerment class and about half of the women admitted to battling with both.
I needed to hear this. Whatever I think I'm hiding in the dark corners of my heart, the Lord already knows it. I just have to come clean and willingly share what's happening. Sometimes I avoid thinking about certain things because I don't want God to hear but I'm literally just fooling myself
This video is my first introduction to your page and I am so grateful for you already! These conversations of faith and mental health are very necessary and extremely healing. As someone who struggles with anxiety, it is encouraging to remember that God does not require for me to have it all figured out and that he can meet me in this space. ❤
I'm currently studying to be a therapist (also a born-again believer!) and I just wanted to say that I LOVED this. It is so important to have a healthy understanding of how our minds work to help us grow personally and spiritually. God bless!
Awesome! It's a forever learning journey. We learn from clients as well. Most times, counseling reinforces for ourselves, everything we educate clients on. God bless you in your endeavor of completing your studies. 🎉
This video was right on time! I saw your video in my recommendations and I knew this was meant for me. Thank you for letting God use you and speak a beautiful and powerful word. Enjoyed every minute of it! ❤
Omg I have been seeing you in my recommendations from RUclips and I was like noooo not another voice. But baby GOD sent you to me. Glory to GOD thanks so much you have helped me tremendously and I’m sharing you with my girls. Thanks Big Sis, cause I know God sent you
I can't remember the last time I feel so bless by a podcast, thank you for this video I feel really really bless, I needed this video to get back on track with God! May God bless you in return ❤️🙏🏾
Wow, so very thankful that RUclips gave me you & this video. A conversation I really didn’t know I needed but NEEDED Spiritually! Definitely will run this one back. Thank you sister for this inspiration & encouragement 🩵
Woooow. This blessed me! I resonate with everything you said. This has been a struggle of mine for as long as I can remember. I thank God for keeping me & guiding me to videos like this! Thank you for this message!!
Regarding faith, and feeling like one doesn't have enough I remember long ago in just such a mess of a situation in that season it was a different mess, I remember just being like maybe I dont have enough faith, and I heard God say in that moment, if you don't have faith who are you praying to? ❤ hope this helps.❤
I really resonated with everything that you said and I feel like God spoke to me through you. For me I am trying to understand myself as I walking with my new relationship with God and people really don't talk about how painful healing actually is. As the United States specifically, is in this current state of turmoil I feel like as Black Woman , when I try to be genuine but some of my people pleasing comes from me being put in a box but there are literal consequences when I try to step outside the box people try to put me in. It's like with social media it can be so positive if you know how to use it right, but when you are trying to be authentic in who you are it triggers something in other people. Am I the only one who has had this experience?
You’re definitely not alone in feeling that way. I think a lot of us can relate to that pressure of having to fit into a specific box, it can be exhausting.
The way that I think to myself is to imagine that God himself is in me and it helps me think nicer thoughts to myself , and not lie to myself bc if I’m lying to me I’m lying to him and he already knows.
Siiiiisss! The way you read my book of life throughout this video as though you wrote it yourself!!! Thank you so much for your channel. I just came across you today and every video applies to things I’ve been walking through in my journey. As Jesus loving therapist-in-training, I’m so blessed and inspired!
🩸🙏🏾🧎🏾♀️🐑thank you Holy Spirit for your anointed who bring forth your wisdom ⚔️📖with Joy guidance and clarity ❤️May our Lord and Savior continue to bless your ministry shalom 🛡️
This video came across my YT feed and I am so glad it did. This discussion is life changing for me, especially when it comes to my relationship with God.❤
Omggggg, when I tell you I needed to hear this!! I’m gonna cry because this is exactly what I’ve been struggling with in my walk and you just help me put it into words 😭. Thank you for being transparent and letting God use you ❤️ great video!
Matthew 5 v 24 says we must be perfect as our father is perfect. We can only and should aspire to be, to improve ourselves for ourselves and for him. There's a thin line between everything, it only burdens us when we do not pace ourselves and listen to the instructions of the holy spirit.
Oh man I do that all the time the explanation justification thing uggggh it's hard when rejection sensitivity.... I think it's a fear of people not accepting or judgement. My mother was so critical.. now it's like I do these things without thinking.
Do you do virtual therapy? Accepting clients ? I’ve been looking for a faith based therapist and can’t find a good fit. If not, do you know where I can start 😅. I really need it 😭
Just stumbled upon your podcast. Love your content and how you're serving... I would to be a guest and have you as a guest on my podcast as well, to talk about the power of the integration of psychology and theology or faith, or helping clients learn how to rewire their brains and change their trauma responses to emotionally healthy and maturity responses, via power of the Holy Spirit, Faith and Psychology.
WOW been looking for Godly help with mental health. And perfectionism and procrastinating is very paralysing. I do this comparison I do with my art and other people's art 😵
Let Us Hear the Conclusion of the Whole Matter. FEAR GOD and KEEP HIS COMMANDMENTS For This is the WHOLE DUTY of Man. For God Shall Bring EVERY WORK into Judgement with EVERY SECRET Thing Whether it be GOOD or Whether it be EVIL. ECCLESIASTES 12:13-14 KJV REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF GOD IS AT HAND. REPENT AND BE BAPTIZED IN THE NAME OF JESUS, FOR THE REMISSION OF SIN (PAST SINS).. .. FOLLOW CHRIST AND HIS TEACHINGS, IF ANYONE TEACHES YOU OTHERWISE, RUN!!! *Obedience is Better than Sacrifice. Seek the Lord While He May Be Found, Call on Him While he is Near❤️
Ahh, this hit. I've been hearing my church family speak on this a lot since recently. Emphasis was mostly placed on "God cannot save the fake you that you're pretending to be." Such a wake - up call, I hope this video blesses someone else.
“Even if your faith is low it is still present” Be encouraged ❤️ thank youu so much
“If I’m not being open and honest w God, I’m not being open and honest w myself” 🙌🏾
You just summarized my entire battle with myself and my relationship with God in 41 minutes 😂 I’m getting better everyday though
This is really a blessing to me and an answer to my prayers. Thank you for sharing ❤
Wow!! Sooooo true! Waking up at 5am is not required or even on the Bible, comparing myself with others should not be the motive for praying early in the morning! Thank you for thisvideo
I don’t know how I ran across this video but I’m 20 mins in and let me tell you, this is GREAT. I’m also a Believer & a Therapist! These points are so relevant
Yesss Christian therapists in the building!! I'm so glad you found me
When I tell you I really needed this .. I found myself crying because this spoke directly to my heart especially the part with struggling to wake up early in the morning to do bible study because that's what I thought I HAD to do in order to please God . I thank you so much ! ❤
I'm so grateful God led you to this episode! Praying for your growth as well as mine 🙏🏾
@@TherapyandPrayer Thank you ! ❤️ definitely praying for your growth because more people should be subscribed ! your channel is definitely a gem !!
THE WAY I NEEDED THIS THIS WEEK! SO BAD! I need to find a therapist so bad to unpack this but this has helped to stop the spiral!
No because this is literally what I’ve been dwelling on for so long. I think God finally knew that I was capable enough to be open-minded and a yearn for change. I’m glad that God sent me this video. 💗💗
One more thing. This conversation confirms that what I’ve been thinking about and wrestling with for years (especially the 2020s) is absolutely valid. I feel like I’ve lived my faith so much for a performative approach for years and it’s exhausting. I’m now in a place where I understand that I don’t have to be performative in terms of expressing my faith. It’s a personal experience. I’m hoping many more of us get set free from feeling the need to perform our faith. This discussion is soooooo rich!
I stumbled on this video on time!!! I'm on a healing journey and this video hit home. God bless you!!
I like the point of how God will meet us in whatever mental state we may be in. I know I have called on God during my low times and even though at the time I felt he did not hear me, I know he was always there
You said something that stuck with me about having a personality outside of your accomplishments. That is so relatable. When I hit "rock bottom" and realized I had no one around me after the "accomplishments" settled, it was an eye opening moment. I realized I didn't feel like I was unique or special enough to have people stick around outside of what I could do for them or in general. It really is a process to work through. And it surely impacts how you think God views you.
It’s so real!
Story of my life! I also deal with having to have explanations for everything! I’m working on it too, thank you for sharing ❤❤
This is great. I struggle so much with perfectionism to the point that it’s crippling. Everything you described is what I deal with daily. I pray that God delivers me from this. I desire to know myself to the core. I desire intimacy with my Heavenly Father and my relationships on Earth. Please increase my faith!
I definitely feel like I have to pray that I’m not performing for God because sometimes I can get caught up in trying to be perfect but God is teaching me about his grace and knowing I don’t have to be perfect🦋
Subscribing cos this post is too too good. You're so intelligent and I love your ability to accurately articulate peoples experiences. You're combining spirituality and professionalism so well! Thank you for sharing your gift with us ❤️❤️
Wow this is so relatable. I always rehearse explanations but I have serious developmental and relational trauma from my birth family. When you said God is not pleased with inauthenticity it reminded me of something the Lord gave me a few weeks ago. He did O can’t bless who you’re pretending to be. Not like I’m not blessed regardless but like yea that true person inside God had some real plans for! ❤
God is so Intentional ❤️ I just prayed about this 🙏
I love when that happens! He's always on time 🙏🏾
Oh my goodness... I've been struggling with myself about not reading my Bible every morning and have been praying about it for two days...never seen your channel before and this video all of the sudden came up! Amazing. This is just what I needed today!
This was definitely helpful for me. I struggle a lot with everything you mentioned; perfectionism, people pleasing and at times I feel like they cause me to judge myself more than God even does. I genuinely feel closer to God when I do my morning bible study and prayer, however on days when I don't do them, I feel like I let God down and don't really know how to go about my day. While typing this I just realised that the whole "I need to spend time with God in the morning or else He will be disappointed" is me limiting Him to a space and time while He is waaaaay above that and while I do enjoy seeking Him first thing in the morning, it is also good to seek Him throughout the day. What matters to God most is not what time we wake up to read the Word or where we do it but that we ACTUALLY do it. Thank you so much for this message it truly blessed me.
My name is Bennett, and I am a recovering people pleaser and a recovering perfectionist. Thank you for providing this safe space for us to be vulnerable. Great video!
God has his hand on this channel. Please Don’t stop. Thank you 🥹 thank you for your obedience and vulnerability in sharing this. It’s making an impact and a blessing
Thank you so much for this video & channel! ❤ I just subscribed. I was raised in a Christian cult and left two years ago. My biggest struggle was/is perfectionism, fear & not giving myself grace. I’m on my healing journey and made progress but still have a long way to go. The Holy Spirit lead me to this video & channel. 🙌🏾
That is why the fear of man is a trap as the Bible says. Thank you for breaking this down. Currently been in a season of dying to this trap and learning who I am and who I want to be.
Wow! I recently discussed and taught about trauma responses including Perfectionism, Anxious Attachment and People Pleasing in my women's empowerment class and about half of the women admitted to battling with both.
Wow you’d think we were living the same life. God really used you to show me and tell me about myself. Thank you❤
I needed to hear this. Whatever I think I'm hiding in the dark corners of my heart, the Lord already knows it. I just have to come clean and willingly share what's happening. Sometimes I avoid thinking about certain things because I don't want God to hear but I'm literally just fooling myself
This video is my first introduction to your page and I am so grateful for you already! These conversations of faith and mental health are very necessary and extremely healing. As someone who struggles with anxiety, it is encouraging to remember that God does not require for me to have it all figured out and that he can meet me in this space. ❤
I'm currently studying to be a therapist (also a born-again believer!) and I just wanted to say that I LOVED this. It is so important to have a healthy understanding of how our minds work to help us grow personally and spiritually. God bless!
Awesome! It's a forever learning journey. We learn from clients as well. Most times, counseling reinforces for ourselves, everything we educate clients on. God bless you in your endeavor of completing your studies. 🎉
This video was right on time! I saw your video in my recommendations and I knew this was meant for me. Thank you for letting God use you and speak a beautiful and powerful word. Enjoyed every minute of it! ❤
Today is the first day I've found your channel, and I am sooo blessed sis! I am excited to continue watching ❤
Just discovered your channel, can’t wait to sit and eat your content up! God bless you sis! May the Lord continue to use you and your ministry 💛
Come on and be fed! 🙏🏾❤️
Omg I have been seeing you in my recommendations from RUclips and I was like noooo not another voice. But baby GOD sent you to me. Glory to GOD thanks so much you have helped me tremendously and I’m sharing you with my girls. Thanks Big Sis, cause I know God sent you
Wow sis! Thanks for giving me a chance, God is so amazing 🙏🏾❤️
I can't remember the last time I feel so bless by a podcast, thank you for this video I feel really really bless, I needed this video to get back on track with God! May God bless you in return ❤️🙏🏾
Wow, so very thankful that RUclips gave me you & this video. A conversation I really didn’t know I needed but NEEDED Spiritually! Definitely will run this one back. Thank you sister for this inspiration & encouragement 🩵
Thank you so so much I needed to hear this ,these self limiting beliefs can really get in the way of how I show up as my authentic self
It's a feeling beyond words to hear you share your story... really hit home. Thank you
I was praying about this before and boom! I find this video shortly after. So grateful for you and your authenticity. I pray i find that in God
Woooow. This blessed me! I resonate with everything you said. This has been a struggle of mine for as long as I can remember. I thank God for keeping me & guiding me to videos like this! Thank you for this message!!
Regarding faith, and feeling like one doesn't have enough I remember long ago in just such a mess of a situation in that season it was a different mess, I remember just being like maybe I dont have enough faith, and I heard God say in that moment, if you don't have faith who are you praying to? ❤ hope this helps.❤
Your video was God sent. Love from Kenya
I really resonated with everything that you said and I feel like God spoke to me through you. For me I am trying to understand myself as I walking with my new relationship with God and people really don't talk about how painful healing actually is. As the United States specifically, is in this current state of turmoil I feel like as Black Woman , when I try to be genuine but some of my people pleasing comes from me being put in a box but there are literal consequences when I try to step outside the box people try to put me in. It's like with social media it can be so positive if you know how to use it right, but when you are trying to be authentic in who you are it triggers something in other people. Am I the only one who has had this experience?
You’re definitely not alone in feeling that way. I think a lot of us can relate to that pressure of having to fit into a specific box, it can be exhausting.
Thank you for your willing obedience. I reaallly needed this !
GIRL I NEEDED THIS SO BADLY!!!!!
This video really blessed me , thank you for this!❤
Thank you.
Where was this podcast all my life??? Looks like I have a new noise aid while doing homework 🎉❤
Wow! This was so needed and right on time 🙌🏾
I am so very thankful for this video coming into my life at the time when I needed it the most. ❤
The way that I think to myself is to imagine that God himself is in me and it helps me think nicer thoughts to myself , and not lie to myself bc if I’m lying to me I’m lying to him and he already knows.
When I say this is so good and you are freeing people, It was meant for me to see this video because you simply read my life recently. Wow. thank you.
Wow. What a blessing to be a blessing 🙏🏾
I subscribed from your intro alone 😊 thank you for creating this community and content. Blessings !
Aahh that makes me so happy!! Thanks for being a part of the community 🫶🏽
Was soooo blessed by this. Thank you!! For your words.❤
I had to subscribe because you are a gem. Thank you for your obedience 🙏🏾
Siiiiisss! The way you read my book of life throughout this video as though you wrote it yourself!!! Thank you so much for your channel. I just came across you today and every video applies to things I’ve been walking through in my journey. As Jesus loving therapist-in-training, I’m so blessed and inspired!
🩸🙏🏾🧎🏾♀️🐑thank you Holy Spirit for your anointed who bring forth your wisdom ⚔️📖with Joy guidance and clarity ❤️May our Lord and Savior continue to bless your ministry shalom 🛡️
This has helped me so much . I was this person
wow this was so good and so needed. Grateful beyond words!!
Thank you for this. I know that God led me here ❤
I feel so seen! ❤
This is such a great video! Your message is so important and much needed!
Your channel is exactly what I've been looking for for literal years! Thank you!❤
So much wisdom here!! 🙌🏾
This video came across my YT feed and I am so glad it did. This discussion is life changing for me, especially when it comes to my relationship with God.❤
Omggggg, when I tell you I needed to hear this!! I’m gonna cry because this is exactly what I’ve been struggling with in my walk and you just help me put it into words 😭. Thank you for being transparent and letting God use you ❤️ great video!
Thank you so much for sharing your people pleasing journey and being truly authentic. I totally relate to absolutely everything you mentioned.
Thank you! You are a blessing to many🙌🏻🤍.
Thank you for this, you really seen my POV
This was very helpful. Thank you.
Just came across this podcast on my RUclips homepage . Clicked immediately . Looking forward to listening !
Thanks for stopping by! I hope you enjoy 🙏🏾
Matthew 5 v 24 says we must be perfect as our father is perfect.
We can only and should aspire to be, to improve ourselves for ourselves and for him. There's a thin line between everything, it only burdens us when we do not pace ourselves and listen to the instructions of the holy spirit.
Loved this. God is so good ❤
Keep Speaking up! You are blessing me with the coversations.
Awesome episode, thank you 🙏🏼 I feel like God guides you to the topics that are definitely needed !
He's definitely guiding me! Glad you enjoyed it ❤️
This really spoke to me. Thank you so much for this!
This was everything I needed ❤ thanks doll
Yay, I’m glad this was for on my FYP ♥️ new subscriber , blessings.
Thank you so much Gos for making me know that I'm not alone.
I was led here. I am struggling.
God send me your video, I am totally in this season in my life. bless you and keep making these! From France
What a blessing, thank you so much for watching!
Be blessed for this. I needed it.
This video was a blessing. God bless you, new subbie here. 🤍
This was so good!! God bless you 💗
Yay this is so good!!
Thank you for this ❤
I enjoyed this so much. Thank you.
Whattttt how this come across my timeline? I’m a believer and in school to be a MFT. Excited 😆 ❤
Divine intervention!! Welcome to the community sis ❤️
Awesome session!
Oh man I do that all the time the explanation justification thing uggggh it's hard when rejection sensitivity.... I think it's a fear of people not accepting or judgement. My mother was so critical.. now it's like I do these things without thinking.
Do you do virtual therapy? Accepting clients ? I’ve been looking for a faith based therapist and can’t find a good fit. If not, do you know where I can start 😅. I really need it 😭
I also wanted to ask the same question 🥹.She is really my ideal therapist 😭
@@aziziphomhlupheki6164 Same. Finding the right therapist is like trying to find a unicorn these days.
I was thinking the same thing 🥹
@@aziziphomhlupheki6164 omg yes that’s why I asked lol
God bless you!
Just stumbled upon your podcast. Love your content and how you're serving... I would to be a guest and have you as a guest on my podcast as well, to talk about the power of the integration of psychology and theology or faith, or helping clients learn how to rewire their brains and change their trauma responses to emotionally healthy and maturity responses, via power of the Holy Spirit, Faith and Psychology.
3 seconds in first time seeing you and already in love 🥰
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
WOW been looking for Godly help with mental health. And perfectionism and procrastinating is very paralysing. I do this comparison I do with my art and other people's art 😵
Let Us Hear the Conclusion of the Whole Matter. FEAR GOD and KEEP HIS COMMANDMENTS For This is the WHOLE DUTY of Man.
For God Shall Bring EVERY WORK into Judgement with EVERY SECRET Thing Whether it be GOOD or Whether it be EVIL.
ECCLESIASTES 12:13-14 KJV
REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF GOD IS AT HAND.
REPENT AND BE BAPTIZED IN THE NAME OF JESUS, FOR THE REMISSION OF SIN (PAST SINS)..
.. FOLLOW CHRIST AND HIS TEACHINGS, IF ANYONE TEACHES YOU OTHERWISE, RUN!!!
*Obedience is Better than Sacrifice.
Seek the Lord While He May Be Found, Call on Him While he is Near❤️
25:00 PREACH
Amazing😢❣️
Amen!
This is me.
See, I take “honor your mother and father” too seriously.
I think you can see where this is going.
I see where you're going with that! Don't worry we'll get into attachment in another episode