Hands down and likes 👍... "The 👸🐝 of Fun Flirting" --- *Stop asking women for their number and just give them yours* -- Helps to eliminate the "chase" factor. If she's interested, you'll know. Marni, thanks again for the great content material. 🙃
1) avoid tunnel vision (remember your other options! Don’t obsess!!!) 2) never do try outs (don‘t try too hard. Screen women according to your standards) 3) invest based on return Very good video Marni you and other coaches have saved me but I still need to watch you so I don’t regress
Thanks for summarizing! You should always be watching to remind yourself. Everyone needs a kick in the butt from time to time. As long as you watch and then go out and use what the videos show you, you are always progressing?
I literally use invest based on return every day. It’s changed my life from someone who obsessed over girls who didn’t like me to now being sure of who likes me, who doesn’t and who is just being nice! I can also flirt I love giving eye contact and a smirk. I definitely have to keep watching otherwise I regress. Thank you. You are in the top ten in the world.
Whats funny is some women who refuse to message a guy first (which is fine) are on Bumble where they HAVE to message first, and then they must wonder why none of their matches message them.
I agree. Was with my girlfriends last night who are single and one said “I wish I was more assertive with me and approached them first. I just don’t know what to say that lets me be feminine and not scare him off”. A lot of women are told men don’t like it when women are “aggressive” so they listen and sit back and wait. Awful I know. Even on bumble where they are meant to message first. It’s ingrained in our heads that to approach first is masculine!
@@marnikinrys … They really gotta get over that. Imagine if they actually had to approach a guy out in the real world? 😳🤣 Then they complain about being single… 🤣😂🤣
Holy crap you finally made me realize what I've been doing wrong. It's pretty recently that I've become more confident and attractive and have been able to connect more with girls as friends and been able to even take a few on dates. However always after the first date they seem to lose interest in me and now I realize it's because I HAVE been using these dates as try outs. Thank you so much!
@@aruzail That is essentially one way to see it, you are trying to put out all of your values out on the table in order to express how good of a partner you'd be. Instead you should just see it as any other get together or random meeting, treat things like you are just having a nice casual hang out with a friend at a coffee shop. The best way I could describe it metaphorically... if you go to a football tryout, you are trying to make yourself look great and better than anyone else there. At a date, you should just be yourself and have a more chill attitude
@@nicorocks7 I see now, thanks! Bottom line is to just be yourself instead of trying to sell a version of yourself that isn't you. I think I'm guilty of this too now that you mention it, so thanks for this~
Marni, I owe you one. And I will pay up, I promise. Right now I just have to say thanks. Thank you. You’re getting inside my head and, man, …this is good! Really good. Paradigm-shift greatness. Something is happening. But…You’re at the heart of it, this change in me. The hard part is not crushing on…YOU.
I have been told multiple times "I have it and just don't know it". Women have been approaching me my whole life. So much so, as to where I never really felt the need to initiate a first whatever with women. It makes me wonder if I was more aggressive, what kind of "numbers" I would have. As a side note: I am 40 and just had a 23yo pursue me. I think my "magic" is having a deep voice, bald head, and very non-judgmental personality. Also, confidence is a huge factor in the equation. 👍
Hi Marni, I bought the Tiege skin care package, Level 1, about 5 weeks ago. So many other things seemed to have little of no effect. It was so bad, I was ready to just get out the belt sander and have at it!!! I've been saved from the power tool route by this product. Believe it or not, I'm already seeing a bit of a difference, so I added the "Eyes" serum. Being 66 and seeing and feeling a difference, is pretty cool. Now, let me tell you about my dog...... Just kidding! Thanks for product referral and your teriffic videos. Steve J
I think you are AWESOME, Marni. Thank you for your videos. I've been watching them for eight weeks or so. I think I'm ready to become a paid member (or whatever you call it).
I did everything you suggest here with a particular woman (and then some), but it still did not pan out. Both she and I were out of work at the same time last year, and I was having success with interviews and finding a new job...all of which were out of town. The best I can understand here is that I read all of her signals correctly, but it was her ultimate goal I misinterpreted. I had to move away (because of the job I did get), but it wasn't that far away either (4 hours by car). This woman and another friend did come by for a visit for the last long weekend, which had me somewhat excited as I was thinking that "maybe" I will finally get some one-on-one time with her and hopefully move this relationship forward, but she ended up spending all of her time being hit-on by another guy she met at my unofficial house-warming, which was sort of a "let-down" for me, but also very educational (that guy was successful too, which was also somewhat surprising as he was breaking all of the rules of engagement - i.e. dozens of red-flags for the average female). As mentioned, from what I gather, the signals I got from her from November 2021 to February 2022 were correct, but I was also holding back because I really did not know where I would be in the next month or two (i.e. it could have been in town, or 1000s of miles away too...I just didn't know at that time). I was also thinking from her "signals" that she may be interested in an actual relationship, while it turns out that all she wanted to do was sleep with me...and I don't do 1-night stands. I strive to get to know the woman first...sex comes afterward, while she is the exact opposite, and wants to test-drive the guy first, and get to know them better later...which to me is a recipe for repeated failed relationships, with emotional repercussions as well. In short, I'm a Sigma male...and I do NOT place sex as a priority when pursuing a woman. Intelligence, a sound knowledge base, a sense of humor, the ability to banter, and the ability to hold a conversation on multiple subjects, are all much higher on the list. Looks/appearance is also down the list, and sex is always the reward, but never the goal. So this was VERY educational for me because it turns out that she really did not fit my criteria for a potential relationship anyway. But as you have said here...there are plenty of women out there who do meet that criteria 😎.
@Julia Thanks...but I don't really have a problem manifesting. I just don't chase women, and I'm in no hurry to find a compatible female. It will happen eventually, but in the meantime I'm just going to enjoy life on my own terms 😎. This video is one of Marni's best though...it's very educational and very correct.
@Julia It would probably help me in some situations, but the woman I thought I would like turns out to be the type of woman I like to avoid...so there is no real benefit to trying and "win her approval". I'm glad things played out the way they did because the universe showed me quite clearly that she is NOT the companion with whom I would associate.
Sometimes, no matter what we do we get no results, even if we do our best. And it sucks. Good looking women usually have more options, they always keep couple guys who are interested in her around. She will then chose the one who she feels is best match for her. I wouldn't be surprised if your particular woman was seeing 5 other guys on the side
@@malihachape, You're probably right, and she is seeing multiple guys (each not knowing about the others). But I really don't care about her anymore...she basically demonstrated to me on multiple levels what I don't like, so I moved on pretty quickly.
Thank you Marni your advice along with other material I've read over the years has gotten me more success with beautiful women than I thought was possible for me
Marni what about if a woman chases a man ? My wife chased me. She got me, and I am happy. She was even a virgin. Think about that for a minute. She knew what she wanted, and that was me. We have been married for over 20 years now. Think about that. Thoughts ?
Just as a remark on the point about tunnel vision: this can happen even when you've got other options available and/or are already dating others. What seems to happen is that, due to projections of needs and desires onto a girl, you can become limerant towards her. And, the dynamic between men and women in early stages of dating being what they are, this rarely ends well for the reasons mentioned in this video...
Just trying to work out what you do in a situation like this: You go on a few dates with someone. It goes really well - great banter, chemistry, plenty of physical touching and responsiveness. I book a weekend away together on her suggestion. She then pulls away and breaks it off. No arguments or questioning even. It's like she freaked out. It's like a Seinfeld episode. It's left me confused (did I misread something). Big variable is that I'm a recent widower and doing well. But she knew this. Not sure if I should sit it out a few months and try to reconnect (more time to confirm I'm doing ok and am genuine) or just write it off. Feels such a waste to write it off though. Uniquely intelligent lady and quite pretty
@@mike.pittsburgh3466 you should not be taking a woman out to dinner and spending your hard earned cash like that. take them out to have a coffee or tea. when the woman is having sex with you then she earned a dinner or a nice date. It is not 1950s when taking a woman out on a date gets you somewhere with her. A lot of woman take advantage of guys who are nice and spend money. Believe me woman have it easy in there 20s once the 30s hit they are competing with the 20 somethings. When they hit the 40s it gets really bad for woman to have a man commit to them. Darius M look him up.
@@ivanreagent I totally agree with the women in their 40’s. They have a hard time having a man commit, but yet they still think they have value😂. Especially when they have like 3 kids, they act like they’re a prime catch still.
Marni your my hero and i watch, I'm subscribed and purchased something i used briefly. I dont remember how to find it and it was helpful. Ended up back in my old bad relationship. I'm busy and didn't feel i coild give a new relationships enough time. But need to find time, I've stop trying. Quality women seemed out of reach
Thinking about one of your first clients named Randy, who was still a virgin at 32, cases like him make me mad because it's reminder that cases like him are much more common than we think, more common than we seem, nature can definitely be very cruel in which it causes far more men than women to remain virgins later than normal. You also mentioned he had no clue how to talk to women, that part also made mad, because reminds me of you or look at interactions or talking to women from a different perspective now. The way I see it or the way it looks like is that men need to know or learn how to talk to women a hell of a lot more than women need to know or learn how to talk to men. It's like the man has to verbally influence the woman to get her attracted to him, the man has to talk or behave a certain way. The way the woman talks or behaves doesn't really impact her ability to attract the guy
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I've had tunnel vision a few times and never worked put well for me. i used to feel that way partially because i wanted them to know i wasnt a player but liked just them. This was older, ignorant and more naive though me.. now i know better. Now if i want to date and such I plant my seeds in different spots see who bites first. I dont date though waste of time but if i wanted to again i would do this.
I agree with and basically do all three things you mentioned. However, regarding the second point about "trying out," both sexes have to try out to a degree. For example, my true ideal standard would be having a woman get together with me on a few initial dates without any money being spent on her. For example, we would meet up and just sit around and chat, or we'd take a walk and chat, or work out together. But, c'mon? How many women (especially good looking ones) are going to feel special and actually develop interest in a man who acts like that? Conversely, many women I know would love to just wear active wear, a baseball hat, sneakers/comfortable non sexy shoes, and not spend a lot of time on their hair the first few dates (i.e. the way they often act when they actually end up in a day to day relationship), but they know they have to step up their appearance to get a new man's interest. So, bottom line, you have to "try out" to a degree to make the team,
Marni, I've never been a *Mr. Try Hard*, and I've never had the entitlement attitude with women also. I've had a couple of longtime friends say they think I'm too picky. I don't know if that's a good thing or bad thing, but it is what it is.
This guy is subscribed and I thought in feel foolish for having to have to be taught but I'll admit I failed I failed I lost my one true love the mother of my children because cause I forgot to pay attention to what was right in front of me and I don't know how to get over that So I want any pointers to never do that again
Marni funny thing for me; some nice quality women flirt with me and I'm not looking too date now. A happy introvert and loner. Love the 3 tips I don't do any of those mainly my introvert and lone wolf nature at times
I am in the same boat as you,but when I work in crowd control,as I did at a couple of music festivals,a couple of women asked me to give them a big hug,and sometimes they approach me.
I’m not 75% of those guys Marni I’ve been a loyal subscriber for a long time now! God brought too many beautiful woman in this world for just one option 🤙 Like always LakersNation 🏀🔥
What I've noticed is that when your game is strong, women will notice you without ever saying a word to them (they'll see you talking to other hot women and eventually realize that you are the prize) and dudes will hate on you and try to rain on your parade.
Men understand something. You cannot change your decision about ignoring and rejecting a woman. ESPECIALLY if she was the woman you wanted. If she is worthy she will try to prove to you, more than once, that she genuinely wants you. I have gone through this as a teenager and learned many valuable lessons from it. Marni is on point... "Mostly" but there are things even she has views slightly askew on. And I have brought one of the products. Seriously. I am not against her. I would love to be an advocate. But I seek to share my own experiences as well. 36 years old by the way if you feel the need to pass judgement. Still won't cange what I said or have to say. Dueces.
Just be yourself the way you always are. Realize you won't always please everyone. The ones who show little, or no, interest might be best left alone. At least for the time being. You can always try later, but play it cool, just being yourself. Certainly do be the man, and approach ladies with a sense of purpose, and decisiveness. Women may go gay (lesbian), because men do not approach them, and they give up in time.
My problem was never confidence, it seems after Covid , things changed. Eye contact ids there but trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong. I know after my x who was diagnosed with seven mental illnesses, schizophrenia one of them and she disappeared after 13 years and after two years found in NJ with an X best friend but she stopped all meds. So I eventually I dated for a year but after that when Covid hit. I haven’t dated since. What’s wrong?
Chasing after what we want is how our male brains are wired. We men always chased it in the past, we always went after what we wanted. And there is nothing wrong with that! Only in recent time "chasing" after girl that we really want is considered creepy
Marni, I'm just curious: Man has to do hundreds of things to attract and keep good woman, and he can't do another hundreds of things otherwise he will lose her on the spot, he'll be rejected or dumped into a friend zone. But what does woman have to do to attract a good man? If I'm not mistaken, she usually does nothing that good and honest man is interested in.
I rather stay as a bachelor and just have fun with woman. I just like working on making money and keeping my health as best as I can. No marriage for me as 50% end up in a divorce and 70% of those are initiated by woman.
And yes Marni I would live stream chat with you no problem even if you have valid points I have to submit to. But I can guarantee it wouldn't be a 10 minute conversation. Not looking for attention either. Just want you to teach us men a few things better.
So basically this is a "give up" video. The girl you like doesn´t like you back, give up on her. You think the girl you like is "out of your league", give up in her.
But what if you have been friends for a long time with a woman whom you are romantically interested in/attracted to, and genuinely care for, AND about her, her family, things she goes through, and has gone through, etc? How do you keep her in your life still (because she truly does mean a lot to you), without feeling the pain and disappointment of not being more than friends, knowing you will always have these feelings for her? (Even though you do look at, are attracted to, and even do approach other women. Do you be a jerk, or A-Hole and just end the friendship?
@YipeeDo So I guess Marni should add an amendment to one of her Taglines of, "How to Get ANY Woman You Want" with, "As long as she wants you." Because if SHE doesn't want you, you can do ALL the things that Marni says to do - the flirting, banter, acting non chalant, not chasing, not pedestalizing, not having tunnel vision, not being a simp, etc; but if she's not interested in you, it won't make a difference because you still won't get THE woman YOU WANT. (Not just ANY woman you may be attracted to, who as luck would have it, is also attracted to you.) Bottom line - women still hold all the cards, and control.
@@jasonhurst8599 The sooner every single man realizes and memorizes the number one rule that reigns supreme over all else, the better off you can be. That rule? “LOVE IS A LOTTERY”.
You are not her friend and that is not friendship. Waiting for her to magically change her mind is not only pointless but also stupid. So this is what you do - make your move and if she rejects you move on and dont contact her again.
Man..Alpha M is a Legend..Teige is all over the place..Goddamn!..but seriously tho'.. his products are really high quality..i use them. Now for my real comment.. I only chase my career and cash that equals power and status..the rest will fall into place..
Guys, don't bother. In the 80's, 90's and a little into this century, being with women was fun. You didn't have to watch every word carefully, you could be a little unsavory, and it was fun. Now, what you're doing is the basic functions of prostitution. X amount of dollars has to be spent, and x amount of resources must be verified before anything else. So my advice, if you want the modern dating experience, is go to the bank and apply for a mortgage. Chances are, the banker will be friendlier than a date.
4:20 Marni you understand that men's Tunnel Vision mode is the pre-stage for love? I've trained myself not to do this as much as possible and always keep as many plates spinning as possible, but it prevents me from falling in Love with women. Training yourself to de-tunnel or view the opposite gender rationally, completely removes Love from the equation. I honestly think women today won't find real Love bc they view the men who Love them as Weak.
As a guy, I recently went out with a girl. Great chemistry, same goals & vibe, etc.. I thought to myself, this is the girl I want to pursue. I don't mind having options with other girls but I struggle with seeing more than 1 at a time.
She just said dont keep trying if a woman doesn't return anything back but then at the end of the video says she promises you can 'unlock the key to every girls heart' if you just listen to her advice. Sounds like a salesman caught in a lie.
I figure it like this; the modern woman has absolutely no issues shunning a man she doesn’t like right? So, why cant she be more vocal and open to making a man she does like know about it? Why is that an issue? I personally cannot afford to make a mistake based off some chemical reaction in my brain that gave me like a knee jerk prompt to pursue a woman lol I’ve worked too hard for what I have and it entails a lot of collateral to be putting yourself out there.
Iv just got in contact with a woman I use to know when I was 19 now I'm 57 she is on my case just finished with her boyfriend after 4 years but we went out the other week but she just wants to be friends what's going on
Seen her again last weekend she says she loves me to bits but wants to remain friends COS she dosent want to lose me COS she's just come out of a controlling relation ship for four years shall I just leave it as that
Seen her again last weekend she says she loves me to bits but wants to remain friends COS she dosent want to lose me COS she's just come out of a controlling relation ship for four years shall I just leave it as that
Funny that Marni's friends say the idea of women pursuing men is "disgusting" because I think men always having to pursue women is obnoxious. Women need to get up off their asses and put some more effort in to approaching. In fact, one of the reasons I respect Marni so much is that she literally quoted in one of her RUclips videos, "What’s the deal with men always having to make the first move? I mean it’s 2019 and we’ve had this whole Me Too Movement and push for equality, yet most women still want men to make the first move. It’s just not fair that men have to run the risk of being rejected all the time. Many women have no clue how to finesse this and therefore choose to just avoid it. Trust me when I tell you that I wish more women would make the first move; that they would ask a guy out, ask for a number, go for the kiss. It would save me hours upon hours of hearing my girlfriends moan.”- Marni Kinrys
Respectfully, I disagree with your opinion about women approaching men first. I’m a decent looking guy, although I’m very thin, and my confidence for most of my life was not very good, but I’ve still been approached by probably 40 women, most of whom have been above average, and a handful of them have been very very attractive, particularly one recently who is comparable to that of Gal Gadot. If you’re a decent looking guy and you present yourself in a non-threatening way, it does happen from time to time, some more so than others. I have barely asked any woman out in my young life, I have basically no game but it still happens to me semi often.
How does a man that's never chased a women, EVER, stop doing it? 🤣🤣🤣 I was ahead of the game, YEARS ago. Women come to me, always have. I'm not exceedingly handsome or over 6 foot, and I'm not rich, yet women chase me. 😁
@Why Trust You? Same question I asked when I was made aware. I looked it up here on RUclips. Plenty of info to say the least. Some I agree with a bit I don't. Nevertheless I'm me. I do me, not some "title" so to speak. What I'd found out was interesting but still. I'm me.
They need to get over that B.S. because I know I'm worth the pursuit and messaging. It might sound like trash but I have the photos and status profiles to prove it. Being pursued donen't make a guy any less of a man if he has enough confidence, respect and ability to please women. But whatever. go on about your business I'll just remain the hidden/wasted gem lol.
Whee do you even go to meet people at 30 though? You always say in your videos that there are other options but there really aren't. Most of the things I like and hobbies I have are male dominated spaces so it's not like I'm gonna meet anyone doing that shit.
I like your videos but this will never work with me because I am conventionally ugly and hairy no woman on Earth will ever date me. All I can do is dream because it is all I can do. Girls have called me ugly so I am not lying here. I wonder what it feels like to be attractive. My self confidence has just been destroyed I have nothing left.
I’m hairy too but I shave and get laser. And when I take my makeup off I’m not as cute as I am in the videos. Point being that the things you listed can be worked on. Your look can be elevated if you want it to. What other excuses do you have ;-)
@@marnikinrys They are not excuses, they are valid reasons as to why I can't get a girlfriend. There is nothing that can be done, girls don't look at personality.
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Hands down and likes 👍... "The 👸🐝 of Fun Flirting" ---
*Stop asking women for their number and just give them yours* -- Helps to eliminate the "chase" factor. If she's interested, you'll know. Marni, thanks again for the great content material. 🙃
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1) avoid tunnel vision (remember your other options! Don’t obsess!!!)
2) never do try outs (don‘t try too hard. Screen women according to your standards)
3) invest based on return
Very good video Marni you and other coaches have saved me but I still need to watch you so I don’t regress
Thx mate..🤘⚡
Im doing all of these tips
Thanks for summarizing!
You should always be watching to remind yourself. Everyone needs a kick in the butt from time to time.
As long as you watch and then go out and use what the videos show you, you are always progressing?
I literally use invest based on return every day. It’s changed my life from someone who obsessed over girls who didn’t like me to now being sure of who likes me, who doesn’t and who is just being nice! I can also flirt I love giving eye contact and a smirk. I definitely have to keep watching otherwise I regress. Thank you. You are in the top ten in the world.
The tunnel vision thing is real, it’s basically simping, or obsessing over one girl, for no good reason, just get a little too locked in
Whats funny is some women who refuse to message a guy first (which is fine) are on Bumble where they HAVE to message first, and then they must wonder why none of their matches message them.
Had that before, matches expired after 2 day
Im doing do dating website
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I agree. Was with my girlfriends last night who are single and one said “I wish I was more assertive with me and approached them first. I just don’t know what to say that lets me be feminine and not scare him off”.
A lot of women are told men don’t like it when women are “aggressive” so they listen and sit back and wait. Awful I know. Even on bumble where they are meant to message first. It’s ingrained in our heads that to approach first is masculine!
@@marnikinrys … They really gotta get over that. Imagine if they actually had to approach a guy out in the real world? 😳🤣 Then they complain about being single… 🤣😂🤣
Holy crap you finally made me realize what I've been doing wrong. It's pretty recently that I've become more confident and attractive and have been able to connect more with girls as friends and been able to even take a few on dates. However always after the first date they seem to lose interest in me and now I realize it's because I HAVE been using these dates as try outs. Thank you so much!
I still struggle to find the meaning try outs... What does it actually mean to use dates as try outs? Is it trying too hard to impress your date?
@@aruzail That is essentially one way to see it, you are trying to put out all of your values out on the table in order to express how good of a partner you'd be. Instead you should just see it as any other get together or random meeting, treat things like you are just having a nice casual hang out with a friend at a coffee shop.
The best way I could describe it metaphorically... if you go to a football tryout, you are trying to make yourself look great and better than anyone else there. At a date, you should just be yourself and have a more chill attitude
@@nicorocks7 I see now, thanks! Bottom line is to just be yourself instead of trying to sell a version of yourself that isn't you. I think I'm guilty of this too now that you mention it, so thanks for this~
Marni, I owe you one. And I will pay up, I promise. Right now I just have to say thanks. Thank you.
You’re getting inside my head and, man, …this is good! Really good. Paradigm-shift greatness. Something is happening. But…You’re at the heart of it, this change in me.
The hard part is not crushing on…YOU.
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I have been told multiple times "I have it and just don't know it". Women have been approaching me my whole life. So much so, as to where I never really felt the need to initiate a first whatever with women. It makes me wonder if I was more aggressive, what kind of "numbers" I would have. As a side note: I am 40 and just had a 23yo pursue me. I think my "magic" is having a deep voice, bald head, and very non-judgmental personality. Also, confidence is a huge factor in the equation. 👍
bald head is magic eh............
Hi Marni, I bought the Tiege skin care package, Level 1, about 5 weeks ago. So many other things seemed to have little of no effect. It was so bad, I was ready to just get out the belt sander and have at it!!! I've been saved from the power tool route by this product. Believe it or not, I'm already seeing a bit of a difference, so I added the "Eyes" serum. Being 66 and seeing and feeling a difference, is pretty cool. Now, let me tell you about my dog...... Just kidding! Thanks for product referral and your teriffic videos. Steve J
I think you are AWESOME, Marni. Thank you for your videos. I've been watching them for eight weeks or so. I think I'm ready to become a paid member (or whatever you call it).
Brothers, you've got to have self-worth!
Yes, everyone benefits with positive self-worth, good self-esteem.
I did everything you suggest here with a particular woman (and then some), but it still did not pan out. Both she and I were out of work at the same time last year, and I was having success with interviews and finding a new job...all of which were out of town. The best I can understand here is that I read all of her signals correctly, but it was her ultimate goal I misinterpreted.
I had to move away (because of the job I did get), but it wasn't that far away either (4 hours by car). This woman and another friend did come by for a visit for the last long weekend, which had me somewhat excited as I was thinking that "maybe" I will finally get some one-on-one time with her and hopefully move this relationship forward, but she ended up spending all of her time being hit-on by another guy she met at my unofficial house-warming, which was sort of a "let-down" for me, but also very educational (that guy was successful too, which was also somewhat surprising as he was breaking all of the rules of engagement - i.e. dozens of red-flags for the average female).
As mentioned, from what I gather, the signals I got from her from November 2021 to February 2022 were correct, but I was also holding back because I really did not know where I would be in the next month or two (i.e. it could have been in town, or 1000s of miles away too...I just didn't know at that time). I was also thinking from her "signals" that she may be interested in an actual relationship, while it turns out that all she wanted to do was sleep with me...and I don't do 1-night stands. I strive to get to know the woman first...sex comes afterward, while she is the exact opposite, and wants to test-drive the guy first, and get to know them better later...which to me is a recipe for repeated failed relationships, with emotional repercussions as well.
In short, I'm a Sigma male...and I do NOT place sex as a priority when pursuing a woman. Intelligence, a sound knowledge base, a sense of humor, the ability to banter, and the ability to hold a conversation on multiple subjects, are all much higher on the list. Looks/appearance is also down the list, and sex is always the reward, but never the goal. So this was VERY educational for me because it turns out that she really did not fit my criteria for a potential relationship anyway. But as you have said here...there are plenty of women out there who do meet that criteria 😎.
@Julia Thanks...but I don't really have a problem manifesting. I just don't chase women, and I'm in no hurry to find a compatible female. It will happen eventually, but in the meantime I'm just going to enjoy life on my own terms 😎. This video is one of Marni's best though...it's very educational and very correct.
@Julia It would probably help me in some situations, but the woman I thought I would like turns out to be the type of woman I like to avoid...so there is no real benefit to trying and "win her approval". I'm glad things played out the way they did because the universe showed me quite clearly that she is NOT the companion with whom I would associate.
Sometimes, no matter what we do we get no results, even if we do our best. And it sucks. Good looking women usually have more options, they always keep couple guys who are interested in her around. She will then chose the one who she feels is best match for her. I wouldn't be surprised if your particular woman was seeing 5 other guys on the side
@@malihachape, You're probably right, and she is seeing multiple guys (each not knowing about the others). But I really don't care about her anymore...she basically demonstrated to me on multiple levels what I don't like, so I moved on pretty quickly.
OMG. I've just tried this over the internet with woman I've been talking to and now she's really interested, not even met just chatted.
Thank you Marni your advice along with other material I've read over the years has gotten me more success with beautiful women than I thought was possible for me
Marni what about if a woman chases a man ? My wife chased me. She got me, and I am happy. She was even a virgin. Think about that for a minute. She knew what she wanted, and that was me. We have been married for over 20 years now. Think about that. Thoughts ?
Just as a remark on the point about tunnel vision: this can happen even when you've got other options available and/or are already dating others. What seems to happen is that, due to projections of needs and desires onto a girl, you can become limerant towards her. And, the dynamic between men and women in early stages of dating being what they are, this rarely ends well for the reasons mentioned in this video...
*Gets matches on Bumble*
never gets a message when they HAVE to message first and also HAVE to like your profile.
Just trying to work out what you do in a situation like this:
You go on a few dates with someone. It goes really well - great banter, chemistry, plenty of physical touching and responsiveness. I book a weekend away together on her suggestion. She then pulls away and breaks it off. No arguments or questioning even. It's like she freaked out. It's like a Seinfeld episode. It's left me confused (did I misread something). Big variable is that I'm a recent widower and doing well. But she knew this.
Not sure if I should sit it out a few months and try to reconnect (more time to confirm I'm doing ok and am genuine) or just write it off. Feels such a waste to write it off though. Uniquely intelligent lady and quite pretty
Sounds like you’ve fallen into the infatuation trap because of her mixed signals… I can relate. 😢
@@mike.pittsburgh3466 you should not be taking a woman out to dinner and spending your hard earned cash like that. take them out to have a coffee or tea. when the woman is having sex with you then she earned a dinner or a nice date. It is not 1950s when taking a woman out on a date gets you somewhere with her. A lot of woman take advantage of guys who are nice and spend money. Believe me woman have it easy in there 20s once the 30s hit they are competing with the 20 somethings. When they hit the 40s it gets really bad for woman to have a man commit to them. Darius M look him up.
@@ivanreagent I’ll check him out. Can’t relate to trying to buy affection, but understand the mixed signals and resulting confusion.
@@mike.pittsburgh3466 yes, check out Darius M. He does an excellent job of explaining women and their behavior.
@@ivanreagent I totally agree with the women in their 40’s. They have a hard time having a man commit, but yet they still think they have value😂. Especially when they have like 3 kids, they act like they’re a prime catch still.
Love the video Marni. Good stuff. Also, the crow crowing in the background was a great addition. 😛
Marni your my hero and i watch, I'm subscribed and purchased something i used briefly. I dont remember how to find it and it was helpful. Ended up back in my old bad relationship. I'm busy and didn't feel i coild give a new relationships enough time. But need to find time, I've stop trying. Quality women seemed out of reach
Thinking about one of your first clients named Randy, who was still a virgin at 32, cases like him make me mad because it's reminder that cases like him are much more common than we think, more common than we seem, nature can definitely be very cruel in which it causes far more men than women to remain virgins later than normal.
You also mentioned he had no clue how to talk to women, that part also made mad, because reminds me of you or look at interactions or talking to women from a different perspective now.
The way I see it or the way it looks like is that men need to know or learn how to talk to women a hell of a lot more than women need to know or learn how to talk to men.
It's like the man has to verbally influence the woman to get her attracted to him, the man has to talk or behave a certain way.
The way the woman talks or behaves doesn't really impact her ability to attract the guy
3:49 mark. Woooooo, so glad I avoided this trap recently.
Hi Marni, I enjoyed this video. Keep them coming!
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I've had tunnel vision a few times and never worked put well for me. i used to feel that way partially because i wanted them to know i wasnt a player but liked just them. This was older, ignorant and more naive though me.. now i know better. Now if i want to date and such I plant my seeds in different spots see who bites first. I dont date though waste of time but if i wanted to again i would do this.
@Introverted Alpha - Dating Support for Men Thanks
Same happened to me
I agree with and basically do all three things you mentioned. However, regarding the second point about "trying out," both sexes have to try out to a degree. For example, my true ideal standard would be having a woman get together with me on a few initial dates without any money being spent on her. For example, we would meet up and just sit around and chat, or we'd take a walk and chat, or work out together. But, c'mon? How many women (especially good looking ones) are going to feel special and actually develop interest in a man who acts like that? Conversely, many women I know would love to just wear active wear, a baseball hat, sneakers/comfortable non sexy shoes, and not spend a lot of time on their hair the first few dates (i.e. the way they often act when they actually end up in a day to day relationship), but they know they have to step up their appearance to get a new man's interest. So, bottom line, you have to "try out" to a degree to make the team,
@Julia oh, you mean the Wizard of Oz? Yeah, I've already talked to him. It didn't work, but thank you
This is solid advice!
Bro.... no. Lmao
so cool,, this is how to avoid being a simp
I love your content,worthy of my subscribe
Marni, I've never been a *Mr. Try Hard*, and I've never had the entitlement attitude with women also. I've had a couple of longtime friends say they think I'm too picky. I don't know if that's a good thing or bad thing, but it is what it is.
Bro same thing happened to me
@@travisandrews3909 - wow
Your standards are your safety mechanism. They keep you from being in a relationship that will make you miserable. Never settle, friend.
@@Martin-jk2ng - ty, I wished I'd known this at the time, Lol.
This guy is subscribed and I thought in feel foolish for having to have to be taught but I'll admit I failed I failed I lost my one true love the mother of my children because cause I forgot to pay attention to what was right in front of me and I don't know how to get over that So I want any pointers to never do that again
Vid starts at 3:13
Marni funny thing for me; some nice quality women flirt with me and I'm not looking too date now. A happy introvert and loner. Love the 3 tips I don't do any of those mainly my introvert and lone wolf nature at times
I am in the same boat as you,but when I work in crowd control,as I did at a couple of music festivals,a couple of women asked me to give them a big hug,and sometimes they approach me.
In the dating game, as soon as we leave, memories slowly fade, and new flirtations arise.
Really great advice 💯
It happens so rare I’ve only realized after the fact a women was trying to make the first move
I’m not 75% of those guys Marni I’ve been a loyal subscriber for a long time now!
God brought too many beautiful woman in this world for just one option 🤙
Like always LakersNation 🏀🔥
thanks, good video
Marni, you're the love of my life
She's married
Three words ! Stay single guys !.
Nope
So where do you go to find a traditional woman
You girl are so good, thanks
Who said that tunneled vision is bad thing? Better being with a guy who only is interested on you than a player who has "other options".
Trying to find a woman who’s attractive/has character and who cares about that instead of Instagram followers/superficial. Does that exist?
What I've noticed is that when your game is strong, women will notice you without ever saying a word to them (they'll see you talking to other hot women and eventually realize that you are the prize) and dudes will hate on you and try to rain on your parade.
Marni thanks friend
Defiantly thanks marni
Men understand something. You cannot change your decision about ignoring and rejecting a woman. ESPECIALLY if she was the woman you wanted. If she is worthy she will try to prove to you, more than once, that she genuinely wants you. I have gone through this as a teenager and learned many valuable lessons from it. Marni is on point... "Mostly" but there are things even she has views slightly askew on. And I have brought one of the products. Seriously. I am not against her. I would love to be an advocate. But I seek to share my own experiences as well. 36 years old by the way if you feel the need to pass judgement. Still won't cange what I said or have to say. Dueces.
Just be yourself the way you always are. Realize you won't always please everyone. The ones who show little, or no, interest might be best left alone. At least for the time being. You can always try later, but play it cool, just being yourself. Certainly do be the man, and approach ladies with a sense of purpose, and decisiveness. Women may go gay (lesbian), because men do not approach them, and they give up in time.
My problem was never confidence, it seems after Covid , things changed. Eye contact ids there but trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong. I know after my x who was diagnosed with seven mental illnesses, schizophrenia one of them and she disappeared after 13 years and after two years found in NJ with an X best friend but she stopped all meds. So I eventually I dated for a year but after that when Covid hit. I haven’t dated since. What’s wrong?
New sub 👍
the girls i like , they dont like me and one who likes me , i dont like them , so what should i do
Girls like me from my gym
@@travisandrews3909 i dont even go to the gym...🤣🤣🤣
I know the logic behind not chasing her works, but emotions suck. I do like to learn the hard way.🙄
So do i bro
Chasing after what we want is how our male brains are wired. We men always chased it in the past, we always went after what we wanted. And there is nothing wrong with that! Only in recent time "chasing" after girl that we really want is considered creepy
So many games girls play!!! I don’t play games…. Honesty is always the best policy
Marni, I'm just curious: Man has to do hundreds of things to attract and keep good woman, and he can't do another hundreds of things otherwise he will lose her on the spot, he'll be rejected or dumped into a friend zone. But what does woman have to do to attract a good man? If I'm not mistaken, she usually does nothing that good and honest man is interested in.
I rather stay as a bachelor and just have fun with woman. I just like working on making money and keeping my health as best as I can. No marriage for me as 50% end up in a divorce and 70% of those are initiated by woman.
clearly you are not in the stock market, I am, it's part of what I do for a living
Thank you ma'am 💞
how you show you are screening?
I don't know
There is no link below
And yes Marni I would live stream chat with you no problem even if you have valid points I have to submit to. But I can guarantee it wouldn't be a 10 minute conversation. Not looking for attention either. Just want you to teach us men a few things better.
I don't want a woamn to be obsessed with me, just possibly a bit interested in us gertting to know each other, enjoying each other"s company.
How do I catch a lady that's a director at a Senior centerl, I am 85 she mid to late 50s?😊
So basically this is a "give up" video. The girl you like doesn´t like you back, give up on her. You think the girl you like is "out of your league", give up in her.
I would want a return if I invested my time in a woman Marni.
It's weird because women always approach me 1st She builds a report and then they try to make me Chase them 🤔
But what if you have been friends for a long time with a woman whom you are romantically interested in/attracted to, and genuinely care for, AND about her, her family, things she goes through, and has gone through, etc? How do you keep her in your life still (because she truly does mean a lot to you), without feeling the pain and disappointment of not being more than friends, knowing you will always have these feelings for her? (Even though you do look at, are attracted to, and even do approach other women. Do you be a jerk, or A-Hole and just end the friendship?
That is what I would like to know??
@YipeeDo So I guess Marni should add an amendment to one of her Taglines of, "How to Get ANY Woman You Want" with, "As long as she wants you." Because if SHE doesn't want you, you can do ALL the things that Marni says to do - the flirting, banter, acting non chalant, not chasing, not pedestalizing, not having tunnel vision, not being a simp, etc; but if she's not interested in you, it won't make a difference because you still won't get THE woman YOU WANT. (Not just ANY woman you may be attracted to, who as luck would have it, is also attracted to you.) Bottom line - women still hold all the cards, and control.
@@jasonhurst8599 The sooner every single man realizes and memorizes the number one rule that reigns supreme over all else, the better off you can be. That rule? “LOVE IS A LOTTERY”.
You are not her friend and that is not friendship. Waiting for her to magically change her mind is not only pointless but also stupid. So this is what you do - make your move and if she rejects you move on and dont contact her again.
@@jasonhurst8599 no shit sherlock, did you really think that EVERY single women will like you if you follow some steps?
Man..Alpha M is a Legend..Teige is all over the place..Goddamn!..but seriously tho'.. his products are really high quality..i use them. Now for my real comment.. I only chase my career and cash that equals power and status..the rest will fall into place..
@@travisandrews3909 🤙⚡
Guys, don't bother. In the 80's, 90's and a little into this century, being with women was fun. You didn't have to watch every word carefully, you could be a little unsavory, and it was fun.
Now, what you're doing is the basic functions of prostitution. X amount of dollars has to be spent, and x amount of resources must be verified before anything else.
So my advice, if you want the modern dating experience, is go to the bank and apply for a mortgage.
Chances are, the banker will be friendlier than a date.
@Julia A...OK.
I see that we ran out of meds. Let's make a call to your provider, and see if we can't get this back under control.
Most ricky-tik.
4:20 Marni you understand that men's Tunnel Vision mode is the pre-stage for love?
I've trained myself not to do this as much as possible and always keep as many plates spinning as possible, but it prevents me from falling in Love with women.
Training yourself to de-tunnel or view the opposite gender rationally, completely removes Love from the equation.
I honestly think women today won't find real Love bc they view the men who Love them as Weak.
Absolutely right,,
As a guy, I recently went out with a girl. Great chemistry, same goals & vibe, etc.. I thought to myself, this is the girl I want to pursue. I don't mind having options with other girls but I struggle with seeing more than 1 at a time.
Nice video
Yes it is a nice video
Darling, Love your advice on the entire spectrum women / man relationships......
That is a fact
6:25 Rule Don't GAF Full Stop
She just said dont keep trying if a woman doesn't return anything back but then at the end of the video says she promises you can 'unlock the key to every girls heart' if you just listen to her advice. Sounds like a salesman caught in a lie.
I figure it like this; the modern woman has absolutely no issues shunning a man she doesn’t like right? So, why cant she be more vocal and open to making a man she does like know about it? Why is that an issue? I personally cannot afford to make a mistake based off some chemical reaction in my brain that gave me like a knee jerk prompt to pursue a woman lol I’ve worked too hard for what I have and it entails a lot of collateral to be putting yourself out there.
Iv just got in contact with a woman I use to know when I was 19 now I'm 57 she is on my case just finished with her boyfriend after 4 years but we went out the other week but she just wants to be friends what's going on
Seen her again last weekend she says she loves me to bits but wants to remain friends COS she dosent want to lose me COS she's just come out of a controlling relation ship for four years shall I just leave it as that
Seen her again last weekend she says she loves me to bits but wants to remain friends COS she dosent want to lose me COS she's just come out of a controlling relation ship for four years shall I just leave it as that
Funny that Marni's friends say the idea of women pursuing men is "disgusting" because I think men always having to pursue women is obnoxious. Women need to get up off their asses and put some more effort in to approaching. In fact, one of the reasons I respect Marni so much is that she literally quoted in one of her RUclips videos, "What’s the deal with men always having to make the first move? I mean it’s 2019 and we’ve had this whole Me Too Movement and push for equality, yet most women still want men to make the first move. It’s just not fair that men have to run the risk of being rejected all the time. Many women have no clue how to finesse this and therefore choose to just avoid it. Trust me when I tell you that I wish more women would make the first move; that they would ask a guy out, ask for a number, go for the kiss. It would save me hours upon hours of hearing my girlfriends moan.”- Marni Kinrys
Respectfully, I disagree with your opinion about women approaching men first. I’m a decent looking guy, although I’m very thin, and my confidence for most of my life was not very good, but I’ve still been approached by probably 40 women, most of whom have been above average, and a handful of them have been very very attractive, particularly one recently who is comparable to that of Gal Gadot. If you’re a decent looking guy and you present yourself in a non-threatening way, it does happen from time to time, some more so than others. I have barely asked any woman out in my young life, I have basically no game but it still happens to me semi often.
She is not interested. I move on. We have dignity.
Marni is a tiny bearie! I hope you see this comment. 😍
Save your money men and your sanity, leave women alone only focus on yourself. If a "women ' really likes you she will approach you.
@Florence your slow 🦥
I'll approach ONCE. If she declines, I'll move on because she isn't worth my time.
How does a man that's never chased a women, EVER, stop doing it? 🤣🤣🤣
I was ahead of the game, YEARS ago.
Women come to me, always have.
I'm not exceedingly handsome or over 6 foot, and I'm not rich, yet women chase me. 😁
@Why Trust You? I've never heard that phrase before. What does it mean?
@Why Trust You? Already have. Still doesn't ring a bell. I'm me. Happy and great as a SIGMA male so some say. Life if great.
@Why Trust You? Same question I asked when I was made aware. I looked it up here on RUclips. Plenty of info to say the least. Some I agree with a bit I don't. Nevertheless I'm me. I do me, not some "title" so to speak.
What I'd found out was interesting but still. I'm me.
@Why Trust You? What do you mean? Entra what?
@Why Trust You? Thanks and interesting.
I get a gal how could I start
So do i
@@travisandrews3909 how to start the chat
I dont chase women i let them chase me
This cougar fine ash yall 😁
1:37 you just called yourself disgusting lol
Marni, I’m thinking of buying my new girlfriend a set of ben-wa balls for her birthday. Do you know if come in different sizes?
They need to get over that B.S. because I know I'm worth the pursuit and messaging. It might sound like trash but I have the photos and status profiles to prove it. Being pursued donen't make a guy any less of a man if he has enough confidence, respect and ability to please women. But whatever. go on about your business I'll just remain the hidden/wasted gem lol.
Am I the only one?
Before I fall in love
I'm preparing to leave her
The prettier they are, the sicker they are.
The trick is basically to make it look like you've gone M.G.T.O.W while wearing a suit. 😎
y in middle school girls aproach u but in college or high school they dont
Please reply if you feel like.. I'll be overwhelmed infinitely
That is a 100% fact
I never chase women. I have only ever had 2 women interested in me in 10 years 🤔🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣
hey, I have a crush on this particular girl, but she uses they/them pronouns. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Whee do you even go to meet people at 30 though? You always say in your videos that there are other options but there really aren't. Most of the things I like and hobbies I have are male dominated spaces so it's not like I'm gonna meet anyone doing that shit.
My hobie is going dancing with friends from my gym
I like your videos but this will never work with me because I am conventionally ugly and hairy no woman on Earth will ever date me. All I can do is dream because it is all I can do. Girls have called me ugly so I am not lying here. I wonder what it feels like to be attractive. My self confidence has just been destroyed I have nothing left.
I’m hairy too but I shave and get laser. And when I take my makeup off I’m not as cute as I am in the videos.
Point being that the things you listed can be worked on. Your look can be elevated if you want it to.
What other excuses do you have ;-)
@@marnikinrys They are not excuses, they are valid reasons as to why I can't get a girlfriend. There is nothing that can be done, girls don't look at personality.
@Florence It is too late bug thanks
Stop chasing women and do these 3 things instead: any 3 things you want. Any 3 things except chasing women. Just do something else.
ask a woman what does she bring to the table? Men bring everything and most woman think just their looks does everything.
better bachelor, casual bachelor, look them up they give good advice about modern woman.
Sleeping with gorgeous woman? What if I'm not tired?
Wait they’re alpha women and they can’t approach? Maybe they’re just DEI women..