Thank you for your transparency in this video. I relate with you about always being stressed. For self care I enjoy walking, jogging, home workouts and simply planning in my planner. Journaling does wonders too ❤️💛❤️
Favorite self care tip is to go set in front of the ocean or a lake somewhere. Even though that’s super easy for me to do being that I live on the coast. I still have to force myself to get in the car and actually go. Looking at the water and reflecting on all that you are blessed to have will create gratitude and stress and gratitude can’t co-exist. In your case you live within driving distance of some mountains, go either walk up them or sit by them. You need a “real” break from the everyday routine. I clicked on this video and it said 37s that’s a record for me. You have given a lot of us great content now it’s Monica’s turn to feel some real stress free joy. Do yourself a favor and put yourself first if only for a weekend you deserve it then make a plan to do a getaway once a month even if it’s a short distance. Explore a new town even if it’s by yourself. I find new places to eat no matter where they are and go. Homegirl, little sister, cousin and friend in my head be blessed. 💜💜💜
Ingrid this almost made me cry! Thank you for these words and for these suggestions, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your empathy and support! ❤️
Lighting candles, reading a book. Watching a good show with someone else. I tend to talk when something is happening on a show. It’s nice having someone to share to commentary with. Whatever is stressing you, put it away. Even just laying down quietly and blocking the outside world for 20-30 minutes is great
Thank you for sharing these ideas! I actually just woke up and lit a candle, about to sip some coffee and read! Going to try to incorporate more moments like this into my routine ❤️
My favorite self care is bubble bath with a donut or cupcake scented candle and listening to soothing soft rock or reggae. 😊 Going for a walk in the afternoon and having a bubble bath is a real game changer. I’ve been stressing these days too and I’m considering going back to my safe space in relaxation.
I’m glad to know I’m not the only one struggling! Bubble baths are so relaxing and I need to do better with taking the time for them, I have a huge tub with one of those little wooden trays for ambiance that I’ve used maybe twice in the 3 years I’ve had it 🥴😂
@@AllThingsMoElleGirl same here! 😂 I need to get one those trays they are so cute! 😊 I totally understand our busy life is eating us alive 😂 We are going to have to start making appointments with ourselves to make this self care happen😂
Ugh sending you a huge hug! I mostly protective style. I learned over the past couple years that I have to trust my stylist with my trims much more often. She has been cutting off my damage over time and now wash day is easy. I had no idea that my raggedy ends were making just washing and blow drying hard. Unfortunately, I’m the queen of protective styling and went several times 6 months between trims and lost my progress because I needed more off. But in the new year, I’m trying to follow my stylist advice which is a trim every 8 weeks. We have a very similar curl pattern and my hair split up the ends during the pandemic because I was wearing it out and curly a thousand times more than usual. Unfortunately, I haven’t figured out how to wear my hair out and frequently manipulate it either. So I’m avoiding that now that I’ve cut off the pandemic damage. My plan is wear protective style for no more thank 6-7 weeks. Get silk press and trim. Repeat all 2024. I don’t trust cutting my hair unless it’s silk pressed. So we will see. Anyway back to you… you got this!
Hey Monica!! I totally get it and I’m pretty much doing the same thing for the first part of 2024. I’m going to keep it tucked away until it’s time for another trim, then silk press and tuck it back away once the style gets old. I’ll probably do that until the weather warms back up! Thank you for sharing and for being so encouraging! 🤍
Allow yourself grace, love. Allow your hair grace. She's been with you this whole time, thru the good and the bad. She took on the same burdens you've carried. She's not trying to fail you, she's doing the best she can ❤ Please don't forget to love your hair. We all love her and think she's beautiful no matter how she shows up.
Hey lady ! Sending light and blessings your way. ❤️. My favorite short term self care is actually getting my hair done. It feels good to just sit back and relax.
Heyyy there friend! It’s so good to see you pop up in the comments! I love the idea of someone else doing my hair for self care to give me a break lol. Thank you for sharing and for the positive vibes! Hope you’re well! ❤️
Sending you love ❤ and good vibes. I got super stressed during the pandemic and I lost a lot of hair too. I’m finally seeing my hair bouncing back with being consistent with my hair and my mental health and physical health is paying off. I love movement to release stress. I love to dance salsa, spin classes and taking walks in nature. Give yourself grace.
I’m definitely considering some adult dance classes so your comment was right on time! Dancing used to bring me so much joy and I’m trying to get back to things that make me feel joy! Thank you for sharing love! ❤️
Moe........ You got me worrying about you Girl!!! Stress is THE devil!!! The minute I feel myself getting stressed out, I make sure I don't miss my daily multi vitamin, hair vitamin & my iron supplements. I can honestly say those have been the things that have kept me during those times when I just didn't care about doing my hair and was stressed out. I'm glad to see you back and hopefully you'll stay a little longer than before, lol BTW that cut, looks beautiful.
Hey boo! I’m fine I just need to do better with taking care of myself in all facets of life! Thank you so much for sharing your tips, I’m definitely taking notes! ❤️
Thank you Jeannine! I’ve been itching to snip some more lol I want to start from scratch so badly but I also want to still be able to provide hair content for y’all!
OMG! Why do I feel like everything you said, I’m going through! 😩😩😩. My hair is currently in jail braids and my wig is arriving Thursday lol. I’m tired of my hair. BUT I love this short cut on you!! 🥰 Let me straighten mine and be real with myself lol
Only just discovered your channel and am still making my way through your videos but I just wanted to say, I really want success for you in your channel, personal life and hair journey 🌸 You just seem lovely and m sincere. My distress tip is a little cliche but prayer and setting aside a day or half day in the week for yourself. No work. No social gatherings. Just you time
Whew! Just had to get a bob in March bc I was playing with my iron levels too. Set your phone reminders and couple it with stuff you do faithfully. Hope things are better!!
Good to see you again sis, & that cut looks good too 😁 Sounds like we've been on the same page as far as both diet & hydration go... I'm ashamed to think of how many meals I've skipped recently or the number of times I chose coffee over water. 🤦🏾♀️ But I'm working on turning that around too 👍🏽 Things that help me handle stress: quiet time, writing, dancing when no one's around lol, long drives, & lately a weekly Zumba class. Taking in whatever is going on around me and doing my best to give it to God. 💯 Be it personal, local, national, global... there's a lot going on. Only God can help me discern between what is/isn't my battle. Best wishes on your journey, you got this 💕
We all struggle with consistency. It manifests in our bodies and notice it in our hair especially. My self care is to drink water, I drink it straight out of the pack so that my mind doesn’t think it has to be refrigerated. Allow yourself to sit still and just listen to the quiet and center yourself. No tv, phone, or anything, just silence. It helps.
I clicked on this so fast when I saw your name 🤣🤣🤣.. ok let me watch 💙 Your hair looks good Fren 💙.., so sad but my self-care tip is doing my hair (it’s a struggle lately to wash every week but I cherish that time I have to myself 😂) ..
Hey Beauty!!! Im sorry you’re experiencing a hair setback! Your new cute is gorgeous though!!! 😍😍😍 P.S My favourite self care tip is to get massages! I try to get monthly massages and they’ve made the world of a difference for my stress levels in life. Sometimes I go more frequently than once per month too. This is a non-negotiable in my self care journey and routine. I highly recommend it if you can and haven’t tried it already! 💛
I was just telling a coworker that I need to incorporate more spa visits into my monthly routine. I went to a nice spa/resort back in June and that was the most relaxed I’ve felt in years (that sounds so bad lol) so I need to do this more often! Thank you for sharing love!
My setback was not wearing my hair stretched. I used to be a straight hair natural and my length retention was amazing! Then I fell in love with my natural curls and did a big chop. Since that big chop I’ve been wearing my hair curly but I didn’t know that was a bad thing and it caused me MAJOR single strand knots. Every 3 months I get at least an inch of single strand knots which slows down my hair growth journey 😢💔 So even though I hate stretching my hair, from now on till my hair length goal I’ll be stretching my hair with roller sets.
Those single strand knots are the devil! I definitely slowed down on wash n gos when I noticed the amount of knots I was getting, and I also don't wear the style for as long as I used to before wash day. Only wearing my curls for a week at a time, and only in the hot months, has helped tremendously!
I've recently tried fasting and it worked wonders, definitely going to be doing it more consistently moving forward! Thanks for watching and sharing this tip!
This is definitely my favorite self care activity Ms. Carla, I just wish I could get more of it 😂 thank you for sharing, I hope you and the family are well! ❤️
Take those iron pills girl! That deficiency can definitely make your hair thin. In the meantime, olaplex and K18 can hold you down. But that self cut came out cute for sure!
You’re right, I need to do better!! And Olaplex is truly that girl. I’ve been a fan of the No3 I just recently started using the No4 and No5 shampoo and conditioner and I’m loving them so far!
Whew chile, the way I’m hot natured they’d be carrying me out of hot yoga on a stretcher 😂😂😂 I’ve always wanted to try it just for the experience though!
Prayer is my most effective self care method when I feel like I’m too weighed down. Naturally speaking-food and quiet time.
Love this!! Thank you so much for taking the time to share your tips!
Thank you for your transparency in this video. I relate with you about always being stressed.
For self care I enjoy walking, jogging, home workouts and simply planning in my planner. Journaling does wonders too ❤️💛❤️
These are great tips, thank you so much for sharing Joy! ❤️
Favorite self care tip is to go set in front of the ocean or a lake somewhere. Even though that’s super easy for me to do being that I live on the coast. I still have to force myself to get in the car and actually go. Looking at the water and reflecting on all that you are blessed to have will create gratitude and stress and gratitude can’t co-exist. In your case you live within driving distance of some mountains, go either walk up them or sit by them. You need a “real” break from the everyday routine. I clicked on this video and it said 37s that’s a record for me. You have given a lot of us great content now it’s Monica’s turn to feel some real stress free joy. Do yourself a favor and put yourself first if only for a weekend you deserve it then make a plan to do a getaway once a month even if it’s a short distance. Explore a new town even if it’s by yourself. I find new places to eat no matter where they are and go. Homegirl, little sister, cousin and friend in my head be blessed. 💜💜💜
Ingrid this almost made me cry! Thank you for these words and for these suggestions, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your empathy and support! ❤️
Setbacks suck but you’re hair is looking great. I’m with you in not wanting to see the see thru hair. Full roots to full ends is the desire.
Thank you boo!! ❤️❤️❤️
Lighting candles, reading a book. Watching a good show with someone else. I tend to talk when something is happening on a show. It’s nice having someone to share to commentary with. Whatever is stressing you, put it away. Even just laying down quietly and blocking the outside world for 20-30 minutes is great
Thank you for sharing these ideas! I actually just woke up and lit a candle, about to sip some coffee and read! Going to try to incorporate more moments like this into my routine ❤️
My favorite self care is bubble bath with a donut or cupcake scented candle and listening to soothing soft rock or reggae. 😊 Going for a walk in the afternoon and having a bubble bath is a real game changer. I’ve been stressing these days too and I’m considering going back to my safe space in relaxation.
I’m glad to know I’m not the only one struggling! Bubble baths are so relaxing and I need to do better with taking the time for them, I have a huge tub with one of those little wooden trays for ambiance that I’ve used maybe twice in the 3 years I’ve had it 🥴😂
@@AllThingsMoElleGirl same here! 😂 I need to get one those trays they are so cute! 😊 I totally understand our busy life is eating us alive 😂 We are going to have to start making appointments with ourselves to make this self care happen😂
Ugh sending you a huge hug! I mostly protective style. I learned over the past couple years that I have to trust my stylist with my trims much more often. She has been cutting off my damage over time and now wash day is easy. I had no idea that my raggedy ends were making just washing and blow drying hard. Unfortunately, I’m the queen of protective styling and went several times 6 months between trims and lost my progress because I needed more off. But in the new year, I’m trying to follow my stylist advice which is a trim every 8 weeks. We have a very similar curl pattern and my hair split up the ends during the pandemic because I was wearing it out and curly a thousand times more than usual. Unfortunately, I haven’t figured out how to wear my hair out and frequently manipulate it either. So I’m avoiding that now that I’ve cut off the pandemic damage. My plan is wear protective style for no more thank 6-7 weeks. Get silk press and trim. Repeat all 2024. I don’t trust cutting my hair unless it’s silk pressed. So we will see. Anyway back to you… you got this!
Hey Monica!! I totally get it and I’m pretty much doing the same thing for the first part of 2024. I’m going to keep it tucked away until it’s time for another trim, then silk press and tuck it back away once the style gets old. I’ll probably do that until the weather warms back up! Thank you for sharing and for being so encouraging! 🤍
Allow yourself grace, love. Allow your hair grace. She's been with you this whole time, thru the good and the bad.
She took on the same burdens you've carried. She's not trying to fail you, she's doing the best she can ❤
Please don't forget to love your hair.
We all love her and think she's beautiful no matter how she shows up.
That’s a wonderful perspective, thank you for sharing!! 🩷🩷🩷
Great video. And your hair look nice. 🫶🏾
Hey lady ! Sending light and blessings your way. ❤️. My favorite short term self care is actually getting my hair done. It feels good to just sit back and relax.
Heyyy there friend! It’s so good to see you pop up in the comments! I love the idea of someone else doing my hair for self care to give me a break lol. Thank you for sharing and for the positive vibes! Hope you’re well! ❤️
Sending you love ❤ and good vibes. I got super stressed during the pandemic and I lost a lot of hair too. I’m finally seeing my hair bouncing back with being consistent with my hair and my mental health and physical health is paying off. I love movement to release stress. I love to dance salsa, spin classes and taking walks in nature. Give yourself grace.
I’m definitely considering some adult dance classes so your comment was right on time! Dancing used to bring me so much joy and I’m trying to get back to things that make me feel joy! Thank you for sharing love! ❤️
Moe........ You got me worrying about you Girl!!! Stress is THE devil!!! The minute I feel myself getting stressed out, I make sure I don't miss my daily multi vitamin, hair vitamin & my iron supplements. I can honestly say those have been the things that have kept me during those times when I just didn't care about doing my hair and was stressed out. I'm glad to see you back and hopefully you'll stay a little longer than before, lol
BTW that cut, looks beautiful.
Hey boo! I’m fine I just need to do better with taking care of myself in all facets of life! Thank you so much for sharing your tips, I’m definitely taking notes! ❤️
@@AllThingsMoElle You got this 😉
Hey sis! U did a Good job with the cut.
Thank you Jeannine! I’ve been itching to snip some more lol I want to start from scratch so badly but I also want to still be able to provide hair content for y’all!
OMG! Why do I feel like everything you said, I’m going through! 😩😩😩. My hair is currently in jail braids and my wig is arriving Thursday lol. I’m tired of my hair. BUT I love this short cut on you!! 🥰 Let me straighten mine and be real with myself lol
Girl the struggle is so real. I’m definitely about to order another headband wig so that I don’t have to fuss with melting lace and all that lol.
You did a great job cutting your hair 😍.
Thank you so much!
Only just discovered your channel and am still making my way through your videos but I just wanted to say, I really want success for you in your channel, personal life and hair journey 🌸
You just seem lovely and m sincere. My distress tip is a little cliche but prayer and setting aside a day or half day in the week for yourself. No work. No social gatherings. Just you time
This doesn’t sound cliche at all, these are excellent tips and things that I struggle with so thank you! And welcome to the MoElleian fam! ❤️❤️❤️
Whew! Just had to get a bob in March bc I was playing with my iron levels too. Set your phone reminders and couple it with stuff you do faithfully. Hope things are better!!
The struggle is real sis! Things have gotten a lot better with supplements, water intake, and consistent trims!!
Favorite self care tip- Take the time for you, it’s well deserved
This is the one!!! Thank you hun ❤️
Good to see you again sis, & that cut looks good too 😁
Sounds like we've been on the same page as far as both diet & hydration go...
I'm ashamed to think of how many meals I've skipped recently or the number of times I chose coffee over water. 🤦🏾♀️
But I'm working on turning that around too 👍🏽 Things that help me handle stress: quiet time, writing, dancing when no one's around lol, long drives, & lately a weekly Zumba class. Taking in whatever is going on around me and doing my best to give it to God. 💯
Be it personal, local, national, global... there's a lot going on. Only God can help me discern between what is/isn't my battle.
Best wishes on your journey, you got this 💕
Whew that last part was a word- not everything is my battle and I have to remember that! Thanks so much for sharing sis! ❤️❤️❤️
Hello Mo😊
We all struggle with consistency. It manifests in our bodies and notice it in our hair especially.
My self care is to drink water, I drink it straight out of the pack so that my mind doesn’t think it has to be refrigerated. Allow yourself to sit still and just listen to the quiet and center yourself. No tv, phone, or anything, just silence. It helps.
These tips are so helpful cousin! Thank you so much for sharing!! ❤️❤️
I clicked on this so fast when I saw your name 🤣🤣🤣.. ok let me watch 💙
Your hair looks good Fren 💙.., so sad but my self-care tip is doing my hair (it’s a struggle lately to wash every week but I cherish that time I have to myself 😂) ..
Lol I know it’s been a minute! Had to fill y’all in on what’s going on with this hair 🥴😂
@@AllThingsMoElleSo happy you did! I really love this look tho and I can’t wait for this journey 💙
Hey Beauty!!! Im sorry you’re experiencing a hair setback! Your new cute is gorgeous though!!! 😍😍😍
P.S My favourite self care tip is to get massages! I try to get monthly massages and they’ve made the world of a difference for my stress levels in life. Sometimes I go more frequently than once per month too. This is a non-negotiable in my self care journey and routine. I highly recommend it if you can and haven’t tried it already! 💛
I was just telling a coworker that I need to incorporate more spa visits into my monthly routine. I went to a nice spa/resort back in June and that was the most relaxed I’ve felt in years (that sounds so bad lol) so I need to do this more often! Thank you for sharing love!
Try Ritual vitamins. They include iron and are my preferred brand.
Thank you for the recommendation love!
My setback was not wearing my hair stretched. I used to be a straight hair natural and my length retention was amazing! Then I fell in love with my natural curls and did a big chop.
Since that big chop I’ve been wearing my hair curly but I didn’t know that was a bad thing and it caused me MAJOR single strand knots. Every 3 months I get at least an inch of single strand knots which slows down my hair growth journey 😢💔 So even though I hate stretching my hair, from now on till my hair length goal I’ll be stretching my hair with roller sets.
Those single strand knots are the devil! I definitely slowed down on wash n gos when I noticed the amount of knots I was getting, and I also don't wear the style for as long as I used to before wash day. Only wearing my curls for a week at a time, and only in the hot months, has helped tremendously!
I can recommend some iron supplements that don't cause constipation if that helps.
Yes PLEASEEEE!! 👀👂🏾📝
H & H Cosmetics should help get your hair back together!!
Yup I’m waiting for my re-stock on the hair vitamin as we speak!!
First to watch!!!
Yayyy thank you for watching love! ❤️
Meditation is my favorite self are besides prayer and fasting every month five days all water.
I've recently tried fasting and it worked wonders, definitely going to be doing it more consistently moving forward! Thanks for watching and sharing this tip!
I think your hair looks great health over length any day
Thank you boo! #teamhealthoverlength ❤️❤️❤️
Sleep!!!😊
This is definitely my favorite self care activity Ms. Carla, I just wish I could get more of it 😂 thank you for sharing, I hope you and the family are well! ❤️
Take those iron pills girl! That deficiency can definitely make your hair thin. In the meantime, olaplex and K18 can hold you down. But that self cut came out cute for sure!
You’re right, I need to do better!! And Olaplex is truly that girl. I’ve been a fan of the No3 I just recently started using the No4 and No5 shampoo and conditioner and I’m loving them so far!
Try hot yoga and thank me later. 😂
You hair looks healthy and the cut is very flattering!
Whew chile, the way I’m hot natured they’d be carrying me out of hot yoga on a stretcher 😂😂😂 I’ve always wanted to try it just for the experience though!