Tips: Does it belong in your future? So watching Marie Kondo's show, I tried to do the home the same way. I got to sentimental and had a ton of crap still lying around in my joy pile. I remember her saying "Does it spark joy?". These things spark some joy, but mostly I wanted to keep it because of the memories. I then went back through the maybe pile and used "Does this belong in your future?" The answer was shocking for many items, even though it had a past- it did not belong in my future. This made it easier to release. Also, a few items that I was unsure of I sat aside and came back to it on a different day. I felt differently as I had not overwhelmed myself with a bombardment of sentimental feelings. I took lots of digital pictures and small videos of things that I wanted to remember, but not stash. I have a flash drive instead of a huge amount of tubs with papers, pictures etc in them. Highly recommend using the "future" method if you are having troubles.
Girl it's the best advice for decluttering. Ingenious. Been struggling with letting go. Now it's easier to do. Maybe u should write ur own decluttering book. Love ur advice More than Marie's and I'm obsessed wt her
That is a good mantra to use! I will try that. Because there are items that do spark joy, and yet do not belong in my future! So, the joy the item gave me in the past is acknowledged, and the way I see my future helps guide the decision. I am thinking of books that I loved, but because of my eyesight I am not really able to read books like I used to. You really helped. Thank you.
Thank you for that comment. I'm decluttering now, and that's what it is all about. The clutter and sentiment is like a ball and chain keeping me from moving forward.
Yes finally I can relate and not feel shitty when a RUclipsr is like “room cleaning video” and there’s like 5 shirts on the bed🤦🏻♀️ this is actually a perfect representation of how my room looked
A friend told me, if you're very sentimental about something, but don't use it anymore, or it doesn't spark joy, take a picture of it so it will spark your memory.
I now have a huge google drive folder of images of toys and places from when I was little. Most of them are stock images but they still spark so many memories. I now realize that my extreme anxiety around getting rid of childhood toys is about forgetting my childhood, not about not having the toys. It is easier (but not easy) to me to give away childhood toys.
I love how you really GET that Kon-mari is not so much about 'getting rid of' / Minimalism... but about KEEPING only that which Sparks Joy! That creates Freedom. A noble effort.. It seems you have gone though some real inner growth. Thanks for sharing! So happy for you guys.
It really is! I discovered Konmari just over two years ago and I've probably watched most of the videos. This was so nicely edited, you explained what you were doing without too much talking, beautiful music. I almost cheered when the walls changed colour. I hope Marie Kondo does get to watch this video.
Starting at 3:30 I have to give her ABSOLUTE PROPS for that entire next minute, because that emotional arc is pretty much what EACH OF US GO THROUGH WITH EACH PIECE that tugs at our heartstrings. It was SUCH A HUMAN, AUTHENTIC MOMENT. It was so gratifying for her to acknowledge that she didn't even know she had it, hadn't seen it for 10 years, and didn't need to possess it for the rest of her life for the 30 seconds of nostalgia it brought her. Wow, THAT MINUTE is the CRUX OF ALL OF IT. What really touched me was that tender moment where she realized she didn't need it, yet thought to thank it for triggering the memories, and then send it on it's way. Wow. That entire moment resonated with me SO POWERFULLY. Respect for this video to see how THEORY can be applied to our clutter, our memories, and our LIVES.
I agree! That's always the biggest reason that stops me from continuing to declutter... I wasn't strong enough to say goodbye even though I knew I didn't need it anymore... So I'd just pretend like I never started to avoid those decisions. 😭 So yes! BIG props to her final decision and dedication to continue and not give up! 🥰
💯 Respect for finding the strength to let go. It's especially emotionally difficult to discard stuff that came to you from a loved one who's now departed. (Guilty here - heck, I still have mementos of Mom & Dad and their parents going back up to 80+ years ago, to the mini cassette with Dad's last voicemail to me and the candy roses that Mom planned to put on my last birthday cake before she passed, but ended up in the hospital without having a chance to make it. They've been gone nearly 20 years and I'm just now starting to think about starting to thin out their stuff - meanwhile my cousin keeps sending boxes of cards and letter she finds at our grandparents' farmhouse that Grandma and Grandpa got from Mom and Dad! 🤷 One hint from an AARP decluttering webinar (iirc) is to take pictures of sentimental items that spark special memories but have no other reason to be kept. You might think you can maintain the memories without the item, especially when you're younger. But memories can fade or disappear with time and/or declining mental acuity - e.g., even the poster had forgotten about having her special sweatshirt. 🙂 (Seems like a good time to take that advice myself 😉😄). Best of success to you all on your own decluttering efforts! 😀
I struggle with this too but strive to reach a place whereby I can donate and have especially when it might help someone else. Some clothes might have stressful or sad or disappointing memories too and sometimes can let go of those too. I need to do this myself soon with some clothes, knick knacks and maybe some books and other misc items. Next time I move I want to be more organized and decluttered.
I was at a complete loss as to why she let go of her soccer jersey. It obviously sparks joy and a lot of memories. I have such a problem with people that are able to throw away these beautiful memorabilia. You can always re-purposed them and keep enjoying them. I don’t know how we’ve gotten to this place where it’s some kind of a “strength” to be able to kill the things that made us who we are.
@@foranniesthis is such a strange thing to take away from that moment. She even said “I didn’t even know I still had this. The memories are in my head” You don’t need to keep a soccer jersey to relive the memories, and if it’s been under her bed for 10 years it might as well have already been gone. The whole point is that THINGS don’t make us who we are. It’s the experiences and the memories that shape us I have such a problem with people that judge others for living their lives, and dealing with their things, in a different way. She’s obviously happy with her decision and explained as much in the video, so I’m not sure why you just assume it’s actually the opposite
With sentimental shirts you dont want to get rid of, cut the print from them into squares and make a quilt! This way you can have it all as one item and use it or hang it up
I thought the same thing. If they wont/can't do it, someone else will sew it for her. BUT: I wouldn't make one quilt out of all their stuff - they will be fighting over that when they break up (sorry) ..... or, they can torch it together so no one gets it. (double sorry)
Normally these videos tend to be super boring because people just show their stuff and its not made very well. But 2 min I can already tell this is going to be interesting and pleasant to watch
Interesting you say that - something else I noticed only a few minutes in was that these 2 really get what it means to declutter. Great comment in reply to the video and congratulations to this sweet couple - love that they did it as a couple as I think that makes a difference too. This is part of what makes RUclips special I think!
"Does this spark joy?"was too broad a question for me so I came up with my own questions: Why do I have this? How would I feel if I didn't have it? Then I would "shop" as if I had nothing and this was the store. I realized how many things I had only because they were memories sitting in my closet. They weren't things I would buy today.
I love that advice man, especially the 3rd step, that's a great way to think about it. Shop in your own room / house and see what you would buy. I love you, you kind of made my day, stranger on the internet :)
This makes more sense because a lot of things spark joy because most are memories or you'll think of somebody so it's too vague and I don't think it helps most people
This was actually quite helpful! I have years of stuff to declutter (clothes especially) & while this method sounds so beneficial, I don’t know if I’d actually be able to narrow down a lot, & I don’t like to do things half way... so I think I’ll come up with questions to ask myself like you did & “shop through” to see what’s relevant for me now... thank you so much for this tidbit! 🧡
i feel so safe in this comment section bc it helps us know that so many people have cluttered environments, whether it be your room, your car, your kitchen, bathroom, whatever it may be. it lets us know that we’re not alone and it happens to most people so we don’t always need to be overly embarrassed about it
Yes. My books are like my babies and my best friends. I have spent the past year giving away over 2000 books. Its been a very long and painful process. This week I counted what's left: 200 books. Very proud of myself!
For all of you struggling like I did trying to figure out what to do with those items you want to keep with a huge sentimental value attached to it....I made a quilt out of my Mothers and my Grandmothers clothing, actually I made three...one for me, my sister and my niece...best decision ever!!
Fantastic idea! My mom had a quilt that her mother made and it had pieces of Mom's school dresses she had worn in the 30's. Se still remembered the materials and looking at the quilt brought back memories. She was 93 at the time. You've make a wonderful decision!
Aawwhh even the idea of this is soo cyuuute definitely will recommend to my mum who has some clothes that actually i think i bring back from abroad that are my grandmothers and some clothes that were gifted to us by her late brother that we'r just can't part with i actually could still smell the musk my gran used on one of the scarves until a few months ago. My mum loved sewing as a teenager and young adult im sure she will love this idea if she is willing to declutter the house with me after i do our family room.
My hubby had a bunch of plaid shirts his late grandfather wore. They lived in the back of the closet. I noticed that most of them had red and green in them, so with hubby's permission I made a rag wreath out of them which we bring out every Christmas.
When you show the before and after picture I noticed you can actually see how much more sun light the room has during the day because there’s not so many things that can create shadows all over the place!!!
I am about to Konmari the ever-loving Hades out of my house. My husband has recently left me (so my Konmari method already started) and he is an awful hoarder...almost to the extreme of the TV show. I want to put as many degrees of separation between the person I was when I was with him and the person I want to be, so a lifestyle change is in order.
i love watching people who actually have messy rooms cleaning their rooms because i also have an actual messy room and it makes it so much comfortable to watch than the people who have like 3 items of clothes on the floor and say “cleaning my room!”
The amount of clutter we accumulate 🤢 I was a hoarder myself until I had a mental breakdown and now I can't go back to that, minimalism saved my sanity.
Tears welled up in my eyes watching you get emotional. Watching how emotionally/psychologically unburdening this simple process can be was therapeutic. Can’t wait to do this to my space
I dragged around lots of boxes of “memorabilia” over the years that turned out to be useless and silly. I thought the kids would want my stuff. Ha! No way! Now I’m 70 and in hospice. I purged, donated, or tossed everything. The important stuff was given away over the last few years. Now I have practically nothing. The lesson learned is get rid of more stuff as you go. Buy less. Keep less. Don’t bother hauling it from state to state, home to home, and storage locker to storage locker. It feels great and my kids are going to be burdened.
@christinawhite I appreciate how thoughtful you are of your children. Thank you for your insight on making those choices before you even spend your money aquiring more items. 💓✌️ Thank you.
There is a Swedish practice (I forgot the name, there is a book about it) that encourages everyone to purge with the thought of what they will be leaving behind to their relatives. It's great thought I think
I've been living a minimalist lifestyle for about 7 years now. Watching this brought back so many memories. I would never change living this minimalist lifestyle ever again. It truly brings you a special place of peace and tranquility. I'm proud of you both for your achievements. Keep up the great work.... remember it's a lifestyle that needs constant maintenance. You've got this! 💪🏻❤️
to everyone watching this instead of actually decluttering and cleaning, come on you can do it!!!! i'm like 3/4 done with my room, i just needed to watch this for some extra motivation across the finish line and it feels soooooo good being in here now.
I cleaned up my room about 3/4 of the way, and then I left it like that for two months. Just a tiny stack of clutter that I can't bring myself to finish up :,)
When your husband said "Does that spark joy?" and when you said "Yes" and he went "Then,keep it" with calming voice...🥰Komono means "small stuff" in Japanese btw💕
@@DG-ox6rp I thought they were high school sweethearts or something, since he had stuff in her childhood room. But at the end of the video she said the room contained all of her stuff from her childhood and school years, as well as their stuff from their NY apartment.
@@healingwaters1193 @5:27 she says (referencing the Lil' Wayne tshirt she's holding) "When we were first dating I got him this." as she talks to the camera. In case she could have been talking about someone that was not in the room that they both know (even though she followed by asking "Do you want that?" and he replies with "Yeah"), at about @14:50 she mentions the NY apartment they lived in together. And lists @15:43 where all her things came from.
Almost cried. Hé had so much love and compassion in his voice when hé Said just keep it. Its so amazing feeling to be supported while this therapy because thats what it is.
People often misinterpret Marie’s method of saying goodbye to things. You may have many things that have no use to you or have no value, but her method doesn’t place a value on items. Her method puts forth the question to oneself, Does the item spark joy or not? If it’s a shirt that is from a certain time that you could never bear to part from, then keep it, it’s obviously very special if you remember it so specifically. Don’t get rid of things you love, but just remember that memories are forever. If you have gotten all the joy you needed from the item then it’s time to let it go.
thank you for this comment Fabian. I completely agree the part in the video where I get rid of it was early in my KonMari-ing experience. As i progressed, i definitely realized i didn't need the jacket and so many other things. i kept one sweatshirt from my soccer days and one tshirt and that felt like more than enough when i still have lots of photos. Thanks for taking the time to go through her method in detail. i just got her book on my kindle and i'm really excited to read it and learn more! -- Dana
kathryn witte I’m sensing some hostility. Her book and ideology about cleaning and organizing seems to have upset you for some odd reason. But if you read her book, her method doesn’t place any value on items. Bras may seem boring but they can spark joy if they are comfortable for you or if they are your favorite. Sparking joy doesn’t mean each item is amazing, the term spark joy essentially boils down to if you truly need said item in your life or not, otherwise if the item doesn’t spark joy or have any actual purpose to you anymore then get rid of it. It’s pretty simple.
Fabian try to psychoanalyze me all you like but your initial premise is flawed. I have no interest in buying her book, just in pointing out that this "method" is the mumbo-jumbo new age fad of the moment and is unworkable in real life. That being said, you didn't answer me about if I should thank my bras and send them on their way because they don't bring me joy. But that doesn't fit in with your black and white narrative. Good luck with that.
kathryn witte kathryn witte Why are you upset about this method it’s pretty simple. You don’t want something anymore, get rid of it. A lot of this is common sense. Saying goodbye to clothing is essentially just remembering that all objects had worth at some point and to not simply throw things away with abandon, or buy things you don’t need with abandon. This method is to help people who don’t have any organizational skills. No ones forcing you to use her way of organizing so why are you so mad in the first place. Something as basic as underwear is a necessity, but many have pairs they don’t like or use, yet still keep. Getting rid of the ones that don’t “spark joy” and keeping the ones you actually really like is the entire method, simple as that.
I absolutely love de-cluttering, now my bedroom takes less than five minutes to tidy up. It smells so fresh and looks so smart. 😍 I wished I could find people to help do this with them. I love the before and afters. Superb job 👏 👌
I do this for all of my friends. then help discover what they need to keep it that way. it's usually attractive accessible storage, macro organizing, and good flow.
If you haven’t gotten rid of your Varsity Jacket? You could put it in a Glass Shadow box display Case with Photo’s, and put on your Wall? Hope it’s not to late.💜
Cluttered room, cluttered house, cluttered car, cluttered mind blocking the path to a peaceful and disciplined life. In our house it was friends and family giving the kids stuff, more stuff than was good for anyone never mind a little kid. I used to quietly put a lot of it in the attic unopened, beg aunts and grandparents to limit it and suggest events rather than things but they couldn’t help themselves. Take a walk with your grandkids, bake cookies with them but stop buying them stuff. Thanks.
I can relate to this a lot. My mom used to trash drive and do yard sales to make extra money. So everytime my kids would go to her house she would give them so much stuff. My house got so cluttered and she would get mad when I told her we don't need anymore stuff. Instead of fighting I would say whatever and bag it up then get home and put the bag right in the trash.
I see that with my mom, my sister and my brother’s mother-in-law.. people buy so many things that are not needed at all. If I ever had kids, I would buy them what they need - if you want to give them something, you can send money on the separate accounts for their future, so they can have easier start. For some reason it’s a big taboo in here to give money - why? It’s the easiest thing to do
My problem is I upcycle junk and sell it... Sooo, everyone I know gives me stuff. A pan here, a few scraps of wood there, a little wood cabinet here, until I just don't have time to get to every piece, but when I look at it, I can see it's AMAZING potential when I do get to it.... So, lol, what then?!
Here's a very good tip when getting rid of clothes: ALWAYS CHECK THE POCKETS! I was sorting out clothes and threw a pair of shorts in the donate box. After a while, I remembered I should check the pockets, even though I was pretty sure there wasn't anything in there. I found my very special rainbow string trick string that I wore on my wrist everywhere I went for 8 years. I got it from my aunt and I taught my close friends and siblings string tricks with it. I almost lost it forever! Also, one time I found a $20 bill in some pants at the thrift store. Always check the pockets!!
SO true! I helped my daughter Kondo her room. Then she could not find her favorite rings for months. One day I put on a jacket that I swiped from her give away pile...wallah, I found her rings in the pocket! Glad you found your trick string:-) Oh, and a good idea to check pockets before you wash your clothes too...yesterday my husband washed his keys! Thankfully his was the one without the key fob! This video was so inspiring, and peaceful. I LOVE the color change too...my daughter found that sunny yellow is her happy color...I am sending this to her to watch!
Yes, this also accounts for "empty" envelopes!! I was about to throw one out because it had no card left in there, but I thought to check and found 40 euros! Edit: just realized this comment is from a year ago..
When we bought an old house built in 1915 including all the contents, we found a pair of overalls with 120 dollars in one of the pockets! (We only paid 100 dollars for the contents back in 1978.)
Seeing you love your jacket yet go through the process of letting it go was so special. Many people who have decluttering videos aren’t sentimental- they easily throw things away. It was great to see your process - that it’s ok to be sentimental and still let things go. Thank you for that. 💕
College days were the best year of my life, so, I don't think I could get rid of my traveling theatre sweater 😭 It's super worn out, but I still used it, so it will stay 🤣
I can totally relate to this! I have started and stopped the declutter process several times because I would get emotionally overwhelmed; I grew up very poor, so the need for me to collect and keep "stuff" is very strong. Thanks for posting this video, and for giving me the courage to try again!
Im the baby in the fam so i grew up with my older siblings getting me EVERYTHING because they didnt have that growing up .im thankful for them and my parents giving me everything but at one point i realized i couldnt live like that just wanting all these materialistic items ..(I AM HUGE WITH KEEPSAKES THOE) .so at 16 i got my job and learned to limit myself and instead of getting all these items i decided to go out on adventures trips make memories ... As she said "all the memories are in my head" i bet if you try it it could be easier to declutter
That’s my problem. Now that I have stuff I don’t want to let it ago. I think because a huge piece of me is thinking like I could never afford this now I have it so I can’t let anything go.
Your de-cluttering video actually tells a great story about the emotional aspect of de-cluttering and how difficult letting go of some items that held a treasured place in a person's history can be. I adored how you said that the things, themselves, were not as important because the memory of why they are important lives in your mind already. GREAT video! Best Wishes ~ Rachel
I'm packing for college right now and I've been having a hard time getting rid of sentimental things... Dana, getting rid of your varsity soccer jacket really helped me realize that it's not the thing itself that's special, but the memories that are tied to it. Having that mentality has made it so much easier to get rid of things, which ultimately makes me feel better... So thank you for this video!
I did this to my room a few years ago when I was about 15 because I wanted to redo my bedroom. My parents had kind of always just thrown random, worn out, unmatching furniture and decor into my room since I was a baby and it was filled with old toys so I wanted a makeover. I had been very depressed as a child and young teenager because of issues with my parents so when I decluttered and got rid of all my old toys and furniture it just was a huge relief. I've also been much more organized and somewhat minimalist since then. It wasn't so sad as it was happy because I was getting rid of objects that made me upset, not sentimental. I can't imagine the strength you must have to get rid of things that give you happy memories. I'm thinking of doing a slight declutter again soon because my room has gotten a little too busy for my tastes and so I'm trying to emotionally prepare for it. I feel much more inspired now having watched you.
After 10 minutes of this video, I got up and decluttered my shoe closet. Before that I thought today I will not even be able to get out of bed. See what you made me do :) Thank you
I agree with whoever said that taking a picture of some sentimental items helped them. I might also recommend writing about sentimental items, as that helped me when I had to go through my deceased father's possessions which were extremely sentimental for me. He had a cologne collection and I had no intention of wearing his colognes or giving them to my fiancé, so I wrote down the names of them so that if I want to smell them again, I can just find a tester or sample at a store.
I've watched this video about 4 or 5 times, just to get inspiration and motivation to go over all my stuff once again. I haven't found any similar youtube videos that gives me as much boost in removing unnecessary things from my life. Thanks!
I've seen a lot of Marie Kondo inspired videos, even some from WAY before her Netflix show, but your video is the first to make me cry. Yours is the first I could relate to. Yours is the first that made me re-think the whole craze. You have inspired me... Probably more than Marie Kondo herself. Thank you.
Wow, Robin, I don't know what to say other than thank you. Thank you for taking the time to connect with our video and to leave this beautiful comment. I'm so happy you could relate to our experience and that it could inspire you. Hope you're having a beautiful weekend -- Dana
Ditto! Ditto! and ditto again! :} My husband has been trying to Marie Kondo me and my stuff for 25 years. He'll be so thankful I fell down the RUclips rabbit hole and stumbled upon your video. I felt I was in the room with you guys - crying and sighing. Now, I too, must first clean off the bed.... Thank you so much for this experience. Love!
I did this once and honestly after you cry and just "let go!" of all that clutter it feels amazing, the crying and emotional part honestly unclutters your mind and heart.
I'm getting emotional just thinking about it. I know I have stuff from 20 yrs ago that I haven't looked at for years. I'll be moving in my new home in several months and I don't want to take a bunch of clutter so I like the thought of doing this and uncluttering my mind and heart and starting anew.
I am so impressed with the results of this declutter. It's absolutely amazing, and I think it's nice hearing your reasoning for what to keep and not, especially when it comes to sentimental items. I think sometimes we can get hung up on an item being sentimental, but forgetting that even though it's sentimental, we maybe don't need to keep ALL of those items. I find that those few items I've decided to keep after my grandmothers are much more precious to me than if I would have kept everything I could have kept. This is also the one KonMari video I come back to again and again, because I think it's such a good representation of the method.
not sure if you already got rid of the clothes, but if you have sentimental clothing items you could like make a pillowcase out of it or make a patch work blanket (if you have a lot) that way you keep the memories close and give the clothes a new life and actually use it.
That's a great idea - if you actually do it. More often, what you "keep" is another unfinished project. And having unfinished projects all over your house saps joy. If you know somebody who makes quilts or throw pillows, etc., think about hiring out the job. Would it be worth it to you to pay what it would cost? If not, it's probably not worth it to you to do it, and it's likely going to wind up being another guilt-producing thing you were going to do but didn't.
@@clarsa1 true, the comment was kinda meant for people who like doing this kinds of projects, and if you have shirts you are sentimental about and all. of course if you don't like doing it you shouldn't, or ask family of friends of even hire someone to do it (if you really want to keep the sentimental shirts)
you could also frame it if like myself you find the concept of cutting it up absolutely horrifying and sacrilege. that way you can frame it and you still have the thing that sparks joy and a new decor item to grace your walls! :)
I make quilts, and this is something I am doing for my daughter's first 8 years of clothing. I'm making them into a quilt. However, again, this is something I do regularly, and well.
i started crying when she talked about her memories playing soccer. i have old cheerleading sweatshirts that ive kept that i dont wear but when i look at them i see all the laughs i once had and the memories i dont want to let go.
you can make a wall arrangement - the sweater, pompoms, a photo of you cheerleading, etc. You can put it in a large frame or just attach to the wall - if it is REALLY sentimental and a significant part of who you are. If not, then maybe the "take a photo" idea is best.
@@TNDCBaby keep your treasures, everything is not disposable or replaceable. When you are as old as I am, these things will spark memories and joy. Don't throw out a mass of belongings just to have more room, for what? To go shopping and buy more stuff? I am a tidy freak but I have a lot of very tidy boxes with treasures, even my children's baby teeth. Guilty!! Happy✔️✔️
Seven full large trash bags (so far) of clothes cleared from my closet, half still with price tags on them, and 2 boxes of coats that I'm happy to be getting rid of. It was hard starting this process at first but now it actually feels liberating to be passing these items forward. My new rule is if I haven't seen or worn it in years then it's outta here! I think it's a sin to just hold onto things when someone out here may really need it. They bought me joy and I hope it does the same for the next person.
I have used the photo method with great success! That is a picture of something you don't want to keep, but want to keep the memory. You gave yourselves a great gift!
I really love how you guys transformed your place! Congratulations. I am Japanese and I read Marie's book a long time ago. Now her method has impacted all over the world. To be honest I am very surprised that people understand the way she told us how to appreciate our material belongings so deeply because it is very common in Japan and I thought it might be a too Japanese thing. Parents tell you to take care of and thank our material belongings when you are little. We believe that there's a spirit inside each material thing. Now I can see my culture and background from a different perspective which is very nice. Thank YOU for the video for reminding me of our beautiful culture💗
Could you tell us more about that? I’ve been convinced that things are animate for a long time and I’ve always felt crazy for thinking so. Maybe I am able to feel it. It keeps me from wanting to part with my things. I feel disloyal to them.
This is honestly the first time (since the Netflix show came out) that I've genuinely enjoyed a Konmari Declutter video. Your style of editing was fresh and interesting!
My girlfriend and I have been tackling this for about three months now. This weekend, she was literally bawling because she couldn't part with three pieces of clothing that she had purchased at the World Trade Center back in 2000 (the store chain is out of business too). Some things are worth keeping, even if they reside in a box in your closet.
i hate to tell you what's maybe obvious, especially 4 months after you made this comment, but maybe keep the three pieces of clothing she cries over? they seem to spark more than just joy, and seem to qualify as sentimental items and not just clothing
@@kennip24 I disagree. The first two sentences say nothing about what was kept. The third sentence implies that the clothing may have been kept, but implications aren't proofs. It seems obvious to you, perhaps, I'm guessing or assuming, ironically I know, to make assumptions, but the reality is that, or rather, it's been my experience that jumping to conclusions the way I think you have done, results in miscommunication, and all types of "negative outcomes" can result from miscommunication. Like fights, and altercations.
@@kennip24 I would even say, to your credit, that the second sentence could imply that they kept the clothing, but honestly, when I read that sentence, it seems vague. Saying "This weekend, she was literally bawling because she couldn't part with three pieces of clothing that she had purchased at the World Trade Center back in 2000 (the store chain is out of business too)." suggests, and even implies, but it's different than saying "This weekend [the rest of the quote]; she kept the clothing."
@@bethenawaltz4190 oh my god dude, you really went full MLA response essay on this when literally all you had to do was just re-read the sentence to understand. my freaking goodness lmfao
I wonder how productive my life would be if I watched this every morning and then took that energy into my day. I'd prob be president of the world in 3 months
Another reason to de-clutter is that you are leaving such a gift to those who you leave behind after your death Really, consider the burden and guilt you will leave to your family if they have to discard a large amount of clutter Only possess things they can tell you loved so that they might keep them and love them too OR give them away to others who will love them. Get rid of that Crap that just weighs you down. It’s a great feeling and your family will reap the benefit of your thoughtfulness
Tip: if it's too overwhelming or too many to do it with all clothes, I saw another RUclipsr with an excellent tip to do it by category, e.g. all tops, all pants, all bras, etc. It's helpful because then you can literally choose the best ones in each category to keep. Also if an entire category is depleted, time to go shopping for 2-3 new items to appropriately replace, e.g. get rid of 6-7 ripped,, tight, worn out jeans, replace with 2 new, well finished, nicer jeans.
Yes, just one category can be that at a time. And doing just one room (the way the author of the video does) is not recommendable because the reason why you are supposed to do the whole house because the items from the same category might be in different areas of the house... And then you choose just one spot in the house for that category
I love how well this video was edited. Showing the struggles of letting go of things that once meant so much to you. I’ve been struggling with this for so long. I’ve accumulated so many clothes to fill voids and my life and I honestly don’t know how to get rid of it without feeling gilts or like I’ve lost money. For months/ Years I’ve been telling myself I am going to sell the items but I haven’t and don’t have the energy to. I just want this stuff gone so i can genuinely feel happy. Thank you for this video 🙏🏽
I agree with the Konmari Method but I think that with some of the sentimental clothing you con keep and make a memory blanket or throw out of. You could cut the graphics down to a certain size then join them together to create a piece that would be useful. You may even want to hand it down to a loved one. I did this lay with some of my family’s jeans, I made a blanket for the beach or picnics. I even let my grandchildren draw on it I I also took some of the graphics from t-shirts sew them onto the blanket. This was more than 10 years ago and we still use it and continue to draw on it and add embroidery and graphics from t-shirts on to it. It’s a fun piece. Thank They love it and want to keep it when I leave this earth. So repurpose some of those items that do spark joy but no longer serve the purpose they were intended for. Just a thought.
Ivette, I agree. I've done the same. Using what u have & put that n2 a quilt. No matter who is using a quilt made my someone (rather than one commercially made) that homemade quilt will provide a source of comfort like no other! :)
I was going to suggest this! I am immensely sentimental and looove T-shirts (I ran cross country and half marathons for six years and I got a shirt for nearly everything). My friend and I each made a "quilt" out of the shirts we love but don't wear anymore and we use them for camping/star gazing/picnicking!!
Maybe not. It' just transforming physical clutter into electronic clutter. And I don't know, but maybe it is even easier to decluter physical spaces than electronical?
I am purging and cleaning my room, my depression has literally trapped me in a continuous cycle of my room being constantly disorganized. I am ridden by anxiety when it comes to even the thought. I struggle with getting rid of things (not in a hoarding way) just like clothing and certain items. And this video gave me the mindset to give away those t shirts I don’t wear, the books I don’t read, and the items that truly don’t spark me joy OFTEN, not just once. Thank you for sharing! 💗
All I can think about is why do we have all this stuff in the first place and when we make it 'disappear' from our lives it's now all just moved conveniently out of our view but it still exists somewhere on our planet. The amount of resources used to produce and discard this stuff makes my head spin but I'm so happy to see people becoming more aware and mindful about our collective out-of-control consumption habits that we feel entitled to.
I agree, and hopefully this will teach people to not be so compulsive in the future and think about what they are purchasing instead of just purchasing on a whim.
I agree, konmari is a fantastic lesson in mindfulness and awareness and it’s shocking how much I at least got rid of, made me guilty about the money wasted and the waste of the items environmentally, even though most was donated. I wonder if her show has had an impact on local municipalities and donor stores worldwide, if enough people have followed suit?!
hahah you're all ready to go and then you realize there are still a few more steps to go before you can even begin!!! Glad I'm not alone in that - Dana
I usually have a problem at the end of the weekend, come Sunday night, forgetting I had yet to put away my clean laundry that I threw on the bed from the dryer. Walk into my bedroom to go to bed and I'm always like, shiiiiiiiitttttt 😂
I did this about a year ago, and I couldn’t believe how many items didn’t spark joy, including clothing I’d never worn! I did it again in January before I moved. After I was all moved in I came up with a lot I wish I’d left behind. I’m 66, and these are things my family won’t have to deal with when I kick the bucket.
That idea reminds me of Swedish Death Cleaning! People start to declutter after they’re a certain age as an act of love for those who will have to go through their things while mourning their loss.
Amanda Mulvaney That’s exactly what it was! I don’t want to burden my daughter with clearing out junk when that day comes. I’ve given a lot away, and what’s left is either wanted as heirlooms or worth being sold on eBay. It’s enormously freeing!
I am 62 and doing the same thing . I try not think about two stories plus basement, plus two attics. I think about a little bit at a time and only do it when l am in a “ letting go” mood. Slow and steady. Goodwill must think l am homeless by now,😳😷🇨🇦
I couldn’t remember off the top of my head, but I googled it (it’s called “dostadning”) and found they recommend to start if you’re over 50, but they encourage anyone to start at any age.
Something that stuck to me because I know I can get indecisive is when she asks, "Is this something you want to bring with you in your future?" I think that makes a difference to me. It's not so much about just getting rid of things, but knowing what makes you happy and what you would like to have in your future.
This is truly one of the best declutter videos I've ever watched. Perfect music, realism and stopping to share with us. I've watched it several times, Like a good movie that makes you cry.
Was for me too. Then I realised that I could donate them - gave half to a children's home and the other half to a remand home for kids. Was so easy to let go of my childhood things knowing that other children would get to benefit a little from them
I found I had to change my boundaries around books. Stopped keeping ones just because I thought I would enjoy re-reading them & now only keep them if they are going to help me in some way. Includes some that cheer me up & some that inspire & some for information.
Marie Kondo completely changed my perspective on stuff too. Thanks to her, the Swedish death cleaning method and my anxiety when my space is untidy, I am daily searching out 'things' that no longer serve me and my family purpose, so it gets moved on.
Same!! I know I’m one among many compassionate people who cry when others cry, and almost feel what others feel. Sometimes it’s good and sometimes I’m like “get that away from me, I just did my makeup!!” Lol
If they are sparking emotions, they are put aside to the sentimental pile. And it’s ok to keep things if they remind you of something happy. Or let it go and just keep the memories Either way, great job. I’m proud of you 💗
That tip from the subscriber you mentioned about taking a photo to preserve memory and help let go of the physical item-- GENIUS. I've always used that to help avoid spending money at the store (taking a picture of a cute item instead of splurging unnecessarily) but I never thought to use that as a way to let go of possessions! This is exactly what I needed today.
Renae Collum I do the store thing too!! Even if I have enough money and I want something so badly, I’ll take a photo of it! If I want it bad enough, I’ll remember it, and who knows if I’ll buy it by then!
Used this method when having to purge my daughter's many stuffed animals😢..made it so much easier to "let go" by taking a pic of as i am sentimental and so many stories of "why" i bought each one!😊👍
I was not even 5 min into this video and I was already crying, I am a person who likes to keep stuff, I feel anxiety when it comes to throw away stuff because I think there's gonna be a day in which I might need it (not even gonna mention the sentimental part), so this video was actually helpful and inspiring, I'm looking at my room which has been messy for almost a month and you really have pushed me to get to work and finally get rid of everything that isn't sparking joy anymore, this was beautiful, thank you so much for sharing this
I watching vogue 72 questions and this lady from Gucci or somewhere was saying the worst trend that needs to go is minimalist and I couldn’t agree more! Why throw everything out... unless you have the money to buy new things
2 years ago I found out about Marie Kondo & the Minimalists. I applied their methods to my life and I can say it was life-changing. Well done to you for taking the plunge and decluttering your space and mind :)
Didn't use here method, just a item a day for 30 days. Low n behold after first day ,was adding more that stuff to dumped. The feeling was great. Took my time, gave me time to see what I really didn't want, need to keep. No regreats
Hey I want to try this method too but first it's really important for me to know this: do you tend to buy more stuff now? or is it the opposite and you actually buy and consume a lot less?
@@partsofearth no I actually don't! Now I find myself being more conscious about buying an item/s and seeing if it sparks joy. I would definitely say I buy and consume less and when I buy something it truly sparks joy. I'm going to be posting videos on Konmari and Minimalism soon so stay tuned on my channel if you're interested :)
The fact that your husband was willing to help you and DID help you throughout this process fills my heart with joy because I found this so cute! Also, this gave me my own inspiration (and realization) that I seriously need to clean my room too XD
I know right! My husband is lazy and doesn’t even clean up after himself, or help around the house (which I bring up almost every single day, so don’t worry I don’t let him get away with it lol)
When you lose everything in a 🔥....you realize those memories are still with you...the memories don't have to be attached to an item. I don't miss those things I hung onto for years
Yes, sometimes I just want to set the place on fire and start over! Another thing that can be really helpful is, when decluttering and thinking of things that you might want to keep, think about, if I only had 10 minutes to grab something what would I grab? That helps to minimize what you really need.
The instrumental parts where you show your struggle is actually really helpful. It lets me know my own struggles are real, and not a hindrance. So many magazines or tv shows show clutter-free living areas but that isn’t reality.
Here's the dope shit tho...you can just look at this video and use this as the memories after you throw those things out. Videos don't take up space in your house, you can pull up the memory from virtually anywhere, your eventual kids can watch this video and see your reactions and joy to the things you eventually threw out and...unless the youtube servers blow up, it'll be here forever.
Yep. I was going to comment something similar. For papers and old school projects that my mom had saved of mine and my sister's I took photos of the things that I thought were cute or sparked a memory of making it. Then I tossed it all out.
Me! And just watching it is exhausting me. I would just end up with all that clutter on the bed and nowhere to sleep because I sure wouldn't be able to deal with it all in one day. The trouble is when you get older you realise that you're never going to need all the stuff you've accumulated over decades and are just going to leave a whole lot of stuff that your kids won't want and will have to clear out when you're gone. I just regret not getting rid when I was younger and able to haul it all downstairs and out to the car for disposal. Plus in this COVID pandemic it's not that easy to dispose of it cos the charity shops are backlogged as they have to quarantine everything and some of my clothes still have the price tags on so too good to put in the public recycle bins. Now I'm having a panic attack just thinking about it all ...lol. Just close the door on it all (even if it does mean leaning on it to get it shut) and go and binge watch something on Netflix 😁
This is me, I feel terrible for everything I keep. But it’s a lot of emotional hardships I had gone through. Through out 28 years, I had a hoarding thing, due to not having a lot as a kid. Maybe it’s time.
The thing about the konmari method is that it doesn’t reverse to the previous condition because you don’t have lots of stuff anymore and everything you have you love
I don’t know who you guys are, this is my first time encountering your channel but i want to say Thank You for this video because it motivated me to tackle my big ass bedroom that looked like something out of hoarders. Thanks again for showing how to tackle everything in sections!
I am literally crying right now watching this video. Because I am taking that journey at this exact moment. And I came on RUclips to escape my feelings and ended up here and I realize that I’ve got to let them out and it’s just all so overwhelming yet so deeply rooted. I HAVE to finish this journey.
All the previous comments about film editing made me sit for a moment and rerun things in my mind. Yes! I'm not sure I ever noticed good editing just bad editing, which pokes at you when you see it. So thanks to everyone who knows and notices such things for helping *me* notice them also.
I watched this about a year or two ago. I do believe it was around the time I was introduced to the Konmari method. I did begin the process, but it became too overwhelming. I compliment your hubby for being there and being that support and vise versa. I think the way you'll shared your experience is what kind of catapult me to try; however, because I was doing it all on my own, it felt too big of a task..today I coin my situation as a "quarter hoarder".This is because about a quarter of my room looks hoarderous, and has been the cause of many tearful days and nights. My living room is the same. Yet, I haven't given up, and I feel more determined because I've been watching much more DIY decluttering vids. This is how i came across yours once again. I enjoyed it then and even now. I like the teamwork and the results are spectacular. I hope you'll are well and still enjoying life. Just wanted to drop this note here to say video is still encouraging. 👍🏼
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Step one: put all clothes on bed. Step two: sleep on couch for a month.
😂 too relatable!
Lol
😂😂😂😂😂
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Exactly
Decluttering is an emotional journey that most people aren’t prepared for.
David Arbelaez Soo true!!
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David Arbelaez I dont want to sound disrespectful but only American houses are clutter.For some reason you spend your free time shopping....
So true, among all the stuff I find, I mostly find myself! It’s very draining and very rewarding ❤️
Lena Annis and what about it?
Tips: Does it belong in your future?
So watching Marie Kondo's show, I tried to do the home the same way. I got to sentimental and had a ton of crap still lying around in my joy pile. I remember her saying "Does it spark joy?". These things spark some joy, but mostly I wanted to keep it because of the memories. I then went back through the maybe pile and used "Does this belong in your future?" The answer was shocking for many items, even though it had a past- it did not belong in my future. This made it easier to release. Also, a few items that I was unsure of I sat aside and came back to it on a different day. I felt differently as I had not overwhelmed myself with a bombardment of sentimental feelings. I took lots of digital pictures and small videos of things that I wanted to remember, but not stash. I have a flash drive instead of a huge amount of tubs with papers, pictures etc in them. Highly recommend using the "future" method if you are having troubles.
Great points.
Girl it's the best advice for decluttering. Ingenious. Been struggling with letting go. Now it's easier to do. Maybe u should write ur own decluttering book. Love ur advice More than Marie's and I'm obsessed wt her
@@merialshyn😊😊😊
That is a good mantra to use! I will try that. Because there are items that do spark joy, and yet do not belong in my future! So, the joy the item gave me in the past is acknowledged, and the way I see my future helps guide the decision. I am thinking of books that I loved, but because of my eyesight I am not really able to read books like I used to. You really helped. Thank you.
Thank you for that comment. I'm decluttering now, and that's what it is all about. The clutter and sentiment is like a ball and chain keeping me from moving forward.
I love the fact that you both are peacefully decluttering together...emphasis on the word peaceful lol...very inspiring
I agree, #relationshipgoals
The magic of editing? That's what it would take in my house 😆
I also appreciate the sentimental 'release of memorabilia' moments, too....because the struggle is real.
If my husband, I'll declutter and is cluttering
lol
Finally someone who actually has a mesy cluttered room
hopeless heathen right?? I have a cluttered everything and it’s so overwhelming
Yes finally I can relate and not feel shitty when a RUclipsr is like “room cleaning video” and there’s like 5 shirts on the bed🤦🏻♀️ this is actually a perfect representation of how my room looked
A friend told me, if you're very sentimental about something, but don't use it anymore, or it doesn't spark joy, take a picture of it so it will spark your memory.
yes! you also may write your memories down:)
I now have a huge google drive folder of images of toys and places from when I was little. Most of them are stock images but they still spark so many memories. I now realize that my extreme anxiety around getting rid of childhood toys is about forgetting my childhood, not about not having the toys. It is easier (but not easy) to me to give away childhood toys.
I do that to
Thank you, Katma. This will allow me to keep the memories, even though I no longer have the physical reminder.
#theminimalist
Honestly the best Konmari video on the internet. Congratulations.
gahh thank your Kathryn!!! That means so much to us both :):) - Dana
I agree!
Me too, agree.
I love how you really GET that Kon-mari is not so much about 'getting rid of' / Minimalism... but about KEEPING only that which Sparks Joy! That creates Freedom.
A noble effort.. It seems you have gone though some real inner growth. Thanks for sharing!
So happy for you guys.
It really is! I discovered Konmari just over two years ago and I've probably watched most of the videos. This was so nicely edited, you explained what you were doing without too much talking, beautiful music. I almost cheered when the walls changed colour. I hope Marie Kondo does get to watch this video.
Starting at 3:30 I have to give her ABSOLUTE PROPS for that entire next minute, because that emotional arc is pretty much what EACH OF US GO THROUGH WITH EACH PIECE that tugs at our heartstrings. It was SUCH A HUMAN, AUTHENTIC MOMENT. It was so gratifying for her to acknowledge that she didn't even know she had it, hadn't seen it for 10 years, and didn't need to possess it for the rest of her life for the 30 seconds of nostalgia it brought her. Wow, THAT MINUTE is the CRUX OF ALL OF IT. What really touched me was that tender moment where she realized she didn't need it, yet thought to thank it for triggering the memories, and then send it on it's way. Wow. That entire moment resonated with me SO POWERFULLY.
Respect for this video to see how THEORY can be applied to our clutter, our memories, and our LIVES.
I agree! That's always the biggest reason that stops me from continuing to declutter... I wasn't strong enough to say goodbye even though I knew I didn't need it anymore... So I'd just pretend like I never started to avoid those decisions. 😭 So yes! BIG props to her final decision and dedication to continue and not give up! 🥰
💯 Respect for finding the strength to let go. It's especially emotionally difficult to discard stuff that came to you from a loved one who's now departed. (Guilty here - heck, I still have mementos of Mom & Dad and their parents going back up to 80+ years ago, to the mini cassette with Dad's last voicemail to me and the candy roses that Mom planned to put on my last birthday cake before she passed, but ended up in the hospital without having a chance to make it. They've been gone nearly 20 years and I'm just now starting to think about starting to thin out their stuff - meanwhile my cousin keeps sending boxes of cards and letter she finds at our grandparents' farmhouse that Grandma and Grandpa got from Mom and Dad! 🤷
One hint from an AARP decluttering webinar (iirc) is to take pictures of sentimental items that spark special memories but have no other reason to be kept. You might think you can maintain the memories without the item, especially when you're younger. But memories can fade or disappear with time and/or declining mental acuity - e.g., even the poster had forgotten about having her special sweatshirt. 🙂 (Seems like a good time to take that advice myself 😉😄). Best of success to you all on your own decluttering efforts! 😀
I struggle with this too but strive to reach a place whereby I can donate and have especially when it might help someone else. Some clothes might have stressful or sad or disappointing memories too and sometimes can let go of those too. I need to do this myself soon with some clothes, knick knacks and maybe some books and other misc items. Next time I move I want to be more organized and decluttered.
I was at a complete loss as to why she let go of her soccer jersey. It obviously sparks joy and a lot of memories. I have such a problem with people that are able to throw away these beautiful memorabilia. You can always re-purposed them and keep enjoying them. I don’t know how we’ve gotten to this place where it’s some kind of a “strength” to be able to kill the things that made us who we are.
@@foranniesthis is such a strange thing to take away from that moment. She even said “I didn’t even know I still had this. The memories are in my head”
You don’t need to keep a soccer jersey to relive the memories, and if it’s been under her bed for 10 years it might as well have already been gone.
The whole point is that THINGS don’t make us who we are. It’s the experiences and the memories that shape us
I have such a problem with people that judge others for living their lives, and dealing with their things, in a different way. She’s obviously happy with her decision and explained as much in the video, so I’m not sure why you just assume it’s actually the opposite
With sentimental shirts you dont want to get rid of, cut the print from them into squares and make a quilt! This way you can have it all as one item and use it or hang it up
I thought the same thing. If they wont/can't do it, someone else will sew it for her. BUT: I wouldn't make one quilt out of all their stuff - they will be fighting over that when they break up (sorry) ..... or, they can torch it together so no one gets it. (double sorry)
@@oneitalia2312 IF they break up
Take a picture of it. Frame the photo and enjoy as desired.
That’s the hard part with hoarding I think about all the cool stuff I can make one day.. glass jars clothes books paper
It's just hoarding in a diff way.. Everytime you make something new out of the things you need to get rid off
Normally these videos tend to be super boring because people just show their stuff and its not made very well. But 2 min I can already tell this is going to be interesting and pleasant to watch
aww hope you enjoyed the rest of it too Helena!! :):) - Dana
Totally agree. You added in your personalities, human elements, but still managed to keep this creative.
Yes, great editing job. You turned it into more of a relaxing journey instead of a hoarders episode lol
Interesting you say that - something else I noticed only a few minutes in was that these 2 really get what it means to declutter. Great comment in reply to the video and congratulations to this sweet couple - love that they did it as a couple as I think that makes a difference too. This is part of what makes RUclips special I think!
"Does this spark joy?"was too broad a question for me so I came up with my own questions: Why do I have this? How would I feel if I didn't have it? Then I would "shop" as if I had nothing and this was the store. I realized how many things I had only because they were memories sitting in my closet. They weren't things I would buy today.
I love that advice man, especially the 3rd step, that's a great way to think about it. Shop in your own room / house and see what you would buy. I love you, you kind of made my day, stranger on the internet :)
@@WuschelofDespair what a wonderful thing to say. Who doesn't love to know they've made an impact of some kind? Thank you 😊
This makes more sense because a lot of things spark joy because most are memories or you'll think of somebody so it's too vague and I don't think it helps most people
This was actually quite helpful! I have years of stuff to declutter (clothes especially) & while this method sounds so beneficial, I don’t know if I’d actually be able to narrow down a lot, & I don’t like to do things half way... so I think I’ll come up with questions to ask myself like you did & “shop through” to see what’s relevant for me now... thank you so much for this tidbit! 🧡
@@InnerBeautyUnleashed 😍 Thank you for taking the time to tell me that I helped. That means the world to me. ❤️
i feel so safe in this comment section bc it helps us know that so many people have cluttered environments, whether it be your room, your car, your kitchen, bathroom, whatever it may be. it lets us know that we’re not alone and it happens to most people so we don’t always need to be overly embarrassed about it
We have more of a relationship with our stuff than we do other people.
Because its other people and not your people?
I started shopping online more than ever when i had traumatic events with other people, who i thought were my people.
Our stuff is kinder and we can trust it.
It shouldn't be this way. We can talk to people but we can't talk to stuff!
Yes. My books are like my babies and my best friends. I have spent the past year giving away over 2000 books. Its been a very long and painful process. This week I counted what's left: 200 books. Very proud of myself!
In a world where we've been trained to consume, the best thing one can do is to let go.
Did you come up with this quote yourself??
@@iCOOKIEmischief hey, yes I have 👍 my personal thought and opinion!
wow i love this!!
The best thing is not to let go..but to buy less. Consume less and save environment
"PanosPlays" material goods are not the only thing we should let go of
When you declutter, you get rid of a lot of old energy. Its an adjustment.
they live in their van
Chandi Rodriguez that is so true!
As a hoarder I’m very grateful for how real this video is! I feel like I can get over my materialism.
Awww... that's so sweet he so unselfishly said "keep it"... awww...
Good man u got there sis..
Definitely❤
For all of you struggling like I did trying to figure out what to do with those items you want to keep with a huge sentimental value attached to it....I made a quilt out of my Mothers and my Grandmothers clothing, actually I made three...one for me, my sister and my niece...best decision ever!!
Fantastic idea! My mom had a quilt that her mother made and it had pieces of Mom's school dresses she had worn in the 30's. Se still remembered the materials and looking at the quilt brought back memories. She was 93 at the time. You've make a wonderful decision!
My mom did that 100% worth it
Aawwhh even the idea of this is soo cyuuute definitely will recommend to my mum who has some clothes that actually i think i bring back from abroad that are my grandmothers and some clothes that were gifted to us by her late brother that we'r just can't part with i actually could still smell the musk my gran used on one of the scarves until a few months ago. My mum loved sewing as a teenager and young adult im sure she will love this idea if she is willing to declutter the house with me after i do our family room.
I was just thinking about that with a bunch of these tour t-shirts I have.
My hubby had a bunch of plaid shirts his late grandfather wore.
They lived in the back of the closet. I noticed that most of them had red and green in them, so with hubby's permission I made a rag wreath out of them which we bring out every Christmas.
I like how gentle you guys are with each other. 😊
When you show the before and after picture I noticed you can actually see how much more sun light the room has during the day because there’s not so many things that can create shadows all over the place!!!
true!!
Things that don’t spark joy create shadows ❤ That’s deep Matilda!
I am about to Konmari the ever-loving Hades out of my house. My husband has recently left me (so my Konmari method already started) and he is an awful hoarder...almost to the extreme of the TV show. I want to put as many degrees of separation between the person I was when I was with him and the person I want to be, so a lifestyle change is in order.
I hope you have made so much progress!💙💚
Good luck!
I hope things go well for you!
Good luck! This is an excellent start to your new beginning and being more of who you are! 💙
My divorce is what really got me embracing minimalism too.
i love watching people who actually have messy rooms cleaning their rooms because i also have an actual messy room and it makes it so much comfortable to watch than the people who have like 3 items of clothes on the floor and say “cleaning my room!”
Same here !! 😂
I just hate the staged cluttered rooms. No dust, dirt, or stains the WTF?
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The amount of clutter we accumulate 🤢 I was a hoarder myself until I had a mental breakdown and now I can't go back to that, minimalism saved my sanity.
How did you do it?!?
I feel.like I'm nearly at breakdown point, I'm trying to get rid of stuff but my mum is a borderline hoarder.
@@laurakate4489 create a space for you lovely, that's yours alone and is free of clutter :)
GOOD FOR YOU!
don't ever go back to living like that.
Me too. I just threw stuff away I hadn’t touched in years. I love my new minimal space
Tears welled up in my eyes watching you get emotional. Watching how emotionally/psychologically unburdening this simple process can be was therapeutic. Can’t wait to do this to my space
Good to see couples being nice to each other
It's crazy how rare it is and weird to see for people to see that nowadays
Sentimental T-Shirts! I saved my kids t-shirts for over a decade and then had quilts made for them to enjoy their memories.
aww Ann that is a beautiful idea!! thank you :) - Dana
@@WildWeRoam I make braided area rugs
That's what I am in the process of doing.
or fold them into a square or rectangle and make them into a picture frame
Yes, that's what I'm doing for my daughter who is graduating high school this year. :)
I dragged around lots of boxes of “memorabilia” over the years that turned out to be useless and silly. I thought the kids would want my stuff. Ha! No way!
Now I’m 70 and in hospice. I purged, donated, or tossed everything. The important stuff was given away over the last few years. Now I have practically nothing. The lesson learned is get rid of more stuff as you go. Buy less. Keep less. Don’t bother hauling it from state to state, home to home, and storage locker to storage locker. It feels great and my kids are going to be burdened.
@christinawhite I appreciate how thoughtful you are of your children. Thank you for your insight on making those choices before you even spend your money aquiring more items. 💓✌️
Thank you.
There is a Swedish practice (I forgot the name, there is a book about it) that encourages everyone to purge with the thought of what they will be leaving behind to their relatives. It's great thought I think
Sorry to hear you’re in hospice. Praying for you.
@@sophiepostel9844 Swedish death cleaning
I hope you live your time left in peace, love and happiness. You are clearly a wise, sensible person...
I've been living a minimalist lifestyle for about 7 years now. Watching this brought back so many memories. I would never change living this minimalist lifestyle ever again. It truly brings you a special place of peace and tranquility. I'm proud of you both for your achievements. Keep up the great work.... remember it's a lifestyle that needs constant maintenance. You've got this! 💪🏻❤️
to everyone watching this instead of actually decluttering and cleaning, come on you can do it!!!! i'm like 3/4 done with my room, i just needed to watch this for some extra motivation across the finish line and it feels soooooo good being in here now.
Thanks for the encouragement
Ooof
Thanks bestie
Awhh thats sweet if you. Im just currently having a bit if a mental breakdown after 1/4 kinda done with my room
I cleaned up my room about 3/4 of the way, and then I left it like that for two months. Just a tiny stack of clutter that I can't bring myself to finish up :,)
When your husband said "Does that spark joy?" and when you said "Yes" and he went "Then,keep it" with calming voice...🥰Komono means "small stuff" in Japanese btw💕
They are a couple ?? I thought they were only roommates
@@DG-ox6rp I thought they were high school sweethearts or something, since he had stuff in her childhood room. But at the end of the video she said the room contained all of her stuff from her childhood and school years, as well as their stuff from their NY apartment.
She mentions when they first started dating when she held up the tshirt with some jazz singer or someone on it ?
@@healingwaters1193 @5:27 she says (referencing the Lil' Wayne tshirt she's holding) "When we were first dating I got him this." as she talks to the camera. In case she could have been talking about someone that was not in the room that they both know (even though she followed by asking "Do you want that?" and he replies with "Yeah"), at about @14:50 she mentions the NY apartment they lived in together. And lists @15:43 where all her things came from.
Almost cried. Hé had so much love and compassion in his voice when hé Said just keep it. Its so amazing feeling to be supported while this therapy because thats what it is.
People often misinterpret Marie’s method of saying goodbye to things. You may have many things that have no use to you or have no value, but her method doesn’t place a value on items. Her method puts forth the question to oneself, Does the item spark joy or not? If it’s a shirt that is from a certain time that you could never bear to part from, then keep it, it’s obviously very special if you remember it so specifically. Don’t get rid of things you love, but just remember that memories are forever. If you have gotten all the joy you needed from the item then it’s time to let it go.
thank you for this comment Fabian. I completely agree the part in the video where I get rid of it was early in my KonMari-ing experience. As i progressed, i definitely realized i didn't need the jacket and so many other things. i kept one sweatshirt from my soccer days and one tshirt and that felt like more than enough when i still have lots of photos. Thanks for taking the time to go through her method in detail. i just got her book on my kindle and i'm really excited to read it and learn more! -- Dana
Fabian my bras most definitely DON’T “spark joy”. Does that wacko say I should get rid of them?
kathryn witte I’m sensing some hostility. Her book and ideology about cleaning and organizing seems to have upset you for some odd reason. But if you read her book, her method doesn’t place any value on items. Bras may seem boring but they can spark joy if they are comfortable for you or if they are your favorite. Sparking joy doesn’t mean each item is amazing, the term spark joy essentially boils down to if you truly need said item in your life or not, otherwise if the item doesn’t spark joy or have any actual purpose to you anymore then get rid of it. It’s pretty simple.
Fabian try to psychoanalyze me all you like but your initial premise is flawed. I have no interest in buying her book, just in pointing out that this "method" is the mumbo-jumbo new age fad of the moment and is unworkable in real life. That being said, you didn't answer me about if I should thank my bras and send them on their way because they don't bring me joy. But that doesn't fit in with your black and white narrative. Good luck with that.
kathryn witte kathryn witte Why are you upset about this method it’s pretty simple. You don’t want something anymore, get rid of it. A lot of this is common sense. Saying goodbye to clothing is essentially just remembering that all objects had worth at some point and to not simply throw things away with abandon, or buy things you don’t need with abandon. This method is to help people who don’t have any organizational skills. No ones forcing you to use her way of organizing so why are you so mad in the first place. Something as basic as underwear is a necessity, but many have pairs they don’t like or use, yet still keep. Getting rid of the ones that don’t “spark joy” and keeping the ones you actually really like is the entire method, simple as that.
I absolutely love de-cluttering, now my bedroom takes less than five minutes to tidy up. It smells so fresh and looks so smart. 😍 I wished I could find people to help do this with them. I love the before and afters. Superb job 👏 👌
Where are you???! I'm a clutter bug. 🤭
make a RUclips channel and help your subscribers organize their homes! so you'll always have new places to visit and new content for more videos!
I do this for all of my friends. then help discover what they need to keep it that way. it's usually attractive accessible storage, macro organizing, and good flow.
come and help me, please :')
I've been contemplating someone to do this for/with me 😩😩
all i wanted to do was work out how to declutter my room, but here i am crying over her varsity jacket
Same
I think she should of kept the jacket.
If you haven’t gotten rid of your Varsity Jacket? You could put it in a Glass Shadow box display Case with Photo’s, and put on your Wall? Hope it’s not to late.💜
Sameeee😂😭
Me too!! I’m crying.
Cluttered room, cluttered house, cluttered car, cluttered mind blocking the path to a peaceful and disciplined life. In our house it was friends and family giving the kids stuff, more stuff than was good for anyone never mind a little kid. I used to quietly put a lot of it in the attic unopened, beg aunts and grandparents to limit it and suggest events rather than things but they couldn’t help themselves. Take a walk with your grandkids, bake cookies with them but stop buying them stuff. Thanks.
I can relate to this a lot. My mom used to trash drive and do yard sales to make extra money. So everytime my kids would go to her house she would give them so much stuff. My house got so cluttered and she would get mad when I told her we don't need anymore stuff. Instead of fighting I would say whatever and bag it up then get home and put the bag right in the trash.
My family now keeps half the Christmas gifts at their own house instead of sending it to mine. Makes them get less stuff, that's for sure!
I see that with my mom, my sister and my brother’s mother-in-law.. people buy so many things that are not needed at all. If I ever had kids, I would buy them what they need - if you want to give them something, you can send money on the separate accounts for their future, so they can have easier start. For some reason it’s a big taboo in here to give money - why? It’s the easiest thing to do
And now I want cookies...
My problem is I upcycle junk and sell it... Sooo, everyone I know gives me stuff. A pan here, a few scraps of wood there, a little wood cabinet here, until I just don't have time to get to every piece, but when I look at it, I can see it's AMAZING potential when I do get to it.... So, lol, what then?!
The fact you didn't give me one ad warms my heart
ChainSystem 666 it’s RUclips.
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Idk I have RUclips premium
There are ads lol
@@HopePhotoG I didn't get any
Here's a very good tip when getting rid of clothes: ALWAYS CHECK THE POCKETS!
I was sorting out clothes and threw a pair of shorts in the donate box. After a while, I remembered I should check the pockets, even though I was pretty sure there wasn't anything in there. I found my very special rainbow string trick string that I wore on my wrist everywhere I went for 8 years. I got it from my aunt and I taught my close friends and siblings string tricks with it. I almost lost it forever!
Also, one time I found a $20 bill in some pants at the thrift store. Always check the pockets!!
SO true! I helped my daughter Kondo her room. Then she could not find her favorite rings for months. One day I put on a jacket that I swiped from her give away pile...wallah, I found her rings in the pocket! Glad you found your trick string:-) Oh, and a good idea to check pockets before you wash your clothes too...yesterday my husband washed his keys! Thankfully his was the one without the key fob! This video was so inspiring, and peaceful. I LOVE the color change too...my daughter found that sunny yellow is her happy color...I am sending this to her to watch!
PS, not a good idea to swipe from the giveaway pile if you need to 'Kondo' your stuff...just sayin'!
Yes, this also accounts for "empty" envelopes!! I was about to throw one out because it had no card left in there, but I thought to check and found 40 euros!
Edit: just realized this comment is from a year ago..
I love it when I find money checking my pockets etc 😆😆
When we bought an old house built in 1915 including all the contents, we found a pair of overalls with 120 dollars in one of the pockets! (We only paid 100 dollars for the contents back in 1978.)
Seeing you love your jacket yet go through the process of letting it go was so special. Many people who have decluttering videos aren’t sentimental- they easily throw things away. It was great to see your process - that it’s ok to be sentimental and still let things go. Thank you for that. 💕
I felt that deep down. She handled that way better than I will.
I felt that too...actually teared up
College days were the best year of my life, so, I don't think I could get rid of my traveling theatre sweater 😭
It's super worn out, but I still used it, so it will stay 🤣
Yeah she did that gracefully 🎉
OMG, it's only stuff. You are making it sound like she's murdering a family member.
I can totally relate to this! I have started and stopped the declutter process several times because I would get emotionally overwhelmed; I grew up very poor, so the need for me to collect and keep "stuff" is very strong. Thanks for posting this video, and for giving me the courage to try again!
Stacy Harvey you got this girl!! I’m sure you can do it!!
Persistence is the key to retraining! You've got this, keep to the path. If you stray, find the path again.
Im the baby in the fam so i grew up with my older siblings getting me EVERYTHING because they didnt have that growing up .im thankful for them and my parents giving me everything but at one point i realized i couldnt live like that just wanting all these materialistic items ..(I AM HUGE WITH KEEPSAKES THOE) .so at 16 i got my job and learned to limit myself and instead of getting all these items i decided to go out on adventures trips make memories ... As she said "all the memories are in my head" i bet if you try it it could be easier to declutter
That’s my problem. Now that I have stuff I don’t want to let it ago. I think because a huge piece of me is thinking like I could never afford this now I have it so I can’t let anything go.
My husband had the same problem, the struggle is real. I’m a terrible clutter bug as it is, he does not help 😝
Your de-cluttering video actually tells a great story about the emotional aspect of de-cluttering and how difficult letting go of some items that held a treasured place in a person's history can be. I adored how you said that the things, themselves, were not as important because the memory of why they are important lives in your mind already. GREAT video! Best Wishes ~ Rachel
Dana! You're lovely and talented and I like Lou and your video. This is Caroline D's mom, Catherine. Great to see you again!
I'm packing for college right now and I've been having a hard time getting rid of sentimental things... Dana, getting rid of your varsity soccer jacket really helped me realize that it's not the thing itself that's special, but the memories that are tied to it. Having that mentality has made it so much easier to get rid of things, which ultimately makes me feel better... So thank you for this video!
I did this to my room a few years ago when I was about 15 because I wanted to redo my bedroom. My parents had kind of always just thrown random, worn out, unmatching furniture and decor into my room since I was a baby and it was filled with old toys so I wanted a makeover. I had been very depressed as a child and young teenager because of issues with my parents so when I decluttered and got rid of all my old toys and furniture it just was a huge relief. I've also been much more organized and somewhat minimalist since then. It wasn't so sad as it was happy because I was getting rid of objects that made me upset, not sentimental. I can't imagine the strength you must have to get rid of things that give you happy memories. I'm thinking of doing a slight declutter again soon because my room has gotten a little too busy for my tastes and so I'm trying to emotionally prepare for it. I feel much more inspired now having watched you.
After 10 minutes of this video, I got up and decluttered my shoe closet. Before that I thought today I will not even be able to get out of bed. See what you made me do :) Thank you
If you decluttered your shoe closet, then I will my closet, thx for the inspiration ;)
@@ravenwingthecat2707 and so I will do mine 😁
Awok Tracking and I will do mine :)
I'll do mine too^^
@@lookismlover6417 i'll declutter my whole house because of this
I agree with whoever said that taking a picture of some sentimental items helped them. I might also recommend writing about sentimental items, as that helped me when I had to go through my deceased father's possessions which were extremely sentimental for me. He had a cologne collection and I had no intention of wearing his colognes or giving them to my fiancé, so I wrote down the names of them so that if I want to smell them again, I can just find a tester or sample at a store.
that's brilliant!
I've watched this video about 4 or 5 times, just to get inspiration and motivation to go over all my stuff once again. I haven't found any similar youtube videos that gives me as much boost in removing unnecessary things from my life. Thanks!
FINALLY A REAL WOMAN WITH REAL WORLD STUFF..
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS...
IT REALLY DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE
I've seen a lot of Marie Kondo inspired videos, even some from WAY before her Netflix show, but your video is the first to make me cry. Yours is the first I could relate to. Yours is the first that made me re-think the whole craze. You have inspired me... Probably more than Marie Kondo herself. Thank you.
Wow, Robin, I don't know what to say other than thank you. Thank you for taking the time to connect with our video and to leave this beautiful comment. I'm so happy you could relate to our experience and that it could inspire you. Hope you're having a beautiful weekend -- Dana
Exactly how I felt!
I thought it was just me...I literally cried with you.
Ditto! Ditto! and ditto again! :} My husband has been trying to Marie Kondo me and my stuff for 25 years. He'll be so thankful I fell down the RUclips rabbit hole and stumbled upon your video. I felt I was in the room with you guys - crying and sighing. Now, I too, must first clean off the bed.... Thank you so much for this experience. Love!
Ok so after crying with you I forged ahead with my own goal to declutter my closet. This video was so helpful with that process
I did this once and honestly after you cry and just "let go!" of all that clutter it feels amazing, the crying and emotional part honestly unclutters your mind and heart.
Aly P nice way to think of it. ❤️
Aly P honestly yeah you’re totally right.
I'm getting emotional just thinking about it. I know I have stuff from 20 yrs ago that I haven't looked at for years. I'll be moving in my new home in several months and I don't want to take a bunch of clutter so I like the thought of doing this and uncluttering my mind and heart and starting anew.
Being materialistic clutters your mind. Let go of it
I am so impressed with the results of this declutter. It's absolutely amazing, and I think it's nice hearing your reasoning for what to keep and not, especially when it comes to sentimental items. I think sometimes we can get hung up on an item being sentimental, but forgetting that even though it's sentimental, we maybe don't need to keep ALL of those items. I find that those few items I've decided to keep after my grandmothers are much more precious to me than if I would have kept everything I could have kept.
This is also the one KonMari video I come back to again and again, because I think it's such a good representation of the method.
not sure if you already got rid of the clothes, but if you have sentimental clothing items you could like make a pillowcase out of it or make a patch work blanket (if you have a lot) that way you keep the memories close and give the clothes a new life and actually use it.
This tho!!!!!
That's a great idea - if you actually do it. More often, what you "keep" is another unfinished project. And having unfinished projects all over your house saps joy. If you know somebody who makes quilts or throw pillows, etc., think about hiring out the job. Would it be worth it to you to pay what it would cost? If not, it's probably not worth it to you to do it, and it's likely going to wind up being another guilt-producing thing you were going to do but didn't.
@@clarsa1 true, the comment was kinda meant for people who like doing this kinds of projects, and if you have shirts you are sentimental about and all. of course if you don't like doing it you shouldn't, or ask family of friends of even hire someone to do it (if you really want to keep the sentimental shirts)
you could also frame it if like myself you find the concept of cutting it up absolutely horrifying and sacrilege. that way you can frame it and you still have the thing that sparks joy and a new decor item to grace your walls! :)
I make quilts, and this is something I am doing for my daughter's first 8 years of clothing. I'm making them into a quilt. However, again, this is something I do regularly, and well.
i started crying when she talked about her memories playing soccer. i have old cheerleading sweatshirts that ive kept that i dont wear but when i look at them i see all the laughs i once had and the memories i dont want to let go.
you can make a wall arrangement - the sweater, pompoms, a photo of you cheerleading, etc. You can put it in a large frame or just attach to the wall - if it is REALLY sentimental and a significant part of who you are. If not, then maybe the "take a photo" idea is best.
I have my t shirt from elementary school that i wore in a city parade when i was a safety patrol officer. It is NEVER going anywhere.
@@TNDCBaby keep your treasures, everything is not disposable or replaceable. When you are as old as I am, these things will spark memories and joy. Don't throw out a mass of belongings just to have more room, for what? To go shopping and buy more stuff? I am a tidy freak but I have a lot of very tidy boxes with treasures, even my children's baby teeth. Guilty!! Happy✔️✔️
@@Scarle118 I have a small house. I need room to breathe. I'm finding a middle ground and not going completely giveaway crazy. Thanks for the advice.
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Seven full large trash bags (so far) of clothes cleared from my closet, half still with price tags on them, and 2 boxes of coats that I'm happy to be getting rid of. It was hard starting this process at first but now it actually feels liberating to be passing these items forward. My new rule is if I haven't seen or worn it in years then it's outta here! I think it's a sin to just hold onto things when someone out here may really need it. They bought me joy and I hope it does the same for the next person.
Dee Hunter just did the same! I feel so much better when I walk into my closet or open my drawers!
I have used the photo method with great success! That is a picture of something you don't want to keep, but want to keep the memory. You gave yourselves a great gift!
I really love how you guys transformed your place! Congratulations. I am Japanese and I read Marie's book a long time ago. Now her method has impacted all over the world. To be honest I am very surprised that people understand the way she told us how to appreciate our material belongings so deeply because it is very common in Japan and I thought it might be a too Japanese thing. Parents tell you to take care of and thank our material belongings when you are little. We believe that there's a spirit inside each material thing. Now I can see my culture and background from a different perspective which is very nice. Thank YOU for the video for reminding me of our beautiful culture💗
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Kyoko Komatsu 💜💚💜💚🌺
Oh wow I didn't know that about your culture. Thank you for this information 😁
Could you tell us more about that? I’ve been convinced that things are animate for a long time and I’ve always felt crazy for thinking so. Maybe I am able to feel it. It keeps me from wanting to part with my things. I feel disloyal to them.
めっちゃ分かります😭 なんかこんまりさんだけじゃなくて、そういう日本文化自体が受け入れられてる気がして嬉しいです😌
This is honestly the first time (since the Netflix show came out) that I've genuinely enjoyed a Konmari Declutter video. Your style of editing was fresh and interesting!
gah Danielle this was such a great comment to read :):) I am so happy that you enjoyed the video! Hope you have a great weekend xx Dana
My girlfriend and I have been tackling this for about three months now. This weekend, she was literally bawling because she couldn't part with three pieces of clothing that she had purchased at the World Trade Center back in 2000 (the store chain is out of business too). Some things are worth keeping, even if they reside in a box in your closet.
i hate to tell you what's maybe obvious, especially 4 months after you made this comment, but maybe keep the three pieces of clothing she cries over? they seem to spark more than just joy, and seem to qualify as sentimental items and not just clothing
@@bethenawaltz4190 reading comprehension.. they did keep the clothing.
@@kennip24 I disagree. The first two sentences say nothing about what was kept. The third sentence implies that the clothing may have been kept, but implications aren't proofs. It seems obvious to you, perhaps, I'm guessing or assuming, ironically I know, to make assumptions, but the reality is that, or rather, it's been my experience that jumping to conclusions the way I think you have done, results in miscommunication, and all types of "negative outcomes" can result from miscommunication. Like fights, and altercations.
@@kennip24 I would even say, to your credit, that the second sentence could imply that they kept the clothing, but honestly, when I read that sentence, it seems vague. Saying "This weekend, she was literally bawling because she couldn't part with three pieces of clothing that she had purchased at the World Trade Center back in 2000 (the store chain is out of business too)." suggests, and even implies, but it's different than saying "This weekend [the rest of the quote]; she kept the clothing."
@@bethenawaltz4190 oh my god dude, you really went full MLA response essay on this when literally all you had to do was just re-read the sentence to understand. my freaking goodness lmfao
I wonder how productive my life would be if I watched this every morning and then took that energy into my day. I'd prob be president of the world in 3 months
My dad recently died and the method discussed in this video made it so much easier to clean his house and figuring out which stuff to keep. Thank you
My condolence😢
Another reason to de-clutter is that you are leaving such a gift to those who you leave behind after your death Really, consider the burden and guilt you will leave to your family if they have to discard a large amount of clutter Only possess things they can tell you loved so that they might keep them and love them too OR give them away to others who will love them. Get rid of that Crap that just weighs you down. It’s a great feeling and your family will reap the benefit of your thoughtfulness
@@pamelaspooner8335 Sounds like Swedish Death Cleaning
Tip: if it's too overwhelming or too many to do it with all clothes, I saw another RUclipsr with an excellent tip to do it by category, e.g. all tops, all pants, all bras, etc. It's helpful because then you can literally choose the best ones in each category to keep. Also if an entire category is depleted, time to go shopping for 2-3 new items to appropriately replace, e.g. get rid of 6-7 ripped,, tight, worn out jeans, replace with 2 new, well finished, nicer jeans.
This is really great advice.
Sweethomechicago you make the most sense.
Yes, just one category can be that at a time. And doing just one room (the way the author of the video does) is not recommendable because the reason why you are supposed to do the whole house because the items from the same category might be in different areas of the house... And then you choose just one spot in the house for that category
sweethomechicago
Excellent idea. I am going to try that after I eat dinner.
I just did that!!! Before I even saw this video! Crazy cause I don't even know how it's in my feed!
when you clean your room so hard the paint changes colors
Rachael m: haha! Lol 😆! I getcha!
I’m honestly just impressed that nothing changed positions like she spent a lot of time putting everything back
me
Kimy Boquist I think it’s lighting changes not paint
Blue or gold 😂
I love how well this video was edited. Showing the struggles of letting go of things that once meant so much to you. I’ve been struggling with this for so long. I’ve accumulated so many clothes to fill voids and my life and I honestly don’t know how to get rid of it without feeling gilts or like I’ve lost money. For months/ Years I’ve been telling myself I am going to sell the items but I haven’t and don’t have the energy to. I just want this stuff gone so i can genuinely feel happy. Thank you for this video 🙏🏽
I agree with the Konmari Method but I think that with some of the sentimental clothing you con keep and make a memory blanket or throw out of. You could cut the graphics down to a certain size then join them together to create a piece that would be useful.
You may even want to hand it down to a loved one.
I did this lay with some of my family’s jeans, I made a blanket for the beach or picnics. I even let my grandchildren draw on it I I also took some of the graphics from t-shirts sew them onto the blanket. This was more than 10 years ago and we still use it and continue to draw on it and add embroidery and graphics from t-shirts on to it. It’s a fun piece. Thank They love it and want to keep it when I leave this earth. So repurpose some of those items that do spark joy but no longer serve the purpose they were intended for. Just a thought.
Totally agree! Or else we'd overload trash on our precious eartg!
@@rosepark266 the spark joy method encourages donating !!
@@findingagain I donate all my decluttered clothes, i feel like most ppl will as well. glad you do too!💚💚
Ivette, I agree. I've done the same. Using what u have & put that n2 a quilt. No matter who is using a quilt made my someone (rather than one commercially made) that homemade quilt will provide a source of comfort like no other! :)
I was going to suggest this! I am immensely sentimental and looove T-shirts (I ran cross country and half marathons for six years and I got a shirt for nearly everything).
My friend and I each made a "quilt" out of the shirts we love but don't wear anymore and we use them for camping/star gazing/picnicking!!
Taking photos of sentimental objects/things that you love which are cluttering your house and then donating them is a great idea!
Maybe not. It' just transforming physical clutter into electronic clutter. And I don't know, but maybe it is even easier to decluter physical spaces than electronical?
This is my trick too! I started just taking pics of things instead of keeping them all in a box and hauling it around apartments.
I love how you went into the emotional process of decluttering because it can be really hard. Many times people gloss over how much things mean to us.
I am purging and cleaning my room, my depression has literally trapped me in a continuous cycle of my room being constantly disorganized. I am ridden by anxiety when it comes to even the thought.
I struggle with getting rid of things (not in a hoarding way) just like clothing and certain items. And this video gave me the mindset to give away those t shirts I don’t wear, the books I don’t read, and the items that truly don’t spark me joy OFTEN, not just once.
Thank you for sharing! 💗
the most touching and beautiful thing about this is that the two of you worked so kindly and sweetly together. thank you for sharing with me. bye now
All I can think about is why do we have all this stuff in the first place and when we make it 'disappear' from our lives it's now all just moved conveniently out of our view but it still exists somewhere on our planet. The amount of resources used to produce and discard this stuff makes my head spin but I'm so happy to see people becoming more aware and mindful about our collective out-of-control consumption habits that we feel entitled to.
I agree, and hopefully this will teach people to not be so compulsive in the future and think about what they are purchasing instead of just purchasing on a whim.
I agree. The decluttering experience really makes me think twice before buying things.
My thought is the wasted financial investment. So much money spent on whims
Everyone's right on here. Overconsumption is both a waste for the planet and our money
I agree, konmari is a fantastic lesson in mindfulness and awareness and it’s shocking how much I at least got rid of, made me guilty about the money wasted and the waste of the items environmentally, even though most was donated. I wonder if her show has had an impact on local municipalities and donor stores worldwide, if enough people have followed suit?!
Anyone else watching videos like this while they sit in a cluttered room claiming this is for "inspiration"?
I feel attacked right now, lol.
All of us.
Are u spying on me
Lol
I'm worried to do it and just give up leaving more mess and not sorting it
I see why this vid has over 8 million views. Editing, music, and 'story arc' is perfect.
"first I have to clean off that bed"
ugh right!? I always have to clean in order to clean.
hahah you're all ready to go and then you realize there are still a few more steps to go before you can even begin!!! Glad I'm not alone in that - Dana
I usually have a problem at the end of the weekend, come Sunday night, forgetting I had yet to put away my clean laundry that I threw on the bed from the dryer. Walk into my bedroom to go to bed and I'm always like, shiiiiiiiitttttt 😂
Same!!! & Sometimes I get bogged down in the preface to the actual job🤦🏼♀️😂🤓
I did this about a year ago, and I couldn’t believe how many items didn’t spark joy, including clothing I’d never worn! I did it again in January before I moved. After I was all moved in I came up with a lot I wish I’d left behind. I’m 66, and these are things my family won’t have to deal with when I kick the bucket.
That idea reminds me of Swedish Death Cleaning! People start to declutter after they’re a certain age as an act of love for those who will have to go through their things while mourning their loss.
Amanda Mulvaney That’s exactly what it was! I don’t want to burden my daughter with clearing out junk when that day comes. I’ve given a lot away, and what’s left is either wanted as heirlooms or worth being sold on eBay. It’s enormously freeing!
I am 62 and doing the same thing . I try not think about two stories plus basement, plus two attics. I think about a little bit at a time and only do it when l am in a “ letting go” mood. Slow and steady. Goodwill must think l am homeless by now,😳😷🇨🇦
@@amandamulvaney8437 Do you know what the age is?
I couldn’t remember off the top of my head, but I googled it (it’s called “dostadning”) and found they recommend to start if you’re over 50, but they encourage anyone to start at any age.
Something that stuck to me because I know I can get indecisive is when she asks, "Is this something you want to bring with you in your future?" I think that makes a difference to me. It's not so much about just getting rid of things, but knowing what makes you happy and what you would like to have in your future.
s2_chichan Exactly.. it has served its purpose.. :)
This is truly one of the best declutter videos I've ever watched. Perfect music, realism and stopping to share with us. I've watched it several times, Like a good movie that makes you cry.
Personally, giving up books is really difficult!
Same :(
Was for me too. Then I realised that I could donate them - gave half to a children's home and the other half to a remand home for kids. Was so easy to let go of my childhood things knowing that other children would get to benefit a little from them
I found I had to change my boundaries around books. Stopped keeping ones just because I thought I would enjoy re-reading them & now only keep them if they are going to help me in some way. Includes some that cheer me up & some that inspire & some for information.
Yes 😭
You can do audiobooks
*sobs into a pile of clothing*
I felt that.
Me, too.
This is irrelevant but I just hit myself over the head with a measuring tape
Fat Cat same
Yup me too
I felt that too... I'm very sensitive
That crying moment mixed with the music.. Pixar level of emotional.
The best kind of emotional.
Marie Kondo completely changed my perspective on stuff too.
Thanks to her, the Swedish death cleaning method and my anxiety when my space is untidy, I am daily searching out 'things' that no longer serve me and my family purpose, so it gets moved on.
okay but like why did i just cry over someone else’s stuff
Same
Same!! I know I’m one among many compassionate people who cry when others cry, and almost feel what others feel. Sometimes it’s good and sometimes I’m like “get that away from me, I just did my makeup!!” Lol
She said it was hers from playing soccer and didn't want ro part from it but hasn't looked at it in a decade...centimenal but gave it away
Me too
Because your a human ❤
Does this spark joy?
*throws self out*
John Mayer 💀 😂 💀 😂 ME
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Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first 😌
lmao
John Mayer mood
After the declutter, you are now surrounded by things that spark joy.
Maurice W ☺️🌞💓
Things that you really need, use and love!
If they are sparking emotions, they are put aside to the sentimental pile.
And it’s ok to keep things if they remind you of something happy. Or let it go and just keep the memories
Either way, great job. I’m proud of you 💗
“Does this spark joy?” *throws away all school books
And pants
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Does this spark joy? .....she burns the house down because she got tired of asking the same question so many times😂😂😂😂
did i just cry over someone throwing away their stuff
Laurine Blom 😂you’re not alone
Why throw it away??? Donate it!
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 some times people say 'throw away 'but they mean get rid of it in some way, maybe she did donate it
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You and me both sister
I love your recording and editing style, truly captivating and epic.
It truly is awesome. I'm so j
Looks like parts of a movie 😂
It made a long video fly by which was awesome
You have shown us all how rewarding it is to start and finish the emotional process of decluttering. Very encouraging.
That tip from the subscriber you mentioned about taking a photo to preserve memory and help let go of the physical item-- GENIUS. I've always used that to help avoid spending money at the store (taking a picture of a cute item instead of splurging unnecessarily) but I never thought to use that as a way to let go of possessions! This is exactly what I needed today.
Renae Collum I do the store thing too!! Even if I have enough money and I want something so badly, I’ll take a photo of it! If I want it bad enough, I’ll remember it, and who knows if I’ll buy it by then!
Used this method when having to purge my daughter's many stuffed animals😢..made it so much easier to "let go" by taking a pic of as i am sentimental and so many stories of "why" i bought each one!😊👍
That's a great way to shop. Thanks.
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I was not even 5 min into this video and I was already crying, I am a person who likes to keep stuff, I feel anxiety when it comes to throw away stuff because I think there's gonna be a day in which I might need it (not even gonna mention the sentimental part), so this video was actually helpful and inspiring, I'm looking at my room which has been messy for almost a month and you really have pushed me to get to work and finally get rid of everything that isn't sparking joy anymore, this was beautiful, thank you so much for sharing this
Same honestly and it makes me mad that I feel this way but some stuff I just can't let it go
I will be thinking about the money I spend to buy the clothes and refused to throw it away 😭
I watching vogue 72 questions and this lady from Gucci or somewhere was saying the worst trend that needs to go is minimalist and I couldn’t agree more! Why throw everything out... unless you have the money to buy new things
2 years ago I found out about Marie Kondo & the Minimalists. I applied their methods to my life and I can say it was life-changing. Well done to you for taking the plunge and decluttering your space and mind :)
Hey It's Mia! Marie Kondo and The Minimalists sounds like a band haha
@@saskiak7129 omg it doesss 😂 great observation hahahah!!
Didn't use here method, just a item a day for 30 days. Low n behold after first day ,was adding more that stuff to dumped. The feeling was great. Took my time, gave me time to see what I really didn't want, need to keep. No regreats
Hey I want to try this method too but first it's really important for me to know this: do you tend to buy more stuff now? or is it the opposite and you actually buy and consume a lot less?
@@partsofearth no I actually don't! Now I find myself being more conscious about buying an item/s and seeing if it sparks joy. I would definitely say I buy and consume less and when I buy something it truly sparks joy. I'm going to be posting videos on Konmari and Minimalism soon so stay tuned on my channel if you're interested :)
You already had me in love with you when you picked up a box off the bed and said, “some of this mail hasn’t even been opened.” Bam! I LOVE YOU!
And I love that he’s wearing his joyous blue and white sweater from his brother at the end. This was a fantastic video!
Hhahaha, yeah I pretty much wear it every single day ; ) wearing it right now responding to comments to be honest ; ) ---Lou
@@WildWeRoam a tip I'd like to give you two is to fold your socks military style. It's neat and saves time in the morning!
The fact that your husband was willing to help you and DID help you throughout this process fills my heart with joy because I found this so cute! Also, this gave me my own inspiration (and realization) that I seriously need to clean my room too XD
Me too!
I know right! My husband is lazy and doesn’t even clean up after himself, or help around the house (which I bring up almost every single day, so don’t worry I don’t let him get away with it lol)
When you lose everything in a 🔥....you realize those memories are still with you...the memories don't have to be attached to an item. I don't miss those things I hung onto for years
Yes, sometimes I just want to set the place on fire and start over! Another thing that can be really helpful is, when decluttering and thinking of things that you might want to keep, think about, if I only had 10 minutes to grab something what would I grab? That helps to minimize what you really need.
The instrumental parts where you show your struggle is actually really helpful. It lets me know my own struggles are real, and not a hindrance. So many magazines or tv shows show clutter-free living areas but that isn’t reality.
Here's the dope shit tho...you can just look at this video and use this as the memories after you throw those things out. Videos don't take up space in your house, you can pull up the memory from virtually anywhere, your eventual kids can watch this video and see your reactions and joy to the things you eventually threw out and...unless the youtube servers blow up, it'll be here forever.
@Therman T, ABSOLUTELY! Now that helps with the thought of chucking out sentimental stuff! Thanks👍
Yep. I was going to comment something similar. For papers and old school projects that my mom had saved of mine and my sister's I took photos of the things that I thought were cute or sparked a memory of making it. Then I tossed it all out.
Awwww so true!
I took photos of sentimental items, and then never looked at them again. It just felt much easier to say goodbye to those items.
Yes
Who else is watching organization and cleaning videos instead of actually cleaning and organizing? 😂😭
Me! And just watching it is exhausting me. I would just end up with all that clutter on the bed and nowhere to sleep because I sure wouldn't be able to deal with it all in one day. The trouble is when you get older you realise that you're never going to need all the stuff you've accumulated over decades and are just going to leave a whole lot of stuff that your kids won't want and will have to clear out when you're gone. I just regret not getting rid when I was younger and able to haul it all downstairs and out to the car for disposal.
Plus in this COVID pandemic it's not that easy to dispose of it cos the charity shops are backlogged as they have to quarantine everything and some of my clothes still have the price tags on so too good to put in the public recycle bins. Now I'm having a panic attack just thinking about it all ...lol. Just close the door on it all (even if it does mean leaning on it to get it shut) and go and binge watch something on Netflix 😁
My kids tell me to just put a match to it all.
This is me, I feel terrible for everything I keep. But it’s a lot of emotional hardships I had gone through. Through out 28 years, I had a hoarding thing, due to not having a lot as a kid. Maybe it’s time.
I just found a bowl of instant noodles with an expiry date from 2010. No joy in that one lol
Actually, must get back to work. Not sleeping on the couch tonight....!
Finished clean the room
*6 months later*
Ah shit, here we go again
Ken Bone more like 3 days later
The thing about the konmari method is that it doesn’t reverse to the previous condition because you don’t have lots of stuff anymore and everything you have you love
@@bombaydak but you can get a lot of new stuff in 6 months
@@emilycortese6566 if you did it right, you will not
So true!
I KonMaried my stuff also, and it feels great. And five years later, it still feels great.
I don’t know who you guys are, this is my first time encountering your channel but i want to say Thank You for this video because it motivated me to tackle my big ass bedroom that looked like something out of hoarders. Thanks again for showing how to tackle everything in sections!
I am literally crying right now watching this video. Because I am taking that journey at this exact moment. And I came on RUclips to escape my feelings and ended up here and I realize that I’ve got to let them out and it’s just all so overwhelming yet so deeply rooted. I HAVE to finish this journey.
Same here. This is so hard and I’m way too emotional over things I’ve moved around in boxes and never used for 20+ years. I absolutely hate this. 😔
I just wanna take a second to appreciate your video editing. 😆 #goals
Forreal!! Great video editing. Would love to know what software they used.
@@lucyelric4475I think Lou somewhere mentioned that he uses AVID media.
in the first 1:30, I was very impressed and appreciative of the editing!!
All the previous comments about film editing made me sit for a moment and rerun things in my mind. Yes! I'm not sure I ever noticed good editing just bad editing, which pokes at you when you see it. So thanks to everyone who knows and notices such things for helping *me* notice them also.
I agree!!!
I watched this about a year or two ago. I do believe it was around the time I was introduced to the Konmari method. I did begin the process, but it became too overwhelming. I compliment your hubby for being there and being that support and vise versa. I think the way you'll shared your experience is what kind of catapult me to try; however, because I was doing it all on my own, it felt too big of a task..today I coin my situation as a "quarter hoarder".This is because about a quarter of my room looks hoarderous, and has been the cause of many tearful days and nights. My living room is the same. Yet, I haven't given up, and I feel more determined because I've been watching much more DIY decluttering vids. This is how i came across yours once again. I enjoyed it then and even now. I like the teamwork and the results are spectacular. I hope you'll are well and still enjoying life. Just wanted to drop this note here to say video is still encouraging. 👍🏼