LET HIM MISS YOU!!!

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  • Опубликовано: 25 дек 2024

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  • @nicemomasmr
    @nicemomasmr 7 лет назад +2397

    You know what's amazing? The sisterhood in the comments section. We not enemies, we all going thru this together.

    • @foxyloxy5693
      @foxyloxy5693 7 лет назад +28

      Cristina P. Across the globe. From UK

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 7 лет назад +5

      Cristina P. 🙏🙇‍♀️🙏

    • @hilarybriggs9638
      @hilarybriggs9638 6 лет назад +6

      Completely agree. It's awesome

    • @ladymaiden2308
      @ladymaiden2308 6 лет назад +3

      Cristina P. yes! And this is the way it should be.

    • @vedaam9189
      @vedaam9189 6 лет назад +1

      Haha well said

  • @teressahunter1874
    @teressahunter1874 6 лет назад +2256

    If he can go a whole day without talking to you. Wow, Leave him alone.

    • @keiranmorrisart
      @keiranmorrisart 5 лет назад +45

      madness

    • @Shynee3
      @Shynee3 5 лет назад +43

      What about a wyd text 😂

    • @mercymusinguzi3375
      @mercymusinguzi3375 5 лет назад +24

      R u for real

    • @ayeshhas5641
      @ayeshhas5641 5 лет назад +153

      You should not allow him to talk to you everyday. Distance makes the heart fonder.

    • @surigeez684
      @surigeez684 5 лет назад +90

      Ayesh Has not true distance makes the person get used to not talking to you in that way they won’t bother no more to reach out

  • @Nelley_Nell_507
    @Nelley_Nell_507 7 лет назад +652

    Yessssssss!!!! I love this. It's so true. Being "available" doesn't work. Women need to stay busy and stop waiting for a man to be available to see them. And when u do decide to see this man, do it because you wanted to and you had nothing else planned or nothing else better to do. Hell, sitting on your couch with your dog watching a movie just might be better than spending time with a lame dude that only "Holla" at you when he feels like it and you were the only one "available". Stay busy. Got no friends to hang with, go to the gym, take your kid out, watch a movie at home, go out by yourself. But don't be "available" just for him. It never works!!

  • @corennerivers6517
    @corennerivers6517 6 лет назад +61

    Let a man miss you, it is gonna tell you everything you need to know. Very well said Derrick, so true.

  • @SuthernGyrl99
    @SuthernGyrl99 7 лет назад +563

    True! I've learned to fall back and they will start missing you like crazy. I had to know my worth.

  • @fkoff0407
    @fkoff0407 7 лет назад +170

    "if walking away keeps u from chasing a fairy tale in your life, DO IT!" 💯👏👐

  • @drlove8049
    @drlove8049 7 лет назад +393

    sooooo true...funny how dude will get mad when u don't answer! but he hasn't called in a few days

    • @missarabia1875
      @missarabia1875 5 лет назад +24

      Exactly because we are objects not human beings. They want us to jump when they say jump

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 5 лет назад +17

      @@missarabia1875 .... they want us to jump and say how high?

    • @missarabia1875
      @missarabia1875 5 лет назад +3

      @@lyndapeoples8127 exactly

    • @lisamarie8335
      @lisamarie8335 5 лет назад +3

      Truth

    • @bitspieces5668
      @bitspieces5668 4 года назад +1

      THIS

  • @serenitymg1279
    @serenitymg1279 7 лет назад +1596

    why cant relationships progress healthily? two people meet, they both like each other, they both put effort. i dont want to attract a man by playing hard to get. of course i have standards but i dont like games. i like to be authentic and let the man know that i like him. i dont understand why i have to trigger his insecurities to get his interest. you are right to everything you say, but i feel really puzzled with modern dating.

    • @foxyloxy5693
      @foxyloxy5693 7 лет назад +36

      Maraki Gar 🤔🤔🤔indeed

    • @foxyloxy5693
      @foxyloxy5693 7 лет назад +188

      Bring back old fashion dating. Meet at a dance, with someone you fancied, exchange numbers(if you had a house phone) and arrange next meet! If you kissed that was your man/woman. Now all this ghosting crap, media websites not healthy too much on offer with dishonesty

    • @JoannaCubana
      @JoannaCubana 7 лет назад +82

      Maraki Gar I agree... why all these hard to get games??? It's exhausting. 💘😀😎😎😎

    • @jenniferlopes7088
      @jenniferlopes7088 7 лет назад +83

      Totally agree. I have trouble with these dating games. I'm genuine to my feelings. But I really think it's the way to go today.

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 7 лет назад +4

      Maraki Gar 👏👏👏👏

  • @MZDIVAT1
    @MZDIVAT1 5 лет назад +136

    I'm tired of going through the nonsense with men , biggest problem is men dont communicate, the starting over and then the let down is taxing and it plays on u emotionally and physically and men don't understand that. Sometimes I think I'm better off just being by my self

    • @Favored2020
      @Favored2020 4 года назад +1

      💯💯💯💯

    • @yolandatanner1509
      @yolandatanner1509 3 года назад +1

      I feel the same and I thought a couple of times but I had my own place for going on 5 years and haven't had a real boyfriend and I'm a good woman but I refuse to be good to man who wants to play games and I had a couple of them like my 50 year old friend who's used to women chasing him I'm 36 I'm not doing that and he got a limpie and I always made time for him but next time I see him and he was see me I'ma tell him nope and when I see him in the streets I'ma walk right pass him and then he's gonna call and I have to ignore him,I don't wanna be that way cause we always enjoyed each other company and talked from 11 to 6 am many of times but Ima stay falling back and not bother that man anymore

  • @theoneandonlyK01
    @theoneandonlyK01 4 года назад +44

    Dating nowadays suck!! I remember when I was younger I never had to go through all these games to get him to chase he just chased! It's like now they want women to pursue them and no that's not happening on my end! Wish these men would grow the hell up!!

    • @meganruchwatercolors7186
      @meganruchwatercolors7186 4 года назад +2

      Up when I was younger I got chased by men now days they will never and I mean never chase a woman.

  • @SoItzNewNew
    @SoItzNewNew 7 лет назад +764

    Yooo this is so funny that I'm literally going through this right now. I feel like allowing that time to let him miss you also allows us women to get past that giddy feeling & be able to respond & not react.

    • @deej5608
      @deej5608 7 лет назад +17

      Itz New New EXACTLY 🙌

    • @eliayolaine7986
      @eliayolaine7986 7 лет назад +15

      Itz New New I'm going through this as well.

    • @Flonnethefallengyal
      @Flonnethefallengyal 7 лет назад +12

      Itz New New I agree whole heartedly!!!!

    • @tamekastewart8067
      @tamekastewart8067 7 лет назад +33

      Yes Itz New New, I have just started this process myself and then I just so happen see this on my feed. Things don't happen by coincidence, it comes to you when you desire it... This video was definitely meant for me right now!!!

    • @marypowell5342
      @marypowell5342 7 лет назад +22

      Yes! "Respond not React". That's great, so true. Slow down, have self control.

  • @luv4tika
    @luv4tika 7 лет назад +120

    This is so very true! I went through this a few months ago. I eventually removed myself from the "situation" ....he started jocking and got upset because he felt that I was mistreating him once I started treating him the way he had been treating me! smh
    It's hard to see the relationship for what it really is until you're out of it. I walked away and now I'm wondering what I ever saw in him in tbe 1st place!

  • @angelitagatica
    @angelitagatica 7 лет назад +601

    Its sad that now women have to play these tactics because men now just want to play the field and toy with our emotions and minds... God willing these men will stop acting like divas some time soon.

    • @HealingQuest777
      @HealingQuest777 7 лет назад +20

      angela viveros-lopez men child and the worst are narcissists... can only make u stronger and set good boundaries next time

    • @crossing.the.cosmos84
      @crossing.the.cosmos84 7 лет назад +8

      Star Girl yeah a man child is a serious mind fuck to deal with...fuck em

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 7 лет назад +13

      angela viveros-lopez we WOMAN don't have to play NO games with these tender dick aka LAME dudes!...NEXT!!!!

    • @ladyq4832
      @ladyq4832 5 лет назад +1

      Haahaa. Me like

    • @keiranmorrisart
      @keiranmorrisart 5 лет назад +1

      this very video is advice on toying with a mans mind and emotions ..... it is sad i agree

  • @TexStar2519
    @TexStar2519 7 лет назад +10

    As busy as someone is, they will always make time for those they care about. Whether it's a family member or a significant other etc. NO Excuse. 🙌🏼 I love your videos.

  • @xalimo007
    @xalimo007 7 лет назад +1408

    100 true but it's funny how when we lose interest they come back chasing hard and we're like f off mate, I can't believe I actually fell for you at one point.

    • @Rejiecooks
      @Rejiecooks 7 лет назад +8

      xalimo007 uno.. lol

    • @kierrasymone378
      @kierrasymone378 7 лет назад +13

      xalimo007 I swear😂😂 really open your eyes

    • @Goldblooded559
      @Goldblooded559 7 лет назад +3

      xalimo007 so true!!

    • @egyptnz27
      @egyptnz27 7 лет назад +41

      xalimo007 Im not chasing anyone, im too tired haja

    • @energygiver
      @energygiver 7 лет назад +64

      I can't believe i actually fell for you" is the damn truth!! UrrghhHH! The pain of that realization

  • @dior.shanaa3711
    @dior.shanaa3711 4 года назад +53

    Best advice: is just fall back 💯‼️ leave him alone don’t worry about him” trust me if you don’t text him” or bother me” he will be back” guys like a chase💯

  • @redsheena
    @redsheena 7 лет назад +74

    okay ladies, I completely agree on this one. I have yet to meet any real man that is seriously interested in a woman not go after her. Therefore, if he haven't made time by now, he don't plan on to anytime soon. Don't let your lapse in judgement turns out to be his habit on your standards.. get some if you don't already have some. Believe me I know what I'm talking about..

  • @nadeanbowles3052
    @nadeanbowles3052 7 лет назад +70

    "If it don't feel right that he hasn't heard from you, he's going to do something to fix it." Right. Repeat...

  • @nikki5360
    @nikki5360 7 лет назад +303

    Yes this so true, expierence teaches you this.

  • @andreamarquez5539
    @andreamarquez5539 4 года назад +3

    I feel like this man is the father I never had , and he’s teaching me what I should have been taught . I’m a little late to these videos but I needed this. My two and a half years of being miserable is over. It’s time I start making MYSELF a priority

  • @professional872
    @professional872 7 лет назад +469

    I'm currently going through this but I've realized it's time for me to move on I can't keep allowing myself to force him to spend time with me

    • @CCB1234abcd
      @CCB1234abcd 7 лет назад +49

      Professional 87 me too !! sadly they always come back once you're not interested

    • @missarabia1875
      @missarabia1875 5 лет назад +18

      You deserve better! we need to stop dealing with these losers and treat ourselves right. With the proper kindness and respect we deserve

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 5 лет назад +28

      Professional 87..... I was in the same situation not so long ago and it really hurt to walk away but I feel much better emotionally now. I know in my heart, I did the right thing.

    • @quelovelythatsme6312
      @quelovelythatsme6312 5 лет назад +7

      Omg I'm goin threw this now, and it does hurt.

    • @monicaalistari8475
      @monicaalistari8475 4 года назад +2

      Lynda Peoples did he get in touch?

  • @DianeTV22
    @DianeTV22 4 года назад +213

    Damn! We have to play games now! I’ll be by my damn self. This shit is exhausting

    • @marilynseptember21
      @marilynseptember21 4 года назад +9

      I don't blame you. Exhausting.

    • @simplychas538
      @simplychas538 4 года назад +3

      christina bedford that’s what I’m saying 🙄

    • @divacbrookins9084
      @divacbrookins9084 4 года назад +2

      I Agree, 👏👏💯🥴😊😇 I ready to Have My Husband, Time has changed people way of thinking.. Specially(Trust)

    • @xyzedits.
      @xyzedits. 4 года назад +2

      so annoying yo

    • @meelie6530
      @meelie6530 4 года назад +3

      Period you get. Girl

  • @kimberly329
    @kimberly329 7 лет назад +335

    The games men play in just trying to get to a damn relationship is ridiculously! So, I show you that I'm interested and you respond by showing less interest. WTH? Girl kick him to the curb. Don't let him miss you. Let him see he's missed out FOREVER👋🏾

    • @JoannaCubana
      @JoannaCubana 7 лет назад +2

      kimberly329 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 7 лет назад

      kimberly329 👏👏👏👏

    • @KatieAJ
      @KatieAJ 7 лет назад +1

      👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 mmmhhmm yes girl

    • @user-hz5ld9yp4l
      @user-hz5ld9yp4l 6 лет назад

      👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @ericabelcher8760
      @ericabelcher8760 6 лет назад +2

      kimberly329 AMEN & AMEN!!!

  • @karissawoodhouse4652
    @karissawoodhouse4652 5 лет назад +43

    When Jxn said you’re too available, it hit hard.

  • @a.alexander9221
    @a.alexander9221 7 лет назад +574

    "Before you cut him off, scale it back" I'm guilty of cutting guys off ASAP

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 7 лет назад +15

      Umm I don't know CUT EM.OFF!!✌

    • @pelosuelto70
      @pelosuelto70 6 лет назад +76

      I had a guy who wanted to be friends with me, says “he doesn’t want to lose me again.” Then he mentioned friends with benefits. I instantly blocked him on all social networks Quickly and Quietly. Peaceful days since I did it!

    • @a.alexander9221
      @a.alexander9221 6 лет назад +11

      Abomination 👏 That’s how you have to handle it sometimes

    • @positivevibes5364
      @positivevibes5364 6 лет назад

      Me too

    • @thatokharoli9411
      @thatokharoli9411 5 лет назад

      A. Alexander Yu

  • @Flawless_bawse
    @Flawless_bawse 7 лет назад +54

    Terribly going thru this right now.... swore we was good until I heard this gentlemen...... guess I better chill out and occupy my time and availability towards more work money and school

  • @blondieboss6701
    @blondieboss6701 7 лет назад +44

    that is so true a lot of time women make excuses for men because they are tierd of being alone an they tolerate being a side chick, a stand by chick.

  • @danathompson7741
    @danathompson7741 6 лет назад +2

    I needed your advice from as a teenager, young person and know as a grown woman. Thanks, D for your advice. Please continue to share the truth. Some of us are/were stuck on waiting, thinking a baby will make him stay/be committed, thinking love would keep him. Then some spend a lifetime with low self esteem, attracting the same situations, going back and forth to the merrygoround of b.s. because we settled and compromised. Confidence in knowing that I am better, wiser and deserve a man who is 100% for me, loving us and building and maintaining a relationship. No drama.

  • @Mila-md2wx
    @Mila-md2wx 7 лет назад +14

    So true!! I definitely keep that in mind nowadays. I know I'm worth making time for, not about to wait on no man to figure that out. Not about to campaign for your attention.

  • @shereeabel2313
    @shereeabel2313 7 лет назад +5

    Absolutely! Amen Brother! Im going through this right now and I know that man gonna miss this sweet ass! Im smiling thinking about how much! I did make myself too available, and while we were building every day, he still insists on no commitment. Im moving on knowing he will regret losing me. Painful, but I love myself too much to be an option

  • @lavender7natural
    @lavender7natural 7 лет назад +216

    Be anxious for NOTHING!

  • @MissSandralicious
    @MissSandralicious 5 лет назад +3

    You are honestly helping with my journey to healing from being in a toxic relationship with a man who was not investing with his actions, only with his words. I see the light at the end of the tunnel because of your realness. Thank you!!

  • @Beautyishername82
    @Beautyishername82 7 лет назад +594

    Sometimes you've got to fall back so much you become Houdini, disappear and if they don't come looking then HELLO/GOODBYE!

    • @latanyarc3
      @latanyarc3 7 лет назад +9

      mizzkii82 what if he says that he would miss me or feel some type of way but won't chase a female....DOES THIS SAME THING APPLY

    • @UrUrbanRockstar
      @UrUrbanRockstar 7 лет назад +67

      Latanya J Believe the actions, not his words. If he doesn't want to lose you, he'll step up and reach out more and make an effort. Don't make excuses for him either. He makes time to eat, sleep, check social media, and watch tv. He has the time, the question is whether he finds you valuable to spend his time with and not just when its convenient. Don't tell him you're going ghost, JUST DO IT.

    • @luulips
      @luulips 7 лет назад +2

      Latanya J yes I'd say it does

    • @Beautyishername82
      @Beautyishername82 7 лет назад +89

      Latanya J Honestly my grandmother taught me to let a man pursue, if that's not what he's doing then I don't show any more interest period. Sometimes we know damn well someone isn't that interested in us but we'll continue to pursue the man then become upset when he plays us for a fool when all along you signed up to be one. If he's not leading by his actions then you bounce honey!

    • @MissAbsss
      @MissAbsss 7 лет назад +1

      mizzkii82 dats all!!!

  • @yvonnevoumwadkon9251
    @yvonnevoumwadkon9251 7 лет назад +17

    hmmmm..... that's also the reason why I didn't hurt much when he walked cos I saw it coming. You said it all. God bless you Derrick.

  • @willLLIt
    @willLLIt 7 лет назад +824

    the accuracy been there and done that! now they couldn't find me if they used a gps

    • @deej5608
      @deej5608 7 лет назад +18

      sheherbeliver 🙌👏👏👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

    • @KG-sp9ym
      @KG-sp9ym 7 лет назад +15

      What you said!!!

    • @nandhilumsden1348
      @nandhilumsden1348 7 лет назад +35

      sheherbeliver 😂😂😂😂 aint finding me even if they climb the godamn moon.... they better move from ya suh to pussyclaat

    • @willLLIt
      @willLLIt 7 лет назад +9

      Nhayishka lumsden lol yes maam!!!!

    • @lcrochetlovechild7047
      @lcrochetlovechild7047 7 лет назад +5

      sheherbeliver yep

  • @carolloraine223
    @carolloraine223 7 лет назад +81

    The thing is this..hes not sitting around and there will always be the next and the next victim , etc for him. Be glad he wont be wasting anymore of your previous time.

  • @SimplyAnne1
    @SimplyAnne1 7 лет назад +23

    This video is great derrick. I was talking to someone and I quickly realized this, my dad basically told me the same thing you said. I had to fall back because mutual interest was lacking. This is true, if he want you he'll show you and put the effort.

  • @pjfal
    @pjfal Год назад +1

    Being absent is a healing in itself. Being absent can be seen as unhealthy. I miss being apart of the equation. Thanks for your wisdom & truths.

  • @priscillavalenzuela17
    @priscillavalenzuela17 7 лет назад +55

    I see many women these days are not looking for husbands. I myself am. Your videos are amazingly helpful to Women like myself.

    • @mamafreaky
      @mamafreaky 4 года назад +1

      Maybe some of us have left toxic marriages and decided its just not for us

  • @tammyrolland4147
    @tammyrolland4147 7 лет назад +1

    I can't get enough of your videos. For me, you are single handedly instilling the belief that there may in fact be hope for me, after all. It is refreshing to see a man that has such a great understanding of how a man should/would behave if he loved his woman. your keen perception of the dynamic of relationships justifies what i know in my heart to be true and gives me the strength to push passed the bullshit and forward towards what i really want. I really hope that one day, I find someone who shares your insight and sensitivity.

  • @naz-nazneen886
    @naz-nazneen886 7 лет назад +42

    😩 Where were you in my 20's!! 😂 I sure could've used your advice back then. Keep on, you're helping somebody who is listening 👍🏽

  • @positiveelegance286
    @positiveelegance286 7 лет назад +98

    Well said!!! good advice! Where you been all my life. I know this but coming from a man it sounds better....I still feel like it's a game. Like why I gotta let him miss me when we both feeling each other? Let's just rock wit it! But I totally see that it is what is. It's not like back in the day like how your granddaddy courted your grandma and he took her out.. sent her flowers and called just check on her to make sure she was ok. The love now a days is lost...its almost nonexistent. It saddens me because love shouldn't be conquered it should be given...selflessly and genuinely.

    • @millybadze2117
      @millybadze2117 7 лет назад +5

      Chrystal Hartman very well said!!!

    • @foxyloxy5693
      @foxyloxy5693 7 лет назад +13

      Chrystal Hartman I love the old fashion way! Today there is too much on a plate too many choices cos of the so called progression with technology! Romance has died!

    • @chinarodriguez4819
      @chinarodriguez4819 7 лет назад +2

      Chrystal Hartman
      Amen,true indeed...

    • @SharleneClarke
      @SharleneClarke 5 лет назад +2

      Amen

    • @jacqu7234
      @jacqu7234 5 лет назад +3

      I So much Agree especially the last part 👍👍👍

  • @muffinbuttercup2681
    @muffinbuttercup2681 7 лет назад +748

    I don't know how I came across your stuff but I'm glad I did. I think your videos are very insightful. Keep up the great work!😊

    • @Luci438
      @Luci438 7 лет назад +14

      Yeah, I just came across you this week Jaxn. I am awfully glad I did. I am grateful to partake of the wisdom God has blessed you with.

    • @deannalisovich1908
      @deannalisovich1908 7 лет назад +5

      Muffin & Buttercup I love his videos. He's great.

    • @jyairgentry7833
      @jyairgentry7833 7 лет назад

      Muffin & Buttercup same

    • @JKat-we1nj
      @JKat-we1nj 7 лет назад

      Muffin & Buttercup Same!!!

    • @JustDoRight
      @JustDoRight 6 лет назад

      Amen! Exactly!!

  • @mssunday7192
    @mssunday7192 7 лет назад +408

    Derrick Jaxn, you are truly an answer to the cries of women! I have always been on the queue, never been any man's priority, not anymore though, thanks to you!

  • @kdee1503
    @kdee1503 7 лет назад +768

    Is this guy real? Pinch me please! Are there more guys out there like him? Men that have a truly genuine and caring head on their shoulders?

    • @Nikki-Nicole
      @Nikki-Nicole 7 лет назад +8

      kdee1503 yes there are men out here like him

    • @TLovly77
      @TLovly77 7 лет назад +15

      kdee1503 One can only dream... insightful, intelligent, keep it 100 and grown fr. Not to many like him these days but maybe its possible to find but in comparison it seems easier to find Jimmy Hoffa

    • @AsAFather_TV
      @AsAFather_TV 7 лет назад +16

      kdee1503 we are real... we do exist

    • @christianpenelton8548
      @christianpenelton8548 7 лет назад +7

      kdee1503 Girl I swear I was thinking the same damn thing lol

    • @donishaguevara
      @donishaguevara 7 лет назад +3

      kdee1503 I was thinking the same thing

  • @queentia8139
    @queentia8139 7 лет назад +161

    My boyfriend and I have been in a committed relationship for two years. I took a family vacation. He called me the entire time I was away. We want to build.

  • @LexiDarcel
    @LexiDarcel 6 лет назад +284

    OMG! This video is confirmation that the guy I'm interested in is just not that into me. I need this video on repeat!

    • @theworldisimmense
      @theworldisimmense 5 лет назад +4

      Lexi Darcel it’s not that girl. It’s just those guys just are awake that if they act too needy or too into you , she will lose interest. Blame woman’s behavior for that not man

    • @kristen914
      @kristen914 5 лет назад +15

      Theworld isimmense wow 😂 blame a single man’s actions on all women when she can see he’s just not interested... praying you break free of whatever brainwashing took hold of you 🙏🏽

    • @bigvalley4987
      @bigvalley4987 4 года назад +2

      Lexi Darcel
      REPEAT!

    • @aimees4990
      @aimees4990 4 года назад +5

      You are too good for him queen ❤

  • @boostmobile9513
    @boostmobile9513 5 лет назад

    U're a true man, a true gentleman!!! Stay strong. Study, get a psychology masters to shut up the ones who can't cope.Shine your light!!!

  • @MrUtubeiscomedy
    @MrUtubeiscomedy 5 лет назад +25

    When we ttruly dig a woman, ain't a such thing as too much in the beginning. If we as men are stand offish in the beginning, trust... You ain't the one.

    • @wilted_rose510
      @wilted_rose510 3 года назад

      what if hes obsessed and in love, worships the ground i walk on, but his pride got in the way? i let go but i broke down in tears

  • @prettyboricuaec
    @prettyboricuaec 5 лет назад +1

    Very true. I only put in the same amount of time and efforts he puts in. Actions speak louder than words.

  • @uoro12
    @uoro12 7 лет назад +127

    The saying goes never make somebody a priority when they make you an option ! I feel like I keep getting put in that I'm interested but you too far away category. Then when they inbox, they used all these emojis to make me feel some kind of way. I wish guys would stop saying one thing and acting another. I don't mind being in the friend zone but make sure you don't play with my emotions during the process!

    • @ericabelcher8760
      @ericabelcher8760 7 лет назад +5

      Shauna Sampson!!! OMG!!! I know EXACTLY what you're saying!! I had to get myself out of that pattern that was happening to me as well!! Smh

    • @robyn9513
      @robyn9513 7 лет назад +1

      Shauna Sampson thank you! Amen!❤

    • @ericabelcher8760
      @ericabelcher8760 6 лет назад +1

      Shauna Sampson EXACTLY!!!!! SMDH

  • @ElauntraSeoul
    @ElauntraSeoul 7 лет назад +1

    Why didn't I find your page before moving on my own to college and going threw all types of hell I went threw with men!! The advise he's giving, is so true!!! If theres young girls on this page and seeking advise on how a man SHOULD treat you, and not quite sure because you didn't have quite a good women figures to demonstrate how a man should treat his women or a good man role model due to coming from a broken home.......This man right here can SAVE YOU from a loooonnggggg road of heart ache and valuable time wasted!! Don't let this current worlds views of what "love" is fool you. Having side chicks and etc. is NOT love! This mans videos are really a blessing and free game because dudes can sense if you have low self esteem and know how to do just enough to pull you back in and to keep you a little longer if you let him. And make you feel like your crazy or the one trippin when he's really doing wrong. Follow this man if your not! He really trying to save some of us! Don't let this world teach you a lesson! its easier to just take people's wisdom who already went threw the BS and learn from there experience. And don't take advice from anyone who doesn't have the relationship you aspire to have....people just as confused and trying to figure out what they should Do just like you!#Coming from experience.....save yourself the heartache and pain if you can.

  • @jodiwright70
    @jodiwright70 6 лет назад +3

    Thanks Derrick. I've been really going through it and your videos have been a source of strength and reminder of the woman I once was before the B.S

  • @nycgem11
    @nycgem11 7 лет назад +52

    Ya ladies looking too much into it analyzing should I do this or that, focus on yourself for everything and trust whatever whoever is for you will come your way and stay there, just be neutral and let him do all the work and if he's got you he will stick around, afterwards you can decide if you want to put in any effort in calling him more or something, when you fall back he'll be begging for you to do more , keep the ball in your court always and just be you naturally without the extra thoughts sometimes we over think and do to much so keep it simple and always about you

    • @muneerahcoleman
      @muneerahcoleman 5 лет назад

      nycgem11 excellent advice coming from a man I suppose???

    • @creativemind2562
      @creativemind2562 5 лет назад +5

      muneerahcoleman Even if this is a man, I still agree with what they’re saying. If someone wants to stay in your life, they will do just that. No games on either end will have to be played, it’ll be authentic and neutral. If you have to play cat and mouse games with someone, then drop their asses. It’s not the end of the world. Because 9/10, there’s someone out here who will match the energy you dish out.

  • @dianadagoddess3979
    @dianadagoddess3979 7 лет назад +10

    Amen and thanks for the advice. I've been told I'm too available.

  • @tamekaakamekadread2813
    @tamekaakamekadread2813 7 лет назад +73

    Big Up! Tried and proven. He hit me up that he can't stop thinking about me and doesn't want to be with anyone but me. I made his ass miss me and as tempted as I was to check in, I never once gave in :)

  • @BeautytheyCallHer
    @BeautytheyCallHer 7 лет назад +318

    It works I had to do it but then I became uninterested on to the next waiting on God this time.

  • @hollywoodscreations3795
    @hollywoodscreations3795 5 лет назад +2

    I know you must feel like a broken record at times. Your videos are GREATLY APPRECIATED!! Your time, hard work, and EXCELLENT advice is seen and heard!! Thank you!! 🙏💖 Every time I start questioning something I just scroll through your videos lol.

  • @LadiiScorp00
    @LadiiScorp00 7 лет назад +15

    THANK YOU!! I just "scaled back" my availability and I'm FINE with that. Maybe he'll miss me but if NOT, I'm GOOD!!

  • @pearlsachiko2667
    @pearlsachiko2667 5 лет назад +3

    This message is SO GOOD. I listened to it 3 times. I’m so grateful for your channel.

  • @QUICKNESSN3
    @QUICKNESSN3 7 лет назад +122

    It's so sad our elders have failed the younger generations. This valuable information/ tool should have been passed down to each young lady from generation to generation. Back in the day women were taught to let the man court and chase them. It is a shame that in 2017,the roles have now reversed and many women are taking L's daily. SMH.
    My advice to you ladies is this, kickback and LOVE yourself. Then, if he decides to bounce, you can be alright with it and allow that goofball to bounce and roll right down the street!

    • @mckennameyers7010
      @mckennameyers7010 7 лет назад +6

      SECOND CHANCE!!! that's not a failure on their part. if you think about it, they lived in a different time and didn't have certain shit to deal with. they didn't live in a high tech world full of social media. we changed the world and it happened too rapidly, the repercussions not even thought about until we're wondering why this guy or that has all these female friends liking their stuff on fb. wondering why they don't call. and the list goes on.

    • @QUICKNESSN3
      @QUICKNESSN3 7 лет назад +7

      McKenna Meyers, I get what you're saying, however; I somewhat disagree. Why? Because as mothers/fathers/elders it is our job to train and teach OUR children and with life, time passes, things change and therefore we are to ADJUST. And it was/is the elders job to recognize right from wrong, good and evil and inform the child of such. They did not do that. And that is why I say the elders failed us.

    • @mckennameyers7010
      @mckennameyers7010 7 лет назад +6

      On the flip side, I was raised in a very traditional, time has stopped, town and every single person my age chose to ignore what was trying to be taught by our elders, which is why it's so easy to believe that it just wasn't happening there but everywhere. It's so easy to choose not to hear and listen, especially if it's something we don't want to hear or see as irrelevant.

    • @QUICKNESSN3
      @QUICKNESSN3 7 лет назад +3

      But you said it McKenna, you were RAISED, meaning (and you just said it yourself), certain things, morals, training, etc., were TAUGHT to you. That shows your parent(s) did THEIR part/job as your PARENTS/OVERSEER. Now if you choose to listen or not, that was your choice. But, there are vast amounts of people who were NOT raised/trained up by those who were supposed to do just that. And that's why I say our elders failed us-atleast mines did and so many other people I know and grew up with.

    • @JoannaCubana
      @JoannaCubana 7 лет назад

      SECOND CHANCE!!! Yes!!!💓💓💓

  • @Alastorsimpnotpimp
    @Alastorsimpnotpimp 4 года назад +2

    I’ve been in cue for two years outta five. Then I graduated to hovering. Texts he was board, lonely. He said a word it wasn’t bad word it just made me think he’s not interested. I’m not mad, bitter towards him, I thank him for showing me his real self. If it wasn’t for his narcissist behavior I wouldn’t be where I am today. Thank you 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿......

  • @Toyiamichelle
    @Toyiamichelle 7 лет назад +46

    Derrick Jaxson always keeps it real 💯

  • @kimberlypowell3236
    @kimberlypowell3236 7 лет назад

    This is a real eye opener for me thanks Derrick for giving us women insight into the mental of an unworthy man so we can keep it movin

  • @sakariturnthepage7257
    @sakariturnthepage7257 3 года назад +4

    Nobody perfect I’m still a fan keep your head up Derrick GOD got you and thanks for the good advice we women still need to be lifted up ❤️

    • @angelculby3449
      @angelculby3449 3 года назад

      I know of a powerful man who can make your ex to come back to you begging you back for a second chance.
      He was the one who brought back my ex within 48 hours.

    • @angelculby3449
      @angelculby3449 3 года назад +1

      What'''sapp him.

    • @angelculby3449
      @angelculby3449 3 года назад

      + 2 ,3 4 9 0 6 6 1 8 5 7 3 7

  • @kikisoflyy8165
    @kikisoflyy8165 5 лет назад +2

    I've been binge watching the past few days. I'm really going thru it with my bd. But I'm ghosting his ass. I gotta let it go... He will miss me but this time I won't take him back. Thank u for sharing your wisdom! God Bless!

  • @GypsyRock
    @GypsyRock 5 лет назад +196

    “If he can go a whole day without talking to u he’s just not interested”
    Ouch. Damn. That one hurt. This guy I talk to goes to school full time and works full time and I BEEN THERE And I know how hard it is. He’s about to graduate.
    So normally I’d be ok with no talking for a few days. I ain’t desperate. I got my own shit goin on
    But coming from a guy, to hear you say he’s not interested if he doesn’t hit me up every single day, then I guess that’s all I need to know. He’s gone. 🤷‍♀️

    • @NaturallyHERS
      @NaturallyHERS 5 лет назад +42

      I wouldn't cut him off. Im in that same situation as a nursing student and my woman is very understanding. We may not get to talk ALL day everyday but at the end of the day we do reach out to one another to see how our day went, say good night and I love you. As adults and especially as someone who is trying accomplish goals sometimes sacrifices have to be made. It's always good to have someone in your corner who is patient, understanding and supportive. At the end of the day, his accomplishments will benefit the both of you. I'm pretty sure as a man it's important to him that he has stability and can offer you security as your man.

    • @monica62888
      @monica62888 5 лет назад +16

      @@NaturallyHERS wow, this is a great response 🤔

    • @dianasalazar4488
      @dianasalazar4488 5 лет назад +12

      @@NaturallyHERS I agree with your situation, it's all about adult communication and understanding about the situation.

    • @NaturallyHERS
      @NaturallyHERS 5 лет назад +25

      @@dianasalazar4488 I agree. You have to take these videos with a grain of salt. The things they say doesn't apply to every situation.

    • @dianasalazar4488
      @dianasalazar4488 5 лет назад +11

      @@NaturallyHERS Sad thing is, some men aren't willing to initiate conversations like that. I was briefly dating a guy, and through text (of course) things got mixed up. I just laid it all out, said it was no big deal but we just needed to clarify things. He was like "thanks for communicating"i said, that's what adults in relationships do. It still didn't work out due to the exact points the Derrick pointed out.

  • @_NayomieMcLeod
    @_NayomieMcLeod 5 лет назад +360

    I BLOCKED HIM EVERYWHERE! if he really misses me he'll go out of his way to find me somehow

    • @katherinemoore3059
      @katherinemoore3059 5 лет назад +24

      Blocking him was the best thing I ever did!

    • @caseyhinebaugh6987
      @caseyhinebaugh6987 4 года назад +9

      I swear I do this all the time🤦‍♀️😂🤞

    • @sanityisrare
      @sanityisrare 4 года назад +3

      Me too😂sending u love

    • @Sarafara7
      @Sarafara7 4 года назад +60

      David Álvarez men are blocked because they wasted a woman’s time. So, if this is your attitude, it’s no wonder you were blocked.

    • @brandyyolidio4213
      @brandyyolidio4213 4 года назад +3

      @@Jambuc829
      Everything ain't for everybody.
      If you do not tolerate that, then you don't nothing wrong with that.

  • @t.helene3265
    @t.helene3265 7 лет назад +12

    Did exactly that
    ..soon as I started happily dating another man (good guy) it was "i miss u, been thinking about u, etc etc etc"...boy bye! smh

  • @caliavang9811
    @caliavang9811 7 лет назад

    I love how you stand up for the women out there!! You are a real man

  • @kuntrygrl101
    @kuntrygrl101 7 лет назад +76

    this is so Truuu...I made this mistake with the last guy I dated... I was truly feeling him, but I was ALWAYS available to him! I thought if I denied him time, I'd lose him, well now I kno. Lesson Learned!! I never turned him down when he wanted to see me. I felt if I did that it would seem like playing games. I thought if you feeling them and they're feeling you then what's the problem, but I was definitely wrong.

    • @kierrasymone378
      @kierrasymone378 7 лет назад +20

      I had to stop making myself available for him . and stay busy all this weekend and he was blowing my phone up . cuz he saw I was doing my thing . then finally after two weeks and me reversing script want to finally see me was hard turn him down cux what I want to hang with him but I had to . to make sure hr continues to miss me . he was upset but I mean u didn't cancel your plans for do why would I do same . do I'm going to continue me until I'm READY to see him .

    • @lyriclanguages3780
      @lyriclanguages3780 6 лет назад +2

      Us women forget men like a challenge, the chase. It's something that's already been wired in them. If we make ourselves too available, they get bored. It's great to have mutual feelings, but its only healthy to have our own things to do and let him come to you. We've been told that we should always go after what we want, men included. But regardless of how modern or open minded the guy is, he still wants someone he can win, put in effort for.

    • @theworldisimmense
      @theworldisimmense 5 лет назад

      Pellegrino Aqua hahaha believe me there’s a very few who likes the chase

  • @karenjuson9817
    @karenjuson9817 7 лет назад +7

    YOU'RE THE MAN. I LOVE HEARING THIS WORDS, THE SAME AS WHAT I REALLY THOUGHT IS RIGHT. I'M NOT ALONE. THANKS SO MUCH. MORE BLESSINGS😇 😇😇

  • @JenkinsLisaC
    @JenkinsLisaC 7 лет назад +32

    I stopped making myself easily available and accessible years ago. I have a life to live, love and enjoy, and my time and space are precious to me. Later for that rotation crap.

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 7 лет назад +1

      LISA C JENKINS ladies..male RULES for your self...no dude should be calling you after in the middle of the night..ala...booty call....NOT!
      if you don't hear from them for days....don't let them hear from you...anymore!...
      # make RULES for yourselves...ladies 🙇‍♀️🙏🙇‍♀️

  • @soulsourcetarot
    @soulsourcetarot 7 лет назад +183

    This was no coincidence that I found you. Thank you God.

    • @RJ12347
      @RJ12347 3 года назад +2

      You were saying????

    • @51844mj
      @51844mj 3 года назад +2

      Hopefully you were joking 🙃

  • @carolloraine223
    @carolloraine223 6 лет назад +5

    Men can sometimes be like yo yos..here today gone again tomorrow and on and on with playing their games...geez.
    No thank you..not wasting my precious energy!
    Love being single!
    Thank you for sharing anyway.

  • @GS-st9ns
    @GS-st9ns 6 лет назад

    I like the way you don't blame the victim. As women, we offered get shamed for being with the wrong person. Kudos to you

  • @arilopez2073
    @arilopez2073 7 лет назад +169

    Umm... been dealing with dude for a few and yesterday i texted him in the Am and i haven't heard from him since but he been on social media. I gave up

  • @1tetekeke
    @1tetekeke 7 лет назад

    Big Eye Opener!! He's rare and it's like we only get men like these like the Solar Eclipse we just had on the 21st of this month and sometimes it seems longer than that and it's also the day my son was born over 4 years ago Thanks So Much for Sharing just knowing there's men like you out there gives us women hope Thank You!!

  • @LG-bx3wl
    @LG-bx3wl 7 лет назад +165

    Talking every day is too much for me. Then when we are in person we run out of stuff to say. I'd rather miss him and be excited and have a lot to share. Predictability breeds boredom. And if we have our life what's the rush? I'm learning and working. Can't talk to anyone every single day and I still love him ♥️

    • @SophiaLMitchell
      @SophiaLMitchell 7 лет назад +20

      Giiiirl, I can't get my man to overstand this. lol...he's the one who needs to let me miss him! Ugh. I don't have the desire to speak to anyone every got damn day and love my alone time.

    • @LG-bx3wl
      @LG-bx3wl 7 лет назад +24

      NaturalMystic71 Right! Lol. Talking every day, at the same time saying the same thing every day. That gets boring and predictable. I like randomness and spontaneity. I've met guys in the past who text daily sometimes all day and most of them weren't driven.

    • @SophiaLMitchell
      @SophiaLMitchell 7 лет назад +23

      Exactly! I need something to look forward to ya now. The build up is important. I think it's important to have that time apart so when you see each other again it's spontaneous and filled with anticipation. :)

    • @phillygyrl34
      @phillygyrl34 7 лет назад +8

      I am the same exact way...... talking 2-3 times a week is more my speed.....

    • @LG-bx3wl
      @LG-bx3wl 7 лет назад +3

      Where did I say we have nothing to talk about? I have a bf of 2 years. I don't like routine and predictable daily texts. I'm not needing for you to understand that.

  • @normajeanweimer1709
    @normajeanweimer1709 6 лет назад +4

    Thanks so much for your words of wisdom❤ I'm newly divorced after 38 years of marriage I never knew what narsasism was. My husband wanted a new life, moved out and was dating a woman just as fast, couldn't get me out of his life fast enough. I'm doing ok with lots of therapy and family❤ my children are all grown. It's very hard to see him move on so fast but I have no choice, trying so hard not to be jealous. So many emotions. Most days are pretty good but its a lot of work to stay busy. Thank you so much for your vidieos, its helped me so much❤ Norma Jean❤

  • @nyathediva
    @nyathediva 7 лет назад +23

    This is so true I am dealing with this very issue now.

  • @candiesgrooming
    @candiesgrooming 4 года назад

    Love the way you say it straight from a guys view,,, thanks for the insight to a mans mind !!!

  • @mmamoteanemorei9701
    @mmamoteanemorei9701 7 лет назад +11

    You are my go to "girlfriend " when i am confused and need advice. i literally sit on the couch drink my wine and listen to you as though you right next to me. All the way from South Africa, i love ya videos..keep up the awesome work!

  • @shanellewarner6873
    @shanellewarner6873 5 лет назад

    This was great advice Derrick woman stop being so available for a man who is not worth your time . To all my women know your worth don't settle for bs .

  • @lyndapeoples8127
    @lyndapeoples8127 5 лет назад +4

    Well said! That's exactly the way that I carry it now. My only regret is that I wish I had learned it years earlier. Mine was by trial and error

  • @madelrigonan07
    @madelrigonan07 7 лет назад

    So much honesty and wisdom here. Thanks man.

  • @cammilove358
    @cammilove358 7 лет назад +7

    So damn true, Use to talk to a guy in high school that i really liked decided to stop calling to see if he would start calling me and sure enough he did. Called all the time, up to this day he still asks for me

  • @lizjones9086
    @lizjones9086 7 лет назад

    I love this man's complete honesty thank you so much it's great to have it in honest & bold terms , keep up the good work 👏👏

  • @vanaphill2454
    @vanaphill2454 7 лет назад +23

    Make him miss you. Daily effort is paramount!

  • @michelleolson7176
    @michelleolson7176 7 лет назад +1

    You are my new found inspiration. You tell it like it is and I love that. All the other wannabe advisors are OK. But you are the truth. I am learning so much from you and you would think at 46 yes old I would know it all. Proves that men was trowing a towel over my head the whole entire time.
    Thanks Derrick you are Awesome😁

  • @amritadutta4379
    @amritadutta4379 5 лет назад +3

    Hi Derrick, It really great hearing things out loud, especially on this issues. For my case, I had a relationship for around 8 years and it went through on and off in its course. Last year, he broke off even I was going through a very rough phase of life. He was having anxiety for the future, which he couldnt control and he broke the relationship.
    Since then, i had spent a lot of time rebuilding myself from the scratches. I was healing. I didnt reach out to him and when he did i was cold.
    But this time, this year he reached out again when he was having a bad emotional situation. And we talked. He told me he wants me back. Though he didnt have any concert plan. We talked again for 3 days on call and on msgs and then he got busy and there was very miminal talks.
    One year has passed and it didnt seems he is putting efforts to mend things, where he was the one to broke the relationship.
    I feel I am back to the square 1 of all my efforts of healing. I am restless, again waiting for his calls /text. Its purely annoying now. Because, I had overcome those issue and now again im in the state state of mind.
    I need to know if this relationship is worth my time, love and efforts.

  • @MotorCityStarr
    @MotorCityStarr 7 лет назад

    I enjoy listening to you and I enjoy speaking these things into existence for myself and others. It's a joy to hear the same advice coming from a man about a man as it is from a woman about a man.

  • @curli-lettey4319
    @curli-lettey4319 5 лет назад +12

    I usually play the role of being too busy and keeping it moving when in fact I am watching him to see how he responds to my actions.
    I will show some interest but it can look innocent like being friendly.

  • @cowgirl9543
    @cowgirl9543 7 лет назад +2

    You are always so right on the money. I just told this loser after he found out I was dating someone else because he was neglecting me, he asked if he could call me during the week. I was like, "You never called me during the week, so don't think I'm going to make time for you now that you are jealous and about to lose me. When someone treats you like they don't give a shit, they don't. Point well taken, I'm out."

  • @AndiPandyPie
    @AndiPandyPie 5 лет назад +144

    The 242 dislikes were from men he’s describing 🙃

    • @yolandatanner1509
      @yolandatanner1509 3 года назад

      Hell yea ,they mad as fuck he spilling the beans lol

  • @Ct-ct1mq
    @Ct-ct1mq 6 лет назад

    You are amazing! Finally advice from a man about how men think and act. Going through something right now and this really hit home!

  • @lorraineblessed242
    @lorraineblessed242 7 лет назад +6

    amen!! hun I admire you so much...ladies know ur worth!!

  • @tajefleming810
    @tajefleming810 5 лет назад

    I’m a guy but I definitely like your channel u speaking the real facts about how a women should handle things. Really dope bro

  • @dhenningham1
    @dhenningham1 7 лет назад +92

    It would be great, if you could do a Q&A with your mum. Just so we could meet the woman who influenced and helped to implement your morals and values. It would be really inspiring for all mothers, especially those who are single and that may be struggling. Just a thought, your doing really well. Thank you!

  • @armonithomas6838
    @armonithomas6838 6 лет назад +1

    Facts I watched a few on fb now I'm subscribed. We need more honest men in this work to make better choices which effectively makes more changes. Love your videos