do you think the parents were right for what they did? Should they have told Lydia earlier on that she was spending her inheritance? Would that have changed anything?
Considering Lydia’s attitude, this was clearly a case of actions speaking louder than words. It doesn’t sound like she would have believed her parents had they had given her the full story in their warning. Besides, her mother did say that the hardest lessons are always the best ones. She knew what she had in hand.
No….because in her state of mind, she got it, her friends take advantage of it tell her “ Don’t worry he says that now but guess what he will still leave you money !” She will believe them over her family. So either way it turns out the way it should.
"What kind of a father just leaves his daughter out in the cold like this?" A SMART FATHER!!!!! My Dad was never wealthy financially speaking. But he's been around this planet longer than I have so he used his wealth of knowledge and instilled in me something called COMMON SENSE. I was still a senior in High School when I started my very first job. It was not anything fancy just slinging pizzas for dominos I was 18 still living at home but helping my dad out by paying half of my check for the bills my brother did the same. We were taught some self reliant skills ❤❤ love my father and would not change anything bout it
There's PLENTY of college kids that work, pay bills, go to school, pay rent, grocery shop AND cook. SHE should have been made to learn to cook, grocery shop, clean, manage money, get A JOB YEARS EARLIER and pay for some of her own expenses.
The parents are fools. She didn't become like that over night. All that money they just handed over because she said "give me". Dad was paying off the school to keep them from kicking her out. The parents are just as bad,if not worse than the daughter.
@silkandstones5964 her money that she did not earn and that her parents decided to give it to her. They could not to give her the inheritance. They can give it to ant slvation foundation or something if they want. It is not her money. It is the money her parents willingly, voluntarily gave her.
@SilkandStones Actually, no it wasn’t. It was money her parents had set aside to give her as an inheritance. Until they die and the estate is settled, the money is still theirs.
If they are going to give her money, what they should have done was give her a set amount each month and that's all. No matter how much she begs she gets no more. The amount she receives would be based on her actual living expenses with some extra for spending money...and that is it.
i tell that brat kid u pick get a full time job to pay everything urself or drop out & be in debt for life & homeless if she bitch at me i yell over her want act like a child u got it & my lawyer make sure u never get nothing
If that was me doing this, my father would cancel my credit card or lower the limit for basics. Then, since she isn't going to class I would not pay tuition anymore and make her come home.Why waste money for school when she doesn't go to class.
Why should they, she’s just trying to drain her parents of money without a care in the world. She had no consideration for them just expecting them to give her thousands of dollars at a time, and being a spoiled brat about it, she’s calling her step-father name and having a fit when he didn’t transfer money fast enough. He kept warning her to not spend the money so fast, then she went through $5000 before the month was up. She was so rude and disrespectful to her step-father, not caring at all that she was draining them dry no matter how much he cautioned her about blowing through money the way she was. She was acting like an entitled Karen in training
If I had tried what she is, my dad would have cut me off except for all university fees. I also had a horse to support so I got a job on campus to cover personal expenses.
when i was in college i did not have a credit card. i go a weekly allowance. if i needed more i worked. i never would have talked to my parents this way. i was so thankful that they paid for university. SO thankful! lydia is a brat.
edit: my weekly allowance was equivalent to $100. ($20 in 1990). i could get a pizza and odds and ends. inheritance? never talked about. their retirement was much talked about. no vacations if my grades were not good enough i would be pulled out of school. my parents were awesome!
Make her list her essentials and pay that direct then deposit daily (month divided by 30) and sell that second car. But start when they are 12!! No credit cards.
Wow. Tell her to get a part time job. A lot of university students work. My nieces are her age and they cook don’t eat out. They work over the summer and save their money.
As a college student I had to earn my own spending money, most of which did go to eating out and video games. Thankfully at the time it was pretty easy to get on-campus jobs, and also at the time the $250-300 per month I got in my paycheck was more than enough. You could get a full burger, fries, and shake meal for $5, or a large pizza for $10, and video games cost a single quarter. Didn't really do clubs, didn't need to when there was a private party somewhere every weekend and a few bucks chipped in for a keg was all I needed to give if I was in the mood for that.
The university I went to had a meal plan. Students who worked in the cafeteria part time got free meals. I was also in the reserves after I quit the cafeteria and was in university. The reserves wanted me to stay in university
@JoJo Granum yeah, I had a meal card too, and most of my meals were definitely eaten at the commons. In fact, that was the job I worked for months, serving food and cleaning up, and there was always a party with my co-workers on the eve of payday. But of course as a college student who did a LOT of walking and biking around campus, I often got the late night munchies and had to go into the adjoining town to buy that burger, pizza, or burrito I craved. The pizza was definitely my favorite though. And believe it or not, the pizza place is still there three decades later...the only spot still left in standing from my student days. Every other eatery i knew at the time closed or changed names or owners.
@@paul16451 a guy i worked with at the college i took some classes at would hit up the 49 cent burger days at the McDonalds and buy 10 to 20 of them and freeze them hed also buy the meat lovers pizza from pizza hut and freeze slices so he could set them to thaw and eat them. he also would buy the sandwich meats in bulk on discount days and freeze them in portions with cheese. Growing up i learned that if you buy two loafs of bread and a thing of the big bologna or a couple cans of meat you can make sandwiches with mustard and put them into individual bags and back into the bread bags then freeze them you had up to a month or more of meals. kids these days are getting so used to having certain foods we only dreamed of as kids. mine arent but that's cause pinchin pennies but makin good meals is how many of us grew up back in the day.
My parents gave me money to see a movie on occasion with friends while in college and covered my expenses as long as I was taking a major course load and keeping my grades up. If I had acted like this, pretty sure I wouldn’t have been able to sit for a week. How hard it is it to show some damn respect anymore.
Me and my wife both have good jobs and we are doing well. But we always got our daughter what she wanted but instead of being a spoiled piece of trash she would always share anything and sometimes even give something she likes to her cousin cuz they are basically twins. I was so proud she gave her Nintendo switch to another cousin in Mexico cuz they would appreciate it more and she can always work and buy another. By next year I can say I raised a fine adult.
My parents encouraged us to get part-time jobs in high school. The prize was not having to do some of the chores. (There were 6 of us, I'm the third oldest.) Well, when I was able to get that coveted job ... that was when they went out and bought that effing dishwasher!!! My 3 younger brothers were so spoiled.
oh but dont you know that their dishwasher was kid powered up till then? i remember a time when my mom asked when they were gonna get one and he pointed at me and my brother and said "we have two right here" needless to say we got one in the new place but still had to prewash everything. now a days they have their own built in food catchers and one of those food disposal units in them for breaking up the food left on the plates.
@@helema23 that's what my dad said when I asked if we could get a dishwasher glad we aren't into big parties 😂 which we don't have room for one anyways
"Oh honey, we failed to educate you in how to take care of yourself, from budgeting to proper survival skills like cooking, but we fully blame you for not figuring it out. As punishment, we are going to lie about where money comes from until you are completely broke and have to learn to work as well." They are just as responsible for her being such a train wreck as she is.
They give her money, she HD every opportunity to learn how to financially responsible.....she even mentioned finances AS A JUSTIFICATION to aste money. Yall weird, she IN COLLEGE
Hold the phone: You have 2 car payments and monthly vacations? BTW, the only way my money is YOUR money is my say so and ANYTHING CAN BE ARRANGED, MY DEAR! You're so special, why? You're not that special, stepdaughter!
God so glad our daughter started working on her own at age 16. Shes 43 now and working a great job. Just bought herself a brand new truck. Raising her son. Living the good life without running through our money
This is why I don't like legacy students, and why I think places like Harvard are destroying their own reputation by allowing legacy students to continue to attend. If "I attended Harvard!" applied to this stepdaughter (we don't know where she's attending), yet she's not even going to most of her classes, well, that's really not something to be proud of on either side of that statement, now is it?
Amateur. Doesn't she know anything? You're supposed to start with eating disorders, self-cutting, drug addictions and unplanned pregnancies now. If that doesn't work, causing serious car accidents and suicide attempts. And if mommy and daddy still won't budge, make up a sexual abuse story to suck up to some uncle or some such. This girl should pay better attention to how rich friends handle parental lessons.
When I was 19 I had a job and I lived on my own. You are legaly adult at 18 in my country. And I went to catering scool so I wasn't even 18 when I finished it. The school system is diferent in my country. If you chose a trade school you can work at 18. You'rev basicaly set for life. This girl is spoilt. And we dont have tuition, I didn't have. No college fund, no nothing. Scool is free and after that you go to work.
That was stupid. Just give her a set amount each month. If she spends it, she can wait until the following month for the next installment. Quit giving in to her every single time she complains!! Giving her the entire "inheritance" is just dumb.
I wouldn't have even given her a warning. If I was linked to the cards then would've just paid them off and cancelled the cards. If I wasn't linked to them, then I wouldn't pay a dime on them. Then I'd cut her off financially. If she wants to f around by going out clubbing/vacationing instead of going to her classes, then she can find out what happens when she doesn't have daddy's money. He did wrong by making donations to the school just to keep her enrolled.
for those blaming the parents, there is a thing called peer pressure and that will influence the childs behavior along with the parents trying to be good parents by giving what they need or want and that is where it all goes wrong. so it isnt just the parents doing wrong by the child.
Entitled much? No free rides. Not eating out can save $$. $50 for 2 meals in a restaurant including tip, or groceries for 4 days. Why 2 car payments? Car ownership is very expensive. I WALKED everywhere or got rides for 25 years. Only 3 years ago I got my first used car. Needs alot of maintenance. My ex never learned how to cook.
Other practical options: Get a bike (a good one costs $200), ride the bus, get a gas-powered scooter ($1,500 plus monthly insurance). For eating, get some canned goods, lunch meat, chips, bread, beverages like soda and juice, milk and breakfast cereal. Buy some basic cookwear, silverware, plates and bowels (about $100 and reusable). After the first week, if you work it right it should be possible to spend about $100 a week on groceries.
@@Solitaire001clothes, furniture, pots and pans, dishes, and cups can be bought from Salvation Army, Goodwill or 2nd hand stores. Churches give out free lunches, Salvation Army and local food bank can help supplement food costs. Keeping lights off when not in room also helps cut down on electric bills. At 19 I was walking to work and school. Taking public transportation(bus). Helping my parents out with the groceries and giving them part of my pay check
I would never dream of asking my parents for money - my parents brought me up to be grateful for what I have. This is what happens to rich kids and the parents were right with what they did.
She has been skipping most classes. And the lovely Italian sun? Well, that's the same sun that shines on the rest of us. She needed to get pulled out long ago.
Plus, how can she take so much time away from her classes? I think the answer is that she doesn't care about anything because she expects the world to cater to her...and she's going to get a hard lesson when it doesn't give a care about what she wants.
While it may not have changed anything, OP should have told Lydia that it was her inheritance she was spending. How can anyone make an informed decision without all the information.
I agree he should have been clearer but he did point blank tell her if she spent all of what he was giving her there won't be anymore and she'd have to get a job for money. Even if it wasn't her inheritance that really should have been clear enough to listen to
I remember this. They taught her NOTHING about being responsible and handling $. Then they set her up to lose her inheritance and never told her till it was gone. I totally blame the parents. They are irresponsible parents and the daughter pays the price
The stepdad should told the stepdaughter sooner that it was her money she was spending not his. I now she know what it feel like to bite the hand that take care of you. (Mississippi Gulf Coast, USA.
The thing about clothing is that styles come and go, but the basics last. For myself I don't wear fancy clothing, just stuff that lasts, is comfortable, and looks okay.
Other car bill? Vacations? Eating out? This is a 19 year old college girl using her stepdad as an atm. Skips school for trips to italy for "stress". And considers school for showing off and plans to permanently live off stepdad and not work.
It amazes me that the father tries so hard to be empathetic and patient when he should have just put her in her place in the beginning of the dialogue. Also, the voice of the mother is a bit ridiculous.
I feel sorry for her step-father since he have to put up with the spoil brat for a step-daughter. She need to learn how to earn her money for college in relying on her parents for money.
If I were her stepfather, I would have asked Lydia to ask her mom for the money or whatever. And I would have also made sure to sign a prenup with Lydia's mom. This whole story is a one way. As a stepfather, you don't keep giving handouts everytime your stepchildren asking you for money, whether it's their inheritance or the allowance. Stepfather should have spoken to his wife and deposited the inheritance money in some funds, where she could use it after she was 21 years old. This would have saved the inheritance and avoided her becoming a spendthrift.
do you think the parents were right for what they did? Should they have told Lydia earlier on that she was spending her inheritance? Would that have changed anything?
I would have done the same thing
If they don't let her know what is going on, it really isn't teaching her anything
Considering Lydia’s attitude, this was clearly a case of actions speaking louder than words. It doesn’t sound like she would have believed her parents had they had given her the full story in their warning. Besides, her mother did say that the hardest lessons are always the best ones. She knew what she had in hand.
They did the right thing...play stupid games win stupid prizes..
No….because in her state of mind, she got it, her friends take advantage of it tell her “ Don’t worry he says that now but guess what he will still leave you money !” She will believe them over her family. So either way it turns out the way it should.
"What kind of a father just leaves his daughter out in the cold like this?" A SMART FATHER!!!!! My Dad was never wealthy financially speaking. But he's been around this planet longer than I have so he used his wealth of knowledge and instilled in me something called COMMON SENSE. I was still a senior in High School when I started my very first job. It was not anything fancy just slinging pizzas for dominos I was 18 still living at home but helping my dad out by paying half of my check for the bills my brother did the same. We were taught some self reliant skills ❤❤ love my father and would not change anything bout it
Quit sending her money, make her give you some respect instead of taking her insults
I would have stopped debating with her a long time ago. She is entitled and disrespectful. The best teacher is experience.
That's what some parents get for spoiling their children continuously. Can't stand teenagers like that! Ugh!
There's PLENTY of college kids that work, pay bills, go to school, pay rent, grocery shop AND cook. SHE should have been made to learn to cook, grocery shop, clean, manage money, get A JOB YEARS EARLIER and pay for some of her own expenses.
But those people are sick psychopaths…..and apparently so am I for working 😂
No way would I have put up with her crap for even one semester, much less multiple times.
He may not control her, but he can control the amount he sends the brat!
My birth parents wouldn't have let me get away with this crap, especially with their money.
I'm glad it was her own money.
Parents: “I don’t understand how she could turn out like this.” Then proceeds to give her more money Every. Time. She. Asks.
The parents are fools. She didn't become like that over night. All that money they just handed over because she said "give me". Dad was paying off the school to keep them from kicking her out. The parents are just as bad,if not worse than the daughter.
They raised her that way
@silkandstones5964 her money that she did not earn and that her parents decided to give it to her. They could not to give her the inheritance. They can give it to ant slvation foundation or something if they want. It is not her money. It is the money her parents willingly, voluntarily gave her.
@SilkandStones Actually, no it wasn’t. It was money her parents had set aside to give her as an inheritance. Until they die and the estate is settled, the money is still theirs.
@SilkandStones ? What do you mean.
Constantly giving in to her demands for money only defeated the 'lesson' they were trying to teach her. A simple no would have done the same thing.
If they are going to give her money, what they should have done was give her a set amount each month and that's all. No matter how much she begs she gets no more. The amount she receives would be based on her actual living expenses with some extra for spending money...and that is it.
JUST TELL HER NO!!!!!
This girl parents should have made her get a job and give her help in a emergency situation and let her deal with the consequences of her actions
"You can't control me, I don't live with you anymore"
"Then why should I pay for you? get a job!' Pay your own bills"
"I'm 19, and I do what I want."
Child, I'm 34 and I don't do everything I want. Welcome to adulting.
She needed to learn a lesson 18 years ago !!!
by her own mother also she didnt want to listen to her step father all she care about is money
LMAO! I bet all Lydia's so-called friends have disappeared.
Would have loved to have heard more about the spoiled daughters now new phase in life!
The mothers high squeaky voice is hilarious!
Well, Lydia sneaked behind their backs and tried to steal money out I’d an account she thought was her step-father’s. She deserved what she got. 🤷🏽♀️
i tell that brat kid u pick get a full time job to pay everything urself or drop out & be in debt for life & homeless if she bitch at me i yell over her want act like a child u got it & my lawyer make sure u never get nothing
This is my favorite true life experience of father and daughter’s negative relationship involving money.
All those takeaways will make her incredibly "well rounded".
If that was me doing this, my father would cancel my credit card or lower the limit for basics. Then, since she isn't going to class I would not pay tuition anymore and make her come home.Why waste money for school when she doesn't go to class.
Or make her get an actual job
Her parents only fed her spending . She needs a job .
NO..IS a Complete Sentence. I wouldn’t even have given that Ungrateful, Entitled Brat an Inheritance at all.
Lydia, it is called W-O-R-K. The majority make their way doing that!
No more $$ for her!
Wow! She was so entitled. I wonder if the friends she spent money on are still around?
This reminds me of a song Eric Clapton recorded for the album "Unplugged": "Nobody Loves You When You're Down and Out."
“Leave me houseless”?!? I think you mean ‘leave me HOMEless’. Also, the phrase is: We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it…
I noticed that one too. 😆
Makes no sense to not tell her it is her inheritance unless they wanted her to spend it all.
Why should they, she’s just trying to drain her parents of money without a care in the world. She had no consideration for them just expecting them to give her thousands of dollars at a time, and being a spoiled brat about it, she’s calling her step-father name and having a fit when he didn’t transfer money fast enough. He kept warning her to not spend the money so fast, then she went through $5000 before the month was up. She was so rude and disrespectful to her step-father, not caring at all that she was draining them dry no matter how much he cautioned her about blowing through money the way she was. She was acting like an entitled Karen in training
They act like a drug addict but a Shopaholic oh well she'll realize that money don't grow on trees you have to work for it
She can just sell all her designer things. There is a good market for those
If I had tried what she is, my dad would have cut me off except for all university fees. I also had a horse to support so I got a job on campus to cover personal expenses.
when i was in college i did not have a credit card. i go a weekly allowance. if i needed more i worked. i never would have talked to my parents this way. i was so thankful that they paid for university. SO thankful!
lydia is a brat.
edit: my weekly allowance was equivalent to $100. ($20 in 1990). i could get a pizza and odds and ends.
inheritance? never talked about. their retirement was much talked about.
no vacations
if my grades were not good enough i would be pulled out of school.
my parents were awesome!
Make her list her essentials and pay that direct then deposit daily (month divided by 30) and sell that second car. But start when they are 12!! No credit cards.
Well done parents, trying to clean up the daughter that you educated and brought up 😢
F that shit I amOut. Save yourself from that narcissist.💀💀💀💀💀💀🖤🖤🖤🖤
Exactly
Wow. Tell her to get a part time job. A lot of university students work. My nieces are her age and they cook don’t eat out. They work over the summer and save their money.
profs don’t message parents. ever. she’d just flunk out. it’s not high school.
Get her off her backside and get her job. She's so entitled.
Wow. The mom sounds like a doll with that doll voice!
As a college student I had to earn my own spending money, most of which did go to eating out and video games. Thankfully at the time it was pretty easy to get on-campus jobs, and also at the time the $250-300 per month I got in my paycheck was more than enough. You could get a full burger, fries, and shake meal for $5, or a large pizza for $10, and video games cost a single quarter. Didn't really do clubs, didn't need to when there was a private party somewhere every weekend and a few bucks chipped in for a keg was all I needed to give if I was in the mood for that.
The university I went to had a meal plan. Students who worked in the cafeteria part time got free meals. I was also in the reserves after I quit the cafeteria and was in university. The reserves wanted me to stay in university
@JoJo Granum yeah, I had a meal card too, and most of my meals were definitely eaten at the commons. In fact, that was the job I worked for months, serving food and cleaning up, and there was always a party with my co-workers on the eve of payday. But of course as a college student who did a LOT of walking and biking around campus, I often got the late night munchies and had to go into the adjoining town to buy that burger, pizza, or burrito I craved. The pizza was definitely my favorite though. And believe it or not, the pizza place is still there three decades later...the only spot still left in standing from my student days. Every other eatery i knew at the time closed or changed names or owners.
@@paul16451 a guy i worked with at the college i took some classes at would hit up the 49 cent burger days at the McDonalds and buy 10 to 20 of them and freeze them hed also buy the meat lovers pizza from pizza hut and freeze slices so he could set them to thaw and eat them. he also would buy the sandwich meats in bulk on discount days and freeze them in portions with cheese. Growing up i learned that if you buy two loafs of bread and a thing of the big bologna or a couple cans of meat you can make sandwiches with mustard and put them into individual bags and back into the bread bags then freeze them you had up to a month or more of meals. kids these days are getting so used to having certain foods we only dreamed of as kids. mine arent but that's cause pinchin pennies but makin good meals is how many of us grew up back in the day.
My parents gave me money to see a movie on occasion with friends while in college and covered my expenses as long as I was taking a major course load and keeping my grades up. If I had acted like this, pretty sure I wouldn’t have been able to sit for a week. How hard it is it to show some damn respect anymore.
It is hard to raise a child to be super spoiled and then wait until they are in college to try and " fix" them.
Me and my wife both have good jobs and we are doing well. But we always got our daughter what she wanted but instead of being a spoiled piece of trash she would always share anything and sometimes even give something she likes to her cousin cuz they are basically twins. I was so proud she gave her Nintendo switch to another cousin in Mexico cuz they would appreciate it more and she can always work and buy another. By next year I can say I raised a fine adult.
That voice of the mother. Sounds like she's 5 yrs old. Yikes!!
My parents encouraged us to get part-time jobs in high school. The prize was not having to do some of the chores. (There were 6 of us, I'm the third oldest.)
Well, when I was able to get that coveted job ... that was when they went out and bought that effing dishwasher!!!
My 3 younger brothers were so spoiled.
oh but dont you know that their dishwasher was kid powered up till then? i remember a time when my mom asked when they were gonna get one and he pointed at me and my brother and said "we have two right here" needless to say we got one in the new place but still had to prewash everything. now a days they have their own built in food catchers and one of those food disposal units in them for breaking up the food left on the plates.
@@helema23 that's what my dad said when I asked if we could get a dishwasher glad we aren't into big parties 😂 which we don't have room for one anyways
NTA stepdaughter hat it coming. She needs to learn the hard way. 😂
Manipulative. Well if your stepfather can’t guide you, make your own decisions & pay for them yourself.
"Oh honey, we failed to educate you in how to take care of yourself, from budgeting to proper survival skills like cooking, but we fully blame you for not figuring it out. As punishment, we are going to lie about where money comes from until you are completely broke and have to learn to work as well." They are just as responsible for her being such a train wreck as she is.
They give her money, she HD every opportunity to learn how to financially responsible.....she even mentioned finances AS A JUSTIFICATION to aste money. Yall weird, she IN COLLEGE
The parents let her start this spending year ago & shouldn’t have. They let her get away with it. Bet Peyton does better. Bet she shows her up
Hes not your father so he doesn't really owe you a damn thing.
The gaslighting and deflection from this 19year old is unbelievable.
Hold the phone: You have 2 car payments and monthly vacations?
BTW, the only way my money is YOUR money is my say so and ANYTHING CAN BE ARRANGED, MY DEAR! You're so special, why? You're not that special, stepdaughter!
What a brat,I haven’t even get to the mid of the story and I’m already annoyed
God so glad our daughter started working on her own at age 16. Shes 43 now and working a great job. Just bought herself a brand new truck. Raising her son. Living the good life without running through our money
Referring to his wife he says I don’t think that you and “my”mother smh
I picked up on that too. 👍👍
If the parents are at fault for raising her wrong, then shame on them. If SHE however just lost control out pure greed, then screw that selfish idoit.
It’s the parents fault she is like that . Like she said they don’t have a back bone
What an awesome lesson for her. One of the best stories I have seen in a very long time well done.😂
Wow, thank you!
I'll second that
This is why I don't like legacy students, and why I think places like Harvard are destroying their own reputation by allowing legacy students to continue to attend. If "I attended Harvard!" applied to this stepdaughter (we don't know where she's attending), yet she's not even going to most of her classes, well, that's really not something to be proud of on either side of that statement, now is it?
Amateur. Doesn't she know anything? You're supposed to start with eating disorders, self-cutting, drug addictions and unplanned pregnancies now. If that doesn't work, causing serious car accidents and suicide attempts. And if mommy and daddy still won't budge, make up a sexual abuse story to suck up to some uncle or some such. This girl should pay better attention to how rich friends handle parental lessons.
Let's hope Peyton will not turn into a spoiled golden child after this, the parents really need to learn some lessons too in spoiling their child
When I was 19 I had a job and I lived on my own. You are legaly adult at 18 in my country. And I went to catering scool so I wasn't even 18 when I finished it. The school system is diferent in my country. If you chose a trade school you can work at 18. You'rev basicaly set for life. This girl is spoilt. And we dont have tuition, I didn't have. No college fund, no nothing. Scool is free and after that you go to work.
19 yr old that spends on 2 car payments and monthly vacation? She is thoroughly spoiled
That was stupid. Just give her a set amount each month. If she spends it, she can wait until the following month for the next installment. Quit giving in to her every single time she complains!! Giving her the entire "inheritance" is just dumb.
Should have been sooner. Make her get a job.
I wouldn't have even given her a warning. If I was linked to the cards then would've just paid them off and cancelled the cards. If I wasn't linked to them, then I wouldn't pay a dime on them. Then I'd cut her off financially. If she wants to f around by going out clubbing/vacationing instead of going to her classes, then she can find out what happens when she doesn't have daddy's money. He did wrong by making donations to the school just to keep her enrolled.
for those blaming the parents, there is a thing called peer pressure and that will influence the childs behavior along with the parents trying to be good parents by giving what they need or want and that is where it all goes wrong. so it isnt just the parents doing wrong by the child.
Entitled much? No free rides. Not eating out can save $$. $50 for 2 meals in a restaurant including tip, or groceries for 4 days. Why 2 car payments? Car ownership is very expensive. I WALKED everywhere or got rides for 25 years. Only 3 years ago I got my first used car. Needs alot of maintenance.
My ex never learned how to cook.
Other practical options: Get a bike (a good one costs $200), ride the bus, get a gas-powered scooter ($1,500 plus monthly insurance). For eating, get some canned goods, lunch meat, chips, bread, beverages like soda and juice, milk and breakfast cereal. Buy some basic cookwear, silverware, plates and bowels (about $100 and reusable). After the first week, if you work it right it should be possible to spend about $100 a week on groceries.
@@Solitaire001clothes, furniture, pots and pans, dishes, and cups can be bought from Salvation Army, Goodwill or 2nd hand stores.
Churches give out free lunches, Salvation Army and local food bank can help supplement food costs.
Keeping lights off when not in room also helps cut down on electric bills.
At 19 I was walking to work and school. Taking public transportation(bus). Helping my parents out with the groceries and giving them part of my pay check
I would never dream of asking my parents for money - my parents brought me up to be grateful for what I have.
This is what happens to rich kids and the parents were right with what they did.
Monthly vacations? Money aside, what kind of school is she going to that she can afford to take that much time off?
She has been skipping most classes. And the lovely Italian sun? Well, that's the same sun that shines on the rest of us. She needed to get pulled out long ago.
She's going to flunk out. She won't need to worry about tuition and books then.
Plus, how can she take so much time away from her classes? I think the answer is that she doesn't care about anything because she expects the world to cater to her...and she's going to get a hard lesson when it doesn't give a care about what she wants.
Why does Eva have the vocal chords of a 2 year old?
While it may not have changed anything, OP should have told Lydia that it was her inheritance she was spending. How can anyone make an informed decision without all the information.
I agree he should have been clearer but he did point blank tell her if she spent all of what he was giving her there won't be anymore and she'd have to get a job for money. Even if it wasn't her inheritance that really should have been clear enough to listen to
Well, she was intent on draining _him_ and didn’t care. 🤷🏽♀️ She played herself.
When I saw what Lydia was saying, the word "snowflake" comes to mind.
Kids need to ask one simple question.
"Where is the money coming from?"
If they can't even ask that one question, then they are a lost cause.
No way! This can't be actual texts. How can anybody be this spoiled?
I remember this. They taught her NOTHING about being responsible and handling $. Then they set her up to lose her inheritance and never told her till it was gone. I totally blame the parents. They are irresponsible parents and the daughter pays the price
Good luck getting it back 🎶
The stepdad should told the stepdaughter sooner that it was her money she was spending not his. I now she know what it feel like to bite the hand that take care of you. (Mississippi Gulf Coast, USA.
Such a lousy parents.
Dad wouldn't receive emails from college since she is a legal adult
It’s we’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.😂
Wanting to be the best-dressed in college is like a fart in the wind--it doesn't last long and no one remembers it for longer than a few minutes.
The thing about clothing is that styles come and go, but the basics last. For myself I don't wear fancy clothing, just stuff that lasts, is comfortable, and looks okay.
From whom did stepdaughter get the inheritance. She’s one truly spoiled girl.
Probably from a deceased father or a grandparent.
Other car bill? Vacations? Eating out? This is a 19 year old college girl using her stepdad as an atm. Skips school for trips to italy for "stress". And considers school for showing off and plans to permanently live off stepdad and not work.
It amazes me that the father tries so hard to be empathetic and patient when he should have just put her in her place in the beginning of the dialogue. Also, the voice of the mother is a bit ridiculous.
I blame the parents . Spineless doormats . They created the monster .
Parents fault for being such a push over . Gave in to her,and now you want to show some discipline. Plus she is very disrespectful .
I feel sorry for her step-father since he have to put up with the spoil brat for a step-daughter. She need to learn how to earn her money for college in relying on her parents for money.
He didn't try , he just gave part of the talk and not made it clear . It should of been both parents not him.
I'm 19 you can't tell me what to do, okay your 19 I don't have to support you anymore.
Parents are totally at fault. They failed as parents. Teach your children how to manage money. Dont give them credit cards, thats ridiculous.
If I were her stepfather, I would have asked Lydia to ask her mom for the money or whatever. And I would have also made sure to sign a prenup with Lydia's mom. This whole story is a one way. As a stepfather, you don't keep giving handouts everytime your stepchildren asking you for money, whether it's their inheritance or the allowance. Stepfather should have spoken to his wife and deposited the inheritance money in some funds, where she could use it after she was 21 years old. This would have saved the inheritance and avoided her becoming a spendthrift.
These parents created a monster.
I don't think she's a monster, just an entitled brat who has never been told no...until now.
Maybe the mother could stop inhaling helium before she talks
Mom sounds like a child 😂
What's with Eva's voice? It's ridiculous
Wow. What's up with Mom's voice? LOL
The mom’s voice is horrible: it literally gave me a headache.
Dear parents: learn the word “NO”
Your 19 there is no way that you should be drinking at all.
Just cut het off. So much talking to a narcissist.