The Thing You Must Do When You Meet Someone You Like (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

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    Have you ever met a guy you really liked, and spent weeks terrified you were going to blow it?
    You’d analyze with your friends every text he sent. You’d worry when he’d go silent for several hours, constantly checking your phone, looking for signs of hope.
    Suddenly, you become a person you weren’t before: needy, anxious, possessive - and you could feel that energy making you more and more helpless.
    I know what this is like, and trust me: if you ever want to keep a great relationship and not play games, you need to get out of this mindset fast.
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  • @cassiecasper8560
    @cassiecasper8560 5 лет назад +1015

    I finally had this breakthrough. I was always the person who was a ball of anxiety when I like someone. After doing a lot of work on myself, I'm now in this place where I am unshakable. I have a huge crush on someone right now, but no matter what happens or how he acts, I feel amazing because I know that if this doesn't work out, I still have myself and I have always pulled through when things got rough. It's so liberating.

    • @TheMonicagal
      @TheMonicagal 5 лет назад +26

      How did you stop all the anxiety? I face the same. 🌷

    • @ikyouknoweknow
      @ikyouknoweknow 4 года назад +13

      Any advice on how you got there?

    • @heyanclara
      @heyanclara 4 года назад +3

      yeeees

    • @heyanclara
      @heyanclara 4 года назад +21

      @@TheMonicagal therapy, meditation and spend more time with ourselves. But it takes a lot of time

    • @heyanclara
      @heyanclara 4 года назад +5

      @@ikyouknoweknow therapy, meditation and spend more time with ourselves. But it takes a lot of time

  • @carolloraine223
    @carolloraine223 5 лет назад +1411

    Relationships can come and go but the relationship I have with myself is the most important!😁💖

    • @merlinsvdd
      @merlinsvdd 5 лет назад +6

      Very true.

    • @williamlevy6964
      @williamlevy6964 5 лет назад +23

      Well. You're close to the right answer. Your relationship to God is the most important.

    • @carolloraine223
      @carolloraine223 5 лет назад +6

      William Levy
      Yes!😉

    • @merlinsvdd
      @merlinsvdd 5 лет назад +11

      @@carolloraine223 yes, God first then yourself.

    • @carolloraine223
      @carolloraine223 5 лет назад +5

      Sandra Van Den Driesen
      Yes! 😉

  • @katstaff317
    @katstaff317 5 лет назад +217

    I'm never "looking for love." I'm looking for a good time, whether that lasts one day or it lasts forever. And this goes for every aspect of my life, not just dating. Stop worrying about what could go wrong. Focus on what could go right! It's all about your mindset!

    • @lizethlopez5701
      @lizethlopez5701 4 года назад +3

      Omg 🤯 so true

    • @bettymurphy6865
      @bettymurphy6865 3 года назад +4

      Thanks Katherine. Appreciate the posative vibes

    • @jennifergersch9126
      @jennifergersch9126 Год назад +1

      You're so right!

    • @jennifergersch9126
      @jennifergersch9126 Год назад +1

      Keeping the stakes low is so important!

    • @katstaff317
      @katstaff317 Год назад +1

      @@jennifergersch9126 It really is. Keep your head up high and expectations low and everything will fall into place. :)

  • @deprofundis3293
    @deprofundis3293 4 года назад +239

    Summary for future reference: We have to be most prepared to let go when the stakes are the highest, when we realize this person means the world to us and start to fear losing them. Instead, we must have the strength and confidence to encourage space and not try to control them. And it comes from having a fulfilling life OUTSIDE of that person. You have a world of your own and a center of gravity that lives within you so that you won't be so rocked by losing them.

    • @deprofundis3293
      @deprofundis3293 4 года назад +3

      @An English Gent Both of your statements couldn't be further from the truth, but I'm not going to engage in a debate with you again because we've already done that extensively in other threads. I've done my best to convince you that not all women are the same, any more than all men are the same. I'm sorry you've been so hurt as to distrust women so immensely. That mindset isn't going to help you find someone like-minded. But best of luck out there.

    • @bettymurphy6865
      @bettymurphy6865 3 года назад +2

      This is exactly what I wanted in my previous relationship. Space to enjoy parts of my life without him. Sadly he did not get it and we went our separate ways. There was no other way. Sad, sad, sad

    • @bettymurphy6865
      @bettymurphy6865 3 года назад +1

      You might be surprised how sad you are when it finishes

    • @joolspools777
      @joolspools777 3 года назад

      @An English Gent Are you looking for the right women or for women who are ticking all your boxes. Maybe you are attracted to women who like alpha males?

  • @charlesbrown8117
    @charlesbrown8117 5 лет назад +67

    Never make a decision out of frustration or desperation.

  • @cherrylane79
    @cherrylane79 5 лет назад +314

    When you've had bad experiences in the past, you don't expect anything good to happen to you, or if it would happen, you don't expect it to last. Some people stop dating completely, being afraid they'll just be abused again.

    • @nakisakarymbai5574
      @nakisakarymbai5574 4 года назад +15

      I feel like that now..ive given up completely

    • @DetectiveHouse
      @DetectiveHouse 4 года назад +4

      🙋🏻‍♀️

    • @ShotofTea
      @ShotofTea 4 года назад +9

      💯 I have gotten to the point men are the same more or less.. And most men blame biology. They have a choice to respect the relationship or not.

    • @ganriamei8761
      @ganriamei8761 4 года назад

      Same with me

    • @jkim1241
      @jkim1241 4 года назад +2

      You cant let a handful of experiences with a handful of people in a world of billions keep you from trying again. Remember that

  • @charlenemaeder8027
    @charlenemaeder8027 5 лет назад +885

    Does anyone else want Matthew to talk about the opposite issue of having trouble even finding someone that you’re excited about and feel chemistry and compatibility with? 👍🏻 if you do!

    • @lissyrose6893
      @lissyrose6893 5 лет назад +18

      PLEAASE GOD YES!!! Like where the frack are they?!!

    • @lightoflife7795
      @lightoflife7795 5 лет назад +18

      Yup! That's the real problem. I was passionately in love with my husband, but it turned out he covertly didn't give a 💩. Now I can't imagine meeting someone else who makes me go mmm in the same way.
      So freakin sad.

    • @viniciusbembea
      @viniciusbembea 5 лет назад +3

      I didn't think women have such a problem, landing men's.
      My grandma was married and pregnant at 18y.
      Do you tell me that my grandmother knows better than the majority of today single women haw to get easy the guy you want ???

    • @roshsurana
      @roshsurana 5 лет назад +17

      Maybe you need to up your game to attract them. Maybe you're not that good you think you are.@@tigerinatan

    • @lightoflife7795
      @lightoflife7795 5 лет назад +40

      @@viniciusbembea times have changed. We no longer need to settle for or stay with men who fail to treat us with respect.
      Your grandma may have found a good one first time. Good for her.
      But, unfortunately many boys are brought up with an entitlement to get there own way and play mind games or physically abuse their woman. It's a sad state of affairs.
      Until quite recently woman has to put up with this poor treatment because men were the bread winner and there was no support to escape an abusive marriage if you had children.

  • @valeriesiraj1548
    @valeriesiraj1548 5 лет назад +442

    I recently met someone, but I’ve got a couple friends who are telling me do power play games with him to test him to see if he really wants to get to know me. I told these couple of friends that playing games is not what I do. I’ve set boundaries with them & they no longer talk to me. I’m not even sorry that they don’t talk with me.

    • @viniciusbembea
      @viniciusbembea 5 лет назад +52

      Probably you are the fewest female left on the earth who decided to not play games, this is a good start for you and for the guy who will find you.

    • @paulina6786
      @paulina6786 5 лет назад +35

      Valerie Siraj I have the same issue with being encouraged to play unavailable and test the guy. I want to believe friends have good intentions and try to “protect” us - but part of me also suspects they project their insecurities and past wounds onto us. I also don’t believe in playing games, I want for someone else to like me, not the version of me I’d try to project by playing games. It doesn’t mean giving the other person everything straight away. Life is not made out of extremes (playing games or being needy) but it seems a lot of people forget that... And to be honest real friends would stick around even if you didn’t follow their advice. I wish you all the best Valerie!

    • @kellyem28
      @kellyem28 5 лет назад +16

      🙌 you go girl! Don't let others contaminate you with that. What you give, you get. Give it your best, even if this ever doesn't work out, you'll have no regrets that you didn't try. All the best,

    • @ter1133
      @ter1133 5 лет назад +5

      I totally agree. There was a situation with a guy a year ago where I refused to play games, so my 'friends' decided to do it for me. One of them being a guy friend. 🤦🏼‍♀️ I was furious! Since then I am very careful divulging my love life.

    • @SediMusic
      @SediMusic 5 лет назад +7

      they want you to manipulate men to have your complete control over us, it's fucked up. Good on you for having a mind of your own! Need more like you.

  • @paulaa.6833
    @paulaa.6833 3 года назад +42

    All our lives we are taught to care about others. It took me 2 decades to realize that I need to put myself first and not feel guilty about it. We need to build up on our skills, confidence, charisma, accept who we are from every point of view and find happiness on our own through self care. Once I reached that place of happiness, everything else came along. People come and go, jobs come and go, friends come and go, nothing is permanent. But if you find your own center of gravity, others will pull towards it. Optimism is priceless. And as Mathew says: don't lower your standards. Those standards will become your biggest attraction points.

  • @bennysmiley
    @bennysmiley 5 лет назад +219

    When you thought church was over, but Matthew came through 🙌🏾

  • @emiliabolsas
    @emiliabolsas 5 лет назад +140

    Spot on. Brene Brown says that the #1 casualty of a scarcity mindset is vulnerability. We’re not letting ourselves be in the moment, embrace spontaneity or “weirdness.” Risk aversion = the lack of confidence you speak of here.
    Take us down the path, Matthew. 🏇🏽

  • @Passion84GodAlways
    @Passion84GodAlways 5 лет назад +205

    A "scarcity mindset' is NEVER good in ANY aspect of our lives! THANK YOU for addressing this!
    I ❤️ how your advice is SOOOO HELPFUL with not just romantic relationships! 😃😀

  • @SheIsWave
    @SheIsWave 5 лет назад +19

    "It's precisely when the stakes are the highest that we have to be prepared to let go"

  • @michellelockett6518
    @michellelockett6518 4 года назад +9

    In a great relationship you encourage each other to be the best version of themselves. Suppressing the person you love comes from your own insecurities.

  • @jackie5952
    @jackie5952 5 лет назад +35

    I just experienced this- met the most amazing guy I was actually afraid to lose. We kept things really solid, didn't see each other all the time, sometimes just once or twice a week but I always felt confident with him and our relationship.. until nearer towards the end, then he broke up with me. I really miss him and I do have moments I feel "scarcity" but I'm trying not to and to stay positive that even better men exist!

    • @AI-gd7lz
      @AI-gd7lz 2 года назад

      how you holding up now, two years later?

    • @jackie5952
      @jackie5952 2 года назад

      @@AI-gd7lz I'm in a really good place, I feel like a completely different person from the one that posted this earlier message. I was heartbroken then but have learned a lot about myself and what I want from a partner. I've taken the time to be with myself and build myself up. So, the story has a happy ending lol.

    • @AI-gd7lz
      @AI-gd7lz 2 года назад

      @@jackie5952 nice! would you take him back now? was he not special?

  • @worldenoughandtime
    @worldenoughandtime 5 лет назад +68

    It's so important to love yourself first. Be totally confident with just yourself and make yourself the priority, then you'll see that you can be strong and happy to let people go cause you see what you're worth. And if they're good for you, you'll become a team and thrive for both of your goals together, without fear and with a lot of trust into each other.

  • @carolb3869
    @carolb3869 5 лет назад +30

    Be honest with yourself where you are.
    YOU decide - powerful.

  • @rosellefarr5685
    @rosellefarr5685 4 года назад +11

    I had to cry a little at this because I let my ex go and take his dream job, knowing it was the perfect time to work on me and being happy on my own but it ended with a divorce 6 months later

    • @ninjabreadgirl
      @ninjabreadgirl 3 года назад

      Oof girl I'm sorry :( Hope you're doing much better a year later!

  • @alidatassone
    @alidatassone 5 лет назад +2

    Hey Matt, totally agree. i think scarcity mindset is a consequence of a lack of confidence in ourselves. And before we can even address that, we need to address this lack of core confidence.
    Ironically, when we find that thing within us that fills us up, we stop looking for that other person outside of us and that’s when we can let go of wanting to control everything and everyone.
    I’m very happy to say that I’ve found that thing, deep within me, that I thought I never had because it was riddled with bad memories and negative associations but I’ve let go of those and started from scratch and it now fills me up every day.
    I used to play the piano when I was a child, my parents insisted, and pushed and pushed me... and the first opportunity I had, I stopped. And recently I decided to start again for myself and I have never been so happy! I listen to a lot more music and also go to gigs and my life has changed completely.

  • @Claire18Hi
    @Claire18Hi 5 лет назад +104

    That's my issue. It's hard to find someone I like. When I do I feel like it's now or never. I'm trying to tone it down and I have (but just on the outside).

    • @ellengrace4609
      @ellengrace4609 5 лет назад +2

      EvieLions Tone it down on the inside too or that vibe will be there. Good luck! ❤️

    • @leticiaviera1151
      @leticiaviera1151 5 лет назад

      peace thisss

  • @weirdoscherich
    @weirdoscherich 4 года назад +7

    We must love in such a way that the other person feels free!

  • @NaturalDivineGoddess
    @NaturalDivineGoddess 4 года назад +16

    "Now I Feel
    Like when people
    Do meet someone
    They Like
    That can't even
    Enjoy it because
    They're so AFRAID
    It's going to
    GO AWAY!!"

  • @valeriesiraj1548
    @valeriesiraj1548 5 лет назад +63

    it’s so true that we end up being needy. #mindsetchange when the stakes are the high when it feels important, that’s the one we have to hang on to, but we’ve got to be prepared to let go from a place of strength and confidence.

  • @istx3
    @istx3 5 лет назад +37

    Need this. I'm totally in love and things are going better than ever and everytime I get feeling confident within myself... give it a week or two and the anxiety will start to set in again. I can and am doing this but I am learning to not be surprised when those feelings of doubt pop back up. It's something you have to work at. I think we beat ourselves up for not getting it perfect all the time. It's okay to be a work in progress 😉

    • @misslanapford9169
      @misslanapford9169 5 лет назад +5

      If its of any comfort to you.. YOU ARE NOT ALONE... Welcome to the club... I feel the same..
      🤗🤗🤗🤗🌻🤗🌻🤗🤗🤗🌻🌻🐥

    • @istx3
      @istx3 5 лет назад +2

      @@misslanapford9169 oh Lana I'm so glad I'm not the only one! ❤

  • @GayaK91
    @GayaK91 5 лет назад +22

    Completely unrelated, but I'm loving the Hugh Grant hair!

  • @humphreyrobinson8925
    @humphreyrobinson8925 4 года назад +7

    i think if youre blessed with a chance to know someone then you should savor it..if it doesnt last..then its not a bad thing..good things are all around you.

  • @drlarryburchett
    @drlarryburchett 5 лет назад +3

    Almost embarrassed to admit this, but I was not in a good head space, and this video really, really helped me flip a switch. And now I'm back to kicking ass and taking names. Very grateful to you, sir.

  • @clarel4584
    @clarel4584 3 года назад +4

    So true!! I want everyone to know that there is always someone else around the corner!! Our job is to be at our best. Gotta look, feel and be our best and then the universe reciprocates. Great message!!

  • @akaims1738
    @akaims1738 5 лет назад +11

    Very powerful statement here” center of gravity that lives with u,u are fulfilled and lives with u,independently with another person “ and this gives more power to you!👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
    Working on it Matthew

  • @kingofthewickerpeople9450
    @kingofthewickerpeople9450 5 лет назад +3

    I heard this at the right time. As soon as I started letting go, I felt so much weight lifted off. I want to enjoy my time with the person Im dating. You made me realize how important my inner strength needs to be. Keep up the good work.

  • @gabrielabernal5181
    @gabrielabernal5181 5 лет назад +52

    Thank you!
    I really want to be with this one person and I'm not letting my fears ruin everything this time.
    Even if it doesn't happen I still feel very confident and I'm just enjoying myself

    • @edithkyt
      @edithkyt 5 лет назад +3

      Gabriela Bernal please send me some courage because I'm gonna do the same mate.

    • @deprofundis3293
      @deprofundis3293 4 года назад

      Did ir work out??

    • @Mei-po5ze
      @Mei-po5ze 4 года назад

      Does it work? Need advice before I try it too, please :)

  • @aquali5437
    @aquali5437 5 лет назад +1

    OMG! Every line in this video hit the deepest part of my mind. That's exactly the lesson I learned during my university years. The video affirms all the thoughts hovering around my head. So reassuring!

  • @khoahthong4434
    @khoahthong4434 5 лет назад +6

    thank you, matthew. i've just broken up with my girlfriend. but you've helped me through this relationship. and this video helps too. thank you.

  • @heikehofmann9498
    @heikehofmann9498 5 лет назад +5

    Your way of coaching shifted.
    I can sense enlightenment😊.
    Wonderful video Matthew, thank you❤

  • @shanniumei
    @shanniumei 4 года назад +1

    Love the self building part, it’s the most important thing in the whole life not only in a relationship.

  • @OurFantasyIsland
    @OurFantasyIsland 5 лет назад +1

    I've just let someone go a couple of days ago and have been struggling to feel okay. Even though i already feel so much better than i initially did, it was so soothing and encouraging to hear your words. Just had to put your words in practice - i am enough to be happy all my life, i have a whole world inside of me, ill be okay. And the person i let go - i wish them all the happiness in the world, even if he is going to experience it without me. Thank you Matthew for offering comfort when i need it most.

  • @omgitskia
    @omgitskia 5 лет назад +15

    This video couldn't have came at a more perfect time I just met someone and I'm starting to like them but I dont want to rush things and push him away. So I'm just going to "Let Go" and let things happen naturally and of course keep focusing on my own happiness. Thanks Matthew 😘

    • @jasminegutierrez7251
      @jasminegutierrez7251 Год назад

      That's nice, I like someone right now and I'm trying to not rush things either. We met online, but haven't met in person yet

  • @SueMrs
    @SueMrs 4 года назад +10

    If you are fulfilled without the relationship, why do you want/need one I the first place? I think it is only natural that you fear losing someone you love, but the right thing to do when you love someone is to let them go if they want because you want the best for them, and if they want to go then they do not love you enough to stay.

    • @MrSorpresina
      @MrSorpresina 3 года назад +1

      I think that even if you feel fullfilled, having someone to share this wonderful feeling with is always good for you, you know it inside. It's not something you need, but something you want, a sweet bonus in life.

  • @jinnywhittingham9645
    @jinnywhittingham9645 4 года назад +1

    You have grown so much as a person over the years as I’ve been listening to you I have this affection and respect for you as a human being before I even rate you as a dating coach. Well done and keep sharing with us!

  • @skiptodo2daiskip632
    @skiptodo2daiskip632 5 лет назад +1

    That negativity can make convos dreary. When someone is engulfed in fear from their negative mindset it turns into an established domino effect that they no longer realise is detrimental to their wellbeing. Enjoyment is key, I couldn’t agree with you more. So many complainers. Be that light, no one can be that for you. Great message delivered.

  • @NaturalDivineGoddess
    @NaturalDivineGoddess 4 года назад +6

    "And if it does
    GO AWAY
    I Could Spend
    Another Year Or
    Years WAITING FOR
    The NEXT Great
    Thing to come
    Along becsuse
    There are so few
    Of them OUT THERE!!"

  • @Jasmillmelisa
    @Jasmillmelisa 5 лет назад +13

    I needed to hear this definitely, in a very similar situation where im freaking myself out and letting my neg thoughts get the best of me. I need to feel confident with myself and feel full with myself. Thank you 💜💕❤️

  • @nickchilds3104
    @nickchilds3104 4 года назад +2

    This video is incredible and I'm going to come back to it every time I'm feeling sad or upset about my breakup. I know that I gave everything I had to the relationship while I was in it and that's something to be proud of. Even though I've gained a lot of perspective and would change a few things, it's in the past and all I can do now is be better in the future. Hindsight really is 20/20.

  • @katienewton4519
    @katienewton4519 5 лет назад +2

    You are one hell of a man Matthew. I love how your videos are full of great content that’s useful so people can actually implement your tips and concepts. You have guided me how to develop my core confidence and improve not just my relationships but my life overall. I thank you so much and genuinely wish you the best ☺️❤️

  • @AimToCreate
    @AimToCreate 5 лет назад +59

    Honestly Matthew one of your best videos. So profound and important !!!!

  • @jvstkiki
    @jvstkiki 5 лет назад +158

    I truly needed this bc I am going through this rn.

  • @pamelas.8249
    @pamelas.8249 5 лет назад

    Touched!
    You are sitting on the other side of the world and just took away my loneliness by making clear how many people are feeling the same.
    And on the top such good advice..
    Thank you Matt ❤

  • @Joyce-ff7ms
    @Joyce-ff7ms 5 лет назад

    So true, gotta know the power of letting go, just yourself stay with you at your hardest time, and nobody else!

  • @itssini4777
    @itssini4777 5 лет назад +9

    Thank you Matthew, I love your videos! You've helped me realise so much about myself and the mistakes I've made in the past with guys :)

  • @SunshineandSand88
    @SunshineandSand88 5 лет назад +3

    This could not have come at a better time. Amazing as always, Matthew

  • @annettetapia8103
    @annettetapia8103 4 года назад

    Wow I needed a reminder of this today. Thank you. My ex boyfriend once told me something so profound and so true " nothing or no one Is forever" I know believe that what is forever is your relationship with yourselves. Thank you.

  • @ladydi8056
    @ladydi8056 5 лет назад

    Truth Matthew! You have to live your best life with confidence, passion, kindness and having the knowledge of your worth!!

  • @SanaAbidi7
    @SanaAbidi7 5 лет назад +3

    It's like you've completely read my mind. Thank you so much for this video! Being in a long distance relationship, this is something that I just cannot help, no matter how hard I try. Can you tell more about how to be better in terms of being more accepting than controlling? How to stop thinking about the other person and give more thought to oneself? How to care about the person and give them enough space? It'll be really helpful. Thank you once again! Much love! ❤️

  • @robertr798
    @robertr798 5 лет назад +7

    I needed this today. Literally, this exact discussion.

  • @matthijsvanemous7046
    @matthijsvanemous7046 4 года назад +2

    This guy is a legend! his videos helped me a lot to prepare my self for a relationship in the future

  • @shabijavaheri2748
    @shabijavaheri2748 5 лет назад

    Hi Matthew
    I have been following your videos for few years now . Once I got to the point where I found happiness and joy in my own life , i found a fulfilling relationship too . Thank you for sharing your wisdom !

  • @tanyas1644
    @tanyas1644 5 лет назад +9

    Thank you for the confirmation... perfect timing!

  • @johannaperez8649
    @johannaperez8649 5 лет назад +13

    This is very insightful (superficial comment: He looks like the prince of the little mermaid)

  • @240megan
    @240megan 5 лет назад

    Fulfilled and happy in your life outside of that person...so profound thank you Matt! I needed to hear this.

  • @Cocoflo
    @Cocoflo 5 лет назад

    The quality of this video is so amazing Mathew! But so thankful for your ever encouraging words, I needed this!

  • @selynasteriska
    @selynasteriska 5 лет назад +155

    ...Aaaand that's why I'm staying single forever! 😁

    • @MoonSlayer86
      @MoonSlayer86 5 лет назад +14

      Enjoy it then! Nothing wrong with that! 😁

    • @mallikamalaka1723
      @mallikamalaka1723 5 лет назад +3

      Not the only one! 😁

    • @yellowforever794
      @yellowforever794 5 лет назад +2

      Same

    • @viniciusbembea
      @viniciusbembea 5 лет назад +2

      Girls, you are a just a victim of a problem started a hundred years ago.

    • @yvaz3373
      @yvaz3373 4 года назад +5

      I don’t want to be single forever....as you get older and your life takes a definitive shape, when you have less things to “sort it out”, having a good partner to share the good things in your life becomes more and more important.

  • @dinayando2849
    @dinayando2849 4 года назад +6

    What you are talking about Matt...is the love for God. When you love Him with all you have, He teaches you to love yourself. Once that happens, those that come into your life can be met as either a lesson or a blessing. And believe me...no matter which it is, you can let go and live the best of your life. If it is meant to be, it will be. If it is not , you can let go to pursue better options. Any which way , the love for the Lord is your first love, your endless love and He will bring the best to you by you knowing what he has taught you... how to love your life!!

    • @silv.s
      @silv.s 3 года назад +1

      Amén Dina!!!

    • @dinayando2849
      @dinayando2849 3 года назад +2

      @@silv.s May Jesus always bring you comfort and joy my Sister, in your quest to discover the man God has for you! Do not settle yet continue to get yourself out there. You will succeed!

  • @carriebakalars4828
    @carriebakalars4828 4 года назад +1

    I'm in a relationship with an amazing man and want to thank you. Your advice has been so helpful. The funny thing is he knows I watch your videos and encourages me in it. He knows about my past tramas and knows it has helped me get through that part and not carry it over. 👫💓

  • @lory4305
    @lory4305 4 года назад

    You are the one who has helped me with my self-esteem and loneliness so much, that exactly after this video, you became my idol.

  • @diyfab
    @diyfab 5 лет назад +6

    Just what i needed thank you

  • @lorenatrambitas8093
    @lorenatrambitas8093 4 года назад +5

    God, Matt, this was just what I needed. I have been watching you for long, understanding your techniques, applying the logic behind, making it my own. Now I found someone I like and anxiety took over, as if all your advice was swiped away with a sponge. Then this pops up in my suggestions. Glad it did, cause I needed the reminder. Thank you, again!

  • @carolb7418
    @carolb7418 4 года назад +1

    This is probably the most valuable insight you’ve ever shared and I love your “stuff”. Thank you so much... your work is so much more than relationships... it’s self empowerment🥰 Blessings😘

  • @nicoledice6288
    @nicoledice6288 4 года назад +1

    I think he coaches more on self development and self fulfilment, and then everything else falls into place. I love that

  • @0speckles0
    @0speckles0 5 лет назад +55

    This is exactly what I needed to hear right now xx thank you Matt xx

    • @jvstkiki
      @jvstkiki 5 лет назад +1

      Same

    • @viniciusbembea
      @viniciusbembea 5 лет назад +1

      That's a huge problem, the girls always like to hear something that they like, in this way the revelation of the real problem stay hidden

  • @Aneszy
    @Aneszy 5 лет назад +3

    i do the right thing :) i always listen to you.. im still single for about 4 years now.. but happier 💕

  • @sandysandi1775
    @sandysandi1775 4 года назад +2

    OMG this is sooo good!!!! just what's going in with me right now. we've been dating since two months. he says he has his "phases" where he pulls up a wall and needs his space. it's happend twice in these two months. he tries to be nice and everything, but of course i notice the space between us at this moment. when he's "normal" he's the sweetest guy on earth and makes me feel very loved. but when the wall is up, it's very hard for me, because i get scared and insecure, that he wants to breakup again. he did it after only one month and came back one week later, saying he made a mistake. luckily we've known eachother since the 90's - we were good friends back then. i know how he is. still it's hard for me and it's breaking my heart not knowing, how it's going to continue. i'm so thankful for your videos! you are so right. i will just continue MY OWN life! and everything else is a bonus. Thanks for your wonderful videos! they are very helpful 😊💖💖💖🙏

  • @angieo39
    @angieo39 4 года назад +2

    I just met someone after I'm finally out of a domestic Violence relationship and already I have brought up the things I can't handle anymore. He doesn't deserve my hang-ups. I believe I pushed him away.

  • @rosalindaro3678
    @rosalindaro3678 5 лет назад +84

    It sounds like law of attraction for me

  • @er3ctiledysfunct1on88
    @er3ctiledysfunct1on88 5 лет назад +52

    Was waiting for this, thanks.

  • @WiktoriaSta
    @WiktoriaSta 5 лет назад

    Amazing video. Well done! Freeing yourself of that fear you are talking about, for me has been life changing about 3 years ago. I was jealous, I didnt want to be in his shadow, I was scared to be left behind. One dey I let go of ALL that, and its a best possible mindset. ''I love to be with you, but I am happy on my own, we are the team and not competitors''.

  • @anthippo91
    @anthippo91 5 лет назад +1

    The scarcity mindset part really spoke to me its time for a change starting right now!!

  • @44Farah44
    @44Farah44 5 лет назад +5

    the best teacher ❤

  • @RanchDressingNJojoz1
    @RanchDressingNJojoz1 5 лет назад +6

    Letting go 🥊😬😊 time heals everything

    • @maythesciencebewithyou
      @maythesciencebewithyou 5 лет назад

      No it doesn't. But you can forget (stop thinking about it) and move on.

  • @carmenvalenzuela5658
    @carmenvalenzuela5658 4 года назад

    What he said is so true.Never depend on someone else for your happiness.

  • @mehwishowais745
    @mehwishowais745 5 лет назад

    I’m crying right now...I’m so moved by this. 🙏❤️

  • @Jazzybluemia
    @Jazzybluemia 5 лет назад +4

    When I meet new people and go on dates and meet someone I like your right it’s hard to relax and enjoy it waiting for if it will or won’t go somewhere, I think I’m trying to go on dates with the attitude if they like me cool if they don’t also cool. I have to be myself and try and always be the best version of myself but know if something doesn’t go somewhere or work it’s also okay. When you like someone so much it’s hard to let go when you know there not treating you right but your right when the stakes are the highest we do have to let go. Xxx love your videos

    • @GUITARTIME2024
      @GUITARTIME2024 5 лет назад

      sonya, i saw your vid. you are attractive but you put out nervous energy. i would get that a bit tamped down before dating. us american guys look for signs of instability in women so we dont get into some weird clingy situation. you will be fine, but you know, dont share your nervousness issues with the guy you are on the first date with. youve got the eyes and the smile. let them work their magic.

    • @Jazzybluemia
      @Jazzybluemia 5 лет назад

      GuitarGuy thanks 😀 I was nervous doing that video as was my first video!
      I wish I could say I was nervous on dates but I’m so calm
      But thanks for your advice have a nice day

  • @beautyandmind
    @beautyandmind 5 лет назад +17

    Thank you, how could you know. Just yesterday I experienced exactly what you describe. I found somebody that I really really like, first time for many years now, and I'm so scared to mess it up, so I act strange. I can't even tell him that I like him, being afraid that this puts too much pressure on him.
    I love my illusion of having maybe a loving relationships so much, that I'm afraid of losing it all together if I do or say anything. How do I tell a man, who might not feel the same, that I really like him? By the way I am 40, otherwise very successful in life, and I should really know, but I don't.

    • @ellengrace4609
      @ellengrace4609 5 лет назад +3

      beautyandmind Maybe don't tell him you "really like him." Just try to put yourself around him a bit more and be your true happy self when you're with him. Then tell him you like spending time with him and would love to get to know him better. If you like him, he'll see your genuine (non-threatening) interest. If he likes you back, he'll take it from there. Slow and steady. 😉

    • @ellengrace4609
      @ellengrace4609 5 лет назад +3

      beautyandmind PS Your instinct that telling him you like him may put too much pressure on him is probably right. For some guys/situations this isn't the case. But our instincts are typically right.

    • @beautyandmind
      @beautyandmind 5 лет назад +1

      @@ellengrace4609 Thank you so much, I will try that. You seem to have some experience too 😊.

    • @ellengrace4609
      @ellengrace4609 5 лет назад +4

      beautyandmind Lol I definitely do have experience. Been single for 6+ years, and after many, many frustrations and heartbreaks, I'm finally close to being where this video describes. I still have my moments, but most of the time I'm happy with my life. I enjoy when I'm dating someone I like without worrying about where it will go because I KNOW if it ends there's another great guy out there. Good luck to you, and please post an update to let me know how things go. 😃

  • @NancyRuthDeenBreakupCoach
    @NancyRuthDeenBreakupCoach 4 года назад

    So true and something I would see as a professional matchmaker. But also something I see when people are too afraid to end their relationships. Thanks for this!

  • @tracyshepard362
    @tracyshepard362 2 года назад +1

    I had to this today. It was extraordinarily painful.
    But i held onto myself
    Thank you for your message sooooo much 🙏

  • @allisgoodallisbad
    @allisgoodallisbad 5 лет назад +55

    I get turned off by the mentioning of "I have this retreat...."(costing 2000-3000+)

    • @viniciusbembea
      @viniciusbembea 5 лет назад +1

      Are you insane ?
      Did you pay $ 3000 for a retreat?

    • @allisgoodallisbad
      @allisgoodallisbad 5 лет назад +4

      Vinicius Bembea
      are you stupid?

    • @user-md1ol7nj7h
      @user-md1ol7nj7h 5 лет назад +1

      But does it include accommodation

    • @jabba0975
      @jabba0975 5 лет назад +10

      Damn, he should include oral for that price.

    • @viniciusbembea
      @viniciusbembea 5 лет назад +2

      @Citizens Arrest
      What matters today is to make money as best you can.

  • @obg3260
    @obg3260 5 лет назад +69

    what if you stoped liking people ?? I got to a point where i'm not interested in anyone anymore..

    • @Lotusblume.8
      @Lotusblume.8 5 лет назад +4

      Mimita G same here.

    • @cassandran5976
      @cassandran5976 5 лет назад +3

      Yep

    • @V.E.R.O.
      @V.E.R.O. 5 лет назад +3

      Me too

    • @David777111
      @David777111 5 лет назад +1

      Maybe that is the place to be. Still you have to talk to people as you go your way. Maybe make it a point to be open to talk to strangers where ever you are. It is only talk, but talking is always the beginning. Remember that you are attracted to him that is attracted to you. That little talk may spark attraction and if you are not attracted to him that felt some attraction to you, you can still walk your way.

    • @kayhawkins5925
      @kayhawkins5925 4 года назад +4

      Yeah, I don't even want friends as they take up too much of my time as seems I attract friends that no one else would even pay to be around. As far as men I tell my self there has to be some good ones left but deep down inside I hear my mom's truth, "ain't none of them good anymore"

  • @yogeshsawant6361
    @yogeshsawant6361 5 лет назад

    I made a few choices, in the last year. I never knew what that meant because it came from some deep reserve of my heart. you my friend made me aware what that was. I am eternally grateful to you, for this. lots of love peace and good health to you

  • @sandy7543
    @sandy7543 3 года назад +1

    I totally agree. I wish someone would have told me this 30 years ago! Best advice ever!

  • @jamileramacciotti4964
    @jamileramacciotti4964 5 лет назад +4

    I was kind of needing to hear that... G_G

  • @anaravirani2493
    @anaravirani2493 5 лет назад +5

    This shit just spoke to my soul 💯!

  • @jenweatherwax7113
    @jenweatherwax7113 5 лет назад

    Thank you so much for all of your encouragement, Matthew. Your videos have given me so much. I recently met a wonderful man and in no small part I feel like your messages helped me to put away fear and take risks on this wonderful thing. Thank you!

  • @maaliniponnuswomy9798
    @maaliniponnuswomy9798 5 лет назад

    Hi Matt, i believe that you have to "let go" in any relationship you are in. I learnt it the hard way when it came to filling up the space for my "best friend". I realised that working hard to keep them happy by sacrificing my own made them feel i was dispensible. They left anyway. In the end i was the one who was lonely and hurt. It was only when i came to terms with myself that i am the most important person in my life (thanks a lot to you, Matt), i had better quality frienships and we all grew together.

  • @picklefickle243
    @picklefickle243 5 лет назад +7

    do you think man and women can be just friends?
    I would like to know ur opinion on this one

    • @daisyroots8926
      @daisyroots8926 4 года назад

      Chloe Melody I don’t think so personally.... I think sex always gets in the way x

  • @AnnaKhKem
    @AnnaKhKem 5 лет назад +7

    Does his at-home retreat still cost "3 simple payments $$$$$$ 900 each" or something like that? It's insane that you have to go through an hour-long sales pitch on his website every time you want to check the price of his products!

    • @viniciusbembea
      @viniciusbembea 5 лет назад

      900$ for a retreat ?

    • @AnnaKhKem
      @AnnaKhKem 5 лет назад

      @@viniciusbembea 3 times $900 for an online course

    • @viniciusbembea
      @viniciusbembea 5 лет назад

      🙊 What exactly you will learn from that course ?
      Do you know the subjects?

    • @AnnaKhKem
      @AnnaKhKem 5 лет назад

      @@viniciusbembea Apparently, he will fix your life. I don't know. Check his video where he explains.

  • @hkk9263
    @hkk9263 2 года назад

    That’s really a powerful message. If I heard it 2 years ago I would have not believed a single word. Now I’m a different person and I fully understand and agree with what you’re saying. It’s a bit hard to actually keep an aboundance mindset during hard times, but I’m really trying and it really helps. Thanks :)

  • @Nidhi-ll3yq
    @Nidhi-ll3yq 4 года назад +1

    Brilliant content Matthew ! What you are saying can not only change someone's Love Life, rather it can change their entire Life in 180°. Great content man

  • @MelissaGarza
    @MelissaGarza 5 лет назад +5

    Seriously what do you do when you meet someone you really like and they say they aren’t looking for anything serious? I’ll tell you get the hell up and walk, I mean run away!!!
    (Serious question, not asking for a friend)

    • @MrSorpresina
      @MrSorpresina 3 года назад

      Sometimes can be a defense mechanism, sometimes is the truth. Give it a try and see where it goes. Also that is letting go, let time decide.

  • @missm5817
    @missm5817 5 лет назад +7

    I feel like Matthew is talking about something he's going through as well...

  • @jojom1871
    @jojom1871 5 лет назад

    You couldn't of said this at a better time , this is so on point

  • @sayni623
    @sayni623 5 лет назад

    I'm glad that you're going to do more videos about this. I think many people can relate