Mooching Childfree SIL Kept Saying We Should've Terminated Our Son Cos He Cries, So I Did This~ AITA
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- Story 1:
AITA for “rudely” inviting my SIL to leave and get some therapy for the way she kept talking about my child?
Story 2:
AITA for not asking my MIL nicely to hand over the baby for feeding?
Story 3:
AITA for quietly leaving my boyfriends family Christmas when his mom was trying to set him up with the nextdoor neighbor in front of me.
Story 4:
AITA for insisting that my boyfriend pay me for breaking my $3,500 model ship?
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Story 3: 8:53
Story 4: 13:18
There is a difference between not wanting kids, which is absolutely fine, and unreasonable hatred towards children. She is just a awful person that thinks child free means her behavior is acceptable.
There are some people that are child free that are basically the preachy vegan type.
I'm child free too but that doesn't mean I'm an ass to kids. Me not wanting to be a parent is a me and future so problem.
They are a similar type to the 'brutally honest people' they believe they are not a jerk if they tell you they are not insulting you they are just honest.
@@velvety2006 it's always funny when those types of people get mad when you call them out for being an ass. You're just brutally honest with them, so it's obviously okay to yell at them like how they do with everyone else
@@Flarflenugen I don't want kids of my own either but I don't mind other people's kids. I rather am the fun aunt that says they will take you to the playground but you know if you behave well there might be ice cream or a small toy in it for you.
yep.. childffree and antichild are _two different things._ Just like being vegan and antimeat are _two different things._ One minds their own damn business and doesn't foist their beliefs onto others. The other goes on some kind of crusade to make sure everyone knows their position, regardless who it ends up alienating.
Story 2 the husband told her she doesn’t love the baby enough? The child comes first this is horrific. Hope OP leaves him. If she doesn’t react soon her hopefully soon ex will male her feel like a bad mother more till she is unstable and then try to take the child from her with help from his horrific mom
What exactly was the SIL’s plan? To keep verbally abusing her nephew and family until he became of age?
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That is abuse plain and simple and mum and baby should get out NOW
Drunken Boyfriend: Dump him and then take him to small claims court. I’d love to see this case on Judge Judy😀
I'm positive these are complete retellings without any missing details by op.
Child: *breathes*
This beach: UGH WOW YOU GUYS REALLY RUINED YOUR WHOLE LIFE BY HAVING A KID? SO EFFING ANNOYING! THIS IS WHY IIIIIII AM NEVER GONNA HAVE KIDS!
Story 1, NTA. Nobody cares if you are child free. Dnt bite the hand that feeds you. Your in laws raised a brat.
Agree and she has more issues than disliking child
I would have looked at her and said it’s probably a good thing your parents didn’t feel the same way?
Story 1...Oh god that termination dig from SIL... I am petty and I'd have no regret telling her back, that yep we also all know whose fault it is that she is here and yapping... as HER parents also had months to terminate, and they didn't so now everyone is paying for it... well some are quite literary paying for it as they are supporting her with bed and food etc.... also would ask her to pack and leave. Parents can pay for hotel, take her in whatever or she could sleep in the park.. well maybe in a corner away from the playground because obviously she doesn't like kids...
Story 2... MIL and Dad are pretty much abusing the baby by not letting the baby eat. Dad sounds like a whiney little boy who hadn't grown up properly. OP should really need to pack and go to her parents and just do separation or divorce. MIL can do visitations along with daddy. Supervised visitations at that, just to prevent any further "not giving back unless asking nicely" situation.
Story 3. OP is totally a hero. Especially taking the food with her and leaving them without dessert.... I'd probably wouldn't have sneaked out, but gave them a wave and telling them the maybe the good christian girl could bring a cake later on because they are clearly without a dessert :D
"...good Christian (ick)"
That comment alone let me know why BFs mom doesn't like her.
I don't think Jesus took too kindly to people trying to break up relationships and encourage other people to cheat. Good Christian girl said "not today, Satan" and got out of that nightmare.
" bish get the f out"
SIL:"You had months to abort."
Me: "So did your parents. Imagine their disappointment to see their baby didn't grew up after all these years."
Very well put.
Yes!!!
_My wife agrees with me…_
Well there you go. Her opinion was the only other opinion that matters in this situation because she lives in the house. The in-laws can take in their annoying daughter if they’re so worried.
Second story about the mother-in-law monopolising the The newborn baby preventing the mother from feeding. I hope OP leaves the husband he is a mama’s boy. I am rather irritated that there is no update to this story .
In story #2 that is her child and if she needs to feed her baby she shouldn't have to say "Mommy, may I?" to the MIL. That MIL needs to stay in her lane and know her place and the husband needs to knocked upside the head for thinking that what his mom did was okay.
I am childfree and I do not understand the way some childfree act around children. That’s way beyond it. Also, that child is a *person,* and her NEPHEW. Hating her own family is so wild - the point of childfree is that it’s supposed to be about people being able to choose not to have kids for yourself. She’s a nasty person
Also the husband said “you can have your baby if *ask nicely*?” WTF kind of shit is that???
Ya also childfree and I don't get it either. Honestly I don't even like kids but am I a bitch about it no I'm nice to them if needed look after them.
Because far too many child free people believe it is anti child
some are child free because they just dont want kids
Some are just nentaly fucked or think kids are some evil parasite
Ive met both in plenty
SIL honestly sounds like she wouldn’t have a problem murdering the kid, given the kind of vitriol she’s spewing.
@@Rose-yt5hi Yeah, she's the kind of person you wouldn't want alone with your kid, so definitely don't let her stay at your house. Otherwise, there might be some sort of "accident" in the middle of the night.
Story 2, the mil is literally preventing a newborn from eating, wtf?!
Looks like the husband is preventing too.
She's trying to keep the baby for herself
@@samalvarez8776 I’m pretty sure if the MIL could breastfeed the child herself she would. Just to cut out OP all together.
The ‘sons-band’ vibes I was getting from this story made me nauseous!
Why would a MOTHER have to ask anyone, in particular someone who isn’t the other parent, politely to let her have her child?! Excuse me?
I'm guessing that Mommie Dearest and her husband, I mean her son, intend to take the baby from OP and keep it.
It wouldn't surprise me if she was polite the first few times her MIL was holding the child, but then after she started demanding to keep the baby no matter what, OP had to get tough with her. Who can blame her.
@@akl2k7 not me, that’s for sure?
I agree, she likely asked to be handed back her child in a friendly manner, but was refused. Well, try that with a mum at your own risk, a new mum at that!
"She refused and said I needed to wait a little longer." "My husband said I could take the baby, after I ask his mom nicely." Momma's Boy is enabling his Mommy into being his kid's mom.
I'm a 20 yr dude and I'd probably die of embarrassment if my mom tried stepping into my relationship and tried being a 'step-in wife' as some would say.
Sister isn't child-free, she actively despises the existence of children.
That's a huge reason i left the cf community a lot of them are toxic AF they shouldn't be on child free they should make their own page called I hate all children
Why 🥺
Yep, HUGE difference
Coming from someone who doesn't fully like kids (mostly certain kids who act shitty), there is a big difference between being child free, simply not liking children AND actively despising children /their existence
It's funny when people hate children but were kids themselves some time ago, imagine being hated Just for existing
@@Lillypop93 that actually scares me a bit makes me wonder if they have violent thoughts o.o
Story 2: I know people throw around the divorce option out alot on reddit, but OP needs to think about it bc oh my god there is no way the husband "is actually better when you get to know him". He's a toxic mommas boy who doesn't care about his wife's wellbeing.
Or his child's it seems.
Story 2 The fact she is on Reddit asking if she's in the wrong on this absolutely ridiculous situation, is really scary. Snap out of it before it's too late!
You do not need to ask nicely for permission TO FEED YOUR BABY!!
S1: NTA, don't bite the hand that feeds your free loading ass. Not wanting kids is fine, being a kid hating PoS is not.
S2: NTA, husband is a PoS and his mommy is his priority. Newborns need feeding often, and if breastfeeding, Mil needs to step back and hand over the kid. OP needs to get out and take the baby.
S3: NTA, OP brought large portions of dinner and the mom insisted on insulting her to face like that, and boyfriend did nothing to stop it. So they lose on dinner. Dump him if he can't say to mommy stop trying to set me up when I'm in a relationship.
S4: NTA, grown ass men acting like idiots in someone else's home need to be taught a lesson of respecting other people's property. Take his ass to court.
At first i thought the last bf was like 18...🤦♀️
Back in the day I was working at a restaurant. I had a split shift that day, and going home meant I'd have about an hour before I'd have to be on the road back to work, which wasn't a viable option. So, I packed small case with my modeling supplies and Warhammer stuff and set up shop in the break room in between shifts. My boss brought her daughter to work (about 6) and she grabbed my stuff and tried to play keep away with it, breaking it. My boss offered to pay for it, handing my a $10 bill. I looked down at it and told her to add 3 $20 to the pile. She stared at me with mouth agape and damn near refused. I made the comment on if that if not reimbursing was her position it's a pity, as she tends to leave a lot of expensive stuff in the office.
I am the youngest of 14. I have been around babies all my life. I was taught if holding a baby and it started "rooting" ( looking for a nipple) give baby to mom or ask for a bottle to feed him/her. My first reaction would have been to take my child from her arms and demand to know why they wanted my child to starve!
Story 2 OP NTA and excuse me "asking her nicely"???? So what 1st time OP asked wasn't "polite enough" so she needs to beg MIL to give her back HER CHILD!!! And then he screams at her for making his poor mommy cry??? Yeah F That!!
OP should take the kid and then go stay with her parents and then divorce the mommies boy!!! Tell her that she can have the AH child back that she actually gave birth to but OP's will be the one making the decisions for HER child and if she can't respect that then limit any access!!
Her spineless bastard of a husband thinks that she's supposed to say "Mommy, may I?" to his mom. Foxtrot Tango Sierra! His mom needs to stay in her lane and know her place.
The moment the evil one said that Op should have killed her child was the exact moment she should have been thrown out. No forgiveness for that.
Why exactly should Op take in the evil one when the evil one doesn't believe in family?
Abortion isn't murder. NO medical proffessional will perform one when the fetus is viable outside womb unless it's a life or death situation, and in those cases the life of the MOTHER takes priority. In reality you have a few weeks to get it done. Regardless, telling someone they should have aborted their wanted child because they don't want to hear it cry is beyond unacceptable.
Lol, "killed her child", really... 😂
@@Halinka91 yes, she murdered her child. And because sociopaths who support abortion refuse to tell her the truth. Which is that it is medically proven that abortions cause infertility and greatly increase the chance of preborn children being miscarried or born prematurely.. people like you are directly responsible for her being in fertile.
It's karma. You killed one child and sometimes you lose the right to ever have another one!
@@YaoiChan18 i think she means it in a the child was wanted way. It's like how in some places, if a pregnant women is killed the murderer is given 2 life sentences. So it depends, was the baby wanted? Then implying an abortion is like implying murder.
@@YaoiChan18 LOL it's obviously murder, a lot of places around the world make abortion of even 9 months pregnancy and the militants are already talking about "abortion" post birth. You can argue that it's a right based on the fact that no human being is obligated to support the other with their resources or body (like just like the parent of this chilfree psycho don't have to support her, neither does a mother is obligated to maintain the fetus on her uterus until birth). But this doesn't change the fact that you are ending a life, you are killing a fetus/baby.
Story 2: NTA. Hell no! OP needs to leave with the baby. Husband is a mama's boy. MIL is disruptive to OP and baby's schedule. Husband yelling while OP is feeding the baby. That is abuse. I could see this escalating very quickly. OP needs to call her mother and any family/friends that assist. OP needs help getting out of that home with her baby. IMMEDIATELY.
Yes! She needs to call her parents and a police escort, explain the situation and get her and the baby out!
Not sure if calling the police at this stage would help OP as this was a verbal argument which they will see as a he said/she said. OP does did to call her parents and leave for a few days. Have a discussion with her husband and ask him point blank who's his #1. Is his #1 his wife and son or is his #1 his mom? Depending on that answer it's either counseling or a lawyer.
Story 1 this is what happens when you raise your kids to be a brat and let them be brats. Glad op showed his shiny spine.
Not wanting to have kids is not a personality trait. But SIL obviously hasn't anything else going on for her, so she makes it one.
I wondered if there was something going on in the family where the girl was subjected to a barrage of "You can only be a true woman if you have babies" type of propaganda and is now acting negatively in reaction. She is certainly trying to make a statement. Or she has found out that she can't have babies and is acting out in anger and confused emotions.
@@dulcilass or, Occum's Razor tells us she's simply mad SHE'S no longer the baby of the family. It's usually that simple.
@@pansprayers Missing the spotlight tantrums, that could very well be it.
Tbh it almost seems like she is trying to convince herself that she doesn't want kids.
why don't her parents take her? seems to me like they created the monster, least they can do is take care of her
because they probably know that when she lives with them she will not leave and op, wife and the baby won't come and visit as long as he sister lives with them.
Story 1: He should have told her, "maybe YOUR parents should have aborted you. Then you wouldn't have to hear my child cry."
And the inlaws are so offended when someone insulted their child but what about sil constantly insulting op's child.
SIL learned how to be a brat from the greatest - the in-laws.
I would've fired back with "You are a load that your mom should've swallowed." and watch the shit hit the fan.
@@BIGBLOCK5022006 😂🤣😂💀💀💀 Best. Comment. Ever!
Second story: the minute, the husband ran after the mother and not the father I would have taken my cue to tell the father in law goodnight, pack my bags and leave.
Story 2, walk with your baby, if your husband isn’t willing to support you, go to your parents where you will receive support, NTI
She should be calling them to come get her. That way she has someone backing her up when she leaves.
My MIL said I was spoiling my baby by holding him and I should let her hold him.
@@annhans3535 True, I assumed she would have a car and drive, I didn’t mean literally walk
@@itsjustme7487 Do you live with the MiL? If so, make arrangements to leave asap, if not, cut the information flow to the MiL. What is your partner doing about the interfering MiL?
@@anthonyburke5656 I didn't even think about that 🤣. Just thought with his parents at the house, she needs someone to be on her side with her. So, it better her parents comes and take her and the baby.
A father here.
For the first story MIL was actively interfering with the OP bonding with her own child in addition to interfering with his development by causing delays in feeding the child. Sounds like MIL was building a case to take custody of the child because OP hadn't bonded properly and wasn't taking proper care of the baby. Even though that was being actively caused by MIL.
MIL doing all that and husband backing his mom up there is no doubt in my mind endgame is divorce and then mommy dearest gets "her baby"
There is absolutely no other ways to go here except OP packing her stuff and leave. Unfortunately she can never keep her kid away from MIL.
kinda sounds like it and the husband is trying to gaslight her so he can claim she is unstable and unsafe around the baby.
This is an abusive household! Both mother-in-law and the husband are abusing op. She needs to grab the baby and leave!!!
Story 1: a 24 year old is old enough to be self aware enough to not be a brat. She’s either a Mean Girl, or needs to get evaluated.
Edit to add: just got to the end of the story, and their excuse is she’s young???? She’s TWENTY FOUR. Way past the age she should’ve developed some common decency under someone else’s roof??
24, old enough to drink, smoke, get married, get high in some states and go to war. Definitely past the babying age.
Story 1: Sil is not behaving like a guest. so charge her like a tenent
Or evict her like a tenant who hasn't paid rent before she hurts their baby.
Tell your husband his mom is abusing your son by refusing to let him eat when he’s hungry. She’s basically starving your son.
I love the girl who took back her food, wine and pie then got the f out of there. 🤣
Op who left with her food deserves a cape 🦸♀️
Story 1. You're entitled to your opinion. You are allowed to be childfree and not want kids. You are allowed to think kids are weird and gross.
You're not allowed to put down other people for having kids, or hating on the kid themself. I dislike kids too. I think every kid under 8 is dumb as hell, and anyone under 13 is near impossible to talk to for long for me. Doesn't mean I'm going to be an ass to them or to the parent without a justification.
Sil needs to get a different personality trait besides "I don't like kids".
I am child Free and I love kids just bor 24/7 i am an aunt soon and thats enuff even if i hated kids i wouldent shove it down peopols trouths
I love kids and am not child free but i agree.
I can’t understand hating kids. We all were kids at one point. But if you want to be childfree, that’s perfectly fine. What the sister was doing was a whole other animal. Her hatred is completely outsized and ridiculous. I really would like to know if something happened to give her this viewpoint.
@@KCohere33 Yeah, it's just another example of bigotry only it's directed towards anyone under 13.
Even if you hate kids, learn some manners and not to bite the hand that feeds you. Be an adult and suck it up until you can move out.
The story about the MIL keeping the nursing baby from the mother. No just no- not only does the child cry for the food but I know at least my experience was if I didn't feed shortly after I felt "full" myself my child crying caused me to leak and hurt. And when you wait too long it's harder for the poor bean to latch on and feed easily. I guess at least she's not telling you to pump so she can feed the child instead. Yeah I had an MIL who did that. After all I was a horrible mother already with my regular pumping so I had a stock pile of milk in case I went into migraine and needed to take medication that would make my milk bad for my child.
Child-free now seems to mean "my only personality trait is hating children". Also it's funny to see the underlying jealousy of these "child-free" types; they just act like children themselves.
And can’t stand that the child gets more attention than they do.
That's a trait of narcissism: jealousy towards children.
And as of ages ago has become a red flag trait of reverse ageism.
The story about the Op mother in law conflicting with breastfeeding Op honestly that's truly toxic for the baby... any type of crazy emotions can actually sour the mothers milk , like is bad milk for the baby consumption. This beyond Cruel and horrible for a young mother
Story 3 with the crazy Christmas dinner (and this pertains to so many other Reddit stories): Note that OP says her BF "felt conflicted," stayed at the dinner. OP thought BF should have a serious talk with his Mom but OP didn't, and they continue to argue about it.
People should understand that the purpose of dating ISN'T to try to turn someone into what you would like them to be, but to FIND someone who actually is what you like. All the stories that are based on "How do I get my BF/GF to do or be this or that (clean up after themselves, remember my birthday, whatever) are asking the wrong question. Find someone you don't have to fix.
If this OP won't stand up for you, he is showing you who he is. Believe him, and find a guy who will.
This!
I'm not going to ask anyone *nicely* to hand MY kid over. This isn't fixable.
Story 2: The husband is a momma's boy and both him and his mother are toxic and controlling AF! Red flags! OP needs to run from her husband and his parents. And take her baby with her.
I breastfed three girls anyone who would say to me that someone else shows them more love than I the one with the bag eyes chapped nips and hanging belly. Naaaahhhhhh b I notice the amount of women who write to Reddit about their trashy abusive husbands Will be the same ones to mock a single mother. I'd rather be alone then to be treated like trash in my own house.
You know, if the _law_ doesn't accept being drunk as an excuse to committing a crime, what makes you think you can use it as an excuse anywhere else in life?
Story 1: NTA.
sister in law is pathetic and shouldn't be allowed to be around ops child until she's matured and apologized.
Story 2: Op needs to get out. Husband is not going to change and MIL is not going to stop.
Story 3: Dump boyfriend and leave the stinky family in the dust.
Story 4: If I didn't know boyfriend's age I'd assume he was an immature teenager but my teen brother would Never do something like this. Being drunk is not an excuse. He doesn't respect OP even a little bit. Dump him.
OP doesn’t have a bratty SiL problem he has a wife problem. Never let someone who disrespects you and your family into your home not for a freaking minute. NTA!
That’s what I’m saying, y was she living there in the first place
But didn’t the wife agree with him and back him up to her parents? I don’t think she wants her sister there any more than he does, It might just be family pressure and big sister duty kind of stuff. I would still kick her to the curb though.
@@RanDom-lk6rx right… so she’s the problem 😂. Y’all will literally trip over the whole ass point to excuse women of any wrong doing.
Story 1: I am happily child free but for goodness sake being able to say "awww what a cute baby I am so happy for you" is just basic social skills
A bottle ship on display
Isn`t it obvious that it has at least monetary value.
Sentimentaly: It could be reminder of a beautyfull holiday, be selfconstructed, an heirloom or something else, but it CLEARLY had a kind of sentimental value altogether....
If the boyfriend doesn`t realize that, than he could not really be that interested in OP.
If you visit someones home and see something like this, isn`t it a matter of interest and manners to ask about it???
Even if the model ship was worth $19.99. The keep away game is bullying! Anyone who would believe the person they claim to care about needs to dumped.
@@melodyharpole8272 Especially since he used the "But I was drunk" excuse that even drunk drivers can't get away with. And he's in his late 30's despite all this.
@Melody Harpole Yep. I don't care if it was a happy meal toy. It's her property. They were all playing a mean trick on OP in her own home. Dump him and sue him, then get your model restored by professionals.
Story one: "If only your parents had felt the same way as you do when they were expecting you the world would be a better place"
I like the way you think.
I thought the same. "And so did your parents and yet here we are."
Child free SIL: I'd be worried about the child's well-being really quick here. Being told you're a horrible burden and disgusting thing by a member of the household will have devastating effects on a developing child, and the baby will soon start picking up on her hatred if they haven't already. If she hates the baby so much, you're doing her a favor by kicking her out.
First story: Tell family you're only expressing yourself, that she shouldn't take it personally.
Next up: I don't hate you, I just don't want negativity near me, so please move out. It's not personal, you're a wonderful human being, gods gift to the world, I think you would learn that complaining to people who have power over you is not smart.
You know my one issue with people is that most don't act or speak this way.. aka being calm, firm and with the ability to twist words well. Solves so many people's awful behaviour
Honestly he should have said he'd abort SIL out of their house.
If someone acted like that and excused it by saying they are a child at heart I would tell them I feel sorry for their parents having to go through these kinds of actions.
People like the SIL in story 1 are why there's so much hate towards people who are child free, people with an unreasonable hatred towards children are the reason why everyone assumes that all child free people hate children. 😔
That last story- how many times did she have to stay stop for it to be serious? Being drunk doesn’t excuse being an asshole.
She's trying to bond so hard with the baby because she plans on taking it away from OP with her sons help!
I don’t get why the SIL felt the need to act how she did about the pregnancy announcement- I’m child free, but if family announce that to me I’d just be like “Oh congratulations” and move one- Like an adult!
They'd be finding her for months in separate dumpsters across three states if she said anything like that about my kid.
Tell your in-laws she basically threatened your child’s (their grandchild’s) LIFE! In so many words. Have you & your wife told them exactly what she said? I’d tell them her attitude & reactions are so violent & toxic that you’re afraid she’ll do something to harm your child or even end his life.
If they’re SO concerned for her that they’re ok with her behavior & even condone it, then she can live with them! But this means they’ll never see their grandchild/children at their home nor if sil is around.
Story 2: NTA. Take your baby and *run*.
Story 1: Sounds like SIL is jealous of the baby and the attention the kid is getting. I'd boot sil out, since she's an ADULT not a CHILD and especially after the "termination comments" and go NC with her. Who knows what she could do to OP's baby?
Child free SIL is going to be 80 alone in a long term care home and wondering why she doesn't have visitors
She'll keep up her hatred only now it will be of everyone under 60.
Story 1: if only MIL had terminated SIL, OP would not have to hear SIL nagging
The ship story: maybe by the time you reach 37 you should know not to throw other people's stuff?
9:30 NEVER KEEP QUIET. OP should have waited politely for BF's mom to complete a para and pause. Then, pretending to be very excited, say to the father "Yes, isn't it lovely to be able to help others by setting up dates! I know the very person for you, Sir! Still pretty and young looking. Recently lost her husband to cancer. A millionaire! A yacht. A mansion. Caring and soft spoken. I KNOW you two are soul mates!".
Pretend he isn't married to BF's mother.
…And she says this while staying rent free at OP’s house???
I always find those bozos that proclaim how happy they are not having kids and how they hate kids, amazing to watch. It's just fascinating - the way they seem to be disconnected with reality :).
Then of course most of them are against accepting refugees and immigrants.
And when you ask them "Well if you don't have kids and you don't want refugees - who the fuck is going to replace you in the job market and the economy?", they always have this vacant look :D
Story two honey pack your bags and get out
My sister got upset with me, when her youngest son refused to say he was at home with them. When I say I'm leaving he was say "I'm going home too." I would always correct him and say "No, you are at home, you just visit aunty's house." He also called me "mom" first, it took a few weeks too get hin too say at least "Aunty Mommy". I was his primary caregiver for his first 2 yrs of life and lived with me 4 days out of the week. I lived with my sister and helped her with her 2 kids for a year, then moved out but close. The youngest was a newborn, and my sis was active duty Navy. We are still close, that bond we have is still very strong. Have a soft spot for that one too..
Story 2: My MIL came to visit when my daughter was 1 week old. At a week old she was building up stamina and my milk supply was building. My MIL complained that I kept taking the baby, or "she just ate", etc. It was the longest week of my life! OP's husband is an idiot!
Nta. They were throwing your stuff. Screw that guy. He destroyed your stuff. I would have said way more than $3500. Sue him and his friends.
Mama’s boy bf story:
Commenter: “He seems to be missing his spine…”
Me: “That’s not all he’s missing! LOL! Wonder if Mommy has got them in her purse?!”
Story 2 - Got I hope she and the baby get out of that situation fast!!!
Damn, did MIL give birth to that infant or did the mom? Cuz H is acting like his mother gave birth. What type of eodipus complex is this???
Story 1: That's all unnecessary stress, and interfering in a parents' bonding time with their child. Also if people think babies can't pick up on hostility, that's because the young ones cannot express their fear. Throw her out on her ear, and toss her rubbish after her. Block all contact with her, and let everyone know if they have an issue with this, to take her in themselves. OP has way more patience than I would ever have.
Story 1: wait, they told OP he shouldn’t call
The SIL out on her behavior because she doesn’t have anywhere else to go? How about telling the SIL to have a big helping of shut the hell up because she doesn’t have anyplace else to go?
Story 1. NTA, you have to protect your son, and there's some clear hostility there.
Nta. You don't have to ask to feed your child. Screw her. She is not allowed to be over. I am so angry for you. Your husband sucks bc he is starving his child. I would have snapped. OP leave him and take the baby. Divorce him and make him pay child support.
This video is full of people who lack empathy.
Story 1: baby bumps his head. Baby cries because he got hurt. Sil says you should never have had the baby because.... He cried? Plus a dose of entitlement for thinking should could keep biting the hand that feeds her and there would be no repercussions
Story 2: new mom with a newborn needs empathy in general, because the craziness that having a baby does to your mind and body is ridiculous. Baby's dad and grandparents don't care that baby is hungry. Baby's dad and grandparents don't give 2fs about mom and are cussing her out for being a good mom
Story 3: that poor neighbor girl, I'd feel sick too being used as a pawn. How disrespectful and uncaring is the mom toward her son and op. No empathy for any of their feelings.
Story 4: no empathy for destroying ops late father's last gift. A model boat clearly shouldn't be thrown and no empathy for how she was losing her shit trying to stop them from throwing it and laughing at her despiration.
Story 3: sounds like that family got their… just desserts.
Story 1 - 24? Young and dumb? Uh ..... no. Doesn't have anywhere to live? If mom and dad want to have an opinion, they can take her in ..... and boo hoo if that interferes with her being able to continue with the same school if they aren't in the same town. Guess she never heard the adage, " Don't shit where you live."
The model ship one: So, OP has to WARN bf what things in her apartment are important to her, and if she doesn’t, then it’s all free reign for him to break? Wtf?
Story 2: Another mama’s boy. If OP doesn’t want her son to go down the same path, she needs to take her son and leave🙁
Story 2, although i sympathize with the op, but how in the hell did she marry this guy? Why did she marry him? How could she not see anything wrong with him and his family dynamic before marrying and having a child with him? No wonder divorce rates are through the roof. When you date someone screen the relationship properly, their past, present,future, family dynamics, habits etc before committing to something so big and bringing a life on this planet. This is so irresponsible on so many levels.
Child-hating SIL is going to emotionally abuse your kid. He's going to understand what she's saying about him soon enough and start to internalize the negativity about himself.
She sounds crazy enough to try to end him. She's nuts.
@@mbyerly9680 I'd be afraid of there being an "accident" in the middle of the night with the sister around. She needs to leave for the kid's safety.
Updates please.
the one thing I respect in a man , well anybody , is strenght. the ability to stand strong in the middle of the storm. I need people like that in my life because I am so bloody dominant. if people behave like a carpet eventually I am going to wipe my feet on them. both my sister and I have had boyfriends like that. and if you dont stop before that happening it leaves a bad taste in your mouth. keep posting about people with shiny spines, maybe one day I will find a man like that.
honestly i would've said "if you hate babies so much THEN WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE ONE?!" I find it funny when baby haters talk about how annoying and needy babies are yet THEY are the ones that constantly cry and throw a hissy fit "QwQ the baby is so annoying why cant u just just smother it with a pillow to shut it up?"
The thing that worries me the most about some of these videos is that the poster is clearly in the right and it is genuinely horrifying to me that there's even the slight thought that they could be wrong. Not just these stories, a lot of them are just My family/SO/'Friend' did something truly horrible/possibly illegal, am I wrong to be mad at them? It's just...
I mean, just from these stories in this one
1. Am I a jerk for kicking my SIL out for saying I should've aborted my kid?
2. Am I a jerk for getting upset when my Mother In Law wouldn't give my my 5 week old back to be fed
3. Am I a jerk for leaving an event where my boyfriend's family are actively pushing another girl at him in front of me
4. Am I a jerk for insisting that my drunk boyfriend pay for the very expensive (to say nothing of the sentimental value) peice of my property
How could they ever think they were in the wrong here?
She lives and eats for free, feeling that she has the right to disrespect you, your wife, disrespects your child. Yeah, nah NTA. In fact, perhaps a week at a homeless shelter would give SIL enough perspective to understand you don't bite the hand that feeds you.
Story 1: kick her out and go NC.....same with the in-laws....op has to protect his new family....
Op dad's ship. I'm so sorry for having such an ahole for boyfriend. Take everything he loves and drop it from a height. He's 31 ffs I absolutely hate drunker who behave like this. If you cantle handle ya booze leave it alone.
The child free SIL.
Dear, he lives here, you don't, and your attitude is making you less and less welcome. If you have nowhere else to go, you'd better figure out how to adjust your attitude.
Why did they let her move in if she hates babies?? I wouldn’t have let her, been like sorry we would let you live here but you’re child free and this isn’t a child free home.
ETA: OPs not a jerk for “threatening her living situation” she’s doing it herself.