Make a list of what's causing you negative momentum, and let's work together to make shifts where we can to bring you back into joyful progress. If I can help, I will!! Come join us in the HB90 Bootcamp! Link in the description.
Thank you, Sarra! I know I'll be an outlier for saying this, but the answer to these probs in my life is centering my life around Jesus Christ. I have a chronic illness that's taken away my ability to work and seriously slowed down my writing. I've had to redefine what a fulfilled life even means...Reorienting my life around God has given me joy, peace and security in all the aching places you describe. ❤
Your videos always come along at the right time. I'll be 55 in October and sometimes I do feel like I'm too old. Plus, I struggle with anxiety, and I'm one of those people who can't handle a lot of stress. Luckily, I don't have too much in my life, but sometimes I feel like I create stress for myself just by second-guessing and imposter syndrome. My therapist, and your videos, help tremendously, and HB90 of course. Honestly, I count discovering your content as one of my luckiest moments. Never doubt that you are making a difference in people's lives. 💜
I am stuck since I have been told that I won't be able to work due to my chronic illnesses. Finding out that I have neurological issues that are complications due to my scoliosis. I am having to relearn how to do every day tasks. It"s been a tough few years. Thank you for this. It really helped me!
I love your pep talks. They always make me take a step back and think about taking action rather than living my life reacting. Sometimes I get in that rut.
As I listened to this, tears filled my eyes, and I'm where you were 7 years ago when you had Andrew. I was recently diagnosed with Developmental Trauma & PTSD. I've been trying my best to get through each day, and I paused the video to make the call to get on a waitlist for therapy/counselling. It's a long waitlist. Ty for this msg. I'm going to make my list and possibly print out a new empty calendar.
I hope they are able to get you in to see someone soon! Sending you all the love and support. You are not alone and it's not going to be like this forever! ♥️
I really needed this. I have severe ADHD and used caffeine and adrenaline to power my way through and build my career. Due to some recent severe health setbacks and a resulting nearly toxic medication reaction, I now have what some would term the ultimate in burnout and PTSD - a condition called Conversion Disorder. This means I "shut down" with what are called psychogenic seizures whenever I experience beyond my new (very low) threshhold for stress... no matter what kind. Have a bad day, seizure. Have a fantastic day, seizure. It's essentially burnout all the way to the fligh/fight/freeze response. Because I've always been rather Type A, I keep trying to figure out how to get it all "back." But the truth is that I will never be able to handle stress the way I thrived on it before. Your share today was a lot like what my therapist has been trying to get through to me. I can still make things happen, I can still gain momentum and build something, I just have to allow for my bad days and be able to allow myself grace for days when getting out of bed is the best I can accomplish. Thank you Sarra.
6:18 I rewound back to hear you say this more than once. When I left my abusive ex husband, it was because I learned 3 things in a year of therapy. The very first thing was that I had worth. It seems like a simple thing, but when you feel absolutely worthless, abuse feels deserved. When I heard you use this same word to describe life situations, a lightbulb went off. It’s true that I feel stuck. It’s true that I feel, in some way, as if I don’t deserve the happiness I am so happy to see others achieve. I will take this knowledge and move forward today because it’s not capability that holds me back. It’s not lack of support from my loved ones. (I have supportive parents and two wonderful teenagers.) It absolutely has to do with my own self image and what I feel as if I deserve. Thank you, Sarra. Thank you for posting something that’s vulnerable and open. Too many people are terrified of ever seeming like they fail. As you explained, the desire to be happy is there. Sometimes I just feel as if I keep doing what I’ve always done, I will know what to expect, right? I’m used to chaos. I’m used to intense pain and trauma. These are my life. But, yet, they don’t have to be, do they? I want to challenge myself to know my worth again. I don’t deserve maltreatment from anyone. And suddenly, because of what you just said, I realize that I don’t deserve it from myself either.
Im not sure how i stumbled upon your channel - as i am not a writer. I am putting a family history book together and writing parts of it. I just have to say how much I have been LOVING your content! And especially this video- Thank you, Thank you, Thank you 💖
Omgosh yes to this. I'm 43 and I'm only just starting to write my very first novel ever. And it feels soooooo slow! I feel frustrated that I feel like I am not going anywhere or getting there fast enough. But when I heard you give the analogy of running with a full backpack it just made do much sense. I have crammed in everything I have to do, and on top of that I'm packing in all the things I want to be working on, no wonder I feel a) like I'm not getting anywhere, and b) overwhelmed trying to sprint with a backpack that heavy. I'm not saying that I can't do it, I know that I can carry around this chonky overflowing backpack of dreams, but I've got to build up the strength and fitness first. Then I can go running with it. Thank you so much for all you do and I wish you to know that you have impacted my life more than you will ever know. Blessings always ❤
Every time I've asked the Universe for more time to write, and was given it, I never "followed through". This is the first time I've had HB90 and the support of you and the other Hearties. I can't wait to see where I am by the end of the year!
The 50 bridges resonated for me and I instantly got a clear mental image of how that has been causing me issues! I need to narrow my focus! Thank you ❤
This video is really changing my life! I can’t believe how it describes EXACTLY me and my hard struggles these past couple decades! I definitely want to join your course right away but my pay day is not until Friday and so I’ll have to wait until next quarter. I struggled so badly with feeling like I’m too old now and that I missed out on everything and trying so hard to work hard and change my life. This video helped me to understand for the first time now why I’ve stayed stuck all these years and could never move forward no matter how much effort I’ve put in! I’m just beginning to write a historical novel and feel very inspired by your videos.
I see you as kind of a pioneer. Finding and testing possible paths for us to follow without being too strict. In the jungle of this fast changing mediaworld you are sacrificing a lot to find your own way and you are so generous to let us take a look into your soul and learn from your experience. Thank you for all of that. I hope your health, heart, journey, work and wealth are blessed beyond your wishes, hopes and expectations.
Thank you. I've been struggling with grief for the past year and have been trying to write my out of it. I'm learning that I need to give myself more time, and this video really resonated with me. This was a beautiful pep talk and I will definitely watch it again. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
Your message came at the right time. I feel like I'm drowning in depression and little motivation. Now I feel better and I see hope and have direction now. Thank you so much Sarra. Peace and blessings to you and your beautiful family.🙏🏽💜
Honestly what makes it so hard for me is that my dream life is basically getting the life that most people are born into already as a default. I don't have super high aspirations (I think anyway). I just want the privilege of being able to live most people's "average life" but nothing short of magic or technological advances will allow me to... It definitely leaves me feeling pretty demotivated to even try to do anything tbh, because no matter what, that underlying fact will never change.
I wrote a lot of unpublished novels but the last few decades, I've had major, almost absolute, writers block. You really made me think, and I feel now I have a hope, and company! Thanks for your sharing 💟 'spiraling up'
Thank you for making this video, it really resonated with me. A lot of my problem to reaching my version of success is not knowing what I truly want to do in life. I’ve done the whole write out interests, people say write down passions, even with that I draw blanks. I feel I’ve lost a lot of years that way too.That part I need to figure out the most and then I know I can reach success, as long as I don’t self sabotage 😢. I totally understood planning for another person, I feel that. Comparison and FOMO are real struggles for sure! Also spiraling negatively down. I will try your list idea out for turning negative into positive. I needed to listen to this. ❤
I love your content, both here and on Sarra Cannon. You are a great inspiration and a mentor. I have suffered from depression and other health issues. There were months when I was totally paralysed where my life and work was concerned. This was when the atomic habit of 1% helped me a lot; because somedays that was all I could do. Step by step, habit by tiny habit and of course with the help of my psychiatrist and therapist, I managed to get to a point where I am happy with what I am achieving today.
💕 I'm sending you all the good thoughts right now. You aren't alone in this I promise!! But once we accept ourselves, growth becomes a lot less painful.
My life fell apart 4 years ago and i have spent the same four years trying to put it back together. I have felt alone for years in the path of try to fix things. This video really helped me feel less alone. Hopefully next time the bootcamp opens i can join. Thank you for the video 💛
I 100% resonate with this. I had something happen in the year 2000 that completely derailed my life until 2007 and still echoes to this day. It's hard to "lose" time, but once we can start to see that it's part of what makes us strong and WILL be a valuable part of your story, it gets easier. You're definitely not alone, and I believe in you!
Thank you so much for this video. This has helped me at a difficult time in my writing journey. I've seen it four or five times already and I also see the inspirational videos you put in module six of Publish & Thrive. I would love more inspirational videos from you, your voice soothes me and your words give me hope. Thank you again. From the Republic of Panama.
I appreciate how you shared your techniques to counter the negative momentum. It's hard to see how to course correct when you're in the middle of them! Thank you for this pep talk! I always feel uplifted and encouraged after any of your videos!❤
Sarra, you picked the WRONG career! Forget author...you need to be a motivational speaker. I've listen to several talks by you that are similar to this one. They all leave me with my heart pounding with excitement and hope. EXTREMELY WELL DONE GIRL!
Sarra, I spotted my novel on your shelf in the background of this video. I was so honored that I woke my husband to show him. He thought it was cool. Let me know if you ever have time to read it. It would be so fun to discuss with you. Meanwhile, I know you’re crazy busy, so no hurry. It is just really cool seeing it on your shelf. Thank you.
I just found you this weekend, I'm not sure why but I'm glad I did, binge watched some old videos, I have a lot of work to do. Thank you That's how I feel, I'm too old, I missed my time, It's too late for me, but I'm open and I will keep trying, You have good JuJu 😎
I finally got a chance to watch this video, and it's something that I really needed to hear. This has been an amazing video, Sarra. Keep up the good work 👍
Thank you so much Sarra, I found your channel because I was looking for writing advice and inspiration but found so much more, the so much more turned out to be what I needed more - and you have covered that in this video. ❣
Yes! This is so good! It reminds of the book “The Gap & The Gain” - thank you for sharing and encouraging with your honesty. I always find value and inspiration from your videos 💞🥰
Thank you so much for sharing your story. This really hit home because I tend to put too much on my plate all the time. I got burned out last fall and am doing anything but writing. I feel like I’m letting my readers down and myself, too. But I’m feeling the excitement of working on my next series return. You’re right, taking the time to get things on paper will bring clarity and I can go from there. I have plenty of things that I can let go of in favor of focusing on the things that support my vision. Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️
I was just thinking about this the other day. About having to do all this stuff like everyone else and I had to take a breath, and map out what would work for me to focus on what I have now and growing that before starting something new.
I can't tell you how much I needed to hear this. Thank you SO Much for making this video and always being so real. You are an inspiration and a blessing, thank you!!
Hi. Its me. Im stuck. Im building 50 bridges that are going nowhere and the FOMO is real! Excellent advice and a really good talk. Maybe you have a non-fiction book in you somewhere, real advice for real life in the social media age.❤
Ugh Sarra, you have no idea how much you help me with 'struggling' through my life. I just came out of a horrible surgery where they amputated my right lower leg. Somehow I always feel like you are talking to me directly and handing me that piece information I need so bad. Wether it is with writing and (still hope to finish my book by the end ot the year) I started calling you 'queen Sarrah'. I've once said to you that you are a THE teacher. Please add to the list that you are also my lifecoach, my inspirator, my motivater. Heck, you are even my psychiatrist. 😂You are empowering me and so much more.Thank you for all that my queen Sarra 🙏🏽😘💪🏽❤ I can't wait to see your next video. No, no pressure. Your video's come in exactly the right time and the right order. BTW, You have enough material on your page to keep my spirit up. And even though the surgery happened last Friday, I amaze myself how much fighting power I have in me. May your videos and myself keep my spirit up. Hugs and kisses from the Netherlands 🤗😘
Needed this right now. Thank you so much! Looking behind you as you talk I can see “V Believe” on your bookcase. Felt like a private little message to believe in myself - like a sign telling me I can do this! Big love to you Sarra, and thank you for all the content you create. You’re amazing!! ❤
I followed the link to this video from your email and it was Divine guidance. I have the accolades as an author, I’ve made 6 figures, I’m busy with my second degree, and even with so much to be grateful for, I feel lost. I co-wrote a series with a friend who walked away from our friendship and the series tanked so badly, I’ve lost my confidence as an author. Now I write for other people and I hate it. I dread it every day. But it’s comforting to know I’m not the only one feeling like everything is just so damn hard right now ♥️
And it doesn't help I'm sure that you also think you should be really grateful and that you are... But it's not enough. I understand!! I believe you can find your way back to joy in your writing!!
❤ Didn’t think you were initially talking to me but fear of missing out and comparisonitus is definitely an issue for me. Thank you for your honesty Sarra. We place so much pressure on ourselves. I wonder whether being driven is a blessing and a curse? Sending a hug from the UK x
Im hoping to be a author of a book series independently. And im worried that ill never be as good as the next author with thousands of followers. I keep going to make it happen, but sometimes i feel as though things are going too slow.
I understand this so much! But it's really just your timing and it's fine! Even most of the 7 figure authors I know grew slowly and then finally had a breakout, sometimes years and years after their first book.
The first step is to figure out what your biggest priorities and dreams are, then I recommend taking a realistic view of your time. How much time do you really have available (both literally and energetically) to work toward your goals. Then the next step is setting some goals and breaking those down into projects where you estimate how much time each one will take and match it up with your available time. We do this step by baby step in my HB90 course, but if that's not something you want to try, check out my playlist here on RUclips called "Kanban" board which starts to go into these principles!
If you hadn’t gone through all those tough times you might not have the success you have now. You can’t really learn from someone who just got lucky and found insta success. One of my favorite things about your channel is your willingness to share your struggles and the tools you used to get through them. You teach from experience and I really appreciate that.
If you are struggling with depression or any other mental illness, please seek medical care/therapy alongside anything else you may do for yourself to move your life forward (if possible - I know not everyone can afford this) 🖤 When you struggle with mental illness (or neurodivergency), positive thinking, changing our thoughts, or learning techniques to help change our thoughts is much, much harder (and sometimes impossible) to do on our own. And we often beat ourselves up more than other people do. So, a support system of professionals is gold!
I have Autism. I also have two anxiety disorders. I started treatment for my anxiety disorders in November of last year. I am on medication and doing so much better. I am so grateful for my primary care doctor finally putting me on medication last year. I really needed it. I am proud of my Autism and too be different.
Thank you for saying this. I spent years beating myself up for being unmotivated and not getting anything done. This year I switched antidepressants and started ADHD treatment and it's been life-changing. I simply couldn't willpower and mindset my way through things.
I have just come out of a burnout that lasted the better part of two years and I’m pretty sure that the negative downward spiral I got stuck in played a big part. I’m ashamed to admit that positivity doesn’t come naturally to me. But I’m trying to learn! I’m learning to be more open to success, and it’s hard!!! This video definitely reminds me that it’s possible to make the right kinds of changes in order to get to where we want to be. Thank you for the reminder and for being so open and honest. It’s such an inspiration!
Everyday I see a new RUclipsr with a million subscribers getting sponsored by skillshare and my wife and I are eating one or two meals a day. This video hit hard, but thank you for making it.
@@ResonatedReadings it's not selling out to get paid for your work though. My point is that I'M not getting paid for my work, whether through sponsorships or Adsense. I put in just as much time and effort as anyone else plus I'm also struggling to put food on the table precisely because I'm not getting paid. There's nothing greedy about making money in a world that demands you make money to survive. I would rather have the sponsorship and be able to feed my wife.
😭😭 I needed this so badly!! Thank you!! I honestly could have made this video for all the similarities. The pandemic was like a train wreck for my momentum. I was going strong until everything slowed down. I just can’t seem to get myself back to we’re I was. Its not even about me comparing myself to others but to who I used to be! I desperately wish I had the money for your program! I have spent so much time, effort and money on so many other programs (I’m talking Tony Roberts level programs)but YOU hit every nail on the head! Thank you for your honesty and for just being genuine and real. I hope the very best for you!
This is so true! Everyone always says, "Don't compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to where you used to be!" But I've been there, too, where it's like omg I'd love to be where I used to be with book sales. And it's hard to imagine what it will take to get there again. BUT, I think it's about a mindset shift. Start from your lowest past rather than your highest. Build up from there! I hope the best for you too!
Thank you for this. It's weird for me who looks up to you as a great success and you feel the exact same way I do. Working 40 hour days at work and being strung around because I have a 9 year old and not the unlimited time that a retail management position for less than what I should be making (too valuable to let go but not enough to get a raise), coming home, making dinner and being burnt out because I proved to the company that I'm worth it. I'm sitting in front of the computer WANTING to do the thing and knowing I'm not going to be able to put the love into it that it really needs. When I get my mom paid off in 3 years for helping us with the house then I'm done working retail and I can work on myself. Hopefully these 3 years pass by like this one has. It's already almost September!!!
Thank you for this. It was if you were pulling things straight outta my head. I suffer from chronic pain, anxiety, depression & psoriatic arthritis (my drs don’t think I’ll be able to go back to work…ever) Most days a struggle. I get a lot of help from my husband and kids. I am going to try your method as i do have these feelings. Thank you for being open and honest with the things you struggle with as it helps knowing I’m not alone.
i watch this video every so often to remind myself of where i am and where i’m going. i went through extreme burnout last year and then got back on anti depressants and i’m feeling a lot better. your Publish and Thrive course is helping me so much. i’m truly grateful for your videos and your presence in my journey.
I've been coming back to this talk ever since you posted this video. I've probably watched it 4-5 times already, and every single time it has lifted a huge weight off of my chest. Everything you say resonated with me so much that I'm finally able to let go of certain practices I kept at, because that was what most people were doing and attributing their successes to, even though it was causing me a lot of stress and dejection. Your honest video makes it so much easier for me to accept what's not working for me and focus on what's right for me without that constant nagging fear that I should be someone else somewhere else doing something else. Thank you so much, Sarra.
This means the world to me. I'm so glad it's been helpful, because I'm so passionate about this and I know you aren't the only one feeling this kind of pressure!
I remember watching you go through all of these phases of your life and I am so happy to see you finding your joy again. Also, seeing that is baby authors aren't the only ones that go through these emotions and times in our lives has been so helpful. You keep me going on bad days!! You're my hero and my inspiration, especially because you accepted the vulnerability of showing everyone that you are a person and have good and bad times, that you cry and get stressed and miss deadlines. We love you through it all.
Omg Sarra it's like you were reading my thoughts from the last few weeks. I was just telling a friend how frustrated I was because I don't feel like I'm where I'm supposed to be, where I had planned to be at this time in my life and I just have this mental checklist of everything I wanted to do in my life and the stages in which I was supposed to do them in and I am just so very far behind. This pep talk was exactly what I needed. Thank you for this video!
When I was in my early-mid 20s I had intense stress tolerance, but when I reflect on that time I had my physical health dialed in. The last 3 years it has been a challenge to handle stress because I’m healing from Epstein Barr-Reactivation (stress induced). We all have breaking points. Those of us who CAN go the extra mile probably shouldn’t do that all the time because eventually it comes back to bite us in the ass. Then I felt extra bad when I couldn’t come close to those same achievements because while I have the capacity to, that’s not healthy. I’ve learned to pace myself while recovering my health and never again will I pressure myself to even get close to that breaking point again. All it did was make my condition worse and add depression and anxiety to the mix. I don’t deserve that… no one does! Take care of yourself and the rest will be taken care of in time. “Nature does not hurry yet everything is accomplished.” -Laotze
I am one of those people who feels very far behind! Even now, I have applied for a new job a level above my current one which keeps me on my current path. But it continues a life path that I am not certain I want to be on for the life I truly imagine. My current job is high stress and takes time away From my family which isn’t my ideal situation. I struggle with depression and ADHD. I am have just begun to reimagine and realize exactly what I want my life to truly look like and I’m 40 now… but I have to keep telling myself it’s never too late.
I always find it interesting to watch your videos, because you and I struggle with diametrically opposite things. You struggle with wanting so much that you can't get it all done in the time that you have, while I struggle with even knowing what I want in the first place and falling into comfortable ruts. (Enneagram 9 rears its head lol!) That said, I really resonated with your method of creating a list of mentalities that are stressing you and then creating a second list to counter them. I might try doing that and see what comes of it. Thanks for the inspiration!
This is the perfect video to listen to while cleaning out my writer space. I've been treating my life as if I need lots of metaphorical packing peanuts to mute the jostling without realizing that it was just slowing me down further and further. Thanks for putting this up.
Bless you, Sarra, and all you've shared and continue to share with us. You have been the single most motivating soul I've ever encountered on this app, especially as a creative.
I really enjoyed this video. And can totally relate. I am 41, and seeing people who are younger than me living their best life is very difficult. I can definitely relate to doing so many things and feeling like I'm working constantly, and I've gotten nowhere. Continously looking at others and wondering why does it seem so easy and quick for them. RUclips is the worse, in a way. I see all of these youtubers playing video games and making millions of dollars, and it's like a blow to the gut when you've worked your ass off and are still struggling. Etc.... Thanks for this much needed video.
Thank you for this video. This really hit me hard after having been sick the past two weeks. The thought I had running through my head the entire time was "I'm getting behind, I'll have to catch up." I know I push myself too hard, heck right now I'm in a downward slump with depression on the entire situation and things going on in our life right now. There is something you said in another video that has really helped me in situations like what you're talking about here. "Comparison is the death of creativity." That's stuck with me for a long time.
Such a fantastic pep talk! You and another creator were the first I heard talk about planning around your energy and this resonated with me so hard! With chronic illness, kids, and adhd, getting things done can feel tough at times! Since I started incorporating this into my planning, it's made all the difference! Also, I am super excited for HB 90 Bootcamp! I bought the HB 90 planner in 2022 and never used it until last quarter ( lol). Once I finally sat down and went through it, I found it super helpful and made the pact with myself to sign up for the next bootcamp. I know this system can be helpful for me if I can stick with it! Thank you for always speaking from your heart
Make a list of what's causing you negative momentum, and let's work together to make shifts where we can to bring you back into joyful progress. If I can help, I will!! Come join us in the HB90 Bootcamp! Link in the description.
Thank you, Sarra! I know I'll be an outlier for saying this, but the answer to these probs in my life is centering my life around Jesus Christ. I have a chronic illness that's taken away my ability to work and seriously slowed down my writing. I've had to redefine what a fulfilled life even means...Reorienting my life around God has given me joy, peace and security in all the aching places you describe. ❤
Amen
Your videos always come along at the right time. I'll be 55 in October and sometimes I do feel like I'm too old. Plus, I struggle with anxiety, and I'm one of those people who can't handle a lot of stress. Luckily, I don't have too much in my life, but sometimes I feel like I create stress for myself just by second-guessing and imposter syndrome. My therapist, and your videos, help tremendously, and HB90 of course. Honestly, I count discovering your content as one of my luckiest moments. Never doubt that you are making a difference in people's lives. 💜
I am stuck since I have been told that I won't be able to work due to my chronic illnesses. Finding out that I have neurological issues that are complications due to my scoliosis. I am having to relearn how to do every day tasks. It"s been a tough few years. Thank you for this. It really helped me!
What a gift this video this is to us. Thank you for your bravery in being vulnerable.
Thanks! I needed this. Been feeling like I'm not doing enough. Trying to be a full time writer and a run a full time business. This makes sense.
You're doing great!
I love your pep talks. They always make me take a step back and think about taking action rather than living my life reacting. Sometimes I get in that rut.
As I listened to this, tears filled my eyes, and I'm where you were 7 years ago when you had Andrew. I was recently diagnosed with Developmental Trauma & PTSD. I've been trying my best to get through each day, and I paused the video to make the call to get on a waitlist for therapy/counselling. It's a long waitlist. Ty for this msg. I'm going to make my list and possibly print out a new empty calendar.
I hope they are able to get you in to see someone soon! Sending you all the love and support. You are not alone and it's not going to be like this forever! ♥️
I really needed this. I have severe ADHD and used caffeine and adrenaline to power my way through and build my career. Due to some recent severe health setbacks and a resulting nearly toxic medication reaction, I now have what some would term the ultimate in burnout and PTSD - a condition called Conversion Disorder. This means I "shut down" with what are called psychogenic seizures whenever I experience beyond my new (very low) threshhold for stress... no matter what kind. Have a bad day, seizure. Have a fantastic day, seizure. It's essentially burnout all the way to the fligh/fight/freeze response.
Because I've always been rather Type A, I keep trying to figure out how to get it all "back." But the truth is that I will never be able to handle stress the way I thrived on it before. Your share today was a lot like what my therapist has been trying to get through to me. I can still make things happen, I can still gain momentum and build something, I just have to allow for my bad days and be able to allow myself grace for days when getting out of bed is the best I can accomplish. Thank you Sarra.
Wow this is so tough and you are so brave and awesome for continuing to look through for the solutions and how to navigate these challenges!
6:18 I rewound back to hear you say this more than once. When I left my abusive ex husband, it was because I learned 3 things in a year of therapy. The very first thing was that I had worth. It seems like a simple thing, but when you feel absolutely worthless, abuse feels deserved.
When I heard you use this same word to describe life situations, a lightbulb went off.
It’s true that I feel stuck. It’s true that I feel, in some way, as if I don’t deserve the happiness I am so happy to see others achieve.
I will take this knowledge and move forward today because it’s not capability that holds me back. It’s not lack of support from my loved ones. (I have supportive parents and two wonderful teenagers.) It absolutely has to do with my own self image and what I feel as if I deserve.
Thank you, Sarra. Thank you for posting something that’s vulnerable and open. Too many people are terrified of ever seeming like they fail.
As you explained, the desire to be happy is there. Sometimes I just feel as if I keep doing what I’ve always done, I will know what to expect, right? I’m used to chaos. I’m used to intense pain and trauma. These are my life. But, yet, they don’t have to be, do they?
I want to challenge myself to know my worth again. I don’t deserve maltreatment from anyone. And suddenly, because of what you just said, I realize that I don’t deserve it from myself either.
wow, this is so powerful and wonderful that you see this and are willing to see it differently. You deserve the world!
Im not sure how i stumbled upon your channel - as i am not a writer. I am putting a family history book together and writing parts of it. I just have to say how much I have been LOVING your content! And especially this video- Thank you, Thank you, Thank you 💖
Omgosh yes to this. I'm 43 and I'm only just starting to write my very first novel ever. And it feels soooooo slow! I feel frustrated that I feel like I am not going anywhere or getting there fast enough. But when I heard you give the analogy of running with a full backpack it just made do much sense. I have crammed in everything I have to do, and on top of that I'm packing in all the things I want to be working on, no wonder I feel a) like I'm not getting anywhere, and b) overwhelmed trying to sprint with a backpack that heavy. I'm not saying that I can't do it, I know that I can carry around this chonky overflowing backpack of dreams, but I've got to build up the strength and fitness first. Then I can go running with it. Thank you so much for all you do and I wish you to know that you have impacted my life more than you will ever know. Blessings always ❤
Love your interpretation of that! Yes got to build up the right habits and systems and then you can carry more!!
Thank you. This was an answer to prayer. I don't feel so alone anymore.
Every time I've asked the Universe for more time to write, and was given it, I never "followed through". This is the first time I've had HB90 and the support of you and the other Hearties. I can't wait to see where I am by the end of the year!
I'm excited for you and proud of you!!
The 50 bridges resonated for me and I instantly got a clear mental image of how that has been causing me issues! I need to narrow my focus! Thank you ❤
Yes! So glad that resonated!
This really spoke to me...more than I expected it to. Thank you
This video is really changing my life! I can’t believe how it describes EXACTLY me and my hard struggles these past couple decades! I definitely want to join your course right away but my pay day is not until Friday and so I’ll have to wait until next quarter. I struggled so badly with feeling like I’m too old now and that I missed out on everything and trying so hard to work hard and change my life. This video helped me to understand for the first time now why I’ve stayed stuck all these years and could never move forward no matter how much effort I’ve put in! I’m just beginning to write a historical novel and feel very inspired by your videos.
I see you as kind of a pioneer. Finding and testing possible paths for us to follow without being too strict. In the jungle of this fast changing mediaworld you are sacrificing a lot to find your own way and you are so generous to let us take a look into your soul and learn from your experience. Thank you for all of that. I hope your health, heart, journey, work and wealth are blessed beyond your wishes, hopes and expectations.
❤ have watched this a few times now😅 always love the pep talk of doing things for us not for the world❤
I love that focusing on the faith in yourself instead of the fear, changes your perspective, which changes how you experience life. Thanks Sarra.
Thank you. I've been struggling with grief for the past year and have been trying to write my out of it. I'm learning that I need to give myself more time, and this video really resonated with me. This was a beautiful pep talk and I will definitely watch it again. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
Your message came at the right time. I feel like I'm drowning in depression and little motivation. Now I feel better and I see hope and have direction now. Thank you so much Sarra. Peace and blessings to you and your beautiful family.🙏🏽💜
Honestly what makes it so hard for me is that my dream life is basically getting the life that most people are born into already as a default. I don't have super high aspirations (I think anyway). I just want the privilege of being able to live most people's "average life" but nothing short of magic or technological advances will allow me to...
It definitely leaves me feeling pretty demotivated to even try to do anything tbh, because no matter what, that underlying fact will never change.
Hello future me, I needed to hear this today. 💕💖
So glad it meant something to you!!
I wrote a lot of unpublished novels but the last few decades, I've had major, almost absolute, writers block. You really made me think, and I feel now I have a hope, and company! Thanks for your sharing 💟 'spiraling up'
Wow!! Thank you for this!! I feel like you read my life. Going through this process
I hope you find it helpful!
Thank you for making this video, it really resonated with me. A lot of my problem to reaching my version of success is not knowing what I truly want to do in life. I’ve done the whole write out interests, people say write down passions, even with that I draw blanks. I feel I’ve lost a lot of years that way too.That part I need to figure out the most and then I know I can reach success, as long as I don’t self sabotage 😢. I totally understood planning for another person, I feel that. Comparison and FOMO are real struggles for sure! Also spiraling negatively down. I will try your list idea out for turning negative into positive. I needed to listen to this. ❤
I love your content, both here and on Sarra Cannon. You are a great inspiration and a mentor. I have suffered from depression and other health issues. There were months when I was totally paralysed where my life and work was concerned. This was when the atomic habit of 1% helped me a lot; because somedays that was all I could do. Step by step, habit by tiny habit and of course with the help of my psychiatrist and therapist, I managed to get to a point where I am happy with what I am achieving today.
Yes - to all the things. It's like you read my journal!!
I can't thank you enough for this video, I really needed this now 😭
"I was planning for the person I wish I was" hit me like a thousand bricks with spikes on them.
💕 I'm sending you all the good thoughts right now. You aren't alone in this I promise!! But once we accept ourselves, growth becomes a lot less painful.
Much wisdom being communicated in this timely message. Thank you!
You're welcome thanks for watching!
My life fell apart 4 years ago and i have spent the same four years trying to put it back together. I have felt alone for years in the path of try to fix things. This video really helped me feel less alone. Hopefully next time the bootcamp opens i can join. Thank you for the video 💛
I 100% resonate with this. I had something happen in the year 2000 that completely derailed my life until 2007 and still echoes to this day. It's hard to "lose" time, but once we can start to see that it's part of what makes us strong and WILL be a valuable part of your story, it gets easier. You're definitely not alone, and I believe in you!
Brilliant. Thank you♥
Thank you SO much for this!!!
Thank you so much for this video. This has helped me at a difficult time in my writing journey. I've seen it four or five times already and I also see the inspirational videos you put in module six of Publish & Thrive. I would love more inspirational videos from you, your voice soothes me and your words give me hope. Thank you again. From the Republic of Panama.
You're so welcome!
I appreciate how you shared your techniques to counter the negative momentum. It's hard to see how to course correct when you're in the middle of them! Thank you for this pep talk! I always feel uplifted and encouraged after any of your videos!❤
Sarra, you picked the WRONG career! Forget author...you need to be a motivational speaker. I've listen to several talks by you that are similar to this one. They all leave me with my heart pounding with excitement and hope. EXTREMELY WELL DONE GIRL!
Thank you so much!! I'm just speaking from my heart and I'm so glad to know it shows!
Thank you 🙏 this video is Will awesome!
Thank you so much for this ❤
Thank you. This is just the pep talk I needed.
Thank you for always sharing your true self and inspiring us all! I appreciate your consistent authenticity so much ❤️
Sarra,
I spotted my novel on your shelf in the background of this video. I was so honored that I woke my husband to show him. He thought it was cool. Let me know if you ever have time to read it. It would be so fun to discuss with you. Meanwhile, I know you’re crazy busy, so no hurry. It is just really cool seeing it on your shelf. Thank you.
I just found you this weekend, I'm not sure why but I'm glad I did, binge watched some old videos, I have a lot of work to do. Thank you
That's how I feel, I'm too old, I missed my time, It's too late for me, but I'm open and I will keep trying, You have good JuJu 😎
So glad you're here! Meant to be! It's never too late. You're exactly right on time.
I finally got a chance to watch this video, and it's something that I really needed to hear. This has been an amazing video, Sarra. Keep up the good work 👍
😭 This hit deep. ❤
You are on your way, Christina! Just think about how far you've come!!!
Yep. It’s like you are in my head. Everything you said completely resonates.
Thank you so much Sarra, I found your channel because I was looking for writing advice and inspiration but found so much more, the so much more turned out to be what I needed more - and you have covered that in this video. ❣
Yes! This is so good! It reminds of the book “The Gap & The Gain” - thank you for sharing and encouraging with your honesty. I always find value and inspiration from your videos 💞🥰
I'll have to look that one up thank up!
As a person with ADHS, the stress I can handle is not that high 🙃
So I need my breaks & days off ... and than I feel lazy again
Thank you so much for sharing your story. This really hit home because I tend to put too much on my plate all the time. I got burned out last fall and am doing anything but writing. I feel like I’m letting my readers down and myself, too. But I’m feeling the excitement of working on my next series return. You’re right, taking the time to get things on paper will bring clarity and I can go from there. I have plenty of things that I can let go of in favor of focusing on the things that support my vision. Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️
I really needed this today ❤❤ thank you
I was just thinking about this the other day. About having to do all this stuff like everyone else and I had to take a breath, and map out what would work for me to focus on what I have now and growing that before starting something new.
Thank you for the boost - you always put things into great perspective.
I can't tell you how much I needed to hear this. Thank you SO Much for making this video and always being so real. You are an inspiration and a blessing, thank you!!
Thank you!!!! You're a blessing! 💖💖💖
Hi. Its me. Im stuck. Im building 50 bridges that are going nowhere and the FOMO is real! Excellent advice and a really good talk. Maybe you have a non-fiction book in you somewhere, real advice for real life in the social media age.❤
Needed this today ❤❤
Ugh Sarra, you have no idea how much you help me with 'struggling' through my life. I just came out of a horrible surgery where they amputated my right lower leg. Somehow I always feel like you are talking to me directly and handing me that piece information I need so bad. Wether it is with writing and (still hope to finish my book by the end ot the year) I started calling you 'queen Sarrah'. I've once said to you that you are a THE teacher. Please add to the list that you are also my lifecoach, my inspirator, my motivater. Heck, you are even my psychiatrist. 😂You are empowering me and so much more.Thank you for all that my queen Sarra 🙏🏽😘💪🏽❤ I can't wait to see your next video. No, no pressure. Your video's come in exactly the right time and the right order. BTW, You have enough material on your page to keep my spirit up. And even though the surgery happened last Friday, I amaze myself how much fighting power I have in me. May your videos and myself keep my spirit up. Hugs and kisses from the Netherlands 🤗😘
Thank you, I really needed this!
Needed this right now. Thank you so much! Looking behind you as you talk I can see “V Believe” on your bookcase. Felt like a private little message to believe in myself - like a sign telling me I can do this! Big love to you Sarra, and thank you for all the content you create. You’re amazing!! ❤
I followed the link to this video from your email and it was Divine guidance. I have the accolades as an author, I’ve made 6 figures, I’m busy with my second degree, and even with so much to be grateful for, I feel lost. I co-wrote a series with a friend who walked away from our friendship and the series tanked so badly, I’ve lost my confidence as an author. Now I write for other people and I hate it. I dread it every day. But it’s comforting to know I’m not the only one feeling like everything is just so damn hard right now ♥️
And it doesn't help I'm sure that you also think you should be really grateful and that you are... But it's not enough. I understand!! I believe you can find your way back to joy in your writing!!
I so badly need a win right now.
This really helped to hear. Thank you ❤
❤ Didn’t think you were initially talking to me but fear of missing out and comparisonitus is definitely an issue for me. Thank you for your honesty Sarra. We place so much pressure on ourselves. I wonder whether being driven is a blessing and a curse? Sending a hug from the UK x
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Im hoping to be a author of a book series independently. And im worried that ill never be as good as the next author with thousands of followers. I keep going to make it happen, but sometimes i feel as though things are going too slow.
I understand this so much! But it's really just your timing and it's fine! Even most of the 7 figure authors I know grew slowly and then finally had a breakout, sometimes years and years after their first book.
Hello lovelies❤❤
How do I create a reasonable plan for the real me?
The first step is to figure out what your biggest priorities and dreams are, then I recommend taking a realistic view of your time. How much time do you really have available (both literally and energetically) to work toward your goals. Then the next step is setting some goals and breaking those down into projects where you estimate how much time each one will take and match it up with your available time. We do this step by baby step in my HB90 course, but if that's not something you want to try, check out my playlist here on RUclips called "Kanban" board which starts to go into these principles!
@@HeartBreathings I’m going to do HB90!
If you hadn’t gone through all those tough times you might not have the success you have now. You can’t really learn from someone who just got lucky and found insta success. One of my favorite things about your channel is your willingness to share your struggles and the tools you used to get through them. You teach from experience and I really appreciate that.
Thank you Sarah 💜
Oh my goodness. It looks like I’m not the only one who needed to hear this. Thank you.
If you are struggling with depression or any other mental illness, please seek medical care/therapy alongside anything else you may do for yourself to move your life forward (if possible - I know not everyone can afford this) 🖤 When you struggle with mental illness (or neurodivergency), positive thinking, changing our thoughts, or learning techniques to help change our thoughts is much, much harder (and sometimes impossible) to do on our own. And we often beat ourselves up more than other people do. So, a support system of professionals is gold!
I have Autism. I also have two anxiety disorders. I started treatment for my anxiety disorders in November of last year. I am on medication and doing so much better. I am so grateful for my primary care doctor finally putting me on medication last year. I really needed it. I am proud of my Autism and too be different.
Thank you for saying this. I spent years beating myself up for being unmotivated and not getting anything done. This year I switched antidepressants and started ADHD treatment and it's been life-changing. I simply couldn't willpower and mindset my way through things.
I have just come out of a burnout that lasted the better part of two years and I’m pretty sure that the negative downward spiral I got stuck in played a big part. I’m ashamed to admit that positivity doesn’t come naturally to me. But I’m trying to learn! I’m learning to be more open to success, and it’s hard!!!
This video definitely reminds me that it’s possible to make the right kinds of changes in order to get to where we want to be. Thank you for the reminder and for being so open and honest. It’s such an inspiration!
Everyday I see a new RUclipsr with a million subscribers getting sponsored by skillshare and my wife and I are eating one or two meals a day. This video hit hard, but thank you for making it.
It's such a hard place to be, especially when you know you've got so much to offer. I'm cheering you on.
@@ResonatedReadings it's not selling out to get paid for your work though. My point is that I'M not getting paid for my work, whether through sponsorships or Adsense. I put in just as much time and effort as anyone else plus I'm also struggling to put food on the table precisely because I'm not getting paid. There's nothing greedy about making money in a world that demands you make money to survive. I would rather have the sponsorship and be able to feed my wife.
😭😭 I needed this so badly!! Thank you!! I honestly could have made this video for all the similarities. The pandemic was like a train wreck for my momentum. I was going strong until everything slowed down. I just can’t seem to get myself back to we’re I was. Its not even about me comparing myself to others but to who I used to be! I desperately wish I had the money for your program! I have spent so much time, effort and money on so many other programs (I’m talking Tony Roberts level programs)but YOU hit every nail on the head! Thank you for your honesty and for just being genuine and real. I hope the very best for you!
This is so true! Everyone always says, "Don't compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to where you used to be!" But I've been there, too, where it's like omg I'd love to be where I used to be with book sales. And it's hard to imagine what it will take to get there again. BUT, I think it's about a mindset shift. Start from your lowest past rather than your highest. Build up from there! I hope the best for you too!
@@HeartBreathings The success you once had won't come again. Time has changed. That's the reality. It has nothing to do with your ability as a writer.
I meant Tony Robbins but when I realized what happened my internet went out 😂
Thank you for this. It's weird for me who looks up to you as a great success and you feel the exact same way I do.
Working 40 hour days at work and being strung around because I have a 9 year old and not the unlimited time that a retail management position for less than what I should be making (too valuable to let go but not enough to get a raise), coming home, making dinner and being burnt out because I proved to the company that I'm worth it. I'm sitting in front of the computer WANTING to do the thing and knowing I'm not going to be able to put the love into it that it really needs.
When I get my mom paid off in 3 years for helping us with the house then I'm done working retail and I can work on myself. Hopefully these 3 years pass by like this one has. It's already almost September!!!
I believe in you!
God has a plan for you. Jeremiah 29:11...seek Jesus Christ.
Thank you for this. It was if you were pulling things straight outta my head. I suffer from chronic pain, anxiety, depression & psoriatic arthritis (my drs don’t think I’ll be able to go back to work…ever) Most days a struggle. I get a lot of help from my husband and kids. I am going to try your method as i do have these feelings.
Thank you for being open and honest with the things you struggle with as it helps knowing I’m not alone.
i watch this video every so often to remind myself of where i am and where i’m going. i went through extreme burnout last year and then got back on anti depressants and i’m feeling a lot better. your Publish and Thrive course is helping me so much. i’m truly grateful for your videos and your presence in my journey.
Thanks for the video! I will have to watch it multiple times to let it sink in.
I've been coming back to this talk ever since you posted this video. I've probably watched it 4-5 times already, and every single time it has lifted a huge weight off of my chest. Everything you say resonated with me so much that I'm finally able to let go of certain practices I kept at, because that was what most people were doing and attributing their successes to, even though it was causing me a lot of stress and dejection. Your honest video makes it so much easier for me to accept what's not working for me and focus on what's right for me without that constant nagging fear that I should be someone else somewhere else doing something else. Thank you so much, Sarra.
This means the world to me. I'm so glad it's been helpful, because I'm so passionate about this and I know you aren't the only one feeling this kind of pressure!
I remember watching you go through all of these phases of your life and I am so happy to see you finding your joy again. Also, seeing that is baby authors aren't the only ones that go through these emotions and times in our lives has been so helpful. You keep me going on bad days!! You're my hero and my inspiration, especially because you accepted the vulnerability of showing everyone that you are a person and have good and bad times, that you cry and get stressed and miss deadlines. We love you through it all.
Omg Sarra it's like you were reading my thoughts from the last few weeks. I was just telling a friend how frustrated I was because I don't feel like I'm where I'm supposed to be, where I had planned to be at this time in my life and I just have this mental checklist of everything I wanted to do in my life and the stages in which I was supposed to do them in and I am just so very far behind. This pep talk was exactly what I needed. Thank you for this video!
You've got this!! The awareness is so tough, but you are on the right track and you've got so much time!
When I was in my early-mid 20s I had intense stress tolerance, but when I reflect on that time I had my physical health dialed in. The last 3 years it has been a challenge to handle stress because I’m healing from Epstein Barr-Reactivation (stress induced). We all have breaking points. Those of us who CAN go the extra mile probably shouldn’t do that all the time because eventually it comes back to bite us in the ass. Then I felt extra bad when I couldn’t come close to those same achievements because while I have the capacity to, that’s not healthy. I’ve learned to pace myself while recovering my health and never again will I pressure myself to even get close to that breaking point again. All it did was make my condition worse and add depression and anxiety to the mix. I don’t deserve that… no one does! Take care of yourself and the rest will be taken care of in time. “Nature does not hurry yet everything is accomplished.” -Laotze
I am one of those people who feels very far behind! Even now, I have applied for a new job a level above my current one which keeps me on my current path. But it continues a life path that I am not certain I want to be on for the life I truly imagine. My current job is high stress and takes time away From my family which isn’t my ideal situation. I struggle with depression and ADHD. I am have just begun to reimagine and realize exactly what I want my life to truly look like and I’m 40 now… but I have to keep telling myself it’s never too late.
So uplifting and helpful ❤ loved this.
I always find it interesting to watch your videos, because you and I struggle with diametrically opposite things. You struggle with wanting so much that you can't get it all done in the time that you have, while I struggle with even knowing what I want in the first place and falling into comfortable ruts. (Enneagram 9 rears its head lol!) That said, I really resonated with your method of creating a list of mentalities that are stressing you and then creating a second list to counter them. I might try doing that and see what comes of it. Thanks for the inspiration!
This is the perfect video to listen to while cleaning out my writer space. I've been treating my life as if I need lots of metaphorical packing peanuts to mute the jostling without realizing that it was just slowing me down further and further. Thanks for putting this up.
Bless you, Sarra, and all you've shared and continue to share with us. You have been the single most motivating soul I've ever encountered on this app, especially as a creative.
I really enjoyed this video. And can totally relate. I am 41, and seeing people who are younger than me living their best life is very difficult. I can definitely relate to doing so many things and feeling like I'm working constantly, and I've gotten nowhere. Continously looking at others and wondering why does it seem so easy and quick for them. RUclips is the worse, in a way. I see all of these youtubers playing video games and making millions of dollars, and it's like a blow to the gut when you've worked your ass off and are still struggling. Etc....
Thanks for this much needed video.
Thank you for this video. This really hit me hard after having been sick the past two weeks. The thought I had running through my head the entire time was "I'm getting behind, I'll have to catch up." I know I push myself too hard, heck right now I'm in a downward slump with depression on the entire situation and things going on in our life right now. There is something you said in another video that has really helped me in situations like what you're talking about here. "Comparison is the death of creativity." That's stuck with me for a long time.
Thank you, this was such a helpful video :) I saved it for reference later on as well!
Sarra, you read me and my fifty bridges for filth in this video 😂 Thank you. Message much needed!
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I’m two minutes into the video and i already know I need to hear what you have to say, Sarra 😍
This is the video I needed today, thank you!
I needed this pep talk so bad!!! Thank you so much! I appreciated every word you said!!! 😊 ❤
Thank you. I needed to hear this
Such a fantastic pep talk! You and another creator were the first I heard talk about planning around your energy and this resonated with me so hard! With chronic illness, kids, and adhd, getting things done can feel tough at times! Since I started incorporating this into my planning, it's made all the difference! Also, I am super excited for HB 90 Bootcamp! I bought the HB 90 planner in 2022 and never used it until last quarter ( lol). Once I finally sat down and went through it, I found it super helpful and made the pact with myself to sign up for the next bootcamp. I know this system can be helpful for me if I can stick with it! Thank you for always speaking from your heart
Since you're already familiar with the system, I really think you'll get a TON out of the course. It goes so much deeper. So glad you're in!
Oh Sarra, you have no idea how much I needed this lovely pep talk today. Thank you so much!
Sitting here in tears, Sarra. Speaking my story and where I’m at. You’re a beautiful, generous soul, Sarra. Thank you ❤
Thank you.