“Sld’s are not addicted to narcissists, they are addicted to being in a relationship and the human magnet syndrome naturally brings them together “ Priceless. 💯
At the age of 59, I just had the revelation that most likely explains my codependency to narcissistic men. Surviving our mother, who would no doubt be diagnosed with NPD, made for a hellish childhood, and where she destroyed our poor, sweet father as well, sending him to an early grave. We loved our father, but feared our mother, who was jealous of any attention our father gave us. I now believe that my innocent and unknowing attraction to narcissistic men stems from a desire, where I wished that my own father would have been more assertive, had healthy boundaries, and wasn't afraid to stand up for himself. These very same qualities that I looked for in previous partners actually landed me with covert narcissists.
Thank you Ross for being such a blessing! I appreciate I found your channel a few years ago and you helped me heal from codependency. Thank you for all you do for us. Much love and respect! 🙏❤
My narcissistic spouses created nothing but conflict. The divorce was easy. I was being discarded. I waited until my children were college age. It was a sad life. I'm not interested in any more conflicts.
We won’t heal self love disorder if we’re not willing to talk about the pain of the patriarchy. Toxic masculinity affects all genders. Living in this hyper focused strive and drive culture, I allow myself to rest , play and also grieve the lost childhood so many of us now need to do over again for ourselves
Thank you Dr Ross !! Your book 📕 & RUclips videos have been the most helpful in ref to healing ❤️🩹 psychologically via the root cause / true understanding & basically formula to reach true inner healing!! ❤️🩹 You’re intelligent, genuine, compassionate, positive intentions! Thx for sharing all your healing knowledge! ❤️🩹 ☺️ Knowledge is power! Taking psychological action steps to heal is key! Thx ☺️ 🙏 ❤️🩹
Well my situation is different then what was said. My golden child sister became the narcissist and me the blacksheep and scapegoat became the sld. So I wonder why the labels were switched in my situation. For the longest I was made to believe I was the narcissist because I was codependent and very toxic then I started therapy so I scoundrel figure out why I was the way I was and learned about all this.
The narcissist who targeted me was already married with four children. Where the heck was _I_ going to fit into this equation? Be the slave-boy to my masters’ every whim? I somehow didn’t see that working out in the long run.
Thanks. This is awesome. I’m getting out now and I realize my youngest is the say No child and need to be helping her plus not become me and my 3 oldest kids need to understand this isn’t right. My oldest is 18. Youngest 12 with two in the middle. 😢 this is hard.
Great topic both of you, yes it's an old Irish saying you didn't lick it off the ground.. is a bit like monkey see monkey do..another one would be the apple didn't fall too far from the tree...
“Sld’s are not addicted to narcissists, they are addicted to being in a relationship and the human magnet syndrome naturally brings them together “
Priceless. 💯
At the age of 59, I just had the revelation that most likely explains my codependency to narcissistic men. Surviving our mother, who would no doubt be diagnosed with NPD, made for a hellish childhood, and where she destroyed our poor, sweet father as well, sending him to an early grave. We loved our father, but feared our mother, who was jealous of any attention our father gave us.
I now believe that my innocent and unknowing attraction to narcissistic men stems from a desire, where I wished that my own father would have been more assertive, had healthy boundaries, and wasn't afraid to stand up for himself. These very same qualities that I looked for in previous partners actually landed me with covert narcissists.
My story exactly luke yours. My father died @47 heart attack. Adored me from when i was a little baby. My mother's been hell for the family.
Thank you Ross for being such a blessing! I appreciate I found your channel a few years ago and you helped me heal from codependency. Thank you for all you do for us. Much love and respect! 🙏❤
My narcissistic spouses created nothing but conflict. The divorce was easy. I was being discarded. I waited until my children were college age. It was a sad life. I'm not interested in any more conflicts.
I feel like I’m on the same path, unfortunately
@@aclaar877 Where's our support network? Utube really has been the best resource for me.. I wish I had this information thirty five years ago.
We won’t heal self love disorder if we’re not willing to talk about the pain of the patriarchy. Toxic masculinity affects all genders. Living in this hyper focused strive and drive culture, I allow myself to rest , play and also grieve the lost childhood so many of us now need to do over again for ourselves
Good morning Ross ☀️
Grateful to find this today 🌸
Thanks Ross💓
splendid discussion
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and experience. I learn so much from your unique perspective. ❤
Needed this, thanks for sharing
Thank you!
Very helpful. Thank you.
Thank you Dr Ross !!
Your book 📕 & RUclips videos have been the most helpful in ref to healing ❤️🩹 psychologically via the root cause / true understanding & basically formula to reach true inner healing!! ❤️🩹
You’re intelligent, genuine, compassionate, positive intentions!
Thx for sharing all your healing knowledge! ❤️🩹 ☺️
Knowledge is power!
Taking psychological action steps to heal is key! Thx ☺️ 🙏 ❤️🩹
Well my situation is different then what was said. My golden child sister became the narcissist and me the blacksheep and scapegoat became the sld. So I wonder why the labels were switched in my situation. For the longest I was made to believe I was the narcissist because I was codependent and very toxic then I started therapy so I scoundrel figure out why I was the way I was and learned about all this.
The narcissist who targeted me was already married with four children. Where the heck was _I_ going to fit into this equation? Be the slave-boy to my masters’ every whim?
I somehow didn’t see that working out in the long run.
Thanks. This is awesome. I’m getting out now and I realize my youngest is the say No child and need to be helping her plus not become me and my 3 oldest kids need to understand this isn’t right. My oldest is 18. Youngest 12 with two in the middle. 😢 this is hard.
I enjoyed it very much. Thank you Mr Ross.
THIS TITLED SOUND JUST LIKE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE .
Great topic both of you, yes it's an old Irish saying you didn't lick it off the ground.. is a bit like monkey see monkey do..another one would be the apple didn't fall too far from the tree...