Whether we call it "dating" or "courtship" as Christians, the biggest difference between us and the world is our motives and approach. The point of dating and relationships for Christians is that the intention is to discover whether the person you are spending time with is the one God intends you to marry. We don't waste people's time or date for something to do. We treat that other person with the honor and purity that God calls all of us to.
@@davidchambers44 Cohabitation WITHOUT sin is fine. Even if you sleep in the same bed. WITHOUT sin. Lets get a discussion going. Problem is society assumes sin the second you mention shacking. Shacking(living together outside of marriage)
@cephasmakuzva Bible says abstain even from appearance of evil. Also let's be honest your not going to be able to sleep in the same bed or live with someone you're sexually attracted to without falling prey to lust for very long. Lust includes the feeling already even if you don't have sex Jesus says that if you so much as look at someone with Lust you've already committed adultery with them in your heart. Cohabitation is basically being illegally married in the spirit realm since your living as if your married
@@zyoungson215 exactly. Dating today is very similar to prostitution. Courting was vastly more protective of women but feminists killed the patriarchy and fathers have become irrelevant . Hookup culture was near impossible with courting.....and how are you going to put the genie back in the bottle when nearly half of children born today are to single mothers ????
It’s unfortunate that people make a change and their photos and content that lead others to sin will never leave the internet. Once you’ve gone viral over illicit material with today’s technology, the only time you will get free from it is when Jesus returns… we have to keep all these influencers in heavy prayer because the highs of change and rebirth will definitely be shadowed by the gut wrenching feeling when another photo from their past resurfaces.
Date with the intention of marriage, but first pray your future spouse, ask God to bring you together! What God has brought together let no man put asunder, so we know that if God brought us together we don't need to test the waters because God already is there! Beautiful message Taylor ❤️!
No never date for marriage just see where it goes? Love yes but straight up marriage, God will first give you challenge and lessons to learn before the real test comes in
My husband and I knew each other for a few years in our church as friends. When he asked if he could court me, I said yes. He then asked me 10 minutes later if I would marry him, and I said yes. We were married less than 2 months later. Our first kiss was at our wedding. It will be 9 years, on December 27th, of wedded bliss! We knew each other well and knew that we both loved God, by watching each other doing God's work and seeing how we worked together; taking care of the youth group, singing in the praise team, working church functions, ect. That made it so that we didn't have to date. We never even had an adjustment period in our marriage. We just fell right into place. Praise God!!! ❤🙏
@kait4940 Yes. This was after my first husband passed away. Here's a little more of the story... He was 46 and my pastor (I was 48). He didn't want to be known as a "dating pastor," so he had never dated anyone. Everyone thought that he had decided never to marry, but he just hadn't found the right person. I respected him in the way that if he didn't want to marry, he shouldn't be pursued; but I had thought that he would be the perfect husband (just thought that to myself). I guess we were watching each other over the years we worked together, and both knew it was right through Christ! ❤️
i’m in high school rn and i love your videos! i’m not allowed to date right now which i can find annoying sometimes but videos like this are a comforting reminder that all is in God’s control and i have to do what i can to obey Him rn. thanks love you!
Keep on that straight and narrow path. Right now, there are so many hormones floating around in your body as you develop, it can be more difficult to make a wise choice. Keep reading the Bible, and surround yourself with Christian friends. I'm praying for you right now.
I am 14, and my mother will not allow me to have my own phone, job or allow me to date until i am at LEAST 18, and it makes sense. She is keeping me safe. And i love my mom for that. ❤ [Edit: Thank you so much for the likes. I have 67 and I have never had that much before. I'm glad people heard my voice.]
Taylor this was super encouraging to hear! My parents have this stance on dating, and it's sooo encouraging to see someone like you stand up for what's right and biblical even when the world is headed in the opposite way. Thank you for being a light!
Testimony: My wife and I did not (biblically) know each other before marriage. We did not live together. I can tell you that God has blessed our marriage. Great video!
It's important in today's world for more christians to speak up about dating a relationships. Especially with the amount of negativity and terrible advice there is out there. Thanks for addressing this.
Cohabitation WITHOUT sin is fine. Even if you sleep in the same bed. WITHOUT sin. Lets get a discussion going. Problem is society assumes sin the second you mention shacking. Shacking(living together outside of marriage)
Yes!! Every step, breath, praise you take for Yahweh is a victory and honor to him. Dressing modestly (for men and women) is powerful nowadays and sets a great example to everyone EVERYWHERE you go, it tells everyone (without saying) that you will NOT BOW to the devil and immoral culture. And will NOT be peer pressured but continue on.
You’ve put together very fair points about dating which I am inclined to agree with. Well done Taylor for putting this topic forward. May the Lord continue to bless you. 🙏❤️
Well said Taylor. One of the best advices I have heard from an old mentor of mine is that you also have to consider to not lead other people on. The problem with dating is that you may lead the other person to think the relationship may go further. So its important to guard your heart and the other person's heart too. We ought to be clear with the other person if there are any red flags. The further you create any kind of intimacy the more you will hurt the person if there is any kind of separation. So its important that any kind of intimacy is left for marriage.
Just objectively speaking, sexual needs differ in frequency and priority for everyone. How can you truly know your partner is right for you if you don't have sex long term to see how you both fit? How you both compromise and whether it works or not? Sex in a relationship is a MASSIVE part of it, especially for the man. Marriages often end over it, or lack of it. What you're advocating for isn't practical or realistic. All that ends up happening for people that do follow your advice is they are taking a massive risk, and that if they don't work out sexually they stay together and are one of those miserable, 'never interact with each other or try couple' we all know that just stays together for the optics, and actually hate eachother.
@thepunisherxxx6804 sex is not what leads to a happy marriage. A happy marriage comes from following Jesus and laying down your life everyday and picking up your cross and following Jesus Christ the Savior of the world.
@@kaenwanderer4547 That's nonsense, actual nonsense. Google for yourself "What does the bible say about a wifes role to her husband". The bible itself supports what I've said. I'm speaking to you raw, honestly, not to win an argument, but maybe to open your eyes and see the world for what it actually is, not what you believe it to be: Your attitude is why I have seen SO MANY DEAD MARRIAGES. I was born and raised in a Christian house with Christian neighbors. People technically "together" but at opposite ends of the house, barely interacting or talking at dinner. Sleeping in separate rooms. Wife stopped having sex and got fat and lazy. "Loving Jesus" isn't enough, especially for a man. Woman were created FOR MAN, FROM MAN. Says so right in the Bible sweetie. Sex is CRITICAL for men, I'd say it is for women too as well! You've demonized natural urges like most Christians do, and thus are living a very incomplete, unfulfilled life. ANY MAN who agrees with you is straight up LYING out of shame or hope to get in your pants eventually by acting righteous. Trust me, I am being 100% honest, I know myself, I know men. Why do you think its so common for Priests to get caught in scandals related to sex? You can't neglect sex drive all it does is corrupt you and twist your urges until you burst and do something horrible. We were never meant to be like that. Its built into our DNA. Go ahead and ignore me though I know your future - Single cat lady obsessed with Jesus to cope with loneliness, or marrying someone for the wrong reasons based on a naive view of the real world and how real people operate that fizzles out with divorce or staying together for optics, living together but separate with no sex or interaction in the home. Seen it so many times. Your world view is false, its complete delusion. You only hurt yourself doubling down on it. Humble up, start seeing the world and yourself for what it is, and fill in what you truly need.
@@thepunisherxxx6804 Well that's the problem. Today's world makes premarital sex seem normal for relationships. But the fact remains that God who created the world, created sex for only one group of people. Married people. So anything outside marriage that involves sexual intimacy is defiling yourself before God. Whether you want to see how well you fit or know whether it works or not, if you two are having without being married, it is called fornication. And fornication is a sin before the Lord.
Cohabitation WITHOUT sin is fine. Even if you sleep in the same bed. WITHOUT sin. Lets get a discussion going. Problem is society assumes sin the second you mention shacking. Shacking(living together outside of marriage)
In simple terms, I see it this way. Think of dating as an interview with each other, both of you are seeing if you are compatible. You talk about what you like, what you don't like, what you are looking for, what interests you, etc... If you like it, go on a couple of more dates and see how it goes. Use your judgment and see if the person is right for you. Dating should be fun. This is for someone out there. Just thought I would share this.
I think it's important, now that we know the history behind the word "dating", not to justify using the word further. We are reforming and should go back to the word, "Courting" which shows our intentionality.
I am 13 years-old and I am being raised in a Christian home. I feel on shows (and reality) EVERY SINGLE GIRL wants to date and have their first kiss. But as for me, I want to save my first kiss for my wedding. Anyone else who feels the same way?
Not sure if I am saving my first kiss for my wedding but I’m 22 and haven’t kissed yet bc I haven’t wanted to marry any of the guys I’ve dated. Maybe I’ll save it for engagement if not wedding. every guy has been highly respectful of it for me so don’t feel pressure. Date with good intentions! You’re doing great :))
This is wild. My gf (fiance) and I were just talking about this last night. We're trying (with much difficulty) to remain celibate. And then I read to her the verse in 1 Corinthians 7:9 about it being better to marry than burn with lust. Interesting that this video comes immediately after we had that conversation
I want to encourage you both with all that I have to remain celibate until marriage. You will thank yourselves many times over once you enter into marriage, that you have something really great to enjoy. You will enjoy far greater intimacy for the rest of your life if you wait. Hang in there. Enjoy the current season that you're in the chapters of love. Let the chapter come in its own time.
I'm 18 years old, never been in a relationship and waiting until marriage but it's scary to think about how hard it can be to find a man someday who has also waited and will want to form a family in today's society 😕
I am a follower of God who has never had sex and I am 21. I've been following Jesus for 1 year now. There is hope you just have to go to the right church and pray to God. I feel the same way as you haha.
@@jamesgretsch4894 stop lying, most conservative young men these days are influenced by red pilled podcasters who encourage them to be promiscuous and materialistic, they laugh at young men who save themselves for marriage and inspire to be faithful to their partners
Thank you, Taylor. I commented last year as a 14 year old, and now I’m here at 15. Thank you for your advice and guidance. This is something I’ve been wondering about a lot lately. You’re such an inspiration for young women.
As an early teenaged girl I have no plans on dating at lest till I make it through high school. I believe you should only start dating if you're looking for a spouse you shouldn't do it "just for fun."
I am getting very discouraged with dating in this day and age. I am tired of either getting ghosted or getting the "not feeling a connection" text. For context, I am 28 years old, no debt, solid job, have hobbies, surrounded by awesome community, and love the Lord with all my heart. I feel like I have a lot going on for me in my life. I am a total gentleman on the date... I pay for the date, ask open ended questions, hold the door open, walk her to her car, and tell her to text me when she gets home. I am doing all the right things, yet I have a hard time getting a 2nd date or a 3rd date. I am very frustrated, because I desire marriage and wanting to lead my future spouse and raise godly kids with her. Today's society makes me want to give up on dating, because of how discouraging it is. I have a date set up for next week so please pray that it goes well
May I ask how old you are? As a lady, I'm quite impressed with how you treat the young ladies under your care while on a date. I am terribly sorry they aren't responding in a more ladylike way. All I can tell you is that, unfortunately, it's been beaten or rather trained out of us. We secretly want it, but think gentlemen like you are a fantasy or we are taught that is backwards or old-fashioned to want. Only us who come back to God and are in "re-training" truly appreciate it.
The word of God says he will pour out His Spirit in the last days. Well, we’re there brother. If biblically it says there will no longer be a need for marriage in the afterlife, don’t you think God can set an example by making people content with being single in this life too??? Absolutely. I’m 39 years old and was almost married at a young age when God told me to stop my adulterous relationship. I haven’t looked back…if you can accept singleness, you should.
Thank you so much for touching on this topic!! After I became born again, I struggled with the concept of dating, especially dating an unbeliever! I need to study my Bible more! I’m realizing I’ve done so much out of ignorance! Thank you dear 🙏🏽
There is nothing wrong with dating as long as the process is done responsibly. We could always go old school and have the young man ask the young lady's father permission to court her, although I don't see the need for a chaperone to follow the couple around. I started dating in the 1970s (yeah, I am old). I was Methodist and she was Catholic, which created minor challenges. The 1970s culture created another challenge of its own. I wish there were more people like you Taylor to guide the young people of today. Keep up the good work.
The problem, I sense, is that you're making your judgement based on relativism, evaluating activities based on our own perceptions, experiences, and biases. It's best to keep with biblical practices for godly results. In the days of the judges, everyone did what was right in his own eyes, and look at the results.
Found this while hanging with my gf. We are both strong Christians and good for each other. I kinda feel awkward as she watches me type this tbh. We try and do (as much as a human can) stay away from too much temptation and will continue to try and serve the LORD. Thank you for this video and I pray that everyone watching this can find strength to stay pure as well. Praise God for His strength
I am so glad you found Jesus, because you bring such Godly views about difficult and important topics (especially for young people struggling) it would have been a true loss to this world if you had not listened to Jesus calling you name. Thanks dear Taylor for hearing Him. Gos bless kiddo. Love ya. Keep on going 😊
I am a Catholic and i love your videos Taylor. As followers of Christ, we r called to be pure and give first priority to God. In an environment of dating, that can be hard. That is probably also another reason it is not required to date.
I’m a 33 year old wife of 13+ years, with 5 children. I became born again 9 years ago. I want to encourage and exhort you, Taylor. This video was so good! I don’t know you, but I am proud of you, and feel like I could be your big sister. May YAHWEH bless you and keep you, precious girl ❤
I agree with kids not being able to date. You are going to be a great mother. Congratulations again on the engagement. I've been praying for you and that God doesn't make you wait to become a mother. You've done a lot of waiting. God's timing will be perfect, though. And your children are going to be very blessed to have you as their mother.
@truthspreader1996 What are you referring to? Not allowing your kids to date? That's like saying not allowing your kids to do drugs could backfire in a negative way. If it's something they shouldn't do, it's your job, as their parents, to regulate it. It's also something that's a lot easier when you homeschool your kids.
@@Zachariah_Benjamin "What are you referring to? Not allowing your kids to date? That's like saying not allowing your kids to do drugs could backfire in a negative way." *No it is not like that....one is actually bad and poisonous to you with no benefits the other is a chance for you to discover whether the person you are spending time with is the one God intends you to marry.* "It's also something that's a lot easier when you homeschool your kids." *Another thing that could backfire. It sounds like you're keeping your kid trapped because of the fear of the big bad world.*
@truthspreader1996 And this is a point of personal conviction. It is the same, in the sense that you're keeping them from doing something you don't think they should be doing, at a time you think it is dangerous for them to be doing it, while they are still under your authority. Concerning homeschooling, the only downfall would be socialization and, when you are involved with church and community and take measures to make sure your kids are socialized, including setting biblical foundation, socialization is not an issue. Homeschooling is not only better for kids, it was the way of the world for a very very long time. Public school systems are not only less efficient than homeschooling, when done properly, but they indoctrinate your kids against God and create situations where your kids are not able to be monitored and can be influenced heavily by children that are not being raised the right way.
@@Zachariah_Benjamin " It is the same, in the sense that you're keeping them from doing something you don't think they should be doing, at a time you think it is dangerous for them to be doing it, while they are still under your authority." *Again that just doesn't work because one option is bad (Drugs and stuff) and you wouldn't be keeping them from doing something you don't think they should be doing, at a time you think it is dangerous for them to be doing it, because it is always dangerous and there isn't a time to allow them to get into drugs.* "Concerning homeschooling, the only downfall would be socialization and, when you are involved with church and community and take measures to make sure your kids are socialized, including setting biblical foundation, socialization is not an issue. " *Now this point is beautiful, it makes sense, and if you can pull it off, well then more power to you.* "Homeschooling is not only better for kids, it was the way of the world for a very very long time." *This sounds okay but it still has holes in its approach.* "Public school systems are not only less efficient than homeschooling, when done properly" *I agree but the "done properly" part would be the biggest issue here. How many parents can pull off the home teaching successfully to make this method effective long term is the real question.* "Public Schools indoctrinate your kids against God and create situations where your kids are not able to be monitored and can be influenced heavily by children that are not being raised the right way." *Yes this is true I can't argue with this.*
courtship is Gods way and involves her father dating is the worlds way and is essentially prostitution today and bypasses the father its why women are so run through today very rare to find a virgin past college age today virginity is Gods way
MMM... I think enough of a point was made that the word "dating" is problematic. Now that we know dating has problematic etymology it would be pointless to carry on using the word "dating" as we're practicing Christians. Christians are not to justify what they do, but to keep self examining and reforming their ways to the norms of the God's Word. Therefore, I plan to exclusively use the word "courting" henceforth, and to educate people on the background of "Dating". See, we can find all sorts of reasons for evangelisation when we choose not to go with the flow of our culture.
@matthewottaway8521 Yea I actually didn't know about the etymology till I watched this! I was surprised 😮 I fully support your choice of 'courtship'. I will say that I've seen just as many people get hurt by that method. Taylor made the point to focus on what God specifically forbid us. And to pursue passionately what God has asked of us to do. And I thought that hit the nail on the head honestly
Thank you Taylor! Being holy, separate from the world, doesn't necessarily mean we have to find a different term to use for everything. The world uses the word 'love' in so many sinful ways. We are called to a higher, pure definition, but that doesn't mean we can no longer use that term. Being homeschooled and not really around it at all, the term 'dating' does have negative connotations for me personally. But God can redeem anything!
I attended many church lectures during my teenage years on so-called Christian dating, with neither the speakers nor I knowing that this was a modern cultural invention so deeply rooted in the church. Thank you for bringing this helpful information, by the grace of God I am raising my daughter outside of these secular concepts.
You put out such great content, i always appreciate your insight and advice from your own unique perspective. You are doing a wonderful job in helping young women to be the way God wants them to be, so they can one day get the right guy that truly loves them. 🤗🙏.
I pretty much agree with everything she said here. My one thought that may be slightly contrary is I don’t feel like dating necessarily means kissing. My husband and I dated for about 8 months before kissing when we got engaged, we did nothing more than kiss before we got married. It is highly possible to hold back from being overly intimate before marriage if you have two people who agree to commit to it. But I do imagine it is harder in the teen years. I was 21 when our relationship began. Anyway, love you Taylor, thank you for this biblically grounding and encouraging content
Well done young lady, as it takes courage to put this out there. But I have a feeling that many younger people are looking for exactly this, after all the devastation of modern "dating".
Great video taylor, this topic isn’t discussed that much. The Bible really teaches the necessary discipline required in a marriage. I wish I would of known some of these things you discussed when I was in high school 15 years ago 😆 god bless ✝️
Hi Taylor, Thank you for addressing such a crucial topic with sincerity and depth! The cultural phenomenon of dating is indeed complex, and I appreciate how you’ve grounded your thoughts in Scripture while recognizing the nuances that the Bible doesn’t explicitly cover. Here are a few reflections that build upon what you’ve shared: You’re absolutely correct that the Bible doesn’t directly mention dating as we understand it today. However, the principles of wisdom, purity, and intentionality that you highlighted are excellent guideposts for navigating relationships. Your approach of focusing on biblical "must-dos" and "must-nots" is spot-on. When we consider relationships in light of the ultimate goal of glorifying God (1 Cor 10:31), it reframes dating not as a casual activity but as a discernment process for marriage. This intentionality ensures that dating isn’t just about emotional fulfillment but about seeking a relationship that aligns with God’s design. You touched on an important point regarding how dating is a relatively recent and culturally specific practice. It’s fascinating to see how different cultures approach relationships, and it reminds us that cultural norms are not synonymous with biblical mandates. While arranged marriages or courting under family supervision may seem foreign to many in the West, they often reflect a deeper communal accountability that we could learn from, especially in maintaining purity and discernment. At the same time, since most of us live in a dating culture, it's crucial to approach it with wisdom and boundaries, as you rightly pointed out. Proverbs is indeed a treasure trove of wisdom for guiding our behavior and choices in relationships. Your emphasis on sexual purity is so needed in today’s world. Hebrews 13:4 and 1 Corinthians 6:18 remind us of the sacredness of the marriage bed and the importance of fleeing from sexual immorality. Setting boundaries, as you mentioned, isn’t about being restrictive but about protecting the sanctity of marriage and honoring God. However, while caution is essential, it’s also important to recognize that dating relationships can provide valuable opportunities to grow in communication, selflessness, and understanding of another person’s character. As long as these relationships are grounded in mutual respect, purity, and a shared commitment to faith, they can be a healthy part of discernment. I loved your call to date with intention or not at all. It’s countercultural but deeply biblical. Still, it’s worth adding that while dating with the intention to marry is the goal, there’s also room for grace. Not every dating relationship will lead to marriage, and that’s okay. The process of dating can teach us more about ourselves, deepen our reliance on God, and refine our understanding of what we need in a spouse. Encouraging young Christians to seek accountability from trusted mentors, parents, or church leaders during the dating process can also help maintain purity and keep the focus on honoring God. You mentioned how Christian couples sometimes face criticism for moving quickly from dating to engagement. While every relationship is unique, the key is prayerful discernment. God’s timing doesn’t always align with cultural expectations, and couples who feel led by the Holy Spirit and grounded in Scripture shouldn’t feel pressured to conform to societal norms. However, it’s equally important to ensure that the couple has spent enough time discerning compatibility, shared values, and readiness for the sacrament of marriage. Thank you for reminding us that Christian dating should reflect Christ’s love and wisdom, not the fleeting trends of the world. The call to be in the world but not of it (John 17:16) is vital when engaging with dating culture. Your video encourages us to approach relationships with a heavenly perspective, rooted in God’s truth rather than societal pressures. Thank you for sharing your heart and convictions. Keep challenging and encouraging your audience to honor God in every area of life, including relationships. I pray your words continue to inspire others to seek Christ first and approach dating with integrity, wisdom, and faith. God bless you!
Not bad. I have deeply studied this subject. I'm glad you haven't said that dating is wrong and we should only do courtship. Basically, that thinking just shuts everything down and everybody stays single. I was part of courtship-only church in my 30's and it was a huge mistake. That was a time when I needed to find someone and it left me single for many years as it did for many people. I suggest, just stay moderate as you are. Romance is a good thing, and that is the practical process in our culture that creates marriages and families. Christians often love marriage but hate the process leading to it. That sounds a bit crazy to me. The process does contain unavoidable risk but that is one of the great challenges that Christians face. You can choose to grow from it or bury your head in the sand. God understands these things and is with us if we follow him in all we do.
How deeply have you studied it? Because I found the rocks that are supposed to sing. Western culture is heavily influenced by Christianity, and the culture is awash with the internal struggle of facing this particular question throughout the ages.
Thank you for your balanced perspective on this issue. I know that some Christian couples have lived together without being married. While there may not be a verse as explicit as "Do not live together without being married," biblical principles definitely counter the practice. The practice is an easy doorway into explicit sin.
Taylor this video is intriguing. I love that you used scripture and history from the word to explain. I didn't know dating was created in 1896 and had a not so biblical meaning at first 😅 I think the answer is yes. We are called to tend to the kingdom of God. God gave Adam a woman to help make that easier. He gave specific characteristics to look for in a spouse. Thanks for teaching me something new about this topic. Definitely do more videos like this.
I think a courtship leading to marriage is a better idea; to never be alone with your prospective partner in order to avoid a sin. For instance, going to the movies with a group of friends, visiting each other’s family, or taking a walk in the park.
That should be circumstantial. If you cant control yourself, then its a good idea. Otherwise its an unnecessary setup and isn't really biblical. You lean on the presence of friends vs God.
Thank you so much for all of your videos they are amazing. I have been blessed to by your videos. Keep shining your light for Jesus may he richly bless you❤ Thanks again
Dating is a broader category and has become kinda corrupt to say the least. But, I know what you mean and what a lot of people mean when they say dating. It is basically courting but some people call it dating. I personally call it courting so that it is very plain what I'm talking about. Thanks for the video!
I'm a 17 year old guy and have never kissed or dated a girl. I'm waiting until I'm finished with college to start a family, because I want to be able to provide for my wife and kids. It's so hard at times because I feel left out but I know it will be worth it.
Couple things. First we need to be careful to assume if it’s not in the bible it isn’t biblical. Meaning, it’s sinful essentially. I think you covered that. Secondly, it’s depends on what we define “dating” to be. Even as Christians we cannot know who to marry unless we know the other person. Meaning, we interact in some way. I think dating can simply be having lunch together, or enjoying a wholesome activity together like an afternoon hike, or whatever. We can’t rush into a marriage commitment until we know who we are marrying, and we can’t know that person without spending some kind of time with them.
One thing I want to point out is that there are Christian spouses that I personally know of who haven't even talked to each other a single word before marriage, but currently having a healthy, imperfect yet growing Christian family for decades.
Great research and I agree with all your points. Dating is a worldly way that simply leads to greater consumerism. Courtship or to date, I say make sure it's only to marry. Men and women should commit to each other, no try. Just like you committed to God. A little affection is ok, but nothing that escalates. I will marry, but never date. Dating is a polyamorous practice and marriage is a direction.
Modern couples: "Courting is so old-fashioned; we're more enlightened and liberated now. The modern world requires a more sophisticated, intelligent approach." Also modern couples: Why is the divorce rate so high?
Great point! I think it will be good if our generation do this as example to the younger gen, i remember as i kid i heard this as well, but unfortunately i didnt see much people actually doing this, it just like another text book iteration, dating in the God's way should be more familiarize.
Yes a lot of good sense here. I have seen the other side in other cultures of arranged marriages. It can be something halfway in between theirs and ours is a good thing. Certainly we need to get to know each other before rushing to fast into intimacy and marriage. Be patient.
thing about a guy proposing 2 weeks later... either is was 2 week or 2 months, I cannot recall, but that's the amount of time it took for my grandparents to get married, and they didn't do the dating thing. They met each other and knew. They were married for over 50 years and my grandmother didn't remarry after her husband in his 70's. Two devoted Christians.
I think we lost something when we got away from a father's approval and community camaraderie in general. There's less brotherly or sisterly respect in modern dating and more inauthenticity, showmanship and social awkwardness because of that imo.
After I became a christian, God told me not to date. It was very hard for the next 10 years. Then one day as I went to a Sunday service, the only seat that I could find was next to this beautiful girl. I know who she was from the group outings we had in the youth group. I could not understand why all of a sudden I am "in love" with this girl. For next 3 months my feelings for her would not go away, after much prayer. One day as I was on my knees praying, God told me to go to her apartment where she lived with her sister at 11 o' clock at night and tell her my feelings for her. That night she was in a deep discussion with her sister and friend about relationships and marriage. Her friend said to her..."...You are 27 years old , why are you not dating , you are never going to find the right man. Do you really think someone is going to come late at night and say I like you and..."...and there was a knock at the door. ...I went out with her for one month, proposed, ...shortly after we got married. We have been married now for close to 40 years...I am so glad I waited !!!
As Christians we are NOT supposed to date/court the way the world does. Just dating/courting casually as a Christian with no intention to marry is completely pointless, a complete waste of time!
As a man (25 almost 26) am dating a godly woman (23 almost 24) we are dating however we are laying out boundaries and staying true to scripture. Dating is fine in my opinion as long as both are muture and godly people. With all this said I know people will have other views and that is fine let us not fight but let us reason together. It is also possible to say you do you and I do I. Dating should not include staying late at each other's places or any way to introduce temptations, with all this said it is something every person must make their own mind on.
1:30 There is no reason for dating other than to commit sin. Parents need to be guiding their children to marriage with appropriate spouses from like minded families. And we need to expect men and women to be married by the age of 25 again. God designed us to build our lives together, in a family unit. Not as “individuals.”
Good video, thank you. Considering that the divorce rate in the church is as high, or higher, than in the secular world, we may want to rethink how we Christians date/court. Sadly, it seems we have bad marriages and experiences when we date using secular values and methods. We can't shoe-horn secular values into a Christian life and relationship. Thus, we have a high divorce rate. Sadly, I don't know a good solution, But I'm praying about it.
@@juanortiz7692 I've heard this statistic for a number of years. Pastors have mentioned that fact several times. I looked up divorce statistics years ago and astonishingly atheists had a 10% divorce rate.
Dating seems temporary. Just marry the person if you know its right and from God. Pretty simple. Dating wastes time, feelings and emotions. Trust me I know lol.
In the Bible a man and woman made a marriage covenant, making them a husband and wife, at the beginning of the relationship but they stayed physically apart for a time as a betrothed couple to adjust and bond and prepare for the wedding.
@betrothalguys They were not dating,may be wr should first explain dating , according to my knowledge when ppl date there's no agreement of marriage they still learning about each other and ppl that date even says they are allowed do date more than one person soo all this dating it's not biblical and not for Christians full stop.
Semantics Alesia. I'm not dating, I'm courting. If it's not sinful and you're honest with the person you're trying to court about your love for the word and love following it then you're good.
Laudetur Jezus Christus! Your countenance and eyes in particular just radiate purity! I don't know what your pastlife involved but clearly God has the ability to bring us back to factory specs!
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Whether we call it "dating" or "courtship" as Christians, the biggest difference between us and the world is our motives and approach. The point of dating and relationships for Christians is that the intention is to discover whether the person you are spending time with is the one God intends you to marry. We don't waste people's time or date for something to do. We treat that other person with the honor and purity that God calls all of us to.
Exactly, couldn't have put it better
@@davidchambers44 Cohabitation WITHOUT sin is fine. Even if you sleep in the same bed. WITHOUT sin. Lets get a discussion going. Problem is society assumes sin the second you mention shacking. Shacking(living together outside of marriage)
@cephasmakuzva Let's be honest, that ain't going to happen..
@cephasmakuzva Bible says abstain even from appearance of evil. Also let's be honest your not going to be able to sleep in the same bed or live with someone you're sexually attracted to without falling prey to lust for very long. Lust includes the feeling already even if you don't have sex Jesus says that if you so much as look at someone with Lust you've already committed adultery with them in your heart. Cohabitation is basically being illegally married in the spirit realm since your living as if your married
@@zyoungson215 exactly. Dating today is very similar to prostitution. Courting was vastly more protective of women but feminists killed the patriarchy and fathers have become irrelevant . Hookup culture was near impossible with courting.....and how are you going to put the genie back in the bottle when nearly half of children born today are to single mothers ????
You are a rare young voice in a sea of moral depravity at all age levels. Excellent points you make ❤
Wow, thank you! 😢 I appreciate it! Just trying to be a light in the darkness! 💡
@ you are ❤️
It’s unfortunate that people make a change and their photos and content that lead others to sin will never leave the internet. Once you’ve gone viral over illicit material with today’s technology, the only time you will get free from it is when Jesus returns… we have to keep all these influencers in heavy prayer because the highs of change and rebirth will definitely be shadowed by the gut wrenching feeling when another photo from their past resurfaces.
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Date with the intention of marriage, but first pray your future spouse, ask God to bring you together! What God has brought together let no man put asunder, so we know that if God brought us together we don't need to test the waters because God already is there! Beautiful message Taylor ❤️!
No never date for marriage just see where it goes? Love yes but straight up marriage, God will first give you challenge and lessons to learn before the real test comes in
My husband and I knew each other for a few years in our church as friends. When he asked if he could court me, I said yes. He then asked me 10 minutes later if I would marry him, and I said yes. We were married less than 2 months later. Our first kiss was at our wedding. It will be 9 years, on December 27th, of wedded bliss!
We knew each other well and knew that we both loved God, by watching each other doing God's work and seeing how we worked together; taking care of the youth group, singing in the praise team, working church functions, ect. That made it so that we didn't have to date. We never even had an adjustment period in our marriage. We just fell right into place. Praise God!!! ❤🙏
engaged after 10 minutes?!
I love this
Sounds like a lie
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Yes. This was after my first husband passed away.
Here's a little more of the story... He was 46 and my pastor (I was 48). He didn't want to be known as a "dating pastor," so he had never dated anyone. Everyone thought that he had decided never to marry, but he just hadn't found the right person. I respected him in the way that if he didn't want to marry, he shouldn't be pursued; but I had thought that he would be the perfect husband (just thought that to myself). I guess we were watching each other over the years we worked together, and both knew it was right through Christ! ❤️
i’m in high school rn and i love your videos! i’m not allowed to date right now which i can find annoying sometimes but videos like this are a comforting reminder that all is in God’s control and i have to do what i can to obey Him rn. thanks love you!
Keep on that straight and narrow path. Right now, there are so many hormones floating around in your body as you develop, it can be more difficult to make a wise choice. Keep reading the Bible, and surround yourself with Christian friends. I'm praying for you right now.
God is filling you with His wisdom to reach your generation. Keep up the good work.
I am 14, and my mother will not allow me to have my own phone, job or allow me to date until i am at LEAST 18, and it makes sense. She is keeping me safe. And i love my mom for that. ❤
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Excellent! Thank your mom. Tell her also, about what you found out regarding the word, Courtship today!
@@Angel-jh4ok a-hahahaa... 😂
@@matthewottaway8521 yep, I was thinking about sending her this video. :)
@@Angel-jh4ok thank you. Feel free to check me
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Taylor this was super encouraging to hear! My parents have this stance on dating, and it's sooo encouraging to see someone like you stand up for what's right and biblical even when the world is headed in the opposite way. Thank you for being a light!
Wow they are wise parents!!!! You should be grateful ❤ so glad to speak on this and thank you SO much for the great encouragement 😢
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Isaac and Rebekah were literally "love at first sight". ;) -Excellent and very important truth! Thanks little sister! 👍👍
Testimony: My wife and I did not (biblically) know each other before marriage. We did not live together. I can tell you that God has blessed our marriage. Great video!
How did you marry someone you did not know each other? You married someone who was set up for you and you just married?
@@jamesgretsch4894He means having s-xual relations. I self-censor so mods are needless.
In the KJV, knowing a person means doing it.
@@jamesgretsch4894 "knowing" is a biblical term for sexual intercourse.
@@DaHeazPlays Agree, but the mods removed me saying that.
It's important in today's world for more christians to speak up about dating a relationships. Especially with the amount of negativity and terrible advice there is out there. Thanks for addressing this.
Cohabitation WITHOUT sin is fine. Even if you sleep in the same bed. WITHOUT sin. Lets get a discussion going. Problem is society assumes sin the second you mention shacking. Shacking(living together outside of marriage)
@@cephasmakuzvathat’s actually my next video 🫣 we’ll talk about it
That's also where we need to use the word "Courtship" to because words reflect ideas.
@@cephasmakuzva true but its kind of playing with fire though, can we do that? yes, is it easy? definitely not easy.
Yes!! Every step, breath, praise you take for Yahweh is a victory and honor to him. Dressing modestly (for men and women) is powerful nowadays and sets a great example to everyone EVERYWHERE you go, it tells everyone (without saying) that you will NOT BOW to the devil and immoral culture. And will NOT be peer pressured but continue on.
You’ve put together very fair points about dating which I am inclined to agree with. Well done Taylor for putting this topic forward. May the Lord continue to bless you. 🙏❤️
😢!! Thank you so much. God bless you luke! ✝️❤️
Well said Taylor. One of the best advices I have heard from an old mentor of mine is that you also have to consider to not lead other people on. The problem with dating is that you may lead the other person to think the relationship may go further. So its important to guard your heart and the other person's heart too. We ought to be clear with the other person if there are any red flags. The further you create any kind of intimacy the more you will hurt the person if there is any kind of separation. So its important that any kind of intimacy is left for marriage.
Great point! Thanks for sharing.
Just objectively speaking, sexual needs differ in frequency and priority for everyone. How can you truly know your partner is right for you if you don't have sex long term to see how you both fit? How you both compromise and whether it works or not?
Sex in a relationship is a MASSIVE part of it, especially for the man. Marriages often end over it, or lack of it. What you're advocating for isn't practical or realistic. All that ends up happening for people that do follow your advice is they are taking a massive risk, and that if they don't work out sexually they stay together and are one of those miserable, 'never interact with each other or try couple' we all know that just stays together for the optics, and actually hate eachother.
@thepunisherxxx6804 sex is not what leads to a happy marriage. A happy marriage comes from following Jesus and laying down your life everyday and picking up your cross and following Jesus Christ the Savior of the world.
@@kaenwanderer4547 That's nonsense, actual nonsense. Google for yourself "What does the bible say about a wifes role to her husband". The bible itself supports what I've said. I'm speaking to you raw, honestly, not to win an argument, but maybe to open your eyes and see the world for what it actually is, not what you believe it to be:
Your attitude is why I have seen SO MANY DEAD MARRIAGES. I was born and raised in a Christian house with Christian neighbors. People technically "together" but at opposite ends of the house, barely interacting or talking at dinner. Sleeping in separate rooms. Wife stopped having sex and got fat and lazy.
"Loving Jesus" isn't enough, especially for a man. Woman were created FOR MAN, FROM MAN. Says so right in the Bible sweetie. Sex is CRITICAL for men, I'd say it is for women too as well! You've demonized natural urges like most Christians do, and thus are living a very incomplete, unfulfilled life. ANY MAN who agrees with you is straight up LYING out of shame or hope to get in your pants eventually by acting righteous. Trust me, I am being 100% honest, I know myself, I know men.
Why do you think its so common for Priests to get caught in scandals related to sex? You can't neglect sex drive all it does is corrupt you and twist your urges until you burst and do something horrible. We were never meant to be like that. Its built into our DNA.
Go ahead and ignore me though I know your future - Single cat lady obsessed with Jesus to cope with loneliness, or marrying someone for the wrong reasons based on a naive view of the real world and how real people operate that fizzles out with divorce or staying together for optics, living together but separate with no sex or interaction in the home. Seen it so many times.
Your world view is false, its complete delusion. You only hurt yourself doubling down on it. Humble up, start seeing the world and yourself for what it is, and fill in what you truly need.
@@thepunisherxxx6804 Well that's the problem. Today's world makes premarital sex seem normal for relationships. But the fact remains that God who created the world, created sex for only one group of people. Married people. So anything outside marriage that involves sexual intimacy is defiling yourself before God. Whether you want to see how well you fit or know whether it works or not, if you two are having without being married, it is called fornication. And fornication is a sin before the Lord.
Arranged marriage makes sense now. For me, love comes easy. Finding a lasting commitment was always the hard part.
Cohabitation WITHOUT sin is fine. Even if you sleep in the same bed. WITHOUT sin. Lets get a discussion going. Problem is society assumes sin the second you mention shacking. Shacking(living together outside of marriage)
In simple terms, I see it this way. Think of dating as an interview with each other, both of you are seeing if you are compatible. You talk about what you like, what you don't like, what you are looking for, what interests you, etc... If you like it, go on a couple of more dates and see how it goes. Use your judgment and see if the person is right for you. Dating should be fun. This is for someone out there. Just thought I would share this.
I think it's important, now that we know the history behind the word "dating", not to justify using the word further. We are reforming and should go back to the word, "Courting" which shows our intentionality.
Spot on Taylor !! The Holy Spirit is speaking through you ✝️ great break down
Thank u! 😢
I am 13 years-old and I am being raised in a Christian home. I feel on shows (and reality) EVERY SINGLE GIRL wants to date and have their first kiss. But as for me, I want to save my first kiss for my wedding. Anyone else who feels the same way?
Same here!! 😊
That was my practice at the age of 40, and no regrets! I encourage you to keep waiting.
I do and I am 32. Keep holding out, honey.
God bless you and your house !
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Not sure if I am saving my first kiss for my wedding but I’m 22 and haven’t kissed yet bc I haven’t wanted to marry any of the guys I’ve dated. Maybe I’ll save it for engagement if not wedding. every guy has been highly respectful of it for me so don’t feel pressure. Date with good intentions! You’re doing great :))
This is wild. My gf (fiance) and I were just talking about this last night. We're trying (with much difficulty) to remain celibate. And then I read to her the verse in 1 Corinthians 7:9 about it being better to marry than burn with lust. Interesting that this video comes immediately after we had that conversation
Elope.
STAND FIRM! Don’t put yourselves in situations where you are tempted! Seek the Lords guidance and pray together! ❤️✝️
@@thebiblechick we do, and that may have been His answer
I want to encourage you both with all that I have to remain celibate until marriage. You will thank yourselves many times over once you enter into marriage, that you have something really great to enjoy. You will enjoy far greater intimacy for the rest of your life if you wait. Hang in there. Enjoy the current season that you're in the chapters of love. Let the chapter come in its own time.
I'm 18 years old, never been in a relationship and waiting until marriage but it's scary to think about how hard it can be to find a man someday who has also waited and will want to form a family in today's society 😕
Keep praying, God will you
I am a follower of God who has never had sex and I am 21. I've been following Jesus for 1 year now. There is hope you just have to go to the right church and pray to God. I feel the same way as you haha.
You are young and naive. Don't be scared. There are plenty of guys who fit your criteria for marriage.
I’m 22 and in the same boat
@@jamesgretsch4894 stop lying, most conservative young men these days are influenced by red pilled podcasters who encourage them to be promiscuous and materialistic, they laugh at young men who save themselves for marriage and inspire to be faithful to their partners
I agree. I think that praying for wisdom and asking for guidance and studying Scripture is the best thing we can do. God will show us the way.
Taylor you are sooo strong in your videos. So wiseeeeeee. I know God is truly working within you. Keep going please ❤
Yes, it is my prayer, too, that she can keep these videos going, especially with a significant change coming in her life.
Thank you, Taylor. I commented last year as a 14 year old, and now I’m here at 15. Thank you for your advice and guidance. This is something I’ve been wondering about a lot lately. You’re such an inspiration for young women.
As an early teenaged girl I have no plans on dating at lest till I make it through high school. I believe you should only start dating if you're looking for a spouse you shouldn't do it "just for fun."
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I am getting very discouraged with dating in this day and age. I am tired of either getting ghosted or getting the "not feeling a connection" text. For context, I am 28 years old, no debt, solid job, have hobbies, surrounded by awesome community, and love the Lord with all my heart. I feel like I have a lot going on for me in my life. I am a total gentleman on the date... I pay for the date, ask open ended questions, hold the door open, walk her to her car, and tell her to text me when she gets home. I am doing all the right things, yet I have a hard time getting a 2nd date or a 3rd date. I am very frustrated, because I desire marriage and wanting to lead my future spouse and raise godly kids with her. Today's society makes me want to give up on dating, because of how discouraging it is. I have a date set up for next week so please pray that it goes well
May I ask how old you are? As a lady, I'm quite impressed with how you treat the young ladies under your care while on a date. I am terribly sorry they aren't responding in a more ladylike way. All I can tell you is that, unfortunately, it's been beaten or rather trained out of us. We secretly want it, but think gentlemen like you are a fantasy or we are taught that is backwards or old-fashioned to want. Only us who come back to God and are in "re-training" truly appreciate it.
Just keep praying and if God has that in store for you, He will make it happen. Be sure to look for a woman of faith if possible.
@@kaylajames3098 I am 28 years old
The word of God says he will pour out His Spirit in the last days. Well, we’re there brother. If biblically it says there will no longer be a need for marriage in the afterlife, don’t you think God can set an example by making people content with being single in this life too??? Absolutely. I’m 39 years old and was almost married at a young age when God told me to stop my adulterous relationship. I haven’t looked back…if you can accept singleness, you should.
@@kaylajames3098 I’m 28 years old
Thank you so much for touching on this topic!! After I became born again, I struggled with the concept of dating, especially dating an unbeliever! I need to study my Bible more! I’m realizing I’ve done so much out of ignorance! Thank you dear 🙏🏽
Incredibly encouraging. Thank you!
There is nothing wrong with dating as long as the process is done responsibly. We could always go old school and have the young man ask the young lady's father permission to court her, although I don't see the need for a chaperone to follow the couple around. I started dating in the 1970s (yeah, I am old). I was Methodist and she was Catholic, which created minor challenges. The 1970s culture created another challenge of its own. I wish there were more people like you Taylor to guide the young people of today. Keep up the good work.
The problem, I sense, is that you're making your judgement based on relativism, evaluating activities based on our own perceptions, experiences, and biases. It's best to keep with biblical practices for godly results. In the days of the judges, everyone did what was right in his own eyes, and look at the results.
@matthewottaway8521 A very good point.
Yours is the only comment that makes sense here. Every other one seems like a rationalization.
Preach it girl!
Totally agree
..we ought to tread carefully, and keep ourselves pure for the one for whom we'll walk down the aisle...it's beautiful
Thank you for ALL your videos. Louder. Louder!!!! Please listen everyone.
:( thank you my sister!!!!!
Found this while hanging with my gf. We are both strong Christians and good for each other. I kinda feel awkward as she watches me type this tbh. We try and do (as much as a human can) stay away from too much temptation and will continue to try and serve the LORD. Thank you for this video and I pray that everyone watching this can find strength to stay pure as well. Praise God for His strength
Great job sister Tay! Always look to God's word for guidance!!!
I am so glad you found Jesus, because you bring such Godly views about difficult and important topics (especially for young people struggling) it would have been a true loss to this world if you had not listened to Jesus calling you name. Thanks dear Taylor for hearing Him. Gos bless kiddo. Love ya. Keep on going 😊
This is a good question! Thank you for covering that subject 😢😮😊
I am a Catholic and i love your videos Taylor. As followers of Christ, we r called to be pure and give first priority to God. In an environment of dating, that can be hard. That is probably also another reason it is not required to date.
This is EXACTLY how I feel about this - I'm so glad that someone else agrees with me!
God bless you Taylor, having a young lady who speaks up is the blessings to the generation.
I’m a 33 year old wife of 13+ years, with 5 children. I became born again 9 years ago. I want to encourage and exhort you, Taylor. This video was so good! I don’t know you, but I am proud of you, and feel like I could be your big sister. May YAHWEH bless you and keep you, precious girl ❤
I agree with kids not being able to date. You are going to be a great mother. Congratulations again on the engagement. I've been praying for you and that God doesn't make you wait to become a mother. You've done a lot of waiting. God's timing will be perfect, though. And your children are going to be very blessed to have you as their mother.
Feels like a plan that can backfire in a dangerous way but hey, maybe not.
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What are you referring to? Not allowing your kids to date? That's like saying not allowing your kids to do drugs could backfire in a negative way. If it's something they shouldn't do, it's your job, as their parents, to regulate it. It's also something that's a lot easier when you homeschool your kids.
@@Zachariah_Benjamin "What are you referring to? Not allowing your kids to date? That's like saying not allowing your kids to do drugs could backfire in a negative way."
*No it is not like that....one is actually bad and poisonous to you with no benefits the other is a chance for you to discover whether the person you are spending time with is the one God intends you to marry.*
"It's also something that's a lot easier when you homeschool your kids."
*Another thing that could backfire. It sounds like you're keeping your kid trapped because of the fear of the big bad world.*
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And this is a point of personal conviction. It is the same, in the sense that you're keeping them from doing something you don't think they should be doing, at a time you think it is dangerous for them to be doing it, while they are still under your authority.
Concerning homeschooling, the only downfall would be socialization and, when you are involved with church and community and take measures to make sure your kids are socialized, including setting biblical foundation, socialization is not an issue.
Homeschooling is not only better for kids, it was the way of the world for a very very long time. Public school systems are not only less efficient than homeschooling, when done properly, but they indoctrinate your kids against God and create situations where your kids are not able to be monitored and can be influenced heavily by children that are not being raised the right way.
@@Zachariah_Benjamin " It is the same, in the sense that you're keeping them from doing something you don't think they should be doing, at a time you think it is dangerous for them to be doing it, while they are still under your authority."
*Again that just doesn't work because one option is bad (Drugs and stuff) and you wouldn't be keeping them from doing something you don't think they should be doing, at a time you think it is dangerous for them to be doing it, because it is always dangerous and there isn't a time to allow them to get into drugs.*
"Concerning homeschooling, the only downfall would be socialization and, when you are involved with church and community and take measures to make sure your kids are socialized, including setting biblical foundation, socialization is not an issue. "
*Now this point is beautiful, it makes sense, and if you can pull it off, well then more power to you.*
"Homeschooling is not only better for kids, it was the way of the world for a very very long time."
*This sounds okay but it still has holes in its approach.*
"Public school systems are not only less efficient than homeschooling, when done properly"
*I agree but the "done properly" part would be the biggest issue here. How many parents can pull off the home teaching successfully to make this method effective long term is the real question.*
"Public Schools indoctrinate your kids against God and create situations where your kids are not able to be monitored and can be influenced heavily by children that are not being raised the right way."
*Yes this is true I can't argue with this.*
Thanks for not arguing courtship vs dating but sticking to the point of bringing glory to god
Glad you liked it! ❤🎉✝️
courtship is Gods way and involves her father
dating is the worlds way and is essentially prostitution today and bypasses the father
its why women are so run through today
very rare to find a virgin past college age today
virginity is Gods way
MMM... I think enough of a point was made that the word "dating" is problematic. Now that we know dating has problematic etymology it would be pointless to carry on using the word "dating" as we're practicing Christians. Christians are not to justify what they do, but to keep self examining and reforming their ways to the norms of the God's Word. Therefore, I plan to exclusively use the word "courting" henceforth, and to educate people on the background of "Dating". See, we can find all sorts of reasons for evangelisation when we choose not to go with the flow of our culture.
@matthewottaway8521 Yea I actually didn't know about the etymology till I watched this! I was surprised 😮
I fully support your choice of 'courtship'. I will say that I've seen just as many people get hurt by that method.
Taylor made the point to focus on what God specifically forbid us. And to pursue passionately what God has asked of us to do. And I thought that hit the nail on the head honestly
Girl your videos have been on fire lately!!🔥
God bless you and your house !
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Bless you Darling 🙏🏽
I need a Christian wife to stand strong for the LORD with me
Thanks sister :(
Thank you Taylor! Being holy, separate from the world, doesn't necessarily mean we have to find a different term to use for everything. The world uses the word 'love' in so many sinful ways. We are called to a higher, pure definition, but that doesn't mean we can no longer use that term. Being homeschooled and not really around it at all, the term 'dating' does have negative connotations for me personally. But God can redeem anything!
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I love how you deep dive this topic. It's rare to see modern churches these days covering this topic
I attended many church lectures during my teenage years on so-called Christian dating, with neither the speakers nor I knowing that this was a modern cultural invention so deeply rooted in the church. Thank you for bringing this helpful information, by the grace of God I am raising my daughter outside of these secular concepts.
Awesome video Thanks Taylor ❤
You put out such great content, i always appreciate your insight and advice from your own unique perspective. You are doing a wonderful job in helping young women to be the way God wants them to be, so they can one day get the right guy that truly loves them. 🤗🙏.
Thank you so much for these words 🥺❤️
@@thebiblechick You are welcome. I would like you to see the one upload i have.
congratulations on your engagement!!! I’m so happy you, Taylor!! I wish you the best and God bless you!!🩷🫶🏻
I pretty much agree with everything she said here. My one thought that may be slightly contrary is I don’t feel like dating necessarily means kissing. My husband and I dated for about 8 months before kissing when we got engaged, we did nothing more than kiss before we got married. It is highly possible to hold back from being overly intimate before marriage if you have two people who agree to commit to it. But I do imagine it is harder in the teen years. I was 21 when our relationship began. Anyway, love you Taylor, thank you for this biblically grounding and encouraging content
Excellent video, much needed!
Well done young lady, as it takes courage to put this out there. But I have a feeling that many younger people are looking for exactly this, after all the devastation of modern "dating".
What a great answer VERY TRUE ! May GOD BLESS YOU !
Great video taylor, this topic isn’t discussed that much. The Bible really teaches the necessary discipline required in a marriage. I wish I would of known some of these things you discussed when I was in high school 15 years ago 😆 god bless ✝️
Hi Taylor,
Thank you for addressing such a crucial topic with sincerity and depth! The cultural phenomenon of dating is indeed complex, and I appreciate how you’ve grounded your thoughts in Scripture while recognizing the nuances that the Bible doesn’t explicitly cover. Here are a few reflections that build upon what you’ve shared:
You’re absolutely correct that the Bible doesn’t directly mention dating as we understand it today. However, the principles of wisdom, purity, and intentionality that you highlighted are excellent guideposts for navigating relationships. Your approach of focusing on biblical "must-dos" and "must-nots" is spot-on.
When we consider relationships in light of the ultimate goal of glorifying God (1 Cor 10:31), it reframes dating not as a casual activity but as a discernment process for marriage. This intentionality ensures that dating isn’t just about emotional fulfillment but about seeking a relationship that aligns with God’s design.
You touched on an important point regarding how dating is a relatively recent and culturally specific practice. It’s fascinating to see how different cultures approach relationships, and it reminds us that cultural norms are not synonymous with biblical mandates. While arranged marriages or courting under family supervision may seem foreign to many in the West, they often reflect a deeper communal accountability that we could learn from, especially in maintaining purity and discernment.
At the same time, since most of us live in a dating culture, it's crucial to approach it with wisdom and boundaries, as you rightly pointed out. Proverbs is indeed a treasure trove of wisdom for guiding our behavior and choices in relationships.
Your emphasis on sexual purity is so needed in today’s world. Hebrews 13:4 and 1 Corinthians 6:18 remind us of the sacredness of the marriage bed and the importance of fleeing from sexual immorality. Setting boundaries, as you mentioned, isn’t about being restrictive but about protecting the sanctity of marriage and honoring God.
However, while caution is essential, it’s also important to recognize that dating relationships can provide valuable opportunities to grow in communication, selflessness, and understanding of another person’s character. As long as these relationships are grounded in mutual respect, purity, and a shared commitment to faith, they can be a healthy part of discernment.
I loved your call to date with intention or not at all. It’s countercultural but deeply biblical. Still, it’s worth adding that while dating with the intention to marry is the goal, there’s also room for grace. Not every dating relationship will lead to marriage, and that’s okay. The process of dating can teach us more about ourselves, deepen our reliance on God, and refine our understanding of what we need in a spouse.
Encouraging young Christians to seek accountability from trusted mentors, parents, or church leaders during the dating process can also help maintain purity and keep the focus on honoring God.
You mentioned how Christian couples sometimes face criticism for moving quickly from dating to engagement. While every relationship is unique, the key is prayerful discernment. God’s timing doesn’t always align with cultural expectations, and couples who feel led by the Holy Spirit and grounded in Scripture shouldn’t feel pressured to conform to societal norms. However, it’s equally important to ensure that the couple has spent enough time discerning compatibility, shared values, and readiness for the sacrament of marriage.
Thank you for reminding us that Christian dating should reflect Christ’s love and wisdom, not the fleeting trends of the world. The call to be in the world but not of it (John 17:16) is vital when engaging with dating culture. Your video encourages us to approach relationships with a heavenly perspective, rooted in God’s truth rather than societal pressures.
Thank you for sharing your heart and convictions. Keep challenging and encouraging your audience to honor God in every area of life, including relationships. I pray your words continue to inspire others to seek Christ first and approach dating with integrity, wisdom, and faith. God bless you!
Not bad. I have deeply studied this subject. I'm glad you haven't said that dating is wrong and we should only do courtship. Basically, that thinking just shuts everything down and everybody stays single. I was part of courtship-only church in my 30's and it was a huge mistake. That was a time when I needed to find someone and it left me single for many years as it did for many people.
I suggest, just stay moderate as you are. Romance is a good thing, and that is the practical process in our culture that creates marriages and families. Christians often love marriage but hate the process leading to it. That sounds a bit crazy to me. The process does contain unavoidable risk but that is one of the great challenges that Christians face. You can choose to grow from it or bury your head in the sand. God understands these things and is with us if we follow him in all we do.
How deeply have you studied it? Because I found the rocks that are supposed to sing. Western culture is heavily influenced by Christianity, and the culture is awash with the internal struggle of facing this particular question throughout the ages.
Thank you for your balanced perspective on this issue. I know that some Christian couples have lived together without being married. While there may not be a verse as explicit as "Do not live together without being married," biblical principles definitely counter the practice. The practice is an easy doorway into explicit sin.
Taylor this video is intriguing. I love that you used scripture and history from the word to explain. I didn't know dating was created in 1896 and had a not so biblical meaning at first 😅 I think the answer is yes. We are called to tend to the kingdom of God. God gave Adam a woman to help make that easier. He gave specific characteristics to look for in a spouse. Thanks for teaching me something new about this topic. Definitely do more videos like this.
I think a courtship leading to marriage is a better idea; to never be alone with your prospective partner in order to avoid a sin. For instance, going to the movies with a group of friends, visiting each other’s family, or taking a walk in the park.
That should be circumstantial. If you cant control yourself, then its a good idea. Otherwise its an unnecessary setup and isn't really biblical. You lean on the presence of friends vs God.
Thank you so much for all of your videos they are amazing. I have been blessed to by your videos. Keep shining your light for Jesus may he richly bless you❤ Thanks again
Taylor, i don't know how you turned your life around in this day and age despite being so famous , God bless you more.
I celebrate Grace. Thank you Jesus❤
Dating is a broader category and has become kinda corrupt to say the least. But, I know what you mean and what a lot of people mean when they say dating. It is basically courting but some people call it dating. I personally call it courting so that it is very plain what I'm talking about. Thanks for the video!
I'm a 17 year old guy and have never kissed or dated a girl. I'm waiting until I'm finished with college to start a family, because I want to be able to provide for my wife and kids. It's so hard at times because I feel left out but I know it will be worth it.
Love is a gift like Grace of salvation. Making love is ultimate intimacy. I’ve realised it with my wife that I love so much ❤️🙏🏻
This was much better than your previous video, Taylor. Thank you.
Couple things. First we need to be careful to assume if it’s not in the bible it isn’t biblical. Meaning, it’s sinful essentially. I think you covered that. Secondly, it’s depends on what we define “dating” to be. Even as Christians we cannot know who to marry unless we know the other person. Meaning, we interact in some way. I think dating can simply be having lunch together, or enjoying a wholesome activity together like an afternoon hike, or whatever. We can’t rush into a marriage commitment until we know who we are marrying, and we can’t know that person without spending some kind of time with them.
One thing I want to point out is that there are Christian spouses that I personally know of who haven't even talked to each other a single word before marriage, but currently having a healthy, imperfect yet growing Christian family for decades.
Great research and I agree with all your points. Dating is a worldly way that simply leads to greater consumerism. Courtship or to date, I say make sure it's only to marry. Men and women should commit to each other, no try. Just like you committed to God. A little affection is ok, but nothing that escalates. I will marry, but never date. Dating is a polyamorous practice and marriage is a direction.
great take sister, blessings from Chile!
Praying for you Taylor Alicia. May Jesus bless you and know you deeply!
Thanks Taylor. Very much appreciate ot as usual. Great sister. God bless
Congratulations on your engagement! Good luck to you both!
I enjoy watching your videos Taylor, It makes me proud to say you saved me! I wanted to hear your insight on horror movies.❤
Excellent video, thanks 👌
I love how your videos are rooted in a Biblical worldview
Good for you girl! preach it! your good advice will reap rewards in Heaven. AMEN!!!
Dating is good for the species. We’ve been seeking and establishing relationships longer than we’ve concerned ourselves about a God or a Devil.
Modern couples: "Courting is so old-fashioned; we're more enlightened and liberated now. The modern world requires a more sophisticated, intelligent approach."
Also modern couples: Why is the divorce rate so high?
Personal protection always makes sense
I think this video was the best one for me to ❤learn.😊
Thanks Taylor I love you videos it's really helpful for me I'm waiting for more❤❤
Date with the intention to marry (courtship), or don't date at all. Thank you Taylor.
After all the failures, I now know things can be so much easier if we just pray and wait and do everything based on Bible principles.
Great point! I think it will be good if our generation do this as example to the younger gen, i remember as i kid i heard this as well, but unfortunately i didnt see much people actually doing this, it just like another text book iteration, dating in the God's way should be more familiarize.
I believe genuine love & honesty etc.within lovers( martial) is SACREDNESS
Yes a lot of good sense here. I have seen the other side in other cultures of arranged marriages. It can be something halfway in between theirs and ours is a good thing. Certainly we need to get to know each other before rushing to fast into intimacy and marriage. Be patient.
thing about a guy proposing 2 weeks later... either is was 2 week or 2 months, I cannot recall, but that's the amount of time it took for my grandparents to get married, and they didn't do the dating thing. They met each other and knew. They were married for over 50 years and my grandmother didn't remarry after her husband in his 70's. Two devoted Christians.
I think we lost something when we got away from a father's approval and community camaraderie in general. There's less brotherly or sisterly respect in modern dating and more inauthenticity, showmanship and social awkwardness because of that imo.
After I became a christian, God told me not to date. It was very hard for the next 10 years. Then one day as I went to a Sunday service, the only seat that I could find was next to this beautiful girl. I know who she was from the group outings we had in the youth group. I could not understand why all of a sudden I am "in love" with this girl. For next 3 months my feelings for her would not go away, after much prayer. One day as I was on my knees praying, God told me to go to her apartment where she lived with her sister at 11 o' clock at night and tell her my feelings for her. That night she was in a deep discussion with her sister and friend about relationships and marriage. Her friend said to her..."...You are 27 years old , why are you not dating , you are never going to find the right man. Do you really think someone is going to come late at night and say I like you and..."...and there was a knock at the door. ...I went out with her for one month, proposed, ...shortly after we got married. We have been married now for close to 40 years...I am so glad I waited !!!
As Christians we are NOT supposed to date/court the way the world does. Just dating/courting casually as a Christian with no intention to marry is completely pointless, a complete waste of time!
As a man (25 almost 26) am dating a godly woman (23 almost 24) we are dating however we are laying out boundaries and staying true to scripture. Dating is fine in my opinion as long as both are muture and godly people. With all this said I know people will have other views and that is fine let us not fight but let us reason together. It is also possible to say you do you and I do I. Dating should not include staying late at each other's places or any way to introduce temptations, with all this said it is something every person must make their own mind on.
1:30 There is no reason for dating other than to commit sin. Parents need to be guiding their children to marriage with appropriate spouses from like minded families. And we need to expect men and women to be married by the age of 25 again. God designed us to build our lives together, in a family unit. Not as “individuals.”
Good video, thank you. Considering that the divorce rate in the church is as high, or higher, than in the secular world, we may want to rethink how we Christians date/court. Sadly, it seems we have bad marriages and experiences when we date using secular values and methods. We can't shoe-horn secular values into a Christian life and relationship. Thus, we have a high divorce rate. Sadly, I don't know a good solution, But I'm praying about it.
Where did you get that statistic from?
@@juanortiz7692 I've heard this statistic for a number of years. Pastors have mentioned that fact several times. I looked up divorce statistics years ago and astonishingly atheists had a 10% divorce rate.
Great content! As a young man looking back, I wished someone could have told me this earlier.
Dating seems temporary. Just marry the person if you know its right and from God. Pretty simple. Dating wastes time, feelings and emotions. Trust me I know lol.
True.
In the Bible a man and woman made a marriage covenant, making them a husband and wife, at the beginning of the relationship but they stayed physically apart for a time as a betrothed couple to adjust and bond and prepare for the wedding.
@betrothalguys They were not dating,may be wr should first explain dating , according to my knowledge when ppl date there's no agreement of marriage they still learning about each other and ppl that date even says they are allowed do date more than one person soo all this dating it's not biblical and not for Christians full stop.
@@ndyndy2785 exactly. Dating is not promoted in the Bible for a reason. There is a better path.
@@ndyndy2785 Sounds like we are saying about the same thing.
Song of Solomon walkers through every aspect of a relationship.
Don't know what that is, never experienced that 😢 sad emoji ✊
Amen. Good word, Taylor .
Great one. Gonna try to use it in my church. Age appropriate. So many facts
Semantics Alesia. I'm not dating, I'm courting. If it's not sinful and you're honest with the person you're trying to court about your love for the word and love following it then you're good.
Laudetur Jezus Christus! Your countenance and eyes in particular just radiate purity! I don't know what your pastlife involved but clearly God has the ability to bring us back to factory specs!
Thankyou for speaking truth!!
Yes, I dated as a Christian’s and tried out the goods first prior to potentially committing