body posi, being overweight, & mental health

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  • Опубликовано: 30 ноя 2024

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  • @vermillion6805
    @vermillion6805 5 лет назад +45

    you're ACTUALLY my new favorite youtuber. i love how positive you are, honestly thank you

    • @mayteguaman1218
      @mayteguaman1218 2 года назад

      I agree 🥺 thank you ashton for being so kind and so thoughtful and smart and so yourself!!!

  • @GribReport
    @GribReport 5 лет назад +40

    Ive never been skinny, and never been fat. Always teetered between 150 and 180. but being a bit chubbier actually helped me passed as a dude, and i wasnt as mad at myself.

  • @Emil-lf3no
    @Emil-lf3no 5 лет назад +42

    Omg I had a similar experience.
    And sad part is I am currently having a relapse and it really sucks.

  • @tyleea
    @tyleea 5 лет назад +29

    This touched me so much thank for now making me realize that I’m not fat and that I should start eating breakfast and lunch but I’m still gonna only eat vegetables

    • @Jacoe413
      @Jacoe413 5 лет назад +17

      Try adding oil, dressing or peanut butter. That is a good way to reintroduce vital nutrients to your system. It doesn't add a lot to the amount that you're eating, but it's so good for you. I'm in recovery from an eating disorder and it always worries me when I see posts like yours. If you're vegetarian make sure you're supplementing with protein and carbohydrates.

  • @mellowjello5097
    @mellowjello5097 5 лет назад +13

    I loved this so much. Idk what it is but you sound so comforting when touching on such sensitive topics. Thank you for sharing your experience.

    • @occasionalfan-content4771
      @occasionalfan-content4771 4 года назад +1

      True! I think his stuff is really good for me to think critically about internalized issues with bc I feel like I can challenge myself without feeling guilty

  • @quirkyblackenby
    @quirkyblackenby 5 лет назад +3

    Being fat your whole life is truly wild because you still get the same messages but you know that you’ll never fit into society’s standards. You just know it’s how your body is and you can’t change it

  • @aslanisgone1124
    @aslanisgone1124 5 лет назад +5

    Thank you for making this. I'm currently going through a tough time with my weight and needed this

    • @graveyardpansy
      @graveyardpansy  5 лет назад +6

      take care of yourself !! I’m sending love 💕

  • @lyrablack8621
    @lyrablack8621 3 года назад +1

    I wish I could go back to whenever it was when food and how much I'm eating wasn't constantly on my mind. I think it's gotten worse because I'm the one paying for groceries now, and I'm unemployed, so I want to spend as little as possible. It's annoying because I'll be starving and not eat, and then when I'm not hungry I'll just eat a shit ton, until I'm literally nauseated. I dunno

  • @fh11235
    @fh11235 5 лет назад +2

    this video and your statements genuinely really helped me. I was struggling today, and this video made me feel better, seeing you feel good/positive/neutral about your body helped me feel good/positive/neutral about my body.

  • @ekkso5630
    @ekkso5630 3 года назад +4

    Lol I'm literally finishing up a literature review on EDs in nonbinary individuals through the lens of the minority stress model. Would love to see you do a video on the subject!

  • @iamapotato4038
    @iamapotato4038 5 лет назад +6

    Hello I hope you are all having a great day ❤️❤️❤️

  • @matthewpancini7300
    @matthewpancini7300 5 лет назад +2

    This video really helped me. I was in a really bad relationship similar to yours where she has an eating disorder and influenced me into having one. I’ve found that cutting out those people from my life has really helped me to get healthy again.

  • @porksoda703
    @porksoda703 5 лет назад +2

    i struggle w acne and weight too and am developing disordered eating which im trying so hard to prevent from getting any worse. but seeing someone with a body almost exactly like mine, eg yours!! makes me so happy bc “hey! this dude is rly cute and they have the same features that i have that make me think im ugly!” well done on speaking out, it mustve been rough and i know how hard it is to be open, but this was a really important video for me to hear :)

  • @ciciperpustakaan6038
    @ciciperpustakaan6038 5 лет назад +1

    The only thing I've found that successfully counteracts the indoctrinated subconscious bias about aesthetics we absorb from the media is creating a torrent of daily exposure of fat bloggers/influencers on my feeds. Just equalling out the diversity of what kind of bodies my brain sees everyday and in what contexts has gone soo far to (bit by bit without me even trying) undo the biased imprint in my brain about what beauty is. And tellingly - when i left instagram on a break and stopped seeing diverse bodies for a few months - bit by bit without me realising i started to feel hate my body again and started to idealise certain bodies again. I reinstated my exposure and now my subconscious perception is balanced again. It works for me for that subconscious voice like no amount of logical conscious knowledge does.

  • @colinlaw8342
    @colinlaw8342 5 лет назад +3

    I need this pep talk at the end tbh 😊❤️

  • @pigeonkid3931
    @pigeonkid3931 5 лет назад +7

    Dude I've been on the edge of relapsing again and this is kinda what I needed to calm me down a bit, so thanks man. I used to restrict how much I ate and I think it messed up my growth and metabolism, and my height is one of the things that causes me the most dysphoria, so that helped me recover because I wanted to get taller. I'm still not growing a lot so it didn't really help, but I'm still so glad I'm mostly recovered by now. Anyone in the comments who is struggling is free to reach out to me if they need it

    • @srhdfhcvbftg8067
      @srhdfhcvbftg8067 3 года назад

      I started T 9 weeks ago and it's made ne gain a bit of weight. I feel better in my body but I also feel not great about being so thicc. Trying to keep a positive mindset is hard but I'm trying to accept the changes as they come because they will ultimately result in the changes I desire.

  • @heysheepdog
    @heysheepdog 5 лет назад +4

    Thanks for being open about this. Ive been struggling with my weight throughout high school and currently in relapse after going way over the agreed goal weight my parents had for me.

  • @aaronseth9840
    @aaronseth9840 5 лет назад +10

    I love this video so much! I hope you’re doing well and continue to do so! You’re a beautiful human inside and out ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @obamasfoot7223
    @obamasfoot7223 3 года назад +3

    I used to have severe anorexia but I've fully recovered now! I'm kinda overweight/chubby and very happy with my body so it is possible to recover! That being said, because I'm vegan a lot of people automatically assume that I still have disordered eating, which I don't (I literally eat nothing but high-calorie vegan 'junk food' and doughnuts lol) so people still judge my eating habits/body which sucks. Anyways, its weird because the reason I became anorexic in the first place was because fellow trans men were promoting pro-ana forums and diets and that stuck with me for a little bit. I wish trans men would be more careful about commenting on other trans people's bodies because it really does cause a lot of problems.

  • @anniehowell5320
    @anniehowell5320 5 лет назад +2

    I am overweight pretty much due to a history of depression. I am about to meet family I haven't seen in ages and I am really scared of them seeing my chubbyness as they are v slim. Social situations is where I find it hard to make peace with my weight

  • @reubenbryant
    @reubenbryant 5 лет назад +1

    Totally agree that BMI doesn’t work. I’m very short (4’9”) and muscular. BMI means I get compared to people of Japanese and Chinese origin who naturally have slender flames. Except I’m white, of Jewish Eastern European origin and I work out. I’m so terrified that when I get top surgery I’ll get excluded because of a meaningless number that isn’t accurate.
    Ashton, you keep on loving your body.

  • @BeccaRaptor94
    @BeccaRaptor94 5 лет назад +1

    Happy for you and your good mental / physical health!

  • @regentanz7364
    @regentanz7364 5 лет назад +1

    thank you for talking about this topic. I think it's very important for a lot of people so they know that they are not alone (inluding me).
    So thank you and keep up the great work. 😊

  • @kaylaburrell4637
    @kaylaburrell4637 5 лет назад +1

    I went through something similar in middle school, except I’m pretty sure mine would be classified as anorexia. I’m better now thanks to being on my high school track team. Thank you for sharing, it made me feel less alone ❤️

  • @samuelm.bernier4900
    @samuelm.bernier4900 5 лет назад +2

    I have been in an unhealthy mindset about how I look at myself. I have never enjoyed how my body looks, and even make an effort not to look at the numbers like weight or hight even since before I even hit puberty in like 7th grade or so. I have all ways hated the natural masculinity of my body but I don't want to be a woman necessarily. I am a feminine ass boy who doesn't want to be as masculine as he is. I have allways wanted to be skinny but not be like super muscular... Though I was doing martial Arts on the side. News flash Puberty hits. I am heading in the exact opposite direction of where I want to be. So I stop doing things I love to get skinny, more feminine, to look the way I all ways wanted. I eat less and less and then none... But I am chasing an unattainable dream. I all ways thirst for more because what I want is unattainable. My actions caused me to have a problem later on that when my body is trying to do normal ass life thing with digestion and such I get this stabbing pain in my lower stomach. It is just a constant reminder of what happens if I take it too far. I still haven't completely fixed my eating habits but I am starting to get there. I am eating about a meal and a half or so a day. I whole heartedly agree with your message of this video, I know that just gave me courage and I hope it can help others aswell.

  • @Jacoe413
    @Jacoe413 5 лет назад +1

    I was underweight due to EDNOS (now OSFED) was weight restored to a healthy weight, but then was put on lots of physch meds and gained lots of weight and am now classified as obese. I was devastated when I first heard that I am medically obese. It destroyed my self esteem. Obesity has such a stigma I'm not told how pretty I am now. When I was skinny I was told I was pretty and so skinny and how people wished they had my body. Now I'm afraid that when someone is looking at me they just see a fat girl. Eating disorder voice is still very strong. I tell my therapist I feel weight restored but not mind restored. I have to fight that demon all the time. Holidays are still hard for me. Most people see eating more than normal as a very typical thing during this time of year, with all the family dinners, treats, pies, candy and hot drinks. But I struggle with guilt. I'm afraid I'll always be like this.

  • @deadboy5678
    @deadboy5678 5 лет назад +11

    Who said!! Ur body!! Is not!! Ideal?! I'll fite u 👀 with my endless love and support uwu 💖💖💖
    Also, it's wild but cool that you and pixielocks both posted about the same things today 💫💫

  • @balloooondog
    @balloooondog 5 лет назад +2

    You're so amazing omg i love your videos

  • @julianrivera460
    @julianrivera460 5 лет назад +10

    I love that you talked about this, I have soooo many feelings esp. abt the vegan part. Before starting hrt I was a vegan and my dysphoria was really really bad and I developed a binge eating disorder, I was obese and needed to change my eating habit but I didn't know how to do it as a vegan because the more i thought about food the worst it got, so I decided to not be a vegan anymore, at least in the time it took me to transition, control my dysphoria and manage my BED. It's been a little over two years now and I'm finally considering going back to veganism, or at least vegetarianism, esp. because with T my cholesterol tends to go up and all of that stuff. What bothers me the most is that the reason I stopped being vegan was a very personal one and I just can't tell people that; a lot of old friends of mine ask me "weren't you vEGAN????" and you know how people are! I can't say "Yes, but my eating disorder so bad I was eating myself to death and for some reason the only solution was to drastically change my diet and eat the same three meals everyday for six months!" lmao. Srly, your video is lovely, thank you for bringing the topic of EDs, it's something that needs to be talked more in the trans-masc community :)

  • @meekmoop
    @meekmoop 5 лет назад +1

    thanks for sharing Ashton! I've been recently trying to rethink how I think about my body weight. Sending Good Vibes

  • @tyramccutcheon2565
    @tyramccutcheon2565 5 лет назад +1

    I just found your videos and watched the old videos and your voice is fantastic , then and now also your hair is amazing! 💕

  • @spitgorge2021
    @spitgorge2021 4 года назад +1

    very scared of not gaining weight tbh. im SCARILY skinny and i just. idk

  • @S5S5066
    @S5S5066 4 года назад +2

    Eggs 🥚 are great as long as there from free range, no antibiotics, human farms. ( I’m kinda biased because I’m getting pet chickens 🐓 and ducks 🦆)

  • @rebeccanorris9459
    @rebeccanorris9459 3 года назад +1

    Trigger warning gonna be talking about body image. The first part of this video i was nodding along. But with me it was my dad pointing out my that he could see my rib cage.

  • @87654321j
    @87654321j 5 лет назад +3

    Love your earrings Ashton your the outfit and fashion king :-)

  • @EmsiWolf
    @EmsiWolf 4 года назад +1

    Think I needed to hear this, thanks for sharing :)

  • @puccittv5914
    @puccittv5914 4 года назад +1

    A video ab your knowledge on trans people with Eds seems like a really good idea!

  • @herkkukaneli
    @herkkukaneli 5 лет назад +1

    Thank you for making the video, it was quite helpful 💕

  • @turtlefrog2550
    @turtlefrog2550 2 года назад

    My mom talks about my weight and says I have to get rid of fat,like I take walks almost everyday, I try to eat healthy. I don't just do nothing plus it's Just genes,my family Have a lot of body positive people, I hate my body

  • @TheLazarusnightwolf
    @TheLazarusnightwolf 5 лет назад +5

    Liking your earrings ^^

  • @thefidgeteen4650
    @thefidgeteen4650 5 лет назад +1

    Great video. I’ve been pretty lucky to avoid weight-motivated disordered eating in my lifetime (common for afab people on the spectrum) but have had a hearty dose of insecurity in that regard, which ironically enough was brought on by my pediatrician. (Huge tw for bmi but I bring it up to make my point) My dr told me in front of my mom that I needed to watch what I was eating and be careful when I was 11 or so because my BMI had hit 21. For reference, the healthy range is 18.5-24.9. I was so terrified of becoming overweight but in reality I was nowhere close- plus I’m marfanoid and had a huge growth spurt a few months after that conversation. My dad is now an incredibly ripped dude thanks to his second job (lost a ton of weight and is almost unhealthily skinny now) but his insurance company still considers him overweight bc he’s super tall. I have gi problems and am always bloated in the stomach region and “feel fat” but there’s nothing I can really do about it. Weight is also incredibly variable- I had some fun with a scale at a hotel when I was a little kid and saw my weight fluctuate close to 10 pounds within a day.
    TL;DR bmi is stupid and everyone has body image problems (even men holy shit I had a boy fashion doll that had a full 8 pack and even as a 12 yr old was like omg this is some of what is wrong with the world) and doctors please take up your weight- related health concerns with the kid’s parents only when legitimately necessary and well out of earshot.

  • @frog9038
    @frog9038 5 лет назад +2

    Thank you so much. I have not been diagnosed with any eating disorders, but I definitely deal with fatphobia. I can't look in the mirror without pointing out every single one of my "flaws". I (a trans man), point out my too big of a chest, my stomach, my chin and jawline. Hell, even my hands. I compare myself to others almost religiously. Now here's the kicker: Almost all of my past relationships I've been in, my SO's body shape has been very similar to mine. Yet all of them were/are gorgeous in their own way. I wish I could look at me from the outside. If I could, I think my view on myself would change a lot.
    Thanks for reading this far. My your god(s) treat you as you treat others ✴
    (I realize that I sound like a straight white girl who wants to be quirky, but that's not what I mean. I also realize that fatphobia isn't an eating disorder.)

  • @BeccaRaptor94
    @BeccaRaptor94 5 лет назад +2

    Yes plz do a video about trans people and Ed’s !

  • @occasionalfan-content4771
    @occasionalfan-content4771 4 года назад +1

    My bmi is underweight literally just bc I’m a short cis girl with a flat chest and no muscles 🥴 why would they build the system like that

  • @mizubiart6230
    @mizubiart6230 2 года назад

    hm. you know, i dont know if this is a thing but i notice that people look at me strange when i tell them im not hungry. hunger just is not a thing i feel. for me its more of a brain thing. the connection between my stomach and my brain seems to be severed and now i just.. dont feel hunger. so i mostly eat nothing the whole day. and it suits me that way, because that means i can have my favourite meal, dinner, with lots of dark chocolate and icecream and also a full plate of food before that. i dont really sleep during the night, im usually very active in drawing and things. i forget all of these things becuase i am just very focused on a thing and lose track of time.
    another thing is that when i do feel hunger, i actually like it. it feels...bad? but it feels good. but its usually not even painful or appetite inducing. so it juts goes away after a minute or so
    ive thought about this, but never spoken about it because im scared of being weird. i wonder if someone would understand. i have no idea if i was always like this or if this is something that happened to me over time.. i think it did but my brain wont let me access that part of life so i genuinely have nothing to compare this to except the surprise of someone when i tell them i just dont eat lunch..? is that weird? i thought this was normal, taht some people just have their meal at another time than me but i cant imagine having 3. id explode! or id feel sick i dont know?

  • @vcalebs
    @vcalebs 5 лет назад +2

    as someone who‘s recovering from an ed it helps to remind me that people carry weight in different places and sO many people look different whether it’s them having a smaller waist and bigger thighs..etc. and it depends on each person and sometimes i can look around and appreciate that people look different and that my body is allowed to look the way it does and that i don’t have to get myself down as much anymore sometimes and continue recovering.

  • @pmbluemoon
    @pmbluemoon 5 лет назад +4

    I would love to see you do a video on eating disorders for trans people, it's an issue that needs more attention for sure. 👍💯🌈 Also i think the whole BMI thing needs to be rethought! There are professional wrestlers out there that are supposedly morbidly obese that have absolutely NO fat! The way they calculated BMI back in the 1950's really needs to be reassessed! I'm sick of being tole I should weigh 120 lbs when my musculature won't even get me below 160 lbs! There needs to be a new study on BMI and body composition for sure.

  • @ellaella2346
    @ellaella2346 5 лет назад +19

    Ohh I would love to see a video about eating disorders and transness, let me hear your sources boi
    Amazing video really great topic o well I should wear my glasses but goodbye imma sleep
    Great joke me. I'm not going to be able to sleep lolz (:

  • @squeezedlemons9398
    @squeezedlemons9398 5 лет назад +1

    i just watched a video that was 1y ago and your voice.. wow

  • @13gudadod
    @13gudadod 5 лет назад +4

    YEEET im gonna watch it anyways
    and i have ana

  • @caitlynanne7798
    @caitlynanne7798 5 лет назад +4

    I would just like you to know that you are perfect and wonderful just the way you are. 💕

  • @nomvan8249
    @nomvan8249 3 года назад +2

    unlearning fatphobia is seriously one of the best things you can do for your self esteem

  • @hauntednokia
    @hauntednokia 5 лет назад +2

    are those earrings from fencing!!!

  • @sabahaziz8947
    @sabahaziz8947 5 лет назад +1

    🌹🌹🌹

  • @fragile89
    @fragile89 4 года назад +1

    Its okay to have weight problems, but you shouldn't be proud of it if its causing health problems. You should be more concerned with your health than with yourself or other people's view (of course unless their is some underlying cause to your problem, as mentioned in the video).

  • @niemand9675
    @niemand9675 4 года назад +1

    Hi please do the video on trans people and eds

  • @robertrist2300
    @robertrist2300 5 лет назад +1

    You are so cute looking and handsome to

  • @devinnathaniel9446
    @devinnathaniel9446 5 лет назад +1

    As taking T increased your weight?

  • @juliet0001
    @juliet0001 5 лет назад +1

    tHiS iS nOt An IdEaL bOdY
    (x) doubt