Fireside Chat Ep. 289 - Moving On: How Soon Is Too Soon? | Fireside Chat
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A few weeks after the death of Dennis’s beloved bulldog Otto, his family welcomed a new pet into their home-welcome Mr. Tubz! Dennis reflects on moving on after the death of a dog, or for that matter, a spouse. Is there such a thing as moving on too quickly?
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Otto would want you to have a new fireside companion.
Aye, just get one of your assistants to walk this one so obesity related deaths are avoidable.
It took me a couple of years before I felt encouraged to get a dog to replace the one I sadly had to have put down. I was quite torn about getting another dog, not because I didn't want the company of another best friend, but I was just getting used to everything I owned, not being covered in dog hair. Now that I gave in, most things I own, is hairy as a camel's back.
When my mom died, 8 was glad when my father started dating again.
He eventually remarried..
I wanted him to be happy.
He'd buried his wife after a 3 yr battle with cancer.
So I was hoping he'd find happiness
Life is for the living
And I did want what is best and good
There is a reason that the vows say 'Till death do us part..' My maternal grand mother eloped at 75 or so after grandpa passed 5 years before, and after a friend's wife passed about 6 mos. Grandma and Grandpa had played cards with them for years. Her second husband passed before her after a good number of years together. They were each buried with original spouses. Good point about love not being a pie. They were able to give out more love. Also, I agree that we should allow the widow/er what makes them happy
There's really no right answer for when it's appropriate to move on by getting another pet after losing a beloved pet, other than that when you are ready & find another pet that you feel bonds with you, then it's the right time. After I lost my dog back in 2014 it took me several months before I was ready, but one day I saw another dog who wiggled his way into my heart in a similar way that my lost pet had previously & I knew at that point that I was ready.
You have to live your life. New love comes into your life when it happens
@@juliagrant3299 Exactly!
I lost a beloved cat, Marco the Magnificat, after 19 years. He'd been with me since he was a tiny baby. In fact, I believe he was taken away from his mother too soon and imprinted on me as his surrogate mommy. After he died, I knew I was ready to get another cat when I could entertain the idea without bursting into tears. For me, that period was almost two years. I eventually adopted Jasper Goodkitty. Three years later, I rescued his little brother, Onyx Serendipity. Rescuing and loving another pet is the best way to honor the memory of a companion animal. What better tribute to Otto than to provide a loving home and a happy life for Mr. Tubz?
It's "Snoopy" I'm gutted for...
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3rd, 18 May 2023
Hi Dennis, I lost my wife in 1997 to cancer. We had been married for 20 years. I threw myself into my work to focus on something to do. Five years later my company was closing ang they asked me to go on second shift so I did. Then I met this lady who was a machine operator. She kept breaking her machine to get over there to fix it. Long story short I took her out on a date and one year later we were married. Now 17 years later I have lost her to this covid. I'm 80 now and I have children and grand kids but I feel alone again I miss that closeness that you have with a spouse!
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I'm sorry to hear thar Arthur. God be with you ❤️
💔God bless you Sir💜Arthur
God bless you and give you the strength that you need Sir🙌🏼🙏
I can empathize because my dog died around the exact same time Otto did. At least I can take comfort in the fact that I still have one dog remaining. On that day, I said I would never get another dog, but just a few weeks later, I’m already contemplating it. My main dilemma is deciding whether or not I want the new dog to resemble my old dog. When it comes to parents, it’s more complex. Human beings aren’t the same as dogs. For example, if a husband marries someone he knew prior to the death of his wife, it could raise questions about his fidelity and feelings during his previous marriage.
People fail to move on and remain in arrested development/ emotion. Some people choose to fill a hole they don't want to process, while others may wish to take some time to grieve. The results often reflect the chosen route.
Our 15 year old puppy Benji had to be put to sleep when he let us know his ailments made life no longer bearable. The next day a breeder of one of our other dogs told us she was getting an emergency rescue puppy and was not sure how she could show me. She knew Benji was very ill but not aware he had passed Turns out she had to drive by my house. It was difficult but we ultimately saw it as saving another life and was honoring Benji.
My husband died about a year and a half ago, after 24 years of marriage. My teenaged children told me they will be fine with me dating/remarrying when I’m ready. They’re good kids.
The time is right when we say it is. It could be a week, month, year or maybe never but it's up to the pet owners to decide when it's right for a new addition to the family.
So glad you got another dog and what a wonderful son u hv to get one for u! We currently have rescue dogs 6 and 7. We know that there r so many dogs that need homes so we want to make sure we provide that home quickly. Our range of time over the years before getting a new one has been 3 weeks to as little as 6 days. ❤
It's a complement to Otto that you loved and enjoyed him so much, you wanted another.
Sad when we see fogs we ith Dementia that rely on human carers like in a nursing home. Just waiting to die.
I woke up 2 mornings without a dog in the house. Then I went to the pound. Scooby has been with us for 1 year now. He's a good dog. He's not Mickey, but he tries.
Congratulations Mr tubbs is beautiful
Omg the new doggie
Sorry about Otto.. I didn't know. 😞🙏♥
But I'm glad you found another friend and I don't think it's an insult. I think Otto would want you and Snoopy to be able to be happy. Ultimately the timing is between you and your family. As long as you and Snoopy are happy with Mr. Tubz, your new family member, and both dogs have adjusted well, then I think it's great! 😁👍
There was a lady I knew growing up that tried to always own 2 dogs. Her reason behind this is that when you only have 1 dog, that single dog can assume that it's another human family member. Howerever, when you have 2 (or more0 dogs, both (all the) dogs Remind each other that they are Dogs and Not a Human,even with a good Family situation.
Obviously Not everyone can own or afford 2 dogs, but when possible, it was a good lesson to remember.
I don't know if this was the reason, but if it is, it makes sense to me.
Agreeing with Dennis' point, Otto was Otto, Tubbs is Tubbs.
They're not the same.
My bff's parents married in 70-71. Her mom passed in 2010. Her dad was devastated. He married about 3 years later to a woman who resembled my friend's mom. My bff was pretty happy for him because she was getting worried about his mental state for a while. My dad passed in 2009 after about 44 years of marriage to my mom & my mom says she'll never even consider re-marrying. Same with my aunt when my uncle passed after 46 years together. I think it just depends on the individual. I'm not sure how I would feel about my mom re-marrying. It would probably help take some of her burdens off of her.
The father of my friend found a new partner immediatelly after his wife passed away (within several weeks after the funeral). He asked another widow to be his partner. I think it was a very good decision. Otherwise he would have been drunk and depressed all the time and would pass away soon. His son approved his decision to find a new partner too.
The only reason why an adult child would be upset is they themselves have not processed the loss. At some point they need to process it. They can’t hang on to it and expect other family members to wait them out.
The show must go on!
Now I want pie
My dad died when I was 13, I'm 36 and it ruined my life. I can't move past it. On one hand I'd advise people to move on quickly to avoid lingering trauma, on the other I find it disrespectful to move on so quickly that the person in question is made irrelevant. Tough call.
That breaks my heart that it ruined your life. Moving forward isn’t forgetting or doesn’t mean that you stopped loving. It means that you are the one still living and should fine s way to thrive and be happy.
@@kristinrichmond8185 Thanks, and yeah you're right, you put it well... I probably only think the way I do because I didn't manage my grief properly.
G-D bless you Dennis. We lost our oldest Dog Three (3) Weeks Ago. I am still Grieving his Transition. You have provided a great sense of Wisdom, Strength, Encouragement and (as Always) truth!
I just lost my best friend last week. We were blessed with16 years, 1 month, 1 week & 1 day together.
I promised her (& my mom) that i wouldn't go to Heaven first. Although my heart is broken, I'd rather go through the grief to spare them..
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Mr. Tubz reminds me of a pet rock i used to have!
He's much cuter though 🐶 i hope y'all get many years together ❤
I will be honest, I would have a hard time with my mom even dating. My dad passed away 15 years ago and I still feel this way.
I would NEVER tell my mom this. I would not ever say anything to her if she did meet someone.
But she is now 77 and I just don't thing she wants it.
As far as a dog. Yea, you loose a dog, you just get another one. It will never be the same dog, it will be different. But it will still give you companionship.
with my mom, she is a cat lady, lives on a far and adopts barn cats that say outside.
For a first day, Tubz looks pretty content! Sweet! Even though I'm sorry about Otto.
I lost my wife to cancer 4.5 years ago...I have considered dating again, but really don't see the point. I am only 44, but if God wants there to be someone in my life again as a wife, He's going to have to make it happen, because I'm unlikely to go looking for another woman. We were together from High School, 20 years...
I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all answer to this. I personally can’t live my life without a dog. It’s a non-starter. I’ve lost 3 over the last decade or so and I go through a period of grieving. It actually has varied from dog to dog. One in particular I’m still broken over after more than a year. But I believe you should get back in the saddle quickly. There’s a dog that needs your companionship, and you need his (or hers.) It’s no betrayal. We are meant to be with dogs. It’s the one perfect thing God gave us (well, the second) that even we have a hard time screwing up: a dog’s friendship. So RIP to Otto. And cheers to you and the newest addition to your family.
When it comes to my mice, I'm fine moving on & getting another one before I'm actually ready. The Girls need a new cage-mate as soon as possible. I'll heal in time. As far as dogs or cats, it can take months or, in the case of cats, years until I'm ready. When my Sue died, I needed more time. I had her for 15 years. She was more MY dog than anyone else's. Still I accepted that Mom was ready to get another one & we got Lily.
Either way, I don't judge. Some people just find it easier to move on with life BECAUSE they get a new pet. Some are more like me & need time to grieve properly.
I’m sorry to hear about Otto. He was a loving companion.
As someone who has lost pets and a spouse, I can testify that you’ll move on when you’re good and ready and not a moment sooner. People are different and some people are ready sooner than others.
Isnt bulldog breeding the farthest thing from love?
Dennis you Menace, any chance one of your assistants can walk this one daily as obesity deaths are so avoidable.
Was Auto a rescue or purebred bought? What about Mr. tubes?
When you have 2 dog's and one dies another dog is very good for the health of the other pet.
PRAGERU!!!!!
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Hey bulldog!
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Sorry to hear about Otto.
He is sooo cute!🐶
Awe. Mr tubbs is 😍 adorable.
And is that snoring!🤣 Awe.
As a widower that fell in love with my wifes mortician I think that you waited too long......
If a remarried woman dies and goes to Heaven... which one of her husbands does she spend eternity with? When the 'two become one', who is left out? Does the woman choose?
Interesting question!
@@jpjp3873 Maybe God decides. Anyway, that's why I believe that people should not remarry. This fictitious woman in question should wait to be reunited with her husband again. Eternity is a long time, so I believe the woman should not remarry but wait to rejoin her husband in Heaven.
Jesus answers this question for Christians. The example is a situation where a woman was widowed 7 times. He says that heaven does not have marital relationships.
@@elizabeths7520 Then does the woman live with all of her husbands in Heaven? Wasn't her original union/marriage a little more sacred/precious? I still this prefer shes waits until she dies to be reunited with her husband for all eternity (providing she still loves him, of course).
The answer is in the Bible.
Thanks to Dennis religious views ive unsubscribed