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Struggling with Hospital Life (The Hard Truth)
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- Published on Feb 11, 2026
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Hi Jessi. I have worked on a High risk antepartum unit for 45 years. You can ask your doctor to put in your chart to have staff not wake you up @ night between 11pm-5am, consolidate visit ( vital sign with nurse check in), schedule when housekeeping will come and clean your room, put a Do Not Disturb sign on your room, when you want to nap or have alone time with Alessio. Have they offered you an opportunity to meet with a mental health professional ( they can offer some ideas for relaxing or meditation)? Have they had Physical therapy ( they can help with ideas for some passive exercises that you can do in bed)or occupational therapy come to meet with you? You need to make your room into your home for the next several weeks. Have Alessio bring in pictures, a special blanket or throw that you like, anything that will make your room more comfortable for you! You can have bad days and good days just like everyone else, you do not need to be cheerful every day. Let your team know when you are having a rough or down day,they may be able to suggest something to help. You are doing wonderfully in a difficult situation. My best to you and Alessio.
This.
Great advice.
Yes, all of this. I hope they have arranged for you to meet with a mental health professional.
Great advice! I was also going to say they need to cheer up the room more, make it look more homely seeing as she is facing being there for several weeks.
All great advise.
You don’t always need to be joyful and positive. Your feelings are valid.
Was about to say the same. Also, pregnancy hormones are raging. Go nuts, scream, be angry, cry. When I was pregnant I was alone, so I had all the time to cry my eyes out.
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THIS! The pressure to be elated every second of a pregnancy, especially after infertility, is so real. You can be happy and grateful for this baby and still feel sad, frustrated and angry!! Feel all the feelings!
I’m a NICU nurse. It’s really helpful to see this perspective and really explains a lot of what we then see in the NICU. As difficult as it is your are doing such a great thing showing us all what it’s really like from the moms perspective. Thank you! This video helps us understand and hopefully will change how we care for our antepartum patients. Congrats on making it to 26 weeks. You’re doing a great job growing your little one. Praying for you all.
You are right Alessio, every patient needs a family member or friend to advocate for them while they are in the hospital 😊
Absolutely true!
I think it's also important that you continue to talk about your feelings instead of always trying to put on a happy brave face
100 PERCENT AGREE!
Yes
Alessio you are a huge blessing for your wife. God bless you and keep you strong.
Agreed. She is going through a lot and add onto that, the additional hormones, it is amazing that he is able to stay clear minded and advocate for her!!
Also way to go Alessio for being an awesome advocate!! SO important.
It’s a very hard position for husbands; I was hospitalized for 6 1/2 weeks; so my husband had his job and fortunately our office was close to the hospital. He ended up hiring a housekeeping service to keep things tidy; against my protest, but it was nice to come home to a clean house; I was amused when he said did I know that they sell peanut butter and jelly in one jar to my horror. What made things special was that we watched the World Series in 2003 so he was there for every game in a twin bed; he knew my favorite snacks, but I was like a second job if he was home he was restless if he was at the hospital, he was hovering all I can say it’s a one day at a time event.
I said previous.. its important you get fresh air.. you need to get a wheel chair & go outside in the hospital grounds to get some air.. just sit outside for a bit.. its important for your mental health you get out of that room for a bit
Fresh air, picnics, pre scheduled phone calls /visits.
Put things to look forward to on the calendar!
These are your last days as just a couple.
Try to celebrate your alone time. ❤
Most definitely. Going outside, if allowed, and not seeing the four walls around you can stimulate your mind enough to get you through.
Even if it's just 15 minutes.
The nurse's coming and going throughout the day and night can seem obtrusive after a while but they have to cover their backs with asking questions.
It's a lot to get your head around when you're in their for a long time until baby's born and doing well and mother has recovered.
The anxiety will be through the roof until everyone is safe and well. 💙
Unfortunately its like 10 degrees outside but def should get some fresh air
@sallysham2676the last of alone time especially when baby is born
You MUST be in the 🌞 Sun… the Vitamin D from the sun is unbelievably HEALING… Google it, you’ll understand 🙏
Absolutely speak to the nurse manager about a nighttime schedule for care, they can certainly consolidate. And I noticed you just have a crappy hospital pillow…comfort can make all the difference so please have Allesio bring a pillow and blanket from home. 💕
For all- Please pray for this couple, their baby, and all the healthcare workers who treat them.
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WHILE THIS IS NICE THIS IS NOT THE ANSWER CATHY, SHE NEEDS TO TALK TO SOMEONE!
Amen, in Jesus's Name! 😊❤😊
What a wonderful advocate you are Alessio!
When my little girl was in the hospital with leukemia, I learned that being a “good” patient did not result in good outcomes. Alessio’s advocacy is vital, and I am so grateful he is there fighting for you and baby boy. Doctors and nurses have hundreds of patients - you and Alessio have two. Trust your gut. Every time I think of you three, I lift a little prayer to our Divine Healer. God is with you.
PS - “Do not be afraid” or “Fear not” appears in Scripture 365 times - one for each day of the year!❤🙏
@SallyRally-4I second that. It's very very vital to be one's advocate when it comes to healthcare professionals.
I hope that Alessio is having support too , he is not made of steel. From an Italian American mom , I wish I could give him respite . And I would entertain Jesse’s boredom. But I am far away and just send Love and prayers .
The lack of sleep in hospitals is ridiculous. Sleep deprivation psychosis is very real.
Youre not kidding! Im in hospital (day 5) for the flu and its worse than grand cebtal station during rush hour on a friday night. Im going home today to sleep. Lol
@LADYSPIRIT56It's a hospital not a Hilton. Tests need to be run at certain times.
@salliefouts4725 it's a joke. Lighten up. But sleep deprivation is an issue.
You need to sleep for the Speed recovery! The best sleep you get in ICU. In the standard room they deprive you of sleep, what a splendid way to cure people lol
@salliefouts4725 but also if you are constantly not sleeping it will not make your health better...
it is ok for one night or few but not weeks or months...
You are carrying a lot. As a hospital chaplain, I recommend asking for one. A chaplain is someone who can not only pray with you but is someone who can help you carry all this. Having someone outside the situation to talk to can be extraordinarily helpful because you can say things to them that you may not feel comfortable saying to others. Regardless, hugs; being in the hospital long term is really hard.
Make sure you ask for a chaplain of your faith. They sent one to my mom and we couldn’t tell who she was even praying to. I asked my husband to take over because he prays to Jesus.
I completely agree. Hospital Chaplains rock! Even when the patient or the family aren’t tremendously religious, I’ve seen Chaplains do magic in hard situations.
Amen! As a nurse, one our most valuable team members is our clergy. Regardless of faith, clergy are educated to support practices of all faiths, especially if they are working in the clinical setting. They built strong relationships with pts to help listen, pray and guide through trying times , fear and anxiety. Thank you for your wonderful work supporting the whole patient.
@shelahogletree7711 Just to add, if they don't have someone available specific to your faith at that exact moment, it's worth asking them to come anyway. They don't have to pray if you don't want them to. They can serve as a sort of therapist who helps you look at what you're going through in a different lens. My dad was a chaplain for the Sheriff's Office, which served the staff but was stationed in the jail for the inmates primarily. He was the only religious "leader" on site, though they had people from other faiths come regularly and by request as well. Anyway, he was a devout Christian, but our area has a relatively significant muslim population so he served them on a daily basis as well. These types of chaplains are trained in how to handle faiths that are not the same as their personal faith and they can still offer support, a listening ear, a calm presence, and they tend to have "book knowledge" of the other larger faiths in that area.
I personally would not want a chaplain from another faith praying with me because as a Christian I don't want someone praying to anyone else. But I absolutely would take the listening, the reminders of taking a broader look at the situation, and just comfort from anyone regardless of faith, and they are trained in doing so sensitively.
Again, of course ask for someone of your own faith (or whatever faith/lack thereof fits your situation) but if they don't have someone available that moment, while you wait it's something to consider to still speak to whoever is there. Just lay out any boundaries (for lack of a better word) you have before you start. As in, "Thank you for coming, I really appreciate your time. My faith is such that I would prefer we not pray together, as I would like to wait for my own ::pastor/whoever:: to arrive. But I'd love to speak with you and I appreciate your coming to see me."
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It helps if you can take her outside in the sun. Even if just in a wheelchair. She needs sunshine for mental well being.
She deserves the biggest “push” present EVER! She is so brave! You’ve got this Jessie!
I am not sure you know this, but you can ask your doctor to put in your charts, that they not take vitals or come in your room during a certain time period. Example....you know you want to nap after lunch and you have already met with your team and done all the necessary testing in the morning. Ask for doctor to put in chart... please do not enter Jessi's room 1-3pm daily, I am asking her to get better rest and she will be resting. And do the same for night time. Do not take vitals from 11p-5a. I also put a note on my door that said. Do not enter unless necessary, I am taking a much needed nap. I found the nurses were always willing to honor that, especially if doctor had it in the charts. Praying for you! You are doing great!!!
She said exactly that
Was coming to say this ask for vitals once a day or when they’re doing your nst …ask to go sit in a courtyard
I was hoping they could help her with this, I’m glad you have some life experience you can pass on to her. I hope they honor her requests , I know how hard that is from my mom’s hospital stay.
I did that when I was in the hospital for 4.5 months with my high risk pregnancy. No vitals between 11pm and 5am unless 11pm vitals were concerning
This is really good advice! We put a sign on our door asking them only to come in (during a certain time frame) to give me pain meds lol (when I was postpartum for a c-section).
Sweetie my mom had to do the same thing with me. Total bed rest for 3 months in hospital. I will always be grateful for the investmemt of her time to let me grow to safety.
One minute at a time. One day at a time. Looking too far ahead is so overwhelming. Each day presents its own challenges. No need to add to them with things that have not happened. Deep breaths when you feel overwhelmed.
It’s okay to not be strong
It’s a blessing that Aleseo is so engaged with what’s happening and isn’t afraid to speak up for you. ❤
Jessi! Your placenta previa/accreta twin here was on my 26th day in the hospital (there was a 3 day time between where I was at home) and I ended up with a 4th bleed at 31 weeks exactly. We ended up having my c-section last night and went into the regular OR just in case I needed a hysterectomy. God is good, my placenta came free on its own.
I know the stress of checking pads constantly, and the struggle of feeling alone. I went from being a boring patient to needing all the help. The fear of baby and I dying or something to go wrong is so crazy.
I also know how hard it is to be away from your husband (and I have 2 kids at home too) really ate at me.
You are not alone in all of it. I know exactly how you felt. Nothing is certain so you have the hardest task of letting go.
So thankful everything worked out for you. You are awesome for sharing your own experience with Jessi and Alessio. It is a story of hope and a good outcome. We pray for the same for Jessi, Alessio and the baby. 🙏🙏
Congratulations mama and great job!
Congratulations on your 3rd sweet baby ❤ Well done Mama !
Congratulations one your health and most definitely your beautiful baby is fine.
That’s very scary. I’m glad all went well for you and the baby.
When I was going through similar, I remember feeling so TRAPPED. I could not escape my body, I could not escape the room, I could not escape the hospital. It was very often lonely. I did not get to make choices any more at all. What helped me was, after I got home, I had someone take the baby out for an hour or two so I could re-acclimate to my own home in freedom, and also had someone take care of him in-home so I could go outside alone. That feeling of trapped really stinks! If you need it, get therapy. This really can cause PTSD. You're feeling constantly in danger, your child is potentially in danger, and the fear is relentless. This really messes with the brain/psyche. Pregnancy/birth PTSD is a REAL THING. Alessio, you are doing what my second husband did when I was pregnant with our son-he listed all that was going right, and helped me keep my perspective. I would love to hear more about how it is for Fathers going through this-my husband is very stoic, and never said once how he was feeling-which was not great, for me.
Oh Jess. This is the final boss. You got this. You have been through so much. You are a warrior. Ask your doctor if you can talk to a psychologist or mental health pro who can give you some professional advice. Your fears are valid however your stress needs to be mitigated.
I was in the hospital for 4 months with sepsis... what helped me was the social worker put a note on my door..banning anyone including medical staff from entering my room from 3-5pm everyday. So I knew no matter what I could have that space to just be... noone touching me or talking to me..
This is a great idea. I hope they see this.
This is a great idea!
Thats what Jessie needs most, uninterupted sleep!
@MyrGo-g4hbig difference between having sepsis and a high risk pregnancy
@Jerseyjudyyou can easily die with Sepsis so.... Yes they're different but thinking you can die any moment isn't a small thing.
Mental Health therapist here, I encourage you like many others have, to seek therapy through this and after. Also, I am really proud of your husband for helping you to set healthy boundaries with hospital staff, he is lovingly protective of you. Praying that you will be able to look back on this time someday and will remember all of the good. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
Great advice ❤
Jessi I know exactly how you feel because I was in the hospital for 4 and 1/2 months and the constant testing for Labs at 3:00 a.m. doing my vitals every 3 hours was really getting to me sleep wise. So what you're going to have to do is you're going to have to advocate for yourself and tell them that you don't want to be bothered until after breakfast in the morning because you're becoming sleep deprived. Advocate, advocate advocate!
Wtf are does docters??? Why would they need to check in 3 am????? As a swiss get your docs to let you sleep. Sleep is medicine
This
I literally got PPD because people kept checking in on me every 2 hours at night even though I told them to let me sleep. Weeks and weeks in the hospital due to PPROM and not a single person listened. They stole the strength I would’ve needed for my preemie. So I agree, advocate!
I do not understand what they are doing! I was in hospital here in Austria for 9 weeks and they did check during the night but I nearly never woke up because of it. They used flashlights and were moving around really quietly.
It's true. As a L&D RN medical providers don't understand all the time what each moment of your times been like but they know how much time they have to do all the things they need to get done. Definitely advocate for yourself. Most of them will be just fine being respectful of these requests. ❤
It’s ROUGH, but this time next year, you’ll have your adorable baby boy and this whole situation will feel like it was a lifetime away. We’re all praying for you!
Sending the three of you the greatest hope that this journey becomes easier as you approach the finish line.
My son had a long battle with cancer, in longer stays we asked the nurses if multiple people needed to come in, to try to come in groups or closer together so he could get sleep and not be constantly interrupted. They were able to schedule their constant checks on vitals around when the doctors came in, or schedule changes. Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself. This isn't the time to people please, and nursing staff should understand.
This past year I had to have 7 months of chemotherapy and immunotherapy for breast cancer and had a double mastectomy shortly afterward. I was physically drained after all that and somewhat depressed. The nursing staff took it upon themselves to have a therapy dog brought into my hospital room. What a lift! I would have never thought that a visit from a big beautiful warm and friendly dog would give me such an emotional encouragement, but it did. I probably hadn't really smiled or been happy in a year. Instead, looking back, I was probably filled with fear and anxiety. I had lost almost 50 lbs. and had no hair or eyebrows. Let's say that I was not feeling my best. The fuzzy visitor didn't care how I looked. He just wanted to come up to me and be petted. It may seem silly, but for me it was wonderful. If they have therapy pets in your hospital, perhaps you could request a regular visit. 'Just a thought. 😊🐈🐕
This!! Right here!! 💯
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Brilliant idea, Dear One! I hope this can be done for sweet Jessi. May you be 100% healed in Jesus' Name. Love and hugs to you xxx
I hope you‘re doing well now and in the future! All the best! ❤
Today at my church there was the blessing of expecting mothers and I thought about you ❤
The Lord has truly blessed you with a wonderful husband, Jessi. ❤ 😊
26 weeks plus one day! Looking forward to next Saturday when you can celebrate 27 weeks. My best friend had your same condition 36 years ago. She delivered a healthy baby girl who is now also a mother. I tell so many of my family and friends about you and tell them please say a prayer for Jesse and baby. with all these prayers, your room must be full of angels. God bless.
Keep the FAITH dear Jessie and Allessio❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🌹
Beautiful ❣️
I honestly want to give you the biggest hug Jessi. I've been following your story from the beginning. I have health issues so I've been in and out of the hospital most of my life. I understand how hard being stuck in the hospital can be. My health is finally better that me and my husband are going through ivf. We are going to do our first transfer in April. If your able to try going for a walk. Maybe get a nurse to help? Walks, visits and keeping a journal is what helped me keep my sanity. Your an amazing, strong women. You got this
I have some suggestions that you may be interested in. If you don’t usually take your Synthroid at 5:00 am when you are at home, there is no reason for you to be taking it that early when you are in the hospital, unless you also have to wake up that early for an additional medication. Even if your facility schedules morning medication for 5:00 am, you can still request that they change your medication schedule so that you are receiving your morning medication at a more appropriate hour, such as 8:00 am, on the day shift. You can also request that staff put a sign on your door to not wake you up for breakfast. They can either keep your tray in a unit fridge, which hospitals often have, or if not, you can skip breakfast, and just keep some breakfast items in your room that you can prepare with hot water, which you can request from a healthcare aid at any time. Some examples for easy in-room meals are oatmeal with raisins or other dried fruit, cereal, breakfast bars, fresh fruit, etc. You can also get many different kinds of plant based milks in single serving shelf stable containers that you can keep on hand for cereals and oatmeal. Wishing you an uneventful hospital stay, some restful sleep, a healthy baby, and a peaceful recovery.
So helpful ❤
I had a placenta acreta. I live in France. My doctors leave the acreta “in situ” after delivery. They prefer to do this if the bleeding is controlled and if the goal is to preserve fertility. The goal is for the placenta to become necrotic and shrink without forcibly removing it which can cause the PPH. I returned for ultrasounds biweekly to measure the size and monitor for infection. I was educated on what was an emergency. It was traumatic but within three months, it was completely healed without surgery. I even had a successful pregnancy with no acreta two years later. As a side note, I have had adenomyosis and the acreta was in th same location. I am sorry you are having a difficult pregnancy and hope you will soon (but not too soon) holding your sweet baby boy in your arms.
They should talk to their doctors about this
This is really interesting to hear about. Thank you for the chance to learn and sharing your positive outcome.
@cherylbertolini3140If they are in the States there are certain things they will not do due to litigation risks. If a woman is to die due to infection, the hospital and doctors are libel
Your love for each other is a beautiful thing! I'm visualizing your tiny baby growing big and strong. Stay positive! And rest!
Weather is difficult right now- have Alessio get a wheelchair for you and take you down to the gift shop for a little change of pace. Anything to break up the monotony of the room. I’ve worked in a hospital for 45 years- still working- a break with my colleagues to the gift shop, or sitting in the large entrance room of the hospital was a welcome change! 💕
Oh Jessi, I was crying right with you!!! Of course you’re scared!! And sweet Alessio, being the dotting husband!! You are a great team!!! Prayers continue for peace & the days to fly by!! We need both our little lion & mama safe & healthy!! ❤
Girl… my heart is with you. What you are going through here is the initiation of the journey of surrender in your life. This is what motherhood is. Once you fully grasp that none of this is in your control and it is part of your soul’s journey, you will be able to exhale and a huge weight will be lifted off your chest. It is the breath you didn’t know you so badly needed. I went through the same pregnancy issues as u, including a miscarriage. If you think the birth of the baby itself is when u get to exhale, boy you are in for a ride. The post partum anxiety when u have been through all of of this, is true PTSD out of control and no one prepares u for it. But when you understand that this baby doesn’t belong to you, he is a child of the divine placed under your care, when u understand that it is the divine that gives and takes life, and you fully surrender to this understanding and the journey within, and therefore all you have is daily gratitude to be allowed the gift to be able to care for this child. When u reach this understanding is when youll get to EXHALE. Not when ure healthier, not when the child is born, but when you see this child is lent to you, and he does not belong to you. On a cognitive level this is easier said than done, but if you can embody this at a soul level, all the weight will be lifted off your chest.
And this is how i survived the ptsd of all of this with full gratitude, happiness and detachment. With gratitude every day to be allowed to be in the care and presence of gods child. Additionally, embodying This will be a saving grace to your marriage. The post partum mental issues that come from all of this without surrender can really test not only your marriage, but your own life once the baby is born, as you will have to enter a completely different stage in marriage once bb is here. And without surrender, 😳. ❤❤
Hang in there, this is all worth while. Someday you will look back at the sacrifices that you have made and you will be so glad that you did it.❤
Two things can be true at the same time. You can be sad that this journey isn't what you thought it would be, but also joyful that you got to this point. Every feeling is valid as you navigate this. Day at a time, whatever that looks like for what you need 💜
Perfectly said! 100%. We love you, Jessi, on the good days and the bad days. Honour your feelings, whatever they are.
She’s in a life threatening situation… for her and baby ….its not just a picture she had that isn’t happening …..much more than that
05:47 Jessie is completely disassociating 💔 her face when he say 90 days broke my heart. Stay strong Jessie!! ❤
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As a mom and a grandma, I just want to wrap all three of you in a big hug. It’s ok not to be positive all the time. You two have been through sooooo much and your love and support for each other is amazing. Take comfort in the prayers that surround you daily. We love you all. ❤
Bless you Jessi. Hospital days are so hard. I can't imagine 21 days. I am praying for you and your little family.
I have been watching for a long time and saying prayers - first, for you to be blessed with a child, and now to deliver safely. You are both such beautiful, genuine people. Thank you for sharing your journey through the highs and lows. God bless and keep hanging in there and hanging on to each other!
No need to force yourself to be joyful. Anyone would be struggling and it’s ok to struggle!
Really wishing you all the best. Lots of hugs ❤❤❤
Often in life, we can’t fix the hard and painful stuff - we can only join arms with our loved ones and walk right through the storm. I’m sorry it’s hard. I’m sorry the days feel so long. Be kind and gentle with yourself. You and Alessio are doing the best you know to do. You ARE doing it! You ARE making it through moment by moment. Praying the Lord will speak peace to your mind and spirit. No matter what, He is with you. 💕
My heart goes out to you and I think of you often! You absolutely do not need to stay positive all the time, this is a big and heavy situation. You ARE doing wonderfully though, truly such a warrior (although, its not fair that you always have to be the warrior!). Sending love and prayers for you and baby.
Praying for you all. My wife and I went through IVF to conceive our little boy. At 24 weeks she was admitted to the hospital for preeclampsia. Things seemed to spiral quickly and she ended up in the ICU and it was very close to them having to deliver the baby to save her life. Thank God she stabilized and was moved to antepartum. Our home was 3 hours from the hospital so I remember making countless drives back and forth between working and hospital. I felt exhausted but all I could think about was my wife’s mental and physical wellbeing. No one truly understands how tough those hospital stays are for that long when you feel okay health wise. Our boy was delivered at 30 +4 and spent 84 days in the NICU. It’s truly a miracle with how healthy he is now for everything he had been through. You guys are in good hands and I look forward to seeing you guys getting to leave the hospital as a whole family ❤️
You are so mentally normal , grounded and expressive of your feelings, maybe ask to have a hospital therapist added to your team. This would be good not only for you to vent , but maybe they'd have therapeutic mental health suggestions. They could also perhaps advocate for you to to minimize these legit variables that are making this emotionally harder for you, like the interruptions of sleep, the unnecessary reminders of your condition and all external exacerbations of your anxiety.
Yes!
Great idea
You are amazing and I totally understand all your fears. There are no words left to say, I wish all the best from the bottom of my heart ❤️ and I am so touched every time. ( a mom with 2 healthy children and had a rough road on the way )
God Bless! Keep the Faith! My daughter had an abruption at 18 weeks (catholic hospital said go home and wait for the baby to abort naturally). My daughter put herself on bed rest at my house and each day we would say "sunrise-sunset". We were worried about brain damage, but know that we pray and hope when there is still hope. Our beautiful granddaughter was delivered at 28 weeks with no problems other than being premature. She spent almost 3 months in NICU. She is now 3 and the most active child you want to see. It was all worth it! God bless you all! Keep the faith!
Religious hospitals are the worst
🙏🏻def a miracle
I pray for a healthy outcome for you and your little one every day
So much for the Catholic hospital!
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As a therapist, I think you are doing great, and I know we only see mostly good times and smiles from you, but studies have shown that smiling (even a bit forced) helps increase dopamine. I hope all goes well for you. Keep a positive attitude, and by sharing your story, please know it helps so many others going thru similar challenges.
You are so blessed that the two of you work well as a team. God bless y’all and that little guy that will soon be here
When i was hospitalized while i was pregnant - similar situation, but different. The nurses introduced me to some other moms on the ward who were there for longer periods. It helped a bit.
What a great husband! Jessie is so lucky to have him! Keep smiling Jessie, u got this! Sending u a hug! 🙏🏻❤
I appreciate you sharing the very real struggle of this journey. Our family is praying 🙏 for you.
I had never had a miscarriage and I still checked every time I went to the bathroom.
As someone who lives with chronic illness, and tries my best to stay positive and not dwell on the fact I'll be medicated, need constant monitoring and care for the rest of my life, it is soooo important to talk about the downside, the things that keep you up at night, the stress your feeling, how hard its been, because it helps to release that pressure valve. Positivity is great, but so is being human and realizing some days are so intensely hard, and stressful, and painful, and heart breaking, and sad. Those are extremely valid feelings that should not be minimized for the sake of being positive for everyone else. Take care of your mental health as well and advocate for your peace as you've been doing---like you're absolutely right, can you not ask me every five seconds how I'm doing, I'll tell you. That's a great step and it lets you take some control back of your health and well being. I'm rooting for you! You've got this!
I feel for you. I HATE being hospitalized. Its very easy to get depressed. You have my prayers!!
Jesse believe it or not we are all struggling with you not a day goes by that I don't check RUclips for a new update I really wish I was close by if not to visit to give you a phone call not necessarily to talk about your current situation about all your wonderful travels to Europe, my husband is of Italian descent and we lived in Vienna for 15 years so we visited their frequently I have two children that I struggled and had horrible births with and scary births with. ( ignore the no punctuation I'm using voice text)) lol!
Make sure you're keeping a diary of all the ongoings my mother-in-law kept a diary the first year my husband was born and it's so much fun to read it now that he's 72 years old time flies rigazzi think of all the fun things you're going to do with your baby when he gets here you have an outpouring of love and confidence sent to you stay in touch with us we love it❤❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for being real and sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly with us.
You are a beautiful and strong team, ragazzi!
I wish i could give you a hug. You are a strong woman. You are very brave.
Jessi, you are so strong and resilient! Keep it up beautiful lady! Alessio, you are an amazing supportive husband. Sending lots of prayers and love for all of you. We are all rooting for you guys! ❤🤗🙏💪
The revolving door of people is exhausting. We've experienced this with our daughters complex health. Some hospitals have complex care teams or patient advocates. These people are there to help you manage some of these struggles. I wonder if you could ask them to consolidate some of the interruptions in the name of rest and mental health. At learning hospitals it's common for the entire team to come in at once and say their part/plan for the day. Yes it's coordination on their end, but at this point it's worth it. Thinking and praying for you. This medical momma hears and sees you.
My Mom used to say "this too shall pass". You'll look back when your holding that sweet baby and it will seem like a moment. The joy of the child will override the hard times. Sometimes it's hard to be patient, but joy will come in the morning.
Will continue to pray for you in this difficult situation. You have a lot of people who care, and most of all, God loves you & baby boy & I am believing that He will see both of you through this safely. Blessings.
What an amazing supportive guy Alessio is. Honestly
I had a bad leg break that required 2 hospitals, major surgery with a trauma team, 5 days in the hospital and 20 days in rehab, followed by 3 full months of being in a hospital bed in my living room - non weight bearing followed by 6 months of rehab. Plus, I was in the hospital during Covid, so wasn't able to see my husband till I got sent home. There were hardly any nurses or aides working, and people were crying and calling for loved ones especially at night. I feel your pain. You can do this. Your reward will be a beautiful baby boy. My reward was I got to keep my leg and can walk with a cane and leg brace. I repeat, you can do this. There are moments when you put your face in your hands, and pray to God for help. Then there are moments of happiness to be alive. It's a roller coaster ride and perfectly normal. You got this. Take it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute if needed. I'm praying for you and your family.
You are doing great Jess! Sharing the truth and being as strong as you can for yourself and baby light! I’m standing here beside you guys!
Ohhhh I just want to wrap you in a hug, sweet girl. Praying for you and your tiny babe. 💕
Praying for you all, your so close to the finish line. Your fear is real but you have a wonderful team of doctors, they have done these types of surgeries more then you can count plus so many people are praying for you, you and baby boy will have a smooth delivery 🙏🏻❤️🍼
Allessio is 100% correct. Hes doing everything right He’s making sure his wife is protected. He’ll be fantastic day of delivery as well. Yall are truly soulmates. You’ll be amazing parents 🥹🍼❤️
You are in my thoughts and prayers Jessi! I have been in the hospital twice in the last few years but only for a few days at a time and I was getting stir crazy by the third day so I can only imagine how you feel. I had one nice nurse that realized because I was getting woke up at night and couldn’t sleep I was getting headaches and she actually let me sleep through the night on her shift and made a world of difference. I am so glad that they are at least leaving you alone sometime during the night. Prayers continue for both of you and that little bundle of joy that will be here before we know it.
❤You can do this - we love your family! 😊 I spent 5 & 7 months living in the hospital to get 2 of my daughters, who made it to 37 & 38 weeks. I had my cervix sown shut, had to lay in bed tilted so my head felt like it was hitting the headboard all the time, an hour from relatives (so no visitors other than my husband), no shower/hair washing, was told to keep a positive mood and got to know staff by name. I lost my job, friends, basically just became an incubator. When you finally get that baby in your arms the sun will shine again so keep remembering there’s a HUGE prize at the end of this time in your life. My babies are in their 20’s & I’m so grateful for them everyday!! Pretend you have a fancy hotel room with room service, play mental games from reality to keep you mentally strong. Need to chat - hop online - we’re here for you!!!! ❤❤
It's OK to be sad, and grieve the pregnancy journey you'd thought you'd have, while also being thankful and hopeful for what is to come, a healthy baby and mom! You're living in the "&" right now of some big, opposite emotions and that is definitely a hard season. Praying for you and baby and am reminded of Roman's 12:12 "Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, and faithful in prayer."
Yep - one of the things I say all the time is, "Two things can be true at once." Two or even more than two. It's "Both... AND..." A person can be both grateful for something they acknowledge is a blessing and also sad that something isn't as it "should" be or as they imagined it would be. People often don't realize you don't have to choose, it's not either/or, it's both/and.
I hope things are ok.It's been 4 or do days since they put up a video.
Prayers! My only suggestion is Bose QuietComfort headphones. You can set them so you can hear what is going on around you or so you can not hear anything except to whatever device you pair them. Hospitals are noisy day and night. My main reason for buying them was to be able to sleep during the day since I work night shift. Next medical visit they will definitely be going with me.
Great for car rides, airports, and airplanes… Just used mine yesterday, my husband loves his too!
How can one watch the both of you and not cry with you both, your combined love, strength, commitment, joy and integrity just comes through to everyone....continuing on with prayers for all of you!!!!
Sending you some strength and hugs - you got this! You have proven to me you are so strong already with the hurdles you have overcome. You’re amazing and don’t forget it! ❤❤❤
I understand how scared you are. I had full placenta previa and placenta accreta 15 years ago. I was on bedrest in the hospital from week 28 to week 32 when my son decided to come. I had to have a hysterectomy in order to save my life. The good part is that there are very well qualified doctors and nurses around you that know what to do in the event of an emergency. They plan for emergencies. Now I hope you don’t have one. But you are right down the hall from the OR. Don’t be afraid to ask for a therapist to come to your room to talk with you. I got really depressed while I was in the hospital and I never told anyone. That was my biggest regret. I was afraid so I didn’t tell anyone. Please don’t keep it a secret. They have resources at the hospital to help you. Seek those resources out. I’m praying for you every day that things go smoothly. I know how you feel because I was in your exact situation. Do your best to distract yourself with TV or crochet or whatever you like. If you ever want to chat I am always available. That may seem strange coming from a complete stranger but I have been in your situation before and I know how scary it is and how isolated one can feel. This is not forever. My son who was born at 32 weeks is now 15 and is as smart as a whip! He wants to be a pilot and is starting pilot lessons! He was just 4 pounds when he was born and spent a month in the NICU. I wish you all the best. Sending you love!❤️❤️❤️
Twin mom of girls born at 33 weeks in two days; baby a 4 lbs. 9 oz. baby B 2 pounds 10 oz.; now both juniors in college.
Ok to be depressed,like a prison,like torture,but it is your chance ..think of it as a prepaid Journey, in the end the joy is waiting.. saluti a Micia e tanti auguri ❤❤❤❤
After wanting this baby for so long, don't spoil the wonderful. experience you are blessed, and also have the most loving husband possible. Think of the joy that is to come...this stage will soon pass, try to think of lovely things, and help your man, because he worries about you and baby. It's natural to get a little 'down', but you have everything to hope for.🎉❤
I journaled my way thru 12 weeks in the hospital
No words just vibes. Sending them to you.
You are doing a great job! The toughest job on the planet is growing a baby, and under the additional circumstances, you are amazing. And it’s okay to be sad, you are human. We are all rooting for you!! And god bless Alessio!
I'm sitting here watching you crying my eyes out for what you're going through.i love you both and have you in my prayers everyday.keep your sunny out look though hard as it is.
Thank you for your truth and being vulnerable. One day at a time.
Absolutely normal to feeling the way you are! As soon as I saw your video title, I got it. You're a superstar!
I'm rooting for you, the saying "The days are long, the years are short" with kids is true. Prayers .
Lean into your feels. No one should be judging you. Sending hugs.
I’m so thankful that Alessio has been such a great advocate. Do you have a therapist as well? I feel like that could be incredibly beneficial, especially someone who is familiar with medical trauma.
I am so glad you did this post. It’s important to be clear for the staff looking after you. You do need to set limits as you can - I’m proud of the both of you for doing that!
Hospitals are hard. Thank you for sharing. The good and the difficult.
I was only there barely over a week on bedrest until my baby decided to arrive. The antepartum stay was harder than everything else, for me personally. My mental health tanked because at first, I could have a loved one wheel me around the halls and outside. Then, my blood pressure kept creeping up (preeclampsia), so they said no more walks - stay in your bed. It was awful. All I had was my phone, and I was alone with my anxious thoughts about baby and me staying safe. One of my ultrasounds went badly (they delivered scary news) while my husband couldn’t be there with me (it was during his work hours and he was saving time off for delivery), and I just fell apart. From then on, luckily my husband came up there for every ultrasound after until my daughter was born. They came to do a mental evaluation on me right before I went home after baby was born, and the lady taking notes checked some stuff and goes “Oh, you were on bedrest for a week - of COURSE you are going to be depressed!” It was one of the hardest times ever for sure!
Dear Jessie I really feel for you. It’s not an easy task but it’s so important to be there for your safety and the baby’s safety. I cannot imagine how hard it must be, but I know that when you’re going through this very stressful experiences you need all the help to come back up for air, to be able to do your best for the rest of the pregnancy until baby Leone is ready to have a very healthy life in this world. The work that you are doing right now is invaluable and the impact it will have in his life is immense. I would recommend to get some therapy to work on all these things that are stealing away your peace. You don’t need to keep carrying that burden above all the rest of things that are challenging. I know you may have talks with Alessio and your family and friends but sometimes having deep talks with someone who is specialized and is outside of the emotional situation is very helpful. I wish you find the best solution for you and that every day you feel a little better. And that you get blessed with health for you and the baby until it is optimal for both of you to meet outside your womb. You are very strong and how you feel is totally normal. Maybe if there is some you wanted to study but you didn’t have the time, it could be a good idea to get your mind busy with something else. I really hope the right solution shows up. Sending you all the positivity and good vibes, you got this. 🫶❤️🌟🌟🌟
Sending you ❤ during these trying times. Hang in there and know that there are so many of us out here thinking of you.
Awww, Jessi. Sweet girl... I'm so proud of you. It's scary and hard but you are doing it all for your little man. You absolutely have the right to be afraid, and nervous, and to feel those real fears. I know you always try to be upbeat and positive, but you don't have to always put on a happy face for us. We love you regardless. ❤
I feel this so much. We were 98 days in hospital with our 24 weeker. The days felt like weeks and weeks like months. Constant interruption, no privacy. But all is well for us on the other side of it. Take care of each other ❤️
Praying for you, your son, and Alessio. It’s ok to feel the bad things too. You are special and your generosity in sharing your story is something that will help so many scared and hopeful mamas just like you. You owe your followers nothing and yet you give so much so selflessly. Your son is blessed beyond measure to have such a warm, generous, selfless mother. Hang in there and let that sweet husband keep advocating and caring for you. May God continue to bless you and carry you through this storm. Thank you for being you.
Bless your heart! While I cannot imagine your particular circumstance, I was in the hospital for a few weeks prior to giving birth to my oldest daughter. She was born at 26 weeks gestation (to the day!) She is now 21 years old. I remember how exhausted I was being in the hospital. I had strict guidelines to follow as well. For example, the doctors did not want me to walk because they did not want me to put any kind of stress on my baby. (I wasn't allowed to walk for weeks!) Sometimes I was allowed to get into a wheelchair, and my husband would push me around the hospital campus. It was summer, and it was so beautiful outside. So, those days were a real treat! Even so, I struggled because that was not how my pregnancy was supposed to be. I wasn't supposed to be a pregnant woman living in a hospital room 24/7. It was hard.....but it was also very necessary because I lived too far away from the hospital in case of an emergency. So, in some ways I understand exactly how you feel, even though my stay was not as long as yours. All I can offer is this........these days will not last forever. One day, in just a couple of months, you are going to welcome your sweet baby boy into the world. You will take him home where you will love him and watch him grow into a strong, capable young man. And these current days? They will become distant memories......but they will also help you realize and understand your own tenacious strength, and the immense love and dedication you gave in order to give your son every chance of having a beautiful life. You are doing great, mama! Even on those days when you can't see it or feel it..... You are amazing! I am continuing to pray for you. Hang in there! It's going to be just fine!
We have the same fears. We don't want to loose any of you