Best advice: listen to what a women tells you as a "joke" or what she says when she's angry. Those are her true negative feelings about you. Even if she retracts later, she still feels that way.
The lesson to be learned here is twofold. Firstly, don't be a doormat. OP allowed Bella to make her "temporary" move in permanent. Have some self respect and put boundaries in place. Secondly, understand what marriage is; a legally binding contract with ramifications for debt, inheritance , assets and property. If you're being rushed into marriage as the primary breadwinner, you need to think long and hard about why that is and what that could mean for your future.
Also whenever you get married,do a prenup. Especially when you're getting rushed into a marriage,this is great to ward off things in the divorce and it really shows if the person you're getting married their true colors.
The doormat thing is true. The more beutiful a woman is, the more simps she gets. More simps = easier life. But deep inside her is a desire for her to be with a man who would actually fight back if she violates his boundaries. Her simps look pathetic to her coz they don't fight back. Life is too easy for her. Easy life = boring life. And women don't like a boring life. When a man fights back, it causes drama in the relationship. Drama in life = interesting life. Also, when a man fights back, the woman is more likely to think that she got with a worthwhile man, and not with a weak pushover. Weak men have no choice but to be simps(in women's eyes) Weak men = defective men(in women's eyes)
@@aparnarai3708 yeah. Married men tend get comfortable and complacent after marriage. Husbands start thinking that they need to chill out now and take it easy. Over time, this makes marriage less 'exciting' for women. They want the thrill, and they don't get it from theur husbands because husbands do not fight back much anymore. The divorce laws are also a reason why husbands don't fight back much even if they want to... All of this makes husbands look weak/defective in the eyes of their wives so the wives tend to start fooling around with other men to get the thrill they're looking for.
I don't get why OP got flak. She used him for money, so he used her for money in return. He basically took back what she took from him. It is completely fair.
I always find it funny that someone can do something to you that is "Crazy", but if you do something as equally crazy you are in the wrong. Revenge isn't revenge if you don't bring the same amount of heat...
@@hwaryun7042It was not crazy. He helped someone with their career. They should have done that to begin with. But, Bella is envious that didn't want anybody else to make it.
@@hwaryun7042agreed, once a Guy on Reddit made a similar story about cheating and people in the comment complained that he went too far but he replied that of the gender were reversed everyone would have supported the woman
Well at least OP grew a backbone in the end. I also hope that he knew this relationship moved so fast that it broke the sound barrier. Be single, go to therapy, evaluate what you want in a partner, and work on yourself. Glad you got rid of that parasite my man
Honestly, stooping down to someone else's level is generally not the greatest idea. But, one, they had it coming. And two, while it's not the best idea, it's the one that's most fun. Revenge is sweet.
Bruh, the weaseling and manipulation is SOOO OBVIOUS. "Let me move in for a little while pls" proceeds to move in permanently. "I want to get married ASAP pls" proceeds to shittalk behind his back about securing the bag from a loser. "You were too lenient with me but now I like you more" to entice him to get back with her and prove himself.
(Now) EX Girlfriend is only interested in OPs money to fund her modeling career. Girlfriend says horrible things about Op behind OPs back. OP finds out. OP uses EX Girlfriend's contacts to help his cousin's modeling career. OP gets paid handsomly for the help. OP breaks up with EX Girlfriend and reveals everything. EX Girlfriend gets hysterical. EX Girlfriend tries to get OP back through manipulation, blackmail, and gaslighting, all while still insulting OP behind his back. OP and EX Girlfriend have one final fight and never speak again.
I can see where it's a revenge. One can argue that because he let his cousin in the loop, that could've cost his ex a job. I can see it being a huge deal in a field like modeling. The ex probably knew the cousin was better, prettier, and just more financially stable. Hence, she didn't want to help her out. Modeling is a niche job. It's like paper money to gold. It's only given a value. A restaurant dishwasher or the garbage man are way more important jobs. There's plenty of pretty people out there and not enough spots.
Really can't comprehend how what OP did was wrong. I actually thing the main thing he did wrong was wait for a motive to help out his cousin. Ex fiance literally refused help for a struggling young model just because she "MIGHT" be competition for her later. Honestly that was your first red flag mate.
So let me get this straight…OP got richer because he invested in his cousin after his shitty girlfriend pissed him off? How is he wrong for that? She sounds like a bad model if she has the same contacts he gave to his cousin and she (Ex) still hasn’t been signed
Question: how did OP's cousin get a great contract with an agency with OP's gf's contacts in a few months, but the gf is still not working and needs a sugar daddy? They were the gf's contacts originally.
Something people need to understand about long term relationships as we enter adulthood is that you can’t afford to keep having a teenage ego around anymore. We all made crude jokes at other people’s expense when we were more immature, but at some point, that needs to stop. Defending your partner’s dignity is crucial to a healthy long term relationship. These relationships are built on a foundation of vulnerability. There’s no recovering or rebuilding that foundation once it’s damaged, either by action or inaction.
12:37 Honestly women want what they can’t have. The moment he grew some balls & stood up to her, she was turned on. Ya women like nice guys but they also like/want guys who can be dominant when the time is called for it. I absolutely love it when my husband will set his foot down. He’s an amazing husband & the best dad to our kids, so kind, caring & generous with us but when he says “IFGAF, I said….” Ooohhh I love it! He’s the BEST family man, we ALL absolutely love him to death but he has his asshole side & I love that side just as much lol as long as he’s not being an ass to us 😂
Am I the only one that thinks what he did wasn’t “crazy” or “short of psychotic” 🤣 he literally did nothing wrong , he was helping out his cousin with opportunities he happen to pay attention and get contact info for
And it won't be the last. She will rope in some other financially secure average-looking dude who will be over the moon to land a super hot girlfriend and will ignore all the red flags because he knows she's superficially out of his league. Eventually one of those poor guys will marry her and she will take half his shit in the inevitable divorce. Unfortunately for her her looks will fade over time and within a few handful years she will be an empty, vapid shell without a career, money or education, and men will only use her for one night stands.
I can't understand people sometimes, she was so selfish, greedy, and expected it to not come back to bite her. And he was a fool for a little too long, but love is "blind", and he's a lil cruel. (Also, first)
reminds me a gal I knew.. Some gals lie a lot, why gals gossip abt their best friends too..u fake😅 felt bad for the best friend who's she talking about..
“She’d have to send me half of whatever she made through any gig I help her get” that is a fucking HUGE commission to take from anyone let alone a cousin
I'm just thinking, the girl must be crazy hot. She's moved in after a couple of months and get him to pay for everything. LOL. Geez. ETA: Although I doubt Ex truly wants OP back. Unless she's that desperate for $$.
Well, it's insider trading, so the "fee" can be pretty high. Also his ex is right about one thing: modelling industry is very cutthroat and model retention time is very limited.
on the point of her claiming she was more attractive after he did all that to her, i wouldn't be surprised if that was true, the amount of incredibly attractive women that go after unattractive felons is insane.
Story 1: NTA. Is the OP so self hating that he would actually think he was in the wrong to get back at Bella. And how could he even entertain the notion of taking her in and apologizing to her!?
Insane reddit thought he was crazy. Honestly feels like this was fake. They love these kinds of stories typically. Also the misogyny in the comment section here is concerning
Anyone who supports that c you next Tuesday and says you Went to far before the update are people who are just like her and feel it’s okay to use people for money. It’s gross and disgusting. Edit: People who say you went to far for helping your cousin. You didn’t. If they wanted your ex they would have picked her and not your cousin. She ruined herself with her awful personality. You did nothing wrong at all.
She was right though. OP had no backbone. Was weak and a pushover. The next girl will treat him the same way unless he sets some boundaries. Grows a backbone and gets more self esteem.
She was right in the cafe, when she said she would respect and be attracted to him if he hadn’t spoiled her, treated her like a princess with no obligations to help around in their apartment or in other ways. He basically worshipped her and became lesser in her view. That’s what happens when you put someone on a pedestal. He even proposed to her in just 7 months because she asked, this guy had no backbone, was extremely gullible, and stupid.
Woman: asks for marriage Man: oh yeah might be an idea *proposes* Observers: Why would you do what she asks ???? like what is that logic Lotsa people propose quickly and end up married for lots of years. This woman is just a manipulative narcissist, that's the end of the story
You're right, he should treat her like shit and not listen to a word she says so she can know how much of a backbone he has and be attracted to him On a serious note, she is not a child who can be spoiled. She chose to manipulate and use him to her advantage. If he was nice to her, she should've returned the favour instead of using him and then saying "he has no backbone" or "he spoiled her".
First half checks out. Second half sounds like BS to justify op's reaction since the comments were not on his side. Suddenly her friends feel bad about bad mouthing you? Oh, your crazy hot model Ex-gf is literally begging to get back with you? How interesting that you come out of this smelling like roses. Sounds to me like OP was insecure about his looks, and took a joke WAY too personally. Nice guy vibes, confirmed.
@@knightawzSure. It was a joke. I had to rewatch, but here are some things to point out. He doesn't know if she defended him or not. He left after she made her joke, which *was* funny, btw. He has no idea what was said after that. Neither do you. The very moment he felt slighted, even a little, he nuked the entire relationship. He went from "oh man, my gf is really pretty I want to marry her" to "Fuck that bitch I'm going to use her, damage her career, etc" He also glossed over the fact that he was probably still fucking her. So we can add "use her for sex" onto that list. He didn't talk to her, set boundaries, tell her it made him uncomfortable. Nothing. He's an insecure pussy who lashed out like a fucking child. Classic nice guy. From the update it sounds like the guy got shredded in the comments. He's the asshole. Everything in the update is suspect and reeks of an insecure pussy who can't handle being wrong, and doesn't want everyone to know he fucking torpedoed a fantastic relationship, with a stunning girl (Something he values highly) over a fucking joke. Any other obvious things you need me to explain?
The fact that Reddit thought he was outta line is wild.
Between the white knights and the radical feminists, Reddit will fall over itself to defend any woman, no matter how toxic.
r/relationship is full of female redditors. They tend to treat male relationship revenge as something bad
Reddit literally thinks women can do no wrong unless they're completely undefendable.
Reddit is full of pathetic, weak men that roll over for women like a carpet.
It’s because he’s a man
Best advice: listen to what a women tells you as a "joke" or what she says when she's angry. Those are her true negative feelings about you. Even if she retracts later, she still feels that way.
The lesson to be learned here is twofold. Firstly, don't be a doormat. OP allowed Bella to make her "temporary" move in permanent. Have some self respect and put boundaries in place. Secondly, understand what marriage is; a legally binding contract with ramifications for debt, inheritance , assets and property. If you're being rushed into marriage as the primary breadwinner, you need to think long and hard about why that is and what that could mean for your future.
agree you need years in order to get engaged, and even then you must think hard about getting marriend nowadays.
Also whenever you get married,do a prenup.
Especially when you're getting rushed into a marriage,this is great to ward off things in the divorce and it really shows if the person you're getting married their true colors.
The doormat thing is true. The more beutiful a woman is, the more simps she gets. More simps = easier life.
But deep inside her is a desire for her to be with a man who would actually fight back if she violates his boundaries.
Her simps look pathetic to her coz they don't fight back. Life is too easy for her. Easy life = boring life.
And women don't like a boring life. When a man fights back, it causes drama in the relationship. Drama in life = interesting life.
Also, when a man fights back, the woman is more likely to think that she got with a worthwhile man, and not with a weak pushover. Weak men have no choice but to be simps(in women's eyes)
Weak men = defective men(in women's eyes)
@@keheheheclipzmakes sense as to why wives cheat when they are already living a comfortable life
@@aparnarai3708 yeah. Married men tend get comfortable and complacent after marriage. Husbands start thinking that they need to chill out now and take it easy.
Over time, this makes marriage less 'exciting' for women. They want the thrill, and they don't get it from theur husbands because husbands do not fight back much anymore.
The divorce laws are also a reason why husbands don't fight back much even if they want to...
All of this makes husbands look weak/defective in the eyes of their wives so the wives tend to start fooling around with other men to get the thrill they're looking for.
I don't get why OP got flak. She used him for money, so he used her for money in return. He basically took back what she took from him. It is completely fair.
Because women are pitiful creatures who don't know any better..... apparently?
Feminist redditors😂😂😂
My guess is that the ones who gave him flak are just as vapid as Bella, and that they might have done something similar to what she did.
Welcome to the AITA sub. Reverse the genders and the morons over there would be shouting "girl power" at the top of their lungs.
Toxic femininity.
I always find it funny that someone can do something to you that is "Crazy", but if you do something as equally crazy you are in the wrong. Revenge isn't revenge if you don't bring the same amount of heat...
Exactly, play stupid games and win stupid prizes.
If it was a women who did what OP did then everyone would be "YAAAS QUEEN"ing
@@hwaryun7042It was not crazy. He helped someone with their career. They should have done that to begin with. But, Bella is envious that didn't want anybody else to make it.
@@hwaryun7042agreed, once a Guy on Reddit made a similar story about cheating and people in the comment complained that he went too far but he replied that of the gender were reversed everyone would have supported the woman
Bro what is this comment, what she did is much worse. Make your bed and lay in it.
Well at least OP grew a backbone in the end. I also hope that he knew this relationship moved so fast that it broke the sound barrier. Be single, go to therapy, evaluate what you want in a partner, and work on yourself. Glad you got rid of that parasite my man
Honestly, stooping down to someone else's level is generally not the greatest idea. But, one, they had it coming. And two, while it's not the best idea, it's the one that's most fun. Revenge is sweet.
He didnt even stopp to her level.
@@thousandyardgavri2785 I meant in general, my dude. But he did use her in the same way she was using him so it's kind of getting down on her level.
Bruh, the weaseling and manipulation is SOOO OBVIOUS.
"Let me move in for a little while pls" proceeds to move in permanently.
"I want to get married ASAP pls" proceeds to shittalk behind his back about securing the bag from a loser.
"You were too lenient with me but now I like you more" to entice him to get back with her and prove himself.
Her saying she is more attracted to him now that he deceived and dumped her is the true truth. This how twisted most women's minds are.
I think I prefer to watch a bakery show happening in the back than getting motion sickness just trying to follow what the story is about.
(Now) EX Girlfriend is only interested in OPs money to fund her modeling career.
Girlfriend says horrible things about Op behind OPs back.
OP finds out.
OP uses EX Girlfriend's contacts to help his cousin's modeling career. OP gets paid handsomly for the help.
OP breaks up with EX Girlfriend and reveals everything.
EX Girlfriend gets hysterical.
EX Girlfriend tries to get OP back through manipulation, blackmail, and gaslighting, all while still insulting OP behind his back.
OP and EX Girlfriend have one final fight and never speak again.
Imagine needing to see your bf be a dick to be attracted to him
Justified
100%
I can see where it's a revenge. One can argue that because he let his cousin in the loop, that could've cost his ex a job. I can see it being a huge deal in a field like modeling. The ex probably knew the cousin was better, prettier, and just more financially stable. Hence, she didn't want to help her out. Modeling is a niche job. It's like paper money to gold. It's only given a value. A restaurant dishwasher or the garbage man are way more important jobs. There's plenty of pretty people out there and not enough spots.
Really can't comprehend how what OP did was wrong. I actually thing the main thing he did wrong was wait for a motive to help out his cousin. Ex fiance literally refused help for a struggling young model just because she "MIGHT" be competition for her later. Honestly that was your first red flag mate.
He didn't go far enough honestly.
Do you know a guy being rich is like a woman being pretty ~ Marylin Monroe
No, it's not the same.
Can women have 'genuine' attraction because of the wealth of the guy?
No, so it's not the same.
@@ij4674tell that to Jeff Bezos new girlfriend
Oh.... OP's ex is that kind girl lol .. toxic girl lol
I would never let my friends talk bad about about my SO, let alone participate.
today, narcissistic women need to be avoided at all cost
Idk man god doesnt believe in revenge he shouldve just dumped her but hey altleast he helped a family member so not as bad
So let me get this straight…OP got richer because he invested in his cousin after his shitty girlfriend pissed him off?
How is he wrong for that?
She sounds like a bad model if she has the same contacts he gave to his cousin and she (Ex) still hasn’t been signed
Love doesn’t tear down, love builds up.
well, love definitely built up his cousin's modeling career :D
OP had every reason to do what he did. She was using him so he used her, end of story.
The girlfriend went red pill
I'm not sure I get what OP did wrong here, man literally just did some basic networking and amateur agent work.
Dodged a narcissis
Question: how did OP's cousin get a great contract with an agency with OP's gf's contacts in a few months, but the gf is still not working and needs a sugar daddy? They were the gf's contacts originally.
Something people need to understand about long term relationships as we enter adulthood is that you can’t afford to keep having a teenage ego around anymore. We all made crude jokes at other people’s expense when we were more immature, but at some point, that needs to stop. Defending your partner’s dignity is crucial to a healthy long term relationship. These relationships are built on a foundation of vulnerability. There’s no recovering or rebuilding that foundation once it’s damaged, either by action or inaction.
Why is she mad? The father is/was right
already engaged after less than one year of relationship .......
12:37 Honestly women want what they can’t have. The moment he grew some balls & stood up to her, she was turned on. Ya women like nice guys but they also like/want guys who can be dominant when the time is called for it. I absolutely love it when my husband will set his foot down. He’s an amazing husband & the best dad to our kids, so kind, caring & generous with us but when he says “IFGAF, I said….” Ooohhh I love it! He’s the BEST family man, we ALL absolutely love him to death but he has his asshole side & I love that side just as much lol as long as he’s not being an ass to us 😂
She was just a leech, cut off anyone who didn't take your side in this.
From simp to pimp
Do not put woman on pedestal she is not better than u. And 25 is a bit old to start modeling
Fabricated stories or bad wording skills? How did months go by if this facade and he refers to the joke behind his back as “the other day” nah dude
Men ☕
Women☕️
Why does youtube keep recommending me this obvuiously fake and gay stories that arent even funny or interesting?
bella def deserved it, she clearly using him just for ez money
Am I the only one that thinks what he did wasn’t “crazy” or “short of psychotic” 🤣 he literally did nothing wrong , he was helping out his cousin with opportunities he happen to pay attention and get contact info for
That just means he was this innocent..
i think you yourself are crazy or psychotic
He shouldn’t have charged his cousin such a high commission
But he didn't? She was sending him a lot money just because she wanted it @@erichooper2794
The girlfriend should've known better. If she loves you, she wouldn't dare take advatange of you, your finances, the people you're close to, etc.
bro the vid hasnt been out for a minute
And wouldn’t dare allow her friends to talk about you in such a way or join in with them. Smh
This is not the first time she’s done this guaranteed
And it won't be the last. She will rope in some other financially secure average-looking dude who will be over the moon to land a super hot girlfriend and will ignore all the red flags because he knows she's superficially out of his league. Eventually one of those poor guys will marry her and she will take half his shit in the inevitable divorce.
Unfortunately for her her looks will fade over time and within a few handful years she will be an empty, vapid shell without a career, money or education, and men will only use her for one night stands.
True
I can't understand people sometimes, she was so selfish, greedy, and expected it to not come back to bite her. And he was a fool for a little too long, but love is "blind", and he's a lil cruel. (Also, first)
I actually chuckled at the part where they talked at the café. That shit's so crazy to hear
"Nothing short of psychotic" bro did the most mild act of 'revenge' and thinks he's some big brain cold blooded mastermind
Bro really grew a pair of balls. Good job OP
reminds me a gal I knew..
Some gals lie a lot, why gals gossip abt their best friends too..u fake😅 felt bad for the best friend who's she talking about..
“She’d have to send me half of whatever she made through any gig I help her get” that is a fucking HUGE commission to take from anyone let alone a cousin
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@@SoraDonaldGoofy99
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Therapy... Why everyone needs a therapy? Why are all people so mentally weak in these stories?
I'm just thinking, the girl must be crazy hot. She's moved in after a couple of months and get him to pay for everything. LOL. Geez. ETA: Although I doubt Ex truly wants OP back. Unless she's that desperate for $$.
Glad OP dodged the bullet fr fr
She used you, so you used her back. Simple as that. NTA.
Leave it to reddit to blame the guy
But he wanted half his cousins gig money
Well, it's insider trading, so the "fee" can be pretty high. Also his ex is right about one thing: modelling industry is very cutthroat and model retention time is very limited.
on the point of her claiming she was more attractive after he did all that to her, i wouldn't be surprised if that was true, the amount of incredibly attractive women that go after unattractive felons is insane.
God, I love revenge.
Thank you for posting single stories.
Wow after 16 years of marrying my wife she still calling me sugar daddy
Story 1: NTA. Is the OP so self hating that he would actually think he was in the wrong to get back at Bella. And how could he even entertain the notion of taking her in and apologizing to her!?
Lol karma 🤣🤣🤣
My parents got married after 2 months and there still married 14 years later
shouldn't have revealed how much money he profited off her
Insane reddit thought he was crazy. Honestly feels like this was fake. They love these kinds of stories typically. Also the misogyny in the comment section here is concerning
Anyone who supports that c you next Tuesday and says you Went to far before the update are people who are just like her and feel it’s okay to use people for money. It’s gross and disgusting.
Edit: People who say you went to far for helping your cousin. You didn’t. If they wanted your ex they would have picked her and not your cousin. She ruined herself with her awful personality. You did nothing wrong at all.
She was right though. OP had no backbone. Was weak and a pushover. The next girl will treat him the same way unless he sets some boundaries. Grows a backbone and gets more self esteem.
Just one simple reply "who's this?" 🤣
Her little joke the other day? After months? Wrong wording? Lol
"Couldn't imagine a life with him" yeah, cause he paid for literally everything
" I like you more now because you stood for yourself"
Lol whut?? Like b tch you think everything is about U?
*Deranged idiot*
The ex and the people that had a problem with OP. But kudos to her friend that exposed her.
Bro really tried to chase the cart down
what he did wasn't even that bad 😂😂😂
Sounds fake man
He dreaming?
Her @
She was right in the cafe, when she said she would respect and be attracted to him if he hadn’t spoiled her, treated her like a princess with no obligations to help around in their apartment or in other ways. He basically worshipped her and became lesser in her view. That’s what happens when you put someone on a pedestal. He even proposed to her in just 7 months because she asked, this guy had no backbone, was extremely gullible, and stupid.
Woman: asks for marriage
Man: oh yeah might be an idea *proposes*
Observers: Why would you do what she asks
???? like what is that logic Lotsa people propose quickly and end up married for lots of years. This woman is just a manipulative narcissist, that's the end of the story
so instead he should have been more cold, got it
You're right, he should treat her like shit and not listen to a word she says so she can know how much of a backbone he has and be attracted to him
On a serious note, she is not a child who can be spoiled. She chose to manipulate and use him to her advantage. If he was nice to her, she should've returned the favour instead of using him and then saying "he has no backbone" or "he spoiled her".
lol keep dreaming
Bella doesn't deserve your love, or guilt. Don't take her back since she's a narcissistic gold digger.
Poor OP, even after all that he is still so naive that he believes she won't find a new simp just around the corner 😂
Does this kind of channel get monetized on RUclips?
yes.
After the sugar daddy comment, he should have walked in the kitchen, whipped it out, and said, If I'm your sugar daddy, then I'd like a taste now.
Based asf
This op is TA but I understand. Sometimes people just do asshole things. Being petty and an asshole is okay if used seldomly.
he's based, not an ahole
First half checks out. Second half sounds like BS to justify op's reaction since the comments were not on his side.
Suddenly her friends feel bad about bad mouthing you? Oh, your crazy hot model Ex-gf is literally begging to get back with you?
How interesting that you come out of this smelling like roses.
Sounds to me like OP was insecure about his looks, and took a joke WAY too personally.
Nice guy vibes, confirmed.
so tell me why did bella not defend her bf if it was just a joke?
@@knightawzSure.
It was a joke.
I had to rewatch, but here are some things to point out.
He doesn't know if she defended him or not. He left after she made her joke, which *was* funny, btw. He has no idea what was said after that. Neither do you.
The very moment he felt slighted, even a little, he nuked the entire relationship. He went from "oh man, my gf is really pretty I want to marry her" to "Fuck that bitch I'm going to use her, damage her career, etc" He also glossed over the fact that he was probably still fucking her. So we can add "use her for sex" onto that list.
He didn't talk to her, set boundaries, tell her it made him uncomfortable. Nothing. He's an insecure pussy who lashed out like a fucking child. Classic nice guy.
From the update it sounds like the guy got shredded in the comments. He's the asshole. Everything in the update is suspect and reeks of an insecure pussy who can't handle being wrong, and doesn't want everyone to know he fucking torpedoed a fantastic relationship, with a stunning girl (Something he values highly) over a fucking joke.
Any other obvious things you need me to explain?