To the first question: I think his wife might be depressed and need healing. If she does not want to do anything including washing dishes, that is an indication of something deeper.
Men are clueless. She's bored with the domesticated lifestyle and probably her marriage in general. He wants her to wash dishes but she wants to be rinsed and spunned like a dishwasher if you know what I mean 😉
Yes Melissa!!! When you sit down with a professional, you will learn that anger is a secondary emotion. We can assist with identifying that primary emotion. 🤓🙌✊🏾🖤
The first question I think he was try to say he would liked for his wife to enjoy doing things he enjoys. Even if it’s not something she wants to do just go places do things he’s interested in supporting him even if she doesn’t like to.
Ok this first guy with a question need to sit down and gather his thoughts........I agree with the love language “acts of service”, that’s my language but my hubby still doesn’t get that., this can really cause problems, whew!
You need to do things your partner likes to do and also your partner do activities that you like to do, equally. It’s a partnership, you extend the interest in eachothers activities, willingly. Or you sound look at your true feeling for your partner, if you don’t want to willingly please them.
I like the fact that they are giving it a shot (the producers of the show) because, with our experience in this country, Black love is a revolutionary act.
1st question, the way he said "ladies" gave me the hebegeebees. He sounds like he still out in those streets. It also sounds like his wife is going through something. Possibly depression.
I love the "wheel of emotions" that Melissa was talking about. It unveils the layers of our emotions and lile she said, there are easily identifiable emotions like sadness, anger, joy but the wheel further breaks down the layers to anger, sadness joy and so on. 🙌🏽
When they were talking about feelings and not knowing what they are, I personally struggled before with that. I noticed that through my spiritual journey of becoming more self-aware, I can now not only recognize what I am feeling, but I can also tell you exactly why I am feeling it, and where in my life I picked it up the trigger. I am in a relationship currently with someone who is also self-aware and it's quite new, but often times we have these conversations about certain things that trigger us both, and we talk about where they came from in our lives. These types of discussions have not only helped us understand each other better but even ourselves as individuals. Things he says helps me to put the trigger into proper perspective and see it for what it truly is, a defense mechanism that isn't going to help me be a better person or help the relationship flourish. And then I will sit in my alone time and ponder about how I can improve upon my behavior. So hearing them talk about that to me was key, and truly needs to be discussed more in the black community especially. Awesome video.
There is a certain level of maturity that has to exist for a couple to communicate on these levels demonstrated and one person cannot be the only one dedicated to growing the healthy communication skills for a great relationship to work. I find that I tend to be an over communicator and tend to be attracted to men who are reclusive and maybe even emotionally unavailable.
Why don't the Hostess allow her mate to speak, he was making a good point and she just interrupted. As a woman I want to hear a man perspective on these topics.
Yaaassssss!!! I love you guys! Ya'll are teaching me exactly how to have healthy conversations with my partner 😊❤ We've never communicated so effectively before. Thank you so much!
@@rosej5029 Hmm, in my retired professional field(s), it's imperative to address what's necessary or it will deal w/one later. I'm a supporter of counseling, HealthyIs Better. Get yrslf 2gthr b4 U try 2 come 4 me!😷😅 I've hlpd several, & know what I'm talking about‼️Myb, seek 4 yrslf, HealthyIsBetter.🧡#Negativity👉🚪👉🏽🚪
The 1st question was how to get his wife to feel inner motivation and enthusiasm and joy. Btw: Melissa is clinging to the corner of that couch like she wants to crawl into it.
I think the first question what he was tryin to say is how do I get my wife to go do things? I can relate cus my husband would want me to go out with my friends cus he would go hang with his friends n felt bad cus I’m n the house alone sometimes n bed just chilling honestly I liked it cus I’m a homebody but he would feel better if he know I’m out having fun too. But when I listen and end up goin out hanging with my girls he got Jealous and said I’m having too much fun🤣 but if u don’t want to do dishes nah something deeper going on.
I didn’t want to say anything, it’s not only that it’s a white couch, it’s that he has his shoes on. But I swear I’m paying attention and enjoying this topic!!!! 🤓
Cheerfully giving is from the lord. If she can't do it cheerfully she shouldn't be doing it. Then you have to adjust or make decisions to put yourself in a better mindframe about it
Happy wife,happy life or happy spouse happy house is a bunch of nonsense that puts a lot of pressure on the marriage especially the man who has to do everything to try to keep the peace.
Awesome content & panel!!! Many rich blessings from Our Heavenly Abba (Father) YAH (God) to each of you & to ALL marriage's...! May HE continue to B*L•E*S•S your live's exceedingly & abundantly above all you can ever ask or imagine in YAHUSHUA's (Jesus') Holy & Majestic name!!! 💕💒"And the two shall become one flesh!"💒💕 #MarriageIsSoBeautiful #WeveBeenMarried #31YrsAndCountn...🙌♥🙌 #PRAYnForEachYou🙏🙏🙏
This is the beginning when I made this comment. Why does Tommy think it's ok to sit on national TV or in front of a national audience and have his foot with a shoe on, propped up on someone's WHITE loveseat??
It’s their thing. It’s his couch. This is their project. They funded it. He can do that just like you can do what you want in your house. The audacity!
It’s cool, but I didn’t like the perceptions from the directors that questions were not really what they wanted to be bothered with-it seemed like they were annoyed by the audience asking questions. Otherwise, the show and the guest were and have been phenomenal.
"my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier." Yours sincerely, Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook
Why waste your time? If you know what you really want, don't frivolously settle for less...That's how women get tripped up and stuck in something they didn't intend on dealing with and 10 years down the line wonder..."How did I get here?"...There's nothing "sexier" than being in a committed, productive, relationship with someone who has your back for more than a moment and you have his...Women, stop dating with no purpose. It gets you nowhere!
@@valeriefullilove1031 you are so cute and naive. You are projecting your desire into females. Womem nowadays get so much attention, experiences, gifts, special treatments, lows and ups of drama (from bad boys) and etc. What makes you think they want to settle down on their 20s? Once she starts losing her beauty, then, she will try to nail the beta, sweet and cute guy.
@@valeriefullilove1031 I apologize to you and to everyone that I've offended. It wasn't my intention, much less the belief that all females are like "that." Please, don't report me to Google. Thanks in advance!
This guy sitting with his foot up like that is low key annoying and distracting. Cant’t take anything he says seriously. Melissa is on point as usually
Try to find something that you both like to do! Or make a pact that you will do something that your wife like one week. The next week, you do something that your husband likes. But you each have to hold up your end of the bargain.
Let me just say......8:15-10:50 is the realest part of this video. They were spot on in their comments. The guy in the middle probably let his wife walk all over him. He’s a “happy wife, happy life” kind of guy.
The woman in the black and white shirt - it would be easier to listen to her if she were not so emphatic about everything she is saying ; not to too gentle.
Ladies, we know you do shit test to see how we will react. This is what you do with a boyfriend, not a husband. You do that with a husband, you both will be single in due time!
I love watching this but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t thinking about why a show called “black love” doesn’t include all black love. “NoT eVErYtHINg hAS ToO inClUdE GAY’s” not everything gotta include black either but that’s what we push for, inclusion and acceptance.
This is 2020. Where in midst of a Pandemic and Epidemic. Why does black everything equate to both? Whys as blacks do we have so many disconnects with just simply living/enjoying life and the moment we're given to breathe? It's impossible for a black child in the womb to enter life without trauma.
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"Whatever you won't deal with will deal with you" Dondre Whitfield.
I just got to this too - therapy is necessary!
AMEN TO THAT
Gold ✨ I just was coming to post it
That PART
To the first question: I think his wife might be depressed and need healing. If she does not want to do anything including washing dishes, that is an indication of something deeper.
I thought the same thing.
Men are clueless. She's bored with the domesticated lifestyle and probably her marriage in general. He wants her to wash dishes but she wants to be rinsed and spunned like a dishwasher if you know what I mean 😉
Ally B LOL
I was thinking the same thing!! That sounds like depression to me
Who WANTS to do dishes? I'm with Ally B.
Melissa radiates! This is clearly her passion!!
yesss!!!
Most definitely! She she speak up more often!!
Melissa is in her bag. Come on Queen!!! She needs her own show!
Amen!
I concur! She's so passionate and well-articulated.
'The little things are never about the little things'. Touché, young lady.
I love that, “we are the most traumatized people in this country” “whatever you don’t deal with will deal with you”!!!!!!! #therapy
Melissa is the motherflipping GOAT! lord this woman is so intellectual and has grown within herself in so many ways and I love it!
Yes Melissa!!! When you sit down with a professional, you will learn that anger is a secondary emotion. We can assist with identifying that primary emotion. 🤓🙌✊🏾🖤
Melissa is in her bag. Come on Queen!!! She needs her own show!
She does I believe. It's a Podcast
It's called The Love Hour podcast
The first question I think he was try to say he would liked for his wife to enjoy doing things he enjoys. Even if it’s not something she wants to do just go places do things he’s interested in supporting him even if she doesn’t like to.
Melissa 👏🏾 said👏🏾 it👏🏾 perfectly!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Didn't she???? Lovvvvve her
I have to say...Kevin's wife....😍😍😍😍!!!He married a Nubian Queen for real.
Her name is Melissa.
Ok Kevin and his wife (didn't catch her name) should be hosting this! They got all the gems and seems like the most authentic out of the other couples
They do videos like this all the time on his wife RUclips channel... Mrskevonstage
Her name is Melissa.
They have a podcast called The Love Hour on her MrsKevonStage channel. Its so good! Go check out more of their gems
I agree. The couple in the middle seem phony IMHO.
you betta tell it. "Un met expectations can be dangerous" Mercy!!!!! Thats it right there.
"We both worked really hard to find our way back to each other." So strong. Unity in action. 👏🏼👏🏼
Melissa you should get a degree in this!! You're really good at analyzing ad articulating it!!
I was thinking the same thing
She has a Podcast Mrs KevOnStage
Ok this first guy with a question need to sit down and gather his thoughts........I agree with the love language “acts of service”, that’s my language but my hubby still doesn’t get that., this can really cause problems, whew!
Melissa will one day host her own show on a larger platform!!!
For sure....
Good answer about bickering about lil things meaning bigger things (consideration)
"In marriage you can be right or you can be happy" That's it right there.
Melissa is sooo damn smart!
You need to do things your partner likes to do and also your partner do activities that you like to do, equally. It’s a partnership, you extend the interest in eachothers activities, willingly. Or you sound look at your true feeling for your partner, if you don’t want to willingly please them.
In your relationship (Marriage), you can be right or Happy. Choice is yours. That really hit me hard and deep.
Melissa. Love some her. She's wise and full of love.
Kevin's wife: "It's never about the little things!"
That is so true and an on point statement right there! 😊
I like the fact that they are giving it a shot (the producers of the show) because, with our experience in this country, Black love is a revolutionary act.
LOVE LOVE Melissa Fredericks
1st question, the way he said "ladies" gave me the hebegeebees. He sounds like he still out in those streets. It also sounds like his wife is going through something. Possibly depression.
Maybe she's depressed because he's out in the streets.
(Finger snaps) to Melissa because yesssss!!! Yessss to everything she said!!!
Which one is Melissa
@@munahasan371 KevinOnStage wife
Melissa is full of wisdom!! 💗
I love the "wheel of emotions" that Melissa was talking about. It unveils the layers of our emotions and lile she said, there are easily identifiable emotions like sadness, anger, joy but the wheel further breaks down the layers to anger, sadness joy and so on. 🙌🏽
Melissa is preaching the TRUTH. For both husband and wife it's not about the toilet seat it's that the spouse isn't considering the other person.
When they were talking about feelings and not knowing what they are, I personally struggled before with that. I noticed that through my spiritual journey of becoming more self-aware, I can now not only recognize what I am feeling, but I can also tell you exactly why I am feeling it, and where in my life I picked it up the trigger. I am in a relationship currently with someone who is also self-aware and it's quite new, but often times we have these conversations about certain things that trigger us both, and we talk about where they came from in our lives. These types of discussions have not only helped us understand each other better but even ourselves as individuals. Things he says helps me to put the trigger into proper perspective and see it for what it truly is, a defense mechanism that isn't going to help me be a better person or help the relationship flourish. And then I will sit in my alone time and ponder about how I can improve upon my behavior. So hearing them talk about that to me was key, and truly needs to be discussed more in the black community especially. Awesome video.
There is a certain level of maturity that has to exist for a couple to communicate on these levels demonstrated and one person cannot be the only one dedicated to growing the healthy communication skills for a great relationship to work. I find that I tend to be an over communicator and tend to be attracted to men who are reclusive and maybe even emotionally unavailable.
It took me forever to understand the first question... I was looking at the screen like huh???
Agreed
The question was like 5 minutes long. And then he wouldn't shut up so that they could try to give him an answer.
He wasn't prepared and didnt even ask the question properly
Melissa girl, preach it . GOAT! that was a whole Black mental health session right there.
Why don't the Hostess allow her mate to speak, he was making a good point and she just interrupted. As a woman I want to hear a man perspective on these topics.
Interesting what ppl see because I think Tommy talks too much looking at the other videos
Melissa's dropping wisdom gems 💎
I just love black love and black People !!! I’ve been binge watching all week!!
I love Black Love! I watched all the episodes and recorded them to watch over with my hubby!
Yaaassssss!!! I love you guys! Ya'll are teaching me exactly how to have healthy conversations with my partner 😊❤ We've never communicated so effectively before. Thank you so much!
There seems to be deeper issues in the marriage that need to be addressed. Get counseling.
" Are we gonna take this?" Ummm should that be a question. Yes, take it. It's a relationship question.
I thought the same thing. Maybe she was thinking it was a prank or he was joking?
The first question 😆 LOL. I’ve been drinking
Whatever you don't deal with will deal with you later.🎯❤️🧐
Embrace Therapy, healthy is better.❤️🧐🤔
Embrace what's really going on inside you and STOP THE DENIAL.
@@rosej5029 Hmm, in my retired professional field(s), it's imperative to address what's necessary or it will deal w/one later. I'm a supporter of counseling, HealthyIs Better. Get yrslf 2gthr b4 U try 2 come 4 me!😷😅 I've hlpd several, & know what I'm talking about‼️Myb, seek 4 yrslf, HealthyIsBetter.🧡#Negativity👉🚪👉🏽🚪
The 1st question was how to get his wife to feel inner motivation and enthusiasm and joy. Btw: Melissa is clinging to the corner of that couch like she wants to crawl into it.
Dondre’s wife’s body language is saying a lot. There’s definitely something going on there. Btw, I loved his book!
I thought it was me looking for drama but I sense she is not feeling him
Melisssssssssssa!
Conversation is key. Keep it going ❤️
I think the first question what he was tryin to say is how do I get my wife to go do things? I can relate cus my husband would want me to go out with my friends cus he would go hang with his friends n felt bad cus I’m n the house alone sometimes n bed just chilling honestly I liked it cus I’m a homebody but he would feel better if he know I’m out having fun too. But when I listen and end up goin out hanging with my girls he got Jealous and said I’m having too much fun🤣 but if u don’t want to do dishes nah something deeper going on.
You can't win. Is your husband a bit controlling?
Thank you, I enjoyed this entire series!!😀🤗🙏🏼
I LOVE LOVE THIS SHOW...... MY SIS IN LAW & MY BROTHER REALLY NEED HELP......
Great discussion!👏👍😊 Much needed for the black communities worldwide!💪🙏😇 Our people really need therapy!🙏 One Love from Barbados!😎
Deep... we shouodnt ignore feelings honestly,talk them out
Am I the only one super annoyed he has his foot on a white couch??? Uggghhhh
Yesss!!!!!!
I didn’t want to say anything, it’s not only that it’s a white couch, it’s that he has his shoes on. But I swear I’m paying attention and enjoying this topic!!!! 🤓
EXACTLY....no home training
I don’t even mind the show, it’s his attitude
OMGeeee!😲 Yes I was instantly annoyed.
Love it and so open, true. Relationships is a team effort but he has his thing and she has hers. But you connect together ❤️
Cheerfully giving is from the lord. If she can't do it cheerfully she shouldn't be doing it. Then you have to adjust or make decisions to put yourself in a better mindframe about it
Kerv on stage wife is so beautiful black Queen
Ended on a good note!
Too much of that brown liquor 😂
Happy wife,happy life or happy spouse happy house is a bunch of nonsense that puts a lot of pressure on the marriage especially the man who has to do everything to try to keep the peace.
Go ahead Liss!!!
Love this though I feel like I’ve missed sbsdooo much!
Awesome content & panel!!!
Many rich blessings from Our Heavenly Abba (Father) YAH (God) to each of you & to ALL marriage's...!
May HE continue to B*L•E*S•S your live's exceedingly & abundantly above all you can ever ask or imagine in YAHUSHUA's (Jesus') Holy & Majestic name!!!
💕💒"And the two shall become one flesh!"💒💕
#MarriageIsSoBeautiful
#WeveBeenMarried
#31YrsAndCountn...🙌♥🙌
#PRAYnForEachYou🙏🙏🙏
Shalom
Awe ok.
So Beautiful! Thank You!
I seen Bizzle and Mrs Bizzle in the crowed 🔥🔥
This is the beginning when I made this comment. Why does Tommy think it's ok to sit on national TV or in front of a national audience and have his foot with a shoe on, propped up on someone's WHITE loveseat??
Lol
Why is your foot on the couch though!!
I know I said the same thing.....tacky!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Because he’s comfortable
Marveline B. Is it your couch?
It’s their thing. It’s his couch. This is their project. They funded it. He can do that just like you can do what you want in your house. The audacity!
Beautifully stated🥰🥰🥰🥰🙏🙏🙏🙏
Period Liss!
It’s cool, but I didn’t like the perceptions from the directors that questions were not really what they wanted to be bothered with-it seemed like they were annoyed by the audience asking questions. Otherwise, the show and the guest were and have been phenomenal.
Awesome show!
"my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier."
Yours sincerely,
Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook
Why waste your time? If you know what you really want, don't frivolously settle for less...That's how women get tripped up and stuck in something they didn't intend on dealing with and 10 years down the line wonder..."How did I get here?"...There's nothing "sexier" than being in a committed, productive, relationship with someone who has your back for more than a moment and you have his...Women, stop dating with no purpose. It gets you nowhere!
@@valeriefullilove1031 you are so cute and naive. You are projecting your desire into females.
Womem nowadays get so much attention, experiences, gifts, special treatments, lows and ups of drama (from bad boys) and etc. What makes you think they want to settle down on their 20s?
Once she starts losing her beauty, then, she will try to nail the beta, sweet and cute guy.
@@BG-sq7zf they may get what they want, but not what they need!
@@BG-sq7zf You must need to up your game if that's your perspective on all women.
@@valeriefullilove1031 I apologize to you and to everyone that I've offended. It wasn't my intention, much less the belief that all females are like "that."
Please, don't report me to Google. Thanks in advance!
This was so insightful!
I love this channel!
So good.
This guy sitting with his foot up like that is low key annoying and distracting. Cant’t take anything he says seriously. Melissa is on point as usually
Melissa was talking di tings!!!
1:10 question I have too
Try to find something that you both like to do! Or make a pact that you will do something that your wife like one week. The next week, you do something that your husband likes. But you each have to hold up your end of the bargain.
Gone head black folk!
First guy need to sit down and shut up 🤐 🤫!
Who is this guy asking the question?🙄🙄🙄
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Uhm, he's telling all her business...she doesn't want to wash dishes. She doesn't want to have sex. Maybe she's unhappy.
Maybe he should find a new wife.
What if he stayed quiet and didn't reveal any of these things? 🤔
There's definitely something deeper than just not washing dishes. Either she doesnt like him or she doesn't like herself. Or both.
@@LB-kr5ku maybe.
👏👏👏👏👏👏
Do they ever have the average marriage couple on there. I would love to have me and my wife on the panel.
Let me just say......8:15-10:50 is the realest part of this video. They were spot on in their comments. The guy in the middle probably let his wife walk all over him. He’s a “happy wife, happy life” kind of guy.
Ooh ! This dude might not make it. Lmao
Sallie still don’t seem like she’s that happy with Dondre! When the kids get grown they might be over!
There is definitely something fraudulent about their relationship to me. Or maybe I just dont like them as individuals. But what do I know?
@@RahYisrael99 they been together for over 20 years. They only thing fraudulent is this wack ass comment. What is not to like about them?
My soon to he ex husband use to leave his socks all over the place, now I just walk over them.
The woman in the black and white shirt - it would be easier to listen to her if she were not so emphatic about everything she is saying ; not to too gentle.
Dont know whi the couple is in the middle. But put your feet down. Smhhh
My LORD!! Ppl will shame YOU out of therapy! WHO IS THAT FOR??
Ladies, we know you do shit test to see how we will react. This is what you do with a boyfriend, not a husband. You do that with a husband, you both will be single in due time!
🤦🏽♀️😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
First question he needs to be specific and he drunk and cant get his thoughts together...
I love watching this but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t thinking about why a show called “black love” doesn’t include all black love. “NoT eVErYtHINg hAS ToO inClUdE GAY’s” not everything gotta include black either but that’s what we push for, inclusion and acceptance.
Miss Dor's daughter ewww a bible thumping hypocrite.
They have had gay couples on other episodes.
This is 2020. Where in midst of a Pandemic and Epidemic. Why does black everything equate to both? Whys as blacks do we have so many disconnects with just simply living/enjoying life and the moment we're given to breathe? It's impossible for a black child in the womb to enter life without trauma.
All of these dudes are "Yes Dear" cowards...smh
And Melissa she just likes to pat herself on the back over and over and over again! And talk every topic to Death!
Well honey she’s taken the time to cultivate herself
You really are bitter and miserable. Seek help