As a young man at 18 and a newer believer in Christ I listened to this Paul Washer sermon. I was just starting college and knew I could not be a provider - so I had to do what brother Paul said: I had to prepare! I am 22 now, have an amazing job provided by the Lord and met one of his amazing daughters that I am planning on marrying one day if the Lord permits. Do things his way men! There is blessing in sacrificing a relationship to be more of the man he wants you to be! If I didn't take those 3 1/2 years to work on my walk with God first, I would not be adequately prepared to prayerfully pursue marriage now. Believe me it sucked being 19 and knowing a relationship was not in my best interest at the time. But let me tell you that God's timing is always best. 6 months after I graduated school I met who I am courting now and the Lord has had his hand all over it. Fight the good fight men! It is all for Christ!
Everything is according to God's will. Do you think he has had me sick for the last 17 years and could you call it good? I consider what you say, bragging. And if I brag myself as you do, I would say this, God will have more glory to those who have had nothing on this earth but pain. Do not love this world, because this is not his kingdom, and therefore not ours either, despise it like I do, and wish for something greater than a woman and the pleasures of this dying earth, wish for that wish is truly real, the kingdom of heaven and his king and your brothers.
I’m not a believer. I was gonna insult you. There idea of god is absurd to me. Instead why do you believe in god and why do believe this was god doing instead just the result of actions. Do you have any proof of this god.
Totally true. I became very very wealthy, and was immediately tempted to spend it all on myself and buy things that I don't need. The temptation is REAL. Please pray for me that I would be faithful and "hold the rope" like Paul says.
I remember when I got my first job after college and had money for the first time, something that helped me was giving 10% of my paycheck to church and that helped me keep the focus on God.
1. god honoring labour 2. laziness is a one of the seven deadliest sins 3. Empty pursuits 4. Pleasure leads to poverty 5. Are you Saving? 6. live a disciplined life 7. Money
We all may receive Crowns 👑👑👑👑👑 for being good stewards. Not for watching others being good stewards. Don’t let Satan steal your Crowns to lay at Jesus feet when you get to Heaven.
Dont convince a woman to try to be Biblical for you. If she is not, she will front for a year or 2 after she has you. And give up trying and faking. Make sure u see the fruit. Not talk. OBSERVE before you think of even starting to get to know her. Catch her being herself. Dates can make it where she just impresses you. See her in her element first. Observe the real her
My now husband said there was someone who said traveling is the perfect test. Go out of your element and do something different. The reaction will say it all. Then again, we didn't do that 😁 We traveled after we got married, and we had a great time! Our first date was a slight fumble, so I guess that went a good way towards how we are. It's almost 12 years now☺️
00:02 1) Embrace responsibility and face adversities bravely. 02:13 2) Christian men should not be emotionally needy and must deal with their own problems 04:23 3) Be strong in cultivating godly strength. 06:42 4) Hard work and diligence are greatly honored virtues of God. 08:55 5) Playing sports can be acceptable if done for God's glory and with the right motives. 11:08 6) Avoid being consumed by pleasure 13:26 7) Importance of being financially responsible and preparing for the future 15:48 8) Work hard and embrace discipline to shape yourself into a responsible man. 17:49 9) Wealth should not be pursued for selfish reasons. 19:56 10) Work for the glory of God and to provide for family with proper motives.
"emotionally needy"? So I cannot expect the women who took vows for me to offer me an ounce of encouragement? She's just gonna tell me to man up and whip me? Paul is wrong and he let's his wife wear the pants. A woman like that needs to be kicked out of the house.
@@smokingcrab2290kind of agree, but you could also see it as she’s encouraging him at the same time. So minus the man up bit, she said it’s suppose to happen, God said so. So get back out there and carry on. You could read it both ways. But I interpret as she’s pushing him to do better. You could also view it as he’s being put down. See what I mean. You’d need to live it to see if she really is a nightmare 😂 and then she can leave!
Gods timing is perfect. When the student is ready the teacher will appear. The timing of when I came across Mr. Washer was exactly when I needed washing 🙏🏾✝️ God Moves
I hope you are blessed, and best condolences to you, you Will reunite with him in Heaven. Christ will give you comfort, for he is your hope, he is your savior, and he is your everything, and Im Sure your Son is rejoicing in the presence of Jesus Christ. May God, the father bless you.
I disagree. Therapy shouldn’t be looked down upon. Therapy doesn’t mean your weak so you go there rather than develop through hardship, it is there for you to uncover your trauma and bounds so you get to know yourself more. I used to think Christianity is my therapist till I actually went to one. And it did more work than going month and month and feel ashamed of myself that much trauma is not healed because I must not do something right…or pray more. Now I know myself more, I know what I need and what is needed to be done, less distractions to keep my astray. This teaching is too extreme and yet he warns not to be too extreme… Pastor sounds like he lives in a pretty hard life and his fighting that hardship alone and sometimes too afraid to let his family know, he needs a community. It is not “coward” to share your problems with brothers. Brain is apart of our body, so is mental health. You don’t just ask God to heal you when you have cancer or even tooth ache. You go to the doctor/ dentist before it gets worse. In theory, sure God can heal you but is it practical? So is mental health and your brain in that sense. Your brain is your body aka organ that can also affect your mind aka mental health.
The Bible itself says we are to carry one another's burdens and the woman is meant to be your helper. She was made for the man, not the other way around. If your own wife can't even encourage you and if Paul is saying men are acting like women for sharing each other's loads then Paul is teaching falsehoods. If your wife is nothing but a whip to crack you into shape and tell you to man up so you can serve her, then she's nothing but a risk and a liability and she will make you miserable. Paul sounds like a cuck, and much like many other pastors in America I'm willing to bet his wife wears the pants.If only God is meant to carry your burdens then there's literally no point to marriage because the wife will do nothing but beat you down and make you her slave.
Powerful teaching. I do see some points that could be issues. 1.) Many people emphasize productivity over 'hard' work. The two tend to go together. That said, some people are better at generating higher productivity with less effort than others (and different jobs vary widely in this). 'Hard for the sake of hard,' in and of itself, is a more difficulty subject. Especially true in a capitalist economy where some can 'put their money to work for them' (e.g.: investments, pension, trust fund, etc...). 2.) The statement '...you're young it will be no problem for you to pull 18 hour days...' Add commute time, shower and 2 meals and how much time for sleep are we talking about? 4 Hours max? Aside from having no non-Sabbath time for family, friends, etc..., it sounds like a recipe for chronic sleep deprivation and possibly a resulting car wreck or breakdown. Lack of sleep can (and does) kill. 3.) Many in America today find 2-income households needful or desirable. I wonder how many of those 'godly girls' lamenting the lack of forward-thinking and investing for the future in potential mates were saving and investing to those ends themselves. 4.) As for 'nice things' and 'wealth.' We tend to want to define those as people having/seeking levels well in excess of ourselves and our acquaintances, who appear to live lavishly and opulently compared to us. Problem - to many people on Earth now, a sizable single family home, air conditioning, t.v., plush recliner, stocked pantry, personal computer with home Internet, smart phones with data plan and 2 cars look very 'nice' and indicate 'wealth.' A person might ask just where one draws the line on lifestyle? Is it the spartan living style associated in the popular mind with a monk? Lower socioeconomic class blue collar laborer in America today? Middle class? People will interpret this teaching in various ways. Someone could come away thinking a man is duty-bound to be a workaholic living a spartan monk lifestyle and a missionary or giving his overhead away for Christian charity, and anything less than that is sin.
Therapy is needed sometimes. Hiding your emotions and not sharing it is the reason why many people are suicidal. I agree with some part of teaching but is a bit too extreme. Telling people to work more and have a more “realistic” goal with money such as saving for a house is a bit ignorant.
Yeah he’s not perfect. But I do agree mostly with what he says. Men are too soft these days. I am too to be honest. But working 18 hour days and suppressing your emotions is not a good idea. Your wife is a believer too who can help carry your burdens like any other believer. Working hard is important but working an 8 hour day and then working hard at home with family is the way to go.
Yes agreed. Work hard when you’re working. Make sure you take time for rest and restful prayer and devotion. Learn to process and deal properly with your emotions in a godly way, not just by suppressing them and pretending they don’t exist.
I hate Paul washers teachings for this reason. He's a man who seems absolutely miserable and tortured and he wants everyone to be just as miserable as he is. And his marriage sounds like it sucks. He seems like a cuck to his wife and that anything less than his crazy extreme views of things are ungodly. Preachers like him need to relax and realize we're all human and not everything is the end of the world. If you can't take your armor off in front of your wife then she's not your helper, she's your enemy
I’m retired, worked 47 years in professions that required me to stay on it and stay prepared - the Superior Court system. That work ethic was instilled by my parents. Suit up and show up, carry your load, be on time, save your money. My brothers and I worked at our jobs and didn’t give up when days didn’t go as was hoped. Paid into my retirement accounts and Social Security. That hard work and saving money has paid off for me and my wife. Most of all, we gave to church weekly. Sometimes a small amount and sometimes a large amount. But we always gave.
What age did you retire? Didn't you see your life pass through? Do you even have strenght to do the things you wanted to do? Or perhaps you loved your job so it was a blessing and you felt fullfilled. Time is now. I don't even know If I live to retirment since governments keep increasing pension Age to 67... soon it's gonna be 70... while pharmacies and food industry do everything in their power to keep us sick and die early so our retirenment money goes back to the stealing government.
@@CptEddyPrice I retired at 65. You asked if I ‘saw my life passing through’…of course. Life and time both move on. My work time wasn’t wasted nor was my time wasted raising our children. They’re adults now and their mother and I are in our 70’s. Yes, I have the strength to do what needs done. I’ve always been rather healthy. I’ve never ingested one illegal drug nor have I ever had an alcoholic drink, not even a beer (which is still alcohol). My life is somewhat dependent upon how I live - eat right, sleep well and enjoy the people in my life. But ultimately my time here on earth is determined by my Heavenly Father. His will, not mine.
Just like the other guy said. Save for your dream, which most likely will bless your marriage more. Have a smaller wedding, and whenever you’re blessed with more then have that wedding. If the woman is more obsessed with a wedding than being a wife, then she is NOT a good wife but a liability. Hope we helped you with that advice.
Good sermon. I do agree men are too soft. I find myself in that camp if I’m being honest. We do need to man up and grow up. However, one thing I will say is I do believe it’s okay to share your feelings and struggles with your wife who is a believer. She can help carry some burdens within reason and without sacrificing your leadership and protection of her. And it’s not good to suppress your emotions and struggles and just man up. I think there’s a balance between manning up and also sharing your struggles to receive help when needed. 18 hour days is tough. But I think working 8 hour days and then working hard after work in raising your family. But he’s talking it seems to young men that aren’t married.
He needs to provide examples of the behaviors he's scrutinizing but he sucks at that. He also doesn't know anyone else and he's projecting. If you can't take your armor off in front of your wife, she's not your helper. If she's gotta tell you to man up after your life is being threatened then she's not your helper. Imagine if Paul washer actually did fall prey to someone who wanted to take his life. His wife would live in regret after.
I get confused and upset at sermons like this sometimes because i feel like i being shamed for having emotions But i understand what Paul is saying when i watched it in depth. We cant be weak and soft We need to be strong and rely on God I need to improve a lot
Men often have smaller social support circles than woman; often the wife is the main social support. Not everyone has a strong enough relationship with God or for whatever reason feels that empowerment of the Holy Spirit to cope (I recall someone once describing Elijah as 'suicidal,' and Jonah definitely 'had a bad day'). I think you're right...there's a balance. It's one thing to not crush your spouse under your insecurities and worries; it's another to believe you are obligated to maintain a 'chipper' facade till you 'fake it till you make it' or collapse.
Havent watched fully yet, but from what you said Im reminded of David perspective in Psalm. He describes a lot of his emotions in it, and even when experiencing the negatives he would say things like "why are you downcast, o my soul" (Psalm 42 : 5). I do get sometimes the dark emotions really grip you tight, but I think that highlights more how important relationship with God is. Look at the world, how they try to cope with it. Imo without God, nihilism is the only logical perspective in this world, and you would be so negative and depressed with that view. Any worldly purpose is ultimately useless in nihilistic view, so you are either an honest depressed person or dishonest and in delusion of happiness pursuing "purpose". Luckily there is God, and nihilism isnt true as a result and there is actual purpose in our lives 😅
@@richardlang3460 agreed I believe It depends on what our problems are If its really bad we can ask for help by people that are close In no way do i see that as a problem But we should avoid being emotional and weak
He tells you his own version of it. We're called to carry each other's burdens and that applies to women as well. The woman is your helper. The woman was made for the man not the other way around. If you can't come home and take your armor off in front of your wife and she scolds you like Paul's wife does, she's not your helper. She's a risk and a liability. Paul's wife isn't loving. She's scared and stupid because she's not concerned for him. She's concerned for herself
Amen, this message lift my head up and encourage me to keep walking in the middle of the storm smiling knowing that this is nothing compared to what Jesús suffered in the cross for my sins, all Glory to God the father for sending His beloved Son Jesús to pay for my sins.
You need a woman who beats you down and tells you to man up instead of comforting you? You need a woman to shove a broomstick up your ass because she's uncomfortable with you taking your armor off when the world beats you down?
Thank you for this. I just realized and only able to articulate this now: "Man up" was demonized as toxic masculinity in our generation, but the underlying message there was "there is suffering, that's part of the package, carry your cross". God bless you ❤
I felt emotional about the young women wanting to find men. We've became such a material culture. But I will say this to young Christians, we don't get better by ourselves, love conquers all.
I needed to hear this. This message is grossly undershared. Wow!! I as a man, am spending too much time being soft and complaining to my wife. God please forgive me. I needed to hear this.
The problem with riches is, you forget easily who blessed you, unless you realize who is your King. After all we’re considered kings, a king is not poor and his riches are supposed to flow onto the herd. We as kings have to give an account to the King of kings and to reverence the Lord of lords. Psalm 23 says ‘the Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want, it doesn’t say ‘I have nothing’ not wanting anything means you have it already. We are a channel not a volt
The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear? Proverbs 18: 14 He's addressing the product of this, which yeah, can be funny, but living this Scripture can make you feel desperate, empty, and seeking pleasure. It's like being down real bad. But Jesus has given me purpose in honoring God through His life, His way, and His truth.
@@Cortez0 not in a bad way, please. .. it's just the way he says things like the society right now is creating soft men, which i can relate to as men around here don't like hard labour.... His advice are spot on. His choice of words and because i know most men in my culture won't like it just makes it funny to me, no offense
@@omotolaniogunremi594 I understand where you are coming from. It’s interesting sometimes to hear a woman’s perspective as someone who is on the outside looking in.
@@Cortez0 no need to be offended As a man it is funny not in a HA HA necessarily but in a way of our reality in 2024 Most have gotten soft , and others trying to provide these days as a man constantly taking Ls even when doing right . Then most other men with a platform getting rich off downing other men or selling a fake alpha dream or product. Not referring to this channel . It’s wild
This message has to be taken with balance, God has no problem with men enjoying life, and enjoying the fruits of labor, but its a fine line if you begin to make an idol out of self being lazy, or an idol out of self being a workaholic in an extreme sense. Families are damaged by both. "Here is what I have seen to be good and [v]fitting: to eat, to drink and [w]enjoy oneself in all one’s labor in which he toils under the sun during the few [x]years of his life which God has given him; for this is his [y]reward. 19 Furthermore, as for every man to whom God has given riches and wealth, He has also empowered him to eat from them and to receive his [z]reward and rejoice in his labor; this is the gift of God. 20 For he will not often [aa]consider the [ab]years of his life, because God keeps [ac]him occupied with the gladness of his heart." Ecclesiastes 5:18-20
Man as much as Paul's preachings cut deep coz of where i'm coming from right now i love it alot ...he's funny and what he speaks is facts and i'm about to work the hardest i've ever worked throughout my entire life...when he mentioned how men stay hrs behind video games he was talking about me from 2010 to 2024 summer but i'm done with gaming right now, i will one day be back but not for crazy hrs tho that's no time soon coz i got alot of work to do...my relationship with God needs to be first and work and family after i really don't have time for wasting anymore...i hate that i wasted most of my life behind games and being in my feelings that it hurts my chest just thinking about all that wasted time ...but going forward it's a real man of God who has his sights set on Becoming the best version of myself
I need more discipline in my life, I need it because Discipline is always important and Discipline is whay makes you successful in life. Thank you so much for sharing this video with us, That man is wise, God bless you.
My heavenly Father, I know You are calling me to Change, please show me the way and bring the right people into my life. I want what YOU have for me and thats it. please forgive me, I repent of all mt sin. I pray for grace, mercy and wisdom to make the right choices from now on, having discipline to be committed to living a Christ Filled Life in JESUS name !!!!
Badly needed for everyone to listen. Thank you for sharing. This Babylonian fake world has nothing to offer that can be compared to the treasure we have believing in Yeshua. Seek you first the kingdom of God everything else will be given unto you. Matth.6:31
I say I am a hard worker but I can say the school system kinda failed us. Seeing others fail classes in school but still getting passed started having impact on other students like me, thinking what is the purpose of we are going to pass anyway
Young Men take this advice seriously. I will be 48 soon and did not. I was a fool but by the grace of God will still finish the race strong and in my right mind.
God bless all those who read these message, For God so love the world that he gave his only begotten son that who so ever believe in him should not perish but have everlasting life. Amen
I was a missionarry and I felt like a fish in the water. Finally I found where and how I can serve in the Kingdom of God. But then I had to leave the Missionfield because of problems with a women that grew thanks to her into problems with the rest of the team... Loosing the work HE called me to was a great heartbreak especially because I left my carier opertunity in order to become fulltime missionarry. Going back into the secular workfield feels like looking back... I've been 6 months without work by now. I was told to get a job. Maybe I go to a Bible College instat.
Do what you WANT to do. Don't do what Paul washer tells you. It's your life. You can do anything and God directs us with our talents in all kinds of places. He took you out of the mission field because it was his plan. Remember that.
I grew up poor and miserable with nothing. Through Jesus I found the strength to ride above and get out of that misery. It’s ok to have nice things as long as you don’t let it change who you are. Jesus said it was hard not impossible.
I don’t disagree with this, I am a talker, far too much of one (see what the Bible says about the tongue), and I process my intense emotions verbally with anyone who will listen. I’m pretty good about people trying to kill me, in fact that feels pretty normal, but failure eats me alive. I get very confused and my relationships struggle. To clarify, I’ve deployed several times, I’ve completed the hardest military training, still live in Coronado, CA. But yeah I needed to hear this. Thanks.
Paul is full of shit. He gives no examples and his wife just beats him down when he's facing hardship. And she does this because she can't handle being a real helper to him. It's obvious who wears the pants in his relationship
First I was sceptical about Paul Washer, I think he sometimes hits legalism, BUT is it legalism or is it bare truth? His way of teaching is pure and you can easily see his heart, he shows a heart that is fully connected with God
We go down after the broke up, sometimes you see a person who you love moving and sleeping with everyone that she find in the street just to revinge you, it kill us, sometimes we use to ask to the creator like "Lord why me?".
I’m fighting for my relationship and have had my eyes open to the man I was when I started this relationship and I’m ready to be him again. I got lazy and content with where I was and was growing and it caused me to fail in so many of these areas brought up in this video.
Listen. All of us are sinners and fall short. You're not a piece of shit. Be good to yourself. Remember it is God who works in you to do good and to grow and to be sanctified
I just want to pay off my debts and have a home for a future family. Be less dependent on the government. Thank you for this advice. I will continue to carry the burden.
Even the women in the church look for well dressed men who have money. I’ve pulled 17-20 hr days. Leaves no room for anyone or anything else. You need balance. You need to work, dress well, work out, have money, be involved in your church, etc. Those that aren’t doing those things are just boys who are constantly in a woman’s friend zone. There is a channel called the Order of Man. I would like Paul Washer to spend time with them and discuss balance in these areas. Also, note this: women these days (even or especially in the church) are often not worth the effort. There are a lot of men staying single because of the ridiculous expectations placed on them these days. Not everyone will be rich. How many fathers out here have that as an expectation for their future son in laws. So what you end up with are actually bad men who can provide. This usually ends in divorce. Seen it way too many times. Or an evil woman who divorces a man to take all hard earned money and leave him a pauper. Seen it way too many times!
for the men who are single and already feel that you want that wife badly here is my recomendation: become a man admired by your peers. a good woman will admire you and respect you for who you are. never ever do dishonorable things specialy in front of her, and make sure your submition is to God, not to her. 18 years of marriage and the only times I sensed my wife lack of love or respect were at the times I allow myself to put distance between God and myself.
This actually really spoke to me. I felt the same way. I love the lord and want to follow his ways. But all these church songs, and some of these preachings I hear just sound soft. I don’t feel any masculine energy. I wish I could find a church where they speak like this
Today is different. Man I carried around the suicide and emotional abuse of my mother Feeling damned worthless and couldnt take the love of christ. Even then I had the strength to jump in front of weaker people no matter what happened. I Was always brave. But still emotional needy and unable to raise my relationship to god. God stayed at my side. What washer says makes me fuc&*€× angry. He should have walked in my shoes. Christ teached me compassion.
Paul is an idiot. There's no such thing as "needy". He has been called needy by his wife because she wears the pants in his house. So he projects it onto everyone else. When someone says you're "needy" they're literally saying "you have to play by my rules and do what I want and if you don't then tough luck because I have all the power". Paul's wife has all the power. He gets beat down by the world and she cracks him with her whip of disrespect and humiliation. I'm not motivated by anyone who beats me down like that when I'm going through hardship. And I guarantee if Paul actually fell prey to the people threatening his life, his wife would never blame herself. She would just monkey branch to the next guy and treat him the same.
Men find the courage to talk about their burdens and emotions and this guy says they sound like girls.... Total misunderstanding of masculinity! God calls men to lead and be a rolemodel, not to be unapproachable and to avoid any weakness. The strongest men I know manage to take off the mask of invulnerability and walk authentically and passionately with God! Its like he preaches just to transform the next generation into his: 1 don´t talk about your emotions or burdens (better hide them) 2 work all day long and save the money to buy a house and dont have any hobbies. I don´t see that as the main points of the bible. When I read the bible, I want to become a man, that is full of faith and trusts in the lord completely. I want to encourage others and love them unconditionally. I want to stop caring about houses or money, because I rather want to store up treasures in heaven. And I want to be close to others and share my faith and therefore also my struggles with them.
Paul is a miserable and anxious man who's married to a wife who beats him down after the rest of the world does. And he's grateful for it. He's a cuck. And he's projecting his marriage onto everyone else. I'd kill for a woman I could be myself with. And I'd lay the world at her feet if she just showed she cared.
As for Sign 5: There’s no incentive to save! Not when houses require 2 incomes to afford and when women just want the top 10-20% of men and follow the missionary dating mentality if they are dating one of them.
You’ll own nothing and be happy. Don’t chase women. The moment you stop doing that, people like the guy in the video will tell you you’re not a man unless you get married. There. Fixed it for you.
Ok as a sister in Christ … I disagree here. God designed US with human emotions . But we aren’t supposed to be LED by our feelings. Sharing emotions = vulnerability. Vulnerability cultivates emotional intimacy by modeling emotional safety which leads to physical intimacy inside of marriage . We’ve HAD Enough generations of testerone tucking & hiding themselves ( their hearts) away & calling that the “ ideal mocho man”. Why are we borderline-bashing the *potential* for men to be TENDER Yet Remain Masculine while offering tenderness ????
Yeah, I understand now. I used to not get what he was trying to do, but once you see it, it's like Where's Waldo. If you're provoked, you're not whole, if you're unmoved, you rather don't understand, or you understand pretty much completely.
His teaching about therapy is too extreme. It’s not cowardly to talk to your brothers about issues or that you should hide emotions and feelings. It actually makes you a weaker men for you to ignore your feelings and emotions. People need to treat mental health more responsibly like any other body parts. Brain is apart of our body, so is mental health. You don’t just ask God to heal you when you have cancer or even tooth ache. You go to the doctor/ dentist before it gets worse. In theory, sure God can heal you but is it practical? So is mental health and your brain in that sense. Your brain is your body aka organ that can also affect your mind aka mental health.
I’m going to make sure my sons are READY for marriage by their 18th birthday, house, suv/truck, savings account. We will instill hard work and saving money - yearssss before they’re 18.
As a young man at 18 and a newer believer in Christ I listened to this Paul Washer sermon. I was just starting college and knew I could not be a provider - so I had to do what brother Paul said: I had to prepare!
I am 22 now, have an amazing job provided by the Lord and met one of his amazing daughters that I am planning on marrying one day if the Lord permits. Do things his way men! There is blessing in sacrificing a relationship to be more of the man he wants you to be! If I didn't take those 3 1/2 years to work on my walk with God first, I would not be adequately prepared to prayerfully pursue marriage now. Believe me it sucked being 19 and knowing a relationship was not in my best interest at the time. But let me tell you that God's timing is always best. 6 months after I graduated school I met who I am courting now and the Lord has had his hand all over it.
Fight the good fight men! It is all for Christ!
@@nateUnofficial congratulations brother. Be sure to continue in wisdom
@@EnigmaKingdom Thank you brother Soli Deo Gloria
Everything is according to God's will. Do you think he has had me sick for the last 17 years and could you call it good? I consider what you say, bragging. And if I brag myself as you do, I would say this, God will have more glory to those who have had nothing on this earth but pain. Do not love this world, because this is not his kingdom, and therefore not ours either, despise it like I do, and wish for something greater than a woman and the pleasures of this dying earth, wish for that wish is truly real, the kingdom of heaven and his king and your brothers.
Thank you for your comment.
I’m not a believer. I was gonna insult you. There idea of god is absurd to me. Instead why do you believe in god and why do believe this was god doing instead just the result of actions. Do you have any proof of this god.
Totally true. I became very very wealthy, and was immediately tempted to spend it all on myself and buy things that I don't need. The temptation is REAL. Please pray for me that I would be faithful and "hold the rope" like Paul says.
Amen❤
Was once and now going through a process thats humbling and its the greatest experience with jesus christ❤
Ecclesiastes 6:1-2. Be careful.
I remember when I got my first job after college and had money for the first time, something that helped me was giving 10% of my paycheck to church and that helped me keep the focus on God.
May Jesus help you!
1. god honoring labour
2. laziness is a one of the seven deadliest sins
3. Empty pursuits
4. Pleasure leads to poverty
5. Are you Saving?
6. live a disciplined life
7. Money
"You are either called to go down in a well or hold a rope for those who go down"
We all may receive Crowns 👑👑👑👑👑 for being good stewards. Not for watching others being good stewards. Don’t let Satan steal your Crowns to lay at Jesus feet when you get to Heaven.
I like this 🤠
Dont convince a woman to try to be Biblical for you. If she is not, she will front for a year or 2 after she has you. And give up trying and faking. Make sure u see the fruit. Not talk. OBSERVE before you think of even starting to get to know her. Catch her being herself.
Dates can make it where she just impresses you. See her in her element first. Observe the real her
My now husband said there was someone who said traveling is the perfect test. Go out of your element and do something different. The reaction will say it all. Then again, we didn't do that 😁 We traveled after we got married, and we had a great time! Our first date was a slight fumble, so I guess that went a good way towards how we are. It's almost 12 years now☺️
Ezekiel 36:26-27. Amen!
00:02 1) Embrace responsibility and face adversities bravely.
02:13 2) Christian men should not be emotionally needy and must deal with their own problems
04:23 3) Be strong in cultivating godly strength.
06:42 4) Hard work and diligence are greatly honored virtues of God.
08:55 5) Playing sports can be acceptable if done for God's glory and with the right motives.
11:08 6) Avoid being consumed by pleasure
13:26 7) Importance of being financially responsible and preparing for the future
15:48 8) Work hard and embrace discipline to shape yourself into a responsible man.
17:49 9) Wealth should not be pursued for selfish reasons.
19:56 10) Work for the glory of God and to provide for family with proper motives.
"emotionally needy"? So I cannot expect the women who took vows for me to offer me an ounce of encouragement? She's just gonna tell me to man up and whip me?
Paul is wrong and he let's his wife wear the pants. A woman like that needs to be kicked out of the house.
@@smokingcrab2290kind of agree, but you could also see it as she’s encouraging him at the same time. So minus the man up bit, she said it’s suppose to happen, God said so. So get back out there and carry on. You could read it both ways. But I interpret as she’s pushing him to do better. You could also view it as he’s being put down. See what I mean. You’d need to live it to see if she really is a nightmare 😂 and then she can leave!
Gods timing is perfect. When the student is ready the teacher will appear. The timing of when I came across Mr. Washer was exactly when I needed washing 🙏🏾✝️ God Moves
He's definitely not an ear tickler! We need more preaching like him
A godly woman need also to hear this.
I fall asleep after working because I miss my son , he is in heaven now .
i’m sorry for your lost man
I hope you are blessed, and best condolences to you, you
Will reunite with him in Heaven. Christ will give you comfort, for he is your hope, he is your savior, and he is your everything, and Im
Sure your Son is rejoicing in the presence of Jesus Christ. May God, the father bless you.
Praying for you. You are strong.
Stay Strong
Prayers being sent up for you! 🥹
This is FACTS.We need men who depend on Christ and Christ alone
I disagree. Therapy shouldn’t be looked down upon. Therapy doesn’t mean your weak so you go there rather than develop through hardship, it is there for you to uncover your trauma and bounds so you get to know yourself more. I used to think Christianity is my therapist till I actually went to one. And it did more work than going month and month and feel ashamed of myself that much trauma is not healed because I must not do something right…or pray more. Now I know myself more, I know what I need and what is needed to be done, less distractions to keep my astray.
This teaching is too extreme and yet he warns not to be too extreme…
Pastor sounds like he lives in a pretty hard life and his fighting that hardship alone and sometimes too afraid to let his family know, he needs a community. It is not “coward” to share your problems with brothers.
Brain is apart of our body, so is mental health. You don’t just ask God to heal you when you have cancer or even tooth ache. You go to the doctor/ dentist before it gets worse. In theory, sure God can heal you but is it practical?
So is mental health and your brain in that sense. Your brain is your body aka organ that can also affect your mind aka mental health.
And the fact is: If you (as a man) truly follow Christ, you’re more likely to be single in this day and age.
Amen.
The Bible itself says we are to carry one another's burdens and the woman is meant to be your helper. She was made for the man, not the other way around. If your own wife can't even encourage you and if Paul is saying men are acting like women for sharing each other's loads then Paul is teaching falsehoods.
If your wife is nothing but a whip to crack you into shape and tell you to man up so you can serve her, then she's nothing but a risk and a liability and she will make you miserable. Paul sounds like a cuck, and much like many other pastors in America I'm willing to bet his wife wears the pants.If only God is meant to carry your burdens then there's literally no point to marriage because the wife will do nothing but beat you down and make you her slave.
@@rossconrad9665 FACTS.
“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.”
Powerful teaching. I do see some points that could be issues.
1.) Many people emphasize productivity over 'hard' work. The two tend to go together. That said, some people are better at generating higher productivity with less effort than others (and different jobs vary widely in this). 'Hard for the sake of hard,' in and of itself, is a more difficulty subject. Especially true in a capitalist economy where some can 'put their money to work for them' (e.g.: investments, pension, trust fund, etc...).
2.) The statement '...you're young it will be no problem for you to pull 18 hour days...' Add commute time, shower and 2 meals and how much time for sleep are we talking about? 4 Hours max? Aside from having no non-Sabbath time for family, friends, etc..., it sounds like a recipe for chronic sleep deprivation and possibly a resulting car wreck or breakdown. Lack of sleep can (and does) kill.
3.) Many in America today find 2-income households needful or desirable. I wonder how many of those 'godly girls' lamenting the lack of forward-thinking and investing for the future in potential mates were saving and investing to those ends themselves.
4.) As for 'nice things' and 'wealth.' We tend to want to define those as people having/seeking levels well in excess of ourselves and our acquaintances, who appear to live lavishly and opulently compared to us. Problem - to many people on Earth now, a sizable single family home, air conditioning, t.v., plush recliner, stocked pantry, personal computer with home Internet, smart phones with data plan and 2 cars look very 'nice' and indicate 'wealth.' A person might ask just where one draws the line on lifestyle? Is it the spartan living style associated in the popular mind with a monk? Lower socioeconomic class blue collar laborer in America today? Middle class?
People will interpret this teaching in various ways. Someone could come away thinking a man is duty-bound to be a workaholic living a spartan monk lifestyle and a missionary or giving his overhead away for Christian charity, and anything less than that is sin.
Therapy is needed sometimes. Hiding your emotions and not sharing it is the reason why many people are suicidal. I agree with some part of teaching but is a bit too extreme. Telling people to work more and have a more “realistic” goal with money such as saving for a house is a bit ignorant.
Yeah he’s not perfect. But I do agree mostly with what he says. Men are too soft these days. I am too to be honest. But working 18 hour days and suppressing your emotions is not a good idea. Your wife is a believer too who can help carry your burdens like any other believer. Working hard is important but working an 8 hour day and then working hard at home with family is the way to go.
Yes agreed.
Work hard when you’re working. Make sure you take time for rest and restful prayer and devotion.
Learn to process and deal properly with your emotions in a godly way, not just by suppressing them and pretending they don’t exist.
The other thing to note is that every kind of work and how you behave in the workplace is important and matters to God, not just missionary work.
I hate Paul washers teachings for this reason. He's a man who seems absolutely miserable and tortured and he wants everyone to be just as miserable as he is. And his marriage sounds like it sucks. He seems like a cuck to his wife and that anything less than his crazy extreme views of things are ungodly. Preachers like him need to relax and realize we're all human and not everything is the end of the world. If you can't take your armor off in front of your wife then she's not your helper, she's your enemy
I’m retired, worked 47 years in professions that required me to stay on it and stay prepared - the Superior Court system. That work ethic was instilled by my parents. Suit up and show up, carry your load, be on time, save your money. My brothers and I worked at our jobs and didn’t give up when days didn’t go as was hoped.
Paid into my retirement accounts and Social Security. That hard work and saving money has paid off for me and my wife.
Most of all, we gave to church weekly. Sometimes a small amount and sometimes a large amount. But we always gave.
What age did you retire? Didn't you see your life pass through? Do you even have strenght to do the things you wanted to do? Or perhaps you loved your job so it was a blessing and you felt fullfilled. Time is now. I don't even know If I live to retirment since governments keep increasing pension Age to 67... soon it's gonna be 70... while pharmacies and food industry do everything in their power to keep us sick and die early so our retirenment money goes back to the stealing government.
@@CptEddyPrice I retired at 65. You asked if I ‘saw my life passing through’…of course. Life and time both move on. My work time wasn’t wasted nor was my time wasted raising our children. They’re adults now and their mother and I are in our 70’s. Yes, I have the strength to do what needs done. I’ve always been rather healthy. I’ve never ingested one illegal drug nor have I ever had an alcoholic drink, not even a beer (which is still alcohol).
My life is somewhat dependent upon how I live - eat right, sleep well and enjoy the people in my life. But ultimately my time here on earth is determined by my Heavenly Father. His will, not mine.
Im currently saving for my proposal, wedding and my dream
Save your money on your wedding. Use it for the marriage.
Not blow it on one event.
😊
Just like the other guy said. Save for your dream, which most likely will bless your marriage more. Have a smaller wedding, and whenever you’re blessed with more then have that wedding. If the woman is more obsessed with a wedding than being a wife, then she is NOT a good wife but a liability. Hope we helped you with that advice.
If your dream is a woman you've got some maturing to do
@@MgtowFreightTrain no I already have planned ahead
@@Patrick-l6p if you don't mind me asking how old are you? And please don't feel obligated..
Good sermon. I do agree men are too soft. I find myself in that camp if I’m being honest. We do need to man up and grow up. However, one thing I will say is I do believe it’s okay to share your feelings and struggles with your wife who is a believer. She can help carry some burdens within reason and without sacrificing your leadership and protection of her. And it’s not good to suppress your emotions and struggles and just man up. I think there’s a balance between manning up and also sharing your struggles to receive help when needed. 18 hour days is tough. But I think working 8 hour days and then working hard after work in raising your family. But he’s talking it seems to young men that aren’t married.
He needs to provide examples of the behaviors he's scrutinizing but he sucks at that. He also doesn't know anyone else and he's projecting. If you can't take your armor off in front of your wife, she's not your helper. If she's gotta tell you to man up after your life is being threatened then she's not your helper. Imagine if Paul washer actually did fall prey to someone who wanted to take his life. His wife would live in regret after.
one thng i love about this man is that he's always on point, he tells it as it is no sugar coating.
Time-stamp
2:01, 3:30 - This hits different.
5:07, 5:45 - A sign of maturity
6:27, 6:40 - Slothfulness
I get confused and upset at sermons like this sometimes because i feel like i being shamed for having emotions
But i understand what Paul is saying when i watched it in depth.
We cant be weak and soft
We need to be strong and rely on God
I need to improve a lot
Men often have smaller social support circles than woman; often the wife is the main social support. Not everyone has a strong enough relationship with God or for whatever reason feels that empowerment of the Holy Spirit to cope (I recall someone once describing Elijah as 'suicidal,' and Jonah definitely 'had a bad day'). I think you're right...there's a balance. It's one thing to not crush your spouse under your insecurities and worries; it's another to believe you are obligated to maintain a 'chipper' facade till you 'fake it till you make it' or collapse.
Havent watched fully yet, but from what you said Im reminded of David perspective in Psalm. He describes a lot of his emotions in it, and even when experiencing the negatives he would say things like "why are you downcast, o my soul" (Psalm 42 : 5).
I do get sometimes the dark emotions really grip you tight, but I think that highlights more how important relationship with God is. Look at the world, how they try to cope with it. Imo without God, nihilism is the only logical perspective in this world, and you would be so negative and depressed with that view. Any worldly purpose is ultimately useless in nihilistic view, so you are either an honest depressed person or dishonest and in delusion of happiness pursuing "purpose". Luckily there is God, and nihilism isnt true as a result and there is actual purpose in our lives 😅
@@richardlang3460 agreed
I believe It depends on what our problems are
If its really bad we can ask for help by people that are close
In no way do i see that as a problem
But we should avoid being emotional and weak
@@Crustee0 i agree
I rely on God more and more if i have a problem or if im in a period of sadness
I also would be depressed without God
@@Crustee0 The Book of Ecclesiastes deals with just what you describe.
This is a solid video I think I still need to change and strengthen my ties with the lord a little more.
Get em. 💪🏽💪🏽
Glad I got this today. I am not 43 years late. Thank you!
He tells you how it is.
@@chriss4365 straight
No Calvinist dies that in terms of the gospel.
He tells you his own version of it. We're called to carry each other's burdens and that applies to women as well. The woman is your helper. The woman was made for the man not the other way around. If you can't come home and take your armor off in front of your wife and she scolds you like Paul's wife does, she's not your helper. She's a risk and a liability. Paul's wife isn't loving. She's scared and stupid because she's not concerned for him. She's concerned for herself
Amen, this message lift my head up and encourage me to keep walking in the middle of the storm smiling knowing that this is nothing compared to what Jesús suffered in the cross for my sins, all Glory to God the father for sending His beloved Son Jesús to pay for my sins.
I need a Godly woman like that. A woman can make or break a man when he is down
Sounds like his wife mentally abuses him and calls him a sissy when he's down
You need a woman who beats you down and tells you to man up instead of comforting you? You need a woman to shove a broomstick up your ass because she's uncomfortable with you taking your armor off when the world beats you down?
I just subscribed! Thank you so so much for posting this necessary video. Amen! God bless you and your ministry ✝️
It ends with you--talking to God and trusting Him to equip you with strength!
Thank you for this. I just realized and only able to articulate this now: "Man up" was demonized as toxic masculinity in our generation, but the underlying message there was "there is suffering, that's part of the package, carry your cross". God bless you ❤
Concise and Illuminating. Insightful for business building
I felt emotional about the young women wanting to find men. We've became such a material culture. But I will say this to young Christians, we don't get better by ourselves, love conquers all.
Christian women these days initiate 80% of all divorces. They don't want men they want puppets they can control
I needed to hear this. This message is grossly undershared. Wow!! I as a man, am spending too much time being soft and complaining to my wife. God please forgive me. I needed to hear this.
@@TPSYOM glad it helped man
My call is mentoring and guiding Men in Men’s ministry. Leading young and old Men in the Word of God as Godly Masculine Men. Praise Jesus 🙏🏻
This is the most valuable advice for men. Fathers were supposed to raise their sons and telling them these things but unfortunately many are failing.
@@timypaul it's unfortunate. It is a privilege to find these teachings on youtube
The problem with riches is, you forget easily who blessed you, unless you realize who is your King. After all we’re considered kings, a king is not poor and his riches are supposed to flow onto the herd.
We as kings have to give an account to the King of kings and to reverence the Lord of lords.
Psalm 23 says ‘the Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want, it doesn’t say ‘I have nothing’ not wanting anything means you have it already.
We are a channel not a volt
I don't know why I find this sermon funny 😂😂😂😂😂
May God have mercy on our men 🙏
What’s funny about it?
The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear? Proverbs 18: 14
He's addressing the product of this, which yeah, can be funny, but living this Scripture can make you feel desperate, empty, and seeking pleasure.
It's like being down real bad. But Jesus has given me purpose in honoring God through His life, His way, and His truth.
@@Cortez0 not in a bad way, please. .. it's just the way he says things like the society right now is creating soft men, which i can relate to as men around here don't like hard labour.... His advice are spot on. His choice of words and because i know most men in my culture won't like it just makes it funny to me, no offense
@@omotolaniogunremi594 I understand where you are coming from. It’s interesting sometimes to hear a woman’s perspective as someone who is on the outside looking in.
@@Cortez0 no need to be offended As a man it is funny not in a HA HA necessarily but in a way of our reality in 2024
Most have gotten soft , and others trying to provide these days as a man constantly taking Ls even when doing right . Then most other men with a platform getting rich off downing other men or selling a fake alpha dream or product. Not referring to this channel . It’s wild
How I have underestimated you man. I needed this message. Thank you 🙏 in god we trust
@@kamielpost1155 In God we trust
Thank you for this. Please pray for our churches.
Great video thanks man!
This message has to be taken with balance, God has no problem with men enjoying life, and enjoying the fruits of labor, but its a fine line if you begin to make an idol out of self being lazy, or an idol out of self being a workaholic in an extreme sense. Families are damaged by both.
"Here is what I have seen to be good and [v]fitting: to eat, to drink and [w]enjoy oneself in all one’s labor in which he toils under the sun during the few [x]years of his life which God has given him; for this is his [y]reward. 19 Furthermore, as for every man to whom God has given riches and wealth, He has also empowered him to eat from them and to receive his [z]reward and rejoice in his labor; this is the gift of God. 20 For he will not often [aa]consider the [ab]years of his life, because God keeps [ac]him occupied with the gladness of his heart."
Ecclesiastes 5:18-20
Man as much as Paul's preachings cut deep coz of where i'm coming from right now i love it alot ...he's funny and what he speaks is facts and i'm about to work the hardest i've ever worked throughout my entire life...when he mentioned how men stay hrs behind video games he was talking about me from 2010 to 2024 summer but i'm done with gaming right now, i will one day be back but not for crazy hrs tho that's no time soon coz i got alot of work to do...my relationship with God needs to be first and work and family after i really don't have time for wasting anymore...i hate that i wasted most of my life behind games and being in my feelings that it hurts my chest just thinking about all that wasted time ...but going forward it's a real man of God who has his sights set on Becoming the best version of myself
Congrats on quitting video games brother. Your testimony is powerful man
I need more discipline in my life, I need it because Discipline is always important and Discipline is whay makes you successful in life. Thank you so much for sharing this video with us, That man is wise, God bless you.
My heavenly Father, I know You are calling me to Change, please show me the way and bring the right people into my life. I want what YOU have for me and thats it. please forgive me, I repent of all mt sin. I pray for grace, mercy and wisdom to make the right choices from now on, having discipline to be committed to living a Christ Filled Life in JESUS name !!!!
This video was a wake up call for real,i resonated with most of the things he said and as much as I didn't like it he is right
Badly needed for everyone to listen.
Thank you for sharing.
This Babylonian fake world has nothing to offer that can be compared to the treasure we have believing in Yeshua.
Seek you first the kingdom of God everything else will be given unto you.
Matth.6:31
Ouch!!
Love this TRUTH!
I say I am a hard worker but I can say the school system kinda failed us. Seeing others fail classes in school but still getting passed started having impact on other students like me, thinking what is the purpose of we are going to pass anyway
Young Men take this advice seriously. I will be 48 soon and did not. I was a fool but by the grace of God will still finish the race strong and in my right mind.
God bless all those who read these message, For God so love the world that he gave his only begotten son that who so ever believe in him should not perish but have everlasting life. Amen
He is right about everthing and about the Phantasie World.
Thank you
“Are you loosed from a wife? Do NOT seek a wife!” This is 1 Corinthians 7:27 and I’M OBEYING IT! PERIOD!!! 🤷♂️
Convicting. I am guilty of so much of this, and it's been bugging me. I needed this.
love this video just brilliant
Powerful presentation
That stuff does exist it's just in the spiritual world. Angels and demons can move very swiftly and change direction like you can't imagine.
🔥🔥💪💪 Very sobering
Thank you ❤
Thank you.
For sweat and tears. Lets keep going.
Thank you for raising us women our standards.
Thanks for the strong and practical advice! Keep it coming!
I was a missionarry and I felt like a fish in the water.
Finally I found where and how I can serve in the Kingdom of God.
But then I had to leave the Missionfield because of problems with a women that grew thanks to her into problems with the rest of the team...
Loosing the work HE called me to was a great heartbreak especially because I left my carier opertunity in order to become fulltime missionarry.
Going back into the secular workfield feels like looking back...
I've been 6 months without work by now.
I was told to get a job.
Maybe I go to a Bible College instat.
Do what you WANT to do. Don't do what Paul washer tells you. It's your life. You can do anything and God directs us with our talents in all kinds of places. He took you out of the mission field because it was his plan. Remember that.
I grew up poor and miserable with nothing. Through Jesus I found the strength to ride above and get out of that misery. It’s ok to have nice things as long as you don’t let it change who you are. Jesus said it was hard not impossible.
Your not saying we shouldn't share our needs? You just said that.
This very much applies to me.
I don’t disagree with this, I am a talker, far too much of one (see what the Bible says about the tongue), and I process my intense emotions verbally with anyone who will listen.
I’m pretty good about people trying to kill me, in fact that feels pretty normal, but failure eats me alive. I get very confused and my relationships struggle.
To clarify, I’ve deployed several times, I’ve completed the hardest military training, still live in Coronado, CA.
But yeah I needed to hear this. Thanks.
Paul is full of shit. He gives no examples and his wife just beats him down when he's facing hardship. And she does this because she can't handle being a real helper to him. It's obvious who wears the pants in his relationship
Failure eats everyone alive. You're not a piece of shit because you verbalize that to a woman.
Thank you for this video!
First I was sceptical about Paul Washer, I think he sometimes hits legalism, BUT is it legalism or is it bare truth?
His way of teaching is pure and you can easily see his heart, he shows a heart that is fully connected with God
It's pharisaical projection is what it is. Paul is a very anxious and depressed man. I can't imagine him being joyful at all
Amen ¡!!!!!! You got a real Good Woman!
Truth! That's what we Stand for!
We go down after the broke up, sometimes you see a person who you love moving and sleeping with everyone that she find in the street just to revinge you, it kill us, sometimes we use to ask to the creator like "Lord why me?".
I know exactly what he is talking about. “Man up!”
Great lecture! :)
Glad it helped!
💐💐💐💐💐Thank The Lord For This!💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
I’ve seen loads of useful ie good videos on RUclips this week month etc. this was at the very top of them all thanks for sharing
4:28 wooohh!!! fire fire fire
I’m fighting for my relationship and have had my eyes open to the man I was when I started this relationship and I’m ready to be him again. I got lazy and content with where I was and was growing and it caused me to fail in so many of these areas brought up in this video.
Listen. All of us are sinners and fall short. You're not a piece of shit. Be good to yourself. Remember it is God who works in you to do good and to grow and to be sanctified
Love this video god is now in my life 🙏 thank you Jesus for everything and bless everyone in this chat
"it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God"
- Luke 18:25
I just want to pay off my debts and have a home for a future family. Be less dependent on the government. Thank you for this advice. I will continue to carry the burden.
Even the women in the church look for well dressed men who have money. I’ve pulled 17-20 hr days. Leaves no room for anyone or anything else. You need balance. You need to work, dress well, work out, have money, be involved in your church, etc. Those that aren’t doing those things are just boys who are constantly in a woman’s friend zone. There is a channel called the Order of Man. I would like Paul Washer to spend time with them and discuss balance in these areas. Also, note this: women these days (even or especially in the church) are often not worth the effort. There are a lot of men staying single because of the ridiculous expectations placed on them these days. Not everyone will be rich. How many fathers out here have that as an expectation for their future son in laws. So what you end up with are actually bad men who can provide. This usually ends in divorce. Seen it way too many times. Or an evil woman who divorces a man to take all hard earned money and leave him a pauper. Seen it way too many times!
Love from India
Very good job brother
for the men who are single and already feel that you want that wife badly here is my recomendation: become a man admired by your peers. a good woman will admire you and respect you for who you are. never ever do dishonorable things specialy in front of her, and make sure your submition is to God, not to her. 18 years of marriage and the only times I sensed my wife lack of love or respect were at the times I allow myself to put distance between God and myself.
Thats a real man
Wow, his wife sounds amazing ❤
Thank you for the video.
MAN UP
Amen 🙏🏾 men up and take up your cross
This actually really spoke to me. I felt the same way. I love the lord and want to follow his ways. But all these church songs, and some of these preachings I hear just sound soft. I don’t feel any masculine energy. I wish I could find a church where they speak like this
Today is different. Man I carried around the suicide and emotional abuse of my mother Feeling damned worthless and couldnt take the love of christ. Even then I had the strength to jump in front of weaker people no matter what happened. I Was always brave. But still emotional needy and unable to raise my relationship to god. God stayed at my side. What washer says makes me fuc&*€× angry. He should have walked in my shoes. Christ teached me compassion.
Paul is an idiot. There's no such thing as "needy". He has been called needy by his wife because she wears the pants in his house. So he projects it onto everyone else. When someone says you're "needy" they're literally saying "you have to play by my rules and do what I want and if you don't then tough luck because I have all the power". Paul's wife has all the power. He gets beat down by the world and she cracks him with her whip of disrespect and humiliation.
I'm not motivated by anyone who beats me down like that when I'm going through hardship.
And I guarantee if Paul actually fell prey to the people threatening his life, his wife would never blame herself. She would just monkey branch to the next guy and treat him the same.
Tell me you’re stuck in bad theology without telling me you’re stuck in bad theology .. this guy went first
The problem is that that fantasy is many people’s ‘daily bread!’
Great video
Some good points in this surrounded by an equal amount of wild and extreme, unbacked claims
Men find the courage to talk about their burdens and emotions and this guy says they sound like girls.... Total misunderstanding of masculinity! God calls men to lead and be a rolemodel, not to be unapproachable and to avoid any weakness. The strongest men I know manage to take off the mask of invulnerability and walk authentically and passionately with God!
Its like he preaches just to transform the next generation into his: 1 don´t talk about your emotions or burdens (better hide them) 2 work all day long and save the money to buy a house and dont have any hobbies.
I don´t see that as the main points of the bible.
When I read the bible, I want to become a man, that is full of faith and trusts in the lord completely. I want to encourage others and love them unconditionally. I want to stop caring about houses or money, because I rather want to store up treasures in heaven. And I want to be close to others and share my faith and therefore also my struggles with them.
Paul is a miserable and anxious man who's married to a wife who beats him down after the rest of the world does. And he's grateful for it. He's a cuck. And he's projecting his marriage onto everyone else. I'd kill for a woman I could be myself with. And I'd lay the world at her feet if she just showed she cared.
Working 18 hours a day is too much. It leaves no time for bible study or prayer.
Love this
Extraordinary!
Empty pursuit🎯
As for Sign 5: There’s no incentive to save! Not when houses require 2 incomes to afford and when women just want the top 10-20% of men and follow the missionary dating mentality if they are dating one of them.
Only buy a house you can afford. And stop caring about women who aren't worth your love.
You’ll own nothing and be happy. Don’t chase women. The moment you stop doing that, people like the guy in the video will tell you you’re not a man unless you get married.
There. Fixed it for you.
Ok as a sister in Christ … I disagree here. God designed US with human emotions . But we aren’t supposed to be LED by our feelings. Sharing emotions = vulnerability. Vulnerability cultivates emotional intimacy by modeling emotional safety which leads to physical intimacy inside of marriage . We’ve HAD Enough generations of testerone tucking & hiding themselves ( their hearts) away & calling that the “ ideal mocho man”. Why are we borderline-bashing the *potential* for men to be TENDER Yet Remain Masculine while offering tenderness ????
Yeah, I understand now. I used to not get what he was trying to do, but once you see it, it's like Where's Waldo. If you're provoked, you're not whole, if you're unmoved, you rather don't understand, or you understand pretty much completely.
His teaching about therapy is too extreme. It’s not cowardly to talk to your brothers about issues or that you should hide emotions and feelings. It actually makes you a weaker men for you to ignore your feelings and emotions. People need to treat mental health more responsibly like any other body parts.
Brain is apart of our body, so is mental health. You don’t just ask God to heal you when you have cancer or even tooth ache. You go to the doctor/ dentist before it gets worse. In theory, sure God can heal you but is it practical?
So is mental health and your brain in that sense. Your brain is your body aka organ that can also affect your mind aka mental health.
I’m going to make sure my sons are READY for marriage by their 18th birthday, house, suv/truck, savings account. We will instill hard work and saving money - yearssss before they’re 18.