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  • Опубликовано: 10 дек 2024

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  • @EBB9667
    @EBB9667 Месяц назад +137

    Being discarded by an avoidant is so unbelievably painful. Do NOT talk to them ever again. Cancel them completely out of your life.

    • @Kavilion
      @Kavilion Месяц назад +23

      It’s genuinely the most painful thing I’ve experienced in a relationship. At least when you’re cheated on you know what happened and can recover. Being thrown in the trash with no explanation does bad things to your sense of self.

    • @CatwalkPurz
      @CatwalkPurz Месяц назад +7

      @@Kavilionso so so painful but if they are not “feeling” the relationship, then pulling away is a GIFT to you. I love that song by Garth Brooks “Unanswered Prayers”. What is meant for you will stay. 🙏🤗

    • @gracemutanu7513
      @gracemutanu7513 Месяц назад +2

      Makes sense.

    • @Muz6969
      @Muz6969 Месяц назад +1

      Mine blocked me 9 months ago after a row,but I’m having fake accounts adding and messaging me every 1-2 weeks,what does this mean?

    • @CatwalkPurz
      @CatwalkPurz Месяц назад +2

      @@Muz6969 It means nothing. 🙌🙏 what is meant for you will stay. Best to move forward as if they are gone forever.

  • @JeanElmore-z7i
    @JeanElmore-z7i 16 дней назад +207

    Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.

    • @GloriaStenium
      @GloriaStenium 16 дней назад

      Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.

    • @JeanElmore-z7i
      @JeanElmore-z7i 16 дней назад

      Wow, that’s incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him?

    • @GloriaStenium
      @GloriaStenium 16 дней назад

      His name is Fatherabulu, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reconnect with their ex.

    • @JeanElmore-z7i
      @JeanElmore-z7i 16 дней назад

      Thank you for sharing this valuable info! I just looked him up, and he seems impressive.

    • @wileysboyz
      @wileysboyz 2 дня назад

      I was in a similar situation and I have found that the best thing to do with someone like that is to block them completely. That way you don't have to wonder whether or not they will connect with you. You are in control and you have made the decision regardless of who started the lack of communication, you finished it! You know they won't contact you because you have blocked them completely. That makes it easier for you to move on. They are a complete waste of time and effort and are not worthy of your further attention. Let that be your mantra. Keep saying it until you believe it!

  • @amymitchell1054
    @amymitchell1054 Месяц назад +19

    Being with an avoidant and then having that relationship end is truly traumatizing. I have been in no contact for a couple months and looking back and thinking about the relationship I couldn’t go back. They will never change

    • @Stella-e2f8k
      @Stella-e2f8k 27 дней назад

      My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the RUclips channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back.
      If you are still interested in his service
      You can hit him up on WhatsApp
      ‪+2348114476566

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      One has to really dig deep and process the entirety of the relationship including the red flags and warnings we missed. I am doing this now after being broken up with my ex dismissive avoidant gf.
      I saw signs of cheating (some of which were confirmed signs), she was a big liar, gaslighter, future faker, etc. There were signs there even before we became exclusive that I should have never gotten into a relationship with her.
      I failed to see them or ignored them because I had a lot of empathy for her traumatic background - beaten, etc by men she was married to and someone she was messing with in college.
      Never again will I allow my empathy to override blatant warning signs / 🚩 about someone.

  • @2611Lover
    @2611Lover Месяц назад +58

    It's a waste of time with people like that. They can never be honest and they are quick to walk away and discard people. He begged for a baby and didn't support me. I went off on him two times and was disrespectful. I lost our baby and he wasn't there. I can never forgive or forget that. Don't waste your time on avoidants, they are toxic and can't love

    • @lenaluz2794
      @lenaluz2794 Месяц назад +5

      They are but if you notice they will keep the toxic people in their lives and the people who are healthy they discard.

    • @chelle_w_73
      @chelle_w_73 Месяц назад +1

      I’d like to know how they can so easily walk away when we need them the most. It’s the most heartbreaking, life changing experience ever. I can’t even see myself the same now.

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      @@lenaluz2794Yup, my ex wanted to stay in contact with her first ex husband (beat her before and during their marriage) but myself and the guy she dated before me, discarded.

  • @BuddyEman
    @BuddyEman Месяц назад +19

    bro you got this 100% right. My ex was an avoidant and I am an anxious. Glad I am not alone. Was wondering about her and she made it always my problem.

    • @AllForManKind77
      @AllForManKind77 Месяц назад

      Thx u so much. Alhamdulillah praise God i'm not alone

    • @BuddyEman
      @BuddyEman Месяц назад +1

      @@AllForManKind77 marhaba

  • @michellecastro1696
    @michellecastro1696 Месяц назад +16

    11 months no contact, thank you Coach you helped me in my darkest hours. Thank you very much ❤

  • @ingeweisenborn8729
    @ingeweisenborn8729 Месяц назад +15

    The abused become the abuser whether they want to admit that or not.
    The abandonedment they fear to the core is something they inflict on you without hesitation.
    Your explanation here is exactly what happened to me. Love bombing, bliss future planning then my life took a few tough turns at which point he ghosted leading to him pulling the rug from under my feet saying 'his heart just wasnt in it'.
    Incredible that essentially he invalidated the whole relationship.

    • @tarkov_6
      @tarkov_6 Месяц назад +2

      Yup, this alone is why I'm apathetic towards them. You experienced the same thing and decided instead to continue it instead of changing things

    • @francescopisu1568
      @francescopisu1568 22 дня назад +1

      At the very least I’m not alone in this

    • @LeafysHere
      @LeafysHere 18 дней назад

      oh im cooked literally same…

  • @Ms.T2024
    @Ms.T2024 Месяц назад +53

    Almost to the exact of us, I miss him, but I doubt if my Avoident Ex miss me, it's been 2months and he hasn't texted or called,. But I'm getting better each day....

    • @tankthearc9875
      @tankthearc9875 Месяц назад +4

      they do miss, but they hide it, they ruin their own lives

    • @jpatrick3081
      @jpatrick3081 Месяц назад

      Been 2 months here. Mines gone and maybe it’s for the best but I miss him. 💔

    • @Ms.T2024
      @Ms.T2024 Месяц назад +3

      @jpatrick3081 I miss him alot.. but we gonna be ok
      There loss

    • @magdasupreme3081
      @magdasupreme3081 15 дней назад

      You are not alone. Much love.

    • @trinityp8575
      @trinityp8575 7 дней назад

      They are masters of being silent and being ok with long / prolong no contacts. It doesn’t mean they don’t miss you. But it’s just they cope fine with not talking or seeing each other for long times. Not good …

  • @sulaimanbrooklyn
    @sulaimanbrooklyn Месяц назад +17

    My G! Always on time. In analyzing our relationship which has been over for a 1.5 years now, it all makes sense. She was exactly this. God help her. I've moved on gracefully. Thanks for all your help big bro!

    • @kittykaysworld
      @kittykaysworld Месяц назад

      youre still thinking about her, are you 100% sure youre over it?

    • @HsjakqkFsgaha
      @HsjakqkFsgaha Месяц назад

      ​@DhehedhCcdhdudThanks for sharing her information! With the help of this spiritual psychic, I was able to restore my marriage after two years of separation. It's truly amazing.

  • @jpatrick3081
    @jpatrick3081 Месяц назад +8

    He’s gone and isn’t coming back. I broke up with him because he was avoidant and emotional immature. We’ve gone no contact for 2 months. He’s not coming back. Why should I even want him? 💔

  • @Bodhisatwa1
    @Bodhisatwa1 Месяц назад +17

    Lovebombed > became distant > called her out > she broke up > she came back saying she made a mistake, wanted to do things right > was somewhat available but went back to being distant again > called her out > kept being distant > I got anxious, questioned myself> called her out again > she left > been in nc since > had to go to therapy 👍 Very fun being with an avoidant woho, shit fucked me up beyond belief. Now I just got my money up and keep going. I dont need that shit

    • @metalassassin8841
      @metalassassin8841 Месяц назад +2

      Basically same here, except I was dumped about 30 times 🤣.... Yes, by the same person lol

    • @Bodhisatwa1
      @Bodhisatwa1 Месяц назад +4

      @metalassassin8841 its so fucking annoying, lesson learned tho, not ignoring a single red flag ever again. If it feels like I have to chase, Im out 😂✌️

    • @metalassassin8841
      @metalassassin8841 Месяц назад +3

      @@Bodhisatwa1 We live and we learn... Yet, it's fked that I'm still hoping she's gonna come back... lol

    • @Bodhisatwa1
      @Bodhisatwa1 Месяц назад +4

      @@metalassassin8841 ay, the hope takes the longest to fade, but once it does you will feel blessed I guarantee it. One door closes another one opens type of feeling. I wish you the best my friend, you will be okay

    • @metalassassin8841
      @metalassassin8841 Месяц назад

      @@Bodhisatwa1 LOL, kinda funny... About the same time you've rplied she made contact... FML...
      That's true tho. Been through it before, but yeah... This one felt, rather different, way more painful... But hey, with each one, we get better as human beings

  • @tonitv9991
    @tonitv9991 Месяц назад +17

    question is finally answered at @11:30

  • @tredd9019
    @tredd9019 Месяц назад +14

    If you're going to keep a DA, plan on playing games forever. Playing you don't care. Playing disinterested. Playing cold.
    If you let your guard down and become human, they will dash. Usually without notice. Take them back, and it only gets worse. Forgiving them only makes them MORE ungrateful and avoidant. Go find yourself someone normal. Don't waste two years on their psycho bs like I did.

  • @RoosterCogburn111
    @RoosterCogburn111 Месяц назад +3

    You just described everything we went through 100% accurately. Been no contact since April

  • @missayamac
    @missayamac Месяц назад +2

    You are a very intelligent person, and I think you are by far the best relationship coach I've encountered online. Thank you. You have been helping me a lot in dealing with my avoidant partner.

  • @vanezafigueroa3471
    @vanezafigueroa3471 Месяц назад +6

    I wish I could stop caring I'm done with the uncertainty and the mind games

    • @colorado_koolaid2625
      @colorado_koolaid2625 21 день назад +1

      You’re not the only one that is going through this 😔. It’s going to be a challenge especially that it sounds like you have a good heart. Stay strong and remind yourself everyday that you deserve to be loved.

  • @AlphonseG-p2z
    @AlphonseG-p2z Месяц назад +3

    Thank you brother. This is so insightful and now I am learning how to point out and handle an avoidant woman!

    • @AlphonseG-p2z
      @AlphonseG-p2z Месяц назад

      I am all about self improvement and becoming the best version of ourselves. Avoidant are rough and you will never change them but if you fall for one just know you’re going to be drained and feel you’re never enough. Give them emotional space, no contact and show them experience and sometimes they will come back.

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      @@AlphonseG-p2zYou are better than me. After my last encounter and most recent breakup, I am not handling an avoidant woman at all. Once I sniff that out in them, I’m ending that sh*t with the quickness. I know where it will go: > lovebombing > closeness > distant > space > probably cheating > lying, etc.
      No, thanks.

  • @Shaady215
    @Shaady215 Месяц назад +3

    Bro this just made we wanna fight how accurate this is.. it’s triggering

  • @alexardon91
    @alexardon91 Месяц назад +14

    Coach blac been in NC 6 month , I still miss her but I Keep moving forward, I Wont call or text no matter what happens happens.thanks a lot for your videos

  • @frankgeary7574
    @frankgeary7574 Месяц назад +9

    Wow it’s crazy how most avoidants seem to break it off in a cold and narcissistic way. 😅

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      No one wants to say it but they are narcissistic in my book. The so-called difference is the intent but the outcome of their effects on you is that of a narcissist.

  • @theLanceInPants
    @theLanceInPants Месяц назад +2

    Imagine forgetting your phone at Starbucks or somewhere. You rush back and someone walks up to you with your phone looking to give it back to you.
    You might feel mildly, moderately or heavily in debt to the person, and the person can have a spectrum of responses as well. That's our ex-partners.
    Some feel for us strongly and eventually ruminate on how great we were, and maybe they feel they're not worthy for our love because they think they didn't do enough.
    Some don't at all, like we were just a season's end, the flavor of the month, a pleasant encounter that has passed.

  • @bigboss6867
    @bigboss6867 Месяц назад +3

    It took time coach, but I had to learn that the colossal vitality of my delusion had gone beyond her-- and beyond everything. Two years later, I find out from her parents that she's unemployed and a mess. Tell you this, if she wants to come back I'm not going to take her back unconditionally.

  • @movingsaudade6028
    @movingsaudade6028 Месяц назад +7

    This time last year I was watching your videos with so much pain and desperation ...I've since healed and moved on with my life..I love the channel for different reasons now...but now i watch and laugh like a hyena. I find humor in the things you say that I was experiencing...relationship turmoil can be ridiculous 😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @atfi100
      @atfi100 28 дней назад +1

      It's feels great when you heal 👍😆

  • @LadyLibra-kp8ox
    @LadyLibra-kp8ox Месяц назад +1

    This was good stuff, Sir👏🏽 Spot on! You literally told my story. Good delivery too. Thank you for spreading the information. Much success🙏🏾

  • @ananyapareek4840
    @ananyapareek4840 Месяц назад +4

    It is so true whatever you have said. Its exactly what happened. I am anxious one but i tried my effort for one last time after a month and then i stopped its been 3 months in total. I am healing but still not properly healed.

    • @Stella-e2f8k
      @Stella-e2f8k 27 дней назад

      My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the RUclips channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back.
      If you are still interested in his service
      You can hit him up on WhatsApp
      ‪+2348114476566

  • @pammyo1789
    @pammyo1789 Месяц назад +5

    Could you possibly do a video on how to do no contact when you have children together please? And also how to manage when they do eventually contact. There’s a lot of us single mums who are struggling with this scenario where we end up in a crossroad of just wanting to do no contact at all as but then we have to think about how this could affect the children in the middle. So basically we want to do this for us but at the same time we gotta think about that also. How does this work and how can we manage this to have the same outcome as you mention in your previous videos?
    Thanx coach Blac 🙌

  • @Shaady215
    @Shaady215 Месяц назад +2

    Amen to the first 5 minutes… Still watching

  • @DemocracyFirst2025
    @DemocracyFirst2025 Месяц назад +8

    Went no contact (again, worked last time too) after problems w/ my avoidant gf (I’m mostly a secure attachment style, anxious inwardly but not showing or expressing outwardly).
    On 10th day of NC this time, she re-engaged via text, breadcrumbing me while also mentioning meeting up to collect her belongings left at my house. Unsolicited told me she was sick in bed too.
    10 hrs later at 2 AM apparently no longer sick in bed she unsolicited sends me a video (seemingly filmed by her) on stage w/ dozens of mostly naked women dancing around a rapper and his entourage.
    What in the actual fck? I dropped her things off unannounced w/ out notification that I did so, later that same night. Trust was low before, it’s now non-existent. That’s her strategy? Worst part - I miss her terribly. God am I sick.

    • @Teegee1387
      @Teegee1387 Месяц назад +3

      No, just someone who fell in love and took your relationship seriously enough to do so.

  • @cosmicenergy3512
    @cosmicenergy3512 Месяц назад +8

    This just currently happened to me and it hurts so bad. I was always there for him. I supported him. I never judged him. Even when he would annoy me, I would still listen to him because i really liked him. It hurts so much because all I did was be kind with a big heart. He knew that I have a big heart. He was so comfortable around me. But as soon as i needed him to reassure me about his feelings towards me, he got frustrated and cut me off. I feel so dumb for letting him in because i never open up to men. However, i felt secure wity him. Once he noticed i wantee more of him, he randomly cut me off. Your video saved me from a deep depression. I feel that im only here to heal men and once they get filled up they leave me. Im so understanding and I have boundaries. But i notice i always put a mans happiness and needs before mine. It's just how I am organically and I need to stop this..

    • @sarahs2135
      @sarahs2135 Месяц назад

      You just described my situation, and me, with every word. God bless you 🙏 ❤️ Keep shining, keep loving, and keep believing, because God made you exactly the way you are, for a beautiful plan He has just for you. Don't let anyone take that from you, or stop you. 💯💞

  • @PicoStacks
    @PicoStacks Месяц назад +2

    The Titans need to be “Avoiding” the Lions 😂 have a good day coach

  • @MegaAlsf
    @MegaAlsf 4 часа назад

    So very true, my ex was exactly how you described it!

  • @monikmonik5485
    @monikmonik5485 Месяц назад +10

    Me and my ex saw each other for the first time at a party on Saturday since we broke up in July. He ask me for my number and he text me later on that night saying he really enjoy seeing me that night.

    • @Zenned.out.Studio
      @Zenned.out.Studio Месяц назад

      Tbh, I love the optimism and I do hope it works in a great way because everyone deserves what the soul wants. Really hope it works in your true favor. I was to share and look back, I wish I’d come back at a time when my ex and I are working together through our challenges and not giving up. I just don’t think people have the heart that sets everything free. Unconditional love is painful but worth every inch.

    • @trinityp8575
      @trinityp8575 7 дней назад

      Not enough effort for reconsideration…

  • @SamakaSRC
    @SamakaSRC 14 дней назад

    Mine told me that he wants to be friends because I understand him, even when he doesn't understand himself, and that's rare to find. Went no contact a few days later. It's been 3 weeks, struggling the last few days but you're helping me stay strong. It's hard because he's watching my social media and liking my posts, almost every time. But I'm just letting that stuff go for now.

    • @Hdndndnd-gy6si
      @Hdndndnd-gy6si 9 дней назад

      Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my four-year relationship ended, and moving on felt almost impossible. I tried everything to reconnect, including seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me. I’m sharing his channel here, in case it might be helpful to someone else.
      @droman01

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      Disconnect from him on social media so he can’t see your posts. When we are discarded / broken up with by avoidants, it’s not the usual breakup. It’s pretty painful.
      You have to protect your heart, mind and soul. You have to block this person from being able to call you, text you, email you, whatever. Become a ghost where they can’t see you.
      Start reclaiming yourself and knowing you were ok before them and you will be ok after them. They are just one of many people out here.
      Focus on yourself, strengthening the relationship with yourself and becoming the best you that you can be. Also do a relationship overview where you look at the relationship you had with him to figure out what 🚩 you missed, your blind spots, etc. Then make the greatest efforts to change that going forward to become sharper, wiser and stronger for yourself and in any relationship you have going forward.
      It hurts, I know. I’m here typing this and dealing with a breakup myself. However, this is not permanent. You got this!

  • @cawi8450
    @cawi8450 Месяц назад +6

    Yeah probably, but this feeling is fluid. Don‘t worry, the avoidant is just fine without you. Move on as soon you can. If some one wants you, you will see, feel and hear it. Don‘t settle for false hope and pain.

  • @BruceJC75
    @BruceJC75 Месяц назад +2

    She’s been hurt too badly by her ex husband. There’s a trauma bond there.

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      Same with my dismissive avoidant ex gf. Ex Husband (been divorced from him over 12 years) beat her before and during the marriage. She talked about him quite a bit during our relationship. Even said he was an example of being a securely attachment man the day she broke up with me. I knew there was no hope of never getting back together because her imprint of a secure man is toxic and guys who treat her right get messed over.

  • @KhrystynaBraverman
    @KhrystynaBraverman 14 дней назад

    Thank you Coach! 🐥

  • @dedrajones4174
    @dedrajones4174 Месяц назад +10

    You just described a full blown narcissist!

  • @bipbop7231
    @bipbop7231 Месяц назад

    Hi Coach! Cool jacket! Thank you for the insight!

  • @DJxDinero
    @DJxDinero Месяц назад +1

    Spot on

  • @Shaady215
    @Shaady215 Месяц назад +2

    She slid on my birthday saying happy birthday I just said thank you. She sent heart eyes to my nieces and nephews pictures on my IG story. I didn’t respond. It’s been like 18 months coach I still miss the mf

    • @Stella-e2f8k
      @Stella-e2f8k 27 дней назад

      My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the RUclips channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back.
      If you are still interested in his service
      You can hit him up on WhatsApp
      ‪+2348114476566

  • @Smokeytalkstv
    @Smokeytalkstv Месяц назад +3

    Coach my ex of 9 years came back but since she lives in a different state she decided to monkeybranch to another guy and now I’m trying to get through this because I feel like she won’t come back and at the same time I feel like should I even take her back. I’m letting her relationship run it’s course I’m in NC but I just hope she comes back and by then I can say NO thanks

  • @DandelionBu
    @DandelionBu Месяц назад +4

    Hello Coach, hope you are well. I need to ask about no contact. In another video, you mentioned that it’s best to wait for my ex to reach out to me instead getting into contact with him. What if he’s doing the same and is awaiting for me to contact him? He’s not contacting me because he wants me to be the one to reach out to him?
    I hope that makes sense and you reply to this comment or create a video about it for everyone to learn. You’re amazing, I love listening to your advice as it’s helpful

    • @saydiavila1_
      @saydiavila1_ Месяц назад +3

      Even if you are dying to text him, my dad told me that if a man love you and wants you, he will show up for you! He will text you! Wait… and if not find yourself growing, look for other things

    • @barnabaskalu
      @barnabaskalu Месяц назад

      ​@@saydiavila1_ is this applicable to men also.....

  • @d4444-g7z
    @d4444-g7z Месяц назад +1

    Currently through this, it’s the second BU because of a conflict by my FA ex. I am secure with anxious tendencies and became anxious once when she ghosted me for 2 weeks. That’s when she blocked me. We were emotionally very close.
    The first BU that was also by her I decided to go NC and we got back that’s when she told me she was in a very bad state, felt regret, started to appreciate my presence, did some reflecting unfortunately did not reflect enough. It is what it is.

  • @pierfrancescorubini2899
    @pierfrancescorubini2899 Месяц назад

    thank you coach

  • @tankthearc9875
    @tankthearc9875 Месяц назад +3

    im at almost 5 months, she came back a few times, but tried to put me in the friendzone, i refused and she is having feelings for a gay riend because they can keep the intimate distance, im done with her messed up head

    • @bless8861
      @bless8861 11 часов назад

      Yeah leave that alone

  • @jdee9844
    @jdee9844 29 дней назад +1

    My ex ‘monkey branched’ to his ex a year ago, without communicating with me. I was hurt and felt very disrespected. We were together 1 year.
    I’ve come a long way in my healing, immediately went NC, which was hard, but helped significantly.
    I’ve also dated since, but curious. We are in the same social circles and our paths have crossed a few times. He stares, follows and hovers around me. We've exchanged pleasantries, including some small talk. He compliments me, saying how good I look - as always.
    I have accepted that he is unlikely to apologise (has had the opportunity..)
    I noticed he blocked me some months ago. I’m baffled. It has become less awkward now. Does he not think an apology is warranted? Or is this just another form of ‘avoidance’?
    I believe he’s still with the ex.
    The experience has made me very mindful!

    • @HHh-j8v
      @HHh-j8v 27 дней назад

      My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the RUclips channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back.
      If you are still interested in his service
      You can hit him up on WhatsApp
      ‪+2348114476566

    • @Hdndndnd-gy6si
      @Hdndndnd-gy6si 9 дней назад

      Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my four-year relationship ended, and moving on felt almost impossible. I tried everything to reconnect, including seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me. I’m sharing his channel here, in case it might be helpful to someone else.
      @droman01

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      I wouldn’t give him the time of day besides pleasantries when you both cross paths. Other than that, he is not worth any investment. He cheated and left you. Relationship dealbreaker 4 Life! There is NO chance he will ever be in your life again. None. Stick that in the core of your being. He betrayed you and gets nothing from you outside of pleasantries. Nothing!

  • @mmt2310
    @mmt2310 Месяц назад +1

    The answer isn't until 11:18 min in.

  • @sungoddess8005
    @sungoddess8005 Месяц назад +2

    Who gives a phuck when I’m done I’m done .. no contact is forever for me

  • @BarbaraAdamczyk-eq2jg
    @BarbaraAdamczyk-eq2jg Месяц назад +4

    I was with my x boyfriend for 12 years. We broke up last May I moved out in June. He moved his rebound in July or August ended in March. They always argued he told me. We started doing things for 5 months things were great. Then he told me he met someone new. Did that behind my back. I knew nothing. So i believed he used me till someone else came along. Who does that? We are adults here. When we talk we fight. Hes always right. I'm always wrong. So he blocks me on his phone. I did leave a message and he seen it on his blocked calls. I guess I touched a nerve. He texted my 90 year old Dad and told on me. What do you think of that? This isnt the first time he told on me either. What's wrong with him? Please answer that for me!!
    Ty!!

    • @CatwalkPurz
      @CatwalkPurz Месяц назад +2

      Monkey branching is so cowardly BUT by returning to this person, this behavior is “allowed”. It is “possible” for people to change but not probable.

    • @BarbaraAdamczyk-eq2jg
      @BarbaraAdamczyk-eq2jg Месяц назад +1

      @@CatwalkPurz Thank you for your helpful comment. I believe he will never change and I'm tired of it all....

    • @cantonio270
      @cantonio270 Месяц назад +2

      My ex and I were together around the same time and about 1 month after we broke up, she was already on dating apps, then 3 months later, she's in a new relationship and he's moved it. In our last conversation, she wouldn't even let me see her in person, I had to talk to her outside the house on the phone. She then blocked me and deleted anything and anyone associated with me. I know I made mistakes, too, but I was willing to do anything. 😔

    • @BarbaraAdamczyk-eq2jg
      @BarbaraAdamczyk-eq2jg Месяц назад +2

      @@cantonio270 I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It's so sad. You are probably better off without her. I think all we can do is take it day by day. I'm just tired of trying and trying. I just came to the conclusion he truly didn't love or care about me. When his new relationship doesn't work he best not get intouch with me.

    • @cantonio270
      @cantonio270 Месяц назад

      I'm sorry about your situation too. I've also come to the same conclusion. It feels like I never mattered, and it has made me question our whole relationship. I don't even want to date or even know how to date anymore. 🫂

  • @nasevo
    @nasevo Месяц назад +1

    Coach - an avoidant broke up with me and I wanted a NC, but they keep calling or texting. Do I block them at this point if they won’t honor the NC?!

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      No Contact for life. Once they broke up with you, you are free of them.

  • @ArunikaNagaraj
    @ArunikaNagaraj Месяц назад +2

    Dude......my bf reached me after I went no contact after breakup.....by again he completely disappeared and it's been 1month of no contact ....but he doesn't wanna initiate a conversation with me but to other friends

    • @Stella-e2f8k
      @Stella-e2f8k 27 дней назад

      My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the RUclips channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back.
      If you are still interested in his service
      You can hit him up on WhatsApp
      ‪+2348114476566

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      Completely disappeared = relationship is over. You will have to move on. Create stronger boundaries and have stronger expectations. If they pull away, you are done forever.

  • @Sllihulkgaming
    @Sllihulkgaming Месяц назад +1

    It's been almost a month that me and ex gf are not together. It hurts man but i gotta be strong weve known together for 4 yr almost 3 yrs together. Met her sept 28 2021 and broke up with me sept 30 the day after our monthsary. It's sad that shes quickly to move on shed rather lose me than being with me. Hoping one day she'll realize

  • @joe8565
    @joe8565 Месяц назад +3

    Unrelated but does anyone know the music in the back? It’s so chill and relaxing

    • @pizzelle2
      @pizzelle2 Месяц назад

      Sounds like lofi music if you’ve heard that term, not sure the track though

  • @AWA89r
    @AWA89r Месяц назад +1

    I think my situations were worse than anyone on this planet! I’m watching almost every coaches about it for healing to become a better version of myself BUT I do not want him back! He treated me like 💩! I’m almost 3 months of NC, I’m ending the marriage of 16 years and together total 18 years!
    He won’t change, he’s too old to change even with once a week of therapy, it’s been 11 months.
    Unfortunately, we have kids together, it’s hard to deal with him, he’s so immature and talks everything to our teen, tries to alienation them. Even with the court orders that he must share and discipline the kids, he never has!
    He is super childish! He still consistently needs validation from his mom! He trust his mom more than me and share everything with her!
    I just can’t wait to see his last breath! He’s totally IDio1t!!!

  • @JD-zj5ib
    @JD-zj5ib Месяц назад +1

    She broke up with me last night after I was very nice and passed out candy with her on Halloween (cause she asked me to) I went home after she basically kicked me out (didn’t even kiss me) cause we were trying to work on things, then she texts me “I still really care about you but I think where just better off as friends” and I replied with “okay” and left it at that… hours later she texts me “that’s all your going to say?” Haven’t replied yet and I don’t know if I should.

    • @barnabaskalu
      @barnabaskalu Месяц назад +1

      Don't

    • @Stella-e2f8k
      @Stella-e2f8k 27 дней назад

      My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the RUclips channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back.
      If you are still interested in his service
      You can hit him up on WhatsApp
      ‪+2348114476566

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      She kicked you out. Now, she’s looking for validation that what she did was the right thing. Give her nothing! Move on with your life without her in it. Let her be someone else’s problem.

  • @mariannadermarkarian4884
    @mariannadermarkarian4884 Месяц назад +1

    I feel seeen, what is there a handbook?

  • @di114n2
    @di114n2 Месяц назад +1

    Almost at the 4 month mark of my split with my ex of almost 6 years . She reached out after about a month and said how much she missed me and we should get together in a few month when we’ve healed more . Haven’t heard a worse from her since august 11th . At this point it is what it is . I’m not reaching out to her even though every day I try talking myself into why I should and all my friends tell me just text her man

    • @Stella-e2f8k
      @Stella-e2f8k 27 дней назад

      My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the RUclips channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back.
      If you are still interested in his service
      You can hit him up on WhatsApp
      ‪+2348114476566

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад

      I’d say stay No Contact, work on yourself and invest in someone healthier. She’s trying to keep you on the hook while she is seeing what else out here will pan out. Don’t fall for the 🤡 games from her. You have 4 Billion women to go.

  • @iPULLdaTRiGg3R
    @iPULLdaTRiGg3R Месяц назад +1

    Me and my ex broke up a week ago, and we have 3 kids together. We are still living together because we’re trying to finish our lease which ends in a couple months. She cheated on and when I found out, she told me she loves me but she has fallen out of love with me, I was heartbroken. A couple days after she would randomly kiss me, she even wanted to have sex. I asked her why and she said “idk what I want, I’m trying to figure it out”. There’s some days where she would say she loves me and other days she won’t. Everything is confusing me and I don’t know what to do. I want this to work for the kids sake, but I keep getting mixed signals.

    • @deathislife88
      @deathislife88 Месяц назад

      Just went thru this sorta. My ex was seeing a guy behind my back. Tried the same shut kissing me even cheated on her new bf with me. She wanted my car lol. But I found out with proof she was cheating and a switch flipped. Ur dealing most likely with a jezebel spirit.

    • @bless8861
      @bless8861 11 часов назад

      Damn man having kids involved is rough.

  • @tylongkicks8821
    @tylongkicks8821 Месяц назад +1

    This sounds just like my ex. After going 30 days no contact she reached out by text ans call saying me to come over to her place to chill cough hookup last Sunday evening. I told her that I was busy but she can come to my my place later in the week with some wine. She agreed but sent me a flake text the day of 3 hours before the set time saying the medicine that she took made her stomach upset. I said ok just hit me up when you want to get together. Went no contact right after sending that text.

  • @Kadenfries-uf3ti
    @Kadenfries-uf3ti Месяц назад +1

    My LDR ex broke up with me 2 days ago she added me back today and said that she will get back togehter with me when the time i move there gets closer which is 7 months and wants nth to do with me until then should i go no contact what should i do

  • @DJxDinero
    @DJxDinero Месяц назад

    Jacket is clean btw

  • @lz657
    @lz657 Месяц назад +1

    This is so spot on. Everything you described, I lived through. thank you Coach Blac

  • @cabiles96
    @cabiles96 Месяц назад +1

    Mines worse disappear on me again after i paid for his phone bill

    • @Stella-e2f8k
      @Stella-e2f8k 27 дней назад

      My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the RUclips channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back.
      If you are still interested in his service
      You can hit him up on WhatsApp
      ‪+2348114476566

  • @sixspans5838
    @sixspans5838 29 дней назад

    Just went thru this

  • @GalenMarcell-m7u
    @GalenMarcell-m7u 22 дня назад

    I've been silent it's been more then 6 months that we've broken up and now all of a sudden she posting pics of her new boyfriend and how she loves him and taking selfies when she never used to do those things in our relationship or post at all.

    • @GalenMarcell-m7u
      @GalenMarcell-m7u 22 дня назад

      She broke up with me by the way

    • @Hdndndnd-gy6si
      @Hdndndnd-gy6si 9 дней назад

      Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my four-year relationship ended, and moving on felt almost impossible. I tried everything to reconnect, including seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me. I’m sharing his channel here, in case it might be helpful to someone else.
      @droman01

    • @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l
      @BiscuitsNGravy-p3l 3 дня назад +1

      Stop following her on social media. Completely cut her off. If you see her in person, it’s ok to say hello and be pleasant. No long conversations. Other than that, you have to move on. It’s over and there are 4 Billion more women you can choose from, roughly speaking.

  • @thathcer
    @thathcer 18 дней назад

    🙌🏾👌🏾

  • @LeafysHere
    @LeafysHere 18 дней назад

    IM COOKED SHES LITERALLY THIS WTF ITS OVER 💀💀

  • @elliea8868
    @elliea8868 Месяц назад

    did you bump your head

  • @MacbethBlessing
    @MacbethBlessing Месяц назад +1

    Mine is I walk away and go silent and no contact for 6months but he didn't reach out either, but one day he liked my video on tiktok , weeks after he called and asked where I was this whole time and I said am around and ended discussion,and I was tempted to call him again because I missed him and still love him, so I texted him on WhatsApp and he called me on video call and started talking about how I walk away and I told him that he was the most heartless person I have ever seen, we started arguing, and I told him to create a chance for us to sit down and talk, and he said No, that I have insulted him so why will he want to sit and talk to me, he refused and blocked me on WhatsApp, then I felt that I have make a very big mistake by texting him for the first place, and that makes me so sad because I felt like I have been avoided the and am so sad, please what s time, and am so sad, please what should I do to make him regret forever??? Do I still have a chance to do that?

    • @Stella-e2f8k
      @Stella-e2f8k 27 дней назад

      My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the RUclips channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back.
      If you are still interested in his service
      You can hit him up on WhatsApp
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    @CynthiaChamoun-n2m Месяц назад

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