@DiamondR11 Blue you what? You don't _claim_ her? What is that even supposed to mean? That women are a collective and you've stepped up to speak for them? She's just a shitty person. This isn't indicative of all women lol.
@@jmcdrawer5031 I took this personally as someone who had a crappy mother growing up and father who was there for me no not all mother's deserve everything same goes to father's it depends But your shitty take is something
So when she's alone and is a single mother of a son, is she gonna be like "no son, don't take care of me, take care of the ladies that come into your life. I dug my own grave so this cardboard box will be fine for me." Hell no, She's gonna want her son to buy her a damn house.
Most guys don’t want to be parents either lol, it’s why “pump and dump” is a thing. A woman that actually wants a family is a huge turn-off for most guys
No one automatically owes their parents anything, because raising kids is the default responsibility for a parent; keeping them fed, clothed, sheltered is the bare minimum. THAT SAID, some people are prone to forgetting that you don't need to owe someone anything in order to support them. That's why it's so wholesome and heartwarming when someone does something like buying their parents a house. It's going above and beyond to help someone you love, not some kind of obligation like paying off a debt.
All due respect, Parents are owed-they are owed respect for the fact that they are your parents, they are owed care when they age, as they cared for you when you could not care for yourself. And they are owed love as they loved you when you could not love yourself. This is not to say that there aren't parents who betray the trust placed on them when they have children and they should be held accountable for how they treat those children. But i strongly disagree that parents are not owed anything--the debt we owe to them cannot be repaid and what we are able to do we should do. If we don't do that, then we shouldn't expect the same when we are old...
What she fails to realize is that there are many single mothers back in the day ( unfortunately even now ) that struggled. To the point where these mothers could barely feed their kids. Those kids grew up and bought their mom’s houses, cars, condos because guess what? They love them and saw that as strength.
There are more single moms now than ever before, our dumb society doesn’t teach people to commit or work, and then they’re told to sleep around with fifty people a week, without ever considering the fact that some people want to have kids. And I think that the repercussions go both ways, men leave the mother to raise the kids without any support, and women kill the men’s children without they’re consent.
Crazy how true this is. I dated a girl in high school and it seemed like the better my relationship with my parents got the madder she got. Lucky me i ended up with a girl thats completely the opposite and she encouraged me to keep building that relationship with my parents.
Thanks God you left her and found yourself a healthy relationship. Anybody that tries to stunt your growth or demolish a previous interpersonal relationship is a big no-no.
A man that takes care of his mom (out of love, and not because he was manipulated or guilt-tripped into it) is a man that is good in my books. I appreciate everyone that reciprocates. If your child leaves you alone in your old age, it's because you didn't do a good job. Just like a song that I hold dearly in my memories: if I could, I'd buy my mum a house of gold. If I ever have a husband, I hope he's the type that loves his parents (if they're good, of course. Can't blame anyone that runs away from a toxic person).
to be slightly a devils advocate here its not the parents fault sometimes if a kid refuses to take care of them afterwards there are various reasons that could crop up or the child just doesnt have it in them to do that. think of how some of these old nursing homes treat the elderly some people are just incapable of taking care of another living being hence why i agree with hero hei 110% everyone CAN have a child but not everyone SHOULD have a child its called knowing your limits and responsibility.
As someone raised in a Christian household, I was taught about honoring your father and mother. I'm sure most of not all cultures encourage the child to honor their parents. My mother is a great example of this. It's been six months since her mother passed away, and she (together with my father) has made the sacrifice of moving in to take care of her father, who is bedridden and with dementia. Before grandma's passing, she would keep an eye over them, even if her mother tried to be manipulative into getting her attention. Things are a bit easy, since my grandfather is a veteran and is receiving what's on his right, with more help to come. I do my part to honor my parents by sitting while they do whatever business and appointments they need to do. I do hope I'll be capable of giving care for them if the time ever comes. It's the least I can do.
We all used to know the art of honoring our parents, but these days not many people teach that anymore, and unfortunately there are a whole lot less parents who actually deserve more than the bare minimum.
This hating your parents mindset I think is mostly an American/western idea. I mean y'all already throw your parents in a home. 🤷🤷♂️ Honestly not surprised but still disappointed.
It is not just Christians, Confucianism also believe in such thing. The thing the West often forget, including Western Christians is one thing that Jesus had a very harsh words of on the Pharisees, which is keep making up excuses to not taking care of one's parents. By the way, do not forget one of the things that Yuri Bezmenov point out on the targets of subversion. One of the main targets is Family. The subverters wanted to destroy family to destabilize the society, both by making divorces more common and turning children against their parents, all under the guise of personal liberty.
@@junesmind7325, it's sad when that's done for selfish reasons, basically abandoning them. My mother had a talk with a caretaker consultant yesterday regarding the choice of leaving her father in a home, and, surprisingly, there have been cases where the caretaker ends up dying before the patient. There are many legal reasons for her to make that choice, however difficult it is. But as the only blood relative living in the country, she represents the majority of the choices and wills of her father, and she should take responsibility of choosing what's best for her father while also caring about her well-being. Last night was a moment she and I talked about their care if anything were to happen to them. My father has two children from outside his relationship with my mother, but she only has me and my younger brother. My brother is married, so there's also concern in that subject with his wife's parents. Very hard subjects to talk about, but it's as necessary as the talk about what to do when an old family member dies.
I always felt bad about how much my parents do for me, even during times where they were very poor they still did the best they could to support me. I want to make it up to them some day, no matter how much they tell me I don't have to
I feel you, I was raised by my mother and grand pa who weren't really poor but weren't well off. I owe them a shit ton for dealing with my bullshit and continued to encourage me through my life. Both are still alive but man time flies by fast.
Someone: *Has healthy enough of a relationship with their parents to help support the people who were a major part of their early life by choice because that's how attachment works* This B: "You can't do that, you gotta cut ties as soon as you can afford to!"
Funny thing, i used to have a girlfriend who did similar things. Once i was going to get a new cellphone so i was thinking of giving my late one to my ex since she asked if she could have it, but before i gave it to her my mom asked me for it too since she needed one for her company secretary, as such i decided to prioritize giving to my mom to help out her business and apologized to my ex since i did say i would give her earlier that same day. my Ex began blasting me with things like, "you should be your own person", "not let my mom take charge" or "you should let go of your mom and be independent". At the time i was in the middle of University and still dependent on my parent's help to fund my studies so i could not understand where this all came from. I think she wanted me to prioritize her instead of my mom, which honestly is never going to happen.
Nailed it in one. She wanted to be the one in control of you, and your resources. She percieved your mom as a threat to that and projected her desire to control and puppeteer you onto her.
Gotta say, the "if you're so selfish you can't keep it in your pants and you end up either aborting a kid or conceiving a kid who will live a rough life, it's kinda pathetic" part is just about the most based thing I've heard in a while.
... A man that disrespect his mom isn't trustworthy, if he can't treat the one that carried & birthed him good he won't treat his friends/Lovers/others well either. SAME goes for women, it says a lot about your person by how you treat your parents. (Not the abusive ones)
Tbf abusive parents exist. Either way though kids of abusers unfortunately tend to end up just like their parents either way so probably still avoid them though it’s not necessarily “their fault”.
I can understand your nuances. My parents abused me + drugs and I hated them for a long time. But as I grew up I noticed they were mistakes and effort wad made and now I take care of my mom who has terminal cancer. People mess up
Really shows she has issues of empathy. She can't imagine anyone having a life that isn't like her own, and just assumes all moms are crap...while also failing to realize at some point in her life she'll be the mom too old to care for herself. I just have pity.
IMO nobody owes their mom anything just for being their mom, but if you're a decent person and your mom treated you well, you will end up helping where you can
While I probably wouldn't be a kid who will buy my parents a lot of things once I'm out of the house, and agree "nobody asks to come into this world," I completely disagree that giving your parents nice things is a weird or "weak" thing to do. It's absolutely asinine to chastise others for having that kind of relationship with their family that they're so willing to go so far to do such wonderful things.
Imagine having your parents sacrifice a lot of their life and opportunities to raise you, and you do what you can to give back a little bit of the love you felt. and some bitch on twitter ridicules you and tells you your parents don't deserve love and that you need to leave them and never look back. i feel sorry for her parents, if she had them, cause clearly they could've done something better with their time than raising a disappointment
My mom did sooooo much to raise me and every now and then I make sure she knows how grateful I am for that. Yes, it's not my responsibility but it's something I want to do cause she means so much to me.
I always was of the opinion that twenty one pilots: House of Gold is one of the sweetest songs and has this aura of child like love towards their mom and it always brings a smile to my face...she probably has a meltdown when hearing this song
My mom sacrificed everything for me and my brothers and has honestly not had the best life. That's why I do whatever I can to make her life better, even though I admit I can't do too much and wish I could do more.
There is a difference between a parent demanding their children give them stuff because "faaaaaamilyyy" and a person who loves their parents and get them things out of that love
Literally got cheated on because my girl said I listened to much to my mom. Turns out my mom knew what kind of girl she was and was just looking out for me. My mother never told me not do things or anything like that, she just told me and a grown man and just be aware of my decisions. Glad I took things slow because this girl got impatient and got together with a older married man. So now she is a side piece instead of a actual girlfriend. And to think for valentine's day I had a whole trip planned and everything.
I'm so sorry for you 😞 I know maybe you're feeling hurted now, but trust me: Time is going to heal your heart. these kind of people don't deserve your feelings or your time. Personally i would love to meet more people who deeply love their mothers and do everything for them, because they would understand how i feel! My mother is my best friend and i will never leave her, i'll keep doing everything i can for her until the end ❤ Even after what you went through.... happy Valentine's day 💝🎁💋
The fact that she would voluntarily cheat on you _for someone she already knows is married_ should speak volumes about what kind of person you were dealing with. I know this will not lessen the pain, but rest assured that you didn't get cheated on "because you listened too much to your mother". You were cheated on because your ex-girlfriend was trash, and you probably loved the version of her that existed in your head, not the one in front of you. Take care of yourself.
When I think I already like Hero Hei enough, he comes on and lays down legendary takes which I support the hell out of. Thanks for being this person that has lots of great opinions and that has a platform to spread it out, you're AMAZING ❤️
The VTuber Ironmouse has one of the most amazing stories: Her parents had her when they were older, and she has CVID, so she requires lots of expensive medicine and plasma transfusions. Her family, and especially her parents, have always done their best for her, despite not being at all wealthy. After becoming the streaming success she is, Mousey not only paid off the remaining mortgages and payments on their still-current house, she _also_ bought her family a better house, to which they are planning on moving shortly. Mousey's parents are more traditionally-inclined, so they have a hard time grasping what it is exactly that she does to earn money, but there's no denying her efforts or the affects they have had on their lives, making it that much easier for them to live in comfort, and not have to choose between expenses. Yes, Ironmouse is a special case due to her condition, but she also demonstrates what is possible if you put in the effort and persist. And yes, you should absolutely work to support your famoly.
Mom: *carries baby in womb for 9 months, allows child to feed off the same food she does, raises child for ~18 years on own income* Paris: I don't OWE you SHIT!
My mother once needed cataract surgery that exceeded her available funds because retired. I paid the $6000 and stopped her from repaying me. Told her to take her new eyes somewhere nice because I love my mother. I feel nothing but gratitude and some guilt for being such an ass pain growing up. I also love, respect, and dearly miss my old man. If these things make me less of a man to you, you'd best make friends with the door.
i agree to the fact that you don't owe ur parents anything. unlike them you don't have an obligation to take responsibility. doesn't mean you can't do something nice for them but, it's not neccesary to suffer for them. yes, i had a terrible relationship with my mother. she resented my existence as the child born at the very end of a dead-end relationship. she projected her hatred of my father onto me. i laughed in relief when she died of her alcohol abuse only to realize the terrible memories don't fade easily.
My mom is one of the most important people in my life and I wouldn’t be where I am without her help. This post just makes me sad. Edit: “I don’t think people should be having kids if they can’t take care of their child.” How could you say something so controversial yet so brave?
The thing she doesn't understand is that we don't do such stuff for a sense of obligation. We do for a sense of love, for someone who was always there for us, raised us and made us the person we are. It isn't just a mother that we can be grateful, it can be our fathers, brothers, grandparents, any part of our family that is there in our hour of need.
not for nothing but in a cosmic sorta way, that woman in question clearly got with the right man, because he gave her a kid who grew up to be able to afford a house FOR the mom, how cool is that?? wish i could afford to pay off my parents' home outright.
"your mama need to know YOU are her child you don't owe her crap and anything you do for her is out of love NOT a requirement" I agree with this sentiment because really this only applies to awful, entitled mothers. This would never apply to a good mother. I know this my mother is fucking awesome and takes anything I give her with a massive shit-eating grin and brags about how great I am to her friends (I've given up on getting her to stop) On the other hand I know mothers who are so terrible and entitled that... yeah I don't even want to talk about them
If a guy respects his mom it's a giant green flag. She went through a ton of pain in childbirth, raised you into - hopefully - a good man, and it shows that he's responsible. He has spare money, and he's sending it to someone else instead of spending it on himself.
Our mom comes first in our life, before wife comes around she was already there, take care of us and rose us from begin to end, not to mention, no woman in your life will ever love you for who you are but your mom. If your mom was good to you, be good to your mom.
Some people are just nice like that, it isn't what she makes it out to be. This is family we're talking about, of course we'll be there for our family in whatever way we can. If it means big stuff like this, then that's what it means. If it means the little things, just giving them an ear to talk to, a shoulder to cry on, then that too. There are plenty of women out there, but we only have one family and we have to treat them right most of all.
Let's be real here. This woman doesn't really mean that people shouldn't support their mothers. What she means, but doesn't have the stones to say, is that she wants her boyfriend to give HER all of his money. And if she has a kid you know she'd bleed them dry. She'd expect a daughter to marry rich and manipulate men like her or force a son to work himself to literal death and give all of his paycheck to her. Like that one person said though, thank goodness most people know better.
So I personally have a terrible mother. She did nothing to secure the future of me and my autistic brother. In fact, she has actively set me up for failure by abusing the money she was given for us to fulfill her own selfish needs. On top of that, she would be very shady and has done some downright despicable deeds. This includes, but is not limited to: taking a title loan out on MY truck given to me by my step-dad's father (without my consent or permission) and dropping the late payment on ME to try and save, encouraging me to put my name on bills so she didn't have to deal with previous fees she had failed to pay, and even actively hiding the deaths of my step-dad's parents from us more recently just to name a few. I've given her many chances, but if there was ever a woman to not help in her later years, she would be the one. I can't even trust her because I know all she wants is money.
Man or woman or other; if you give back and support your parents, that shows incredible character imo. Granted not everyone has great relationships with their parents. But it still shows that the person is caring if you ask me. But no one can ever do anything good in Twitter's eyes. Also bet that if this woman somehow sadly has kids, she will be singing a far different tune.
my take here is that children do not owe there parents anything just because the parents gave birth and raised them that was there responsibility as a parent because they made the desition to have a kid if the child wants to do things for there parents in adulthood because they have the means to do so that is the childs desition they have no obligation to do so
Helping your mother is way to give back, to show your gratitude. It shows you are a kind and caring person. That you don't forget the people who helped you along the way. That you are not going to abandon someone as soon as they are no longer useful.
The sad thing is that I can kinda see what she was trying to say (especially since know of one or two parasitic mothers in my family alone and like 1-3 more beyond who are in my mother's orbit of associates). I feel like she had something she needed to get off her chest, but she did what every bad take does, she let her emotions take control and generalized and sexualized her take, seeming to believe that everyone will either take her side and/or will magically know exactly where she's coming from. Only to slapped in the face with the reality that human experiences aren't universal and people on the internet are strangers who have their own lives and opinions. Especially when it comes to their mothers or mother-figures.
Okay devil advocate here. If you have a known child and still choose to house your mother before yourself/your child(your baby momma you have every right not to give shit to depending), you're failing as a parent, and I'm sure most mothers would prefer their grandchild/child to be in safety security and privacy before they are. Hell buy yourself a house and invite your mother to live there too, I'm sure you/your child/your baby momma will appreciate the extra help around the place.
On the second tweet. She is right, sort of. You do not owe your parents anything. It is their responsability but if they raise you well and made you feel like you should reward your parents then that is fine. The problem appears when your parents feel entitled to whatever you make. To be clear. I never follow what people say on social media. I do what I think it is best for me. I also think that if parents would stop teaching boys that girls deserve to be treated like princesses or that they are angels and need to be protected, the overall relationship between girls and boys would improve dramatically. Parents insert an ideal of a women that does not exist. Women are human and are like men, they want things, have means to achieve it and use those means to achieve it. If you manage the expectations of your boy then your kid will plan and act accordingly. The amount of times I have heard mothers say, word for word, "If you are nice to girls you will have a girlfriend" is so painful that I cringe everytime I hear it. Mind you, it wasnt told to a 5 yo boy but to a 12yo just a few years before his dick starts to ask to make out with a vagina. This advice is so toxic that it can raise an entire generation of simps and combined with what I said in this paragraph, in the beginning, you will get helpless guys not knowing why they dont get girls. Who will they blame? Girls! Because they are not pricesses, they are not angels. They dont act like it and since they dont act like them, what are they? Exactly! Say it with me! Wh.....prostitutes! Do you see how raising boys like this can harm everyone? The same goes, and I hold dads accountable for this, to girls. They should not be treated as princesses or that they should fear men or look down on them or act towards them as if they are a different species. The amount of dads that are respponsable, in my childhood neighbourhood, for raising entitled brats, women as we used to call them, is so incredibly common that it is infuriating. Those dads are responsable not only for how their daughters act but they should apologize to the entire society for how they have done their job because they have enabled a generation of entitled brats and because society catters to women they will not know how horrible of a human being they are. These horrible human beings will raise children.
So we went from a woman getting mad at men that actually love and support their moms to endorsing a man that supports objectively criminal behaviour (human trafficking and rape). Sheesh, the strawmans are strong here lol!
Not all people were raised in the same circumstances so in some cases ya you don't own them crap if they neglected, abused you, passed burdens to you. But if they actually tried their hardest then ya repay the love they put in to raise you.
@@SoulAtParadise if it's obsessive then yeah it can be a bit much But usually "Mama's Boy" and "Daddy's Girl" are usually traits normal, empathic people have.
They pick the most irresponsible bastards of society and wonder why they can't find a "good man," then say shit like you're not supposed to be generous to your own blood. Honestly tho, whether it's a house, car, or just a fucking hug, don't be trying to say responsibility comes before love, on the one day when it matters. Also remember the saying "treat others as you would wish to be treated" because Karma is a real thing, you may very well get good things back for the good things you do for others.
Wow, that's one heck of a personal life reveal you casually dropped there. I'll do my best to remember to never turn the adblocker on again. You have my respect for having forgiven both your parents.
What a wild take, I hope I can become financially successful enough to be there for my parents and give them stuff Also late heart pls and I hope everyone has a nice day
Someone gave you love and a home, there is nothing wrong in wanting to do the same in return. You can't blame someone for doing something for someone the care deeply about even if it sometimes means you put them before you, as much as that displeases that one woman
My mom raised me, fed me, kept a roof over my head, made sure I was happy, made sure I was safe, made sure I was educated, made sure I was obedient, made sure I was kind, made sure I was considerate, made sure I was on-track, made sure I was healthy, and she still does every single one of those things every day If "wasting my money" on my mom means that I'm disgusting or unsolicited, then there's clearly something wrong with this Paris person...
i wonder why no pin smh
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Schrödinger's feminism: a woman is simultaneously a victim and empowered, until something happens. Then she chooses which state benefits her the most.
Best that she open her open box anyway
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I love this, so much.
Like I said women are overgrown children
Keep saying it!
You can honestly tell this person didn't grow up with a mother if she's willing to critize those who show love to theirs
This woman is demonstrating motherless behavior.
Mindy Kaling is demonstrating fatherless behavior.
Most rational comment I've seen in a hot minute
Fr I love my mom so much
Mom probably kicked her out for being a pregnant teen
Motherless Behavior
This woman is the literal encarnation of the "No parents?" meme
The orphanage don't even want her
Literally grew up with no love smh
Had no love from her parents so she uses her trauma to excuse her crappy actions
All women are like this.
She probably does have a mom and she treats her like dirt
This is some "you cheated on me in a dream, so I'm justified in slapping and berating you in public like a grudge filled Raven" energy right there.
Has that ever happened
@@pylotheric9777 it’s enough of a stereotype to assume it has happened at least once
@@pylotheric9777 *yes* . Well, I remember one where the girl broke up because of a dream, no slap. But it’s really not that far from that
Detachment from reality, clinical insanity or enlightenment? You decide lol!
Feminist energy.
So it's illegal to love your own mother?
These people are from the shadow realm
We don't claim her
Nah man she's straight from the underdark
@DiamondR11 Blue you what?
You don't _claim_ her? What is that even supposed to mean? That women are a collective and you've stepped up to speak for them? She's just a shitty person. This isn't indicative of all women lol.
I mean these day's having a loving and supportive family is considered taboo by so called "modern" standards in certain circles.
@@lynxfresh5214 bruh wdym taboo? wtf
Giving back to your parents, is the greatest way of saying thank you for being there, this women deserves none of that
Right? Some people's parents are immigrants and have spent all their resources to raise their kids. Giving back is the least you can do.
Wrong. Only mothers.
@@jmcdrawer5031 nope
@@jmcdrawer5031 Point on the doll where your daddy hurt you.
@@jmcdrawer5031 I took this personally as someone who had a crappy mother growing up and father who was there for me no not all mother's deserve everything same goes to father's it depends
But your shitty take is something
"Don't try to understand women. Women understand women and they hate each other" - Al Bundy
As a woman I never understand them
Change women with humans
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Women ☕️
@@real_rutmen real
So when she's alone and is a single mother of a son, is she gonna be like "no son, don't take care of me, take care of the ladies that come into your life. I dug my own grave so this cardboard box will be fine for me."
Hell no, She's gonna want her son to buy her a damn house.
if anyone disagrees, you also disagree with common sense
Yep. Double standards at it's finest.
Who wants to fck that kind of woman?
She's a big red flag
Mothers (and fathers) deserve the world. 💖💯
Lmao ok boomer
@@MasterAlpha1000 lmao ok zoomer
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well..... good mothers and fathers do
@@xenomorph5022 cringe
So basically what she's saying is "I don't want to be a parent", and then wondering why guys don't want to sleep with her.
Hey if she does end up a parent, hope she keeps that same energy when her child/children decide not to give her jack shit.
The only thing a guys can do is "Hit and Go"
Most guys don’t want to be parents either lol, it’s why “pump and dump” is a thing. A woman that actually wants a family is a huge turn-off for most guys
Or maybe one is just looking at the wrong guys and in the wrong places.
@@juriansan019 The man who does that will prove at the same instant he has no self worth
No one automatically owes their parents anything, because raising kids is the default responsibility for a parent; keeping them fed, clothed, sheltered is the bare minimum. THAT SAID, some people are prone to forgetting that you don't need to owe someone anything in order to support them. That's why it's so wholesome and heartwarming when someone does something like buying their parents a house. It's going above and beyond to help someone you love, not some kind of obligation like paying off a debt.
True.
@@buggobricks False.
@@purpleguy319 why?
There are some parents that don't even think that they need to do that.
All due respect, Parents are owed-they are owed respect for the fact that they are your parents, they are owed care when they age, as they cared for you when you could not care for yourself. And they are owed love as they loved you when you could not love yourself. This is not to say that there aren't parents who betray the trust placed on them when they have children and they should be held accountable for how they treat those children. But i strongly disagree that parents are not owed anything--the debt we owe to them cannot be repaid and what we are able to do we should do. If we don't do that, then we shouldn't expect the same when we are old...
What she fails to realize is that there are many single mothers back in the day ( unfortunately even now ) that struggled. To the point where these mothers could barely feed their kids. Those kids grew up and bought their mom’s houses, cars, condos because guess what? They love them and saw that as strength.
There are more single moms now than ever before, our dumb society doesn’t teach people to commit or work, and then they’re told to sleep around with fifty people a week, without ever considering the fact that some people want to have kids. And I think that the repercussions go both ways, men leave the mother to raise the kids without any support, and women kill the men’s children without they’re consent.
She's gonna be one of those soon if she doesn't start acting right
Crazy how true this is. I dated a girl in high school and it seemed like the better my relationship with my parents got the madder she got. Lucky me i ended up with a girl thats completely the opposite and she encouraged me to keep building that relationship with my parents.
Cringe
@@MasterAlpha1000 dude, how is this cringe?
@@cingkrayz1959 ok boomer
Thanks God you left her and found yourself a healthy relationship. Anybody that tries to stunt your growth or demolish a previous interpersonal relationship is a big no-no.
@@MasterAlpha1000 cringe troll. Actually, you're more cringy than an actual troll.
What kind of person considers loving your mom a bad thing? Motherless behavior, period.
Actually mindset of today western world.
A man that takes care of his mom (out of love, and not because he was manipulated or guilt-tripped into it) is a man that is good in my books. I appreciate everyone that reciprocates. If your child leaves you alone in your old age, it's because you didn't do a good job. Just like a song that I hold dearly in my memories: if I could, I'd buy my mum a house of gold.
If I ever have a husband, I hope he's the type that loves his parents (if they're good, of course. Can't blame anyone that runs away from a toxic person).
op probably was guilt tripped into helping her more and her mom was a POS to her
to be slightly a devils advocate here its not the parents fault sometimes if a kid refuses to take care of them afterwards there are various reasons that could crop up or the child just doesnt have it in them to do that. think of how some of these old nursing homes treat the elderly some people are just incapable of taking care of another living being hence why i agree with hero hei 110% everyone CAN have a child but not everyone SHOULD have a child its called knowing your limits and responsibility.
Could be
Doesn't have to, the brainwashing cult of being terrible people is recruiting strong these days, teaching of hate.
Ungrateful brats in a nutshell after their parents spent their whole lives raising and caring for them only to never receive appreciation in turn.
Wait for them to taste their own medicine when their own children do something similar to them in the future
There's a good reason why scared straight programs are there, to let people like her know where their behavior will lead to
Being a parent sounds terrifying.
Am I an ungrateful brat for not supporting my mom if she disowns me for being gay?
Buddy, please don't start with that "parents can do no wrong" crap.
As someone raised in a Christian household, I was taught about honoring your father and mother. I'm sure most of not all cultures encourage the child to honor their parents.
My mother is a great example of this. It's been six months since her mother passed away, and she (together with my father) has made the sacrifice of moving in to take care of her father, who is bedridden and with dementia. Before grandma's passing, she would keep an eye over them, even if her mother tried to be manipulative into getting her attention.
Things are a bit easy, since my grandfather is a veteran and is receiving what's on his right, with more help to come.
I do my part to honor my parents by sitting while they do whatever business and appointments they need to do. I do hope I'll be capable of giving care for them if the time ever comes.
It's the least I can do.
We all used to know the art of honoring our parents, but these days not many people teach that anymore, and unfortunately there are a whole lot less parents who actually deserve more than the bare minimum.
This hating your parents mindset I think is mostly an American/western idea. I mean y'all already throw your parents in a home. 🤷🤷♂️ Honestly not surprised but still disappointed.
It is not just Christians, Confucianism also believe in such thing. The thing the West often forget, including Western Christians is one thing that Jesus had a very harsh words of on the Pharisees, which is keep making up excuses to not taking care of one's parents. By the way, do not forget one of the things that Yuri Bezmenov point out on the targets of subversion. One of the main targets is Family. The subverters wanted to destroy family to destabilize the society, both by making divorces more common and turning children against their parents, all under the guise of personal liberty.
@@junesmind7325, it's sad when that's done for selfish reasons, basically abandoning them.
My mother had a talk with a caretaker consultant yesterday regarding the choice of leaving her father in a home, and, surprisingly, there have been cases where the caretaker ends up dying before the patient. There are many legal reasons for her to make that choice, however difficult it is. But as the only blood relative living in the country, she represents the majority of the choices and wills of her father, and she should take responsibility of choosing what's best for her father while also caring about her well-being.
Last night was a moment she and I talked about their care if anything were to happen to them. My father has two children from outside his relationship with my mother, but she only has me and my younger brother. My brother is married, so there's also concern in that subject with his wife's parents.
Very hard subjects to talk about, but it's as necessary as the talk about what to do when an old family member dies.
My sincere condolences for your grandmother.
"The ability to speak does not make you intelligent." - a wise man from Star Wars
And a very wise man once said nothing happens by accident
Geez what happened to her to make her despise grown adults still loving and caring for their parents?
The streets happened to her. That's where she belongs.
@@pylotheric9777 Sure.
Maybe her parents aren't that loving to her.
That's just my assumption though
@@prisuners6275
Well it could be very possible
Or her baby daddy did this to her.
I always felt bad about how much my parents do for me, even during times where they were very poor they still did the best they could to support me. I want to make it up to them some day, no matter how much they tell me I don't have to
I feel you, I was raised by my mother and grand pa who weren't really poor but weren't well off. I owe them a shit ton for dealing with my bullshit and continued to encourage me through my life. Both are still alive but man time flies by fast.
Someone: *Has healthy enough of a relationship with their parents to help support the people who were a major part of their early life by choice because that's how attachment works*
This B: "You can't do that, you gotta cut ties as soon as you can afford to!"
Funny thing, i used to have a girlfriend who did similar things. Once i was going to get a new cellphone so i was thinking of giving my late one to my ex since she asked if she could have it, but before i gave it to her my mom asked me for it too since she needed one for her company secretary, as such i decided to prioritize giving to my mom to help out her business and apologized to my ex since i did say i would give her earlier that same day. my Ex began blasting me with things like, "you should be your own person", "not let my mom take charge" or "you should let go of your mom and be independent". At the time i was in the middle of University and still dependent on my parent's help to fund my studies so i could not understand where this all came from. I think she wanted me to prioritize her instead of my mom, which honestly is never going to happen.
Nailed it in one. She wanted to be the one in control of you, and your resources. She percieved your mom as a threat to that and projected her desire to control and puppeteer you onto her.
She wanted to be in control, so good decision
Gotta say, the "if you're so selfish you can't keep it in your pants and you end up either aborting a kid or conceiving a kid who will live a rough life, it's kinda pathetic" part is just about the most based thing I've heard in a while.
... A man that disrespect his mom isn't trustworthy, if he can't treat the one that carried & birthed him good he won't treat his friends/Lovers/others well either. SAME goes for women, it says a lot about your person by how you treat your parents. (Not the abusive ones)
Tbf abusive parents exist. Either way though kids of abusers unfortunately tend to end up just like their parents either way so probably still avoid them though it’s not necessarily “their fault”.
@@ultimaterecoil1136 just because their parents were it doesn't excuse the behavior tho. Still I see your point and it may be true on some degree.
I can understand your nuances. My parents abused me + drugs and I hated them for a long time. But as I grew up I noticed they were mistakes and effort wad made and now I take care of my mom who has terminal cancer. People mess up
Hope they regret what they did to you, man..
Really shows she has issues of empathy. She can't imagine anyone having a life that isn't like her own, and just assumes all moms are crap...while also failing to realize at some point in her life she'll be the mom too old to care for herself. I just have pity.
But why would anybody spend their time or money on somebody else when she’s there. Lol.
Never pity these women, they choose this existence. Accountability is kryptonite.
IMO nobody owes their mom anything just for being their mom, but if you're a decent person and your mom treated you well, you will end up helping where you can
While I probably wouldn't be a kid who will buy my parents a lot of things once I'm out of the house, and agree "nobody asks to come into this world," I completely disagree that giving your parents nice things is a weird or "weak" thing to do. It's absolutely asinine to chastise others for having that kind of relationship with their family that they're so willing to go so far to do such wonderful things.
How does a man dare be happy and love their life! Ugh all these men are the same 😤
Btw the fighting system in Hogwart Legacy gives me weird League of Legends vibes.
Am i the only one?
Happy Valentine's Day to you, too, Hero Hei ❤️
Imagine having your parents sacrifice a lot of their life and opportunities to raise you, and you do what you can to give back a little bit of the love you felt.
and some bitch on twitter ridicules you and tells you your parents don't deserve love and that you need to leave them and never look back.
i feel sorry for her parents, if she had them, cause clearly they could've done something better with their time than raising a disappointment
Based on what you’ve said, you have had a better relationship with your parents than an unfortunate amount of young people nowadays.
Cringe
@@MasterAlpha1000 How? lmao
@Mr. Unknown The fact that you're replying to random comments and just saying cringe is cringe.
@@a_random_xenomorph ok boomer lol
ignore the troll
In the future, she is the crazy cat lady.
My mom did sooooo much to raise me and every now and then I make sure she knows how grateful I am for that. Yes, it's not my responsibility but it's something I want to do cause she means so much to me.
I always was of the opinion that twenty one pilots: House of Gold is one of the sweetest songs and has this aura of child like love towards their mom and it always brings a smile to my face...she probably has a meltdown when hearing this song
I just lost my mom. I say kudos to all the guys who take care of their moms.
the video says more about the OP's parents more than the men's mothers 🗿
"Worst type of womam:
1. Y
2. O
3. U"
Is what i would tweet back at her.
My mom sacrificed everything for me and my brothers and has honestly not had the best life. That's why I do whatever I can to make her life better, even though I admit I can't do too much and wish I could do more.
If the parents were good parents, help em if they need it. If you can afford it obviously, don't put yourself into debt for them or anything
First we had maidenless, then fatherless and now we have motherless. Slowly but surely the missing family meme grows.
Shout out to all of the Moms who weren't Narcissistic and abuse their sons.
There is a difference between a parent demanding their children give them stuff because "faaaaaamilyyy" and a person who loves their parents and get them things out of that love
The sheer amount of self control not to call out her grammar lol. Bravo.
Her ways of talking like modern internet broken style I really had a hard time to understand her grammar.
Literally got cheated on because my girl said I listened to much to my mom. Turns out my mom knew what kind of girl she was and was just looking out for me. My mother never told me not do things or anything like that, she just told me and a grown man and just be aware of my decisions. Glad I took things slow because this girl got impatient and got together with a older married man. So now she is a side piece instead of a actual girlfriend. And to think for valentine's day I had a whole trip planned and everything.
I'm so sorry for you 😞
I know maybe you're feeling hurted now, but trust me: Time is going to heal your heart. these kind of people don't deserve your feelings or your time. Personally i would love to meet more people who deeply love their mothers and do everything for them, because they would understand how i feel! My mother is my best friend and i will never leave her, i'll keep doing everything i can for her until the end ❤
Even after what you went through.... happy Valentine's day 💝🎁💋
The fact that she would voluntarily cheat on you _for someone she already knows is married_ should speak volumes about what kind of person you were dealing with.
I know this will not lessen the pain, but rest assured that you didn't get cheated on "because you listened too much to your mother". You were cheated on because your ex-girlfriend was trash, and you probably loved the version of her that existed in your head, not the one in front of you.
Take care of yourself.
When I think I already like Hero Hei enough, he comes on and lays down legendary takes which I support the hell out of. Thanks for being this person that has lots of great opinions and that has a platform to spread it out, you're AMAZING ❤️
- Parents going through poverty
- Her: *”Skill issue”*
The VTuber Ironmouse has one of the most amazing stories: Her parents had her when they were older, and she has CVID, so she requires lots of expensive medicine and plasma transfusions. Her family, and especially her parents, have always done their best for her, despite not being at all wealthy.
After becoming the streaming success she is, Mousey not only paid off the remaining mortgages and payments on their still-current house, she _also_ bought her family a better house, to which they are planning on moving shortly. Mousey's parents are more traditionally-inclined, so they have a hard time grasping what it is exactly that she does to earn money, but there's no denying her efforts or the affects they have had on their lives, making it that much easier for them to live in comfort, and not have to choose between expenses. Yes, Ironmouse is a special case due to her condition, but she also demonstrates what is possible if you put in the effort and persist.
And yes, you should absolutely work to support your famoly.
She is amazing.
One of my life goals is being able to do that for my own parents. Nothing would make me happier.
Hei leaking his history as a child model / actor supporting his fam like a legend!
Heck yeah!
Mom: *carries baby in womb for 9 months, allows child to feed off the same food she does, raises child for ~18 years on own income*
Paris: I don't OWE you SHIT!
Hero hei is hero to twitter
Change my mind
Nah, twitter is terrified of him and the power he wields.
@@Asertix357 they're not ready for the truth that awaits from their actions
@@Asertix357 So… he’s Batman?
My mother once needed cataract surgery that exceeded her available funds because retired. I paid the $6000 and stopped her from repaying me. Told her to take her new eyes somewhere nice because I love my mother. I feel nothing but gratitude and some guilt for being such an ass pain growing up. I also love, respect, and dearly miss my old man. If these things make me less of a man to you, you'd best make friends with the door.
My also mother needed a cataract surgery, and I have offered to pay her, but she is so good with money that after a while she was able to afford it.
i agree to the fact that you don't owe ur parents anything. unlike them you don't have an obligation to take responsibility. doesn't mean you can't do something nice for them but, it's not neccesary to suffer for them.
yes, i had a terrible relationship with my mother. she resented my existence as the child born at the very end of a dead-end relationship. she projected her hatred of my father onto me. i laughed in relief when she died of her alcohol abuse only to realize the terrible memories don't fade easily.
My mom is one of the most important people in my life and I wouldn’t be where I am without her help. This post just makes me sad.
Edit: “I don’t think people should be having kids if they can’t take care of their child.”
How could you say something so controversial yet so brave?
happy valentines Day everyone that has a date
Real or fictional?
The thing she doesn't understand is that we don't do such stuff for a sense of obligation.
We do for a sense of love, for someone who was always there for us, raised us and made us the person we are.
It isn't just a mother that we can be grateful, it can be our fathers, brothers, grandparents, any part of our family that is there in our hour of need.
Love is sacrifice, something she will never realize. Her version of love is money
@@SlimedogNumbaSixty9 money make peoples blind.
can we just take a moment to appreciate the wholesome hero hei lore at the end
not for nothing but in a cosmic sorta way, that woman in question clearly got with the right man, because he gave her a kid who grew up to be able to afford a house FOR the mom, how cool is that?? wish i could afford to pay off my parents' home outright.
"your mama need to know YOU are her child you don't owe her crap and anything you do for her is out of love NOT a requirement"
I agree with this sentiment because really this only applies to awful, entitled mothers. This would never apply to a good mother.
I know this my mother is fucking awesome and takes anything I give her with a massive shit-eating grin and brags about how great I am to her friends (I've given up on getting her to stop)
On the other hand I know mothers who are so terrible and entitled that... yeah I don't even want to talk about them
If a guy respects his mom it's a giant green flag. She went through a ton of pain in childbirth, raised you into - hopefully - a good man, and it shows that he's responsible. He has spare money, and he's sending it to someone else instead of spending it on himself.
Our mom comes first in our life, before wife comes around she was already there, take care of us and rose us from begin to end, not to mention, no woman in your life will ever love you for who you are but your mom. If your mom was good to you, be good to your mom.
If the man buys a house for his mother. He's a keeper, because he will teach your child to buy a house for you when you are old.
She isn't loved by her mom, what a sad pathetic life.
Some people are just nice like that, it isn't what she makes it out to be. This is family we're talking about, of course we'll be there for our family in whatever way we can. If it means big stuff like this, then that's what it means. If it means the little things, just giving them an ear to talk to, a shoulder to cry on, then that too. There are plenty of women out there, but we only have one family and we have to treat them right most of all.
Happy Valentine’s Day❤
Hei is a good guy. For whatever pain you went through, it’s made u who u are.. and why u got actual morales.
Unlike these insane people.
Let's be real here. This woman doesn't really mean that people shouldn't support their mothers. What she means, but doesn't have the stones to say, is that she wants her boyfriend to give HER all of his money.
And if she has a kid you know she'd bleed them dry. She'd expect a daughter to marry rich and manipulate men like her or force a son to work himself to literal death and give all of his paycheck to her.
Like that one person said though, thank goodness most people know better.
So I personally have a terrible mother. She did nothing to secure the future of me and my autistic brother. In fact, she has actively set me up for failure by abusing the money she was given for us to fulfill her own selfish needs. On top of that, she would be very shady and has done some downright despicable deeds. This includes, but is not limited to: taking a title loan out on MY truck given to me by my step-dad's father (without my consent or permission) and dropping the late payment on ME to try and save, encouraging me to put my name on bills so she didn't have to deal with previous fees she had failed to pay, and even actively hiding the deaths of my step-dad's parents from us more recently just to name a few. I've given her many chances, but if there was ever a woman to not help in her later years, she would be the one. I can't even trust her because I know all she wants is money.
Man or woman or other; if you give back and support your parents, that shows incredible character imo. Granted not everyone has great relationships with their parents. But it still shows that the person is caring if you ask me. But no one can ever do anything good in Twitter's eyes. Also bet that if this woman somehow sadly has kids, she will be singing a far different tune.
she thinks leaving your mother is the best thing to reward your mother
Happy Valentine's Day, be sure to treat your 2D waifu to a treat
Nah, I'll pass, my 2D waifu was shite. So, I upgraded to 9D.
@@ImperialGuardsman2 based nyarlathotep enjoyer
@@ImperialGuardsman2 4.5x the dimensions, 4.5x the fun
In most successful cultures, the children feel a responsibility to take care of their parents later in life.
The Superb Owl. 'Nuff said.
She grew up in an abusive household and can't comprehend that good deeds can be done selflessly and out of love.
This girl in 18 years: Why won't my kids visit me?
Clearly this person wasn't bullied enough.
she think everyone mom is same like her lol.
my take here is that children do not owe there parents anything just because the parents gave birth and raised them that was there responsibility as a parent because they made the desition to have a kid
if the child wants to do things for there parents in adulthood because they have the means to do so that is the childs desition they have no obligation to do so
Happy Valentine’s days to everyone ☺
Helping your mother is way to give back, to show your gratitude. It shows you are a kind and caring person. That you don't forget the people who helped you along the way. That you are not going to abandon someone as soon as they are no longer useful.
The sad thing is that I can kinda see what she was trying to say (especially since know of one or two parasitic mothers in my family alone and like 1-3 more beyond who are in my mother's orbit of associates). I feel like she had something she needed to get off her chest, but she did what every bad take does, she let her emotions take control and generalized and sexualized her take, seeming to believe that everyone will either take her side and/or will magically know exactly where she's coming from.
Only to slapped in the face with the reality that human experiences aren't universal and people on the internet are strangers who have their own lives and opinions. Especially when it comes to their mothers or mother-figures.
Mommy Issues: The Tweet.
Love all the you tubes using harry Potter in the background 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Okay devil advocate here. If you have a known child and still choose to house your mother before yourself/your child(your baby momma you have every right not to give shit to depending), you're failing as a parent, and I'm sure most mothers would prefer their grandchild/child to be in safety security and privacy before they are. Hell buy yourself a house and invite your mother to live there too, I'm sure you/your child/your baby momma will appreciate the extra help around the place.
"Supporting your mom is loser mentality"
"So is not having a girlfriend. Get out."
Fatherless behavior.
On the second tweet. She is right, sort of. You do not owe your parents anything. It is their responsability but if they raise you well and made you feel like you should reward your parents then that is fine. The problem appears when your parents feel entitled to whatever you make.
To be clear. I never follow what people say on social media. I do what I think it is best for me.
I also think that if parents would stop teaching boys that girls deserve to be treated like princesses or that they are angels and need to be protected, the overall relationship between girls and boys would improve dramatically. Parents insert an ideal of a women that does not exist. Women are human and are like men, they want things, have means to achieve it and use those means to achieve it. If you manage the expectations of your boy then your kid will plan and act accordingly. The amount of times I have heard mothers say, word for word, "If you are nice to girls you will have a girlfriend" is so painful that I cringe everytime I hear it. Mind you, it wasnt told to a 5 yo boy but to a 12yo just a few years before his dick starts to ask to make out with a vagina. This advice is so toxic that it can raise an entire generation of simps and combined with what I said in this paragraph, in the beginning, you will get helpless guys not knowing why they dont get girls. Who will they blame? Girls! Because they are not pricesses, they are not angels. They dont act like it and since they dont act like them, what are they? Exactly! Say it with me! Wh.....prostitutes! Do you see how raising boys like this can harm everyone?
The same goes, and I hold dads accountable for this, to girls. They should not be treated as princesses or that they should fear men or look down on them or act towards them as if they are a different species. The amount of dads that are respponsable, in my childhood neighbourhood, for raising entitled brats, women as we used to call them, is so incredibly common that it is infuriating. Those dads are responsable not only for how their daughters act but they should apologize to the entire society for how they have done their job because they have enabled a generation of entitled brats and because society catters to women they will not know how horrible of a human being they are. These horrible human beings will raise children.
She is unironically proving Andrew Tate right
Noo, you’re not allowed to give him any credit or else you’re an incel.
@@DJ-wl5qo lol you know what they say Islam is right about women after all
Andrew tate was always right
@@spiritofpostpunk7207 to a degree, he's sometimes out of pocket but he has said the cold truth before
So we went from a woman getting mad at men that actually love and support their moms to endorsing a man that supports objectively criminal behaviour (human trafficking and rape).
Sheesh, the strawmans are strong here lol!
Not all people were raised in the same circumstances so in some cases ya you don't own them crap if they neglected, abused you, passed burdens to you. But if they actually tried their hardest then ya repay the love they put in to raise you.
Hero Hei is a mommas boy, confirmed
Nothing wrong with that at all.
@@SoulAtParadise if it's obsessive then yeah it can be a bit much
But usually "Mama's Boy" and "Daddy's Girl" are usually traits normal, empathic people have.
They pick the most irresponsible bastards of society and wonder why they can't find a "good man," then say shit like you're not supposed to be generous to your own blood.
Honestly tho, whether it's a house, car, or just a fucking hug, don't be trying to say responsibility comes before love, on the one day when it matters. Also remember the saying "treat others as you would wish to be treated" because Karma is a real thing, you may very well get good things back for the good things you do for others.
Happy valen(pins)tines day!
Wow, that's one heck of a personal life reveal you casually dropped there. I'll do my best to remember to never turn the adblocker on again. You have my respect for having forgiven both your parents.
What a wild take, I hope I can become financially successful enough to be there for my parents and give them stuff
Also late heart pls and I hope everyone has a nice day
Someone gave you love and a home, there is nothing wrong in wanting to do the same in return.
You can't blame someone for doing something for someone the care deeply about even if it sometimes means you put them before you, as much as that displeases that one woman
Happy National Singles Day my friends.
My mom raised me, fed me, kept a roof over my head, made sure I was happy, made sure I was safe, made sure I was educated, made sure I was obedient, made sure I was kind, made sure I was considerate, made sure I was on-track, made sure I was healthy, and she still does every single one of those things every day
If "wasting my money" on my mom means that I'm disgusting or unsolicited, then there's clearly something wrong with this Paris person...
It's actually wrong with western world right now.
Happy VDay
Basically, that's money that could potentially spent on her.