After recording this video, I continued diving even deeper into the 0.01% claim. Aside from the claim that this is Gottman’s finding and the claim that this is the Gallup 1997 Poll’s finding (both of which I have found zero evidence for), I found that other Christian blogposts cite a different “source” altogether called The Retrouvaille International Handbook, 2005. For instance, on CouplePrayer.com, it says the following: “In 1980, it was found that couples who were either praying together or reading the bible together daily, and also attending church together weekly, experienced a divorce rate of less than 1 divorce in every 1105 marriages.” They cite their source as “Retrouvaille International Handbook, 2005.” Retrouvaille is another Christian website that appears to do couple retreats. I could find no such handbook or research on Retrouvaille’s website or through Google as a whole: helpourmarriage.org/ However, a different site that cites the same Retrouvaille “study” says the following: “Significant evidence is demonstrating that married couples who pray, study scripture, attend church, and otherwise jointly participate in spiritual activities enjoy significantly higher levels of marital happiness and satisfaction. A national research study in the United States (1980) cited in Retrouvaille’s International Handbook 2005 established that married couples who attend church together weekly and read the Bible or pray together daily have a divorce rate of approximately 1 in every 1,105 marriages.” adventist.uk/fileadmin/shared-data/resources/family-ministries/General_Articles/Couple_Prayer_-_The_Great_Untapped_Resource.pdf Therefore, it appears that, even if this Retrouvaille handbook exists, it is merely citing someone else’s research from 1980. It’s not clear to me whose research exactly they would be citing (since I can find neither this handbook nor a scientific article making this claim), and it’s certainly interesting that no one is citing the original study directly. The closest thing to a name that I could find for this original study is "a national research study in the United States (1980)," which is not a valid citation. I would think that such a groundbreaking study, even if it's from 1980, would be name-dropped constantly across scientific communities. This begs the question: Do blogpost claims like these try to make it harder to find the original source? If so, is that because the original source doesn’t exist? And why do the different blogposts cite slight variations of the same statistic? Some say it’s 1 in 1,105, others say 1,150, and others 1,500. Why not just stick with the same statistic? Why are they all citing different sources for slightly different statistics? Let me know what you think. Edit: I made a couple verbal typos in the video that I'd like to correct. At 11:51, I meant Arizona Christian University, not Arizona State University. Also, at 23:03 I meant to say "the claim that Gottman found less than 1% of couples who pray together, divorce," not "the claim that Gottman found less than 1% of couples who pray together, stay together."
I have one objection. Finding things through Google, is not satisfying to me. I would rather go into some associated database or library deep dive. Eduroam is also a place to search. That is my experience from researching specific topics based on my educational knowledge, that is pretty specialized narrowed down topics.
While I do agree, statistics are almost never fact from many groups, both left and right. I still trust my gut instinct. It shows the West has had more and more divorces the more secular and post-modern our culture has become. Religion has kept people more united. Its just basic proof sociologically. It's not necessarily a statistic, but it's common sense almost. Divorce has risen even in Eastern cultures that been more detached from their original eastern philosophies and spiritual practices.
I’m really tired of people spreading information they see online without any time spent seeing if this claim is factual, or if the study mentioned is viable and has the appropriate experimental groups, controls and replicates. Just because a study exists doesn’t make it fact, and science is actually about asking MORE questions rather than drawing large conclusions off a singular or a few studies. We need more people on here like you, who are willing to be skeptical and understand what research needs
Absolutely! I thought it was interesting that the content creator in the video I referenced said "let's discuss WHY this research is true" rather than "let's look into the research and see IF it's really true"
I wonder what the statistic would be for couples who play tennis together once a week, or dance salsa, and how that compares to a real statistic about couples that pray together. My gut feeling is that highly religious couples might be just a little less likely to divorce just on account that their beliefs might make them more accepting of sticking together in a miserable marriage compared to people that don't have those beliefs, but if the statistic just tracked people who identify as Christian (with no further clarification, nothing about the religious practices they do together such as praying or attending church) then the difference might be almost statistically insignificant.
I'm not Christian, but I want to say this: Religious people are much less likely to get divorced, not little less likely The couple being religious and virgin at marriage are two of the best predictors of the marriage continuing for life And this isn't just about them trying to save the marriage more if a problem happened, this is also about them being more satisfied in their relationships, being happier Check this article in the institute of family studies: The Happiest Wives: The J-Curve in Women’s Marital Quality The highly religious couple who are traditional have the happiest wives compared to other groups there, so probably the happiest marriages compared to other groups there
@@MA-gu2up Looking at the paper you cited, there seems to be a 1% higher relationship satisfaction according to the additive index for "Highly religious Gender Traditional couples" compared to "Shared Secular Gender Progressive couples", I don't see how that's supposed to be a huge difference. Also, there's nothing about the divorce rates. I'd imagine they would only be slightly lower for the highly religious assuming that the comparison is made in a country where divorce is legal and easily accessible. When it comes to divorce, the comparison seems only fair if one assumes and compares two similarly dissatisfied couples, as dissatisfaction can occur in any couple for any reason.
It’s a weird conclusion. I can literally make the argument that being Asian American would make you less likely to divorce than any religion, but I digress. Religion is a good correlative factor, being Asian American is better And they are the least religious group of them all.
@@henrytep8884 Do you have a study showing non-religious Asians having a lower divorce rate than religious Asians? Or highly religious Westerners? Read the following study if you want: Religion and union dissolution: Effects of couple and municipal religiosity on divorce and separation This was done in the Netherlands, and the sample is very big (+145,000). Check it, and see how much lower the divorce rate is. Also, Asians even the non-religious people don't have a lot of premarital sex. They typically wait till marriage, which will make them much less likely to get divorced by itself.
Once we got to the middle of the video I was like "Jesus she went INNNNNNNN on the research". MY head was spinning just listening to your process. Thank you for debunking misinformation! Someone needs to let gottman know ppl are claiming this statistic comes from his research so he can make a statement!
Thank you for saying this, my head was spinning during the researching and writing of this video too, so that's very validating to hear. And yes, I actually know some people who worked with the Gottmans since we live in the same city and work in the same field, so maybe I'll let them know
Alana wanted a marriage so badly for so long, she changed her entire worldview in the spans of 6 months, got married really quickly, and sold her house all SO fast!
yeah I can see why people are concerned for her. She used to share a LOT about her life on youtube, and it makes sense that she chose to close that "relatable tmi youtuber" chapter. But to be honest, her new content does not seem authentic to me whatsoever. I'm glad Ana made this video, but it's very frustrating that she had to. I hope Alana finds her way
As a Christian, the part about "real Christians" and "nominal Christians" is really aggravating. This is a very narrow, modern Evangelical definition of Christianity which doesn't hold true to most current Roman Catholics, Eastern Orthodox and even many Protestants, let alone most of the historical Christians. I read quite a bit of religious studies and it's a growing consensus that religions don't actually work this way, as a monolith that you must accept in its purest, most orthodox and literal interpretation.
In different countries and groups of people, even among different denominations, there will be differences in how Christianity looks and certain practices may be omitted or used. However, the claims that Christianity is the only true religion and the Bible is completely true *should* be something that a Christian believes, otherwise why bother identifying as a Christian? There are fundamentals that are exclusive to every belief system religious and not religious that outsiders as well as members (if religious) use to identify the belief system and define it, and if someone does not hold those fundamentals to be true then they by definition do not subscribe to that belief system. Modern spirituality has convinced us that believing in something to be true over another is somehow bad, so now we have Christianity which has no clear definition because people find it to be narrow minded and offensive. We have to believe that every religion is a little bit true and that our own is not completely true in order to be inclusive, which defeats the purpose of identifying as a part of any religion, which is believing that it is fundamentally true. Since finished, the Bible has been the definition of Christianity (as it is the only book Christians believe was written by God, the final word of God), but according to some, you don't have to believe in the Bible to be a Christian. Like I said, why subscribe to a religion that you don't believe to be completely true? That just seems disingenuous and like a huge waste of time to me. Timothy Keller explained the idea of exclusivity and ethnocentrism and Christianity in his book Reason For God. I recommend it to Christians and non Christians, he is very thorough.
It bothers me too as a Pentecostal Christian. These people are not real Christians and do not speak for me. I hate that when I tell people I'm evangelical, I need to now add "but I'm not one of the crazy ones."
@@maraisreynolds9688no actually there are 45 000 types of Christianity and many of them have incredibly different beliefs and practices. And no, the early Christians were not “all about the bible” as it was not even completed at the time.
@@antoniobrasse7157 Aren't you contradicting yourself? If you say they aren't real Christians, on what basis do you object to them defining what is a real Christian?
@@MA-gu2up they are willfully openly knowingly continuously lying to push an agenda based on beliefs they have that are not supported by any truths. This is actually intentional malicious behavior. The Bible says by their fruits you shall know them and these types of folks are frauds. We are evaluating not on an single event but on a pattern of behavior. I pray they change but I've seen too many people that think they're Christians filled with darkness in their hearts despite going to church and praying 90% of their lives.
I became an Orthodox Christian in the last two years and you’re really right to call that “test” ethnocentric. The whole issue here is a very American, Evangelical approach to what is em actually just an attempt to proselytize and convince their audience of their particular, narrow view of Christianity. While I wouldn’t disagree that prayer would be good for a relationship, I also don’t think our faith in Christ needs to be or even should be dependent on something as complicated as marriage statistics. Lol Edit: I commented this before the part where you basically said the same thing. My ego is boosted 😂
Okay, you and I should talk cuz I'm in a dilema over here since I'm trying to find my way through Christianity and I'm surrounded by US Christians that's beggining to bother me.
@@PaperParade I mean I joined a community where everyone adopted a fully biblical worldview. This worldview is said to be absolute and overrides what is seen in nature. I had a view of what Christianity would be and that it would guide me spiritually and morally. However, I'm not willing to adopt an old testament worldview in its totality where I know for a fact that this is not it.
Congratulations! I haven't watched your channel in some time. But it sounds like you graduated and you received your doctorate and you're now Dr. Ana! Congratulations! That's huge! Hopefully your channel covered some of those tuition costs lol
I’m sure you’ve hinted at this point, but, you could potentially make the same disingenuous argument in favor for arranged marriages. A couple in an arranged marriage could easily be less likely to divorce due to cultural, religious and familial stigmas; perhaps, the woman would report “higher” rates of happiness and satisfaction, when in reality, it could be the result of fear in a highly patriarchal relationship.
I’ve been a fan of Alana for years and her shift towards creating Christian content after randomly getting married to a guy she’s only known for 6 months is really concerning. I think Ana was really fair to her in this video, but the end was a READ. It’s clear Alana is insecure in her new Christian identity. She probably knows that people are questioning her choices and are concerned for her, and that others just may not like this new type of content. Overall really interesting, and it was fun to watch two different videos from two female content creators that’s I’ve been a fan of for a while.
Sadly, even when confronted with these findings, some people will continue believing the lie and misinformation. Some people want to believe what makes them comfortable and happy. Or even when it seems like something that's not optimistic they want to believe it because they want to believe the worst in people. Sometimes people just don't want to change their minds no matter what.
What you said at the end really interested me - people who have the opposite belief dive deep into “evidence.” I have been subscribed from her for a while and she became Christian very suddenly after meeting and marrying a Christian so I believe she has been doing a lot of self-convincing.
I've been feeling so weird about the Christian videos I've been consuming especially from what it seems like the sharp turn that Alana took with her life and content. I love that you broke it down and put so much effort to see if these claims hold up! It feels super validating to see someone hold the same curiosities about the information being presented, rather than accepting it for what it is! Great video :)
Hey Ana, long-time watcher and I think maybe one of your few male ones. Have you ever done a video on how the divorce rate isn’t 50% and never has been, and in fact has been trending downwards for 40 years? Because everyone thinks half of marriages don’t last when it’s totally a myth.
Psalm 37:4 "Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart." I delight in the Lord, and He has completely changed the desires of my heart. Colossians 3:2 Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Former Christian here, can’t tell you how often I heard this being taught during my time in the church. Problem is so many Christian’s just eat it up without questioning it (including myself at the time). When truth isn’t as important as our beliefs, we’ll believe all kinds of falsehoods.
I hope you apply this same analysis when it comes to transgenderism, homosexuality, and abortion and mental health. Because no of these topics are throughly researched yet there’s tons of claims about it already.
"truth" So you're telling me you know what the "truth" is? You are still in a church, however this new church is often not seen as one. Hint. You're in it.
This really made me happy, as I need this approach when facing so many difficult black and white assumptions. I am so glad you could discuss this in such a respectful manner.
Been a huge fan of your channel now for around a year, this was such a right place right time video for me. Over the past few years Ive called out my parents on falling for these misinformation-confirmation bias blog sites they read (both helming from conservative and christian ideologies). Almost every time, the citation "sources" arent ever anything credible. I've tried to construct an explaination as to how they need to be aware of these trappings, but its been really tough seeing them fall further and further into these rabbit holes. They'll often say theyve been doing a lot of "research" when that research is only watching christian youtube channels or reading christian blogs. They're even at a point now where they claim the devil corrupts modern science and thats why their supportive evidence studies arent accepted in scientific circles. Its really really painful to hear, especially since theyre such loving, caring, and intelligent people. When I visit them for Christmas this year, if they bring up what theyve been "learning" again I'm going to see if theyd be willing to watch this video. I think your explaination of how proper un-biased research is done could hopefully give them a new perspective on the reality of the situation a bit more. I dont mean to pull them away from their religion, but maybe if they can get a bit more awareness surrounding the content theyre reading, it can help rebuild a bridge over the gap thats been created between my family 🥲
Ana, I've been watching your videos for a long time and you've come so far ever since I first started! You're so well spoken and your videos keep getting easier to follow. I'm proud of you, from one stranger to another! I switched my major to sociology so this would be a funny topic to bring up in class lol
I’m a Christian here on my way to be a pastor soon. This was aggravating because there really is no fact checking, but that’s common thing with many people anyways to consume information what we want to hear. (Even I am guilty of this) But the more frustrating part was what a “Real Christian” is. The Bible is real clear about what really defines who is a follower of Jesus by the way they love EVERYBODY and if they confess that Jesus is Lord and he raised from the dead. That’s it..What defines different denominations is what others emphasize, such as baptism, communion etc. Ana great video as usual!!
I was raised in a cult of Christianity that taught baptism was biblically required for salvation. How are they wrong about this and you correct, if you don't mind me asking?
The only standard for what being a Christian is that didn't check out, coming from a fellow Christian, is the one that says obeying God promises us a successful life. We are not promised success in this world in any way that the world defines it. We are promised eternal life with God in heaven, and trials and suffering on earth while being comforted by the peace and love of God. Sounds like Joel Osteen wrote that rule. 😂 I'm glad you looked into where the statistic comes from and its validity. I hope it reaches the Christians touting it around in order to win people over. Christianity is more than being part of a statistic that makes you feel better about your life and your choices and a way to get what you want, which is ultimately what they are selling to people. If people think God is promising you a perfect life y'all gonna be severely disappointed.
@@harpersnyder2297 thanks it probably stands out when there's other Christians here in the comments suggesting that believing in the Bible to be completely true somehow isn't a defining aspect of being a Christian.
Questions like the those in the true believer survey are part of the reason I ended up leaving Christianity. They're startlingly common in the Churches I've frequented.
As a Christian and Engineering doctoral candidate I appreciated this video. I would not recommend this approach with Christians who do not have a strong foundation in the scientific process, let alone the basics of citing sources. I personally find it much easier, when possible (the more fabricated-sounding the claim, the better), to assume they and their claim is true when discussing it and the real-life implications of it. Often, the discrepancies even in their inner circles appear and the fabrication manifests itself in their mind.
this kind of video, of watching you try to get to the source of a statistic that seemed too good to be true was really entertaining and educational. especially in the end were we got to real studies, would love to see more of these.
Yes. I tried to convey my sarcasm/satire. It definitely looks like one person said it, then they all just started quoting it, but nobody bothered to check the source.
Thanks so much for explaining the research process and sharing literacy tips! This is such important stuff, and, as a graduate student in another field, it was really cool to see you do it in Psychology.
I liked this meandering style of video. The most valuable quality learned by all grad students is their ability to do thorough research and I think you're no exception. Thank you doc!
Wow Ana, this is amazing work! I'm glad to see someone who is as hard-working and thoughtful as you making videos, educating people and bringing awareness to pseudoscience. I enjoyed watching this video even if the topic isn't particularly interesting to me. You really worked hard to present all your research in a succinct way, and you made it interesting - I appreciate it 😊
United Methodist pastor here: You're doing the Lord's work.... Claims like this only reaffirm that so much of the narrative around Christian traditions have been horribly skewed. I'm constantly at a loss for how misappropriated the faith is for the sake of whatever it is that these claims are meant to convey. It's saddening to me
Alana is going through some sort of crisis.. anyone one who changes their whole lifestyle/identity, adopts a new religion, isolates from family and friends, doesn’t post on RUclips anymore, all because she found a Christian husband and married within 6 months! 🚩 She is ensnared by a narcissist. NPD is a lot more common than people think.. it’s not rare.
She's not isolating from family. She hangs out with her family all the time. Though she doesn't seem to hang out with her old friends anymore. But then, maybe she does and she just doesn't post it. As an ex-Christian, it's a bit jarring when someone converts into Christianity, particularly the evangelical sect (which I grew up in). But even so, let's not jump to conclusions or straight up say things that aren't true❤
Great vid as always. I was particularly interested by your discussion of the subjectivity of religion, as it challenged some notions I had in my head as a former Christian. I know It’s kind of outside the scope of the channel, but making a video about the psychology of religious study/ apologetics and It’s inherent basis on conformation bias would be cool I used to study apologetics in high school, and looking back, I find it suspect that the approach was to start with the conclusion (being that the bible is true) and then working BACKWARDS to find evidence; It’s literally backwards logic. A good example is whenever the bible does seem to contradict itself, instead of substantiating that, the theological approach is to do as much mental gymnastics as possible to explain how it isn’t a contradiction, because not doing so destroys their whole worldview.
That's how all science works though. This atomized worldview you have starts with what we know about physics right here, right now, then based on some measurements we just extrapolate backwards until we get to the "Big Bang", because that's the only thing that makes sense from our narrow understanding. Except everything changes every couple years, and any "law" of physics breaks down at high temperatures, high speeds, high pressures... I think the entire presupposition is wrong. The conscious experience we're having is absolutely more than just a bunch of carbon atoms bouncing around. We clearly don't know everything, we barely understand the brain because it's like playing a video game and trying to figure out existence from what you can "observe" there. Contradictions are because the Bible is a progression. If you take the Old Testament, it's basically Hebrew law (bacon bad, don't mix different types of cloth, etc). And the New Testament is Christ's word. The new supersedes the old. And the very last chapter makes everything very crystal clear. If you interpret it literally, it's interesting and insightful. Even if you don't believe it's the word of God, it is absolutely a way to live an honest, healthy, meaningful life and build a community that does the same.
I really appreciate how much work went into making this video. I think that while religions are not bad in themselves, they offer a lot of answers but not a lot of solutions.
Great video, particularly at the end with the scientific/media literacy points. This is the kind of measured, comprehensive, evidence-based takedown of misinformation I wish there were more of. I mean, the 1% stat cited is obviously nonsense, but it was really nice to have you model what functionally is an expose not of conservative Christian bloggers so much as the whole discursive style on the internet ("confirmation bias in action"). Really terrific. Thanks.
Lol love you Ana. I thought I was good at research, but I'm definitely learning some tips from you 😆. Great job and great video. It is appreciated to have someone who can counter misinformation and keep people informed.
Thank for doing this because my family would say this kinda of thing and then I would ask for a the sauce and they would give me a Christian website..... at least give me a pew research study or somethings
1:09 "What this deep dive revealed, I could have never foreseen." If you engage with American Evangelical resources online, you'll find many cases where someone made something up and someone believed them and the "fact" spread. I was 90+% certain what the outcome would be when you uttered that line.😢
My jaw dropped when you said Brad Wilcox’s name. I know his name very well- he’s a professor of ancient scripture at BYU (Mormon university). As a recent ex-Mormon, now converting to Catholicism, while I do believe in God I’m very interested in scrutinizing religious claims and seeking evidence wherever possible (I don’t believe religion and science fundamentally contradict each other- quite the opposite). This video was a wild ride for me lmao. Thank you for the insight!!
7:38 vocalizing concerns and appreciations openly with each other(edit: and putting “responsibility” for the situation on a 3rd party). It’s probably 60% this.
and also, people who are strongly attached to their religions with all the blunders in it are also strongly attached to whatever they possess like wives, children, land.......and a happy wife, sexually or lots of time with the husband, is not every thing about marriage especially when there is no equality & she is 2nd hand citizen in the house. also, smart people fend for the world not religious people. so, seeing the big picture, be smart & kind better.
Please talk about habit and habits and how to remove,change,create them . like breaking all kind of addictions, develop willpower ,being fearless,.... thanks 🙏
Healthy gamer gg has a few good videos about addiction, habits and motivation that talk about how the human brain works. Some of the content is aimed at a younger male audience but I still find some valuable information from the subjects covered.
U make me interested in topics I never even thought about. Now I'm wondering what other things are healthy vs harmful statistically speaking when it comes to the various religions out there. 🤔
The people who pray together cover their houses with a blanket of religion They're not in love anymore but the church makes them feel guilty for divorcing I have seen couples like that
Dr. Ana. I too like to read research (although not as deeply as you) and so I appreciate a search for truth. Unless I missed it in the video, I'm wondering why you didn't contact The Gottman Institute? I did after watching your video and before I give their answer I will add that I am a follower of Christ - yes, a Christian - and I support the transparency that you are looking for but I'll say I do feel like you were search to disprove rather than searching to learn the answer. That is bad "research." ;) Okay, so I heard back from the institute just this evening and they said - and this was from one of their research team - "[our] take is that this statistic isn't from any of John or Julie Gottman's research." They shared it might come from gallup, not as an endorsement but that they too went searching and they too found the link (citation) mission. I'd like to end with a quote from the bible that I believes supports you desire to fact check. Colossians 2:8: “See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ." In the end, the non-longitudinal study by Ellison et al. (2010) does say positive things about reflection and prayer that we can't throw out with the bath water. (DOI:10.1111/j.1741-3737.2010.00742.x) But yes, it isn't linked to the 1% claim.
Thank you for that video from a biologist!! Could you also make a video about all these people claiming if women (somehow men are allowed to) have sex before marriage it somehow breaks their ability to pair bond? 😁
Gottman does have a thing about spending 15 minutes with your partner every day to check in on shared values and goals but I've never heard it come with a statistic
XD ofc its projection , just got done watching your 'defenses' video XD and its even more hilarious that they're going all-in on the 'no true scotsman' fallacy XD also could not agree more with the parting words - seek the truth and be willing to change your beliefs
I bet the Christian’s actually mean to say (but lack the vocabulary and awareness) “there are theories that being religious together in a marriage is a boon against divorce. We should do a study to confirm this.” And if that was their statement I would agree and wouldn’t be surprised if the findings were true. They’re doing a wishful thinking confirmation bias type thingy…
the sources list should have annotations so its easier to match the source with the part of the video it's mentioned in and a description of what the research is
I think if people looked at what marriage actually was in Bible they'd be shocked if they really understood what it was. It's not what what marriage is today.
The one at 17:38 was about praying for your partner, but some of the others I discussed were about praying together. Thanks for catching the distinction!
If less than one percent of couples that pray together stay together, then more than 99 percent of couples that pray together don't stay together. Even if the study existed it doesn't say what these people want it to say.
Definitely different Christian sects will have different interpretations for various scriptures. One thing the sects radically differ on are the idea of a rapture and another that comes to mind immediately is Mary, the mother of Jesus. However, fundamental to the ideology of Biblical Christianity they will not pick and choose which parts of the Bible to believe in. That is just heretical.
After recording this video, I continued diving even deeper into the 0.01% claim. Aside from the claim that this is Gottman’s finding and the claim that this is the Gallup 1997 Poll’s finding (both of which I have found zero evidence for), I found that other Christian blogposts cite a different “source” altogether called The Retrouvaille International Handbook, 2005.
For instance, on CouplePrayer.com, it says the following: “In 1980, it was found that couples who were either praying together or reading the bible together daily, and also attending church together weekly, experienced a divorce rate of less than 1 divorce in every 1105 marriages.” They cite their source as “Retrouvaille International Handbook, 2005.”
Retrouvaille is another Christian website that appears to do couple retreats. I could find no such handbook or research on Retrouvaille’s website or through Google as a whole: helpourmarriage.org/
However, a different site that cites the same Retrouvaille “study” says the following: “Significant evidence is demonstrating that married couples who pray, study scripture, attend church, and otherwise jointly participate in spiritual activities enjoy significantly higher levels of marital happiness and satisfaction. A national research study in the United States (1980) cited in Retrouvaille’s International Handbook 2005 established that married couples who attend church together weekly and read the Bible or pray together daily have a divorce rate of approximately 1 in every 1,105 marriages.”
adventist.uk/fileadmin/shared-data/resources/family-ministries/General_Articles/Couple_Prayer_-_The_Great_Untapped_Resource.pdf
Therefore, it appears that, even if this Retrouvaille handbook exists, it is merely citing someone else’s research from 1980. It’s not clear to me whose research exactly they would be citing (since I can find neither this handbook nor a scientific article making this claim), and it’s certainly interesting that no one is citing the original study directly. The closest thing to a name that I could find for this original study is "a national research study in the United States (1980)," which is not a valid citation. I would think that such a groundbreaking study, even if it's from 1980, would be name-dropped constantly across scientific communities.
This begs the question: Do blogpost claims like these try to make it harder to find the original source? If so, is that because the original source doesn’t exist? And why do the different blogposts cite slight variations of the same statistic? Some say it’s 1 in 1,105, others say 1,150, and others 1,500. Why not just stick with the same statistic? Why are they all citing different sources for slightly different statistics? Let me know what you think.
Edit: I made a couple verbal typos in the video that I'd like to correct. At 11:51, I meant Arizona Christian University, not Arizona State University. Also, at 23:03 I meant to say "the claim that Gottman found less than 1% of couples who pray together, divorce," not "the claim that Gottman found less than 1% of couples who pray together, stay together."
I have one objection. Finding things through Google, is not satisfying to me. I would rather go into some associated database or library deep dive. Eduroam is also a place to search. That is my experience from researching specific topics based on my educational knowledge, that is pretty specialized narrowed down topics.
While I do agree, statistics are almost never fact from many groups, both left and right. I still trust my gut instinct.
It shows the West has had more and more divorces the more secular and post-modern our culture has become.
Religion has kept people more united. Its just basic proof sociologically. It's not necessarily a statistic, but it's common sense almost.
Divorce has risen even in Eastern cultures that been more detached from their original eastern philosophies and spiritual practices.
I follow you and Alana omg I love this
Nice. Now let us see the statiscs about the number of sexual partners before marriage and divorce.
@@CloudWithoutASkyYeah, in part because people receive less social repercussions if they divorce, which I don't think is a bad thing
The real divorce are the friends we made along the way.
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I’m really tired of people spreading information they see online without any time spent seeing if this claim is factual, or if the study mentioned is viable and has the appropriate experimental groups, controls and replicates. Just because a study exists doesn’t make it fact, and science is actually about asking MORE questions rather than drawing large conclusions off a singular or a few studies. We need more people on here like you, who are willing to be skeptical and understand what research needs
Absolutely! I thought it was interesting that the content creator in the video I referenced said "let's discuss WHY this research is true" rather than "let's look into the research and see IF it's really true"
@@LNVACVACin which videos has she spread misinformation
@@AnaPsychology "let's discuss why this was true" is exactly what scared me. I was dumbfounded at how she just assumed it was true
I wonder what the statistic would be for couples who play tennis together once a week, or dance salsa, and how that compares to a real statistic about couples that pray together. My gut feeling is that highly religious couples might be just a little less likely to divorce just on account that their beliefs might make them more accepting of sticking together in a miserable marriage compared to people that don't have those beliefs, but if the statistic just tracked people who identify as Christian (with no further clarification, nothing about the religious practices they do together such as praying or attending church) then the difference might be almost statistically insignificant.
I'm not Christian, but I want to say this:
Religious people are much less likely to get divorced, not little less likely
The couple being religious and virgin at marriage are two of the best predictors of the marriage continuing for life
And this isn't just about them trying to save the marriage more if a problem happened, this is also about them being more satisfied in their relationships, being happier
Check this article in the institute of family studies:
The Happiest Wives: The J-Curve in Women’s Marital Quality
The highly religious couple who are traditional have the happiest wives compared to other groups there, so probably the happiest marriages compared to other groups there
@@MA-gu2up Looking at the paper you cited, there seems to be a 1% higher relationship satisfaction according to the additive index for "Highly religious Gender Traditional couples" compared to "Shared Secular Gender Progressive couples", I don't see how that's supposed to be a huge difference. Also, there's nothing about the divorce rates. I'd imagine they would only be slightly lower for the highly religious assuming that the comparison is made in a country where divorce is legal and easily accessible. When it comes to divorce, the comparison seems only fair if one assumes and compares two similarly dissatisfied couples, as dissatisfaction can occur in any couple for any reason.
It’s a weird conclusion. I can literally make the argument that being Asian American would make you less likely to divorce than any religion, but I digress. Religion is a good correlative factor, being Asian American is better And they are the least religious group of them all.
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Do you have a study showing non-religious Asians having a lower divorce rate than religious Asians? Or highly religious Westerners?
Read the following study if you want:
Religion and union dissolution: Effects of couple and municipal religiosity on divorce and separation
This was done in the Netherlands, and the sample is very big (+145,000). Check it, and see how much lower the divorce rate is.
Also, Asians even the non-religious people don't have a lot of premarital sex. They typically wait till marriage, which will make them much less likely to get divorced by itself.
40-love-= tennis saves marriages.
Once we got to the middle of the video I was like "Jesus she went INNNNNNNN on the research". MY head was spinning just listening to your process. Thank you for debunking misinformation! Someone needs to let gottman know ppl are claiming this statistic comes from his research so he can make a statement!
Thank you for saying this, my head was spinning during the researching and writing of this video too, so that's very validating to hear. And yes, I actually know some people who worked with the Gottmans since we live in the same city and work in the same field, so maybe I'll let them know
Alana wanted a marriage so badly for so long, she changed her entire worldview in the spans of 6 months, got married really quickly, and sold her house all SO fast!
yeah I can see why people are concerned for her. She used to share a LOT about her life on youtube, and it makes sense that she chose to close that "relatable tmi youtuber" chapter. But to be honest, her new content does not seem authentic to me whatsoever. I'm glad Ana made this video, but it's very frustrating that she had to. I hope Alana finds her way
Christ healed me and transformed me. It did happen so fast! It was the best year of my life. Praise God.
You sound like you’ve been told to say that 🤔
I like this type of “debunking” content and would love to see more of it
As a Christian, the part about "real Christians" and "nominal Christians" is really aggravating. This is a very narrow, modern Evangelical definition of Christianity which doesn't hold true to most current Roman Catholics, Eastern Orthodox and even many Protestants, let alone most of the historical Christians. I read quite a bit of religious studies and it's a growing consensus that religions don't actually work this way, as a monolith that you must accept in its purest, most orthodox and literal interpretation.
In different countries and groups of people, even among different denominations, there will be differences in how Christianity looks and certain practices may be omitted or used.
However, the claims that Christianity is the only true religion and the Bible is completely true *should* be something that a Christian believes, otherwise why bother identifying as a Christian?
There are fundamentals that are exclusive to every belief system religious and not religious that outsiders as well as members (if religious) use to identify the belief system and define it, and if someone does not hold those fundamentals to be true then they by definition do not subscribe to that belief system. Modern spirituality has convinced us that believing in something to be true over another is somehow bad, so now we have Christianity which has no clear definition because people find it to be narrow minded and offensive. We have to believe that every religion is a little bit true and that our own is not completely true in order to be inclusive, which defeats the purpose of identifying as a part of any religion, which is believing that it is fundamentally true. Since finished, the Bible has been the definition of Christianity (as it is the only book Christians believe was written by God, the final word of God), but according to some, you don't have to believe in the Bible to be a Christian. Like I said, why subscribe to a religion that you don't believe to be completely true? That just seems disingenuous and like a huge waste of time to me.
Timothy Keller explained the idea of exclusivity and ethnocentrism and Christianity in his book Reason For God. I recommend it to Christians and non Christians, he is very thorough.
It bothers me too as a Pentecostal Christian. These people are not real Christians and do not speak for me. I hate that when I tell people I'm evangelical, I need to now add "but I'm not one of the crazy ones."
@@maraisreynolds9688no actually there are 45 000 types of Christianity and many of them have incredibly different beliefs and practices. And no, the early Christians were not “all about the bible” as it was not even completed at the time.
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Aren't you contradicting yourself?
If you say they aren't real Christians, on what basis do you object to them defining what is a real Christian?
@@MA-gu2up they are willfully openly knowingly continuously lying to push an agenda based on beliefs they have that are not supported by any truths. This is actually intentional malicious behavior. The Bible says by their fruits you shall know them and these types of folks are frauds. We are evaluating not on an single event but on a pattern of behavior. I pray they change but I've seen too many people that think they're Christians filled with darkness in their hearts despite going to church and praying 90% of their lives.
I became an Orthodox Christian in the last two years and you’re really right to call that “test” ethnocentric. The whole issue here is a very American, Evangelical approach to what is em actually just an attempt to proselytize and convince their audience of their particular, narrow view of Christianity. While I wouldn’t disagree that prayer would be good for a relationship, I also don’t think our faith in Christ needs to be or even should be dependent on something as complicated as marriage statistics. Lol
Edit: I commented this before the part where you basically said the same thing. My ego is boosted 😂
Okay, you and I should talk cuz I'm in a dilema over here since I'm trying to find my way through Christianity and I'm surrounded by US Christians that's beggining to bother me.
@@cultural-and-historical What do you mean?
Axia!
@@cultural-and-historicalhey brother or sister, i feel your struggle
i converted to Coptic Orthodoxy in a similar situation
@@PaperParade I mean I joined a community where everyone adopted a fully biblical worldview. This worldview is said to be absolute and overrides what is seen in nature. I had a view of what Christianity would be and that it would guide me spiritually and morally. However, I'm not willing to adopt an old testament worldview in its totality where I know for a fact that this is not it.
Congratulations! I haven't watched your channel in some time. But it sounds like you graduated and you received your doctorate and you're now Dr. Ana! Congratulations! That's huge! Hopefully your channel covered some of those tuition costs lol
I’m sure you’ve hinted at this point, but, you could potentially make the same disingenuous argument in favor for arranged marriages. A couple in an arranged marriage could easily be less likely to divorce due to cultural, religious and familial stigmas; perhaps, the woman would report “higher” rates of happiness and satisfaction, when in reality, it could be the result of fear in a highly patriarchal relationship.
I’ve been a fan of Alana for years and her shift towards creating Christian content after randomly getting married to a guy she’s only known for 6 months is really concerning. I think Ana was really fair to her in this video, but the end was a READ. It’s clear Alana is insecure in her new Christian identity. She probably knows that people are questioning her choices and are concerned for her, and that others just may not like this new type of content. Overall really interesting, and it was fun to watch two different videos from two female content creators that’s I’ve been a fan of for a while.
Sadly, even when confronted with these findings, some people will continue believing the lie and misinformation. Some people want to believe what makes them comfortable and happy. Or even when it seems like something that's not optimistic they want to believe it because they want to believe the worst in people. Sometimes people just don't want to change their minds no matter what.
Didn't expect you to tell people to go touch some grass, I cracked up at this point LOL
my heart has such a soft spot for alana because she helped me through hard times during quarantine but it’s important to call this out.
What you said at the end really interested me - people who have the opposite belief dive deep into “evidence.” I have been subscribed from her for a while and she became Christian very suddenly after meeting and marrying a Christian so I believe she has been doing a lot of self-convincing.
I've been feeling so weird about the Christian videos I've been consuming especially from what it seems like the sharp turn that Alana took with her life and content. I love that you broke it down and put so much effort to see if these claims hold up! It feels super validating to see someone hold the same curiosities about the information being presented, rather than accepting it for what it is! Great video :)
Thank you for doing all this work to uphold the ethic of scientific validity
Hey Ana, long-time watcher and I think maybe one of your few male ones. Have you ever done a video on how the divorce rate isn’t 50% and never has been, and in fact has been trending downwards for 40 years? Because everyone thinks half of marriages don’t last when it’s totally a myth.
Thank you Mrs queef storm
@@bigthunder7002 You are welcome, Big T
Divorce is going down, but so is marrige rate, so probably those who do get married are more serious or ready for marrige in the first place
I think Alana is having an identity crisis
Psalm 37:4
"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart." I delight in the Lord, and He has completely changed the desires of my heart. Colossians 3:2 Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Former Christian here, can’t tell you how often I heard this being taught during my time in the church. Problem is so many Christian’s just eat it up without questioning it (including myself at the time). When truth isn’t as important as our beliefs, we’ll believe all kinds of falsehoods.
I hope you apply this same analysis when it comes to transgenderism, homosexuality, and abortion and mental health. Because no of these topics are throughly researched yet there’s tons of claims about it already.
"truth"
So you're telling me you know what the "truth" is?
You are still in a church, however this new church is often not seen as one. Hint. You're in it.
@@sweetxjcwhat do you mean? We are researching them right now and changing misconceptions accordingly.
Lying about what makes a happy marriage, proves many do not care about a happy marriage. All image !
This really made me happy, as I need this approach when facing so many difficult black and white assumptions. I am so glad you could discuss this in such a respectful manner.
Been a huge fan of your channel now for around a year, this was such a right place right time video for me. Over the past few years Ive called out my parents on falling for these misinformation-confirmation bias blog sites they read (both helming from conservative and christian ideologies). Almost every time, the citation "sources" arent ever anything credible. I've tried to construct an explaination as to how they need to be aware of these trappings, but its been really tough seeing them fall further and further into these rabbit holes. They'll often say theyve been doing a lot of "research" when that research is only watching christian youtube channels or reading christian blogs. They're even at a point now where they claim the devil corrupts modern science and thats why their supportive evidence studies arent accepted in scientific circles. Its really really painful to hear, especially since theyre such loving, caring, and intelligent people. When I visit them for Christmas this year, if they bring up what theyve been "learning" again I'm going to see if theyd be willing to watch this video. I think your explaination of how proper un-biased research is done could hopefully give them a new perspective on the reality of the situation a bit more. I dont mean to pull them away from their religion, but maybe if they can get a bit more awareness surrounding the content theyre reading, it can help rebuild a bridge over the gap thats been created between my family 🥲
I ordered both "The Curse in their Veins" and your journaling workbook! Love your videos!
Ana, I've been watching your videos for a long time and you've come so far ever since I first started! You're so well spoken and your videos keep getting easier to follow. I'm proud of you, from one stranger to another! I switched my major to sociology so this would be a funny topic to bring up in class lol
Thank you for helping against misinformation. Need more content like this from more people
It’s scary people get there info from TikTok than actual doing research
I’m a Christian here on my way to be a pastor soon. This was aggravating because there really is no fact checking, but that’s common thing with many people anyways to consume information what we want to hear. (Even I am guilty of this) But the more frustrating part was what a “Real Christian” is. The Bible is real clear about what really defines who is a follower of Jesus by the way they love EVERYBODY and if they confess that Jesus is Lord and he raised from the dead. That’s it..What defines different denominations is what others emphasize, such as baptism, communion etc. Ana great video as usual!!
I was raised in a cult of Christianity that taught baptism was biblically required for salvation. How are they wrong about this and you correct, if you don't mind me asking?
The only standard for what being a Christian is that didn't check out, coming from a fellow Christian, is the one that says obeying God promises us a successful life. We are not promised success in this world in any way that the world defines it. We are promised eternal life with God in heaven, and trials and suffering on earth while being comforted by the peace and love of God. Sounds like Joel Osteen wrote that rule. 😂
I'm glad you looked into where the statistic comes from and its validity. I hope it reaches the Christians touting it around in order to win people over. Christianity is more than being part of a statistic that makes you feel better about your life and your choices and a way to get what you want, which is ultimately what they are selling to people. If people think God is promising you a perfect life y'all gonna be severely disappointed.
Most reasonable take bro
@@harpersnyder2297 thanks it probably stands out when there's other Christians here in the comments suggesting that believing in the Bible to be completely true somehow isn't a defining aspect of being a Christian.
Agreed 💯
Questions like the those in the true believer survey are part of the reason I ended up leaving Christianity. They're startlingly common in the Churches I've frequented.
Sampling a 1/1000 event with a poll of ~1000 people sounds pretty sketchy
The confidence in the intro!!! So proud of you and your journey, I'm so glad I came across your channel!! 🎉
As a Christian and Engineering doctoral candidate I appreciated this video. I would not recommend this approach with Christians who do not have a strong foundation in the scientific process, let alone the basics of citing sources. I personally find it much easier, when possible (the more fabricated-sounding the claim, the better), to assume they and their claim is true when discussing it and the real-life implications of it. Often, the discrepancies even in their inner circles appear and the fabrication manifests itself in their mind.
this kind of video, of watching you try to get to the source of a statistic that seemed too good to be true was really entertaining and educational. especially in the end were we got to real studies, would love to see more of these.
Maybe they "feel in their hearts" that it's true, a and that's good enough for them?
Wouldn't doubt it.
Yes. I tried to convey my sarcasm/satire.
It definitely looks like one person said it, then they all just started quoting it, but nobody bothered to check the source.
This video was so good! Great work, Dr. Ana
Thanks so much for explaining the research process and sharing literacy tips! This is such important stuff, and, as a graduate student in another field, it was really cool to see you do it in Psychology.
Love this type of content!! Thank you for this unbiased and realistic view of Christianity, very refreshing to see
Damn near doing graduate research on these folks. God bless, keep it up
Wow you did a great investigation!! I think it's okay that people have certain beliefs, but it's dangerous when they spread misinformation
debunking topics are very interesting as well i’d love you doing more of this. mainly debunking pop psych stuff online maybe?
This video was so interesting and incredibly useful, I learned a lot about doing research. I can't thank you enough for making this!
I liked this meandering style of video. The most valuable quality learned by all grad students is their ability to do thorough research and I think you're no exception. Thank you doc!
For the Gallup poll to be real would the respondent had to have received a divorce call mid-poll? lol
so true😂😂
Wow Ana, this is amazing work! I'm glad to see someone who is as hard-working and thoughtful as you making videos, educating people and bringing awareness to pseudoscience. I enjoyed watching this video even if the topic isn't particularly interesting to me. You really worked hard to present all your research in a succinct way, and you made it interesting - I appreciate it 😊
United Methodist pastor here:
You're doing the Lord's work.... Claims like this only reaffirm that so much of the narrative around Christian traditions have been horribly skewed. I'm constantly at a loss for how misappropriated the faith is for the sake of whatever it is that these claims are meant to convey. It's saddening to me
Religions destroy good things
I agree. I grew up in a very religious home and it was scary..
Alana is going through some sort of crisis.. anyone one who changes their whole lifestyle/identity, adopts a new religion, isolates from family and friends, doesn’t post on RUclips anymore, all because she found a Christian husband and married within 6 months! 🚩 She is ensnared by a narcissist. NPD is a lot more common than people think.. it’s not rare.
I get very bad vibes from her latest videos idk why is that.
She's not isolating from family. She hangs out with her family all the time. Though she doesn't seem to hang out with her old friends anymore. But then, maybe she does and she just doesn't post it. As an ex-Christian, it's a bit jarring when someone converts into Christianity, particularly the evangelical sect (which I grew up in). But even so, let's not jump to conclusions or straight up say things that aren't true❤
Great vid as always. I was particularly interested by your discussion of the subjectivity of religion, as it challenged some notions I had in my head as a former Christian.
I know It’s kind of outside the scope of the channel, but making a video about the psychology of religious study/ apologetics and It’s inherent basis on conformation bias would be cool
I used to study apologetics in high school, and looking back, I find it suspect that the approach was to start with the conclusion (being that the bible is true) and then working BACKWARDS to find evidence; It’s literally backwards logic. A good example is whenever the bible does seem to contradict itself, instead of substantiating that, the theological approach is to do as much mental gymnastics as possible to explain how it isn’t a contradiction, because not doing so destroys their whole worldview.
That's how all science works though. This atomized worldview you have starts with what we know about physics right here, right now, then based on some measurements we just extrapolate backwards until we get to the "Big Bang", because that's the only thing that makes sense from our narrow understanding. Except everything changes every couple years, and any "law" of physics breaks down at high temperatures, high speeds, high pressures...
I think the entire presupposition is wrong. The conscious experience we're having is absolutely more than just a bunch of carbon atoms bouncing around. We clearly don't know everything, we barely understand the brain because it's like playing a video game and trying to figure out existence from what you can "observe" there.
Contradictions are because the Bible is a progression. If you take the Old Testament, it's basically Hebrew law (bacon bad, don't mix different types of cloth, etc). And the New Testament is Christ's word. The new supersedes the old. And the very last chapter makes everything very crystal clear. If you interpret it literally, it's interesting and insightful. Even if you don't believe it's the word of God, it is absolutely a way to live an honest, healthy, meaningful life and build a community that does the same.
I really appreciate how much work went into making this video. I think that while religions are not bad in themselves, they offer a lot of answers but not a lot of solutions.
Great video, particularly at the end with the scientific/media literacy points.
This is the kind of measured, comprehensive, evidence-based takedown of misinformation I wish there were more of. I mean, the 1% stat cited is obviously nonsense, but it was really nice to have you model what functionally is an expose not of conservative Christian bloggers so much as the whole discursive style on the internet ("confirmation bias in action").
Really terrific. Thanks.
I've been waiting for a Dr Ana video on this topic. tysm
I so love you for this !!!!!
Lol love you Ana. I thought I was good at research, but I'm definitely learning some tips from you 😆. Great job and great video. It is appreciated to have someone who can counter misinformation and keep people informed.
Thank for doing this because my family would say this kinda of thing and then I would ask for a the sauce and they would give me a Christian website..... at least give me a pew research study or somethings
I know it's most likely a typo but I love the use of a word sauce instead of source
@masajerkovic2647 I meant to use sauce lol its kinda twitch gamer term haha
Your videos are so engaging, I am re-watching it.
1:09 "What this deep dive revealed, I could have never foreseen." If you engage with American Evangelical resources online, you'll find many cases where someone made something up and someone believed them and the "fact" spread. I was 90+% certain what the outcome would be when you uttered that line.😢
That isn't limited to the evangelical church. I mean, Abraham Lincoln said, "Don't believe everything on the internet."
This reminds me of that Metal Gear "Source? My source is that I made it the F-up!" meme, but without the self aware irony
And 25 pages in this book will change your life: Starting on pg 183 of “The Warning” by Christine Watkins ❤❤❤
My jaw dropped when you said Brad Wilcox’s name. I know his name very well- he’s a professor of ancient scripture at BYU (Mormon university). As a recent ex-Mormon, now converting to Catholicism, while I do believe in God I’m very interested in scrutinizing religious claims and seeking evidence wherever possible (I don’t believe religion and science fundamentally contradict each other- quite the opposite). This video was a wild ride for me lmao. Thank you for the insight!!
Can you make a video about how to think more critically?
Off topic but where is your turtle neck from? It looks so chic on you
Yes I want to know too!
Great work and very inspiring.
7:38 vocalizing concerns and appreciations openly with each other(edit: and putting “responsibility” for the situation on a 3rd party). It’s probably 60% this.
and also, people who are strongly attached to their religions with all the blunders in it are also strongly attached to whatever they possess like wives, children, land.......and a happy wife, sexually or lots of time with the husband, is not every thing about marriage especially when there is no equality & she is 2nd hand citizen in the house.
also, smart people fend for the world not religious people. so, seeing the big picture, be smart & kind better.
Please talk about habit and habits and how to remove,change,create them . like breaking all kind of addictions, develop willpower ,being fearless,....
thanks 🙏
Healthy gamer gg has a few good videos about addiction, habits and motivation that talk about how the human brain works. Some of the content is aimed at a younger male audience but I still find some valuable information from the subjects covered.
Loved this video. Loving both your books as well! ❤
U make me interested in topics I never even thought about. Now I'm wondering what other things are healthy vs harmful statistically speaking when it comes to the various religions out there. 🤔
I love this kind of content you go girl !
The people who pray together cover their houses with a blanket of religion
They're not in love anymore but the church makes them feel guilty for divorcing
I have seen couples like that
This was incredible, thank you!
Hi, I would like to see an analysis on interfaith couples because they have higher divorce rates. 😀
Dr. Ana. I too like to read research (although not as deeply as you) and so I appreciate a search for truth. Unless I missed it in the video, I'm wondering why you didn't contact The Gottman Institute? I did after watching your video and before I give their answer I will add that I am a follower of Christ - yes, a Christian - and I support the transparency that you are looking for but I'll say I do feel like you were search to disprove rather than searching to learn the answer. That is bad "research." ;)
Okay, so I heard back from the institute just this evening and they said - and this was from one of their research team - "[our] take is that this statistic isn't from any of John or Julie Gottman's research." They shared it might come from gallup, not as an endorsement but that they too went searching and they too found the link (citation) mission.
I'd like to end with a quote from the bible that I believes supports you desire to fact check. Colossians 2:8: “See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ."
In the end, the non-longitudinal study by Ellison et al. (2010) does say positive things about reflection and prayer that we can't throw out with the bath water. (DOI:10.1111/j.1741-3737.2010.00742.x) But yes, it isn't linked to the 1% claim.
Thank you for that video from a biologist!! Could you also make a video about all these people claiming if women (somehow men are allowed to) have sex before marriage it somehow breaks their ability to pair bond? 😁
I would think that another possible factor if that statistic was true would be the added communication, depending on their definition of prayer
Brad Wilcox did my maturation day and sex ed in elementary school lmao
Gottman does have a thing about spending 15 minutes with your partner every day to check in on shared values and goals but I've never heard it come with a statistic
XD ofc its projection , just got done watching your 'defenses' video XD
and its even more hilarious that they're going all-in on the 'no true scotsman' fallacy XD
also could not agree more with the parting words - seek the truth and be willing to change your beliefs
Dope vid. Can you do a video on the lesbian divorce rate statistic
Important work, thanks.
I bet the Christian’s actually mean to say (but lack the vocabulary and awareness) “there are theories that being religious together in a marriage is a boon against divorce. We should do a study to confirm this.” And if that was their statement I would agree and wouldn’t be surprised if the findings were true. They’re doing a wishful thinking confirmation bias type thingy…
Great video! Keep the good work
would you ever start a podcast?
the sources list should have annotations so its easier to match the source with the part of the video it's mentioned in and a description of what the research is
How long did you spend researching this?
I think if people looked at what marriage actually was in Bible they'd be shocked if they really understood what it was. It's not what what marriage is today.
God Bless You. Great Video, Kid. Thumbs Up and already subscribed.
will you ever make a video on ADHD? specifically rejection sensitive dysphoria if you have any education and experience on it?
Are the studies at 17:38 saying praying with your partner or praying for your partner or both?
The one at 17:38 was about praying for your partner, but some of the others I discussed were about praying together. Thanks for catching the distinction!
This was such a good video
Dr Ana so fine 😭her intelligence is beautiful
Excellent Ana
You did an amazing job
The 1 in 1156 statistic comes from the book, “Faithful Attraction”, by Andrew Greeley.
You’re my hero!
If less than one percent of couples that pray together stay together, then more than 99 percent of couples that pray together don't stay together. Even if the study existed it doesn't say what these people want it to say.
Definitely different Christian sects will have different interpretations for various scriptures. One thing the sects radically differ on are the idea of a rapture and another that comes to mind immediately is Mary, the mother of Jesus. However, fundamental to the ideology of Biblical Christianity they will not pick and choose which parts of the Bible to believe in. That is just heretical.
Another banger
Super sick video brah