The Life of an African man with 7 wives.My Daughters are a sign of wealth | Who is a man Luo edition
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
- Jaduong Ouma Ouma Kwaru is a man happily living with his seven wives, 27 children and multiple grand children.
According to him, this is what happiness looks like
On our first Men's Desk coverage of" Who is a Man?", Joshua J Karanja takes us through the beliefs and cultural practices that maketh a man in different communities starting with the Luo Tribe
This series will help us all understand the modern and tradition concept of masculinity.
Share your views with us as we continue to define A Man in the African concept
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Do you think African men are naturally polygamous?
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Thank you so much for watching:)
Use English too for us non Kenyans to also understand the discussions. I LIKE YOUR INTERVIEW VERY MUCH,THEYARE INFORMATIVE.
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I used to blame slavery for the polygamous tendencies I noticed in too many men of African decent in the Caribbean. I once thought slavery had influenced their ability to submit to one woman but now I know that’s not entirely true. This was their pattern of behaviour before they were violently taken from Africa.
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Msichana ni Tabia. PERIOD
Polygamy doesn't have any space in my brain...I can never be part of it knowingly....
I love this statement 🤭☺️
Me too. Polygamy under my foot.
But you can date someone's husband knowingly and be proud of it...... What a crazy world we are leaving in
@@mungainjogu3015 No... people's husbands for me no... knowingly no
Me too I refuse in the name of Jesus 🤣🤣
Karanja fits this position.. he's doing a good job.👏
I came from polygamous family..my father had 2 wife's..then later after word's akamary third wife....we're all friends till now so what matters is the respect being shown by the head of the family..thanks madam Lynn
I think it largely depends on how the man chooses to manage the politics. If he demands that each woman respect the other, then things will be better but if he ignores laying down ground rules, then stuff will be hard.
Eti friends
Yep..
@@josephinemulama6338 friends publicly but check back door🤣
@@nakafeeroirene7903 your mother's enemy can never be your friend
I have learnt deeply on luo's culture,, This man is very sharp and intelligent. Thank you Lynn and your team for this. Love you guys🥰🥰 Am expecting more cultures stories.
Glad to see your channel growing faster and creating employment to people. I love the milestone 🥰💪👏👏 Keep soaring higher and higher. Sky is never the limit Mad ❤ to you @Lynn Ngugi
I loved loved today's show... Please bring all tribes please 🙏😂😂
Oh it's so interesting how this culture is similar to a lot in South Africa, Zimbabwe and Zambia. I am learning Swahili from you guys. Greetings from Cape Town
Welcome ,we are all Africans from same ancestors.
We receive them ....
Joshua is a fantastic host with a great sense of humor. Great team LNS!
Thank you Lynn for the conversation! I think one need not to approach the conversation from a monolithic view. I think part of why the conversations are important is so that history does not repeat itself.
Can women also be allowed to have more husbands,if this is how Happy it can be or get🤔🤗🤣
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@@kshylucia2345 Seriously I envy men
@@wanjiku28 You are right
women are not allowed to have more husbands because children need identity with multiple husbands how will a woman tell who is whose's father?
@@emilyakinyi4253 I know it isn't possible but come to think of it🤔
In South Africa it's in court.
The style of this man it's like he is frm Nigeria
Weuh.this is interesting.looking forward to hearing from other tribes.this is educating.kicking out stereotypes too..Mzee Kwaru is sharp.
He resembles former Nigerian president “ olusegun obasajo”
Unapiga nduru we ni mwanamke👀a phrase used to supress men off their emotions!
I come from a polygamous family and trust me you learn a lot like how to accommodate people you don't even like but with time the lessons will help you not to be selfish and know how to live with people
Interesting perspective:)
Wacha ikae😂😂
I truly respect the Ujamaa philosophy. But one can learn to accommodate people without being polygamous…..
I don't have that grace. Polygamy is a big "NO" for me.
There are enough people in the world to learn that WITHOUT polygamy!
Sunu matako ya kuku ama gatitira 🤣🤣am loving the mens desk.But culture zingine huwa zinatufinyilia kama wanawake thanks to God tunazindi tukujua more about God tuache mila zingine
It is wonderful to see how cultural beliefs were born over time and practiced within the world. Before such separatist, socially imbalanced beliefs were born and became an avenue or cultural ideology to be handed down from generation to generation, there was balance between genders that did not consist of objectification, marginalization, or physical abuse that's based upon sexual organs. Such externalization of the physical body was manifested through egocentric mental beliefs that allows the spirit to separate (male dominance) from which he/she/we came (resulting in separating one from another, limitingly defined as the other). The moral of the story: Don't be afraid to question all beliefs, rituals, egocentric practices or desires. Even when it's difficult, question all things. Embrace oneness or nothing at all. Thanks Lynn Ngugi.
For me ...It's our gal Lynn like najengewa yangu wapy 😅😅😅😂😂
Giving out my to ears 👂🏾 👂🏾 to listen while watching 👁 👃🏾 👁
From my one and only one talented gal who inspires me and transform me
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The 3rd wife's house is awesome 👌
Unaweza pata ni watoto wake ndio wamemtengenezea.... Iko very smart bt all of them nyumba zao ni clean
@@VvVv-kf8ho haki nyumba ya first wife imekaa kulemewa zaidi
Hi you nyumba ni smart sana
Great one Lynn bring all tribes it's so interesting mabruk to all the team
Holo is my home town and how comes have never heard about this man 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
It depends which holo hope its not Holo Seme
Holo nyakach
that is my home area, welcome back again lynn and the entire crew
Ooh this was sweet,we need many of this in our tribes...next try my tribe luhya
@lynn ngugi i saw u smiling while trying to shy🤣🤣🤣mzee ako na mambo smooooth
I love Lyn ...
I wish as a human race we would be more tolerant and understanding of people, their backgrounds, culture and choices.
My grandfather has/had two wives one is late though and I can say for sure it's been a tough one.....I can never advocate for polygamy Ile chuki nmeona ikiwa extended to the innocent grandkids,great grandkids..it's a no for me
Nimepaki tuu zile za weee.......things have really changed ✌
Nice n interesting show,lynn tuletee video mingi kama hizi.ni educative sana
This culture and luhyas culture are almost the same ,,,I come from a polygamy family as long as there is respect its not bad personally we love one another you can't different this is my step step or real
Amazing episode we learn more these channel.# respect Lynn Ngugi
we keep on blaming men for all mistakes but we forget some of this men are enabled by their mothers, aunts and in the cases of polygamy the other women who know that they are getting involved with a married man, we should accept that when it comes to marriage some of us are terrible but i personally believe people who are ina strong marriage should be protected at all cost.
Msichana iko na sura kama ile.....and then Lynn photos appear....👌🏾😅😅
Karanja uko sawa Kwa interview 👍
Camera man. Nice edits. Lynn Your team is out here hustling.
(46:09) ilibidi German Bosco aamke asikie... Good content. Keep up #MensDesk
One of the main reason why circumcision was not embraced as a culture in luo among other reasons is because luo is a sexual culture almost everything is comemorated by sex so tampering with the original nature of the tool was just unheard of
Mzee hachapwi, mama anachapwa na mashemeji..As a woman I always say I am not proud of some African cultures that were so oppressive. Infact abusive.
Nowadays mashemeji wakijaribu si watajikuta police cell. 😂😂
Pia mzee anaeza chapwa na bros and uncles side ya bibi. Akileta ujinga bibi atoroke na mzee amfwate kwao, in-laws wanaeza mnyorosha kama anatesa mschana wao.
Such men don't exist anymore, straight forward, loyal, with integrity, takes care of his family, is open and responsible. If you know you want to marry more than one wife, be open about it. There are women who don't mind being in a polygamous family, instead of hiding and hoering urself right, left and center, and if you don't want to marry, also tell the other person so that she can be aware of your lifestyle.
Thumbs up Lynn and your team
This is very interesting, I've learnt slot about the Luo culture.
Wow , I like his elaboration
Maisaaaaa C Maisaaaaaa😊😊😊🌝🌝🌚🌚
Hii nayo mlienjoy ,very interesting ave learnt alot too
Us we are more than 27some we even don't know each other, the other day a step brother of mine inboxed me on Facebook because we shared a surname. Though I didn't grow up there so my thinking or opinion on this set up wouldn't be that valid.
Mukende soft kabisa 😊😊 Sundu matako ya kuku 😃😃😃 wajaluo leo ndio nimewajua mila zenu
No man is ALLOWED to marry sisters at the samethime, if she is alive. He can marry only if she's dead and left young children behind. ( for the sake of thoes children he can marry his sister in law if she agrees to rais thoes children.
I wanted to hear the story,,but I don’t understand what they are saying here
Good morning team LYNN NGUGI NETWORK
Very good content lakini sasa huyu Bibi nyumba take haina viti ni kumaanisha si hardworking🤣🤣🤣🤣 uh I can not can ...third wife na first wife wako na nyumba smart smart ...their kids must be doing better 🤗🤗na sasa hii ndio shida ya Bibi wengi
The title imenifanya nime smile😊😊😊🤭
Now I understand why they say ja luo are southsudanese brothers, is because we have the same culture.
The only different is that south sudanese pays more dowry than luos
But this culture of marring sisters is not our.
Lynn umebatizwa leo"liz,,
Leo ni Leo
Joshua ako chojo
Na mashwali moto moto
Kukulukuu ooo🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think they need to address some of these cultural ideas…that are hundreds of years old and is not relevant to today…removing ppl’s good teeth…makes no sense…not to disrespect ppl’s culture…
Just because it's a culture,doesn't mean it can't be changed. It's ' 22 come on now. What's the goods and bads,matters the most. You marry 3 wives,having 6 kids how are you going to provide them all emotionally? Mila this,Mila that,kwani Mila ni kuoa wake wengi tu? Is there anything else about these culture that these people focus the most than polygamy ?
The fact that the bible is against polygamous marriage I will never support it in this life.....Am Kikuyu but bila Mila call me mtumwa is alright, but my Mila ni ya YESHUA period.... There's no scripture in the bible that honors or embraces or praises any ancient king or whoever practiced polygamous marriages...We only read about Sarah wife to Abraham praised, Hannah praised, Esther praised but no concubines or from bibi number two is praised but rather the bible GOES SILENT on them...And what does it mean when the bible goes silent on them the concubines, polygamous marriages that's??? It means God doesn't and will never recognize such forever..
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inaitwa placenta, lynn funza huyu karanja wetu😂😂😂😂
Polygamous 😒 I rebuke it in Jesus mighty name...I can't look at my kids suffering
Sky is not the limit.
I have learned something today A nyaramogi I'm a Luo daughter however, I didn't know all this. Thank you for educating me on our culture 🪘🪘. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Abila is the same as Man Cave I guess ✌🏽
It called laying in the State
Coming from a polygamous family and seeing how it ruined our lives i can never embrace it in any way.
I personally hate polygamy
Me too , my Mum really struggled to educated us
Me as well
I second, effects of polygamy
Same here. I laugh when I see people from non polygamous backgrounds praise it. Kwanza there is so much witchcraft in polygamy coz of the jealousy and hate.
I understand why he needed to marry many wives, having lost 13 of his siblings. However, polygamy only benefits the husband. It is such a patriarchal practice. As a wife, a mum, a co-wife, you really end up standing alone. It's all up to your wit, hardwork & resilience.
The good thing about polygamy is that they watch over each other. Cheating is suppressed
Am from a polygamous family of 6wives and Its not something to be proud of.All in all that was someone's choice and I can't change it.
Education of Luos was mainly through grandparents, aunties and uncles and it started when they were old enough to be instructed. Girls would sleep in their grandmother's huts as they approach puberty, and they'd be taught everything they need to know. Boys would spend time with their grandfathers and uncles for instruction on how to behave just before they built their simba. You're welcome 😊.
Hata mwanamke askie vibaya, hakuna kenye anaeza fanya..... that's saaad ☹️ it's crazy how much women in the past had to take....
That statement has really got me thinking
that statement is very heartbreaking
#selfishness
Very very sad
That took me away...... so selfish. Imagine the boy growing hearing and feeling this way about a woman.
They could have cut that out. Just thinking loud.
My maternal grand mother was the 3rd wife. She was light skinned and young. Was gifted to my maternal grand father because no one could Marry a light skin girl with long hair in the village,she was married with no Pride price because of her colour to a village chief. The first two wives mistreated her a lot. To an extent of forcing her to wear head scarf all time to hide her hair. The only time people did see her hair was when she passed on. They said her hair was long to her waist. Her daughters vowed never to be married as second wives and they passed on to their daughters. As I speak I have two of my Aunties divorced because their husbands married after them. And never remarried again. Most of my cousins are well educated and chose to remain single. The trauma of polygamous family becomes a generation trauma if not dealt with probably. Sometimes women in most African society are seen as products and they don’t care about their welfare or feelings. I am so glad now we can make choices to whom to marry. Whether as second or third but to me polygamous is under my foot. Good job Lynn.
i love your thinking❣
Men are polygamous in nature...I believe soo
@@Judy-bg1jt Not all men are polygamous. Try mingling with other crowds of people from different parts of the world. I know in Kenya most men are cos I’m originally from there. We should not generalize.
@@Judy-bg1jt men are polygamous because the society has made them to believe so. The same society has brainwashed women to believe that they have no say when men choose to marry more than one wife. Just listen to what Ouma said about marriage, whether the first wife accepts or not the man will still go ahead. Because the man knows that the society will favour him. Just imagine an educated women and independent with less mulolongo wa watoto will do. If she doesn’t want to face manipulation of such man she will definitely walk away peaceful. May struggle for a few months and she will stand up and face life with courage and wealth of experience to empower other women and men who are struggling with what the society say. Just my thoughts. Be blessed.
@@lifewithtshidiedza381 its sad especially for those who have suffered polygamous trauma. No love just competing for a man to raise his ego. Let’s teach our daughters to be independent and love themselves, no one will manipulate them ati tulete msichana atuzaidie kazi hee Maajabu!!!
This was so inspiring , this Mzee is full of wisdom , you should bring more of this , very educative
This is interesting LNS should bring all the tribes and let us learn about our culture and traditions ❤️ also the ladies how they were raised ,let's get some knowledge good job team LNS .
❤❤❤ yea cover as many cultures as possible
Waluhya wakifikiwa please please cover all luhya sub tribes tusipaintiwe na brush moja 😂😂
We need more people like you in this world 🌎
Aii ii polygamy ziii. Imagine incase one is sick or has infection ...wote wataambukizwa. Mimi ii ujinga siwezi .
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣our Mens Corner doing well, Polygamy is the worst thing ever but in Luo culture it was a sign of Wealth.🤣🤣🤣🤣eeeeish Respekt for our Mother’s for managing this.
Ouma Ouma Kwaru has wholeheartedly welcomed the crew,busaa is now unheard of.
He has tremendous leadership and managerial skills.
This was a 'flex' back then 😂 Adults can really bask in this glory, but if you want to know the effects of polygamy ask the children!
It's bad it's bad. Especially for a man who is not wealthy but insists on many women and children. The cycle of poverty is so hard to break.sometimes one woman is favoured over another her children taken to school upto university while others drop out at primary and the man doesn't care. Yaani baby girl enda shule usikubali mambo ya second wife. Not to mention uchawi na vitu kaa izo
@@Kakwasi I know! Favouritism and petty fights create long lasting feuds. As someone from a polygamous family I'd rather die than entertainment such BS!
It's terrible. I'm coming from a polygamous home and most people that do it are just selfish they don't care about their children's feelings but their own.
@@bluebrown5566 true 💯
Don't just ask the children, first ask the wives who live through this horror and are forced by patriarchy to learn to be quiet, have no say or opinion in matters that affect your heart. Moreover, the older wives get ignored and are only kept around for social rituals that are believed to bring good omen to their homes. Those older wives die premature deaths, age before their time because their souls are tortured😩
I am proud that my Luo husband isn’t into this mess we wouldn’t be together. His father also died with only one wife but his maternal grandfather had many wives but his paternal
Didn’t have any. The effects can be seen in the family that grew up in a polygamous family is seen up to now. It doesn’t end well. Even in the Bible look at David and Solomon and the mess in their own homes.
I come from polygamy, I don't support it..
me too weeh never easy
African men are not polygamous in nature, we as women, mothers and matriarchs we speak life into our men and sons that we want to see and experience. We have the power to refuse and accept what concerns our men by utterances.
There is a secret in the spiritual realm.
They are
Biblically it's the men who bless the boys, unasoma biblia gani, punda Milia yeye.
Shenz type
Men are polygamous. Period.
Polygamy requires a very wise administration policeman with alot of energy. 🙏🏽
Africanasity... we all have different cultural beliefs and traditional practices.
The diversity in our cultures is beautiful. :)
@@LynnNgugi true 💯
As a woman, I just do not understand women who accept to be 7th best.It`s bad enough to be 2nd best to your husband but to be number 7..........
In luo especially amongst women, the number 3,4 etc when they talk openly and honestly, they will tell you "amanyo kar kunyo" im here because im looking for where my grave will be, who will bury me" because in Luo land and culture, a grown woman can not be burried in her parents compound.
Having said that, it`s not a secret that when men especially young ones talk amongst themselves will say " okendo ne jawuot gweng" which translates to "he`s brought a woman for the young single village playboys to mess around with.
A single man can not satisfy 7 women emotionally, financially or in the bedroom that`s that, you can say whatever you want. Even kids can not receive that close bond with a dad of 27.
But all in all, I`m a luo, a father with 27 children can most times not even afford proper school uniforms, school fees, or proper food on the table and the wives have to struggle to take care of the kids.
It`s not fun putting on hand-me-downs all your life or until you grow up to afford your own, sitting at dinner table when there is almost nothing to eat or if it`s there, you force yourself to eat it because if you do not, there will be nothing more.
Excuse my opinion but I find such men selfish, and a woman accepting to marry a man with 4+ present wives ignorant or maybe even desperate without even realizing it or saying it out loud.
Woow I love how he is taking good care of his wives bravo🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Educative and entertaining. I had so much fun watching, though I must say, as a person from the community he confirmed all that my father and grandmother taught me. Kudos jaduong.
Abila is the contemporary man cave. This was very informative and entertaining. How does mzee support his family financially? Can we have a cultural view from a woman's perspective? Great job LNN!
I must admit the wives are ageing just fine...
Coming from a polygamist fam maself 2nd wives always have a problem 😅even her hse tells it all.the cultures r a mess 😧🤔
I've learnt something..
Keep bringing more cultural stories 😊
I'll be brave enough and ask...Joshua ako na mtu?🤭......otherwise good job Lynn and team for shedding light on toxic masculinity.....
Mee tooo hahaha 😆
Unapiga nduru we ni mwanamke, jst made my day😂😂😂😂😂
Thanks to God, mwanamke can piga nduru, tupige kabisa. Don't die silently. Lynn thank you for this platform, you allow people to piga nduru without judging them ❤❤
😂😅😅😅 he's a comedian kimpango ...
Na mwanamke akileta ujuaji ...*kanyaga frame*
From what I experienced growing up in a polygamous family it's not easy since you even grow up bitter, I can't get into it knowingly.
I second you completely
Polygamy is an open door to alot of evil, jealousy, witchcraft division name it.Personally I am not in support of it at all.
Just a way of glorifying adultery
Aaaaawwww his accent reminds me of my late dad 🤣.
The polygamy thing I don't support, most of Luo traditions are/were partrichal. Women mostly suffered/still suffer in the name of culture.
Let me just comment on his reaction when he was introduced to Gala is everything 10:33 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Excellent videography. The quality of your production is steadily improving.
I respect this man he's doing great 🙌🏽🛐🙏🏽
Im a luo.....This video has taught me a lot about my culture ,things i didn't even know ...big up Lynn Ngugi
I wouldn't advocate for polygamy in any way, my grandpa had six wives. My family is scattered, we don't even know each other, no peace,.. I have never heard of any family gathering because people can't see eye to eye
I love you Lynn!You always bring out amazing stories! Will definitely watch it when I get a minute.
Insightful, appreciated Lynn.Josh good job though Jaduong' scantily touched on how the luo younger men were taught by the wazees,not that I know but am sure there must have been a way.Probably communication barrier.Just thinking had there been a translator in such an instance...all in all it takes alot to bring such content.As a communicator I appreciate the effort.
Now other tribes have learned why luos don’t cut their foreskin so next time don’t force us to do your culture we have our own culture and way of initiating into udulthood , let’s respect everyone’s culture