I don't know how you managed to relate the consumerism with breakups but it is brilliant. User friendly and more powerful/ more reliable are qualities my ex will remember and find hard to replace. She never found it before me and is very unlikely to find it after me.
We were in 8 year relationship. I was 19 and she was 17 when we met. She was my first love and I was hers. We've been through everything together, we had hard times and a lot of fun times like travelling, adventures, hiking, dining etc. Then in university she met a guy that tried to flirt with her but she friendzoned him and they only spoke about exams and lectures. She never hide anything from me also I have read their chats and stuff, everything was normal and we loved each other and have feelings. Then in the beginning of this year we started to have different arguments and fights, things were a little bit toxic on times. I've decided and telled her, let's give us some time to reflect on things, let's separate for a month or two without each other. She cried, she was devastated when I decided that. One month have passed and we didn't seek each other and then I tried to contact her, but she told me she is not going back in our relationship.. I was so confused and desperate to bring her back.. but then I found out that she is already meeting this guy from university that she friendzoned him. He is the total opposite of me. He don't have a job, he is living on a rent with his parents money and I have a stable job with a house. He is interested only in going to parties or whatever and I am more like introverted, I like to read books, I like to go travel and have new experiences. She started to post pictures of them on social media how they love each other.. not even a month from our breakup they "love" each other. I tried several times to fix the things but it didn't work, she ignored me but sees all my stories and reacts to my photos, she keeps all of our photos on social media. Coach Alexis, could you tell me if that is typical rebound relationship?
I have the same love story as yours. 8 years, first love, loved each other to death. Became toxic, he said he needed time I over reacted and just left. It’s been 2 weeks and he’s already out on dates :// is it different if it’s a guy?
Agree with it all apart from the time you’ve been split. Say you’ve been split for 3 years, lived in 2 different houses but kept the physical and emotional bonds going but still think you single if you go out with friends or even if you still emotionally dependent on each other ie you’ve split but never separated (talk/see each other near enough every day) I’d still class that a rebound after 3 years?
If No Contact is the answer to reattracting an ex, which I believe to be the case. I'm two years post break-up. She broke it off. She's still reaching out, but I've stopped asking to meet as she didn't agree to meet 3-4 times in the second half of last year, when she reached out. So now she likes posts on my Facebook weekly to fortnightly (with no provocation from me). Then the problem I have Alexis is that I've seen several of your videos saying that after two years effectively, it is basically hopeless if we haven't reconnected. Last time I saw her was Easter 2022, spent the weekend at her house. So, now I'm between not asking to meet and giving up and still having some hope given her current behaviour. I'm confused, I've followed NC, I've waited for her to reach out, which keeps happening. I've stopped asking to meet since I've been rejected on that several times and I don't want to appear needy.
I think the thing is, you say you don’t want to appear needy but have you really untethered from the outcome? Have you really detached from her internally? My guess is you haven’t and she knows it! Your micro expressions will be giving you away. Truth is you’ve not changed enough for her to really want you back. You need to internally shift your mindset and be the best option for her!
@@remyd1984 While I'm trying to take this into consideration, it's hard for her to judge my micro expressions when we aren't seeing each other, my replies to her emails (which is how she reaches out) are short and to the point and I don't try to carry the conversation. Everything that is suggested by all of these coaches. So, she has nothing to go on. I'm not even responding to her Facebook likes and I don't like or comment on any of her socials. So, she really has nothing to go on...
Micro expressions can't be needy. If you're completely detached from the outcome, then you have no attachment. The goal is secure attachment, not no attachment.
I've tried to live by this poem nearly all my life and especially in times of deep emotional pain when your mind becomes your worst enemy. Into a soul absolutely free from thoughts and emotions. Look it up. From The Tao of Jeet Kune Do and though Bruce Lee must have been influenced by this it was written by a samurai warrior. If someone so violent can reach such inner peace than we can try to calm our inner battles and improve ourselves.
We broke up a year go and she starting dating someone about 9’monthd after. However we were in constant contact seeing if we could respark. Can her relationship be considered a rebound?
My ex returned to her ex within six weeks of leaving me. It's hard to apply this advice, that she will not feel the same attraction to them as with me, when clearly they chose them over me.
@@remyd1984 She was with him for something like 4 months until he dumped her. Two years and a couple relationships later she and I were together for around 6 months. 26 and 29
Alexis, to me it feels like. If I knew she had been with someone else, it would have been a clear and resounding "NO" to taking her back. But how do I get that sort of information? Should I ask her directly?
Not my case. My ex was good looking and charming. Left me for all of his options. I also got the looks but I’m not into “options” I want my partner for life
@@J.Alejandra partner for life is pretty much impossible nowadays. It was pretty obvious 60 years ago when women did not work usually and did not have much other options than stay by their men. But nowadays things are much different. Most of women work. And Tinder gives them tons of options and it is known that even millionaires and celebrities are chasing women in Tinder. So women have no need to stay with a man at all. You will hit menopause someday and it does mean that you will despise your current partner. You will file divorce. Later, when the menopause is over you will hit Tinder and find a lot of every kind of men arounnd. Why stay with one man? No reason.
I don't know how you managed to relate the consumerism with breakups but it is brilliant.
User friendly and more powerful/ more reliable are qualities my ex will remember and find hard to replace. She never found it before me and is very unlikely to find it after me.
Women have tons of options in the age of Tinder.
We were in 8 year relationship. I was 19 and she was 17 when we met. She was my first love and I was hers. We've been through everything together, we had hard times and a lot of fun times like travelling, adventures, hiking, dining etc. Then in university she met a guy that tried to flirt with her but she friendzoned him and they only spoke about exams and lectures. She never hide anything from me also I have read their chats and stuff, everything was normal and we loved each other and have feelings. Then in the beginning of this year we started to have different arguments and fights, things were a little bit toxic on times. I've decided and telled her, let's give us some time to reflect on things, let's separate for a month or two without each other. She cried, she was devastated when I decided that. One month have passed and we didn't seek each other and then I tried to contact her, but she told me she is not going back in our relationship.. I was so confused and desperate to bring her back.. but then I found out that she is already meeting this guy from university that she friendzoned him. He is the total opposite of me. He don't have a job, he is living on a rent with his parents money and I have a stable job with a house. He is interested only in going to parties or whatever and I am more like introverted, I like to read books, I like to go travel and have new experiences. She started to post pictures of them on social media how they love each other.. not even a month from our breakup they "love" each other. I tried several times to fix the things but it didn't work, she ignored me but sees all my stories and reacts to my photos, she keeps all of our photos on social media. Coach Alexis, could you tell me if that is typical rebound relationship?
Bro you literally described the same scenario I went through!
@@typicalsigmamale4908 Are you staying in no contact? Also how much time have passed since your breakup and does she tried to reach you?
@@vladiplays2196 I went straight into no contact, it’s been 8 month and I never heard from her again.
She is narcissist
I have the same love story as yours. 8 years, first love, loved each other to death. Became toxic, he said he needed time I over reacted and just left. It’s been 2 weeks and he’s already out on dates :// is it different if it’s a guy?
Agree with it all apart from the time you’ve been split. Say you’ve been split for 3 years, lived in 2 different houses but kept the physical and emotional bonds going but still think you single if you go out with friends or even if you still emotionally dependent on each other ie you’ve split but never separated (talk/see each other near enough every day) I’d still class that a rebound after 3 years?
If No Contact is the answer to reattracting an ex, which I believe to be the case. I'm two years post break-up. She broke it off. She's still reaching out, but I've stopped asking to meet as she didn't agree to meet 3-4 times in the second half of last year, when she reached out. So now she likes posts on my Facebook weekly to fortnightly (with no provocation from me). Then the problem I have Alexis is that I've seen several of your videos saying that after two years effectively, it is basically hopeless if we haven't reconnected. Last time I saw her was Easter 2022, spent the weekend at her house. So, now I'm between not asking to meet and giving up and still having some hope given her current behaviour. I'm confused, I've followed NC, I've waited for her to reach out, which keeps happening. I've stopped asking to meet since I've been rejected on that several times and I don't want to appear needy.
I think the thing is, you say you don’t want to appear needy but have you really untethered from the outcome? Have you really detached from her internally? My guess is you haven’t and she knows it! Your micro expressions will be giving you away. Truth is you’ve not changed enough for her to really want you back. You need to internally shift your mindset and be the best option for her!
@@remyd1984 While I'm trying to take this into consideration, it's hard for her to judge my micro expressions when we aren't seeing each other, my replies to her emails (which is how she reaches out) are short and to the point and I don't try to carry the conversation. Everything that is suggested by all of these coaches. So, she has nothing to go on. I'm not even responding to her Facebook likes and I don't like or comment on any of her socials. So, she really has nothing to go on...
Micro expressions can't be needy. If you're completely detached from the outcome, then you have no attachment. The goal is secure attachment, not no attachment.
I've tried to live by this poem nearly all my life and especially in times of deep emotional pain when your mind becomes your worst enemy.
Into a soul absolutely free from thoughts and emotions.
Look it up. From The Tao of Jeet Kune Do and though Bruce Lee must have been influenced by this it was written by a samurai warrior.
If someone so violent can reach such inner peace than we can try to calm our inner battles and improve ourselves.
Problem in them, but we are who have to change 🤔
exactly what i was thinking too
Victim mentality mate
Yes, we become more as we should, to meet the demands of a successful life with an outcome we desire. What didn't work is out, new approach is in.
Only at first. If we see them not changing later after learning this (which you have to build up to) then we can move on ...why called a second chance
The fact that RUclips's algorithm wants me to not worry about my ex dating someone new is making me worry...
Why? You can do the same dummy lol. Are you the broker, or the brokie?
We broke up a year go and she starting dating someone about 9’monthd after. However we were in constant contact seeing if we could respark. Can her relationship be considered a rebound?
Very interesting. You are a brand and it is a competitive market, indeed it is, enjoy the game 🎾.
My ex returned to her ex within six weeks of leaving me. It's hard to apply this advice, that she will not feel the same attraction to them as with me, when clearly they chose them over me.
Sounds like you was the rebound. How long was she with you both? How old you is everyone involved?
@@remyd1984 She was with him for something like 4 months until he dumped her. Two years and a couple relationships later she and I were together for around 6 months. 26 and 29
Brilliant.
Alexis, to me it feels like. If I knew she had been with someone else, it would have been a clear and resounding "NO" to taking her back. But how do I get that sort of information? Should I ask her directly?
It's something you will learn at some stage. Even if she hides it now, you will hear from it
What of if it’s not rebound
Its a naive talk. Women have tons of options nowadays. Every kind of men.
Women just do not care. They move on to explore their tons of options.
Not my case. My ex was good looking and charming. Left me for all of his options. I also got the looks but I’m not into “options” I want my partner for life
@@J.Alejandra partner for life is pretty much impossible nowadays. It was pretty obvious 60 years ago when women did not work usually and did not have much other options than stay by their men. But nowadays things are much different. Most of women work. And Tinder gives them tons of options and it is known that even millionaires and celebrities are chasing women in Tinder. So women have no need to stay with a man at all. You will hit menopause someday and it does mean that you will despise your current partner. You will file divorce. Later, when the menopause is over you will hit Tinder and find a lot of every kind of men arounnd. Why stay with one man? No reason.