answering TMI GIRL TALK questions you're afraid to ask your mum (& sharing my embarrassing stories!)
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- Your honorary big sister is back to answer some juicy questions about dating, body image, sexuality, situationships, anxiety, purity culture and the meaning of life! Just girly things 💖 Thank you to everyone who felt comfortable submitting a question, I love you all so much and can't wait to chat in the comments!
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Thank you all for creating such a BEAUTIFUL and kind space here that I feel comfortable to share my vulnerable and embarrassing stories 💘 and thank you also to everyone brave enough to submit questions, I'm sorry I couldn't get to most of them but would absolutely love to do more of these soon! 🫶 Follow to be involved in the next one: instagram.com/agirlnamedally
Love you Ally 💜💜💜💜
you’re the best love u ally ❤
We love you sm ally, keep going girl💕💗
My favourite youtuber by far :) as the only girl in my family and having Cerebral Palsy with a lot of similar music interests you are always a safe place to come to for me and you feel like truly an older sister. I often feel like the outskirts of my friendships because of my disability. You are a legend and a safe place when majority of my friends are able bodied
love you, dal pal!
Ally as a girl with no big sis u truly are my fav internet sister
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as someone with three brothers and no sisters, videos like this are lifesavers. thank you ally !!! 💜
as an only child, you're so welcome sis! 🫶
omg same! i also have 3 brothers and no sisters 😢so thank you ally!!
I’m from Brazil and I’m a boy, so most of this don’t apply to my life at all, but it was such an awesome video to watch. It just feels like I’m having a chat with my friends and feels so good to have that on the internet.❤❤ Congrats for creating this space for everyone Ally.
aw thank you so much for watching anyway!!
Brasileiro tá em todo lugar kkkkkkk oii
@@AmandaSbarros Oiee, a gnt vai dominar o mundo só aguarde
sera que 36 graus na Australia é igual 36 graus aqui? kkkkkk
@@leticiaguelere1222 Lá é em Celsius igual aqui, então tá bem quente lá sim.
Tips for your makeup:
1. Start with earthy and neutral tones and explore shimmery shades on top
2. Practice shadows, eyeliner, and brows, on a day that you DON’T have to go out. If you’re doing it for the first time it could stress you out and make it come out worse.
3. Learn to do your top lashes first and after a while go with your lower lashes.
4. Look for tutorials on face shapes, your right colours, eye shape, and contouring. You’ll find where you fit better in those categories and it will be easier to work from there.
5. Use dark colours in the crease or outer corner of your lids, medium shades in your mobile lid, and lighter shades in your inner corner.
6. Get a rounded puffy brush to blend.
7. Start with a single colour gradient for your shadows and then start experimenting.
8. Have FUN. And don’t let anyone tell you you cannot do makeup. I used to get put down by my “friends” at the time and I never gave up and now I get compliments about my makeup everywhere I go.
Disclaimer: I’m not a professional I just grew up watching my mom do her makeup and then I got obsessed with Nikkie Tutorials lol.
Girls, let me make this clear. Giving into another person whether it be emotionally, sexually, etc does not GUARANTEE that they will care about you more or love you more! The only thing that matters in life is that you are happy and that when you look back on your life you did the best you could for yourself. Don't compromise your peace for acceptance of another person🥰
I needed this❤️you snapped me back into my senses thank you
ally girl, you do NOT sound ungrateful or silly or anything like that at all when talking about how anxiety can make great things in your life feel like they're not worth it or like you just wanna get them over with. not only we know you appreciate having these opportunities but also anxiety is a tricky lil bitch and we learn how to deal/treat it because it gets in the way like that. I hope that maybe as time goes on and you keep getting the recognition and opportunities you deserve that the anxiety starts to leave alone to enjoy it ❤️
ahhh thank you so much for saying that! i genuinely felt anxious (lol) about posting this and coming across as bratty or something
@@AllySheehan ur not bratty, ur being an amazing, helpful person. 🥰i personally benifit off of ur videos, and am super grateful u make them 😊❤
I'm 31, from Germany, and my biggest life lessons so far are: "Everything Ends" and "Communication is the most important thing in any relationship". The first one helps me treasure everything I have and experience and the second one helps me never fight with my husband in our 9 year relationship.
To the virginity conversation I would like to add, because it is a thing that me and my friends would have liked to know earlier: It is completely normal to not be able to "lose your virginity" (aka penetration) the first time. For some people it will be easier, uncomfortable yes, but easier, but some people might require months of trying with their partner. It is absolutely normal, don't think you have to force it to happen because that is how some people end up having extremely painful first times. Be patient.
great point!!
Is it just penetration? That makes even less sense haha it is a weird construct ..
@@soupy55 I mean yeah, virginity IS just a social construct. What I meant is that I specifically meant penetration with my comment 😂
Yes but pain during sex is NOT NORMAL!!! Go talk to a pelvic floor therapist if you experience that please! Its waayyyy too normalised
YES YES YES! We should talk about this more.
Ally, I'm the girl that talked about men hating on what girls love and how we manage our cringe side.
i just want to say thank you so much for the answer, You're so inspiring to me! I'm Brazilian and the men here are so engaging with attacking girls on the internet (especially when you're a swiftie like me lmao), but what you said really made me more confident to love Girly things! ♥️
Just a reminder to anyone not using protection EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.... Even if you feel certain that the person isn't able to impregnate you or pass an STI, HPV is SO incredibly common! I contracted it the first time I had sex and tho it can go away on its own, I ended up developing cancer. The guy I was with was not sleeping around a lot from what I knew and had no idea he was carrying it. It's a big risk that men give very little thought to. Please be careful!
Yes! It is extremely important to take precautions. In addition to using condoms (please do!!) there is a vaccine available that can help protect against HPV infection, and I wish I had understood more about it and taken it in my teens. My mom didn’t know enough about it herself, so at the time we got an offer for a free vaccine program at school, she didn’t put me up for it, believing that I would never choose to have unprotected sex. The thing is, I never chose to have unprotected sex but ended up in that situation anyway. I’m so sorry you ended up with cancer from HPV, I hope you are doing better and that your treatment has proven effective ❤ Best of wishes!!
Thank you for this comment!! It's so important and I feel like even if we often get to hear "always use protection", we still think twice - I've had a few sexual partners and the last time a guy asked if he should use a condom and I was like "yeah I'm not taking the pill" and my brain was only thinking about not getting pregnant. But it's SO IMPORTANT to think about contractions, and I feel like without a story such as yours, people don't really realize how essential it is
If you feel like you want to make it for the guys sake cause he keeps pressuring you into sleeping without a condom: RUN!
Just putting this out there: I’m 25 and have NEVER USED A TAMPON IN MY LIFE. even when I was on the swim team. The first time I went to try and use one I almost passed out on my bathroom floor and decided the tampon life was not for me. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about!!!
can i ask what you did for swimming then? i swim too and always feel so bad and end up cancelling the week of my period
@@agonernowthere are some shops that sell period swimwear (kind of like period underwear) but if it’s the physical side of periods that make you feel bad, i would always eat lots of chocolate. it’s probably a placebo effect but it always made me feel better :)
Same girl. I've never been able to use a tampon, no matter how many tutorials I look up, or how many attempts I make. I'm a pad girlie for life I guess 🤷♀️
Passed out from what? Anxiety?? Just curious bc that's def not normal. Anyone who also experiences this, please go see a Dr.
& I'm over 40 & have never worn a pad lol. Thank goodness for options, huh! *Advice if wanting to use but struggling to insert: start with a light version (my fave: Tampax lights.) They're skinnier & smaller. (I still can't get a super in lol.) Also, try inserting slightly at an angle - not straight in/back. All uterus are not the same lol. Mine's tilted & I have insert to insert at an angle. ↗️ I only use lights & just chg more often (prob good to do anyway.) Good luck! No pressure if not for you tho.✌️
As someone who spent a lot of my teenage years very very scared about basically everything, the best lesson I've learned since becoming an adult is that nothing is as serious as it felt like it was at sixteen
I am not an only child but i am a first daughter and this kind of videos are everything to me. Its great not be the one giving the advice for once ,thanks my fellow mine and holly ground stan ❤️💜
yes, when she said holy ground was her #1 song ( in an older vid), I was just like, yasssssss!!!!
Can we just take a second to appreciate the amazing angel that is Ally 💗
literally looks so angelic too
yes I would be happy to do that Ally is my idol (second to Taylor Swift)
can we just get a round of applause for ally??? take a shot every time she says “I’m exposing myself here” KNOWING she’s gained 100k+ subscribers since her last girl talk and yet still having the courage to share experiences like this, I’m giving a standing ovation tbh. 2024 resolution: be best friends with ally and be more like her. thank you for coming to my ted talk
ally is the big sister i never had
As a pelvic floor therapist (or physio as Aussies say), I applaud you for using the microwave vs oven analogy and emphasizing that s3x should never be painful. I work with patients everyday for painful intercourse and women who think something is wrong with themselves because they can’t org*sm with penetration alone. I would encourage everyone to explore their own bodies and know what they like and don’t like. If you’re expecting the other person to just know, you’ll be sorely disappointed. Most of my patients are shocked to find out that the nerve endings for pleasure are primarily on the outside (clitor*s instead of inside). And if you have pain, don’t just push through see a pelvic health physio/PT. :)
Biggest life lesson I have learned:
See the joy in the small things. Walking home from the party so late the sun is already rising a little, but hearing the birds sing and chipper. That made me so happy. So now I'm looking for those moments, because they can just bring joy to me with no harm. Just pure lil happiness.
i call this casual magic!!
Thanks Ally! i just wanted to add on to your discussion of consent and say this does not just apply to s3x! Your partner should always be looking for a hell yes during every part of intimacy. If you don't feel comfortable kissing or touching you can say no. Also you can change your mind even if you say yes at the start. The basis of any relationship is open and healthy communication.
heck yep!!!!
ally is the legitimate big sister of the whole internet
Boy here but loving the talk 😊 thanks for opening up about anxiety, its so important to normalize these experiencies
the part when you were talking about meds for anxiety- i was on some pretty heavy stuff for some years. i’ve suffered from anxiety since the age of five, and it’s always been “push through it.” you saying that it’s ok to give yourself a break, in which the anxiety is to high, is so dang refreshing. thank you for that :)
The best life lesson I’ve learned is that how someone else treats you says a LOT about them and nothing about you: if someone treats you badly or doesn’t put effort in for you it is not a reflection on you or your value: it took me a lot of shitty friendships , bad boyfriends and toxic workplaces to realize this but at the end of the day the right people and things will make you feel valuable and you won’t have to fight for it.
another thing about body image that I've heard someone say is that we as a culture focus so much on the one thing we did not pick-our looks. learning to love the way you look is something you can pick. appreciating who you are is also something we can pick. you can change your body but ultimately how we look is how we look. remember to love yourself 💕
I’m an oldest sister and just needed to stop by to say you crushed this, Ally. So much good advice to hold onto here. also, wanted to chime in on the pads vs. tampon question. I’m in my mid 30s now and still prefer pads. And I spent my entire teens and 20s feeling like a weirdo loser for having that preference. But guess what, all: It truly doesn’t matter! Go with whatever you feel best doing! It literally does not matter as long as YOU are comfortable. And if you have friends who make fun of you for your preference, they are not your real friends.
Yes same!! I wish that there wasn't such a stigma about using pads as if it's somehow "dirty" or something. Girls in high school always acted like tampons were the only way to go and you were gross for using pads. 🙄
Since my 20s I've been using cloth pads, better for the environment, come in cute patterns, way more comfortable to wear, and also I don't get recurrent ph imbalance issues so it's a win on all counts :D
I so loved your thought process on the meaning of life, "have fun and help others" - we are here to have an experience - this is amazing way to look at life.
As Taylor Swift said: “You might as well do what you want, because people are gonna judge you anyway.”
I am the eldest sister and I am close to my mum but we rarely have any gild talks. This video just feels like warm hug and you just feel like a elder sister. Thank you so much for making this video
Hi Ally I am kind of a new fan, casually viewed your Taylor Swift videos but after this video I genuinely feel really connected to you! You have such a warmth about you which is why the community feels so safe to ask you such vulnerable questions. I appreciate how open you were and your talk on anxiety and body image really resonated with me. New comfort RUclipsr found :)
wow thank you so much love!
As a fellow Anxious Girlie- I would LOVE a whole video dedicated to this! It’s so nice to know we’re not alone while we fight off the panic attack demons. Thank you for so openly sharing & for your bravery! ❤❤❤
I have really bad anxiety. It's gotten a little bit better, it used to be a lot worse, but every time I feel like I don't want to do something because of the lead up and the overthinking of how bad/embarrassing it'll be if it goes wrong, I think about this quote Coach Whitey said on OTH: "Because most of the times, the greatest rewards come from doing the things that scare you the most". It's such a simple line but it has helped me a lot & I hope it helps you guys as well ✨❤
whitey 😭😭 great advice
One thing I heard about normalizing taking medication for Mental Health was that we would never demean someone for using toothpast to brush their teeth. Thats medicine and its not "natural" (most times) of a product. Naturally our teeth shouldn't even be "that" white. So why would we/do we do that to others who take medicine to keep their brain and body safe and well. Our brains are also JUST another organ in our bodies. Sometimes our organs need help and dont work properly or as well as they should. We take medication to help those organs. Just like the brain, we need to be able to take medications to help it. Not make it a moral,or stregnth, or selfworth aspect when its just taking medicine to help your organ out 🙂
Loved this video! 💙
as someone with two brothers and no sisters at all, this helps me so much ❤ Just an Aussie ( 💘)11 year old, chosen to be homeschooled girl, dealing with fake friends, crushes, acne, body images and periods, this is amazing. I love how supportive you are and are not embarrassed to talk about this! I'm so lucky to have a home and loving family, but going through a lot family problems with. no real friends it sucks. There's just so much drama I don't feel like talking about with my mum. Also, both my parents, and grandparents have had skin cancers cut out, because they we're young and didn't wear sunscreen, you gotta wear it. I always though " ugh so annoying the sunscreen speech again" but it actually helps. Thank you Ally!!! ❤❤
I’m from Brazil. Pads here are the most common thing to use! I know Americans prefer tampons, but pads are so so valid and wayyyy less scary (especially at the beginning)💖
I didn't have sex until last year (at age 23) when I was in my first romantic relationship. I know it's hard with how much emphasis we put on sex in society, but really just try to take your time and do it when you're ready and find someone you are comfortable with. Also I completely agree that it will improve after your first time as you learn more about your body and your partner's body. At least that was the case for me :)
I broke my leg in three places at the very end of 2022, and wasn’t able to even put weight on my leg for about 4 months. What you said about being able to see this video really resonated with me, because I hadn’t had an experience like that since I was young. But what came out of it was a list of the things I forgot how much I appreciated the small things my body does allow me to do. Being able to walk, jump, skip, walk my dogs, stand up to do my skin care…I will never forget to appreciate those things again.
Omg, I’m a 30 year old gay man. This was 1 year of free therapy for me. Damn. Thank you so much. ✨🌈
im 17, so i dont have all that much life to have learned from, but the thing that has stuck with me the most that i will ALWAYS tell others is that if it makes you happy it doesn't need to make sense to anybody else. they can bash you, shame you, and hate you, but at the end of the day if you are happy doing what youre doing, and loving who/what youre loving, then it doesnt need to make sense to anyone.
Ally I’m a 13 year old girl and you are like the older sister that i never had with this videos. I learn so much ❤
I love that you've done this - this is exactly the kind of girlhood support that we all need. What a treasure ❤
the dolly docter magazine thing is REAL.
can we just talk about how CUTE the thumbnail video is for this video 💜☁️💕!! absolutely love these types of videos ally 🫶🏻
as an addendum to the toxic shock bit: sleeping with tampons is not any worse than having them in during the day, it's the number of hours that's the problem. most people don't sleep much longer than the time limit but almost everybody forgets to change their tampon immediately before and after sleeping. also it hurts to try and take out before it's full so people skip even when they do remember.
so the sleeping recommendation is the safest bet and something promoted to teens bc they are less diligent and very dumb about risk. also never a bad idea to vary your methods so you don't overdo any one thing.
Pausing to have a giggle at the microwaves vs. ovens analogy.
Something about girls talking to girls about ‘girly’ things makes me so happy because they’re all so stigmatised in todays world even if it’s all human natural things, I had to figure out a lot on my own as a pre-teen and still do now, because my sisters are so much older than myself and my mum is not one of the mums easy to talk to, and because I’m seen as the ‘baby’ they’d never imagine half of the stuff happening in my life is happening because I just don’t tell them much. But videos like this find stuff easy and natural to talk about which is how it should be because it’s just human!!
i love these vids because i'm just a dude hanging out and i want to know how girls think and love and feel, and i love hearing from you.
thanks pal!!
Girl I loved this video so much!!! Really love your perspectives about anxiety, girlhood, and removing the stigma from bleeding through!!!
I'm 29 now, but I wish someone had told me all this when I was a teenager. Great job ❤️
I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 27 with whom I could openly talk about sex. Someone else's experience sometimes seems to open your eyes.
Hugs from Ukraine!
love this video!!! thank you so much for being so open and talking about all these topics, even though some might be hard to talk about. these are all very relatable and important topics to discuss
you should definitely make more of these videos, they're truly helpful. Thank you so much for this ally
What you said about your dad resonated with me so much, as someone who watched my dad go through the same over the course of only a few months. It’s an important reminder, having those memories to look back on.
21:26 i had an anxiety attack before my drivers test (twice actually lmao) and what you just said is exactly what my mom told me and it was so nice to hear from an outside party as opposed to someone who just wants me to shut up
you were SO real in this video. the feeling you described, of getting anxiety simply for the fear of getting anxious... when you said that, i teared up, because up until now, i felt like such a freak for feeling this. you described something i feel like no one ever did before. seriously never stop doing these videos - or any video, for that matter. you are so important to the internet!
Your girl talk series are my favourite youtube videos on the internet thank you so much for being brave enough to share your more vulnerable moments with us, I know this is cliche but you're honestly like an older sister to me 💞
love you ally thank you for taking on this video once again and I feel so happy for you that you feel like you can share this kinda stuff on here. Love and happy to sit back watch, squeal about you oppinions and feel understood.
What a wonderful vibe this video gives out ✨ you are such a comforting soul and you worded every answer so beautifully! Thank you for this! All my love! ❤
I think there might be my favorite videos ever I just love these so much they’re so great and I love how just raw and honest you are 😭❤️🫶
i felt the same way about medication for my anxiety too! it’s so validating that you felt the same way. thank you for creating such a safe and welcoming space for people, you are amazing!
I dont have an older sister so i feel so gratefull for this kind of videos and you make it really comfortable and not awkard at all.
Love you Ally💖
I missed these videos of you! so comforting -- thanks for the content!
I'm a 46 yr old mom of a 10 yr old girl and 8 yr old boy (not sure if you'll remember he's the one who loves Watermelon Sugar and Kiwi and I am happy about him not knowing what they mean 🤫) Anyway, I love your big sister/girl talk videos. I wish I'd had this type of thing when I was a teenager/young adult. All we had were magazines like Cosmo and Allure and you can imagine the type of advice they were giving in the 1990s/2000s 🤨 You have great advice and it's something I may be borrowing when my kids start asking these types of questions.
ahh my favourite little harry fan!!
this videos were always my favorite!! i feel so safe and welcomed, and you are truly the best parasocial big sister for all of us
You are such a precious human, Ally💗. Thanks for that.
you literally have a hear of pure liquid gold! would love to see more videos more videos like this, you know just chats and also your personal journeys through life ! (if u r comfortable with it) your nyc 1989 week vlog is literally one my fave yt vidoes of all time!
I wish I could like this video a million times!✨ Thank you for such an inspiring and cozy talk❤ So awesome finding someone who shares the same values of having fun and being grateful💕✨
this is so real. having the right person to share my first time with should've been my priority. also saying yes while drunk is not consent even if you would've said yes sober. there are people who will push their luck with you while drunk and might try something you're not comfortable with. finding the right person makes such a difference tho, like i never appreciated how bad i had had it until being with my current boyfriend, when i felt i could ask him to stop if i needed ad that i wasn't feeling judged at all by him. and the UTI thing is too real, do not fall asleep ladies you will regret it!!
you're hitting hard with these answers! the life meaning question is making me tear up; it's just so soothing and encouraging to hear that "have fun, be kind" reminder, like very little else does matter and there's so much pressure to deceive ourselves and each other into believing that isn't the case
Thank you so so much Ally! I really needed this because my mum never talks to me about these kind of things and I'm the oldest daughter so this really helped! I love you and your videos
ally thank you so much for this ilysm
It's just so refreshing to listen to someone with a healthy mindset. I really enjoyed this video, and I've learned quite a few things. Thank you for being so open and accepting.
I loved this! I’m 30 and you said so many things I really would have benefited from hearing when I was a teen and still loved watching at this age!
I'm a 31yo bisexual from France and I would've loved to have this kind of video when I was a teenager. Especially everything about teenage boys and first time sex. My two big lessons in life are "be yourself and the right persons will come to you" and how freeing independence feels like. I'm aware that not everyone may be able to do so, but I truly believe that everyone should at least live alone once in their live for a year. It teaches you so much about yourself, about what you like and don't like and it truly teaches you how to listen to and love yourself
Just what I needed!! Thanks Allyyy❤️
I love these girl talks since as a woman it’s so helpful and comforting to talk about these stuff with others outside of family, you’re helping a lot other people including me so thank you. You’re one of my comfort RUclipsrs
You are the epitome of a “girls’ girl” !! 💜 i absolutely LOVE the insightful tips and life views you have to share
Thank you so much I always wished I could have had a big sister to guide me through life and give me advice about stuff like school or how certain teachers are nice and others are not and girl stuff etc. I'm a big sister myself and I try to provide advice like this for my sister but she never seems to need it. So happy you've made this video because it is genuinely helpful. I hope you make more of them in the future !
THANK YOU!!! I don't have a big sister so you really do help me through a lot. I just go and watch one of these vids and I'm happy again. Thank you SO much Ally ❤
I love love all types of content you put out, I got here bc of Taylor but stayed for Ally ❤you are funny, smart, relatable and so well-spoken! Your videos get me through my work days (when I should be working lol). Much love 💜💜💜
Thank you ally I really needed this 🧡🧡
your commentary on body dysmorphia is so beautiful. i’ve been having really bad death anxiety recently and it’s nice to have a reminder to be grateful for my health and the present moment.
It's really so nice of you to make this kind of content Ally :)
I really needed this girl talk, thank you 🩷🩷
hi ally 💖 you're such a big inspiration for me i loved this video so much 💖💖💖💖
I appreciate your candidness in this video, I’m sure this will help a lot of people. ❤
I would like to also chime in and say that it is really important to set clear expectations or boundaries when entering into an intimate relationship. I was an adult when I first was intimate with someone, and even then I found it very difficult to get my boundaries across. It made me feel unheard and uncared for. I realised afterwards that I will not put myself in that situation again.
Loved this so much, so grateful mostly for all the girls that may listen to this :). Also, watching from Spain💖💖
As someone with no big sister (or any sisters for that matter) your videos really help me so much ❤
Since you were talking about anxiety I thought about something similar to some of your experiences. There was supposed to be this fun group work day at school a couple years ago and the anxiety for me leading up to it was so stressful. I HATE group work and I knew the people I was working with weren’t going to do anything which stressed me out so much cause I knew I was going to have to do everything and the people in the group have said really rude stuff in the past to me before. I started having the biggest mental breakdown I’ve ever had, the night before (crying so much and my heartbeat got so fast and I could barely breath) and so I didn’t go because of how much anxiety it was causing me. I felt so stupid the next day and I didn’t understand why it was such a big deal to me and why it stressed me out so much. So thank you for making me not feel alone in that sense ❤❤
I love you Ally! Your videos make me so happy, as happy as listening to Hey Stephen (which is saying a lot). Ive been dealing with a lot of existential crises, and your videos just make it better. Also, I'm from Canada and its FREEZING over here! Thank you for the support!!!
Ally I’m probably your oldest subscriber but just wanted to tell you what an amazing job you’re doing in creating safe space & community. As a longtime Swiftie, I found you on RUclips through your Tay content but I really enjoy all your videos. As someone who has nobody you always make me feel valued & uplifted. Have an amazing Swiftmas sweet girl ❤
Thank you so much for sharing about your anxiety 💛I'm unable to work with my disabilities and feel so bombarded by the idea of never letting it win or stop me. But sometimes an opportunity or even a seemingly basic activity will cause so much anxiety that the elevated heart rate and breathing issues especially will impact everything else. We deserve to listen to and respect our bodies, and don't deserve external or internalised judgement when it means we don't meet expectations or do what's "normal".
Ally as someone with no big sister and a difficult mom dynamic this video is amazing and I love it sm. That you for making content like this
thank you for making these kind of videos, it truly means the world to me and for sure to many others❤️
You are so welcome!
You’re such a sweetheart, I wish I would have videos like this to watch when I was a teenager and in my twenties. Lots of love from (very snowy) Finland!
I love that you don't say rules for your first time like "you need to be dating that person for X month" or something else. Just that they respect you, your body and your choices.
I was quite the late bloomer and my first time was with a guy I had intense feelings for, but we never dated (also due to circumstances like his mental health and our distance). It was just a one-time thing and it was magical, I never regretted it and I truly wanted it in the moment and am glad we share this experience.
Sometimes I feel like people judge me because I wasn't in a relationship or truly in love with the person and it really bothers me that people try to make me feel bad about something I have no negative feelings toward.
Thank you for being the older sister I never had, Ally! You're the best!
This was SO incredible! Thank you so much for sharing this. You are doing an incredible job heping others.
I’m a boy in Utah and I had a lovely time listening to this. Truly such a wonderfully wholesome chat ☺️
Life advice: Do what you love and love what you do. Work to live do not live to work.
Momento mori, carpe diem, in omnia paratus (iykyk 😉)
Purpose of life: Enjoy the passage of time.
I live in Utah, Roe v wade being overturned truly was such a disheartening day, I’m kind of sorry that was part of your vacation experience. That was a weird and sad day for me, I was with my family - My aunt saw the news and said “thank god, it’s about time.” I asked her if she thought there should be exceptions, for things such as SA, or missed miscarriage (she said she’d never heard of that), and it ended up coming down to “the Supreme Courts job is to interpret the constitution and they interpreted it correctly.” When I asked her if she thought women should have rights since they aren’t mentioned in the constitution at all she said she wasn’t sure. It was really weird…to be a guy… and be arguing with a woman about women’s rights to bodily autonomy, and all I could think about were my friends who were women and have to walk in the world differently from that moment forward. Utah is more on the extreme side as well which is infuriating.
That being said, if you ever come back and need someone to recreate some HSM moments for a video… I am ready😂
LIFE CHANGING EYESHADOW TIP:
use concealer as a base and set it with a loose setting powder. Just apply a small amount over the entire lid, don’t feel like you need to press it in too much. Your eyeshadow will apply so smoothly over it and be soooo much easier to blend, I can’t believe I ever did my eyeshadow without this step! Hope this helps someone 🤗💖
Thank u so much for being a big sis to us
Talking about the on your own time is so true. Particularly in Australia I feel like there is a little bit more pressure on the younger ages to be sexually active. Please do not feel rushed! I was only 19 when I had my first kiss because no person felt right to give that to. Find your person the people who you can ask basic questions to. Much love to you all on your Journeys