Both my c sections were amazing positive experiences. I was terrified of vaginal birth and I was honestly almost relieved when my first child didn’t fit and I needed a c section. For me a c section was a wonderful positive experience. When people say you want to avoid them I find this point of view so limiting. Some women prefer them.
I went to my doctor yesterday and she said the baby is big and I am really small down there apparently so she said we should plan a c section. I am sad and relieved at the same time. So Idk
How did you manage after the surgery, from what i have heard it's really painful..you are in constant excruciating pain, can't move , can't sleep because of the stitches. Your body swells up , you vomit initially for few hours. Is there a way to avoid or limit such side effects ?
I was able to give birth to my baby boy vaginally and with no epidural. I know this is something very hard to do for most women, but I think women who undergo a c section are SO strong! Oh my goodness, c sections are a major surgery to go through, so props to all the mommas out there who have had c sections! Xx
@@laurenalmeyda6916 I think it's an unfair comparison to make because it differs so much woman to woman, baby to baby. I had a girlfriend who gave birth naturally about two months ago and she literally used the hashtag #whatlabour after she'd given birth because things went so smoothly and her recovery was so easy. I went for a natural birth and laboured for 28 hours ending in an emergency c-section and the recovery was rough and was in hospital for a week. Some women have exhausting, long and terribly painful natural labours and others have quick and smooth naturals. Others have chill c-sections where everything goes fine and the recovery isn't too bad and other times it can be a lot harder. You just never know what you're going to get. I'm having my second in ten weeks and I'm getting a bit nervous!
For me labor was difficult, I was delivering my baby at 19 weeks and wasn't sure if he or she would make it. Sadly during labor she passed. It shouldn't matter if you had a baby vag or c- section as long as the mom and baby are healthy that is all that matters
I'm pregnant with my first baby and since day one, my doctor asked me how I plan to give birth, I told him that I wanted to feel beautiful, no pain and I wanted to know the exact time and minute that the baby will be out. He smiled and told me "So we'll have a c-section, which is great because due to some of your health issues I was going to suggest that" I was so happy that my doctor was in sync with me and my wishes! My husband is super supportive as well, but I've had TONS of people saying to me that I'm making a huge mistake by having a c-section. No Karen, I'm not, it was previously discussed with my doctor and husband and this is exactly what I want. Pregnancy is a crazy ride! You don't need the comments and the judgments.
You do you girly! I had a vaginal birth with my first and ended up tearing so bad they were stitching me up for 40 minutes. The pain the I endured for weeks after is unlike anything I've ever gone through before. I'm in my second pregnancy now and because of issues that I have going on (possibly due to what happened in the last birth) my doctor recommended a C-section and I've been considering my options. Child birth is terrifying. Anything you can do to help yourself be calm and collected? Do it! Who cares what anyone else thinks?
Regardless of your decision, people will always judge. I chose natural for my first two, and got judged for not wanting an epidural. My aunt told me to "stop trying to be superwoman and just take the drugs". I said no, and stuck with my decision. Now my circumstances are different and I'm opting for an elective C-section for my 3rd. The options are there for a reason and you have to decide what's best for you and your health/the health of your baby.
I live in Thailand and my doctor from a private hospital recommended me a selective C-section. I was totally on board with that and everything went greatttttt. No pain during or after it at all for me and baby is totally healthy, having only a slight cold in her first year, other than that she’s never sick at all. Great birth experience. Honestly my ingrown toenail hurts me more than my birth experience. Relax and have fun with your pregnancy and your baby moms ❤️ choose whichever method you feel comfortable with
I feel so glad after reading about such experiences . I have been advised C section as i am expecting twins..it's been nerve wrecking as it is not preferred by anyone here in India and rather frowned upon if doctor ends up doing it on a patient. But i am glad it's not as bad as people say it is.
I think the main con for people is the judgement from other people. I chose to have a c section , and I never felt bad or guilty. I am the type that doesn't really care what people think or say about me especially when it comes to my body and what I do with it. My son who is 10 years old is top of his class and grade.. I am a single mom, who has an elective c section and formula fed my son.. so imagine I was worried what people thought of me.. I probably would be crying everyday
Im planning a scheduled c section and formula feeding my baby girl!!! Im glad to see this! Everyone says how one should have a vaginal birth and breastfeed or your kid will develop issues......
Thank you for educating others on this topic- it's super important that we support each other and not associate shame to C-Section Mamas (like myself)- in many cases, a C-Section is out of the mom's hands, so it surprises me every time when people judge it. As someone mentioned below, Brandi Milloy seems so sweet but her experience is not as common so thank you both for sharing this side!
Thank you. I am 35 weeks and want to remove all the fear. A C-section could be a possibility. Hearing your stories and insight helps take away the stigma.
This video is spot on! My first csection was emergency. I have since had 4 all up, and luckily have had 4 wonderful csection experiences and in Australia you now get to go home 24 hours after surgery which I find great as I’m ready to get home to my family. Also I have found it so interesting that I seem to recover easier with every csection, I had my 4th 3 weeks ago and within a few hours from surgery I was up walking around minimal pain and the next day back home doing all my usual things. Thanks for helping to break some of the csection taboo ladies!
Susan Yara Hi Susan. Really enjoying these moM videos. I am 5 months pregnant, can you please do a video on experience of after labour 1- can you take a shower after birth or how long do you wait 2-whats the worst outcome for pain
Susan Yara you know susan i was searching for some encouraging video on cs because i am planning my cs on 16th of august 2018 ... i found out this one very helpful. Really want to hear .. my mental situation now is that its my 2nd cs and people and relatives will look down upon me for not trying vaginally... my husband said its upto you my love but as you said that you want to hear some one encouraging you. My mom had 2 cs.. she said go for it as u had 1st emergeny cs after trying for 52 hours. I want to shout out loud its not an easy surgery to go through just to bring in little one new life..
@@piepie6020 I had a scheduled c-section in December of last year. On #1 - you can take a shower as soon as you have your catheter and IV removed - about 24-36 hours after the surgery. It is somewhat painful to get up and do it, but the more you move after surgery, the better you will begin to feel. DO follow their instructions though about keeping your scar dry. I didn't have any problems, but have heard of people getting infections if they are not careful. On #2 - I obviously can't answer this, but I will say that you should take the medication they offer you. Take the IV medication and then take the pain killers they prescribe. They will help immensely. I tried to get off them as soon as I could since I know some of them go to the baby, but I took them for at least a week and they helped me to function! After about a week, I could live with just some ibuprofen. Again, the more you walk (to a point), the better you will feel. Try to do normal things and rest a lot. It's a process, but you'll be fine with the pain after a short while.
15 days away from my planned c section. This is my first child there for my 1st birthing experience . these videos really help with the anxiety that comes with the unknown
I don’t think people hate c-sections in general (or at least I would hope they’re not that ignorant), it’s that doctors corner women into them all the time because in many cases it’s more convenient for *them* (the Doctor) and they make more money. The stats really are there. I do believe each mom should be able to choose how she wants to deliver her baby, but I just wish more moms were educated and encouraged about the truth and not just being fear mongered-whether that’s fear mongering about vaginal, natural, or cesarean births!
EXACTLY! No one cares if you have a cesarean, but it's unjust for doctors to push it on women when there is no emergency and you aren't "progressing" in their eyes. :p
This wasnt true for me. I had preeclampsia and my doctor tried to inducd me for 2 days to avoid a cesarean..and after 2 days of induction i only was 1cm dialated and my liver enzymes and blood platelets were so low i had to have an emergency cesarean with general anesthesia because it was too risky to get epidural. For them a cesarean was only for emergencies sadly.
No judgment here, just facts. I would just like to add that a c-section costs $30,000 vs $5,000 for a vaginal delivery. We pay for this in our insurance and as taxpayers. Many women get free medical care when they are pregnant. (I work as an L&D RN in a hospital). It’s crazy, right? But true. If you don’t have insurance, you file for Medicaid and get free delivery. 95% of patients in my city are in Medicaid. Also, c-sections are major surgery and carry many more risks, including higher risk of hemmhorage and death for the mother and babies more frequently go to the NICU for breathing problems because they didn’t get squeezed.
I really appreciate you guys putting this up, especially after having Brandi Milloy on recently. I love her, but I sort of felt that her birth story was one in a million and I hoped that the C-section mums didn’t feel put off by that. I’m all for a healthy baby and Mum, I do not care which way the baby comes out, as long as it comes out healthy and happy. My second is due in a few weeks and I’m totally open to anything. Let’s not make this another thing to make Mums feel shame about! #mumsunited
I’m having a scheduled C section tmrw for my first child due to back issues and I really appreciate this video. People constantly are looking at C sections as a harsh thing. Thank you for bringing some positive light into this.
Please, I need this video. I had a c-section last week. managing the burning pain at the incision site, trying to breast feed or find the best sleeping position while also taking care of my one year old is difficult.
Thanx for this video. Had an all natural-no painkiller involved-vaginal birth with my firstborn that was celebrated as a success although I suffered a 3rd degree tear including a broken tailbone (no one ever took care of). So my recovery took extremely long. Could not sit without pain for weeks, could not walk up straight for at least a week, had my whole pelvis ace for a year after, still feeling my tailbone every time I have my period...now pregnant with my second I am seriously considering a scheduled C-section. Nothing can be worse than this first vaginal experience. Plus: The vaginal experience did also traumatized me and my husband...so, if somebody tried to shame me for choosing scheduled c-section this time, I’d honestly laugh at them.
At least someone admits this.. I had few "friends" before my son ce out and they all had scars on their vaginas and said they would still not choose c section... Mean while one woman told me that if she could choose she would do c section because her scar didnt heal fast at all and was so painful to even walk.. Of course when I told this to those "friends" I used to have... They started to become super defencive and said that its not like that at all.. And I said.. Well yes each body is different.. And some people are more sensitive and all.. And of course after my c section even knowing it was emergency and with clinical death of mine... They still chose to say that Im just not strong enough.. I just blocked their numbers and everywhere. Some people are just rude by choice..they can be whatever they want... Just as far away from ne as possible.. Interesting how many more years I would call them "friends" if there wasnt a c section :D so grateful for that.. Two snakes out of my life:)) really happy that there are people that doesnt lie about vaginal birth giving and how painful that is aswell... Both are Hard and painful and not to be conpared because thats just egoistic to think that one is better than the other. Both are DELIVERING baby and that is all that matters.. That babies are fine and finally meating their moms. Women that scream too much about saying one is better than the other doesnt understand that they have kids and will have grand kids and at some point they may have to experience that other option and realise that judging one or another of options(which are so many times not even a choise or option) they just ask karma to step in..
Oh my gosh that would have been so difficult to go through. A broken tailbone is such a painful injury and not much can be done about it and usually it's never the same. I would talk to your midwife/doctor about your concerns because I would think that having a previous tailbone injury would effect a natural birth? Good luck!
I have permanent small deformities on my vagina due to my 2 vaginal.births ..one epidural one unmedicated....the unmedicated one worse..my son is 3 and I still Have to be careful washing myself or during sex. I even saw a surgeon about fixing it. I m about to have my 3rd child via c section due to placenta previa and I am scared but very glad to not involve the vagina this time. You really don't hear about birth injuries much and if you tear in the natural community then..you did it wrong!...thats basically what they say I think people are ashamed to admit if they tore or God forbid in a vulnerable moment ended up on your back pushing.
Loved the video. I scheduled my c-section since week 30, always knew that I wanted that and that alone and to me, it was wonderful. I did get “those comments” LOTS of them, but I stayed put because my mind was set and it was the best decision that I could have made.
This has honestly made me feel a bit more comfortable about c-sections. I have a scheduled one this coming Thursday & my anxiety about it has been crazy. Thank you for making this video!
Stephanie Alvarenga can you tell me your experience? I am a bit nervous I will need one. I have very high anxiety. So they give you something for the anxiety?
sari Hoops I was super nervous at first. But when I met my surgical team, I did mention to the anesthesiologist (which is the person thats gonna be right next you) that i have really bad anxiety & she told me that she will tell me everything that is happening once we were in the OR. & it made the experience 1000000x better. Also my husband being there (pre-covid) made me feel more at ease too.
I had an “elective” c section 5 weeks ago due to the babies size. I wish I had known how the recovery of a c section is beforehand just to be mentally prepared. Fortunately, my husband stepped up and did literally everything for me but it just would have been nice to know. More people need to talk about this!
For as long as I can remember I said I was going to do a C-Section because I was terrified of labor (this was me like 10 years before I actually had a baby). But then, the time came when I got pregnant and I actually asked my OB if I could do a C-Section. She said no. They’re not elective and only for emergencies. So I said ok, that’s fine. As time went on I was actually glad I wasn’t having a C-Section because the more I researched the more frightened I was for it. So I was happy my dr said no. THEN, I went into labor, 17 hours later and 3 tries trying to get the epidural IN correctly to relive my pain. I had a beautiful baby girl...who gave me a 3b degree tear! 😫 it was my first baby. And the recovery from that has actually traumatized me from having another baby. When I think about it makes me emotional. I hope that if I do decide to go through it again, the Dr will let me have a C-Section. 🙏🏼
It is your choice ! The doctor cant decide what’s better for you . They can litterally list maternal anxiety as your reason for doing it ! I wish more people knew their rites !
Thank you for sharing your experience! I am having my second c section tomorrow and have been crying nonstop because I wanted a VBAC. You have helped me mentally prep and feel better about the whole situation:)
Thank you for covering c-sections in a way that doesn't make it sound like such a horrible and unhealthy thing. It's really appreciated and it's also nice to have some positive information on c-sections that dont try to also scare you away from doing doing one.
Wooooow! Such a healthy talk, thank you for this. I've haven't had the chance to think about all of this topic. I had a C-Section and I thought I was wrong for feeling so afraid of having it and all the pain after was a unique thing for me. Go girls!
I'm having a scheduled c-section this time with my third child. Everyone I have told has been very supportive. The most supportive people have been family members who know my history of having very large babies lol.
First let me say, LOVE watching these videos and super glad you posted this. Two, as I am now expecting my second, I am told I HAVE to have a c-section again and I'm really unsettled with that. I'm also chronically ill (bad back, autoimmune and fibromyalgia) and am told no one will let a patient like me attempt a VBAC. So hearing positive experiences helps some what. My first experience was an emergency C-Section after 16 hours of hardcore labor but I just would not dilate for anything. My experience was so negative- I'd rather be in labor for 3 days as bad as it was the first time then have to deal with the recovery of another C-Section; and mine was considered a relative success. I think the hardest part in any of the birthing experience is choice. Feeling like your choices have been taking away from you sucks and then not knowing the outcome of something you didn't pick for yourself is that much harder to cope with. Third and finally, it will be 19 years between my first child and my second- I'm pretty sure things have changed since 1999. Do you think you might want to do a "What to expect when C-Sectioning" video? You know, like a play by play of a planned and emergency version plus post recovery to do/can dos/should dos? And maybe mention things like the post C-Section clot. That always seems to freak out first timers. LoL!
This is such a wonderful video, I haven't got children yet but I've always been unsure about future birth plans etc. Thank you for shedding some light on C-Sections :D
Love love love this! I have had 2 c sections. First was an emergency c section and baby was 3 months premature, she was in the nicu for 3 months. That was traumatic but it saved my life and our daughters life. Second c section was not planned but baby came early again and was also in the nicu. Second c section was much easier to recover from. Birth is dangerous, I don't care what anyone says. A good friend of mine had a still birth during a vaginal delivery. And women still die in childbirth here in America. On women being shamed for a c section, I had one experience at Target: a stranger asked me when I was due. I was walking around Target with my mom, 2 weeks after my c section so my tummy was still big. I said I was two weeks postpartum and baby was in the nicu. I said I was walking around to help me recover from my c section. And she started saying rude stuff about me having a c section and I told her to stfu because this surgery saved my life and our baby's life. Unreal!
Some people just like to create bad karma for themselves... I hope she regrets it.. Otherwise we all know how karma works.... :) I had emergency c section aswell. And also clinical death. When ever someone tries to look down to me for that... I remember that moment when I was gone and they reanimated me and I smile because I know if there wasnt a c section... I would not be here. And my son wouldnt be here.. Now he is almost 4years old. And I am pregnant again and am planning c section. There are plenty of people telling me that its egoistic... But the truth is.. They never experienced what I experienced so they are just being ignorant and asking karma to create their future with lots of experience that will help them understand... Maybe not in this lifetime.. But I think that lack of empathy is the main problem in general in today society... So I feel like there is no reason to even respond anything to those people.. They just want to bring someone down.. Lets not be the ones they get successful on bringing down. When they get into our skin and goes trough all the same experiences, then they can share their opinions.. Otherwise its just them showing their lack of wisdom. Im proud that so many moms understand that c section is not un natural. We are natural beings still and our Children aswell. And Who is who to judge others for Whatever they do or choose to do or want to do... People that have rude opinions mostly are just not having happy life themselves thats why they try to bring others down aswell. Misery needs company.. :) head up, all that matters i what is happening right now. We have our babies, we love them, they love us.. Who cares what anyone who is not part of our bond with our Children thinks.❤️
I had a natural, unmedicated birth and I am just coming to grips with how traumatizing it was. I tore BAD, and yes ladies, if your Doula says that all you feel is ¨warm pressure¨ that´s bullshit, perhaps you are one of those women but you just don´t know, I felt myself split in 3 different ways when my son came out and it was the most excruciating pain you could EVER feel. My vulva which was a 10 at the time (seriously, I had a model, perfectly symmetrical, beautiful ¨omg¨ type of vulva) is now destroyed along with my self esteem. I always knew I wanted a C section but when I moved to Colorado, the hippie dippie ¨natural birth movement¨ went to my head and having a Doula actually made it worse as she took all the TRUE fear of a vaginal birth away, without ever being straight up about the things that could go wrong. Hello pelvic prolapse... Anyways, I´m now saving money for plastic surgery down there and I no longer care who judges me, to each their own. I CARE deeply about the way my girl looks down there and ¨accepting¨ is not enough for me. I´m going to do what I can to repair the damage even though I know this will never be 100%. There is not a SINGLE day that I don´t regret sticking to my guns about having a C section. So girls out there who are really scared of a vaginal birth and just don´t want to fucking do it-stick to your guns, don´t worry about the judgement, it´s YOUR body, YOUR choice. NOTHING WRONG WITH ELECTING A C SECTION!
Thank you ladies so much for what you do, you have no idea. I'm 24 weeks with my first and I need all the help I can get. The only family member I'm close with is my grandmother and I dont have any friends so I turn to the internet for guidance. Thank you!!
erica webb hope everything goes well, I’m also scared and terrified since my first was emergency C- section was traumatic for my and recovery was painful .
Thank you thank you thank you both for sharing. I'm 2 months away from delivering my 2nd child. The 1st was an emergent c-section. I've felt that I have to get another C-section and have been dreading it. Talking with my Dr., a friend and watching this video has really calmed my nerves. I'm now feeling peace in choosing a C-section.
I just had my second baby through c section last week. Planned, this time. My first one was an emergency c section. I'm just happy to have the option to get my babies out safely.
I had my mother and my sister say that truly didn't experience becoming a true because it wasn't vaginal. I had no choice with either of my pregnancies. My first we were both going to die my blood pressure was sky high. And my second i was diabetic and they wont let deliver full term because the baby was going to be 13lbs so my butter ball wasnt about to pass through my pipe line.... Lol.... Im so happy you both had great experiences..
Very "supportive" from them. I would ignore their existance until they realise what they said and apologises. Like I did with few people aftem my emergency c section in which I also experienced clinical death. I am glad you didnt try too long because it could end up terribly.
I was born through C-section, I even got to witness my nephew being born through C-section because his father is a trucker and he was actually away and I was the only one that was able to come. The cool thing is I did get to be a part of that and I helped take care of the baby for the first 6 months before my sister and her husband moved so that was really cool.
I had an emergency c-section after a failed induction that I was pushed into at 41 weeks. I labored 11 hours without pain medication before my doctor came in and told me I was not progressing, I was feeling ALL the pain, and it was getting dangerous for baby and myself. My son and I are very bonded. I still was able to breastfeed. I’m hurt that I couldn’t deliver naturally, without any medications. I used to feel a lot of shame because I had a FAILED birth plan. I’m currently pregnant with my second and despite having been told I would be a prefect candidate for a VBAC, I’m having a scheduled c-section.
Interesting video! I had an emergency C section and then a vaginal birth 17 months later! Baby number 3 is on the way and I’m hoping to avoid surgery again just because the recovery is so much harder.
Congrats on your vbac. I also had one 17 months ago and share your opinion.. I had a 2nd degree tear but regardless of that.. it was incredibly easier with recovering. 🙂
Thank you so much for making this video. I’m scheduled for induction and while it doesn’t necessarily lead to c section, it has been one of my biggest fears. Mainly because of what I’ve read online people make c section seem terrible and that you want to avoid it at all costs but after this video I feel much better about it if it ended up happening to me. Thank you! 😊
I’m having a scheduled c section because I’m 4’11” with a very narrow pelvis! My baby girl was already 7lbs 4oz at 36 weeks 😬😬 She was in the 98th percentile for growth the whole time so we knew early on I would probably be doing a c section. And I’m ok with that 😊 I also had a major laparotomy a few years ago which also puts me at a higher risk for so many things to go wrong.. so I’m happy with my decision and I’m so blessed everyone around me is so supportive! ♥️ Exactly one week from today I’ll have my baby girl in my arms 😁😁💕
My baby is breeched and my doctor told me today I need to schedule a C-section. I was terrified and disappointed, but after watching this video it doesn’t seem so awful anymore. Thank you for doing this!
I have had c section and recovery was painful but words cannot express how much I love my son. He is perfect and it doesn't make me feel less of a mom.
Niska Niska I had an emergency C -section and I was put down cuz I was screaming and frightened because I was terrified because of been cut and recovery was painful !!!!! 😣
This was one of the videos I have seen like ten times before my C section. Now, it has been 3 weeks after my delivery. Although I nearly hated my ob for taking this decision, I really would go for a C section if I got pregnant again. I would recover slowly and under painkillers instead of suffering labor.
His video was very helpful. I had a vaginal delivery with my first and have to have a c section with my son now due to placenta previa and am absolutely terrified. So thank you for providing me with some insight!
I had an emergency csection and I also felt like I failed as a mom. I was put under general anesthesia, so my husband couldn't be with me. My daughter was breeched. Then a couple weeks ago I had an unmedicated Vbac with my son. Both deliveries were difficult, but I'd try for another vaginal delivery next time!
Eva C I also had an emergency C-section it was something that I was terrified and scared that I screamed going to the operating room . I was put under and while been under I started to alucínate and recovery was so painful !!!!😖 😣 now pregnant again I’m also terrified and my anxiety is not helping either just thinking about what’s going to happen during labor 😢😭😦😦 . I talked to my obyn she asked if I wanted more babies in the future I said no then she suggested C- section! Again??? 😣😯😦 I let her know I’m terrified
My plan was a natural vaginal, but my baby had pooped in the womb, her heart rate was dropping, and she wasn’t moving at all for 3 hours. I developed a fever of 103/39.4c, my heart was spiking up, and they had to do an emergency c section. I wasn’t sad or mad about I just wanted my daughter to be okay. That is the only thing that kept me so calm.
I had a emergency c section because his heartbeat went way down and cord was around his neck .so my other two was a plan c section and was a lot better for recovery then the first one .i was in labor for 24 hrs and only got to a 4 cm.
34yrs old, First time mommy to be...I hv a low lining placenta. I’ve always thought I would have a non-medicated vaginal birth. I was told today at 33wks that I will hv a c-section. I immediately felt sad for some reason. I came here and now I feel much better and now ready to do my research.
I had 3 c-sections i just had my son 3 weeks ago my scar opened up and now im slowly recovering from it it really hurts but i had 3 healthy kids from that
Having my second scheduled csection Saturday july 6th im so excited i agree with everything you guys said the only con to me is the pain after but the more you get up and walk around the better you heal
I feel like doctors always do it out of convenience for them and it sucks! I feel that c sections should only be suggested by a doctor if it’s absolutely necessary or if a mom wants to do it.
This video is amazing, planning on having a baby soon not yet pregnant but I have always been so terrified of vaginal child birth and the anxiety just doesn’t go away and every time I tell people I’m going for a c-section I’m always being talked out of it
I wanna throw my 2 cents in this. I ended up having a c section. I was 34 weeks and 5 days pregnant. My son had to be delivered unexpectedly. The beginning of August I had high blood pressure and was sent to the hospital to check to see if I was developing preeclampsia. Was just high blood pressure. The beginning of September, same thing. Just ended up with high blood pressure. I was sent 3 times to the hospital to get checked out. I was told to not be surprised if they had to induce me week 34. September 14th I remember waking up and getting a shower...that was it. Somehow I got in my car, stopped for breakfast and got to work. I ended up having a seizure at work. Not long after I was brought to the hospital and had another. Turns out I went from high blood pressure to eclampsia, skipped over preeclampsia. They had to deliver my son...my husband wasnt allowed in the room, he wasnt even allowed to cut the cord. They had to sedate me, I was told I was fighting 5 doctors. My son was in this world for 48 hours before I even got to see him. A c section isnt something I wanted, I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to see my son until days later and sadly my fear came true. I was discharged 5 days later...however my son is still in the hospital. His lungs are still developing. Heres to hoping that he will be home in about a week 🤞
I am so happy to see a video from you about C-section... As for me, it was decided from 6 months that I will have to deliver throght c-section *my baby was in a seated position, he couldn't turn* which I really hated and I didn't want the day to come because I was so terrified and scared... but after the surgery I remembered I walked and I felt that my tummy will fall down it was so heavy to even walk.... what is funny that when I laught the next day I cried and laught at the same time.... but now I am glad it was C-section... but wanna experience the veganial birth... since I can't understand the pain....
Thank you for making this video. I am pregnant and have been doing some research on this topic, and had decided that I wanted a C-section from the beginning. My doctor, however made me feel so guilty about it. The way she asked me already made me feel like I gave her the wrong answer. It was something like, "so, vaginal birth, right??". Ugh, even my best girl friend, who had two smooth vaginal births keeps pushing her ideals and experiences on me...almost shaming me for not allowing myself to at least try to experience something beautiful that every mother should go through. I keep changing my mind now, but regardless I'm quite annoyed some people can't understand that it's my body, and my decision.
I have had two c-sections. The first was an emergency c-section and the second one was planned at 38 weeks because my blood pressure kept increasing as the weeks went on (tried bed rest and medication to control it, but it just didn't work). I am not ashamed of my c-section, but I do perceive that when you tell your story about your c-sections, people don't really believe you and assume that it was by choice. Why is that? And with that, comes judgement. Thank you for this video.
I had to have an emergency c section in 2004, had a planned c section in 2007 now expecting my last in a few months and that will be a planned c section👶🏾❣
thank you for this video! ❤ only today I had that discussion with my dr because I want a c-section and I feel like I was really pushed into shame and guilt by the health care staff because of my decission 😔 thanks to you I feel kind of supported and I feel like I still have a choice! thank you again
I am 36 weeks pregnant and had scheduled a c section in 3 weeks hoping to avoid all the labor pain and tearimg. Thank God its optional in Canada, at least in my case since I also have SPD. thank you soooo much for the video, I truly enjoyed it!
I don't have any kids but my mom had 3 c sections, 2 that where emergencies. When I have kids I want to try and have a vaginal delivery but I would be okay having a c section if it's an emergency.
I had a vaginal birth, I didn't tare. And I recovered very fast. I fear a c-section but I know if its needed I would do it, only if needed. When it comes to birth you have to do whats best for you c-section or vaginal as long as baby and you are safe that's all that matters.
@@rachellecollin3661 I have had 6 babies so far and only tore for my 5th (very small tear)... he was also my only hospital birth, and I was just trying to get him out as fast as possible so that the doctor would go away lol... he came out shoulders up and down instead of sideways, so I think that's what did it. It helps to not actually push, just breathe through the contractions, squatting or on all 4s, let the fetal ejection reflex kick in, and your body does all of the "pushing" for you... baby comes out nice and "easy".
Thank you girls for this short talk abot c section because i was super scared:( i cried yesterday because the doctor said i might get c section because the umbilical cord of my baby is on her neck. During my last ultrasound. Im due this month and im super scared.
My first son was basically forced out of my vagina by vacuum and an episiotomy through my rectal muscle after a 32 hour labor. I was left with a Rectovaginal Fistula because of the trauma to that area and my vagina is not what it was I’m still getting used to my “new” vagina after almost 2.5years. It took 2 surgeries to fix my Fistula which was a 7month ordeal, so you could say instead Of the 6-8week recovery mine took 7 MONTHS and almost $10k out of pocket since insurance wouldn’t cover my surgery! I’m now due with baby #2 in 3 months and am choosing elective csection this time around. Everyone including my new doctor says it will be so much easier to recover from a csection after the first experience I had. I appreciate both of your insights on csections.
Thank you for this video! I just found out that my first baby is bigger than normal and I’m a small 4ft 11in girl. I wouldn’t be able to deliver him safely. It kind of crushed me because I wanted to have the experience of a natural birth. This video really made me feel a whole lot better about it. ❤️
Great video! You guys should make a video about breastfeeding. I had a c-section and a little bit of complications so I wasn’t able to breastfeed and received so much judgement on that.
Had to have an emergency csection with my daughter 7 years ago.. now im pregnant with my 2nd and really battling with trying for a vaginal delivery or just opting for the csection again
I love you guys so much , I wanted a vaginal birth but my son had other things in mind he was sideways so I had to have a c section , the con I would think would be recovery it wasn’t really painful but just my scar kind of hurt , and it was numb for years later and it’s still red and not very nice looking but you can’t see it be it’s so low and also I felt weird like they took all my organs out and didn’t put them back right lol if that makes sense lol
How dare people shame mothers for how they choose to bring THEIR child safely into this world. They need to mind their own business
Exxxxactly! Beats the Hell out of an abortion!
@@jennybee8757 I'm going to say that next time someone raises an eyebrow at me for having an elective c-section!
@@laurencrouch764 Good for you sister! You chose LIFE!
Hell I had to have one with my little girl cause she was breeched and my little boy I have to have one since they are not a year and a half apart
@@jennybee8757 abortion beats the hell out of unwanted kids and a ruined body!
Both my c sections were amazing positive experiences. I was terrified of vaginal birth and I was honestly almost relieved when my first child didn’t fit and I needed a c section. For me a c section was a wonderful positive experience. When people say you want to avoid them I find this point of view so limiting. Some women prefer them.
Painful after surgery??
I went to my doctor yesterday and she said the baby is big and I am really small down there apparently so she said we should plan a c section. I am sad and relieved at the same time. So Idk
Stiches pain after surgery
How did you manage after the surgery, from what i have heard it's really painful..you are in constant excruciating pain, can't move , can't sleep because of the stitches. Your body swells up , you vomit initially for few hours.
Is there a way to avoid or limit such side effects ?
I Myself Prefer C- section Over Vaginal birth I Had 3 C-section .
Proud c-section mama here! Having my second c-section in May 💞
Congrats! When is your due date!
Meredith Floyd my c section is in two weeks
Hope it all went well for u! How much gap did u have between ur two c section?
I was able to give birth to my baby boy vaginally and with no epidural. I know this is something very hard to do for most women, but I think women who undergo a c section are SO strong! Oh my goodness, c sections are a major surgery to go through, so props to all the mommas out there who have had c sections! Xx
Kelsweet wow you are strong!
without epidural? i almost died from pain contraction pain. i was saking very hard from pain and sreaming
C section is the best choice , good for both baby and mama.
As a mom who has had a natural (no drugs) birth and a c-section... a natural birth is WAY harder!!!
@@laurenalmeyda6916 I think it's an unfair comparison to make because it differs so much woman to woman, baby to baby. I had a girlfriend who gave birth naturally about two months ago and she literally used the hashtag #whatlabour after she'd given birth because things went so smoothly and her recovery was so easy. I went for a natural birth and laboured for 28 hours ending in an emergency c-section and the recovery was rough and was in hospital for a week. Some women have exhausting, long and terribly painful natural labours and others have quick and smooth naturals. Others have chill c-sections where everything goes fine and the recovery isn't too bad and other times it can be a lot harder. You just never know what you're going to get. I'm having my second in ten weeks and I'm getting a bit nervous!
For me labor was difficult, I was delivering my baby at 19 weeks and wasn't sure if he or she would make it. Sadly during labor she passed. It shouldn't matter if you had a baby vag or c- section as long as the mom and baby are healthy that is all that matters
Tonie Dobson
God gracious, that is so sad. My condolences, no one should have to go through this. :(
So sorry for your loss ❤❤❤
I’m so sorry that takes a level of strength I can not imagine. Thank you for sharing.
I'm so sorry and thank you for being strong and shearing
I'm sorry for your loss :(
Finally a balanced view of c sections instead of demonising them, love it
I had an emergency c-section with my son and I don't regret it one bit. He was happy and healthy and that's all that matters.
I'm pregnant with my first baby and since day one, my doctor asked me how I plan to give birth, I told him that I wanted to feel beautiful, no pain and I wanted to know the exact time and minute that the baby will be out. He smiled and told me "So we'll have a c-section, which is great because due to some of your health issues I was going to suggest that"
I was so happy that my doctor was in sync with me and my wishes! My husband is super supportive as well, but I've had TONS of people saying to me that I'm making a huge mistake by having a c-section.
No Karen, I'm not, it was previously discussed with my doctor and husband and this is exactly what I want. Pregnancy is a crazy ride! You don't need the comments and the judgments.
You do you girly! I had a vaginal birth with my first and ended up tearing so bad they were stitching me up for 40 minutes. The pain the I endured for weeks after is unlike anything I've ever gone through before.
I'm in my second pregnancy now and because of issues that I have going on (possibly due to what happened in the last birth) my doctor recommended a C-section and I've been considering my options.
Child birth is terrifying. Anything you can do to help yourself be calm and collected? Do it! Who cares what anyone else thinks?
Regardless of your decision, people will always judge. I chose natural for my first two, and got judged for not wanting an epidural. My aunt told me to "stop trying to be superwoman and just take the drugs". I said no, and stuck with my decision. Now my circumstances are different and I'm opting for an elective C-section for my 3rd. The options are there for a reason and you have to decide what's best for you and your health/the health of your baby.
I live in Thailand and my doctor from a private hospital recommended me a selective C-section. I was totally on board with that and everything went greatttttt. No pain during or after it at all for me and baby is totally healthy, having only a slight cold in her first year, other than that she’s never sick at all. Great birth experience. Honestly my ingrown toenail hurts me more than my birth experience. Relax and have fun with your pregnancy and your baby moms ❤️ choose whichever method you feel comfortable with
I feel so glad after reading about such experiences . I have been advised C section as i am expecting twins..it's been nerve wrecking as it is not preferred by anyone here in India and rather frowned upon if doctor ends up doing it on a patient.
But i am glad it's not as bad as people say it is.
I think the main con for people is the judgement from other people. I chose to have a c section , and I never felt bad or guilty. I am the type that doesn't really care what people think or say about me especially when it comes to my body and what I do with it. My son who is 10 years old is top of his class and grade.. I am a single mom, who has an elective c section and formula fed my son.. so imagine I was worried what people thought of me.. I probably would be crying everyday
Im planning a scheduled c section and formula feeding my baby girl!!! Im glad to see this! Everyone says how one should have a vaginal birth and breastfeed or your kid will develop issues......
Thank you for educating others on this topic- it's super important that we support each other and not associate shame to C-Section Mamas (like myself)- in many cases, a C-Section is out of the mom's hands, so it surprises me every time when people judge it. As someone mentioned below, Brandi Milloy seems so sweet but her experience is not as common so thank you both for sharing this side!
Thank you. I am 35 weeks and want to remove all the fear. A C-section could be a possibility. Hearing your stories and insight helps take away the stigma.
Christine Walker congratulations! you’re going to do great! :)
This video is spot on! My first csection was emergency. I have since had 4 all up, and luckily have had 4 wonderful csection experiences and in Australia you now get to go home 24 hours after surgery which I find great as I’m ready to get home to my family. Also I have found it so interesting that I seem to recover easier with every csection, I had my 4th 3 weeks ago and within a few hours from surgery I was up walking around minimal pain and the next day back home doing all my usual things. Thanks for helping to break some of the csection taboo ladies!
Hoping we could shed some light on c-sections in this video! There are definitely pros and cons!
Susan Yara
Hi Susan. Really enjoying these moM videos. I am 5 months pregnant, can you please do a video on experience of after labour
1- can you take a shower after birth or how long do you wait
2-whats the worst outcome for pain
Susan Yara you know susan i was searching for some encouraging video on cs because i am planning my cs on 16th of august 2018 ... i found out this one very helpful. Really want to hear .. my mental situation now is that its my 2nd cs and people and relatives will look down upon me for not trying vaginally... my husband said its upto you my love but as you said that you want to hear some one encouraging you. My mom had 2 cs.. she said go for it as u had 1st emergeny cs after trying for 52 hours. I want to shout out loud its not an easy surgery to go through just to bring in little one new life..
@@piepie6020 I had a scheduled c-section in December of last year. On #1 - you can take a shower as soon as you have your catheter and IV removed - about 24-36 hours after the surgery. It is somewhat painful to get up and do it, but the more you move after surgery, the better you will begin to feel. DO follow their instructions though about keeping your scar dry. I didn't have any problems, but have heard of people getting infections if they are not careful. On #2 - I obviously can't answer this, but I will say that you should take the medication they offer you. Take the IV medication and then take the pain killers they prescribe. They will help immensely. I tried to get off them as soon as I could since I know some of them go to the baby, but I took them for at least a week and they helped me to function! After about a week, I could live with just some ibuprofen. Again, the more you walk (to a point), the better you will feel. Try to do normal things and rest a lot. It's a process, but you'll be fine with the pain after a short while.
15 days away from my planned c section. This is my first child there for my 1st birthing experience . these videos really help with the anxiety that comes with the unknown
I don’t think people hate c-sections in general (or at least I would hope they’re not that ignorant), it’s that doctors corner women into them all the time because in many cases it’s more convenient for *them* (the Doctor) and they make more money. The stats really are there.
I do believe each mom should be able to choose how she wants to deliver her baby, but I just wish more moms were educated and encouraged about the truth and not just being fear mongered-whether that’s fear mongering about vaginal, natural, or cesarean births!
EXACTLY! No one cares if you have a cesarean, but it's unjust for doctors to push it on women when there is no emergency and you aren't "progressing" in their eyes. :p
This wasnt true for me. I had preeclampsia and my doctor tried to inducd me for 2 days to avoid a cesarean..and after 2 days of induction i only was 1cm dialated and my liver enzymes and blood platelets were so low i had to have an emergency cesarean with general anesthesia because it was too risky to get epidural. For them a cesarean was only for emergencies sadly.
But some of us do want them so our vaginas won’t get ruined .. Someone needs to say it ✋
My doctor let me wait 2 days in labor to decide
No judgment here, just facts. I would just like to add that a c-section costs $30,000 vs $5,000 for a vaginal delivery. We pay for this in our insurance and as taxpayers. Many women get free medical care when they are pregnant. (I work as an L&D RN in a hospital). It’s crazy, right? But true. If you don’t have insurance, you file for Medicaid and get free delivery. 95% of patients in my city are in Medicaid. Also, c-sections are major surgery and carry many more risks, including higher risk of hemmhorage and death for the mother and babies more frequently go to the NICU for breathing problems because they didn’t get squeezed.
I really appreciate you guys putting this up, especially after having Brandi Milloy on recently. I love her, but I sort of felt that her birth story was one in a million and I hoped that the C-section mums didn’t feel put off by that. I’m all for a healthy baby and Mum, I do not care which way the baby comes out, as long as it comes out healthy and happy. My second is due in a few weeks and I’m totally open to anything. Let’s not make this another thing to make Mums feel shame about! #mumsunited
De LM I agree with you! Too many mom shamers out there. We should all be here for each other! Motherhood is very special!
This was great! I had an emergency c-section, and then an elected. I even got to watch my second c-section. It was the most amazing experience.
I’m having a scheduled C section tmrw for my first child due to back issues and I really appreciate this video. People constantly are looking at C sections as a harsh thing. Thank you for bringing some positive light into this.
I had a c section and i was very traumatized, it was unplanned, can you make a video on how to take care of yourself after
Me too. 11 years later and im still tramatized
Please, I need this video. I had a c-section last week. managing the burning pain at the incision site, trying to breast feed or find the best sleeping position while also taking care of my one year old is difficult.
Thanx for this video. Had an all natural-no painkiller involved-vaginal birth with my firstborn that was celebrated as a success although I suffered a 3rd degree tear including a broken tailbone (no one ever took care of). So my recovery took extremely long. Could not sit without pain for weeks, could not walk up straight for at least a week, had my whole pelvis ace for a year after, still feeling my tailbone every time I have my period...now pregnant with my second I am seriously considering a scheduled C-section. Nothing can be worse than this first vaginal experience. Plus: The vaginal experience did also traumatized me and my husband...so, if somebody tried to shame me for choosing scheduled c-section this time, I’d honestly laugh at them.
At least someone admits this.. I had few "friends" before my son ce out and they all had scars on their vaginas and said they would still not choose c section... Mean while one woman told me that if she could choose she would do c section because her scar didnt heal fast at all and was so painful to even walk.. Of course when I told this to those "friends" I used to have... They started to become super defencive and said that its not like that at all.. And I said.. Well yes each body is different.. And some people are more sensitive and all.. And of course after my c section even knowing it was emergency and with clinical death of mine... They still chose to say that Im just not strong enough.. I just blocked their numbers and everywhere. Some people are just rude by choice..they can be whatever they want... Just as far away from ne as possible.. Interesting how many more years I would call them "friends" if there wasnt a c section :D so grateful for that.. Two snakes out of my life:)) really happy that there are people that doesnt lie about vaginal birth giving and how painful that is aswell... Both are Hard and painful and not to be conpared because thats just egoistic to think that one is better than the other. Both are DELIVERING baby and that is all that matters.. That babies are fine and finally meating their moms. Women that scream too much about saying one is better than the other doesnt understand that they have kids and will have grand kids and at some point they may have to experience that other option and realise that judging one or another of options(which are so many times not even a choise or option) they just ask karma to step in..
Oh my gosh that would have been so difficult to go through. A broken tailbone is such a painful injury and not much can be done about it and usually it's never the same. I would talk to your midwife/doctor about your concerns because I would think that having a previous tailbone injury would effect a natural birth? Good luck!
I have permanent small deformities on my vagina due to my 2 vaginal.births ..one epidural one unmedicated....the unmedicated one worse..my son is 3 and I still Have to be careful washing myself or during sex. I even saw a surgeon about fixing it. I m about to have my 3rd child via c section due to placenta previa and I am scared but very glad to not involve the vagina this time. You really don't hear about birth injuries much and if you tear in the natural community then..you did it wrong!...thats basically what they say I think people are ashamed to admit if they tore or God forbid in a vulnerable moment ended up on your back pushing.
Loved the video. I scheduled my c-section since week 30, always knew that I wanted that and that alone and to me, it was wonderful. I did get “those comments” LOTS of them, but I stayed put because my mind was set and it was the best decision that I could have made.
And how was it? The after care and everything?
This has honestly made me feel a bit more comfortable about c-sections. I have a scheduled one this coming Thursday & my anxiety about it has been crazy. Thank you for making this video!
How did it go
How did your c section go?
It went amazing! I would definitely do it again.
Stephanie Alvarenga can you tell me your experience? I am a bit nervous I will need one. I have very high anxiety. So they give you something for the anxiety?
sari Hoops I was super nervous at first. But when I met my surgical team, I did mention to the anesthesiologist (which is the person thats gonna be right next you) that i have really bad anxiety & she told me that she will tell me everything that is happening once we were in the OR. & it made the experience 1000000x better. Also my husband being there (pre-covid) made me feel more at ease too.
I had an “elective” c section 5 weeks ago due to the babies size. I wish I had known how the recovery of a c section is beforehand just to be mentally prepared. Fortunately, my husband stepped up and did literally everything for me but it just would have been nice to know. More people need to talk about this!
For as long as I can remember I said I was going to do a C-Section because I was terrified of labor (this was me like 10 years before I actually had a baby). But then, the time came when I got pregnant and I actually asked my OB if I could do a C-Section. She said no. They’re not elective and only for emergencies. So I said ok, that’s fine. As time went on I was actually glad I wasn’t having a C-Section because the more I researched the more frightened I was for it. So I was happy my dr said no. THEN, I went into labor, 17 hours later and 3 tries trying to get the epidural IN correctly to relive my pain. I had a beautiful baby girl...who gave me a 3b degree tear! 😫 it was my first baby. And the recovery from that has actually traumatized me from having another baby. When I think about it makes me emotional. I hope that if I do decide to go through it again, the Dr will let me have a C-Section. 🙏🏼
missmodernlove it's your choice isnt it. I'm gonna make sure I get a c section or I'm gonna get another doctor
AfroItalianSaboteur xo it should be our choice.
It is your choice ! The doctor cant decide what’s better for you . They can litterally list maternal anxiety as your reason for doing it ! I wish more people knew their rites !
So at first from reading that I was like "OK cool no c section for me ever then" but by the end i resent vaginal birth all over again
What was the doctors reasoning for not letting you have a c section?
I'm having a scheduled c section in 2 days and this really really helped! Thanks!
Thank you for sharing your experience! I am having my second c section tomorrow and have been crying nonstop because I wanted a VBAC. You have helped me mentally prep and feel better about the whole situation:)
This was such a great video. Thank you!!
Thank you for covering c-sections in a way that doesn't make it sound like such a horrible and unhealthy thing. It's really appreciated and it's also nice to have some positive information on c-sections that dont try to also scare you away from doing doing one.
Wooooow! Such a healthy talk, thank you for this. I've haven't had the chance to think about all of this topic. I had a C-Section and I thought I was wrong for feeling so afraid of having it and all the pain after was a unique thing for me. Go girls!
Thank you so much, ladies! This video and info shared was certainly very helpful!
This was SO helpful!!! Thank you 🙏
I wish I had seen this before my c section. It seemed like there was no discussion of the pros. I'd love to see a video about ECV too
I'm having a scheduled c-section this time with my third child. Everyone I have told has been very supportive. The most supportive people have been family members who know my history of having very large babies lol.
First let me say, LOVE watching these videos and super glad you posted this. Two, as I am now expecting my second, I am told I HAVE to have a c-section again and I'm really unsettled with that. I'm also chronically ill (bad back, autoimmune and fibromyalgia) and am told no one will let a patient like me attempt a VBAC. So hearing positive experiences helps some what. My first experience was an emergency C-Section after 16 hours of hardcore labor but I just would not dilate for anything. My experience was so negative- I'd rather be in labor for 3 days as bad as it was the first time then have to deal with the recovery of another C-Section; and mine was considered a relative success. I think the hardest part in any of the birthing experience is choice. Feeling like your choices have been taking away from you sucks and then not knowing the outcome of something you didn't pick for yourself is that much harder to cope with. Third and finally, it will be 19 years between my first child and my second- I'm pretty sure things have changed since 1999. Do you think you might want to do a "What to expect when C-Sectioning" video? You know, like a play by play of a planned and emergency version plus post recovery to do/can dos/should dos? And maybe mention things like the post C-Section clot. That always seems to freak out first timers. LoL!
This is such a wonderful video, I haven't got children yet but I've always been unsure about future birth plans etc. Thank you for shedding some light on C-Sections :D
Love love love this! I have had 2 c sections. First was an emergency c section and baby was 3 months premature, she was in the nicu for 3 months. That was traumatic but it saved my life and our daughters life. Second c section was not planned but baby came early again and was also in the nicu. Second c section was much easier to recover from. Birth is dangerous, I don't care what anyone says. A good friend of mine had a still birth during a vaginal delivery. And women still die in childbirth here in America. On women being shamed for a c section, I had one experience at Target: a stranger asked me when I was due. I was walking around Target with my mom, 2 weeks after my c section so my tummy was still big. I said I was two weeks postpartum and baby was in the nicu. I said I was walking around to help me recover from my c section. And she started saying rude stuff about me having a c section and I told her to stfu because this surgery saved my life and our baby's life. Unreal!
How fucking disgusting .. glad you spoke up
Some people just like to create bad karma for themselves... I hope she regrets it.. Otherwise we all know how karma works.... :) I had emergency c section aswell. And also clinical death. When ever someone tries to look down to me for that... I remember that moment when I was gone and they reanimated me and I smile because I know if there wasnt a c section... I would not be here. And my son wouldnt be here.. Now he is almost 4years old. And I am pregnant again and am planning c section. There are plenty of people telling me that its egoistic... But the truth is.. They never experienced what I experienced so they are just being ignorant and asking karma to create their future with lots of experience that will help them understand... Maybe not in this lifetime.. But I think that lack of empathy is the main problem in general in today society... So I feel like there is no reason to even respond anything to those people.. They just want to bring someone down.. Lets not be the ones they get successful on bringing down. When they get into our skin and goes trough all the same experiences, then they can share their opinions.. Otherwise its just them showing their lack of wisdom.
Im proud that so many moms understand that c section is not un natural. We are natural beings still and our Children aswell. And Who is who to judge others for Whatever they do or choose to do or want to do... People that have rude opinions mostly are just not having happy life themselves thats why they try to bring others down aswell. Misery needs company.. :) head up, all that matters i what is happening right now. We have our babies, we love them, they love us.. Who cares what anyone who is not part of our bond with our Children thinks.❤️
I had a natural, unmedicated birth and I am just coming to grips with how traumatizing it was. I tore BAD, and yes ladies, if your Doula says that all you feel is ¨warm pressure¨ that´s bullshit, perhaps you are one of those women but you just don´t know, I felt myself split in 3 different ways when my son came out and it was the most excruciating pain you could EVER feel. My vulva which was a 10 at the time (seriously, I had a model, perfectly symmetrical, beautiful ¨omg¨ type of vulva) is now destroyed along with my self esteem. I always knew I wanted a C section but when I moved to Colorado, the hippie dippie ¨natural birth movement¨ went to my head and having a Doula actually made it worse as she took all the TRUE fear of a vaginal birth away, without ever being straight up about the things that could go wrong. Hello pelvic prolapse... Anyways, I´m now saving money for plastic surgery down there and I no longer care who judges me, to each their own. I CARE deeply about the way my girl looks down there and ¨accepting¨ is not enough for me. I´m going to do what I can to repair the damage even though I know this will never be 100%. There is not a SINGLE day that I don´t regret sticking to my guns about having a C section. So girls out there who are really scared of a vaginal birth and just don´t want to fucking do it-stick to your guns, don´t worry about the judgement, it´s YOUR body, YOUR choice. NOTHING WRONG WITH ELECTING A C SECTION!
Right Olivia. My wife also felt same
She is sharing her experience here
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Thank you ladies so much for what you do, you have no idea. I'm 24 weeks with my first and I need all the help I can get. The only family member I'm close with is my grandmother and I dont have any friends so I turn to the internet for guidance. Thank you!!
Having a scheduled c-section in January. I've had brain surgery and this scares me more. Thanks for helping to ease my nerves!
erica webb hope everything goes well, I’m also scared and terrified since my first was emergency C- section was traumatic for my and recovery was painful .
Thank you thank you thank you both for sharing. I'm 2 months away from delivering my 2nd child. The 1st was an emergent c-section. I've felt that I have to get another C-section and have been dreading it. Talking with my Dr., a friend and watching this video has really calmed my nerves. I'm now feeling peace in choosing a C-section.
I just had my second baby through c section last week. Planned, this time. My first one was an emergency c section. I'm just happy to have the option to get my babies out safely.
I love this video! I wish more patients would see this.
Thank you so much for this amazing video ladies. After this I don't feel so guilty about having a c section anymore. I loved your insights.
I love this channel! Glad I found you guys especially that I’m becoming a first time mom Nd having a planned c section
I had my mother and my sister say that truly didn't experience becoming a true because it wasn't vaginal. I had no choice with either of my pregnancies. My first we were both going to die my blood pressure was sky high. And my second i was diabetic and they wont let deliver full term because the baby was going to be 13lbs so my butter ball wasnt about to pass through my pipe line.... Lol.... Im so happy you both had great experiences..
Very "supportive" from them. I would ignore their existance until they realise what they said and apologises. Like I did with few people aftem my emergency c section in which I also experienced clinical death. I am glad you didnt try too long because it could end up terribly.
This video was amazing! I needed this today!
I was born through C-section, I even got to witness my nephew being born through C-section because his father is a trucker and he was actually away and I was the only one that was able to come. The cool thing is I did get to be a part of that and I helped take care of the baby for the first 6 months before my sister and her husband moved so that was really cool.
I had an emergency c-section after a failed induction that I was pushed into at 41 weeks. I labored 11 hours without pain medication before my doctor came in and told me I was not progressing, I was feeling ALL the pain, and it was getting dangerous for baby and myself. My son and I are very bonded. I still was able to breastfeed. I’m hurt that I couldn’t deliver naturally, without any medications. I used to feel a lot of shame because I had a FAILED birth plan. I’m currently pregnant with my second and despite having been told I would be a prefect candidate for a VBAC, I’m having a scheduled c-section.
Interesting video! I had an emergency C section and then a vaginal birth 17 months later! Baby number 3 is on the way and I’m hoping to avoid surgery again just because the recovery is so much harder.
Congrats on your vbac. I also had one 17 months ago and share your opinion.. I had a 2nd degree tear but regardless of that.. it was incredibly easier with recovering. 🙂
Thank you so much for making this video. I’m scheduled for induction and while it doesn’t necessarily lead to c section, it has been one of my biggest fears. Mainly because of what I’ve read online people make c section seem terrible and that you want to avoid it at all costs but after this video I feel much better about it if it ended up happening to me. Thank you! 😊
i had c-section and i was so not understanded from so many moms. It is nice to see such video!
Thank you so much! Loved this video!
I’m having a scheduled c section because I’m 4’11” with a very narrow pelvis! My baby girl was already 7lbs 4oz at 36 weeks 😬😬 She was in the 98th percentile for growth the whole time so we knew early on I would probably be doing a c section. And I’m ok with that 😊 I also had a major laparotomy a few years ago which also puts me at a higher risk for so many things to go wrong.. so I’m happy with my decision and I’m so blessed everyone around me is so supportive! ♥️ Exactly one week from today I’ll have my baby girl in my arms 😁😁💕
Hope you can have a video on CS recovery tips considering your experience! Thank you! 😊
My baby is breeched and my doctor told me today I need to schedule a C-section. I was terrified and disappointed, but after watching this video it doesn’t seem so awful anymore. Thank you for doing this!
Rebekah Parr how was it?? My baby is breeched also
Thanks for these beautiful video.
I have had c section and recovery was painful but words cannot express how much I love my son. He is perfect and it doesn't make me feel less of a mom.
Niska Niska I had an emergency C -section and I was put down cuz I was screaming and frightened because I was terrified because of been cut and recovery was painful !!!!! 😣
Thank you so much for this ❤
This was one of the videos I have seen like ten times before my C section. Now, it has been 3 weeks after my delivery. Although I nearly hated my ob for taking this decision, I really would go for a C section if I got pregnant again. I would recover slowly and under painkillers instead of suffering labor.
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Im happy you talk about this in a lghter manner which made me feel a bit okay than yesterday.
His video was very helpful. I had a vaginal delivery with my first and have to have a c section with my son now due to placenta previa and am absolutely terrified. So thank you for providing me with some insight!
I had an emergency csection and I also felt like I failed as a mom. I was put under general anesthesia, so my husband couldn't be with me. My daughter was breeched. Then a couple weeks ago I had an unmedicated Vbac with my son. Both deliveries were difficult, but I'd try for another vaginal delivery next time!
Eva C I also had an emergency C-section it was something that I was terrified and scared that I screamed going to the operating room . I was put under and while been under I started to alucínate and recovery was so painful !!!!😖 😣 now pregnant again I’m also terrified and my anxiety is not helping either just thinking about what’s going to happen during labor 😢😭😦😦 . I talked to my obyn she asked if I wanted more babies in the future I said no then she suggested C- section! Again??? 😣😯😦 I let her know I’m terrified
I had an emergency section and they only let my stay 1 j8ght in hospital, so far I'm 5wks postpartum and me and my little one are doing fab
My plan was a natural vaginal, but my baby had pooped in the womb, her heart rate was dropping, and she wasn’t moving at all for 3 hours. I developed a fever of 103/39.4c, my heart was spiking up, and they had to do an emergency c section. I wasn’t sad or mad about I just wanted my daughter to be okay. That is the only thing that kept me so calm.
I had a emergency c section because his heartbeat went way down and cord was around his neck .so my other two was a plan c section and was a lot better for recovery then the first one .i was in labor for 24 hrs and only got to a 4 cm.
Omg now I know why I love Susan so much!!!
Yay! Thanks for this video!!
34yrs old, First time mommy to be...I hv a low lining placenta. I’ve always thought I would have a non-medicated vaginal birth. I was told today at 33wks that I will hv a c-section. I immediately felt sad for some reason. I came here and now I feel much better and now ready to do my research.
Love the video! You should do a pro vs con on epidural !! 👍💙
I had 3 c-sections i just had my son 3 weeks ago my scar opened up and now im slowly recovering from it it really hurts but i had 3 healthy kids from that
Very informative!! C-section moms I cant even imagine how hard the recovery must be!! 😐 I was having hard time with natural birth 😫#FAMFAN
kaur manpreet took me a week to recover wasn't bad
It’s really not that bad, I was up and walking a day later
Having my second scheduled csection Saturday july 6th im so excited i agree with everything you guys said the only con to me is the pain after but the more you get up and walk around the better you heal
I feel like doctors always do it out of convenience for them and it sucks! I feel that c sections should only be suggested by a doctor if it’s absolutely necessary or if a mom wants to do it.
EXACTLY!
Doctors do things for profit also. They lie to patients about what they need or don't need. So sad.
They also see all of the things that can go wrong. I appreciate their knowledge, experience and I trust their judgement.
Beautiful video❤ Thank u for opening up this conversation
This video is amazing, planning on having a baby soon not yet pregnant but I have always been so terrified of vaginal child birth and the anxiety just doesn’t go away and every time I tell people I’m going for a c-section I’m always being talked out of it
Thank you so much for this. I have to be scheduled because I am breached and this video helped with my nerves
Thank you!! This was AWESOME!!
Hi both, hope you can share your C-section recovery stories...how did you manage pain and healing! Thank you my mama inspo ladies! ❤️
I wanna throw my 2 cents in this. I ended up having a c section. I was 34 weeks and 5 days pregnant. My son had to be delivered unexpectedly. The beginning of August I had high blood pressure and was sent to the hospital to check to see if I was developing preeclampsia. Was just high blood pressure. The beginning of September, same thing. Just ended up with high blood pressure. I was sent 3 times to the hospital to get checked out. I was told to not be surprised if they had to induce me week 34. September 14th I remember waking up and getting a shower...that was it. Somehow I got in my car, stopped for breakfast and got to work. I ended up having a seizure at work. Not long after I was brought to the hospital and had another. Turns out I went from high blood pressure to eclampsia, skipped over preeclampsia. They had to deliver my son...my husband wasnt allowed in the room, he wasnt even allowed to cut the cord. They had to sedate me, I was told I was fighting 5 doctors. My son was in this world for 48 hours before I even got to see him. A c section isnt something I wanted, I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to see my son until days later and sadly my fear came true. I was discharged 5 days later...however my son is still in the hospital. His lungs are still developing. Heres to hoping that he will be home in about a week 🤞
I am so happy to see a video from you about C-section... As for me, it was decided from 6 months that I will have to deliver throght c-section *my baby was in a seated position, he couldn't turn* which I really hated and I didn't want the day to come because I was so terrified and scared... but after the surgery I remembered I walked and I felt that my tummy will fall down it was so heavy to even walk.... what is funny that when I laught the next day I cried and laught at the same time.... but now I am glad it was C-section... but wanna experience the veganial birth... since I can't understand the pain....
Thank you for making this video. I am pregnant and have been doing some research on this topic, and had decided that I wanted a C-section from the beginning. My doctor, however made me feel so guilty about it. The way she asked me already made me feel like I gave her the wrong answer. It was something like, "so, vaginal birth, right??". Ugh, even my best girl friend, who had two smooth vaginal births keeps pushing her ideals and experiences on me...almost shaming me for not allowing myself to at least try to experience something beautiful that every mother should go through. I keep changing my mind now, but regardless I'm quite annoyed some people can't understand that it's my body, and my decision.
I have had two c-sections. The first was an emergency c-section and the second one was planned at 38 weeks because my blood pressure kept increasing as the weeks went on (tried bed rest and medication to control it, but it just didn't work). I am not ashamed of my c-section, but I do perceive that when you tell your story about your c-sections, people don't really believe you and assume that it was by choice. Why is that? And with that, comes judgement.
Thank you for this video.
I had to have an emergency c section in 2004, had a planned c section in 2007 now expecting my last in a few months and that will be a planned c section👶🏾❣
Please do a video about pregnancy with clomid and IUI!
Thank you so much for you guys experience I’m about to be a first time mommy and I’m absolutely scared I love this channel definitely subscribing
thank you for this video! ❤ only today I had that discussion with my dr because I want a c-section and I feel like I was really pushed into shame and guilt by the health care staff because of my decission 😔 thanks to you I feel kind of supported and I feel like I still have a choice! thank you again
I am 36 weeks pregnant and had scheduled a c section in 3 weeks hoping to avoid all the labor pain and tearimg. Thank God its optional in Canada, at least in my case since I also have SPD.
thank you soooo much for the video, I truly enjoyed it!
LightUponLight888 how did your c-section go? I’m also in Canada and am scheduled to have one next week!
@@londontimetube how did yours go? im in canada too and im having mine booked soon for next month
I don't have any kids but my mom had 3 c sections, 2 that where emergencies.
When I have kids I want to try and have a vaginal delivery but I would be okay having a c section if it's an emergency.
I had a vaginal birth, I didn't tare. And I recovered very fast. I fear a c-section but I know if its needed I would do it, only if needed.
When it comes to birth you have to do whats best for you c-section or vaginal as long as baby and you are safe that's all that matters.
How did you not tear during a vaginal birth?!!!
@@rachellecollin3661 I have had 6 babies so far and only tore for my 5th (very small tear)... he was also my only hospital birth, and I was just trying to get him out as fast as possible so that the doctor would go away lol... he came out shoulders up and down instead of sideways, so I think that's what did it.
It helps to not actually push, just breathe through the contractions, squatting or on all 4s, let the fetal ejection reflex kick in, and your body does all of the "pushing" for you... baby comes out nice and "easy".
@@AshleyCamden thanks for this information ill remember it for the future you dont know how terrified i am of giving birth 😭
@@AshleyCamden may I ask did You have any epidural procedures during those births?
@@sydneylane3129 No, never, all 100% natural.
Thank you girls for this short talk abot c section because i was super scared:( i cried yesterday because the doctor said i might get c section because the umbilical cord of my baby is on her neck. During my last ultrasound. Im due this month and im super scared.
U really help me.... Thanks
Thanks I needed to hear this. I was feeling like I “ tapped out”
Thank you for sharing this video. I’m scheduled for a c-section on Wednesday.
Hello Alejandra I hope all went well. Please refer to this video for recovery tips ruclips.net/video/YqMdG_JBfQ0/видео.html
Love this I have a planned c section and getting lots of judgment
My first son was basically forced out of my vagina by vacuum and an episiotomy through my rectal muscle after a 32 hour labor. I was left with a Rectovaginal Fistula because of the trauma to that area and my vagina is not what it was I’m still getting used to my “new” vagina after almost 2.5years. It took 2 surgeries to fix my Fistula which was a 7month ordeal, so you could say instead Of the 6-8week recovery mine took 7 MONTHS and almost $10k out of pocket since insurance wouldn’t cover my surgery! I’m now due with baby #2 in 3 months and am choosing elective csection this time around. Everyone including my new doctor says it will be so much easier to recover from a csection after the first experience I had. I appreciate both of your insights on csections.
Thank you for this video! I just found out that my first baby is bigger than normal and I’m a small 4ft 11in girl. I wouldn’t be able to deliver him safely. It kind of crushed me because I wanted to have the experience of a natural birth. This video really made me feel a whole lot better about it. ❤️
Great video! You guys should make a video about breastfeeding. I had a c-section and a little bit of complications so I wasn’t able to breastfeed and received so much judgement on that.
Sarah Yanez people can be horrible! To think that they'd be so judgy at such a sensitive time.
Sarah Yanez ugh I hate that! Always keep in mind that FED IS BEST. No matter how your baby is fed! Xx
Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever feeding your baby is not disgusting
Had to have an emergency csection with my daughter 7 years ago.. now im pregnant with my 2nd and really battling with trying for a vaginal delivery or just opting for the csection again
I love you guys so much , I wanted a vaginal birth but my son had other things in mind he was sideways so I had to have a c section , the con I would think would be recovery it wasn’t really painful but just my scar kind of hurt , and it was numb for years later and it’s still red and not very nice looking but you can’t see it be it’s so low and also I felt weird like they took all my organs out and didn’t put them back right lol if that makes sense lol