Hello Flylady, I started in early January with renewed enthusiasm after spending a week on vacation in a beautiful, clean and spacious condo, and then coming home to a mess! The day after Christmas, I got to it! I started by shining my sink, and worked my way through the rest of the kitchen. I followed your zones, but I did a deep clean, something I haven't done in a long time, decluttering as I went. Well, it has been over a month, and I can say that my house looks and feels much more spacious and calm. The kitchen is back around again, where I began, and I am excited to say that my house is clean enough that I know when something is out of place. I still have a ways to go, but realizing that the zones come around again, I am never behind, I just jump in where I'm at! And, I took an entire carload of stuff to Good Will! I'm actually looking forward to doing that again! :) Thank you again! Now, I can decorate, and maybe even have friends over! :)
This is Sheri! Marla, you look lovely today! I don’t comment often, but I love listening to your videos! It’s like a visit with a friend! Your tips are so valuable! Many thanks!
Appreciate you!! At my age I should have this down...last 5 yrs have been in a hard place, with thyroid & blood sugar issues , not feeling good...your youtubes encourages its never to late to start again!
I work in retail and last night I didnt have too much to do, so I took a handful of the sanitizing wipes (that are supplied to sanitize shopping carts) and wiped down all the little kid rides and games at the front of our store. The wipes were black when I finished. Just a little something to help this flu season.
Went under my sink and tossed two trash bags, took me three days and it was still a little overwhelming but I got through it! Now I’m not scared if someone looks under my sink for anything!! I wanted to add reading your emails have helped. A woman wrote in about her vertigo, I too sufferer from vertigo. Now I know if she can do it I can too!
Great advice!! Change out your pillows and tooth brushes after being sick. Drink lots of water right now, more than ever. Change sheets more often. I have white linens for everything so I can bleach :) I am exposed to everything, I work at a hospital. I make lots of homemade soups with lots of fresh vegetables, get plenty of sleep, and drink lots of water. Stay healthy everyone.
Genius. Just Genius. What a timer, some windex, getting off your bahookie, and being joyfully positive has done for me! Thank you Marla for speaking common sense to us and for being just, real. Sat my timer for 15 minutes today and went through dozens of colorings that DS20 did when he was 20 months. Imagine that. We have held onto every paper that his hand touched and I now know that I do not have to keep every. single. thing. I have kept sooo much, and that is still enough. Blessings :) P.S. To those of you who choose to not do Marla's method of having your children choose one paper out of their favorites and to share the wealth of their papers..well..you might end up like me and have a DS almost 21 with a mom that has kept EVERYTHING and is now having to declutter through hundreds of papers 20 years later..LOL True wisdom..she speaks true wisdom TheFLYLADY
Oh, my goodness! I never take time to watch a whole video, but I'm home with a migraine today and turned this on. I'm definitely low on energy, but while this played, I unloaded and reloaded the dishwasher, heated up some leftovers for lunch, and ate. Now I'm going to spend a few minutes decluttering and breaking down some boxes. I think I have about ten minutes of juice in me before my eyes close again. And by golly, I'm going to make time to watch the videos from now on!
Dear Marla this was such a good video; the idea of having an inflatable mattress on the bathroom floor made me laugh but it was a great piece of advice. Thank you, FlyLady!
I took all our old mugs and filled cleat bags with fun candy, tied a ribbon on them and a note that said "You are appreciated" and "Thank You for the job you do for our county". and I took then to the fire dept and to the nursing home police dept. Felt good
I desperately needed to mop my kitchen and hallway floors the other day but had run out of my usual floor detergent. Then I remembered your words, "Soap is soap!" A few drops of Dawn dishwashing liquid later and I had clean floors!!!
I have been using paper towels for drying hands in the bathroom since my children were small (36 and 40 now). If you buy the ones that tear into half sheets it is safe to flush them if you have decent plumbing. It's not nearly as expensive as having to take several days off work because of an illness.
I had to learn " The job's not won til the clean up is done. " eg, the mending or sewing project is not done when I can hold up the completed project, it's done when all the machine is away and loose threads vacuumed up.
Please continue to tell us how you cleaned your rooms. I can't tell you how motivating it is. It's not like you are lecturing us. It's like you are right there with us. I have been decluttering like crazy for the last few days. There's a book, The Joy of Less, that's motivating, too. I love listening to your talks. My kitchen is looking so good. I have some empty shelves and am blessing others with my excess...all nice things. Feeling good about it.
I’m new to your system but your old videos keep popping up. I guess no time like the present to catch up! I wish I would have watched them when they were originally posted.❤️
You were talking about donating toys, so I wanted to share with you what we do. We have a children's shelter in town. They let us come and bring them directly to the kids. We even toured the facility and my kids saw things that they previously donated up on the walls, shelves, and in the toy boxes. My kids were so happy and willing to give away their things!
I'm going to give you the greatest compliment .. . . you look like my mother. She is such a beautiful woman with a happy heart and smile. So my dear. . . you are beautiful.
Fly lady, between last week when I watched your "meet Tulip" a few days after you streamed it, and today when I was watching this one a few days later, We ALL (5 adults) got the flu big-time! I had my first fever in over 10 years! Whew, getting better now but wow! Pedialyte really saved us.
I just discovered you and your process makes sense! Fortunately getting dressed and laced up is a habit I already have but letting go is something I need to work on! Someone once said after you get rid of it, if you miss it go to the Goodwill and visit it! Every time I go thrifting I see tons of my stuff that others have let go! TFS ❤️
Thank you for this video. I need to declutter. Divorce room mates, relationships left more here. Kids in college stuff still here plus stuff I need to get rid of. Starting tomorrow!
Marla thank you for sharing your Mocha latte drink recipe . I dont drink coffee but I am about to start working nights so I need something to help me stay awake. I just made it and it is very good. I just looked on my coffee jar and I got the decaf by mistake but I will be making it again very soon with the caffeinated coffee!
🙋It is so funny how much you remind me of my family. ☺ I kept nodding my head as you kept talking. The Jergens soap and lotion you mentioned toward the end of this video.Memories!!!!😊 LOL!!!! Great video👍☺ God Bless you
Lysol down the doorknobs, esp. the bathroom and the flusher handle. I always used those Lysol wipes furnished by the shopping carts to clean the shopping cart handles. I always felt better for my kids especially if I saw them teething on the handle later. I was a nurse and I had my last 2 kids when I was 41 and 42 so I was almost grandma age plus being a nurse made me extra careful. My little ones both had RSV and had respiratory treatments together on a T tube set up. But they are both healthy now as they are grown up. Hopefully the vaping fad for young folks dies out soon!!
Add essential oils to that stove water and you'll be protected from colds. I diffused eucalyptus when I had a lingering cold and applied dōTERRA On Guard to my feet at night, three days later I was back to normal.
Lisa VanDenBerghe Flu vaccines are big business$$$. People spend way too much time watching TV/social media, and no time reading and researching. They are SO brainwashed. You couldn’t pay me to get a flu shot and I’m a health care professional. Most people think it’s normal to be taking ten prescription meds by the time they are 60 years old!!
Mary Smith I agree completely! We had a neighbor who became paralyzed for 11 months after the flu shot. My mother in law has ongoing vertigo from the flu shot. Also, I was told by a Dr. friend that 4 consecutive flu shots in a row increase your chance of Alzheimer's by 40% (aluminum in the flu vaccine). That's scary stuff.
Thanks for the mocha recipe. I been needed to test a good powdered milk so I'll start with yours. I rarely drink milk but I love hot cocoa but want to make my own. ThanksI'll be working on my kitchen this weekend.
i have down sized because i am dealing with arthritis with bone spurs. i can't stand for long time or climb ladders. i did not think i had gotten rid of much but then i ran across some pics of my place when i moved in here in 2006. i was shocked! i have gotten rid of at least 50 % of what i had. still working on papers. my landlord does not give rent receipts so i have been keeping all my bank statements to prove my rent payment. i don't have a scanner or a fancy phone. ugh.
@@hyggegirlstefx988 Yes but when I was like 13 I had 2 garbage bags of childhood stuffed animals and my Parents threw them away I was so sad for along time it still makes me sad 😥😢 just pray someone found them and was able to use them
I'm starting with my husband's motivation. 1st bag first day is papers etc on a tote that has been there for months. I'm feeling good but sad that it took so long.
Your presentation about paper clutter came on my tv today and I was going through my papers cluttered all over! What a coincidence! Should I keep last year’s bills? Or should I save them? I opted to shred them. I hate paper clutter! Yet clutter comes through the mail ever day! What a chore!
We are supposed to keep bills for up to the last 7 years including Income Taxes. , anything else older than that is no longer good. Get rid of all Grocery Receipts unless there is a Warranty for an item on there, then yes, by all means save it and put all of them in a file in your filing cabinet.
m0nkey if not used correctly a mask can transmit more germs. Masks are to protect others from you. The common surgical masks are only good for about 1/2 to one hour
I have a multi-part, kinda, question....my husband was a "boss" at work and is now retired and wants to be home EVERY DAY....when I start cleaning out an area, he wants to sit and "help" me (and he already does the outside work).....he doesn't want to get rid of anything (even in the kitchen which he uses once or twice a year).....seriously no matter what I get rid of, he NEEDS that item within a month....I'm used to being in charge of my home (this is my second marriage, his third) and now HE wants to be in charge .......any suggestions? (I've tried talking, explaining, leaving it for him--he HONESTLY doesn't care if there's clutter and mess, but I HATE it)....even when I do manage to get an area cleaned out / off, he thinks that's an excuse to buy something new for that space (he also LOVES to shop and refuses to stop)
Sandy Grubb would he be willing to have shared spaces decluttered and whatever he wants in his spaces? It's really not fair to anyone for anyone to be in total control of everything, right? Several spaces, the entry way, kitchen, shared bathroom, dining room and family room should be for everyone including guests, not just him. He can have his half of the room, maybe the garage or a shed, an office or whatever. But shared spaces should not be cluttered.
Maybe he wants to have the chance to let go of stuff too rather than find them gone..that can be very destabilising. .also cos he is more in the house. He needs to find projects to do..If he feels you speak from love he won't become defensive..I know how you feel..its hard but ..believe there is a way...and you will find it. Believe there is a way. Love and light. LA
Hola. Por lo que pude entender son 15 minutos divididos en tres tiempos de 5 minutos cada uno, pero ¿ Ésto es una vez que el espacio está depurado? Gracias de antemano por responder mis inquietudes. Saludos desde Sonora México Maestra Zoila Reyna Jaime González 🍎📚 3/ Marzo/2021
I toss/donate/give away mine & my kids stuff all the time, but I'm still trying to figure out how to help my husband declutter his things without upsetting him. He sees value in EVERYTHING & I'm at a loss trying to get him to get rid of stuff he just doesn't use or need.
Allison I gently ask when and how he thinks he will use it. Based on his answer is whether it is kept or not. I do try to make him see that it's not worth keeping something 'just in case '. It's a slow process but he is getting better at his decluttering. For some people it takes a long time to understand that a lot of our 'stuff' is clutter.
My boyfriend is the same. I wish I could show you a picture of our bedroom. You can easily tell which side is who's lol I just lead by example. I'm hoping over time he'll just slowly start after he sees the value of decluttering rather than keeping "just in case."
This is exactly how I feel so I'm glad there is someone else struggling with this situation. The basement & garage are DISASTERS & he's just not wanting to do anything about it. Baby steps I know, but he's just not interested. He just gets upset with me. I want to do these areas BEFORE we have to - moving to a smaller & 1-level home at some point. I just do what I can.
10:30 My food sticks to my cast iron utensils, don't know why. I had excitedly gotten rid of all my non stick and splurged on cast iron. But then food kept getting wasted sticking to the cast iron, and I had to buy non stick again.
hydrogen peroxide destroys the oxygen in a wound making perfect environment for tetanus. but its great if you want to clean white laundry clothes. 1/2 with your regular detergent. will get rid of stains and whiten dingy whites.
Alice Moya I just heard a podcast about this. It recommend setting up and referring to the teen's room as her mini apartment and explain that there are good things about having her own space but also responsibilities to having this apartment as well
If it gets to a passable standard with a little grumbling, it's a win. Dave Ramsey has a biblical response " he who will not work shall not eat. " So if that teen won't do the work expected as being part of the family, they may well find no plate of dinner until they have a change of actions/ attitude.
One of my good friends said it was the teens room so their mess their responsibility. She never went in without their permission. I was raised that we had to keep our rooms clean from a young age, mum and dad would help us and show us how to make beds, dust etc.
I am so grateful I found you. You are like a great mum to me . So much wisdom and your voice is loving...and you are so clear.
“Pay ‘um a dollar to hit the bucket” 🤣🤣haha this lady is awesome!!
Hello Flylady, I started in early January with renewed enthusiasm after spending a week on vacation in a beautiful, clean and spacious condo, and then coming home to a mess! The day after Christmas, I got to it! I started by shining my sink, and worked my way through the rest of the kitchen. I followed your zones, but I did a deep clean, something I haven't done in a long time, decluttering as I went. Well, it has been over a month, and I can say that my house looks and feels much more spacious and calm. The kitchen is back around again, where I began, and I am excited to say that my house is clean enough that I know when something is out of place. I still have a ways to go, but realizing that the zones come around again, I am never behind, I just jump in where I'm at! And, I took an entire carload of stuff to Good Will! I'm actually looking forward to doing that again! :) Thank you again! Now, I can decorate, and maybe even have friends over! :)
This is a great testimonial!! Thx for sharing and motivating me to follow the plan. I am on day 6 of fly babies today.
I'm a newbie to Flylady...I want to watch this video again. It was excellent!
Hello from Roanoke, Virginia. Love you.
Oct 2019
Thanks to you and decluttering, I was able to move and already doing well in new place. You have become part of our family also!
This is Sheri! Marla, you look lovely today! I don’t comment often, but I love listening to your videos! It’s like a visit with a friend! Your tips are so valuable! Many thanks!
Appreciate you!! At my age I should have this down...last 5 yrs have been in a hard place, with thyroid & blood sugar issues , not feeling good...your youtubes encourages its never to late to start again!
I work in retail and last night I didnt have too much to do, so I took a handful of the sanitizing wipes (that are supplied to sanitize shopping carts) and wiped down all the little kid rides and games at the front of our store. The wipes were black when I finished. Just a little something to help this flu season.
THANK YOU!!!!💖
3.4 minutes into your video and I love you already.
Wish I would of been taught this method when I was growing up. This should be taught in school from an early age.
Went under my sink and tossed two trash bags, took me three days and it was still a little overwhelming but I got through it! Now I’m not scared if someone looks under my sink for anything!! I wanted to add reading your emails have helped. A woman wrote in about her vertigo, I too sufferer from vertigo. Now I know if she can do it I can too!
Great advice!! Change out your pillows and tooth brushes after being sick. Drink lots of water right now, more than ever. Change sheets more often. I have white linens for everything so I can bleach :) I am exposed to everything, I work at a hospital. I make lots of homemade soups with lots of fresh vegetables, get plenty of sleep, and drink lots of water. Stay healthy everyone.
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Genius. Just Genius. What a timer, some windex, getting off your bahookie, and being joyfully positive has done for me! Thank you Marla for speaking common sense to us and for being just, real. Sat my timer for 15 minutes today and went through dozens of colorings that DS20 did when he was 20 months. Imagine that. We have held onto every paper that his hand touched and I now know that I do not have to keep every. single. thing. I have kept sooo much, and that is still enough. Blessings :) P.S. To those of you who choose to not do Marla's method of having your children choose one paper out of their favorites and to share the wealth of their papers..well..you might end up like me and have a DS almost 21 with a mom that has kept EVERYTHING and is now having to declutter through hundreds of papers 20 years later..LOL True wisdom..she speaks true wisdom TheFLYLADY
Oh, my goodness! I never take time to watch a whole video, but I'm home with a migraine today and turned this on. I'm definitely low on energy, but while this played, I unloaded and reloaded the dishwasher, heated up some leftovers for lunch, and ate. Now I'm going to spend a few minutes decluttering and breaking down some boxes. I think I have about ten minutes of juice in me before my eyes close again. And by golly, I'm going to make time to watch the videos from now on!
I decluttered so many things while listening to you. Thank you so much for inspiring us!
I have recently started watching you. I find myself saying stay focused. Move , shine your sink. Swish and swipe.
Dear Marla this was such a good video; the idea of having an inflatable mattress on the bathroom floor made me laugh but it was a great piece of advice. Thank you, FlyLady!
I took all our old mugs and filled cleat bags with fun candy, tied a ribbon on them and a note that said "You are appreciated" and "Thank You for the job you do for our county". and I took then to the fire dept and to the nursing home police dept. Felt good
Awesome idea! I love that idea.
What a great idea!!!
Great idea!
Thank you so much FlyLady! You have blessed our lives. My DD had a better childhood because of you. Bless you ❤ 55:07
I desperately needed to mop my kitchen and hallway floors the other day but had run out of my usual floor detergent. Then I remembered your words, "Soap is soap!" A few drops of Dawn dishwashing liquid later and I had clean floors!!!
Decluttering basement .....after 30 years in same house and not moving a former military family..... have hubby on board ......your method is the best
I have been using paper towels for drying hands in the bathroom since my children were small (36 and 40 now). If you buy the ones that tear into half sheets it is safe to flush them if you have decent plumbing. It's not nearly as expensive as having to take several days off work because of an illness.
Jo Summers don’t flush paper towels if you have septic, though. :)
I had to learn " The job's not won til the clean up is done. " eg, the mending or sewing project is not done when I can hold up the completed project, it's done when all the machine is away and loose threads vacuumed up.
I'd like to know what kind of people give The Fly Lady's videos, thumbs down. Maybe they're living in clutter lol
They are perfectionists, the disease that most of us are privy to. ; )
I wondered the same thing she's a great blessing to all who listen to her she's one of the best
There are always negative people. If you are happy or helpful or kind or pretty, you get criticism. Sad, but true.
Please continue to tell us how you cleaned your rooms. I can't tell you how motivating it is. It's not like you are lecturing us. It's like you are right there with us. I have been decluttering like crazy for the last few days. There's a book, The Joy of Less, that's motivating, too. I love listening to your talks. My kitchen is looking so good. I have some empty shelves and am blessing others with my excess...all nice things. Feeling good about it.
I agree with you! Its both inspirational and motivational 🤗
You’re a member of my family too. I love your positive vibes and influence on me 👋🇦🇺
I’m new to your system but your old videos keep popping up. I guess no time like the present to catch up! I wish I would have watched them when they were originally posted.❤️
You were talking about donating toys, so I wanted to share with you what we do. We have a children's shelter in town. They let us come and bring them directly to the kids. We even toured the facility and my kids saw things that they previously donated up on the walls, shelves, and in the toy boxes. My kids were so happy and willing to give away their things!
I'm going to give you the greatest compliment .. . . you look like my mother. She is such a beautiful woman with a happy heart and smile. So my dear. . . you are beautiful.
I have always. thought Marla looked like my Mother too!!!
Fly lady, between last week when I watched your "meet Tulip" a few days after you streamed it, and today when I was watching this one a few days later, We ALL (5 adults) got the flu big-time! I had my first fever in over 10 years! Whew, getting better now but wow! Pedialyte really saved us.
I just discovered you and your process makes sense! Fortunately getting dressed and laced up is a habit I already have but letting go is something I need to work on! Someone once said after you get rid of it, if you miss it go to the Goodwill and visit it! Every time I go thrifting I see tons of my stuff that others have let go! TFS ❤️
Thank you for this video. I need to declutter. Divorce room mates, relationships left more here. Kids in college stuff still here plus stuff I need to get rid of. Starting tomorrow!
Alcohol free hand sanitiser is good. Less harsh on your hands.
J N does not kill germs. Need at least 70% isopropyl alcohol in it
Marla thank you for sharing your Mocha latte drink recipe . I dont drink coffee but I am about to start working nights so I need something to help me stay awake. I just made it and it is very good. I just looked on my coffee jar and I got the decaf by mistake but I will be making it again very soon with the caffeinated coffee!
Thank you soooo much!! ❤️🙏🏻❤️ Needed to hear this. God bless you!
I need to declutter THANK YOU 😍
Using your shirt tail is excellent! I learned that from a nursing instructor. Wash your hands, is my song!
🙋It is so funny how much you remind me of my family. ☺
I kept nodding my head as you kept talking. The Jergens soap and lotion you mentioned toward the end of this video.Memories!!!!😊
LOL!!!! Great video👍☺
God Bless you
I love the story about the miracle.Its a good video as always🙂💜.
Wow Marla, you look beautiful today, inside and out!
i recently saw a pic of a granny in a nursing home with pink hair! she said she didn't want to be the little WHITE haired old lady. lololo
Lysol down the doorknobs, esp. the bathroom and the flusher handle. I always used those Lysol wipes furnished by the shopping carts to clean the shopping cart handles. I always felt better for my kids especially if I saw them teething on the handle later. I was a nurse and I had my last 2 kids when I was 41 and 42 so I was almost grandma age plus being a nurse made me extra careful. My little ones both had RSV and had respiratory treatments together on a T tube set up. But they are both healthy now as they are grown up. Hopefully the vaping fad for young folks dies out soon!!
Add essential oils to that stove water and you'll be protected from colds. I diffused eucalyptus when I had a lingering cold and applied dōTERRA On Guard to my feet at night, three days later I was back to normal.
Yeah its back on I'm so happy
i will take probiotics before i get a flu shot. gut health is EVERYTHING!
Lisa VanDenBerghe Flu vaccines are big business$$$. People spend way too much time watching TV/social media, and no time reading and researching. They are SO brainwashed. You couldn’t pay me to get a flu shot and I’m a health care professional. Most people think it’s normal to be taking ten prescription meds by the time they are 60 years old!!
Indeed. Gut health is soooo important. It's your second brain too!
Yay to probiotics, boo to flu shots.
Mary Smith I agree completely! We had a neighbor who became paralyzed for 11 months after the flu shot. My mother in law has ongoing vertigo from the flu shot. Also, I was told by a Dr. friend that 4 consecutive flu shots in a row increase your chance of Alzheimer's by 40% (aluminum in the flu vaccine). That's scary stuff.
Thanks for the mocha recipe. I been needed to test a good powdered milk so I'll start with yours. I rarely drink milk but I love hot cocoa but want to make my own. ThanksI'll be working on my kitchen this weekend.
I misswd the recipe for this
What did you do with your old dog when you got the new puppy, did you give it away, put it in the pound or did you kept it
i have down sized because i am dealing with arthritis with bone spurs. i can't stand for long time or climb ladders. i did not think i had gotten rid of much but then i ran across some pics of my place when i moved in here in 2006. i was shocked! i have gotten rid of at least 50 % of what i had. still working on papers. my landlord does not give rent receipts so i have been keeping all my bank statements to prove my rent payment. i don't have a scanner or a fancy phone. ugh.
Thank you for all...I LOVE YOU 😊
I do that 2 I love the chrry almond soap 2 I also love the Olay lotion my Grandma Used It Everyday
I gave my stuff to other kids who didn't have stuffed animals
Gonna Lambeth: What a kind heart you have. I am sure that the children who received your stuffed animals are over the moon because of your generosity.
Aw I love that
@@hyggegirlstefx988 Yes but when I was like 13 I had 2 garbage bags of childhood stuffed animals and my Parents threw them away I was so sad for along time it still makes me sad 😥😢 just pray someone found them and was able to use them
I'm starting with my husband's motivation. 1st bag first day is papers etc on a tote that has been there for months. I'm feeling good but sad that it took so long.
Thanks so much Marla👋🇦🇺
We call our puppies "Tootsie roll dispensers" lol
😅🤣😂
Check out crate training for puppies. Takes lots of time in the beginning, but then they're great the rest of their lives.
Buy some kitty litter to spread over the throw up. It will soak it up and the sweep it up.
Vitamin D3 as well as C. Garlic and shiitake mushrooms have antiviral benefits.
Your presentation about paper clutter came on my tv today and I was going through my papers cluttered all over! What a coincidence! Should I keep last year’s bills? Or should I save them? I opted to shred them. I hate paper clutter! Yet clutter comes through the mail ever day! What a chore!
We are supposed to keep bills for up to the last 7 years including Income Taxes. , anything else older than that is no longer good. Get rid of all Grocery Receipts unless there is a Warranty for an item on there, then yes, by all means save it and put all of them in a file in your filing cabinet.
Go immediately to the trash can and dump all junk mail into it. That's it! ; )
Wear hospital masks at home and out when sick. Flu can be transmitted just by breathing!! Love your tips and love you Marla.
m0nkey if not used correctly a mask can transmit more germs. Masks are to protect others from you. The common surgical masks are only good for about 1/2 to one hour
Fabulous
Jello. Make small ice cube popsicles let them melt in your mouth. Use Sprite and kool aide
I have a multi-part, kinda, question....my husband was a "boss" at work and is now retired and wants to be home EVERY DAY....when I start cleaning out an area, he wants to sit and "help" me (and he already does the outside work).....he doesn't want to get rid of anything (even in the kitchen which he uses once or twice a year).....seriously no matter what I get rid of, he NEEDS that item within a month....I'm used to being in charge of my home (this is my second marriage, his third) and now HE wants to be in charge .......any suggestions? (I've tried talking, explaining, leaving it for him--he HONESTLY doesn't care if there's clutter and mess, but I HATE it)....even when I do manage to get an area cleaned out / off, he thinks that's an excuse to buy something new for that space (he also LOVES to shop and refuses to stop)
Sandy Grubb would he be willing to have shared spaces decluttered and whatever he wants in his spaces? It's really not fair to anyone for anyone to be in total control of everything, right? Several spaces, the entry way, kitchen, shared bathroom, dining room and family room should be for everyone including guests, not just him. He can have his half of the room, maybe the garage or a shed, an office or whatever. But shared spaces should not be cluttered.
Maybe he wants to have the chance to let go of stuff too rather than find them gone..that can be very destabilising. .also cos he is more in the house. He needs to find projects to do..If he feels you speak from love he won't become defensive..I know how you feel..its hard but ..believe there is a way...and you will find it. Believe there is a way. Love and light. LA
Hola. Por lo que pude entender son 15 minutos divididos en tres tiempos de 5 minutos cada uno, pero ¿ Ésto es una vez que el espacio está depurado? Gracias de antemano por responder mis inquietudes.
Saludos desde Sonora México
Maestra Zoila Reyna Jaime González 🍎📚 3/ Marzo/2021
You look lovely.
.and I love your hair color....it suits you.
Carry your own pen to sign charge card at stores
Judy Spiegel I never thought of this
You look very nice...
You look pretty
I toss/donate/give away mine & my kids stuff all the time, but I'm still trying to figure out how to help my husband declutter his things without upsetting him. He sees value in EVERYTHING & I'm at a loss trying to get him to get rid of stuff he just doesn't use or need.
Allison Miller
Allison I gently ask when and how he thinks he will use it. Based on his answer is whether it is kept or not. I do try to make him see that it's not worth keeping something 'just in case '. It's a slow process but he is getting better at his decluttering. For some people it takes a long time to understand that a lot of our 'stuff' is clutter.
My boyfriend is the same. I wish I could show you a picture of our bedroom. You can easily tell which side is who's lol I just lead by example. I'm hoping over time he'll just slowly start after he sees the value of decluttering rather than keeping "just in case."
This is exactly how I feel so I'm glad there is someone else struggling with this situation. The basement & garage are DISASTERS & he's just not wanting to do anything about it. Baby steps I know, but he's just not interested. He just gets upset with me. I want to do these areas BEFORE we have to - moving to a smaller & 1-level home at some point. I just do what I can.
Amen!!! 🙌
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10:30 My food sticks to my cast iron utensils, don't know why. I had excitedly gotten rid of all my non stick and splurged on cast iron. But then food kept getting wasted sticking to the cast iron, and I had to buy non stick again.
Are you recommending filling recycle bins with clutter to be transformed into new usable objects?
"Stink Pickles" LOLOLOL
I've never been able to throw up in a toilet clean or not it's so gross to me I always use a small trash can
hydrogen peroxide destroys the oxygen in a wound making perfect environment for tetanus. but its great if you want to clean white laundry clothes. 1/2 with your regular detergent. will get rid of stains and whiten dingy whites.
Did you mean 1/2 cup of H202, or half of the size of your regular detergent amount?
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Hello fly lady how o you make a 15 old teenager clean her room with out argue ing.?
Alice Moya I just heard a podcast about this. It recommend setting up and referring to the teen's room as her mini apartment and explain that there are good things about having her own space but also responsibilities to having this apartment as well
If it gets to a passable standard with a little grumbling, it's a win. Dave Ramsey has a biblical response " he who will not work shall not eat. " So if that teen won't do the work expected as being part of the family, they may well find no plate of dinner until they have a change of actions/ attitude.
Remove her technology and I guarantee that room will get cleaned.
One of my good friends said it was the teens room so their mess their responsibility. She never went in without their permission.
I was raised that we had to keep our rooms clean from a young age, mum and dad would help us and show us how to make beds, dust etc.
What do you mean, “the Olympics start tonight.” ?
This video was done Feb 2018 when Olympics were on