i got really lucky with my parents. my mom is the black sheep/weird syfy obsessed girl and my dad was also a total geek. they let me be quiet and weird so long as i wasn't being obnoxiously rude about it. my mom had to defend my introversion to her siblings and parents for years. the family hates it, but my mom is the one every grandkid goes to when they can't find empathy from their parents and my niece literally uses my mom to emotionally regulate. the weird black girls are the ones healing the family trauma!!!
@@ruthiebee11 this is very true!!! I think maybe in a way weird black girls are forced to become more introspective about family patterns and overall the world around them.
Lol, I feel I've had the opposite experience, where everyone else was okay with me being quiet and weird. The only person that had some kind of issue with it was my mom.
Growing up the weird black girl means you saw yourself in a lot of white characters growing up because the black ones were stereotypes or barely got any screen time. It means being told you “talk like a white girl” and getting clowned or lectured for liking and dating white guys. It means having two different playlists (iykyk). It means growing up seeing conversations about us not existing even though we’ve been here the whole time. It means your friend group probably has a mixture of white/skater/emo/gay in there lol. It means your family members will ALWAYS call out the fact that you are their “white child” or the weird one. Been there, done that. I’m honestly so happy to find my people online. This is the corner of the internet I wanna be in. ❤️ I love and support your message! From one weird black girl to another, stay strong 🥰
@keoni many people truly believe that black women are all the same. They think we are all straight out of a basket ball wives episode. Unfortunately we have no other representation. Supporting channels like this is important.
Black girls continue to be you! I love video games and anime. I still shake my ass while listening to metal or kpop music. I love walking around in the grass with no shoes. I love pumpkin spice coffee and cakes
I started out being a friendly and outgoing child, but years of bullying turned me into an introvert. I was socially awkward, and I got no empathy from anyone, including my parents. I always knew I was different, and now I embrace it, I'm done trying to change my personality to fit in where I don't belong. I surround myself with people that I vibe with.
As a little girl, i was an outgoing girl but when i got to the age of 8-9 i started being more quiet, especially around my cousins because i realized that when i was talking to them and they told me to shut up, it wasn’t a joke anymore. I always knew i was the weird black girl in the family, my sister shared my interests with me but i knew i was the weirdo bc i actually talked my interests and how i like art, anime, animation, etc. I hate how i have to be a stereotypical eritrean girl, and my mom tells me to make friends with people in my community but when i try they just look at me weird and walk away. Thanks for this video, I don’t feel like an outsider💗🫶🏾
@@annareddae5124 that’s around the age I started becoming quiet! Because I was an undiagnosed child, my family didn’t know why I was the way I was. All in all, you’re definitely not alone in your experiences. Thank you for sharing!!! 🩵
OMG the same thing happened to me😭😭 i was filled with so much joy and passion as a child. Around 8 years old I also went quiet. Too many ppl laughed at me for talking or told me to shut up. I had to learn how to express myself guilt free. It's still a process, but I'm there
Ignore everyone. I'm Texan, listen to heavy metal, and don't act anything like a black woman because i can't relate.. My racist momma hated everything about me because I acted too white. She even told me to act like a black woman. I didn't have any influences and all the other black girls were ghetto loud and rude. So I'm thinking My momma wants me to act like that. You don't need acceptance for being yourself Just ditch everyone and do your own thing
heavy on sh*tted on for your hobbies just because I dont like clubbing or drinking and would prefer to be at home cooking, crocheting or going to cafes.
HEAVY on being introverted. The moment you’re more quiet it’s weird. As a fellow Black theater student, it’s even worse bc yt queer folk tend to segregate. I’m just caught in limbo all the time
Definitely damned if you do, damned if you don't. I was told by this older black coworker that I wanted to be Hispanic/latina just because I was talking to my Mexican coworker in Spanish. Like girl what?! I know I can't change my race. I love myself, thank you. I just so happen to like learning about other cultures and languages. Sue me.(Edit2) That ending message and the whole video actually warmed my soul. I was absolutely afraid of taking up space when I was younger. I was consistently bullied, especially by other black students and I resented them. But now I'm cool as a cucumber. I've tried to change and to be into "stereotypical" black things. Some of it just ain't me and will never be me. I'm still black at the end of the day and nothing will ever change my DNA. But I'm supposed to be me because there is no one else that is me or will ever be me. For my other black ladies with imposter syndrome, I say take up space! You can take up the milky way and you will never not be deserving of all things good in life. Be unapologetically you because you are inimitable. ❤
@@parkjibuns638 Very much this!!! Like I think it gets lost on people that everyone is on their own journey that was curated for them, by them. We need more black women to take space because if we don’t the space will never be given to us. Also that coworker was weird…
I turned 45 Aug. 2nd. I love reading, The Beatles, I have what is called today as a dark academia style etc.. I'm so lucky that my parents and siblings never called me strange. I need to be more thankful for having them.
I never realized I've been othered my entire life. Growing up in the Caribbean (🇯🇲) and doing nerdy hobbies (anime, writing & reading), Oreo was and still remains my nickname. I think the Black community have struggles to recognize that enjoying fiction & educating yourself isn't a sign of whiteness. There are Black people in these spaces, but we choose to ostracize them, and for what? A couple laughs at dinner table? It's so sad how stagnant we are when it comes to accepting our own. Thanks for making me feel seen as a 23-year old. You've earned yourself a new subscriber. I'll keep rebelling against the system. ♡
i’m from the caribbean too! and where i’m from (st.croix U.s. virgin islands) lemme tell you, the people there are SO closed minded, you really can’t express yourself the way you want to, if you struggle with mental health you get the whole “depressed for what?? you have a roof over your head” you can’t walk around with the things you like to wear, etc
As a weird black introverted girl, I grew trying to blend in with my pears and trying to like the norm for little black girls such as doing hair, painting nails and so on. It was always hard for me to participate in those things cause I never had any interest in them, so when my family would ask whats wrong with me I would also start asking myself those questions as well, and not to mention I’ve been bullied into thinking that’s not the normal things ‘normal’ black people would do. Now that I’m in high school I try not to think about what other people say about my preferences and how weird I am. I’ve always felt like an outcast within my family for liking different things like anime, different genres other than rap, figurines, plushies and other things. But it hurts the most when people you can’t find people who are just like you and you have to be friends with people who will shame you behind you back for not being the “typical black girl” 😑.
@@toji1898 here’s the thing that I’ve learned, I don’t think there is a typical black girl/woman. I think all of us have quirks, but certain ones are considered acceptable compared to others. Also not everyone wears them on their sleeve. You’re not weird, you’re just you and you gravitate towards the things that peaked your interest! I wish we were allowed to do that without judgement, but we can’t depending on our environment. If you take anything from this video, please continue to explore your interests, and exercise being yourself to the highest degree (or what’s allowed and safe since I believe you’re still a minor). I know I will always be weird to my birth family, but I love the idea of building a my own family where we can be ourselves without the pressure to conform. Keep being the star that you are, and I’m grateful that you’re focusing on being authentically yourself 🫶🏾🩵💫
I just almost cried. im an adult now, i wish this video came out 10 years ago. my mom doesn't know anything of what i like, because everytime i tried opening up to her about it, she'd accuse me of wanting to be white or asian and everytime she come in my room she gotta insult my anime and kpop stuff and say i think im chinese. i literally have NEVER known how to come to terms with this reality my family will just never except me for who i am ... especially being a lesbian. i wish i could talk to them and tell them all about me. thank you for this reassuring video, and i just feel so seen, all i ever wanted was to NOT be judged!
@@mananababytiff I resonate a lot with your comment especially with the added layer of homophobia in the fold. Honestly I still struggle with coming to terms with my family never fully understanding me. There will always be a piece of wanting or even needing acceptance from our families and I guess that’s our inner child who seeks that the most. My mom told me I’m a wannabe white girl because I love blonde hair. The best thing that has happened to me that has brought me to this point is forming my own chosen family where we’re all different. Chosen family has saved me, along with people on the internet who share their similar stories. It’s a daunting journey, but knowing you’re not alone can lessen the load. Sending you love 🫶🏾🩵
I'm sorry that you are going though that my dear. I'm your elder millennial sister. Been loving anime, video games, kpop since the early 2000's. I'm gonna the hug your deserve. I've been the werid girl for 20 yrs. It ain't never gonna change.
Sometimes you hafta cut off family. Some of mine hates white people. My momma slapped me yelling STOP ACTING WHITE. You should Stand up for yourself. I hated being around family making fun if the way I talk. I got you sound white a lot. So I sound off with you can't talk at all and sound stupid after taking and English class I don't talk to family anymore and like it that way Hate to say this but stay away from ignorant blacks that talk and think like that
My favorite part was hearing you talk about respectability politics. I’m neurodivergent and respectability politics have impacted me greatly my whole life. I still don’t let it get me down and refuse to tap dance for anyone.
ABSOLUTELY!!! Respectability politics is one of the driving forces of division between neurotypical and neurodivergent black folks. I'm happy to hear that despite those roadblocks, you maintain a sense of integrity for who you are! Continue to shine
I experience introvert discrimination all the time, especially at work. It makes me cry sometimes but I just took it as a “Not everybody is going to like you” thing 😂
@@peachberrypie omg same!!! My ex coworkers would have hangouts but like it was always inconvenient timing for me since I was in school still. Like being an introvert in the workplace is tricky 😭
I’m glad you included Candace because as much as I disagree with what she says, I don’t think a lot of people understand how being like not the prettiest black girl and a little bit weird can make you an outcast and then being teased and pushed to a point that you literally just wanna be accepted somewhere. You start to despise the group of people that treated you that way… And that can happen in the black community a lot. Like yeah she’s a grown woman. She should take some responsibility for her actions and words, but also she was extremely bullied at the young age and a lot of Black people still bully her so she might not even feel like she has a place anymore and she HAS to be a different type of person now. No, I’m not making excuses but she’s an awkward black girl too.
@@tonijackson3421 very much this!! I made a TikTok video detailing briefly why Clarence Thomas is the way that he is currently and how a lot of his politics stem back to being bullied by the black community as a child along with the abuse he faced through his parental figure. Because at one point they genuinely tried being accepted by the black community, and once they failed they found acceptance albeit through shifting into conservatism.
This me and my sister had always had black bullies ....so now my sister literally says that she dont feel comfortable around big black crowds anymore. Its the worst for me because it's like i dont feel comfortable in a white crowd or black crowd. But i also was friend other werid black people..mostly black guys because its hard to find werid black girls .. every time i would make a black female friend it they would bully me and talk bad about me behind my back and laugh at jokes about me. I was othered really bad and the only people i had found solice in was white girls and werid ass socially awkward black boys.
I can relate too. I vote conservative, ADHD, bisexual, into metal, cartoons, trucks, etc I don't fit in anywhere. I just wish instead of bullying black people that different just try to understand us. Culturally speaking I just didn't vibe with other black people, the conservatives at least accepted me on the surface.
I'm 48 and I'm was a "weird" black girl. However, it has worked in my favor. Perhaps even saved my life. The Black community is one that will eat you up and spit you out if you let it. Being different is not easy in that space. I got extremely lucky by not following my peers to the Black high school in my city and opted to attend the school in which I was assigned. That was the best blessing I could've ever received. My friend circle was already diverse but became even more diverse. Ive heard the oreo, white girl crap from people, but it never bothered me especially because I never grew up around white people. My dad was a stickler on speaking proper english so it never made much sense to me to sound ignorant on purpose. Having a best black girlfriend like me helped alot, but even she got sucked up by the community at one point; and she is ultra wierd and proud of it. She's unique in the fact she can exist comfortably in both worlds, but I never could.
I don't feel like i am inherently rebelling because I happen to be a black girl who likes "unconventionally black" things like anime, video games, etc. That's just who I am. I am not trying to stand out by engaging in these things; these are things that have been present in my childhood and I've loved them ever since. I know this probably isn't relatable to some other black girls and guys but I've never identified with being black; I am just me. I don't understand "blackness" I am just a human being who happens to be black. I do know that a lot of black people have internalized racism and it's very sad to watch ourselves inflict that onto each other. We need to take people for who they are. We need to stop seeing each other as representatives of our race. Our race has way too many different personalities, lifestyles and experiences for there to be a specific representation. All i gotta say is, be yourself. It doesn't matter if a random person thinks you're "too white" or "too black" or whatever nonsense. Just accept yourself for your personality, interests, etc. and it'll make living with yourself so much easier
The statement “I don’t identity as being black; I am just me” hits HARD. As of lately I’ve been going through some emotional turmoil. The universe is showing its colors and it’s telling me it’s time to leave and go on my own way, aggressively chasing what I desire. I am trying to hang on until I can be truly individual and start adulting, combating the struggles of life. Right now I am around others who just continue to misunderstand me and honestly have no desire to really understand who I am. Just the other day my mother said to me “Natty, how do you deal with not having anyone to talk to when you’re frustrated? What do you do?” “We don’t have much family and you don’t talk to me even though I wish you would”. First, I proceeded, or tried to tell her that I go on walks and nature really helps. As I was saying this I can only get out I go on walks, na- and she just proceeds to talk about other things that make her frustrated. She asked me two more questions and only to not let finish truthfully answering any one of them and says that she sees that what I do works for me. It was then and there that I have decided me and my mom will never have a close relationship with each other simply because we don’t understand each other as black women, though what I really should say is that she doesn’t understand as me a black women. And truthfully, it hurts, it hurts like hell. Being an outcast or a “black sheep” in most cases I have unlearned the victim mentality, but have developed understanding perspectives and I understand that the intersectionality of a black women is an experience that can and will make you feel lonely, out of place, and disconnected, others people in this world have their perspectives as well and sometimes it’s best not to push my narrative down their throats. It’s hurts me because I understand other perspectives, their emotions, and point of views, even when they’re wrong but when it comes to me, crickets. I will never be able to tell my mother the troubles that I face as a black women because I see that she chooses not to embrace listening to them fully. She still has her own healing to do. The only thing I can do is take accountability, understand I have the power to change my reality ( I am actively working on it), and move to a safe space I’ve created for my myself to express my individual needs. I apologize for the long paragraph.
This is such a beautiful video. As a weird black woman still trying to navigate the world, it's nice to see more of us being more vocal about our experiences and seeing weird black girls on RUclips, the Media like Ayo Edebiri, Quinta Brunson, Issa Rae, Micheala Coel,Cree Summers, Grace Jones,Etc and many more have made me feel seen and I hope we continue to be more vocal and have more representation cause we are out here and we deserve to be seen and heard always!!!
Yessss, weird black girls rise up! Do not change, be yourself and have fun, dammit. I Related deeply to your commentary on respectability politics. I've noticed I still get more anxiety going to primarily black events as opposed to white ones because I know the added level of scrutiny that comes. Choosing acceptance helps so much, my confidence in being myself actually draws people in now because I think a lot more people are weird then they're letting on lol
@@Jojo-tf2zp that’s really relatable but I feel a level of anxiety as well when in certain black spaces, but I always remember that being myself in those spaces will open them up for others like me.
Respectability politics suck. I'm white, but as a disabled person working in disability services, they regularly force respectability on the residents. If a resident wants to wear a shirt of their favorite kid show, we are told to convince them not to wear that shirt out. I wish people would treat us disabled folks like humans regardless of what we look like and wear.
@@twylenbI agree, that totally sucks! I wished that disabled people weren’t infantilized and restricted in so many ways. Why place limits on expression to conform?
I took a class on psychosocial aspects of health and illness. One week we were talking about disability and read Erving Goffman. He talks about rules for interacting with “normals”. I made the connection that they were examples of respectability politics affecting disabled people. I’m glad you noticed disability respectability politics too.
I'm am a black woman still without a job going on 7 years because they weren't hiring no more so it hard finding a job. I was going make my own business when I move instead and sell things too like my art and stuff. I was a introvert all my life because I was shy to talk to other people. Most of the people I hang out with were fake, Jealous,two faced and was trying everything they can to make me lose everything, especially my family members. I was a black sheep in my family, everyone in my family was either jealous, copycat, hateful, putting voodoo on me, wishing I was dead, try making me homeless, Narasitsic, toxic, smear campaigning, I have a curse in my family, generation curses and ect. It worst when it's your own family. All my life I only had hate and no one really did realize me besides my teachers. I think my teachers was the only ones that was supporting my dreams and success. Those people that did hated me because my light shines, and even on social media I have haters when I post videos no one likes it. I never actually had anyone by my side which was the most hurtful thing and the most peaceful thing at the same time not dealing with people BS no more. Having a lot of friends is trouble for me, I will only have online friends that's about it. I do talk to people in real life like in the library. Its really nothing to do in my area. I live in Fonda NY a lot of people don't know that place. Fonda NY is not a good place, it's nothing to do, not really any good transportation, there not much services near that can help people that are struggling. White people crying Fonda NY is the best place is really low life's and don't realize their school and everything there is trash. Fonda Fulton ville school is so racist and don't like seeing basically black people. I was always seen as weird because I love anime, Bratz, Disney, Barbie ect. I just have to say seeing all the comments and your video makes me feel not so alone anymore, it makes me feel better and not so weird ❤❤❤❤❤
Love this topic. Ive lived in Georgia for almost 2 decades now. I was a military kid so when i moved here from overseas all the other kids treated me so different and i never fit in enough with other black kids. I got “which one of your parents are white?” and “you dont act black” my whole childhood 🤦🏾♀️ now im almost 30 and i truly dont gaf anymore. I like cartoons, musicals, kpop, rabbits, drag race and doing crafts. I just do what i want and mind my business 😂
@@ksis86 My experience is quite similar! My family is from New York, specifically the Bronx, so they still carried that up north swag with them. Growing up in Georgia with braids with beads and shells, plus my accent didn’t mesh well. I was always asked if I was mixed, African, or Caribbean in xenophobic ways. Eventually I moved past it when I was in high school.
I'm finally being seen. I'm a introvert girl. When I was younger I was a more extrovert but my "friends" and family made me feel as "too much" so now I'm more quiet but it's still a problem because my quietness is seen as me thinking I'm better than other when it's not 😭. And for the respectability politics that's my mom. She's always shaming my apparence when she have the occasion. I have to be 1000% always or I'm a problem because "why don't I take care of my apparence more?" 🙄
Jesus, taking the time to read all the points in your intro, i deserve damn reperations for the stuff people put me through for being the ‘weird black girl’
As a weird black African (who lives in an African country),it's so sad. I feel so bad sometimes because they don't watch the stuff I watch (they are huge on tiktok I'm more of a yt girl, i watch anime ,read manga, i don't read the same kind of books, they read those dark romances,colleen hover type books and I read books like my year of rest and relaxation, I've been wanting to read classics for a while but I haven't come across one yet. I'm also big on fanfiction and they're not (heyI'm only 16)),they don't listen to the stuff i listen to( they like pop,afrobeats , amapiano or rap. I like all those things but I like more alt and indie music idk how or why it started but that's all I listen to) and there is almost no one who likes the same things as I do (maybe one or two things but they're not like me). I feel so bad, I've attempted to do more "black/african" things but that's not the stuff I enjoy or particularly like to follow. Even if I enjoy it,it's like a once in a while type thing(like rap, sorry but my God I cannot consume rap as my top genre. No)I know there are people like me,(it makes me feel worse that they are probably white. Ik there are black girls like me) it just feels like I'm alone sometimes in a country that doesn't accept stuff like that.There is this girl in my class who gets bullied for liking kpop (that's not the reason but they don't like her and that resulted into insulting her interest, not a big kpop girl myself but I always try to defend her.) I bring this up because I know if I try to bring stuff I like that are not "black/african", I won't get bullied (I have done it ones or twice) , but I will get called weird and I already know that, I can tell, I don't need it pointed out(imagine if my classmates didn't like me,that would be the worst). Being black is so weird because if you like something that your race generally doesn't like you are reduced to "Why do you want to be _______?" and being African is just as weird "Oh you like _____? Well that's for boys."(I love my mom, but that's so icky to me. I just want to wear pants to Church, I don't want to become a boy because of it.) I say that because none of the boys are willing to like stuff they think is girly. Today my male friend told me he didn't chose biology as his elective but he chose physics because it's for "girls". Bro what? Most discoveries are literally credited to men(whether deserved or not is for another day).It was so icky to me, especially if you're failing the subject you chose(The misogyny here is crazy, whether from men or other women. Racism towards each other and the church worship is mad too (i love God but I'm not giving my pastor 1k because of that)Lowkey hate it here, but it is worse in other places ). No I don't want to change myself, I just want to be a black girl who enjoys stuff, it's not that deep. Anyway I said too much (sorry for rambling, just needed this off my chest). Great video by the way.
I relate to you so much. Being a weird black girl in an African country is honestly so tiring. I've been called "white" because I mainly speak English and I don't listen to amapiano (which is extremely huge here in South Africa). Even worse, I'm a huge kpop and k-drama fan, and I get comments about how I'm always watching "chinese people" and that I want to be Asian....literally WHAT? Just because I consume a certain type of media does not mean I want to be of that race. I love being black, but it's just so unfortunate that if you don't fit in with the masses you will be outcasted by everyone, even your own family.
being a neurodivergent weird black girl im so glad i found this video. I've been going on my journey loving how unapologetically authentic i am. learning to not be afraid of being the odd one out. In fact, prefer it. so seeing this just inspired me more to seen as a weirdo than be another copy of a copy and be proud. ❤ so thank you i needed to hear this
7:10 This almost brought tears to my eyes because I went through the same thing. It made me so insecure about the way I spoke to the point where I just avoided any situation that involved talking to people in public and around family. Then my family will call me anti social, rude, or "boujee"...I hate that word 💀. They blame me cause they feel the effects of what THEY did.
Same I’m from the Caribbean and growing up my mother thought me how to speak proper cause our accent it kinda hard to understand 😭, but when I go to school and speak like that it’s like people think I’m uppity and think I’m higher class than them 😭.
As someone who still gets this statement thrown at me all the time by my family and other black people that dont know me , this video really helps me feel less alone and to not change myself for anyone
Finding the balance between not talking enough and talking/sharing too much is next to impossible some days. Thank you for this video! You seem so chill! Instant Sub😊 You look like you might read? Are you on fable?
Thank you!!! That means a lot! I started recently getting back into reading after taking a break, but I'm not fable yet but I might be after I look it up!
I was homeschooled and my mother never made me feel like blackness was a box, but when I took classes outside of the home (socializing and giving mom a break) I always felt alienated in groups of black kids, especially those that went to normal type schools. It took me until my mid teens to really figure out what was going on, and while I'm sure I did try to blend in to some extent, I kinda already knew It was too late for me to pretend, and I started mourning that I would never have an authentic relationship to black people as a culture. Videos like yours are helping me regain hope that I can find a place for myself in the black community.
@@SIMMIS_0316 you can definitely cultivate a relationship with the black community as it’s very fragmented! I got to socialize with other like minded people in college, but there are other places such as the library and conventions for hobbies/interests. Never let rejection from a string of experiences deter you from community. I wish you nothing but you bumping into the right people who make you feel seen and at home!!
I relate to this vid so much, being black + living in Africa, being an "oreo/coconut" is literally torture, bullying a 14yr old for having no ass and chest happens here , by liking foreign things you'll be treated like a foreigner, I literally lìke anime and indie music but im labeled as the weird kpop girl , tho i dont know anything abt korea . But the only reason im given basic respect is because im labeled the smart girl , which insulting because as a female African were expected to be dumb
I’m a weird black woman born in the 80s I got so much flack that eventually I watered myself down.. right now at almost 40 I see younger girls being free and expressive and it brings a smile to my face but also resentment towards myself for not being as fearless .. I had my moments in my 20s while in creative art scenes and in my early 30s .. but now .. after so much depression and rejection I just give up.. I’m inwardly awkward .. and have been also rejected by ppl who like awkward girls .. I was bullied for loving anime, having an obsession with atmospheric science / weather , having friends of all races , being poetic at one point. , being bi polar (which is considered neurodivergent.) .. defending myself against bullies , coloring my hair , listening to rock .. I watered myself down so much that when I finally met ppl weird like me they didn’t believe it or thought I was copying them by being inspired to be free in my awkwardness- however I do speak with strong AAVE but I am able to code switch very well.
Seeing this, I am Jamaican and I LOVVEEE your outfit style. It's very difficult to dress like this out here, without bullying or being mocked. The same with unconventional hobbies.
Sometimes, I try to fight the weird identity. I guess I should just embrace it. I love K-pop and kdramas. I scrapbook and read a lot. I'm pretty introverted. I only have one real friend. Totally relate to the mom thing. My mom actually tells people I was weird as a baby, because I actually didn't cry a lot and I would play rather play with my imaginary friends rather than real kids (she ran a daycare so I actually had tons of kids I could play with but I chose not to). So yes, even labeled as weird by my own mama, not just society 😅. I am glad you are talking about the weird black person to black conservative pipeline. I'm glad I've never went the Candace Owens route, but I totally understand the mentality that you get called oreo one too many times and just give up and leave the black community all together. I've been thinking about this for a while now. Thank you for talking about this. ❤🤗
Radical self-expression is revolutionary! I love for black women to be “weird” I wish it was more common. Most of us have to live with anxiety and this added stress of being held to crazy standards or bombarded by stereotypes and micro aggressions. Some of us have really fallen victim to the belief that there’s one way to be BLACK and believe it was ok for people to bully us into submission. Part of Being black is being creative and innovative and breaking boundaries-half the culture people subscribe to was founded by an individual who was thinking way outside of the box. It’s hard being black and a woman already, if you add on queer or neurodivergent- good luck. No one wants you to be free fr, but showing up as yourself with everyone,everytime, everywhere is more impactful than you’ll ever know🫶🏾 other people who are unhappy and mentally in bondage do not get to have an opinion on my lifestyle, my wants or my needs. I date who I want to date or no one if I prefer that , eat what cuisines I want to eat, explore places that interest me, do hobbies that bring me joy, practice self-care and even resting as a form of it, I don’t perform femininity if I don’t want to, I am sexy when I want and modest when I want, I speak the way that’s most effective and expressive for ME, I am angry and aggressive when I need to be, i am soft and I am silent when it pleases me, I am anything I want and all I need to be 💋🫶🏾
The only thing I wish I had is black sisterhood🥲…in friends! I have blood sisters that I love, we’re all weird girls and get along well. But it’s hard to find black women that aren’t “stuck” I get it though, they’re trying to survive, I’m trying to thrive even if that means being unwelcome🤷🏾♀️
The RUclips gods answered me to find and support more alt black girls. I wish I had content like this when I was in middle school/high school. Got a new follower ❤ I love your style!!
Am I weird If I don’t want to stick to regular black girl outfits or as they say ghetto style because I like coquette fashion and my mom is ok with me but the other black girls don’t and I like anime…..😭
@@Pearl-chuu83 I wouldn’t say weird but we should probably unpack the connotations placed behind those feelings. Like there’s black women and femmes whose style is the ig baddie aesthetic who love anime. Not everyone dresses similar to their hobbies or interests. Some of the most hardcore anime fans are baddies like Megan Thee Stallion and Nicki Minaj.
Louder for the people in the back, girl😭😭 I’ve never heard someone break this down so eloquently. You nailed it♥️♥️♥️ I love you, too weird back girl!!
i like kpop, just because it sounds good, is colorful, and nobody in my circle knows or likes it, i like to talk about it all the time, but seriously stopped talking to my family, or my mom friends about it because i fell judged all the time.
Damn dude the ending really struck a cord! That was deep. I never heard someone saying along the lines of thank you for existing. That took my breath away but in a humbled way. Like a "I see you" type of way, but not with the physical but the soul. Damn. Thank you 😢❤.
I’ve been a weird black girl all my life and suppressed it for so long out of fear of judgement. I gained popularity unintentionally and hated it because it forces you to conform to what “blackness” is! I’m nerd for Transformers, a research junky, I appreciate art in all forms, listen to all genre of music, was told that I talk like a white girl etc. I’ve came out of shell when I met my best friend who is a gay talented black male who is an excellent artist, he’s a great dancer, loves mermaids and was never afraid of criticism. I knew he was the friend for me so I held on tight for 22 years and now we’re weird black adults and love it. I started dying my hair in high school and wore just about every color in crayola crayon box and continue to die my hair because now I think it’s weird for me to have just all black hair! lol I love my weirdness and embrace it! I wish I met more black girls like you growing up. Thanks for this video! It’s so important and btw I LOOOVVVVEEE animated movies too especially Disney. Every time a new one comes out, I get excited like a small kid! Keep being weird☺️♥️
I relate to this so much. I would get teased for liking rock music by my own siblings lol they would call me white girl. Also in school I was bullied for being, "quiet and weird". Andddd I'm also neurodivergent. I've also been accused of wanting to be Asian because I like Japanese culture lol
Thank you so much for making this video!!! I've felt left out and different my whole childhood. TLDR: I didn't fit in too well with black stereotypes or white people. Since I've gone to both predominantly white and black schools, and I was seen as the "weird black girl" at both! As an "Oreo" or a 'weird' black girl, I finally feel seen after watching this video! Growing up a lot of my peers would treat me differently. I get my hair done and I wear nice clothes. Some might even say that I'm "fly" 🤭. I had always been deemed as the "Intelligent" one among my peers. Coming from a pwi (Predominantly white school) This was a great thing. But the thing for me is I am not the "Weird, or quiet/neurodivergent" black girl. I'm very outgoing and social. But I slowly learned that due to this, I was considered "Loud and Ghetto" at my school. A lot of the white kids had talked bad about me behind my back. I was called "Weird" because I liked kpop and dancing. So I was Weird, Ghetto, and Loud!!!! (Obviously none of this was true, I just wasn't scared of embracing my differences. Which intimidated my peers. Which led to them saying nasty things about me because they were intimidated.) A few white kids had even referred to my friend group as the "Ghetto Gang" with me of course being "Ghetto number one" ☹. People said mean things behind my back but never said it to my face because I was considered to be "Loud and Ghetto", or they were scared to say it to me because I politely and respectfully put anyone who is rude or disrespectful in their place. But this also intimidated them, so they spoke about me behind my back. Basically, when people are rude to me I tell them that they need to stop being mean and reflect on their actions. So I respectfully checked everyone who was disrespectful or anyone who mistreated me or other people. (I hate watching innocent people being disrespected and walked all over.) Two years later I moved to Georgia (U.S.) and I was told that I "Talk like a white girl" or that I think I'm "Better than everybody". A bunch of kids even told me they "Can't understand me when I speak." I got called uppity because I took advanced classes and many considered me intelligent. Many of my peers said that I was like a preppy white girl because I dress up (I'm fly and I know it) and I "Speak proper". Whenever I get into conflict I calmly resolve it. Or when it comes to confronting people, I am very calm. A lot of people around me feel as if I'm belittling them because I speak to them in a calm manner. But this is just due to the fact that I'm not a very aggressive person!!! 😭😭(Verbally and physically). But due to this I feel like I didn't fit in with anyone. It felt as if I were too black for the white kids and that I seem too white (most) of the black kids at my school. As a fellow "weird black girl" thank you for posting this❤❤ I FINALLY FEEL SEEN!!!
A few things. 1. Not me doing my gender euphoria squeak at "The IT Enby" 😍🤩💖😁 2. I didn't expect a video to come out that's literally spelling out my entire existence 😭
I was called a “White girl” practically my whole life until now. I’m 17 and I know I’m very different from my family and peers. How I talk, how I act, how I dress, just how I express myself as a whole is not really considered the Black girl stereotype.
oof did this come at the right time. i recently left an all boys friend group because i realized they were laughing at me and not with me. it sucks.. because majority of them are black so i felt very iffy about it. and sometimes wished i was “normal” as what they teased me about was about my interest ( liking k-pop/kdrama, playing video games, being queer, judging my life choices, interest asian culture). i now realized that they all saw something in me which is what triggered all of them; authenticity. i focused on the people who accepted me for who i am. as a weird black girl, i salute all of y’all. stay you 😊❤❤
I figure I should comment to show support. Grew up nerdy (science and books) and introverted and “alternative” (rock/metal) before I even knew it was a thing, currently seeking ND diagnosis. RUclips put this in my reccs 😂
I FOUND MY PEOPLE?!?!?! YES!!!! Ive always been called weird and been on the quiet side around my family, but when i got comfortable with other people that are like me im SO different!! But i honestly thought i was alone, as im not neurodivergent but have been asked multiple times if i wanted to be white, for liking things that aren’t in a black culture. I have a cousin who is literally just like me! But she’s more outgoing and bubbly than me! I will definitely send her this video, im just glad i found people who are like me! 💗💗
this video hits so close to home for me, I am neurodivergent, introvert and awkward. so at times interacting with others can be hard, also while i was in school i was ALWAYS called an oreo. even from the white kids in my class, it was so frustrating, I'm still trying to find my place in life and its hard but i just wanna be happy.
this really spoke to my soul!! my mom and most of my family accepted me for who i was but it wasn't enough to keep me from all the hurt i experienced. i never felt like i truly fit in anywhere, even in my own family. i ended up developing depression and generalized anxiety disorder from the bullying / other severe trauma i went through at a young age. the environment i was brought up in definitely didn't help, although, i know my mom did the best with what she had. i was the shy (talkative asf once you got to know me), smart, hypersensitive, and sweet kid; super religious (not so much anymore) / sheltered, dressed "emo", listened to post-hardcore, played video games, and watched hella anime. i became more withdrawn (especially after leaving my diverse HS to move to one that was majority black. we were damn near homeless so i had no choice. i was just starting to open up and gain confidence too so this was life-shattering for me). i definitely went through the nihilistic and angry phase but outgrew it after i left my hometown. at the age of 30, i still struggle with poor self-worth and self-esteem. i don't believe my own husband when he tells me i'm beautiful but i've made a lot of progress over the years and i'm working on healing myself slowly but surely. much love to you all 🖤
i’m literally a month late to this but i love that we are allowing ourselves to embrace our uniqueness! i’ve always been into anime and back in high school, i was quite sheltered and “uncultured” as i was truly into cartoons, anime and art! but back then, it wasn’t accepted as it is now! being 25, ADHD, neurospicy and othered in the past, i’m just now starting to embrace my new sense of sense as i was people-pleasing and shunning my light for FAR TOO LONG- my inner child deserves to be loved and treated like she’s human and she deserves happiness! which is what i am going to do for now on! thank you for this 💞💞
@@ettcha well if you ever get the chance to move passed my nails clacking, you would see that most of the video is me dressed down and I get into a deeper conversation. However, I love a good nail clack.
I don't usually subscribe before i finish a video, but when I do... it's cuz the video was a hit 🎯 I'm intrigued by the metamorphosis that is me coming into my true weirdness. Thanks for holding space for us 😅
@@Ms.blu3 thank you for watching and resonating with the video! I’m happy you’re coming into weirdness, and I hope your journey brings you much joy and abundance 🫶🏾🩵
Second generation weird black girl here (my mom was one too and still is xD), im so glad i was recommended this. "Introvert discrimination" pretty much describes my grade school experience. Ive always felt alienated by my fellow black students, girls especially. Im slowing learning to accept myself and gain some self-confidence. I really needed that ending message. ♥
Quirky and awkward black neurospicy gal here who is more “othered” than a drop down on every online application for “all of the things” in my Brittney Vaughan voice. I love LOVE all genres of music; with a special interest in unique bands and artists from everything created by Thom Bell and Tems to Rotary Connection and Remi Wolf. Also I’m a Henson kid, so I love EVERYTHING created under Jim Henson’s genius. I’m probably the only person who still gets emotional over him being gone, especially since I’m an 80s baby, and my indigo heart was very much shaped by my parents and everything Henson that we watched together. I was painfully bullied into masking at an early age; to the point where I am in my 40s, and when the mask comes off, I need to stim by myself for at least an hour before i engage with my husband and loved ones. Thank you so much for your video 🥹. You have no idea how many stages of me throughout my life feel so hugged and heard right now ❤️❤️❤️
@@emansayeddd thank you so much!!! This video was on my heart for a long time, and I’m happy I finally found the language to describe the experience because only we can truly humanize and validate our experiences navigating our Blackness, gender identity (and the experiences tied to it), and passions. Thank you again for watching 🫶🏾🩵
I'm 19. I want to gush about comics and musicals and anime but I literally can't it SUCKS BRO. I used to be super talkative when I was little but anytime I tried connecting with people I'd be shut down or ignored and I eventually just...shut up. Like forever. Being in my sophomore year of college, I've been trying to get out of that(I even went to my first cosplay con this summer and I loved it) but it's hard. It's like I feel stuck. I didn't realize how common this was, but I think we're going to be okay. It'll take time but we're good.
This was something that my inner child really needed to hear. I've been judged for being different my whole life and to finally hear someone say that I'm not weird, I'm just not fitting in a bubble people want me in, is very refreshing.
I’m a weird Asian girl so I don’t know the struggles and joys of weird black girlhood but I clicked because I love your style and often find wisdom that speaks to my own experience as a poc in the us from black creators (esp women), but then I stayed to watch the whole video because your explanation ab how mistreatment of weird black girls connects to capitalism, respectability politics, and ultimately upholding white surpremacy made a lot of sense and because your message to fellow weird black girls was so heartfelt and supportive 🥹 I’m sure this video resonated with a lot of ppl. This was quality content I hope you keep it up!
I just realized I’ve never been called a wanna be white girl or that I’m “trying to dress like those Asians” till I started hanging out with this black family and being brought around more black people. And I’m partially thankful for being brought around older people in their 50’s and 60’s because they never judged me for what I liked and just thought I dressed cute. And as I think about it more, the guy from the family (had a huge liking to me and we did some things I guess) tried to change me so much, make me like one of those tick-tock girls that wear glasses and clear lipgloss and do their edges everyday. And I fed into his image of the perfect me for a while until he realized I was not one of those girls, I am my own person for a reason. And it took me so long to become this person and be confident in who I am, I remember I used to straighten my hair everything morning before school because I didn’t know what to do with it(it lead to immense damage and hair falling) and thankfully I finally found something that resonates with me and I can wear for the rest of my life ( twists that I redo every 2-3 weeks). But anyway I’m so happy I finally found myself and I’m badder than ever with people chasing after my ass 😂
This perfectly described me. There’s this one person in my life who’s so weirdly obsessed with race that calls me whitewashed. First of all shut up. Second of all why do you care? I really appreciate this video. Weird black girls are treated so horribly for being themselves.
I feel for this so hard. It’s especially so bad in the Caribbean. If u even show someone something that isn’t of ur culture, they just look at u like ur weird or look confused or disgusted. Like especially with fashion. Idc if I sound rude, everyone in my country dress like shit- plain, unmatched bright colors with no coordination whatsoever. And then they wanna look at me for wanting to wear some simple coquette, tomboy and shoujo styles. Like sorry that I don’t wanna look ugly??
Everything about you is so relatable ahhh. I love your style and the editing here is so good! Your talking points were so well-articulated. Thank you for sharing this, you got a new sub today!
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Timestamps ˚ ༘♡ ⋆｡˚
0:00 - Intro
0:52 - Storytime
3:05 - Whatisms / What’s the Weird Black Girl?
3:39 - What Makes A Black Girl Weird?
4:27 - Hobbies
4:57 - Subculture
5:22 - Style
5:39 - Personality
7:39 - Resentment, Capitalism, Misogynoir, & Respectability Politics
15:49 - My Message to Weird Black Girls/Femmes
‘Hobbies do not have a race’. 👏👏👏 Please say that again for the people at the back.
i got really lucky with my parents. my mom is the black sheep/weird syfy obsessed girl and my dad was also a total geek. they let me be quiet and weird so long as i wasn't being obnoxiously rude about it. my mom had to defend my introversion to her siblings and parents for years. the family hates it, but my mom is the one every grandkid goes to when they can't find empathy from their parents and my niece literally uses my mom to emotionally regulate. the weird black girls are the ones healing the family trauma!!!
@@ruthiebee11 this is very true!!! I think maybe in a way weird black girls are forced to become more introspective about family patterns and overall the world around them.
Bro are you me. We have the same exact life lol.
Lol, I feel I've had the opposite experience, where everyone else was okay with me being quiet and weird. The only person that had some kind of issue with it was my mom.
Lucky 😭
That last sentence✊🏾
as a weird black neurodivergent girl who was called oreo her whole life. i loved this video thank you!!!
@@tierniluv7382 thank you!!!! 🥺🫶🏾🩵
Literally feel seen with this comment and video!!😭❤️
Me three!!!!!
Same
Ditto 🎉
Growing up the weird black girl means you saw yourself in a lot of white characters growing up because the black ones were stereotypes or barely got any screen time. It means being told you “talk like a white girl” and getting clowned or lectured for liking and dating white guys. It means having two different playlists (iykyk). It means growing up seeing conversations about us not existing even though we’ve been here the whole time. It means your friend group probably has a mixture of white/skater/emo/gay in there lol. It means your family members will ALWAYS call out the fact that you are their “white child” or the weird one. Been there, done that. I’m honestly so happy to find my people online. This is the corner of the internet I wanna be in. ❤️ I love and support your message! From one weird black girl to another, stay strong 🥰
HAVING TWO DIFFERENT PLAYLISTS........ IM CRYING
The two different playlist!!!!
@venusvicious4446 This was very beautiful and reading is like reading the story of my life ,especially the two Playlist lol
@@mesekkai That called me out so bad🤣
@@demiwilliams4126 actually you need three different playlist...one for the family one for the friends and one for you
In High School, my classmate said I was weird for wanting to be a Dentist. 🤦♀
@@Ambi1021 BUT WE NEED DENTISTS!!!!
Personally I think it's weird that too many of us want to be rappers🥴🤭
I was "white" for wanting to be a vet. I remember bravely holding a lizard and this girl was like "SHES SO WHITE!!" for holding an animal? 😂
@keoni many people truly believe that black women are all the same. They think we are all straight out of a basket ball wives episode. Unfortunately we have no other representation. Supporting channels like this is important.
See your desire for people to have healthy WHITE teeth is brainwashing from the white man. Free yourself my queen 😂 /s
As a black girl who’s bisexual, has autism and has never been able to integrate into my social sphere, this video is really it!!
@@logarithmus.naturali thank you!!! 🙏🏾🩵
Black girls continue to be you!
I love video games and anime.
I still shake my ass while listening to metal or kpop music.
I love walking around in the grass with no shoes.
I love pumpkin spice coffee and cakes
That’s so me lol
I love walking outside in my driveway with no shoes
Queens, you aren’t weird, you’re just being your authentic selves. Sincerely, a black man that loves you all.
thank you!
I've accepted that I was 'weird' (i'm autistic lol) since I was in primary school. Weird is a compliment in my opinion.
I started out being a friendly and outgoing child, but years of bullying turned me into an introvert. I was socially awkward, and I got no empathy from anyone, including my parents. I always knew I was different, and now I embrace it, I'm done trying to change my personality to fit in where I don't belong. I surround myself with people that I vibe with.
Same! I still find it weird that I went from an extravert to an introvert due to bullying, in my thirties now and grew to be ok with being myself
Love this for you. You deserve to be around people who appreciate you for you
I feel so seen!
Ily blk women 🤎
@@keyzlovesyou4933 🫶🏾🩵🩵🩵
I’m a black woman that listens to rock & house music and dresses like an 80’s rocker chick and I love it ❤️❤️❤️
If you like house music please listen to Dr Gabba. He makes the best house music!
As a little girl, i was an outgoing girl but when i got to the age of 8-9 i started being more quiet, especially around my cousins because i realized that when i was talking to them and they told me to shut up, it wasn’t a joke anymore. I always knew i was the weird black girl in the family, my sister shared my interests with me but i knew i was the weirdo bc i actually talked my interests and how i like art, anime, animation, etc. I hate how i have to be a stereotypical eritrean girl, and my mom tells me to make friends with people in my community but when i try they just look at me weird and walk away. Thanks for this video, I don’t feel like an outsider💗🫶🏾
@@annareddae5124 that’s around the age I started becoming quiet! Because I was an undiagnosed child, my family didn’t know why I was the way I was. All in all, you’re definitely not alone in your experiences. Thank you for sharing!!! 🩵
@@bunnii.onlinethnxs!💗💗
OMG the same thing happened to me😭😭 i was filled with so much joy and passion as a child. Around 8 years old I also went quiet. Too many ppl laughed at me for talking or told me to shut up. I had to learn how to express myself guilt free. It's still a process, but I'm there
Ignore everyone. I'm Texan, listen to heavy metal, and don't act anything like a black woman because i can't relate.. My racist momma hated everything about me because I acted too white. She even told me to act like a black woman. I didn't have any influences and all the other black girls were ghetto loud and rude. So I'm thinking My momma wants me to act like that.
You don't need acceptance for being yourself
Just ditch everyone and do your own thing
@@dollymae3383thank you for sharing💗🫶🏾
heavy on sh*tted on for your hobbies just because I dont like clubbing or drinking and would prefer to be at home cooking, crocheting or going to cafes.
Real😭🙏🏾
HEAVY on being introverted. The moment you’re more quiet it’s weird. As a fellow Black theater student, it’s even worse bc yt queer folk tend to segregate. I’m just caught in limbo all the time
@@jordynshumpert VERY MUCH THIS!!!!
And when they also think it’s weird to read…😕
Definitely damned if you do, damned if you don't. I was told by this older black coworker that I wanted to be Hispanic/latina just because I was talking to my Mexican coworker in Spanish. Like girl what?! I know I can't change my race. I love myself, thank you. I just so happen to like learning about other cultures and languages. Sue me.(Edit2) That ending message and the whole video actually warmed my soul. I was absolutely afraid of taking up space when I was younger. I was consistently bullied, especially by other black students and I resented them. But now I'm cool as a cucumber. I've tried to change and to be into "stereotypical" black things. Some of it just ain't me and will never be me. I'm still black at the end of the day and nothing will ever change my DNA. But I'm supposed to be me because there is no one else that is me or will ever be me. For my other black ladies with imposter syndrome, I say take up space! You can take up the milky way and you will never not be deserving of all things good in life. Be unapologetically you because you are inimitable. ❤
@@parkjibuns638 Very much this!!! Like I think it gets lost on people that everyone is on their own journey that was curated for them, by them. We need more black women to take space because if we don’t the space will never be given to us. Also that coworker was weird…
I also like how she was crazy enough to forget that even if you were latin. You would still be black ☠️
Love this 🩷🩷🫰
And as if Afro Latinos don’t exist 🗿
@@kenyanicholas6809 righttt
I turned 45 Aug. 2nd. I love reading, The Beatles, I have what is called today as a dark academia style etc.. I'm so lucky that my parents and siblings never called me strange. I need to be more thankful for having them.
Hardly a teen here; I LOVE THE BEATLES TOO!!
I never realized I've been othered my entire life. Growing up in the Caribbean (🇯🇲) and doing nerdy hobbies (anime, writing & reading), Oreo was and still remains my nickname. I think the Black community have struggles to recognize that enjoying fiction & educating yourself isn't a sign of whiteness. There are Black people in these spaces, but we choose to ostracize them, and for what? A couple laughs at dinner table? It's so sad how stagnant we are when it comes to accepting our own. Thanks for making me feel seen as a 23-year old. You've earned yourself a new subscriber. I'll keep rebelling against the system. ♡
i’m from the caribbean too! and where i’m from (st.croix U.s. virgin islands) lemme tell you, the people there are SO closed minded, you really can’t express yourself the way you want to, if you struggle with mental health you get the whole “depressed for what?? you have a roof over your head” you can’t walk around with the things you like to wear, etc
Omg the struggle of having those types of hobbies in Jamaica is not for the weak 😭 Tired of being told I act white for having an ‘obscure’ personality
Yes to the island girls link up! 🇯🇲
It's a struggle but it gets better. Being your most authentic self is the only way to true happiness anyway.
As a weird black introverted girl, I grew trying to blend in with my pears and trying to like the norm for little black girls such as doing hair, painting nails and so on. It was always hard for me to participate in those things cause I never had any interest in them, so when my family would ask whats wrong with me I would also start asking myself those questions as well, and not to mention I’ve been bullied into thinking that’s not the normal things ‘normal’ black people would do. Now that I’m in high school I try not to think about what other people say about my preferences and how weird I am. I’ve always felt like an outcast within my family for liking different things like anime, different genres other than rap, figurines, plushies and other things. But it hurts the most when people you can’t find people who are just like you and you have to be friends with people who will shame you behind you back for not being the “typical black girl” 😑.
@@toji1898 here’s the thing that I’ve learned, I don’t think there is a typical black girl/woman. I think all of us have quirks, but certain ones are considered acceptable compared to others. Also not everyone wears them on their sleeve. You’re not weird, you’re just you and you gravitate towards the things that peaked your interest! I wish we were allowed to do that without judgement, but we can’t depending on our environment. If you take anything from this video, please continue to explore your interests, and exercise being yourself to the highest degree (or what’s allowed and safe since I believe you’re still a minor). I know I will always be weird to my birth family, but I love the idea of building a my own family where we can be ourselves without the pressure to conform. Keep being the star that you are, and I’m grateful that you’re focusing on being authentically yourself 🫶🏾🩵💫
I just almost cried. im an adult now, i wish this video came out 10 years ago. my mom doesn't know anything of what i like, because everytime i tried opening up to her about it, she'd accuse me of wanting to be white or asian and everytime she come in my room she gotta insult my anime and kpop stuff and say i think im chinese. i literally have NEVER known how to come to terms with this reality my family will just never except me for who i am ... especially being a lesbian. i wish i could talk to them and tell them all about me. thank you for this reassuring video, and i just feel so seen, all i ever wanted was to NOT be judged!
@@mananababytiff I resonate a lot with your comment especially with the added layer of homophobia in the fold. Honestly I still struggle with coming to terms with my family never fully understanding me. There will always be a piece of wanting or even needing acceptance from our families and I guess that’s our inner child who seeks that the most. My mom told me I’m a wannabe white girl because I love blonde hair. The best thing that has happened to me that has brought me to this point is forming my own chosen family where we’re all different. Chosen family has saved me, along with people on the internet who share their similar stories. It’s a daunting journey, but knowing you’re not alone can lessen the load. Sending you love 🫶🏾🩵
I'm sorry that you are going though that my dear. I'm your elder millennial sister. Been loving anime, video games, kpop since the early 2000's. I'm gonna the hug your deserve. I've been the werid girl for 20 yrs. It ain't never gonna change.
@@shelliupshaw3405 🥹🥹 this comment section is so kind and supportive but your comment is really the icing on the cake ... we'll never change 🤗🤗
Sometimes you hafta cut off family. Some of mine hates white people.
My momma slapped me yelling STOP ACTING WHITE.
You should Stand up for yourself. I hated being around family making fun if the way I talk. I got you sound white a lot. So I sound off with you can't talk at all and sound stupid after taking and English class
I don't talk to family anymore and like it that way
Hate to say this but stay away from ignorant blacks that talk and think like that
@mananababytiff Most of my bff"s came from the con world.
My favorite part was hearing you talk about respectability politics. I’m neurodivergent and respectability politics have impacted me greatly my whole life. I still don’t let it get me down and refuse to tap dance for anyone.
ABSOLUTELY!!! Respectability politics is one of the driving forces of division between neurotypical and neurodivergent black folks. I'm happy to hear that despite those roadblocks, you maintain a sense of integrity for who you are! Continue to shine
I experience introvert discrimination all the time, especially at work. It makes me cry sometimes but I just took it as a “Not everybody is going to like you” thing 😂
@@peachberrypie omg same!!! My ex coworkers would have hangouts but like it was always inconvenient timing for me since I was in school still. Like being an introvert in the workplace is tricky 😭
I’m glad you included Candace because as much as I disagree with what she says, I don’t think a lot of people understand how being like not the prettiest black girl and a little bit weird can make you an outcast and then being teased and pushed to a point that you literally just wanna be accepted somewhere. You start to despise the group of people that treated you that way… And that can happen in the black community a lot. Like yeah she’s a grown woman. She should take some responsibility for her actions and words, but also she was extremely bullied at the young age and a lot of Black people still bully her so she might not even feel like she has a place anymore and she HAS to be a different type of person now. No, I’m not making excuses but she’s an awkward black girl too.
@@tonijackson3421 very much this!! I made a TikTok video detailing briefly why Clarence Thomas is the way that he is currently and how a lot of his politics stem back to being bullied by the black community as a child along with the abuse he faced through his parental figure. Because at one point they genuinely tried being accepted by the black community, and once they failed they found acceptance albeit through shifting into conservatism.
This me and my sister had always had black bullies ....so now my sister literally says that she dont feel comfortable around big black crowds anymore.
Its the worst for me because it's like i dont feel comfortable in a white crowd or black crowd.
But i also was friend other werid black people..mostly black guys because its hard to find werid black girls .. every time i would make a black female friend it they would bully me and talk bad about me behind my back and laugh at jokes about me. I was othered really bad and the only people i had found solice in was white girls and werid ass socially awkward black boys.
@@mesekkaiI feel the same way too. I feel comfortable around some black women but not black men. I avoid them at all costs
I can relate too. I vote conservative, ADHD, bisexual, into metal, cartoons, trucks, etc I don't fit in anywhere. I just wish instead of bullying black people that different just try to understand us. Culturally speaking I just didn't vibe with other black people, the conservatives at least accepted me on the surface.
I'm 48 and I'm was a "weird" black girl. However, it has worked in my favor. Perhaps even saved my life. The Black community is one that will eat you up and spit you out if you let it. Being different is not easy in that space. I got extremely lucky by not following my peers to the Black high school in my city and opted to attend the school in which I was assigned. That was the best blessing I could've ever received. My friend circle was already diverse but became even more diverse. Ive heard the oreo, white girl crap from people, but it never bothered me especially because I never grew up around white people. My dad was a stickler on speaking proper english so it never made much sense to me to sound ignorant on purpose.
Having a best black girlfriend like me helped alot, but even she got sucked up by the community at one point; and she is ultra wierd and proud of it. She's unique in the fact she can exist comfortably in both worlds, but I never could.
i grew up loving anime and speaking multiple languages that my family didn’t so that with being extremely quiet makes people think i’m weird lol
I don't feel like i am inherently rebelling because I happen to be a black girl who likes "unconventionally black" things like anime, video games, etc. That's just who I am. I am not trying to stand out by engaging in these things; these are things that have been present in my childhood and I've loved them ever since.
I know this probably isn't relatable to some other black girls and guys but I've never identified with being black; I am just me. I don't understand "blackness" I am just a human being who happens to be black.
I do know that a lot of black people have internalized racism and it's very sad to watch ourselves inflict that onto each other. We need to take people for who they are. We need to stop seeing each other as representatives of our race. Our race has way too many different personalities, lifestyles and experiences for there to be a specific representation.
All i gotta say is, be yourself. It doesn't matter if a random person thinks you're "too white" or "too black" or whatever nonsense. Just accept yourself for your personality, interests, etc. and it'll make living with yourself so much easier
The statement “I don’t identity as being black; I am just me” hits HARD. As of lately I’ve been going through some emotional turmoil. The universe is showing its colors and it’s telling me it’s time to leave and go on my own way, aggressively chasing what I desire. I am trying to hang on until I can be truly individual and start adulting, combating the struggles of life. Right now I am around others who just continue to misunderstand me and honestly have no desire to really understand who I am. Just the other day my mother said to me “Natty, how do you deal with not having anyone to talk to when you’re frustrated? What do you do?” “We don’t have much family and you don’t talk to me even though I wish you would”. First, I proceeded, or tried to tell her that I go on walks and nature really helps. As I was saying this I can only get out I go on walks, na- and she just proceeds to talk about other things that make her frustrated. She asked me two more questions and only to not let finish truthfully answering any one of them and says that she sees that what I do works for me. It was then and there that I have decided me and my mom will never have a close relationship with each other simply because we don’t understand each other as black women, though what I really should say is that she doesn’t understand as me a black women. And truthfully, it hurts, it hurts like hell. Being an outcast or a “black sheep” in most cases I have unlearned the victim mentality, but have developed understanding perspectives and I understand that the intersectionality of a black women is an experience that can and will make you feel lonely, out of place, and disconnected, others people in this world have their perspectives as well and sometimes it’s best not to push my narrative down their throats. It’s hurts me because I understand other perspectives, their emotions, and point of views, even when they’re wrong but when it comes to me, crickets. I will never be able to tell my mother the troubles that I face as a black women because I see that she chooses not to embrace listening to them fully. She still has her own healing to do. The only thing I can do is take accountability, understand I have the power to change my reality ( I am actively working on it), and move to a safe space I’ve created for my myself to express my individual needs. I apologize for the long paragraph.
This is such a beautiful video. As a weird black woman still trying to navigate the world, it's nice to see more of us being more vocal about our experiences and seeing weird black girls on RUclips, the Media like Ayo Edebiri, Quinta Brunson, Issa Rae, Micheala Coel,Cree Summers, Grace Jones,Etc and many more have made me feel seen and I hope we continue to be more vocal and have more representation cause we are out here and we deserve to be seen and heard always!!!
@@aishambengue3024 thank you 🙏🏾🩵
Heavy on Micheala Coel 💜🌹
Yessss, weird black girls rise up! Do not change, be yourself and have fun, dammit. I Related deeply to your commentary on respectability politics. I've noticed I still get more anxiety going to primarily black events as opposed to white ones because I know the added level of scrutiny that comes. Choosing acceptance helps so much, my confidence in being myself actually draws people in now because I think a lot more people are weird then they're letting on lol
@@Jojo-tf2zp that’s really relatable but I feel a level of anxiety as well when in certain black spaces, but I always remember that being myself in those spaces will open them up for others like me.
Respectability politics suck. I'm white, but as a disabled person working in disability services, they regularly force respectability on the residents. If a resident wants to wear a shirt of their favorite kid show, we are told to convince them not to wear that shirt out. I wish people would treat us disabled folks like humans regardless of what we look like and wear.
@@twylenbI agree, that totally sucks! I wished that disabled people weren’t infantilized and restricted in so many ways. Why place limits on expression to conform?
I took a class on psychosocial aspects of health and illness. One week we were talking about disability and read Erving Goffman. He talks about rules for interacting with “normals”. I made the connection that they were examples of respectability politics affecting disabled people. I’m glad you noticed disability respectability politics too.
I'm am a black woman still without a job going on 7 years because they weren't hiring no more so it hard finding a job. I was going make my own business when I move instead and sell things too like my art and stuff. I was a introvert all my life because I was shy to talk to other people. Most of the people I hang out with were fake, Jealous,two faced and was trying everything they can to make me lose everything, especially my family members. I was a black sheep in my family, everyone in my family was either jealous, copycat, hateful, putting voodoo on me, wishing I was dead, try making me homeless, Narasitsic, toxic, smear campaigning, I have a curse in my family, generation curses and ect. It worst when it's your own family. All my life I only had hate and no one really did realize me besides my teachers. I think my teachers was the only ones that was supporting my dreams and success. Those people that did hated me because my light shines, and even on social media I have haters when I post videos no one likes it. I never actually had anyone by my side which was the most hurtful thing and the most peaceful thing at the same time not dealing with people BS no more. Having a lot of friends is trouble for me, I will only have online friends that's about it. I do talk to people in real life like in the library. Its really nothing to do in my area. I live in Fonda NY a lot of people don't know that place. Fonda NY is not a good place, it's nothing to do, not really any good transportation, there not much services near that can help people that are struggling. White people crying Fonda NY is the best place is really low life's and don't realize their school and everything there is trash. Fonda Fulton ville school is so racist and don't like seeing basically black people. I was always seen as weird because I love anime, Bratz, Disney, Barbie ect. I just have to say seeing all the comments and your video makes me feel not so alone anymore, it makes me feel better and not so weird ❤❤❤❤❤
Love this topic. Ive lived in Georgia for almost 2 decades now. I was a military kid so when i moved here from overseas all the other kids treated me so different and i never fit in enough with other black kids. I got “which one of your parents are white?” and “you dont act black” my whole childhood 🤦🏾♀️ now im almost 30 and i truly dont gaf anymore. I like cartoons, musicals, kpop, rabbits, drag race and doing crafts. I just do what i want and mind my business 😂
@@ksis86 My experience is quite similar! My family is from New York, specifically the Bronx, so they still carried that up north swag with them. Growing up in Georgia with braids with beads and shells, plus my accent didn’t mesh well. I was always asked if I was mixed, African, or Caribbean in xenophobic ways. Eventually I moved past it when I was in high school.
I love to see another poc loving kpop and anime
I'm finally being seen. I'm a introvert girl. When I was younger I was a more extrovert but my "friends" and family made me feel as "too much" so now I'm more quiet but it's still a problem because my quietness is seen as me thinking I'm better than other when it's not 😭. And for the respectability politics that's my mom. She's always shaming my apparence when she have the occasion. I have to be 1000% always or I'm a problem because "why don't I take care of my apparence more?" 🙄
@@MissDoffy my mom is definitely the handler of respectability in my life, so I completely understand 🫶🏾🩵
Jesus, taking the time to read all the points in your intro, i deserve damn reperations for the stuff people put me through for being the ‘weird black girl’
@@bubblegumpopproductions5459 absolutely!!! That plus maybe even emotional distress and damages. We can build a case right now 😭
As a weird black African (who lives in an African country),it's so sad. I feel so bad sometimes because they don't watch the stuff I watch (they are huge on tiktok I'm more of a yt girl, i watch anime ,read manga, i don't read the same kind of books, they read those dark romances,colleen hover type books and I read books like my year of rest and relaxation, I've been wanting to read classics for a while but I haven't come across one yet. I'm also big on fanfiction and they're not (heyI'm only 16)),they don't listen to the stuff i listen to( they like pop,afrobeats , amapiano or rap. I like all those things but I like more alt and indie music idk how or why it started but that's all I listen to) and there is almost no one who likes the same things as I do (maybe one or two things but they're not like me). I feel so bad, I've attempted to do more "black/african" things but that's not the stuff I enjoy or particularly like to follow. Even if I enjoy it,it's like a once in a while type thing(like rap, sorry but my God I cannot consume rap as my top genre. No)I know there are people like me,(it makes me feel worse that they are probably white. Ik there are black girls like me) it just feels like I'm alone sometimes in a country that doesn't accept stuff like that.There is this girl in my class who gets bullied for liking kpop (that's not the reason but they don't like her and that resulted into insulting her interest, not a big kpop girl myself but I always try to defend her.) I bring this up because I know if I try to bring stuff I like that are not "black/african", I won't get bullied (I have done it ones or twice) , but I will get called weird and I already know that, I can tell, I don't need it pointed out(imagine if my classmates didn't like me,that would be the worst). Being black is so weird because if you like something that your race generally doesn't like you are reduced to "Why do you want to be _______?" and being African is just as weird "Oh you like _____? Well that's for boys."(I love my mom, but that's so icky to me. I just want to wear pants to Church, I don't want to become a boy because of it.) I say that because none of the boys are willing to like stuff they think is girly. Today my male friend told me he didn't chose biology as his elective but he chose physics because it's for "girls". Bro what? Most discoveries are literally credited to men(whether deserved or not is for another day).It was so icky to me, especially if you're failing the subject you chose(The misogyny here is crazy, whether from men or other women. Racism towards each other and the church worship is mad too (i love God but I'm not giving my pastor 1k because of that)Lowkey hate it here, but it is worse in other places ). No I don't want to change myself, I just want to be a black girl who enjoys stuff, it's not that deep. Anyway I said too much (sorry for rambling, just needed this off my chest). Great video by the way.
I relate to you so much. Being a weird black girl in an African country is honestly so tiring. I've been called "white" because I mainly speak English and I don't listen to amapiano (which is extremely huge here in South Africa). Even worse, I'm a huge kpop and k-drama fan, and I get comments about how I'm always watching "chinese people" and that I want to be Asian....literally WHAT? Just because I consume a certain type of media does not mean I want to be of that race. I love being black, but it's just so unfortunate that if you don't fit in with the masses you will be outcasted by everyone, even your own family.
@@saeraphims the k-pop and k-drama thing is so real. Even my parents say it to my sister and I. No I just want to enjoy something without being judged
Sometimes I feel like I’m too weird for the weird people 😂. Sucks out here
Honestly! I feel like I’m at the bottom OF THE bottom of the barrel of weirdos… 😭
being a neurodivergent weird black girl im so glad i found this video. I've been going on my journey loving how unapologetically authentic i am. learning to not be afraid of being the odd one out. In fact, prefer it. so seeing this just inspired me more to seen as a weirdo than be another copy of a copy and be proud. ❤ so thank you i needed to hear this
@@berryjunmill9029 I’m glad I was a validating confirmation 🥺🫶🏾🩵
7:10 This almost brought tears to my eyes because I went through the same thing. It made me so insecure about the way I spoke to the point where I just avoided any situation that involved talking to people in public and around family. Then my family will call me anti social, rude, or "boujee"...I hate that word 💀. They blame me cause they feel the effects of what THEY did.
Same I’m from the Caribbean and growing up my mother thought me how to speak proper cause our accent it kinda hard to understand 😭, but when I go to school and speak like that it’s like people think I’m uppity and think I’m higher class than them 😭.
As someone who still gets this statement thrown at me all the time by my family and other black people that dont know me , this video really helps me feel less alone and to not change myself for anyone
Same ❤
This video healed something within me, i absolutely adore you😭
@@kellsiguess thank you!!! 🥺🫶🏾🩵
Finding the balance between not talking enough and talking/sharing too much is next to impossible some days. Thank you for this video! You seem so chill! Instant Sub😊 You look like you might read? Are you on fable?
Thank you!!! That means a lot! I started recently getting back into reading after taking a break, but I'm not fable yet but I might be after I look it up!
I was homeschooled and my mother never made me feel like blackness was a box, but when I took classes outside of the home (socializing and giving mom a break) I always felt alienated in groups of black kids, especially those that went to normal type schools. It took me until my mid teens to really figure out what was going on, and while I'm sure I did try to blend in to some extent, I kinda already knew It was too late for me to pretend, and I started mourning that I would never have an authentic relationship to black people as a culture. Videos like yours are helping me regain hope that I can find a place for myself in the black community.
@@SIMMIS_0316 you can definitely cultivate a relationship with the black community as it’s very fragmented! I got to socialize with other like minded people in college, but there are other places such as the library and conventions for hobbies/interests. Never let rejection from a string of experiences deter you from community. I wish you nothing but you bumping into the right people who make you feel seen and at home!!
I relate to this vid so much, being black + living in Africa, being an "oreo/coconut" is literally torture, bullying a 14yr old for having no ass and chest happens here , by liking foreign things you'll be treated like a foreigner,
I literally lìke anime and indie music but im labeled as the weird kpop girl , tho i dont know anything abt korea .
But the only reason im given basic respect is because im labeled the smart girl , which insulting because as a female African were expected to be dumb
I'm a black furry/Japanese street fashion/anime lover and im a goth I get looked at like a crack head in mah family 😂
Genuine question but how are you a goth and a furry? Are you a mix of both or do you switch up the days you’re goth and a furry.?
@@guillotxine If I remember correctly goth-influenced pursuits do exist (?)
@@TheEighthWonder91 fursuits? Is that what you said? If so then ty for explaining 😊
@@guillotxine yw :3
@@guillotxine oh and yeah I said fursuit, autocorrect lolz!
As an extroverted weird black girl who is working on the code switching, I love you too. We're not alone.
I’m a weird black woman born in the 80s I got so much flack that eventually I watered myself down.. right now at almost 40 I see younger girls being free and expressive and it brings a smile to my face but also resentment towards myself for not being as fearless .. I had my moments in my 20s while in creative art scenes and in my early 30s .. but now .. after so much depression and rejection I just give up.. I’m inwardly awkward .. and have been also rejected by ppl who like awkward girls .. I was bullied for loving anime, having an obsession with atmospheric science / weather , having friends of all races , being poetic at one point. , being bi polar (which is considered neurodivergent.) .. defending myself against bullies , coloring my hair , listening to rock .. I watered myself down so much that when I finally met ppl weird like me they didn’t believe it or thought I was copying them by being inspired to be free in my awkwardness- however I do speak with strong AAVE but I am able to code switch very well.
As a black trans guy whos been told im being too werid or out of the norm this video makes me feel comforted in a way :D
Seeing this, I am Jamaican and I LOVVEEE your outfit style. It's very difficult to dress like this out here, without bullying or being mocked. The same with unconventional hobbies.
@@AnnaNeedsHelp that sucks! I wish more places would allow people to dress the way they wish!
Sometimes, I try to fight the weird identity. I guess I should just embrace it. I love K-pop and kdramas. I scrapbook and read a lot. I'm pretty introverted. I only have one real friend.
Totally relate to the mom thing. My mom actually tells people I was weird as a baby, because I actually didn't cry a lot and I would play rather play with my imaginary friends rather than real kids (she ran a daycare so I actually had tons of kids I could play with but I chose not to). So yes, even labeled as weird by my own mama, not just society 😅.
I am glad you are talking about the weird black person to black conservative pipeline. I'm glad I've never went the Candace Owens route, but I totally understand the mentality that you get called oreo one too many times and just give up and leave the black community all together. I've been thinking about this for a while now. Thank you for talking about this. ❤🤗
2:02 BRO I LOVE ANIMATION TOO
TWINZEES !!!
Off topic but I loovee your style and how your room looks
And thanks for this video, makes me feel seen!!
Thank you so much!!!
Radical self-expression is revolutionary!
I love for black women to be “weird” I wish it was more common. Most of us have to live with anxiety and this added stress of being held to crazy standards or bombarded by stereotypes and micro aggressions. Some of us have really fallen victim to the belief that there’s one way to be BLACK and believe it was ok for people to bully us into submission. Part of Being black is being creative and innovative and breaking boundaries-half the culture people subscribe to was founded by an individual who was thinking way outside of the box. It’s hard being black and a woman already, if you add on queer or neurodivergent- good luck. No one wants you to be free fr, but showing up as yourself with everyone,everytime, everywhere is more impactful than you’ll ever know🫶🏾 other people who are unhappy and mentally in bondage do not get to have an opinion on my lifestyle, my wants or my needs. I date who I want to date or no one if I prefer that , eat what cuisines I want to eat, explore places that interest me, do hobbies that bring me joy, practice self-care and even resting as a form of it, I don’t perform femininity if I don’t want to, I am sexy when I want and modest when I want, I speak the way that’s most effective and expressive for ME, I am angry and aggressive when I need to be, i am soft and I am silent when it pleases me, I am anything I want and all I need to be 💋🫶🏾
The only thing I wish I had is black sisterhood🥲…in friends! I have blood sisters that I love, we’re all weird girls and get along well. But it’s hard to find black women that aren’t “stuck”
I get it though, they’re trying to survive, I’m trying to thrive even if that means being unwelcome🤷🏾♀️
The RUclips gods answered me to find and support more alt black girls. I wish I had content like this when I was in middle school/high school. Got a new follower ❤ I love your style!!
I was always called Oreo 🤷🏽♀️.
@@LovelyJordy same! I was once told I remind people of vanilla ice cream 😭
I was once told I lead my life like a white woman because I was trying different healing modalities
Still cal,Ed an kreo! STILL!
Am I weird If I don’t want to stick to regular black girl outfits or as they say ghetto style because I like coquette fashion and my mom is ok with me but the other black girls don’t and I like anime…..😭
@@Pearl-chuu83 I wouldn’t say weird but we should probably unpack the connotations placed behind those feelings. Like there’s black women and femmes whose style is the ig baddie aesthetic who love anime. Not everyone dresses similar to their hobbies or interests. Some of the most hardcore anime fans are baddies like Megan Thee Stallion and Nicki Minaj.
@@Rosemary46840 oh…
@@Pearl-chuu83 I deleted the comment because that wasn’t cool.
Louder for the people in the back, girl😭😭 I’ve never heard someone break this down so eloquently. You nailed it♥️♥️♥️ I love you, too weird back girl!!
i like kpop, just because it sounds good, is colorful, and nobody in my circle knows or likes it, i like to talk about it all the time, but seriously stopped talking to my family, or my mom friends about it because i fell judged all the time.
Damn dude the ending really struck a cord! That was deep. I never heard someone saying along the lines of thank you for existing. That took my breath away but in a humbled way. Like a "I see you" type of way, but not with the physical but the soul. Damn. Thank you 😢❤.
@@NameFirst-jv9gj thank you!!! 🫶🏾🩵
I’ve been a weird black girl all my life and suppressed it for so long out of fear of judgement. I gained popularity unintentionally and hated it because it forces you to conform to what “blackness” is! I’m nerd for Transformers, a research junky, I appreciate art in all forms, listen to all genre of music, was told that I talk like a white girl etc. I’ve came out of shell when I met my best friend who is a gay talented black male who is an excellent artist, he’s a great dancer, loves mermaids and was never afraid of criticism. I knew he was the friend for me so I held on tight for 22 years and now we’re weird black adults and love it. I started dying my hair in high school and wore just about every color in crayola crayon box and continue to die my hair because now I think it’s weird for me to have just all black hair! lol I love my weirdness and embrace it! I wish I met more black girls like you growing up.
Thanks for this video! It’s so important and btw I LOOOVVVVEEE animated movies too especially Disney. Every time a new one comes out, I get excited like a small kid! Keep being weird☺️♥️
I really loved the message of this video. "You're not weird, you're just you" Thank you!
@@Shamilllionaire thank you!!! 🫶🏾🩵
I relate to this so much. I would get teased for liking rock music by my own siblings lol they would call me white girl. Also in school I was bullied for being, "quiet and weird". Andddd I'm also neurodivergent. I've also been accused of wanting to be Asian because I like Japanese culture lol
@@Jessiibre I really relate to this!!! 🫶🏾🩵
I kid you not I was JUST talking about this in a private discord server and then this video pops up… Wow. Thank you.
@@thelingeringartist thank you!!! 🥺🙏🏾🩵
I'm really glad the algorithm sent you my way! This video was healing.
Thank you so much for making this video!!! I've felt left out and different my whole childhood. TLDR: I didn't fit in too well with black stereotypes or white people. Since I've gone to both predominantly white and black schools, and I was seen as the "weird black girl" at both!
As an "Oreo" or a 'weird' black girl, I finally feel seen after watching this video!
Growing up a lot of my peers would treat me differently. I get my hair done and I wear nice clothes. Some might even say that I'm "fly" 🤭. I had always been deemed as the "Intelligent" one among my peers. Coming from a pwi (Predominantly white school) This was a great thing. But the thing for me is I am not the "Weird, or quiet/neurodivergent" black girl. I'm very outgoing and social. But I slowly learned that due to this, I was considered "Loud and Ghetto" at my school. A lot of the white kids had talked bad about me behind my back. I was called "Weird" because I liked kpop and dancing. So I was Weird, Ghetto, and Loud!!!! (Obviously none of this was true, I just wasn't scared of embracing my differences. Which intimidated my peers. Which led to them saying nasty things about me because they were intimidated.) A few white kids had even referred to my friend group as the "Ghetto Gang" with me of course being "Ghetto number one" ☹. People said mean things behind my back but never said it to my face because I was considered to be "Loud and Ghetto", or they were scared to say it to me because I politely and respectfully put anyone who is rude or disrespectful in their place. But this also intimidated them, so they spoke about me behind my back.
Basically, when people are rude to me I tell them that they need to stop being mean and reflect on their actions. So I respectfully checked everyone who was disrespectful or anyone who mistreated me or other people. (I hate watching innocent people being disrespected and walked all over.) Two years later I moved to Georgia (U.S.) and I was told that I "Talk like a white girl" or that I think I'm "Better than everybody". A bunch of kids even told me they "Can't understand me when I speak." I got called uppity because I took advanced classes and many considered me intelligent. Many of my peers said that I was like a preppy white girl because I dress up (I'm fly and I know it) and I "Speak proper". Whenever I get into conflict I calmly resolve it. Or when it comes to confronting people, I am very calm. A lot of people around me feel as if I'm belittling them because I speak to them in a calm manner. But this is just due to the fact that I'm not a very aggressive person!!! 😭😭(Verbally and physically). But due to this I feel like I didn't fit in with anyone. It felt as if I were too black for the white kids and that I seem too white (most) of the black kids at my school.
As a fellow "weird black girl" thank you for posting this❤❤ I FINALLY FEEL SEEN!!!
A few things.
1. Not me doing my gender euphoria squeak at "The IT Enby" 😍🤩💖😁
2. I didn't expect a video to come out that's literally spelling out my entire existence 😭
@@AzariahMarinaStarcaster Omg thank you!!! 🥹🫶🏾🩵
I was called a “White girl” practically my whole life until now. I’m 17 and I know I’m very different from my family and peers. How I talk, how I act, how I dress, just how I express myself as a whole is not really considered the Black girl stereotype.
oof did this come at the right time. i recently left an all boys friend group because i realized they were laughing at me and not with me. it sucks.. because majority of them are black so i felt very iffy about it. and sometimes wished i was “normal” as what they teased me about was about my interest ( liking k-pop/kdrama, playing video games, being queer, judging my life choices, interest asian culture). i now realized that they all saw something in me which is what triggered all of them; authenticity.
i focused on the people who accepted me for who i am. as a weird black girl, i salute all of y’all. stay you 😊❤❤
The way I needed this 20 years ago when I was a teenager. 💜💜
@@nentendomofo the way I needed this video ten years ago as a baby alt in middle school inspired me to make it for babies like us 🫶🏾🩵
oh this is for me
I figure I should comment to show support.
Grew up nerdy (science and books) and introverted and “alternative” (rock/metal) before I even knew it was a thing, currently seeking ND diagnosis. RUclips put this in my reccs 😂
I FOUND MY PEOPLE?!?!?! YES!!!! Ive always been called weird and been on the quiet side around my family, but when i got comfortable with other people that are like me im SO different!! But i honestly thought i was alone, as im not neurodivergent but have been asked multiple times if i wanted to be white, for liking things that aren’t in a black culture. I have a cousin who is literally just like me! But she’s more outgoing and bubbly than me! I will definitely send her this video, im just glad i found people who are like me! 💗💗
Something I didn't know was needed. Appreciate everything!!!💟
@@arch_dim thank you!!! 🥺🫶🏾🩵
this video hits so close to home for me, I am neurodivergent, introvert and awkward. so at times interacting with others can be hard, also while i was in school i was ALWAYS called an oreo. even from the white kids in my class, it was so frustrating, I'm still trying to find my place in life and its hard but i just wanna be happy.
This is our space and don't let anyone break or take us away. 🙂↔️
not ashamed to say that the end made me cry. i really needed that
@@DyaOrWhateva *hugs* 🫶🏾🩵
Love the energy and positivity. God bless.
this really spoke to my soul!! my mom and most of my family accepted me for who i was but it wasn't enough to keep me from all the hurt i experienced. i never felt like i truly fit in anywhere, even in my own family. i ended up developing depression and generalized anxiety disorder from the bullying / other severe trauma i went through at a young age. the environment i was brought up in definitely didn't help, although, i know my mom did the best with what she had. i was the shy (talkative asf once you got to know me), smart, hypersensitive, and sweet kid; super religious (not so much anymore) / sheltered, dressed "emo", listened to post-hardcore, played video games, and watched hella anime. i became more withdrawn (especially after leaving my diverse HS to move to one that was majority black. we were damn near homeless so i had no choice. i was just starting to open up and gain confidence too so this was life-shattering for me). i definitely went through the nihilistic and angry phase but outgrew it after i left my hometown. at the age of 30, i still struggle with poor self-worth and self-esteem. i don't believe my own husband when he tells me i'm beautiful but i've made a lot of progress over the years and i'm working on healing myself slowly but surely. much love to you all 🖤
love the editin style omg
Thank you!!! I really appreciate it, because this was cooking for close a week.
i’m literally a month late to this but i love that we are allowing ourselves to embrace our uniqueness! i’ve always been into anime and back in high school, i was quite sheltered and “uncultured” as i was truly into cartoons, anime and art! but back then, it wasn’t accepted as it is now!
being 25, ADHD, neurospicy and othered in the past, i’m just now starting to embrace my new sense of sense as i was people-pleasing and shunning my light for FAR TOO LONG- my inner child deserves to be loved and treated like she’s human and she deserves happiness! which is what i am going to do for now on! thank you for this 💞💞
@@cececece611 thank you for sharing your experience!!! Also you’re not late, right on time 🫶🏾🩵
As a weird black girl, I feel seen
i feel so seen and heard.. you gained a new subscriber 😊
I tried my best, but the clacking nails overpowered me😅 I hope I'm not getting misophonia in my old age!
@@ettcha well if you ever get the chance to move passed my nails clacking, you would see that most of the video is me dressed down and I get into a deeper conversation. However, I love a good nail clack.
I luvd it hehe
@@milkcatdog394 Ty 🤭🩵
This video literally sums up my early child and teen hood
Weird black girl and proud!
This video is so sweet I’m crying
@@fearoffrying thank you!!!!🙏🏾🥺🩵
I don't usually subscribe before i finish a video, but when I do... it's cuz the video was a hit 🎯
I'm intrigued by the metamorphosis that is me coming into my true weirdness. Thanks for holding space for us 😅
@@Ms.blu3 thank you for watching and resonating with the video! I’m happy you’re coming into weirdness, and I hope your journey brings you much joy and abundance 🫶🏾🩵
Second generation weird black girl here (my mom was one too and still is xD), im so glad i was recommended this. "Introvert discrimination" pretty much describes my grade school experience. Ive always felt alienated by my fellow black students, girls especially. Im slowing learning to accept myself and gain some self-confidence. I really needed that ending message. ♥
Quirky and awkward black neurospicy gal here who is more “othered” than a drop down on every online application for “all of the things” in my Brittney Vaughan voice. I love LOVE all genres of music; with a special interest in unique bands and artists from everything created by Thom Bell and Tems to Rotary Connection and Remi Wolf. Also I’m a Henson kid, so I love EVERYTHING created under Jim Henson’s genius. I’m probably the only person who still gets emotional over him being gone, especially since I’m an 80s baby, and my indigo heart was very much shaped by my parents and everything Henson that we watched together.
I was painfully bullied into masking at an early age; to the point where I am in my 40s, and when the mask comes off, I need to stim by myself for at least an hour before i engage with my husband and loved ones.
Thank you so much for your video 🥹. You have no idea how many stages of me throughout my life feel so hugged and heard right now ❤️❤️❤️
I subbed almost instantly 💗 I felt sooo seen with this one as an introverted black girl myself thank youuu 🥹
I love the sound of your nails it's so satisfying
this video resonates with my SOULLLLLLLLLLL
i’m so glad you made this video bc this experience was something I could always feel but never articulate. thank you thank you thank you xxxxx
@@emansayeddd thank you so much!!! This video was on my heart for a long time, and I’m happy I finally found the language to describe the experience because only we can truly humanize and validate our experiences navigating our Blackness, gender identity (and the experiences tied to it), and passions. Thank you again for watching 🫶🏾🩵
Old Black guy here. You are so On Point with your argument that I don’t even know what to complement first. I just going to say FASCINATING.
I'm 19. I want to gush about comics and musicals and anime but I literally can't it SUCKS BRO. I used to be super talkative when I was little but anytime I tried connecting with people I'd be shut down or ignored and I eventually just...shut up. Like forever. Being in my sophomore year of college, I've been trying to get out of that(I even went to my first cosplay con this summer and I loved it) but it's hard. It's like I feel stuck. I didn't realize how common this was, but I think we're going to be okay. It'll take time but we're good.
This was something that my inner child really needed to hear. I've been judged for being different my whole life and to finally hear someone say that I'm not weird, I'm just not fitting in a bubble people want me in, is very refreshing.
I’m a weird Asian girl so I don’t know the struggles and joys of weird black girlhood but I clicked because I love your style and often find wisdom that speaks to my own experience as a poc in the us from black creators (esp women), but then I stayed to watch the whole video because your explanation ab how mistreatment of weird black girls connects to capitalism, respectability politics, and ultimately upholding white surpremacy made a lot of sense and because your message to fellow weird black girls was so heartfelt and supportive 🥹 I’m sure this video resonated with a lot of ppl. This was quality content I hope you keep it up!
@@AudreyLockett thank you so much for the kind words!!! 🥹🫶🏾🩵
1:35 we have the same fav movieeee
I just realized I’ve never been called a wanna be white girl or that I’m “trying to dress like those Asians” till I started hanging out with this black family and being brought around more black people. And I’m partially thankful for being brought around older people in their 50’s and 60’s because they never judged me for what I liked and just thought I dressed cute. And as I think about it more, the guy from the family (had a huge liking to me and we did some things I guess) tried to change me so much, make me like one of those tick-tock girls that wear glasses and clear lipgloss and do their edges everyday. And I fed into his image of the perfect me for a while until he realized I was not one of those girls, I am my own person for a reason. And it took me so long to become this person and be confident in who I am, I remember I used to straighten my hair everything morning before school because I didn’t know what to do with it(it lead to immense damage and hair falling) and thankfully I finally found something that resonates with me and I can wear for the rest of my life ( twists that I redo every 2-3 weeks). But anyway I’m so happy I finally found myself and I’m badder than ever with people chasing after my ass 😂
This perfectly described me. There’s this one person in my life who’s so weirdly obsessed with race that calls me whitewashed. First of all shut up. Second of all why do you care? I really appreciate this video. Weird black girls are treated so horribly for being themselves.
I feel for this so hard. It’s especially so bad in the Caribbean. If u even show someone something that isn’t of ur culture, they just look at u like ur weird or look confused or disgusted. Like especially with fashion. Idc if I sound rude, everyone in my country dress like shit- plain, unmatched bright colors with no coordination whatsoever. And then they wanna look at me for wanting to wear some simple coquette, tomboy and shoujo styles. Like sorry that I don’t wanna look ugly??
Everything about you is so relatable ahhh. I love your style and the editing here is so good! Your talking points were so well-articulated. Thank you for sharing this, you got a new sub today!
@@itscosmicnerd thank you so much!!! 🥺🫶🏾🩵