This explains why after 4 years I can't seem to feel better. Every summer so say I will go outside, leave my house but four summers have passed, i just miss my sons that's all
There should self-care videos here for trauma survivors. Obvs therapy would be a piece of that, but what should we know? I've learned much on my own and reading others, but even 50 years later, the overhang consumes so much. It's a life sentence, and I want to find a way where it doesn't have to be.
One choice only...Ride it out, and hope it does go away...for now, but has anybody tried to unlearn how to ride a bike, so they can start over as if they hadn't learned how in the first place. These people have one solution...prevention,..but how is it possible to not do what's been done already? Regardless, you have to figure it out for yourself, and as Madalyn Murray O'Hair said: "I don't care whether I succeed or whether I fail as long as I am trying. I hope that I succeed." - Madalyn Murray O'Hair That in reality is the best anyone can hope for, whomever has been traumatised by other human beings, mostly, I suppose coming upon a grizzly bear that's very hungry should be included.
@@nash984954 good example of P.T.S.D., AND TRAUMATIZED PEOPLE... .... Vary from State to state , city ,etc... Family problems and ALCOHOLICS & DRUG ADDICTS, WORK ALCOHOLICS ,ETC....STRESS AND TRAUMA ARE DEADLY....See codependency too.... HEALING from trauma is a challenge....and a professional is always suggested by me....(**...DR. DJ.DEB.USA. **)!🤩🤗😍😘😍😎😋😍😘😘😍😎😋😍😘😘
@@nash984954 ride it out? NO. one needs professional help in figuring out WHY one struggles so much. depression is for a REASON. trauma is for a REASON. ptsd is for a REASON.
yoga is amazing! i feel the pain being released in certain intense poses, followed by intense prolonged crying sessions. being mindful of the pain passing also helps. thanks for uploading :)
What is necessary for healing is that the survivor be in a community like a church where everyone hears your story and accepts you as a person who has undergone a trial, and shows respect. Without supportive community there is little hope of meaningful healing, because the survivor remains shame- bound, which is the mark of the victim, and only social acceptance can remove shame. Yoga doesn't remove shame, and the society at large needs to accept some responsibility for it's victim.
I was in an unrelenting situation where I had groups of people mocking me from their cars as I walked in the streets. Their priveleged status and ability to flood a small town with their money kept me in play as a whipping target of their fun and games. I was brought up in a very religious household and these were hardnosed big city people who did not know the meaning of stop. When you see a woman hiding in alleys to get a quart of milk and show up at the local store after you drove there.
These people were brainless humiliating devils to me at the time. Exploiting my inability to escape their taunting and juvenile attempts to connect with a terrified woman. Mostly exhausted.
That horrorific scenario was repeated many times. The trauma is buried so deep inside my body. Someone said to me well thats over now. Dr. Vdk, please do a national interview perhaps Greg Gutfeld so the people who did this to me know that its not over. The hideousness of these roaming predators followed me from Wilkes-Barre, to Clarks Summit to Plains, to Harrisburg. To here Jim Thorpe. This group of connected people interfered in my career potential. Kept me in poverty. They need to take responsibility for their actions. They return in disguise. I dissociate. These are young people in most cases.
In Plains, I was also dragged off the street. Kept from getting back to my apartment. Was dragged into a police car by three policemen and taken to a hospital taken to a side room where actors were. I was scared out of my mind. I was put in an ambulance taken to another hospital. Kept in a room for five days without coffee. Put in a group of people. One guy terrified me by using the initials of my son as his name. He confronted me avoiding the cameras. And threatened me. The trauma from the five days I was captured for not bri nging a man into my apartment from the various men who approached me. These sick dehumanizung animals were the stuff of nightmares. I lucked out when a counselor they brought in was a friend of a former neighbor. She knew me personally and I was able to leave and I don't know how. That woman has dusappeared from internet search. Pribably paid off to not be a witness to substantiate what happened to me.
That was done to me again when I was having trouble for my legs and needed blood tests. BUT they had a security guard with a gun pointed at me who was told I was going to off myself or someone else. A lie. The people were actors playing a screwball game with my life. I was taken to the side room again. My clothes taken from me and my phone and purse. I was expected to take in a drunken guy who peed his pants was wheeled by me and flashed his thing at me. My blood tests didn't show diabetes but they wouldnt allow a doctor in the room to ask about possible heart problems. I demanded my clothes and property and walked out.
Thank you so much for this post. Reading a book, however well written, is one thing. Real-time experience of the author goes straight to understanding ( for me anyway). Experiencing Time is nearly impossible without some point of reference; some anchor, if you will,in physicality. It is a huge challenge to ANS regulation and diurnal cycle for me.
wonder if learning musical instrument would make recovery quicker and stronger for many reasons, including physical sense of time (ugh, process of recovery can be too slow if not good help)
I am more trapped in how the other people see me : a traumatised person. So I live in a world created by other people who think they know me but they don’t. The only way out of this vicious circle is self empowerment.
I experienced what they call knife in the back in my workplaces few days. Now I can’t help feeling the fear of ppl at work when any small thing happens. I always think to do something to bypass what they r doing so they don’t harm me.
The problem is that a trauma which is trapped in a body and is being triggered, shuts down the brain. How can you work on trauma or stay in the present time when someone's dissociating? Cognitive/psycho therapy is done with the host up to the moment that someone else takes over and shuts down the host, meaning that the other does not speak and the host feels trapped inside --- unable to respond. How can you break this cycle when alters cannot work together?
This explains why after 4 years I can't seem to feel better. Every summer so say I will go outside, leave my house but four summers have passed, i just miss my sons that's all
We are born to FEEL...... THANKS 🤩😇 ALWAYS BELIEVE IN ANGELS..
There should self-care videos here for trauma survivors. Obvs therapy would be a piece of that, but what should we know? I've learned much on my own and reading others, but even 50 years later, the overhang consumes so much. It's a life sentence, and I want to find a way where it doesn't have to be.
One choice only...Ride it out, and hope it does go away...for now, but has anybody tried to unlearn how to ride a bike, so they can start over as if they hadn't learned how in the first place.
These people have one solution...prevention,..but how is it possible to not do what's been done already? Regardless, you have to figure it out for yourself, and as Madalyn Murray O'Hair said:
"I don't care whether I succeed or whether I fail as long as I am trying. I hope that I succeed." - Madalyn Murray O'Hair
That in reality is the best anyone can hope for, whomever has been traumatised by other human beings, mostly, I suppose coming upon a grizzly bear that's very hungry should be included.
@@nash984954 good example of P.T.S.D., AND TRAUMATIZED PEOPLE... .... Vary from State to state , city ,etc... Family problems and ALCOHOLICS & DRUG ADDICTS, WORK ALCOHOLICS ,ETC....STRESS AND TRAUMA ARE DEADLY....See codependency too.... HEALING from trauma is a challenge....and a professional is always suggested by me....(**...DR. DJ.DEB.USA. **)!🤩🤗😍😘😍😎😋😍😘😘😍😎😋😍😘😘
@@nash984954 you're wrong. Riding it out is not the only solution.
@@nash984954 ride it out? NO. one needs professional help in figuring out WHY one struggles so much. depression is for a REASON. trauma is for a REASON. ptsd is for a REASON.
It’s been a life sentence for me too...despite a lot of help and self help.
yoga is amazing! i feel the pain being released in certain intense poses, followed by intense prolonged crying sessions. being mindful of the pain passing also helps. thanks for uploading :)
i just lay on my back the whole time and stretch. that’s all my body can do now.
The counting is very helpful, true! I have c-ptsd and I have noticed this phenomenon. The countng helps me both ground and finish the exercise.
What is necessary for healing is that the survivor be in a community like a church where everyone hears your story and accepts you as a person who has undergone a trial, and shows respect. Without supportive community there is little hope of meaningful healing, because the survivor remains shame- bound, which is the mark of the victim, and only social acceptance can remove shame. Yoga doesn't remove shame, and the society at large needs to accept some responsibility for it's victim.
I was in an unrelenting situation where I had groups of people mocking me from their cars as I walked in the streets. Their priveleged status and ability to flood a small town with their money kept me in play as a whipping target of their fun and games. I was brought up in a very religious household and these were hardnosed big city people who did not know the meaning of stop. When you see a woman hiding in alleys to get a quart of milk and show up at the local store after you drove there.
These people were brainless humiliating devils to me at the time. Exploiting my inability to escape their taunting and juvenile attempts to connect with a terrified woman. Mostly exhausted.
That horrorific scenario was repeated many times. The trauma is buried so deep inside my body. Someone said to me well thats over now. Dr. Vdk, please do a national interview perhaps Greg Gutfeld so the people who did this to me know that its not over. The hideousness of these roaming predators followed me from Wilkes-Barre, to Clarks Summit to Plains, to Harrisburg. To here Jim Thorpe. This group of connected people interfered in my career potential. Kept me in poverty. They need to take responsibility for their actions. They return in disguise. I dissociate. These are young people in most cases.
In Plains, I was also dragged off the street. Kept from getting back to my apartment. Was dragged into a police car by three policemen and taken to a hospital taken to a side room where actors were. I was scared out of my mind. I was put in an ambulance taken to another hospital. Kept in a room for five days without coffee. Put in a group of people. One guy terrified me by using the initials of my son as his name. He confronted me avoiding the cameras. And threatened me. The trauma from the five days I was captured for not bri nging a man into my apartment from the various men who approached me. These sick dehumanizung animals were the stuff of nightmares. I lucked out when a counselor they brought in was a friend of a former neighbor. She knew me personally and I was able to leave and I don't know how. That woman has dusappeared from internet search. Pribably paid off to not be a witness to substantiate what happened to me.
That was done to me again when I was having trouble for my legs and needed blood tests. BUT they had a security guard with a gun pointed at me who was told I was going to off myself or someone else. A lie. The people were actors playing a screwball game with my life. I was taken to the side room again. My clothes taken from me and my phone and purse. I was expected to take in a drunken guy who peed his pants was wheeled by me and flashed his thing at me. My blood tests didn't show diabetes but they wouldnt allow a doctor in the room to ask about possible heart problems. I demanded my clothes and property and walked out.
Thank you so much for this post. Reading a book, however well written, is one thing. Real-time experience of the author goes straight to understanding ( for me anyway). Experiencing Time is nearly impossible without some point of reference; some anchor, if you will,in physicality. It is a huge challenge to ANS regulation and diurnal cycle for me.
agree, sense of time changes, especially any sense of future
wonder if learning musical instrument would make recovery quicker and stronger for many reasons, including physical sense of time (ugh, process of recovery can be too slow if not good help)
I am more trapped in how the other people see me : a traumatised person. So I live in a world created by other people who think they know me but they don’t. The only way out of this vicious circle is self empowerment.
This is really good
I experienced what they call knife in the back in my workplaces few days. Now I can’t help feeling the fear of ppl at work when any small thing happens. I always think to do something to bypass what they r doing so they don’t harm me.
help me!
The problem is that a trauma which is trapped in a body and is being triggered, shuts down the brain. How can you work on trauma or stay in the present time when someone's dissociating? Cognitive/psycho therapy is done with the host up to the moment that someone else takes over and shuts down the host, meaning that the other does not speak and the host feels trapped inside --- unable to respond. How can you break this cycle when alters cannot work together?
me and my therapist have found a way to work through when i’m dissociating.
The church is their security..it also is the eecclesia - the called out.. we're going to get me to receive it thank God.
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